Don't feel guilty about isolating yourself from the world sometimes. Society can be overwhelming. The fact that you're giving yourself time for yourself is good! You need time alone just as much as you need to be social. So the fact that this feels new to you says you haven't really had much "you" time in a while. DIGRESS GIRL!!
Nikki Blackketter I'm the same way and have been for a whole year now! I thought it was crazy to but I love to just be home ! No one to have to empress! ❤️🖤
"I don't feel sad. I just feel like I like my alone space." I've been watching your videos on and off for a few months now, but that made me subscribe! I relate to it so much. I don't have a lot of friends, but I do like going out and being social sometimes. However, sometimes I just prefer to be alone. I don't know why so many people think that's a bad thing...
I like being alone most of the time, as well. I have social anxiety. Hate crowds, and loud places. And it has nothing to do with age...I've always been like that. It's a good sign you enjoy time to yourself.
"I have a mental issue that cripples me. Better give into it and be lonely instead of growing some balls and actively trying to fix the anxiety so I can be less lonely and be more free in social situations." I had social anxiety and I overcame it by just going out there. I regret nothing and I can assure you it's way better being not having this crippling mental issue.
It's not weird. I'm the same. I prefer to be alone than socialise with big crowds of people. I've been this way since the age of 18 haha. And that usually the age of going out and all that. I'm such a homebody. No shame 😊
I had the same phase when I moved away from family and to another state. I think you move to a new city and sometimes it makes you feel like you need to protect yourself and I don't know why, but it makes you want to have a small space that is just yours. Went through the same thing. It gets better! Challenge is growth 💁🏻💪🏼
Don't fight the fact that you're leaning towards staying home more. Listen to yourself, maybe it's a sign that there is something for you to learn❤️ I'm going through it right now and I've been embracing it by buying a bunch of books and learning. Love you Nikki!
Honestly, its because you've grown a lot the past year and you've really built a better relationship with yourself, when we are challenged in life the one's who really care for us are the one's still by your side, the the crowd goes away and the "party" has died down, and all who's left are your real friends. We mature and find pleasure in quiet moments and simple organic conversations. The things we want in life change. Its a strange yet beautiful part of life. ❤
Oh Nikki you may feel old but you are young! I'm old! I'm 64 years old and I watch your vlogs because it makes me feel young trying some of your work outs! Plus Miles gets my hormones working that I thought were long gone! Lol.
Literally yelled "yay Nikki!" out loud when I got the notification and my two year old daughter says "yay let's watch Nikki work her muscles mommy!" That's my girl! 😂
Aw Nikki, I feel this so hard (the last bit where you talk about wanting to be more adventurous but also just kind of MEH about it). I struggle with that too. It's really not like I dislike people or doing things but the older I get the more I have a tendency to view it as same old song and dance and it's just hard to be motivated to participate. THAT said, every time I do push myself to accept invitations to try new things or hang out with other people, I NEVER regret it. I always have fun and I'm like wtf, why didn't I do this earlier?! SO I'm really excited that you are going to try some new things and vlog about it! Don't forget the dance classes pleaseeee, I so want to see you and Miles tear up the dance floor!!
I spent about six months in the "I DO NOT want to people today" stage. I spent a lot of time at home with my dog, and going to the gym with Beats headphones on full blast so no one would try to talk to me LOL, but it honestly helped me find myself. I went through something really hard last year so idk, I guess that helped me in a way. I always had friends inviting me to go out and do things but nothing seemed as fun as sitting on the couch with my dog all night watching Netflix shows and movies. I grew out of that stage though thanks to my amazing friends and family, now I am the happiest I have ever been. So don't feel guilty for being a home body! its good for the soul haha. I Love you and the content you put out there, you're a REAL person so please don't change and try to be like every other TH-camr out there! Keep doing you girl!!
I am the EXACT same way...I don't like this about myself but I know that if I really wanted to go out and make new friends I would. So I am just accepting this way that I am for now and letting things go and doing the things I actually want to do. I think it gets harder for us to make new friends as we get older because we get pickier and pickier about who we like, and we can pick things out about people from an early stage that cause us to not have any interest in furthering the relationship. I am in that situation now, and I don't know any solutions but I know that things happen for a reason so now I'm just hoping and praying and waiting for the next amazing group of friends to come into my life, and I know you will find that too! Anyway, love the videos and you are always entertaining on your own no matter what! I love the cosmetic treatment videos, and I love watching your apartment its so nice :) Your GOT reviews also got me into watching it, so now I am on Season 3 and I started watching about 3 weeks ago, I'm addicted!!
I am the same in regards to being anti social! Picking my dog, cozy home, and Netflix always sound better than socializing lol and like you said I'm not sad or lonely, just my preference 👍🏼
I am always counting down the minutes till I can be home when I'm out and about. My home is a sanctuary for me and it's my favorite place to be. Nothing wrong with that but.... If I say I'll go to a party or social event I do not allow myself to back out of it. I don't want to be known as flaky. And nine times out of ten I'm glad I went.
Andrea Martinez haha love it! Introverts unite! I think it just comes down to that. Either you are an introvert or extrovert and that's who you are and enjoy being. ❤️. That's good you don't back out. I try not to make plans now because I always want to back out so now I prefer to doing things last minute if I feel like it although that doesn't happen much either. But your right it usually does end up being a great time when I do it!
Hi Nikki! I completely understand how you feel because there's so many days where I feel the same way and get frustrated with myself because I see other people doing things and going out but with my busy schedule it makes me more appreciative of my alone time and sometimes I chose to just focus on myself and relax. I learned to love it because I feel that having alone time with yourself is almost as important as going out and should be a balance. So keep doing you girl and don't worry too much about the rest of the world💓
I totally understand what you're saying about not socializing. I'm pretty introverted so I go through ruts where I don't like having to endure small talk/being social. I feel like it's so much effort nowadays!
Hey my girl, As we get older, illusions of immortality vanish. There is a mortgage that needs to be paid, a home that must be maintained, and children or a cat to be cared for. The older we get, the more we want to hang on to what we've already got-the things we've worked so hard to achieve. We also have more experience with pain and loss, having been knocked around a bit by life, and having learned a few lessons the hard way. So If you find that your life has become more about pursuing peace and relaxation than giddy excitement, rest assured that you aren't missing out on happiness. Your happiness has evolved, just as you have. Love you my little🍍!
No power here in Puerto Rico after hurricane Irma, but when Nikki uploads you have to use the battery you have left on your phone to watch the vlog! Priorities! Lol 🇵🇷❤🍍
You're so not alone with how you feel Nikki and these comments show that. I'm going through the same thing right now & for me it's just bc I have so much going on in my head & am going through a bit of a transition in life & the thought of going out with other people is just too much right now. I'm already overwhelmed in my head & sometimes other people can make it worse especially if they're not going through anything similar. It can be tough. But you just have to listen to yourself & do what feels right.
Loving all the veg meals! You mah girl 😘 and I get that home body feeling all the time, I'm an introvert and I need time to recharge after being social. Some people get charged from social events others get charged from being alone. It's just a personality type. Everything is all good!
I 100% felt this way while away at college and I couldn't understand why. Even though I had friends at school, I had lots of people to hangout with and things to do, I would rather stay home and clean my apartment (and I am no neat freak by ANY means) and I thought to myself "wow this is sad, I would rather do dishes than go socialize" BUT when I went back to my home town for holidays and was surrounded by some of my BEST friends I realized- omg I am having so much fun, let's go out and let's do stuff!! So moral of the story; when I wasn't incredibly thrilled with the people that would be at these social events (not that I didn't like them, I liked these people!!) I realized I didn't enjoy being out as much. So grab some of your best friends, and do your favorite things and thennnn see how you feel about social events 😊
I've struggled with social anxiety for a while now. Ive learned that even if you feel uncomfortable you have to put yourself out there. Start small and it'll feel better. Even just grabbing coffee or a light lunch with some friends. love your videos! xoxo
I took some time off going out, catching up with friends/family. It was nice but now I have so much social anxiety. I literally had a huge panic attack when I ran into an Instagram friend in the city. I was fine then the next minute my whole face was twitching and I felt like I was dying 😂 funny now haha. I've been such a homebody and my poor vlogs are getting less entertaining 😅 I decided yesterday that I'm going to get out of this funk & do fun things again 😊 As always, love you Nikki and I'm so glad to see your eating habits change 😍🌱
Nikki, we accept you as you are no matter what 💗 I know how you feel. I suffer from anxiety so bad. I never wanna leave home, I don't have friends which sucks😢 so I spend most of my time at home alone because of social anxiety. You are not alone, the fact that you're brain storming ways to get past this is motivating me to wanna get out and do more things. I'm glad you open up to us about things like this. WE LOVE YOU 🍍💓
You're preaching to the choir!!! 🙌🙌 I think social media likes to mind fuck us and make us think that we need to have 300+friends, be dolled up 24/7, be at the gym all day every day, always be upbeat . Then there comes Nikki, relatable AF. Thank you for being you!❤
Awww we are your children❤️, you always motivate us to do better than our very best. Keep up the great work Nikki! Anxiety sucks so much, but always remember you always have your family, Miles, Jazmine, and Max there for you. :)
Honestly Nikki my favorite vlogs of yours are this kind you've been doing recently. I do enjoy the type of videos you did for Wildcard Wednesday as well but I'm just as happy watch a vlog of you hanging out at home cooking and working out.
I have been following you for freaking years. I never get sick of you. It's mainly because I think a lot like you and its just nice to always have that person you can relate to. Your situation currently hits close to home for me. I went through the same or similar anti social feelings for the past few years. There were only a few "safe people" to hang with and a few "safe places" to go. It started out kind of like you and then it became worse, to the point where I would have panic attacks. It got ugly. I went to therapy and got to the bottom of what the hell is going and. I found my triggers and figured out how to better balance my life for myself to not get in the place again. The longer you stay in this state the harder it is to get out of it. I can only imagine how expensive therapy would be out there in California but honestly, if you haven't ever done it, it's the best thing you can do. Especially in your line of work, can't imagine what you're mental health gets put through. People think they have to be in a dire state to need to go to therapy. But do you wait to have cancer to go to a doctor or do you go and check up on symptoms? Therapy, with the right one that fits you, is so healing for the wounds and pains we cannot see but they often are the most damaging. Sorry for the novel. But consider it. Love your face! Hang in there girl.
Nikki I've felt the same way before about socializing! It just feels exhausting sometimes. Enjoy the alone time cuz eventually you'll be going out more often and having a blast again! There's a time for everything ☺️
I think sometimes we get caught up in social media, hanging out and being around people all the time in general and it's exhausting and you just may need a break. It doesn't mean your not social, or old 😒 just need some time to yourself. So enjoy it, be happy and keep on making awesome videos!
I have a constant struggle against social anxiety to force myself to socialize with other humans. There's nothing wrong with having a lot of alone time! Don't be too hard on yourself just do something that looks fun with the people you are comfortable with to get yourself out there again.
Please do something like a 22 day challenge of workout at home on TH-cam or something like that maybe a week or two if you can't do something for that long. Also two months of plant base and -15lb !! I have tried several of your workouts but at home. I just need something to get started to really workout at home.
I've been introverted my entire life and have always felt that way. It can be annoying at times. But just know it passes. It comes and it goes. Don't stay stuck on it. Just get yourself on a good routine that makes you feel good and stay consistent with it. Waking up and going to bed at the same time, staying organized, getting yourself together, get a morning routine down that suits you, do it everyday. Then you will naturally perk up. And lastly, just allow yourself to feel that way in that process until you move out of it. Its all good. On a side note, your skin looks so glowy and fresh from the treatment, I'm jelly.
Nikki, you def have become one of my top favorite TH-camrs! You have great charisma & are as down to earth as it gets. Just like you, I have my days where I need time away from the rest of the world.. nice to know I'm not the only one!
Nikki I am 100% going through that phase in my life right now. i will make myself go out every so often just because i know that i should but i normally just come home from work work out and play with my dogs. i have found this to be beneficial because i have really been able to focus on my goals fitness and health wise as ergo as set up new financial plans for myself to be on track to buy a house. i have just embraced my antisocial behavior to help better my life
Nikki! You're seriously the best 😆 Your personality is so refreshing and hilarious. You could seriously record a 100 meal prep/ booty videos and not be boring. Don't feel bad about being anxious and wanting to be at home. It's normal and some people just need to recharge. Listen your intuition and stay home if you want to stay home. Go out when you feel like going out. It's all good!! Such a big fan girl 🙋🍍😄 #youdoyouboo
The homebody phase could be reminisce of depression? I went through something a couple years ago and fell in depression. It lingered for about two years. Now that i've helped myself past it i noticed im still not as socialable as I once was. For me it was seeing myself go through something so difficult in my life and realized who really cared about me. Now that i'm older I can see why people always say quality over quantity. Depression or not, getting out of the house and doing something out of your comfort zone is good for all of us. And the outro! LMAO! Yass girl, Dats all YOU!
You are not alone with the anxious feeling. I am confident everyone goes through times like that. Currently just chillin at home alone sounds way more appealing than going out. Dont stress it babe, do what makes you happy. Not what you THINK you should be doing. Xoxo💘
How about a vlog driving up the Pacific coast highway to San Francisco? ❤️ Traveling always fills my soul and gets me out of a rut. It would be fun to do solo or with peeps.
I think for some people it's very natural to want/need your "alone time." I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long as you still feel good about life and you're happy. This past year I have made more of an effort to keep my relationships tight and always be there for the people who I love and value. Other than that, I don't pressure myself to do things I don't want to do. Life's too short. So keep doing you, Nikki. xx
You've showcased your life in front of thousands of people for quite a while now, you haven't been able to have real alone time, and because of that I think at some point this is bound to happen. People can fake happiness/positivity all they want but it's okay to be sad, it's okay to not want to be around others.. we're all human and taking care of yourself is most important. Do a Harry Potter marathon or something lol and of course a little bit of wine can be nice😌 btw, funny ending to the vlog, I loved it!💕
Hey Nikki! I totally get where you're coming from. As I've gotten older, and I've gotten to work in the mental health field, I've realized a lot things that the clients I see going through, are things that I've also gone through or am currently going through. Social anxiety is one of them. I'm not one for labels, but being anxious about social situations is much more common than you think. Sometimes it's hard for me to step into a place I'm unfamiliar with and with people who I don't know. Knowing that I'm going to have interactions with people is so overwhelming. The thought of having to push myself to do that is so annoying because I just want to be one of those bubbly outgoing people in all social situations. I had realized though that it's possible to not let it control you, and the list you made is an awesome way of pushing yourself out of the comfort of your home. It's easy to stay home, but difficult to put yourself in these situations and I think it's really amazing that you can be honest about that. You're connecting with more people than you could imagine, so thank you for always being real and being someone I look up to. Love you!!
Yo Nikki I understand how you feel. My suggestion would be to start small Im sure Miles and Jazmine and the your rest friends will be down for something different in your daily routines. Maybe you can set up a day each week that you try something new or go to a different place! Hell even going on a different gym sometimes does it :P
I have social anxiety. Even though I'm very outgoing I freak out at the idea of having to socialize and meet people and get ready. It's okay to feel like that but it's also good to force yourself outside sometimes
I've been going through that phase for a few months. I've been social but I've just enjoyed alone time. Honestly, I would listen to what you want, if you wanna be alone then be alone. LA can be an exhausting city between driving everywhere, etc sometimes it's nice to just chill out xo
Girl. I hope your not reading those gossip sights. If your feeling this way on your own then that's fine but just don't let people who have nothing better to do make you think you have to change. We all go through stages. I am a PARTICULARLY huge homebody myself. I love being at home and there are times I would sit in the house for a week. Not for any other reason than I just like to be home. And then there are other times I can't wait to go somewhere, so, I think we all go through it from time to time. But I do think you will have fun exploring LA and taking part in all the fun things they have to offer! Just do it for you and because you want to! Not because of anyone else. Love you so much!!!
Love you, Nikki!! You may not feel like you're providing changing or exciting 'content', but honestly, what you provide is so relatable! Makes me feel like I'm hanging out with a friend. 😊
Love you lady. It's all good. You moved to a new location. Vibe is totally different there. AND ITS PERFECTLY OK AND NORMAL. Im 40. I've gone through many phases in my life from social to wanting to be home alone and not go out. Personally I see it as a sign of growth and maturity. Allow the cycles of life...the ebb and flow from inward time, to outward time. You will come out again. I did too, then back to wanting to be alone and now feel like I am coming onto a more social time. Chill. Be where you are. Enjoy this phase.
I get how you feel as this is me on a daily basis. I've just learned to accept being introverted and make the best of it as it comes. I have my people, I see my people every now and again. Yes, this is a pretty cynical outlook but I trust no one until I feel like I can be at least "semi-vulnerable" around them which is like, never. Nikki, you're an old soul which you need to accept. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! Sometimes when you start to really wake up things start becoming mundane and dull.
Being a fellow pisces I know what you mean. Its like you want to be social, but staying home cuddling and just chilling with your boo and kitty is all you really want to do. I find if I do that too much though I get anxiety just thinking about leaving the house and having to be in public. Usually what I do to get my self out of that is ask one of my closest friends to accompany me. Thats easier than being in a group setting having to explain where you've been and why haven't you been out lately.
I feel the same way, but I'm such a home body. Every time I go out I ask myself why? and end up just wanting the night or event to end. Also, everyone usually always talks about the same stuff and it's really hard to find intellectual people to converse with lol. Don't know if that's your problem, but it sure is mine. I believe you're just mentally growing. Just do things that make you feel good Nikki, that's all that matters in the end. Xoxo💛🍍
The last 1/4 of this Vlog is what makes you the open, honest, self-were, spectacular human on the Internet. You were just adjusting to the fact that you weren't used too much love, didn't feel you were fully worthy of all the praise and adulation. But you've adjusted. You have nothing to "live up to" but being yourself. You did it. And plus. Always being up is fucking exhausting. It drains me too. You're Perf.🦋🌼🌤🍍🍷
Dude ... you're so relatable. I'm such a home body and I'm 23 so it's not a getting old thing. Regardless if you go out and do adventurous things I'll still watch your videos!
That was the most quintessential Nikki outro of life!! Too cute and too funny. As for the whole socializing thing, I feel like you're just part of the Anti-Social Social Club rn and that's alright! Personally I've been feeling the same way and just been a potato alone a lot. HOWEVER, to get myself out and about, I try to pick and choose events or hangouts and get all glammed up or whatever I need to do so that I'm happy even if it is a bust. And if the event is fun, stay and have fun but if it's not after fifteen minutes and you really don't wanna be there, bail and get a movie and chill. I think it's really about knowing yourself and knowing what you're comfortable with. ALSO, I'm from a place that has live music in some of the pubs downtown, or has a stand up open mic thing once a month so it's definitely good to try out things like that. It gets you out and about and you don't necessarily have to socialize but you'll be with people and it's like you're all a part of something together. You know? It makes me feel less alone for sure. I hope that helps. Love ya!
I am a pediatric ER nurse and I give so much of my enthusiasm and life to my work. When I get home I need to be selfish of myself and spend some time being a hermit. Recollecting your spirit is a way to come back to normal. I think with as much as you give to your twitter, TH-cam, and instagram following... it's important to be selfish with your "alone" time. If it's something that you see is an issue, take on small bits at a time and do not over-do it. You do so much, and I know that I look forward to your content regardless. Thank you. Also- I love the PDS too! 😌
We love that you keep it real and arent pretending you have this perfect life but that you have the same struggles that we all do. Not everyone is a social butterfly all the time and sometimes we have to force ourselves but i think its great to set those goals. I would recommend just saying yes more rather than talking yourself out of it. I know if i commit to saying yes i wont make an excuse to myself or others.
I love Philip DeFranco too! I'm currently a stay at home mom, I'm totally in that time. I hate going out sometimes because getting them together is frustrating and getting myself presentable is difficult.
Nikki I think that feeling is older age and maturity. I use to go out and socialize all the time in my early 20s. Now that I'm about to turn 30 I find myself enjoying alone time more and small group hangouts at each others homes. You just cherish your time more as your older and are picky about what you want to do with it! Enjoy yourself!
Girl I didn't realize you watched Philip Defranco too! And I totally feel you with the home-body situation. Sometimes it's good to just have some alone time though!
its not that you are sad or being weird!!! I promise my husband goes through this too, its just that you don't really want to entertain people or just that you like your own company. its normal! I go through it too but again I work for a company so I'm around people all day long, so I treasure my alone time. (Gym, reading, just watching YT or Insta Stories) you just like your own company sometimes better then having to either hear someone complain about something or being around other people. ITS NORMAL!!!!! Love you tons!!!!
Ugh! I totally get it. The older I get, the more I just enjoy being home. Socializing doesn't have to be anything crazy like a party or clubbing, just going out for the day with a couple friends is sometimes all it takes to get back "in." I'm in OC so I'm semi familiar with the area you're dealing with. It feels like there are so many things to do it's overwhelming and you don't know where to start. Plus, everything that's worth doing...everyone else wants to do too and there's a million people! :) A couple suggestions I have are 1) Griffith Observatory for the sunrise or sunset 2) the Farmer's Market at The Grove 3) Anaheim Packing District 4) Bear Coast Coffee in San Clemente (totally worth the drive, and the Rainbow Sandals Factory is near there as well). :)
Everybody goes through those phases! We are constantly changing and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm at home everyday too and I even work out here lol. Antisocial's where ya at 😂
I'm the same in terms of not wanting to socialize, not that I'm sad or depressed I just find others steal energy away from me. When I'm alone I have positive energy. That introvert lifestyle!
Nothing wrong with not going out. Do you and keep it real. Don't be anyone else. People follow you because you are true to you. Your living this life nobody else it.❤
I'm the same at the moment. It's extra hard because I had my appendix taken out and a umbillical hernia repaired a month ago so I can't even go to the gym for another two weeks. I've been forcing myself out once a week to see a friend. I totally feel you though going out feels almost painful I have to force myself to do it. But I love being at home... I really do.
Nikki Blackketter awe thanks Nikki! When I was in the hospital and they told me what it was I remembered your video and watched it. I was very grateful you made those videos bc I was so scared. But I have to say, I have had two kids and the appendix/ hernia repair was by far the worst recovery I've ever went through. Thanks for keeping your channel real, I really appreciate it. Seems like I'm going through all the same struggles as you it's nice to know I'm not alone.
I go through these phases often Nikki. It just is a part of getting older ! I feel sometimes stuck in an "age crisis" ( we are only a month apart in age ) where I have to always re evaluate my choices and if I really am truly happy with the way my life has panned out so far. I think it's normal , but I often wonder if anyone else feels that way too ! So don't feel alone in that. Sometimes you just need to be away from society to learn about yourself. Sometimes I delete Facebook for like 8 weeks and when I'm ready to go back , I will. But always do you Nikki , because you're a huge HUGE inspiration to me and I love your videos and you 😊❤️
Hey Nikki! I go through being a home-body all the time! And it's not something I used to go through pre-kids but now that I'm older I do like my own company and I'm choosy with who I'm social with and therefore who I give my attention to and what influences or circles I'm in and around. I have totally embraced it as if it is something that feels authentic then give it what it needs and when your ready to go out you will. Be you! Do what comes natural to you. Love you!!!
I have read other people and even articles that empaths are usually the ones who don't much care for loud places and too many people because the energy is just so much to absorb. I agree wholeheartedly when it comes to me. Im down for concerts etc but it does depend on the energy I'm around. I basically won't put myself through anything I'm not into...ok I know I keep coming back but this shit is so me. I would've loved philosophising about it with you with that lovely wine. I'm an intimate get together type person. I love beanbag hangs. Dinner and drinks with my closest. Outdoorsy lights in the garden rug on the ground type shenanigans. And yes they are some ideas you can try xxx
Awesome! I have my dog on raw that I do myself at home. There's also premade raw cat food (Darwins) that do home deliveries, kind of like bite meals, where they do all the work and all you need to do is feed Max.
You're amazing! I'm so glad you shared feeling this way! I feel this way, way to much lol I just want to say I love how real and relatable you are! I've been really sick for years and had surgeries and you have motivated me to work in getting back in shape!! Thank you!! ❤️
I'm 28 and I do the same thing!!! People invite me out, and a lot of the time IF I do say yes, I dread it! But every time I force myself to go, I have fun! It still doesn't change my initial dread! I think a lot of it is taking comfy clothes off and putting real clothes and makeup on! It better be a big deal if I'm taking off my sports bra and putting on an underwire bra! Ya know?! 🤣
I'm the same way! I like to call myself a introverted extrovert. I like hanging out with people, but I also love to be alone or at home. If I have an event or plans made, sometimes it's exhausting for me for to get out and dedicate so much energy! Nothing wrong with it and I'm happy the way I am! :)
i am the same! i love being at home with my fur babies. i work all day and all i look forward to is coming home and watching tv and being alone haha. maybe were all weird!
Girl I think you are entertaining just the way you are! It's actually refreshing to watch someone whose life looks similar to mine. If you want to be more social than do it, however if staying home makes you happy do that! Don't worry about content that is exciting because you are already exciting. I just don't want you to go down the stressful path a lot of vloggers go down. They get so stressed every day and can't really live life because they are worried about pleasing their audience. You do you girl and we will still be here!
We all have an introvert inside of us, some more than others and as we get older the way we desire to connect with others changes. For me going out with more than one or two close friends turns me off, I literally have to prepare mentally and emotionally and I know that after its over I'm going to need some alone time to decompress and get my balance again. Its exhausting having to be 'on" and puts me way out of my comfort zone. That being said you can get to comfortable with your own company, so going out to low key things a couple of times a week is good. I suggest taking a class in a subject you really want to learn about "creative writing, painting, cooking "maybe, you'll be able to meet new people in a new environment and learn new things about yourself. Life is about moving forward. Good luck to you sweet girl and God Bless.
I feel the same all the time! Maybe you were burnt out or being smothered a bit, but you don't want to admit that cause it would hurt someone's feelings??! Being a nurse I often, almost daily, am mentally/emotionally spent and I refuse to feel bad or guilty for wanting to stay home and do nothing. I used to beat myself up about it but it only made me feel worse, not motivate me. It's ok we all go thru lows and I'm sure you'll be back to your normal, happy you before you know it. Lots of ❤️ from Cleveland 😘💋❌⭕️❌⭕️
Amen! Nurse life makes having a wine and netflix binge night the most exciting thing ever. I dream about being on my couch with my blanket when I am spending hours on my feet on the floor. No shame here! Not many can understand it though when those calls and texts come through to do something.
I feel like periods of social anxiety or just wanting to have more time to yourself is super normal. I just graduated from college and I lived there all 4 years and was around people 24/7, like no break no alone time no privacy, it was all social stimulation all the time. I've been out for 3 months and tbh I haven't really spent that much time with people other than my family that I live with. It's okay to spend more time independently! It's kinda similar because you're in a highly populated city/in an apartment building where hundreds of other people live. Even w/o interacting you are literally in very close proximity to people all the time and that can be kinda exhausting. It's a wonderful asset to have that you are able to be super independent; just when we go through periods of introversion we have to make more of a conscious effort to either reach out to our friends and let them know this or just kind of quiet our anxieties as much as possible and get outside of the comfort zone. If that makes sense......just know there's nothing wrong with you!! Lol
Primal raw cat food! One of my cats suffered from constant asthma, urinary tract infections, and obesity. Once we made the switch, all of his problems went away! I HIGHLY suggest you try it!
We're all on the same boat Nikki! You're not alone. I'm also that way. I don't like socializing either lol I like to go out sometimes but I would much rather be home spending time with the people I love. I already have the love of my life, my family and good friends. I don't even feel the need to socialize outside my circle. I'm happy, and I'm happy to see you happy!
Don't feel guilty about isolating yourself from the world sometimes. Society can be overwhelming. The fact that you're giving yourself time for yourself is good! You need time alone just as much as you need to be social. So the fact that this feels new to you says you haven't really had much "you" time in a while. DIGRESS GIRL!!
lol yassss digress haha
Nikki Blackketter I'm the same way and have been for a whole year now! I thought it was crazy to but I love to just be home ! No one to have to empress! ❤️🖤
"I don't feel sad. I just feel like I like my alone space." I've been watching your videos on and off for a few months now, but that made me subscribe! I relate to it so much. I don't have a lot of friends, but I do like going out and being social sometimes. However, sometimes I just prefer to be alone. I don't know why so many people think that's a bad thing...
I like being alone most of the time, as well. I have social anxiety. Hate crowds, and loud places. And it has nothing to do with age...I've always been like that. It's a good sign you enjoy time to yourself.
"I have a mental issue that cripples me. Better give into it and be lonely instead of growing some balls and actively trying to fix the anxiety so I can be less lonely and be more free in social situations."
I had social anxiety and I overcame it by just going out there. I regret nothing and I can assure you it's way better being not having this crippling mental issue.
It's not weird. I'm the same. I prefer to be alone than socialise with big crowds of people. I've been this way since the age of 18 haha. And that usually the age of going out and all that.
I'm such a homebody. No shame 😊
i lovee staying home lool
I had the same phase when I moved away from family and to another state. I think you move to a new city and sometimes it makes you feel like you need to protect yourself and I don't know why, but it makes you want to have a small space that is just yours. Went through the same thing. It gets better! Challenge is growth 💁🏻💪🏼
Me too! 18-23 I barely went out
Don't fight the fact that you're leaning towards staying home more. Listen to yourself, maybe it's a sign that there is something for you to learn❤️ I'm going through it right now and I've been embracing it by buying a bunch of books and learning. Love you Nikki!
Honestly, its because you've grown a lot the past year and you've really built a better relationship with yourself, when we are challenged in life the one's who really care for us are the one's still by your side, the the crowd goes away and the "party" has died down, and all who's left are your real friends. We mature and find pleasure in quiet moments and simple organic conversations. The things we want in life change. Its a strange yet beautiful part of life. ❤
You are so genuine, not many fitness girls record without make up on, you are the real deal!
Oh Nikki you may feel old but you are young! I'm old! I'm 64 years old and I watch your vlogs because it makes me feel young trying some of your work outs! Plus Miles gets my hormones working that I thought were long gone! Lol.
Literally yelled "yay Nikki!" out loud when I got the notification and my two year old daughter says "yay let's watch Nikki work her muscles mommy!" That's my girl! 😂
OMG, i looooove it!!!!!
Introverts Unite!
Separately...In their own homes.
lol
That's awesome lol 😂
LOL
Nikki Blackketter yasss
Aw Nikki, I feel this so hard (the last bit where you talk about wanting to be more adventurous but also just kind of MEH about it). I struggle with that too. It's really not like I dislike people or doing things but the older I get the more I have a tendency to view it as same old song and dance and it's just hard to be motivated to participate. THAT said, every time I do push myself to accept invitations to try new things or hang out with other people, I NEVER regret it. I always have fun and I'm like wtf, why didn't I do this earlier?! SO I'm really excited that you are going to try some new things and vlog about it! Don't forget the dance classes pleaseeee, I so want to see you and Miles tear up the dance floor!!
And wow, yes, you are SO close to 600k!! you totally should celebrate by doing a giveaway (and setting up a PO box ;)
I am Always shut off..as we get older, friending becomes less easy
I like watching you...whatever you do...so feel yourself pretty lady and do you 👍🏻😘
Dr Dray Omg Dr Dray I can't believe you watch Nikki 😍😍😍😍
I found that for a while and then I decided to really truly embrace myself and life and friends just started rolling in.
I spent about six months in the "I DO NOT want to people today" stage. I spent a lot of time at home with my dog, and going to the gym with Beats headphones on full blast so no one would try to talk to me LOL, but it honestly helped me find myself. I went through something really hard last year so idk, I guess that helped me in a way. I always had friends inviting me to go out and do things but nothing seemed as fun as sitting on the couch with my dog all night watching Netflix shows and movies. I grew out of that stage though thanks to my amazing friends and family, now I am the happiest I have ever been. So don't feel guilty for being a home body! its good for the soul haha. I Love you and the content you put out there, you're a REAL person so please don't change and try to be like every other TH-camr out there! Keep doing you girl!!
I am the EXACT same way...I don't like this about myself but I know that if I really wanted to go out and make new friends I would. So I am just accepting this way that I am for now and letting things go and doing the things I actually want to do.
I think it gets harder for us to make new friends as we get older because we get pickier and pickier about who we like, and we can pick things out about people from an early stage that cause us to not have any interest in furthering the relationship. I am in that situation now, and I don't know any solutions but I know that things happen for a reason so now I'm just hoping and praying and waiting for the next amazing group of friends to come into my life, and I know you will find that too!
Anyway, love the videos and you are always entertaining on your own no matter what! I love the cosmetic treatment videos, and I love watching your apartment its so nice :) Your GOT reviews also got me into watching it, so now I am on Season 3 and I started watching about 3 weeks ago, I'm addicted!!
I am the same in regards to being anti social! Picking my dog, cozy home, and Netflix always sound better than socializing lol and like you said I'm not sad or lonely, just my preference 👍🏼
From a dentist who loves fitness, I love that you spent so much time talking about your new toothbrush 😍
I am always counting down the minutes till I can be home when I'm out and about. My home is a sanctuary for me and it's my favorite place to be. Nothing wrong with that but.... If I say I'll go to a party or social event I do not allow myself to back out of it. I don't want to be known as flaky. And nine times out of ten I'm glad I went.
I do this too. Exactly this.
Im the exact same! Sometimes a struggle to get there but always happy i went!
Andrea Martinez haha love it! Introverts unite! I think it just comes down to that. Either you are an introvert or extrovert and that's who you are and enjoy being. ❤️. That's good you don't back out. I try not to make plans now because I always want to back out so now I prefer to doing things last minute if I feel like it although that doesn't happen much either. But your right it usually does end up being a great time when I do it!
Me too!
Hi Nikki! I completely understand how you feel because there's so many days where I feel the same way and get frustrated with myself because I see other people doing things and going out but with my busy schedule it makes me more appreciative of my alone time and sometimes I chose to just focus on myself and relax. I learned to love it because I feel that having alone time with yourself is almost as important as going out and should be a balance. So keep doing you girl and don't worry too much about the rest of the world💓
I totally understand what you're saying about not socializing. I'm pretty introverted so I go through ruts where I don't like having to endure small talk/being social. I feel like it's so much effort nowadays!
Hey my girl,
As we get older, illusions of immortality vanish. There is a mortgage that needs to be paid, a home that must be maintained, and children or a cat to be cared for. The older we get, the more we want to hang on to what we've already got-the things we've worked so hard to achieve. We also have more experience with pain and loss, having been knocked around a bit by life, and having learned a few lessons the hard way. So If you find that your life has become more about pursuing peace and relaxation than giddy excitement, rest assured that you aren't missing out on happiness. Your happiness has evolved, just as you have.
Love you my little🍍!
wow this is just wow. thank you
Victoria Zarate welcome 😉
beautifully said
Soledad arrieta right? Thank you! 🙏🏻
Lia Nunez I totally agree!
No power here in Puerto Rico after hurricane Irma, but when Nikki uploads you have to use the battery you have left on your phone to watch the vlog! Priorities! Lol 🇵🇷❤🍍
Hope your okay! Stay safe!
Moni_Kiki
Hang in there! Bracing in FL now, trusting God to keep us safe. xo
Melissa Borden Thank you so much for your kindness 🙏❤
Brandy Ferreira Praying for you and FL! Please be safe and know our whole island is praying for you all 🙏❤
Hope you, your friends and family can stay safe!
You're so not alone with how you feel Nikki and these comments show that. I'm going through the same thing right now & for me it's just bc I have so much going on in my head & am going through a bit of a transition in life & the thought of going out with other people is just too much right now. I'm already overwhelmed in my head & sometimes other people can make it worse especially if they're not going through anything similar. It can be tough. But you just have to listen to yourself & do what feels right.
Loving all the veg meals! You mah girl 😘 and I get that home body feeling all the time, I'm an introvert and I need time to recharge after being social. Some people get charged from social events others get charged from being alone. It's just a personality type. Everything is all good!
I 100% felt this way while away at college and I couldn't understand why. Even though I had friends at school, I had lots of people to hangout with and things to do, I would rather stay home and clean my apartment (and I am no neat freak by ANY means) and I thought to myself "wow this is sad, I would rather do dishes than go socialize" BUT when I went back to my home town for holidays and was surrounded by some of my BEST friends I realized- omg I am having so much fun, let's go out and let's do stuff!!
So moral of the story; when I wasn't incredibly thrilled with the people that would be at these social events (not that I didn't like them, I liked these people!!) I realized I didn't enjoy being out as much. So grab some of your best friends, and do your favorite things and thennnn see how you feel about social events 😊
Can always tell you're a good pet owner by seeing the little clips of you two. ❤️
I've struggled with social anxiety for a while now. Ive learned that even if you feel uncomfortable you have to put yourself out there. Start small and it'll feel better. Even just grabbing coffee or a light lunch with some friends. love your videos! xoxo
I took some time off going out, catching up with friends/family. It was nice but now I have so much social anxiety.
I literally had a huge panic attack when I ran into an Instagram friend in the city. I was fine then the next minute my whole face was twitching and I felt like I was dying 😂 funny now haha.
I've been such a homebody and my poor vlogs are getting less entertaining 😅
I decided yesterday that I'm going to get out of this funk & do fun things again 😊
As always, love you Nikki and I'm so glad to see your eating habits change 😍🌱
Nikki, we accept you as you are no matter what 💗 I know how you feel. I suffer from anxiety so bad. I never wanna leave home, I don't have friends which sucks😢 so I spend most of my time at home alone because of social anxiety. You are not alone, the fact that you're brain storming ways to get past this is motivating me to wanna get out and do more things. I'm glad you open up to us about things like this. WE LOVE YOU 🍍💓
You're preaching to the choir!!! 🙌🙌 I think social media likes to mind fuck us and make us think that we need to have 300+friends, be dolled up 24/7, be at the gym all day every day, always be upbeat . Then there comes Nikki, relatable AF. Thank you for being you!❤
Awww we are your children❤️, you always motivate us to do better than our very best. Keep up the great work Nikki! Anxiety sucks so much, but always remember you always have your family, Miles, Jazmine, and Max there for you. :)
Hey sunshine I am so glad you're trying some plant-based foods :) I think you'll really benefit from it!
Honestly Nikki my favorite vlogs of yours are this kind you've been doing recently. I do enjoy the type of videos you did for Wildcard Wednesday as well but I'm just as happy watch a vlog of you hanging out at home cooking and working out.
I have been following you for freaking years. I never get sick of you. It's mainly because I think a lot like you and its just nice to always have that person you can relate to.
Your situation currently hits close to home for me. I went through the same or similar anti social feelings for the past few years. There were only a few "safe people" to hang with and a few "safe places" to go. It started out kind of like you and then it became worse, to the point where I would have panic attacks. It got ugly.
I went to therapy and got to the bottom of what the hell is going and. I found my triggers and figured out how to better balance my life for myself to not get in the place again.
The longer you stay in this state the harder it is to get out of it.
I can only imagine how expensive therapy would be out there in California but honestly, if you haven't ever done it, it's the best thing you can do. Especially in your line of work, can't imagine what you're mental health gets put through.
People think they have to be in a dire state to need to go to therapy. But do you wait to have cancer to go to a doctor or do you go and check up on symptoms? Therapy, with the right one that fits you, is so healing for the wounds and pains we cannot see but they often are the most damaging.
Sorry for the novel. But consider it.
Love your face! Hang in there girl.
Nikki I've felt the same way before about socializing! It just feels exhausting sometimes. Enjoy the alone time cuz eventually you'll be going out more often and having a blast again! There's a time for everything ☺️
I think sometimes we get caught up in social media, hanging out and being around people all the time in general and it's exhausting and you just may need a break. It doesn't mean your not social, or old 😒 just need some time to yourself. So enjoy it, be happy and keep on making awesome videos!
Nikki I like how you not afraid or care what ppl say about you not wearing makeup all the time. You look jus as beautiful with or without makeup.
It happens.Your priorities and interest are changing . Instead of clubs or big social events maybe just go out for a hike or go to museums etc...
I have a constant struggle against social anxiety to force myself to socialize with other humans. There's nothing wrong with having a lot of alone time! Don't be too hard on yourself just do something that looks fun with the people you are comfortable with to get yourself out there again.
Please do something like a 22 day challenge of workout at home on TH-cam or something like that maybe a week or two if you can't do something for that long. Also two months of plant base and -15lb !! I have tried several of your workouts but at home. I just need something to get started to really workout at home.
I've been introverted my entire life and have always felt that way. It can be annoying at times. But just know it passes. It comes and it goes. Don't stay stuck on it. Just get yourself on a good routine that makes you feel good and stay consistent with it. Waking up and going to bed at the same time, staying organized, getting yourself together, get a morning routine down that suits you, do it everyday. Then you will naturally perk up. And lastly, just allow yourself to feel that way in that process until you move out of it. Its all good. On a side note, your skin looks so glowy and fresh from the treatment, I'm jelly.
Nikki, you def have become one of my top favorite TH-camrs! You have great charisma & are as down to earth as it gets. Just like you, I have my days where I need time away from the rest of the world.. nice to know I'm not the only one!
Nikki I am 100% going through that phase in my life right now. i will make myself go out every so often just because i know that i should but i normally just come home from work work out and play with my dogs. i have found this to be beneficial because i have really been able to focus on my goals fitness and health wise as ergo as set up new financial plans for myself to be on track to buy a house. i have just embraced my antisocial behavior to help better my life
Nikki! You're seriously the best 😆 Your personality is so refreshing and hilarious. You could seriously record a 100 meal prep/ booty videos and not be boring. Don't feel bad about being anxious and wanting to be at home. It's normal and some people just need to recharge. Listen your intuition and stay home if you want to stay home. Go out when you feel like going out. It's all good!! Such a big fan girl 🙋🍍😄 #youdoyouboo
Do what makes you feel comfortable. Its your life and your mind and body, don't let others decide what is good for you.
The homebody phase could be reminisce of depression? I went through something a couple years ago and fell in depression. It lingered for about two years. Now that i've helped myself past it i noticed im still not as socialable as I once was. For me it was seeing myself go through something so difficult in my life and realized who really cared about me. Now that i'm older I can see why people always say quality over quantity. Depression or not, getting out of the house and doing something out of your comfort zone is good for all of us. And the outro! LMAO! Yass girl, Dats all YOU!
You are not alone with the anxious feeling. I am confident everyone goes through times like that. Currently just chillin at home alone sounds way more appealing than going out. Dont stress it babe, do what makes you happy. Not what you THINK you should be doing. Xoxo💘
How about a vlog driving up the Pacific coast highway to San Francisco? ❤️ Traveling always fills my soul and gets me out of a rut. It would be fun to do solo or with peeps.
oooh yea that sounds therapeutic.
I think for some people it's very natural to want/need your "alone time." I don't think there's anything wrong with it as long as you still feel good about life and you're happy. This past year I have made more of an effort to keep my relationships tight and always be there for the people who I love and value. Other than that, I don't pressure myself to do things I don't want to do. Life's too short. So keep doing you, Nikki. xx
Seriously love and appreciate how honest and real you are. ❤️
You've showcased your life in front of thousands of people for quite a while now, you haven't been able to have real alone time, and because of that I think at some point this is bound to happen. People can fake happiness/positivity all they want but it's okay to be sad, it's okay to not want to be around others.. we're all human and taking care of yourself is most important. Do a Harry Potter marathon or something lol and of course a little bit of wine can be nice😌 btw, funny ending to the vlog, I loved it!💕
Hooray! Been patiently waiting for a new video :)
Hey Nikki! I totally get where you're coming from. As I've gotten older, and I've gotten to work in the mental health field, I've realized a lot things that the clients I see going through, are things that I've also gone through or am currently going through. Social anxiety is one of them. I'm not one for labels, but being anxious about social situations is much more common than you think. Sometimes it's hard for me to step into a place I'm unfamiliar with and with people who I don't know. Knowing that I'm going to have interactions with people is so overwhelming. The thought of having to push myself to do that is so annoying because I just want to be one of those bubbly outgoing people in all social situations. I had realized though that it's possible to not let it control you, and the list you made is an awesome way of pushing yourself out of the comfort of your home. It's easy to stay home, but difficult to put yourself in these situations and I think it's really amazing that you can be honest about that. You're connecting with more people than you could imagine, so thank you for always being real and being someone I look up to. Love you!!
Yo Nikki I understand how you feel. My suggestion would be to start small Im sure Miles and Jazmine and the your rest friends will be down for something different in your daily routines. Maybe you can set up a day each week that you try something new or go to a different place! Hell even going on a different gym sometimes does it :P
I have social anxiety. Even though I'm very outgoing I freak out at the idea of having to socialize and meet people and get ready. It's okay to feel like that but it's also good to force yourself outside sometimes
Going to a different gym definitely does it!
Hang in there Nikki..being alone and taking time to yourself isn't always a bad thing.
Song is: "Bout a Thing"
Panagiotis Rafail that's a great idea to try something new every week. I might start that myself! 😉
nice go ahead!!
I've been going through that phase for a few months. I've been social but I've just enjoyed alone time. Honestly, I would listen to what you want, if you wanna be alone then be alone. LA can be an exhausting city between driving everywhere, etc sometimes it's nice to just chill out xo
Girl. I hope your not reading those gossip sights. If your feeling this way on your own then that's fine but just don't let people who have nothing better to do make you think you have to change. We all go through stages. I am a PARTICULARLY huge homebody myself. I love being at home and there are times I would sit in the house for a week. Not for any other reason than I just like to be home. And then there are other times I can't wait to go somewhere, so, I think we all go through it from time to time. But I do think you will have fun exploring LA and taking part in all the fun things they have to offer! Just do it for you and because you want to! Not because of anyone else. Love you so much!!!
Love you, Nikki!! You may not feel like you're providing changing or exciting 'content', but honestly, what you provide is so relatable! Makes me feel like I'm hanging out with a friend. 😊
I was having NikkiB withdrawals lol. You just made my day ily💛🍍
Love you lady. It's all good. You moved to a new location. Vibe is totally different there. AND ITS PERFECTLY OK AND NORMAL. Im 40. I've gone through many phases in my life from social to wanting to be home alone and not go out. Personally I see it as a sign of growth and maturity. Allow the cycles of life...the ebb and flow from inward time, to outward time. You will come out again. I did too, then back to wanting to be alone and now feel like I am coming onto a more social time. Chill. Be where you are. Enjoy this phase.
Team beans gains checking in. Loving the diet variances on your channel 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Ps: that treatment is doing glorious things to you skin😙😙😙
I know I can't speak for everyone, but I don't get tired of the same selfie every day on your Instagram. It's just as motivating every time
"He's been in Hollywood to long " 😂
I get how you feel as this is me on a daily basis. I've just learned to accept being introverted and make the best of it as it comes. I have my people, I see my people every now and again. Yes, this is a pretty cynical outlook but I trust no one until I feel like I can be at least "semi-vulnerable" around them which is like, never. Nikki, you're an old soul which you need to accept. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you! Sometimes when you start to really wake up things start becoming mundane and dull.
Highlight of my evening here in the UK!
Being a fellow pisces I know what you mean. Its like you want to be social, but staying home cuddling and just chilling with your boo and kitty is all you really want to do. I find if I do that too much though I get anxiety just thinking about leaving the house and having to be in public. Usually what I do to get my self out of that is ask one of my closest friends to accompany me. Thats easier than being in a group setting having to explain where you've been and why haven't you been out lately.
I feel the same way, but I'm such a home body. Every time I go out I ask myself why? and end up just wanting the night or event to end. Also, everyone usually always talks about the same stuff and it's really hard to find intellectual people to converse with lol. Don't know if that's your problem, but it sure is mine. I believe you're just mentally growing. Just do things that make you feel good Nikki, that's all that matters in the end.
Xoxo💛🍍
The last 1/4 of this Vlog is what makes you the open, honest, self-were, spectacular human on the Internet. You were just adjusting to the fact that you weren't used too much love, didn't feel you were fully worthy of all the praise and adulation. But you've adjusted. You have nothing to "live up to" but being yourself. You did it. And plus. Always being up is fucking exhausting. It drains me too. You're Perf.🦋🌼🌤🍍🍷
Girl... I know what you mean!! I'm old thooo 35! 😱😱 I just feel like staying home and watching tv. Don't force anything! Just do you girlie! 😘😘😘
romitasx lol you arent old!!
Dude ... you're so relatable. I'm such a home body and I'm 23 so it's not a getting old thing. Regardless if you go out and do adventurous things I'll still watch your videos!
That was the most quintessential Nikki outro of life!! Too cute and too funny. As for the whole socializing thing, I feel like you're just part of the Anti-Social Social Club rn and that's alright! Personally I've been feeling the same way and just been a potato alone a lot. HOWEVER, to get myself out and about, I try to pick and choose events or hangouts and get all glammed up or whatever I need to do so that I'm happy even if it is a bust. And if the event is fun, stay and have fun but if it's not after fifteen minutes and you really don't wanna be there, bail and get a movie and chill. I think it's really about knowing yourself and knowing what you're comfortable with. ALSO, I'm from a place that has live music in some of the pubs downtown, or has a stand up open mic thing once a month so it's definitely good to try out things like that. It gets you out and about and you don't necessarily have to socialize but you'll be with people and it's like you're all a part of something together. You know? It makes me feel less alone for sure. I hope that helps. Love ya!
oooh yea, good tips!! that's a good point. like half socializing lol
I am a pediatric ER nurse and I give so much of my enthusiasm and life to my work. When I get home I need to be selfish of myself and spend some time being a hermit. Recollecting your spirit is a way to come back to normal. I think with as much as you give to your twitter, TH-cam, and instagram following... it's important to be selfish with your "alone" time. If it's something that you see is an issue, take on small bits at a time and do not over-do it. You do so much, and I know that I look forward to your content regardless. Thank you.
Also- I love the PDS too! 😌
Your body is goals !!!! Wish I had gym motivation to attempt it 😅
We love that you keep it real and arent pretending you have this perfect life but that you have the same struggles that we all do. Not everyone is a social butterfly all the time and sometimes we have to force ourselves but i think its great to set those goals. I would recommend just saying yes more rather than talking yourself out of it. I know if i commit to saying yes i wont make an excuse to myself or others.
I love Philip DeFranco too! I'm currently a stay at home mom, I'm totally in that time. I hate going out sometimes because getting them together is frustrating and getting myself presentable is difficult.
Nikki I think that feeling is older age and maturity. I use to go out and socialize all the time in my early 20s. Now that I'm about to turn 30 I find myself enjoying alone time more and small group hangouts at each others homes. You just cherish your time more as your older and are picky about what you want to do with it! Enjoy yourself!
Girl I didn't realize you watched Philip Defranco too! And I totally feel you with the home-body situation. Sometimes it's good to just have some alone time though!
Explorium I was like omg I love philly D too 😭
its not that you are sad or being weird!!! I promise my husband goes through this too, its just that you don't really want to entertain people or just that you like your own company. its normal! I go through it too but again I work for a company so I'm around people all day long, so I treasure my alone time. (Gym, reading, just watching YT or Insta Stories) you just like your own company sometimes better then having to either hear someone complain about something or being around other people. ITS NORMAL!!!!! Love you tons!!!!
Drop what I'm doing and watch Nikki 🤗 motivation everyday ❤️
Ugh! I totally get it. The older I get, the more I just enjoy being home. Socializing doesn't have to be anything crazy like a party or clubbing, just going out for the day with a couple friends is sometimes all it takes to get back "in." I'm in OC so I'm semi familiar with the area you're dealing with. It feels like there are so many things to do it's overwhelming and you don't know where to start. Plus, everything that's worth doing...everyone else wants to do too and there's a million people! :) A couple suggestions I have are 1) Griffith Observatory for the sunrise or sunset 2) the Farmer's Market at The Grove 3) Anaheim Packing District 4) Bear Coast Coffee in San Clemente (totally worth the drive, and the Rainbow Sandals Factory is near there as well). :)
Everybody goes through those phases! We are constantly changing and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm at home everyday too and I even work out here lol. Antisocial's where ya at 😂
I'm the same in terms of not wanting to socialize, not that I'm sad or depressed I just find others steal energy away from me. When I'm alone I have positive energy.
That introvert lifestyle!
Nothing wrong with not going out. Do you and keep it real. Don't be anyone else. People follow you because you are true to you. Your living this life nobody else it.❤
No matter how popular you got along the way you always stayed so humble and relatable which is why I continue day after day to watch and follow you!!
I'm the same at the moment. It's extra hard because I had my appendix taken out and a umbillical hernia repaired a month ago so I can't even go to the gym for another two weeks. I've been forcing myself out once a week to see a friend. I totally feel you though going out feels almost painful I have to force myself to do it. But I love being at home... I really do.
#homebodyhearts
I hope you heal up soon!! So sorry you had to go through that, that's the worst!
Nikki Blackketter awe thanks Nikki! When I was in the hospital and they told me what it was I remembered your video and watched it. I was very grateful you made those videos bc I was so scared. But I have to say, I have had two kids and the appendix/ hernia repair was by far the worst recovery I've ever went through. Thanks for keeping your channel real, I really appreciate it. Seems like I'm going through all the same struggles as you it's nice to know I'm not alone.
I go through these phases often Nikki. It just is a part of getting older ! I feel sometimes stuck in an "age crisis" ( we are only a month apart in age ) where I have to always re evaluate my choices and if I really am truly happy with the way my life has panned out so far. I think it's normal , but I often wonder if anyone else feels that way too ! So don't feel alone in that. Sometimes you just need to be away from society to learn about yourself. Sometimes I delete Facebook for like 8 weeks and when I'm ready to go back , I will. But always do you Nikki , because you're a huge HUGE inspiration to me and I love your videos and you 😊❤️
Being a homebody is part of being a cat lover 😻
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Hey Nikki! I go through being a home-body all the time! And it's not something I used to go through pre-kids but now that I'm older I do like my own company and I'm choosy with who I'm social with and therefore who I give my attention to and what influences or circles I'm in and around. I have totally embraced it as if it is something that feels authentic then give it what it needs and when your ready to go out you will. Be you! Do what comes natural to you. Love you!!!
It does sound like what your being invited to is just not you. Do what you enjoy and more of that xx
I have read other people and even articles that empaths are usually the ones who don't much care for loud places and too many people because the energy is just so much to absorb. I agree wholeheartedly when it comes to me. Im down for concerts etc but it does depend on the energy I'm around. I basically won't put myself through anything I'm not into...ok I know I keep coming back but this shit is so me. I would've loved philosophising about it with you with that lovely wine. I'm an intimate get together type person. I love beanbag hangs. Dinner and drinks with my closest. Outdoorsy lights in the garden rug on the ground type shenanigans. And yes they are some ideas you can try xxx
Have you ever thought about switching Max's food to freeze dried/dehydrated such as Stella and Chewys?
yes, i'm trying freeze dried food next!! maybe even raw food, we'll see how it goes :D
Awesome! I have my dog on raw that I do myself at home. There's also premade raw cat food (Darwins) that do home deliveries, kind of like bite meals, where they do all the work and all you need to do is feed Max.
You're amazing! I'm so glad you shared feeling this way! I feel this way, way to much lol I just want to say I love how real and relatable you are! I've been really sick for years and had surgeries and you have motivated me to work in getting back in shape!! Thank you!! ❤️
I'm 28 and I do the same thing!!! People invite me out, and a lot of the time IF I do say yes, I dread it! But every time I force myself to go, I have fun! It still doesn't change my initial dread! I think a lot of it is taking comfy clothes off and putting real clothes and makeup on! It better be a big deal if I'm taking off my sports bra and putting on an underwire bra! Ya know?! 🤣
I'm the same way! I like to call myself a introverted extrovert. I like hanging out with people, but I also love to be alone or at home. If I have an event or plans made, sometimes it's exhausting for me for to get out and dedicate so much energy! Nothing wrong with it and I'm happy the way I am! :)
i am the same! i love being at home with my fur babies. i work all day and all i look forward to is coming home and watching tv and being alone haha. maybe were all weird!
Girl I think you are entertaining just the way you are! It's actually refreshing to watch someone whose life looks similar to mine. If you want to be more social than do it, however if staying home makes you happy do that! Don't worry about content that is exciting because you are already exciting. I just don't want you to go down the stressful path a lot of vloggers go down. They get so stressed every day and can't really live life because they are worried about pleasing their audience. You do you girl and we will still be here!
"he's been in Hollywood too long" Hahahaahaha, classic.
We all have an introvert inside of us, some more than others and as we get older the way we desire to connect with others changes. For me going out with more than one or two close friends turns me off, I literally have to prepare mentally and emotionally and I know that after its over I'm going to need some alone time to decompress and get my balance again. Its exhausting having to be 'on" and puts me way out of my comfort zone. That being said you can get to comfortable with your own company, so going out to low key things a couple of times a week is good. I suggest taking a class in a subject you really want to learn about "creative writing, painting, cooking "maybe, you'll be able to meet new people in a new environment and learn new things about yourself. Life is about moving forward. Good luck to you sweet girl and God Bless.
I feel the same all the time! Maybe you were burnt out or being smothered a bit, but you don't want to admit that cause it would hurt someone's feelings??! Being a nurse I often, almost daily, am mentally/emotionally spent and I refuse to feel bad or guilty for wanting to stay home and do nothing. I used to beat myself up about it but it only made me feel worse, not motivate me. It's ok we all go thru lows and I'm sure you'll be back to your normal, happy you before you know it. Lots of ❤️ from Cleveland 😘💋❌⭕️❌⭕️
Amen! Nurse life makes having a wine and netflix binge night the most exciting thing ever. I dream about being on my couch with my blanket when I am spending hours on my feet on the floor. No shame here! Not many can understand it though when those calls and texts come through to do something.
L0oLoo1 right! The couch is my favorite spot lol
I feel like periods of social anxiety or just wanting to have more time to yourself is super normal. I just graduated from college and I lived there all 4 years and was around people 24/7, like no break no alone time no privacy, it was all social stimulation all the time. I've been out for 3 months and tbh I haven't really spent that much time with people other than my family that I live with. It's okay to spend more time independently! It's kinda similar because you're in a highly populated city/in an apartment building where hundreds of other people live. Even w/o interacting you are literally in very close proximity to people all the time and that can be kinda exhausting. It's a wonderful asset to have that you are able to be super independent; just when we go through periods of introversion we have to make more of a conscious effort to either reach out to our friends and let them know this or just kind of quiet our anxieties as much as possible and get outside of the comfort zone. If that makes sense......just know there's nothing wrong with you!! Lol
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SO RELATABLE. Ive accepted that its okay to feel like that sometimes. You find the most peace within yourself.
Primal raw cat food! One of my cats suffered from constant asthma, urinary tract infections, and obesity. Once we made the switch, all of his problems went away! I HIGHLY suggest you try it!
We're all on the same boat Nikki! You're not alone. I'm also that way. I don't like socializing either lol I like to go out sometimes but I would much rather be home spending time with the people I love. I already have the love of my life, my family and good friends. I don't even feel the need to socialize outside my circle. I'm happy, and I'm happy to see you happy!