ROFLMAO! 🤣 ... Right Wing Christian and Reactionary Centrist dudes are hilarious. They're the snowflakiest snowflakes and morons to boot. Women tend not to like men who disrespect or outright hate women (funny, that🤔), and most conservative men are condescending assholes who really believe they're superior to women. ... It's not that hard to understand, and it baffles me that these clowns don't get it. Personally, I couldn't have a long-term relationship with someone who wasn't fairly Progressive. They'd have to have good social values; and I'd be perfectly happy with someone who had either Democratic Socialist or Social Democrat leanings. ... For casual dates/one night stands, the only dealbreaker is someone who is overtly Conservative/Right Wing.
I kind of find it incredibly hilarious because what these conservatives are doing is very much crying about "discrimination" while trying hard to push for their values. Which seem rather ironic. 😂
no you see pronouns are when minorities. When cishet people do it those are "normal". It's absurd, of course, but it's also willful ignorance. By saying stuff like "no pronouns", that just translates to, in conservative/regressive-speak, "He/Him or She/Her only". It doesn't matter that those are pronouns, the statement is intended to normalize absurd claims such as "pronouns are political now" or something.
@@williamelliott186 Doesn’t Grindr have women on it too? I know not many because it’s mostly for gay men, but I was under the impression that other queer people could use it too. I just thought it was only popular with gay men, but maybe I’m wrong and it’s literally just for men.
any reason to not date someone is valid, the whole thing that makes it validation is that they are choosing you when they don't have to. thats why being wanted is better then being needed.
Oh God. That would be SUCH a turn off, unless it is one of those people who was VERY LOST and they took away only the self-help parts, disregarding everything else.
This is just a default response for someone who has no argument. I have my choice to Bang a lot of dumb hoes but I choose to be careful who I have sex with. It's called making good decisions
I just want to thank all the women out there for punishing conservatives for their garbage beliefs. And also good on them for sparing themselves the agony.
Noone is even punishing anyone. The pathetics are just being ignored. It's so funny seing them entitleds screeching as if not being babied 24/7 is literal abuse. XD
I love how one right wing woman writes that she can't find a good man who's a conservative but can't see the Truth that she wrote... that conservatives are not good men...
I think it's because a lot of what the conservatives believe is a fantasy of older better times when people were different, so these women are not thinking about being with a shitty person who don't see them as people, they are probably thinking about being taking care by a decent sexy dude who loves them like in a film. Also, some of them just don't make sense, I've seen many of these conservative Christian women who talk about how women shouldn't work, while having a full-fledged career in social media and public speaking.
They have 0% self reflection. It's simply how their brains are wired. I'm actually going to start experimenting with this to see if it can be used against them individually and en' masse, because after years and years of studying these freaks this appears to not only be a missing code in their brain chips, but also a SERIOUS, glaring fault.
These conservative dating apps remind me of that one crypto dating app that straight up died because it was like 99% straight conservative dudes and the 1% of women barely used it. This is so funny.
All dating apps* have the same problem - a gender imbalance in their target audience. It makes for a very unhealthy experience. The men get to experience rejection over and over, hundreds of women who deem them worthless with a glance, and that hurts. The women get to experience a sea of creeps, as the men are desperate to find some way to make a woman actually notice them. But this dating app? I imagine it'll be that problem, but to an even greater extent. It's going to be toxic. *Except Grindr.
@@Matt__B I do think there will be conservative women there, especially Christian ones, they grow up learning to self-hate and being fed excuses to why their only purpose is to take care of the family but it will be like most dating sites, more men using it than women,
‘The people I want to fuck are also the people I believe shouldn’t have control over their own bodies, and it’s their fault for not liking me.’ Truly a winning strategy for developing healthy relationships.
honestly though. people who are anti abortion and anti contraception but also want to get laid, how the fuck do you think that's gonna work out for you? If women risk getting pregnant by having sex with you, and cannot terminate the pregnancy if it happens, why would they want to have sex with you?
"I also secretly wish they didn't have any rights at all so they can't pick and choose their partners and would be sold into marriage" That would make conservative dating much easier.
@@izba5747Secretly wish? It’s not so secret. These conservatives have outright said it. They want women to be distributed by the government for marriage to any man who demands it. Women are nothing but household appliances to these men.
I was engaged to a conservative man in the U.S. It ended miserably. His values were extremely selfish and he started going full trad cath as well! Just so he could be cruel by declaring everything immoral.
@@Drownedinblood we worked together and he wooed me hard. He was a divorced single dad and I really liked the kids and thought I'd do my best at the step mom thing. The warning signs were there pretty quickly but I didn't realize his prejudices were set in stone and couldn't be reasoned with. It took a while to figure out he really thought I'd "see the light" and convert to catholicism. I'm a born and raised Episcopalian (CofE in America) and I was so bewildered by the idea of going (to my mind) backwards was the final straw. Honestly, I expect to see one of his kids on the news any day for shooting at a planned parenthood.
I dated a conservative guy in my early 20s as a new immigrant from England. I worked for an airline and he got to travel with me a lot. He almost a year younger than me and we've been married 21 years and he's more left leaning than me now. I argued politics and ethics a lot with him. Also, introduced him to showing up to university lectures when you're not even in university 😂, something I used to enjoy doing in Oxford. Professors don't care as long as you're not disruptive. I think it helped that I grew up traveling a lot. Difference is he was always a good person, he just was taught good economy is a wave that lifts all ships.
I worked with a young lady she was outgoing, smart and beautiful. She wasn’t interested in dating me but we still had fun. She wasn’t particularly political. She started dating a hard Right QAnon type and she honestly changed overnight. She became judgmental. Always talked politics. And just seemed angry all the time. We don’t talk much anymore but l hope she finds peace and happiness.
If only conservatives could spend more energies in improving their personality and empathy and less in projecting and harassing other people online... But nope, it's just "woke culture" and other silly conspiracy theories.
Funny actually how the least empathetic people with no personality that I've met have been screechy virtue signaling liberals. I lived in California and Texas and met many people, let me tell you, Texans win hands down over those empty husks of liberal ideals.
Well I will very gladly not date any guy whose ideal first date is whining about gender inclusive language _the entire time_ - seriously, Tinder etc is full of them. They can happily harass each other though, idc
That would require them to acknowledge that they're the problem... and since it seems like modern conservatism is rooted in narcissism, that'll never happen.
“Personally, I don’t understand why women don’t realize their status as second-class citizens and just shut up and ‘date’ me. And later, I’ll let them make me a sandwich” //sarcasm, obviously
"Ladies, I can get you a man who does both; deems you inferior and keeps you barefoot and pregnant, just as God intended." -Conservative pick-up line, probably
A pig trough for the hoglets and hogalinas to hang out at lololol. Especially the hoglets since, let's get real, it's most dudes who are cuckservicucks.
I used to be on the "right" when I started dating my liberal gf at the time. She called me out on different stuff as they came up, and just because I valued her opinion and respected her so much, I ended up swinging over to the left. Because she was right. A lot of the stuff I was spewing just didn't make sense or lead to hurting people. Of course, I do have the root values of not wanting to hurt others...not sure how many conservatives share that value...
Give yourself credit, you were also open minded enough to revise your political positions. A lot of people won’t do any self-reflection no matter how patient others are.
There's been a frightening amount of men that I've talked to who were interested in dating me, who claimed to be a leftist and pro women's rights and stuff (obviously lying about it and just telling me what I want to hear), and then when I check their social medias it's filled with the most bigoted, misogynistic, and hateful stuff, and when I bring it up they try to play it off like its all just a joke or like I'm overreacting. And then when I reject them they pull the "it's because I'm ugly/ not tall enough/ etc" card. No bud, it's because you despise me as a person and only want my body to objectify.
chuds will say "leftist women are soo ugly i would never date one" all day long and then pretend to be leftist on dating apps so they can date leftist women lol
When I was younger I never really understood women's obsession with height but now that I'm older I now realize that it's something men mostly made up to distract from their horrible personalities. Not saying shallow women don't exist but it's definitely blown out of proportion imo
@@dolfunythe problem with short men was created by men. Some of them seem to think that masculinity is stored in height so when they aren't tall enough for their own standards they feel emasculated and overcompensate by being especially toxic
Some interesting anecdotes about women prominent in right-wing movements getting constantly harassed by their political mates. My hypothesis: Left wing women immediately disqualify right-wing men without talking to them. Right wing women disqualify right-wing men after talking with them.
I don't even think they do that. I'm sure some do, with a grain of self-respect not to be treated less than human, but I think the majority would just see it as god's will if they're religious or win first place in mental gymnastics to revisualize harassment as a positive. Something like "we need more persistent men in this day & age!" or whatever
@@Vesperad0 It’s funny how true this is. They probably think those men have the precious masculinity that the world is lacking because of woke SJW feminism, or however that narrative goes. 😂
@@Vesperad0 nahh church girls have pretty high standards when it comes to social etiquette. These "conservative" men fail at dating becasue their conservativism is based more on misogyny than anything else. Thus their manners are lacking and their behavior comes off as gross or weird. Plus the hard-core christian girls expect the men to be virgins.
they remind me of elliot rodger, ya know the pathetic loser who thought he was entitled to the hottest women jumping into the sack with him despite him having a horrid personality that drove everyone away.
They're hilarious. They're so shallow in their own politics they can't understand that these are deeply held values, matters of life and death, that cannot be compromised
This actually got me to think... their politics are shallow because for them it is a sports game. The worst consequences of losing are going to pass them by or at least not going to be felt for a long time. Current power structure has their interests entrenched in them, and no some milquetoast democrat is not going to change that. That's why they get to call people "sensitive snowflakes" when they get vocally angry about current policies that actively impact them negatively - they have never had to deal with those situations on any meaningful level.
@@joshuayung5158this is so well articulated, been saying this for years- but never looked at it in terms of politics being a sport to them. that really puts things in perspective!
Never dated a political opposite I have been liberal all my life but in college I refused to see the value in medicare for all. My girlfriend was for Medicare for all and we often argued over it. I was for having a public and private system. We broke up for non political reasons. Needless to say the pandemic made me face slap the issue with having healthcare tied to a job. As a result I'm now for Medicare for all. She lovingly pointed out it took a blood pandemic to change my mind.
Can you share any insight on why you think you wouldn't/couldn't change your mind until it directly affected you? This seems to be a consistent theme for a lot of people, mainly conservative leaning, but not exclusively.
@@moragslothe6449 it actually didn't affect me as I was in research and still had my insurance and job. However, when the news reported on people losing their jobs and thus there health insurance. I had to sit there and realize though no fault of these hard working Americans they lost there insurance, during a pandemic. I realized why we need that saftey net. In honestly my uncle was a union leader (some factory with farm equipment ) who worked to get health insurance for workers. I foolish thought that doing universe Medicare would take away these benefits.
@@benjaminlanham9454 don’t be too hard on yourself, firstly you came round to a new understanding and secondly politics is historically a messy environment, one that simultaneously spins many plates of untruths until one of them comes crashing down.
It's about empathy and projecting yourself in someone else's situation ... get away from my situation is representative for everyone and everything ... should be thought at school
Also, conservative men are simply bad in bed, lol. Because to hold conservative beliefs one must have low empathy, but being good in bed requires good empathy 🤷
@@vihmaussivenitaja yup. Plus they've been taught (even more than socialist and liberal men have) that sex is synonymous with PIV and/or PIA and anything else - anything that a lot of women can get off from *at all*, who just can't get off from penetration - is "just foreplay"
I could never date anyone more conservative than a normie liberal. When people say they're "liberal" they mostly mean they're generally accepting of diversity and don't want the poor to starve in the streets. I know I'm in the very small minority of people who are not only well informed about politics but also could be described as some kind of socialist. Just finding someone who is genuinely kind to others is already great.
I think some politically involved individuals use politics as a stand in for personal morality. I think this isore common on the right but it also happens on the left. I personally know a few people who think they can be jerks because they're critical of capital or support diversity. I also know alot of conservatives who cry about protecting children but don't give a fuck about their own family. I once heard an atheist speaker saying being an atheist doesn't make you better or smarter, it just makes you right about one thing.
I had a friend who was a normie liberal and he immediately questioned my morality when I said I was a socialist/communist. He would then brush me off as soon as I tried to have conversations about it for more than a few minutes and say things like "the road to hell is paved with good intentions". This is sadly pretty normal where I'm from.
@@patkohler9695 Fair - I've met asshole's of various stripes, and I've met conservatives (by the old fashioned definition, as opposed to the ones who are basically fascists in denial) who were genuinely good people, but genuinely believed that personal responsibility and charity were the way to help the world and solve its many problems. I wouldn't date someone who was clearly an asshole, be their politics left wing or right, but I think I would find the well meaning conservative far too frustrating to date. I could potentially be a friend, and try to help them see where they're wrong, but that's about it.
Yeah, I don't have a problem with liberals for the most part... I do genuinely think most of them have their hearts in the right place. But conservatives are just monsters at this point.
It's ironic considering that openly conservative women are hilariously anti-conservative values in a lot of way, many worked for or associated with politics, they have regular jobs rather than just being a housewife etc. Women that actually live a "traditional way," like Mormon women, don't do any of theses, and they absolutely hate their circumstance, which is forced upon by their community. Women are not likely to identify as conservative unless they're grifting. Considering that men are already overrepresented in "normal" dating apps, even higher percentage will be expected for conservative dating apps, which is why all past attempts failed. Going back to "traditional lifestyle" isn't going to help most conservative men in romantic endeavor, because the social hierarchy within this system is even worse, and just because they identified as a conservative won't put them on top of the hierarchy, we saw this in Mormon community where older, richer men with high position in church kicking out younger men so that they can keep all women for themselves.
Yeah, it's so ironic how conservative women will preach about women being supposed to stay home and be housewives and have babies and not work, yet if they took their own advice they wouldn't have a job, platform, and literally wouldn't be allowed to talk
In traditional 19th century a significant percentage of people in the West stayed unmarried, in fact, both men and women, cause they couldn't find a partner or enough finances to start family life. And it was rather unique situation specifically in capitalist western countries, which was extremely rare elsewhere. If you want more to read about it search "Hajnal line".
Rules for thee, not rules for me. Something something Frank Wilhoit: “Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition …There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.” Whenever you see that, you're talking with a conservative, no matter how they try to disguise themselves.
Yeah my impression is that a lot of these conservative guys are expecting a trad lifestyle, complete with trad wife, to be handed to them just for being conservative. They don't get that those kinds of relationships are entirely transactional. Yes, the women are expected to be demure, obedient, and religious but the men are expected to be stoic breadwinners. If you can't hold down a decent paying, respectable job, your trad wife will not respect you and neither will your fellow conservative men.
@Superlogos5 Conservative folks are first to condemn a new tool as evil and destructive. But after enough time passes and the new tool doesn't conjure rivers of blood, they slowly retract it and find a way to claim that the new tool is somehow a continuation of the old ways. Since cultural changes produce new tools & perspectives at a rapid pace, the time it takes for them to find a way to market the new as retro also has become rapid.
I’m one of the very few who dated a liberal when I was a conservative and then slowly made my way over to the Left. Now I’m arguably more Left than she is.
The shallowness, lack of self-awareness, and endless whining grievance fantasies of modern conservatives are equal parts hilarious, pathetic, and just plain boring.
They never seem to realize that the inherent selfishness in the personalities that contribute to being right wing is what younger women are not attracted to unless they're already prepositioned by religion to accept it. Right wing men tend to be extremely obnoxious, narcissstic, insecure about who women date before them, posture a lot of fakeness in their macho personalities and just want to be 1950s cowboys. Or they act like fratbros who hypocritically harass women more than "soyboy" left wing men do.
*Being a conservative is absolutely a deal breaker, as it should be. Never apologize for it. I want a partner who cares if he hurts me. Voting in conservatives **_literally_** hurts me. It's really that easy.*
@@unstoppableExodia Is this a joke on the text being bolded? I just realized that possibility lol. Either way, just in case a conservative or doubter comes trawling through here: Conservative policies hurt everyone too. In order to think my comment is unreasonable (besides obviously pretending that I haven't already experienced being hurt by conservative policies & denying that my life depends on the GOP losing)...Clearly you haven't experienced it directly - *yet.* (I'm assuming you're cis, in good health as of right now, don't have a womb, have access to money...and neither you nor anyone in your life is an immigrant, is connected to the military (therefore affected by wars), nor affected by the legal system. And clearly aren't worried about any of that changing.) But, you are completely dependent on having access to a perfect environment, functional society, full stock of medical supplies, etc. And having everyone else also have access to these things so they can fulfill all the jobs you depend on. If Covid should have taught us anything, it's that it doesn't matter if we don't get it, we will be negatively affected...even if you didn't have to experience competing with Covid patients at the hospital, you were negatively affected. Our well being in our current society is terrifyingly fragile! _(Don't forget, even if you don't have a womb; you're competing with all the babies the GOP is forcing to be alive.)_ And to anyone still not swayed: at least please don't have children until you're invested in the quality of life of other people. You may be fine as of right now (until your health declines and you can no longer work and suddenly also find yourself dependent on health care like I am, that is). But you may have a child like me, who is absolutely depending on conservatives losing, for many reasons, despite not being retirement age yet. _(That's why I'll kill myself before bringing children into this world. And if I somehow get knocked up and can't get an abortion solely thanks to conservatives. Then, no matter what, I'll be hurt. Either I'll be hurt _*_and_*_ a child will now be hurt as well...or I'll be dead by suicide. Conservatives will get their grubby hands on my innocent child over my dead body, and the only way I can make sure my child never suffers is by never letting them be ripped from my body.)_ /End rant ✌️
@@sorryifoldcomment8596 to be clear it is a joke about the entire text being bolded 😁 I probably could have made my intention clearer by punctuating it with 😛 I dislike conservatism and right wing ideology as well and completely agree with your reasoning as for why it’s a deal breaker when getting into a relationship. For me I’m mixed race, my mum is black and she raised me to be aware of what it means to be black in this world. If a woman I fancy tells me she votes conservative and she loves trump for me that’s one step removed from her calling me a slur. As she’s pretty much in league with the groups who would either do so or defend the rights of others to do so. And that’s not even touching on the systemic racism that conservatives openly support.
You want to accept there’s no cure for narcissistic personality disorder and isolate yourself from the rest of the world because of your incurable condition.
As a trans person, this honestly is so funny to me. They whine about not being able to date people because they don't share political views or whatever, I don't get to date people because they might be a literal threat to my life. Also those profile descriptions really gave me "conservatives be normal about other human beings for once challenge (impossible)" vibes
Not to mention that conservatives have a larger dating pool to begin with. I mean, how many of these cis conservatives have to worry about invasive questions in regards to their anatomy down there?
Back when I was single, I ended a date immediately when the woman mentioned voting for Trump. I can't imagine why she was surprised, considering that I mentioned in my profile being a feminist and a leftist. My current partner is similar to me politically (although not as focused on politics as I am).
I’m glad that woman are not dating conservative men. It’s just a dangerous situations waiting to happen and risking yourself to “love” someone. I have left the pick-me women behind seeing that all they care is validation and attention.
@@Awesomeninja54 it’s definitely sad to see but at the same time I don’t feel bad. Pick-me women are also damaging and in some extreme cases violent towards other women. Spreading horrible ideologies that stunts progress.
@@whoisthisperson8454 I knocked a Pick Me out cold once up in Baltimore, because she was trying to hold me in place to get "disciplined" by her man over a small slight he thought I gave him. (I.e, I didn't focus all of my attention on him, a complete stranger). He didn't like that I used a curse word in his presence in conversation on a phone that had nothing to do with him because women shouldn't be talking "like that." As if I should pick him out from everyone present and watch my language around him. She kept screeching like a banshee at me and holding onto my arm digging her nails into my skin, and he kept standing there yelling, making himself taller, asking if I "heard him/who I thought I was/my dad should have taught me respect with force, etc. The usual." I told her to get off me, she didn't listen, only got louder, saying I was "crazy" (lol, the irony). I've been trained to fight since I was little, so she got the pow. The man, whoever he was, didn't even defend his woman. Just left her there on the balcony in a midst of people gasping. So much for his woman's "ride or die" loyalty. XD And guess what? I can guarantee that only made her hate women even more. Like...how dare I not sit there and take the sudden and unnecessary lunatic asylum nonsense that leaked out of their "lovely" home from her and her pet pit bull? My mother is a Pick Me and hates other women as well, and puberty was brutal with her, so I can tell a Pick Me in a millisecond. They just have this look and feelings about them, and some even bare their teeth once first meeting you, and stare you down. Wouldn't even spit on one if they were on fire. They chose their lives and their character, and they can live it far away from me, a woman they hate/viciously compete with so much. I don't even care if she's out in the rain stranded on the side of the road with wild coyotes about. She doesn't need my help, and even if you did help her, she won't acknowledge it, or will hate you more for it, or thanks the nearest man who comes into her view. Trust me, I know. The only saving grace that comes with having one of these freaks for a mother is you learn who they are and how to deal with them. No changing these types. I kind of don't even view them as fellow women per se.... just an a-hole who happens to wear lipstick and a skirt.
"Women won't date me because I'm conservative" So? I won't date people for plenty of reasons, what's different about this one? Especially when your politics are a pretty good estimate of who you are as a person. If you're conservative, I already know the broad strokes of your personality and what you believe in. If someone doesn't like that, that's fine.
As someone who probably shares very similar political beliefs to you, however naive in ability to express them, I once dated someone who was Uber Christian and followed anything a male figure of authority would spew on about. I found this person extremely physically attractive, so I pushed aside a lot of red flags for me (and even changed a bit about myself). We ended up dating for 6 months, a short time for my serial monogamous self, and broke up around Christmas because I realized in the middle of a fight how much I had tried to change me to fit them and their family. We started arguing because I refused to go to midnight mass with them and their family, and lied about having to work instead (worked in a shopping mall, which closed at 10pm Christmas eve). Needless to say, it's a time I look back on often to check and make sure I don't feel like I'm compromising who I feel I am as a person for a significant other.
My brother was in a very similar situation some years back, dating a college classmate who was from a very conservative Christian family. They invited our family over for Christmas that year, and my brother had to warn everyone not to criticize president Bush, or let them know I'm an atheist. (I was not out at the time as ace or trans.) This strictly limited what dinner conversation could be about, and I didn't want to offend anyone, so I spent several hours in awkward silence. Eventually they broke up, though she initiated the breakup with my brother, and he took it pretty hard. I've realized since then that, despite the intent to avoid contentious topics, anywhere that has a "no politics" rule only ends up silencing marginalized voices. That's one of the biggest red flags for me.
Not sure of your own religious beliefs, but I'm always surprised to hear about christian conservatives dating not only non conservatives but more so possible non christians or people who don't quite fit into a narrow definition of Christianity. I always had it beaten into me that we were only to date other christians so it always still surprises me that those rules go out the window quickly
@@animationfanatic2133 I'm an atheist, but I think at the time I was also in a weird fluctuation of my life and me trying to figure out who I thought I was. I also come from a small town where conservatism was quite prevalent, so sometimes it felt as though I was wrong because of how vehemently everyone I was surrounded by disagreed with me
@@animationfanatic2133 I know this is waaay after the conversation ended but, I wanna add: They'll date whatever's immediately available and care more about looks and holding someone down than compatibility. They usually try to coerce their partners into converting and will not respect those boundaries while requiring you to respect theirs. It's not surprising considering how even "liberal" Christians can still be _very_ conservative anyway based on their upbringing.
I never dated a conservative but I've flirted, there were 2 girls I was kinda interested in. One who was extremely attractive, we went on a date it went OK and then she told me that she didn't believe Sandy Hook happened and that was the end of it. The other one was cute and she was head over heels for me. We talked about our differing political options before then the 2016 primaries started and we talked about who we were thinking of voting for I told her I liked Bernie and made the case for him she dismissed it with "socialism" we agreed that we both disliked Hillary Clinton but for different reasons I asked who she was voting for and she said Ted Cruz and that Donald Trump didn't seem respectable enough to be in charge of the republican party. I told her Ted Cruz was the only candidate that could make me vote for Hillary Clinton. (Times were different) so that was the definitive end of a potentially relationship. The general election eventually came and I asked who she voted for and all she said was "the Republican"
i had something similar happen except it never yielded a date. i matched a woman and we were talking about how much we like Duluth since we are living in Minnesota. i told her that i was up there the day of the january 6th insurrection, and she got upset that is what i called it. bullet definitely dodged
I used to be open to dating conservatives, thinking foolishly that I could challenge their ideas and change their minds. After all, my dad was a conservative when he met my mom and he's now further left than her. Just realized that Freud would have a field day with that! The last Conservative I dated screamed at me for over half an hour over the phone for saying I don't like Golden Corral, even though I did say that their rolls and butter are at least good. It was, surreal, in the moment it was horrifying, and yet the absurdity of it all just had me frozen in disbelief. Why didn't I just hang up? Why did I let someone tear into me over something so ridiculous? Why didn't I dump him after that? I don't make good life choices, so I just don't let myself date anymore. I've gotten attached to too many people who slowly revealed the depth of their shitty political beliefs because they knew I never would have dated them if I knew ahead of time, so they wait until they've lovebombed me long enough that I'll try to rationalize it with hope that they can change, after all, if they were ashamed enough of their beliefs to hide them, surely they want to change, right? I'm honestly too naive to trust myself to interact with other people, much less date them. Isolation is shitty, but safer than the alternative. Even if I tried looking for outspoken progressives, my dumb ass would fall for someone like Obama using progressivism to try to get laid in college, so better to be alone and fill the void with escapism and hyperfixations on often low quality children's media because the real world is full of lying sickos, but fictional characters do not exist and thus can only emotionally manipulate me into buying their merchandise at worst. If you read this screed, you should touch grass probably, sorry for wasting your time. Life is too short to read about the sad people in your phone. I have a cat, I'll live. Go do something nice for a sad person outside of your phone, you never know how much it might mean to them, even if it's something as mundane as listening to them talk about animation errors in the 80's cartoon they've inexplicably become addicted to.
Yup, I'm the same, I finally understood that I don't make good choices and those amplify when taking partners into consideration. I would really recommend reading "Women who love too much", it gave a lot of answers I really needed. It's a book on toxic relationships with a focus on gender. Wish the best for you!
Don't give any conservative man (or any man or person for that matter) a chance, if you plan on "changing them". It isn't your job to help people be more open minded, they can do that themselves. You've gotta focus on your own life and yourself and make sure you are growing and becoming better, learning and enjoying life. Think that your time is limited and you probably haven't reached the end of your growth as a person yet. So you gotta focus on your own journey, instead of trying to reroute other's. Let them pave their way, you've got a long way ahead and it needs paving of its own. :)
It wasn't about the rolls. It was about "domination" and breaking you down. It was about making up for all those beatings your father should have given you to show you your "place." Make *NO* mistake, this is an obsession of all and any conservative worth their salt. Especially coming from men towards women. If you chose men like this, that would be your life. Don't bother trying to change these freaks. Most are all Cluster B Personalities anyhow, it's it's right next to impossible to change something like that, even with professional treatment and medication. Women with no idea what they're getting into and no psychological history shouldn't be expected to "heal" these freaks. They're un-healable.
@@ARedMagicMarker The irony of the dig at people with Cluster B personality disorders considering I've been diagnosed with BPD. (That said, who knows if that means I actually have BPD considering women with autism are often misdiagnosed as having BPD and also sometimes people with Complex PTSD are misdiagnosed with BPD as well, and hell, some places hear about a history of self harm and just assume you must have BPD, but I digress.) It's a bit saneist to assume that people with personality disorders are the harmful assholes of the world when those disorders are potentially the result of severe traumatic upbringings (often being related to those who made said upbringings so traumatic does make it hard to know which factor is more responsible.) I've known some very sweet caring people with BPD. (though they were noticeably neurodivergent and AFAB as well, maybe they were misdiagnosed, who can really know for sure?) Those who seek treatment (or some form of self betterment, Gog knows not everyone can afford therapy,) really ought not be lumped in with those who take their issues out on others, and when evoking Cluster B, it can really come across as essentializing those people as inherently bad because of their disorders when harmful actions tend to be the thing that's actually bad, something that not everyone with a Cluster B personality disorder is even guilty of, especially not those who internalize most of their symptoms who are much more harmful to themselves than others. Aren't mentally ill people statistically much more likely to be the victims of abuse than the perpetrators? Apologies for this bordering on illegible at points, complex topics like this often come with many a caveat or side tangent for the sake of clarification, or maybe I'm just not good at explaining things in a succinct, readable manner and someone smarter than me could cover everything in a few short easy to understand sentences?
I'm a leftist who is single and I will only date people whose views match my own. But I did date a conservative girl for a very short time. The only reason I did was because she was very beautiful and she flirted with me on campus. (Obviously I was in college at the time.) She was a devout Christian and I came to discover she was also not very bright. Plus she saw everything in terms of black and white, no shades of gray. She told me that she truly believed that the Democrats were communists and hated America. I tried to politely explain how ridiculous that view was. But she could not be swayed. She also told me that Christians are persecuted in this country, that global warming is no big deal and that being gay is a choice. Needless to say our "relationship" lasted 3 weeks. I couldn't stand her reactionary stupidity and I couldn't get her to change her mind. So for the sake of my sanity I only date women with left-wing views.
Times like this when I think of that one Tim Pool clip where he complains about being without a family at age 34 and then immediately following that with “it’s definitely not me. It must be everyone else.” Lmao
*"It's been hard finding good men who are conservatives"* *"It's been hard finding good men who are conservatives"* *"It's been hard finding good men who are conservatives"* *"It's been hard finding good men who are conservatives"*
“An oxymoron is a figure of speech that juxtaposes concepts with opposing meanings within a word or phrase that creates an ostensible self-contradiction”
That's because conservatism is synonymous with evil. It wasn't always as pronounced as it is now in the USA but conservatism is inherently evil. It can't be anything else.
I went on a date with a super right winger, she was very attractive but thought flat earth theory had merit and that Hitler was "obviously impressive in what he managed to do, even if it was horrible". I was so fascinated by her I didn't even get mad, was just such an insane evening. Plus it was 2 for 1 on cocktails so 🤷♂️
I know I should be repulsed by your date and I am, but I did laugh at the 2 for 1 cocktails and let’s face it who wouldn’t be driven to drink in a situation like that!
Honestly I seem to have a similar curse as Hasanabi when it comes to conservative people irl, their weird moral disconnects and drastic difference between how they treat in-group and out-group fascinates me.
I dated a military-bound republican. Worst dating mistake I’ve made. So dumb he didn’t even know that Irish republican’s are not the same as his type of republican. He thought I was only made to please him and so I dumped his ass when I got out my stupid “I can fix him” phase.
Last summer I started seeing a girl and after about 3 times hanging out she said she's a "trump supporter." I asked her why and she literally just said because her family is and she thinks he's cool. That combined with some other weird behaviors was a turn off for mebut she completely didn't care that I was a leftist with a multicultural family. She was obsessed with me and went insane sending me dozens of nudes when I told her I was done.
@@alfsmith4936 How can someone who think Trump is cool and believes whatever her family believes easy to convert? Her family would not change, the biggest thing it would happen here is maybe she's changing her mind just to keep OP and straining her relationship with her family.
Yeah, i dated someone with the opposite political belifs. Anti immigrantion (he knows me and my family are immigrants. But we were "one of the good ones") Loved Trump. Thought global warming , and racism, and sexism were myths, and was pretty fucking transphobic Why did I date him, you wonder? We had similar hobbies, and interests outside of that. And my friends kept on insisting to me that rejecting someone due to poltics was "shallow". It was so miserable! We had to close off whole areas of topics, and sometimes when we're just talking about movies. He'll casually say something horribly faccist it ruined my whole day. One day it hit me, I would never ever want to introduce him to my family. If he's not good enough for that, and I wasn't even having fun, why was I wasting my time? It's never "just politics". It's about how you view and interact with the world. Why would you even want to build a future with someone, when you want completely different futures? It makes no sense. And I was a dummy I'm now in a relationship with a self described "soy boy liberal beta cuck" and I haven't been happier
Normal people: “Political views” are reflections of our values. If you are looking for someone with similar values, “political views”. May be a great dating exploit for finding people of similar values. Kav: Find a girl with similar values and have a relationship that lasts nearly a decade. Hopefully more, good luck you two!
I've grown to resent dating apps as a lot of people just do not read bios. I've had trumpies and literal fascists like my profile. Even though I state I'm leftist and trans, two things those groups hate
No, “bubbly” does not mean something different in America. That guy either doesn’t want friendly, talkative women, or he just doesn’t know what the word means and thinks “bubbly” is another word for fat
A few years ago I naively tried to date a conservative I met on Tinder. He had a good sense of humour and we had lots of chemistry so I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we agreed to just not talk about politics. Wouldn't ya know, try as he might to hide it, this guys persecution complex was off the charts. He could not stop talking about how "affirmative action had wronged him" and "identity politics were eroding family values". Obviously listening to his recycled talking points got old. Hope he enjoys the app 😆
I'm not sure if I just haven't seen enough conservative commercials for...whatever, but I find it interesting how they not-so-subtly have only white actors with pink, orange, or pale skin, lighter colored hair, and of course light eyes. I mean I already know they don't like other conservatives that arent straight, white, _biologically male,_ or Christian considering people like Blaire white and that gay couple who were treated like trash for wanting to adopt, but should I have expected them to be so transparent? Again maybe it's just me, but in regular commercials I hardly see all white people. They're there, but not the only ones. Is being a poc or white with darker hair/eye political to them? I wouldn't put it past them. That's all, I don't have much to contribute.
The hilarious irony is I guarantee a furry dating app would be more successful and have a higher women to men ratio (and allow LGBT+ dating) than any of these right-wing/conservative/anti-woke or cryptobro apps have.
I'm gay and I went on a date with someone who was from Texas and I was like "I wouldn't wanna live somewhere where I'm surrounded by Republicans" and he was like "I'm a Republican" and thankfully we hadn't ordered so I left. I don't understand how a black gay man could be a Republican and quite frankly wouldn't want to.
@@minumeyli I honestly don't know how to read these people. I've eaten my fair share of L's and then some, but like how many L's did they eat over how many years to conclude "It's not me, it's everyone else"? Like G.M.Chrystler...
@@matttran7161 its because they have an external locus of control and a complete victim complex. they think everything has to be someone else's fault because oftentimes conservatives cannot self-reflect on their actions or viewpoints.
The types of these guys target naive, impressionable, unaware, mostly girls but also women that they can attempt to manipulate and trap before they realize what is happening. They are sometimes trapped in long-term relationships, but it is NEVER too late to get out and get far away. Then there is the term for women that escapes me, but is essentially like the "Judas steer" for leading other women into a Handmade's Tale of a conservative hellscape. Like the grifter in the advertisement. That WestWorld metaphor seems unfortunately apt for their opinions about women...
Its also why conservative men tend you seek out younger women 16-17-20, and the first thing they care about iswho they slept with prior or want them pregnant the earliest they can get them to be, to force them into marriages with them.
But.. they used pronouns constantly, and literally bookended the words "no pronouns" with pronouns! Do they not know what pronouns are any more? Are they going to accuse grammar lessons in school of being... I dunno "critical grammar"? And yes, in the U.S. "bubbly" also means energetic and enjoying having a laugh, so that's just your typical conservative cognitive dissonance. Isn't it really bizarre that their bios seem tailor made to "trigger the libs", even though by design there aren't any libs or leftists on the app? They seem to only be able to define themselves in terms of who they oppose.
Conservatives can't argue in favor of their own politics because their politics are awful and make the world worse. So they like to focus on who they oppose mostly
My ex's parent was a cop. We agreed on a lot politically, except cops. I made some offhand joke about cops shooting unharmed black people. They slapped me in the face. To be fair, it wasn't painful, but still. The relationship ended a couple weeks later.
@@azariazulu The relationship was long and on it's way out; the dynamic was tenuous. But yeah, since it didn't hurt, plus, she is a woman and even soy boy leftists get a lifetime of masculine socialization, I didn't really see it as "a big deal". Then after we broke up I told my friends in a casual way. Every person, regardless of gender, reacted wirh shock. Only then was like, "oh yeah I guess that was fucked up and I didn't like that". So , PSA no matter your gender, don't even a little bit hit people.
@@obcorc I'm glad you were able to get out of that and realised that violence is NEVER okay! I know these things are difficult and have so much nuance especially with skin in the game and this crap ass socialization but you deserve to be treated with respect and decency 💕 Best of luck to you and I hope you find yourself someone who does
These conservative dating apps are the biggest self own and self report that I have ever seen Edit: naive liberal would also be the furthest I would date - that used to be me and I was radicalized by someone I dated lol
True. It's one of those things everyone knows but isn't supposed to admit - we talk about not judging by appearances, getting to know someone properly, all that. That's what you are 'supposed' to do. But the reality? The first glance at a prospective partner is all it takes to decide if they are worth the effort of talking to. Dating app designers know that perfectly well, which is why the very first thing you see of a potential match is a photograph. They all mandate a photograph - no abstract art, no avatars, has to be an actual photo. Swipe left or swipe right... the decision is made before even looking at the profile.
Absolutely true. It creates a culture of shallowness that leads to people being both obsessed by their looks and jaded because they find awful people that are also attractive. I wonder if we should start considering a serious takedown of the halo effect due to how much easier life can be when you're attractive and how that easy life tends to correlate with egotism, selfishness, individualism and sometimes self-obsession. It might be interesting.
@@sluttyMapleSyrup it's then opposite for plenty of people. I've dealt with social anxiety most of my life. It's not a problem anymore but I still wouldn't be comfortable approaching a woman at a bar, especially since I'm more aware of how uncomfortable many women are with cold approaches. Dating apps are easier because if you match with someone there's a decent chance they actually want to talk to you and there's no pressure or risk of public embarrassment.
I’ve dated a self proclaimed Jordan Peterson “centrist” type woman and it was pretty odd. Believed police brutality and racial profiling was a problem but was a raging capitalist who couldn’t drop “human nature makes it so hierarchy will always exist”. And ‘hard work makes you wealthy’ logic
As a queer woman who doesn't want to get pregnant, I'm not going to date or sleep with anyone who votes against rights. If that offends conservative men, they can go cry about it
I dated a conservative. Once😂. She also cheated on me with my cousin because she wanted him to give her free tattoos. Which I wouldn't mention except that she was also verbally and physically abusive so it's like all of the self-entitlement stereotypically associated with conservatives was manifest and the fact that I was paying for everything she, her kids, and myself needed to survive was something I get the impression (in hindsight) she thought of as simply a given, she never appreciated that I didn't have to be there so... Eventually I left.
The age references hit hard. Just become single for the first time in 10 years and I’m in my mid 30s. Feels like a totally different world to navigate now!
It's not just the conservative's beliefs that are the problem when it comes to dating, but their hypocrisy in general. Listening to some of those nutters, they have strict double standards when it comes to women vs men dating. The men claim they to believe in traditional values etc, but they would gladly enjoy hooking up while bashing women for doing the same. The conservative women are also no exception. They claim to love traditional men, but most of them don't even live traditional lifestyles and are more than happy to mooch off the benefits feminism has given them.
"It's so tragic people care about politics so much, anyway I made a website exclusively for people who voted for Trump! Woo go MAGA MAGA MAGA" "Women don't want to date me when I tell them they should be treated like property, I am such a victim! Women are so mean to me. Cries"
Ideologies aside it still going to flop because it entering in a already overcrowded market for online dating I give a month until no one using it 6 months at best
I remember as a kid (about 25 years ago now) viewing the two parties in the USA as people who had agreed on what needed to be done, just disagreed on how fast and through what methods, yes I was naïve but I think most people saw it that way, but now its so in your face that the difference is quite literally 'do you believe all types of people have the right to even exist much well have the same basic rights?' its harder to choose to date people of incongruent political leanings
When I was 15 or 16 I dated someone that was very Christian and I was an atheist. Their Christianity lead him to feel things like "queer people can get married if they call it civil union instead of marriage because marriage is biblical" sort, but in a way that game off as more ignorant and capable of being educated sort of way. This was 2005-2006, so well before federal legalization in the US. I broke it off due to these views and general discomfort with the religious gap. We are both 32 now and I can honestly say I was disappointed to find out he is now a COVID conspiracy hyper conservative person. Even if I felt we weren't on the same page enough to be in a relationship, I felt he was capable of being a better person. I'm queer in both a gender and sexuality sense so it was obviously never going to work, but I never thought he would end up like that.
I think the politics of a potential partner are very important, especially when conservative politics are based on disregard or hatred of minorities & the poor.
This was a really thoughtful exploration of the topic. It's easy to deride right-wingers who are incapable of the self-reflection needed to be a good partner, but maybe some of them could learn something by watching this. The key takeaway should be this: society has changed, and women no longer require male companionship for their very survival. They have options, and so if a man wants to attract a woman he has to actually be a good person and a good partner. Feeling entitled to a woman's time or her body is the quickest way to get rejected.
Dating apps, like many other products and services, no longer are provided to solve your problem(s) ... but to maximize the revenue for the company shareholders ...
Greg like Stacey. Stacey like Greg? No, Stacey think Greg is an asshole. Greg makes Stacey talk with no pronouns and making Stacey not use pronouns is ridiculous.
I'm currently dating a rather ideologically liberal Catholic woman, although she's a gynecologist who does abortions and she just doesn't like politics, so I don't think it's gonna get in the way. I worry if we'll have different attitudes towards child-rearing.
I'm an American women that dated several conservative men and several times it failed miserably. I've now sworn off American men completely and I'm dating an Englishman that votes labour
I don’t think I could date anyone who isn’t a leftist. I’m a leftist (not a liberal). I’d date people who are quite left-leaning but not super informed on political topics, so long as they weren’t one of those people who don’t see the point of being at least a bit aware of these things. I’m queer though so most people I’ve dated or even interacted with when I was dating and using dating apps were compatible with me politically. We just weren’t compatible in other aspects of our lives unfortunately.
For real i couldn’t even have a one night stand with a tory. There’s no way mini muel’s working when I know someone’s voting for people who actively want us to die lmao.
‘Do women not like me because I’m a bad person? No it’s the woke culture that means I can’t get dates’
ROFLMAO! 🤣 ... Right Wing Christian and Reactionary Centrist dudes are hilarious. They're the snowflakiest snowflakes and morons to boot. Women tend not to like men who disrespect or outright hate women (funny, that🤔), and most conservative men are condescending assholes who really believe they're superior to women. ... It's not that hard to understand, and it baffles me that these clowns don't get it.
Personally, I couldn't have a long-term relationship with someone who wasn't fairly Progressive. They'd have to have good social values; and I'd be perfectly happy with someone who had either Democratic Socialist or Social Democrat leanings. ... For casual dates/one night stands, the only dealbreaker is someone who is overtly Conservative/Right Wing.
😭😂☠️
I kind of find it incredibly hilarious because what these conservatives are doing is very much crying about "discrimination" while trying hard to push for their values. Which seem rather ironic. 😂
I imagine the ratio between men and women will not be balanced...
@@frida507 studies show in their minds those numbers are perceived as "balanced".
No pronouns? So they identify as completely gender-neutral? That doesn't sound very conservative to me.
no you see pronouns are when minorities. When cishet people do it those are "normal".
It's absurd, of course, but it's also willful ignorance. By saying stuff like "no pronouns", that just translates to, in conservative/regressive-speak, "He/Him or She/Her only". It doesn't matter that those are pronouns, the statement is intended to normalize absurd claims such as "pronouns are political now" or something.
@@BoisegangGaming Very true. I do find the thought of these people speaking like cavemen rather amusing though.
so conservative that it is progressive
It must be pretty challenging to write a bio about yourself without any pronouns in it 🤭
I’ve actually known pick-me non-binary people like this, unfortunately 😞
Dating apps are already flooded by men. I can’t believe there’s gonna be one with zero female percentage! Truly revolutionary!
Grindr would like to have a word with yaw. Our rights are about to be taken next and yaw out here claiming this too?!?
@@williamelliott186 There’s a bunch of women on grindr.
@@williamelliott186 Doesn’t Grindr have women on it too? I know not many because it’s mostly for gay men, but I was under the impression that other queer people could use it too. I just thought it was only popular with gay men, but maybe I’m wrong and it’s literally just for men.
Men and bots
@@DanJuega a miniscule amount sure, but I know, trans and nontrans women are there, I was trying to make a joke
"people won't date me because I'm a Conservative 😭😭"
That's a great reason 🏋️🏋️
For real
Conservative bed fellow is patriarchy I don't women want to be told to be in the kitchen or act like women don't have issues to face still
any reason to not date someone is valid, the whole thing that makes it validation is that they are choosing you when they don't have to. thats why being wanted is better then being needed.
GREAT reason.
yeah, people tend to not like people who have massive persecution complexes, and who just want to hurt disenfranchised people just for existing.
This probably comes from the same people who say “My date left me because I recommended her a book by Jordan Peterson”
Or A Dennis Prager video (dude has divorced all of his wives (due to him be a condescending nimrod)
@@andu1854 Recommending a Prager U video about “Men are superior to Women” to your date is the kiss of death to any possible relationship.
Ah yes, Jordan. No-one puts me in the mood more than him.
@@MovieEggman Oh come on, that article he wrote advocating for marital grape is a real panty dropper. It was a two-parter and everything!
Oh God. That would be SUCH a turn off, unless it is one of those people who was VERY LOST and they took away only the self-help parts, disregarding everything else.
Conservatives: "We believe in personal responsibility.
Also Conservatives: "Our inability to get dates is everyone else's fault"
🤣👏🏽
This is just a default response for someone who has no argument. I have my choice to Bang a lot of dumb hoes but I choose to be careful who I have sex with. It's called making good decisions
Liberals: “No human being should be shamed for their sexuality.”
Also liberals: “If a man refuses to date a transwoman, then he is transphobic!”
You're the type of guy who bangs a lot of fat chicks And thinks you're a player
Exactly.
I just want to thank all the women out there for punishing conservatives for their garbage beliefs. And also good on them for sparing themselves the agony.
Agreed.
Aw, no problem.😁
Noone is even punishing anyone. The pathetics are just being ignored. It's so funny seing them entitleds screeching as if not being babied 24/7 is literal abuse. XD
I love how one right wing woman writes that she can't find a good man who's a conservative but can't see the Truth that she wrote... that conservatives are not good men...
I think it's because a lot of what the conservatives believe is a fantasy of older better times when people were different, so these women are not thinking about being with a shitty person who don't see them as people, they are probably thinking about being taking care by a decent sexy dude who loves them like in a film.
Also, some of them just don't make sense, I've seen many of these conservative Christian women who talk about how women shouldn't work, while having a full-fledged career in social media and public speaking.
How did you figure that?
@@9trous_0xide90 I don't know, maybe from the fact they wanna take rights away from people?
And good men are not conservative.
They have 0% self reflection. It's simply how their brains are wired. I'm actually going to start experimenting with this to see if it can be used against them individually and en' masse, because after years and years of studying these freaks this appears to not only be a missing code in their brain chips, but also a SERIOUS, glaring fault.
These conservative dating apps remind me of that one crypto dating app that straight up died because it was like 99% straight conservative dudes and the 1% of women barely used it. This is so funny.
Yeah, they'll be 99% Conservative men, and 1% Liberal women on there just to troll them.
@@Matt__B lmao
All dating apps* have the same problem - a gender imbalance in their target audience. It makes for a very unhealthy experience. The men get to experience rejection over and over, hundreds of women who deem them worthless with a glance, and that hurts. The women get to experience a sea of creeps, as the men are desperate to find some way to make a woman actually notice them. But this dating app? I imagine it'll be that problem, but to an even greater extent. It's going to be toxic.
*Except Grindr.
@@Matt__B I do think there will be conservative women there, especially Christian ones, they grow up learning to self-hate and being fed excuses to why their only purpose is to take care of the family but it will be like most dating sites, more men using it than women,
@@bluester7177 theyll likely be on christian mingle?
‘The people I want to fuck are also the people I believe shouldn’t have control over their own bodies, and it’s their fault for not liking me.’
Truly a winning strategy for developing healthy relationships.
honestly though. people who are anti abortion and anti contraception but also want to get laid, how the fuck do you think that's gonna work out for you? If women risk getting pregnant by having sex with you, and cannot terminate the pregnancy if it happens, why would they want to have sex with you?
"I also secretly wish they didn't have any rights at all so they can't pick and choose their partners and would be sold into marriage" That would make conservative dating much easier.
I guess their opening chat is
"Hi r u submissive breedable virgin dtf?"
@@izba5747Secretly wish? It’s not so secret. These conservatives have outright said it. They want women to be distributed by the government for marriage to any man who demands it. Women are nothing but household appliances to these men.
Because treating human beings as a household appliance is supposed to be just soooooooooo attractive apparently.
I was engaged to a conservative man in the U.S. It ended miserably. His values were extremely selfish and he started going full trad cath as well! Just so he could be cruel by declaring everything immoral.
you're lucky you got out before actually getting married.....
@@snoopy_peanuts_77 agreed! I was lucky enough to have good family and friends around me, which definitely helped.
How did you end up with this guy and how long until this side showed?
@@Drownedinblood we worked together and he wooed me hard. He was a divorced single dad and I really liked the kids and thought I'd do my best at the step mom thing. The warning signs were there pretty quickly but I didn't realize his prejudices were set in stone and couldn't be reasoned with. It took a while to figure out he really thought I'd "see the light" and convert to catholicism. I'm a born and raised Episcopalian (CofE in America) and I was so bewildered by the idea of going (to my mind) backwards was the final straw. Honestly, I expect to see one of his kids on the news any day for shooting at a planned parenthood.
I dated a conservative guy in my early 20s as a new immigrant from England. I worked for an airline and he got to travel with me a lot. He almost a year younger than me and we've been married 21 years and he's more left leaning than me now. I argued politics and ethics a lot with him. Also, introduced him to showing up to university lectures when you're not even in university 😂, something I used to enjoy doing in Oxford. Professors don't care as long as you're not disruptive. I think it helped that I grew up traveling a lot.
Difference is he was always a good person, he just was taught good economy is a wave that lifts all ships.
I worked with a young lady she was outgoing, smart and beautiful. She wasn’t interested in dating me but we still had fun. She wasn’t particularly political.
She started dating a hard Right QAnon type and she honestly changed overnight. She became judgmental. Always talked politics. And just seemed angry all the time. We don’t talk much anymore but l hope she finds peace and happiness.
sounds like you dodged a bullet with her being uninterested. sometimes being rejected is a good thing! lol
That's sad, but I hope she finds peace and happiness too
Go to bed with a dog, you'll wake up with fleas.
🐶😂
You dodged a 50 cal. 💀
If only conservatives could spend more energies in improving their personality and empathy and less in projecting and harassing other people online... But nope, it's just "woke culture" and other silly conspiracy theories.
Funny actually how the least empathetic people with no personality that I've met have been screechy virtue signaling liberals.
I lived in California and Texas and met many people, let me tell you, Texans win hands down over those empty husks of liberal ideals.
Well I will very gladly not date any guy whose ideal first date is whining about gender inclusive language _the entire time_ - seriously, Tinder etc is full of them. They can happily harass each other though, idc
@@thatgirlinautumn5995 fr like get a hobby dude
That would require them to acknowledge that they're the problem... and since it seems like modern conservatism is rooted in narcissism, that'll never happen.
If they did that , they wouldn't be conservative anymore. :)
“Personally, I don’t understand why women don’t realize their status as second-class citizens and just shut up and ‘date’ me. And later, I’ll let them make me a sandwich”
//sarcasm, obviously
"Ladies, I can get you a man who does both; deems you inferior and keeps you barefoot and pregnant, just as God intended." -Conservative pick-up line, probably
@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 I have but only one "like" to give for these quotes. I wish i could give more. 😆🤣
Good I’m glad they have their own safe space dating app. Now I don’t have to worry about meeting any of them.
I just wrote similar. Let them eat cruditė 😃
Ironic. The people crying about 'safe spaces' are the same ones needing a safe space of their own.
A pig trough for the hoglets and hogalinas to hang out at lololol. Especially the hoglets since, let's get real, it's most dudes who are cuckservicucks.
they can't hang around nonbelievers or doubt their views............like a c#lt :D
I used to be on the "right" when I started dating my liberal gf at the time. She called me out on different stuff as they came up, and just because I valued her opinion and respected her so much, I ended up swinging over to the left. Because she was right. A lot of the stuff I was spewing just didn't make sense or lead to hurting people. Of course, I do have the root values of not wanting to hurt others...not sure how many conservatives share that value...
Congrats on making the change, it's not easy to admit that some of your beliefs could be wrong :)
You got brainwashed. Plus, the woke cult is hurting people. Conservatives are not.
Hopefully you get your brain (and balls) back someday.
I was actualy the conservative guy. My ex was really patient with me, explained a lot of stuff and that set me on a journey for 6 years now.
Nice
There's always learning to be done friend, hope you continue forward and are part of some positive change, even if just for yourself
We love a redemption arc
Love to hear it.
Give yourself credit, you were also open minded enough to revise your political positions. A lot of people won’t do any self-reflection no matter how patient others are.
There's been a frightening amount of men that I've talked to who were interested in dating me, who claimed to be a leftist and pro women's rights and stuff (obviously lying about it and just telling me what I want to hear), and then when I check their social medias it's filled with the most bigoted, misogynistic, and hateful stuff, and when I bring it up they try to play it off like its all just a joke or like I'm overreacting. And then when I reject them they pull the "it's because I'm ugly/ not tall enough/ etc" card. No bud, it's because you despise me as a person and only want my body to objectify.
"No, it's because you seem like a two-faced, lying c*nt and I don't trust like that." Would be my response
chuds will say "leftist women are soo ugly i would never date one" all day long and then pretend to be leftist on dating apps so they can date leftist women lol
When I was younger I never really understood women's obsession with height but now that I'm older I now realize that it's something men mostly made up to distract from their horrible personalities.
Not saying shallow women don't exist but it's definitely blown out of proportion imo
@@dolfunythe problem with short men was created by men. Some of them seem to think that masculinity is stored in height so when they aren't tall enough for their own standards they feel emasculated and overcompensate by being especially toxic
Some interesting anecdotes about women prominent in right-wing movements getting constantly harassed by their political mates. My hypothesis: Left wing women immediately disqualify right-wing men without talking to them. Right wing women disqualify right-wing men after talking with them.
I don't even think they do that. I'm sure some do, with a grain of self-respect not to be treated less than human, but I think the majority would just see it as god's will if they're religious or win first place in mental gymnastics to revisualize harassment as a positive. Something like "we need more persistent men in this day & age!" or whatever
@@Vesperad0 Maybe they might mention "Alpha males".
Thats too funny
@@Vesperad0 It’s funny how true this is. They probably think those men have the precious masculinity that the world is lacking because of woke SJW feminism, or however that narrative goes. 😂
@@Vesperad0 nahh church girls have pretty high standards when it comes to social etiquette. These "conservative" men fail at dating becasue their conservativism is based more on misogyny than anything else. Thus their manners are lacking and their behavior comes off as gross or weird. Plus the hard-core christian girls expect the men to be virgins.
"Women Won't Date Me Because They’re WOKE"
Pffft!, It´s always everyone else´s fault isn´t it?
they remind me of elliot rodger, ya know the pathetic loser who thought he was entitled to the hottest women jumping into the sack with him despite him having a horrid personality that drove everyone away.
They mean women won't date them because they are Awake.
That means cover your drinks around them
@@za.307 based
Couldn't be them being racist, sexist, psychopath and mad ... obviously 😁
They're hilarious. They're so shallow in their own politics they can't understand that these are deeply held values, matters of life and death, that cannot be compromised
This actually got me to think... their politics are shallow because for them it is a sports game. The worst consequences of losing are going to pass them by or at least not going to be felt for a long time. Current power structure has their interests entrenched in them, and no some milquetoast democrat is not going to change that. That's why they get to call people "sensitive snowflakes" when they get vocally angry about current policies that actively impact them negatively - they have never had to deal with those situations on any meaningful level.
@@joshuayung5158this is so well articulated, been saying this for years- but never looked at it in terms of politics being a sport to them. that really puts things in perspective!
Never dated a political opposite I have been liberal all my life but in college I refused to see the value in medicare for all. My girlfriend was for Medicare for all and we often argued over it. I was for having a public and private system. We broke up for non political reasons. Needless to say the pandemic made me face slap the issue with having healthcare tied to a job. As a result I'm now for Medicare for all. She lovingly pointed out it took a blood pandemic to change my mind.
I'm happy to see you came around, a lot of people don't sadly.
Can you share any insight on why you think you wouldn't/couldn't change your mind until it directly affected you? This seems to be a consistent theme for a lot of people, mainly conservative leaning, but not exclusively.
@@moragslothe6449 it actually didn't affect me as I was in research and still had my insurance and job. However, when the news reported on people losing their jobs and thus there health insurance. I had to sit there and realize though no fault of these hard working Americans they lost there insurance, during a pandemic. I realized why we need that saftey net.
In honestly my uncle was a union leader (some factory with farm equipment ) who worked to get health insurance for workers. I foolish thought that doing universe Medicare would take away these benefits.
@@benjaminlanham9454 don’t be too hard on yourself, firstly you came round to a new understanding and secondly politics is historically a messy environment, one that simultaneously spins many plates of untruths until one of them comes crashing down.
It's about empathy and projecting yourself in someone else's situation ... get away from my situation is representative for everyone and everything ... should be thought at school
For a lot of women, especially trans women, social values are important to an extent even just for hookups, because it's a potential safety issue
Also, conservative men are simply bad in bed, lol. Because to hold conservative beliefs one must have low empathy, but being good in bed requires good empathy 🤷
@@vihmaussivenitaja yup. Plus they've been taught (even more than socialist and liberal men have) that sex is synonymous with PIV and/or PIA and anything else - anything that a lot of women can get off from *at all*, who just can't get off from penetration - is "just foreplay"
"Women won't date me because I'm conservative!"
Lol that's a great reason not to date you
Agreed!!!
I could never date anyone more conservative than a normie liberal. When people say they're "liberal" they mostly mean they're generally accepting of diversity and don't want the poor to starve in the streets. I know I'm in the very small minority of people who are not only well informed about politics but also could be described as some kind of socialist. Just finding someone who is genuinely kind to others is already great.
I think some politically involved individuals use politics as a stand in for personal morality. I think this isore common on the right but it also happens on the left. I personally know a few people who think they can be jerks because they're critical of capital or support diversity. I also know alot of conservatives who cry about protecting children but don't give a fuck about their own family.
I once heard an atheist speaker saying being an atheist doesn't make you better or smarter, it just makes you right about one thing.
@@patkohler9695 this is exactly why I refuse to date leftists who choose not to be vegan
I had a friend who was a normie liberal and he immediately questioned my morality when I said I was a socialist/communist. He would then brush me off as soon as I tried to have conversations about it for more than a few minutes and say things like "the road to hell is paved with good intentions". This is sadly pretty normal where I'm from.
@@patkohler9695 Fair - I've met asshole's of various stripes, and I've met conservatives (by the old fashioned definition, as opposed to the ones who are basically fascists in denial) who were genuinely good people, but genuinely believed that personal responsibility and charity were the way to help the world and solve its many problems. I wouldn't date someone who was clearly an asshole, be their politics left wing or right, but I think I would find the well meaning conservative far too frustrating to date. I could potentially be a friend, and try to help them see where they're wrong, but that's about it.
Yeah, I don't have a problem with liberals for the most part... I do genuinely think most of them have their hearts in the right place. But conservatives are just monsters at this point.
It's ironic considering that openly conservative women are hilariously anti-conservative values in a lot of way, many worked for or associated with politics, they have regular jobs rather than just being a housewife etc. Women that actually live a "traditional way," like Mormon women, don't do any of theses, and they absolutely hate their circumstance, which is forced upon by their community. Women are not likely to identify as conservative unless they're grifting. Considering that men are already overrepresented in "normal" dating apps, even higher percentage will be expected for conservative dating apps, which is why all past attempts failed. Going back to "traditional lifestyle" isn't going to help most conservative men in romantic endeavor, because the social hierarchy within this system is even worse, and just because they identified as a conservative won't put them on top of the hierarchy, we saw this in Mormon community where older, richer men with high position in church kicking out younger men so that they can keep all women for themselves.
Yeah, it's so ironic how conservative women will preach about women being supposed to stay home and be housewives and have babies and not work, yet if they took their own advice they wouldn't have a job, platform, and literally wouldn't be allowed to talk
In traditional 19th century a significant percentage of people in the West stayed unmarried, in fact, both men and women, cause they couldn't find a partner or enough finances to start family life. And it was rather unique situation specifically in capitalist western countries, which was extremely rare elsewhere. If you want more to read about it search "Hajnal line".
Rules for thee, not rules for me. Something something Frank Wilhoit: “Conservatism consists of exactly one proposition …There must be in-groups whom the law protects but does not bind, alongside out-groups whom the law binds but does not protect.” Whenever you see that, you're talking with a conservative, no matter how they try to disguise themselves.
Yeah my impression is that a lot of these conservative guys are expecting a trad lifestyle, complete with trad wife, to be handed to them just for being conservative. They don't get that those kinds of relationships are entirely transactional. Yes, the women are expected to be demure, obedient, and religious but the men are expected to be stoic breadwinners. If you can't hold down a decent paying, respectable job, your trad wife will not respect you and neither will your fellow conservative men.
@Superlogos5 Conservative folks are first to condemn a new tool as evil and destructive. But after enough time passes and the new tool doesn't conjure rivers of blood, they slowly retract it and find a way to claim that the new tool is somehow a continuation of the old ways.
Since cultural changes produce new tools & perspectives at a rapid pace, the time it takes for them to find a way to market the new as retro also has become rapid.
I’m one of the very few who dated a liberal when I was a conservative and then slowly made my way over to the Left. Now I’m arguably more Left than she is.
The shallowness, lack of self-awareness, and endless whining grievance fantasies of modern conservatives are equal parts hilarious, pathetic, and just plain boring.
Seriously. I'm in awe of that article. Just... wow.
They never seem to realize that the inherent selfishness in the personalities that contribute to being right wing is what younger women are not attracted to unless they're already prepositioned by religion to accept it. Right wing men tend to be extremely obnoxious, narcissstic, insecure about who women date before them, posture a lot of fakeness in their macho personalities and just want to be 1950s cowboys. Or they act like fratbros who hypocritically harass women more than "soyboy" left wing men do.
Conservative men - "we're victims and also we're all alphas..... *sobs*"
*Being a conservative is absolutely a deal breaker, as it should be. Never apologize for it. I want a partner who cares if he hurts me. Voting in conservatives **_literally_** hurts me. It's really that easy.*
I agree but I like how much it hurts. Conservative daddys 😍😩😍
Bold of you to say there, ma’am
@@unstoppableExodia Is this a joke on the text being bolded? I just realized that possibility lol.
Either way, just in case a conservative or doubter comes trawling through here:
Conservative policies hurt everyone too. In order to think my comment is unreasonable (besides obviously pretending that I haven't already experienced being hurt by conservative policies & denying that my life depends on the GOP losing)...Clearly you haven't experienced it directly - *yet.* (I'm assuming you're cis, in good health as of right now, don't have a womb, have access to money...and neither you nor anyone in your life is an immigrant, is connected to the military (therefore affected by wars), nor affected by the legal system. And clearly aren't worried about any of that changing.)
But, you are completely dependent on having access to a perfect environment, functional society, full stock of medical supplies, etc. And having everyone else also have access to these things so they can fulfill all the jobs you depend on. If Covid should have taught us anything, it's that it doesn't matter if we don't get it, we will be negatively affected...even if you didn't have to experience competing with Covid patients at the hospital, you were negatively affected. Our well being in our current society is terrifyingly fragile!
_(Don't forget, even if you don't have a womb; you're competing with all the babies the GOP is forcing to be alive.)_
And to anyone still not swayed: at least please don't have children until you're invested in the quality of life of other people. You may be fine as of right now (until your health declines and you can no longer work and suddenly also find yourself dependent on health care like I am, that is). But you may have a child like me, who is absolutely depending on conservatives losing, for many reasons, despite not being retirement age yet. _(That's why I'll kill myself before bringing children into this world. And if I somehow get knocked up and can't get an abortion solely thanks to conservatives. Then, no matter what, I'll be hurt. Either I'll be hurt _*_and_*_ a child will now be hurt as well...or I'll be dead by suicide. Conservatives will get their grubby hands on my innocent child over my dead body, and the only way I can make sure my child never suffers is by never letting them be ripped from my body.)_
/End rant ✌️
@@sorryifoldcomment8596 to be clear it is a joke about the entire text being bolded 😁
I probably could have made my intention clearer by punctuating it with 😛
I dislike conservatism and right wing ideology as well and completely agree with your reasoning as for why it’s a deal breaker when getting into a relationship. For me I’m mixed race, my mum is black and she raised me to be aware of what it means to be black in this world. If a woman I fancy tells me she votes conservative and she loves trump for me that’s one step removed from her calling me a slur. As she’s pretty much in league with the groups who would either do so or defend the rights of others to do so. And that’s not even touching on the systemic racism that conservatives openly support.
You want to accept there’s no cure for narcissistic personality disorder and isolate yourself from the rest of the world because of your incurable condition.
As a trans person, this honestly is so funny to me. They whine about not being able to date people because they don't share political views or whatever, I don't get to date people because they might be a literal threat to my life. Also those profile descriptions really gave me "conservatives be normal about other human beings for once challenge (impossible)" vibes
Not to mention that conservatives have a larger dating pool to begin with. I mean, how many of these cis conservatives have to worry about invasive questions in regards to their anatomy down there?
As if everybody hates Trans people. You aren't in more danger than a woman.
Cis is a slur.
Back when I was single, I ended a date immediately when the woman mentioned voting for Trump. I can't imagine why she was surprised, considering that I mentioned in my profile being a feminist and a leftist. My current partner is similar to me politically (although not as focused on politics as I am).
that relationship ain’t gonna last
@@thesuperioranonymiss Why?
Maybe she thought you were lying to “appease” women, she can’t fathom a man actually being these things lol
I would never date a conservative full stop.
I’m glad that woman are not dating conservative men. It’s just a dangerous situations waiting to happen and risking yourself to “love” someone. I have left the pick-me women behind seeing that all they care is validation and attention.
It's sad that women feel the need to be pick mes. Like it sucks we are so trained to crave male validation
@@Awesomeninja54 it’s definitely sad to see but at the same time I don’t feel bad. Pick-me women are also damaging and in some extreme cases violent towards other women. Spreading horrible ideologies that stunts progress.
@@whoisthisperson8454 I knocked a Pick Me out cold once up in Baltimore, because she was trying to hold me in place to get "disciplined" by her man over a small slight he thought I gave him. (I.e, I didn't focus all of my attention on him, a complete stranger). He didn't like that I used a curse word in his presence in conversation on a phone that had nothing to do with him because women shouldn't be talking "like that." As if I should pick him out from everyone present and watch my language around him. She kept screeching like a banshee at me and holding onto my arm digging her nails into my skin, and he kept standing there yelling, making himself taller, asking if I "heard him/who I thought I was/my dad should have taught me respect with force, etc. The usual." I told her to get off me, she didn't listen, only got louder, saying I was "crazy" (lol, the irony). I've been trained to fight since I was little, so she got the pow. The man, whoever he was, didn't even defend his woman. Just left her there on the balcony in a midst of people gasping. So much for his woman's "ride or die" loyalty. XD
And guess what? I can guarantee that only made her hate women even more. Like...how dare I not sit there and take the sudden and unnecessary lunatic asylum nonsense that leaked out of their "lovely" home from her and her pet pit bull?
My mother is a Pick Me and hates other women as well, and puberty was brutal with her, so I can tell a Pick Me in a millisecond. They just have this look and feelings about them, and some even bare their teeth once first meeting you, and stare you down. Wouldn't even spit on one if they were on fire. They chose their lives and their character, and they can live it far away from me, a woman they hate/viciously compete with so much. I don't even care if she's out in the rain stranded on the side of the road with wild coyotes about. She doesn't need my help, and even if you did help her, she won't acknowledge it, or will hate you more for it, or thanks the nearest man who comes into her view. Trust me, I know. The only saving grace that comes with having one of these freaks for a mother is you learn who they are and how to deal with them. No changing these types. I kind of don't even view them as fellow women per se.... just an a-hole who happens to wear lipstick and a skirt.
"Women won't date me because I'm conservative"
So? I won't date people for plenty of reasons, what's different about this one? Especially when your politics are a pretty good estimate of who you are as a person. If you're conservative, I already know the broad strokes of your personality and what you believe in. If someone doesn't like that, that's fine.
As someone who probably shares very similar political beliefs to you, however naive in ability to express them, I once dated someone who was Uber Christian and followed anything a male figure of authority would spew on about. I found this person extremely physically attractive, so I pushed aside a lot of red flags for me (and even changed a bit about myself). We ended up dating for 6 months, a short time for my serial monogamous self, and broke up around Christmas because I realized in the middle of a fight how much I had tried to change me to fit them and their family. We started arguing because I refused to go to midnight mass with them and their family, and lied about having to work instead (worked in a shopping mall, which closed at 10pm Christmas eve).
Needless to say, it's a time I look back on often to check and make sure I don't feel like I'm compromising who I feel I am as a person for a significant other.
You were blinded by physical attraction. That will make you put up with anything, especially men.
My brother was in a very similar situation some years back, dating a college classmate who was from a very conservative Christian family. They invited our family over for Christmas that year, and my brother had to warn everyone not to criticize president Bush, or let them know I'm an atheist. (I was not out at the time as ace or trans.) This strictly limited what dinner conversation could be about, and I didn't want to offend anyone, so I spent several hours in awkward silence. Eventually they broke up, though she initiated the breakup with my brother, and he took it pretty hard.
I've realized since then that, despite the intent to avoid contentious topics, anywhere that has a "no politics" rule only ends up silencing marginalized voices. That's one of the biggest red flags for me.
Not sure of your own religious beliefs, but I'm always surprised to hear about christian conservatives dating not only non conservatives but more so possible non christians or people who don't quite fit into a narrow definition of Christianity. I always had it beaten into me that we were only to date other christians so it always still surprises me that those rules go out the window quickly
@@animationfanatic2133 I'm an atheist, but I think at the time I was also in a weird fluctuation of my life and me trying to figure out who I thought I was. I also come from a small town where conservatism was quite prevalent, so sometimes it felt as though I was wrong because of how vehemently everyone I was surrounded by disagreed with me
@@animationfanatic2133
I know this is waaay after the conversation ended but, I wanna add: They'll date whatever's immediately available and care more about looks and holding someone down than compatibility. They usually try to coerce their partners into converting and will not respect those boundaries while requiring you to respect theirs. It's not surprising considering how even "liberal" Christians can still be _very_ conservative anyway based on their upbringing.
I never dated a conservative but I've flirted, there were 2 girls I was kinda interested in. One who was extremely attractive, we went on a date it went OK and then she told me that she didn't believe Sandy Hook happened and that was the end of it. The other one was cute and she was head over heels for me. We talked about our differing political options before then the 2016 primaries started and we talked about who we were thinking of voting for I told her I liked Bernie and made the case for him she dismissed it with "socialism" we agreed that we both disliked Hillary Clinton but for different reasons I asked who she was voting for and she said Ted Cruz and that Donald Trump didn't seem respectable enough to be in charge of the republican party. I told her Ted Cruz was the only candidate that could make me vote for Hillary Clinton. (Times were different) so that was the definitive end of a potentially relationship. The general election eventually came and I asked who she voted for and all she said was "the Republican"
Sounds like you dodged a bullet.
Before the GOP sold their souls to Trump, they really tried to make Ted Cruz look like a level-headed moderate out of desperation
Dodged a couple of bullets there buddy
You dodged several bullets there.
i had something similar happen except it never yielded a date. i matched a woman and we were talking about how much we like Duluth since we are living in Minnesota. i told her that i was up there the day of the january 6th insurrection, and she got upset that is what i called it. bullet definitely dodged
I really want a woman to go incognito into this dating app and reveal the kind of culture the men there have
We already know what it is
Or you could just watch the Daily Wire, Tucker Carlson, or Toilet Paper USA
I used to be open to dating conservatives, thinking foolishly that I could challenge their ideas and change their minds. After all, my dad was a conservative when he met my mom and he's now further left than her. Just realized that Freud would have a field day with that!
The last Conservative I dated screamed at me for over half an hour over the phone for saying I don't like Golden Corral, even though I did say that their rolls and butter are at least good. It was, surreal, in the moment it was horrifying, and yet the absurdity of it all just had me frozen in disbelief. Why didn't I just hang up? Why did I let someone tear into me over something so ridiculous? Why didn't I dump him after that?
I don't make good life choices, so I just don't let myself date anymore. I've gotten attached to too many people who slowly revealed the depth of their shitty political beliefs because they knew I never would have dated them if I knew ahead of time, so they wait until they've lovebombed me long enough that I'll try to rationalize it with hope that they can change, after all, if they were ashamed enough of their beliefs to hide them, surely they want to change, right?
I'm honestly too naive to trust myself to interact with other people, much less date them. Isolation is shitty, but safer than the alternative.
Even if I tried looking for outspoken progressives, my dumb ass would fall for someone like Obama using progressivism to try to get laid in college, so better to be alone and fill the void with escapism and hyperfixations on often low quality children's media because the real world is full of lying sickos, but fictional characters do not exist and thus can only emotionally manipulate me into buying their merchandise at worst.
If you read this screed, you should touch grass probably, sorry for wasting your time. Life is too short to read about the sad people in your phone. I have a cat, I'll live. Go do something nice for a sad person outside of your phone, you never know how much it might mean to them, even if it's something as mundane as listening to them talk about animation errors in the 80's cartoon they've inexplicably become addicted to.
I'm sorry you had to go through this but I completely understand just giving up on dates. Giving you good vibes to at least have a cool friend.
Yup, I'm the same, I finally understood that I don't make good choices and those amplify when taking partners into consideration.
I would really recommend reading "Women who love too much", it gave a lot of answers I really needed. It's a book on toxic relationships with a focus on gender.
Wish the best for you!
Don't give any conservative man (or any man or person for that matter) a chance, if you plan on "changing them". It isn't your job to help people be more open minded, they can do that themselves. You've gotta focus on your own life and yourself and make sure you are growing and becoming better, learning and enjoying life. Think that your time is limited and you probably haven't reached the end of your growth as a person yet. So you gotta focus on your own journey, instead of trying to reroute other's. Let them pave their way, you've got a long way ahead and it needs paving of its own. :)
It wasn't about the rolls. It was about "domination" and breaking you down. It was about making up for all those beatings your father should have given you to show you your "place." Make *NO* mistake, this is an obsession of all and any conservative worth their salt. Especially coming from men towards women. If you chose men like this, that would be your life.
Don't bother trying to change these freaks. Most are all Cluster B Personalities anyhow, it's it's right next to impossible to change something like that, even with professional treatment and medication. Women with no idea what they're getting into and no psychological history shouldn't be expected to "heal" these freaks. They're un-healable.
@@ARedMagicMarker The irony of the dig at people with Cluster B personality disorders considering I've been diagnosed with BPD. (That said, who knows if that means I actually have BPD considering women with autism are often misdiagnosed as having BPD and also sometimes people with Complex PTSD are misdiagnosed with BPD as well, and hell, some places hear about a history of self harm and just assume you must have BPD, but I digress.) It's a bit saneist to assume that people with personality disorders are the harmful assholes of the world when those disorders are potentially the result of severe traumatic upbringings (often being related to those who made said upbringings so traumatic does make it hard to know which factor is more responsible.) I've known some very sweet caring people with BPD. (though they were noticeably neurodivergent and AFAB as well, maybe they were misdiagnosed, who can really know for sure?) Those who seek treatment (or some form of self betterment, Gog knows not everyone can afford therapy,) really ought not be lumped in with those who take their issues out on others, and when evoking Cluster B, it can really come across as essentializing those people as inherently bad because of their disorders when harmful actions tend to be the thing that's actually bad, something that not everyone with a Cluster B personality disorder is even guilty of, especially not those who internalize most of their symptoms who are much more harmful to themselves than others. Aren't mentally ill people statistically much more likely to be the victims of abuse than the perpetrators? Apologies for this bordering on illegible at points, complex topics like this often come with many a caveat or side tangent for the sake of clarification, or maybe I'm just not good at explaining things in a succinct, readable manner and someone smarter than me could cover everything in a few short easy to understand sentences?
I'm a leftist who is single and I will only date people whose views match my own. But I did date a conservative girl for a very short time. The only reason I did was because she was very beautiful and she flirted with me on campus. (Obviously I was in college at the time.) She was a devout Christian and I came to discover she was also not very bright. Plus she saw everything in terms of black and white, no shades of gray.
She told me that she truly believed that the Democrats were communists and hated America. I tried to politely explain how ridiculous that view was. But she could not be swayed. She also told me that Christians are persecuted in this country, that global warming is no big deal and that being gay is a choice. Needless to say our "relationship" lasted 3 weeks. I couldn't stand her reactionary stupidity and I couldn't get her to change her mind. So for the sake of my sanity I only date women with left-wing views.
_"Am I out of touch?_
_No! It's everyone else who is wrong!"_ *- Conservatives, all the time*
Nah, they would never even ask themselves if they are wrong. That would require a modicum of self awareness they do not possess.
Times like this when I think of that one Tim Pool clip where he complains about being without a family at age 34 and then immediately following that with “it’s definitely not me. It must be everyone else.” Lmao
He never even considered that it just might be that stupid hat he wears. 🤣
@@r.c.9163 Maybe its his lack of skill in anything but arguing and he's not great at that, if someone else hasn't already given him the answers.
And Pool couldn't get a date even with all the money he has.
So that mean his personnality is the most horrible thing in the world.
I vaguely remember bursting into raucous laughter upon hearing him say this
Putting an innocent family upon someone like Tim is cruel and unkind.
"I base my entire personality on being an ignorant fuck that wants to roll back human rights... WhY cAn'T i GeT a DaTe?"
*"It's been hard finding good men who are conservatives"*
*"It's been hard finding good men who are conservatives"*
*"It's been hard finding good men who are conservatives"*
*"It's been hard finding good men who are conservatives"*
Such a "self own" and lack of self awareness. 😆🤣
Good job of repeating that quote. 🇺🇸 🇺🇸 🇺🇸
“An oxymoron is a figure of speech that juxtaposes concepts with opposing meanings within a word or phrase that creates an ostensible self-contradiction”
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That's because conservatism is synonymous with evil. It wasn't always as pronounced as it is now in the USA but conservatism is inherently evil. It can't be anything else.
there may be a pattern here .....
I went on a date with a super right winger, she was very attractive but thought flat earth theory had merit and that Hitler was "obviously impressive in what he managed to do, even if it was horrible". I was so fascinated by her I didn't even get mad, was just such an insane evening. Plus it was 2 for 1 on cocktails so 🤷♂️
I know I should be repulsed by your date and I am, but I did laugh at the 2 for 1 cocktails and let’s face it who wouldn’t be driven to drink in a situation like that!
Honestly I seem to have a similar curse as Hasanabi when it comes to conservative people irl, their weird moral disconnects and drastic difference between how they treat in-group and out-group fascinates me.
"Impressive" doesnt mean it s good....
What part of "don't stick your dick in crazy" don't you understand?
@@rogueninja185he didn't do anything impressive in any sense
I dated a military-bound republican. Worst dating mistake I’ve made. So dumb he didn’t even know that Irish republican’s are not the same as his type of republican. He thought I was only made to please him and so I dumped his ass when I got out my stupid “I can fix him” phase.
Last summer I started seeing a girl and after about 3 times hanging out she said she's a "trump supporter." I asked her why and she literally just said because her family is and she thinks he's cool. That combined with some other weird behaviors was a turn off for mebut she completely didn't care that I was a leftist with a multicultural family. She was obsessed with me and went insane sending me dozens of nudes when I told her I was done.
Sounds like she could've been easily converted to me, but that would be awful in today's 'divide and rule' world..
@@alfsmith4936 sounds more like a batshit crazy person
@@alfsmith4936 How can someone who think Trump is cool and believes whatever her family believes easy to convert? Her family would not change, the biggest thing it would happen here is maybe she's changing her mind just to keep OP and straining her relationship with her family.
@alfsmith4936no anyone's job to convert anyone. what are you, a cult leader, speaking with such authority?
nobody pursued me and was more obsessed with me more than a cop. his colleagues were beating up my friends meanwhile he was completely fascinated
Sounds like a premium sausage party.
Well, alot of the anti-gay types are in the closet. This is what they want.
I'm waiting for someone to create an Incel dating app. This one is coming close though. lol
Great point!😆
And just like the rest, it would be useful only to a 1% of the users at most.
YES!
Yeah, i dated someone with the opposite political belifs.
Anti immigrantion (he knows me and my family are immigrants. But we were "one of the good ones")
Loved Trump. Thought global warming , and racism, and sexism were myths, and was pretty fucking transphobic
Why did I date him, you wonder? We had similar hobbies, and interests outside of that. And my friends kept on insisting to me that rejecting someone due to poltics was "shallow".
It was so miserable! We had to close off whole areas of topics, and sometimes when we're just talking about movies. He'll casually say something horribly faccist it ruined my whole day. One day it hit me, I would never ever want to introduce him to my family. If he's not good enough for that, and I wasn't even having fun, why was I wasting my time?
It's never "just politics". It's about how you view and interact with the world. Why would you even want to build a future with someone, when you want completely different futures? It makes no sense. And I was a dummy
I'm now in a relationship with a self described "soy boy liberal beta cuck" and I haven't been happier
The conservative date app: 99% guys and 1% cousins.
As a fat, non-binary, poly, leftist, I’m totally okay with all of these dudes being in their own app, far away from me.
What dude would wanna be near someone like YOU???
I don't think they want you either 😂
Normal people: “Political views” are reflections of our values. If you are looking for someone with similar values, “political views”. May be a great dating exploit for finding people of similar values.
Kav: Find a girl with similar values and have a relationship that lasts nearly a decade.
Hopefully more, good luck you two!
I've grown to resent dating apps as a lot of people just do not read bios. I've had trumpies and literal fascists like my profile.
Even though I state I'm leftist and trans, two things those groups hate
"two things those groups hate."
They hate those things out in the open, but desire those two things you are in private. 😉
Maybe they want to be converted..
No, “bubbly” does not mean something different in America. That guy either doesn’t want friendly, talkative women, or he just doesn’t know what the word means and thinks “bubbly” is another word for fat
A few years ago I naively tried to date a conservative I met on Tinder. He had a good sense of humour and we had lots of chemistry so I gave him the benefit of the doubt and we agreed to just not talk about politics. Wouldn't ya know, try as he might to hide it, this guys persecution complex was off the charts. He could not stop talking about how "affirmative action had wronged him" and "identity politics were eroding family values". Obviously listening to his recycled talking points got old. Hope he enjoys the app 😆
It’s hilarious that the people who write “I have a High IQ” on their dating profiles do not in fact have a high IQ.
I'm not sure if I just haven't seen enough conservative commercials for...whatever, but I find it interesting how they not-so-subtly have only white actors with pink, orange, or pale skin, lighter colored hair, and of course light eyes. I mean I already know they don't like other conservatives that arent straight, white, _biologically male,_ or Christian considering people like Blaire white and that gay couple who were treated like trash for wanting to adopt, but should I have expected them to be so transparent?
Again maybe it's just me, but in regular commercials I hardly see all white people. They're there, but not the only ones. Is being a poc or white with darker hair/eye political to them? I wouldn't put it past them. That's all, I don't have much to contribute.
People like that should date more. Maybe they'll perceive that women are humans too
I'm reminded of the furry dating app... and the brony dating app... always gotta be a dating app scam in every demographic I guess
The hilarious irony is I guarantee a furry dating app would be more successful and have a higher women to men ratio (and allow LGBT+ dating) than any of these right-wing/conservative/anti-woke or cryptobro apps have.
@@sluttyMapleSyrup trueeeee
I'm gay and I went on a date with someone who was from Texas and I was like "I wouldn't wanna live somewhere where I'm surrounded by Republicans" and he was like "I'm a Republican" and thankfully we hadn't ordered so I left. I don't understand how a black gay man could be a Republican and quite frankly wouldn't want to.
Not dating someone because they're conservative feels like judging them for the content of character lol.
yeah but don't tell them that 💀 they think it's just us being sensitive little lefties 😭
@@minumeyli I honestly don't know how to read these people. I've eaten my fair share of L's and then some, but like how many L's did they eat over how many years to conclude "It's not me, it's everyone else"? Like G.M.Chrystler...
Conservatism isnt character.....
@@musicwelikemang How is it not?
@@matttran7161 its because they have an external locus of control and a complete victim complex. they think everything has to be someone else's fault because oftentimes conservatives cannot self-reflect on their actions or viewpoints.
The types of these guys target naive, impressionable, unaware, mostly girls but also women that they can attempt to manipulate and trap before they realize what is happening. They are sometimes trapped in long-term relationships, but it is NEVER too late to get out and get far away. Then there is the term for women that escapes me, but is essentially like the "Judas steer" for leading other women into a Handmade's Tale of a conservative hellscape. Like the grifter in the advertisement. That WestWorld metaphor seems unfortunately apt for their opinions about women...
*Handmaid
Its also why conservative men tend you seek out younger women 16-17-20, and the first thing they care about iswho they slept with prior or want them pregnant the earliest they can get them to be, to force them into marriages with them.
@@GeteMachinenot women, kids
But.. they used pronouns constantly, and literally bookended the words "no pronouns" with pronouns! Do they not know what pronouns are any more? Are they going to accuse grammar lessons in school of being... I dunno "critical grammar"? And yes, in the U.S. "bubbly" also means energetic and enjoying having a laugh, so that's just your typical conservative cognitive dissonance.
Isn't it really bizarre that their bios seem tailor made to "trigger the libs", even though by design there aren't any libs or leftists on the app? They seem to only be able to define themselves in terms of who they oppose.
Conservatives can't argue in favor of their own politics because their politics are awful and make the world worse. So they like to focus on who they oppose mostly
My ex's parent was a cop. We agreed on a lot politically, except cops. I made some offhand joke about cops shooting unharmed black people. They slapped me in the face. To be fair, it wasn't painful, but still. The relationship ended a couple weeks later.
A couple of weeks later? After they put their hands on you?
@@azariazulu The relationship was long and on it's way out; the dynamic was tenuous. But yeah, since it didn't hurt, plus, she is a woman and even soy boy leftists get a lifetime of masculine socialization, I didn't really see it as "a big deal". Then after we broke up I told my friends in a casual way. Every person, regardless of gender, reacted wirh shock. Only then was like, "oh yeah I guess that was fucked up and I didn't like that". So , PSA no matter your gender, don't even a little bit hit people.
@@obcorc I'm glad you were able to get out of that and realised that violence is NEVER okay! I know these things are difficult and have so much nuance especially with skin in the game and this crap ass socialization but you deserve to be treated with respect and decency 💕 Best of luck to you and I hope you find yourself someone who does
"Agree with me or I'll hurt you"
Ya sounds like a cop
Thank goodness you got out. That could have went much much worse for you.
"No pronounces" so much for tough right-wing bois
I'm American, bubbly means cheerful and effervescent, like you described. I've never heard it used any other way.
agreed, i found it odd he used that.
These conservative dating apps are the biggest self own and self report that I have ever seen
Edit: naive liberal would also be the furthest I would date - that used to be me and I was radicalized by someone I dated lol
Dating apps in general automatically places less traditionally attractive men at a disadvantage. Can't imagine this going well
True. It's one of those things everyone knows but isn't supposed to admit - we talk about not judging by appearances, getting to know someone properly, all that. That's what you are 'supposed' to do. But the reality? The first glance at a prospective partner is all it takes to decide if they are worth the effort of talking to. Dating app designers know that perfectly well, which is why the very first thing you see of a potential match is a photograph. They all mandate a photograph - no abstract art, no avatars, has to be an actual photo. Swipe left or swipe right... the decision is made before even looking at the profile.
Absolutely true. It creates a culture of shallowness that leads to people being both obsessed by their looks and jaded because they find awful people that are also attractive. I wonder if we should start considering a serious takedown of the halo effect due to how much easier life can be when you're attractive and how that easy life tends to correlate with egotism, selfishness, individualism and sometimes self-obsession. It might be interesting.
Would the same not be true at a bar?
@@luna-p It's easier to strike up a convo at the bar and actually learn about someone tho - plus people look different in their photos vs real life.
@@sluttyMapleSyrup it's then opposite for plenty of people. I've dealt with social anxiety most of my life. It's not a problem anymore but I still wouldn't be comfortable approaching a woman at a bar, especially since I'm more aware of how uncomfortable many women are with cold approaches. Dating apps are easier because if you match with someone there's a decent chance they actually want to talk to you and there's no pressure or risk of public embarrassment.
I’m lucky enough that both of my partners share the majority of my views on politics. I couldn’t date a conservative. No way.
5:29 I agree. It IS hard to find good men who are conservative. Those two thing don't often go together.
I’ve dated a self proclaimed Jordan Peterson “centrist” type woman and it was pretty odd. Believed police brutality and racial profiling was a problem but was a raging capitalist who couldn’t drop “human nature makes it so hierarchy will always exist”. And ‘hard work makes you wealthy’ logic
As a queer woman who doesn't want to get pregnant, I'm not going to date or sleep with anyone who votes against rights. If that offends conservative men, they can go cry about it
I dated a conservative. Once😂. She also cheated on me with my cousin because she wanted him to give her free tattoos. Which I wouldn't mention except that she was also verbally and physically abusive so it's like all of the self-entitlement stereotypically associated with conservatives was manifest and the fact that I was paying for everything she, her kids, and myself needed to survive was something I get the impression (in hindsight) she thought of as simply a given, she never appreciated that I didn't have to be there so... Eventually I left.
I first read this as "/.../ cheated on me with a cousin /../" and was like wowww :D
Dude wants a doll that laughs when you pull the string
The age references hit hard. Just become single for the first time in 10 years and I’m in my mid 30s.
Feels like a totally different world to navigate now!
It's not just the conservative's beliefs that are the problem when it comes to dating, but their hypocrisy in general. Listening to some of those nutters, they have strict double standards when it comes to women vs men dating. The men claim they to believe in traditional values etc, but they would gladly enjoy hooking up while bashing women for doing the same. The conservative women are also no exception. They claim to love traditional men, but most of them don't even live traditional lifestyles and are more than happy to mooch off the benefits feminism has given them.
True
So that's why they are so keen about feminists not wanting equality...
The White Stuff is gonna be a huge disaster 😂
Imagine not wanting to hook up with men who literally have graphs and charts to calculate how much your value deoreciates from doing so.
"It's so tragic people care about politics so much, anyway I made a website exclusively for people who voted for Trump! Woo go MAGA MAGA MAGA"
"Women don't want to date me when I tell them they should be treated like property, I am such a victim! Women are so mean to me. Cries"
The absolutely missed opportunity of the ad, which could have said, "stop sniping left, swipe right"
Ideologies aside it still going to flop because it entering in a already overcrowded market for online dating I give a month until no one using it 6 months at best
I remember as a kid (about 25 years ago now) viewing the two parties in the USA as people who had agreed on what needed to be done, just disagreed on how fast and through what methods, yes I was naïve but I think most people saw it that way, but now its so in your face that the difference is quite literally 'do you believe all types of people have the right to even exist much well have the same basic rights?' its harder to choose to date people of incongruent political leanings
The GOP had their facade up as long as the USSR was around. Without the USSR, the Democrats are the enemy.
When I was 15 or 16 I dated someone that was very Christian and I was an atheist. Their Christianity lead him to feel things like "queer people can get married if they call it civil union instead of marriage because marriage is biblical" sort, but in a way that game off as more ignorant and capable of being educated sort of way. This was 2005-2006, so well before federal legalization in the US. I broke it off due to these views and general discomfort with the religious gap. We are both 32 now and I can honestly say I was disappointed to find out he is now a COVID conspiracy hyper conservative person. Even if I felt we weren't on the same page enough to be in a relationship, I felt he was capable of being a better person. I'm queer in both a gender and sexuality sense so it was obviously never going to work, but I never thought he would end up like that.
"... we can't let them control our personal lives". These are unheard-of levels of blameshifting.
This is like the scorpion asking why the frog won't date him.
I think the politics of a potential partner are very important, especially when conservative politics are based on disregard or hatred of minorities & the poor.
This was a really thoughtful exploration of the topic. It's easy to deride right-wingers who are incapable of the self-reflection needed to be a good partner, but maybe some of them could learn something by watching this. The key takeaway should be this: society has changed, and women no longer require male companionship for their very survival. They have options, and so if a man wants to attract a woman he has to actually be a good person and a good partner. Feeling entitled to a woman's time or her body is the quickest way to get rejected.
You know a place is good when they have rules like "ladies get in for free, guys you gotta pay!"
Doesn't sound like a sleazy bar at all...
Dating apps, like many other products and services, no longer are provided to solve your problem(s) ... but to maximize the revenue for the company shareholders ...
I give it a month before guys are complaining of the lack of women on the app.
And at that point, if they haven’t gotten the hint, they never will.
That advert from the conservative dating site reads like a Saturday Night Live sketch lampooning conservatives, I can't stop laughing at it.
"No pronouns necessary"
They just scream at each other
Greg like Stacey. Stacey like Greg?
No, Stacey think Greg is an asshole. Greg makes Stacey talk with no pronouns and making Stacey not use pronouns is ridiculous.
("that" is also a pronoun! Fun fact lllll
Or glare at each other with disgust.
@@nergregga you think even them cannot stand themselves? 😂
They just grunt and point like cave people
These jabronies missed opportunity to use the slogan
“Stop swiping Left and start swiping Right”
I'm currently dating a rather ideologically liberal Catholic woman, although she's a gynecologist who does abortions and she just doesn't like politics, so I don't think it's gonna get in the way. I worry if we'll have different attitudes towards child-rearing.
I'm an American women that dated several conservative men and several times it failed miserably. I've now sworn off American men completely and I'm dating an Englishman that votes labour
That commercial for the dating app truly looked like an SNL sketch
I don’t think I could date anyone who isn’t a leftist. I’m a leftist (not a liberal). I’d date people who are quite left-leaning but not super informed on political topics, so long as they weren’t one of those people who don’t see the point of being at least a bit aware of these things.
I’m queer though so most people I’ve dated or even interacted with when I was dating and using dating apps were compatible with me politically. We just weren’t compatible in other aspects of our lives unfortunately.
Maybe these conservatives to try finding a nice person today at church instead of a dating app! LOL
All the profile pics are gonna be selfies with wal-mart sunglasses in a truck
Or pictures of men holding fish
For real i couldn’t even have a one night stand with a tory. There’s no way mini muel’s working when I know someone’s voting for people who actively want us to die lmao.