Alpha vs Beta Frame Control
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WRT to head trauma - there is an awesome Osteopath in Newmarket who specializes in helping people with concussions. Shauna Park at OA Physio.
Entrepreneurs in Cars I’m Soooo grateful to have discovered your channel. Thank you so much for what you do
May 2019 bring you everything you wish for
What do you mean frame? Physical frame or a metaphor for having control over ones life?
Also is it wrong that that man move in with his gf? Shouldn't it be the other way around? I've heard problems can come from the man making less than the woman. Wouldn't this be the same thing because she's mostly in charge.
same question
Women will take as much power in a relationship as you let them...
Badey Bushcraft 💪🏻
Which is why they should never have been allowed to vote.
Give’m an inch of control and they take 7 from the dude they’ll end up banging behind your back unless your slamming her good enough to where she’s not looking at other guys cuz you rendered her leg spreading abilities incapacitated 😂 lol
Why do you let them
People in general will do this
If you are not in control of your life, then someone else is.
Eric Von Wedel agree100%
Sometimes no one is in control
Word.
"If you do not have a dream, someone else will hire you in order to realize her or his dream. " 😂😝
Yikes, but yes.
"betatization by a thousand concessions" this is a powerful phrase
Yes, I was about to write the same phrase, I was wondering about that..I have seen it with my own eyes a few times in my life...how men especially the agreeable types, were changed by a woman into chihuahuas...little shit tests, nagging, day in day out year in and out, reduculizing men in public, in the end, with one of them, there was nothing left of him...she was an evil piece of work...
Agree
Right? I just wrote that down along with the link
I’ve learned from 2x previous long term relationships that this definitely happens - especially given I’m laid back and don’t care about most decisions eg I’ll happily eat any food etc. I’m not a “nice guy” and if anything I’m a bit of a dickhead but I respect bounderies and consent which gradually pushes you into a corner and it’s frustrating
Definitely something I’m gonna be more aware of going forwards - not that I plan to have a settle down type relationship going forwards tbf. I like it but 2 down now and both super similar despite them being complete opposites tells me some things are just built in to women (eg sexual drop off) and the only way for me to get the sexual relationship I want is to spread the bet and have a couple then switch them out when needed
6:12 "guys are masters at complicating their lives then trying to justify why they do it"
Gold, Richard.
Fellow men: it isn’t just betatization by a thousand concessions.. it is everything by a thousand concessions.. you don’t get fat over night it is a gradual shift over time. Same thing with building discipline. You can apply this mindset to all areas of your life. Rome wasn’t built in a day!
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"Betatization by a thousand concessions"......words to utter to yourself every day.
It's a negatives, makes it bad to focus on.
as an old guy I find it all too much trouble to bother with them now .
lobiedosser, as another old guy, I just wanted to say that I couldn't give you enough thumbs up!
I'm 52. never married,no children. and I couldn't agree more.
Its not worth the hassle. I'm 52, married, 3 kids grown up. If she goes i will help her pack and give money so I can be in peace. My mates reckon I won't get that lucky.
I Did not maintain frame in my last LTR which led to heartbreak but thankfully I got the red pill and now I am getting after it in life. Many thanks Rich! Plus 2019 is going to be unforgettable :)
Richard, I'm a young guy here (19) from the UK, been watching your videos for little over a year and I can honestly say that they have been pivotal to my development as a man. I've made better decisions, opened my eyes to the realities of women and life and pulled through many difficult situations with your videos and advice. One thing I would suggest is if you could have just a couple more videos relating more to the younger generation (as I'm sure your younger audience is growing almost daily) e.g. setting up finances for the future etc. Love to see some of that on there. But all of the content that you produce for free on youtube is really top quality stuff. Haven't found anyone else that produces content like this. Keep it up!
@@conorm2524 Perhaps, been considering it for some time now, definitely seems worth the money considering the great content that he already produces for free.
Just got 20. Your Videos/experience are gold for me, as I go foward in my life with a different mindset. Thank you Richard. Greetings from Germany.
No monk mode. Just focus on yourself and career and dont chase pussy. it wont make your 30s anybetter
Any relation to Kurt "Panzer" Meyer.
Write the narrative of your own life. You are the protagonist. Everything and everyone else should fall into place. - Regular note to self.
Why not just go your own way instead of engaging in rocket science in order to keep and maintain a relationship with a woman? Seems to me like if you have to always stay on your toes, she wasnt that good for you in the first place. Ideal women should be able to bring you peace too, not just chaos. Otherwise you are digging yourself an early grave for sex.
just dont bend over backwards for them, and remember what you want is just as important as they want, dont constantly make sacrifices, you'll need to do this with everyone in your life not just woman
ONI I appreciate the view of not wanting to settle, but in real life ALL relationships take work. It’s not a realistic view to say that it should be effortless and fun most of the time. If you realize how humans are we always have different perspectives on every nuance in communication and not to mention values. A common communication problem arises when one has a certain expectation that everyone should follow that protocol in response to a situation but not everyone will react the same way and that’s a majority of arguments among couples. Just keep track of these real life examples and you’ll see the pattern that it isn’t unique to just women it’s human nature but of course through women it will manifest in different ways but it will be the same conceptually.
No one should tolerate lying but to say a relationship won’t have its problems is foolish. You won’t come into a relationship with a realistic expectation and you’ll view them as a consumer. If woman A suits me then she is good for me until she isn’t and then it’s time to end the transaction relationship and move onto someone else. So I get that you want the best person for you out there just understand not to swing too wildly on the pendulum and understand humans are always going to have imperfections in relationships and how they deal with things the same as you and I.
Even the most happily married couples argue. The absence of arguments doesn’t show a healthy relationship it shows that one or both parties are indifferent in some aspect of the relationship like North Korea was towards South Korea in the ceasefire. Nothing is resolved but you say “technically” you aren’t fighting. Problems will always arise that is certain how you argue and deal with it will show you how healthy your relationship is.
I agree. I think the problem is lack of experience and knowledge or this. You need both. If you have all the knowledge but lack experience, your emotions will take hold of you. If you've gone through these situations before and you have the knowledge, you just have the experience to know how to mot even allow attachment to the girl. Emotions are weird like that. That's why it's important to just throw yourself out there.
@ONI ive never seen a happy marriage last. never
Tim Yang definitely agree. We’ve got to be realistic. All human beings argue even amongst the same gender.
There are some things as couples that you have to agree to disagree and forget about it so that you don’t waste time, energy and effort because you won’t get anywhere with arguing over it.
I like the feeling of balance in a relation. Let’s put it this way, you’ll never find someone who likes everything that you like, acts the way you like, does everything the way you like. The spontaneity in the relationship keeps it fun, interesting and intellectually stimulating. I can’t imagine myself just doing the things that I ‘currently’ like without discovering things that I hadn’t knew I liked.
To maintain successful LTR’s as a man you must:
1. Always lead the direction of the relationship to where you want it to go.
2. Always date and court your girlfriend/wife
3. Always pursue your purpose and mission life.
The order should be: Number 3 in the First place and so on.
I like the 80/20 percent effect I lead 80 percent of time with giving her the remainder 20.
Frame (when it comes to sexual relationships) is every thing. If you never had frame with the woman you’re with, it is likely you never will. It is only the small percent who suddenly become RP aware, establish frame and their wife hops on board. Most cases, in today’s society your wife will not bend or hand over the keys to the relationship if you do not already have it from the start. This is the harsh truth for most men. Establish it from the start and hold the line. No slack.
I'm 20 and just don't care to even deal with women.
Just shit test women, it's not that complicated at all
@ageofbogyo You cant have fun and be masculine tho
@ageofbogyo Framing battle is never fun, Its tiring and Push-Pull/Reward-Punish is also not fun.Destroying thier self-esteem while doing sexual-escarlation make me extremly depressed.The only fun part is SEX.
to be honest Im trying to turn myself gay because getting women is so fucking "TIRING".
they don't care
Well you shouldn’t consider a serious relationship until u are financially stable.
Dude, just found your channel. I’m 50 now and have gone through most of the mistakes that men make to achieve understanding of how to navigate the waters with females. It’s funny how many guys percentage wise, never will get to red pill enlightenment. I train young men and as a value added service, share this information with. It’s quite disheartening to see how every year, the beta level of these young guys is ramping up exponentially. Your channel is absolutely gold for any young man and will be referring it. Cheers
This is a very relatable video.
Thanks for the upload Rich 👍
Also never be "nice" to a chick they don't respect it no matter how much they claim they do.
@Barrier Boy There is a difference between being nice and being good.
Like it or not in modern parlance the word nice carries feminine connotations, whilst you certainly could debate all day the proper use of language that violates another rule: Women do not value intelligence; they only value the result of properly applied intelligence.
They usually mistake kindness for weakness.
Then they will test the hell out of you see how far they can get
Just a quick life glance : if you always maintain frame, you won't have long term relationships, but you will have women. If you're not into having children, like I am, then that's fine.
Why is it that you won't have long-term relationships ? It may be harder to do and an uphill battle, but you can get there in the end.
@@thanasisk Have you even heard phrases like "you have to sacrifice to make it work" or "you have to work through hard times in relationships"? well, from my point of view, relationships should not bring trouble or a source of stress into my life.. that comment you replied to was left 3years ago.. now, I rarely entertain the idea of even short term relationships as I have better things to do.. I am not saying that this is the right way or that everyone should do as I do, but this works best for me.. Cheers!
@@victorashul I appreciate the answer and your point of view, thanks for taking the time !
I very often struggle with this myself. I don't lack confidence, but I lack a lot of clarity, and very often lose because of this.
Thank you very much for the video, sir. I definitely needed to reflect on this as a young man in training. Hope you have a great New Year's!
Nofap brother!
@@tastaru Yeah, I might actually need to start doing NoFap. I haven't seriously tried it, maybe I should. Thanks!
You have a fantastic voice/vocal tone!
Great video boss thank you!
Happy New Year Richard .
This is me, even the head injuries (mine from sports) this best bit of advice I've heard 👌
Thanks Rich! Great video.
Glad to see ads running on your video/videos finally... and its here in Sweden.
Kheer Haliewa skaffa bättre glasögon
Drágoz 1994 nästa livet... kanske
Greetings from Belgium🇧🇪
The Swedish secret police might want a word with you
COOP, ~7:30 that is agree and amplify. Maybe the smirk and walk away and knowing that she is testing you is part of amused mastery but the main part is A & A.
Great Video, Thanks
Hey Richard. I'd love an episode on Red Pill parenting. I have a Daughter just like yourself.
We are doing them on the Red Man Group TH-cam channel, there is one there from the last week.
Thank you. I'll look it up.
I agree with everything Richard pointed out, but it seems too hard and stressful not to be who you really are all the time just to get some sex. Can’t wait for sex robots to improve.
If sex robots succeed they will have to be able to get pregnant and have children. Otherwise the human race will cease to exist. Wouldn't that be wonderful. No alimony no child support no withholding sex. No growing old and hitting the wall. Would also be cool if they had interchangeable heads so that you could always dump one head and put on another head to keep life spiced up.
It isn’t stressful if you BECOME that man. That’s the point. And conveniently, that man is the man all men want to be and all women want to be with.
Sex is not free. If I have to pay 50/50, I much rather stay single than to be his maid. If you can’t provide, get a prostitute. 😈
I can totally relate to the massive course correction and coming off as an a****** part. Maybe I need to get your T-shirt...... relentless!
When a woman uses the word "sweet" to describe you, you are definitely on the wrong track. That also means she has little respect for you...FIX IT.
Great Video Richard
Best wishes to You and your close ones in 2019!
Hey Richard going through some stuff right now but just for the record you're my mentor I like you the way you express yourself and motivate others aware now I would love to meet you one day and say I am very appreciated I'm becoming a better man.
Also working on myself tour success.
Wow, people really put themselves into that much stress just to get laid? I would rather be alone and stress free than surrounded by "pets" I continually have to train.
if you enjoy what you do , you’ll never work a day in your life
Bruhhhhhhh you helped me reconnect with my masculine frame thankyou for your videos.
Just got the tactical soap 6 pack. Stoked to see if youre backing a solid product.
Also just checked out, subbed to, and bought the book by Dr. Shawn T Smith. Thanks for recommending him. I'm putting you both in my Jordan Peterson focused rotation
I was dumb enough to ask my ex where she wanted to go out to eat, what we should order etc. 🤦🏻♂️
Happy New year to all
Wow, I didn't remember writing this email. Thanks for the answer.
You have to have standards. You get what you tolerate. There comes a time when the Juice isn't worth the squeeze. That should be your indicator to bail. Be civil but don't be someones utility.
Thanks for the line at 5:25 I'll be sure to use it in the future. It seems like such an obvious/normal thing to say, but yet it would likely not cross my mind. In fact, when I heard that scenario I thought it would be best to openly and directly disagree with the girl (concerning the Korean food) and go to neither the Bistro nor the Korean place.
Started watch you in 2018...you have good advice
Just woke up, I have started bailing water out and rowing the boat myself again
Its literally like Ive been in a coma for years and just woke up
Had no idea of Richard Cooper until about a month ago. Since then I have watched many videos and have applied a lot if learned to my life. I have noticed a lot of the today’s women change.
I am 49 yrs old and have learned the hard way. Someone is going to control your life or attempt to. It’s either going to be You or someone else.
8:25 That's their factory settings.
Guys you can change your body. I use to weigh 142 now I weigh 204 and jacked it takes hard work and time. Your mentality will change and your confidence will skyrocket. Your testosterone will shoot through the roof. Girls will chase you. Just trying to help my fellow white men. Now when i walk into a room I own that fucker!!!
How many years did this take you?
Great video!! Where did you get that shirt??
Once a woman becomes pretty sure that they can replace you quicker than you can replace them and that you won't leave over a small offence, then they play a game of chicken where they threaten to either take away sex or the entire relationship.
"Well, I'm not the type to do that, so if you need that, then maybe you should look for another GF."
Said with the confidence born of being a woman that is at least a 7 and with thirsty me after you.
This is a huge tool.
My friend has a particularly vile GF. She low key threatens to go hang out with other men if my friend disappoints her. Similar concept, but more extreme in implementation.
Be a GOOD FRIEND & tell him to end that bizzatch ASAP... for reasons which should be obvious... and furthermore, it's his fault that she's behaving that way
I put a do the work sign in my workout area.
My five cents:
If you do not really care who is in charge as long as everything is working, you might pretty soon find yourself in a situation where things are not working at all. ✌
The POWER OF NOW - yes! Great book indeed.
If you allow her to undermine you initiating desire in minor matters, she will eventually undermine your desire for her.
First?
Nice! As always, good stuff Rich. As a very naturally masculine guy in a very masculine profession, I settled into beta and it is probably what cost me my marriage. In retrospect, it was the best thing to ever happen to me, because this is how I found the Red Pill. My life is better now and I have much more control over my freedom.
Too many guys in the comments complaining about women when it’s all about you. It’s up to you to be the type of man who doesn’t take shit. Not from your boss. Not from other men. Certainly not from women.
I’ve made quite a life for myself by always claiming my space in a confident, matter of fact manner, and standing my ground.
Exactly. Men need to stop complaining and blaming. We need to take responsibility and in essence, the power.
Too simplistic. Like telling someone from a poor neighborhood and a poor family to just man up and get rich. Men have been intentionally betatised since kindergarten for 40 years now. That's alot of bad programming to just get over.
That's the real issue here. Some people just naturally resist this or are the type of people that women naturally are drawn to. So having people like that telling everyone else just do it, ignores the fact that everyone else has a major uphill battle just to get to a place where they aren't ignored by women, let alone attractive to them.
What the hell is an “alpha” supposed to look like or think? I’m getting really pissed off because all i hear is what to do instead of how to do it. Somebody please help me out
Good points. Anyone ever become more red pill after marriage? Now that I'm married I find it easier to just say NO to things I have no interest doing. I see so many married men bowing down to their spouses more and more. Alot of it is due to women becoming the bread winners in the household. I have made it clear to my wife that she did not marry a house husband no matter how much money she makes. BTW why do you always hear from women that its ok to be a house husband yet I never hear a bunch of men commenting to one another that it is something to strive for?
Hey richard awesome video!
Could please speak about how to have a deeper voice for a man?
Thanks for all ur doing
byork, watch old movies with genders, two, clearly understood. Listen to and mimic Gregory Peck for example. A number of current YT content providers, such as right here, you may also mimic. Play their material and speak as they speak, tune your voice; like anything, it can be learned. I had that problem too. No adult males in my youth, only psycho females, and I unwittingly copied female things. Now, I am more aware and make better choices. Also, if you FEEL male and properly dominating, your voice may lower on it's own. Voice reflects attitude.
I have a simple question: why don't most women want to make their man happy?
A man wants to make his woman happy, why not the other way around?
It's kind of a miserable life and you start to feel lonely as a woman these days and never be able to have a happy family.
You have to train her up m8. Give her no more effort than what she gives you.
Thats a good question. They used to! Believe me woman are where and still have the ability to make men very happy but there has been an agenda to create a gynocentric culture in the west. No its not some accident. Also this will happen naturally as life becomes easier for woman without a man. For most of our evolution they where 100 percent reliant on a man for their very survival. They actually evolved to look after their man. Problem is thats being rapidly chucked out the window as we become less integral to their survival. They maintain the privileges they have allways had plus now they have more freedom and choice and lack nearly all of the penalties society once placed on unscrupulous hypergamous female behavior. In short its a power imbalance between men and woman and its actually causeing damage to both party's. Don't get me started on the political aspects of this but insaying all this its still their beneath it all. Millions of years of evolution dont dissapear overnight. Deep down they crave the masculine frame. They are not taught to build and maintain men especially these days! But once they find one that holds frame they will. Its like an old instinct that can be awoken in them. Even they start to see the garbage that is the modern gynocentric trash fire we are in today once it does. Yes woman can be red pilled too but it takes a strong masculine presance to awaken that instinct in them. Just dont expect it in any modern woman till she learns this for herself unfortunately. It is so important as s man to maintain frame. Even if it means being alone forever. Its better to be alone than run through the grinder and our man here says it all the time. Use that time to work on your own path. Even if in a ltr or marrige your own goals should allways come first. There is no otherway around this. Even as young men we are taught to be the man. The provider . And its true that is our purpose but we must first and foremost be our own provider above all. Many a good man has sacrificed all to provide for her and her desires only to be spat out the otherend used up and broken while they carry on without missing a beat. This happens all the time. Be aware of it happening to you allways. No matter how in love you feel. Look at them like an employer. They obviously want you to do your best above and beyond but if you injure yourself or burnout they will replace you the next day without thought. You must allways look after yourself first weather its a job or human relationships.
This is a misconception. Women DO want to make their man happy. Here's the catch: It's the man they respect, admire, and have desire for.
When she loses respect for you, she no longer tries to make you happy. Or, she's working hard to make someone else happy, while keeping you in her back pocket for domestic duties.
This page is lit
Or to put it simply, 'treat them mean keep them keen', that saying has been around for ever.
What is frame?...how do I build frame or know what it is?....a more detailed explanation would be helpful.
"I'd really like to go to the other place instead." - then "put it this way" without actually saying "let me put it this way"... "I'm going to this restaurant. I'd love it if you would join me." With that,your putting the ball back in her court,but she will then know you will either be eating alone,which she then knows you obviously have no problem doing,or you wouldn't have given her that ultimatum. OR she will be joining you for dinner. I'm not taking her hand and leading her. She will follow me by my words,or not at all. Never be afraid to be alone in the moment,for the night,or for a lifetime.
Well said.
Relate, it happened in my last relationship. I even made a concession after saying I didn't want to get married...proceeded to conceded that ok with a prenup. Conceded a lot of other points as well and definitely shouldn't have because at the end of the day all that flexibility was not worth anything because she left anyway.
Better of without her Hector !
Where do i get one of those T shirts? Thats mint 👌
At the end of the day, life is what you make it, if you are not living your life the way you want it, you are pretty much living someone else's life
I like how you don't hide that fact that someone would have to pay
I was married for 35 years and raised 4 daughters... You would think I'd be a master of this. Nope. Then I was engaged to another for 6 years. Now I'm better @ not doing X, yet it can still sneak up on me. It's happening right now... I'm getting the silent treatment. Well 2 can play that old game... Nice video!
If by doing X, do I maintain frame, or is it better to say if by doing X, do I stay true to myself?
Its better not to get involved
I heard a guy once swear by the 80/20 principle- let her have her way in 80% of the decisions BUT you choose the 20% where you put your foot down and refuse to budge. The idea is that she gets her way in the smaller things, but ultimately in the big, crucial decisions, you're still in the driving seat.
Has anybody tried this and if so, how has it ended up?
Other way round surely
You’ll know your frame is good when a woman you made friends with is trying to make you jealous by flirting with men openly. When you reject them they call you gay. Happier,wealthier,and healthier. I like sexually opened women,but I do not like to be controlled . The moment I feel my freedom is taken away and I get disrespected. I love women,but I am not a pet dog to be treated like a child.
Richard, what is your new year resolution, if you have one?
Winners change when they see a problem they dont need to wait for new year.
"By doing X, am I gonna maintain frame?"
And if the answer is No, you don't do it.
I'm such A picky eater...its embarrassing sometimes. How do I get around this!!!
Someone on top right did a video on Prince Harry, can't understand what you said. Do you have a link please
Would you be able to incorporate your own experience with women in your videos? Maybe talk about your own personal hurdles/struggles you faced and how your learned to spot them and correct course.
5:17
6:56 less agreeableness better relationship
9:20 frame practice
I slept walked through my last marriage and was sh!t tested many times and was squeezed into a corner, I eventually had to get out.
I suppose we have to realise that our partners are like animals, maybe we just want to be around humans
Most of all this controlling crap is just the person seeing how much they
can get away with, try reverse psychology .
You like being easy going. Keep being the way you like. That is who you are. You need to find a woman who looks out for your health and well being and doesn't take advantage of your vulnerabilities. I had some cognitive deficits for a short time due to a stroke . My wife stepped up and looked out for me and made sure I wasn't put in bad situations with other people and did not take advantage of my limitations herself. On the contrary she bent over backwards to see that I got what I wanted. When I bounced back I appreciated her efforts.
You just need a better woman.
You cannot be sleepwalking thru a LTR... ye must be pimping 24/7
Amen brotha
A thousand small concessions! Yeeees
I am at exactly the same place this guy is in. Exactly. Good looking guy, if I may say so myself, have had plenty of hot girlfriends but not really a "player" that consistently gets women easily, and my only real problem is maintaining my game long term or dealing with the more intricate and complicated situations you get into with long term girlfriends.
In fact, after a pretty successful couple of months of dating 3 very attractive and high value women (between 25-31, independent, jobs, non-needy, etc.) I finally got to number 3 and decided to try settling down with her for a short while. After our 5th sexual encounter she basically told me she has developed strong emotions for me and despite us at first agreeing to keep this light and casual and just see where it goes, she told me she wanted a relationship. I should have ended it there but I didn't and we ended up going out for a total of about 2 months (ridiculous that I'm talking this way about a 2 month relationship, I know, but it is what it is). After about 2 months, and small concessions here and there, she broke up with me and I was left feeling defeated and like a total beta loser. Something which had only happened to me previously in my much longer and more serious relationships, one of them having lasted 6 years with an engagement. But this girl was very attractive and I had liked her for a long time as she was in one of my friend groups and I had known and liked her for about a year before actually dating her, which made it that much more exciting when we started dating and I also developed strong feelings for her hard and fast.
I am now putting myself together again, but I feel exactly like the guy describes in this video. I'm fine with flings, I'm fine with one night stands, I have pretty good fundamentals in the game and I'm definitely red pill enough to know when a girl is testing with me, being toxic, and what I should or should not do in most situations. I'm a pretty high value man in my professional life, I'm fit and keep healthy, and I'm well-travelled with a lot of good brothers I can call friends who are not pushovers or losers either. By all accounts, I should be killing it, but I'm still having trouble in just this one section of my life. Relationships.
I guess I'm more of a sprinter, not a marathon runner. I'm good for a couple of weeks, maybe a month with a woman, and after that I start to slip, start to lose little battles here or there, and start to go back into my own self-defeating patterns.
This is exactly the video I needed. It's funny how when you're red pill and you're going through something, you sometimes stumble onto EXACTLY the video that describes your situation and you hear exactly what you need to hear. I love this community. Thanks for this video brother keep doing you.
Same problem too for me. I got involved with smoking cannabis about 5 years ago and while in a recovery mindset from alcohol and other drugs I was still using as a crutch. My wife would smoke and I thought it was a way for us to connect. What it was is the way for me to run away from all of the crap that was happening and when I finally decided to man up and course correct I would only just come off as a giant a****** eventually pushing her away to end up cheating on me.
Threw away 12 years of a pretty good thing. I had a pretty good frame. We had definite masculine and feminine roles. Lots of sex. She was always down for the best sex you could imagine... It just never worked because of the beta tization by a million concessions.
I am now clean from the cannabis back into my old recovery group and friends of some of the most successful and solid men you can imagine in this world. I couldn't be happier. I've got a lot of the sixes. I'll never get 6 ft tall but I've got all the others just about fix my teeth and I think that I'd be a 9 by the time I had a quarter million a year I should be about a 10, but while I'm at it, Why short change myself there I could easily be a millionaire or more
I got with a smoking half Italian, ha icon she was 50 to my 36 an the time...I moved south to be near my family. I asked to stay with her a couple weeks...she agreed at the end of the 2 weeks she said to stay or we would be going backwards stupidly I agreed...i soon found out her real side
how did he hit his head?
A women will forgive almost anything except weakness.
Agree most of the way.. But my baby likes to Eat and she loves Korean food.I suggest pizza and My Queen wants Korean? She gon get it ;) but then big papa's gon get His later. She knows it too. Awesome vids tho man, I've been able to put your advice into action multiple times since I started watching. Thanks bro!
The statement of beta by a thousand concessions, i have myself and seen others go beyond this, actually scared of a woman, avoid issues so she will not blow up! You can see it in guys at work. It is a sad place to be. You start to believe this is normal, and say it happens to all men. But it can be better, this is abuse and you need to get out! This is why I went Monk mode. I have had many good looking girlfriends and a hot wife and it is constantly a energy drain to maintain frame. It is like a energy vampire. I am not going Monk mode cos i hate woman but i just can't be bothered to put the energy for the reward which i have found is not worth it.
The opening line is really silly. Everything else is great
Spinning plate = spinning gynocentric wheel
You are enjoying & accelerate doom & decline?
Good for ya
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I have hear it said that women negotiate for what they want while framing it so the man negotiate to preserve the relationship. If you love me ... I am not sure if this is right for many who want instant answers, I do like the book "Negotiation" by Lewicki, Saunders, and Berry because it is more comprehensive then most and talks about the darker side we have to deal with. If you are willing to invest the time, and it's require effort, it's a good investment. Or, if you can't afford the cash MIT has free open courseware.
he lacks the will to say NO
practice makes perfect
What about sigmas?
I can't do it that's how i was rised and I fucking hate my self
Lmao at pheromone infused soap. If you need that you’ve already lost (that shit don’t work btw)
how da fuck would anyone considered themselves both as alpha and beta at the same time? I thought you once when you kill beta inside of you, you become alpha which the frame is all about himself.