+++ 😊😊😊 Just a reminder to you wonderful individuals that the LIVE STREAM will be happening on Friday 14th April at 9pm BST Hope to see you all there 🙏🏼
Go no contact and stand your ground. If a person discards you once in such a heartless manner they will do it again and again. Don't be taken in. You are not dealing with a normal person.
I’m thankful he ignored my last few texts and really glad for the silent treatment. He’s coming back cuz he’s missing my energy but I’m not open for bizz! It’s final discard time. Thanks Anoushka ❤
I HIGHLY DOUBT that my ex narc will ever contact me again. I discarded him May 28th, 2022 and went NO CONTACT. .He moved in with his new supply in 1 1/2 weeks. 9 months later on March 6th, 2023 they got married. I havent heard a peep from him since I went no contact. I was better than Grade A supply (not bragging..I was a fool). If he was going to hoover he would have already. I guess I'm better off without him but that didnt make it hurt any less. Especially since Im still single. And almost a year later I still have my days. Sadly I waited for the contact or a hoover for months just to get validation that it wasnt all in vein. Live and learn. I feel for all of you who've lived through their bs. It's brutal!!!.
Hoover can take years, because right now he is focused on her. I totally get what you feel, but Focus on you 🤗 try to do things for your, new passions , talking to Friends 🤗 It Will get better, so when he comes back u Will not fall, u Will not care at all❤
I can totally understand how you feel. Exnarc has moved on to new supply and I have not heard a word from him. I hear he's happy and he's doing things for her he would have never done for or with me. We remain single and try to recover while they just keep moving on and act like we never existed. The healing journey is absolutely brutal. 😢
I feel you @Julia S. It has been 2 weeks since we have not contacted each other. I have my days but I'm working on me and letting him work on whomever he is with.
Narcissist are a plague on humanity. Everyone needs to get smart and kick them out of their lives. Let narcissists go with other narcissists so they can destroy each other. If you want to have a life where someone really loves you, appreciates you, cherishes you, builds you up don’t go with a narcissist period. You will never have any of that. They don’t know how to be faithful in anything and you will be left heart broken and holding the broken pieces all way. You can’t live a healthy life in a sick environment.
@sbella6719 true. But sometimes you have to look at yourself and think is this what I really deserve. Life's to short to have a partner who only loves you part time
@@MikeHeskett you obviously don't understand narcissism or the dynamics of trauma bonding. Not everyone in a narcissistic relationship is trauma bonded some stay because they're strung along on hope. A more appropriate question would be why would anyone stay IN a relationship in which they're being abused BEFORE they're discarded. Then just maybe you can understand the 'why' to your question.
I was too confident and didn’t block. He hoovered by returning an item, then ‘i miss you’. A few days later, he wanted a place to live rent free. We ended up in a vicious fight. I now understand the meaning of NO CONTACT and why it’s so important😩 Their hoovers bind your energy to them!
Thanks Anoushka. You are right. I am trying to get through this. I want my life back. I keep thinking I want her back because I love her but I am understanding what your saying and I take it all on board. It helps. I'm in the silent stage. I guess I hope it stays that way.
Y'all have to stop saying, "Come back for me." or "Come back for you." because that train of thought shows desperation and lack of healing. Heal and focus on self. Never desire to put yourself through such abuse anymore.
I always tell people this. I know this isn’t over. He always comes back here and there, drops the occasional email, contacts me on social media pretending to be someone else. I refuse to interact now. Even if you feel strong at the start of the interactions, believe me it can all change in a heartbeat. Been there, done it too many times now. Always ends with me more and more confused and depressed. The only option now is to push forward with my life and my needs. The power is in our hands if we choose for it to be ❤
He will try you! Continue to stay with no contact. I discarded the narc. They called me on the one year. After the discard. No reply. They are BLOCKED ON MY PHONE. Keep your PEACE
If the Narc has psychopathic traits they will discard and never have anything else to do w you . A Narc will come back around but many of them are co-morbid w psychopathy. Sam Vaknin who is an expert on this just made a video talking about this.
This is something I often dream about. I literally lose sleep over her. I care however I did the waking away because inside I know my worth. Stay healthy and safe inside your body 😉🤙🏼
They do not have the ability to have Empathy. Therapy can not give one Empathy. Time can not give one Empathy. This is why the Narcissist can not change. They literally have a predisposed inability to have Empathy. It's permanent. Knowing this, we have a choice. I chose me. I have compassion, I can not imagine living a life without the ability to actually connect with other humans on a deeper human level. Narcissist do not and will never have this ability.
I can confirm, they come back. Discarded six months ago in a seemingly impossible scenario to hear from them ever again , she called me twice in February. I didn't answer either call. I also didn't wish her happy birthday March 5th either. She post Subliminal messages on her social media about me and love all the time and recently posted a video on twitter professing her hatred for me. She said and I quote , "I don't like thinking about Robert I don't like talking about Robert I have a deep hatred for Robert that I know is not true but it's how I live." I mean like what... wow.
My ex is ALWAYS posting endless subliminal ramblings about me on her Twitter , and on FB. The Twitter ones are usually talking about me not trying hard enough , not apologizing , even though she knows it's her fault in the first place , and being unreasonable ......But then she doesn't contact me. So after several months I messaged her to try and bury the hatchet, I said " I apologize for my part in why we broke up". ... expecting her to apologize for her part , she accepted my apology and said nothing back 😂 Everytime I try to patch things up , we'll talk for a little while until I get frustrated with her toxic behavior , that's when she blocks me , and then here we go again several months without talking. I then realized , I was the one who apologized everytime , essentially for the BOTH of us , even though the issues mostly came from her ....She puts in ZERO effort to listen to my wants , needs , and concerns , but wants me to shower her in attention and affection as soon as she wants it. I honestly think the only reason she broke up with me in the first place was because Ignored her for two weeks after she's was incredibly toxic....I think she assumed I was going to reject her so she did it first. Then she cries endlessly all over Twitter , attempting to guilt trip me into begging for her back, when SHE BROKE UP WITH ME 😂 But whenever the conversation gets tough she blocks me ....never tries to compromise. She's also from the Philippines , so I don't know how much the cultural differences are coming into play.....But it's not worth getting bogged down in useless details.....The bottomline , there's minimal effort from her since last year....and someone's effort is a reflection of your importance to them. I love her , but she's literally driven me mad....I'd love things to work out , but I can't take it anymore....The toxicity , the silent treatment for months , because the only reason we ever start talking again is because I initiate every time. It's sad.
@maxwelner9283 dude man that all is just ridiculous. I also tried to reconcile with her a few times in the beginning. When she basically ignored my final request, that was it , she blew up the bridge .. I was completely done at that point. She then called me twice in February. I didn't answer either call. Her birthday passed March 5th. I did not wish her happy birthday. She had not posted any new guy or anything on her Twitter. She continues to post very old pictures up that I took of her on dates. Like why would you even bother posting those old ass pictures. Hell , she even sang an acapella about I think about you all the time you run through my head constantly.. Now , if I had to guess , I'd say that was about me. Considering all the Subliminal messages and old pictures she puts up. Maybe I'm wrong but the thing that really pisses me off is ,I've done all this work on myself and you're just Over her posting garbage on your twitter. Specifically the one video she put about me saying , I have a deep hatred for Robert though I know is not true but it's how I live. Like keep your name out of your mouth. Don't talk slick about me on twitter all of these months later. Yah ...
@@robpz448 , I just typed a novel , but I deleted it..... nobody wants to hear about all my bullshit 🤣 Anyways yeah , I don't understand it ....I think because she seemed to stay loyal for about a year , and never took her relationship status off "in a relationship" I felt trauma bonded to her....I don't understand why she still posts things to trigger me....or watches all my social media everyday. I just don't understand why she cares so much ....but willing to put effort towards nothing. My hands are tied.....but I also feel sick when I imagine her with someone else. It's the most uncomfortable state of emotional discomfort you can possibly experience. My rational side knows the way I've been treated isn't right , and until she matures to being able to have an adult conversation without blocking ....until she starts putting in effort to get along.....I gotta move on just for my mental health...it's killing me , it's all I can think about....The sad thing is , there's not another girl on the planet I'd rather have.....but yet , the thing I gotta do is just walk away....It's the complete opposite of what my soul wants.
I discarded him and he will not be back. He’s irrelevant and insignificant. There’s no room for him in my life. Broke up with him in July and kicked him out in September. I will not tolerate toxicity in anyone ❤
I spoke to her tonight via text after 6 months post discard. Laid my heart out to her and she coldly said she is still with someone else and that I should move on. It still blows my mind just how soulless, cold and empty she is. I’m properly done, she is self sabotaging and she just doesn’t understand. I hate her and feel sorry for her in equal measure
Hi Frances, I was with somebody for 9 years, everything that could possibly happen, where a Narcissist is concerned, happened to me!! I've been researching & listening to these sites on Narcissism for a couple of years (sad, I know) but you have to try and make sense of who you was with and then you realise how many others are affected too, Charm, Cheat, Discard & Repeat, then Hoover you?? the mind bogles with how they act, they do all follow a predictable pattern, just a few small changes in each persons relationship but its basically, the same pattern. Hope you wasn't too Hurt and have found your way back to some normality in life. Best Wishes, Dale. (Derbyshire)
My ex narc loves his new supply so much, he left me for her and not even a month she broke up with him and he put so much effort to win her back, posting suicidal videos, posts, posting crying pictures etc feeling broken, suffering, he never did all these for me when i wanna leave him previously, doubts my own worth really 😢
@@Ms_Lexicophile Thank you girl. I literally feel depressed when I found out hes cheating on me and me comparing myself with her, especially now he did soo much to win her back. That gal even feel proud of that.
I'm so sorry 😔 I feel your pain. I am dealing with it right now , it hurts to your core thinking at one point you were supposed to be their favorite person , and how hard it is to get them to compromise , show affection , or agree with you on anything.... Then you see them with others ( many of whom I don't like ) and they're showering them in attention , laughing all animated , and just so much enthusiasm. It literally kills your soul , because you know how much you love them , and apparently that love means so little , they cannot even try....but for everyone else they will.
Finally a video that doesn't talk about what we already know. Meaning ,,what they did to us. This is reiteration of what they really are and that's what I needed. Thank you.
What I don't understand is why he left texting open for me but he hasn't blocked it. I'm blocked on everything else. He knows I know he's a covert narcissist.
They are just disgusting, they can even manipulate a thrapist. That's why I ended all of this and stopped going to couple therapy - I was a monster there, this is what they did.
I’d seriously love to move on but every time dating apps get my nowhere (they ghost) that always makes me want to reach out to my narc again. In a future video it would be cool if you were able to share how to cope for these moments of failure so I don’t end up thinking I deserve someone like the narcissist because sometimes I really feel like I do when no one else wants to give me a chance
@@franceshaggitt3104 I know. Trust me I know this. But it always seems like having her is better than being alone and feeling like nobody else wants me.
@@tonyg5132 Nope, it's not. Being alone is waaay better than dealing with any (of the many) narcissistic shite. Stay strong. Love yourself, enjoy being with yourself
@@ferpk1549 I see what you are saying and I would say that is true for most cases but it doesn’t feel that way for me. I’m just being honest. I know she was an emotional terrorist but even with the pain I’ve endured at the same time I also felt really good and really special. It’s a hard dynamic to explain
Idealization, devaluation, and discard. Sometimes they come back and other times they don’t. Regardless, you should not show any kind of reaction to them because it only adds fuel to the fire. It’s important to consider the discard as a gift to you. The pwBPD is essentially releasing their hold on you. The best revenge is to heal and find fulfilling relationships.
Thanks Anoushka. More, powerful insight. 🙏👍✨💐Even though I tried to get away for a year, without success, when I finally escaped, following his devaluing and the discard business, he came back once and I fell for it as it concerned his recently deceased brother, whom I supported through cancer treatment etc. This is what the narcissist is expert at doing. Manipulation of the victim (you or me) by ANY MEANS to exert their power over you again and again and again. IF WE LET THEM! I'm a month into the final no-contact and feeling better. I do miss the person I thought they were so, to combat those feelings, I deliberately remember the nasty piece of work, they really turned out to be.
They wont come back.I called her out on everything she's done,even got back some of the stuff i gave her and threw it in the trash,its been almost 3 months.
He tried with text after a few days and already had someone else posting her all over SM. First He wanted me to come over. No. Next He missed me. No response. Then he used money he owed me to stay in contact and have control. Nope, I told him I would not ask for the money again. It is hard but this supply is closed.
What is considered “ultra high grade” sex though? Because they’re incapable of connecting on any real/deep level and have no care for you or your feelings. So isn’t that low grade sex? I’m genuinely asking though, what is considered “ultra high grade”?
@@littleleafyleaf When a confident , self aware man leads his female partner into untapped sensual experiences affecting her brain, her heart, and her body. This type of lovemaking touches her pineal gland and makes the man an ultra high grade source of addictive sexual supply that she can never get enough of.
Anoushka im really struggling at the moment 6 weeks ago i caught my ex narcissist with another woman then he discarded me the next day he moved in with her a few days later him and the new supply moved to another town thank you so much anoushka for your good videos ❤
Thank you she has made me seem crazy to her friends and family yet I unblocked her on WhatsApp and she kept changing her picture to selfies although she is in a relationship 🤔 I should carry on no contact she hurt me so bad not wanting to fix things after 4 years she got with someone within 7 weeks 😢
I just got discarded for the 3rd time! We met up, had a wonderful time together, he hugged me & promised to text me. 1 day...no text...2 days...no text...day 3 no text so I tried to call & had been blocked! I jumped on FB messenger & tried to call! He started blocking messenger immediately! Why?!!!! Why would everything seem so perfect then he up & blocks me???!!!
Sorry to hear this Tina, but this is straight out of the Narc playbook, they are manipulating you again. It's all about power and dominance, they don't care how they make you feel. Dont run after him, it's n8w time to go 100% No Contact.
spot on - will you stop being their emotional slave... understand they get their needs met with you which is why they'll come back, but what about your needs which go unmet
My ex narcissist knows better than trying to do a Uturn she knows I know she’s a narcissist and is mentally unstable and she did so much underhanded stuff that backfired on her she’s somewhere hiding in shame
So you’re saying that even though she has moved to another state and started teaching over there that after a year has passed that even if things are not going well that she might or will come back to where I am. Not so really sure on that one cause she has told so many LIES to WAY to many people like at both her Schools and her part time job and she is known throughout this whole town because of me and Burned those bridges. Normal people do not forget easily like the NARC thinks they well. I would like to see here drive all the way back down here only to see me act if she is a total stranger and that I do not know who she is and tell her she is mistaken me for someone one else.
+++ 😊😊😊 Just a reminder to you wonderful individuals that the LIVE STREAM will be happening on Friday 14th April at 9pm BST
Hope to see you all there 🙏🏼
When you start sleeping normally and go a few days without thinking about them at all, it is a real treat.
Go no contact and stand your ground. If a person discards you once in such a heartless manner they will do it again and again. Don't be taken in. You are not dealing with a normal person.
They come back when we haven't figured them out but once they've been figured out and called out on lies, they hide and won't return.
100% correct
I’m thankful he ignored my last few texts and really glad for the silent treatment. He’s coming back cuz he’s missing my energy but I’m not open for bizz! It’s final discard time. Thanks Anoushka ❤
4 years of no contact for me, keep going. We're winning
He will come back cause he isn't done with you yet. No contact is your best bet
Video was awesome.👍
Im being totaly ignorimg me sad n hurt
I HIGHLY DOUBT that my ex narc will ever contact me again. I discarded him May 28th, 2022 and went NO CONTACT. .He moved in with his new supply in 1 1/2 weeks. 9 months later on March 6th, 2023 they got married. I havent heard a peep from him since I went no contact. I was better than Grade A supply (not bragging..I was a fool). If he was going to hoover he would have already. I guess I'm better off without him but that didnt make it hurt any less. Especially since Im still single. And almost a year later I still have my days. Sadly I waited for the contact or a hoover for months just to get validation that it wasnt all in vein. Live and learn. I feel for all of you who've lived through their bs. It's brutal!!!.
Hoover can take years, because right now he is focused on her. I totally get what you feel, but Focus on you 🤗 try to do things for your, new passions , talking to Friends 🤗 It Will get better, so when he comes back u Will not fall, u Will not care at all❤
I can totally understand how you feel. Exnarc has moved on to new supply and I have not heard a word from him. I hear he's happy and he's doing things for her he would have never done for or with me. We remain single and try to recover while they just keep moving on and act like we never existed. The healing journey is absolutely brutal. 😢
I feel you @Julia S. It has been 2 weeks since we have not contacted each other. I have my days but I'm working on me and letting him work on whomever he is with.
It's when YOU say it's over. Change starts and ends with YOU.
This!!!!
Narcissist are a plague on humanity. Everyone needs to get smart and kick them out of their lives. Let narcissists go with other narcissists so they can destroy each other. If you want to have a life where someone really loves you, appreciates you, cherishes you, builds you up don’t go with a narcissist period. You will never have any of that. They don’t know how to be faithful in anything and you will be left heart broken and holding the broken pieces all way. You can’t live a healthy life in a sick environment.
They make you feel so high off of love in those very short moments.
The question is why the hell would you want someone who discarded you like that
Trauma bonded
@sbella6719 true. But sometimes you have to look at yourself and think is this what I really deserve. Life's to short to have a partner who only loves you part time
@@MikeHeskett you obviously don't understand narcissism or the dynamics of trauma bonding. Not everyone in a narcissistic relationship is trauma bonded some stay because they're strung along on hope. A more appropriate question would be why would anyone stay IN a relationship in which they're being abused BEFORE they're discarded. Then just maybe you can understand the 'why' to your question.
I was too confident and didn’t block. He hoovered by returning an item, then ‘i miss you’. A few days later, he wanted a place to live rent free. We ended up in a vicious fight. I now understand the meaning of NO CONTACT and why it’s so important😩 Their hoovers bind your energy to them!
Yes no contact is very empowering!
Thanks Anoushka. You are right. I am trying to get through this. I want my life back. I keep thinking I want her back because I love her but I am understanding what your saying and I take it all on board. It helps. I'm in the silent stage. I guess I hope it stays that way.
Y'all have to stop saying, "Come back for me." or "Come back for you." because that train of thought shows desperation and lack of healing. Heal and focus on self. Never desire to put yourself through such abuse anymore.
It's been 6 mos. He treated me so badly I don't think he is man enough to ever attempt a hoover.
I always tell people this. I know this isn’t over. He always comes back here and there, drops the occasional email, contacts me on social media pretending to be someone else. I refuse to interact now. Even if you feel strong at the start of the interactions, believe me it can all change in a heartbeat. Been there, done it too many times now. Always ends with me more and more confused and depressed. The only option now is to push forward with my life and my needs. The power is in our hands if we choose for it to be ❤
I was the one who discarded him. I think he won’t come back anymore. And he was so shocked when I told him it was time to say goodbye.
He will try you! Continue to stay with no contact. I discarded the narc. They called me on the one year. After the discard. No reply. They are BLOCKED ON MY PHONE. Keep your PEACE
I discarded him called him out on all the gaslighting and lies !
@@Tommytwostroke The BS with narcs is never ending. UNTIL YOU DECIDE WHAT GOOD FOR YOU. BLESSINGS
He’ll be back
@@michaeltaylor9096 Wow, that is so weird. he will be back? although he already has many other supplies?
If the Narc has psychopathic traits they will discard and never have anything else to do w you . A Narc will come back around but many of them are co-morbid w psychopathy. Sam Vaknin who is an expert on this just made a video talking about this.
I blocked mine so he won't come back plus he got plenty of supply from the ladies.
This is something I often dream about. I literally lose sleep over her. I care however I did the waking away because inside I know my worth. Stay healthy and safe inside your body 😉🤙🏼
You just saved me life...with thus beautiful insight
They do not have the ability to have Empathy. Therapy can not give one Empathy. Time can not give one Empathy. This is why the Narcissist can not change. They literally have a predisposed inability to have Empathy. It's permanent. Knowing this, we have a choice. I chose me. I have compassion, I can not imagine living a life without the ability to actually connect with other humans on a deeper human level. Narcissist do not and will never have this ability.
I can confirm, they come back. Discarded six months ago in a seemingly impossible scenario to hear from them ever again , she called me twice in February. I didn't answer either call. I also didn't wish her happy birthday March 5th either. She post Subliminal messages on her social media about me and love all the time and recently posted a video on twitter professing her hatred for me. She said and I quote , "I don't like thinking about Robert I don't like talking about Robert I have a deep hatred for Robert that I know is not true but it's how I live." I mean like what... wow.
My ex is ALWAYS posting endless subliminal ramblings about me on her Twitter , and on FB.
The Twitter ones are usually talking about me not trying hard enough , not apologizing , even though she knows it's her fault in the first place , and being unreasonable ......But then she doesn't contact me. So after several months I messaged her to try and bury the hatchet, I said " I apologize for my part in why we broke up". ... expecting her to apologize for her part , she accepted my apology and said nothing back 😂 Everytime I try to patch things up , we'll talk for a little while until I get frustrated with her toxic behavior , that's when she blocks me , and then here we go again several months without talking. I then realized , I was the one who apologized everytime , essentially for the BOTH of us , even though the issues mostly came from her ....She puts in ZERO effort to listen to my wants , needs , and concerns , but wants me to shower her in attention and affection as soon as she wants it.
I honestly think the only reason she broke up with me in the first place was because Ignored her for two weeks after she's was incredibly toxic....I think she assumed I was going to reject her so she did it first.
Then she cries endlessly all over Twitter , attempting to guilt trip me into begging for her back, when SHE BROKE UP WITH ME 😂 But whenever the conversation gets tough she blocks me ....never tries to compromise. She's also from the Philippines , so I don't know how much the cultural differences are coming into play.....But it's not worth getting bogged down in useless details.....The bottomline , there's minimal effort from her since last year....and someone's effort is a reflection of your importance to them. I love her , but she's literally driven me mad....I'd love things to work out , but I can't take it anymore....The toxicity , the silent treatment for months , because the only reason we ever start talking again is because I initiate every time. It's sad.
@maxwelner9283 dude man that all is just ridiculous. I also tried to reconcile with her a few times in the beginning. When she basically ignored my final request, that was it , she blew up the bridge .. I was completely done at that point. She then called me twice in February. I didn't answer either call. Her birthday passed March 5th. I did not wish her happy birthday. She had not posted any new guy or anything on her Twitter. She continues to post very old pictures up that I took of her on dates. Like why would you even bother posting those old ass pictures. Hell , she even sang an acapella about I think about you all the time you run through my head constantly.. Now , if I had to guess , I'd say that was about me. Considering all the Subliminal messages and old pictures she puts up. Maybe I'm wrong but the thing that really pisses me off is ,I've done all this work on myself and you're just Over her posting garbage on your twitter. Specifically the one video she put about me saying , I have a deep hatred for Robert though I know is not true but it's how I live. Like keep your name out of your mouth. Don't talk slick about me on twitter all of these months later. Yah ...
@@robpz448 , I just typed a novel , but I deleted it..... nobody wants to hear about all my bullshit 🤣
Anyways yeah , I don't understand it ....I think because she seemed to stay loyal for about a year , and never took her relationship status off "in a relationship" I felt trauma bonded to her....I don't understand why she still posts things to trigger me....or watches all my social media everyday. I just don't understand why she cares so much ....but willing to put effort towards nothing.
My hands are tied.....but I also feel sick when I imagine her with someone else.
It's the most uncomfortable state of emotional discomfort you can possibly experience. My rational side knows the way I've been treated isn't right , and until she matures to being able to have an adult conversation without blocking ....until she starts putting in effort to get along.....I gotta move on just for my mental health...it's killing me , it's all I can think about....The sad thing is , there's not another girl on the planet I'd rather have.....but yet , the thing I gotta do is just walk away....It's the complete opposite of what my soul wants.
I discarded him and he will not be back. He’s irrelevant and insignificant. There’s no room for him in my life. Broke up with him in July and kicked him out in September. I will not tolerate toxicity in anyone ❤
I spoke to her tonight via text after 6 months post discard. Laid my heart out to her and she coldly said she is still with someone else and that I should move on. It still blows my mind just how soulless, cold and empty she is. I’m properly done, she is self sabotaging and she just doesn’t understand. I hate her and feel sorry for her in equal measure
Thanks Anoushka!❤⚘
My narcissist is asking for money after claiming they went on holiday to improve their mood
Hi...I'm in UK......would be great to talk to people who gone through this hell....east Yorkshire based..
@Frances Haggitt Brilliant idea, in London. Have you got an email? Xx
From near north London
Edinburgh, 7 months now NC, after 8 years, still feeling it, but every day slightly better. Stay strong and don't look back
Hi Frances, I was with somebody for 9 years, everything that could possibly happen, where a Narcissist is concerned, happened to me!! I've been researching & listening to these sites on Narcissism for a couple of years (sad, I know) but you have to try and make sense of who you was with and then you realise how many others are affected too, Charm, Cheat, Discard & Repeat, then Hoover you?? the mind bogles with how they act, they do all follow a predictable pattern, just a few small changes in each persons relationship but its basically, the same pattern. Hope you wasn't too Hurt and have found your way back to some normality in life.
Best Wishes, Dale. (Derbyshire)
My ex narc loves his new supply so much, he left me for her and not even a month she broke up with him and he put so much effort to win her back, posting suicidal videos, posts, posting crying pictures etc feeling broken, suffering, he never did all these for me when i wanna leave him previously, doubts my own worth really 😢
@@Ms_Lexicophile Thank you girl. I literally feel depressed when I found out hes cheating on me and me comparing myself with her, especially now he did soo much to win her back. That gal even feel proud of that.
I'm so sorry 😔 I feel your pain.
I am dealing with it right now , it hurts to your core thinking at one point you were supposed to be their favorite person , and how hard it is to get them to compromise , show affection , or agree with you on anything....
Then you see them with others ( many of whom I don't like ) and they're showering them in attention , laughing all animated , and just so much enthusiasm.
It literally kills your soul , because you know how much you love them , and apparently that love means so little , they cannot even try....but for everyone else they will.
Finally a video that doesn't talk about what we already know. Meaning ,,what they did to us. This is reiteration of what they really are and that's what I needed. Thank you.
What I don't understand is why he left texting open for me but he hasn't blocked it. I'm blocked on everything else. He knows I know he's a covert narcissist.
He doesn’t want you seeing new supply on social but wants to see if u text him and could serve as supply I imagine. Same situation as me.
They are just disgusting, they can even manipulate a thrapist.
That's why I ended all of this and stopped going to couple therapy - I was a monster there, this is what they did.
Thanks for this beautiful and educational message. God bless. ❤
He sent me a hoover text.....of ...I. I ..I. ..I
..all him his needs
same
My narc would say relationships whatever they are,I always get burnt.
I’d seriously love to move on but every time dating apps get my nowhere (they ghost) that always makes me want to reach out to my narc again. In a future video it would be cool if you were able to share how to cope for these moments of failure so I don’t end up thinking I deserve someone like the narcissist because sometimes I really feel like I do when no one else wants to give me a chance
Don't go back
@@franceshaggitt3104 I know. Trust me I know this. But it always seems like having her is better than being alone and feeling like nobody else wants me.
@@tonyg5132 Nope, it's not. Being alone is waaay better than dealing with any (of the many) narcissistic shite.
Stay strong. Love yourself, enjoy being with yourself
@@ferpk1549 I see what you are saying and I would say that is true for most cases but it doesn’t feel that way for me. I’m just being honest. I know she was an emotional terrorist but even with the pain I’ve endured at the same time I also felt really good and really special. It’s a hard dynamic to explain
As a man, you should be working on yiurself to become better. You'll feel better a d won't doubt your worthy anymore
Because of the trauma bond, I made it easy for him to come back and treat me as secondary supply. Now in permanent no contact and healing.
Idealization, devaluation, and discard. Sometimes they come back and other times they don’t. Regardless, you should not show any kind of reaction to them because it only adds fuel to the fire. It’s important to consider the discard as a gift to you. The pwBPD is essentially releasing their hold on you. The best revenge is to heal and find fulfilling relationships.
Thanks Anoushka. More, powerful insight. 🙏👍✨💐Even though I tried to get away for a year, without success, when I finally escaped, following his devaluing and the discard business, he came back once and I fell for it as it concerned his recently deceased brother, whom I supported through cancer treatment etc. This is what the narcissist is expert at doing. Manipulation of the victim (you or me) by ANY MEANS to exert their power over you again and again and again. IF WE LET THEM! I'm a month into the final no-contact and feeling better. I do miss the person I thought they were so, to combat those feelings, I deliberately remember the nasty piece of work, they really turned out to be.
So you took him back? I took him back..... It lasted three week..he worsened..evil poop
Reverse discard, no way will he ever come back, now in the divorce cycle. I still had hoped that he’d get help. Now focusing on helping myself.
Wow!!! thank you for opening my eyes,this cofirms what i have been thinking.
They wont come back.I called her out on everything she's done,even got back some of the stuff i gave her and threw it in the trash,its been almost 3 months.
I get so angry that I gave him so much power. That's when I have to forgive myself all over again.
He tried with text after a few days and already had someone else posting her all over SM. First He wanted me to come over. No. Next He missed me. No response. Then he used money he owed me to stay in contact and have control. Nope, I told him I would not ask for the money again. It is hard but this supply is closed.
Didn’t even cross my mind that my narc / she might be stuck on my decisions
Folks please realize these are demons in human form.
Keep going and thanks
Ultra high grade sexual intimacy turns a lonely narcissist into a fatal attraction
What is considered “ultra high grade” sex though? Because they’re incapable of connecting on any real/deep level and have no care for you or your feelings. So isn’t that low grade sex? I’m genuinely asking though, what is considered “ultra high grade”?
Crazy daddy issue sex
@@littleleafyleaf
When a confident , self aware man leads his female partner into untapped sensual experiences affecting her brain, her heart, and her body. This type of lovemaking touches her pineal gland and makes the man an ultra high grade source of addictive sexual supply that she can never get enough of.
@@littleleafyleaf I’m assuming this means the physical sexual attraction/lust/excitement
Anoushka im really struggling at the moment 6 weeks ago i caught my ex narcissist with another woman then he discarded me the next day he moved in with her a few days later him and the new supply moved to another town thank you so much anoushka for your good videos ❤
dont go for the okey doke if you dont cut ties youll have problems
Mine came back 5times
What if I'm a narcissist? I don't want to be that way! It's confusing. Made so many mistakes.
Thank you she has made me seem crazy to her friends and family yet I unblocked her on WhatsApp and she kept changing her picture to selfies although she is in a relationship 🤔 I should carry on no contact she hurt me so bad not wanting to fix things after 4 years she got with someone within 7 weeks 😢
I just got discarded for the 3rd time! We met up, had a wonderful time together, he hugged me & promised to text me. 1 day...no text...2 days...no text...day 3 no text so I tried to call & had been blocked! I jumped on FB messenger & tried to call! He started blocking messenger immediately! Why?!!!! Why would everything seem so perfect then he up & blocks me???!!!
Sorry to hear this Tina, but this is straight out of the Narc playbook, they are manipulating you again. It's all about power and dominance, they don't care how they make you feel. Dont run after him, it's n8w time to go 100% No Contact.
This happened to me too. You were a time filler as another one was waiting. It's an awful betrayal.
Looking for validation will only come from you. You are enough xx
How about playing them at their own game ?
Might work I did and haven’t received a call in almost 3 weeks
That is the only way to get rid of them
What if they ghosted you, are not with the new supply anymore but haven't contacted you?
Some other supply then
I wish you could tell me why my narc husband took all our wedding pictures, no contact for 9 months I have filed for divorce
You said he came back 5 times?
spot on - will you stop being their emotional slave... understand they get their needs met with you which is why they'll come back, but what about your needs which go unmet
I was waiting to see you anywhere but in Thessaloniki ?!? never !?! Are you in Greece now ?!
Someone plz tell me wheres the music from?
You do lose yourself in all this but I wish I knew how to get it back. It's like the devil stoled my soul.
8:20
If they block you on everything does that mean I'm free?
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Well it's been 7 years I moved on and he just popped up out of the Blue....Seriously
Do they always discard? Or do some of them not do the discard? Is it something they have to do is what I’m asking.
Always discard, they stay with you as long as you provide them with fuel/resources; that’s all that interests them.
So even though she is still Married that alone doesn’t matter,WHAY THE _ _ _ _
If they really don’t care about that kind of thing even being Baptized
Oh YES IT DOES, I know her to well
She is done
And I am no way picking a Marriage back up after a year of being gone ,REALLY
My ex narcissist knows better than trying to do a Uturn she knows I know she’s a narcissist and is mentally unstable and she did so much underhanded stuff that backfired on her she’s somewhere hiding in shame
Funny thing is she said i hadnt pit the work in for me 😂 Gaslight
No!
I do know that she is going to therapy and yet more than likely not to help her change,Gaurennted
So you’re saying that even though she has moved to another state and started teaching over there that after a year has passed that even if things are not going well that she might or will come back to where I am. Not so really sure on that one cause she has told so many LIES to WAY to many people like at both her Schools and her part time job and she is known throughout this whole town because of me and Burned those bridges. Normal people do not forget easily like the NARC thinks they well. I would like to see here drive all the way back down here only to see me act if she is a total stranger and that I do not know who she is and tell her she is mistaken me for someone one else.
Even when they monkey branched
Nope ther not
These videos are great
So even though she is still Married that alone doesn’t matter,WHAY THE _ _ _ _