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I really need help what should i do because everytime i want to or try to move on from the girl in a relationship but everytime i bring it up she find ways to keep me in the loop by threatening herself sqying without me she has no reason or purpose to live, shes even cut herself too when we fought it was severe and i told her ab how i felt.
As someone who’s been the “therapist” friend, I dated a guy with suicidal tendencies who was very showy about it, would post blurry pictures of self harm and delete them later. I was only 16 and I already had this tendency to make myself responsible for peoples emotions and issues, so for the short period that I dated him, I couldn’t think about anything else, some nights I would cry and every time I was going to meet him I would get a lot of anxiety. He had talked about how his friends had all left him the year before and that that was his worst moment, so I felt extremely trapped and unable to leave him, scared that would drive him to do something radical. I was able to get out of it when I found out he had been dating another girl at the same time, I wasn’t even upset, I just took it as my ticket to leave.
I was in the same situation at that age, but instead he left me because he realized what he was doing and how he made me feel wasn’t right, it sucked, but Im happier now and In a better relationship 🥰
It's comforting knowing im not the only one who ended up in this kind of relationship, although it happened/ended in the past year it's more fresh in my mind... I questioned why I was always drained and felt the need to self-medicate. Sucks he saw nothing wrong with how he manipulated me by self harming then going to tell me. His mom blamed me for his behavior, for him ending up in the ER after attempting to overdose and she told my mom who went off on me. He called me later that night from the crisis center, who knows why. I stopped all communication with him cause his mom wanted to report me to the police when she only knew some of his side, none of mine. He even came up to me on my birthday out in public to greet me, now he harrasses my friend since they live near each other, he calls them slurs and tells friends in cars to chase them...
@@coreyquidangen818 That’s so fucked up, the fact that he dragged other people in it too to gang up on you and your friends. I’m glad you’ve cut ties with him, the fact that he’s chasing after people who are associated with you shows how pathetic he is. I hope you move past it.
Could you talk about the "personality" of addiction? When Rue is sober she is caring and responsible. When she relapses and start using drugs again she is the complete opposite and it goes really dark. I lived with an addict for a long time and it can be extremely hard to navigate the different behaviour patterns of someone you love, who now feels like an enemy. It is very difficult to not personalise the way they treat you, which can even seem like narcisistic abuse. Thank you for your channels, they give great insight in an interesting way. God bless you 🥰
I would also love to hear him talk more about this “personality” with the show I find myself relating so much with Gia. It can be so hard to live and love someone who suffers with addiction that there are so many mixed feelings attached to this person. I would especially love to see a reaction to the big fight where rue is in withdrawal. It’s was just so raw and relatable to see
@@marinadonadussi6995 100%. My brother became an addict when he was 12 and I was 11. We're 40 & 41 now. It took me nearly 30 years to figure out one VERY important thing, I have to put my mental & physical wellbeing before him. For me, the hardest thing about the show & Rue is that there's still hope for Rue because she's so young. I remember having that hope for my brother. I also remember the moment that hope left my body, it was like something physical happened inside of my body & mind. I remember the heartache from that moment. I remember the relief from that moment. I remember acceptance from that moment. I remember the understanding from that moment. But it took me a LONG time to get there. Again, I was 11 when this all started. I'm 40 now & it took me till I was 39. I was glad when Ali finally brought up Gia.
i am an addict in recovery. i can tell you that on top of other people not recognizing who i am when i use, i also don’t recognize myself. when i’m clean, i care deeply and intensely. when i was using, i stop caring about everything other than getting high. because getting high takes me out of my own head. it takes away the feeling “too deeply” and intensity of my emotions that often cause anxiety and distress. i stop thinking and feeling normal emotions. i only feel “better.” to put in in perspective, the first time i used meth, i remember thinking these exact words: “this is what i’ve been missing my entire life.” i was convinced that the way i felt- careless, free, unbothered- was something i could never achieve clean. and that, in turn, makes you selfish. because you chase the high, because you chase that feeling, and everything else ceases to matter. you’re driven only by your own self interest. when i was high, i didn’t care about anyone. i associated people with pain, relationships with pain- all these normal human experiences were often too much for me to handle. i would’ve preferred remaining in a state of bliss where everything in life was trivial. i’ve been clean for 5 years and never want to go back to the person i was. however, living life on life’s terms can be immensely difficult. having no “mental escape” has been a learning curve. most addicts go into addiction with mental illness and trauma. it’s never an excuse, but it makes you search for something to take the pain away. that high, i believed, took my pain away. but i’ve been clean long enough to realize that it never took it away- it only delayed it. and i have to deal with it all now. when you’re high, you’re selfish, you’re a liar, you’re all dark and very little light. unless you’ve experienced what it’s like to be addicted, it’s a hard thing to describe. just know that anyone who stands in the way of your use, of your “release” is viewed as an enemy. essentially, the sober people in my left “kept” me from feeling better. so i didn’t want anything to do with them. i’m sorry you’ve experienced this.
Jules is the character I feel the entire fandom of Euphoria has just dogpiled on (not without reason, I know). Her episode showed that she clearly had her own demons battling, from being abandoned and abused by her alcoholic mother, dealing with disordered eating and gender dysphoria, all the way to her extremely low sense of self worth that causes her to constantly seek out validation from straight men. Enter Rue - someone that puts the weight of their entire mental health onto Jules. I don't blame Rue from this because she's sick, but this was such a cruel and selfish type of burden to put on Jules and Jules herself was probably so conflicted the entire time because you can clearly tell she cares about Rue, but somewhere along the way, I think she starts using Rue for validation too. The entire "relationship" was so toxic on both ends from the very start.
To be fair, Rue telling Jules to meet Tyler in public is an advice every girl gives her friend when talking about a guy they met on the internet. It`s sort of an unspoken rule amongst most women I know, always meet in public, tell a friend where you are and just try and stay safe as good as you can. It`s not always about the feelings you have for the other person. Even though it is a big part in this situation
I know it wasn’t your main point, but it’s just so tiring having to make all those plans, involve friends, be scared/nervous etc. all because so many guys can’t freaking behave 😓
Yes but when someone obviously has feelings but itsn't being up front about it, then you're not going to take what they're saying seriously and just assume it's only because they want to be with you.
Tbb, I think Rue was right but she could have approached it better. Instead of seeing the bad, could have acted happy then pushed the suggestion. But she was in love with her.
My ex used to tell me he needed his ”daily dose” of me. At first I thought it was cute, but after a while I started to feel trapped. After it ended I realized that the only thing I got out of that relationship was his romantic and sexual attention, he didn’t offer me much support in return for what I gave him. Therefore it felt like such an insult when he suggested that we stay friends, because I knew how lopsided that ”friendship” would be.
Omg I’ve been there! I now describe that ex as an emotional leech, because he just sucked the emotional labour out of me without any reciprocation. We finally broke up when we had a fight and he said I was “pushing my problems on him” after MONTHS of him leaning on me for everything after he broke his foot. For three months I was his nurse, maid, driver, shopper, therapist, and I was miserable. Literally every need if his was on me, and then for him to say I was “pushing my problems on him” was so ironic I actually laughed out loud. I laughed out loud again when he asked me to stay friends afterwards. I can still see his text now saying “I still care about you and I want to be there for you” HAHAHA You mean you want me to be there for YOU, don’t you… 🙄
@@ginao6810 Omg, emotional leech is spot on! Every tiny little thing was a ”huge problem” and it was implied it was my job to fix it because he just ”didn’t know what to do” or ”just couldn’t”. I’m in a much better relationship now so I’m glad it ended even though it hurt at the time. Good on you for standing up for yourself! We are not supposed to be our partners babysitter, no matter how ”damaged” they are.
I felt this. My ex would say that he needed time w me bc it would make him feel better most of the time but he didn’t really reciprocate that feeling. 😞
This reminded me of when I was a preteen, I basically fell in love with the boy who sat next to me in all of my classes. We also happened to be incredibly fast and easy friends. I explicitly confessed my feelings in 8th grade (two years after we met), and he said something like the following: "I already knew you felt that way but I didn't want to make it weird, and it's not going to be weird. You're one of my favorite people, and one of my dearest friends, and I would never want you to be anything other than you are, because you're great. I just can't be your boyfriend." And this was a double-edged sword for me, because it meant our friendship as it was wouldn't change, and that he liked me as I was, and that he really cared about me, but he also made it really difficult to move on because what he said was just so, so sweet 🤣 He set a bar for rejection that no man has ever met since, lol. I eventually did move on though, and in spite of a series of major life changes, we are still friends almost 20 years later ❤
@@graceprda7540 lol I would if I could 😂it was WILD. I kind of suspect that his sister coached him on what to say or something, but the fact that he was even capable of expressing such a sentiment was the sweetest thing ever.
Rue and Jules were a mess together. I really feel for both of them. Jules sent a lot of mixed messages and Rue put her sobriety in Jules hands. Even though I didn’t think they worked romantically (especially in season 2!) When they connected as friends it was beautiful. I loved the scene when Rue was telling Jules not to go out at night because it showed how much she cared for Jules. We saw her display common sense which typically wasn’t her go to in this series. I’m curious how their relationship will play out in season 3…
As a 37 year old with bipolar, I've learned a lot of hard lessons in not leaning too hard on people and feeling like a burden to those I love. That's what my counselor and psychiatrist are there for. But it is always a good feeling to know I have a lot of people in my corner and I just can't hold them responsible for my happiness. It just isn't fair.
You should watch Stanger things scene when Max was running for her life, she was ready to die and for a split second she decided not to because she realized she had more to live for, which is a good discussion about mental health and willingness to live.
Definitely should check out both Cassie’s Morning Retinue, and the scene she when she’s on the phone with Nate, and last the scene she tries to convince her mom that she did nothing wrong when seeing Nate behind Maddys back but rue spills the beans
I totally relate to what he's saying about feeling trapped. Both me & my ex struggled with mental health in different ways. When we'd have problems & I needed to take space or time to myself or especially when I'd think we should break up, she'd say things suggesting that she might hurt herself or things didn't matter cuz no one would love her the same & I'd always come back. Luckily, we were able to grow together & mature, so that when we'd reached the point where we finally broke up it was mutual & we both understood our codependency & the fact we needed to be there for ourselves. She's still one of my dearest friends
I'd like to see your thoughts on nate finding his dad's videos and how that effects his relationships with Cassie and Maddie. And Nate's relationship with Jules, as Tyler. Including his admission to his feelings being real in season two.
Apparently I needed to watch this this morning. I recently had to leave my long-term boyfriend because he won’t get the professional help he needs. Thanks for everything you do!
When I was a teen I had a friend and I was the only reason she didn't off herself. I was not doing too well myself, having issues at home. I had no breathing room and it got to the point where I became suicidal myself. She was the reason I didn't ever attempt to. As an adult I was in a relationship and we lived together. Both of us had mental health issues. We spiraled down because we would try to lift the other up. At some point I got so bad I paused uni. A few months after he brought me to my parents and we broke it off. Few months no contact and we started again as friends.
I love the two Euphoria specials and think they would be great for therapists to react to. The first special is a conversation with Rue and her Sponsor and the second is Jules with a therapist. Theyre very contained episodes and require very little if any context to watch them.
The whole approaching feelings and relationships discussion in the beginning is what I do as a current teen. When I first realized that like this is natural and I should just hope others see it that way my relationship status became much simpler. I was open about how I felt especially since I tend to fall for those Im close to. It led me to be more accepting of my emotions and talking about it with them and knowing they did not feel the same helped me get over my feelings for them faster than I ever did when I avoided emotional confrontation.
It's a dangerous situation when someone is holding you emotionally hostage to their circumstances or feelings. It's basically emotional terrorism and can be very traumatic and damaging. You're never responsible for someone's feelings or their lives, you cant fix them. Can you make an avocado ripen when you want? No so how are you going to change an entire person. Jules and Rue are two friends that need to go their own ways because they hold each other in this state. Jules and Cat was a way healthier friendship from season 1
the thing with rue being sceptic about jules meeting tyler in a dark place at night with nobody around is that trans women getting murdered by their dates is a thing that happens everyday. it happens ofc to cis women all the time too, but with jules you have to consider that she is subject to getting clocked and hated crimed due to transphobia. so i really didnt see that as rue being upset because she likes jules and doesn't want her to go out with someone else, but genuine worry about her friend being at risk of getting hurt and choosing nonetheless the less safe option when it comes to meeting someone you don't know for the first time. if she were my friend id be pissed about her safety too
I highly recommend you watching the 2 special episodes! They don't really require you watching the entire show to understand them although context definitely helps!
Both my boyfriend and I struggle with our mental health. We both sometimes get scared that we are going to be too much and that it isn't worth the other persons time to stay, but by working on yourself and reaching out to professionals, the baggage you may think is too heavy gets lighter. My boyfriend and I are eachothers best friend, and we always support eachother, but we also encourage self healing. We have a very strong relationship because of this
when i want to tell someone i feel better in my mental illness when im with them i try to word it something like "having people around me who love me and care about me makes me feel way better, and ik youre one of them, so thank you for being here i appreciate it" i feel like its way less pressure
I can't express how much I'm grateful for all you've said. This is 100% the validation all the people in that situation would need. Thank you so so much.
I love watching and listening to your reactions to Euphoria . It's eye opening and I feel like I learn so much in trying to understand people's " real life " actions & reactions to other people, issues, and stressors. Thank you and keep up the good deciphering. 💕🧠🙏
Having an actual adult conversation about feelings is something that pretty much comes with... well, adulthood. I think I was like 27 the first time I had a straight conversation with someone I had feelings for that went like "hey, I like you, how do you feel? ...Not like that? Alright, cool," and we resumed our friendship.
I really needed this video. One of my bffs who was also my previous roommate definitely relies on me for her mental health. She stopped going to a therapist two years ago and treats me like a second parter. I felt trapped in this situation because I lived with her and her boyfriend for a year and a half during Covid, so I literally couldn’t go anywhere or see other people a lot. She has multiple mental health disorders and her bf works a lot so I was always the one to pick up the pieces. Unfortunately it means she’s been a bad friend (and roommate) to me on more than one occasion. I temporarily moved out of state, but when I get back I know I have to set stronger boundaries especially living on my own and having a busy life. She doesn’t know this side of me yet because we met months before Covid. She always joked how we were a thruple and codependent on each other, which rubbed me the wrong way but after living alone in a studio for part of Covid I was just happy to be around people. I have always been a very independent person so it’s been difficult to navigate.
as someone who feels depressed most of the time (i never went to a therapist though), i really need to see the people around me as a support then as the reason why i am living. my first relationship broke down bc i saw him as a soulmate that just had to be with me 24/7. well that relationship didnt work out and it became some toxic friends+ sh't. now i am with my second bf, but i feel like every time when i open up, i expect too much from him. hmmm well, to learn how to handle my depressing periods, i tried to not contact him, rather i am doing stuff that i like to feel better. (ah idk why i opened up but here i am, missing him so much and in a depressing period, but decided to listen to this video bc i really like these topics and yeah ^^ i hope that, who ever is reading this and struggling too, to at least try to own your depressing periods
I told my best friend that I had feelings for her a few years back, she didn't feel the same way but I understood and that brought us closer together and now we're like sisters! :)
I’ve been the person who depended on him, and you were right, he started resenting me and suddenly he became really toxic. Things ended between us and honestly I barely cry as much as I did when I was with him. I’m glad I left the relationship
I told this guy that I liked him in the non-platonic way, we moved past that, and now I love him. We're still great friends though, I've made peace with the whole thing.
Would love to see you react to more of Rue, specifically her relationship with her mom & sister (seasons 1 & 2). I feel like some important context was missing in this reaction because these clips didn’t make it clear that Rue is an addict and her relationships with the people around her strongly depend on her sobriety.
Omg yes pleaaeeeeese react to the show episode by episode!! So good and yes it gets dark but there is a light at the end of the tunnel and I would love to see more doctors watch the full show and really make a judgment on how accurate it is. As a person with adhd, generalized anxiety and hyperthyroidism, the racing thoughts are something I resonate with rue.
What I think is really sad though is that most people who battle mental illness and end up coping by relying on only one person donlt actually have anybody else to rely on and lean to. And most importantly, don't have the financial ressources to seek counceling not the necessary support from family members to dare seek counceling I wish it was easier for everybody to seek help
I just found you, never saw any video of you. And you saying things about euphoria helped me more than any of my therapy sessions. That’s sad but also really cool that you do those videos to share you wisdom.
I also had a friend who just took care of his mental health, pressuring me with making decisions, it was hell this made me realize i dont wanna deal with people like that, when you try to help somebody they take adventage of it, blaming you to be the bad guy when u dont do the things that they wan't.
It’s not about Rue having feelings for Jules, it’s about it’s not safe to go off on your own to a random orchard in the middle of the night, and meet a strange man from the internet. Rue is right that it’s a completely crazy thing to do.
I have absolutely been the person with mental illness relying on friends. Sometimes it's been healthy and great, other times it's been very unhealthy and hard. I've learned a few different lessons from my experiences: - it really does take a village. The ideal situation for me and my loved ones is to have a large network of support, including professionals like a therapist and psychiatrist and general medical doctor all working together with my loved ones. - If someone sets a boundary with you, that doesn't mean they don't love you or don't care. It can be painful to reach out to someone in a moment of need and be turned down, but everyone has their own unique situation to contend with. Sometimes they just can't help. This is another reason to have a large network. - Be really careful that your relationships are built upon something other than support during hard times. That's burned me more than once. I feel intensely bonded to someone who helps me through something really hard. When there wasn't much else tying me to that relationship, I found myself hanging onto trauma instead of healing so that I could retain the bond. I felt like, if there was nothing to be healed, what do we do then? It ended up hurting that person because they felt like they were constantly being drained of their emotional resources.
The scene in euphoria where we get to see how lexi and cassie grew up and compare them on how the grew up cause that to me is really a great part of the show... how cassie is the most sexualised character on the show and lexi the most conservative however they had the same experiences but it led them to too completly diffrent paths
I've learned that there are 3 big things that make or break any relationship, platonic or romantic: communication, honesty, and trust. If you can't communicate about feelings and important topics like "where does our friendship stand" etc, then how can you have a relationship? If you're having problems for some reason and you dont say something, how can anyone know? COMMUNICATE!! because without communication, how can you be honest? How can you offer trust? If you're not being honest with your communication, how can you establish trust? If you don't trust someone to receive your communication, how can you be honest with them?
My boy best friend has depression. When I was dating him I saw his depression, and how much a load he carries. He told me ‘you keep me alive’ (not in a sweet way, in a if you weren’t here I would have offend myself) he has thought about offing himself. Me too. That’s the thing we had in common. But we both don’t like pain and are still here. So when I started loosing feelings toward him I felt so bad that he would hurt himself if I left. I left, he knew I was becoming distant. It was so sad because it only lasted a month… we loved for so long but. Did I͟?̲ am I at fault?
Jules was the reason Rue got clean and why she relapsed, their relationship wasn't healthy, not because they were toxic, but because they had an emotional dependence on each other, which is far from being healthy.
When me and my now fiance met we were really young. I was a freshman in high school he was one grade above me. He had been through a lot in his life and in the beginning I didn't know or really understand mental health and what he needed both from me and not from me. We grew up and I learned from experience with others and my own struggles that started and by the time we got engaged we had boundaries and plans and support systems for him in his absolute worst moments. Then I went to college, my body started to fall apart in ways I didn't understand and I got sick. Turns out I had an autoimmune disease and college didn't work because I was dealing with more physical and mental trama my body was doing to itself and I had no support when I was hours away, I came home and we started over building a support system for me and my new needs and now we've learned and grown up together and after many years we're finally getting married soon and no one can tell me we haven't been through enough together because we've been through the wringer and are still here ready for anything the world throws our way.
I've been extremely lucky to have a long-term partner who has clear boundaries and a policy for honest communication. They were aware that I had schizophrenia before we started dating (friends for 9 awesome years) and that their support and love is NOT my medicine. As often as possible, I let them know that my relapses are not their fault nor their responsibility. We don't need one another to survive, we just love surviving together.
I am in a relationship like this but platonically. He sometimes makes me feel like I am responsible for his happiness and I told him he should go seek professional help because I cannot handle that pressure and I am not in the power of helping him the way that he should be helped but he won‘t listen and keeps on saying that as long as I am there for him and as long as he can talk about it all with me, he is “fine“. That is a lot of pressure especially because I just want him to be okay and I cannot do that for him but he thinks I can and denies the matter of fact that he needs professional help. It is exhausting.
I started a relationship two months before lockdown, with a guy who had had issues I was aware of. What I did not know was he had hallucinations when he was emotionally involved with someone (he hardly knew himself cause he was very lonely) . When it happened, he switched from cheesy teenage-like boyfriend to a person who resented me for even being there, and yet he was stuck with me. It was hard, he was absent, made my life miserable, most of times couldn't help it. I am a writer, wrote a novel inspired by all that (I asked for permission first). The novel won a prize and was published in my own country. It inspired him and he's now writing his own story. We broke up, but we're family still. Fun fact: you actually taught me hallucinations are mostly auditory, which I did not grasp when it happened to him. So be aware that a novel in Italy is kinda mentioning you!
I'd say that if someone is too scared of seeking professional help and occasionally relies on their partner, it'll help to find a hobby. For example, I've tried out painting recently and it brings me joy and happiness since I'm artistic. It helps me to block out the world and problems I can't deal with yet when I focus on my hobbies. I'm a teenager who knows that I need help but I'm too scared of getting judged too quickly and stuff like that. I'm well aware of my issues, I don't know what to do with that information though. Having a hobby to fall back on is probably better than relying too much on one person. But eventually the person will need to seek professional help.
Please react to crazy ex-girlfriend, it's a show about mental illness and the point of view of that person. It's a comedy and musical, Rachel bloom is the protagonist, co-creator, writer, and songwriter of this show. She's amazing and the show is amazing! ❤
I cant remember if its been covered already, but the gun scene between nate & maddy and the general nate / maddy / cassie storyline of s2 would be good to react to as well!
In the hospital bed, I don't think Rue was saying "I kinda like this moment Jules." What I heard was "I've been like this my whole life Jules." And it makes more sense to me.
I think it would be very interesting for you to analyze the first scene of midsommar. Everyone claims the bf and his friends were wrong because throughout the whole story we see them being the worst of the worst, but in that first scene its them talking to the bf about how he should tell the protagonist to see her therapist instead of demanding solutions from him whenever her sister has a crisis. It ends badly bc ofc it does for the sake of the story, so it's another "red flag" moment for him, and its always in the back of my mind how no matter how much they suck they DID have a point about her attitude towards her bf and mental health, i never saw a professional discussing it so i think it'd be nice to see and know what we should actually do in that situation.
11:37 everything you’re saying here reasonates with me I just realized I do this with him and we got into an argument about it the other day and I just realized I’m in the wrong cuz I’m too mentally unstable and I depend on him to make me feel better and stuff I hate myself
Thank you! Honestly I didn’t like rue and Jules together cause it seemed they were wrong for each other anyway, but yeah with rue I understand on a personal level, but I also understand Jules on a personal level too, it’s just Jules is just so hot and cold all the time with rue and rue sees Jules as an escape
3:27 - I’m really happy to say that I did that, like have a healthy rejection and be still friends. But what if you confess and the person reciprocates and tells you a few days later that there not ready and they just wanna be friends. Of course I understand and from there side that’s ok. Just how do I deal with it? I was so happy about it and got those high expectations that were meet but now I have to erase them. How do I do it? (A part of me (unhealthy part) is mad at that person for not just telling me at the beginning, but of course I know that feeling can change and sometimes you have to try to see you don’t want it)
ive been on both sides of the spectrum but probably my wildest story was during my freshman year of college. one of my high school "friends" was super obsessed with me after we graduated. i had moved 3 hours away so at first, we just texted as friends. he said he was starting to get into creative writing, which i thought was super cool and told him i had experience proofreading and beta reading for people so if he wanted to ever send me stuff to look over, let me know! little did i know what he was writing was x rated stories about me and him together. he sent me a couple and asked how i liked it. i did not see him that way but we had a lot of the same friends and i didnt want people to be mad at me, so i tried to let him down easy but apparently he took that as a "try again" instead of "please stop this is making me uncomfortable". he sent me another story and i was so freaked out, i just told him to please stop, im not interested. he started talking about how he was going to self harm and kill himself if i didnt like him back, and at that time, i had been self harming for about 5 years and tried to commit suicide 3 times, but was getting way better. it was so triggering for me and was kinda a wake up call that he was using my past to try to elicit the response he wanted. i remember throwing my phone down on the couch and all my roommates were like "... is it that creep guy again??". my one roommate's boyfriend (sweetest 6'2" marching band kid you'll ever meet) was seriously about to beat this guy up for me when i told them what he said. i blocked him on all social media bc i knew he was bluffing and i never looked back. needless to say, he's still alive and ok today. i since found out that he sexually harassed a bunch of other girls at our high school, including a lot of my friends. between that and being a white supremacist, he got dropped by all our mutual friends (most of whom are black)
I'd be interested in what can you tell to the other side. How to handle the situation when you are the one loving someone with mental illness. How can you solve that trap-situation then?
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I really need help what should i do because everytime i want to or try to move on from the girl in a relationship but everytime i bring it up she find ways to keep me in the loop by threatening herself sqying without me she has no reason or purpose to live, shes even cut herself too when we fought it was severe and i told her ab how i felt.
As someone who’s been the “therapist” friend, I dated a guy with suicidal tendencies who was very showy about it, would post blurry pictures of self harm and delete them later. I was only 16 and I already had this tendency to make myself responsible for peoples emotions and issues, so for the short period that I dated him, I couldn’t think about anything else, some nights I would cry and every time I was going to meet him I would get a lot of anxiety. He had talked about how his friends had all left him the year before and that that was his worst moment, so I felt extremely trapped and unable to leave him, scared that would drive him to do something radical. I was able to get out of it when I found out he had been dating another girl at the same time, I wasn’t even upset, I just took it as my ticket to leave.
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I've been there too, it was the worse, I had major mental problems during and after that. I still deal with it
I was in the same situation at that age, but instead he left me because he realized what he was doing and how he made me feel wasn’t right, it sucked, but Im happier now and In a better relationship 🥰
It's comforting knowing im not the only one who ended up in this kind of relationship, although it happened/ended in the past year it's more fresh in my mind... I questioned why I was always drained and felt the need to self-medicate. Sucks he saw nothing wrong with how he manipulated me by self harming then going to tell me. His mom blamed me for his behavior, for him ending up in the ER after attempting to overdose and she told my mom who went off on me. He called me later that night from the crisis center, who knows why. I stopped all communication with him cause his mom wanted to report me to the police when she only knew some of his side, none of mine. He even came up to me on my birthday out in public to greet me, now he harrasses my friend since they live near each other, he calls them slurs and tells friends in cars to chase them...
@@coreyquidangen818 That’s so fucked up, the fact that he dragged other people in it too to gang up on you and your friends. I’m glad you’ve cut ties with him, the fact that he’s chasing after people who are associated with you shows how pathetic he is. I hope you move past it.
Could you talk about the "personality" of addiction? When Rue is sober she is caring and responsible. When she relapses and start using drugs again she is the complete opposite and it goes really dark. I lived with an addict for a long time and it can be extremely hard to navigate the different behaviour patterns of someone you love, who now feels like an enemy. It is very difficult to not personalise the way they treat you, which can even seem like narcisistic abuse. Thank you for your channels, they give great insight in an interesting way. God bless you 🥰
This was very well said & fully understood. Thank You for this.
I would also love to hear him talk more about this “personality” with the show I find myself relating so much with Gia. It can be so hard to live and love someone who suffers with addiction that there are so many mixed feelings attached to this person. I would especially love to see a reaction to the big fight where rue is in withdrawal. It’s was just so raw and relatable to see
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100%.
My brother became an addict when he was 12 and I was 11.
We're 40 & 41 now.
It took me nearly 30 years to figure out one VERY important thing, I have to put my mental & physical wellbeing before him.
For me, the hardest thing about the show & Rue is that there's still hope for Rue because she's so young.
I remember having that hope for my brother.
I also remember the moment that hope left my body, it was like something physical happened inside of my body & mind.
I remember the heartache from that moment.
I remember the relief from that moment.
I remember acceptance from that moment.
I remember the understanding from that moment.
But it took me a LONG time to get there.
Again, I was 11 when this all started. I'm 40 now & it took me till I was 39.
I was glad when Ali finally brought up Gia.
I had an addicted partner too. For his sake i joined him with a line of coke once , snorted it off his dlck never stopped sincw
i am an addict in recovery. i can tell you that on top of other people not recognizing who i am when i use, i also don’t recognize myself. when i’m clean, i care deeply and intensely. when i was using, i stop caring about everything other than getting high. because getting high takes me out of my own head. it takes away the feeling “too deeply” and intensity of my emotions that often cause anxiety and distress. i stop thinking and feeling normal emotions. i only feel “better.” to put in in perspective, the first time i used meth, i remember thinking these exact words: “this is what i’ve been missing my entire life.” i was convinced that the way i felt- careless, free, unbothered- was something i could never achieve clean. and that, in turn, makes you selfish. because you chase the high, because you chase that feeling, and everything else ceases to matter. you’re driven only by your own self interest. when i was high, i didn’t care about anyone. i associated people with pain, relationships with pain- all these normal human experiences were often too much for me to handle. i would’ve preferred remaining in a state of bliss where everything in life was trivial. i’ve been clean for 5 years and never want to go back to the person i was. however, living life on life’s terms can be immensely difficult. having no “mental escape” has been a learning curve. most addicts go into addiction with mental illness and trauma. it’s never an excuse, but it makes you search for something to take the pain away. that high, i believed, took my pain away. but i’ve been clean long enough to realize that it never took it away- it only delayed it. and i have to deal with it all now. when you’re high, you’re selfish, you’re a liar, you’re all dark and very little light. unless you’ve experienced what it’s like to be addicted, it’s a hard thing to describe. just know that anyone who stands in the way of your use, of your “release” is viewed as an enemy. essentially, the sober people in my left “kept” me from feeling better. so i didn’t want anything to do with them. i’m sorry you’ve experienced this.
Jules is the character I feel the entire fandom of Euphoria has just dogpiled on (not without reason, I know). Her episode showed that she clearly had her own demons battling, from being abandoned and abused by her alcoholic mother, dealing with disordered eating and gender dysphoria, all the way to her extremely low sense of self worth that causes her to constantly seek out validation from straight men. Enter Rue - someone that puts the weight of their entire mental health onto Jules. I don't blame Rue from this because she's sick, but this was such a cruel and selfish type of burden to put on Jules and Jules herself was probably so conflicted the entire time because you can clearly tell she cares about Rue, but somewhere along the way, I think she starts using Rue for validation too. The entire "relationship" was so toxic on both ends from the very start.
To be fair, Rue telling Jules to meet Tyler in public is an advice every girl gives her friend when talking about a guy they met on the internet. It`s sort of an unspoken rule amongst most women I know, always meet in public, tell a friend where you are and just try and stay safe as good as you can. It`s not always about the feelings you have for the other person. Even though it is a big part in this situation
God it’s frustrating that it has to be that way…
I know it wasn’t your main point, but it’s just so tiring having to make all those plans, involve friends, be scared/nervous etc. all because so many guys can’t freaking behave 😓
Yes but when someone obviously has feelings but itsn't being up front about it, then you're not going to take what they're saying seriously and just assume it's only because they want to be with you.
Tbb, I think Rue was right but she could have approached it better. Instead of seeing the bad, could have acted happy then pushed the suggestion. But she was in love with her.
My ex used to tell me he needed his ”daily dose” of me. At first I thought it was cute, but after a while I started to feel trapped. After it ended I realized that the only thing I got out of that relationship was his romantic and sexual attention, he didn’t offer me much support in return for what I gave him. Therefore it felt like such an insult when he suggested that we stay friends, because I knew how lopsided that ”friendship” would be.
Omg I’ve been there!
I now describe that ex as an emotional leech, because he just sucked the emotional labour out of me without any reciprocation.
We finally broke up when we had a fight and he said I was “pushing my problems on him” after MONTHS of him leaning on me for everything after he broke his foot. For three months I was his nurse, maid, driver, shopper, therapist, and I was miserable. Literally every need if his was on me, and then for him to say I was “pushing my problems on him” was so ironic I actually laughed out loud.
I laughed out loud again when he asked me to stay friends afterwards. I can still see his text now saying “I still care about you and I want to be there for you” HAHAHA
You mean you want me to be there for YOU, don’t you… 🙄
@@ginao6810 Omg, emotional leech is spot on! Every tiny little thing was a ”huge problem” and it was implied it was my job to fix it because he just ”didn’t know what to do” or ”just couldn’t”. I’m in a much better relationship now so I’m glad it ended even though it hurt at the time.
Good on you for standing up for yourself! We are not supposed to be our partners babysitter, no matter how ”damaged” they are.
Right. Sounds like he was stuck in a very self involved place.
I hope you both progressed to healthier choices and opportunities.
i'm glad he's an ex now
I felt this. My ex would say that he needed time w me bc it would make him feel better most of the time but he didn’t really reciprocate that feeling. 😞
This reminded me of when I was a preteen, I basically fell in love with the boy who sat next to me in all of my classes. We also happened to be incredibly fast and easy friends. I explicitly confessed my feelings in 8th grade (two years after we met), and he said something like the following: "I already knew you felt that way but I didn't want to make it weird, and it's not going to be weird. You're one of my favorite people, and one of my dearest friends, and I would never want you to be anything other than you are, because you're great. I just can't be your boyfriend." And this was a double-edged sword for me, because it meant our friendship as it was wouldn't change, and that he liked me as I was, and that he really cared about me, but he also made it really difficult to move on because what he said was just so, so sweet 🤣 He set a bar for rejection that no man has ever met since, lol. I eventually did move on though, and in spite of a series of major life changes, we are still friends almost 20 years later ❤
That's so beautiful!!
What 8th grader has that emotional maturity 😭 clone him
@@graceprda7540 lol I would if I could 😂it was WILD. I kind of suspect that his sister coached him on what to say or something, but the fact that he was even capable of expressing such a sentiment was the sweetest thing ever.
i feel like I'm falling in love with a close friend. he doesn't feel the same way at all. i don't know what to do about it :(
caring for your feelings while setting clear boundaries... more people need to learn this instead of tiptoeing around it
Rue and Jules were a mess together. I really feel for both of them. Jules sent a lot of mixed messages and Rue put her sobriety in Jules hands. Even though I didn’t think they worked romantically (especially in season 2!) When they connected as friends it was beautiful. I loved the scene when Rue was telling Jules not to go out at night because it showed how much she cared for Jules. We saw her display common sense which typically wasn’t her go to in this series. I’m curious how their relationship will play out in season 3…
As a 37 year old with bipolar, I've learned a lot of hard lessons in not leaning too hard on people and feeling like a burden to those I love. That's what my counselor and psychiatrist are there for. But it is always a good feeling to know I have a lot of people in my corner and I just can't hold them responsible for my happiness. It just isn't fair.
You should watch Stanger things scene when Max was running for her life, she was ready to die and for a split second she decided not to because she realized she had more to live for, which is a good discussion about mental health and willingness to live.
Definitely should check out both Cassie’s Morning Retinue, and the scene she when she’s on the phone with Nate, and last the scene she tries to convince her mom that she did nothing wrong when seeing Nate behind Maddys back but rue spills the beans
I totally relate to what he's saying about feeling trapped. Both me & my ex struggled with mental health in different ways. When we'd have problems & I needed to take space or time to myself or especially when I'd think we should break up, she'd say things suggesting that she might hurt herself or things didn't matter cuz no one would love her the same & I'd always come back.
Luckily, we were able to grow together & mature, so that when we'd reached the point where we finally broke up it was mutual & we both understood our codependency & the fact we needed to be there for ourselves. She's still one of my dearest friends
I'd like to see your thoughts on nate finding his dad's videos and how that effects his relationships with Cassie and Maddie.
And Nate's relationship with Jules, as Tyler. Including his admission to his feelings being real in season two.
Apparently I needed to watch this this morning. I recently had to leave my long-term boyfriend because he won’t get the professional help he needs. Thanks for everything you do!
"staying means nothing unless you're free to leave"!!!!!!!!! WHAT! this guy keep casually dropping these amazing phrases of wisdom like its nothing
When I was a teen I had a friend and I was the only reason she didn't off herself. I was not doing too well myself, having issues at home. I had no breathing room and it got to the point where I became suicidal myself. She was the reason I didn't ever attempt to.
As an adult I was in a relationship and we lived together. Both of us had mental health issues. We spiraled down because we would try to lift the other up. At some point I got so bad I paused uni. A few months after he brought me to my parents and we broke it off. Few months no contact and we started again as friends.
Staying means nothing if you are not free to leave -Johnathan Decker
I love the two Euphoria specials and think they would be great for therapists to react to. The first special is a conversation with Rue and her Sponsor and the second is Jules with a therapist. Theyre very contained episodes and require very little if any context to watch them.
The whole approaching feelings and relationships discussion in the beginning is what I do as a current teen. When I first realized that like this is natural and I should just hope others see it that way my relationship status became much simpler. I was open about how I felt especially since I tend to fall for those Im close to. It led me to be more accepting of my emotions and talking about it with them and knowing they did not feel the same helped me get over my feelings for them faster than I ever did when I avoided emotional confrontation.
It's a dangerous situation when someone is holding you emotionally hostage to their circumstances or feelings. It's basically emotional terrorism and can be very traumatic and damaging. You're never responsible for someone's feelings or their lives, you cant fix them. Can you make an avocado ripen when you want? No so how are you going to change an entire person.
Jules and Rue are two friends that need to go their own ways because they hold each other in this state. Jules and Cat was a way healthier friendship from season 1
the thing with rue being sceptic about jules meeting tyler in a dark place at night with nobody around is that trans women getting murdered by their dates is a thing that happens everyday. it happens ofc to cis women all the time too, but with jules you have to consider that she is subject to getting clocked and hated crimed due to transphobia. so i really didnt see that as rue being upset because she likes jules and doesn't want her to go out with someone else, but genuine worry about her friend being at risk of getting hurt and choosing nonetheless the less safe option when it comes to meeting someone you don't know for the first time. if she were my friend id be pissed about her safety too
I highly recommend you watching the 2 special episodes! They don't really require you watching the entire show to understand them although context definitely helps!
Please do one on every character!!!!😭😭 you give so much insight and awareness I love it!!
Both my boyfriend and I struggle with our mental health. We both sometimes get scared that we are going to be too much and that it isn't worth the other persons time to stay, but by working on yourself and reaching out to professionals, the baggage you may think is too heavy gets lighter. My boyfriend and I are eachothers best friend, and we always support eachother, but we also encourage self healing. We have a very strong relationship because of this
We definitely need a part 2 of this!
when i want to tell someone i feel better in my mental illness when im with them i try to word it something like "having people around me who love me and care about me makes me feel way better, and ik youre one of them, so thank you for being here i appreciate it" i feel like its way less pressure
I can't express how much I'm grateful for all you've said. This is 100% the validation all the people in that situation would need. Thank you so so much.
I love watching and listening to your reactions to Euphoria . It's eye opening and I feel like I learn so much in trying to understand people's " real life " actions & reactions to other people, issues, and stressors. Thank you and keep up the good deciphering. 💕🧠🙏
Having an actual adult conversation about feelings is something that pretty much comes with... well, adulthood. I think I was like 27 the first time I had a straight conversation with someone I had feelings for that went like "hey, I like you, how do you feel? ...Not like that? Alright, cool," and we resumed our friendship.
Paranormal park is a great example of how to deal with having a crush on a friend who doesn't feel the same way
I really needed this video. One of my bffs who was also my previous roommate definitely relies on me for her mental health. She stopped going to a therapist two years ago and treats me like a second parter. I felt trapped in this situation because I lived with her and her boyfriend for a year and a half during Covid, so I literally couldn’t go anywhere or see other people a lot. She has multiple mental health disorders and her bf works a lot so I was always the one to pick up the pieces. Unfortunately it means she’s been a bad friend (and roommate) to me on more than one occasion. I temporarily moved out of state, but when I get back I know I have to set stronger boundaries especially living on my own and having a busy life. She doesn’t know this side of me yet because we met months before Covid. She always joked how we were a thruple and codependent on each other, which rubbed me the wrong way but after living alone in a studio for part of Covid I was just happy to be around people. I have always been a very independent person so it’s been difficult to navigate.
as someone who feels depressed most of the time (i never went to a therapist though), i really need to see the people around me as a support then as the reason why i am living.
my first relationship broke down bc i saw him as a soulmate that just had to be with me 24/7. well that relationship didnt work out and it became some toxic friends+ sh't. now i am with my second bf, but i feel like every time when i open up, i expect too much from him.
hmmm well, to learn how to handle my depressing periods, i tried to not contact him, rather i am doing stuff that i like to feel better.
(ah idk why i opened up but here i am, missing him so much and in a depressing period, but decided to listen to this video bc i really like these topics and yeah ^^ i hope that, who ever is reading this and struggling too, to at least try to own your depressing periods
I told my best friend that I had feelings for her a few years back, she didn't feel the same way but I understood and that brought us closer together and now we're like sisters! :)
I’ve been the person who depended on him, and you were right, he started resenting me and suddenly he became really toxic. Things ended between us and honestly I barely cry as much as I did when I was with him. I’m glad I left the relationship
When he said staying means nothing unless you’re free to leave hit a little too close to home like I should probably write that on my wall
I told this guy that I liked him in the non-platonic way, we moved past that, and now I love him. We're still great friends though, I've made peace with the whole thing.
"Staying means nothing unless you're free to leave." damn that was a bar.
"staying means nothing if aou aren't free to leave"- such a wonderful rolemodel
Would love to see you react to more of Rue, specifically her relationship with her mom & sister (seasons 1 & 2). I feel like some important context was missing in this reaction because these clips didn’t make it clear that Rue is an addict and her relationships with the people around her strongly depend on her sobriety.
Omg yes pleaaeeeeese react to the show episode by episode!! So good and yes it gets dark but there is a light at the end of the tunnel and I would love to see more doctors watch the full show and really make a judgment on how accurate it is. As a person with adhd, generalized anxiety and hyperthyroidism, the racing thoughts are something I resonate with rue.
i've been binge watching your euphoria reactions and i def think you should watch it entirely because there's soooo much to say about this show!
What I think is really sad though is that most people who battle mental illness and end up coping by relying on only one person donlt actually have anybody else to rely on and lean to. And most importantly, don't have the financial ressources to seek counceling not the necessary support from family members to dare seek counceling
I wish it was easier for everybody to seek help
I just found you, never saw any video of you. And you saying things about euphoria helped me more than any of my therapy sessions. That’s sad but also really cool that you do those videos to share you wisdom.
I also had a friend who just took care of his mental health, pressuring me with making decisions, it was hell this made me realize i dont wanna deal with people like that, when you try to help somebody they take adventage of it, blaming you to be the bad guy when u dont do the things that they wan't.
I would love to see you watch this whole show! Lots of things two talk about psychologically about each character
It’s not about Rue having feelings for Jules, it’s about it’s not safe to go off on your own to a random orchard in the middle of the night, and meet a strange man from the internet. Rue is right that it’s a completely crazy thing to do.
I have absolutely been the person with mental illness relying on friends. Sometimes it's been healthy and great, other times it's been very unhealthy and hard. I've learned a few different lessons from my experiences:
- it really does take a village. The ideal situation for me and my loved ones is to have a large network of support, including professionals like a therapist and psychiatrist and general medical doctor all working together with my loved ones.
- If someone sets a boundary with you, that doesn't mean they don't love you or don't care. It can be painful to reach out to someone in a moment of need and be turned down, but everyone has their own unique situation to contend with. Sometimes they just can't help. This is another reason to have a large network.
- Be really careful that your relationships are built upon something other than support during hard times. That's burned me more than once. I feel intensely bonded to someone who helps me through something really hard. When there wasn't much else tying me to that relationship, I found myself hanging onto trauma instead of healing so that I could retain the bond. I felt like, if there was nothing to be healed, what do we do then? It ended up hurting that person because they felt like they were constantly being drained of their emotional resources.
The scene in euphoria where we get to see how lexi and cassie grew up and compare them on how the grew up cause that to me is really a great part of the show... how cassie is the most sexualised character on the show and lexi the most conservative however they had the same experiences but it led them to too completly diffrent paths
I think we need a video talking more about Rue and Jules' relationship. The special episodes make their point of views clearer.
Okay there's a whole addiction dynamic that both of them have that I'd be curious to get your take on....🤗
Great videos!
i would literally pay for a patreon if he reacted to the whole thing (sorta uncut) on there since youtube copyright is crazy
I've learned that there are 3 big things that make or break any relationship, platonic or romantic: communication, honesty, and trust. If you can't communicate about feelings and important topics like "where does our friendship stand" etc, then how can you have a relationship? If you're having problems for some reason and you dont say something, how can anyone know? COMMUNICATE!! because without communication, how can you be honest? How can you offer trust? If you're not being honest with your communication, how can you establish trust? If you don't trust someone to receive your communication, how can you be honest with them?
My boy best friend has depression. When I was dating him I saw his depression, and how much a load he carries. He told me ‘you keep me alive’ (not in a sweet way, in a if you weren’t here I would have offend myself) he has thought about offing himself. Me too. That’s the thing we had in common. But we both don’t like pain and are still here. So when I started loosing feelings toward him I felt so bad that he would hurt himself if I left. I left, he knew I was becoming distant. It was so sad because it only lasted a month… we loved for so long but. Did I͟?̲ am I at fault?
Jules was the reason Rue got clean and why she relapsed, their relationship wasn't healthy, not because they were toxic, but because they had an emotional dependence on each other, which is far from being healthy.
When me and my now fiance met we were really young. I was a freshman in high school he was one grade above me. He had been through a lot in his life and in the beginning I didn't know or really understand mental health and what he needed both from me and not from me. We grew up and I learned from experience with others and my own struggles that started and by the time we got engaged we had boundaries and plans and support systems for him in his absolute worst moments. Then I went to college, my body started to fall apart in ways I didn't understand and I got sick. Turns out I had an autoimmune disease and college didn't work because I was dealing with more physical and mental
trama my body was doing to itself and I had no support when I was hours away, I came home and we started over building a support system for me and my new needs and now we've learned and grown up together and after many years we're finally getting married soon and no one can tell me we haven't been through enough together because we've been through the wringer and are still here ready for anything the world throws our way.
you got me to sit through your ad-read with your frustrated bagel munching and your full eye contact leg stretching 🤣
PLEEEEEAAAAAASSSSEEEEEE WATCH THEIR SPECIAL EPISODES!!!
Hey Jonathan. You should watch Euphoria but brace yourself, it's a dark show. I think you'd be better equipped to handle it though.
I've been extremely lucky to have a long-term partner who has clear boundaries and a policy for honest communication. They were aware that I had schizophrenia before we started dating (friends for 9 awesome years) and that their support and love is NOT my medicine. As often as possible, I let them know that my relapses are not their fault nor their responsibility.
We don't need one another to survive, we just love surviving together.
I am in a relationship like this but platonically. He sometimes makes me feel like I am responsible for his happiness and I told him he should go seek professional help because I cannot handle that pressure and I am not in the power of helping him the way that he should be helped but he won‘t listen and keeps on saying that as long as I am there for him and as long as he can talk about it all with me, he is “fine“. That is a lot of pressure especially because I just want him to be okay and I cannot do that for him but he thinks I can and denies the matter of fact that he needs professional help. It is exhausting.
1:05 Wait till he discovers Tyler is Nate 💀
I started a relationship two months before lockdown, with a guy who had had issues I was aware of. What I did not know was he had hallucinations when he was emotionally involved with someone (he hardly knew himself cause he was very lonely) . When it happened, he switched from cheesy teenage-like boyfriend to a person who resented me for even being there, and yet he was stuck with me. It was hard, he was absent, made my life miserable, most of times couldn't help it. I am a writer, wrote a novel inspired by all that (I asked for permission first). The novel won a prize and was published in my own country. It inspired him and he's now writing his own story. We broke up, but we're family still. Fun fact: you actually taught me hallucinations are mostly auditory, which I did not grasp when it happened to him. So be aware that a novel in Italy is kinda mentioning you!
Youre wise my good sir 👏
I'd like to hear your thoughts on moments from the show Warrior Nun.
I think a Cal Jacobs episode would be really, really good. Especially if it includes his flashback episode of his time in high school.
PLEASE react to the All Too Well short film!!!
I'd say that if someone is too scared of seeking professional help and occasionally relies on their partner, it'll help to find a hobby.
For example, I've tried out painting recently and it brings me joy and happiness since I'm artistic.
It helps me to block out the world and problems I can't deal with yet when I focus on my hobbies.
I'm a teenager who knows that I need help but I'm too scared of getting judged too quickly and stuff like that.
I'm well aware of my issues, I don't know what to do with that information though.
Having a hobby to fall back on is probably better than relying too much on one person. But eventually the person will need to seek professional help.
Would love for you to analyse the family dynamics in succession! That would be soo interesting, so much to dig into!
Please react to crazy ex-girlfriend, it's a show about mental illness and the point of view of that person.
It's a comedy and musical, Rachel bloom is the protagonist, co-creator, writer, and songwriter of this show.
She's amazing and the show is amazing! ❤
I cant remember if its been covered already, but the gun scene between nate & maddy and the general nate / maddy / cassie storyline of s2 would be good to react to as well!
In the hospital bed, I don't think Rue was saying "I kinda like this moment Jules." What I heard was "I've been like this my whole life Jules." And it makes more sense to me.
Thank you so much for this
I would love to see a reaction to Fez and Lexi's relationship. They're my favorite couple on Euphoria.
"Its not expecially manipulative which is a first for Euphoria so"
Me "Hhahaha just wait..."
Please react to Gia, Rue’s sister or Rue’s mom. They’ve had a lot of hardships and I feel like Gia has been traumatized witnessing her sister relapse
I think it would be very interesting for you to analyze the first scene of midsommar. Everyone claims the bf and his friends were wrong because throughout the whole story we see them being the worst of the worst, but in that first scene its them talking to the bf about how he should tell the protagonist to see her therapist instead of demanding solutions from him whenever her sister has a crisis. It ends badly bc ofc it does for the sake of the story, so it's another "red flag" moment for him, and its always in the back of my mind how no matter how much they suck they DID have a point about her attitude towards her bf and mental health, i never saw a professional discussing it so i think it'd be nice to see and know what we should actually do in that situation.
11:37 everything you’re saying here reasonates with me I just realized I do this with him and we got into an argument about it the other day and I just realized I’m in the wrong cuz I’m too mentally unstable and I depend on him to make me feel better and stuff I hate myself
You need to watch the full series dude! You are brilliant but sadly ain't getting alot of things.. 🙃
He needs to react to the ending of season 2 starting with rue and Jules talking after the play
im faded af eating noodles watching this video LMOA
I would love for him to react to rue and ali
Please watch every episode
Please watch the first half of 2x5 to see Rue with her sister, mum and Jules
Thank you! Honestly I didn’t like rue and Jules together cause it seemed they were wrong for each other anyway, but yeah with rue I understand on a personal level, but I also understand Jules on a personal level too, it’s just Jules is just so hot and cold all the time with rue and rue sees Jules as an escape
you should react to Rue’s sister Gia. curious to see what you have to say about someone who’s family member is an addict
Omg you reacted to Rue I'm happy!!! Can you please react to Umbrella Academy too? Pleeeeease
me: Why would i watch a therapist reacting to euphoria
also me: Clicks anyways 😅
3:27 - I’m really happy to say that I did that, like have a healthy rejection and be still friends. But what if you confess and the person reciprocates and tells you a few days later that there not ready and they just wanna be friends. Of course I understand and from there side that’s ok. Just how do I deal with it? I was so happy about it and got those high expectations that were meet but now I have to erase them. How do I do it? (A part of me (unhealthy part) is mad at that person for not just telling me at the beginning, but of course I know that feeling can change and sometimes you have to try to see you don’t want it)
I believe in having a community to fall back on, not a person. But damn do those bad nights feel so much worse when you’re sleeping alone
You NEED to watch Jules when she sees a therapist
I love this channel but you will never understand them until you watch the special episodes
Can you react to Shameless next?
ive been on both sides of the spectrum but probably my wildest story was during my freshman year of college. one of my high school "friends" was super obsessed with me after we graduated. i had moved 3 hours away so at first, we just texted as friends. he said he was starting to get into creative writing, which i thought was super cool and told him i had experience proofreading and beta reading for people so if he wanted to ever send me stuff to look over, let me know! little did i know what he was writing was x rated stories about me and him together. he sent me a couple and asked how i liked it. i did not see him that way but we had a lot of the same friends and i didnt want people to be mad at me, so i tried to let him down easy but apparently he took that as a "try again" instead of "please stop this is making me uncomfortable". he sent me another story and i was so freaked out, i just told him to please stop, im not interested. he started talking about how he was going to self harm and kill himself if i didnt like him back, and at that time, i had been self harming for about 5 years and tried to commit suicide 3 times, but was getting way better. it was so triggering for me and was kinda a wake up call that he was using my past to try to elicit the response he wanted. i remember throwing my phone down on the couch and all my roommates were like "... is it that creep guy again??". my one roommate's boyfriend (sweetest 6'2" marching band kid you'll ever meet) was seriously about to beat this guy up for me when i told them what he said. i blocked him on all social media bc i knew he was bluffing and i never looked back.
needless to say, he's still alive and ok today. i since found out that he sexually harassed a bunch of other girls at our high school, including a lot of my friends. between that and being a white supremacist, he got dropped by all our mutual friends (most of whom are black)
YOU'VE GOT TO WATCH THE WHOLE SHOW MY MAN THIS WHOLE THING IS TAKEN OUT OF CONTEXT 🙏🙏 GOOD ADVICE BUT NOT RELATABLE TO THE SHOW REALLY 🙏🙏🙏
You should react to cal, Nate’s dads back story and break down 😭 episode 3 of season 2 👀
I'd be interested in what can you tell to the other side. How to handle the situation when you are the one loving someone with mental illness. How can you solve that trap-situation then?
ooh i love these videos. any chance yall could therapize arcane? 👀
Ohhh watch the therapy scene with Jules
Y'all gotta keep doing Nate!!!
I would love to get your view on the huge fight between Jules and rue