I found my bio dad when I was 42. He didn’t know about me, my mom kept me a secret from him. Mom told me a bunch of lies about my dad, but from the way she treated me I didn't believe her. I'm so glad I kept looking because had 7 beautiful years with my dad before he passed.
You spoke of the 92-year-old mom and the shame associated with being unmarried and pregnant. That shame and fear was still prevalent many years later, in fact a whole generation later, in 1972. Unmarried when my daughter was born, it was a big shameful secret. I was shipped away. That's it in a nutshell. When my daughter found me 26 years later, the shame was still so strong I had never told my four kids about her. At that point, I finally told them - my husband had always known. Being from a less "shamed" generation, my kids were quite surprised, but they pretty much took the news in stride. My youngest son, eight at the time, touched my heart when he said, "Mom, why didn't you tell me?" ❤❤
My mother left me at birth , I found her as a teenager. She died refusing to say who my father was . A dna test proved who he was but he died many years ago. All I have is the truth but it is everything . I feel for you, rejection is cruel but very common. You are not at fault, it is them, not you ❤
I appreciate your kindness towards "Pam" and acknowledgement that things were different then. My mum is 93, she still will not talk about the fathers of some of her children. As much as one can assure them that all one wants is answers, the stigma from the past is so deeply ingrained that for many it is impossible to overcome. My advice is to try not to judge decisions made in a different time by the way things are now. Abraham Lincoln said "do not judge others, they are exactly what we would be in similar situations."
It’s so important to understand the context of the past and how it shapes our present. Your mum’s experiences are a reminder of the complexities we often overlook.
Could you perhaps ask her to write it down and put it with her will to be passed on to each child, you could then have answers but she wouldn’t need to actually be around for the delivery of that news. It doesnt then need to be a big thing or public knowledge.
Wow! You're amazing! I've been trying to help my friend figure out who her mother's father is/was.... As we know he is deceased now, as is her mother. But she managed to get info from social services as to what happened with her mother, as she was given to another family to be raised as she was born albino and blind. Her father was born blind as well, but we figured out that side... I think genealogists are magnificent people!!
Thank you so much! It sounds like your friend has been on quite a journey to learn about her family. It’s amazing that she was able to get information from social services and make progress, even with all the challenges. Genealogy can really help uncover so many important stories, and it’s great to hear you appreciate the work!
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Lot's of family events over the weekend (also a daughter in labor on top of everything else). Sitting down with a cup of java going through all the comments now.
How did they end up as totally different religions? Did they assume the religion of their adoptive parents? What religion was the mother? Usually agencies try to place children with parents of the same religion.
That is so far from the truth. Adoption agencies tell the parents they will place the kids with a couple from the same religion, but often do not. To them, it's about making the "sale" and getting the baby placed with the first one willing to take the child.
It pains me reading how many lies people have gone through just for the truth about their identity. If bio parents did not want their poor choices becoming public, (1) they should not have been careless about birth control or (2) had an abortion. When you make poor choices and have sex with someone, you get pregnant. Abort the baby or accept the fact the baby will find you when they are older; it is your duty to answer your adopted child's questions "honestly," no matter how the bio birth parent feels about it. We all make mistakes. When your mistake creates a child, it's okay to want a better life for an unplanned baby. It is not okay to deny that child the truth about their identity when they find you.
I found my bio dad when I was 42. He didn’t know about me, my mom kept me a secret from him. Mom told me a bunch of lies about my dad, but from the way she treated me I didn't believe her. I'm so glad I kept looking because had 7 beautiful years with my dad before he passed.
I'm so glad you had that time.
Beautiful! Thanks for sharing!
You spoke of the 92-year-old mom and the shame associated with being unmarried and pregnant. That shame and fear was still prevalent many years later, in fact a whole generation later, in 1972. Unmarried when my daughter was born, it was a big shameful secret. I was shipped away. That's it in a nutshell. When my daughter found me 26 years later, the shame was still so strong I had never told my four kids about her. At that point, I finally told them - my husband had always known. Being from a less "shamed" generation, my kids were quite surprised, but they pretty much took the news in stride. My youngest son, eight at the time, touched my heart when he said, "Mom, why didn't you tell me?" ❤❤
Absolutely beautiful, thank you for sharing!
My bio mother is 94 and still will not meet me She lives 50 miles from me. So happy for the brother and sister in this story.
😢 I'm sorry.
My mother left me at birth , I found her as a teenager. She died refusing to say who my father was . A dna test proved who he was but he died many years ago. All I have is the truth but it is everything . I feel for you, rejection is cruel but very common. You are not at fault, it is them, not you ❤
Mine was the same.
I'm so sorry. It's her loss. ❤❤❤
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I appreciate your kindness towards "Pam" and acknowledgement that things were different then.
My mum is 93, she still will not talk about the fathers of some of her children. As much as one can assure them that all one wants is answers, the stigma from the past is so deeply ingrained that for many it is impossible to overcome.
My advice is to try not to judge decisions made in a different time by the way things are now.
Abraham Lincoln said "do not judge others, they are exactly what we would be in similar situations."
It’s so important to understand the context of the past and how it shapes our present. Your mum’s experiences are a reminder of the complexities we often overlook.
Could you perhaps ask her to write it down and put it with her will to be passed on to each child, you could then have answers but she wouldn’t need to actually be around for the delivery of that news. It doesnt then need to be a big thing or public knowledge.
What a sweet story. Tears of joy for the siblings and mom. ❤
Great story. A real life story. 🎉
Thinking of you Gina! Love that you have always supported DNAngels!
Wow! You're amazing! I've been trying to help my friend figure out who her mother's father is/was.... As we know he is deceased now, as is her mother. But she managed to get info from social services as to what happened with her mother, as she was given to another family to be raised as she was born albino and blind. Her father was born blind as well, but we figured out that side... I think genealogists are magnificent people!!
Thank you so much! It sounds like your friend has been on quite a journey to learn about her family. It’s amazing that she was able to get information from social services and make progress, even with all the challenges. Genealogy can really help uncover so many important stories, and it’s great to hear you appreciate the work!
Wonderful, heart-warming story! G-d bless them all! ❤
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fantastic- heartwarming story. I wish everybody could open their heart and forgive!
YEEESSSSS!!!!!! Thanks for watching.
New subscriber here and I love your stories ❤
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Awe so sweet!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤ loved this one
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Beautiful! Just subscribed! God is so good to us!!!!🙌🙌🙌🙌👑
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Great story... I am hoping to find my Bio Dad...
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Great story!
Glad you enjoyed it!
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What TH-cam channel is the Lost and Found?
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I just found these storys
That's awesome! I'm glad you stumbled upon these stories. There’s so much to explore!
This is a woman who will die knowing why God put her on Earth!
Rob sent me pictures this morning of his reuniting with Pam. Tears of joy!!
I have the curiosity of knowing how old were the youngest & oldest bio moms and dads that you have ever found
One of my colleagues recently found an alive 99 year old father!
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I knew my bio dad from our first phone call before we did the test. We had the exact same vocal mannerisms
That is fascinating!
How long does it take you to respond to a commenter’s questions, Heidi ?????
Lot's of family events over the weekend (also a daughter in labor on top of everything else). Sitting down with a cup of java going through all the comments now.
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How did they end up as totally different religions? Did they assume the religion of their adoptive parents? What religion was the mother? Usually agencies try to place children with parents of the same religion.
That is so far from the truth. Adoption agencies tell the parents they will place the kids with a couple from the same religion, but often do not. To them, it's about making the "sale" and getting the baby placed with the first one willing to take the child.
Did the mom give up both Rob & Lisa at their births?
She did. She loved them so much, she did the most selfless act a mother could do. She wanted a better life for them and they had very loving parents.
@@dnangelsorg2544That's wonderful!!❤❤
And we're Canadian...
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It pains me reading how many lies people have gone through just for the truth about their identity. If bio parents did not want their poor choices becoming public, (1) they should not have been careless about birth control or (2) had an abortion. When you make poor choices and have sex with someone, you get pregnant. Abort the baby or accept the fact the baby will find you when they are older; it is your duty to answer your adopted child's questions "honestly," no matter how the bio birth parent feels about it. We all make mistakes. When your mistake creates a child, it's okay to want a better life for an unplanned baby. It is not okay to deny that child the truth about their identity when they find you.
I am not sure you watched the entire video. Bio mom was welcoming with open arms. Acknowledged both children and they are building a relationship.
Why mention that Lisa’s gotten robbed?
It was a mistake with the captioning. She said that Lisa got Rob a Tshirt, but the captioning says Robbed.
Thanks for clarifying!