Emma shares her hookup experience

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  • @tnicolesofi
    @tnicolesofi 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1207

    Its scary how NORMAL hookup culture is. Can be super damaging- mentally and physically.

    • @Sugar_Fatale
      @Sugar_Fatale 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +93

      Let’s be honest, it GROSS.

    • @m4deleines
      @m4deleines 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +37

      rightt it’s insane how normalised it’s become

    • @Starr00117
      @Starr00117 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      I agree so much and I was young too. I thought it was normal because people made it normal, but it was not normal and I did not feel comfortable with it.

    • @lakshikayadav9577
      @lakshikayadav9577 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

      some people are literally just looking for hookup if both of them are down it comes down to them

    • @MathwithMauri
      @MathwithMauri 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +16

      Most importantly spiritually!

  • @Justauri-asdfghjkl
    @Justauri-asdfghjkl 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +670

    Im really glad a woman at her level is talking about this publicly

    • @ismbks
      @ismbks 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      what episode is this from? impossible to find the full ep on spotify

  • @m4deleines
    @m4deleines 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +522

    more people need this mindset honestly i’m so sick of hookup culture

    • @conanrodrigo
      @conanrodrigo 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

      SAME

    • @lakshikayadav9577
      @lakshikayadav9577 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +9

      @@conanrodrigo if you dont want it dont do it period.

    • @conanrodrigo
      @conanrodrigo 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

      @@lakshikayadav9577 i don’t do it but it’s still frustrating when you have to deal with peer pressure and people acting like you have something wrong with you just because you don’t like casual sex. guys don’t tend to be respectful when they realise you don’t want to hookup with them

    • @neelanshrao0049
      @neelanshrao0049 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

      peer pressure is real i agree and there's peer pressure not just with this but with a lot of other stuff. but I don't think we should judge people for casual hookups if both of them are down for it it's their choice and they are not wrong.

  • @guidedstars
    @guidedstars 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +581

    This is a natural response that people, especially women, inately have. Our culture has just become so corrupt that having the closest level of intimacy with someone you don't know is considered normal.

    • @Mojo2011100
      @Mojo2011100 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +14

      YES!!!! THIS!!!!! ^^^^

    • @roosaas
      @roosaas 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      As a demisexual person I don’t legitimately even experience sexual attraction without an emotional bond.

    • @soho6435
      @soho6435 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      @@roosaas omg same and it's so weird because... yall do? like good for you but i sometimes don't feel like a normal human because of it lol

    • @futuristicgirl14
      @futuristicgirl14 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you guys for saying this, I think a lot of people have a hard time expressing how they feel about hook up culture and you guys perfectly summed up my feelings.

  • @sydmoore6
    @sydmoore6 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +81

    When we treat others like an object for pleasure then that’s how we start to see ourselves. It’s very dangerous and can feel super isolating

  • @emmaedenn
    @emmaedenn 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +153

    I could never do hookups, always so awkward

  • @soho6435
    @soho6435 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +73

    i always felt the same way. im in uni right now and all my friends keep asking me why i don't do hookups but they also mention that men never treat them right so why would i want that for myself when you guys are not even having a good time with these men?? I hate hookup culture it's disgusting and i don't ever wanna get touched by a stranger no thank you

  • @emilybiroschak9937
    @emilybiroschak9937 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +200

    It's all spiritual

  • @Elaine-lc8lc
    @Elaine-lc8lc 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +178

    I think it comes down to the person and their views of sex/intimacy. Some people don't have these negative takeaways from hookups because they don't view sex as some sort of deep intimate connection reserved for couples.
    Some view sex as a more playful experience that they can have with a bunch of different people they get along with. It's unfortunate that she felt this way after her hookups - I hope that she can heal from it.

    • @anetaspronglova8444
      @anetaspronglova8444 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

      This

    • @maneater5435
      @maneater5435 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

      heal from what exactly? by not enjoying hookups ?

    • @Elaine-lc8lc
      @Elaine-lc8lc 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +20

      Heal from the negative feelings she got from these experiences. That doesn’t require her accepting hookup culture or seeing them as positive. She has a right to her opinions about what is good or bad for her body, mental health. As she stated, hookups made her feel bad, so I hope she can process those feelings in a healthy way and not let them haunt her. I don’t believe healing means accepting, but rather understanding and moving on with your life.

    • @nayomidesta9913
      @nayomidesta9913 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +38

      There is no such thing as not seeing sex as not intimate. sex can never be a "playful" experience for anyone no matter how much people try to convince themselves. There is nothing positive about hookup culture.

    • @maneater5435
      @maneater5435 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@Elaine-lc8lc oh okay , I didn’t mean to sound rude btw .

  • @freefree5453
    @freefree5453 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +110

    I don’t think you should feel bad about regretting them. I think a lot of people share your feeling about it. Seems to me that anyone having “meaningless” sex with someone is either lying to themselves, doesn’t know themselves yet, or is some kind of sociopath😂 It’s another common lie people are gullible enough or naive enough to buy into when they are young because it is an impulsivity thing- it’s empty. 😢

    • @missslollipop77
      @missslollipop77 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      agree so much that i have to screenshot it

    • @HeleneOl-os3uq
      @HeleneOl-os3uq 10 วันที่ผ่านมา

      So true

  • @michaelrodriguez9700
    @michaelrodriguez9700 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +53

    Hooking up is just an empty place so that's not how the relationship is it's u related with them and then ship is u are going to go down with them or try and find a boat to live in other words to live and die with them rather then being apart to take care of yourself

  • @RoyGBiv-lc8tv
    @RoyGBiv-lc8tv 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I’ve spent the majority of my life being afraid of sex because so many traditional people hated on hookup culture. I recently lost my virginity at 25. Sex really isn’t as big of a deal as I was led to believe. Hookup culture is neither good or bad. Waiting until marriage is neither good or bad. It all depends on the individual. I just wish people stopped telling others how to live their lives.

  • @snoozyq9576
    @snoozyq9576 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +58

    I loved casual hook ups when I was a drunk. Cant imagine wanting this now I've sobered up

    • @monicasmind
      @monicasmind 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Why do you think?

  • @Perliux02
    @Perliux02 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +43

    The part where she says that almost immediately after hooking she wanted to get “as far as possibly” for that person… I so get that. I actually feel like that every-single time I hookup with someone. At first I thought I was wrong and I even thought “maybe I should go to therapy for this”. I guess I feel a little bit better knowing I’m not alone in that feeling. What it is? I still don’t know.

    • @hellooogirlss
      @hellooogirlss 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +7

      then stop hooking up maybd 😂

    • @Perliux02
      @Perliux02 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @ wow i never thought about it before, thanks

    • @MrDukeSilverr
      @MrDukeSilverr 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Maybe hook up with people you get along with? Just an idea

  • @lyndenlee_
    @lyndenlee_ 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +13

    Honestly 50 hookups in year is not even normal tho 😅😂😂 low key something wrong with ppl

  • @namelessforeverr
    @namelessforeverr 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    im demi i could never 😂

  • @smileydog5941
    @smileydog5941 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I lost my v card to a hookup in my early 20s. You basically took the words out of my mouth, there's nothing else I can add. Only did it once, and decided that was enough
    A buddy of mine is also a late bloomer who had a crush on a girl, but at the same time had this other mysterious girl wanting to hookup with him, I told him not to do it as a fellow late bloomer but he gave in to his urges too. He called me a couple days later saying I was right and that it just didnt feel right lol. He gave himself a couple months to process that away and decided he really wanted to go after the girl he had a crush on. They are an item now and he's happy

  • @r.styles_chan8632
    @r.styles_chan8632 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    you are very courageous, and intelligent and self-aware for expressing your inner feeling in such an intricate way. These traits should be enough to give you the confidence you sought after when you were engaging in casual hookups. Best of luck to you.

  • @preezypatel
    @preezypatel วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I been single for like a decade plus and it’s not a choice. Either I don’t have options or don’t know how to create options for myself. At this point, I’m trying to exist lol

  • @lillywantsheranchovypizza107
    @lillywantsheranchovypizza107 13 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    empty is so true. i always describe it that way too. i never had casual hook ups but even sexting felt empty.

  • @space_1073
    @space_1073 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    The only incel thing I kinda agree with is that there isn't a dude alive who has the issue of "I'm always just in a relationship." Like you can straight up go years between relationships.

  • @arieljantra
    @arieljantra 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    love this and resonate with it so much. sex can be so emotionally and spiritually draining and is truly something sacred.

  • @rchhtt5210
    @rchhtt5210 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    I am here with you! I was the black sheep amongst my peers. Tried it, hated it… I preferred long term relationships. I am a married woman in my thirties now. Honestly… everyone I saw participating in hook up culture in college seemed pretty miserable. My observation was that many girls used hook ups as a way to find boyfriends. Terrible way to go about it but it was so normalized. I call that period in my life “the dark ages.” lol.

  • @user-kv6tw4im3j
    @user-kv6tw4im3j 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    proudly waiting till marriage :)

  • @sammysosa9766
    @sammysosa9766 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    it’s nice to hear this opinion from a woman. feel like this opinion on this subject has been shunned in the name of “fun”…good for you girl. your respect for yourself is beautiful

  • @brookeperk93
    @brookeperk93 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This revelation for me really clicked after becoming sober. Thank god

  • @KloeRosee
    @KloeRosee 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I love this. Young people need to hear this kind of honesty.

  • @invisibleadversary
    @invisibleadversary 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    "Rejected by a few guys I've dated" 🤣 women really do live in a completely different world than men.

  • @rianajeanine2295
    @rianajeanine2295 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +11

    which episode is this?

  • @jillianlaylataylor
    @jillianlaylataylor 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +6

    I relate to this so much

  • @simoly7893
    @simoly7893 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

    Yea no i’d rather be alone for the rest of my life than be a part of hook up culture lol

    • @smileydog5941
      @smileydog5941 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Same. Looks likes its going that way.

  • @krystenkamai374
    @krystenkamai374 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    Where can I watch this?

  • @FireLockandload
    @FireLockandload 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +8

    Completely unrelated, but does anyone know what sunglasses those are?

    • @snoozyq9576
      @snoozyq9576 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +12

      No but I was just thinking about how much I do not like them

  • @ChristopherDonnerArtist
    @ChristopherDonnerArtist 9 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I 1000% relate to this. 1000%

  • @ImHimForreal
    @ImHimForreal 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Hooking up is very fun , people who don’t are ugly and boring

  • @NicoleBright-b6t
    @NicoleBright-b6t 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    i felt the same way and than i realized that i was experiencing conviction from God as a form of protection from doing something so intimate with people i don’t love and who don’t love me. i remember you saying you went to catholic school and even if you don’t believe in God, prayers that people have prayed for you in that period of your life can still be protecting you to this day. they say rejection is often a form of protection, so maybe when you felt rejected by men in the past, it didn’t feel good but it was actually protecting you in the long run. love you and ur content ❤❤❤

  • @doofenshmirtz5971
    @doofenshmirtz5971 15 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Where do you guys watch this

  • @royalreacts220
    @royalreacts220 4 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This should be considered normal and not abnormal. Obviously not shaming anyone who does participate in hookup culture, but you’re literally inside someone who is a complete stranger. Like you cannot get any more physically close to them. Overall I think most of society will begin to realize how empty and unfulfilling hookup culture is to their spirit, in the long run.

  • @OMGitsShrimp
    @OMGitsShrimp 8 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I never understood, or took part in, hook up culture. It just sounded ridiculous to me. I’m not sharing my body with a random stranger!
    There just seems to be no point, no deeper meaning. Just doing it, just to do it. And that always sounded so mind-numbing and bleak to me.
    I’m quite comfortable being single and focusing on myself.

  • @xxcuppycakeloverxx
    @xxcuppycakeloverxx 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Girl we came to the same exact conclusion.

  • @roosaas
    @roosaas 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +5

    My demisexual ass agrees with the sentiment of how twisted and gross the hookup culture truly is. I’ve never wanted to participate in it, and I’ve been chastised for it. Called old fashioned etc. Ridiculous. Sex for me is one of the most intimate things you could possibly do with another person. To do it with a total stranger is absolutely baffling to me. To me sex is something sacred, private and very special only to be shared with that special someone. If that makes me a prude, old fashioned or weird I’ll take those titles as compliments. 😊😂

    • @721rena
      @721rena 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      As a sex addict that has the desire to have sex 8x a day and have had multiple male partners i have to agree with you. I felt like i loved a part of all of them that's the only way i could sleep with any of them is if i cared and loved them in some way. To me it's not normal healthy safe or morally okay to just have hookup culture. Sex has meaning even to a sex addict like me

  • @dumbkirk
    @dumbkirk 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    1:50 stop because the same thought process led me to try it and absolutely never again

  • @fey0217
    @fey0217 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    i think i'm lucky to have found out early that i hated hookup culture. i actually couldn't have sex until i was 22 because i had a case of vaginismus and it makes sex super painful. after i received PT and treatment for that, i had a fwb for several months and i had a situationship with this guy that i basically fell in love with but it fell apart bc he was so avoidant. i then went on with plans to hook up with this guy after that situationship and i was genuinely so disgusted even just giving him head. i had to get up and leave before intercourse happened. and in a weird way i'm just glad i left before anything went further. i think i shared that airbnb with him for a total of maybe 15 minutes before i got up and left. with maybe 2 of those minutes being sexual activity. i can't hook up with people. it feels disgusting from the get go.

  • @invisibleadversary
    @invisibleadversary 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    This is the most gen z image of all time.

  • @aniurism371
    @aniurism371 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    what are those glasses please emma i nEED THEM

  • @secret.history.
    @secret.history. 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Every individual's dating story is valid, remember that guys

  • @rushalidesai3398
    @rushalidesai3398 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    THIS IS SO ACCURATE.

  • @johnconstantine7413
    @johnconstantine7413 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Just wanna say Hi My Name Is John Constantine and I am here at about 880 subscribers. I just wanted to leave this here, so when your podcast blows up and you become famous I can say I was an OG fan.

  • @vallenclark1721
    @vallenclark1721 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +18

    “They’ve seen a side of me that a very few amount of people have seen” it bothers her and will bother anyone for that matter because you realize someone sees a side of you that’s sacred. IT IS SACRED!! God made it that way!! Sex is for people who are in a covenant, people who are becoming one, a team that is never supposed to separate. Your body is for one person, those emotions and feelings that come with that are for one person. How special is that. Nobody but you and that one person get to experience together.

  • @eshanatiti1733
    @eshanatiti1733 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    y r there no comments about tucker

  • @baguettegirl
    @baguettegirl 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    i hooked up ONCE with a guy and i never felt so dirty about myself/body afterwards. Like the segg was ok, but I felt like it just didn't make sense. I felt like I wasted time and I was dirty. NEVER AGAIN

  • @gardnerj44
    @gardnerj44 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You're so cool Emma

  • @johnbonamigo5696
    @johnbonamigo5696 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I have been in a relationship for 11 years and before that was in a 2 year so I missed the hookup culture. My question as a guy is, what happens if you bust quick or just have an off night? Meanwhile youre with someone who doesnt really care about you and have to sit in your foolishness. I can understand how a on the whim hookup can be exciting if it goes well but the chances it doesnt go well is just too much to think about.

  • @alinazaripova7524
    @alinazaripova7524 5 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I felt different, I qlways fell for them, like HOW???
    but for healthy ppl when its a hookup its a hookup and thats it, nothing else
    I didnt regret it but I needed a lot of time to get over it

  • @anna-clairedavidson4152
    @anna-clairedavidson4152 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    I totally relate to this. Casual hookups should not be normalized 😢

  • @asandadlamini4503
    @asandadlamini4503 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Facts i feel like that ❤❤

  • @makaylag2988
    @makaylag2988 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Rules and restrictions are to protect us believe it or not we all in time realize the Bible was right.

  • @lizzysmith6728
    @lizzysmith6728 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +3

    You did give something away. May God continue to steer you from these harmful experiences and bring you home 😊

  • @michabaczynski5668
    @michabaczynski5668 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Valid

  • @cuixinshi
    @cuixinshi 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +21

    me as a gemini:

    • @smileydog5941
      @smileydog5941 7 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Guy here. Gemini. I have the same story as Emma. I think it's just the internet that makes it seem like everyone is scummy because everything is a) so magnified b) pushed directly in your face by algorithms.

  • @jakemarlow8998
    @jakemarlow8998 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Wait ... I thought hookup culture was the epitome of female empowerment?!?

  • @MisterS1r007
    @MisterS1r007 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Maybe it’s just me but people put way too much meaning into hookup sex which is almost inherently supposed to be meaningless. We’re both there to have a good time and get off. No one’s forcing anyone to partake. I wish it was more common and sex wasn’t so hard to come by for most guys.

  • @katy54
    @katy54 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Yup

  • @liauriegas2455
    @liauriegas2455 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is soooo biblical

  • @Iamb_33
    @Iamb_33 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    So she is basically saying that she has over 25 bodies?

    • @dvas9626
      @dvas9626 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Where did you get that from lmao she said she had 1 and a half casual hookup

    • @Iamb_33
      @Iamb_33 3 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @ lmfao yeah that’s hook ups but that’s not accounting for the multiple “boyfriends”

  • @VALENTINOJC
    @VALENTINOJC 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +74

    maybe this is why God says don't have sex before marriage??

    • @becravioli
      @becravioli 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +87

      Not everyone was raised with that, and figure it out through experience instead xx

    • @sarahgaucher4370
      @sarahgaucher4370 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Or just have sex when you love someone?????

    • @Justauri-asdfghjkl
      @Justauri-asdfghjkl 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      It's easy to not have sex before marriage when you get married at 12 and die during childbirth

    • @Claudia-sk1ls
      @Claudia-sk1ls 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +75

      Marriage isn't necessary to maintain an intimate committed relationship.

    • @zcynab
      @zcynab 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

      I agree

  • @lilyann1567
    @lilyann1567 7 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Jesus loves you :)