9:22 for story number two I don’t think the parents are wrong for not telling Jane that they change their flight. She didn’t tell them that her and her husband were just using them for a free trip and free babysitting so it’s even. I hope her older siblings tore her a new one for her actions and for having the audacity throughout this whole situation, the only couple in the wrong is Jane and her husband
2:34 it sounds like the wife knows she’s not gonna get all that she asked for and now she’s backtracking, but that’s horribly manipulative to want to get back together just cause you’re not getting everything you want in the divorce😢
3rd Story: imo she’s stating the boundary she has because he’s also asking her to do smth very dangerous to *her* body so it seems fair to me to ask for a vasectomy since the risk & recovery is so much lower than getting your tubes tied. She’s not outright telling him either, she’s just saying that’s one of her boundaries in order to feel comfortable getting pregnant so he can choose not to, but then she has the choice to decline as well
I don’t think people should work on their marriage if they are unhappy and unhealthy together it is not good for the children to watch their parents being miserable together, so the whole work it out for the kids is some toxic crap.
3:19 I was thinking the exact same thing that maybe the lawyers told her that she’s not going to get what she wants in a divorce especially that she’s basically cheating on him and the girls prefer to live with their father with a 50-50 split and if she is able to work, she will get something but not enough to just lay back and just be a stay at home mom or even work part time. She would probably need to get herself a full-time job so she’s probably like. Oh crap I had to push this divorce a little further back that way I can get what I want because she wants to keep the house have him pay for the house and him continue to fund her lazy lifestyle. I just don’t like the wife. She’s been going out on dates exploring her options realizing not many men were married women that had children in #MIN these days. Don’t want to be the main provider. They wanna go 50-50 so with that and realizing she’s not going to get what she’s asking for I think that’s the reason why she wants to call off the divorce. Nope he needs to tell her to kick rocks and continue on with the divorce or he can have her sign a prenuptial agreement saying she can’t sue him for the house or alimony if she really wants this marriage to work because if she does want this marriage to work, she was signed out in a heartbeat and continued to make her marriage work. But I’m thinking she realize she’s going to lose her comfortable lifestyle. She won’t be able to go on any dates and have him fund her lifestyle anymore.
11:55 it’s safer for men to get a vasectomy then it is for women to get their tubes tied. He’s the one who wants a child. I feel as if this is a valid discussion and request to ask your partner. She has to go through 9 months of pregnancy and then giving birth. That in itself is dangerous. He should be okay with putting up his comfortability for 1 week if she’s going to go through pregnancy birth and about 6 months of recovery after.
Then I think they shouldn't even be trying for a child at all then. She's clearly not ready for such. There's no enthusiasm for having the child, whatsoever so why have one
100% and it’s much safer for him to get a vasectomy than her to get pregnant. It’s wild that he’s asking her to get pregnant but he’s refusing to get a vasectomy. Granted, these are things they totally should have been agreed upon before getting married
Does that even matter?! you still don’t tell people what to do with their bodies. If she doesn’t wanna get pregnant, he’s going to have to deal with it if he doesn’t want to get a vasectomy, she’s going to have to deal with it. But you can’t say it’s easier on a man a woman has a carry a baby for nine months. And so what’s the point does that make her more entitled to get her way, does that mean she’s entitled to tell him what to do with his body no that just entitlement no one is entitled to somebody’s body.
Do with? Third story is NTA!! She’s not saying oh no you ARE going to, she’s saying if I am gonna have a baby and give up my body then he needs that because she only wants one. Also birth control can mess you up. And almost any man who gets a vasectomy can undo it. Women can’t.
Girl I have some low self-esteem, always felt like a big pile of poo but for some reason, I would not let some man make me feel less than. Regardless of what I thought about my body and how I look like I always knew that I deserve better from a man. And you should think of yourself that way too you should think that you are a queen and you deserve to be treated as such just because you’re breaking up with him does not mean you have to go back to New Mexico nowhere where does it say if you break up with somebody you must leave the state that’s a live in, no start your life all over block him, and start all over. understandable it’s going to be hard. You are going to miss him. You’re going to feel lonely, but eventually, those feelings return to joy and happiness because you will see how much stress he was putting on you and you will feel like a brand new person right now I know it’s scary, but it’s not impossible. Take a deep breath plan your exit and leave you will be so much happier trust me, and if you feel like nobody wants you, those are just the insecure voice is talking to you those are just probably his words because he knows you can do better than him and he’s scared that you will do better than him. So do not listen to those voices. Also see if you don’t find the love of your life but you are happy and content that is a lot better to be in a relationship for somebody that disrespects you and cheats on you where you are just miserable and sad all the time. Trust me it will be hard. There will be days that you feel like just calling him to just see how he’s doing, but we’re not feeling creeps up. Go for a run call a friend go for lunch. Hinge and bumble have sites for friendships so go on there and look for new friends. He will be doing just fine without him. You do not need him. You do not deserve this pick up your crown and bounce.
Last story, op I'll tell you what I tell many in this situation. Write down everything he does and read it like you're reading about someone else. Would you tell them to stay? And none of this, he knows me bs (people can know you if you let them). If so, go to therapy, if not then just leave.
I don't think asking him to have a vasectomy is unreasonable. Getting your tubes tied is major surgery which requires anasthetic and a long recovery time. A vasectomy is an outpatient procedure and you can go home the same day. If they don't want more kids, the man getting a vasectomy just makes more sense.
The girl asking for a vasectomy it has to be an agreement between the couple but I honestly don't think it's completely wrong. She sacrifice her body to give birth a baby he should do the same. It is only fair.
That and hormonal birth control can really mess you up. I think it's a fair compromise, she risks her body to have a baby and he gets a vasectomy in exchange. If he doesn't want to, he doesn't have to, but in turn she also doesn't have to accept becoming pregnant if she doesn't want. It seems fair to me, lots of couples do this.
9:22 for story number two I don’t think the parents are wrong for not telling Jane that they change their flight. She didn’t tell them that her and her husband were just using them for a free trip and free babysitting so it’s even. I hope her older siblings tore her a new one for her actions and for having the audacity throughout this whole situation, the only couple in the wrong is Jane and her husband
Agreed. She wants an apology, she can pay op back for the trip and then he can think about it😅
First story - Nothing wrong with second chances , but if the husband is smart - he should make her sign a prenup before agreeing to try again
2:34 it sounds like the wife knows she’s not gonna get all that she asked for and now she’s backtracking, but that’s horribly manipulative to want to get back together just cause you’re not getting everything you want in the divorce😢
3rd Story: imo she’s stating the boundary she has because he’s also asking her to do smth very dangerous to *her* body so it seems fair to me to ask for a vasectomy since the risk & recovery is so much lower than getting your tubes tied.
She’s not outright telling him either, she’s just saying that’s one of her boundaries in order to feel comfortable getting pregnant so he can choose not to, but then she has the choice to decline as well
So excited this is the highlight of my Tuesday!!!
That second story, we are no longer keeping the peace. Honestly, they got a pretty much free trip. They want an apology, they can pay op back first.
I don’t think people should work on their marriage if they are unhappy and unhealthy together it is not good for the children to watch their parents being miserable together, so the whole work it out for the kids is some toxic crap.
3:19 I was thinking the exact same thing that maybe the lawyers told her that she’s not going to get what she wants in a divorce especially that she’s basically cheating on him and the girls prefer to live with their father with a 50-50 split and if she is able to work, she will get something but not enough to just lay back and just be a stay at home mom or even work part time. She would probably need to get herself a full-time job so she’s probably like. Oh crap I had to push this divorce a little further back that way I can get what I want because she wants to keep the house have him pay for the house and him continue to fund her lazy lifestyle. I just don’t like the wife. She’s been going out on dates exploring her options realizing not many men were married women that had children in #MIN these days. Don’t want to be the main provider. They wanna go 50-50 so with that and realizing she’s not going to get what she’s asking for I think that’s the reason why she wants to call off the divorce. Nope he needs to tell her to kick rocks and continue on with the divorce or he can have her sign a prenuptial agreement saying she can’t sue him for the house or alimony if she really wants this marriage to work because if she does want this marriage to work, she was signed out in a heartbeat and continued to make her marriage work. But I’m thinking she realize she’s going to lose her comfortable lifestyle. She won’t be able to go on any dates and have him fund her lifestyle anymore.
11:55 it’s safer for men to get a vasectomy then it is for women to get their tubes tied. He’s the one who wants a child. I feel as if this is a valid discussion and request to ask your partner. She has to go through 9 months of pregnancy and then giving birth. That in itself is dangerous. He should be okay with putting up his comfortability for 1 week if she’s going to go through pregnancy birth and about 6 months of recovery after.
Then I think they shouldn't even be trying for a child at all then. She's clearly not ready for such. There's no enthusiasm for having the child, whatsoever so why have one
100% and it’s much safer for him to get a vasectomy than her to get pregnant. It’s wild that he’s asking her to get pregnant but he’s refusing to get a vasectomy.
Granted, these are things they totally should have been agreed upon before getting married
Does that even matter?! you still don’t tell people what to do with their bodies. If she doesn’t wanna get pregnant, he’s going to have to deal with it if he doesn’t want to get a vasectomy, she’s going to have to deal with it. But you can’t say it’s easier on a man a woman has a carry a baby for nine months. And so what’s the point does that make her more entitled to get her way, does that mean she’s entitled to tell him what to do with his body no that just entitlement no one is entitled to somebody’s body.
Do with? Third story is NTA!! She’s not saying oh no you ARE going to, she’s saying if I am gonna have a baby and give up my body then he needs that because she only wants one. Also birth control can mess you up. And almost any man who gets a vasectomy can undo it. Women can’t.
I meant to say dude wth* at the start but it got auto corrected
Love all the stories.
Please make a compilation long marathon video of all your TikTok videos. Would love to watch. ❤
Girl I have some low self-esteem, always felt like a big pile of poo but for some reason, I would not let some man make me feel less than. Regardless of what I thought about my body and how I look like I always knew that I deserve better from a man. And you should think of yourself that way too you should think that you are a queen and you deserve to be treated as such just because you’re breaking up with him does not mean you have to go back to New Mexico nowhere where does it say if you break up with somebody you must leave the state that’s a live in, no start your life all over block him, and start all over. understandable it’s going to be hard. You are going to miss him. You’re going to feel lonely, but eventually, those feelings return to joy and happiness because you will see how much stress he was putting on you and you will feel like a brand new person right now I know it’s scary, but it’s not impossible. Take a deep breath plan your exit and leave you will be so much happier trust me, and if you feel like nobody wants you, those are just the insecure voice is talking to you those are just probably his words because he knows you can do better than him and he’s scared that you will do better than him. So do not listen to those voices. Also see if you don’t find the love of your life but you are happy and content that is a lot better to be in a relationship for somebody that disrespects you and cheats on you where you are just miserable and sad all the time. Trust me it will be hard. There will be days that you feel like just calling him to just see how he’s doing, but we’re not feeling creeps up. Go for a run call a friend go for lunch. Hinge and bumble have sites for friendships so go on there and look for new friends. He will be doing just fine without him. You do not need him. You do not deserve this pick up your crown and bounce.
Last story, op I'll tell you what I tell many in this situation. Write down everything he does and read it like you're reading about someone else. Would you tell them to stay? And none of this, he knows me bs (people can know you if you let them). If so, go to therapy, if not then just leave.
I don't think asking him to have a vasectomy is unreasonable. Getting your tubes tied is major surgery which requires anasthetic and a long recovery time. A vasectomy is an outpatient procedure and you can go home the same day. If they don't want more kids, the man getting a vasectomy just makes more sense.
The girl asking for a vasectomy it has to be an agreement between the couple but I honestly don't think it's completely wrong. She sacrifice her body to give birth a baby he should do the same. It is only fair.
That and hormonal birth control can really mess you up. I think it's a fair compromise, she risks her body to have a baby and he gets a vasectomy in exchange. If he doesn't want to, he doesn't have to, but in turn she also doesn't have to accept becoming pregnant if she doesn't want. It seems fair to me, lots of couples do this.
I need girl in last story to get a spine