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- Walking you through a step-wise process on how to approach intense nervous system dysregulation when waking up on the non-dual path.
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My channel is a resource for helping you reduce suffering in daily life through the application of root level solutions. This is advocated with orientating toward Awakening/Non-Dual awakening, Source-code emotional integration using somatic (emotional) inquiry and taking on an empirical, open hearted investigation of core beliefs and perceptual overlays that innocently accrue in childhood and create suffering.
If you resonate with teachers such as Angelo Dilullo, Ramana Maharishi, Jeff Foster, Suzanne Chang, Violet Synergy, Joseph Goldstein, Scott Kiloby, Michael Taft and Adyashanti - you’ll find this material very relatable.
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Thank you Sam. Really wonderful 💛
You’re welcome! 💛
This was good to hear. I know I need to do shadow work and resting in awareness is not helpful. What you said about giving your emotion a voice is something I am trying to do.
I feel like dancing. I love it!
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I know, haha ❤️🩹
Appreciate your authenticity, openness and grounded presence AND speaking openly about non-duality and its potentially harmful effects in relation to those struggling w PTSD, CPTSD and trauma.
It all comes back to being with what is as much or as little as we can tolerate.
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So true. Thanks for your comment Melissa :)
Let me paint a picture for you. Your palms are sweaty. Knees weak arms are heavy. You’re so nervous. You’re so anxious. Your heart is beating faster. You can feel it getting hotter. Now, pay attention, don’t try to spiritualize yourself out of this situation because this is fucking happening to you right now. Be anxious. Be afraid. Now listen to me because I have something important to tell you. I can make your anxiety go away if you send me five dollars right now.
Made me laugh
Hi Sam. Are you doing TRE or energetic practices?
Not so much these days but I have done many times yes
@@SamRoff did they help much?
@@Kogirius yeah for sure. TRE opens up and loosens up the nervous system and was helpful for me in releasing tension and knots. Hard to say what it did. I still had a lot of emotional triggers coming up even when doing it a lot. But it always felt relieving to do and I would recommend at least trying it given it’s so easy to learn
Hi sam ❤How much it take to clear all the tramua if i sit with them more than 2 hours?
I'm new to meditating and sat for an hour yesterday. I didn't feel anything tbh. It's like my thoughts kept distracting me from focusing on my breath but other than that, I also feel....blank.
I should feel smth right but I'm so depressed rn, I grew frustrated and left the session. I do feel bad so I'm hoping to try for longer today but not seeing any kind of results makes me feel like I'll nevrr get anywhere. I won't quit but like, it's disheartening thinking you should've exp'd smth but in reality, nothings happening and you don't know what to do or where to turn for help
What if it took a lifetime?
What matters is your sincerity, authenticity, how much you're meeting yourself where you're at right now in this moment, and how much compassion you can bring :)
@@studentinbox5608 Do what's manageable. If you can only do 20 minutes with sincerity, do 20. Pushing 1 hour when there's not a lot of willingness might backfire.
'I should feel smth but I'm so depressed rn' - what does depression feel like? What does it feel like to be confused? What does it feel like to be numb? If you're noticing anything like that, you're noticing sensation and you are indeed feeling. This is great!
Yeah it can feel very alone and hard to reach out for help. I understand.
@@SamRoff I have a goal, its what drives me to do it everyday, without missing a session. I've got a long way to go tho. A lifetime, I'll put myself to the test. I'll even give feedback as I've started due to watching you meditating. I hope I can see positive results.
Yesterday I sat for an hr again. I knew I was disturbed throughout the day but when I sat down to 'hear' my mind, I was shocked to realize I was extremely anxious/nervous inside.
I was seeing/feeling it, my eyelids started twitching uncontrollably and I cried cause I didn't wsnt to face it. It took me maybe 20ish mins to slightly calm down, then able to focus on my breathing. I didn't wsnt to sit and face those emotions but I did.
Then I was calm enough to watch the breath. I kept getting distracted, then I felt some peace. It was brief but the peace felt relieving. I then ended the session even tho I wanted todo more but I was getting aches/frustrated (it was just over an hr).
But I don't wsnt to feel calm alone, Sam. I need to fix myself and get back how energetic/innocent I was/am. Because I realize I am innocent, it's just the thoughts/perspective I let get to me and I can't live like this
@@studentinbox5608 wow you’re doing so good.. amazing job to stay with it and feel even when you didn’t want too. Almost like taking the child’s hand gently and slowly looking under the bed. Just amazing job. Be gentle and take it slow, there are aides available. Even stuffed toys lol. Nature. A trusted friend. Therapists. Take it slow, you’re doing great. It’ll be up and down but the more you open and feel with faith the greater the reward. You’re undoing ancient karma.
Hey Sam, glad I found your channel. Very uplifting but real at the same time. I've got a question I'm hoping you can shed some light on - someone chastised/shamed me, my mom, and well I felt as tho my energy/image of myself being girlish left me in that instance. Ik it sounds weird, idk how to explain it better, but after that, I guess my energy did leave cause I'm depressed/sad whereas before I used to be full of life and energy. It's changed me, I'm bitter and I rly hate it. My ques is, am I correct in thinking that this is temporary because I allowed someone's opinion to affext me this much simply due to a relationship I was in which I had no negative feelings about? Also, do you think meditation will allow me to remove that thought I allowed to changed me, and how long do u think it would take? I have no energy anymore and ik it sounds weird but ik this is the reason why. It's like my perception of myself changed due to allowing someone's opinion to get to me and now I've gotten depressed and no energy. What would u recommend for a beginner to do?
Hey :)
I’m hearing that your mother said something about your relationship and that’s influencing you deeply and affecting your mood.
For a beginner, I would recommend journaling. Meditation will help but it doesn’t have to be complicated. Write out why it influences you. Express your emotion unapologetically and unfiltered without holding back as to why it hurts you and why you feel depressed. Almost as if each emotion was a little person speaking its view of the world. Once you feel like every part has expressed its piece, that will help calm the nervous system and give a lot of clarity as to why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling. I’d then sit in silence and pray/ask for guidance from God, the universe, your deepest instinct - what do I believe is true? Not what my mother thinks. Not what my family thinks. Not what my friends think. But what do I think about the relationship. Listen deeply to yourself. It might provoke more emotion but if so you could always return to journaling it out. Hope this helps :)
@@SamRoff Journaling helps but not enough to re-frame my perspective. It's rly affected me, even physically as I can't seem to exercise or feel good anymore. I'm barely talking to ppl cause I'm so drained and depressed. Ik alot of it is my mind. It sounds mental when I type it out so I'm super embarrassed to share this with anyone irl. That's why I want to give meditation a try. I don't blame my mom tho, cause if I can allow someone's opinion to change me, it means I'm weak and well, this is temporary. But I don't want to wait for things to change, I want to actually work on myself. I'm thinking I can try an hour of breath meditation per day.
@@studentinbox5608 I like what Sam suggests. I love that: "...each emotion being a little person speaking its view of the world"!
I have a lot to learn about meditation so I'm looking forward to watching more of Sam's videos for help. I haven't been able to meditate because of CPTSD, but now at this stage of my healing, I think I'm ready.
I can share what has helped me: I looked at what I was believing about my relationships with challenging family of origin members and partners.
(It sounds like you're dealing with core shame issues. Understandably, triggered by your mom.)
I discovered the following childhood-formed belief was running in the background: "People who are supposed to love me, say they love me, or do loving things would never want to cause me harm." It's actually quite the contrary.
I rewired that belief to the truth: "Some people who are supposed to love me, say they love me, or do loving things actually want to destroy me."
Over a decade before the above discovery, and after decades of blind loyalty and tolerating psychological abuse, I finally thought about my (toxic) mother and asked myself, "Is this someone I really want a relationship with? Do I enjoy being with her?" To my surprise, the answers were No and No. As such, I stopped needing to have a mother and I stopped needing a mother who loves me.
@@studentinbox5608 You're not necessarily looking to reframe your perspective. That's okay if you do, but you're looking to have an emotionally honest discharge of your emotions by putting it on paper to regulate your nervous system and give a voice to the unconscious.
You're not weak either. That's just an emotional perspective. Putting yourself down may be a way you keep yourself safe as to not rock the boat when your mother asserts herself - or others like her. Try to treat this part of you with compassion and understand it rather than criticize yourself as being weak. I understand what you mean though, it can feel weak, but you don't have to believe that and it can transmute if you bring curiosity toward it.
Meditation sounds great, keen to hear how you go with it!
@@coach_amy...Oh Amy...thanks so very much for your response. I've only just found Sam's channel (via Simon Brown)...and I had zero expectation that I'd read words so relevant and powerful in the comments; your words. A few more read-throughs are needed. But, my intuition is increasingly intact enough to know and feel now. Bless you 🩶
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Hope you're well buddy
I am brand new to this. Wow. This is super powerful. I felt the absolute heaviness in my body. Like sandbags. And I felt compassion towards the little tiny child who barely has a voice in the heaviness. "I am not safe." is what I pulled into my body. I need to just be with this for a while before I move on to the shadow work you bring up towards the end.
I love how you talked about being able to just be with a friend and freely express. To me, this is the only true type of friendship. I have this with my children. I don't have it with anyone else. I would love a video on how to attract this type of friend.
Glad it was helpful Amy... Sandbags... dying for attention. Thanks for sharing.
Yoru daughters are very lucky. Thanks for the video suggestion too.
@SamRoff Does the feeling of "sandbags" mean "dying for attention"? My second go-through with this now: I am so used to being in my head, processing. I've gone as far as I can with that which is why I think meditation is the next step.
Is it common to get an anxiety attack during this process? I'd like to think it's bringing up the trauma stored in my body...? I have always been aware of my sense of over-responsibility and thinking "it's all on me." But now doing this process, I am really feeling the burden apart from mentally: have so much self-blame, it's hard to bear.
@@coach_amy well if you’ve been quite disembodied and not fully relating to that sensation for some time I would say it’s starving for attention. But no need to judge and of course it isn’t literally, better now that never :). Meditation is a great way to attune.
Anxiety attacks might be common. The key is reaffirming to yourself you definitely have the capacity to feel. If you cannot and keep bottoming out, talking with a trusted friend or therapist will be tremendous help. There’s always a way. If not that, literally give yourself a hug and give yourself the gift of gently feeling. You could always try that when you feel most comfortable and supported. Hell, even stuffed toys can help share the old and offer support. So can nature. Use your resources to feel deeply, and nurture whatever comes up. Be gentle Amy!