Zainab, as an immigrant from East Africa, I was not prepared for the dynamics in America. Coming in, I thought there was going to be a sense of common identity when I moved here for college. However, the minute I landed, I discovered black tribes: African Americans on one side, African immigrants on one side, those with Caribbean heritage on another side, and a fourth almost forgotten group of those with African heritage from other parts of the world like Latin America, Europe. I am fascinated by people so I made it a mission to understand each grouping. What I found was so much to love, so much to learn, so much depth, some questionable opinions, so many excellent individuals with fascinating, varied experiences. There are so many levels of black and navigating through each of them is a worthy experience. People are people and are best approached and appreciated as individuals. Meet people, listen to them, you will find common ground even if the only common ground is the venue of your encounter.
46:43 I'm glad you circled this back to the blk v nggs rhetoric. We have to remember that all of us are allowed our preferences. Everyones' conditions aren't meant for every body's pleasure. What validates an experience is not ever gonna be online/public forum. So glad you said it!
I’m with you. I had a friend who would do this and at the beginning I wouldn’t point out the obvious and would seethe silently. I even tried to match her ordering just to justify splitting the bill. I was no match to her. So eventually I mustered the courage to make sure the server put my order on a separate bill.
Group dinner bill splits are one of the worst social gathering event's ever created. It creates so much underlying confusion and sneaky observations 😂... mentally be like he just gone order 5 drinks huh and all i got is this water. Either im paying for the event flat out or im not going. 1 on 1 dinners is one thing but those 10 and 15 dinner party bill splits are social gymnastics
As far as the splitting of the check, I tyoically don't go out with people that we have to split the check. Usually one of us will pay, and the next time someone else will get the check. If I am going out with someone outside of that, I will let the waitress know when ordering that the check will be separate. If the other person opposes and wants to pay, then we can have that conversation. But that's what I do.
@@zainabjohnson Exactly! I don't often have to go out with people not in that close circle, so I guess it's really not posed to me as often as it would of people who have frequent extended circles or that network often. So I get it!
Great episode with sticky topics that you hit a lot of points on the head. Starting at Upload and finding myself lol from your stand up and now this. Much love from FL and continued success 🎉
I love your podcasts and I see the numbers going up! You deserve so many more subscribers and the reasonable thing to do is subscribe to your podcast ASAP!!
So glad that one of your shorts came across my feed. I’m a new subscriber!! You are sooo beautiful and are absolutely hilarious! I’ll definitely be buying tickets when you come to D.C.
With me and my guy homies, if it's 1v1 we might alternate on who pays. If it's a group we'll likely pay for our own, or somebody might pay the bill for the waiter's sake, but we not leaving until all money is venmo'd to the payer. If it's one of my woman homies, I've learned to play it by ear. Most of them don't like guys paying for them. But I still be on the ready just in case
It’s reasonable to expect your girlfriends to pay for their food and drinks. No dividing the check equally, unless you’re all eating foods that cost approximately the same amount. 🤷🏽♀️
I’m single and traumatized… I can’t pay for nothing lol very unreasonable that they assume. This is not a date I don’t know why you would think that a friend will pay something just because. But that’s that good old saying about assumption
Thankyou for hitting the topic Zainab. I think it is indeed an embarassment, rather than being scared. Because we have been stereotyped as alot of things. And I think what she was "scared" of , is ratchet people.
I randomly came across this video and I was so pleasantly surprised!!! It’s funny because I’ve recently been thinking about you! We played basketball together in high school and you look exactly the same!!! That’s same beautiful smile!!! You look amazing, love your content, immediately subscribed! Blessings and sending you lots of positive energy ❤❤❤❤ cheering for you Zee!!!
If we are treating each other it's either 1. A surprise or 2. A discussion before hand. Other than that we KNOW we got ourselves. I would like for Hollywood to just have a variety of stories so more people can have more opportunities. But I agree with what you're saying. There are tons of gay men play straight roles. I would need so much more context when it comes to the I'm afraid of "Hood" and/or "Ghetto" black people. I feel like she might have a very specific type of person she's thinking about. The only time I would call someone anti black is if the were actually anti black. Like someone who seriously hates black people is anti black.
I feel it's very unreasonable to share the bill! There has 2-3 times that people in the group didn't pay their portion of the, nor the tip and I was T'd off! I'm like you, I don't order as much food or alcohol where others order more/higher ticket meals and drinks but want to split the bill! So upon ordering I let the wait staff kno my bill is separate from the group, due to people not paying their proper portion.
As far as queer/trans roles, much like whyte ppl speaking on Black ppl issues, straight ppl simply don't possess the context or frame of reference for accurately understanding queer/lgbtq issues. That said, I believe there's a difference between roles open for diverse interpretation vs casting a role without consideration of the diversity it requires.
what do you think about this tho: if the writer identifies as queer or trans... you think the actor would miss the mark? I feel like alot of that is embedded in the character. if certain elements are not already infused in the character, a person who does not identify with them would miss the mark. or they may if they are disconnected from that community
I think its reasonable to not want to put your card down and have people zelle you… That being said, i usually put my card down if split amongst 7-8 people its $20/ person. Simply because I may want to do business with them down the line. this is an easy and quick way to see their character and how they deal with money … (are they shorting me, do they send it right away, do i have to hunt them down, etc) I mostly eat with friends that work in the business field… we eat family style meals (korean bbq, etc) and we split it evenly. Other friends we treat eachother, i got this one, you got the next one
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Zainab, as an immigrant from East Africa, I was not prepared for the dynamics in America. Coming in, I thought there was going to be a sense of common identity when I moved here for college. However, the minute I landed, I discovered black tribes: African Americans on one side, African immigrants on one side, those with Caribbean heritage on another side, and a fourth almost forgotten group of those with African heritage from other parts of the world like Latin America, Europe. I am fascinated by people so I made it a mission to understand each grouping. What I found was so much to love, so much to learn, so much depth, some questionable opinions, so many excellent individuals with fascinating, varied experiences. There are so many levels of black and navigating through each of them is a worthy experience. People are people and are best approached and appreciated as individuals. Meet people, listen to them, you will find common ground even if the only common ground is the venue of your encounter.
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So stoked you are coming to New Zealand! Hope you enjoy AU and NZ.
46:43 I'm glad you circled this back to the blk v nggs rhetoric. We have to remember that all of us are allowed our preferences. Everyones' conditions aren't meant for every body's pleasure. What validates an experience is not ever gonna be online/public forum. So glad you said it!
I’m with you. I had a friend who would do this and at the beginning I wouldn’t point out the obvious and would seethe silently. I even tried to match her ordering just to justify splitting the bill. I was no match to her. So eventually I mustered the courage to make sure the server put my order on a separate bill.
ive tried that too like im gonna order a bunch then she ordered more LOL
@zainabjohnson You were outmatched and so was I. 😂
I'm queer and totally agreed with everything you said about representation! Power to you ❤
I really enjoy this podcast! Thanks!!
Glad you enjoy it! thanks for listening!
I’ll be at one of your Cleveland shows for sure! I’ve been a fan forever and first time seeing you live ..cannot wait 😄😄✨
ramadan mubarak!! ✌️
Ramadan Kareem!
Group dinner bill splits are one of the worst social gathering event's ever created. It creates so much underlying confusion and sneaky observations 😂... mentally be like he just gone order 5 drinks huh and all i got is this water. Either im paying for the event flat out or im not going. 1 on 1 dinners is one thing but those 10 and 15 dinner party bill splits are social gymnastics
Pure STRESS!
As far as the splitting of the check, I tyoically don't go out with people that we have to split the check. Usually one of us will pay, and the next time someone else will get the check. If I am going out with someone outside of that, I will let the waitress know when ordering that the check will be separate. If the other person opposes and wants to pay, then we can have that conversation. But that's what I do.
oh yea I do that as well with close friends I got it this time and you got it the next but thats very few people in my life
@@zainabjohnson Exactly! I don't often have to go out with people not in that close circle, so I guess it's really not posed to me as often as it would of people who have frequent extended circles or that network often. So I get it!
So you don’t have broke friends is what you saying 😭
It’s already problematic when you are hanging out with people that you have to think about how much is fair for you to spend.
It does not matter that the person shares the same class as you, you can still discriminate against them
You are reasonable. I tell the wait staff ahead of time - my billing arrangements.
Great episode with sticky topics that you hit a lot of points on the head. Starting at Upload and finding myself lol from your stand up and now this. Much love from FL and continued success 🎉
Thanks! I’m glad you liked it!
I love your podcasts and I see the numbers going up! You deserve so many more subscribers and the reasonable thing to do is subscribe to your podcast ASAP!!
YES!!!
Ramadan Mubarak sis May Almighty ALLAH continue to bless you to benefit in this month of Ramadan and beyond INSHA ALLAH
You gotta get with some app makers to make the Black convo alert app. It would mad helpful.
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Reasonable
So glad that one of your shorts came across my feed. I’m a new subscriber!! You are sooo beautiful and are absolutely hilarious! I’ll definitely be buying tickets when you come to D.C.
With me and my guy homies, if it's 1v1 we might alternate on who pays. If it's a group we'll likely pay for our own, or somebody might pay the bill for the waiter's sake, but we not leaving until all money is venmo'd to the payer.
If it's one of my woman homies, I've learned to play it by ear. Most of them don't like guys paying for them. But I still be on the ready just in case
im crying you were describing matt bomer he’s the gay dude😂
I dont be knowing names lol
Yay you’re coming to Portland!! 🎉
It’s reasonable to expect your girlfriends to pay for their food and drinks. No dividing the check equally, unless you’re all eating foods that cost approximately the same amount. 🤷🏽♀️
Very engaging. Really enjoyed thinking over your thoughts. You just gained a new sub..
I’m single and traumatized… I can’t pay for nothing lol very unreasonable that they assume. This is not a date I don’t know why you would think that a friend will pay something just because. But that’s that good old saying about assumption
Thankyou for hitting the topic Zainab. I think it is indeed an embarassment, rather than being scared. Because we have been stereotyped as alot of things. And I think what she was "scared" of , is ratchet people.
I randomly came across this video and I was so pleasantly surprised!!! It’s funny because I’ve recently been thinking about you! We played basketball together in high school and you look exactly the same!!! That’s same beautiful smile!!! You look amazing, love your content, immediately subscribed! Blessings and sending you lots of positive energy ❤❤❤❤ cheering for you Zee!!!
YES FIRST SET!! BABY Z!! Yo.. “last time I was in Cleveland, Lebron was in Cleveland…” .. it was late lmao
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How dare they? Halle Berry out here paying real life child support. How dare they denied her the ability to play a man. Or woman.
If we are treating each other it's either 1. A surprise or 2. A discussion before hand. Other than that we KNOW we got ourselves.
I would like for Hollywood to just have a variety of stories so more people can have more opportunities. But I agree with what you're saying. There are tons of gay men play straight roles.
I would need so much more context when it comes to the I'm afraid of "Hood" and/or "Ghetto" black people. I feel like she might have a very specific type of person she's thinking about.
The only time I would call someone anti black is if the were actually anti black. Like someone who seriously hates black people is anti black.
Having black conversations in white spaces. I get it.
A black person can be 100% afraid. Of another black person. It happens all the time.
Good lesson
Why is the waitress putting the bill together?
I've always paid for what I consumed, even in large groups.
With the way climate change be going, our great, great grandkids be will be calling Chicago, Lake Michigan ‘Miami’…
I feel it's very unreasonable to share the bill! There has 2-3 times that people in the group didn't pay their portion of the, nor the tip and I was T'd off! I'm like you, I don't order as much food or alcohol where others order more/higher ticket meals and drinks but want to split the bill!
So upon ordering I let the wait staff kno my bill is separate from the group, due to people not paying their proper portion.
24:00 Jonathan Bailey plays Anthony Bridgerton, and he is gay. I couldn’t see another person in that role 🤷🏾♀️.
I love her
I don't like this, especially when it wasn't agreed upon from the beginning.
❤❤❤ this podcast
As far as queer/trans roles, much like whyte ppl speaking on Black ppl issues, straight ppl simply don't possess the context or frame of reference for accurately understanding queer/lgbtq issues. That said, I believe there's a difference between roles open for diverse interpretation vs casting a role without consideration of the diversity it requires.
what do you think about this tho: if the writer identifies as queer or trans... you think the actor would miss the mark? I feel like alot of that is embedded in the character. if certain elements are not already infused in the character, a person who does not identify with them would miss the mark. or they may if they are disconnected from that community
I think its reasonable to not want to put your card down and have people zelle you…
That being said, i usually put my card down if split amongst 7-8 people its $20/ person.
Simply because I may want to do business with them down the line.
this is an easy and quick way to see their character and how they deal with money … (are they shorting me, do they send it right away, do i have to hunt them down, etc)
I mostly eat with friends that work in the business field… we eat family style meals (korean bbq, etc) and we split it evenly.
Other friends we treat eachother, i got this one, you got the next one
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