That swedengate thing is more complicated. As a child, if youre invited than you will be served food, if you come uninvited, you wont get food. And when i say invited i mean that the friend your going to have his parents call your parents saying that you will be having dinner there etc. You dont wanna give a kid dinner if his/her parents already have cooked food for him/her.
Yes, this is in most, if not all, cases the actual reason! The proverbial "friend" in this story had his or her own dinnertime and were supposed to be home by then and eat their own meal that their parents were probably already preparing for them. Someone else feeding that child just before their dinnertime would actually have been rude for real!
Exactly, also some times the mother of my friends family asked if I wanted to eat with them. If I did they made me call home and ask if it was OK to eat there and to let my parents know that they did not have to wait or prepare food for me.
I live on the US east coast where it's all sand beaches. Seeing these huge slabs of rock at the water looks great to me. After a trip to the beach here the sand sticks to everything and gets everywhere. You always take a mess of sand home with you like it or not. Also it is rare that the wind is not blowing sand on you as you try to catch some rays. If there were an outcropping of smooth flat rock like there here it would be filled with people.
@@markusforsberg6741 nej inte ALLTID. Men för någon som växte upp på ostkusten låt mig säga 13 grader är inte vad de flesta skulle klassa som varmt men jag kan ligga i en två timmar ändå så f off foppa
In reference to another of your posts, about Swedish viral videos and memes: If Leif G.W. Persson ever sunbathed on rocks, he would both look and sound like a seal. 😋
I agree it's weird to call it the WC of Brännboll, but to be fair though it's somewhat rich hearing it from a US citizen since you do the exact same with both Baseball and American football
Brännboll , rugby, fotboll........USA är smältdegel av Europeisk emigration och kolonialism. De utvecklade bara nya versioner av det de hade med sig från Europa, precis som cricket förändrades i många regioner där Engelsmännen drog fram som kolonisatörer. 😊
The thing about the guest being excluded from dinners is, in my experience, only when the kids of the family bring friends home and they weren't expecting to have to cook enough for a guest that day. I experienced this a few times as a kid, but it was equally common to just be invited to have dinner with them. Really just came down to whether or not there was enough food available to feed another person and whether or not the guest planned on having dinner at home. The whole thing has been overblown on social media and it's really not as bad as it sounds.
As a kid/teen in Sweden in the 90s I was over at a friends house or had friends over almost all the time. We rarely notified our parents that there was going to be a guest situation. We always walked or biked on our own between houses. Under those circumstances I don't think it's strange that sometimes there was not enough food for a surprise guest. Anyway today I think it's less common for several reasons.
The only time this would happen at my house is if the kid calls home to ask if it's okay that they stay for dinner and their parents say no because they want the kid to come home and eat soon instead. Then we ask the kid if they prefer to sit with us or keep playing until it's time to go home. That being said I have experienced this odd tradition a few times in other peoples' homes when I was a kid (not often). And no, it didn't feel normal and expected. It felt pretty weird even as a kid
@@Morhua1 yeah same. And the fact that the friend had a dinner waiting at home a few minutes away anyway. I understand that it sounds strange if it's like in the US where there can be a big distance between the kid and it's friend. Of course we then would provide food but then it would also be known beforehand. Usually where I live, the neighborhood kids run in and out all day. Impossible to assume that they all should be fed. 4 or 10 portions? 15? No, that's not sustainable.
@@Sodacacik excuse for what? You need to understand the circumstances. If you have kids in your hose that lives far away and they are staying for long you will of course feed them. If it's the neighbours kid you will not since they can eat at home. It's really a non-issue and everyone growing up in Sweden know how it works.
INNE and UTE on the score board refers to the teams. Innelaget is the team that is taking turns serving the ball and running. Utelaget is the team on the field trying to catch. Points are given for things like catching the ball and running around the field etc.
Precis, bra skrivet. More on the subject "brännboll"/"burn!-ball" (the ! is needed in the translation as "bränn" is in the imperative form, meaning it's an order): the game differs a lot from baseball. Both teams score during any phase of the game. Teams switch sides if a set timer is up, or if the IN-team has no more people to bat the ball. The IN-team scores by running their players from base (cone) 1 to 2 then 3 and lastly pass the 4th base (you've then made it over the field in a U-shape) to score you must run past the cone/base on the "outer" side of it ("around it"). Multiple players may hog the same base (no limit). Homeruns give extra points. The OUT-team scores by "burning" their opponents, players who are not safely standing still by a base will "burn" when the ball reaches a designated burner on the OUT-team (this burner must stomp the "burner plate", located close to the batting station, to actually burn the opponents). The OUT-team also scores by catching the ball directly (from the hitting batter) mid-air with two hands (or scoribg more points by only using one hand), catching the ball is called making a "lyra". No gloves are used, but baseball caps/hats may be used in informal games (called "drunken burn!-ball") as a catching tool. So basically the ball is thrown loosely by the batter itself in to air, hit, fly-fly, caught mid-air or from the ground, thrown back up the field (preferably by shorter and quicker throws among several team mates - making a "throw chain") to the burner, and repeat. The game is slightly more fun to watch (or to play) then Baseball, but.. compared to some other popular sports, like soccer, ice-hockey, handball, volleyball etc - it's still definitely really boring.
De utvecklade en egen variant av brännboll och kallade det Baseball. Precis som det mesta, inte allt, så verkar amerikaner tro att de uppfann det mesta, i stället för att inse att de är ganska ung nation baserad på Europeisk kolonialism och emigration. Det mesta är en smältdegel av vad de som emigrerade tog med sig så att säga.
As a Swede, I recognize that our 'badplatser' are different to what most people around the world expect, but it is what I prefer. I am willing to be a little uncomfortable lying on the cliffs to escape what I consider the bad parts of going to a sandy beach (coarse and rough and gets everywhere, you know the drill). Anyway, we do in fact have beaches, and if you'd like to see a good Swedish sandy beach, I'd recommend visiting the southwestern and/or southmost parts of the country (Varberg, Halmstad, Trelleborg etc)
I would say that badplats is almost by definition not a "strand/beach". If its a badplats, its gras or rocks. With posibly a tiny bit of sand right at the water.
Skåne has some lovely beaches with real sand (I was surprised that they had that). I used to live in Lund and would go to Lomma during hot summer days. It's great ☺️
Brännboll is great! I think of it as a fun game only slightly more serious than Kubb. I'm sure only a tiny fraction of Swedes have ever watched a "pro game" of brännboll. I had no idea those exist and I don't feel like watching it.
The championship is a student festival, where 99 percent of the participants are playing just for fun. It could have been beer pong or anything, but they brilliantly chose brännboll. I went there twice when I studied in the 80s. We traveled from Uppsala and was more or less constantly drunk.
I totally agree about the real estate photos. Half of the ads has no layout visible and only close ups so you can't see the plan of the house or apartment.
As a kid in the 90's there were many occasions where I was at a friend's house and was waiting for them to eat dinner. It was normal, and I was also a very picky eater, plus my mom would want me to eat the food she made when I got home. There were occasions when I was offered food. I think that back then at least, it wasn't really easy for parents to quickly make more food than what they had already planned to make for their family. And kids could just drag home one or more friends, and that could be too much to handle. And before cellphones it wasn't really easy to give a heads up. I can't speak for kids today, but my personal experience was that it was no issue waiting in my friend's room for them to come back from dinner. 🙂
If someone offered food you had to call home and ask if you could eat there. Fairly often my parents wanted me to keep from eating there and eat at home. Maybe I was allowed but I'd get the feeling that it made my parents a bit annoyed.
As I have some interest in architecture I have joined some online groups on various platforms and 9/10 houses listed in the US (that are posted in these groups) do have furniture and those "weird" photos in the images pulled from the listings. Maybe this is a thing for just for house or maybe those that post to these groups select listings with these photos, I don't know. Also I have started to notice that more of them are now "digitally staged" with Photoshoped furniture..
I've had that both ways, the feeding guests thing, both as a child myself, and being an adult. I think in all cases it's always been that food was cooked and prepared, then in comes a child with a friend, with no warning ahead of time that "I'll bring an extra to the table." Usually though, at least Something can be prepared. At other times it can be as simple as the child or guest is expected to eat at home once they get back there so as to not say ... "Naah, don't want any food, I've already eaten". Could be all sorts of things, but I honestly don't think we're as a general rule hostile to feeding guests, be it children or adults. 😀
Summer in sweden is the best day of the whole year. Of course, everyone wants a vacation that day. You take 4 weeks vacation in hopes of getting that day.
@@gwenkilby No that’s an exaggeration, but for many people it feels that way. Most of summer rains away especially on the west coast. Gothengourg (Göteborg) only gets about 200 sunhours a year. The southernmost tip of Norway and the northern tip of Denmark togeather with the gulfstream creates a pathway for the atlantic winds to Gothenbourg. Although it’s strategic place for shipping, the weather sucks, and umbrellas are aimed sideways or downwards (rain never comes from above). But there are other Beautiful sunny places in sweden ofcourse. It’s a tall country that contains many types of weather anomalies from south to north, from east to west.
Den klassiska semesterperioden är juli i Sverige men den kontinentala varianten augusti har blivit allt vanligare, dessa två månader är de enda som generellt har sommar klimat. Sedan 1938 har svenska löntagare rätt till sammanhängande ledighet (numera minst fyra veckor) till skillnad mot exempelvis US där sådan rättighet knappast finnes.
Precis, semesterlagen ger rätt som du skriver 4 veckor sammanhängande, under perioden juni-augusti men frågan om var under perioden ledigheten ska förläggas äger arbetsgivaren.
Regarding starving of children, there is this term in Swedish called, “tacksamhetsskuld”, or debt of gratitude whereby people in general do not want others to feel obliged to return the favor later. Also, if you feed other person’s child, we may be ruining their dinner plans later when they go home to their parents. This is like a general understanding of a Swedish etiquette.
The weirdest new realtor thing are those apartment ads where the description is 2nd person POV. "You wake up from a good night's sleep and go to the beautiful kitchen to make yourself a cup of coffee. As the coffee brews, you look out the windows to admire the work your husband has done in the garden. You have a feeling it is going to be a good day today." It makes me laugh every time.
Maybe it's because I live in Skåne, but I've only ever seen beaches with sand. I live so far down in the south that I'm essentially completely surrounded by sand, so I guess it depends on where you live. I wouldn't expect a lake to have an artificial beach attached to it
The Great Lakes in the US are crazy. They're so massive, they do have legit sandy beaches with waves. It's really bizarre seeing people surf in 4' freshwater surf.
The biggest lakes in Sweden has sandy beaches also! But smaller lakes usually has a small sandy strip closest to the water. We don't make these into artificial beaches adding a lot of sand. And since the sandy part of those naturally occurring beaches isn't that big, you'll usually find a bigger grass covered area where there is room for people on their blankets.
As a Swede I have to make this clear about “not feeding your friends at your house”. Personally, this has never happened to me. We have not done this to anyone, and I have never experienced it at my friends house. When this became mainstream I asked my friends about it and most of them have experienced it, not being fed or not feeding. The reason to me seems to be that some families simply cannot afford to feed an extra person or didn’t expect the company and there isn’t enough food. Otherwise I think this idea stems from when most friends lived next door, and it was commonplace to eat with your family, and then return to playing at the friends house. So it’s not like we are unkind on purpose, I would view it as a class issue, which is very Swedish of me to say...
Very much doubt it is that "some families simply cannot afford to feed an extra person" since the (rather few) cases i know bout are all middle class. Over precise lunch/dinner planning is probably one of the reason.
@@cynic7049 Well sometimes you just have planned for the kids to have left overs for dinner while you yourself have other things to do than cook an unplanned meal for an uninvited/spontaneus guest. It is what it is. I don’t cook everyday🤷♀️
Actually I think the thing about not feeding the friends of your children stems from it being seen as you're then suggesting that the child in questions family can't feed their own children by giving them food without making sure it's okay first. The one's who did this to me as a child was mostly middle class families with two cars and a suburban house. My friends that were actually quite poor never ever did this to anyone, they always fed any child that happened to be there at dinner time. I'm happy to say though that my family never had any of my friends wait in my room when we ate, I would've felt so embarrassed and petty asking my friends to wait instead of just eating with us.
The reason I never got food or my friends never got food was because dinner was already planned. So, my friends all just walked over to their own houses and ate dinner, then we continued playing. I don't see the problem here, haha.
I think the main reason for lack of sand is that to make man-made beaches you have to dredge up sand from the bottom of the ocean, and that messes up the eco-system for the marine life
@@sarahalderman3126 Yes there are miles and miles of sand beaches in Sweden. I live 30 mins from a 20 mile long beach along the coast. Yet we tend to drive 45 min to visit a beach that is half a mile long with the whitest and finest sand you can ever imagine, it's just spectacular! Also there are over 70000 lakes in Sweden and many of them have small natural sand beaches. But some geographical areas in Sweden are naturally more rocky and I think that is where she has been seeing people sun bathing on the hard rocks. 😉
@@sarahalderman3126 In Sweden the vast majority of lake sediment is "blålera". This is like, radioactive clay, due to the high levels of uranium, because of glaciers moving and eroding uranium-rich mountains over the eons. Not a good idea to dregde from the bottom to make a radioactive clay beach (which would just become quicksand). A few places have sand. Gothland and Scania, for instance, because they had less galcial stuff going on. That sand is a valuable resource in the construction industry, to make cement. We used to do it with the "blålera", but we stopped when we figured out that it was radioactive... So sandy beaches are either super expensive to make, or they are natural (common in the south). And in the end of the day laying on a rock isn't that bad.
@@sarahalderman3126 real sand beaches needs salt. At least in the swedish climate. They also need to be mud free. Other vice you taking a bath in 8 inches of water and sink 15 inches down in the mud. If you live far away from the ocean... or the baltic, there is no salt water. There is mud or rocks. It takes like 3 hours to go from Örebro to the closest real beach. I guess Norrköping is probobly the closest and they are not really even decent. And of cause on the Eastern side lakes will always be warmer... or.. well. Less cold than the sea. On the western side its more even. Western sweden have loads of nice beaches.
Often when I was a kid my friend's parents asked if I wanted to eat there but I mostly said no because I needed to go home and eat later and I already told my mom i was going to.. This was before mobile phones though. And it's not like they ate for an hour.. The friend would like rush down to the kitchen and eat in 5 minutes and get back. Would just feel strange to sit there and watch them.
11:49 - The reason everyone go on vacation at the same time; _"industrisemestern"_ ("general industrial holiday"). If you owned a factory with 500 employees; what would you prefer? *A.* Have 33-50% of the workforce leave on vacation for 1 month, losing several key positions across the floor, which essentially completely halts production. Then a repeat of the whole thing for additional 1-2 months? *B.* Let the whole workforce have vaccation at the same time, and only halt production for 1 month. Which you use for deep maintenance and to adjust and build new production lines. Most industries choose *B.* And with production on vaccation, so goes the offices on vaccation. With the big manufactures on vaccation, the suppliers take the opportunity to go on vacation too. And with their blue/white collar spouses on vaccation, so goes service working partners on vaccation. Essentially; the whole country have decided to have vaccation at the same time (because it's often better to lose the whole workforce for a month, than to lose small groups over several months) And the reason the university handler went on vaccation? Because several key positions of the university was on vaccation, so the handlar could just go as well too. They wouldn't be able to do most of their work anyway.
Yes, this exactly. And also, you have to think aboute the weather. In sweden we have 2-3 months of really good summer weather potentially and the majority of the ppl want to have vacation when the weather is good. I can imagen that it's not that big of a deal if you live in California or Miami where the weather are nice all year around, but here, where its dark and cold for 8-10 months we really want to make the most of the little good weather time we have :)
@@ElectariumTunic In general. Of course many people take vacation in August or September etc. But the big majority of Swedes have their vacation in July. Not August like she say.
@@TheStedomi Circa half take their vaccation in July. But the remaining majority take it in August. As employers that cannot close - i.e. most of the service sector (74% of the population) - split their vaccations June/August The only one I can think of that just do vaccation in July is the industrial sector (11% of the population) and those who solely serve that sector
At university everyone fighting about August so they don't have to be there when the students come and they also can do there work with no studens in july
Re the "starving children": This is an old custom in Sweden that slowly is dying down. It stems from way back when Sweden was a poor agricultural county and you ate what you was able to harvest in a really short amount of time during the year due to our harsh climate. This also brought with it a ingrained sense of pride that you should not burden others with you own hardships which in turn gets switch on the host not to embarrass the other family by offer the visiting child food as if its family couldn't feed that child. As a Gen X from a working class background, this is very much in my very soul. I always feed my childs friends, but they always had to call home and ask if it was ok though. If my child gets fed at a friends house I always feel a sense of immediate shame! I know it's stupid but I can't help it. It is a dying tradition and that's good, but there is a cultural and historical reason for it.
Exactly, it's not about not offering food to someone, it's about your kid not being a burden on another family, it was a mutual respect for one another. It was blown out of proportion on social media close to a medieval witch hunt. 🤦♂️
My thought's on your confusion: 1. Some do prefer sand everywhere, even if it gets into you swimsuit (if they have any). I like all, but always bring a foam mat to sit and lay on, so soft even on top of rocks. 2. Well it happened to when a kid, but mostly we are invited to join the meal. 3. Brännboll. There may be a slight variation on rules and scores. But when I went too school (40 years ago) we had the "in team" witch bat got one point for each who made it back to the bat que/ passed the last cone. If the hit is bad - the bat'er walk to first cone and wait for next bat'er to hopefully get a better hit. They can run independently or at the same time. Five points for the bat person to run around all four cones before the "out team" "brännare" got the ball in his/her hand and a foot on "brännplattan" (burn pad) and yell BRÄND!!!. If the "in team" runner didn't get to a cone or passed last cone before BRÄND!!! - then runner is burned and have to return to first cone while "out team" score one point. If "out team" catch "Lyra" the ball in the air directly from the bat - "out team" score two points for two hand catch and four points for one hand catch. 4. May just be esthetic's. Often when an apartment is shown or photographed - they plant stylish furnish, flowers and sometimes even heat up some "Kanelbullar" during a show "visning" in the oven to sell the home. 5. Before many people had the industrial vacation that's usually in July. Whole factory's did shut down during those weeks. Nowadays vacation are more spread out.
Rules of Brännboll (Burn ball) 2 teams. One team lines up to hit the ball with the bat. Each cone is a safe station and you must make it all around to get points (depening on rules - if you make it all around without stopping at a cone you get highest points). Second team picks a "brännare" (Burner) and the others spread around the field. Their job is to catch the ball and throw it to the brännare who then shouts "BRÄND!" (BURNED!). Anyone running between cones and not making it to a safe station will BE OUT. Their job is to keep burning the other team til they no longer have anyone that can swing the bat. They will be "Utbränd" (Burned out).
I have never myself experienced being a kid to not being invited to share food and when my kids grew up, their friends was always invited for dinner, even showing up unannounced. About the "beaches" in Sweden, if you noticed, it's pretty deep where there's rocks, they would destroy the underwater fauna if they filled up with sand. When it comes to grass growing all the way to the shore, I believe they don't fill up with sand because the lakes aren't deep enough and quite shallow. Go south if you want sandy beaches, Skanör-Falsterbo, Borrby strand, Lomma, Malmö, Helsingborg, Simrishamn. Too many to mention here. Anyway welcome back !
Okej men vad är sommar grejen med "kompis stannar på rummet" That's a all around the year thing. Thank you, haha I never had a problem waiting in my friends room...I eat later when I get home..this is just when a friend is over for just a couple of hours...if you're on a sleep over and stay longer time than of course they will fed you... but who want to spend time with a friend's parents and have to talk with them...and listening to other families talking a the dinner table.. awkward.
Exactly this! You had a plate of food waiting for you at home anyway. I understand that it sounds strange if the kids live far away or you are from a third world country but usually Swedes feed their children.
Regarding the food situation. From what I can recall of my childhood in the 80's and early 90's (in Stockholm if that matters), I have some vague memories of waiting in a friends room while him and his family ate. I can't recall ever feeling anything weird about waiting in his room. As far as I remember of those situations the friends mother would always ask about my food situation, if she was even aware of me even being there. I if I was hungry and there wasn't enough food prepared I would probably be offered a sandwich or some other snack to tide me over. But mostly I would have eaten before coming over or have food waiting for me at home. Often I would just run home and eat and come back, especially if I knew my mother was cooking at home. (she would usually be very annoyed if I didn't come home for planned meals) I have more memories of eating with my friends family than waiting in another room while they ate. Usually if it was a planned and/or longer visit. And being offered small snacks "mellanmål" by the friends mother between lunch and dinner or in the evening was very common. Being fed at a friends place was never a a problem. More being a case of our mothers wanting us to eat at home for lunch/dinner.
The tropical south, skåne, has sandy beaches for days!😎🏖 You should definitely check it out on you next visit 🙌🏻 Also the dinner thing has been a big discussion here across all major media platforms, and this is the summary: - Due to respect for the kids parents, who usually also made supper that evening. - Not giving his partners any reason to think they didn’t feed their child properly. - The kid in question wasn’t in the mood to sit down with his friends parents (social awkward swede syndrome) 🫣 A good thing to keep in mind is that you would mostly go back home from your friend house around 17:00-19:00 “during dinner time”. 😉
We did eat when our friends then i was a kid.. well. If they eat. But then when my dad got me and drive me home there was second diner at home. So I was probobly not starving. Also.. of cause depending on where you live you might get decent food at school. I didn't when I grew up, but where I live now the school food is amazing.
My theory of the "starving child" thing is that it´s first of all a week day thing, your child brings home a friend after school and you feed that child "Mellanmål or Mellis" which when i was a child was Chocolatemilk (Oboy) and sandwiches (Skogaholmslimpa was the brand or regular white toast that you toasted). You always got this is my experience with being a child in the 90´s/early 00. Then when i came time for dinner the parents wanted the friend to go home but as we are a people with big fears of conflict overall you didn´t say that to the friend but hoped it would get the hint and go home by not being invited to eat dinner. But children want to play with it´s friend for as long as possible and therefore you sat in the room hungry. The rest of the world may see us as monsters but the majority of Swedish children are well feed and i think now a days it´s changed when we that was brought up this way has children of our own and let there friends eat with us. (i don´t have any children but if i did there friends would be welcomed to eat with us) Also this was a weekday thing, if you where at a friends house on the weekend you would be invited for lunch is my experience.
It's not just Sweden though, is it? Seems like several northern European countries have this tradition. I hope you guys don't change this. Sweden is fine the way it is.
I don't get where number two came from. That never happened me. Me and my mom were veeery poor when I was growing up but we always scraped together enough for everyone present. I don't get how you can just let a friend sit in another room while youre eating. I really don't think it's that common in Sweden as people seem to think.
I can count on one hand the times I ate at my friend's place. I went home for 20 minutes and ate instead. Kids were running in and out of all of our houses. Would have been impossible for a mom to make dinner to all of us. Also, I've been left alone many times in another room but actually most of the times I got asked if I wanted to eat but declined (since I had food waiting at home).
It was more common before, it's getting more rare now. It stems from poverty, people simply didn't want their kids to be a burden on another family, there was a mutual respect to this. It lived on for a long time past the time of poverty. It was definitely present when I was a kid in the late 80ies and during the 90ies and I as a kid preferred it that way.
@@AlexKall I also grew up during the early 90s. Maybe it's different depending on where in Sweden you live? I grew up in Stockholm. Never heard about this until now.
The vacation is left from the old industry when the factories shut down for maintenence, and its still in use to this day. And as a bonus its probably the best time of the year weather wise.
Hey, Great to see you post a vid again! Made me really happy! I have just gone through a selling and buying of homes in Sweden and just wanna explain the whole close up picture phenomenon. For many Swedes it’s become really important with the small details in the apartment, because we often don’t wanna throw everything out and buy new stuff straight away. But mostly to show that original details are still intact. So the lamp on the windowsill is to show that the original marble is still there. And the handles on the cabinets say, “these are kinda fancy, you won’t have to buy new cabinets straight away”
The closeups are there just because of silly advice from salespeople, who believe it's needed for reasons of competitiveness because somebody with a quirky idea once told somebody in management that lie, who then brought this to the salespeople. No business dares to take the first step and scrap this nonsense. Another fad was those 45-degree angle pictures that drove everybody insane because you had to tilt your head or magazine this way and that way - and frankly it made the pictures - and the photographer - seem really crappy. So that went out the window really fast.
1: The beaches I think a majority of beaches in Sweden are not the typical, beautiful, sandy beaches people are used to (as you've said). As someone who's been on vacation in other countries a lot, the beaches here are just completely different than in other places (even though we do have some good ones). In this situation I think most swedes, like you said in the video, are just like "well, it what it is" and just deal with it. In other words, I don't think we care enough to do anything about it or most normal people don't know what you could even do about it. 2: Starving children No. Just no. This topic has come up a lot in discussions with family and friends recently because it has been such a hot debate online recently. The idea (I think) comes from back in the day, when families had to cook a specific amount of food to fit their family, as to not waste food. If a guest is invited over, ofcourse the family would take that into consideration but if a childs friend comes an hour before dinner is ready then the family won't have time to take that into consideration on such short notice (probably because it's too late and they already prepared dinner beforehand). The thing is, from what I've heard in these discussions, this isn't really that common anymore. Ofcourse it can still happen but it's not the 1990s anymore, most people don't prepare an exact amount of dinner multiple hours in advance. I for one have NEVER experiences being excluded from dinner or having a friend over and exclude them from dinner. Even back in the day it's not like EVERY family excluded friends from dinner like this; Every family works differently. Also, even if this were to happen it would most likely lead to you eating at home or people could just decide to eat before going to a friends house. No children are being starved to the brink of death is all I'm saying. Sorry for writing so much about this but the "stereotype" that Swedish people all decide to starve their childrens friends is so extremely silly to me that I wanted to clear some things up.
Dinner time is family times, the friend have a own family that want to spend that time with the kid, and ofcourse if the family invite a guest to them they cook food to this guest, but the kid is not realy invited in that meening. Today often the host family call and ask the kids family if it is ok if the kid eats there.
Lake Vättern has beautiful beaches with soft white sand. Also, I grew up in the 80's and 90's. I had NEVER heard of not beeing, at least asked if you want dinner/ lunch/ fika when at a friends house until i moved to Stockholm in the early 2000's. I honestly thought it was a myth!
Brännboll is interesting. We played it all throughout school! Basically there is the In-team and the Out-team. In-team hits the ball and Out-team tries to catch. After a set timer the teams switch places. I guess Brännboll has some different rules depending on context, such as if you play competitively or if you play with full teams of 10-year-olds and my memory of the rules comes from being young and playing it at school. The In-team tries to bat the ball and make a full lap around the field. The Out-team will try to catch the ball ("fånga lyra") and if they catch it without it hitting the ground they get a bonus point. If they catch it anyone in the In-team who is running will be stopped and "Burned" and have to go back to the previous base. Out-team gets point for each person "burned". If the Out-team cannot catch the ball on the first attempt they will have to grab it off the ground and throw it to an assigned player at which point anyone running then will get Burnt. The In-team tries to bat the ball and make it all the way around without getting Burnt. You can stop at any base if you think that you will not reach the next before the enemy team catches the ball. If you get burnt you are sent backwards one base so it is possible for the whole In-team to be out along the field leaving no one left to bat. In that case they have "lost" that stage and the teams swap places so if the In-team has few players left to bat there is an incentive to play aggressively and try to run even if you might not make it just to not lose the stage. In-team gets points for each person that finish a lap and if someone manage a full lap in one go they get bonus points TL-DR: In-team tries to bat the ball and make a full lap but can stay at the safe bases to avoid running when the ball is caught. If running when ball is caught you are sent back to previous base. Out-team tries to catch the ball when many from the In-team are running to get many points. Either catch the ball from the air or grab off ground and throw to assigned player.
Can concur with all others, the food thing is not a "rule" in Sweden. Many families do feed other kids and it happens all the time. When not, it is usually because they are supposed to eat at home at another time, or there is not enough food, or the family just want to be alone. As a child I remember I was served food at almost every other friends families, but not every day.
Those images at Hemnet and everywhere else, those items are usually not even the current owner's items. They are put there for the photos and you have to live with them until your flat is sold, at least we did (because it's practically that they come and get it at the same time as the actual moving takes place). In my case they took our furniture and stored them for us, and replaced them with theirs. The purpose with all this is of course to blow up the price, make the buyer eager to pay more, you know. That should be a no-brainer for a US American, shouldn't it? 🤣👍
True beaches are mostly only found in southern Sweden, in Halland, Blekinge and especially Skåne. These are indeed the provinces that used to be Danish, and I guess we borrowed some of the Danish geography while we were at it: flatlands, deciduous forests and beaches! :D
The “August vacation addiction” is just because we like long vacations and august is such a perfect time of the year because it’s not too hot and never cold.
I think there are several factors when it comes to inviting a child guest to join dinner, for example if its a younger child that is a neighbour then its automatically assumed that their family have their own special times for dinner and family time. If your child or their child were to ask to join they will most likely be allowed to, but the parent will probably ask the guest if it's ok with their parents. As the children get older its probably more and more likely that they will be asked if they wish to join dinner as well. So in general I think age of the child and how nearby they live (nextdoor neighbour etc) play important roles in this question. Can also matter how close and how well the parents of both families know each other. Part of it may be consideration to the guest child's parents, you don't want to feed their child if the parents expect their child to come home and eat there.
It’s probably because you’re mostly been to badplatser on lakes. But if you go to Skåne, Öland or Gotland the sand beaches stretch for miiiiles. There’s also quite a bit of sandy beaches in Stockholm but I think they’re all man made since it’s a rocky archipelago
You're doecial Meagan. Your comments on Sweden stands out. Everyone else comments on the same thing, but you see the world from a different perspective and make a lot mor fun and interesting observations.
1. I have never gone to a beach in Sweden that doesn't have sand. 2. I always offer my sons friends dinner. I don't remember how it was when I was a kid. 4. Have never seen that kind of photos. Maybe its in the bigger cities. 5. I would not agree that most people have there vacation i August. Most have there vacation in July. I will have 2 weeks in July and 2 Weeks in August. Some of my colleges started there vacation in June.
Pretty sure the dinner thing is specific for parts of the country. Asked around among my friends and none of us have ever been excluded from dinner when visiting friends growing up. And this is people from västra Götaland, Skåne and Luleå, so pretty diverse places of growing up
Finally you're back! with a video! You should visit Skåne/Österlen beautiful beaches with sand! If I ever see you at Arlanda where I work I Will shout "Welcome back to Sweden".
It's seen as douchey to send your kids over to someone else to feed them. But most of the time the kids play and just show up at a random house in the neighbourhood and the parents did not know he/she was coming. If you don't know you are serving 1 or more people it's hard to prepare food for them. This is the same all over the world. Not sure why sweden got headlines about this.
I had to watch the realtor photos chapter twice. Amazingly funny commentary on this very weird phenomenon. Especially funny to hear someone from outside commenting on it.
The close ups of the home photos is to show the quality of materials and workmanship, something that I have notices are quiet low in the property in US and Canada. Also the "irrelevant" photos show a variation of tastes a place can have with personal decorations, or ideas of planting the terraces for example, but taste is something not all cultures share, obviously.
The vacation thing comes from when many more people worked industrial jobs. Everybody would get their summer vacation at the same time and factories would shut down (this still happens actually), because that's cheaper for them than running at half speed all summer or hiring inexperienced temporary workers who can't keep production rolling smoothly. It's way easier to just shut everything down for a month!
Haha, I can answer for the Hemnet-thing. Most realtors hire photographers and homestylers who either together or separately chooses what to show in the apartment, the realtor doesn't really have that much input into the ad. Usually they want to create a ~*vibe*~ rather than show off the place - that is what the showings are for.
So. it’s hard to meal plan if spontaneous drop in happens. It’s a “nice” way to say “kid, your family is probably eating, get the F home”. (because they have probably meal planned for that kid to and now it’s a wasted chair). Everyone is also forgetting that this type of style having guest over was pre mobile phone after school, so it’s was a great way to just make sure friends kids goes home so that parents don’t have to worry about their kids. “Home to dinner”.
When you come back to Örebro, You have to take a trip to Harge Badplats, Just south of Askersund. Plenty of sand for you there =) And you have Leken badplats, between Örebro and Karlskoga. Greetings from a fellow Örebroare!
Regarding the sand/beach thing: The reason to why you haven’t found a real beach yet is because you haven’t been to SKÅNE…! 🙄😅 We have the most beautiful beaches! Also, where I grew up, it was standard to include the childrens guests/friends in the meals. I think it’s very much a class/socioeconomic related question. I actually also recently found out that it’s common to NOT share the meals with guests and I don’t get it either! 😅 VERY strange behavior if you ask me…
About badplatser - most Swedish places don't have long beaches since that's not very normal in the Swedish nature (I guess). So most of the places I've been to might have a small beach closest to the water and further away there is only grass, or rocks if you're in the archipelago. I like many other swedes prefer grass to sand. Grass is way more comfortable and cozy to sit on than rocks or sand. Hate how sand gets stuck everywhere when I come up from the water! About not being invited as a kid to dinner at a friend's house - I have memories of this happening as a kid. And this didn't normally have anything to do with rudeness, it's more about the fact that I had already ate at home, or perhaps I was going to eat later at home. At my house we usually ate pretty late like at 18-19, but I had friends who had dinner at 17, so if I was playing with her at 16, within an hour I had to wait for a while because she had to eat. I had one friend who I ate at sometimes, but I had to tell my parents so they didn't prepare anything for me if I wasn't going to come home. About the realtor photos - I completely agree! This is a phenomenon which has become more and more common which is so silly. They did it to my apartment which I was selling a few months ago. I had already moved out and they decorated the entire flat with furniture and stuff. It looked beautiful but it was very silly to see close up photos of candles and decorations that weren't even mine standing on furniture that weren't mine, and the buyer wouldn't get any of it... I think it's just a ambience vibe, try to make the apartment look cozy and stylish. But to me it's feel a little weird.
Imagine the scenario: The kid comes home. His mom says - the food is ready. And the kid replies - I already eaten at my friends house. And the mom gets irritated because she cooked the food in vain. So it's kind of a respect thing. Perhaps very Swedish. And perhaps inherited from the days when food/money was scarce.
I was just in my friends room chilling and reading comic books, watching tv, or playin on the family computer or video console wich i was happy to do more then hanging around his patrents wich I had no interest in doing, and then i either ate wehn I got home or beforte going to my friends house.
The thing about leaving our friends in our room while we went to eat is just plain out wrong. When I grew up (late 90s, early 00s.) our family never let my friends sit alone in my room. We always invited them to the table... Well, "invited them to the table" sounds wrong. We invited them to the room so we could watch them watching us, starving, while we ate and laughed at them being hungry and starving. I miss the good old days.
1. We do have sandy beaches, also manmade sandy beaches at lakes (like our Minnesota brothers and sisters). Southern Sweden has the best beaches. Öland has one of the longest sandy beach. 2. I’m not that parents, but my kids friends do get food - if they want. Usually is out of respect to ask the kids parents if it’s “ok if they eat here?” Also kids here are used to their parens food so most kids say NO if you ask them if they want something, or (NO I have to ask my parents). 3. Burnball (Bren-ball): as I remember, you could win by “burning out” the whole team at first base. 4. It’s to inspire, Swedes go the extra mile to get the buyer to imagine how it could be living there. 5. Marathons.. I don’t get that one. Most swedes have “early” or “late” vacation. This can be mandatory (scheduled or planned..) but people plan on superstition. Summer may be awesome early or perfect later.. gut feeling.
the normal for vacation weeks are from late june to late july, then the other half late july to late agust. its not to easy to pick and choose often u just get whats avaible. or if u did the june-july this year then next year u get july-agust.
Brännboll is a wonderful game, because people of all ages can play it together. When I was a child the whole neighbourhood often played brännboll together. The plyers were between 5 and 75 years old - in the same match. The younger children could use a flat bat instead of a round. And it didn't matter that they couldn't run as fast as the elder, because they only had to run from one cone to the next cone, before the ball was thrown back and catched by the one who could bränna (burn) them, if they didn't reach the cone in time.
About the brännboll-thing, I think you read the game by american standards, but the out-in signs are for the teams and the points they´ve aquired. So it´s not players that are "out", but rather the the team that´s on the field (the outer team) has gained that amount of points vs the inner team (the team of hitters). The hitter and earlier hitters can run the bases when the hitter hits the ball into the field but the strike gets disqualified if the outer team catches the ball before it hits the ground, if it bounces the inner team runs as many bases they can befopre the ball is thrown back to home base. Another thing is the vacation one, back in the past a big part of the work force in the industries got the vacation time late in summer, usually by late july-early august and that might have become a tradition. Also swedish summer usually is at it´s best in july august and to be as close to garanteed a nice vacation a lot of people take the time a bit late in the season. And don´t forget: most employers won´t let you take your vacation exactly as you wish, all companies don´t shut down or have summer employees so the workforce need to space out their vacation for the business to work. :)
It's fun to watch this as: 1, bathing from the rocks is 100% better than having to do it from a beach. I'm def one of the ppl who will go straight for the rocks instead of staying on the sand. 2, Read so many comments about being a "starving child" never happening to them but oh god... It has happened to me so so many times and admittedly, my family has done it on occasions as well (although not that often). Grew up in a pretty well off area i'd say and dinner time was like.... The highlight of the day for families. It sounds weird but to me back then it was completely normal and i never saw it as a problem. Sometimes the start of dinner marked the end of playtime, and you left your friend for the day to go home and eat dinner with you own family instead. 3, Brännboll is probably one of the most fun games to play I honestly still love it so much. The rules are simple and all you really need is a racket + a ball (cones? beer cans. the brännplatta? pizza takeout box). The WC in Brännboll is a bit silly, but anyone can participate as long as you have a team. The city is the same every year and it's the biggest weekend of the entire year, although that's also in due to a music festival, Brännbollsyran (or just yran, locally), taking place at the same time.
From the german living in Scotland. The german brennball is played without a bat and a bigger ball. Near the beginning of the field there is a base. People can run around the field as long as ball is not back at base. If u re in between poles and the ball reaches base u are out. If u manage to get around the field u get a point. Not sure if the swedish version is similar re rules but it might help. Take care in that lovely land.
Haha! 3:50 Rösjöbadet is a classic retreat for northern Stockholm surburbians. 😄 I've also spent my share of time, as a kid, playing videogames in friends rooms while they were eating dinner downstairs. I guess you get used to it. 😉
I've grown up in Sweden and followed a lot of friends home after school, and I always got fed at their place. I think that's gotta be a myth that families don't offer guests food when they're staying over.
That's so true that some Swedes don't feed guests. As a foreigner this had confused me so much and had cause me to unexpectedly skip dinner. And I was an expected guest! :(
My mother and my friends mothers always checked with each other before offer food. Somethimes it was OK, sometimes not. My children could always invite their friends to dinner but they had to call home first if it was OK.
I was a kid with allergies, I dreaded the question if I wanted to eat, simply didn't want to have to say that I couldn't eat that. And since potatoes was one of those foods I couldn't eat, it was a serious problem as most food was based on potatoes in the 90ies. I'm happy it was the way it was. Also this does not stem from people not wanting to offer food, it was the opposite in most cases, people didn't want their kids to be a burden on another family financially, this was respected mutually. People took pride in being able to provide food for their family, it is rooted in the time where Sweden was a poor country, where people had to eat tree bark to survive, you simply didn't put a strain on another family to provide for your kids, it was your task to provide food for your family. Also would have been weird sitting by the table while they were eating if I couldn't eat myself, I much rather sit in the friends room. It's not weird, just different.
The closeups of the details on apartments: I agree, it’s so annoying with the just random decorative photos 😅 Some are good though, like seeing the material/design details of the apartment! Vacation days at the same time: many people can’t decide when to take their vacation. Even in positions you would think that they can decide. I can decide, so I usually take it later/earlier than most. However, it is a bit trickier to do so!
As a Dane I hope you'll be back in Scandinavia. You're a bright star in artic winter. The southern part of Sweden has sand. Or you could take a small boat hop to Bornholm, there's plenty of sand there.
im an second generation immigrant in sweden (im born here). This behavior with starving kids is a very strong swedish tradition. I was never given any food/snack/drink as a kid when i was at my friends homes. however they were always fed at my home by my mom. this was very interesting because seeing a swede being given "free food" is something special, the tinyest little kid was told he could have food and their eyes lit up like the sun itself! not only did they eat, they had no idea how to behave so they literally eat 3/4 of all food for the entire family + lunchboxes. not only that, they started to raid our damn fridge and cabinet for food and sweets. it was like they had NEVER seen food before and had no idea how to behave and ate like a bear before winter slumber. This tradition of not giving kids any food with swedes slowly went to immigrants as well as they became more assimmilated. Personally i'd never let a kid starve, no matter how assimmilated i am.
There are for sure beaches in Sweden. Where I live I have two nearby. But it is true that we have a lot of rocks as well. The big beaches are Böda Sand (Öland) 20 kilomer long of perfect white sand and Tylesand (Halland) and Sudersand (Gotland). In Österlen to Ystad you have many beaches.
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That swedengate thing is more complicated. As a child, if youre invited than you will be served food, if you come uninvited, you wont get food. And when i say invited i mean that the friend your going to have his parents call your parents saying that you will be having dinner there etc. You dont wanna give a kid dinner if his/her parents already have cooked food for him/her.
Yes, this is in most, if not all, cases the actual reason!
The proverbial "friend" in this story had his or her own dinnertime and were supposed to be home by then and eat their own meal that their parents were probably already preparing for them. Someone else feeding that child just before their dinnertime would actually have been rude for real!
I'm American and I like the way you guys do this. It makes complete sense and just sounds like good manners to me.
Exactly, also some times the mother of my friends family asked if I wanted to eat with them. If I did they made me call home and ask if it was OK to eat there and to let my parents know that they did not have to wait or prepare food for me.
Exactly the way it was growing up. I often had dinner at friends, but not without checking with mom if it was OK first.
Swedish waters are very cold so laying down on warm cliffs afterwards can be quite nice.
That is a good point!
I live on the US east coast where it's all sand beaches. Seeing these huge slabs of rock at the water looks great to me. After a trip to the beach here the sand sticks to everything and gets everywhere. You always take a mess of sand home with you like it or not. Also it is rare that the wind is not blowing sand on you as you try to catch some rays. If there were an outcropping of smooth flat rock like there here it would be filled with people.
they are not always cold so keep quiet.
@@markusforsberg6741 nej inte ALLTID. Men för någon som växte upp på ostkusten låt mig säga 13 grader är inte vad de flesta skulle klassa som varmt men jag kan ligga i en två timmar ändå så f off foppa
In reference to another of your posts, about Swedish viral videos and memes: If Leif G.W. Persson ever sunbathed on rocks, he would both look and sound like a seal. 😋
I agree it's weird to call it the WC of Brännboll, but to be fair though it's somewhat rich hearing it from a US citizen since you do the exact same with both Baseball and American football
Brännboll , rugby, fotboll........USA är smältdegel av Europeisk emigration och kolonialism. De utvecklade bara nya versioner av det de hade med sig från Europa, precis som cricket förändrades i många regioner där Engelsmännen drog fram som kolonisatörer. 😊
So true. I'm American and some of us laugh at that. "The World Champions..... of the United States"
@@dabooser1048MLB - Toronto(Canada) Bluejays...NFL - ya got me
I don't get how that can be funny to an American, either.
The thing about the guest being excluded from dinners is, in my experience, only when the kids of the family bring friends home and they weren't expecting to have to cook enough for a guest that day. I experienced this a few times as a kid, but it was equally common to just be invited to have dinner with them. Really just came down to whether or not there was enough food available to feed another person and whether or not the guest planned on having dinner at home. The whole thing has been overblown on social media and it's really not as bad as it sounds.
As a kid/teen in Sweden in the 90s I was over at a friends house or had friends over almost all the time. We rarely notified our parents that there was going to be a guest situation. We always walked or biked on our own between houses. Under those circumstances I don't think it's strange that sometimes there was not enough food for a surprise guest. Anyway today I think it's less common for several reasons.
thats not really an excuse tho.
The only time this would happen at my house is if the kid calls home to ask if it's okay that they stay for dinner and their parents say no because they want the kid to come home and eat soon instead. Then we ask the kid if they prefer to sit with us or keep playing until it's time to go home.
That being said I have experienced this odd tradition a few times in other peoples' homes when I was a kid (not often). And no, it didn't feel normal and expected. It felt pretty weird even as a kid
@@Morhua1 yeah same. And the fact that the friend had a dinner waiting at home a few minutes away anyway. I understand that it sounds strange if it's like in the US where there can be a big distance between the kid and it's friend. Of course we then would provide food but then it would also be known beforehand. Usually where I live, the neighborhood kids run in and out all day. Impossible to assume that they all should be fed. 4 or 10 portions? 15? No, that's not sustainable.
@@Sodacacik excuse for what? You need to understand the circumstances. If you have kids in your hose that lives far away and they are staying for long you will of course feed them. If it's the neighbours kid you will not since they can eat at home. It's really a non-issue and everyone growing up in Sweden know how it works.
INNE and UTE on the score board refers to the teams. Innelaget is the team that is taking turns serving the ball and running. Utelaget is the team on the field trying to catch. Points are given for things like catching the ball and running around the field etc.
Precis, bra skrivet.
More on the subject "brännboll"/"burn!-ball" (the ! is needed in the translation as "bränn" is in the imperative form, meaning it's an order): the game differs a lot from baseball. Both teams score during any phase of the game. Teams switch sides if a set timer is up, or if the IN-team has no more people to bat the ball. The IN-team scores by running their players from base (cone) 1 to 2 then 3 and lastly pass the 4th base (you've then made it over the field in a U-shape) to score you must run past the cone/base on the "outer" side of it ("around it"). Multiple players may hog the same base (no limit). Homeruns give extra points. The OUT-team scores by "burning" their opponents, players who are not safely standing still by a base will "burn" when the ball reaches a designated burner on the OUT-team (this burner must stomp the "burner plate", located close to the batting station, to actually burn the opponents). The OUT-team also scores by catching the ball directly (from the hitting batter) mid-air with two hands (or scoribg more points by only using one hand), catching the ball is called making a "lyra". No gloves are used, but baseball caps/hats may be used in informal games (called "drunken burn!-ball") as a catching tool. So basically the ball is thrown loosely by the batter itself in to air, hit, fly-fly, caught mid-air or from the ground, thrown back up the field (preferably by shorter and quicker throws among several team mates - making a "throw chain") to the burner, and repeat.
The game is slightly more fun to watch (or to play) then Baseball, but.. compared to some other popular sports, like soccer, ice-hockey, handball, volleyball etc - it's still definitely really boring.
De utvecklade en egen variant av brännboll och kallade det Baseball. Precis som det mesta, inte allt, så verkar amerikaner tro att de uppfann det mesta, i stället för att inse att de är ganska ung nation baserad på Europeisk kolonialism och emigration. Det mesta är en smältdegel av vad de som emigrerade tog med sig så att säga.
As a Swede, I recognize that our 'badplatser' are different to what most people around the world expect, but it is what I prefer. I am willing to be a little uncomfortable lying on the cliffs to escape what I consider the bad parts of going to a sandy beach (coarse and rough and gets everywhere, you know the drill).
Anyway, we do in fact have beaches, and if you'd like to see a good Swedish sandy beach, I'd recommend visiting the southwestern and/or southmost parts of the country (Varberg, Halmstad, Trelleborg etc)
Indeed, there are amazing beaches even here. Add Öland as well. Fantastic beaches.
Also a lot of nice beaches the lakes Vättern and Vänern 👍
I would say that badplats is almost by definition not a "strand/beach". If its a badplats, its gras or rocks. With posibly a tiny bit of sand right at the water.
The northen part of sweden (half the country) almost only has sand beaches.
Skåne has some lovely beaches with real sand (I was surprised that they had that). I used to live in Lund and would go to Lomma during hot summer days. It's great ☺️
Gotland aswell
Even Norrland har dom.
@@mgntstr yea.. but there you need a axe to remove the ice first.
Brännboll is great! I think of it as a fun game only slightly more serious than Kubb. I'm sure only a tiny fraction of Swedes have ever watched a "pro game" of brännboll. I had no idea those exist and I don't feel like watching it.
Pretty sure there's no "real" pro brännboll. Just a fun event that they called world championships for a laugh
@@DisaFeiffFaith Makes just as much sense as the baseball championship in the US: "The World Series"
The championship is a student festival, where 99 percent of the participants are playing just for fun. It could have been beer pong or anything, but they brilliantly chose brännboll. I went there twice when I studied in the 80s. We traveled from Uppsala and was more or less constantly drunk.
I totally agree about the real estate photos. Half of the ads has no layout visible and only close ups so you can't see the plan of the house or apartment.
As a kid in the 90's there were many occasions where I was at a friend's house and was waiting for them to eat dinner. It was normal, and I was also a very picky eater, plus my mom would want me to eat the food she made when I got home. There were occasions when I was offered food.
I think that back then at least, it wasn't really easy for parents to quickly make more food than what they had already planned to make for their family. And kids could just drag home one or more friends, and that could be too much to handle. And before cellphones it wasn't really easy to give a heads up.
I can't speak for kids today, but my personal experience was that it was no issue waiting in my friend's room for them to come back from dinner. 🙂
Oh indeed! I was a kid with allergies, I preferred not being offered, didn't want to have to say I could not eat the food.
If someone offered food you had to call home and ask if you could eat there. Fairly often my parents wanted me to keep from eating there and eat at home. Maybe I was allowed but I'd get the feeling that it made my parents a bit annoyed.
Come to Halmstad, when you come back to Sweden. We have real beaches, search for "Halmstad Tylösand". Hope you can get back to Sweden.
Or Pite havsbad
Ängelholm Skälderviken
Regarding the real estate photos, it's mostly about selling you the idea of how you could decorate the space. Instead of just showing empty rooms.
And setting the mood. The current owner probably don’t even have the items shown - it’s staged.
Pretty much the same reason we see the food we're buying being garnished or decorated on the box or ad. Isn't it just how we advert things?
As I have some interest in architecture I have joined some online groups on various platforms and 9/10 houses listed in the US (that are posted in these groups) do have furniture and those "weird" photos in the images pulled from the listings. Maybe this is a thing for just for house or maybe those that post to these groups select listings with these photos, I don't know. Also I have started to notice that more of them are now "digitally staged" with Photoshoped furniture..
I've had that both ways, the feeding guests thing, both as a child myself, and being an adult. I think in all cases it's always been that food was cooked and prepared, then in comes a child with a friend, with no warning ahead of time that "I'll bring an extra to the table." Usually though, at least Something can be prepared. At other times it can be as simple as the child or guest is expected to eat at home once they get back there so as to not say ... "Naah, don't want any food, I've already eaten". Could be all sorts of things, but I honestly don't think we're as a general rule hostile to feeding guests, be it children or adults. 😀
Summer in sweden is the best day of the whole year. Of course, everyone wants a vacation that day. You take 4 weeks vacation in hopes of getting that day.
Haha. En bitter sanningshalt i den kommentaren 😂😭👍🏻
Summer is only one day in Sweden?
@@gwenkilby No that’s an exaggeration, but for many people it feels that way. Most of summer rains away especially on the west coast. Gothengourg (Göteborg) only gets about 200 sunhours a year.
The southernmost tip of Norway and the northern tip of Denmark togeather with the gulfstream creates a pathway for the atlantic winds to Gothenbourg.
Although it’s strategic place for shipping, the weather sucks, and umbrellas are aimed sideways or downwards (rain never comes from above).
But there are other Beautiful sunny places in sweden ofcourse. It’s a tall country that contains many types of weather anomalies from south to north, from east to west.
@@robinlundh3962 Fascinating, thank you!
@@gwenkilby you’re welcome.
Den klassiska semesterperioden är juli i Sverige men den kontinentala varianten augusti har blivit allt vanligare, dessa två månader är de enda som generellt har sommar klimat. Sedan 1938 har svenska löntagare rätt till sammanhängande ledighet (numera minst fyra veckor) till skillnad mot exempelvis US där sådan rättighet knappast finnes.
Precis, semesterlagen ger rätt som du skriver 4 veckor sammanhängande, under perioden juni-augusti men frågan om var under perioden ledigheten ska förläggas äger arbetsgivaren.
Mestadels för att vädret är bättre i augusti än i juli
Regarding starving of children, there is this term in Swedish called, “tacksamhetsskuld”, or debt of gratitude whereby people in general do not want others to feel obliged to return the favor later. Also, if you feed other person’s child, we may be ruining their dinner plans later when they go home to their parents. This is like a general understanding of a Swedish etiquette.
The weirdest new realtor thing are those apartment ads where the description is 2nd person POV. "You wake up from a good night's sleep and go to the beautiful kitchen to make yourself a cup of coffee. As the coffee brews, you look out the windows to admire the work your husband has done in the garden. You have a feeling it is going to be a good day today." It makes me laugh every time.
Maybe it's because I live in Skåne, but I've only ever seen beaches with sand. I live so far down in the south that I'm essentially completely surrounded by sand, so I guess it depends on where you live. I wouldn't expect a lake to have an artificial beach attached to it
The Great Lakes in the US are crazy. They're so massive, they do have legit sandy beaches with waves. It's really bizarre seeing people surf in 4' freshwater surf.
The biggest lakes in Sweden has sandy beaches also! But smaller lakes usually has a small sandy strip closest to the water. We don't make these into artificial beaches adding a lot of sand. And since the sandy part of those naturally occurring beaches isn't that big, you'll usually find a bigger grass covered area where there is room for people on their blankets.
As a Swede I have to make this clear about “not feeding your friends at your house”. Personally, this has never happened to me. We have not done this to anyone, and I have never experienced it at my friends house.
When this became mainstream I asked my friends about it and most of them have experienced it, not being fed or not feeding. The reason to me seems to be that some families simply cannot afford to feed an extra person or didn’t expect the company and there isn’t enough food. Otherwise I think this idea stems from when most friends lived next door, and it was commonplace to eat with your family, and then return to playing at the friends house.
So it’s not like we are unkind on purpose, I would view it as a class issue, which is very Swedish of me to say...
Very much doubt it is that "some families simply cannot afford to feed an extra person" since the (rather few) cases i know bout are all middle class. Over precise lunch/dinner planning is probably one of the reason.
@@cynic7049 Well sometimes you just have planned for the kids to have left overs for dinner while you yourself have other things to do than cook an unplanned meal for an uninvited/spontaneus guest. It is what it is. I don’t cook everyday🤷♀️
Actually I think the thing about not feeding the friends of your children stems from it being seen as you're then suggesting that the child in questions family can't feed their own children by giving them food without making sure it's okay first. The one's who did this to me as a child was mostly middle class families with two cars and a suburban house. My friends that were actually quite poor never ever did this to anyone, they always fed any child that happened to be there at dinner time. I'm happy to say though that my family never had any of my friends wait in my room when we ate, I would've felt so embarrassed and petty asking my friends to wait instead of just eating with us.
The reason I never got food or my friends never got food was because dinner was already planned. So, my friends all just walked over to their own houses and ate dinner, then we continued playing. I don't see the problem here, haha.
As be from Halland, we have sandy beaches
Goggle places as Skrea strand, Tylösand, Frösakull, Mellbysand, Olofsbo, Haverdal,
A hell of a lots of sand... look it up. Especially Mellbystrand
I think the main reason for lack of sand is that to make man-made beaches you have to dredge up sand from the bottom of the ocean, and that messes up the eco-system for the marine life
So just go to natural sand beaches then? Does sweden not have them? Ive never even seen a “man made beach anywhere near me in the NE USA.
@@sarahalderman3126 Yes there are miles and miles of sand beaches in Sweden. I live 30 mins from a 20 mile long beach along the coast. Yet we tend to drive 45 min to visit a beach that is half a mile long with the whitest and finest sand you can ever imagine, it's just spectacular! Also there are over 70000 lakes in Sweden and many of them have small natural sand beaches. But some geographical areas in Sweden are naturally more rocky and I think that is where she has been seeing people sun bathing on the hard rocks. 😉
@@Ahldor ahh, that makes more sense. Funny how people will go to a small area and just assume the rest of nation is exactly like that.
@@sarahalderman3126 In Sweden the vast majority of lake sediment is "blålera". This is like, radioactive clay, due to the high levels of uranium, because of glaciers moving and eroding uranium-rich mountains over the eons. Not a good idea to dregde from the bottom to make a radioactive clay beach (which would just become quicksand).
A few places have sand. Gothland and Scania, for instance, because they had less galcial stuff going on. That sand is a valuable resource in the construction industry, to make cement. We used to do it with the "blålera", but we stopped when we figured out that it was radioactive...
So sandy beaches are either super expensive to make, or they are natural (common in the south). And in the end of the day laying on a rock isn't that bad.
@@sarahalderman3126 real sand beaches needs salt. At least in the swedish climate. They also need to be mud free. Other vice you taking a bath in 8 inches of water and sink 15 inches down in the mud.
If you live far away from the ocean... or the baltic, there is no salt water. There is mud or rocks. It takes like 3 hours to go from Örebro to the closest real beach. I guess Norrköping is probobly the closest and they are not really even decent.
And of cause on the Eastern side lakes will always be warmer... or.. well. Less cold than the sea. On the western side its more even.
Western sweden have loads of nice beaches.
I grew up in Southwest Sweden and it was completely packed with sandy beaches everywhere.
Often when I was a kid my friend's parents asked if I wanted to eat there but I mostly said no because I needed to go home and eat later and I already told my mom i was going to.. This was before mobile phones though. And it's not like they ate for an hour.. The friend would like rush down to the kitchen and eat in 5 minutes and get back. Would just feel strange to sit there and watch them.
11:49 - The reason everyone go on vacation at the same time; _"industrisemestern"_ ("general industrial holiday").
If you owned a factory with 500 employees; what would you prefer?
*A.* Have 33-50% of the workforce leave on vacation for 1 month, losing several key positions across the floor, which essentially completely halts production. Then a repeat of the whole thing for additional 1-2 months?
*B.* Let the whole workforce have vaccation at the same time, and only halt production for 1 month. Which you use for deep maintenance and to adjust and build new production lines.
Most industries choose *B.* And with production on vaccation, so goes the offices on vaccation. With the big manufactures on vaccation, the suppliers take the opportunity to go on vacation too.
And with their blue/white collar spouses on vaccation, so goes service working partners on vaccation.
Essentially; the whole country have decided to have vaccation at the same time (because it's often better to lose the whole workforce for a month, than to lose small groups over several months)
And the reason the university handler went on vaccation? Because several key positions of the university was on vaccation, so the handlar could just go as well too. They wouldn't be able to do most of their work anyway.
Yes, this exactly. And also, you have to think aboute the weather. In sweden we have 2-3 months of really good summer weather potentially and the majority of the ppl want to have vacation when the weather is good. I can imagen that it's not that big of a deal if you live in California or Miami where the weather are nice all year around, but here, where its dark and cold for 8-10 months we really want to make the most of the little good weather time we have :)
She is totally wrong. In Sweden we all take our vacation in July Not in August. As students start their studies in August.
@@TheStedomi Are you talking specifically about teachers? Because half of my workplaces, and my whole family, had their holiday in August
@@ElectariumTunic In general. Of course many people take vacation in August or September etc. But the big majority of Swedes have their vacation in July. Not August like she say.
@@TheStedomi Circa half take their vaccation in July. But the remaining majority take it in August.
As employers that cannot close - i.e. most of the service sector (74% of the population) - split their vaccations June/August
The only one I can think of that just do vaccation in July is the industrial sector (11% of the population) and those who solely serve that sector
I was born in 1994 and I have never heard of friend not getting dinner. I might have a memory of friend going home to eat before coming back maybe
I would say that July is the most popular time for vacation. Everyone is fighting for those weeks, at least where I live 😅
At university everyone fighting about August so they don't have to be there when the students come and they also can do there work with no studens in july
Re the "starving children": This is an old custom in Sweden that slowly is dying down. It stems from way back when Sweden was a poor agricultural county and you ate what you was able to harvest in a really short amount of time during the year due to our harsh climate. This also brought with it a ingrained sense of pride that you should not burden others with you own hardships which in turn gets switch on the host not to embarrass the other family by offer the visiting child food as if its family couldn't feed that child. As a Gen X from a working class background, this is very much in my very soul. I always feed my childs friends, but they always had to call home and ask if it was ok though. If my child gets fed at a friends house I always feel a sense of immediate shame! I know it's stupid but I can't help it. It is a dying tradition and that's good, but there is a cultural and historical reason for it.
This^
Spot on!
Exactly, it's not about not offering food to someone, it's about your kid not being a burden on another family, it was a mutual respect for one another. It was blown out of proportion on social media close to a medieval witch hunt. 🤦♂️
My thought's on your confusion:
1. Some do prefer sand everywhere, even if it gets into you swimsuit (if they have any). I like all, but always bring a foam mat to sit and lay on, so soft even on top of rocks.
2. Well it happened to when a kid, but mostly we are invited to join the meal.
3. Brännboll. There may be a slight variation on rules and scores. But when I went too school (40 years ago) we had the "in team" witch bat got one point for each who made it back to the bat que/ passed the last cone.
If the hit is bad - the bat'er walk to first cone and wait for next bat'er to hopefully get a better hit. They can run independently or at the same time.
Five points for the bat person to run around all four cones before the "out team" "brännare" got the ball in his/her hand and a foot on "brännplattan" (burn pad) and yell BRÄND!!!.
If the "in team" runner didn't get to a cone or passed last cone before BRÄND!!! - then runner is burned and have to return to first cone while "out team" score one point.
If "out team" catch "Lyra" the ball in the air directly from the bat - "out team" score two points for two hand catch and four points for one hand catch.
4. May just be esthetic's. Often when an apartment is shown or photographed - they plant stylish furnish, flowers and sometimes even heat up some "Kanelbullar" during a show "visning" in the oven to sell the home.
5. Before many people had the industrial vacation that's usually in July. Whole factory's did shut down during those weeks. Nowadays vacation are more spread out.
In Russia the first thing is - to feed any quest (or at least to offer a cup of tea or coffee).
Rules of Brännboll (Burn ball)
2 teams.
One team lines up to hit the ball with the bat. Each cone is a safe station and you must make it all around to get points (depening on rules - if you make it all around without stopping at a cone you get highest points).
Second team picks a "brännare" (Burner) and the others spread around the field. Their job is to catch the ball and throw it to the brännare who then shouts "BRÄND!" (BURNED!). Anyone running between cones and not making it to a safe station will BE OUT. Their job is to keep burning the other team til they no longer have anyone that can swing the bat. They will be "Utbränd" (Burned out).
And the team who is hitting is ”inne” and the one’s who is catching is ”ute” .
I have never myself experienced being a kid to not being invited to share food and when my kids grew up, their friends was always invited for dinner, even showing up unannounced. About the "beaches" in Sweden, if you noticed, it's pretty deep where there's rocks, they would destroy the underwater fauna if they filled up with sand. When it comes to grass growing all the way to the shore, I believe they don't fill up with sand because the lakes aren't deep enough and quite shallow. Go south if you want sandy beaches, Skanör-Falsterbo, Borrby strand, Lomma, Malmö, Helsingborg, Simrishamn. Too many to mention here. Anyway welcome back !
Okej men vad är sommar grejen med "kompis stannar på rummet" That's a all around the year thing. Thank you, haha I never had a problem waiting in my friends room...I eat later when I get home..this is just when a friend is over for just a couple of hours...if you're on a sleep over and stay longer time than of course they will fed you... but who want to spend time with a friend's parents and have to talk with them...and listening to other families talking a the dinner table.. awkward.
Who cares if it's awkward. It's decency I say. Kids need to learn to socialise. Feed the fricking kids. My opinion
@@reallivebluescat dom har väl en egen mamma som bestämt när dom ska komma hem å äta och inte tvinga andra att ge deras barn mat.
it's probably easier to wait in your friend's room when you're coveredincake.
Exactly this! You had a plate of food waiting for you at home anyway. I understand that it sounds strange if the kids live far away or you are from a third world country but usually Swedes feed their children.
@@reallivebluescat why? Their parents have already prepared food for them. Go home, eat, and come back. Easier for everyone.
Regarding the food situation.
From what I can recall of my childhood in the 80's and early 90's (in Stockholm if that matters), I have some vague memories of waiting in a friends room while him and his family ate. I can't recall ever feeling anything weird about waiting in his room.
As far as I remember of those situations the friends mother would always ask about my food situation, if she was even aware of me even being there.
I if I was hungry and there wasn't enough food prepared I would probably be offered a sandwich or some other snack to tide me over.
But mostly I would have eaten before coming over or have food waiting for me at home.
Often I would just run home and eat and come back, especially if I knew my mother was cooking at home. (she would usually be very annoyed if I didn't come home for planned meals)
I have more memories of eating with my friends family than waiting in another room while they ate.
Usually if it was a planned and/or longer visit.
And being offered small snacks "mellanmål" by the friends mother between lunch and dinner or in the evening was very common. Being fed at a friends place was never a a problem. More being a case of our mothers wanting us to eat at home for lunch/dinner.
The tropical south, skåne, has sandy beaches for days!😎🏖 You should definitely check it out on you next visit 🙌🏻
Also the dinner thing has been a big discussion here across all major media platforms, and this is the summary:
- Due to respect for the kids parents, who usually also made supper that evening.
- Not giving his partners any reason to think they didn’t feed their child properly.
- The kid in question wasn’t in the mood to sit down with his friends parents (social awkward swede syndrome) 🫣
A good thing to keep in mind is that you would mostly go back home from your friend house around 17:00-19:00 “during dinner time”. 😉
We did eat when our friends then i was a kid.. well. If they eat. But then when my dad got me and drive me home there was second diner at home. So I was probobly not starving.
Also.. of cause depending on where you live you might get decent food at school.
I didn't when I grew up, but where I live now the school food is amazing.
My theory of the "starving child" thing is that it´s first of all a week day thing, your child brings home a friend after school and you feed that child "Mellanmål or Mellis" which when i was a child was Chocolatemilk (Oboy) and sandwiches (Skogaholmslimpa was the brand or regular white toast that you toasted). You always got this is my experience with being a child in the 90´s/early 00.
Then when i came time for dinner the parents wanted the friend to go home but as we are a people with big fears of conflict overall you didn´t say that to the friend but hoped it would get the hint and go home by not being invited to eat dinner.
But children want to play with it´s friend for as long as possible and therefore you sat in the room hungry.
The rest of the world may see us as monsters but the majority of Swedish children are well feed and i think now a days it´s changed when we that was brought up this way has children of our own and let there friends eat with us.
(i don´t have any children but if i did there friends would be welcomed to eat with us)
Also this was a weekday thing, if you where at a friends house on the weekend you would be invited for lunch is my experience.
It's not just Sweden though, is it? Seems like several northern European countries have this tradition. I hope you guys don't change this. Sweden is fine the way it is.
I don't get where number two came from. That never happened me. Me and my mom were veeery poor when I was growing up but we always scraped together enough for everyone present. I don't get how you can just let a friend sit in another room while youre eating. I really don't think it's that common in Sweden as people seem to think.
I can count on one hand the times I ate at my friend's place. I went home for 20 minutes and ate instead. Kids were running in and out of all of our houses. Would have been impossible for a mom to make dinner to all of us. Also, I've been left alone many times in another room but actually most of the times I got asked if I wanted to eat but declined (since I had food waiting at home).
Jag kan bara minnas att det hände mig hos en kompis när jag var liten. Men jag var van med att det var så hos just den kompisen.
It was more common before, it's getting more rare now. It stems from poverty, people simply didn't want their kids to be a burden on another family, there was a mutual respect to this. It lived on for a long time past the time of poverty. It was definitely present when I was a kid in the late 80ies and during the 90ies and I as a kid preferred it that way.
@@AlexKall I also grew up during the early 90s. Maybe it's different depending on where in Sweden you live? I grew up in Stockholm. Never heard about this until now.
@@prasselboll might be, live in Skaraborg
The vacation is left from the old industry when the factories shut down for maintenence, and its still in use to this day. And as a bonus its probably the best time of the year weather wise.
Hey, Great to see you post a vid again! Made me really happy!
I have just gone through a selling and buying of homes in Sweden and just wanna explain the whole close up picture phenomenon.
For many Swedes it’s become really important with the small details in the apartment, because we often don’t wanna throw everything out and buy new stuff straight away. But mostly to show that original details are still intact.
So the lamp on the windowsill is to show that the original marble is still there. And the handles on the cabinets say, “these are kinda fancy, you won’t have to buy new cabinets straight away”
The closeups are there just because of silly advice from salespeople, who believe it's needed for reasons of competitiveness because somebody with a quirky idea once told somebody in management that lie, who then brought this to the salespeople. No business dares to take the first step and scrap this nonsense. Another fad was those 45-degree angle pictures that drove everybody insane because you had to tilt your head or magazine this way and that way - and frankly it made the pictures - and the photographer - seem really crappy. So that went out the window really fast.
1: The beaches
I think a majority of beaches in Sweden are not the typical, beautiful, sandy beaches people are used to (as you've said). As someone who's been on vacation in other countries a lot, the beaches here are just completely different than in other places (even though we do have some good ones). In this situation I think most swedes, like you said in the video, are just like "well, it what it is" and just deal with it. In other words, I don't think we care enough to do anything about it or most normal people don't know what you could even do about it.
2: Starving children
No. Just no.
This topic has come up a lot in discussions with family and friends recently because it has been such a hot debate online recently. The idea (I think) comes from back in the day, when families had to cook a specific amount of food to fit their family, as to not waste food. If a guest is invited over, ofcourse the family would take that into consideration but if a childs friend comes an hour before dinner is ready then the family won't have time to take that into consideration on such short notice (probably because it's too late and they already prepared dinner beforehand). The thing is, from what I've heard in these discussions, this isn't really that common anymore. Ofcourse it can still happen but it's not the 1990s anymore, most people don't prepare an exact amount of dinner multiple hours in advance. I for one have NEVER experiences being excluded from dinner or having a friend over and exclude them from dinner. Even back in the day it's not like EVERY family excluded friends from dinner like this; Every family works differently. Also, even if this were to happen it would most likely lead to you eating at home or people could just decide to eat before going to a friends house. No children are being starved to the brink of death is all I'm saying.
Sorry for writing so much about this but the "stereotype" that Swedish people all decide to starve their childrens friends is so extremely silly to me that I wanted to clear some things up.
Dinner time is family times, the friend have a own family that want to spend that time with the kid, and ofcourse if the family invite a guest to them they cook food to this guest, but the kid is not realy invited in that meening. Today often the host family call and ask the kids family if it is ok if the kid eats there.
Lake Vättern has beautiful beaches with soft white sand.
Also, I grew up in the 80's and 90's. I had NEVER heard of not beeing, at least asked if you want dinner/ lunch/ fika when at a friends house until i moved to Stockholm in the early 2000's. I honestly thought it was a myth!
Same. It seams to be a middle of sweden thing.
.granted now here my kids does get really good food in school. That does help.
Brännboll is interesting. We played it all throughout school!
Basically there is the In-team and the Out-team. In-team hits the ball and Out-team tries to catch. After a set timer the teams switch places. I guess Brännboll has some different rules depending on context, such as if you play competitively or if you play with full teams of 10-year-olds and my memory of the rules comes from being young and playing it at school.
The In-team tries to bat the ball and make a full lap around the field. The Out-team will try to catch the ball ("fånga lyra") and if they catch it without it hitting the ground they get a bonus point. If they catch it anyone in the In-team who is running will be stopped and "Burned" and have to go back to the previous base. Out-team gets point for each person "burned". If the Out-team cannot catch the ball on the first attempt they will have to grab it off the ground and throw it to an assigned player at which point anyone running then will get Burnt.
The In-team tries to bat the ball and make it all the way around without getting Burnt. You can stop at any base if you think that you will not reach the next before the enemy team catches the ball. If you get burnt you are sent backwards one base so it is possible for the whole In-team to be out along the field leaving no one left to bat. In that case they have "lost" that stage and the teams swap places so if the In-team has few players left to bat there is an incentive to play aggressively and try to run even if you might not make it just to not lose the stage. In-team gets points for each person that finish a lap and if someone manage a full lap in one go they get bonus points
TL-DR:
In-team tries to bat the ball and make a full lap but can stay at the safe bases to avoid running when the ball is caught. If running when ball is caught you are sent back to previous base.
Out-team tries to catch the ball when many from the In-team are running to get many points. Either catch the ball from the air or grab off ground and throw to assigned player.
How you interweave the music with the video clips is also amazing. Excellent editorial Choices!
I think the ”World championship” in brännboll is a joke, inspired by the US calling their national championship the ”World series”.
Exactly so
Welcome back. Love it as always
Can concur with all others, the food thing is not a "rule" in Sweden. Many families do feed other kids and it happens all the time. When not, it is usually because they are supposed to eat at home at another time, or there is not enough food, or the family just want to be alone. As a child I remember I was served food at almost every other friends families, but not every day.
Those images at Hemnet and everywhere else, those items are usually not even the current owner's items. They are put there for the photos and you have to live with them until your flat is sold, at least we did (because it's practically that they come and get it at the same time as the actual moving takes place). In my case they took our furniture and stored them for us, and replaced them with theirs. The purpose with all this is of course to blow up the price, make the buyer eager to pay more, you know. That should be a no-brainer for a US American, shouldn't it? 🤣👍
True beaches are mostly only found in southern Sweden, in Halland, Blekinge and especially Skåne. These are indeed the provinces that used to be Danish, and I guess we borrowed some of the Danish geography while we were at it: flatlands, deciduous forests and beaches! :D
Gotland ✌️
There are plenty of lakes and rivers with sandy beaches all over Sweden.
I actually think most of Sweden has a lot of nice beaches - just not in the Stockholm/Uppland area.
The “August vacation addiction” is just because we like long vacations and august is such a perfect time of the year because it’s not too hot and never cold.
I think there are several factors when it comes to inviting a child guest to join dinner, for example if its a younger child that is a neighbour then its automatically assumed that their family have their own special times for dinner and family time. If your child or their child were to ask to join they will most likely be allowed to, but the parent will probably ask the guest if it's ok with their parents. As the children get older its probably more and more likely that they will be asked if they wish to join dinner as well.
So in general I think age of the child and how nearby they live (nextdoor neighbour etc) play important roles in this question. Can also matter how close and how well the parents of both families know each other. Part of it may be consideration to the guest child's parents, you don't want to feed their child if the parents expect their child to come home and eat there.
I lost Tyler Zeds try not to laugh challenge. And I live in Hawaii… sand everywhere.
It’s probably because you’re mostly been to badplatser on lakes. But if you go to Skåne, Öland or Gotland the sand beaches stretch for miiiiles. There’s also quite a bit of sandy beaches in Stockholm but I think they’re all man made since it’s a rocky archipelago
You're doecial Meagan. Your comments on Sweden stands out. Everyone else comments on the same thing, but you see the world from a different perspective and make a lot mor fun and interesting observations.
1. I have never gone to a beach in Sweden that doesn't have sand. 2. I always offer my sons friends dinner. I don't remember how it was when I was a kid. 4. Have never seen that kind of photos. Maybe its in the bigger cities. 5. I would not agree that most people have there vacation i August. Most have there vacation in July. I will have 2 weeks in July and 2 Weeks in August. Some of my colleges started there vacation in June.
You really really need to visit Halmstad. Tylösand has the "beach vibes" you seek.
Pretty sure the dinner thing is specific for parts of the country. Asked around among my friends and none of us have ever been excluded from dinner when visiting friends growing up. And this is people from västra Götaland, Skåne and Luleå, so pretty diverse places of growing up
Finally you're back! with a video! You should visit Skåne/Österlen beautiful beaches with sand!
If I ever see you at Arlanda where I work I Will shout "Welcome back to Sweden".
It's seen as douchey to send your kids over to someone else to feed them. But most of the time the kids play and just show up at a random house in the neighbourhood and the parents did not know he/she was coming. If you don't know you are serving 1 or more people it's hard to prepare food for them.
This is the same all over the world. Not sure why sweden got headlines about this.
I had to watch the realtor photos chapter twice. Amazingly funny commentary on this very weird phenomenon. Especially funny to hear someone from outside commenting on it.
The close ups of the home photos is to show the quality of materials and workmanship, something that I have notices are quiet low in the property in US and Canada. Also the "irrelevant" photos show a variation of tastes a place can have with personal decorations, or ideas of planting the terraces for example, but taste is something not all cultures share, obviously.
Glad to see your video
Thanks for sharing 🙋🐈⬛
The vacation thing comes from when many more people worked industrial jobs. Everybody would get their summer vacation at the same time and factories would shut down (this still happens actually), because that's cheaper for them than running at half speed all summer or hiring inexperienced temporary workers who can't keep production rolling smoothly. It's way easier to just shut everything down for a month!
She is still wrong. Most have vacation in July, not August. Also students start their school in August so what she say don't make sense
the fact that I've never even thought about the close up cabinet photos says a lot about how normal it is here 🤣
or the candle on the table 🤣 it just adds to the vibe
Happy you are back! Your videos are really great :)
Haha, I can answer for the Hemnet-thing. Most realtors hire photographers and homestylers who either together or separately chooses what to show in the apartment, the realtor doesn't really have that much input into the ad. Usually they want to create a ~*vibe*~ rather than show off the place - that is what the showings are for.
I've never experienced the not feeding kids' friends when they are over. But now heard it on two channels.
So. it’s hard to meal plan if spontaneous drop in happens. It’s a “nice” way to say “kid, your family is probably eating, get the F home”. (because they have probably meal planned for that kid to and now it’s a wasted chair). Everyone is also forgetting that this type of style having guest over was pre mobile phone after school, so it’s was a great way to just make sure friends kids goes home so that parents don’t have to worry about their kids. “Home to dinner”.
About #2. An urban-legend that refuses to die.
When you come back to Örebro, You have to take a trip to Harge Badplats, Just south of Askersund. Plenty of sand for you there =) And you have Leken badplats, between Örebro and Karlskoga. Greetings from a fellow Örebroare!
I'm here because of Zed. Pineapple on Pizza is a burn in hell infraction!
Regarding the sand/beach thing: The reason to why you haven’t found a real beach yet is because you haven’t been to SKÅNE…! 🙄😅 We have the most beautiful beaches! Also, where I grew up, it was standard to include the childrens guests/friends in the meals. I think it’s very much a class/socioeconomic related question. I actually also recently found out that it’s common to NOT share the meals with guests and I don’t get it either! 😅 VERY strange behavior if you ask me…
About badplatser - most Swedish places don't have long beaches since that's not very normal in the Swedish nature (I guess). So most of the places I've been to might have a small beach closest to the water and further away there is only grass, or rocks if you're in the archipelago. I like many other swedes prefer grass to sand. Grass is way more comfortable and cozy to sit on than rocks or sand. Hate how sand gets stuck everywhere when I come up from the water!
About not being invited as a kid to dinner at a friend's house - I have memories of this happening as a kid. And this didn't normally have anything to do with rudeness, it's more about the fact that I had already ate at home, or perhaps I was going to eat later at home. At my house we usually ate pretty late like at 18-19, but I had friends who had dinner at 17, so if I was playing with her at 16, within an hour I had to wait for a while because she had to eat. I had one friend who I ate at sometimes, but I had to tell my parents so they didn't prepare anything for me if I wasn't going to come home.
About the realtor photos - I completely agree! This is a phenomenon which has become more and more common which is so silly. They did it to my apartment which I was selling a few months ago. I had already moved out and they decorated the entire flat with furniture and stuff. It looked beautiful but it was very silly to see close up photos of candles and decorations that weren't even mine standing on furniture that weren't mine, and the buyer wouldn't get any of it... I think it's just a ambience vibe, try to make the apartment look cozy and stylish. But to me it's feel a little weird.
Nice cameo from Amber. Poop jokes aren't my favorite,but they are a solid number two.
Imagine the scenario: The kid comes home. His mom says - the food is ready. And the kid replies - I already eaten at my friends house. And the mom gets irritated because she cooked the food in vain. So it's kind of a respect thing. Perhaps very Swedish. And perhaps inherited from the days when food/money was scarce.
And then we have all the possible foodallergies and special diets too to consider
Possibly, but IMO if the mom would be that upset that her kid already ate, just because she made food, she is the one who is vain.
I was just in my friends room chilling and reading comic books, watching tv, or playin on the family computer or video console wich i was happy to do more then hanging around his patrents wich I had no interest in doing, and then i either ate wehn I got home or beforte going to my friends house.
Every one I know takes a holiday in July
Yeah, she was wrong in this video about everything
The thing about leaving our friends in our room while we went to eat is just plain out wrong. When I grew up (late 90s, early 00s.) our family never let my friends sit alone in my room. We always invited them to the table... Well, "invited them to the table" sounds wrong. We invited them to the room so we could watch them watching us, starving, while we ate and laughed at them being hungry and starving. I miss the good old days.
1. We do have sandy beaches, also manmade sandy beaches at lakes (like our Minnesota brothers and sisters). Southern Sweden has the best beaches. Öland has one of the longest sandy beach. 2. I’m not that parents, but my kids friends do get food - if they want. Usually is out of respect to ask the kids parents if it’s “ok if they eat here?” Also kids here are used to their parens food so most kids say NO if you ask them if they want something, or (NO I have to ask my parents). 3. Burnball (Bren-ball): as I remember, you could win by “burning out” the whole team at first base. 4. It’s to inspire, Swedes go the extra mile to get the buyer to imagine how it could be living there. 5. Marathons.. I don’t get that one. Most swedes have “early” or “late” vacation. This can be mandatory (scheduled or planned..) but people plan on superstition. Summer may be awesome early or perfect later.. gut feeling.
the normal for vacation weeks are from late june to late july, then the other half late july to late agust. its not to easy to pick and choose often u just get whats avaible. or if u did the june-july this year then next year u get july-agust.
I came across your channel because of Tyler. I like your content and way you tell stories! You are so cute too!!
Brännboll is a wonderful game, because people of all ages can play it together. When I was a child the whole neighbourhood often played brännboll together. The plyers were between 5 and 75 years old - in the same match. The younger children could use a flat bat instead of a round. And it didn't matter that they couldn't run as fast as the elder, because they only had to run from one cone to the next cone, before the ball was thrown back and catched by the one who could bränna (burn) them, if they didn't reach the cone in time.
About the brännboll-thing, I think you read the game by american standards, but the out-in signs are for the teams and the points they´ve aquired. So it´s not players that are "out", but rather the the team that´s on the field (the outer team) has gained that amount of points vs the inner team (the team of hitters). The hitter and earlier hitters can run the bases when the hitter hits the ball into the field but the strike gets disqualified if the outer team catches the ball before it hits the ground, if it bounces the inner team runs as many bases they can befopre the ball is thrown back to home base. Another thing is the vacation one, back in the past a big part of the work force in the industries got the vacation time late in summer, usually by late july-early august and that might have become a tradition. Also swedish summer usually is at it´s best in july august and to be as close to garanteed a nice vacation a lot of people take the time a bit late in the season. And don´t forget: most employers won´t let you take your vacation exactly as you wish, all companies don´t shut down or have summer employees so the workforce need to space out their vacation for the business to work. :)
It's fun to watch this as: 1, bathing from the rocks is 100% better than having to do it from a beach. I'm def one of the ppl who will go straight for the rocks instead of staying on the sand.
2, Read so many comments about being a "starving child" never happening to them but oh god... It has happened to me so so many times and admittedly, my family has done it on occasions as well (although not that often). Grew up in a pretty well off area i'd say and dinner time was like.... The highlight of the day for families. It sounds weird but to me back then it was completely normal and i never saw it as a problem. Sometimes the start of dinner marked the end of playtime, and you left your friend for the day to go home and eat dinner with you own family instead.
3, Brännboll is probably one of the most fun games to play I honestly still love it so much. The rules are simple and all you really need is a racket + a ball (cones? beer cans. the brännplatta? pizza takeout box). The WC in Brännboll is a bit silly, but anyone can participate as long as you have a team. The city is the same every year and it's the biggest weekend of the entire year, although that's also in due to a music festival, Brännbollsyran (or just yran, locally), taking place at the same time.
just come to Denmark, our coastline is 99% beach!
From the german living in Scotland. The german brennball is played without a bat and a bigger ball. Near the beginning of the field there is a base. People can run around the field as long as ball is not back at base. If u re in between poles and the ball reaches base u are out. If u manage to get around the field u get a point. Not sure if the swedish version is similar re rules but it might help. Take care in that lovely land.
As my small knowledge goes, the most famous swedish beaches are Tylösand (Halmstad), Pite Havsbad (Piteå) and Böda Sand (Öland)
I really doesn't like to have sand everywhere when leaving the beach. I mean EVERYWHERE! Smooth "klippor" or "gräsmattor" is the best 🙃
I feel like an american is the worst persone to call out that a sport event is not a world wide contest.
NFL World Championship, only American Teams...
The world series of baseball is a better example than the football thing.
Haha! 3:50 Rösjöbadet is a classic retreat for northern Stockholm surburbians. 😄
I've also spent my share of time, as a kid, playing videogames in friends rooms while they were eating dinner downstairs. I guess you get used to it. 😉
I've grown up in Sweden and followed a lot of friends home after school, and I always got fed at their place. I think that's gotta be a myth that families don't offer guests food when they're staying over.
That's so true that some Swedes don't feed guests. As a foreigner this had confused me so much and had cause me to unexpectedly skip dinner. And I was an expected guest! :(
My mother and my friends mothers always checked with each other before offer food. Somethimes it was OK, sometimes not. My children could always invite their friends to dinner but they had to call home first if it was OK.
I was a kid with allergies, I dreaded the question if I wanted to eat, simply didn't want to have to say that I couldn't eat that. And since potatoes was one of those foods I couldn't eat, it was a serious problem as most food was based on potatoes in the 90ies. I'm happy it was the way it was. Also this does not stem from people not wanting to offer food, it was the opposite in most cases, people didn't want their kids to be a burden on another family financially, this was respected mutually. People took pride in being able to provide food for their family, it is rooted in the time where Sweden was a poor country, where people had to eat tree bark to survive, you simply didn't put a strain on another family to provide for your kids, it was your task to provide food for your family. Also would have been weird sitting by the table while they were eating if I couldn't eat myself, I much rather sit in the friends room. It's not weird, just different.
The closeups of the details on apartments: I agree, it’s so annoying with the just random decorative photos 😅 Some are good though, like seeing the material/design details of the apartment!
Vacation days at the same time: many people can’t decide when to take their vacation. Even in positions you would think that they can decide. I can decide, so I usually take it later/earlier than most. However, it is a bit trickier to do so!
Its just to show the "feel" of a place lol
As a Dane I hope you'll be back in Scandinavia. You're a bright star in artic winter. The southern part of Sweden has sand. Or you could take a small boat hop to Bornholm, there's plenty of sand there.
im an second generation immigrant in sweden (im born here). This behavior with starving kids is a very strong swedish tradition. I was never given any food/snack/drink as a kid when i was at my friends homes. however they were always fed at my home by my mom. this was very interesting because seeing a swede being given "free food" is something special, the tinyest little kid was told he could have food and their eyes lit up like the sun itself! not only did they eat, they had no idea how to behave so they literally eat 3/4 of all food for the entire family + lunchboxes. not only that, they started to raid our damn fridge and cabinet for food and sweets. it was like they had NEVER seen food before and had no idea how to behave and ate like a bear before winter slumber.
This tradition of not giving kids any food with swedes slowly went to immigrants as well as they became more assimmilated.
Personally i'd never let a kid starve, no matter how assimmilated i am.
I laughed. I subscribed. The punishment of Zed! Hello Meagan!
Good stuff, and yes beach vibes only~
You really made my day with this video, it is so funny 😆 Anyways, if l will ever visit Sweden l will keep in mind to take with me some food.
There are for sure beaches in Sweden. Where I live I have two nearby. But it is true that we have a lot of rocks as well. The big beaches are Böda Sand (Öland) 20 kilomer long of perfect white sand and Tylesand (Halland) and Sudersand (Gotland). In Österlen to Ystad you have many beaches.
she went to badplats instead of strand or badstrand so yeah. No wonder she didnt find beaches