It is what it is! I try to use humor and put people at ease concerning my situation. I love children's stares as you can see the wheels turning in their heads. I'll play off their facial expressions as to my response to them. One of my favorite lines to adults when asked how I'm doing is to reply that " I won't be dancing tonight !". That usually puts them at ease and a smile on their face. It's a new world to me and I will share my experience to whom ever will inquire about it.
I was born with a disability myself , I was born with a mild CP and I was walking with a walker so when -as a teenager- my first wheelchair it GAVE ME INDIPENDENCE . I was excited and happy and I slowly developed an identical mindset! Glad to see that your opening some minds there! ;) hello from Greece again !
I'm new to your channel and it's been 2yrs since my ordeal (as I call it) and I agree I would rather someone ask me what happened instead of just stare. It makes some people uncomfortable because they don't know what to say or do so to be sensitive is the first reaction they have. It's the children in my experience that will ask what happened because they're curious you're right about that but In order for the parents to teach their children how to react they have to know how themselves and most dont. Both of you are an inspiration so keep videos coming watching makes my day easier.
Please let us know what specifics can continue to make the days easier, or if there are questions that have been unanswered for the couple years. Thanks for the message :) fills my tanks knowing it is helpin
I use a rollator all the time outside and have to put up with people just standing there staring and the different comments from kids you guys are great I have a miniscule idea of what you go through
Nice to meet you Gracie Lou! Great informative and entertaining session girls! I'm going to start acting like a kid more often after hearing how more honestly kids relate to you than adults. Love Mama Bear :)
I hate using the word "disabled" when it comes to people who have physical challenges. Not because I'm uncomfortable with it, but because they are not disabled at all, they just (as you have said) doing things a different way. I like to use the term physically challenged. There's another one that someone "coined" that is "diff-abled". I remember one time back in the 60's when I saw a man with a prosthetic arm and asked him what happened. My father was fit to be tied. In those days it was considered very improper to ask people about such things. I have heard so many stories over the years of people who are diff-abled talking about this and in the vast majority of these had the same attitudes. The key to it is to treat that person as average person. I mean come on! Everyone is different! It's just that it's more obvious with some than others. Not even identical twins are exactly the same. The flip side to that is the people who, while well meaning, walk up to someone who is challenged and assume that they need help and just do it without asking or ignore them saying that they're fine. The two that stick out in my mind are both from NYC. This is back in the days before curb cuts were finally mandated. This guy was going across the street in a wheelchair when someone else saw him about to climb the curb. Well, of course the guy in the chair was setting up for the tip back to get his front wheels up and the other guy just grabbed his chair pushed and tipped him back and then lifted him up on the sidewalk without even asking if he needed help. The other was a woman who was blind. Now she was at the intersection of a major road in Manhattan (I think Broadway) waiting to cross the side street. This other well meaning person took her arm and led her across the major street that she had already crossed. For those of you out there who think someone needs help, just ask them. If they say no, then that's okay. There could be a number of reasons. They really don't need help, it might be with something that is too personal, or they might be more comfortable with someone they feel may better know how to help and avoid someone getting hurt. Helping someone without asking them if they need it or helping them even when they said no is just plain disrespectful and rude.
Oh.. Another Great video and you both are so right! I think that all theese that you described are based in the ableism of the society wich maintained by the state , the media, the educational system etc.The point is what we-you are doing to change this.. What is happening to come people with disabilties in the surface. For me there are not disabled people- there are just prevented people and if the things where better (better facilities, better acesibility, better education etc) we wouldnt even speak about any uniqueness . And i think that this is the target. You two girls are helping a lot to this direction! Go on!
Thank you ladies for educating me on the protocol of ppl in chairs. For me I didnt want to stare nor did I want to be intrusive with my questions. What I gather is a normal healthy dialogue with y'all would be welcomed??
Absolutely! there may be those that don't want to answer questions. but I would also hope that they have a kind way of passing the questions by without sounding upset or angry about someones curiosity
In my circle wheelchair friends we call ourselves Gimps. People get all offended when we do it, we get the biggest laugh triggering people. Thanks for being opened. My biggest laugh is when I’m out rolling along with my service dog and people say look at the seeing eye dog. I always take the time to tell them that it would be kind funny if I was blind driving a power chair. Most people get a bit embarrassed, most I just get a laugh out of it and a chance tip educate people.
To the question of people why I am in a wheelchair, I answer this way - I am a very lazy person and I am too lazy to walk. I think that adults understand why we are in wheelchairs, but look at us exclusively out of curiosity. Thanks for the good mood coming from the video! 👍
People say “Can I ask you a question??” And I can often sorta tell what’s to follow and respond with “motorcycle wreck, no my penis doesn’t work, no I can’t poop and pee, I have no idea if I’ll ever walk again and I haven’t thought about it in years” Lol
If people ask me “what happened to you?” I jokingly say “motorcycle wreck, what about you?” And when they look sort of confused I hit’em with “wait, you were BORN like that? Jesus I’m so sorry”
I always give people an analogy by asking them if they go to a party and don’t know anybody, what do people ask them? And then tell them the ONLY thing the strangers at the same party ask me, totally revolve around my chair. Yes, I have NOTHING to offer you, in any way, besides wheelchair stories and stuff which you say sorry for???? Lol
This is f-in hilarious! I completely agree with your last comment tho... all the questions in this circumstance are very pointed at it. I lost much of my personal identity to the chair. boo
@@ProTipsForParas Your channels subscribers have more than doubled in short time! I followed along within the last 3 weeks or so, at 750 subs, and you've blown past the 1k mark to over 2k, overnight! I hope it continues to grow. I have to be VERY careful with what I say to you, I wanna stay on your good side. lol I'm abrasive and very blunt, sort of have a suck it up, adapt and overcome mentality.
You all are so awesome. Thanks for letting me listen. Have a good day
The whole, "why you in the wheelchair, your legs hurt?" is so accurate 🤣
It is what it is! I try to use humor and put people at ease concerning my situation. I love children's stares as you can see the wheels turning in their heads. I'll play off their facial expressions as to my response to them. One of my favorite lines to adults when asked how I'm doing is to reply that " I won't be dancing tonight !". That usually puts them at ease and a smile on their face. It's a new world to me and I will share my experience to whom ever will inquire about it.
Best response! It put a smile on my face :) Another one I plan on putting in the bank... if you don't mind haha
I was born with a disability myself , I was born with a mild CP and I was walking with a walker so when -as a teenager- my first wheelchair it GAVE ME INDIPENDENCE . I was excited and happy and I slowly developed an identical mindset! Glad to see that your opening some minds there! ;) hello from Greece again !
I'm new to your channel and it's been 2yrs since my ordeal (as I call it) and I agree I would rather someone ask me what happened instead of just stare. It makes some people uncomfortable because they don't know what to say or do so to be sensitive is the first reaction they have. It's the children in my experience that will ask what happened because they're curious you're right about that but In order for the parents to teach their children how to react they have to know how themselves and most dont. Both of you are an inspiration so keep videos coming watching makes my day easier.
Please let us know what specifics can continue to make the days easier, or if there are questions that have been unanswered for the couple years. Thanks for the message :) fills my tanks knowing it is helpin
I use a rollator all the time outside and have to put up with people just standing there staring and the different comments from kids you guys are great I have a miniscule idea of what you go through
Nice to meet you Gracie Lou! Great informative and entertaining session girls! I'm going to start acting like a kid more often after hearing how more honestly kids relate to you than adults. Love Mama Bear :)
Never grow up!
So much fun hanging out filming with you G!
I hate using the word "disabled" when it comes to people who have physical challenges. Not because I'm uncomfortable with it, but because they are not disabled at all, they just (as you have said) doing things a different way. I like to use the term physically challenged. There's another one that someone "coined" that is "diff-abled". I remember one time back in the 60's when I saw a man with a prosthetic arm and asked him what happened. My father was fit to be tied. In those days it was considered very improper to ask people about such things. I have heard so many stories over the years of people who are diff-abled talking about this and in the vast majority of these had the same attitudes. The key to it is to treat that person as average person. I mean come on! Everyone is different! It's just that it's more obvious with some than others. Not even identical twins are exactly the same. The flip side to that is the people who, while well meaning, walk up to someone who is challenged and assume that they need help and just do it without asking or ignore them saying that they're fine. The two that stick out in my mind are both from NYC. This is back in the days before curb cuts were finally mandated. This guy was going across the street in a wheelchair when someone else saw him about to climb the curb. Well, of course the guy in the chair was setting up for the tip back to get his front wheels up and the other guy just grabbed his chair pushed and tipped him back and then lifted him up on the sidewalk without even asking if he needed help. The other was a woman who was blind. Now she was at the intersection of a major road in Manhattan (I think Broadway) waiting to cross the side street. This other well meaning person took her arm and led her across the major street that she had already crossed.
For those of you out there who think someone needs help, just ask them. If they say no, then that's okay. There could be a number of reasons. They really don't need help, it might be with something that is too personal, or they might be more comfortable with someone they feel may better know how to help and avoid someone getting hurt. Helping someone without asking them if they need it or helping them even when they said no is just plain disrespectful and rude.
Thanks for sharing your stories.
Poor woman getting led back across the same street!
Oh.. Another Great video and you both are so right! I think that all theese that you described are based in the ableism of the society wich maintained by the state , the media, the educational system etc.The point is what we-you are doing to change this.. What is happening to come people with disabilties in the surface. For me there are not disabled people- there are just prevented people and if the things where better (better facilities, better acesibility, better education etc) we wouldnt even speak about any uniqueness
. And i think that this is the target. You two girls are helping a lot to this direction! Go on!
Thanks for the shout out and watching us blab!
SUPER video ;-)
Thank you ladies for educating me on the protocol of ppl in chairs. For me I didnt want to stare nor did I want to be intrusive with my questions. What I gather is a normal healthy dialogue with y'all would be welcomed??
Absolutely! there may be those that don't want to answer questions. but I would also hope that they have a kind way of passing the questions by without sounding upset or angry about someones curiosity
u2 chicks need to go on the road together with your comedy..lol. u guys r awesome
In my circle wheelchair friends we call ourselves Gimps.
People get all offended when we do it, we get the biggest laugh triggering people.
Thanks for being opened.
My biggest laugh is when I’m out rolling along with my service dog and people say look at the seeing eye dog.
I always take the time to tell them that it would be kind funny if I was blind driving a power chair.
Most people get a bit embarrassed, most I just get a laugh out of it and a chance tip educate people.
This is hilarious! Thanks for this. Your humour would be a great addition to a few episodes ;)
Pro Tips For Paras Thanks.
I’m so happy I found your channel.
To the question of people why I am in a wheelchair, I answer this way - I am a very lazy person and I am too lazy to walk. I think that adults understand why we are in wheelchairs, but look at us exclusively out of curiosity. Thanks for the good mood coming from the video! 👍
I'm going to use that response to an adult the next time they seem as though to be curious ;) hahaha
@@ProTipsForParas No problem, a bit of humor in an awkward siting improves the situation and makes people a bit more relaxed. 😁😁😁
People say “Can I ask you a question??” And I can often sorta tell what’s to follow and respond with “motorcycle wreck, no my penis doesn’t work, no I can’t poop and pee, I have no idea if I’ll ever walk again and I haven’t thought about it in years” Lol
If people ask me “what happened to you?” I jokingly say “motorcycle wreck, what about you?” And when they look sort of confused I hit’em with “wait, you were BORN like that? Jesus I’m so sorry”
I always give people an analogy by asking them if they go to a party and don’t know anybody, what do people ask them? And then tell them the ONLY thing the strangers at the same party ask me, totally revolve around my chair. Yes, I have NOTHING to offer you, in any way, besides wheelchair stories and stuff which you say sorry for???? Lol
This is f-in hilarious! I completely agree with your last comment tho... all the questions in this circumstance are very pointed at it. I lost much of my personal identity to the chair. boo
@@ProTipsForParas Your channels subscribers have more than doubled in short time! I followed along within the last 3 weeks or so, at 750 subs, and you've blown past the 1k mark to over 2k, overnight! I hope it continues to grow. I have to be VERY careful with what I say to you, I wanna stay on your good side. lol I'm abrasive and very blunt, sort of have a suck it up, adapt and overcome mentality.