For anyone who was worried about recovering into a larger body. As someone who ended up recovering into a larger body, the perspective shift that really helped me was consciously deciding that I would much rather live in a larger body, then live another day with my eating disorder. Don't get me wrong there are some really hard days were I have to consciously stop myself from falling back into it. But I refuse to hate myself for not fitting into societies standards. Living in a larger body feels like the worst thing in the world when you have an eating disorder, but it's not. It's okay, it truly is. I feel so much better for not constantly thinking about food, for not feeling so lightheaded and angry at everyone because I was hungry and malnourished. My life has got so much better now that an eating disorder isn't consuming my every thought and action. It'll be okay.
im some ways i think there is something about being further from the societal ideal that makes it easier to let it go compared to when i was closer to it
I recovered into one body at 18, and continued into a different body as I've gone through my 20's. It's hard to readjust how I see myself and how clothes fit me differently now. But I think it's important to remember that all bodies change over time, and trying to stop that is just going to make me miserable, just like my eating disorder did. I feel great being able to eat the food I enjoy, listen to my body, and (doing my best) to accept whatever my body decides to do as far as size or shape. It's not easy, but it's worth all the effort I've put in over the last 9 years to be comfortable in my body.
Thank you Mia! You talk about these things so eloquently and respectfully! I found myself nodding and agreeing with so many things you were saying. Thank you again. ❤
Mia could you make video about Physical series (Apple TV+)? It shows realities of eating disorders and body dysmorphia.. I just watched two series and i'm confused.. I'm curious what do you think about it..
Such great conversation here Mia, I love the way people could submit questions they usually may not have. Also I must ask, are you really 6ft?!! So jealous 😍
I'm terrified of recovering for all the reasons that probably everyone is, but I don't know how to move forward and being an adult means that no one can force you, which is great, but also makes me feel stuck.
Do you feel that the ground work of recovery is to "heal your relationship with food, accept yourself and body, nourish your body with balance but also freedom of choices, and being happy and not controlled by food."? My partner and I disagree with ur methods of recovery, he had anorexia with binging tendencies while I have OSFED & ARFID, I go more with intuitive eating and HAES (not fat activism), while he still counts calories, avoid food and suppresses his hunger by staying away from many foods that he doesn't normally eat. In my eyes, it doesn't make sense to risk still being wrapped in number like calories and him weighing himself often and also avoiding sweets or eating out and turning down food or getting upset when someone offers him food. I feel resistant to affirming his recovery because from the two years iv been through treatment, this goes against everything I learned. Is there a common..."essence" of actual ED recovery?
to me its quite clear that he is still engaging in disordered eating patterns. the problem is that many disordered eating patterns are normalized or even praised by culture, seen as just "healthy" and "disciplined". however your journey and his will never be the same, and when or whether he'll understand hes still engaging in these patterns is unknowable and uncontrollable by you or anyone else. you should definitely be mindful of how his behaviour affects you and communicate about that, but i would try not arguing about his ED so much. it truly will only change in his own time.
I feel sick having recovered from my eating disorder and yet still being heavy because of the BED. I guess I have to keep going to be healthy and my body should reduce naturally.
Before i start, Im coming from years of treatment for my annorexia and conversation with other people with different eatingdisorders and hope some of my experience can help. If youre the one having the behaviours: Tell those around you that your slipping. There is a saying that applies to this, which is: secrets keep you sick. Making a list with orange and red flags helps getting them concrete. This makes them easier to spot and be aware of for yourself and others. And if you need help, reach out. You deserve to maintain your recovery! If youre talking about seeing the signs in someone else: open the conversation. Try not to assume why this is happening and what they need. You can be there for them and show that, but they have to be willing to take the step. And opening up that space to reach out can be a great help!
For anyone who was worried about recovering into a larger body. As someone who ended up recovering into a larger body, the perspective shift that really helped me was consciously deciding that I would much rather live in a larger body, then live another day with my eating disorder. Don't get me wrong there are some really hard days were I have to consciously stop myself from falling back into it. But I refuse to hate myself for not fitting into societies standards. Living in a larger body feels like the worst thing in the world when you have an eating disorder, but it's not. It's okay, it truly is. I feel so much better for not constantly thinking about food, for not feeling so lightheaded and angry at everyone because I was hungry and malnourished. My life has got so much better now that an eating disorder isn't consuming my every thought and action. It'll be okay.
im some ways i think there is something about being further from the societal ideal that makes it easier to let it go compared to when i was closer to it
A quote I heard today, ‘I’m quite chunky, but I’m happy like that’
I recovered into one body at 18, and continued into a different body as I've gone through my 20's. It's hard to readjust how I see myself and how clothes fit me differently now. But I think it's important to remember that all bodies change over time, and trying to stop that is just going to make me miserable, just like my eating disorder did. I feel great being able to eat the food I enjoy, listen to my body, and (doing my best) to accept whatever my body decides to do as far as size or shape. It's not easy, but it's worth all the effort I've put in over the last 9 years to be comfortable in my body.
What a totally insightful conversation. You’re so wise and practical. Thank you x
New subscriber Glad to find person speaking of these subjects within Australia Thankyou regards from Sydney
God, she's good.
Thank you Mia! You talk about these things so eloquently and respectfully! I found myself nodding and agreeing with so many things you were saying. Thank you again. ❤
Mia could you make video about Physical series (Apple TV+)? It shows realities of eating disorders and body dysmorphia.. I just watched two series and i'm confused.. I'm curious what do you think about it..
Such great conversation here Mia, I love the way people could submit questions they usually may not have.
Also I must ask, are you really 6ft?!! So jealous 😍
I'm terrified of recovering for all the reasons that probably everyone is, but I don't know how to move forward and being an adult means that no one can force you, which is great, but also makes me feel stuck.
Do you feel that the ground work of recovery is to "heal your relationship with food, accept yourself and body, nourish your body with balance but also freedom of choices, and being happy and not controlled by food."?
My partner and I disagree with ur methods of recovery, he had anorexia with binging tendencies while I have OSFED & ARFID, I go more with intuitive eating and HAES (not fat activism), while he still counts calories, avoid food and suppresses his hunger by staying away from many foods that he doesn't normally eat. In my eyes, it doesn't make sense to risk still being wrapped in number like calories and him weighing himself often and also avoiding sweets or eating out and turning down food or getting upset when someone offers him food. I feel resistant to affirming his recovery because from the two years iv been through treatment, this goes against everything I learned.
Is there a common..."essence" of actual ED recovery?
to me its quite clear that he is still engaging in disordered eating patterns. the problem is that many disordered eating patterns are normalized or even praised by culture, seen as just "healthy" and "disciplined". however your journey and his will never be the same, and when or whether he'll understand hes still engaging in these patterns is unknowable and uncontrollable by you or anyone else. you should definitely be mindful of how his behaviour affects you and communicate about that, but i would try not arguing about his ED so much. it truly will only change in his own time.
I feel sick having recovered from my eating disorder and yet still being heavy because of the BED. I guess I have to keep going to be healthy and my body should reduce naturally.
I have a question maybe u answered it before idk but how do u stop a relapse when u start to see the signs
Before i start, Im coming from years of treatment for my annorexia and conversation with other people with different eatingdisorders and hope some of my experience can help.
If youre the one having the behaviours: Tell those around you that your slipping. There is a saying that applies to this, which is: secrets keep you sick. Making a list with orange and red flags helps getting them concrete. This makes them easier to spot and be aware of for yourself and others. And if you need help, reach out. You deserve to maintain your recovery!
If youre talking about seeing the signs in someone else: open the conversation. Try not to assume why this is happening and what they need. You can be there for them and show that, but they have to be willing to take the step. And opening up that space to reach out can be a great help!
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