How to Start Decluttering Even When You're Overwhelmed
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ก.ย. 2024
- This is my specialty, y'all! I'm an expert at breaking through the paralyzing feeling of being overwhelmed because I have to do it regularly.
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I joined Take Your House Back last April and it has been an amazing help for me. Although the course itself has been incredibly helpful in establishing habits and routines that make my life so much easier and satisfying, it’s Dana’s No Mess Method that has made the biggest impact for me. I used to get so overwhelmed every time I tried to organize anything, not realizing that I had to declutter FIRST. I would just end up with piles that inevitably had to be shoved back together to “take care of later.” Then it would start all over again with no progress and feeling worse than ever. Now I declutter one item at a time and deal with it, whether it goes where it belongs, to trash, or a donation bag.
What a game changer! Progress is real now, and even though I am a ladybug, sometimes I leave a cupboard door open just so I can walk by and enjoy the tidy space.
The course is worth every penny. I had watched videos from Dana, Dawn and Cas for several months before I bought the course, but it’s the structure that made all the difference for me. I can go back and read, listen to, and watch whatever I want whenever I want. It’s a very well-designed course, and new information is added on a regular basis through videos, audios and blogs. It’s one of the best investments I’ve ever made!
I love hearing this!!! For anyone considering joining the course, go here to find out more: www.takeyourhouseback.com/courses/take-your-house-back?ref=d93d0c
Agreed!! Same here! Affordable and well laid out. Not hoity toity at all like many "programs!" I feel like Dana is a normal person like me...well, I can't Really claim to be normal, besides, isn't that just a setting on the hair dryer?!
👍agree!
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@@DanaKWhite your videos are intriguing, but my first impression of your website is that it’s completely OVERWHELMING. Waaaaay too many products and newsletters and blog posts and coaches and training courses and sponsored ads and… omg. Ironic for a business about simplifying and decluttering.
Also, why the need to repackage the advice in multiple different books? If it’s a simple and effective approach, it shouldn’t require multiple books - just one should be able to sum up. Again, seems ironic that people come there for decluttering advice and are encouraged to clutter their devices with multiple e-books essentially saying the same thing.
The whole impression I get is a “money grab,” honestly…
I know I’ll get blasted for this comment, but I just wanted to provide my honest feedback. I was prepared to give your methods a try, but was turned off by the hard sell vibe coming from your website.
I just started something today. I am overwhelmed now with a 4 month old but I have decided that every diaper box that I buy (I buy the jumbo ones) will be filled with donatables before it leaves the house. That way I can slowly fill the box and it's a constant declutter!
What a great idea & image! Be encouraged, friend.
So smart! I love using diaper boxes as donation boxes. Keep at it if you can! I will try to too
I did this and it is a HUGE help!!! Way to go mama! 💪🏻
Brilliant!!
Omg literally me with a 4 month old! I went nuts today posting stuff online to sell, donate, toss. Felt so good!
I broke up the room into zones (ex. Floor, stove top, sinks) 10 in all. Assigned each zone a number 1 - 10, then rolled a 10 sided die. That's where I started. Then my niece called. We wound up video calling and cleaning our respective problem rooms. We're now cleaning buddies.
I like that idea. Of letting the die decide! I always end up “cleaning” the same three areas/rooms…. I pick the ones that are the most de cluttered as they are easier to tidy…. Every other space/room of the house stays neglected. I’m going to use that idea this weekend!
This works really well too. We have been doing our kitchen like this since January. Not with dice, just a list. We have about three things to do yet. Hang blinds, clean oven, get electrician to fix outlet. It is finally getting there. Also, found out that Scott's Liquid Gold spray works on my stainless steel frig. Appliance cleaner works on our stove, but not the frig. Soap and water doesn't work on frig either. Maybe this will help someone. I have a list on my phone with things to do in kitchen. When one is done, it is erased. Yay
Genius!
I need a cleaning buddy
Awesome❤
Who else loves that feeling of having just dropped off a whole load of crap you didn’t need at goodwill. It’s wonderful 🤩
It makes me mad that goodwill has increased their prices so much. I’m gonna try selling online. Even though it’s not at all my personality😂😩 That may also be a danger,, Goodwill is much easier just to Get Rid of It!!
@@lauralei6963There are many other places to donate your items: homeless shelters, shelters for victims of abuse, animal shelters/ rescues, nursing homes, community adult day cares, local opportunity centers for those with special needs, public schools, etc.
Please consider contacting your city government offices to ask about where you can donate some of your items. Police officers and firefighters often carry comfort items for children and young adults too. I promise if you donate to one or some of these types of places you will feel so happy. ❤
Not me, gives me anxiety. Think im going to try to get someone else to drop it off.
@@lauralei6963I’m with you ! I can’t just give it away when I know it’s worth money so I try tell sell online and it ends up sitting longer
Your method works so well because I am not pulling everything out and making a worse mess. It always looks better.
After watching the video, I started typing this out to prep myself as I get up to get started for the day, and thought it may be helpful for others as well. I HIGHLY recommend reading Dana's books and watching her videos! They have been so helpful for this overthinker to settle down and just get started.
Here are the decluttering steps that I have learned from Dana over the past month from her videos, blog posts, books, and podcasts:
1st: Grab a trash bag and a donatable donate box
2nd: Begin in the most visible place possible (Usually the place where visitors would enter your home)
3rd: Using your trash bag, look throughout that area for anything that is obviously trash. (old sales ads, wrappers, empty boxes or grocery bags, ect.)
4th: Once it looks like you have gathered all of the trash, grab your donation box and look for anything that is an obviously easy(to you) donate item to put in the donate box. This can be things you don't like, won't fit, doesn't work in the space anymore. This isn't the time to make tough decisions; this is when you are looking for those easy donations.
5th: After you have made it through the steps of removing trash and removing the "duh"(obvious) donations as Dana calls them, you now want to look for items that have a home elsewhere in your house but they have ended up there somehow. When you spot those items, don't waste your energy asking yourself how it got there, and don't just sit it down in a pile to deal with later; this is the key step to Dana's no mess method... TAKE IT THERE NOW! With that item in hand, take a quick glance around the area to see if you can spot anything else that also goes to that same area of your home, and if you spot something, grab it too. Now, walk to that other area and put the items in their pre-designated home. If that space is already full, look for enough trash or "duh" donations that you can grab to make room for the item that you are placing there. If the room is too cluttered to get far enough into for you to put the item in its actual home, place it as close as you can to that home and grab any obvious trash or donations to make the space for the item you just delivered. Now that the item is in its pre-designated home(or as close to it as you are able), take the trash or donations that you grabbed to make space for the item back to your original starting space and place them in your trash bag or donatable donate box. Keep doing this step until you don't see anymore items that already have pre-designated homes within your house.
At this point you should already see progress within your space! This is when you cheer and pat yourself on the back for making such great progress to move the space forward toward better because better is GOOD! By following Dana's "Take it there now!" method, you should NOT have large sorting piles sitting around or any keep piles or boxes; all you should still see is your trash bag, your donatable donate box, and the items still remaining in that space that aren't obvious trash, donations, or have an already pre-designated home. If you are at a point where you are just exhausted and need to rest, all you should have to do is take the trash bag out to the bin and load the donate box in your vehicle to drop off. When you are ready to start back, go through these steps again but this time you should be able to progress through them quicker since you already made progress in the space.
Once you are through the easy stuff (trash, obvious donations, and items with pre-designated homes) you can now begin working through the items that do not belong in that space and do not yet have their own space in your home. You do this by following Dana's decluttering questions with each item.
With the item in hand, ask:
- If I needed this item, where WOULD I look for it first? Go with your gut instinct here; that first place that popped into your mind. Take it there now!
If you were unable to answer that question because you have no idea where you would even begin to look for it, then ask yourself the next question:
- If I needed this item, would it ever occur to me that I already had one? Be honest here. If I wouldn't remember that I had one, there is a strong chance that I would just go and buy it yet again which would add to the clutter, so I can allow myself to donate it knowing that fact. If I WOULD remember that I had one, then where WOULD I look for it first when I started searching? Take it there now.
The final step is - Make it fit - This is for the items that are to remain in this space.
- Consolidate: Put like things together.
- The Container Concept: Purge down to the natural limits of the space that I have. Every item needs to be placed use-ably and get-to-ably in this space.
All of this with three things in mind:
Less=Success
Better is GOOD!
If I try to keep more than can physically fit, use-ably and get-to-ably, in this space that I have, there is literally no hope of my house being under control; it can't be under control if I have more stuff than space.
Thank you so much for typing this out and offering it to us! What a blessing!
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Thank you!
This is amazing thank you so much for taking the time to type this up this is great!
This was really helpful.
And I already have pretty decent decluttering and organizing methods.
But hearing different takes is helpful as well ❤️
The timing of this video was unbelievable!
I am so overwhelmed!!!
I told myself after Christmas (because of all the wrapping, boxes...everywhere!), that I was going to make some decisions.
I am a box (and bag), hoarder, but now with the gift giving season over, I will take the first big step to break down boxes for recycling. I know it may seem small, but if you could only see, it will make a huge difference!!
Thank you for helping me take the first step.
I found a place here in my town that wraps gifts for their clients every Christmas and they will take boxes , bags and gift wrap in good condition. Might be some place where you are that does the same!
@@BB-ej9hk I will have to inquire about it. Thank you for the suggestion.
Box holder here too! 😂😂😂
@@BB-ej9hk I know you mean to be helpful, but for someone who is overwhelmed and is about to take a first step it can add another paralyzing layer of complexity to have to research somewhere that might take the stuff. Yes, in a perfect world we would all find the absolute perfect thing to do with every little item. But sometimes you just have to move it on out, and boxes and bags can go to recycling which is good enough.
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You are so right!
At 62, and a life long consumer, I am overwhelmed by keeping the house tidy when everywhere is over run with stuff. I work silly hours (my choice) with the result that I often treat myself with stuff. The house is huge and there are 2 of us. Every room is stuffed with our goodies. I’m a minor league hoarder. Someone who likes to have things just in case. 37 full bottles of kitchen/bathroom cleaner to name one such thing. I see a moisturiser that I like the look of, or it’s on offer, and I buy it, before I know it, my dresser and makeup cupboard overflows. Dozens of airplane make up bags. All so useful, but not used. I have a home in Spain, a 1 bed place that we have to keep tidy, and we only have what we need. So why can’t we do it with our main home. Ok. Some incredibly good stuff here. VERY USEFUL!
Food stamps don't pay for things like make-up or cleaners. Why not use Dana's method and only keep the items that fit in your designated space for them and donate the rest? You may even get a tax deduction. 😊
I struggled with depression for a few years and my home suffered. I’m now in a much healthier headspace and ready to get things outta here and under control. But….overwhelmed is an understatement because I also feel guilty and embarrassed for letting this happen
Glad you are doing better. 🎉
@@ivana.m111 I feel you so, so much! "Ugh this is no way to live at all" is something I say a lot. We have 3 kids and we are about to move in a bigger home. I'm even embarrassed to let in the people who want to help us moving, it's so messy... I'm mostly at home because my kids are little, but it does feel more like a place I'm being held in than a home to me. I feel like all I ever do is trying to fight against the mess and lose. I'm not really living my life, I'm barely enjoying anything. It's so sad, because my life could be nearly perfect... I'm mentally so tired and my biggest fear (right after anything happening to my family of course) is that this will just continue in the new flat. When I think about that I'm terrified...
@@ivana.m111 thanks for being honest I relate so much to what u r saying. Little steps is what I have been taking. The amount of things my family has accumulated over the years is sickening. I have been using the reusable grocery store bags (cause I always forget them and end up buying more 🙄) to fill with donations. So far we have loaded up my Tahoe 3x with bags full of toys, clothes and household items). I gave myself a 30day challenge to start with. Day 1 was to fill 5 bags with clothes and clean out my entryway. Day 2 was cleaning out and deep cleaning the bathroom… each day I gave myself just one or two tasks to complete. It has not been a perfect system but it’s helping.
Just one or 2 tasks is doable!
Don't beat yourself up. You had to get through the tough place and other things become secondary. Now that you are stronger you can face the objects with Dana's help. We all hate how we have handled some aspect of life... God is good. We get to come round again and go at things with more support. Very best regards. G Ire
I really, REALLY appreciate you taking that moment @6:33.
Compassionately acknowledging, validating, and speaking to those of us who have difficulty recognizing / differentiating *trash* is what sets you apart. God bless you, Dana.
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I literally do listen to you non-stop. Even my husband and kids know a declutter is about to start when they hear your voice. You are my declutter companion and I’m grateful.
You know when you get that feeling of someone who is talking directly to you and understands....
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I totally agree.
I've read your book, 'Decluttering at the Speed of Life', twice! It's the only one that stuck in my head. I read it again because I thought I must've missed something in it because applying the steps was too easy as I was going along. Nope, you taught me well the first time around. Still a fun read the 2nd time, though. Thank you for taking me from a crying overwhelmed embarrassed mess staring at several mountains of clutter to a happier, freer human again. You'll never truly understand what you did for me. Thank. You.
Is it any different than Marie kando method ?
Merry day after Christmas Dana! You're one tip helped me have a stress free Christmas season . Thank you.
The tip was. .its not perfect but it's good enough!
I sprained my leg, ankle, and my knee 4 weeks before Christmas. I'm much better now and did what I could that truly mattered to me.
I’m putting this TIP on my refrigerator, as I Begin a Real overhaul of 4 bedrooms !!!! Thankyou for Your Recommendations !!! Happy New Year !!!
I so appreciate you saying that it's OK when you freeze and don't know what trash is etc. And yes. I so agree with if you are overwhelmed with what you need to do to achieve your goal then break it down to smaller steps.
For me I have difficulties in distinguishing what I need vs what I don't need. I've tried this method of grabbing a big black garbage bag and going through my apartment. But after going through all of my rooms I only had very very little in it. I went in so motivated and came out so demotivated because: Again, I couldn't find much and declutter my apartment.. For example I have SO many eye shadows and nail polish I have had for over 20 (!) years and still think that I MIGHT use them.. Soon.. Or all of the magazines (some also over 20!!! years old) I wanted to read so badly so I THINK I still want to read them.. I get motivated almost every day to at least start to declutter my apartment only to be confronted with all of the things I "might" need. And I've watched SO many videos on this topic that I just don't understand how I can STILL think this way. But today finally I think I had an AHA moment: I took a SMALL plastic bag (the ones you get from take outs - so I found a way to get rid of them! Yay!) and again went through my apartment and FILLED that one with garbage! It wasn't much but it was still more than I would have put in a big black bag. I guess it's just the mindset of getting something full which amongst other reasons prevents some of us to be able to declutter in a big scale. I also used a list of very specific things (this time for the kitchen only) which helped me a lot in finally coming to the conclusion that I REALLY didn't need some of the things on the list and filling that bag.
Plus this thought process made click today: The reason that something is old and UNUSED is because I DIDN'T NEED it -> If I didn't need it for over one (!) year than I will most probably NEVER NEED it. I know this has been talked a lot int decluttering videos. But this time my focus was on the reason of it being "unused" and that for whatever reason made the difference (I guess me thinking over the things I REALLY didn't need for my kitchen helped me in actually understanding it as well). If it's been unused then I don't need it. This is the mantra I'm going to tell myself from now on whenever I'm decluttering. I even made some post it notes in case I forget it. 😊
If you are overwhelmed - no matter how small the step is - if it's the biggest you can do right now - that is what matters.
I don't use makeup, but I think I've read that makeup older than 6 months is no longer safe to use. The timeframe may be off or vary for different types of makeup, but I'm pretty sure 20 year old makeup should be tossed. Wishing you success in your decluttering journey.
I like the small plastic bag idea, too.
I can relate so much to everything you just said! I know I have to start somewhere I just don’t know how to start, how to decide what to get rid of, what to keep, and then I stress about organizing the things that I am keeping! I also have a ton of old nail polishes, makeup palettes and stuff like that. In my bedroom closet I have piles of old blankets and sheets, bags of shoes and clothes that I used to wear to my office job and I haven’t worked in an office in 5 years and will probably never wear them but I just can’t get rid of them! I’m hoping I can just take some small steps and start getting rid of a bag or two per week maybe?
You are speaking to the Queen of being paralyzed! Thank you so much for every book, video, podcast, blog. I joined the take back your house course and I'm still feeling quite frozen. But I will keep trying. I'm already fearful about the all day declutter because I'm afraid I won't be accomplished. I'll keep reminding myself that any progress is better!
My dad used to say, “The perfect is the enemy of the good enough.” And I’ve learned in CODA, progress not perfection.
This is me!❤
Flylady says progress but perfection. Also, blessing your home imperfectly by doing ANYTHING, is still a blessing. Don't let the stinking thinking negative rule! Every little thing you do will add up. I also watch minimal mom, listen to Clutterbug podcast, and have Flylady zones loaded in my cozi app. No I'm not perfect and have a long way to go but every positive thing I do is a step in the right direction. You can do this.
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Everything you say resonates with me and I just needed to hear it to move forward and not give up on piles of clutter. I think my biggest issue is feeling so overwhelmed, especially with paper clutter (bills, mail, junk). I don’t have a system in place and need to just dive in and start with the paper junk mail and start sorting. It will eventually get easier as you train yourself to do this everyday. Even if it’s only for a few min a day.
I just have to say, I have the best kids! I got 3 of your books for Christmas!!! YAY 🥰 I kept jumping up at Christmas to "take it there now". That was a little weird 😂
Thank you so much for sharing Dana!
#1. Get the trash out and if you don't see trash move on to the next question. If you're getting it out of the house it makes a big difference. You make so much sense. Thank you! It's not a failure to be overwhelmed. 🤔
Some great tips here. I’m in that stagnant stage where I don’t know where to start…. Something I like to do is try to de clutter (WITH BLACK GARBAGE BAGS) on the day before garbage pick up. Because THEN, you won’t be tempted to go back, second guess and retrieve any of those items you already parted with. They will be gone quickly.
Agree. I get a lot of trash out that way!
I've watched a gazillion decluttering/organizing videos, and your methods are by far the best and easiest! In part cause you make it fun, but essentially because you make it make sense. I don't get overwhelmed and understand my old thinking (like yours) " Oh well I just need a bigger container or to have it more organized "
Thank you so much!❤️🙏❤️
At the beginning of the video, I was thinking that your hair looks amazing! I also think that your choice of background is perfect! The wall color makes the color of your eyes pop and I enjoy seeing your simple décor in the living area. Your videos just keep getting better and better! Then, of course, there is the content: which is super relevant to me! Thank you for being genuine!
@UCPTSoGQxuxQUjHDXhXyZdmA Can you please tell me how to DM on telegram? I downloaded the app but it is telling me that I have to know your phone number in order to DM you.
Decluttering doesn't always mean "throw it all awayyyyy". Start with PUTTING things away. Throw out trash immediately. Handle paperwork/mail every day - throw out/recycle ALL ads and mailers - you can get those online.
My sister has joked that she tried the KonMari method and ended up with no bras - no joy in that! 😉... This has been my fear, that I would end up throwing out the wrong things. I recently came to understand your system, with the "take it there NOW" rule, as a "sort it out one item at a time" practice. Over time, if you see you are overcrowded in a "where I would look first" place, it indicates you are likely overstocked in that category of things, so you can afford to choose the best, let go of the rest. My instinct had been to want to see each category all together before I could let go of anything, now I see I just need to sort it out one item at a time, one day at a time, and eventually I will be presented with an easier set of choices with no new mess in the middle, and no fear of ending up with out... 😘
I love the way you explained this!
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I found KonMari before I found Dana, and KM saved my life. Having said that, KM is challenging and not always easy to understand, as your sister demonstrates, while Dana's method is simple. I'm helping a friend, and KM is completely opaque to him while Dana's method is working. KM is for those of us who really want to go deep into the psychology of our relationship to objects, which is something many people have no interest in.
Did your sister discover she needed bras that fit and were beautiful?
I used to follow the rule of "if you haven't used it in a year [two years?], get rid of it." I hadn't used a table fan for the longest time, so I got rid of it. Unfortunately, I ended up cremating some food in my microwave oven and had no way to blow the smoke out of my kitchen. Now, I'm more prudent about what stays and what goes.
Oh and this year before Christmas presents were even opened, I had the black trash bag open and ready. Felt like a win and you were there with us that moment. Thank you so much 🌺
We called our trash bag "the whale" and reminded the kids to "feed the whale" all the ripped papers, used ribbons, empty boxes and various packaging as we opened things. It was fun and we didn't have a mess when I went to get lunch ready ...
I can’t tell you how much “you don’t need to be better organized, you just have too much stuff” and “you’re not decluttering your whole house, you’re just dealing with this one item” helped me get my house under control. Those ideas really helped me identify what my next steps were so I didn’t get lost in the sauce trying to do everything at once. I’m still working on some areas, but that’s SO much better than having the ENTIRE house in need of some work.
If you don't use it lose it 😊
Good morning Dana, I am helping my teenage granddaughter declutter her room. She has ADHD and is easily distracted. She feels overwhelmed, but we work together well. I am very calm with her and I repeat what I have learned from you. I tell her that I am here to judge her, because I also have been in the same place, but after listening to you and Dawn, I have built up my decluttering muscles! Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️
Did you mean "NOT here to judge her"?
As a curly-haired person, who understands that it has a personality all its own, I ALSO thought your hair looked divine! 😍 I'm not sure about Reid's hair, I've never seen it 🤷 😂
Agreed: Reid needs to support his claim by putting a current pic in the credits!
Yes Dana is rockin' the curls...I've embraced mine, but they never look that FABULOUS!! 😉💗👍🏻
That's what I thought! Dana your hair looks amazing in this video! I love that it's longer. So pretty. You have helped me and my family SO SO much. Thank you!
My first thought when this video started was that your hair looks so good! As another curly girl myself I can appreciate that you made him admit that your hair looked so good! I also am curious about what his hair looks like….and he obviously gets his humor from his mama. 😂
As a straight-haired person, I'm so envious of beautiful curly locks!!!!
Very helpful thank you. As a single guy with years of accumulated clutter, I realize that mindset is the key, but getting there is the challenge. This definitely helps in doing just that!
My house is looking better every day, thanks to you. Love the inspiration and your sense of humor, Dana. "Take it there right now" echos in my brain several times a day!!
Is she talking about literal trash… like water bottles, empty plastic cups and food wrappers? Or is she talking about items that we don’t need anymore and should be donated and not thrown away? I like her style cuz I went from 3 homes to a downsized home … along with a mum that died that had lotsa nice things. I had to do things in layers just as she describes here in this video. Trash (literal nobody wants this) first. Then got rid of duplicates (good-will). Then decided on larger furniture what I was gonna keep and donate. Doing it in layers really helped me… not feel overwhelmed. Now I’m down to what I basically need to live… and I “still find things” to toss in the good will box by the front door. It’s addicting now because it is so freeing!
OMG Today I cleaned, organized and labeled containers in my kitchen, including OTC medicines, tossed out extra cups, coffee mugs, expired seasonings and everything I have not used in 1 year- (baking supplies were so expired bc I am Celiac-so I never use Flour etc!!! Im exhausted!!! BUT THANK YOU!!!!!
Both timely and helpful. I'm about to tackle storage in basement, which includes Christmas, and I really need to downsize. In our 70's, time for a reality check...what are we capable of doing, and what do we feel like continuing where season decor is concerned. One thing for sure, I plan to spend only one hour at a time working on this project! Thanks for the words of encouragement!
Yep. There's the "fantasy self" and the "real self".
This has been my struggle for many years. I am borderline hoarder and I don’t know how to get out of it. I get anxiety attacks and I can only work for a half hour and then rest a half hour. I just pray God will give me the strength to one day start and not give up.
Maybe this might help. Just try getting rid of one thing & another time get rid of one thing,....
Been procrastinating because I feel overwhelmed at a room in my house.
This video is so helpful actually this is the most helpful video I have yet seen about de cluttering.
It motivated me to start after days of feeling frozen.
Thank you so much for putting this valuable information.
Thank you so much for this video. Christmas is so overwhelming and I end up with a list of things I will tackle AFTER Christmas. Then paralysis hits and I'm stuck. So stuck! 😔. The mindset shift at the start, was just what I needed. It's crazy how what we learn goes out the windows when we feel that paralysis. I got the mindset shift and now I can take those steps I need to. I've been holding a black trashbag for nearly 24 hours, but couldn't see what I needed to begin. Thank you, for always having the answers at the right time. 🥰. P.S. Reid, her hair wins hands down 😉
Always clicking Like b4 I watch cause I just KNOW it'll be great!
Merry Christmas to all and have a Happy Dana K Whiting new year!
We got this!❤️❤️❤️
God bless you! I can’t tell you how many decluttering videos I’ve watched that don’t explain how to get into the correct mindset. When you said our goal is to declutter NOT ORGANIZE. It was like a light bulb turned on. Thank you!!!!
I haven’t done anything at all sence my husband passed 2018
My house is packed
This is the video I needed at this moment. Thank you Dana!
I just subscribed to your channel. It's good to see someone winning at life. Maybe someday, I can win at life too 🎉
Thank you for making me know that I am not the only one paralyzed by the feeling I can't do it. I felt like a failure for not being able to "conquer" the mess.
Me too
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Thanks for this video. Breaking down the steps to start decluttering is such an easy but greatly makes sense step that I can handle. Just pick up the trash/recycling. I have been re-motivated to start...again.
I needed to hear this today. Thank you, Dana!
Dana, Your video finds us knee deep in plumbing issues...ie burst pipes just before Christmas and trying to find the right plumbers to do the work, and other things (like a new floor now that ours is ruined) ANYHOW: I took a break from boxing things up in 3 bedrooms (one being my craft room) I KNOW all the craft room items will not find their way back into the craft room but unfortunately I only have time to box things up before the workers come tomorrow...not make decisions unless they are obvious. ALL THAT TO SAY: following you and Dawn have encouraged me more than you know. That even for a time such as this, things are not as bad as they could be. And each step just makes it a little better. Thanks for being you, and --love your hair!
Good morning! Hope you had a merry Christmas! I appreciate your content. It is a big help to me
My first thought when I watched the video was, "Oooooh, Dana's curls look extra gorgeous!" So glad you agreed with your mother, Reid. You know moms are generally right anyway.... 😉😁😇
Great video, Dana. Thanks for the encouragement!
Right on time! I am just beginning my studio reset today. The east wall and 25% of the square footage is for writing. The west 75% of the room is for sewing. That's my container, I think I will make myself a photo documentary. The entire project is over 2023. The east wall shelf emprovements is step 1 while I have a break from sermon writing. I am retiring from full time ministry in 2024 and I need to reduce my library to 198 linear feet that will support my part time work as an interim pastor and my writing goals through 2028. That's 5 years from now. Off to find some trash!
Taking photos as you go is so helpful. I have photos like that and I can't believe how things looked when I started.
You hit the nail on the head! I’m SO stuck, I can’t even…and I hear what you’re saying, but I still can’t figure out where to start. I’m going to watch this video again…
She told you. Start with a black trash bag and pick up trash. That's the first step of any cleaning system. Just do it ;)
@@angielovett4159 See if you can find my comment on here, as it may be helpful for you as well. For the past month I have been reading her books and blog as well as listening to her videos and podcasts, so I am finally feeling like I am ready to start my progress (classic researcher and overthinker here!). After watching this video, I decided to type out everything that I could remember that she has taught me. I wasn't typing it for anyone other than me, but as I made it to the bottom, I thought that perhaps help someone put the pieces together of this amazing thing that Dana has created. Anyway, check it out to see if it is helpful to you. I hope that you finally feel like you are ready to get started too!
@@beverleyb5372 I also am a classic researcher and overthinker. 🙂
We have worked through the Dave Ramsey 7 Baby Steps to get our personal finances in order. Next up, we have to declutter our home. We need to get rid of stuff.
I was looking for something to address the mental aspect of clutter, much the same way the Baby Steps helped us get control over money and why it is so hard to start. Main thing we need to learn is just how to emotionally get rid of stuff to simplify our lives. I think I have found it here. Thank you.
Great explanation of the basics! I used a lot of your lines with my husband as we decluttered part of the coat closet yesterday. Many of your lines are ingrained in my head now. They are so helpful!
Did you HEAR the penny finally drop!?!?!? I had no idea that I was trying to organize but calling it "de-cluttering"--even with your amazing no-mess decluttering plan, I was paralyzing myself by trying to "fit it all in" by organizing it. I know, I know...but I DIDN'T KNOW until you what you said in the first 4 minutes of THIS VIDEO! THANK-YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART ... and the bottom of the piles that I am going to remove!!! (That's not procrastination; it's 1 am lol! Gonna wait until tomorrow). God bless you as you continue in this amazing ministry that He has so aptly designed for you to do!! M
Trash & recycling, boxes - always the first to go. Always surprised by how that gets me rolling.
2nd - wash the dishes (after I find them while looking for trash & recycling)
3-do some laundry 😱
I like to wash the dirty floor rugs when I'm on a whole house clean & declutter.
4 easy declutter items go in a box. But you can't drive around with them in your car for the whole month of December. (yea, personal experience)
Love ya Dana K White. 😉
Small action my friends! Tell yourself your only allowed to work for 5 minutes! You can do this❤❤❤
Late to watch. You give me hope: I do see things to donate, I do see things that are trash. That gives me hope to get my piles down. This is great incentive ! TY 🌹
First: your hair does look amazing today. ♥️
Second: I've made significant progress using your methods (although the piling habit dies hard). However, I've really stalled out as a lot of the glaringly obvious stuff is gone, but there's so much more to do. Going to get a kickstart in the new year following your methods more closely. 🤞🏼 Thanks so much!
Yes I want a video on the hair lol
I have decluttered so much and I keep on it. Anything I bring in double goes out. I have scaled down clothes dishes furniture and organizing my kitchen my bathrooms. My oldest moved out so I’m making it my living/crafting room and I’ve scaled my crafting down. Thank you so much for the advice and inspiration. I literally go through looking for trash and I start bringing out the shredder so I can keep paper work down that doesn’t need filing.
Thks for this video. I have lots to declutter but keep procrastinating for years.I mix organizing with declutter and just don't know how to start.I am overwhelmed even though I stopped working for a few months.I hope to get started soon.
We need a picture of Reid’s hair!
Your advice…the insight…is decluttering gold!
I take things to the thrift store nearly every week. I was getting overwhelmed saving a bag full of stuff to take to the thrift store. I also cut or break stuff and throw it away so I can't hold on to stuff.
You are my cheerleader! Have a long way to go but I’m positive I’ll get there with your encouragement. Having you play while working does help motivate me. ❤
Hi Dana, love when you say get stuff out and refocus on getting stuff out only right now. This resonates with me and I’m starting today. This video came out at a perfect time. Thank you.
Just so grateful for your videos! Take it there now!
overwhelm cure:
- get rid of stuff BEFORE trying to organize
- start with black trash bag and look for trash to get rid of
helps get rid of decision paralysis
the power of getting started
- if can't identify what's trash, ash the first decluttering question:
- if I needed this item, where would I look for it first?
- overwhelm can also come from past failures decluttering
- by getting started with easy things like trash, you start to see the environment change right away, building your confidence
When I find myself overwhelmed I just go straight to step one again. When my days are hard and my mind is not clear I would ask the question "where would...." and then realize it is trash. Sometimes all i am doing is step 1 and that is OK because it helps from it getting worse but if it does at least I know by doing step will help me to breathe again in my space. I will do step 1 no matter how many times I have to do it to just keep it at bay before I can go to step 2. Thanks Dana for another great video. ❤ My younger self would not need to declutter this way but the me know does.
Oh Dana! This video feels like it was made SPECIFICALLY for an extended family member of ours!!!! We want to help them so badly, but they WILL NOT ask for help and they do NOT want it brought up. But now they are having a severe mold issue in their (very dilapidated) home because of the hoarding!! They need to declutter and get out of there! Truly, it's like you're speaking right to them! I've tried casually sharing a couple of your videos with them before saying how you've completely changed OUR lives!! I would hate for them to have a serious emotional meltdown if the time comes that their home needs to be condemned. We want to help them go through their items in a low stress way while there's still time. How can we help???
I’m still following your process for downsizing. Being older it takes a little longer but I’ve really gotten so much better with your method and Dawn’s and FlyLady, who contributes to the process in profound ways. Your way I actually think is the best, but only acquired it 😮by listening over and over. TY. Right now I do have Christmas clutter still at this age. I shall begin.
Dawn who? Looking for any other sources of tips & inspiration.
@@MlSSadventure Dawn is from “The Minimal Mom” on TH-cam.
Cas from Clutterbug is great too!
@@katherinerotnicki5910 I’m such a Minimal Mom that I’m child-free! 😆
I’m disabled, so I move a lot slower. I can’t do the ‘take it there now’. I put things in boxes and then take the boxes there when they are full. I actually tend to gut an area, have a huge mess, pull out items to donate/sell, then put back in.
BUT, my secret is that I HIRE a middle schooler to do a lot of that. I’ll help out until I’m in too much pain, but then sit and direct him.
I've watched this before but, watching it again now, I really appreciate the kindness. I really beat myself up over the seeming inability to get things done (or started) and this was a way of testing the waters again. I can look for trash. Yes!
I'm new to all this but find the concept so motivating that I have started purging. My house is making me sick mentally and has been for years. I am not a hoarder but have too much stuff. This video helped me a lot. I have a junk drawer that is mostly tools in the kitchen, it is too much and disorganized. I did the 'remove trash', got a small handful, went to 'would I have known I had this' well I suspected so then to 'if I was going to look for this' and the answer kept coming up 'here in this drawer '. So what next? Do I relocate some things? I am tempted to dump the drawer out. Put what I want back in the drawer and re-home the rest. This totally leaves me open to having another mess. Help. Am I missing a step?
I think your plan to dump it out, keep what goes there, and rehome (or even donate😉) the rest is a great idea! 🙂
Some organizers recommend dumping it all in a box & pull out things as you need them. After a year, find a new home 4 certain items. & toss the rest.
You're not missing a steep at all. You can do that. Though if it's tools that aren't kitchen tools like a hammer, screwdriver etc. I would recommend getting a tool box and rehoming things there. For kitchen tools, I would put them at the place of performance. Do you always use a certain area to make something and always need that tool, then put it somewhere in that area, so you're not running all over the kitchen to get things you need when you need them.
I recently got a lot of clutter out of my house and overall I feel more decisive. I feel I can sleep better and I feel more energized to work on stuff. And breaking it into steps really helps. Do a little now, do a little later. Like any project, don't feel like you have to get it all done at once. Thank yourself when you make progress :)
This has pretty much been my method for many years. I hate pulling apart a room only to feel worse when the mess explodes. I do a drawer here and there or pull one or two items from my closet. It's also going to work for maintenance too.
I don't think I've ever commented before but I want to say that I just love you! I love your books (audio version is fabulous!) and your videos. While listening to this video I walked around my messy kitchen and threw out trash and I already feel better. THANK YOU for making it simple. God bless!
Just heard you in a podcast. I found you here on TH-cam and subscribed! I really loved your tips and helped me understand why I can’t keep up with the house!
I just finished decluttering my whole house (including junk outside). Now I need to organize and clean! I never thought about it that those are 3 separate things and I don’t have to do all three at the same time!
Great to 'see' you today Dana, thanks for the encouragement. I hope you and yours enjoyed a great holiday.
Lucky for me, the gift unwrapping was done at another family members home! There is only a little trash to deal with here. However the kitchen is another story, so I'm off to "do the dishes" and store/meal plan the leftovers. If that's all that gets accomplished today; it's a great day. Thanks Dana
I saw you on the Mel Robbins Podcast - and your method is making so much sense and giving me the hope that I could make progress too.
I can tell that you have been through it all yourself, with your clutter threshold, that's why your process is so relatable.. Thank you!
You’ll never know how important what you just said is to me right now. I now have a game plan for every time I walk into a room and I am overwhelmed! Thank you, thank you, thank you! 9:41
Lol! Thats how i get frozen overwhelmed YESSS! THK U! yrs to declutter trying to have That mindset
I LOVE Reid’s comments at the end…I totally noticed how good your hair looks! 😂
My biggest problem is the but I might use it. Like the hair pre-treatment that I don't use. But I'm convinced it's coz it's been hidden on my dressing table. But I don't use it so just get rid of it! I get So frustrated with myself. Yes I feel like a failure coz I've been at it over a year and I'm still decluttering. My biggest problem is it takes time to donate coz I don't have a car and I don't want to throw out useful stuff.
Thanks for the motivation. We tend to say "we might need this one day" and after years the days never come lol Ive been ripping old receipts and paperwork from over ten yrs ago!
I just found you on TH-cam. Talk about changing a mindset! Forgive me, this is only the second video I have watched, but you really opened my eyes. I won't go into specifics, but I have always been a great organizer, and I have helped many friends organize. However, I have just realized that I am not great at de-cluttering. I have a basement full of stuff I have been trying to get through for 3 years. There is not enough room for a staging area, but I was using the keep, donate, trash method as best I could. It did not take me long to get overwhelmed and give up. I am low energy, so I have to work in short periods of time, and I don't want to move things more than once. I am definitely going to start using your methods. Maybe 2023 will be the year I can finally get it done. Is there a digital version of your book? Thank you!
Yes there are digital versions on iBooks so probably other platforms too. I am also low energy with ME/CFS and Dana’s method works really well. Best wishes.
Also on amazon kindle
We wrote down all the categories needing gone through in our basement. Clothes, exercise equipment, dishes, etc. We are just now finishing those three areas after Jan and Feb. but we are making something better daily and staying motivated. It's like losing weight. Only one half of a pound after a week's effort is progress.
Finally, I found the treasure I have been looking for after all this time. A lady who has simplified 'housework' (or drudgery for want of a better word). I've been swimming against the tide for years. Thank you, Dana, for putting things in a much more optimistic way. You are wonderful.
HUGE help !!!!! i am trying to fix a " Man mess " in an inherited home from my Pops
it is clean but STUFF is all throughout.... it must go but i havent had a good game plan
thanks a much----- TIME TO START 😁
My entire problem is decluttering. I have just moved and cannot bring myself to part with any of my belonging because they are mostly good quality and/or cost me a lot to obtain. Almost all things I own are high end, I just have too much and too many stuff. 😭
The best thing I did to de-clutter paper was to invest in the Freedom Filer system. Each of the color-coded categories means something. Whether a document is 2 years old or 10 years old it will fit in this system. There are permanent documents (birth and death certificates, social security cards, pink slips for cars, etc.) I learned that any document that was more than 10 years old needed to go. When I did this I took 12 BAGS OF SHREDDED MATERIAL OUT OF MY OFFICE. Not whole house -- just one room. I still have a huge job to do, but it will get done one hour at at time.
Just got my daughter who suffers from depression to use this technique today. We got everything off the floor of her room. Most of it trash.
I had such a Victory today - I found myself at the store and 50%. Off all Christmas stuff - I ended up touching over 15 things but Since I have been Enjoying the Decluttering Mindset over the last 3 plus years - I talked myself Easily out of EVERY item ( super deal but not quite what I was looking for, did not want to store, wrong color etc). I ended up Buying just a few items I Truly needed and a couple sets of drawer dividers to finish up what I started in a set of bathroom drawers too motivate myself for 2023. Watched your Video for More Motivation...have felt stuck on some projects lately - The Black trash bag idea is So Funny because it’s Right on, such an Amazing place to get started 😂 in years past I never would have realized it was a thing but always feel accomplished and ahead after the process ( a tissue here, wrappers here then onto small garbages etc. ). Happy 2023 to you and your Family and for Superior Videos 🎉
So, de cluttering inheritance, the 2 phrases running thru my head now are, “Look for the few treasures” (Walsh) and look for the Trash! (DKWhite) . Thanks!!
Each item that leaves a space really helps clear a room. Christmas can get a little congested, but a little each day will pull it back together.
My major problem is I get so distracted, by all the stuff, really, anything shiny, interesting, odd,
Thank you so much! I really needed this particular message right now.
I’m here because im exactly going through what you most said in the first 10 seconds of this video lol
Thank you, Dana!
Loved this talk on decluttering- just what I needed to hear!
So positive!!!!
6:30 in, annnnnd now I’m crying. That’s me. It’s so hard. But now I see the 2nd question helps with the 1st task.
I went 36 years flying under the neurospicy radar. Now that I know why I have so much clutter (impulsive, dopamine hunting, indecisiveness, etc., due to misfiring neurotransmitters!) I’ve gotten a bit better the last 2 years now that I’m self-aware and medicated.
But it’s so hard to un-do so many years of the undiagnosed damage when everything looks like “I think I’ll need that one day” but that one day only happens every once in a blue moon because my out of sight, out of mind brain doesn’t even remember I have the thing in the first place.
I just have to do my best to get it all out and start new with the “where would I look for it” because right now, there aren’t any spots to hold anything in their “homes”.
Last week I threw out 2.5 garbage bags, it felt fantastic! We have an extra day this weekend and my goal is at least another 2 bags.
Thank you for your tips.
I’m going to go through more videos and keep soaking up the help. ❤
Ummm..... I'm really wishing I could see Reid White's hair now.
🔥🔥🔥First time seeing you. 🙏🏻So grateful for you. Thank you, THANK YOU!
The no mess method has been incredible for me to follow in my decluttering journey. Gone are the days when I pulled everything out of a space and after a while became overwhelmed and left the mess there for days and days and ……. Now I focus totally on the no mess method - love it. Forever grateful for your videos and the take your house back course.
I'm partly stuck because back pain allows me to only do 5 minutes at a time and I feel things will never get done