I don't want to become famous and neither do you
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ก.ย. 2024
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Learning Splatoon techniques in Squid School sure is emotionally draining for some reason
I agree JesusDicks
Thank you JesusDicks
i appreciate your words of wisdom JesusDicks
Yeah it sucks JesusDicks 😔
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“People like to be liked, but they want to be liked for who they are, not what they did that one time”
I feel like this quote is one of the video’s main ideas, and it’s SO true.
So youre saying that you like this video for this one quote that was produced?
@@squidfan6187 no, I like this video because of what Gem said in it. Notice how I said “one of the video’s main ideaS”
@@squidfan6187 "i like pancakes" "oh so you hate waffles?"
@@squidfan6187 And I thought my comprehension skills were bad 💀
gem i came for the splatoon tips and now you're giving life lessons thanks dude
And remember: this is also dating advice
@@imonly1man_ kinda true actually. When they say „Act natural.“ what they actually mean is don’t treat your potential mate much differently from a friend. They are just some random human who you happened to go on a date with. Treat them like you just wanted to get to know them platonically.
I’m so glad you were able to collab with such a large creator like Romeo, please do more collabs with him in the future
I don't want to bother him too much but the channel's been taking off since he's been involved and I'm so grateful
I really love how a lot more recent videos have become more general advice with Splatoon in the background. It feels like those clips of people jingling keys to keep someone’s attention while explaining something at the same time.
I honestly love the insight from your perspective Gem!! Thank you!
No one wants to be famous, they want to be underground.
I'm a big fish in possibly the smallest pond imaginable (competitive Tableturf), and it's great. I've made friends, I have respect from my peers, and only around 10 or so people care.
All things in moderation.
Tableturf is fun
what's the meta i want to turf on the table better then the 99%
@@ShortcakeAngle There isn't too much of a meta, there's a decent variety of strategies among the top players, but the main thing I've noticed is that the best performing players are often the ones that can most consistently make use of the space available to them. What this means is that you want to have cards that are consistently relevant throughout the game; you want to pick your cards primarily on the shape of them, the space they take up. This doesn't just mean to play the most condensed cards possible, you still want reach and big cards for the early, more offensive turns, but after you've claimed territory, the cards in your deck should fit into the territory you've claimed.
So, find a few strong opening cards, then fill the rest of the deck with smaller cards that synergize with bigger ones to build special points. If you play this way, you'll rack up lots of points to use for special attacking in the final few turns.
I think the best way I've heard someone sum it up is "When people say they want to be famous, they're really just saying they want to feel respected." Notoriety without respect is miserable.
I had a brief 15 minutes of fame like 6 or 7 years ago (nothing too big outside of a niche community thing) and had a few people give me an uncomfortable amount of compliments, and I'm like "oh... so that's what that feels like."
And YET, I often try to put myself out there, because I want to try to be part of a community where I'm seen as making a positive impact. Not really wanting to gain a following so much as just.... I guess, as you said, "be seen." To be able to say that I was there and participating, and to be able to feel like people enjoyed me being there.
I dunno where I'm going with this, but this video and the one about competitive accomplishments have been very thought provoking for me, so thank you!
"Notoriety without respect is miserable." that is a really neat way to put it. Many famous people sadly have that.
I am thinking that probably many people who makes possitive impact in their specific place, is because they have passion about it. I guess nobody would want to be "promoted out" of that position because of becoming famous and suddenly "being placed on an upper level" without your concent and being outcasted of the place that you were passioned about it.
idk, I don't know where I was going with what I said either lol.
Yea, I sometimes post my art on Instagram. I spend my time after posting, trying to respond to people thoughtfully with their complements but when it becomes the 3rd or fourth “nice art” I really feel exhausted and tired.
I don’t think I’ll ever handle being famous well but what I really want is for some people to appreciate what I make and spend my time working on.
One point is that when no one knows you, you mostly get to choose who you talk to. When you're famous, you may gain followers who love you but also others who dislike everything about yourself for little to no reason
I've been at conventions where some webcomic artist or semi-prominent figure will be in the middle of trying to partake in the con with friends, when they get flagged down by fans for a gushing and a photo, (sometimes in cases where I _knew_ they had a meet-and-greet table or artist alley booth earlier in the weekend). And they always seemed super accommodating but god, always bummed me out that their reward for contributing to a subculture is not being able to freely participate in it anymore.
@@dackattac wow. never thought of it like that
And yes, this is also dating advice. People like being treated as people, so treat them for being the people that they are.
For the broke arm scenario has exceptions like I know this guy who always has a broken bone idk how
One of the things touched on in this video that didn't get fully extrapolated on is Parasocial Interaction. And it's actually a really big part of becoming internet famous.
Gem talked about how engagement is asymmetrical with you watching (hundreds of) hours of your favorite streamer but they probably only ever see you for a few seconds once or twice when you actually go up to them at an event like a con or a meet'n'greet if they're from the entertainment world that does that. And there was also Ludwig's comment "I am not your friend." And that's the core of Parasocial Interaction. It's the disproportionate relationship where fans feel like friends of their favorite actor/content creator/musician/etc and the famous person really has no clue who they are. And the algorithm that determines what content is successful, and what gets pushed onto your feed or onto the frontpage of TH-cam or whatever is looking for fans engaging with the creator's content, which is inherently parasocial in nature. So creators that are becoming famous streaming or uploading TH-cam videos are often the ones that are nurturing these parasocial relationships.
And it's not that content creators are terrible human beings that switch off and hate their fans or don't care at all. A lot of them are probably genuine, caring people when they're off. But they physically cannot care. There is not enough time or emotional energy for every single fan's feelings or life. It's like the difference between a grade school teacher that might have hundreds of students across their class to a college professor who might have thousands a semester. And then scale that up to millions for some of these streamers.
And then if they do have the foolhardy idea of trying to care about everyone and everything. There won't be enough emotional energy, and there certainly won't be any left over for themselves. And that leads to burnout which can lead to resenting their audience.
Outside of giving the support they need to stay successful, one of the biggest things you can do for your favorite content creator is just be kind and a decent human being. Remember that they didn't know you before you spoke to them, and five minutes after you're done speaking they probably won't remember you.
I guess I never actually used the word but that's what I'm describing without using the buzzword. Ludwig's video goes into that a lot as well
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@@SquidSchool "Parasocial Interaction" isn't a buzzword though. It's a legitimate term that needs to be used and understood so that we can fight against its most negative outcomes. It's like being afraid to call the Republican party "fascist" because "fascist is just a buzzword." Like, no? We're just calling them what they are. Don't be afraid of saying certain phrases because of "optics" or "buzzowords." That's just neoliberal nonsense. Call a spade a spade.
@@Sqwivig Not to talk over Gem, but I think he meant "buzzword" as in a term- I don't think he meant to downplay it at all, or because he was afraid to say the word. The definition of buzzword means a technical/important-sounding word that has risen in popularity ( or is at least popular at the time ) and that fits the description of what he was saying. He could have also meant to illegitimize that term, but it didn't sound like he meant that to me, and that idea doesn't agree with what he was saying in the video.
also, what's with bringing up politics? There are other analogies you could have used, and I don't want to assume, I will take both Gem's and your comment in good faith, but it could be read as a kind of ad hominem? e.g. I disagree with your opinion, and you call me fascist because it secondhand-idly makes it seem that I don't think fascist is a legitimate word. I'm probably overthinking things, but I'd feel like I didn't say everything I could of if I didn't mention my gripe with that.
p.s. this is a reply to a reply to a reply of a comment of life advice over a squid game video, it's not that deep, and we don't need to be talking about politics besides the "hey, don't be a jerk" thing. thanks for reading!
@@alsolii Everything is political. You can make a political statement about literally anything because politics permeates every part of our society. Gem even said that himself in his video about the Trans Day of Remembrance charity stream video. Telling a child not to bully another child is an inherently political statement. But whatever. I was just trying to say he should just say the thing instead of avoiding using a term because it's a so-called "buzzword." I used fascism as an example because there are still people who refuse to call Republicans fascist (even tho they are that by definition) because they think it's a buzzword that has no meaning. I'm a political junkie so it's the first example I could come up with. Also, it's relevant whether you like it or not. Even if the comment is under a Splatoon video, it doesn't really matter. People need to wake the fuck up. Republicans have been literally trying to erase trans people from public existence (borderline genocide) and that's why Gem had the charity stream to begin with. If Republicans would just leave people alone and let them live their lives then we wouldn't be calling them theocratic authoritarian fascists. I fear for my life on a daily basis and I don't see it getting any better for marginalized people any time soon. I might have to flee the country all together. If my comment calling Republicans fascist upsets you, then maybe you should do some introspection and think about why that upsets you. If you don't like being called a fascist, then don't vote for fascists.
“People like to be liked, but they want to be liked for who they are, not what they did that one time.” Thanks for the life advice.
Awesome video essay, hopefully it blows up and you can be internet famous just like you’ve always wanted to be.
You were spitting truths. I definitely stopped creating for a multitude of reasons, but one of them was being overwhelmed by the sheer amount of attention I was getting at the time.
i wish the 'getting tired of having the same interaction over and over' thing applied to everything. i get called slurs almost every time i go outside, and every time it hurts just as much as the first time.
Oh damn you alright?
@@yourboi5492 could be worse
I know that giving people redundant, superfluous praise is somewhat the focus of this video, but i still feel the need to express how much I like your writing. It's probably the most overlooked aspect of this sort of space (TH-cam, video essays, etc) and I find your videos charming, refreshing, and frankly good and easy to watch. Your choice of vocabulary in particular is very refreshing. It's well thought out, but not overly verbose and alienating; probably a remnant of your teaching. I understand that this sort of thing is passe and expected of an English teach and this level of care is probably just your normal standard for yourself, but I appreciate nonetheless.
I didn't expect funny Splatoon TH-cam guy to upload a video as deep as this. Still, pretty cool video.
Gem has quite a number of videos talking about somewhat serious topics
@@onomayonnaise Really? I'm pretty new to the channel, so I must've not seen them.
I love this video because it reminds me when the schedule has changed and our teacher hasn't got a lesson fully prepared so we enter into a deep class discussion about some tangentially related topic and come away having learnt something important and grown a little as people :]
I haven’t even watched the video yet but I agree. Gonna watch tho
A couple thoughts just early on - been the injury kid, yeah, that was hella annoying. And the disingenuous feeling repeated compliments, def have that after 15 years of performing guitar, on & off. It’s nice, but it doesn’t mean the same thing it did when I was 14. As for being asked “why don’t you make X anymore” I’m reminded of Devin Townsend & his band Strapping Young Lad. It’s public knowledge that a lot of the SYL records were written while Devin was dealing with some heavy shit, alongside Unmedicated Bipolar & a severe weed dependency, amongst other things - from 2007 until 2012, he didn’t touch that era of his music with a 39.5’ pole - and even then, he was Very Hesitant to go back to it the few times he did, up until 2020, often expressing regret for doing so when seeing the fervent cries for an SYL return bubbled up. Even since, he’s stuck to The Hits with SYL, keeping the focus firmly on the music he’s done outside of that band
Parasocial relationships, yeah they’re brutal. People with some degree of fame always are wearing some form of persona when interacting with the public, it’s *necessary* - who they really are in private can sometimes be Very Different - and I’ve unfortunately come to find, sometimes Horribly so. Sharing the spotlight with someone like that, then being unceremoniously shunned because I wouldn’t put up with their bullshit, and dumped on for it- that fallout from no longer being favorable in a “famous” person’s eyes, at least in the local scene, and having shared in their fame - it was BRUTAL. Traumatized me out of my art for 4 years.
16:17 that's great clip to take out of context.
ok gem i will now give you 5 rare gemstones as a funny prank to desensitize you to the other gemstones people will come up and give to you
Oh noooo please don't give me gemstones and/or money, I would never be able to enjoy getting money again if you did that, please don't light up my Venmo with unasked for gifts I beg you
This video basically highlights why that, unless I’m getting an autograph or some other event where you meet a celebrity, I’ll try my best to ignore them. Idk, it just makes me feel less like I’m intruding on their personal time by talking with them while they’re in work mode and try my best to be respectful.
If you want an example… I’d never email a TH-camr with their personal email to say “omg your so kewl”, I comment on videos as my way of interacting while a TH-camr is in “work mode” even if they never see it. Idk how well that works in practice, but it’s how I see it as a fan.
W life advice, dating advice, and friendship advice. Keep doing you!
I love how you just casually release videos like this, showing what it means to be a decent person ( outside of the game too). It's so wonderful to me because I was drawn in by the (excellent) splatoon content. But I stay because of this maturity you have (while still being fun and silly, never change that), to remind us all of our responsibilities to each other as people.
For me this makes your channel so much better.
It's so very comforting to know that someone online is not only good at for example playing splatoon or streaming, but is also a reasonable person. It makes me feel way better about consuming their content.
Sure, not everyone is going to make as great dating-/life-/splatoon-advice videos as you do, but I feel like if more people online who have a following were only half as mature as you, the world would be so much better already.
Thank You Gem
Bros actually spitting
I agree! I never understood why so many people wished for fame for this exact reason
Famous people are people! It's in the phrase! It's hard in the moment but treat them like what they are, because barring other circumstances you are strangers to eachother. So be courteous, be kind and most of all, treat them as people, not characters.
On a slightly less serious note, that was the most complicated way Gem could have told us not to send him a thousand Splatoon plushies at every opportunity.
Unfortunately for Gem, I have financial freedom and I will make sure he cannot close his eyes without seeing the imprint of an inkling. >:]
Bit of a personal anecdote on the thing about becoming desensitized to praise if it happens enough.
There is a way to counteract this *somewhat,* though it's not exactly a fun one.
If you just *generally* have anxiety about failure and just "not being good enough" (like me), then praise and support just about always has an impact, even in areas where it happens frequently.
I've a similar feeling about a certain drawing I posted a while ago. It was exciting to see it blow up at first, but eventually I moved on to new things and would rather have people pay attention to my new works instead.
Still, I'm not anything close to famous and I'm glad for that
I've felt this way since I was like 14 years old
remember this also applies to jerma
The pikachu example reminds me of when a family member you mostly see on holidays hears that you like turtles and/or sees you with a shirt with a turtle on it and then every year they give you some random thing with a turtle on it or shaped like a turtle and you say thanks but really its something youre going to forget you even got cause just because you like turtles doesnt mean that everything turtle themed is something you care about, having a turtle on it doesnt make a candle something im going to use. We try to be careful what we say we like around family cause we could wind up getting a box of em twice a year...
Tweak this a little and this be golden dating tips lol
I'm a tiny streamer. I stream for fun, and I don't expect or really want to ever gain a gigantic fanbase. I never could put into words WHY. But this explains everything so well!
This is so good. This video helped me cope with the feeling of being exhausted after speaking to over +50 different people in my social media whenever I upload a post. And most of them aren't people from my family or people who I haven't seen in the last 2 years due to the pandemic!!! Or since finishing my university course.
I just want to give a big hug to them, but now I understand that if I become popular is better to stick to a smaller group of friends...
16:13 me trying to resist the urge of commenting "and yes this is also dating advice" at the end of this video.
That's a great way of describing things, I definitely am in a place where I know I wouldn't ever want to be famous. I use to work with kids at an after school center & there's a presence I had to maintain while there, sometimes it was very difficult wearing a fake smile like this one day when on my way in, I stopped in the convenience store down the street since it was a hot day & I take public transportation to get around so I wanted to pick up a drink to have in my bag inside the staff room in case I needed to drink something. While in there, I ran into someone I cut contact with for information I won't disclose but I was shaken about it, it's bad enough to where I got into work, I reported it to the manager because he did something that means he shouldn't be anywhere near kids & the parents that pressed charges dropped them for some unknown reason, I didn't press in asking about it because a good friend of mine was close to the case & it caused him a lot of stress & I didn't want him to think about it at all. Pretty much, I was in panic mode, it was like the time when I was a chaperone on the annual camping trip & all the adults knew about a bear siting but we couldn't tell the kids & had to act cool even though we were all shaken up. I just had to go through that whole day acting all peachy & it is super exhausting. I told my friend about it afterwards & she offered a drinking Splatoon night actually, it was a great night where we'd each have a drink, usually cider, & jumped into turf war while in a call together. Took my mind off of things.
I've had experiences where I ran into kids from work out in public & instantly, I had to act the same way I did at work, I also tried my best to just give them a slight acknowledgement & move on since we're not allowed to interact with them outside of work & I rather stick to the rule, it's really awkward trying to be nice but still trying to shake them off, especially at things like when I ran into some kids at a night market, I was there to try some fun food, watch a show, & shop around so we were going to be within the same area for a few hours & I didn't want to leave just because they were there, I was there to enjoy the event so I was a little on edge the whole time of seeing them again which did happen a couple times but I was as in character as I could be despite the nervousness.
There was also another time when I didn't realize there were kids from work because they were kids I don't work directly with, usually I was with the 4th & 5th graders but before homeroom, I'd work in the art room which has a blend of kids from all the classes so I don't always know everyone that's in there but there is usually a typical art crowd. I don't think the kids recognized me either since nobody said anything, this was on the light rail in my city & it was far away from where I worked too, I lived outside of this city on the west end, where I worked was a city that's also on the west side but even father away from the city I worked in from this city & where I boarded was the same place all the kids boarded, they were with two adults which seemed to be like some sort of weekend care people, they were watching the kids as apart of their job & where we boarded was the east side of the river but not out towards east, it's really hard to explain this without saying where I lived but it's just far enough away to where I did not expect to see anyone from work there.
On board the light rail, some drunk guy with a bunch of bottles of beer got on & he was like "heyyy, you want sommme???" to the people around where I was sitting, it was pretty much the two adults with a big group of kids & me, one guy stood up & in a very professional voice talked to the man, telling him that he can't bring that around the kids & respectfully asked him to go to the other side of the car so he left & down the ways like a few minutes later, a hear a bunch of guys singing the "Hey Tony" Frosted Flakes song from the older commercials, very off key, I think he might of found some other drunk guys on there & it pretty much exploded into a fist fight somehow & I could not keep my cool, I was terrified & trying my best to remain calm but I could not, I even called my mom & had her talk to me to keep me calm but I was just losing it. They ended up having to stop, the cops got involved, & all this stuff. That week at work, some kids in the art room was like, "hey, I remember you! You were on the train when the fist fight happened!" I was so embarrassed at that time because I did not act professional like that guy, I just kinda lost it & got scared, I was terrified that she would tell the other kids & it would circulate to the kids I regularly work as well as other staff & someone would say something to me. Thankfully, it didn't happen.
It's something I have been aware of, I made a video years ago, it only got like 4k views but back then in a Toontown community, that was enough. It spread misinformation about something going on in game & the toon I played as for the video was recognized enough to where I had to delete the character. Thankfully, I didn't have anything important on it, was something I made as a means to clone my friend's main toon, kinda jokingly doing twins & I needed the space anyways. It was only like two or three people that said things to me, one talking about how what I said has them too scared about their account getting hacked (long story) & another that was saying I should delete the video because I talked about the wrong person, those are like the top interactions in my mind & I just didn't want to deal with it so deleting the toon was best course of action. I have another account that was a shared thing with a friend, most videos got 100-300 views which for me is much more preferred, I was recognized only one time in game on the toon I featured in my side of the videos & it was a very wholesome one where the guy told me they wanted to see more videos from me.
This is why I'm happy just doing my own thing. I enjoyed working with kids but it was stressful worrying about seeing them outside of work or whenever something in my life was going bad, I had to leave it at home. Make videos for an MMO? If someone sees you in game, you might be walking on egg shells. I try my best to be respectful around famous people, sometimes I get super awkward about it & one time, I accidentally insulted someone's videos to their face. It was during regionals, I use to do Pokemon TCG competitively, I was facing off against a youtuber, I won't disclose who but like at the time, I didn't recognize him because I don't pay attention to the people that make the videos at all, I remember them for their decks, not what they look like because I typically watch to get an idea on how certain decks work so I'll know roughly how to counter them. Well, I somewhat recognized his deck but there were techs in there that were new to me so I kept complimenting him & how it ran, I was super into it like I really enjoyed playing against it but then was like, "I remember seeing *place name here* do a video on a similar deck but I don't usually pay attention to his stuff since his style doesn't exactly appeal to me." Not only was it him but he had on a shirt with his channel name on it & after my match, my friend was waiting near by for me to finish, he approached my opponent instead of me & asked him for an autograph & that's when it clicked on who it was, I face palmed. That was probably the worst thing I said to someone that was somewhat famous & I still feel bad about it to this day.
And yet, having learnt this humbling lesson, I have even more admiration respect for Gem as a human being with smart things to say. In all seriousness Gem, thanks, I'll try to remember it when the time comes
though i do really like hearing your input on splatoon, i really love hearing about your takes on things that aren't as related to splatoon or can be applicable in other areas of life too. i love these kinds of videos. keep it up
PS: this is ironic given the context of the video, but seeing you become a pretty big figure in the competitive splatoon space over the past few years has been really cool to see. at this point, my own brother has found and has been really been enjoying your content :]
Really well made video with such an important message.
I'm gonna pick fame watch me
gem i adore these types of videos where u just kinda talk about wisdom
a fellow Innuendo Studios fan, I see
I came looking for cool plays for this weird colorful children's shooter game and I went out learning Philosophy and public relationship.
And you know what, I wanna say this,
Good Job, do anything you want because I don't care, also I know you don't care what I say and maybe is that the lesson of what I understood, just do whatever you consider is good and at the way I will getting benefit for learning all of this for free and in return you have my thanks.
My Minecraft player was in DanTDMs minecraft minigame video when I was 11 (im 19 now) and that was like the first interaction like that, and probably still the biggest. I was beyond hyped in that moment, then a video released some time after. That was in a time before youtube had streaming so you'd have no idea when they would be playing.
After that I've been in quite a few videos/streams and had over 100 of different hypixel youtube ranks in the same game/lobby (common req for that rank is 30k subs), or a youtuber having read my comment for a video.
I've kinda become unfazed by these interactions through having them. If I or something I made is in a video that's nice, but let's be honest, nobody cares since I'm in the background/I barely do anything to the video/not too many viewers. If I showed them to people again, probably more people would remember seeing my mario maker levels with 20k different players rather than my ugly minecraft skin in a random 5m+ views 8 year old dantdm video. Not to mention you could search for where youtubers are on the internet way better than before, like through streams and you could stream snipe them.
Actually I'm currently trying to fill a room with squishmallows so if everyone gave me squishmallows I'd be more than ok with that.
I’ve been taking a break from splatoon because of stuff happening in my personal life and splatoon brings up a lot of stuff, but I really appreciate these videos you’ve been putting out. Really what I need right now. Thank you ❤
Your life lessons are always on point
Thank you for not making this about "cancel culture"
I appreciate that you talk about life stuff rather than just splatoon stuff. It really makes me think about my actions, views, and how i treat others. Thank you!!
this was a good discussion, really love these type of videos! actual schools needs discussions like these
I learned a new term of propinquity, so thank you.
jorjor well
loving the squid to life school pipeline
And yes, this is also dating advice
Banger video. Idk how to express my thoughts without writing a 4 page essay no one wants to read so I’ll leave it at that idk.
i want to read it
Spiderman: No Way Home is a perfect representation of what fame is like in the real world. I watched it and learnt that it becomes you vs the World when you want to continue showing new things that you do.
I've never met some famous person that I look up to, but I've had this mindset for a while that if I ever meet someone like that, I don't want to be a toxic fan, so this video has definitely helped me consider how I will act if I ever find myself in that situation
I definitely get your point and agree with it even. I'm a tiny artist or something along those lines but soon enough you realize that whatever you do as much as you may've worked on it is nothing but a product for another person to consume, and they will never see it in the same way you did while making it. Furthermore, you do get disensitized to compliments when it feels like they're given out of duty. I'm not a huge artist by any means, but I rarely ever feel much whenever I get praised for what I do, what I think about it ends up mattering to me way more.
That being said though I just wanted to say
This video is just gem telling us to back off :p
Another aspect is that if someone isn't familiar with art, of course they'll be impressed, because their standard for it is at least partly influenced by what they're capable of making themselves, which is probably not that much. So compliments mean a lot more from someone who understands the kind of work you do really well.
I wouldn't say I'm telling everyone to back off, lol, maybe in some very specific ways but not in general. I wouldn't call myself "famous".
8:45 yes, that is absolutely true. i swear people don't get this clear enough sometimes.
i may respect you and enjoy what you make for your community that i'm a part of, however, i'm only a fan. you don't know me, you don't know who i am, what i do, or even why do the things i do. you've never even interacted with me and the same goes the other way around. all we know is that we have a mutual interest in splatoon as a series, and even if we were to interact once or twice, none of what i said changes.
It's really easy to forget for a lot of people that content creators are also just normal people. There are a number of crazy things that might've happened to them to get them where they are. Maybe it's purely their raw talent that got them a lot of attention, maybe they've accomplished some crazy feat through practice and determination, maybe they just got lucky with algorithms or happened to be in the right place at the right time.
I think this issue isn't much different than people treating celebrities like their characters in movies or TV shows. You only know that person from one particular front, so it makes sense to interact with them on that front, but understand that there is a whole life of experiences and ideas behind that front that you know next to nothing about and have next to nothing to do with it.
Even when it comes to meeting new people in general, I always try to come up with questions I don't think they get asked much, usually about how *they feel* about certain subjects. I'm not exactly good at that, but I like to think the attempt is appreciated. I'm genuinely more interested in the humanity of the person than all the surface-level stuff I already know about them.
Don’t worry, I’m still not tired of explaining when I fell off of a mountain.
I work with famous people and see what the repercussions of fame are and believe me, it’s very very overrated. I would never want to be famous myself, the price you pay just isn’t worth it. Having anonymity and people not being concerned with you is priceless but a lot of people just don’t get that.
gem looooves talking about melee ( i mean this in a good way ) im happy i know everything he talks about but i’m sure a lot of people get confused sometimes lol
Gem giving more great advice! I hope that many people learn from it, because people can act real crazy around online celebrities 🤔
This kinda seems like gem's last words on youtube...
I know the topic of internet fame is only slightly tangential to the whole topic at hand but god is it kind of scary how One throwaway thing you do or say can blow up exponentially. i get rather anxious putting... Anything on the internet because "what if people decide to latch on to this for god knows what reason and now suddenly im That Person for the next month or whenever people decide to let go".
When I was like 13 or so, I made a twitter account and started following a lot of people I admired on other platforms. There, I saw them interact with their community, or their friends, and developed some big parasocial relationships with them, and now when I see that I cringe a lot. So yeah, don't do that.
What he's saying about 5 minutes in, is just like Sherlock holmes's auther. He made one series that took off, and when he tried to do other things people showed no interest and even hated him untill he continued making Sherlock Holmes
@16:30 A big reason why I stopped streaming is that I felt like I always needed to be "on" and "engaged" the entire stream, especially on platforms like twitch, where you really have to have a certain personality type in order to stream regularly to a large audience like that... or at least be good at faking that kind of a personality. No shade to anyone who does do that; more power to them because honestly it sounds exhausting. I've just more or less kind of resigned myself to the fact that while I enjoy streaming, I'm not a capital-S Streamer™
Oh hi. Wait, are you Gem? Wow, I did NOT expect to meet you in person. How's it going? Yep. Same.
That's usually how I'd picture myself meeting a big TH-camr in person. And I'm a Psuedo Introvert!
Innuendo Studios is a good channel, would recommend
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Somewhat personal anecdote that might or might not be related: there's someone I'm pretty close friends with who happens to be pretty well known in a niche game community for being a top player (keeping her anonymous for privacy reasons). As in, I literally only found out who she was because someone reacted to one of her hardest clears. However, as I started watching her twitch streams and interacting in her discord server, I stopped showing up solely because "holy fucking shit it's her she's the girl who's really good at the video game oh my god" and just, her being a cool and funny person to be around. Eventually after a couple months of being a regular in chat and in the discord, she ended up reaching out to *me* in DMs to just talk about stuff unrelated to the game, which was honestly a really weird experience at first. Over time, that novelty of becoming genuine friends with someone who you look up to like that wore off, and our relationship stopped being "Holy shit I'm friends with a top player woah that's so cool" and just "this is my friend, she's cool and I like talking to her". Very eye opening experience with regards to actually getting to know someone "famous" per se.
I see a fame tier list in your future 😂😂😂
The majority of people think charizard is 25 ft. Bad analogy.
Being famous isn't what you should want to be bc then you end up like the ppl on YT who think they're good at the game the ones who say they're "pros" and constantly get hated on you literally just become a target
I heard a recomendation for not becoming paparazzi level famous.... be really boring while talking. I heard there was a tenis player who got tired of being asked too many questions by the media, and so he intentionally talked in a really boring, neutral and uninteresting way, with boring and mundane responses every time he got asked by a journalist or a TV news person.
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On mainstream media, people talks like others by their one liners or their just 1 remarcable things, but they don't focus they are normal people, with their good traits and flaws that can have, as we all have. Everyone in this world can make mistakes that we learn from those, but when you are famous, idk why the expectation is to be godlike a lead example for everyone to strive for, like if you were a religious person.... and it is really unjust to treat someone that way if they are known just for being good at something that isn't related to be a good person. I always try to not dehumanize a person because of their fame; I just see them the way they do things, they act and react, as anyone else could normally do in their situation.
hey... aren't you the squid from squiddin' around?
BoJack Horseman reference?
In third grade, apparently I "melted".
I do not know the circumstances behind what ACTUALLY happened. I just know that it was apparently a big deal and that the teachers were involved.
In any case, that was my title throughout the entirety of the rest of school. The kid who melted. Obviously as the years went on, I'd get less inquiries. But still, multiple times each school year, I'd be asked "so what actually happened" or something along those lines.
One time, when I was on an airplane going somewhere, some guy at the *airport* overheard my name and asked me "wait did you go to [school]? Aren't you the guy who melted?"
Anyway, yeah. That was when I realized that I would absolutely rather not be famous for anything ever again.
As for being a fan? If I ever give any "gift", it'll be through twitch sub or youtube membership. That way I'm just a number on a spreadsheet, nice and easy and avoids any "overspending" on my end. If I ever say hi to any content creators I like, it'd only be at cons or events where they are going AS their "on screen persona". Things like a fan meet & greet where i feel less bad about being the 500th "hey big fan of your work" a meet & greet means they signed up for it. But if I ever were to see someone out in puiblic? Just gonna let them be.
5:48 reminds me a bunch about Tyler, the creator. He pushed through it though and made hit after hit
Propinquity? 😂 I'd keep the fact you know that word to yourself, js
I’ve been getting more well known in the Omori VRChat community because I create avatars. Those avatars are going to be made public soon, but I’m gonna make it very clear that I don’t want people trying to be friends with me just because of it. Heck, I even have it in my bio that I don’t take commissions or requests. I make avatars for fun, and it makes me happy seeing people enjoy using them. I don’t want that to be all I’m known for. I already constantly get requests to clone my avatars, and I’m sick of it. I’ve met some of the coolest people in my life through the game, but it was when I didn’t make avatars, they knew me for me.
I already have gotten tons of friend requests from people I’ve barely or never interacted with. It’s a little worrying, but I’m gonna make sure to establish my boundaries properly and if people need to be told off about this sort of thing then I’m going to do it. More people need to know that stuff like this is wrong, and seeing you post this video gives me hope for the future. You’re awesome, Gem :)
Nice more dating advice
Bold of you to assume
Well said!
i wonder if he has a shiny alolan raichu
Loved it
I think I got called out a bit here lol eh whatever I can still learn a lot from it
If I ever talk about something in a video, it's probably because it's happened at least 10 other times with a variety of people. I comment where I can on patterns, not individuals
I’m really curious, what inspired you to make this video?
Gem do you consider your self Stoic(the Google definition is not accurate)?
Having not thought too hard about it, I'd say Stoicism is a valuable response to hardship but shouldn't be the ideal. I'd rather be sensitive in an environment where it's safe to be that way.
I have never quite been able to express why it rubs me the wrong way when people tell celebrities "[song/book/thing you made] got me through [horrific personal tragedy/saved my life]". Especially since those are all perfectly valid roles for art to play in your life, and perfectly fine to be open about. It's one thing to not be able to muster up enthusiasm for general pleasantries and compliments, I have to imagine it feels _not great_ to find yourself desensitized to that.
Also: unholy screeches are not the only way to express excitement, _tone it the f-ck down,_ they're just people. Its also annoying to hear people carry on like that. My dad put a stop to that nonsense early (I was 7 or 8) because we were being obnoxiously loud playing video games or something. He only had to yell at us once to knock it off or he'd take the console away, find something for us do (chores) or make us go outside (not sure which threat he went with anymore to make us stop). We were allowed to be excited; we just did not to be shrill and obnoxious if we were. It was only a couple years after that when I understood how annoying all the excited shrieks and yelling was when fans on tv were freaking out over their favorite celebrity. Like bro, stop being annoying.
Quick gem you need to start lowering your content quality
This counts as dating advice?
Rock stars who won't play their old songs are ingrates. I get what you're saying about why they might not like the old songs, so then don't go on tour. Go be a recluse like the rest of the famous people who want their privacy.
Ur only sayin that cause u couldn’t ever be famous so your telling yourself you don’t wanna
12:05 "gamergate"
Stopped watching right at this point. Imagine actually defending a professional victim and a murderer who slept with game journos to get her game scored higher.
Thank you for the lesson on how to interact with streamers 🤍
I don't know why, but when you asked what I would give Axe as a gift my first and only thought was: "A small, yummy cake". Not a Pikachu themed cake or anything like that, just a cake.
That's a pretty good idea