How To Deal With New Job Remorse?

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  • @jnetbrown17
    @jnetbrown17 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Im in the exact same situation rn. I left my job that I love the most because of more money and opportunity for growth and so i started looking & I was very upfront about it at the interview at the new job about stuff and they promise me something then it doesnt happen when i started working for the company . I hate to waste their time by working and them thinking im liking it instead of having them look for a replacement. I felt a bad vibe the day i got an offer theyve been pushy and wants an answer right away and so i said yes so that was a mistake i made right there

    • @ms.sunflower6417
      @ms.sunflower6417 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I am deal with that now it's 11:30 and I am up can't sleep

    • @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE
      @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same went for me, the job description and what they told me during the interview, is not the same when I started working for them. I was so grateful and ecstatic about the higher position and pay, but it turned out that job is not something i could do, so in that first week, I've submitted by resignation, otherwise my mental health would suffer.

  • @mechkitten
    @mechkitten 5 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Paying bills vs waiting for a better job vs fear of missing out

    • @Native722
      @Native722 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      This is why I want to go into business for myself.

    • @stephonedmond5809
      @stephonedmond5809 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Native722 what kind of business are you wanting to start I am also starting one myself

    • @Native722
      @Native722 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@stephonedmond5809 Honestly I'm not entirely sure, maybe some sort of consulting business.

    • @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE
      @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Native722 Been thinking, going into a business of farming and livestock, but I don't have experience and might took sometime for return on investment...

  • @cateclism316
    @cateclism316 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I accepted a "dream" job offer ten years ago . I found it was way beyond my skills and experience. After four months I realized I needed to find another job. But I stuck it out for the paycheck. Not worth it. Over a year later I was let go. Still dealing with issues from it.

    • @levity90
      @levity90 ปีที่แล้ว

      Out of curiosity what was the job? What field?

    • @cateclism316
      @cateclism316 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@levity90Software QA Analyst

  • @Heero-xn8rj
    @Heero-xn8rj 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I get this. My old job was falling apart with burning employees out and refusing to backfill positions. My new jobs onboarding blows. The issue is I’d have never left the job I had in 2019 but jobs don’t stay stagnant thus being forced between a rock and a hard place

    • @Krmtx
      @Krmtx ปีที่แล้ว

      Same my old job was falling apart, I got this new role and I just don’t like it. I’ve been here a month.

  • @marcusarelius
    @marcusarelius 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    There are VERY few occasions where you can answer those questions prior to starting a new job with a new company. You learn the culture, the people, and the process from day 1 onwards. Not sure how to follow this advice if the questions can’t be answered prior to day 1.

    • @JessicaHicks
      @JessicaHicks 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      True. Employers can tell you things, but you really don’t know until you start working unless you have a friend working at the company and team you’re joking already that gives you the full details.

    • @Matt-cr4vv
      @Matt-cr4vv ปีที่แล้ว

      It’s always a risk when you move jobs. You always have to remember that even if you asked in the hiring process about the culture you’re not going to have someone who wants to hire you that the culture sucks. That’s a tad nonsensical for anybody to ever think would be real. The same way that a candidate paints a rosier picture than reality to be desired the company does the same thing. I find that the best way to handle things is to look for between the lines clues in how they speak about things or answer your questions. You can also look for reviews on employment sites but keep in mind negative reviews are more likely over the positive.
      My measurement of this is partially from hindsight in a red flag that I ignored in one role. I interviewed once for s position and had told them I was on my lunch break ahead of time. Then the interview proceeded to take longer than an hour and may have been close to two. I can’t remember specifically but it took so long that when it was over I had a ton of missed calls and text messages from coworkers at the job I had who were worried I’d been in an accident of some kind. That should’ve been a red flag that this new employer didn’t respect my time as a candidate to have it go in for that long. A example of how this was later problematic was their big sales pitch was money and what people in my role earned. The big sell being made to me was my potential to make serious income and was being told what people averaged the prior year as it was a partial commission role. I soon discovered after I’d stayed that they’d put in place a new commission payout structure where almost every payout was less then it had been for the time frame that peoples incomes were being told to me. And the structure had changed before my interview so it was dishonest to use ehsg people had made as the hype to get me to come over when the payouts they had earned that with wasn’t the payout system I’d be working under. It presented to me a number I’d likely make when that wasn’t true because they made that by being oaid more for their production. That taught me to be more critical thinking during the interview to determine how the fit might be.
      I interviewed for a interning role for s summer after Lee school with s place and things they were saying stood out for me that they wouldn’t be the right environment for me and so I declined their offer. The place I did go to was an interview where the back and forth was effortless and relaxed and felt right. And I loved the place I went to and remain close to my superiors there to the point we still have lunch and communicate. Sometimes it’s worth being almost hyper critical at times because you have to consider that it something runs you wrong in the interview it could be a bigger issue later because this is the point in time where they’re being overly positive about everything so if something gives you pause at that point it could indicate more problematic stuff later when they’re no longer trying to sell the role to you.

  • @Itsjrob_
    @Itsjrob_ ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I’m literally in the same position as this man …one week into a new state job that I took and left my old company and I took a pay cut and a longer commute for but the benefits are “better “ I think I made the wrong move and have been feeling so anxious

    • @ChinaDoll305
      @ChinaDoll305 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here! I moved across the state I hate it!

    • @Itsjrob_
      @Itsjrob_ ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ChinaDoll305 your not alone ❤️

    • @ChinaDoll305
      @ChinaDoll305 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Itsjrob_ 😔 It freaking sucks so much! This weather doesn’t help either the snow is non stop! Thank you for responding

    • @stinkyham9050
      @stinkyham9050 ปีที่แล้ว

      I just did the same thing. 3 days in and I'm miserable. Hope it gets better because it would be virtually impossible for me to go back to my old company now because of union rules.

  • @janewildly
    @janewildly 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m in this position right now. I needed the stable pay & job title, but learned on my first week that the company culture doesn’t fit me - I brought up how my name was misspelled and I was asked if I was sure i had the right spelling in my name, email was sent to an incorrect address and I was told that how could I not receive it… tough situation

    • @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE
      @YOUTUBE_IS_WOKE 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Same with me, but I knew on day 1 that what I was expecting and been told from that final interview and job description, was not the same in actuality, so I quit just to not waste both of our time.

    • @Matt-cr4vv
      @Matt-cr4vv ปีที่แล้ว

      That sounds wildly toxic to argue stuff like that with you 😂

  • @cookiesandpie5605
    @cookiesandpie5605 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    "The best it yet to come"

  • @ms.sunflower6417
    @ms.sunflower6417 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is great thank you!

  • @user-vc9or5uc4x
    @user-vc9or5uc4x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    What should i do i left a remote job to take a job that was different and only paid a little extra, great benefits. But the department was disorganized and horrible onboarding. The job didn’t workout for me. So, i got a new one and by the fourth day I didn’t want to go in to the office. They overwhelmed me so much. They pay more but they have old systems. Which makes doing the work confusing, training is all over the place. Its not remote and they dont like anyone talking in the office, u cant use ur cell and it cant be on desk, if ur late u cant make up time. Instead they take the time from ur PTO. Which i HATE. I hate they are not flexible at all. So, i want to go back to my old job if they would have me. The job is flexible and remote. They just pay less and dont have the best health insurance. What should i do?

    • @WakeupAmerica2025
      @WakeupAmerica2025 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Go back to your old job, doesn’t hurt to ask.
      My co worker did the same thing she came back after a month and we were happy to have her she was a great asset to our team. After a couple of weeks she didn’t feel weird.. five 1/2 years later she’s still there we are fb friends I left and regretted leaving too.. I wish I would have spoken up sooner. Good luck!

    • @user-vc9or5uc4x
      @user-vc9or5uc4x 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@WakeupAmerica2025thanks for the advice. I did ask and unfortunately they hired a few new people and don’t have an opening for me. Im so sad. They said if something opens up they would let me know. I hope they really do reach out. The regret for leaving weighs heavily on me. 😢

    • @WakeupAmerica2025
      @WakeupAmerica2025 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@user-vc9or5uc4x oh sorry! at least you asked, a ‘closed mouth never gets fed’. I’m sure you’ll find something else. And on the brighter note you now know what you want in your next jobs in the future. Best of luck and I’ll keep you in my prayers.

  • @mcjones4515
    @mcjones4515 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Can you go back to other job?

    • @Lisa-my5sy
      @Lisa-my5sy ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Never go back.

    • @levity90
      @levity90 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Lisa-my5sy why?

  • @user-gz5mx2nd5p
    @user-gz5mx2nd5p 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are describing me.