Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Don't be so hard on your birth mother, be thankful she gave you up so you could live the life most only dream of. Please continue to learn about your Hmong people ❤
To the author of this story, a mother and father's love is as deep as your adoptive parents. This was a beautiful tribute to your parents. They were selfless, exude strong work ethics and loyalty. Their love for you was unconditional as was yours for them. You are blessed! And please keep your father's watch forever! 😭💗
This story is wonderful yet sad that his adoptive parents didn’t get to see him get married and give them grandbabies. I’m currently 45 and adopted 2 Hmong boys three years ago. My husband and I only have one biological child, a son together that is an adult. The love you have for your adoptive children is no less. I love and feel as if these two adoptive boys are my own flesh and blood.
Bless u both! It takes a kind, good heart person(s) to do what you n your spouse did. May God bless you both always. The world needs more people like you both!💗
This is definitely worth listening to and thank you for sharing such an amazing and emotional story. Your parents had a purpose and I know they did an amazing job by the way you talked about them. They are truly your angels and savior and may they continue to watch over you from above. 🙏
Such an amazing story! Thank you brother for sharing! I’m so glad you were brought up in a wonderful family and parents. To the lady who gave birth to you: you gave up your rights and yes, you regret now but that’s something you will live for the rest of your life! Let him live his now!
Yog ib zaj neej neeg zoo thiab tu siab heev tab sis koj yog ib tug tub muaj Hmoo heev os me tub, zoo siab rau koj lub lub neej tiam no nawb mog.Peb ib co mas txoj hmoo phem heev tsis tsim nyog yug los ua ib zaug neeg li hos me tub.
Omg this story was so sad I cried when the mom was saying how much she loved and feared for him when he went to school and how much the dad tried to make sure he wasn’t bullied. About how he kind his biological mother is. Got me in my feelings 😢
Forgiving your biological mother doesn’t mean you have to then build a relationship with her. That’s not the point of forgiveness. But, forgiveness has everything to do with your own healing. Healing from bitterness and the belief that your biological mother was trying to “kill you.” Forgiveness is healing from what you think her actions of trying to “kill you” says about who you are. Forgiveness means trying to understand her actions, even if you didn’t agree with what she did and the reasons for why she did it. Remember, forgiveness and perhaps letting go of this unhelpful unhealthy explanation of her behavior…is for you and you only. For your peace of mind. Your spirit. Your soul.
You have very sad story, but very happy for you that you have a wonderful parents who very love you maybe you guys meant to be together . Maybe you birth mom can help herself at the moment, cause she still too young to support you that why she decided to get you out to someone who can love and support you, if not you will be more suffering everything. You so lucky.
What a beautiful story. Your adoptive parents are your parents and love you unconditionally. I am happy for you. Family isn't always blood. They were great parents. You are so blessed!
Your adopted parents are truthfully a angel with love unconditionally. If you believe that there is God then hope one day you’ll forgive your biological mom. I sure your biological mom was too painful to look at your face to hand you over to your adopted parents but maybe she just too young at time. 😭😢
Bittersweet. Thank you for sharing your story. You’re lucky your biological mother gave you up to your loving adoptive parents. Your biological mother was a brave young woman and she made the right choice by giving you up. I commend her for that. She knew you would have a better life with your adoptive parents. That’s the best thing any mother can do for her child. Forgive your biological mother, she was young when she had you.
Thanks for sharing your true love story brother. All I have to say is that" you're a very lucky individual" be proud of who you are and turned out to be.
Awww this is such a bittersweet story. I’m happy for you. You have such great foster parents. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s true like you said, hmoob people can’t love orphans. They can only love their own children. Only a few can really lover other people’s children.
Most of them don't even love their own children much less someone else's child. Sadly people married into a spouse that have children but the new spouse cannot support nor love or care for the children. They only know how to mistreated the children and be a hateful person.
An awesome story. So many lessons given and so much love in every way given to this guy. Life isn't perfect but making the most of what life offers us through love is as perfect as it get. I dont thunk many can love their children this way especially in the hmong comunity. To much drama and the culture is to involved in families. Instead of just being loving husband and wife and being great parents to the children; hmong culture is to much about face and pride. Loving your family should be first and culture should be second. If anything, the lesson here is clear. Love each other, love your children and everything else will take care of itself. I know the truth hurts but I'm being real about hmong people.
Such a heart wrenching story, so happy you were adopted by loving parent, even adoptions, not many children were as lucky as you, see too many in the news how their adopted parents abuses them, some even killed their adoptive child(rens). When you become a parent yourself, you will know how much you love your children, I'm sure your birth mother loves you alot but, she was young and not in her right mind to raise you. When she gave you away, she doesn't look at you because deep down in her heart, she know that if she look at you, she won't be able to hand you over to your adoptive parent. I'm hoping and praying that, one day, you will find it in your heart to listen to your birth mom side of the story.
Zoo Kawg ua koj muab koj Zam dab neeg tuaj rau May hais tau tus Siab Kawg li os me tub txhob tus Siab rau koj niam mog vim peb Hmong txoj Cias txaj muag yog yus muaj me nyuam Tsis muaj txiv ces Tsis zoo es koj niam thiaj ua li ntaws rau koj xwb mog es hlub koj niam thiab Zam txim pub koj niam mog 🥰🥰❤️
wow your real mother sounds messed up. Life has been unkind. Don't know how she can married so many times and have children and yet just walk away and leave her children behind. But most importantly she gave you to loving parents and you grew up well. You did great in your life. No matter what happens in life, we each have a life and we all have a history.
You are a few of the lucky ones who was adopted into a loving family. However, don't be too hard on your biological mom, but probably did the best she knew how in giving you up to a family that she knew would take good care of you. Be grateful...
Your adoption parents are kind and loving. True love is irreplaceable. It's okay you don't want anything to do with your birth mom. I do pray you forgive her for what she tried to do with you in her wounds. Please forgive her so you can find closure between you and her. May God be with you as always brother.
Thank you for sharing your true story! I too have an adopted child who l love dearly.. your story has made me love my child even more. You are truly blessed! I wanted to be like your adoptive parents especially your mother. She sounds like a wonderful lady who has nothing but full of loves. I hope you spread their love through out the world and love those kids who has no parents.
It’s a beautiful story and so happy you got adopted by two loving people. Please don’t be to harsh at your birth mom. She was young and fell in love with a guy whom she probably thought she was going to share a life with but instead when he got her pregnant he dumped her. If only you knew our Hmoob culture, you would understand her world back then. She was probably young and scare of her parents and of what they might do to her that’s why she tried to get rid of you. I’m not trying to justify what she did but you lost the two most lovable parents there are to you and I don’t want you to lose an opportunity to get to know that someone that brought you to this world. You don’t need to love her to get to know her. I like to think that things happened for a reason. If she had wanted you and kept you, you would’ve never get to know your adopted parent. Yes, she tried to killed you but that’s 33 years ago and I’m sure she regret it every day of her life because if she didn’t she would never have come looking for you. You’re the educated one so make an educate decision and not a decision base on your anger because she tried to killed you. Like I say you don’t need to love her to know her but get close so that you can understand why she gave you away 33 years ago. May you find peace, happiness and learn to forgive tus mes tub.
No, birth mom went on to have more kids with different daddies and abandoned all those other kids too. She only wants him now that he’s successful. She only continued to reach out to him knowing he’d be successful because of the people who raised him. Is she searching for the kids she left with her ex Lao husband? Or the one with her ex black boyfriend? He doesn’t owe this excuse of bio mom anything. May he continue living in peace and not have anymore contact with her. She even had the audacity to say he’s alive because she gave birth to him. If he amounted to nothing she wouldn’t even care to want him in her life.
Your birth mother has alot of issues. I'm glad your birth mom gave you away. Not many Hmong brothers has the luck of educations and love from their real parents.
Give thanks and praise to the Lord. God gave you life and your parents are your true parents he just had you in someone’s else womb. Your parent’s love lives on through you and now you can carry their legacy through your future children and so on.
I'm grateful that your birth mother gave you away to your adoptive parents. Not many Hmong mothers or relatives willing to give up cause most will only torture them like slaves. You're lucky that you were adopted by meka people in the US. They're mostly generous and big heart ❤ people.
Kuv mloog koj zaj me neej neeg no ua rau kuv tu siab thiab quaj heev.. ib leeg yeej muaj ib zaj neej neeg tu tu siab li no thaum kawg yus lub me neej thiab zoo os mog tus me nus..
Brother your story is so sad 😭 and happy 😃 you got good adopted parents. I cry the whole story. You believe in God, forgive your birth mother. We are all imperfect people.
Nothing better then this strong bonded parenting & child(ren) love. I love u strong thoughts & loving the truth parents is the one who raised you and give you time & love when you need it not the one who just give you birth.
Well, I think when the boy was asking questions n wondering why he was different, in the 1st place but it's the adoption parents that was not telling him the truth as well, that's why he think of his birth mother in the wrong way too. The adoption parent's didn't want to lose him or feel like they might lose him if they told him too much. It's not his Biological mother fault when too, when she only wanted a good future but life happens. The boyfriend didn't want to married her or want nothing to do with her or the baby!! The boy didn't want To Hear out what his birth mom, had to say/ tell to him how hard it was during that time for her, but just left her at hello only. It's seems like when his birth mom came around to eat with them n so on, the adoption mom was ok at 1st then suddenly was change of heart n stop the birth mom from coming around 2. Both birth mom n adoption parents were cold heart small heart in there own ways! Got the poor boy, all confused stages!! I say,, Just love both parents ( adoption parents n ur birth mother) while u can, cux life it too short hate and time don't wait for no one!! When it's gone, its gone!! DONE!! I hear many stories like these, and it's sadden but having two moms who loves u double the best thing ever!! Sadden, it's not you that choose that route. Good luck!! I wish to hear the birth mother, side of her story 2. I bet it's pretty tu siab kwag thiab!! And a very scary tough choice she had to make n gone thur hard times!! Poor lady😔 (Tsis txhob tu, tu siab os, "birth mother" u nqa daim ntawm txog hmoov yeej los zoo li no) hlub koj tus kheej si, zoo siab tshaj!!! I feel the birth mother pain as a mother. When ur boyfriend don't want to married you n he end up ditching out on you, is the most stress n painful thing any women ever go thur. Your parents bitching at you, n have no where to turn too but think about death, or so many things going in ur head. Just like the "birth mom" was saying she tried to get rid of it but didn't wrk, does not mean she was mean to you!! Your mother was young at heart n life happens! No need to pain ur mother' s heart any more or blame her?? When all she wanted was to be close to you as well.. The reason, I said I feel the "birth mom" was that...True, story to me!!! 20yrs ago, I wanted to rid of my child, cux my bf didn't want to married. I was in stress mode n sadden every feeling. At the end I choose to just keep her cux I was getting too big already. ( Doctor Told me) It was hard on me, n I was very young at that time 2. Cried every night what to do!! Today my daughter is 19yrs old n life goes😊
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s an interesting one so far. You are an educated person, you should forgive your birth mother who made the right decision to give you up for a loving parents. If she is that bad you would not be around to be who you are today. You should be proud yet understand why you got a better life today and not too much on what she tried to abort you.. so you can forgive her. I think you are very lucky to have both parents to be who you are and you should be proud of yourself brother!!
Mloog zaj dab neeg no es nim tu2 siab nim ua rau kuv quaj2 thiab os mi tub koj txhob tu siab rau koj niam os mog,koj niam twb muab txoj sia rau koj os mog koj yog ib tug mi tub muaj hmoo mus tau ib leej niam leej txiv siab zoo2 hlub2 koj os mog
Wow! What a a wonderful story. Really got my tearing up bad😭😭😭 You are a really lucky person to have the most loving adoptive parents ever. A sad story but very touching……best of luck to you and God bless you brother .
It's all about perspective and I wished more people especially our Hmoob people would think like your adoptive parents. When you're adopted and loved by your adoptive parents it's better than love from biological parents. This kind of love truly comes from the heart. You were born not from their bodies but straight from their heart which is the best love. Your biological mother was just a vessel used to bring you and your parents together. That's all the love you need! Just because someone gives birth to you doesn't automatically make them mom or dad. No need to look for to look for or have a relationship with them. That doesn't mean you don't care it's just not necessary.
Beautiful and sad story. I don't think you could ever imagine the pain your birth mom felt when she had to give you away. I understand why she didn't want to look at you, looking at you would've broken her heart even more and she knew she couldn't handle it. In 1988, having a love child was so unacceptable in the Hmong culture, so I hope one day you understand where she's coming from. She did what she needed to in order for you to have a good life, and you've been so blessed to be so loved by your parents too.
Ummm sorry, he doesn’t need to imagine her pain. She went on to abandon plenty more kids so obviously letting him go taught her nothing. She’s a skank and only wants him now because he’s successful.
What a wonderful story of love and strength. Your parents will always be your parents and no one can replace them but dont be so harsh on your bio mom. This is one thing I have learned throughout my life is that people do the best they can with the situation that was presented and the knowledge they have. Each person's decision is different because we all have different backgrounds to draw from and when we know better we do better. I hope you will find peace with your bio mom.
Please love and loyal to those who love you. There is a good reason why you are put up for adoption. This couple is your real parents. Thanks for sharing.
Your biological mom is not a mom at all. She continued to have kids and abandon them. I’m glad you had good adoptive parents who gave you a good life but your other half siblings may be living in trauma. The bio mom left a trail of trauma and pain for her kids. Quit having kids you can’t and don’t expect to love or care for. But I’m happy for the person who shared this story. You don’t owe your bio mom anything and you don’t need to understand her pain cause it seems she never learned from having you and abandoning you.
I completely agree. Other than blood, he have no ties to her and no moral obligations toward her. No need to keep in touch with her. She's basically a sperm donor only. Yes, she gave him life, but it was the same life that she tried to kill off in the beginning too.
Thank you for sharing your story! Prayers with you that God will grant all your wishes as you desire this lifetime & to many lifetime again with your parents! Your parents loves you and will always be watching over you! ❤🙏
You’re true mother is the one that raised you up not the one that delivered you God know who’s your mother brother, proud of you that you have a good parent that love and encouraging you until they last breath so congratulations 🎉🎊🍾🎈.
Vuad zaj neeg neeg no yeej hai tu siab kawg thiab os tab sis tu siab koj yu Los ua ib tu neeg g muaj siab ntsws vim koj g nco qab txog koj niam uas yog tu tug koj es koj mu ua lam haiv neeg lawm vim koj muaj lub siab g zoo koj g nco txog koj uas yog tu tug koj on hnub koj yuav poj niam es koj muaj me nyuam koj mam paub hai tias muaj ib tug me nyuam nyob 9 lub hli hauv koj niam plab koj g nco qab koj tej txiaj ntem ua koj tug koj nawb koj lam yog ib tug neeg kawm ntawv siab tab sis g paub hlub tub neeg zoo li koj g tha yuav poj niam kom muaj me tub me nyuam zoo li koj nyob Los nyav Av xwb yawg zoo li peb hmoob g muaj lee paub vim koj ib tug g paub hlub neeg os
Brother, sorry for your lost but you have gain so much at the same time. Most importantly, you got a loving family , that care for you. They were destined to be your true parents. Don't ever forget that!
Yes, it’s a good idea for having a very highly degree experience for adopting into new life becoming more better life. We are truly Hmong but, we have to voluntarily to adopt and adjust into the real Americans dream yes, it’s true worthy life.
Thanks for sharing your story. You are very blessed to have two loving parents. Please don't be so hard on your biological mother imagine being a Hmong girl unwed pregnant is not easy because Hmong community can be so judgemental. She was probably lost and alone so she probably had to make the hardest decision was to give you up. Hope someday you'll forgive her and allow her to be part of your lives.
Ua cas hais tau tu siab ua luaj li os mi tub aw cas koj tsis nrog koj niam nyob thaum nws txoj Sia tu os, zoo kawg qhov uas koj tau ib leej niam ib leej txiv uas tsis yog tus yug koj Los nkawv hlub2 koj es koj Tau2 zoo es koj tsis txom nyem os mog, txhob tu siab os mog
You're the luckiest person to be born to your parents. It is a very sad and at the same time it is the most loven story anyone could ask for. I am sure your parents will always look over you.
Koj txhob chim2 rau koj niam thiab os tej zaum thaum ntawv nws kuj Tsis muaj Ib txog kev tawm lawm nws thiaj ua tau li ntawv rau koj xwb os yeej paub tiam Koj tu siab heev rau koj niam. Tab si tej zaum koj niam los yeej tu siab heev rau nws tu keej thiab.🙂 koj niam yuam kev qov ua tso Koj ... tab si Koj txhob ua yuam kev qov ua Koj yuav tso nws Tsis Zam txim rau koj niam thiab .🙂peb ua neeg nyob Yeej muaj qov ua yuam kev thov kom peb muaj nws cov los ua Ib txog kev kawm es Tsis txog ua yuam kev lawm xwb .Thov txim Nawb yg tiam Kuv Hais tau Tsis huam Nej siab los txhob xav li cas os
Brother, you are a Christian. Forgive your birth mother whether she deserve it or not. One day when you have children of your own you will understand. Forgiveness will set you feel. Your mom and dad would want that. The world is a very big place, it's ok to let others love you too. You are very lucky and more privileged than most of us that are born and raised by Hmong parents. Thank God for his blessing and for what you have. I have 5 brothers and 4 sisters and growing up poor. That's the about the average size for a typical Hmong family. Do not feel sad for your life. As a child of a big family, we only get 10% of my parents love and attention. You got 100% of yours. Today, I have 2 kids, a son and a daughter. I don't want too many kids so can love them and give them what I've never got. I don't want them to ever feel poor and wanting attention. I've struggled to learned English, I've struggled to do business because there's no one to teach or guide me a long the way. Finally, I am just starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel at 43. I am now 48 years old and just starting to make more money then I can spend, more money than I've ever could imagine. With only a high school diploma, those numbers are only in my dreams. I'm definitely not rich but understand how it is to be one. Brother, you are very privileged and have everything to be thankful for. Thanks for sharing your story.
My uncle and my aunt adopted me when I was 6 months. They are the best parents in the world. I am so blessed to have them as my parents.
I vote this the #1 story of this year, so much emotion in here, got me crying with you, you were blessed with such loving parent.
I agree!
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Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Don't be so hard on your birth mother, be thankful she gave you up so you could live the life most only dream of. Please continue to learn about your Hmong people ❤
To the author of this story, a mother and father's love is as deep as your adoptive parents. This was a beautiful tribute to your parents. They were selfless, exude strong work ethics and loyalty. Their love for you was unconditional as was yours for them. You are blessed! And please keep your father's watch forever! 😭💗
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This story is wonderful yet sad that his adoptive parents didn’t get to see him get married and give them grandbabies. I’m currently 45 and adopted 2 Hmong boys three years ago. My husband and I only have one biological child, a son together that is an adult. The love you have for your adoptive children is no less. I love and feel as if these two adoptive boys are my own flesh and blood.
Mi tub muaj hmoo aw koj hmoov zoo kawg
Bless u both! It takes a kind, good heart person(s) to do what you n your spouse did. May God bless you both always. The world needs more people like you both!💗
This is definitely worth listening to and thank you for sharing such an amazing and emotional story. Your parents had a purpose and I know they did an amazing job by the way you talked about them. They are truly your angels and savior and may they continue to watch over you from above. 🙏
Such an amazing story! Thank you brother for sharing! I’m so glad you were brought up in a wonderful family and parents. To the lady who gave birth to you: you gave up your rights and yes, you regret now but that’s something you will live for the rest of your life! Let him live his now!
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Yog ib zaj neej neeg zoo thiab tu siab heev tab sis koj yog ib tug tub muaj Hmoo heev os me tub, zoo siab rau koj lub lub neej tiam no nawb mog.Peb ib co mas txoj hmoo phem heev tsis tsim nyog yug los ua ib zaug neeg li hos me tub.
Zaj no cas yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj thiab txawv tshaj li os
Omg this story was so sad I cried when the mom was saying how much she loved and feared for him when he went to school and how much the dad tried to make sure he wasn’t bullied. About how he kind his biological mother is. Got me in my feelings 😢
When your mom thanked your biological mom for having u and having such a good heart letting other people love her kids, got me 😭😭😭😭😭
Forgiving your biological mother doesn’t mean you have to then build a relationship with her. That’s not the point of forgiveness. But, forgiveness has everything to do with your own healing. Healing from bitterness and the belief that your biological mother was trying to “kill you.” Forgiveness is healing from what you think her actions of trying to “kill you” says about who you are. Forgiveness means trying to understand her actions, even if you didn’t agree with what she did and the reasons for why she did it. Remember, forgiveness and perhaps letting go of this unhelpful unhealthy explanation of her behavior…is for you and you only. For your peace of mind. Your spirit. Your soul.
You have very sad story, but very happy for you that you have a wonderful parents who very love you maybe you guys meant to be together . Maybe you birth mom can help herself at the moment, cause she still too young to support you that why she decided to get you out to someone who can love and support you, if not you will be more suffering everything. You so lucky.
This story made me cry 😭😭😭😭 so bad. I’m so emotional when I hear stories like this. Love ❤️ this story
What a beautiful story. Your adoptive parents are your parents and love you unconditionally. I am happy for you. Family isn't always blood. They were great parents. You are so blessed!
Your adopted parents are truthfully a angel with love unconditionally. If you believe that there is God then hope one day you’ll forgive your biological mom. I sure your biological mom was too painful to look at your face to hand you over to your adopted parents but maybe she just too young at time. 😭😢
Bittersweet. Thank you for sharing your story. You’re lucky your biological mother gave you up to your loving adoptive parents. Your biological mother was a brave young woman and she made the right choice by giving you up. I commend her for that. She knew you would have a better life with your adoptive parents. That’s the best thing any mother can do for her child. Forgive your biological mother, she was young when she had you.
Little bother now it's a hard for you but deep down inside your Hmong mom she will always love you so much that she can't say please understand her
Thanks for sharing your true love story brother. All I have to say is that" you're a very lucky individual" be proud of who you are and turned out to be.
Awww this is such a bittersweet story. I’m happy for you. You have such great foster parents. Thank you for sharing your story. It’s true like you said, hmoob people can’t love orphans. They can only love their own children. Only a few can really lover other people’s children.
Most of them don't even love their own children much less someone else's child. Sadly people married into a spouse that have children but the new spouse cannot support nor love or care for the children. They only know how to mistreated the children and be a hateful person.
Be the changes, don't wait for others to change or blame the whole people.
Not foster parents. It’s his parents.
What a great story! Your mom and dad are real angels!
An awesome story. So many lessons given and so much love in every way given to this guy. Life isn't perfect but making the most of what life offers us through love is as perfect as it get. I dont thunk many can love their children this way especially in the hmong comunity. To much drama and the culture is to involved in families. Instead of just being loving husband and wife and being great parents to the children; hmong culture is to much about face and pride. Loving your family should be first and culture should be second. If anything, the lesson here is clear. Love each other, love your children and everything else will take care of itself. I know the truth hurts but I'm being real about hmong people.
Tus siab kawg li os niam ntsuab teev zaj dab neeg no hai tau zoo kawg
Such a heart wrenching story, so happy you were adopted by loving parent, even adoptions, not many children were as lucky as you, see too many in the news how their adopted parents abuses them, some even killed their adoptive child(rens). When you become a parent yourself, you will know how much you love your children, I'm sure your birth mother loves you alot but, she was young and not in her right mind to raise you. When she gave you away, she doesn't look at you because deep down in her heart, she know that if she look at you, she won't be able to hand you over to your adoptive parent. I'm hoping and praying that, one day, you will find it in your heart to listen to your birth mom side of the story.
Zoo Kawg ua koj muab koj Zam dab neeg tuaj rau May hais tau tus Siab Kawg li os me tub txhob tus Siab rau koj niam mog vim peb Hmong txoj Cias txaj muag yog yus muaj me nyuam Tsis muaj txiv ces Tsis zoo es koj niam thiaj ua li ntaws rau koj xwb mog es hlub koj niam thiab Zam txim pub koj niam mog 🥰🥰❤️
wow your real mother sounds messed up. Life has been unkind. Don't know how she can married so many times and have children and yet just walk away and leave her children behind. But most importantly she gave you to loving parents and you grew up well. You did great in your life. No matter what happens in life, we each have a life and we all have a history.
I wish Hmoob people would and could be and have as a big heart like this two adopted parents to orphanage children.
You are a few of the lucky ones who was adopted into a loving family. However, don't be too hard on your biological mom, but probably did the best she knew how in giving you up to a family that she knew would take good care of you. Be grateful...
Your adoption parents are kind and loving. True love is irreplaceable. It's okay you don't want anything to do with your birth mom. I do pray you forgive her for what she tried to do with you in her wounds. Please forgive her so you can find closure between you and her. May God be with you as always brother.
Thank you for sharing your true story! I too have an adopted child who l love dearly.. your story has made me love my child even more. You are truly blessed! I wanted to be like your adoptive parents especially your mother. She sounds like a wonderful lady who has nothing but full of loves. I hope you spread their love through out the world and love those kids who has no parents.
Your story is very powerful!
How can I contact this young man!
Zam txim rau tus leej niam uas yug koj mog me tub yus niam yug yus mas hlub yus tshaj plaws li nawb
It’s a beautiful story and so happy you got adopted by two loving people. Please don’t be to harsh at your birth mom. She was young and fell in love with a guy whom she probably thought she was going to share a life with but instead when he got her pregnant he dumped her. If only you knew our Hmoob culture, you would understand her world back then. She was probably young and scare of her parents and of what they might do to her that’s why she tried to get rid of you. I’m not trying to justify what she did but you lost the two most lovable parents there are to you and I don’t want you to lose an opportunity to get to know that someone that brought you to this world. You don’t need to love her to get to know her. I like to think that things happened for a reason. If she had wanted you and kept you, you would’ve never get to know your adopted parent. Yes, she tried to killed you but that’s 33 years ago and I’m sure she regret it every day of her life because if she didn’t she would never have come looking for you. You’re the educated one so make an educate decision and not a decision base on your anger because she tried to killed you. Like I say you don’t need to love her to know her but get close so that you can understand why she gave you away 33 years ago. May you find peace, happiness and learn to forgive tus mes tub.
No, birth mom went on to have more kids with different daddies and abandoned all those other kids too. She only wants him now that he’s successful. She only continued to reach out to him knowing he’d be successful because of the people who raised him. Is she searching for the kids she left with her ex Lao husband? Or the one with her ex black boyfriend? He doesn’t owe this excuse of bio mom anything. May he continue living in peace and not have anymore contact with her. She even had the audacity to say he’s alive because she gave birth to him. If he amounted to nothing she wouldn’t even care to want him in her life.
You're very lucky got better parents with best life.👍👍
Wow this story is amazing! You are so blessed to have such loving parents. Forgive ur biological mom and forget her. God bless you.
What an emotional story, thank you for sharing. This one definitely made me cry. Would love to meet you one day just to know who you are.
What is a beautiful story of adolt children and parents .most adolt hmong parents don't have wide2 hearts I seen in my own eyes
Your birth mother has alot of issues. I'm glad your birth mom gave you away. Not many Hmong brothers has the luck of educations and love from their real parents.
Wow, I remember hearing the biological mother's side. It's sad but not as sad as this video.
Best heartfelt/inspiring and bittersweet story!
Tu siab kawg txoj dab neeg no na
nrog koj tu siab os tus me nus yog ib txoj kev zoo os mog twb tau niam thiab txiv ameca hlub koj lawm oslov
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Give thanks and praise to the Lord. God gave you life and your parents are your true parents he just had you in someone’s else womb. Your parent’s love lives on through you and now you can carry their legacy through your future children and so on.
This boy deserve his adopt parents. What a great parent he got in his life. May god bless you in this life, and your parents in heaven.
I'm grateful that your birth mother gave you away to your adoptive parents. Not many Hmong mothers or relatives willing to give up cause most will only torture them like slaves. You're lucky that you were adopted by meka people in the US. They're mostly generous and big heart ❤ people.
One of the rare stories that bring tears to my eyes. So happy for you and the meaningful life you have lived.
Wow zaj no zoo heev nawb 🥰 Thank you for sharing
I have 3 adopted kids.... i love them so dearly. i hope they will love me as much as you love yours.
Yog peb txhua tus ntseeg li vajtswv hais ces peb yeej tsis muaj txoj kev tu siab thiab peb yeej yuav txawj sib zam txim. Tab sis qhov tseeb peb tsuas muab Vajtswv los ua ib qho excuse xwb.
Vajtswv, yeej hais tseg rau hauv " Phau Vaj Lug Kub" tias txhua yam yog nws ua tus tsim los. Nws yog tus muab txhua yam rau peb coj los ua neeg nyob rau ntiaj teb. Yog li ntawd nyob rau zaj story no koj niam yug koj tsis muaj kev txhaum, vim yog vajtswv yeej muab neb txoj hmoov los li ntawd.
Puas yog na....
Thaum zoo siab tuaj ces qhuas vajtswv tuag nthi...tab sis thaum mob siab tuaj lawm ces tsis
Txog vajtswv hais tias kom yus zam txim rau lwm tus lawm lau....
Es yog li koj tsis muaj vajtswv , vajtswv muaj koj xwb nawb.
Kuv mloog koj zaj me neej neeg no ua rau kuv tu siab thiab quaj heev.. ib leeg yeej muaj ib zaj neej neeg tu tu siab li no thaum kawg yus lub me neej thiab zoo os mog tus me nus..
Tu siab heev li twb tsi yog yu lo yu cia li lo kua muag li lawm nawb
Wow!!!! Thank you for sharing your story. I hope you find peace with your biological mom. I sense there is still some anger.
Ua cas koj niam twb yuav tuag koj tseem mus hauj lwm thiab koj niam twb hlub2 koj tshaj
Brother your story is so sad 😭 and happy 😃 you got good adopted parents. I cry the whole story. You believe in God, forgive your birth mother. We are all imperfect people.
Zaj no yog zaj zoo tshaj plaws! 😭😭😭😭💕
Nothing better then this strong bonded parenting & child(ren) love. I love u strong thoughts & loving the truth parents is the one who raised you and give you time & love when you need it not the one who just give you birth.
Nyob zoo os rov tua koom koj dua os py aw 👍🛎🛎🌹🌹💖💖
Thanks for your beautiful story. You are blessed with a loving parents. May god bless you! Wishing you the very best.
Tiag mas kj yuav tsum hlub kj niam pauj yav tag kj tsi tau hlub mas thiaj yog. Vim peb cov ntxhais hmoob nyob qab tsawj hwm ntawm niam thiab txiv xwb. Yog yug tau kj tsi muaj tus txiv los lees ces nyob maum kaum tsev xwb. Vim kj niam hlub kj kj thiaj muaj kev txawj ntse nrog luag. Yog kj nrog kj niam nyob niaj hnub no xyov kj yuav txom nyem npaum cas. Txoj kev tu siab tseem tusiab tshaj no 100 npaug
Well, I think when the boy was asking questions n wondering why he was different, in the 1st place but it's the adoption parents that was not telling him the truth as well, that's why he think of his birth mother in the wrong way too.
The adoption parent's didn't want to lose him or feel like they might lose him if they told him too much. It's not his Biological mother fault when too, when she only wanted a good future but life happens. The boyfriend didn't want to married her or want nothing to do with her or the baby!! The boy didn't want
To Hear out what his birth mom, had to say/ tell to him how hard it was during that time for her, but just left her at hello only.
It's seems like when his birth mom came around to eat with them n so on, the adoption mom was ok at 1st then suddenly was change of heart n stop the birth mom from coming around 2.
Both birth mom n adoption parents were cold heart small heart in there own ways!
Got the poor boy, all confused stages!!
I say,, Just love both parents ( adoption parents n ur birth mother) while u can, cux life it too short hate and time don't wait for no one!! When it's gone, its gone!! DONE!!
I hear many stories like these, and it's sadden but having two moms who loves u double the best thing ever!! Sadden, it's not you that choose that route. Good luck!!
I wish to hear the birth mother, side of her story 2. I bet it's pretty tu siab kwag thiab!!
And a very scary tough choice she had to make n gone thur hard times!! Poor lady😔
(Tsis txhob tu, tu siab os, "birth mother" u nqa daim ntawm txog hmoov yeej los zoo li no) hlub koj tus kheej si, zoo siab tshaj!!!
I feel the birth mother pain as a mother.
When ur boyfriend don't want to married you n he end up ditching out on you, is the most stress n painful thing any women ever go thur. Your parents bitching at you, n have no where to turn too but think about death, or so many things going in ur head. Just like the "birth mom" was saying she tried to get rid of it but didn't wrk, does not mean she was mean to you!! Your mother was young at heart n life happens! No need to pain ur mother' s heart any more or blame her?? When all she wanted was to be close to you as well.. The reason, I said I feel the "birth mom" was that...True, story to me!!! 20yrs ago, I wanted to rid of my child, cux my bf didn't want to married. I was in stress mode n sadden every feeling. At the end I choose to just keep her cux I was getting too big already. ( Doctor Told me) It was hard on me, n I was very young at that time 2. Cried every night what to do!! Today my daughter is 19yrs old n life goes😊
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s an interesting one so far.
You are an educated person, you should forgive your birth mother who made the right decision to give you up for a loving parents. If she is that bad you would not be around to be who you are today. You should be proud yet understand why you got a better life today and not too much on what she tried to abort you.. so you can forgive her. I think you are very lucky to have both parents to be who you are and you should be proud of yourself brother!!
Tu siab thiab hos pab koj zoo siab os me nus.👍
Mloog zaj dab neeg no es nim tu2 siab nim ua rau kuv quaj2 thiab os mi tub koj txhob tu siab rau koj niam os mog,koj niam twb muab txoj sia rau koj os mog koj yog ib tug mi tub muaj hmoo mus tau ib leej niam leej txiv siab zoo2 hlub2 koj os mog
Wow! What a a wonderful story. Really got my tearing up bad😭😭😭
You are a really lucky person to have the most loving adoptive parents ever. A sad story but very touching……best of luck to you and God bless you brother .
It's all about perspective and I wished more people especially our Hmoob people would think like your adoptive parents. When you're adopted and loved by your adoptive parents it's better than love from biological parents. This kind of love truly comes from the heart. You were born not from their bodies but straight from their heart which is the best love. Your biological mother was just a vessel used to bring you and your parents together. That's all the love you need! Just because someone gives birth to you doesn't automatically make them mom or dad. No need to look for to look for or have a relationship with them. That doesn't mean you don't care it's just not necessary.
Not all Hmong parents are bad. I was adopted too and my parents love me as their own.
Vuag koj niam tu koj mas thiaj txhawj coj siab loj siab dav heev
Beautiful and sad story. I don't think you could ever imagine the pain your birth mom felt when she had to give you away. I understand why she didn't want to look at you, looking at you would've broken her heart even more and she knew she couldn't handle it. In 1988, having a love child was so unacceptable in the Hmong culture, so I hope one day you understand where she's coming from. She did what she needed to in order for you to have a good life, and you've been so blessed to be so loved by your parents too.
Ummm sorry, he doesn’t need to imagine her pain. She went on to abandon plenty more kids so obviously letting him go taught her nothing. She’s a skank and only wants him now because he’s successful.
Cas yuav tu siab ua luaj li os
What a wonderful story of love and strength. Your parents will always be your parents and no one can replace them but dont be so harsh on your bio mom. This is one thing I have learned throughout my life is that people do the best they can with the situation that was presented and the knowledge they have. Each person's decision is different because we all have different backgrounds to draw from and when we know better we do better. I hope you will find peace with your bio mom.
Agree, sometime you have to put uself in the bio mom shoes to understand her side of story.
This is so sad also loving. Good luck to you brother, don't be mad at your birth mom. May God bless you.
Please love and loyal to those who love you. There is a good reason why you are put up for adoption. This couple is your real parents. Thanks for sharing.
Such a beautiful story 😭😭😭😭😭 one day I'm going to adopt also..
Your biological mom is not a mom at all. She continued to have kids and abandon them. I’m glad you had good adoptive parents who gave you a good life but your other half siblings may be living in trauma. The bio mom left a trail of trauma and pain for her kids. Quit having kids you can’t and don’t expect to love or care for. But I’m happy for the person who shared this story. You don’t owe your bio mom anything and you don’t need to understand her pain cause it seems she never learned from having you and abandoning you.
I completely agree. Other than blood, he have no ties to her and no moral obligations toward her. No need to keep in touch with her. She's basically a sperm donor only. Yes, she gave him life, but it was the same life that she tried to kill off in the beginning too.
Thank you for sharing your story! Prayers with you that God will grant all your wishes as you desire this lifetime & to many lifetime again with your parents! Your parents loves you and will always be watching over you! ❤🙏
Txau tu siab heev li os
😭😭😭
Cas zaj no tu siab ua luaj li thiab os
You’re true mother is the one that raised you up not the one that delivered you God know who’s your mother brother, proud of you that you have a good parent that love and encouraging you until they last breath so congratulations 🎉🎊🍾🎈.
Omg...this is the most touches story ever!! It made me cried 🤧😭
Vuad zaj neeg neeg no yeej hai tu siab kawg thiab os tab sis tu siab koj yu Los ua ib tu neeg g muaj siab ntsws vim koj g nco qab txog koj niam uas yog tu tug koj es koj mu ua lam haiv neeg lawm vim koj muaj lub siab g zoo koj g nco txog koj uas yog tu tug koj on hnub koj yuav poj niam es koj muaj me nyuam koj mam paub hai tias muaj ib tug me nyuam nyob 9 lub hli hauv koj niam plab koj g nco qab koj tej txiaj ntem ua koj tug koj nawb koj lam yog ib tug neeg kawm ntawv siab tab sis g paub hlub tub neeg zoo li koj g tha yuav poj niam kom muaj me tub me nyuam zoo li koj nyob Los nyav Av xwb yawg zoo li peb hmoob g muaj lee paub vim koj ib tug g paub hlub neeg os
First of all, my deepest condolences to you. Im so glad you were blessed with loving adoptive parents. God bless always
Brother, sorry for your lost but you have gain so much at the same time. Most importantly, you got a loving family , that care for you. They were destined to be your true parents. Don't ever forget that!
Yes, it’s a good idea for having a very highly degree experience for adopting into new life becoming more better life. We are truly Hmong but, we have to voluntarily to adopt and adjust into the real Americans dream yes, it’s true worthy life.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.
Thanks for sharing your story. You are very blessed to have two loving parents. Please don't be so hard on your biological mother imagine being a Hmong girl unwed pregnant is not easy because Hmong community can be so judgemental. She was probably lost and alone so she probably had to make the hardest decision was to give you up. Hope someday you'll forgive her and allow her to be part of your lives.
Omg! Such a bittersweet story. You're blessed to have them as your parents. God bless them for loving you like theirs.
Vim koj ua ntsuag nyob teb chaws vam meej. Cov lawv hais raug2 tsim txom yog nyob ntuj qub qab, es sawv daws pluag, txom2 nyem thiaj raug2 tsim txom thiaj tu2 siab xwb. Kav tsij ua qhov zoo.
Koj yog tus muaj hmoo tshaj plaws li os tus mitub, tiamno txaus siab hlo rau yam uas koj muaj nawb, kuv pab nrog koj zoo siab rau koj lub neej heev
This one is so sad and beautiful at the same time. Bless this man's heart.
Tu tu siab os hmoob
Good choice for the person in the story the mom didn’t want him from the day one kids are not to b blame bcuz you want to feel good at the time
You are the luckiest child that got adopt by them.
I love this story. So much hmong people can learn from instead of hating orphans. Use this story to learn from
Wow I luv this story. Love the way it’s written! Great introduction & conclusion. 😭🤧
What a beautiful story. I had to listen to it twice. ❤
Ua cas hais tau tu siab ua luaj li os mi tub aw cas koj tsis nrog koj niam nyob thaum nws txoj Sia tu os, zoo kawg qhov uas koj tau ib leej niam ib leej txiv uas tsis yog tus yug koj Los nkawv hlub2 koj es koj Tau2 zoo es koj tsis txom nyem os mog, txhob tu siab os mog
You're the luckiest person to be born to your parents. It is a very sad and at the same time it is the most loven story anyone could ask for. I am sure your parents will always look over you.
Yes, only those who really really want kids will truly love you.. Very few Hmong ppl can love you if you are not their child!
Wow, so touching. Yes you are blessing to have your parents raised you.
Koj txhob chim2 rau koj niam thiab os tej zaum thaum ntawv nws kuj Tsis muaj Ib txog kev tawm lawm nws thiaj ua tau li ntawv rau koj xwb os yeej paub tiam Koj tu siab heev rau koj niam. Tab si tej zaum koj niam los yeej tu siab heev rau nws tu keej thiab.🙂 koj niam yuam kev qov ua tso Koj ... tab si Koj txhob ua yuam kev qov ua Koj yuav tso nws Tsis Zam txim rau koj niam thiab .🙂peb ua neeg nyob Yeej muaj qov ua yuam kev thov kom peb muaj nws cov los ua Ib txog kev kawm es Tsis txog ua yuam kev lawm xwb .Thov txim Nawb yg tiam Kuv Hais tau Tsis huam Nej siab los txhob xav li cas os
Brother, you are a Christian. Forgive your birth mother whether she deserve it or not. One day when you have children of your own you will understand. Forgiveness will set you feel. Your mom and dad would want that. The world is a very big place, it's ok to let others love you too. You are very lucky and more privileged than most of us that are born and raised by Hmong parents. Thank God for his blessing and for what you have.
I have 5 brothers and 4 sisters and growing up poor. That's the about the average size for a typical Hmong family. Do not feel sad for your life. As a child of a big family, we only get 10% of my parents love and attention. You got 100% of yours.
Today, I have 2 kids, a son and a daughter. I don't want too many kids so can love them and give them what I've never got. I don't want them to ever feel poor and wanting attention.
I've struggled to learned English, I've struggled to do business because there's no one to teach or guide me a long the way. Finally, I am just starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel at 43. I am now 48 years old and just starting to make more money then I can spend, more money than I've ever could imagine. With only a high school diploma, those numbers are only in my dreams. I'm definitely not rich but understand how it is to be one.
Brother, you are very privileged and have everything to be thankful for.
Thanks for sharing your story.
Very emotional story, sorry can't help stop crying to this awesome story, thank you for sharing.