It's all by design man. The powers that be had a goal of destroying the family unit. One of the many ways they accomplished this was making the family court system so unfair, that men would stop seeking marriage.
I don't have any need for the laws to be changed currently. I have always supported the laws to be changed. I worked with a guy that his heroin addict ex-wife was deemed by the court to be a more fit parent even though she was convinced a few times before judgement while the grave sin that the guy I worked with committed? He was in the Marines. The judge said that he was unfit due to the possibility of immediate deployment while the court deemed the mother was the best choice for custody, the judge also informed the mother that it will be dependent on her starting addition counseling. It finally took the mother nodding while she was driving the kids to his 2 hour monthly visitation. It also helped him that she was charged with trafficking. The first order of business that the guy I worked with did was get the kids in counseling. Why she wanted the kids, the same reason they all do.
They're not going to change them because they're not "broken". The laws are built explicitly to screw over Mn because they are a threat to their authority due to their care for Independence, Logic and Morality while Wmn are their most blind supporters due to their desire for someone to provide resources and security to them.
Not just US bro.. it's WORLD WIDE , THE RULES ARE ALL THE SAME IN ALL COUNTRIES, the thing I learn is, we the men/boy(male in general) is we complain abt these issues but we don't take them forward.., Yu know to court/supreme Court to change them laws.
I drop tears for this man who was shown first... my father almost lost custody of me and my brother when MY MOTHER didn't even show up to the court hearing.... the system is fucked and my father was a victim of it.. I'm grateful he kept fighting cause my life would be awful if he didn't
Whenever I see a report on the local news about a man barricading himself and kids in the house or something worse? Automatically I think it's some family court, baby momma bs that pushes him over the edge.
Yep, and a lot of psychopaths roaming around as well because men's emotions and feelings are given the importance that they should have. "Oh well, you have clinical depression. You just gotta man up and deal with it yourself" then they become drug addicts to cope or kill themselves or become serial killers if they're too far gone, because they didn't get the help they needed. And people wonder how it could have happened. I just wanna go ahead and say that even though i don't play them anymore because i don't have the time. Video games saved my life. I was in such a dark place, i contemplated suicide every day for several months. And video games were my escape from reality and helped me find something to look forward to in life. For all the boomers who say video games ruin lives, just letting you know they saved mine.
@@acewalker because its not just about child support.... You're not listening. No ones justifying murder but no one asks the question of why it happens. Especially when a man is dealing with a psycho woman who is doing everything to manipulate the situation to paint the father in a bad light to keep the father away from his kids. Either they limit the time he can see them, or just revoke his rights to see them all together. The courts ignore his pleas even if there is evidence to support that his childs' mother is intentionally lying to the court to keep the kids away from him. Or they keep upping child support until that man can barely scrape by l. Whats left his paychecks. And the effed up part is it is all done legally and there's nothing he can do about it. Just a little perspective for you to ponder on
I went through this with my daughter, She’s 3 years old now. Her mother hate me because I moved on with someone else after I found out she was only using me anyway. I was getting my daughter every weekend and sometimes for 2 - 3 weeks straight. I even moved 5 minutes from them to be closer to my daughter. When my fiancé got pregnant with my son things got worse and caused more problems. After my son was born my daughter’s mom sent her to my house knowing she had Cov!d to get my son sick then said she wishes he would have d!ed smh. Fast forward, Now I’m not allowed to see my daughter and have to pay child support. I called child protective services so many times because she was physically, mentally and emotionally abusing my daughter. Also neglecting her by sending her to me dirty with the same clothes on from the week before just to piss me off. Nothing was done about this at all. We went to court, they provided her with a free lawyer and I had to pay $3000 for a lawyer and still lost with so much proof, evidence, phone conversations, photos, text messages, videos of my baby twerking my social media and proof that she would not allow me to register my daughter in a head start program 😔 idk anymore but I know that women like her pushes the father out when he doesn’t want to be with her then raise the child to hate the father. Hopefully I will see my daughter again and when she’s old enough to understand I’m going sit down with her and open this box with all of her answers in it. So many photos of her with me and how clean and happy she was, photos of how dirty and distressed she was with her mom. Text messages, phone conversations etc. everything she needs to know that I was a damn good father and we both had to suffer because her mom was not happy 🤷🏽♂️
Don't just wait for her to be older and hope you'll see her. Send cards and call. See if you can pick her up during school lunch hour. That way even if you don't get to see her, even while young she'll pick up on the fact you were trying and it makes it harder to poison her against you. They also come around sooner than their teen years.
I’m sorry but he won’t he will always be a second class parent and will never get credit as well as the poor child is more likely to go to prison “70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions and 85% of youth in prisons come from fatherless homes. 80% of rapists come from fatherless homes.”
Sadly we all know he won't. Our society would rather ruin the chance of children having a decent life with a good father than make a man look good in any kind of way.
My dad lost custody of me and all my siblings, even when I was reporting the abuse my mother was putting me through at home (textbook narcissistic sociopath who was a 'functioning' alcoholic). It wasn't until my mom tried moving us all to England that the courts finally stepped in, and even then they just gave us to my grandmother. Men have no rights in the family anymore.
my mom was the actual most toxic person in my life growing up my first girlfriend completely changed my view on women because of how amazing she was to me when i was expecting a monster similar to my mother i found out she was on tinder for half the time we were together but thats another matter ill never forget the words my mom said to me "if you weren't my son i would have nothing to do with you" i will remember that when she needs me.
bro... your ex girlfriend proved that women are more like your mom instead of different than. Stop having hope in them- most of them are trashy like this
Try this one on for size mate! My black mother resents me now after 24 years because get this…my father is white. According to her I have used white privilege to get through life. Comes as a shock to me, I mean it’s not like I had any choice in the matter! All you can do is live well and be happy. That’s your revenge brother.
This isn't just an American problem. I am an Australian going through the exact same situation. It has been nine years since I last saw my daughter because my ex disappeared with her after setting up for the government to take child support out of my pay, deducted before it even gets to my account. In 9 years I haven't heard or seen anything of my daughter, while being forced to pay for my ex's lifestyle. I have been trying to go through family court for visitation rights for years, but all I have gotten in response is silence. Family court doesn't care about fathers
The first one compleatly broke my heart. Im so so sorry for him and his son. The American family court/justice system is so fucking broken. Im glad i live in Sweden when i see shit like this, especially since i see it soooooo often from america and i only know about maybe a handfull from Sweden..
I’d like to share a bit about my mom who I no longer speak to. I’m the oldest of 5 kids, and she left my dad for his friend. That guy cheated on her the entire relationship and she still had 3 kids with him. He ended up kicking her to the curb eventually when she became old and wicked with her alcoholism. She used to kick me in the ribs with Doc Martens on, hit my face into the floor, blame me for giving her bruises even though I hadn’t touched her and the saddest of them all was when she kicked my little brother over and over on his 7 birthday. All I know is she’s now homeless on the streets and my brother and I don’t talk to her.
I thought I'd seen it all, but then I read your horrible ordeal and to top it off I read this: "she kicked my little brother over and over on his 7 birthday" What. The. Fuck.
I'm sorry you siblings went through all that especially from the parent that's supposed to be the nurturing one. I'm glad you made it out of it & she's living in the situation she put herself in.
And people will say shes an abnormal freak of statiatics who doesnt represent what women are capable of , however swap the parent? "Just another one" I'm sorry you went through that bull, hope you up now.
Exactly. Also. Honestly when I see wmen with whole body tattoos. There is HURT there. I think it is like a public service announcement. For sane folk to stay away. And for fellow damaged people to know these abused people are kin. Ultimately? It is a VIOLENT and pain ridden life. Of hyper sexuality. Self mutilation. Drugs and deviant behaviour, the likes of which chills the bone marrow. I have seen and heard of countless "goth" and "emo" wmen do TRULY horrendous things. Just check out all the musicians, actors, comedians and pronstars that lead a goth lifestyle or are HEAVILY tattoo'd. They are dealing with depression, suicidal thoughts, alcoholism, drug abuse and lack of self preservation. More than some normal wman with no tattoos or few tattoos. Don't try to save these kinds of people. Cold. I know. But stay away from people like this. They WILL suck you into their world of dysfunction and depravity. How do I know? I had a thing for wmen with tattoos. Wasted half of my life trying to "understand" people like this. But how a sane person quantify insanity, without turning insane themselves? Now I am a nihilist who misses the days of being an idealistic fool. Even if my beliefs were too optimistic. I was happy. Now? I am a shell of my former self. Trying to drag myself back to order.
Mothers like her should held accountable for their actions by law. Over 22 years ago i got full custody of my 8 month old son after i found out by accident (a friend of my ex told my sis what had happened) that my son had been taken off his mum, AGAIN. Just over 13 years ago another ex stopped me seeing my 4 kids with her. Found out my 2 and half year old daughter wasnt mine and her mother knew. I was paying for all 4 even though 1 of them wasnt mine. When a stranger with a gavel gave me access to my kids was one of the best days of my life along side getting sole custody of my oldest. It took me 3 YEARS to get access because she kept on lying about me and everyone in court knew she was lying but they had to take it seriouse. After all those years its seems nothing has changed towards good Fathers
I burn in anger when men describe how their baby mamas and the courts victimize them over and over. My husband hasn’t seen his daughter in over 7 yrs because his ex stole her 2 states away against court orders. Our state says it’s too far to go arrest her. I’ve never met my own step daughter. When she found out we have a son, she had their daughter call him to ask why he doesn’t love her anymore. It broke me to see him after that call. May God damn these women and these courts for what they do
I'd had tracked them down, done everything in my power to find her address and then go there in person to take my child back. Not like she could do anything about it due to having done something illegal already.
@@ultranecrozma7449 No they won't. This system was designed to be like this. Most people think feminism was about equal rights for women, or at least that it started out like that. But that's not true. It was never about equal rights. The real goal of feminism was to replace the man with the state as the head of every household. Push the natural protector out of the home, demoralize him and turn him into a wage slave. Get the women into the workforce to get more tax income. Make women more dependent on the government. Make sure resources are transferred via the state from the men to the women. {basically making the state the pimp of all women} And getting all the children into the indoctrination system from a early age to control their minds. And because the natural protector is removed from the home and demoralized, there is nobody to defend these children from the predators working within the system.
@@retrowave69 You would end up in prison or dead. The government would hunt you down. Give the child back to the mother. And all the media would report about the danger of abusive men and call the woman a brave survivor. They would talk about this being the reason women need feminism and probably place an ad so people can donate for the cause. There is no justice for men within the Western world.
Man I tried not to cry but damn I never had that type of abuse growing up I was very lucky to have a loving family. I’m sorry to all who have suffered unjustly in there life’s my prayers are for you all are that you find peace and happiness one day, till then god bless
@@tribeofjudah9330 Yes and weak men allowed horrible laws to pass that made it so “family” (women’s) court always favor the woman 95% of the time. The only thing you can do is abandon the west and go to a patriarchal country that will not do this shit. Leave these modern western women to rot, get a loyal woman who won’t even consider taking your children away.
They CANNOT give the child to the father because they’ll lose a client in the criminal justice system. Those in the system know full well that fathers make better parents in general, so why would you think they’d shoot themselves in their own feet?
This is terrible! I’ve watch many women ruin men’s lives with child support. Made me not want any kids period and now I’m 38 and childless planning trips with my man
as a man this was my biggest fear was to have a child with a woman and what happen to the first guy would happen to me now im 41 yo and feel like i missed out and will never have the joy of having kids
No matter how bad life gets you cannot just give up on the idea of having kids. No parent regrets having kids, many women definitely regret not having them
I've been in this same situation. She didnt show up to 4 custody hearings in a row and they kept to give her custody. Finally on the 5th no show hearing they gave me full custody.
My grandmother is in a nursing home because no one wants to care for her because she's terrible, my mother acts just like her so I've found a care facility for her when she gets in her later years.
The first video is heartbreaking and if is true is one of the sickest things i have ever heard. My prayers and heart goes out to that man. Would love a follow up video to where this goes. This broken system needs to be fixed for equality
This brought me to tears. I work diligently and hard for parents to have custody of their children whether it be the mother or father. I am a child and family advocate whenever I get a custody case. I am a psychologist and work closely with the Dept of Human Services in my country. Men are shown to be better caretakers and parents.
Yeah... definitely brought tears. I'm so sick of this! I actually got emotional on an upload because I'm so sick of the lies, the "system" and these HORRIBLE "mothers", "wives" and "girlfriends"! There is no mystery any longer! Our current society looks just like it does, because of single/divorced women! I'm also angry at the thought of never becoming a great grandmother. Thank you for sharing these. #Grandmas4MGTOW
@@josephperna2081 Awe... thank you. :) I know my family is a small few of a dying breed. And you''d THINK we'd hold that key but it's been bred OUT OF THEM!!! They don't listen to ANYONE anymore. Look up how many grandmothers/grandfathers are slain by their OWN blood! And "women"/teens are committing HIGHER crimes over less, than men!!! I don't have the answer but I sure know what this looks like... 2 Timothy 3:1-5
In the same boat with this first guy. Family court is really bad on fathers especially the ones that want to be there for their kids. It still feels like getting punched in the stomach just even thinking about it.
I know for us. It was our mum who was the nurturer, she looked after and fed us- but it was her who was the abuser. On top, she neglectful and had no emotional connection to any of her children. My earliest memories are of her battering my older sister around the living room, I was a toddler and sister not much older. She screamed at my sister, who was partly deaf, throwing her into the sofa, yanking her hair and slapping her face, arms and body repeatedly while screaming, “Youre dead meat! You’re dead meat! Dead meat!!” I cowered on another sofa and helplessly watched this on more than one occasion. Mum didn’t attack me. Why did she attack my sister? We were up early, maybe 6am… we had no awareness of time, just knew that our dad left for work…. And I guess my sister had snuck into mums bedroom and found her make up box.? No physical marks were left though. Our mum did a lot as we grew up. Later she chose a man, not our dad over us. We were just collateral in this toxic and abusive relationship she had with this man. Guess the D won over what non existent affection she had for her 4 children. Even in adult life, you would think she would try to make amends. No. Not at all. She had no accountability for her actions. She didn’t want to hear it. As there is no apology she can ever make for her selfish and mindful decisions. Even in our adult lives, she has found ways to be toxic. Toxic with our development and with our partners. She gets off on the drama and power of misinformation. As a result. She is now in her 60’s. None of her children want anything to do with her, and keep her well at arms length. I do speak to her, but on an occasional basis and with limited info sharing. I know, even until her last breath, if she can find a way to cause pain and harm, even if it’s just emotional she would. Her ego just loves it. My younger brother had not seen her since he was 8 yo after he was taken into what was supposed to be a temporary 3 months in foster care, so she could get her priorities in order. She chose, not to, and was very spiteful and horrid to him, even as a young boy while he was in foster care, dismissing him on phone calls and saying he isn’t her son (as he reported that the man she chose, threatened his life, to which she wasn’t a witness to but she chose the man over her son) and she would not talk to him. He was adopted along with his younger sister soon after. He saw her later as a Young man now, so some 12 years after they last saw each other, I went with him for support. She spoke about herself. He was quiet and listened. He didn’t ask any hard questions, he was just present. As he left to go home, she asked him for a hug, he did, and as she held him she said with a wry smile, “I forgive you, you know?” He looked confused and shrugged her off before saying bye. I left with him, making sure he was ok. She forgave him? That’s the most he should have said to her, if he had wanted, not that he had to . But she forgave him?? That’s how horrid she was, how entitled, selfish and purposely nasty and antagonising. Needless to say, he didn’t want to see her again. He got his answers from that interaction, and the parting words she said, cemented that.
You and your family are idiots for keeping her at arms length. No matter the family ties, it is always best to cut the abuse out of your life. I am happy you managed to grow beyond her though.
I was in grad school with the last woman, V Measles. We studied things around race, gender, and social justice, but I think we both felt put off by the fact that academia, like other parts of our society, likes to paint many issues with this simple story about why things happen the way they do without really discussing reality. The reality is that all mothers are not nurturing, loving saints and all fathers don’t wish to be absent deadbeats. It’s also reality that many children are raised in circumstances that would be nightmares even for adults. The sooner we acknowledge this and make necessary changes in our society, the better off our kids will be as they grow and thrive. I can only imagine how disturbing it is to hear the story of your sister’s passing and the family life that precipitated it being discussed that away on TikTok, no less. I wish her peace.
Honestly when I see wmen with whole body tattoos. There is HURT there. I think it is like a public service announcement. For sane folk to stay away. And for fellow damaged people to know these abused people are kin. Ultimately? It is a VIOLENT and pain ridden life. Of hyper sexuality. Self mutilation. Drugs and deviant behaviour, the likes of which chills the bone marrow. I have seen and heard of countless "goth" and "emo" wmen do TRULY horrendous things. Just check out all the musicians, actors, comedians and pronstars that lead a goth lifestyle or are HEAVILY tattoo'd. They are dealing with depression, suicidal thoughts, alcoholism, drug abuse and lack of self preservation. More than some normal wman with no tattoos or few tattoos. Don't try to save these kinds of people. Cold. I know. But stay away from people like this. They WILL suck you into their world of dysfunction and depravity. How do I know? I had a thing for wmen with tattoos. Wasted half of my life trying to "understand" people like this. But how a sane person quantify insanity, without turning insane themselves? Now I am a nihilist who misses the days of being an idealistic fool. Even if my beliefs were too optimistic. I was happy. Now? I am a shell of my former self. Trying to drag myself back to order.
2023 is the year the battle will start for me to be able to see my son. I haven't seen my son since April 2022. God protect and bless every child on this earth.
I hope that man at the beginning reading the letter gets some sort of justice. It won't ever make up for the time lost with his son but I hope he gets his son finally and I hope that woman pays for wat she done,one way or another. My child's father passed away but I would never have kept him from our daughter. He loved her an was good to her, an she loved him. I could never keep her away from him, no matter how mad he made me sometimes. It would only hurt my daughter. He died when she was small, I'd give anything to have him bak. Our baby started highschool this yr, I never let her call anyone else dad. Life is hard, children need as many ppl to love them as they can have. This makes me sad😥
The CPS is a joke and needs to be dismantled they will investigate harmless incidences and ignore the ones that kids that are truly being abused and always taking the mother's side
Same in Indiana. They want at least 3500 up front and if the child's mother stops contacting you they consider it more time you're away from your kid. The less the kids know you the easier it is for the woman to brainwash them into never knowing you and the courts help
@@stinger720 So true dealing with it currently. My son use to talk to me now barely does (10) and he gets treated differently than my daughter (5) an their moms new husband's kids because my son reminds his mom of me. Nothing gets done and none cares until its them. Ill go through hell and back for my kids but for a parent to put their child through hell like that takes a heartless and soulless being Unforgivable!!! Going to cour currently and just getting made fun of in court. The system period is broken!!!
You can see it in his face and hands and hear it in his voice. He was getting more and more angry by the minute but controlled it, respect to this man and God be with him in getting his son away from that monster
I believe all men who are fathers should take a stand & strike against the nation for how they treat us! It's sickening how they dismiss all of our points of view!
Bro I’m just a sophomore and that made me want to cry. I feel you my man. It’s such a shame that this stuff goes on constantly and no man can do anything about it these days. I pray to God that you don’t go through this, and for other fellow men not to.
One thing I thank my mother for: Listening to me when I was a child when I said "I don't want my father to be alone". I would not be who I am if my father had not been ALLOWED to be a part of my life. Messed up that I have to say he was ALLOWED. My father has done more for me than my mother ever has.
I can honestly say that my father raised me by himself, having won custody of myself and my brother in court. I can also say that in that respect I consider this to be a miracle.
I mean, I know the courts are stacked against me, but to hear that poor bastard lay out everything he and his son has gone through is absolutely heart rending.
This is what happens with vindictive women, Government giving them to much power and control when it comes to children. LAWS NEED TO BE CHANGED FOR THESE MEN. If the women refuse to let the father see his children she should be locked up.
This is heartbreaking. In my life experience I noticed that if a woman holds a grudge against a man she has a child with that child will feel that wrath/ take the force of it as if that child is the cause.
My mom chases my father away before I was even 2yrs old then gave me away to a horrible grandmom that never cared about me! She came back & got me 2 1/2 yrs later only to start kicking me out at the age of 14yrs old! I've never had any siblings or any family I could turn to either! If I could turn back the hands of time with the knowledge I know now & got back to my childhood, the 1 thing I would've changed is once I started getting kicked out, I would've never ever went back to my mom & just found a way on my own!
I haven't shivered/had goose bumps so much with sadness & heartbreak for these people. I'm sorry that they r or have been going through this. It's so not right.
This dude is a shining example on why I don't want kids. I'm sure there's a lot of good women out there. But there's a lot of bad ones and those are the ones the guys pay attention to because they don't want their lives ruined. A lot of people think it's just the money thing but it's beyond that, you're bringing something into the world that shares your blood and looks like you, and to think that somebody could be so cold-blooded to take that from the father....yeah new, I'll go adopt. At least then ho women can try and take that away. There's plenty of children in the world that could use a good home anyways.
I want to thank you for your work. Also, I used to see bad and good people. Now I'm older. Now I see people who have been denied the American dream. With hard lives that create circumstances that can bring the worst out of folks. It's like when people ask why crime, death, and fatherlessness is so concentrated in the black community. It's because the lack of opportunities in one's life can back them into corners where they feel like there's no choice. It can bring the evil out of us.
I raised mine two children alone , she was ordered to pay child support lolololol my children never recieved a single penny of support from her , not a phone call , no birthday, holiday cards ever. Let a man not pay his support ever he would of been arrested and jailed very quickly.... she hasnt answered for this in 20+ years. However she has punished herself with her own bad decisions. She is a homless meth head last i heard and that was pretty recent.
I went through many of the things this guy went through. I now have custody of my son but the drama from my ex has continued, despite the court suspending her parenting time. She had my son sleeping on an air mattress that he had to reinflate every three hours. This made it hard for him to be his best inschool and caused server scoliosis. I served 4 years in the Air Force and 7 in the Army. Great background but it took $30k to prove that in court after her lies. The court placed an EPO on me for texting angry about her violating court orders but they allowed her to keep breaking the order for 2.5 years before they moved my son with me. She says whatever she wants to me and nothing happens. The state knows they can make the father work and take his money. Men gotta make better choices in women and recognize their worth.
I'm 32 with a thriving online business no kids and this is exactly why I REFUSE to have kids in this country or get married because both put me In a position to lose everything to a leech who was never in the gym shooting with me to begin with. I'm happy with my money and my freedom.
The first guy's story is so similar to what I went through with my psycho ex it has me shaking. Something needs to be done about this bs! They need to start holding women accountable for their actions and quit treating men like scum.
Hearing the first three actually broke my heart because the truth is her where to goes over mine women are masters of manipulation and I tell this to people because some reason how the law works around this country in the whole world is completely disgusting there’s a lot of reasons of why I actually had to explain it to people and let them know that I don’t hate women I just hate the ones that get away with things that they shouldn’t be getting away with especially this man’s child she squeezed this child she slammed her home billion towards a door?She slammed her belly against adore noticing that was a child in her stomach and they said she had no control of it she had no control over her own actions I am completely upset with the government there’s so much more that makes no sense that they’re letting them get away with and there’s so much punishment that is going towards women to so let alone it’s just evil people in this world.
My mom used to be like this, no lie. I remember one day she straight up told my father in front of my other siblings that she wanted new kids and that we sucked, that and all of the psychical abuse too, but my mom decided to repent and actually get better. She used to drink heavily and abuse drugs, and always had bad people around, it was really bad. But as I get older (I’m 19 about to be 20 in a few days) I’ve learned that my mom had such a shitty ass life, her family was so abusive that I’m genuinely shocked she didn’t Kill herself cause 90% of people cannot live her life. She was r worded by her uncle, sent away to straight up fucked up places like the straight up just woods and bad youth programs that abused the kids also. But my mom went from that, to now not only being the best mom I could ever ask for, going back to school for psychology and is maintaining a 4.0 GPA, and we’re both now currently working in starting our business together. She not only apologized to me and my family, but she changed her behaviors and became what I wanted her to be this whole time, but just my mom, but herself, and her relationship with god. Ik it’s harder to say than to do, but always leave the door open for forgiveness, because you never know what demons are inside of others
Repeat after me: "Its not my kid?" Her: "Yes it is your kid." You: "Then I agree to take them." Her: *********** You: "Did you have kids before we met?" Her: "NO!" You: "But as the court can see there were children among the house."
I have a very similar story to the first man in this video. It's been 7 years since I have seen my son that I pay $800 a month in child support for the entire time. My ex should be rotting a prison for the things she has done to people, to me, and to children and yet still has full custody. I could give about a dozen more stories that follow along the same lines that all have resulted in the men not having contact with their child. Society, law enforcement, women, and our government don't care about men and don't care about what is best for children. They care about getting money.
My maternal grandmother is in an elderly hospital or home of some kind. I sure as hell don’t see her. She was an abusive alcoholic who hated any of her children/grandchildren who didn’t have a purple headed yogurt slinger(if you also watch Roma army you get it lol). She now has dementia, so her abuse has worsened and everyone brushes it off because of her abuse(which is understandable but given her track record it’s hard). There was one time she screamed at me repeatedly to give her back her eye that she lost in an alcohol induced stroke before I was born…so yeah she’s dying alone in that nursing home😅
I’ve got friends who have tried everything to see their kids, but 99% of them are still denied contact, even though they are a LOT more capable of looking after their kids than the mothers. One of my friends hasn’t seen his kid since she was 1 month old….She’s now 14. He still has to pay child support though, which comes straight off of his wages. He was paying the mother £1k a month to start with, but she decided to go to court to get more…..She ended up getting £350 a month, so £650 less than he was voluntarily giving. Then she complained because she wanted the £1k and the court ordered child support.
I was in the same position with the DV (proven in court) as well as false allegations made against myself that were proven to be only allegations and the only option to get my 11 year old daughter away from the abuse and neglect was to allow her to go into my sisters care
Shit sad. Damn I’ve never heard another man say “Family Court is worse than war.” I thought I was the only one who felt that way. You can fight but after so long man that shit just tiring.
Its so sad, I also have a dark past but I smile everyday and look normal. Sometimes we try to hide as much as you can because having people ask questions is a nightmare and everyone feels sorry for you an it feels terrible so you put on a mask and hide it all
Honestly you could've done an entire segment on the first video alone. I watched the entire thing but just could not get past that first clip. As a single father I am not only heartbroken for that man but absolutely and utterly disgusted to my very core. I fear for that child's safety and those who have upheld these rulings should not longer be allowed to hold their position. I would put this on the level of child abuse as it pertains to the state. I am genuinely angry and thank you for shining a light on this abhorrent situation
Damn I'm going through almost exactly the same situation as the first clip. Fighting the family court and the mother fro custody then getting by passed by the court for emergency custody. Very soul crushing Men mental health
5:08 Not quite correct. The reason is that the courts profit MASSIVELY off of this. It's a business for them. The worst type of business. What the "baby momma" wants would be irrelevant without the money involved.
Good parental relationship are vital in the development of a child. The mother of my niece and nephew also didn't have a good relationship with her mother and it showed in her raising them. Long story short my brother was successful in getting a restraining order against her and has full custody because of various things she did. Our home life wasn't the best but we had a loving mother and a really good community that fill in the void where my parents failed.
Haven't talked to my mom in about 8 years (if not longer). But that's HER choice. I threw out an olive branch. She blatantly ignored it. A few months back, my youngest sister tried to convince me to talk to her. I told her, she has my number if she wants to talk to me she can call me. But she won't, I knew that as a kid, when she would be ducking my calls and changing her number all because she didn't want to pay child support to my dad (child support she never paid). Or when I did talk to her, and she would try and blame everything on my dad, like I was blind and deaf and didn't hear the times, my dad reacted out to her trying to help her and get her to spend time with me. Nah, she's just mad that I won't allow her to manipulate me like she did my siblings. When she gets over that, that's when I'll consider having a relationship with her again.
I went through this same thing man , the court does not care about men who are working hard to do what's best for their children and will believe anything a woman says and give them chance after chance and in the end was never held accountable for everything she did to me and my son when if roles were reversed I'd be in prison. The court only cares about $ and that's a fact !
When my son was 3 years, his mother dropped him off to me for my visitation weekend and left. Sunday evening when it was time to return my son to his mother, I couldn't find her or get ahold of her. A few days later I found out that she took off to another state 1k miles away to be with a guy that was a drug addict. I went to "family" court and filed for emergency custody, but was denied without a hearing. The court stated that since I was his biological father, she didn't abandon our son. I had to scramble to get him into a daycare because I had to work 40+ hours a week. I worried everyday that she would just come get my son and take him back to where she was now living, with a drug addicted criminal. She finally called a week later asking for OUR son and I told her "over my dead body". Fast forward 18 years and she asks him why he respects me more than her. My son said "you can't see why?". Today, after 20 years of hell, I have a pretty good relationship with my son, my only child. I feared family court more than going to prison!!
Sadly this happens way too often. I know a person right now that has done and continues to do everything in her power to alienate her 2 Son's from their Father and his Family. She uses her kid's to control and manipulate certain situations. Absolutely Disgusting!
The courts don’t care about men’s rights. I feel tremendous anger for this man’s plight. Shame on our family court system and CPS. They both ruin families and childrens lives!
Bro I gotta disagree. The system doesn't care because she's a woman, but because they won't make anywhere near the same amount from their cut of the child support if she is the one paying it
Powerful video brother, I can attest to being raise by one of those mothers. Thank the lord I made it out and made something of my life. But not all of us do.
I just recently went thru all of that… extremely aware of every emotion and thing that man is going through. Difference being, i lost my son but won that betch on child support and marital issues.
I went through custody fight with my ex. Psychiatrist guardian, ad litem’s all said, my ex should not have custody. The judge didn’t even care. He awarded custody to my ex. I had to go to the appeals court, which reversed the ruling. Why does a man need to go through this? It’s insanity
It’s ridiculous how easily a father’s rights can be arbitrarily ripped away if a woman chooses to be malicious. Just an accusation is enough to get your child taken away and cause you to lose your job, they don’t even have to prove anything. It’s not right. Women should be respected, but they should not be put on a pedestal and given special treatment while feminists have the gall to demand equality men aren’t being shown.
Took me 2 years in court to get custody. My children suffered every single day. Guardian ad litem had just gave up on the case unbeknown to me. It took me being accidentally invited inside the home by the kids while I was picking them up, I was able to secretly take pics. Next court hearing the judge came out of his chair and demanded the guardian lady be brought up immediately. There was a closed door meeting and I was awarded full custody that day. The court will actively work against the man every step of the way. Your cellphone is the most powerful weapon you have as a man in today's world. Protect yourself and gather your own evidence gentlemen.
I was with a woman who was going through court drama. She actively withheld her daughter from the father. He wasnt the best guy, he was mostly absent because he had a job in northern california, but he didnt deserve to never see his child. My ex fought for supervised visitations and then outright declined to even let him see his daughter. I went to every court hearing and towards the end after about 5 years of going to court and.hiring new attorneys, judge allard wanted to rip my gfs head off for how she was acting. He scolded her for 15 minutes about how its going to affect the child for the rest of her life. After all that, he STILL sided with my girlfriend and gave her full physical and legal custody and that was it. I had a front row seat to the EVIL that family court is. The woman will always win. I still love my ex to this day but what she did to that childs father was BS and the court had no choice but to side with the woman.
Well the courts here in South Carolina are no different. I was a truck driver, when I discovered that my then wife was not only cheating on me but was also engaged in heavy serious drug use, and around put daughter no less. We separated and she would never let me speak with her. Then the court day came for child custody. Since she also accused me of drug abuse, we both had to submit to a drug screening. Mine was obviously clear as I was still a truck-driver. She however failed! Tested positive for meth, opioids, cocaine, and MDMA! Yet the court system STILL GRANTED HER SOLE CUSTODY WITH ME HAVING SUPERVISED VISITATION ONLY! You see this is just another example of how the court system is engaging in back room deals w/politicians! My ex father in-law was a state representative for several years, and knew the judge personally. Shortly after that my ex took off with our daughter and I never saw her again. I later found out that someone signed my signature on child rights papers and then adoption papers as well. I know who did it, hit no lawyer in this entire county would take the case because of my ex in-laws! She has been brainwashed by those evil people against me. I've found her FB profile and tried several times to contact her through messenger to no avail. Each time blocked, and she created a new profile. She is now of legal age yet because of their mind manipulation she refuses to even allow me to explain my side of things. This is very disheartening. I know the face of evil it's on the head of women like these! My only solace is that one day they all will give an account to GOD for their actions! I only want to let her know that I never stopped loving her, and never stopped looking for her!... Daddy loves you my little "BOOGIE-MONSTER"... I gave her that nickname because she would run all over the place, and when she heard the song "SEPTEMBER" she would dance... Men use caution when dealing with the courts, keep every single text, record the conversations between you and the woman, find a lawyer who isn't afraid of politicians!
Crazy how the biological father has less rights than everyone else
It's all by design man. The powers that be had a goal of destroying the family unit. One of the many ways they accomplished this was making the family court system so unfair, that men would stop seeking marriage.
It's the patriarchy...
@@aztec0112 how? If men are in charge supposedly why wouldn't they ha e paternal rights?? Bs!
Fathers have no rights in this society, they are just walking ATMs to the government and modern women.
@@Diamondr11Blue I think they are being facetious. Take care.
Custody/ Child Support laws need to be changed across the United States immediately!
I don't have any need for the laws to be changed currently. I have always supported the laws to be changed. I worked with a guy that his heroin addict ex-wife was deemed by the court to be a more fit parent even though she was convinced a few times before judgement while the grave sin that the guy I worked with committed? He was in the Marines. The judge said that he was unfit due to the possibility of immediate deployment while the court deemed the mother was the best choice for custody, the judge also informed the mother that it will be dependent on her starting addition counseling. It finally took the mother nodding while she was driving the kids to his 2 hour monthly visitation. It also helped him that she was charged with trafficking. The first order of business that the guy I worked with did was get the kids in counseling. Why she wanted the kids, the same reason they all do.
They're not going to change them because they're not "broken". The laws are built explicitly to screw over Mn because they are a threat to their authority due to their care for Independence, Logic and Morality while Wmn are their most blind supporters due to their desire for someone to provide resources and security to them.
Tbh any politician that tries this will be committing political self deletion.
@@DogDooWinner a lot of times they just want the kids/ child to be spiteful to the father
Not just US bro.. it's WORLD WIDE , THE RULES ARE ALL THE SAME IN ALL COUNTRIES, the thing I learn is, we the men/boy(male in general) is we complain abt these issues but we don't take them forward.., Yu know to court/supreme Court to change them laws.
I drop tears for this man who was shown first... my father almost lost custody of me and my brother when MY MOTHER didn't even show up to the court hearing.... the system is fucked and my father was a victim of it.. I'm grateful he kept fighting cause my life would be awful if he didn't
DAMN
I fought my daughter's grandmother for 2and a half years
@@stephentrotter1653 grandmother? What the h3ll?
No in court
@@stephentrotter1653 I know, she should have never even had a chance against you as the father but man this sucks
"When a man goes insane and kills everyone, people only sees the outcome, never the situation that cause it." - My dad
Whenever I see a report on the local news about a man barricading himself and kids in the house or something worse? Automatically I think it's some family court, baby momma bs that pushes him over the edge.
Yep, and a lot of psychopaths roaming around as well because men's emotions and feelings are given the importance that they should have. "Oh well, you have clinical depression. You just gotta man up and deal with it yourself" then they become drug addicts to cope or kill themselves or become serial killers if they're too far gone, because they didn't get the help they needed. And people wonder how it could have happened.
I just wanna go ahead and say that even though i don't play them anymore because i don't have the time. Video games saved my life. I was in such a dark place, i contemplated suicide every day for several months. And video games were my escape from reality and helped me find something to look forward to in life. For all the boomers who say video games ruin lives, just letting you know they saved mine.
Are you justifying murder?. Why would you ruin your whole life over child support?????
@@acewalker because its not just about child support.... You're not listening. No ones justifying murder but no one asks the question of why it happens. Especially when a man is dealing with a psycho woman who is doing everything to manipulate the situation to paint the father in a bad light to keep the father away from his kids. Either they limit the time he can see them, or just revoke his rights to see them all together. The courts ignore his pleas even if there is evidence to support that his childs' mother is intentionally lying to the court to keep the kids away from him. Or they keep upping child support until that man can barely scrape by l. Whats left his paychecks. And the effed up part is it is all done legally and there's nothing he can do about it. Just a little perspective for you to ponder on
HMT?
I went through this with my daughter, She’s 3 years old now. Her mother hate me because I moved on with someone else after I found out she was only using me anyway. I was getting my daughter every weekend and sometimes for 2 - 3 weeks straight. I even moved 5 minutes from them to be closer to my daughter. When my fiancé got pregnant with my son things got worse and caused more problems. After my son was born my daughter’s mom sent her to my house knowing she had Cov!d to get my son sick then said she wishes he would have d!ed smh. Fast forward, Now I’m not allowed to see my daughter and have to pay child support. I called child protective services so many times because she was physically, mentally and emotionally abusing my daughter. Also neglecting her by sending her to me dirty with the same clothes on from the week before just to piss me off. Nothing was done about this at all. We went to court, they provided her with a free lawyer and I had to pay $3000 for a lawyer and still lost with so much proof, evidence, phone conversations, photos, text messages, videos of my baby twerking my social media and proof that she would not allow me to register my daughter in a head start program 😔 idk anymore but I know that women like her pushes the father out when he doesn’t want to be with her then raise the child to hate the father. Hopefully I will see my daughter again and when she’s old enough to understand I’m going sit down with her and open this box with all of her answers in it. So many photos of her with me and how clean and happy she was, photos of how dirty and distressed she was with her mom. Text messages, phone conversations etc. everything she needs to know that I was a damn good father and we both had to suffer because her mom was not happy 🤷🏽♂️
Sorry to hear about your blatant miscarriage of justice. It's plain as day the courts will ALWAYS favor 🚺, even with evidence.
@@starkrebel burn the courts
I'm so sorry man this justice system is broken and our society is full of dangerous individuals who raised by unfit single mothers.
Don't just wait for her to be older and hope you'll see her. Send cards and call. See if you can pick her up during school lunch hour. That way even if you don't get to see her, even while young she'll pick up on the fact you were trying and it makes it harder to poison her against you. They also come around sooner than their teen years.
man i feel for you i been so careful not to have a baby with a female like ur ex now 41 going on 42 im feeling like i missed out on something great 😥
The first guy story is so sad I hope he gets his son and justice ⚖️
I’m sorry but he won’t he will always be a second class parent and will never get credit as well as the poor child is more likely to go to prison “70% of juveniles in state-operated institutions and 85% of youth in prisons come from fatherless homes. 80% of rapists come from fatherless homes.”
Sadly we all know he won't. Our society would rather ruin the chance of children having a decent life with a good father than make a man look good in any kind of way.
he wont, family court is a joke.
My dad lost custody of me and all my siblings, even when I was reporting the abuse my mother was putting me through at home (textbook narcissistic sociopath who was a 'functioning' alcoholic). It wasn't until my mom tried moving us all to England that the courts finally stepped in, and even then they just gave us to my grandmother. Men have no rights in the family anymore.
my mom was the actual most toxic person in my life growing up
my first girlfriend completely changed my view on women because of how amazing she was to me when i was expecting a monster similar to my mother
i found out she was on tinder for half the time we were together but thats another matter
ill never forget the words my mom said to me "if you weren't my son i would have nothing to do with you"
i will remember that when she needs me.
bro... your ex girlfriend proved that women are more like your mom instead of different than. Stop having hope in them- most of them are trashy like this
Try this one on for size mate! My black mother resents me now after 24 years because get this…my father is white. According to her I have used white privilege to get through life. Comes as a shock to me, I mean it’s not like I had any choice in the matter! All you can do is live well and be happy. That’s your revenge brother.
This isn't just an American problem. I am an Australian going through the exact same situation. It has been nine years since I last saw my daughter because my ex disappeared with her after setting up for the government to take child support out of my pay, deducted before it even gets to my account. In 9 years I haven't heard or seen anything of my daughter, while being forced to pay for my ex's lifestyle. I have been trying to go through family court for visitation rights for years, but all I have gotten in response is silence. Family court doesn't care about fathers
The first one compleatly broke my heart. Im so so sorry for him and his son.
The American family court/justice system is so fucking broken. Im glad i live in Sweden when i see shit like this, especially since i see it soooooo often from america and i only know about maybe a handfull from Sweden..
Its also in Sweden apparently, at least according to a quick stat check. Should probably research it from your end.
I’d like to share a bit about my mom who I no longer speak to. I’m the oldest of 5 kids, and she left my dad for his friend. That guy cheated on her the entire relationship and she still had 3 kids with him. He ended up kicking her to the curb eventually when she became old and wicked with her alcoholism. She used to kick me in the ribs with Doc Martens on, hit my face into the floor, blame me for giving her bruises even though I hadn’t touched her and the saddest of them all was when she kicked my little brother over and over on his 7 birthday. All I know is she’s now homeless on the streets and my brother and I don’t talk to her.
I thought I'd seen it all, but then I read your horrible ordeal and to top it off I read this:
"she kicked my little brother over and over on his 7 birthday"
What.
The.
Fuck.
I'm sorry you siblings went through all that especially from the parent that's supposed to be the nurturing one. I'm glad you made it out of it & she's living in the situation she put herself in.
Love and light your way 💫💜💫
And people will say shes an abnormal freak of statiatics who doesnt represent what women are capable of , however swap the parent? "Just another one" I'm sorry you went through that bull, hope you up now.
I would have found my mom and put her in I.C.U
If she still single at 30yr+ out in the streets. Do not save them. They already made their decision when they threw their 20s away.
Exactly. Also. Honestly when I see wmen with whole body tattoos. There is HURT there. I think it is like a public service announcement. For sane folk to stay away. And for fellow damaged people to know these abused people are kin.
Ultimately? It is a VIOLENT and pain ridden life. Of hyper sexuality. Self mutilation. Drugs and deviant behaviour, the likes of which chills the bone marrow. I have seen and heard of countless "goth" and "emo" wmen do TRULY horrendous things. Just check out all the musicians, actors, comedians and pronstars that lead a goth lifestyle or are HEAVILY tattoo'd. They are dealing with depression, suicidal thoughts, alcoholism, drug abuse and lack of self preservation. More than some normal wman with no tattoos or few tattoos.
Don't try to save these kinds of people. Cold. I know. But stay away from people like this. They WILL suck you into their world of dysfunction and depravity. How do I know? I had a thing for wmen with tattoos. Wasted half of my life trying to "understand" people like this. But how a sane person quantify insanity, without turning insane themselves?
Now I am a nihilist who misses the days of being an idealistic fool. Even if my beliefs were too optimistic. I was happy. Now? I am a shell of my former self. Trying to drag myself back to order.
Mothers like her should held accountable for their actions by law. Over 22 years ago i got full custody of my 8 month old son after i found out by accident (a friend of my ex told my sis what had happened) that my son had been taken off his mum, AGAIN. Just over 13 years ago another ex stopped me seeing my 4 kids with her. Found out my 2 and half year old daughter wasnt mine and her mother knew. I was paying for all 4 even though 1 of them wasnt mine. When a stranger with a gavel gave me access to my kids was one of the best days of my life along side getting sole custody of my oldest. It took me 3 YEARS to get access because she kept on lying about me and everyone in court knew she was lying but they had to take it seriouse. After all those years its seems nothing has changed towards good Fathers
More like a 45
I burn in anger when men describe how their baby mamas and the courts victimize them over and over. My husband hasn’t seen his daughter in over 7 yrs because his ex stole her 2 states away against court orders. Our state says it’s too far to go arrest her. I’ve never met my own step daughter. When she found out we have a son, she had their daughter call him to ask why he doesn’t love her anymore. It broke me to see him after that call. May God damn these women and these courts for what they do
Push the courts more. Get it out more. They will do something about it if people start asking.
I'd had tracked them down, done everything in my power to find her address and then go there in person to take my child back. Not like she could do anything about it due to having done something illegal already.
@@ultranecrozma7449 No they won't. This system was designed to be like this. Most people think feminism was about equal rights for women, or at least that it started out like that. But that's not true. It was never about equal rights. The real goal of feminism was to replace the man with the state as the head of every household. Push the natural protector out of the home, demoralize him and turn him into a wage slave. Get the women into the workforce to get more tax income. Make women more dependent on the government. Make sure resources are transferred via the state from the men to the women. {basically making the state the pimp of all women} And getting all the children into the indoctrination system from a early age to control their minds. And because the natural protector is removed from the home and demoralized, there is nobody to defend these children from the predators working within the system.
@@retrowave69 You would end up in prison or dead. The government would hunt you down. Give the child back to the mother. And all the media would report about the danger of abusive men and call the woman a brave survivor. They would talk about this being the reason women need feminism and probably place an ad so people can donate for the cause. There is no justice for men within the Western world.
If he wanted her back he would do every in his power to
Man I tried not to cry but damn I never had that type of abuse growing up I was very lucky to have a loving family. I’m sorry to all who have suffered unjustly in there life’s my prayers are for you all are that you find peace and happiness one day, till then god bless
HEART BREAKING! 💯 WE DEFINITELY NEED TO FIX THIS BROKEN SYSTEM! ALL THE WAY AROUND!
It will not be fixed.
Can you honestly picture the moral compass in the next decade?
The world is getting ready to harvest many souls for the devil.
@@kyrollos777 people will die then the end...
*It's not just the system, It's women too*
There is no we old lady. This corrupt structure was set up to benefit women only so WOMEN has to call for change in the law system.
@@tribeofjudah9330 Yes and weak men allowed horrible laws to pass that made it so “family” (women’s) court always favor the woman 95% of the time.
The only thing you can do is abandon the west and go to a patriarchal country that will not do this shit. Leave these modern western women to rot, get a loyal woman who won’t even consider taking your children away.
They CANNOT give the child to the father because they’ll lose a client in the criminal justice system. Those in the system know full well that fathers make better parents in general, so why would you think they’d shoot themselves in their own feet?
This is terrible! I’ve watch many women ruin men’s lives with child support. Made me not want any kids period and now I’m 38 and childless planning trips with my man
You don't want kids with your man?
as a man this was my biggest fear was to have a child with a woman and what happen to the first guy would happen to me now im 41 yo and feel like i missed out and will never have the joy of having kids
No matter how bad life gets you cannot just give up on the idea of having kids. No parent regrets having kids, many women definitely regret not having them
To be honest no disrespect intended you're 38. Women loose 90% of there eggs at 30. Plus being 40 with a new born is hard. Edit: their*
You are 38, the choice isn't yours anymore. No eggs
I've been in this same situation. She didnt show up to 4 custody hearings in a row and they kept to give her custody. Finally on the 5th no show hearing they gave me full custody.
You would think that not bothering to show up would be seen as her not caring.
My grandmother is in a nursing home because no one wants to care for her because she's terrible, my mother acts just like her so I've found a care facility for her when she gets in her later years.
“When a mother scorns her child, that child will grow up to be angry, scornful and vindictive”
Ed Kemper ~ mindhunter
The first video is heartbreaking and if is true is one of the sickest things i have ever heard. My prayers and heart goes out to that man. Would love a follow up video to where this goes. This broken system needs to be fixed for equality
This brought me to tears. I work diligently and hard for parents to have custody of their children whether it be the mother or father. I am a child and family advocate whenever I get a custody case. I am a psychologist and work closely with the Dept of Human Services in my country. Men are shown to be better caretakers and parents.
Yeah... definitely brought tears. I'm so sick of this! I actually got emotional on an upload because I'm so sick of the lies, the "system" and these HORRIBLE "mothers", "wives" and "girlfriends"! There is no mystery any longer! Our current society looks just like it does, because of single/divorced women! I'm also angry at the thought of never becoming a great grandmother. Thank you for sharing these. #Grandmas4MGTOW
We appreciate you! We all need to be more vocal. But only women can get through to other women
@@josephperna2081 Awe... thank you. :) I know my family is a small few of a dying breed. And you''d THINK we'd hold that key but it's been bred OUT OF THEM!!! They don't listen to ANYONE anymore. Look up how many grandmothers/grandfathers are slain by their OWN blood! And "women"/teens are committing HIGHER crimes over less, than men!!! I don't have the answer but I sure know what this looks like... 2 Timothy 3:1-5
Uhm , no 🤣
In the same boat with this first guy. Family court is really bad on fathers especially the ones that want to be there for their kids. It still feels like getting punched in the stomach just even thinking about it.
"Your honor, I now identify as a woman and will be seeking custody to this child as its natural mother"
the first man is going through the exact same thing I am with my son's mother. the only difference is my son was taken after 2 years. he is 11 now
I know for us.
It was our mum who was the nurturer, she looked after and fed us- but it was her who was the abuser. On top, she neglectful and had no emotional connection to any of her children.
My earliest memories are of her battering my older sister around the living room, I was a toddler and sister not much older.
She screamed at my sister, who was partly deaf, throwing her into the sofa, yanking her hair and slapping her face, arms and body repeatedly while screaming,
“Youre dead meat! You’re dead meat! Dead meat!!”
I cowered on another sofa and helplessly watched this on more than one occasion. Mum didn’t attack me.
Why did she attack my sister?
We were up early, maybe 6am… we had no awareness of time, just knew that our dad left for work…. And I guess my sister had snuck into mums bedroom and found her make up box.?
No physical marks were left though.
Our mum did a lot as we grew up.
Later she chose a man, not our dad over us. We were just collateral in this toxic and abusive relationship she had with this man. Guess the D won over what non existent affection she had for her 4 children.
Even in adult life, you would think she would try to make amends.
No.
Not at all.
She had no accountability for her actions.
She didn’t want to hear it.
As there is no apology she can ever make for her selfish and mindful decisions.
Even in our adult lives, she has found ways to be toxic.
Toxic with our development and with our partners.
She gets off on the drama and power of misinformation.
As a result. She is now in her 60’s.
None of her children want anything to do with her, and keep her well at arms length.
I do speak to her, but on an occasional basis and with limited info sharing.
I know, even until her last breath, if she can find a way to cause pain and harm, even if it’s just emotional she would. Her ego just loves it.
My younger brother had not seen her since he was 8 yo after he was taken into what was supposed to be a temporary 3 months in foster care, so she could get her priorities in order. She chose, not to, and was very spiteful and horrid to him, even as a young boy while he was in foster care, dismissing him on phone calls and saying he isn’t her son (as he reported that the man she chose, threatened his life, to which she wasn’t a witness to but she chose the man over her son) and she would not talk to him. He was adopted along with his younger sister soon after.
He saw her later as a Young man now, so some 12 years after they last saw each other, I went with him for support.
She spoke about herself. He was quiet and listened. He didn’t ask any hard questions, he was just present. As he left to go home, she asked him for a hug, he did, and as she held him she said with a wry smile,
“I forgive you, you know?”
He looked confused and shrugged her off before saying bye. I left with him, making sure he was ok.
She forgave him?
That’s the most he should have said to her, if he had wanted, not that he had to .
But she forgave him??
That’s how horrid she was, how entitled, selfish and purposely nasty and antagonising.
Needless to say, he didn’t want to see her again. He got his answers from that interaction, and the parting words she said, cemented that.
You and your family are idiots for keeping her at arms length. No matter the family ties, it is always best to cut the abuse out of your life. I am happy you managed to grow beyond her though.
I was in grad school with the last woman, V Measles. We studied things around race, gender, and social justice, but I think we both felt put off by the fact that academia, like other parts of our society, likes to paint many issues with this simple story about why things happen the way they do without really discussing reality. The reality is that all mothers are not nurturing, loving saints and all fathers don’t wish to be absent deadbeats. It’s also reality that many children are raised in circumstances that would be nightmares even for adults. The sooner we acknowledge this and make necessary changes in our society, the better off our kids will be as they grow and thrive.
I can only imagine how disturbing it is to hear the story of your sister’s passing and the family life that precipitated it being discussed that away on TikTok, no less. I wish her peace.
Also that fact that she has a neck tattoo. Usually women that have tattoos all over there body has had some sort of trauma in their life too.
Honestly when I see wmen with whole body tattoos. There is HURT there. I think it is like a public service announcement. For sane folk to stay away. And for fellow damaged people to know these abused people are kin.
Ultimately? It is a VIOLENT and pain ridden life. Of hyper sexuality. Self mutilation. Drugs and deviant behaviour, the likes of which chills the bone marrow. I have seen and heard of countless "goth" and "emo" wmen do TRULY horrendous things. Just check out all the musicians, actors, comedians and pronstars that lead a goth lifestyle or are HEAVILY tattoo'd. They are dealing with depression, suicidal thoughts, alcoholism, drug abuse and lack of self preservation. More than some normal wman with no tattoos or few tattoos.
Don't try to save these kinds of people. Cold. I know. But stay away from people like this. They WILL suck you into their world of dysfunction and depravity. How do I know? I had a thing for wmen with tattoos. Wasted half of my life trying to "understand" people like this. But how a sane person quantify insanity, without turning insane themselves?
Now I am a nihilist who misses the days of being an idealistic fool. Even if my beliefs were too optimistic. I was happy. Now? I am a shell of my former self. Trying to drag myself back to order.
tattoos on the neck or in the face is a huge red flag. trauma 100%.
Face/neck tattoos, and bull ring "septum" piercings.
That first video, he was shaking with emotion. My heart breaks for him.
This makes me so sad 😢for the man and his baby 😓 I’m over here in tears for him.🙏🏼
2023 is the year the battle will start for me to be able to see my son.
I haven't seen my son since April 2022. God protect and bless every child on this earth.
I hope that man at the beginning reading the letter gets some sort of justice. It won't ever make up for the time lost with his son but I hope he gets his son finally and I hope that woman pays for wat she done,one way or another. My child's father passed away but I would never have kept him from our daughter. He loved her an was good to her, an she loved him. I could never keep her away from him, no matter how mad he made me sometimes. It would only hurt my daughter. He died when she was small, I'd give anything to have him bak. Our baby started highschool this yr, I never let her call anyone else dad. Life is hard, children need as many ppl to love them as they can have. This makes me sad😥
not gonna happen, you can thank feminism for that
This is absolutely heartbreaking 😞😢
The CPS is a joke and needs to be dismantled they will investigate harmless incidences and ignore the ones that kids that are truly being abused and always taking the mother's side
Going through that right now in Indiana. Hope it works out for him cause isn't for me like many others.
Same in Indiana. They want at least 3500 up front and if the child's mother stops contacting you they consider it more time you're away from your kid. The less the kids know you the easier it is for the woman to brainwash them into never knowing you and the courts help
@@stinger720 So true dealing with it currently. My son use to talk to me now barely does (10) and he gets treated differently than my daughter (5) an their moms new husband's kids because my son reminds his mom of me. Nothing gets done and none cares until its them. Ill go through hell and back for my kids but for a parent to put their child through hell like that takes a heartless and soulless being Unforgivable!!! Going to cour currently and just getting made fun of in court. The system period is broken!!!
You can see it in his face and hands and hear it in his voice. He was getting more and more angry by the minute but controlled it, respect to this man and God be with him in getting his son away from that monster
I believe all men who are fathers should take a stand & strike against the nation for how they treat us! It's sickening how they dismiss all of our points of view!
Bro I’m just a sophomore and that made me want to cry. I feel you my man. It’s such a shame that this stuff goes on constantly and no man can do anything about it these days. I pray to God that you don’t go through this, and for other fellow men not to.
One thing I thank my mother for: Listening to me when I was a child when I said "I don't want my father to be alone". I would not be who I am if my father had not been ALLOWED to be a part of my life. Messed up that I have to say he was ALLOWED. My father has done more for me than my mother ever has.
I can honestly say that my father raised me by himself, having won custody of myself and my brother in court.
I can also say that in that respect I consider this to be a miracle.
This kind of content and context is the reason i love this channel keep up the good work different perspective you have my full support 👍
I mean, I know the courts are stacked against me, but to hear that poor bastard lay out everything he and his son has gone through is absolutely heart rending.
This county failed this child and his dad. Praying he was truly heard❤
This is what happens with vindictive women, Government giving them to much power and control when it comes to children. LAWS NEED TO BE CHANGED FOR THESE MEN. If the women refuse to let the father see his children she should be locked up.
This is heartbreaking. In my life experience I noticed that if a woman holds a grudge against a man she has a child with that child will feel that wrath/ take the force of it as if that child is the cause.
Where I used to work we got raises in May and in June I would always hear about the divorced guys being taken back to court for more support!
My mom chases my father away before I was even 2yrs old then gave me away to a horrible grandmom that never cared about me! She came back & got me 2 1/2 yrs later only to start kicking me out at the age of 14yrs old! I've never had any siblings or any family I could turn to either! If I could turn back the hands of time with the knowledge I know now & got back to my childhood, the 1 thing I would've changed is once I started getting kicked out, I would've never ever went back to my mom & just found a way on my own!
I went through this for 8 years. $40k later in lawyer fees I finally got full custody. This is what a lot of good men have to go through
And even more still wont get their kids
I haven't shivered/had goose bumps so much with sadness & heartbreak for these people. I'm sorry that they r or have been going through this. It's so not right.
This strikes so close to home. I can't see my son simply because I tried to move on, just like my ex did.
Brother !! Heartfelt thanks for such content !
We live in a wild society. I feel the pain and frustration of this father. I hope he gets his son 🙏🏿 😔
This dude is a shining example on why I don't want kids. I'm sure there's a lot of good women out there. But there's a lot of bad ones and those are the ones the guys pay attention to because they don't want their lives ruined. A lot of people think it's just the money thing but it's beyond that, you're bringing something into the world that shares your blood and looks like you, and to think that somebody could be so cold-blooded to take that from the father....yeah new, I'll go adopt. At least then ho women can try and take that away. There's plenty of children in the world that could use a good home anyways.
The truth is always good to say.
God bless this man 🙏🏿
I want to thank you for your work. Also, I used to see bad and good people. Now I'm older. Now I see people who have been denied the American dream. With hard lives that create circumstances that can bring the worst out of folks. It's like when people ask why crime, death, and fatherlessness is so concentrated in the black community. It's because the lack of opportunities in one's life can back them into corners where they feel like there's no choice. It can bring the evil out of us.
I raised mine two children alone , she was ordered to pay child support lolololol my children never recieved a single penny of support from her , not a phone call , no birthday, holiday cards ever. Let a man not pay his support ever he would of been arrested and jailed very quickly.... she hasnt answered for this in 20+ years. However she has punished herself with her own bad decisions. She is a homless meth head last i heard and that was pretty recent.
the way he hold the papers you can tell he is crazy upset... yet he stays clear and calm. so sad, the man always gets screwed over in family cases
I went through many of the things this guy went through. I now have custody of my son but the drama from my ex has continued, despite the court suspending her parenting time. She had my son sleeping on an air mattress that he had to reinflate every three hours. This made it hard for him to be his best inschool and caused server scoliosis. I served 4 years in the Air Force and 7 in the Army. Great background but it took $30k to prove that in court after her lies. The court placed an EPO on me for texting angry about her violating court orders but they allowed her to keep breaking the order for 2.5 years before they moved my son with me. She says whatever she wants to me and nothing happens. The state knows they can make the father work and take his money. Men gotta make better choices in women and recognize their worth.
I'm 32 with a thriving online business no kids and this is exactly why I REFUSE to have kids in this country or get married because both put me In a position to lose everything to a leech who was never in the gym shooting with me to begin with. I'm happy with my money and my freedom.
This is absolutely tragic and I haven’t even finished watching yet. (Damn that was some heavy shiz)
The first guy's story is so similar to what I went through with my psycho ex it has me shaking. Something needs to be done about this bs! They need to start holding women accountable for their actions and quit treating men like scum.
female abusers r way more common than what the vast majority of folks want to talk about..
Shows you how ignorant the system is and courts
Hearing the first three actually broke my heart because the truth is her where to goes over mine women are masters of manipulation and I tell this to people because some reason how the law works around this country in the whole world is completely disgusting there’s a lot of reasons of why I actually had to explain it to people and let them know that I don’t hate women I just hate the ones that get away with things that they shouldn’t be getting away with especially this man’s child she squeezed this child she slammed her home billion towards a door?She slammed her belly against adore noticing that was a child in her stomach and they said she had no control of it she had no control over her own actions I am completely upset with the government there’s so much more that makes no sense that they’re letting them get away with and there’s so much punishment that is going towards women to so let alone it’s just evil people in this world.
I hear people who “have no control over their own actions” make amazing parents! 😂
My mom used to be like this, no lie. I remember one day she straight up told my father in front of my other siblings that she wanted new kids and that we sucked, that and all of the psychical abuse too, but my mom decided to repent and actually get better. She used to drink heavily and abuse drugs, and always had bad people around, it was really bad. But as I get older (I’m 19 about to be 20 in a few days) I’ve learned that my mom had such a shitty ass life, her family was so abusive that I’m genuinely shocked she didn’t Kill herself cause 90% of people cannot live her life. She was r worded by her uncle, sent away to straight up fucked up places like the straight up just woods and bad youth programs that abused the kids also. But my mom went from that, to now not only being the best mom I could ever ask for, going back to school for psychology and is maintaining a 4.0 GPA, and we’re both now currently working in starting our business together. She not only apologized to me and my family, but she changed her behaviors and became what I wanted her to be this whole time, but just my mom, but herself, and her relationship with god. Ik it’s harder to say than to do, but always leave the door open for forgiveness, because you never know what demons are inside of others
Repeat after me: "Its not my kid?"
Her: "Yes it is your kid."
You: "Then I agree to take them."
Her: ***********
You: "Did you have kids before we met?"
Her: "NO!"
You: "But as the court can see there were children among the house."
But always remember to not repeatedly give forgiveness as it will be abused if you do so
I have a very similar story to the first man in this video.
It's been 7 years since I have seen my son that I pay $800 a month in child support for the entire time.
My ex should be rotting a prison for the things she has done to people, to me, and to children and yet still has full custody.
I could give about a dozen more stories that follow along the same lines that all have resulted in the men not having contact with their child.
Society, law enforcement, women, and our government don't care about men and don't care about what is best for children.
They care about getting money.
that first one...... wow that is so sad. I really wish the court would change and be more fair. but i dont know if it will ever happen
My maternal grandmother is in an elderly hospital or home of some kind. I sure as hell don’t see her. She was an abusive alcoholic who hated any of her children/grandchildren who didn’t have a purple headed yogurt slinger(if you also watch Roma army you get it lol). She now has dementia, so her abuse has worsened and everyone brushes it off because of her abuse(which is understandable but given her track record it’s hard). There was one time she screamed at me repeatedly to give her back her eye that she lost in an alcohol induced stroke before I was born…so yeah she’s dying alone in that nursing home😅
I dunno dude, maybe just give her back the eye! 😂
I’ve got friends who have tried everything to see their kids, but 99% of them are still denied contact, even though they are a LOT more capable of looking after their kids than the mothers.
One of my friends hasn’t seen his kid since she was 1 month old….She’s now 14.
He still has to pay child support though, which comes straight off of his wages.
He was paying the mother £1k a month to start with, but she decided to go to court to get more…..She ended up getting £350 a month, so £650 less than he was voluntarily giving.
Then she complained because she wanted the £1k and the court ordered child support.
I was in the same position with the DV (proven in court) as well as false allegations made against myself that were proven to be only allegations and the only option to get my 11 year old daughter away from the abuse and neglect was to allow her to go into my sisters care
Shit sad. Damn I’ve never heard another man say “Family Court is worse than war.” I thought I was the only one who felt that way. You can fight but after so long man that shit just tiring.
And you wonder why some people rampage.
I went through very similar things and the courts initially on my side when my devious 2nd wife got involved life went right down the tubes.
Its so sad, I also have a dark past but I smile everyday and look normal. Sometimes we try to hide as much as you can because having people ask questions is a nightmare and everyone feels sorry for you an it feels terrible so you put on a mask and hide it all
Honestly you could've done an entire segment on the first video alone. I watched the entire thing but just could not get past that first clip. As a single father I am not only heartbroken for that man but absolutely and utterly disgusted to my very core. I fear for that child's safety and those who have upheld these rulings should not longer be allowed to hold their position. I would put this on the level of child abuse as it pertains to the state. I am genuinely angry and thank you for shining a light on this abhorrent situation
Damn I'm going through almost exactly the same situation as the first clip. Fighting the family court and the mother fro custody then getting by passed by the court for emergency custody. Very soul crushing Men mental health
5:08 Not quite correct. The reason is that the courts profit MASSIVELY off of this. It's a business for them. The worst type of business. What the "baby momma" wants would be irrelevant without the money involved.
A billion dollar industry asides from divorce
Very good point on goth - I always thought that as well
Brother, I just want to say thank you for bringing awareness about people like me. We are very misunderstood.
The system allows bitter people to destroy others as much as they like
Good parental relationship are vital in the development of a child. The mother of my niece and nephew also didn't have a good relationship with her mother and it showed in her raising them. Long story short my brother was successful in getting a restraining order against her and has full custody because of various things she did. Our home life wasn't the best but we had a loving mother and a really good community that fill in the void where my parents failed.
Haven't talked to my mom in about 8 years (if not longer). But that's HER choice. I threw out an olive branch. She blatantly ignored it. A few months back, my youngest sister tried to convince me to talk to her. I told her, she has my number if she wants to talk to me she can call me. But she won't, I knew that as a kid, when she would be ducking my calls and changing her number all because she didn't want to pay child support to my dad (child support she never paid). Or when I did talk to her, and she would try and blame everything on my dad, like I was blind and deaf and didn't hear the times, my dad reacted out to her trying to help her and get her to spend time with me. Nah, she's just mad that I won't allow her to manipulate me like she did my siblings. When she gets over that, that's when I'll consider having a relationship with her again.
I went through this same thing man , the court does not care about men who are working hard to do what's best for their children and will believe anything a woman says and give them chance after chance and in the end was never held accountable for everything she did to me and my son when if roles were reversed I'd be in prison. The court only cares about $ and that's a fact !
This is horrendous. That poor man and his son. Why is that woman being allowed to repeatedly abuse that poor little defenseless baby.
When my son was 3 years, his mother dropped him off to me for my visitation weekend and left. Sunday evening when it was time to return my son to his mother, I couldn't find her or get ahold of her. A few days later I found out that she took off to another state 1k miles away to be with a guy that was a drug addict. I went to "family" court and filed for emergency custody, but was denied without a hearing. The court stated that since I was his biological father, she didn't abandon our son. I had to scramble to get him into a daycare because I had to work 40+ hours a week. I worried everyday that she would just come get my son and take him back to where she was now living, with a drug addicted criminal. She finally called a week later asking for OUR son and I told her "over my dead body". Fast forward 18 years and she asks him why he respects me more than her. My son said "you can't see why?". Today, after 20 years of hell, I have a pretty good relationship with my son, my only child. I feared family court more than going to prison!!
Sadly this happens way too often. I know a person right now that has done and continues to do everything in her power to alienate her 2 Son's from their Father and his Family. She uses her kid's to control and manipulate certain situations. Absolutely Disgusting!
The courts don’t care about men’s rights. I feel tremendous anger for this man’s plight. Shame on our family court system and CPS. They both ruin families and childrens lives!
Bro I gotta disagree. The system doesn't care because she's a woman, but because they won't make anywhere near the same amount from their cut of the child support if she is the one paying it
Powerful video brother, I can attest to being raise by one of those mothers. Thank the lord I made it out and made something of my life. But not all of us do.
I'm in tears....how can you ignore a good dad for custody when mom is clearly a deadbeat! 🤬
Agreed 110%
I just recently went thru all of that… extremely aware of every emotion and thing that man is going through. Difference being, i lost my son but won that betch on child support and marital issues.
I went through custody fight with my ex. Psychiatrist guardian, ad litem’s all said, my ex should not have custody. The judge didn’t even care. He awarded custody to my ex. I had to go to the appeals court, which reversed the ruling. Why does a man need to go through this? It’s insanity
I am grateful that I didn't have a child with my ex. She is the type of person to be like the mother that the man in the beginning was dealing with.
That first one broke my damn heart…. How did we get here? This is insanity
It’s ridiculous how easily a father’s rights can be arbitrarily ripped away if a woman chooses to be malicious. Just an accusation is enough to get your child taken away and cause you to lose your job, they don’t even have to prove anything.
It’s not right. Women should be respected, but they should not be put on a pedestal and given special treatment while feminists have the gall to demand equality men aren’t being shown.
That first one really pisses you off..
Took me 2 years in court to get custody. My children suffered every single day. Guardian ad litem had just gave up on the case unbeknown to me. It took me being accidentally invited inside the home by the kids while I was picking them up, I was able to secretly take pics. Next court hearing the judge came out of his chair and demanded the guardian lady be brought up immediately. There was a closed door meeting and I was awarded full custody that day. The court will actively work against the man every step of the way. Your cellphone is the most powerful weapon you have as a man in today's world. Protect yourself and gather your own evidence gentlemen.
I was with a woman who was going through court drama. She actively withheld her daughter from the father. He wasnt the best guy, he was mostly absent because he had a job in northern california, but he didnt deserve to never see his child. My ex fought for supervised visitations and then outright declined to even let him see his daughter. I went to every court hearing and towards the end after about 5 years of going to court and.hiring new attorneys, judge allard wanted to rip my gfs head off for how she was acting. He scolded her for 15 minutes about how its going to affect the child for the rest of her life. After all that, he STILL sided with my girlfriend and gave her full physical and legal custody and that was it. I had a front row seat to the EVIL that family court is. The woman will always win. I still love my ex to this day but what she did to that childs father was BS and the court had no choice but to side with the woman.
Well the courts here in South Carolina are no different. I was a truck driver, when I discovered that my then wife was not only cheating on me but was also engaged in heavy serious drug use, and around put daughter no less. We separated and she would never let me speak with her. Then the court day came for child custody. Since she also accused me of drug abuse, we both had to submit to a drug screening. Mine was obviously clear as I was still a truck-driver. She however failed! Tested positive for meth, opioids, cocaine, and MDMA! Yet the court system STILL GRANTED HER SOLE CUSTODY WITH ME HAVING SUPERVISED VISITATION ONLY!
You see this is just another example of how the court system is engaging in back room deals w/politicians! My ex father in-law was a state representative for several years, and knew the judge personally. Shortly after that my ex took off with our daughter and I never saw her again. I later found out that someone signed my signature on child rights papers and then adoption papers as well. I know who did it, hit no lawyer in this entire county would take the case because of my ex in-laws!
She has been brainwashed by those evil people against me. I've found her FB profile and tried several times to contact her through messenger to no avail. Each time blocked, and she created a new profile. She is now of legal age yet because of their mind manipulation she refuses to even allow me to explain my side of things. This is very disheartening. I know the face of evil it's on the head of women like these! My only solace is that one day they all will give an account to GOD for their actions!
I only want to let her know that I never stopped loving her, and never stopped looking for her!...
Daddy loves you my little "BOOGIE-MONSTER"...
I gave her that nickname because she would run all over the place, and when she heard the song "SEPTEMBER" she would dance...
Men use caution when dealing with the courts, keep every single text, record the conversations between you and the woman, find a lawyer who isn't afraid of politicians!