The girl I'm dating once sent me a picture of herself and I told her I liked it. She later made it her profile picture and was asking me to like it. I refused on the basis that I already told her I liked the picture in person why does that need to be public? She wants people to see that she's in a loving relationship. She told me she wishes I would post "cute things" about her and post pictures of us and when I ask her why her answer is "It shows another, deeper, form of love. You're willing to show me off to the world and that's special." Just like how people post about their new Coach bag or Mercedes she wants me to post about her. It undermines true human connection and has totally altered what some people define as love. The fact that one's expression of love is tied to their actions on social media is truly a tragedy. This concept of meta information behind a post is something I can't stand either. If one was TRULY happy in their relationship they wouldn't need others to validate it. It's turned our social interactions into a competition that no one even realizes they're playing. F*** social media
Yes social media does tend to enable bad habits from people that still think that the quantity of people that like something is more important than the who that likes it(the who being you, the quantity being some abstract mob).
I stopped using Facebook in 2015(I'm glad i did). Living in the moment is another thing the social media has ruined. People are more caught up with taking photos/videos rather than just be in the moment.
For me it’s because of the ready access to camera and video, and the human condition, why I take photos in the moment, it’s not for social media purposes in my case.
Or they do things to brag on social media. I hike and have to push past crowds to the first viewpoint where everyone takes their selfie and goes home. They're not doing it because they're interested in it, they're doing it to brag to their friends.
Wow Ankit I too stopped using Facebook in 2015 and also glad I did. I never got onto other social media platforms either. I will add that I found myself spending far more time scrolling through peoples feds and responding to threads with conversations that were going nowhere. At first, I didn't seem to care about when someone posted a picture of there meal or anything like that. But a sorta boredom and desire for more easy input of useless information drove me to start paying attention to more and more useless posts. It was then that I decided to stop.
im using facebook basic feature, im using facebook to search insight like memes, social group to discuss and debate on what im interested in. now kid with tendency to show off is migrate to instagram so im free of it. now it just meme and facebook group
When I was doing a set of exams back in the summer, I managed to complete a 30 day detox of social media, (my reasons were that it would open up a lot of previously wasted time that could be spent more efficiently studying), and my effects were profound. Firstly, the days didn’t race past me anymore, I had time to reflect, and even get bored. It encouraged me to read more books. Also I found that what you miss on the internet is really never going to have an adverse effect on you, or affect the relationships that you have.
Hey I've managed to be off social media for a year now and recently made a documentary about my experience being disconnected for a month long experiment that I reckon you'd enjoy, its my most recently uploaded. Thanks if you check it out :)
@@Sturla-Tyr, The one thing that sets it apart for me imo is that there's lots of educational content that is really helpful and you don't have to look at the views,likes/dislikes, and comments if you don't want to.
Sturla Moltzau it lacks many of the key elements that make social media detestable by some people. Except from maybe some comments sections, we aren’t drowned in self doubt because the people we watch and interact with are usually strangers; they act more as inspiration rather than competition. Take instagram, you would follow your friends and occasionally celebrities. Although with instagram the average person also posts to the platform, whereas on youtube we just consume content, alleviating the constant comparison.
Mass Debator, I have a question; did your 30 day detox of social media include youtube? I'm thinking of potentially doing something similar and would like to know if you stopped using 'all' social medias. Personally, I feel youtube is different as you can choose what you're watching on a more personal level, and you don't have to come face-to-face with the 'social media influencers' if you don't want to (basically just don't watch certain youtubers vlogs). Twitter is also kind of similar in the sense that you chose who you follow, however, you will also get something that you just disagree with on twitter and it's also a really bad echo chamber. For me, instagram has to be the worst of all. its essentially a bunch of people living fake lives, which have no true reflection of their actual lives (the majority of the time).
We're of the same mind on this subject. What worries me is the decreasing popularity of TH-cam vs Insta, and worse, Tiktok. Younger people are gravitating more and more towards rapid reward dopamine hit material. Attention spans are shortening, and this preference for 10 second video clips, over longer, more thought provoking films (like yours), is, I worry, causing some serious mental damage. I wonder how "quality" will be defined in the future, or will the generations being raised on this new wave of "content" be angry at us, their parents, for not stopping them from gorging empty, thoughtless, trash.
Here in the future one year later and it’s even worse. However I heard that Facebook and Twitter are getting in trouble with the U.S government and Tik Tok will hopefully get banned
I barely use tiktok myself for these exact reasons but my mom who is born in the 60’s is really into it. I’m sure it’s mainly a generational thing but we’re all just humans and I worry that no one will actually question this in the future, that the majority will be “converted” (hate to use that word) And I’m afraid future technology will only allow for the worsening of this effect
Great message. Sometimes I feel really sad when I see people just taking pictures here and there, smiling just when the camera is on and being all stressed before and after taking the video or photo. Girls wearing high heels just so they can look good on the picture or bringing clothes with them, so they can change before shooting. It really makes me sad because it is not about making memories, it is about looking a certain way so other people can judge and evaluate you. Like you are not enough.
I agree, and it's worse than that I think - it's people no longer seeing things just as they are but rather how will this look on Instagram, etc. It makes the things that were once meaningful, just everyday life, connections, surroundings, bland. The constant distraction is detrimental in so many ways.
You basically nailed why I don't use social media, either. I just could never put it in to words. Since I'm in my early 20's, people think I'm weird when I tell them I don't use it. Now I have words to explain myself. Thanks!
You are spitting true facts man. As social media as it says "social" should be a method where people meet and share their thoughts rather than scrolling useless feeds
I stopped using Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram around 3 years ago. But in the beginning it was hard -- most of my social activities were planned through Facebook. When your friends wanted to invite you to a party, etc. It becomes near impossible to keep up with anyone but your close friends. Nowadays it's fine. But that period of getting used to is difficult.
@@miguelzavaleta1911 I never used Instagram nor a fan of Twitter. But these sites are designed to be like drugs, once you hooked up, its hard to let go. and boy I was hooked up, I tweeted about 10k tweets, created 40-50 FB pages and groups. I was always trying to get likes by random strangers, I felt sad I any of my posts didn't got enough likes. I found myself constantly searching what to post next. scrolling through friends feeds. I was in illusion that I need social network to be happy but in fact it was making me miserable. Then one day I decided to stop it all together, few weeks was really tough. The only kind of social network I use is TH-cam IDK at least this feels right. Change is hard but worth the effort. P.S. I still have my old Facebook account active (turns out its really hard if not impossible to remove my personal data from Facebook servers) but I don't feel the urge to open it.
@@AmitKumarKhare Not only for the people that constantly post on social media, people like me that never post but using it on a regular basis also find it difficult to control the usage of it. They hooked everybody whether they are active poster or not, especially instagram. I think it's the only product where the consumer is not the king, but it's slave.
I ditched Facebook about 4-5yrs ago now, because I realised i just couldn't care enough about being proxy outraged about issues that I knew nothing about, yet were having pushed upon me by those who I was connected to. I switched off all notifications and emails from it, and removed it from my phone, so that I broke the habit. I use Twitter a lot, but probably have more accounts and words/phrases blocked than accounts that I actually follow. I try to only tweet when I have something positive/constructive to say or contribute to, and mute/unfollow/block accounts and topics that start to lean towards the proxy rage that i left on Facebook. It's made me feel happier as a person, and less stressed about things I cannot possibly know or affect. As for TH-cam, lately, as someone who does not have a TV, I've begun to subscribe to a small number of channels, and am now regularly commenting on those videos. It feels like it has become more of a social channel for me, as people reply, and the content generally holds my interest.
youtube is a social media, and youtubers are somewhat similar to posters since most of them alter their behaviour according to their target audience..... yeah talk about meta eh?
"So the whole game that our culture is playing is that nothing really happens unless it's in the newspaper. So when we're at a party, and it's a great party, somebody says, It's too bad there wasn't a tape recorder. And so our children begin to feel that they don't exist authentically unless they get their names in the papers, and the fastest way of getting your name in the papers is to commit a crime. And then you'll be photographed, then you'll appear in court, and everybody will notice you. It really happened if it was recorded. In other words, if you shout, and it doesn't come back and echo, it didn't happen." - quote from 'Out of your mind' lecture by Alan Watts (1915-1973) This phenomena you have identified, the element of human behavior you're referencing is something that is enabled by social media - but not caused by it. Alan Watts refers to this in many of his lectures made in a time before the internet.
ok... but social media does not just simply "enable" this phenomena. it's hyper-instantly-enabled. non stop. you don't have to wait for the newspaper to print, you don't have to wait to appear in court. in fact the phenomena is made far worse due to the fact that there isn't any filter. you can say anything, and even if it gets deleted later, people will still have seen it.
I agree, while social media makes this way easier, it's not the core problem but a tool that allows for more extensive execution of this behavior. Everyone should be aware of this, but it's definitely not a reason to completely stop using social media - tools can be used for good and for bad, it's how you use it what makes the difference.
@@JamesJames-gc2kl, I totally agree. People don't realize that there are physical repercussions that follow these emotions. You can literally real stabbed in the back by unpleasant or hateful comments. And you can raise cortisol, our stress hormone, and hold it in your tissues in the form muscle tightness or adhesions (knots). It is an unnecessary strain on the mind and body.
Social media helps us develop a story about ourselves. It lets you play a game to paint the picture of your life in whatever colours you deem to fit. And you get cough up in the story. It creates an ilusion, that you are, in fact, your soicial media profile, and your experiances are just tools to update your profile.
You know what Derek. Since day one seeing your videos was incredibly inspiring, interesting. Now I understand why, you're actually thinking, and willing to contemplate. Thank God there is still people using their minds to view the world objectively, critically.
I had an Instagram account but never used it, so I closed it. I had a Facebook account but soon realised that none of the 'friends' I had on there were actual friends. My actual friends I communicated with face-to-face, not through the internet. So, that got deleted. Twitter is the most pointless thing ever. I had an account, but when I realised I didn't need one to read tweets from my favourite people, I deleted it. TH-cam is actually an addiction. Literally an addiction. I'm trying to wean myself off of it completely, but doing so is proving to be harder than that effeort it took to quit smoking. Hence, my saying that it's an addiction. Look at the channels you're subscribed to and ask yourself if it really is essential to watch their videos. If you're honest with yourself, the answer is "no". Just let go of it and turn yourself from a consumer to a producer. You'll find life much more fulfilling and exciting.
There are some channels that are useful though. First, educational videos. But there are also thought provoking channels such as Vsauce, Podcasts of all sorts, and more. Depending on your interests, these might be worth looking at.
Agree agree agree . I deleted facebook 2 years ago . Not used instagram since a year. but youtube it surely is an addiction . Not that i watch anything bad but 'ostly irrelevant to my main life. I need to focus and study but I want to watch something "interesting" . because of TH-cam I have lost the ability to deep focus. I am not able to focus 100% . So I don't give my best . It's embarrassing to say this. Wish I could get all the time I spent on the website . And will very conciously view anything hence forth. 🙅
I'm happy to see I'm not alone with this problem. I also love watching interesting stuffs. And I also have problems with my focus. I think I've managed to control it better when I'm at work but otherwise, it is so difficult to stop watching. I'm passionate about science and how thing works, how they are made, how to build stuffs,... I could continue on and on. I have the feeling my brain would collapse if I was not feeding it with knowledge.
If you go through all of the things in your life through a lens of "is this essential for me", you'll find the end product to be a pretty empty life. There's more than just essentiality and productivity in life. If you don't dedicate some time for things that are purely just for fun, I don't know how you could ever enjoy life.
@@St1C3r That's true. You can't really produce, unless you get ideas and thoughts from somewhere and from those forge your own ideas. That's how this video and all other videos are made.
I took a break from most social media last year between the midterm election and New Years and felt that it was beneficial. I excluded TH-cam from this break because it is the primary source for my visual entertainment, and I make educational videos so staying up to date with what the EDU community is doing is important. During this break I found myself checking my phone nearly as often but without the infinite feeds of Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram I was doing it for shorter periods of time. I also found myself getting angry less often and overall happier. I'm reintroducing it into my life right now but with the caveat that I can't have it on my phone, which is where I'm more likely to get suckered in.
sam A. I agree it can be a waste of time, but I feel that watching related videos endlessly has more to do with self-control / discipline, as opposed to the other social media platforms like facebook and instagram which are heavily centered around self-esteem and validation - which is far more destructive for anyone’s personality. TH-cam can used for validation, but it is not on the same scale as the aforementioned.
That is true. however the difference is that social media has amplified those "insecurities" and made them visible to more people, which in turn resulted in exponentially more insecurities.
@@vftvmv I don't think you can compare the gun argument with social media. Social media is not an inanimate object that simply exists until someone picks it up. Social media is an adaptive medium that actively stimulates it's users. When you post on social media, you aren't just putting a picture on a wall for everyone to see. The platform itself is designed to sift out 'good and relevant' posts for each individual. Perhaps social media of yesteryear was more inline with your sentiment, but it is not simply a place you share things these days, it is much more nuanced even if that nuance is hidden behind complicated machine learning AI, it makes decisions for the user. A far cry from picking up a gun and pulling the trigger.
That’s not true though. A platform is only as good as what it rewards. Instagram rewards shallowness, vapidness, because it harnesses jealousy which encourages repeated usage. It’s all about what will increase engagement because that’s how companies measure success. That’s why all the influencers look the same. It is behavior modification. Same goes for twitter which encourages aggressive behavior by restricting the character amount. It is well known within academia that all aggressive messages have restricted word usage. Hence “fuck You” gets more likes than say, this comment might. It’s all about increasing engagement. We are being manipulated. Please watch this video, the man in it has a 190 IQ: th-cam.com/video/dmXcjvL9VSc/w-d-xo.html He is much smarter than me:) thank you!
There is some hypocrisy in a professional TH-camr preaching to us about the evil of social media. I know this is meant in the best way, but it comes off as being a preachy "look at how much better I am than YOU". Like everything, too much of anything is bad. Including TH-cam.
I understand. I have pulled back from my brief fling with social media because it was giving me odd emotional extremes. At first, I was just a voyeur then I wanted to be actually social with comments and posts. Then I found that not receiving reply commentary, likes, hearts and such made me feel upset. And the opposite made too happy. I did not enjoy this teeter-tottering contrast. Even commenting here, gives me strange anticipatory anxiety. I suppose I will sort it out and put the emotions in perspective even with my limited engagement.
Simone Williamson No, you're right. It feels like getting a Christmas present when you get a lot of likes and comments, and it feels extremely disheartening when you don't get enough or don't get them from certain people. It's better to share things with people personally.
@@WarpPal, I don't really consider this a problem since social media doesn't occupy a significant part of my life. I know that will change eventually as everyone's online presence becomes tied to our finances. So the best that can be done is to consume content that has depth and meaning. In that way, it's the content and not the social interaction that becomes the focus. And then I consider any commentary I make to be like giving without expectation of returns. It makes what I say fully expressive so I am satisfied and don't need a reply.
Science Compliance, that's the weird thing, I don't interact with people I know online. The whole thing is unsettling to me because it's strangers. I when I started to become really upset about my favorite TH-camrs not replying, I totally had to stop and check myself. I had to recognize that some of them had massive followings so replying to comments is a straight up chore. To avoid the reply itchies, I only comment if I catch a video within the first few hours of its upload. Otherwise, I just like and maybe share.
@@simonewilliamson6766 I think what you touched on about sharing with the sole intent of sharing rather than doing it for response is key. It's great that you've caught on to the addictive qualities of it all. Now you can make the conscious choice of being a part of it or not. Noticing how we react to the dopamine rush and how we choose to react to that feeling is the best way to learn about yourself and focus on self work to relieve yourself from the anxiety of allowing your sense of self worth to be manipulated by your social interactions.
It's the same problem with filming fireworks, a couple of days later you will never looked back at those firework videos again, it's better to just live the moment.
Me and my wife made a point of this last year after coming across fireworks videos from the year before. Some things are best enjoyed by the eyes alone. It's almost like we record everything in case someone says you're lying about it.
Social media makes me feel unpopular because I do not post photos or video. I have very few followers on Twitter. I avoid Facebook. I used to make opinion videos on TH-cam but that made me feel like I was violating others just by talking about them, so I removed my videos. My ONLY use of social media is commenting. Commenting makes me feel empowered. But my TH-cam comments are buried in obscurity. My account is fairly old and I would LOVE to see what my first comment was and how my commenting evolved over time.
If you go to th-cam.com/users/feedhistory and go to the comments tab, just middle click your mouse and you can scroll all the way down to your first comment ever. Just need to find something else to do while it's auto-scrolling. I actually just did this a couple weeks ago, and some of my oldest comments from 4 years ago are pretty cringey :P
@@41A2E Thanks for the tip. Okay, I've tried this twice now and both times it went back to comments 10 years ago with the very last comment saying 11 years ago. This dates it to about January 2008. My account was started July 2006. So there are certainly comments that may be lost in time. I don't remember all of the videos I was watching back in 2006 but I do remember Keyra Augustina was popular back then because her face was unrevealed and this made her more compelling and mysterious. She had videos of herself dancing to ZZ Top (later these had the sound muted by TH-cam). At the time it was very cool and mesmerizing. Yes, boys and girls, that was a long time ago. We had to surf the internet by candlelight because the lightbulb had not been invented yet. We would attach a team of horses to the generator to power up the WIFI. And cellphones were really just potatoes. Yep, those were the days.
@@earthpet I could easily see this to be the case, as super old comments I've seen are kinda glitchy-- probably are encoded differently from how they are now. While I only made my account in 2014, I have been a regular youtube viewer since around 2010, and still watched the occasional video all the way to the beginning. Interesting anecdote, just last night I was looking for a song, and got a seemingly unrelated suggestion of Robin Shulz - Sugar. I was curious as to why it was suggested so I clicked on it. In the music video they hired Nathan Barnatt, and while I didn't remember the name, people in the comments said he was a youtuber. I went to check him out and I was like "OOOOOOHH! I remember this guy!!" TH-cam was quite literally the wild west back then; I remember actually stumbling onto some soft-core porn. . .(No I wasn't searching for it, it was actually a recommended video.
You are telling the exact same thing I was thinking about a year ago when I deleted my Facebook account. Thank you for sharing this. I hope allot of people pick this up and start thinking about it too.
I really like this comment for highlighting the fact that TH-cam isn't so far removed from 'social media'. In another comment I made, I said that I believe there's a good argument that TH-cam is in fact social media too. Making this video confusing to seriously digest (for me).
I love how you take the feeling i have about things and turn them into spoken logical arguments. It feels like im a little kid, having my mind opened to me. Do you do this to your kid?
Lutyano Alves they’re a bit young. When they’re older I’ll try to avoid ranting at them but rather try to ask questions and give them time to think through their answers
I'm forced to use so many different social media platforms since different ppl have different preferred methods of communication with me. Otherwise, I don't spend as much time on them.
I deleted my Facebook and only used Instagram sparingly for a year and a half, and it was so beneficial to my mental health. Now I’m back, and it’s depressing lol.
I agree with you. I don't like social media for the same reasons. It feels like everyone now wants to have lots of followers, even if they are not content creators. So the pictures that end up being posted are those that are the best at generating likes and followers and not those that represent who you are. But I think TH-cam is different for two reasons: 1. High quality videos are much harder to produce that pictures or captions (and it's much harder to present a fake version of your life through video compared to pictures) 2. The content on TH-cam is posted mostly by serious content creators. Because not every user posts content on the platform, there's less noise. I hope TH-cam will remain like this and not degerate into a platform everyone posts content on.
That moment when you feel so alone when you’re out with your friends and they are all posting on Facebook , taking and uploading pictures, laughing at their phone, completely ignoring you..and you’re like...uhh I knew I should have stayed home..
This irritates the living hell out of me. I actively avoid using my phone in any way when I'm with people, I just think it's pretty rude and I just don't see why, even when people have company, it's never enough. You're not as interesting to them because they're seeing everyone's highlight reel and eating it up and most likely feeling inadequate about themselves.
Derek, you're right about the unauthentic. I quit my job to travel to South America and found myself taking less pictures. I just enjoy the sunsets and rides without getting the camera or stopping my moment to record. I'm sharing less and less because it's taking the authenticity of my journey away.
I quit facebook simply because I couldn't wrap my head around the fact that I was spending time looking at other people's lives, when you can actually never invest enough time in your own life.
I totally agree. These media platforms (Instagram) give users the power to show their lives in only the best way possible and it gives the followers an unrealistic impression of what their own life should be like. People post themselves out in nature looking over a cliff with the sunset and it gives people the idea that these Instagrammers live in a perfect ideal world when in reality, their lives are nothing like that. When people see only the good aspects of other peoples lives it's sure to create some degree of jealousy and resentment for what they aren't doing. I think it's been proven that many of these social media platforms cause depression and other mental illness in people, especially teenagers.
I agree Nick that these Social Media platforms portray the Lives of these people as being perfect and hassle free , and that this causes jealousy and resentment wishing that our Lives are better.. In my opinion , I see it as Deception and Lies on the part of people who post pictures exclaiming that they live perfect lives.
I agree. I'm personally 10 mo ths into not posting anything on Facebook or Instagram because I found myself playing this "game" it's unhealthy and ego centric. Although I now want to post this to social media to try and highlight to fellow friends the damage they are doing to themselves. Since not posting, I've done many cool things. And never even bothered to photograph them. Enjoy the moment for what it is only :)
You said it all, Derek. It even makes me sad to see people in a certain place preparing to "fabricate" pictures to build a persona, with fake smiles that are gone as soon that photo is taken.
You're a rare gem on youtube. I appreciate your insight on various topics, this one included. It's not surprising to hear your perspective on social media due to, as you put it, the "narcissistic playground where you only rise to the top if that's what you're doing." And you are opposite of that. Your videos are enlightening and entertaining. Anyway, I appreciate your rant. cheers from Seattle.
This is a great video. I went to a gig in London once and had to leave my phone at the door, the band requested this because they were tired of looking at a crowd on phones and folks taking selfies, they wanted people to be mentally in the room with them and enjoy the music. I thought it was a great idea but bizarrely it was a deal breaker for some.
Jack White did this on his last tour. And despite the discomfort of having our phones locked up, it was a delightful and memorable concert. It seemed to last longer because of the forced focus.
the fact that it was a dealbreaker for some, shows you how far the anti-social disease has progressed. 20 years ago, this was a non-issue. and in fact, the prevailing public opinion was that you were an asshole if you walked into a show with your phone turned on.
culwin at the concert, we kept our phones, but they were locked in a bag that we held onto. Was a cool experiment, but time consuming, and probably not practical. Especially in a few years when the phones move to our glasses. Might be more practical to affix venues with faraday cages. 😂
Sign off suggestion and reasoning: "So, this is where I am right now, and I'll see you guys down the road." I like that you physically go places to talk about the subjects of your videos. Sometimes you're already there, at like a lab where they study gravitational waves, or a seed storage bunker 800 miles from the North Pole. And sometimes it just seems like you're aimlessly walking somewhere while you introduce a topic or pose a question, until you'll reveal where you are and how it ties into the thing you're talking about. But sometimes you don't do that at all, like in this video, and I start to guess whether you chose your backdrop for aesthetic reasons, or symbolic ones. Your hike through a cold and lonely mountain path could be representative of the isolation of social media...Or it could just be a nice quiet place to work on a video. So that's why I suggest the thing at the top as your sign off, as a reference to both your ever changing locations, and to science in general being a constantly evolving truth (in which case you could vary it sometimes and say "this is where we are" instead of "I am"). And when it's an opinion piece, it works as a statement about where you are in your personal growth and development, which for all of us is ever changing as well. Second Suggestion: "But hey that's just my opinion. You no likey??? Get bent dumb butts"
I like that this. Both of them. It breaks the illusion of Derek feeding us the truth because he is smarter and makes these videos and it actually makes us, often passive viewers, actually think about this point. In a bit of a hyperbole, there is nothing just like saying "what I just said might be all wrong and false" at the end and abruptly cutting the video after that - to stimulate our thought processes.
Man, just saw this vid earlier and I love how you think. I actually got that feeling of finding out it's nonsense in the bigger picture if you were too indulged in social media. Months ago, I decided to "clean up" my twitter, insta and facebook and follow only those pages or content creators that create knowledgable projects and facts (and also those contents related to my hobbies and passion), making my feed "boring" for others, but I loved it. I'm in the perspective of wanting to learn more outside of my field since I'm taking my degree currently in engineering. Please keep on making those valuable vids and inspire others to never stop learning.
Photography is one of my biggest hobbies. I started way before the internet was a thing, even learning how to develop the pictures. I do this just for myself, thus praise for my pictures is not really important to me. If I'm not happy with a picture, people telling me how great it is won't change my mind. I never really liked taking pictures of people or occasions because they always seem fake to me. And I get annoyed when others start taking pictures as memories, because that feels like interrupting that moment. People pose, put on fake smiles and try to show themselves the way they want to be seen. The result is more often than not a different person in my eyes. Because of that I try to do stealthy pictures for my own memories (if I really really want to). That way it doesn't feel like interrupting as much at occasions and I get more natural portraits. The depicted persons usually don't like how they look on those, but I can fondly view these pictures and remember the moments with a smile. (No worries, I never would post or spread any pictures taken this way and I show them to my "victims" anyway after taking them.)
the problem with social media for me is the fact that it encourages you to want instant gratification by comstantly refreshing to see how many likes you have when in reality we shouldnt value ourselves based upon likes given by others
Very good video, Derek. I actually think like you, that's why I've dropped facebook already several years ago. I'm basically against this very narcissistic type of stuff. But what I find appalling is that even in "respected" professions, one seems to be obliged to rely on this kind of said tool to gain visibility. Look, I'm an a physicist. In science today, if you don't work with famous people or with a so-called science guru (according to some bizarre classification system) in some stage of your early career, it's very difficult to stand out. As in everything else, there's too much content in current science, papers are written like looking for "hit songs", and people select what they read. So there's a massive emphasis in networking and showing off (sometimes more than in doing the hard work), because popularity is what at the end of the day gets you a job in science, or gets you fundings if you already have tenure. So, even if I've given up on facebook, I have a ResearchGate profile, what some people call "the facebook of scientists". I need to have a Linkedin account. And oh man, you cannot deny how shallow Linkedin has become, with massive sharing of "inspirational" crap and useless content. And being a scientist, I feel somehow betrayed. I don't know what to do with this frustration and I sincerely hate seeing scientists acting like pop stars in social media. The situation is disturbing and discouraging, because even big universities are now advicing on how to improve your visibility using all these crapy platforms. And I just feel like building a time machine to come back to the moment in human history where doing science was enough.
I'm starting a journal that I write a brief summary of the things I did or experienced each day. It gives me time to be introspective and a way of remembering events similar to photos, but without having the stop a genuine moment to take the picture in the first place.Of course there's nothing wrong with photos, but this works for me right now.
Yeah! I did that for an exchange trip I had in early 2018. I don't remember much of the first days, because I didn't write about them on the journal, but every time I read the other entries, I get really defined and specific memories from those days in Denver. I was thinking about doing something like that for my life in general. It works.
My suggested sign-off phrase: don't have one. Using one makes me feel more like "this is over, go think about / do something else now". Without one, stopping to think about what I just watched/listened to is more natural.
Velcro shoes are so much easier! Why are shoelaces still a thing, besides being fancy?!
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@@Skjoldmc Velcro is too quick to die. Gets filled with junk, and will be weaker over time. My favorite one so far is those "quick laces" that are made of a rubber band and some tightening thingies. They don't get loose, no matter what terrain you're going on. And gives a bit of elastic fit to the feet, that is a pretty nice feeling. Regular laces are cheaper to make, i guess. (See, it's not that hard to start a conversation about shoelaces 😀)
That is exactly what I was thinking of today. Social media made me sad, sometimes feel envy, feel nothing, always compare my self with others. I was not this kind of person before. I think I should do the same and focus on my life again.
Am i anti social media if i have never really cared about it. I dont care if someone posts about their rubbish holiday or amazing holiday i am just not interested regardless. The only use of social media i have really used is the messaging or learning through reddit/forums or youtube which is great
I don't feel the need to cancel my account, but I have struggled a long time with finding the right place for SM in my life. I am always a work in progress, but I am happy where I have have landed on this issue currently. I have decided to keep SM in that space where I am not at work, I am not with family and friends, and I am not in the midst of a significant experience. If I can check those three boxes, then I will peek into SM and maybe even contribute a post. I have also found great value in finding people on SM. If I need a contractor or musician, or if someone else needs something SM has helped me connect with the people that I know could help others. They get work and I get help. It's good for that kind of thing.
liked for the ironic use of hashtags. Edit: I feel bad leaving a crappy comment on such a good video, so I'll add that the video put to more concrete words a lot of otherwise vague feelings. You're right, it no longer serves its original purpose of keeping people in touch. There were a lot of little details that didn't sit right with me about Facebook in particular, though: 1) The like/reaction system. They settled on their own set of emotions - liked, loved, laughed, angered, surprised, and saddened - likely to build a model of what engages people. That tells me they're manipulating people's engagements, but it doesn't tell me how and imagining all the ways in which they might be able to do that actually terrifies me. 2) Throughout that neat little spectrum of motives they've provided as an alternative to the simple 'liked', there is still no real distinction between a positive and negative engagement - all engagement is assumed to be positive. As long as they've engaged a lot of people (healthily or otherwise) the post is highlighted/used as the synopsis of a 100+ comment thread/pushed to the top(ish) of the feed. Facebook has a really manipulative business strategy. I wouldn't be surprised if they control/use boredom (read: unstimulating posts) on their platform too, to combat the engagement equivalent of banner blindness. Anyway, sorry for the original crappy comment. Hope this made up for it. Love your stuff, cheers~
I'm not exactly anti social media but I agree with all of your points. My biggest problem with it is the fact that nowadays we are practically forced to use it. For example if I meet a cute girl and she gives me her number it is expected that we communicate only via WhatsApp. If I dare calling her I would be considered a weirdo. People tend to focus on how they and other people appear to be and not on what they are. Also social media kind forces us to appear a certain way by not allowing us to dislike something. You are only allowed to agree with or like a post but you cannot express your disagreement via a dislike button. In my opinion this is one of the reasons why people tend to not be able to deal with criticism or plain disagreement. They are used to see only agreement (which is interpreted by the brain as some kind of reward) or silence. It is for me the worst thing about social media.
Ethan b05 you are Lucky if WhatsApp is enough and you don’t need 10 other stupid profiles. Chat Programms are still okay i guess since calling is demanding there attention right away not knowing if the timing is bad. Even though I’m not a big fan of WhatsApp it’s the only thing you really need to have in my opinion.
I don't include WhatsApp as a SM ' thing'. To me it's plainly messaging, since I don't use the stories feature. Same with telegram which is miles better too imo.
Yes yes yes! This is exactly what has been going on in my mind about social media. It wasn't even a conscious decision for me, I just found that the more I thought about it all, the less interest I had in participating (similar to what you described)
I know how that feels, I dont use social media very often anymore and never liked the way we have to chose what we share or not, there is some "rules" socialbly accepted about what you need to be doing and with who to have status. it's boring, I never liked fame, I enjoy my privacy and being out of this run for being accepted or better or happier than others (apperently), it feels sick. But I also think that what you do, here and in your main channel, selected content about science and curiosity i feel like you're pushing us to do things different and making us real better persons, with content we'll never see on television or even documentary, you are the motivation for most people who have dream to change the world with knowledge, me included, thank you for your work and I only wish you the best!
I remember this one moment where I was feeling stressed and worried if I the photo I was taking was “beautiful enough” to capture the essence of the beautiful sunset in front of me, and then it suddenly hit me-why am I worrying and stressing out so much about capturing this moment, when I could just be -in- the moment and enjoying the scenery and take it all in in the present. Sometimes I wonder how differently people would live their lives if we couldn’t take photos or record with videos. Now when I take a photo, I try to think about the real intention behind my actions, and ask myself, “would I really want to remember this moment years down the line? Am I doing this for myself or just to impress other people? What’s the real story I want to tell behind this photo? Is the story that I want to tell have the intention of boosting my ego to make it -seem- like my life isn’t boring, or do I want to share a story that will have a meaningful impact, such as helping to expand people’s perspectives or to inspire people’s sense of wonder and curiosity? Is it a story I’d want to share with my future kids someday? Am I doing this to explore my own artistic expression, or just bc I want something IG worthy?” etc. Being aware of these types of meta issues around social media has helped me realize that I need to be more mindful and intentional about why I decide to take photos and record things. Sometimes I also like to reframe it in terms of if I was using a camera with actual film with a far more limited number of exposures, would I actually be willing to use an exposure for this moment? Would I actually be excited to get the film developed and hold a physical copy of it? Just some fun thought experiments to consider 🙂
@@98Zai I disagree about "needs people already have". I would say it capitalizes on vulnerabilities that are built in to being a human in society. They're not something we need, but we are drawn to it all the same.
Agree with 98Zai, it's not something created by social media. People literally stayed hours and paid experts just to get a picture of themselves before cameras were invented. Still, social media isn't just capitalising on it. The most appropiate word would be that social media is "abusing" people's need for attention.
My main argument is that by using social media extensively, you strip yourself off of privacy. No wait ! I'm not talking about companies selling your info. I remember afternoons spent with relatives and friends, sharing our experiences on vacations, talking about our lives... that's gone nowadays. People just look you up on social media and get the minimal amount of information to satisfy their curiosity, then move on. You have no need to go and see people to talk with them because you can just read their facebook timeline. This is what I call privacy. I want people to not know what I did and to ask me, I don't want to read about your vacations, I want you to tell me how you experienced it. I want a conversation, and social media is not a tool designed for this. It could be, but it's not in its current forms.
I only use social media when it suits me(calling, group-chat, not-so-close contacts etc), rather than the other way around. My use of it declined drastically 2 years ago mainly because it sux being there. The adds, the constant grab for attention by everything in sight. And it's not very social, ironically.
I have seen people who have gone through divorces or simply break-ups that use FB and other social media to torture themselves with jealousy and rage by watching the lives of their exes.. They also seem to be unable to stop, what they see hurts them deeply but they also can't stop watching for fear of missing something.
I was too lazy for social media (but I do waste a lot of time on games) now I just prefer using the time to make videos (and still enjoy games) so yeah, for me YT is the best social media :D
Oh man! Yes! It ends up being a competition to see who appears more interesting/fun but we all know that none of it is real . . and yet we all still compete.
When I was younger and single I used social media to gain a higher social status, as Ive gotten older and married, I don't care about that anymore so I use social media to connect with old friends, and family, and to share ideas without any selfish intentions. We have this image that all of social media is the same thing. That everyone is using it for vanity, and selfish reasons, but that is not the case. I know many people who dont post selfies, or posts about themselves at all ever. I know alot of people that post things about the world, and our society to help spread ideas, or to help others. Social media is what you make it. It can be used for selfish vain reasons or it can be a great tool for learning and helping.
great message - and food for thought. The sad thing is that social media taps in , - no actually relies - on people's need for acceptance. Today's society seems to have a much higher prevalence of mental health issues, esp anxiety and low self esteem, and social media wouldn't be half as popular if that weren't the case. I wonder whether that was in generations gone by. What's even sadder is that the dopamine hit of getting likes is more important than the 'hit' of being with someone authentically in person.
I am antisocial. I use social media strictly for the purpose of keeping in contact with the people I care about even if I don't care about what they eat or how adorable their kids are. Social media has brought me work and connections like none other.
DM Bara but you will eventually fall susceptible to the likes and comments system, if you yourself post (depending on how much you use social media obviously)
I don’t usually comment on videos on this platform, for one reason or another. But the idea of “The Tyranny of The Self” really resonated with me, and I will certainly be looking into that further. I quit most social media sometime between 6 months to a year ago. I favored twitter, and frequented a couple Facebook groups about guitar stuff. But I just found that these platforms were increasingly toxic and hostile spaces. Not in the sense that people often clash and disagree. That definitely happens. But more in the sense that any disagreement is met not with an opening to discourse, but with retaliation. One day I came to the conclusion that I just wasn’t gaining anything or being bettered in any way in places that were so overwhelmingly negative. Life sucks enough just by virtue of being life. I dont need to put myself through any more of that. Since I quit, I think my overall mental and emotional wellbeing have drastically improved.
I have never used social media (except youtube and discord) and I will keep it this way. The great thing about my decision is that I got to observe social media for years and still have a lot of time to observe even more. And I am an always observing person. In fact, I have now been observing the change of social media and social media itself for 6 years subcounciously and conciously for 4 years. Meanwhile it even got to the point, where I would start laughing inside, when recognizing patterns in people I am interacting with. The only problem is that I do not know how to tell other people, what I have observed. I only know how to observe, not how to tell. I might be able to tell some things to people that stand neutral to my point, but sadly I have no idea how to tell/explain the observed patterns to the people I have observed them from. And this is making me sad sometimes, because I do not even know how to help my own friend. Edit: All of my observations are real life observations, not on youtube or other social media platforms.
I didn't know it was cool now to be anti social media but I'm glad to hear it. I am anti social media, too. I used to be on fb but quit after noticing that I'd mindlessly scroll through my feed at any idle moment, and also it felt cringy to see what people were sharing, things that seemed vain or too personal or overly dramatic or self absorbed. I also disliked the marketers and people sharing their political or other agendas. It was literally a feed - feeding us stuff and it's addictive. Then I started using Instagram, before fb acquired them, to share my artwork. I got likes and followers and that motivated me to keep posting. Again it got addictive, both the posting and the feed scrolling and seeing how many followers or likes I got, and seeing people using their account to market stuff and sell stuff and then the ads. So I quit that. I've never used Twitter really. TH-cam is my latest addiction - I spend hours a day watching videos. It better than the others but still there's clickbait, there's marketing (you start following a fitness channel and they implicitly try and sell you a product), there's people sharing overly personal info because it brings subscribers and views, there's information in excess so that you watch and watch and don't achieve anything really. And it's hard to pull away because you grow attached to the people you're following and they grow better at getting you to watch their videos. So although the informational aspect is great, it's muddled with many of the Ills of other forms of social media.
Stupids all around me thinks that they are too smart and popular by posting ultra filtered pictures or tik tok junk on social media i wish they realize how those platform is controlling their mind and life and ruining their future!!! And youtube actually has a 100 times better impact on peoples life, knowledge etc. Personally helped me a lot
That's a well articulated point about social media that I really agree with. Another thing is that if people just learn about you on social media, or through texting, then there may be no reason for them to talk to you face to face and you may never discover the chemistry you have together. Analyzing someone's profile without their knowledge is an anti social activity. Texting is an anti social activity, because it's less social than calling, which is less social than face to face. I hadn't heard of the tyranny of the remembering self before, but I have thought before that everyone would be happier if they only relied on their memory of their life and not on pictures. With TH-cam, it's not so much that there is anything wrong with people uploading videos, it's that a person's youtube feed is eventually cultivated into an echo chamber of videos based on their interactions with the app. I.e. people are only exposed to videos that the algorithm thinks they will like. Granted, it's a really smart algorithm, but can we be certain that the algorithm isn't creating extremist echo chambers with views that could end up hurting society either physically or mentally and possibly on a massive scale?
Totally agree Derek. I am from the other part of the globe writing and I thought since the beginning of this new world that I wanted to maintain my uniqueness and dimension. I didn't want to get currupted with these means of "sharing". I think we should really think more, having time spent in nature. Nature is a big thing that most of people barely remembers... time spent listening to yourself and to what you're doing with your life. Not time spent scrolling the feed
everyone in social media is somehow waiting for their 15 minutes of fame. You forgot to mention tiktok, the new video platform to post short stupid videos
Well isn't it because that tik tok wasnt that prevalent 2 years ago? But on the other hand i totally agree with you on the fact that social media is a big bane; it has its limited benefits but overall its just reducing us to dopamine driven people. I remember there used to be a time where i could easily watch a 20 min episode completely engrossed into it. However these days i feel as if my attention span has reduced considerably and it takes more effort to concentrate on my work
I've completely stopped using Facebook. I now mainly use Twitter as a platform to discuss news, science, sports, religion and a bunch of other topics. I don't use any social media for keeping in touch with family or friends. I still prefer calling people or sending them a text message for that.
From the very beginning of my exposure to it, I was not drawn to do social media. Particularly Facebook. Although my motivations were that any time I did spend on said platforms felt empty in contrast to the enriching experience of having fun in a group, a heart to heart, even an argument or any other in person intersection. So I totally hear you. That said, I love TH-cam. I spend way too much time here! There's so much interesting content out there! I wish the algorithm would why away from clickbait and focus on what makes TH-cam so much better than all the other platforms.... Quality, learning, nuance, variety!
I have never cared about social media. I don't see TH-cam really as social media either. It is a content distribution platform. I just consume stuff from Linus Tech Tips or Veritasium or other channels there. Those channels are not a social experience.
Agree too , TH-cam is to me a video sharing and community building platform . I still have my Facebook and Instagram but I dun use them much, about a few mins a day just to check up on hobbies news.
Very much the same. The channels I follow are either informational (vsauce, linustechtips, wendover productions, scishow, etc) or for-fun (Wintergatan, Gameranx, the Hacksmith, Film Theory, Corridor). Pretty much *nothing* is what I'd consider traditional social media. Gameranx comes closest, but even they are still mostly journalistic type of content.@PenguinF: I disagree on the subscribe. I don't trust the youtube algorythm to reliably get me videos from channels that rarely upload but are always worth watching like 4096 or Turnah81.
@@PuzzleQodec Subscribe is useful, though. If I like a channel, I want to be notified when they upload a video. I like to be up to date on tech news, for example, which is why I'm subscribed to Linus Tech Tips. The comment I'm writing now is the closest thing to a social media experience there is to be had. And after this video, we will never meet again. Still not all that social.
I stopped using social media as a 'social' media. It is my entertainment. I separate the artist and the art. Every photograph or drawing or even text post exists to entertain me in some fashion. Sometimes it is news that informs me, or a painting that makes me ponder life and the future I could have. As I have no real friends, no post on there can effect me personally. Oh and the only social media I use is TH-cam, Twitter, and Reddit.
Exactly. This argument about people posting "what they had for dinner" is getting tiresome. Almost none of my friends actively post on their timeline. Whole facebook nowadays is about sharing memes and messenger. The latter is mainly the reason why there's so many people staying on it. Because of 'walled garden' philosophy of big companies, people tend to use the network with the most users. It used to be ICQ, now it's (sadly) facebook.
I stumbled on this post after watching your post about detecting gravitational waves and found myself moved by your apparent authenticity. I think I see you, and you are beautiful. Full disclosure, I work in technology, but haven't ever posted to twitter, look at my facebook account less than 4 times a year and participate even less frequently, but I don't hate social media. Initially I found myself agreeing with you whole heartedly, enthusiastically even. "Are we branding ourselves? Is this just gross self-absorbed self-promotion? Then for each criticism you articulately described and which I could agree with, I found myself asking, "Is that true?" Then I remembered back in art school writing my thesis about the idea of the self, and how, for me, it's created a new in each interaction, emerging, of course, from the accumulation or residue of many prior interactions. I recalled an essay by Hakim Bey about mediation and the lack of authentic connection in our hyper-mediated culture - from before the web (yes, I'm that old). Then all of a sudden I found myself asking if there were other ways in which people have used other tools to craft themselves, to intentionally create, authentic, aspirational, or even ugly, superficial, deceptive narratives for themselves. I wondered if there were historical or cross cultural analogues for this kind of self-discovery, self-creation process. Maybe journaling, poetry, star gazing or a walkabout were earlier analogs? I worked at the Youth Crisis Line in the early days of the Internet and recalled the rosy picture of the Internet providing a locus for marginalized people to find community. (in this case, marginalized youth, geographically isolated) and it did, but it also provided a pulpit for bullies and hate speech. I was also reminded of a quote from The Phaedrus by Plato, I think intended to be a recollection of a conversation between Socrates and one of his students, where he is critical of writing as a technology of sorts, "that writing is unfortunately like painting; for the creations of the painter have the attitude of life, and yet if you ask them a question they preserve a solemn silence." I certainly don't have the answers, but by the end of your post and the internal dialog it inspired, I found myself leaning more towards the center. relinquished to the idea that something is always lost outside of being present in the complete tapestry of context in any given moment. Perhaps it is the sheer gravity of the effects that make us wary, like gravitational waves from colliding black holes. On the other hand, I find my personal values in relationship to it are the same as they are to other media. I value authenticity, questions over answers, and vulnerability as strength. I think you have those qualities. Thank you for being thoughtful and engaged, and for sharing! - I think this might be one of only a handful of things I've posted here, or anywhere. You moved me, through social media. ;-)
The only social media I really interact with is social media where you generally talk 'face-to-face' so to speak. Things like Discord, Skype and Whatsapp. I never understood the point of sharing everything about your life with the entire world, and I never used those kinds of social media (facebook, snapchat, instagram, etc.). It excludes me from some things sometimes, but that's fine by me. I like having proper conversations about topics I enjoy with people I like having conversations with. I don't care whether people like or dislike my opinion, as long as I'm allowed to express it. Social media to me seems like a curse disguised as a blessing, drawing people in using the herd behaviour, and keeping them in with dopamine, but taking an incredible about of time to maintain and keep up with. I'm not judging anyone that's on it. If you enjoy it, you do you, and keep using it. A lot of good can come from it. I don't see myself as better than anyone for not using it. I'm just glad I've managed to avoid something I know I don't want to be a part of. And I wish good luck to anyone trying to break the shackles of anti-social media.
You’re so right..! I’d never noticed the huge amount of time I spend watching TH-cam videos. Man, you’ve opened my eyes. I’ve just unsubscribed all my channels (including yours), and deleted my Instagram account. I wish I could delete Facebook too, but it contains a lot of old pictures that I have nowhere else. I’d deleted my LinkedIn account three years ago (and I’ve survived!). The hardest thing to do would be to delete my Twitter, but it’s the only way I can be in touch with the world (I do not watch TV)... I follow Scientific American, BBC, NASA, and other space agencies of the world. See you in a couple of years...!
Strava the app for recording exercise is a example. It's great, you get to upload data. Track the geek stuff like heart rate power and such. But, there is something about just getting outside without all of this extra information that's just special. Sometimes there is that psychological pressure that comes because you want to be popular by posting that stuff online. There is a point where it's important to take a step away and just see if you enjoy doing something without those external forces.
I love the place where you walk, I know that you wouldnt even care but I personally would love to see you in person, share ideas with you, you are a big personality for me, thanks to you I understood so many things and thank you for being SOCIAL and not ANTISOCIAL here on youtube, thank you for your effort in creating videos keep it up my friend. hope to see you son in another video Derek.
I've stopped using Facebook cuz it makes me feel bad about how unsocial my life is, or tries to imply such from all the posts my friends post and like and share, sort of makes me self conscious, having the desire to be more social, as if my social level isn't in their tier. Though it is true some people are more social, it is just the notion that you have to aspire and such which rather disturbs me.
"We're focused on how to capture the moment and experience, rather than actually experiencing our lives" ^This. Tis also a reason why i don't take selfies, nor generally take pictures when I'm on vacation. Nor take pictures (as a rule) with my partner. I especially do not posst these things on social media. I prefer to be more in the moment.. experiencing it fully. That is.when and where the magic happens. Plus I'm an incredibly private person these days. Also, feck the social media popularity game. I want none of that.
You described my exact current feelings on this subject. In fact, this Christmas I made a personal resolution to not post anything on social media (other than TH-cam) in 2019, in the hope that this will instigate in me the good habit of not doing it anymore in the future.
Totally agreed. Left fb 10+ years now. Only use it for messenger to reach old pals. Signed up for instagram, never got interested. Signed up snap chat, got tired of watching friends so focused on clicking snaps rather experiencing that reality in that moment for themselves.
“a giant void into which people yell.” that is incredibly accurate
Ikr
I wish he reaches wherever he is going to in all his videos.
It's the journey that counts ;)
@@TheMokelembembes come on please can you be more lame than this!
So he can finally stop uploading... I feel your pain
He’s just walking around to share something :P
He is searching for true loves first kiss. He is cursed to roam the Earth making youtube videos until then.
...and as always: thanks for watching
Hey, veritasium.. Michael here
...and as always: thanks for watching, have a good one.
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Try 'Keep your dick in a vice', it works for AvE...
@@Mrafif23 (...) Derek here will be more appropriate
The girl I'm dating once sent me a picture of herself and I told her I liked it. She later made it her profile picture and was asking me to like it. I refused on the basis that I already told her I liked the picture in person why does that need to be public? She wants people to see that she's in a loving relationship. She told me she wishes I would post "cute things" about her and post pictures of us and when I ask her why her answer is "It shows another, deeper, form of love. You're willing to show me off to the world and that's special." Just like how people post about their new Coach bag or Mercedes she wants me to post about her. It undermines true human connection and has totally altered what some people define as love. The fact that one's expression of love is tied to their actions on social media is truly a tragedy. This concept of meta information behind a post is something I can't stand either. If one was TRULY happy in their relationship they wouldn't need others to validate it. It's turned our social interactions into a competition that no one even realizes they're playing.
F*** social media
Love ur opinion brother ♥
Absolutely correct
Yes social media does tend to enable bad habits from people that still think that the quantity of people that like something is more important than the who that likes it(the who being you, the quantity being some abstract mob).
Great way of putting it
omg I'm the same as your girlfriend a year ago😂 I'm so grateful that I'm not like that anymore😭
Derek remains a TH-camr worth watching. :)
Yeah, I'm anti social media, yet I became an LA shmuck and post all my opinions online as a job.
Mike and John Greene
yep,ur right dan
Derek made TH-cam worth watching.
I stopped using Facebook in 2015(I'm glad i did). Living in the moment is another thing the social media has ruined. People are more caught up with taking photos/videos rather than just be in the moment.
For me it’s because of the ready access to camera and video, and the human condition, why I take photos in the moment, it’s not for social media purposes in my case.
had a Myspace, when facebook was picking up in 2010, never bothered, glad i made that choice.
Or they do things to brag on social media. I hike and have to push past crowds to the first viewpoint where everyone takes their selfie and goes home. They're not doing it because they're interested in it, they're doing it to brag to their friends.
Wow Ankit I too stopped using Facebook in 2015 and also glad I did. I never got onto other social media platforms either. I will add that I found myself spending far more time scrolling through peoples feds and responding to threads with conversations that were going nowhere. At first, I didn't seem to care about when someone posted a picture of there meal or anything like that. But a sorta boredom and desire for more easy input of useless information drove me to start paying attention to more and more useless posts. It was then that I decided to stop.
im using facebook basic feature, im using facebook to search insight like memes, social group to discuss and debate on what im interested in. now kid with tendency to show off is migrate to instagram so im free of it. now it just meme and facebook group
When I was doing a set of exams back in the summer, I managed to complete a 30 day detox of social media, (my reasons were that it would open up a lot of previously wasted time that could be spent more efficiently studying), and my effects were profound. Firstly, the days didn’t race past me anymore, I had time to reflect, and even get bored. It encouraged me to read more books. Also I found that what you miss on the internet is really never going to have an adverse effect on you, or affect the relationships that you have.
Ever thought about how TH-cam is a social media though?
Hey I've managed to be off social media for a year now and recently made a documentary about my experience being disconnected for a month long experiment that I reckon you'd enjoy, its my most recently uploaded. Thanks if you check it out :)
@@Sturla-Tyr, The one thing that sets it apart for me imo is that there's lots of educational content that is really helpful and you don't have to look at the views,likes/dislikes, and comments if you don't want to.
Sturla Moltzau it lacks many of the key elements that make social media detestable by some people. Except from maybe some comments sections, we aren’t drowned in self doubt because the people we watch and interact with are usually strangers; they act more as inspiration rather than competition. Take instagram, you would follow your friends and occasionally celebrities. Although with instagram the average person also posts to the platform, whereas on youtube we just consume content, alleviating the constant comparison.
Mass Debator, I have a question; did your 30 day detox of social media include youtube? I'm thinking of potentially doing something similar and would like to know if you stopped using 'all' social medias. Personally, I feel youtube is different as you can choose what you're watching on a more personal level, and you don't have to come face-to-face with the 'social media influencers' if you don't want to (basically just don't watch certain youtubers vlogs). Twitter is also kind of similar in the sense that you chose who you follow, however, you will also get something that you just disagree with on twitter and it's also a really bad echo chamber. For me, instagram has to be the worst of all. its essentially a bunch of people living fake lives, which have no true reflection of their actual lives (the majority of the time).
We're of the same mind on this subject. What worries me is the decreasing popularity of TH-cam vs Insta, and worse, Tiktok. Younger people are gravitating more and more towards rapid reward dopamine hit material. Attention spans are shortening, and this preference for 10 second video clips, over longer, more thought provoking films (like yours), is, I worry, causing some serious mental damage. I wonder how "quality" will be defined in the future, or will the generations being raised on this new wave of "content" be angry at us, their parents, for not stopping them from gorging empty, thoughtless, trash.
Here in the future one year later and it’s even worse. However I heard that Facebook and Twitter are getting in trouble with the U.S government and Tik Tok will hopefully get banned
I barely use tiktok myself for these exact reasons but my mom who is born in the 60’s is really into it. I’m sure it’s mainly a generational thing but we’re all just humans and I worry that no one will actually question this in the future, that the majority will be “converted” (hate to use that word) And I’m afraid future technology will only allow for the worsening of this effect
The sad part is I already feel left out sometimes when I’m with friends just because I refuse to spend hours on tiktok everyday
pretentious nerd
stay classy, Cool Person
Great message. Sometimes I feel really sad when I see people just taking pictures here and there, smiling just when the camera is on and being all stressed before and after taking the video or photo. Girls wearing high heels just so they can look good on the picture or bringing clothes with them, so they can change before shooting.
It really makes me sad because it is not about making memories, it is about looking a certain way so other people can judge and evaluate you. Like you are not enough.
Reading the end of your comment, I thougth you were gonna write "Like if you agree with me" which would have been awesome ! xD
I agree, and it's worse than that I think - it's people no longer seeing things just as they are but rather how will this look on Instagram, etc. It makes the things that were once meaningful, just everyday life, connections, surroundings, bland. The constant distraction is detrimental in so many ways.
But why you looking for pictures like that an judge they? Don’t be grumpy like old people
they even go to stores trying cloths they don't intend to buy just for the photos..
So deep thought
You basically nailed why I don't use social media, either. I just could never put it in to words. Since I'm in my early 20's, people think I'm weird when I tell them I don't use it. Now I have words to explain myself. Thanks!
You are spitting true facts man. As social media as it says "social" should be a method where people meet and share their thoughts rather than scrolling useless feeds
Derek has managed to put my disinclination towards social media into words in a way I’ve always wanted to, but was never able to. Thank you.
i love these talky type kind of video. makes me feel okay that i'm not the only one who think such stupid things.
ironic
rather, that you are not the only one who is conscious.
Social media exposes the monsters we all really are
stupid things? STUPID things??
Stopped me from pressing 'like' because of 'stupid'. This topic is FAR from that word.
I was on Facebook since 2008 I think, I haven't used Facebook for past 11 months. And trust me, its better that way.
I stopped using Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram around 3 years ago. But in the beginning it was hard -- most of my social activities were planned through Facebook.
When your friends wanted to invite you to a party, etc. It becomes near impossible to keep up with anyone but your close friends.
Nowadays it's fine. But that period of getting used to is difficult.
@@miguelzavaleta1911 I never used Instagram nor a fan of Twitter. But these sites are designed to be like drugs, once you hooked up, its hard to let go. and boy I was hooked up, I tweeted about 10k tweets, created 40-50 FB pages and groups. I was always trying to get likes by random strangers, I felt sad I any of my posts didn't got enough likes. I found myself constantly searching what to post next. scrolling through friends feeds. I was in illusion that I need social network to be happy but in fact it was making me miserable.
Then one day I decided to stop it all together, few weeks was really tough. The only kind of social network I use is TH-cam IDK at least this feels right.
Change is hard but worth the effort.
P.S. I still have my old Facebook account active (turns out its really hard if not impossible to remove my personal data from Facebook servers) but I don't feel the urge to open it.
@@AmitKumarKhare Not only for the people that constantly post on social media, people like me that never post but using it on a regular basis also find it difficult to control the usage of it. They hooked everybody whether they are active poster or not, especially instagram. I think it's the only product where the consumer is not the king, but it's slave.
Well i think the real breaking point is closing your account. Don't you think?
if it wasn't really for my school stuff and homework and news, I would've left facebook for a long time, a waste of time really
It's not a game I want to play. ❤️
The only winning move is not to play.
@@fluttershaman8218/videos Someone who seems to know classics when it comes to films. Noice! ;-)
I ditched Facebook about 4-5yrs ago now, because I realised i just couldn't care enough about being proxy outraged about issues that I knew nothing about, yet were having pushed upon me by those who I was connected to. I switched off all notifications and emails from it, and removed it from my phone, so that I broke the habit. I use Twitter a lot, but probably have more accounts and words/phrases blocked than accounts that I actually follow. I try to only tweet when I have something positive/constructive to say or contribute to, and mute/unfollow/block accounts and topics that start to lean towards the proxy rage that i left on Facebook. It's made me feel happier as a person, and less stressed about things I cannot possibly know or affect. As for TH-cam, lately, as someone who does not have a TV, I've begun to subscribe to a small number of channels, and am now regularly commenting on those videos. It feels like it has become more of a social channel for me, as people reply, and the content generally holds my interest.
youtube is a social media, and youtubers are somewhat similar to posters since most of them alter their behaviour according to their target audience..... yeah talk about meta eh?
Exactly. Platforms for amplifying the ego, rather than experiencing real human connection! :-)
"So the whole game that our culture is playing is that nothing really happens unless it's in the newspaper. So when we're at a party, and it's a great party, somebody says, It's too bad there wasn't a tape recorder. And so our children begin to feel that they don't exist authentically unless they get their names in the papers, and the fastest way of getting your name in the papers is to commit a crime. And then you'll be photographed, then you'll appear in court, and everybody will notice you. It really happened if it was recorded. In other words, if you shout, and it doesn't come back and echo, it didn't happen." - quote from 'Out of your mind' lecture by Alan Watts (1915-1973)
This phenomena you have identified, the element of human behavior you're referencing is something that is enabled by social media - but not caused by it. Alan Watts refers to this in many of his lectures made in a time before the internet.
ok... but social media does not just simply "enable" this phenomena.
it's hyper-instantly-enabled. non stop.
you don't have to wait for the newspaper to print, you don't have to wait to appear in court.
in fact the phenomena is made far worse due to the fact that there isn't any filter.
you can say anything, and even if it gets deleted later, people will still have seen it.
I agree, while social media makes this way easier, it's not the core problem but a tool that allows for more extensive execution of this behavior. Everyone should be aware of this, but it's definitely not a reason to completely stop using social media - tools can be used for good and for bad, it's how you use it what makes the difference.
@@JamesJames-gc2kl, I totally agree. People don't realize that there are physical repercussions that follow these emotions. You can literally real stabbed in the back by unpleasant or hateful comments. And you can raise cortisol, our stress hormone, and hold it in your tissues in the form muscle tightness or adhesions (knots). It is an unnecessary strain on the mind and body.
Social media helps us develop a story about ourselves. It lets you play a game to paint the picture of your life in whatever colours you deem to fit. And you get cough up in the story.
It creates an ilusion, that you are, in fact, your soicial media profile, and your experiances are just tools to update your profile.
social media, money, charisma, power
You know what Derek. Since day one seeing your videos was incredibly inspiring, interesting. Now I understand why, you're actually thinking, and willing to contemplate. Thank God there is still people using their minds to view the world objectively, critically.
I had an Instagram account but never used it, so I closed it. I had a Facebook account but soon realised that none of the 'friends' I had on there were actual friends. My actual friends I communicated with face-to-face, not through the internet. So, that got deleted. Twitter is the most pointless thing ever. I had an account, but when I realised I didn't need one to read tweets from my favourite people, I deleted it. TH-cam is actually an addiction. Literally an addiction. I'm trying to wean myself off of it completely, but doing so is proving to be harder than that effeort it took to quit smoking. Hence, my saying that it's an addiction. Look at the channels you're subscribed to and ask yourself if it really is essential to watch their videos. If you're honest with yourself, the answer is "no". Just let go of it and turn yourself from a consumer to a producer. You'll find life much more fulfilling and exciting.
There are some channels that are useful though. First, educational videos. But there are also thought provoking channels such as Vsauce, Podcasts of all sorts, and more. Depending on your interests, these might be worth looking at.
Agree agree agree . I deleted facebook 2 years ago . Not used instagram since a year. but youtube it surely is an addiction . Not that i watch anything bad but 'ostly irrelevant to my main life. I need to focus and study but I want to watch something "interesting" . because of TH-cam I have lost the ability to deep focus. I am not able to focus 100% . So I don't give my best . It's embarrassing to say this. Wish I could get all the time I spent on the website . And will very conciously view anything hence forth. 🙅
I'm happy to see I'm not alone with this problem. I also love watching interesting stuffs. And I also have problems with my focus. I think I've managed to control it better when I'm at work but otherwise, it is so difficult to stop watching.
I'm passionate about science and how thing works, how they are made, how to build stuffs,... I could continue on and on.
I have the feeling my brain would collapse if I was not feeding it with knowledge.
If you go through all of the things in your life through a lens of "is this essential for me", you'll find the end product to be a pretty empty life. There's more than just essentiality and productivity in life. If you don't dedicate some time for things that are purely just for fun, I don't know how you could ever enjoy life.
@@St1C3r That's true. You can't really produce, unless you get ideas and thoughts from somewhere and from those forge your own ideas. That's how this video and all other videos are made.
I took a break from most social media last year between the midterm election and New Years and felt that it was beneficial. I excluded TH-cam from this break because it is the primary source for my visual entertainment, and I make educational videos so staying up to date with what the EDU community is doing is important.
During this break I found myself checking my phone nearly as often but without the infinite feeds of Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram I was doing it for shorter periods of time. I also found myself getting angry less often and overall happier. I'm reintroducing it into my life right now but with the caveat that I can't have it on my phone, which is where I'm more likely to get suckered in.
TH-cam is also a waste of time if you get sucked into suggested videos spiral.
sam A. I agree it can be a waste of time, but I feel that watching related videos endlessly has more to do with self-control / discipline, as opposed to the other social media platforms like facebook and instagram which are heavily centered around self-esteem and validation - which is far more destructive for anyone’s personality.
TH-cam can used for validation, but it is not on the same scale as the aforementioned.
The problem isn't solely social media...It's also people in general.
best comment so far
@@vftvmv which, i think, is why the comment says "isn't _solely_ social media..." . And I agree with you on the gun point, btw.
That is true. however the difference is that social media has amplified those "insecurities" and made them visible to more people, which in turn resulted in exponentially more insecurities.
@@vftvmv I don't think you can compare the gun argument with social media. Social media is not an inanimate object that simply exists until someone picks it up. Social media is an adaptive medium that actively stimulates it's users. When you post on social media, you aren't just putting a picture on a wall for everyone to see. The platform itself is designed to sift out 'good and relevant' posts for each individual. Perhaps social media of yesteryear was more inline with your sentiment, but it is not simply a place you share things these days, it is much more nuanced even if that nuance is hidden behind complicated machine learning AI, it makes decisions for the user. A far cry from picking up a gun and pulling the trigger.
That’s not true though. A platform is only as good as what it rewards. Instagram rewards shallowness, vapidness, because it harnesses jealousy which encourages repeated usage. It’s all about what will increase engagement because that’s how companies measure success. That’s why all the influencers look the same. It is behavior modification. Same goes for twitter which encourages aggressive behavior by restricting the character amount. It is well known within academia that all aggressive messages have restricted word usage. Hence “fuck You” gets more likes than say, this comment might. It’s all about increasing engagement. We are being manipulated. Please watch this video, the man in it has a 190 IQ: th-cam.com/video/dmXcjvL9VSc/w-d-xo.html
He is much smarter than me:) thank you!
That's why I've never been on social media except for TH-cam. Thank you for a lot of quality over quantity content!
There is some hypocrisy in a professional TH-camr preaching to us about the evil of social media.
I know this is meant in the best way, but it comes off as being a preachy "look at how much better I am than YOU". Like everything, too much of anything is bad. Including TH-cam.
@@nitehawk86 Veritasium is an educational channel, not social.
I understand. I have pulled back from my brief fling with social media because it was giving me odd emotional extremes. At first, I was just a voyeur then I wanted to be actually social with comments and posts. Then I found that not receiving reply commentary, likes, hearts and such made me feel upset. And the opposite made too happy. I did not enjoy this teeter-tottering contrast. Even commenting here, gives me strange anticipatory anxiety. I suppose I will sort it out and put the emotions in perspective even with my limited engagement.
Simone Williamson No, you're right. It feels like getting a Christmas present when you get a lot of likes and comments, and it feels extremely disheartening when you don't get enough or don't get them from certain people. It's better to share things with people personally.
I like the self reflection and thoughtfulness. So have you considered a way to solve that problem?
@@WarpPal, I don't really consider this a problem since social media doesn't occupy a significant part of my life. I know that will change eventually as everyone's online presence becomes tied to our finances. So the best that can be done is to consume content that has depth and meaning. In that way, it's the content and not the social interaction that becomes the focus. And then I consider any commentary I make to be like giving without expectation of returns. It makes what I say fully expressive so I am satisfied and don't need a reply.
Science Compliance, that's the weird thing, I don't interact with people I know online. The whole thing is unsettling to me because it's strangers. I when I started to become really upset about my favorite TH-camrs not replying, I totally had to stop and check myself. I had to recognize that some of them had massive followings so replying to comments is a straight up chore. To avoid the reply itchies, I only comment if I catch a video within the first few hours of its upload. Otherwise, I just like and maybe share.
@@simonewilliamson6766 I think what you touched on about sharing with the sole intent of sharing rather than doing it for response is key.
It's great that you've caught on to the addictive qualities of it all. Now you can make the conscious choice of being a part of it or not. Noticing how we react to the dopamine rush and how we choose to react to that feeling is the best way to learn about yourself and focus on self work to relieve yourself from the anxiety of allowing your sense of self worth to be manipulated by your social interactions.
Sign-off phrases to end your videos ?
"And as always... Thanks for watching."
100% original, 0% taken from a colleague.
... and I hope you learned something.
0% stolen from Louis Rossman....
How about "Keep looking up.." or maybe "Stay curious"?
Also 100% original, 0% taken from a colleague.
stay creative! and i will see you next time!
0% great scott
But...I thought 100% of those words from English dictionary.
“Thanks for watchin’. Keep yer dick in a vice!”
Stop reading my brain
That's exactly what I feel
He doesn't even know you exist.
are bhai. tumhe subscribe kiya hai mene.
Arey bhai aapka subscriber Hoon.
@@tars330 he will someday
@@sutaxkapoor7667 bhaii
Deleting my Facebook account was one of the best decisions I have ever made , your video about boredom was among the triggers .
It's the same problem with filming fireworks, a couple of days later you will never looked back at those firework videos again, it's better to just live the moment.
Me and my wife made a point of this last year after coming across fireworks videos from the year before.
Some things are best enjoyed by the eyes alone.
It's almost like we record everything in case someone says you're lying about it.
And concerts
Social media makes me feel unpopular because I do not post photos or video. I have very few followers on Twitter. I avoid Facebook. I used to make opinion videos on TH-cam but that made me feel like I was violating others just by talking about them, so I removed my videos. My ONLY use of social media is commenting. Commenting makes me feel empowered. But my TH-cam comments are buried in obscurity. My account is fairly old and I would LOVE to see what my first comment was and how my commenting evolved over time.
If you go to th-cam.com/users/feedhistory and go to the comments tab, just middle click your mouse and you can scroll all the way down to your first comment ever. Just need to find something else to do while it's auto-scrolling.
I actually just did this a couple weeks ago, and some of my oldest comments from 4 years ago are pretty cringey :P
@@binguscat2514 np dawg.
I frequently explore the random semi-obscure features of youtube and I discovered this one awhile back.
@@41A2E Thanks for the tip. Okay, I've tried this twice now and both times it went back to comments 10 years ago with the very last comment saying 11 years ago. This dates it to about January 2008. My account was started July 2006. So there are certainly comments that may be lost in time. I don't remember all of the videos I was watching back in 2006 but I do remember Keyra Augustina was popular back then because her face was unrevealed and this made her more compelling and mysterious. She had videos of herself dancing to ZZ Top (later these had the sound muted by TH-cam). At the time it was very cool and mesmerizing.
Yes, boys and girls, that was a long time ago. We had to surf the internet by candlelight because the lightbulb had not been invented yet. We would attach a team of horses to the generator to power up the WIFI. And cellphones were really just potatoes. Yep, those were the days.
@@earthpet Try google takeout (takeout.google.com/settings/takeout) its everything google ever publicly recorded about you, Including comments...
@@earthpet I could easily see this to be the case, as super old comments I've seen are kinda glitchy-- probably are encoded differently from how they are now.
While I only made my account in 2014, I have been a regular youtube viewer since around 2010, and still watched the occasional video all the way to the beginning.
Interesting anecdote, just last night I was looking for a song, and got a seemingly unrelated suggestion of Robin Shulz - Sugar. I was curious as to why it was suggested so I clicked on it. In the music video they hired Nathan Barnatt, and while I didn't remember the name, people in the comments said he was a youtuber. I went to check him out and I was like "OOOOOOHH! I remember this guy!!"
TH-cam was quite literally the wild west back then; I remember actually stumbling onto some soft-core porn. . .(No I wasn't searching for it, it was actually a recommended video.
I'm anti social in general
Especially about the meta situation i imagine eg. Family and children lol
Same, but my social media is just a bunch of memes and no one i know🤔😂
I'm a General on social media.
Same here. I would like to change that part of myself to some point, but whenever I try - I revert to my natural state.
You are telling the exact same thing I was thinking about a year ago when I deleted my Facebook account. Thank you for sharing this. I hope allot of people pick this up and start thinking about it too.
Oh yeah gimme them likes for that dopamine rush I like that
#24 reporting for duty. Careful not to get an OD.
You like getting this comment huh you like that
Lmao
I really like this comment for highlighting the fact that TH-cam isn't so far removed from 'social media'. In another comment I made, I said that I believe there's a good argument that TH-cam is in fact social media too. Making this video confusing to seriously digest (for me).
I love how you take the feeling i have about things and turn them into spoken logical arguments. It feels like im a little kid, having my mind opened to me.
Do you do this to your kid?
Lutyano Alves they’re a bit young. When they’re older I’ll try to avoid ranting at them but rather try to ask questions and give them time to think through their answers
I keep forgetting he is married, much less a father.
@@veritasium I love your way of thinking sooo much, thank you for your videos and comments.
I'm forced to use so many different social media platforms since different ppl have different preferred methods of communication with me. Otherwise, I don't spend as much time on them.
You took the words out of my mouth.
I deleted my Facebook and only used Instagram sparingly for a year and a half, and it was so beneficial to my mental health. Now I’m back, and it’s depressing lol.
I agree with you. I don't like social media for the same reasons. It feels like everyone now wants to have lots of followers, even if they are not content creators. So the pictures that end up being posted are those that are the best at generating likes and followers and not those that represent who you are. But I think TH-cam is different for two reasons: 1. High quality videos are much harder to produce that pictures or captions (and it's much harder to present a fake version of your life through video compared to pictures)
2. The content on TH-cam is posted mostly by serious content creators. Because not every user posts content on the platform, there's less noise.
I hope TH-cam will remain like this and not degerate into a platform everyone posts content on.
That moment when you feel so alone when you’re out with your friends and they are all posting on Facebook , taking and uploading pictures, laughing at their phone, completely ignoring you..and you’re like...uhh I knew I should have stayed home..
This irritates the living hell out of me. I actively avoid using my phone in any way when I'm with people, I just think it's pretty rude and I just don't see why, even when people have company, it's never enough. You're not as interesting to them because they're seeing everyone's highlight reel and eating it up and most likely feeling inadequate about themselves.
You must have awful friends if they actually use Facebook and not Twitter current year
It's a pity Derek has discontinued this channel. May 2023
yet youtube recommended to me, 29th December 2024
Derek, you're right about the unauthentic. I quit my job to travel to South America and found myself taking less pictures. I just enjoy the sunsets and rides without getting the camera or stopping my moment to record. I'm sharing less and less because it's taking the authenticity of my journey away.
I quit facebook simply because I couldn't wrap my head around the fact that I was spending time looking at other people's lives, when you can actually never invest enough time in your own life.
I totally agree. These media platforms (Instagram) give users the power to show their lives in only the best way possible and it gives the followers an unrealistic impression of what their own life should be like. People post themselves out in nature looking over a cliff with the sunset and it gives people the idea that these Instagrammers live in a perfect ideal world when in reality, their lives are nothing like that. When people see only the good aspects of other peoples lives it's sure to create some degree of jealousy and resentment for what they aren't doing. I think it's been proven that many of these social media platforms cause depression and other mental illness in people, especially teenagers.
I agree Nick that these Social Media platforms portray the Lives of these people as being perfect and hassle free , and that this causes jealousy and resentment wishing that our Lives are better.. In my opinion , I see it as Deception and Lies on the part of people who post pictures exclaiming that they live perfect lives.
I agree. I'm personally 10 mo ths into not posting anything on Facebook or Instagram because I found myself playing this "game" it's unhealthy and ego centric. Although I now want to post this to social media to try and highlight to fellow friends the damage they are doing to themselves.
Since not posting, I've done many cool things. And never even bothered to photograph them. Enjoy the moment for what it is only :)
You said it all, Derek. It even makes me sad to see people in a certain place preparing to "fabricate" pictures to build a persona, with fake smiles that are gone as soon that photo is taken.
You're a rare gem on youtube. I appreciate your insight on various topics, this one included. It's not surprising to hear your perspective on social media due to, as you put it, the "narcissistic playground where you only rise to the top if that's what you're doing." And you are opposite of that. Your videos are enlightening and entertaining. Anyway, I appreciate your rant. cheers from Seattle.
This is a great video. I went to a gig in London once and had to leave my phone at the door, the band requested this because they were tired of looking at a crowd on phones and folks taking selfies, they wanted people to be mentally in the room with them and enjoy the music. I thought it was a great idea but bizarrely it was a deal breaker for some.
Jack White did this on his last tour. And despite the discomfort of having our phones locked up, it was a delightful and memorable concert. It seemed to last longer because of the forced focus.
the fact that it was a dealbreaker for some, shows you how far the anti-social disease has progressed.
20 years ago, this was a non-issue. and in fact, the prevailing public opinion was that you were an asshole if you walked into a show with your phone turned on.
I never use social media, take selfies, or any of that crap. But I sure wouldn't give somebody else my phone.
culwin at the concert, we kept our phones, but they were locked in a bag that we held onto. Was a cool experiment, but time consuming, and probably not practical. Especially in a few years when the phones move to our glasses. Might be more practical to affix venues with faraday cages. 😂
@@StevePlaysBanjo You know what, that's a really great idea!
Sign off suggestion and reasoning:
"So, this is where I am right now, and I'll see you guys down the road."
I like that you physically go places to talk about the subjects of your videos. Sometimes you're already there, at like a lab where they study gravitational waves, or a seed storage bunker 800 miles from the North Pole. And sometimes it just seems like you're aimlessly walking somewhere while you introduce a topic or pose a question, until you'll reveal where you are and how it ties into the thing you're talking about. But sometimes you don't do that at all, like in this video, and I start to guess whether you chose your backdrop for aesthetic reasons, or symbolic ones. Your hike through a cold and lonely mountain path could be representative of the isolation of social media...Or it could just be a nice quiet place to work on a video.
So that's why I suggest the thing at the top as your sign off, as a reference to both your ever changing locations, and to science in general being a constantly evolving truth (in which case you could vary it sometimes and say "this is where we are" instead of "I am"). And when it's an opinion piece, it works as a statement about where you are in your personal growth and development, which for all of us is ever changing as well.
Second Suggestion: "But hey that's just my opinion. You no likey??? Get bent dumb butts"
I like that this. Both of them. It breaks the illusion of Derek feeding us the truth because he is smarter and makes these videos and it actually makes us, often passive viewers, actually think about this point.
In a bit of a hyperbole, there is nothing just like saying "what I just said might be all wrong and false" at the end and abruptly cutting the video after that - to stimulate our thought processes.
I like the first suggestion. ;)
dang clever
2nd one real good
Man, just saw this vid earlier and I love how you think.
I actually got that feeling of finding out it's nonsense in the bigger picture if you were too indulged in social media. Months ago, I decided to "clean up" my twitter, insta and facebook and follow only those pages or content creators that create knowledgable projects and facts (and also those contents related to my hobbies and passion), making my feed "boring" for others, but I loved it. I'm in the perspective of wanting to learn more outside of my field since I'm taking my degree currently in engineering.
Please keep on making those valuable vids and inspire others to never stop learning.
Photography is one of my biggest hobbies. I started way before the internet was a thing, even learning how to develop the pictures. I do this just for myself, thus praise for my pictures is not really important to me. If I'm not happy with a picture, people telling me how great it is won't change my mind.
I never really liked taking pictures of people or occasions because they always seem fake to me. And I get annoyed when others start taking pictures as memories, because that feels like interrupting that moment. People pose, put on fake smiles and try to show themselves the way they want to be seen. The result is more often than not a different person in my eyes.
Because of that I try to do stealthy pictures for my own memories (if I really really want to). That way it doesn't feel like interrupting as much at occasions and I get more natural portraits. The depicted persons usually don't like how they look on those, but I can fondly view these pictures and remember the moments with a smile. (No worries, I never would post or spread any pictures taken this way and I show them to my "victims" anyway after taking them.)
the problem with social media for me is the fact that it encourages you to want instant gratification by comstantly refreshing to see how many likes you have when in reality we shouldnt value ourselves based upon likes given by others
Very good video, Derek. I actually think like you, that's why I've dropped facebook already several years ago. I'm basically against this very narcissistic type of stuff. But what I find appalling is that even in "respected" professions, one seems to be obliged to rely on this kind of said tool to gain visibility. Look, I'm an a physicist. In science today, if you don't work with famous people or with a so-called science guru (according to some bizarre classification system) in some stage of your early career, it's very difficult to stand out. As in everything else, there's too much content in current science, papers are written like looking for "hit songs", and people select what they read. So there's a massive emphasis in networking and showing off (sometimes more than in doing the hard work), because popularity is what at the end of the day gets you a job in science, or gets you fundings if you already have tenure. So, even if I've given up on facebook, I have a ResearchGate profile, what some people call "the facebook of scientists". I need to have a Linkedin account. And oh man, you cannot deny how shallow Linkedin has become, with massive sharing of "inspirational" crap and useless content. And being a scientist, I feel somehow betrayed. I don't know what to do with this frustration and I sincerely hate seeing scientists acting like pop stars in social media. The situation is disturbing and discouraging, because even big universities are now advicing on how to improve your visibility using all these crapy platforms. And I just feel like building a time machine to come back to the moment in human history where doing science was enough.
I'm starting a journal that I write a brief summary of the things I did or experienced each day. It gives me time to be introspective and a way of remembering events similar to photos, but without having the stop a genuine moment to take the picture in the first place.Of course there's nothing wrong with photos, but this works for me right now.
Great idea, I'm glad it's currently working for you. Thanks for sharing!
Yeah! I did that for an exchange trip I had in early 2018. I don't remember much of the first days, because I didn't write about them on the journal, but every time I read the other entries, I get really defined and specific memories from those days in Denver. I was thinking about doing something like that for my life in general. It works.
My suggested sign-off phrase: don't have one. Using one makes me feel more like "this is over, go think about / do something else now". Without one, stopping to think about what I just watched/listened to is more natural.
I love these rants. I feel lile you could passionately rant about shoelaces and it’d still be intriguing.
Skjold haha.. next on 2veritasium...
Aglets...ARGHHH! Don't get me started! ;)
Hey man, what's your problem with shoelaces!?
Velcro shoes are so much easier! Why are shoelaces still a thing, besides being fancy?!
@@Skjoldmc Velcro is too quick to die. Gets filled with junk, and will be weaker over time.
My favorite one so far is those "quick laces" that are made of a rubber band and some tightening thingies. They don't get loose, no matter what terrain you're going on. And gives a bit of elastic fit to the feet, that is a pretty nice feeling.
Regular laces are cheaper to make, i guess.
(See, it's not that hard to start a conversation about shoelaces 😀)
That is exactly what I was thinking of today.
Social media made me sad, sometimes feel envy, feel nothing, always compare my self with others. I was not this kind of person before. I think I should do the same and focus on my life again.
Am i anti social media if i have never really cared about it. I dont care if someone posts about their rubbish holiday or amazing holiday i am just not interested regardless. The only use of social media i have really used is the messaging or learning through reddit/forums or youtube which is great
No. That just makes you indifferent. Which is perfectly fine.
Same honestly. Other than that, I guess memes :v
i am in the same boot. if i care about someone i will just go to them or find a way to actual talk with that person.
@@cavemann_ Reddit scratches thst itch for me, it's way more selective with the content it shows you, and you don't know anyone on the site.
That makes you A-socialmedia
I don't feel the need to cancel my account, but I have struggled a long time with finding the right place for SM in my life. I am always a work in progress, but I am happy where I have have landed on this issue currently. I have decided to keep SM in that space where I am not at work, I am not with family and friends, and I am not in the midst of a significant experience. If I can check those three boxes, then I will peek into SM and maybe even contribute a post. I have also found great value in finding people on SM. If I need a contractor or musician, or if someone else needs something SM has helped me connect with the people that I know could help others. They get work and I get help. It's good for that kind of thing.
liked for the ironic use of hashtags.
Edit: I feel bad leaving a crappy comment on such a good video, so I'll add that the video put to more concrete words a lot of otherwise vague feelings. You're right, it no longer serves its original purpose of keeping people in touch.
There were a lot of little details that didn't sit right with me about Facebook in particular, though:
1) The like/reaction system. They settled on their own set of emotions - liked, loved, laughed, angered, surprised, and saddened - likely to build a model of what engages people. That tells me they're manipulating people's engagements, but it doesn't tell me how and imagining all the ways in which they might be able to do that actually terrifies me.
2) Throughout that neat little spectrum of motives they've provided as an alternative to the simple 'liked', there is still no real distinction between a positive and negative engagement - all engagement is assumed to be positive. As long as they've engaged a lot of people (healthily or otherwise) the post is highlighted/used as the synopsis of a 100+ comment thread/pushed to the top(ish) of the feed.
Facebook has a really manipulative business strategy. I wouldn't be surprised if they control/use boredom (read: unstimulating posts) on their platform too, to combat the engagement equivalent of banner blindness.
Anyway, sorry for the original crappy comment. Hope this made up for it. Love your stuff, cheers~
I'm not exactly anti social media but I agree with all of your points. My biggest problem with it is the fact that nowadays we are practically forced to use it. For example if I meet a cute girl and she gives me her number it is expected that we communicate only via WhatsApp. If I dare calling her I would be considered a weirdo. People tend to focus on how they and other people appear to be and not on what they are. Also social media kind forces us to appear a certain way by not allowing us to dislike something. You are only allowed to agree with or like a post but you cannot express your disagreement via a dislike button. In my opinion this is one of the reasons why people tend to not be able to deal with criticism or plain disagreement. They are used to see only agreement (which is interpreted by the brain as some kind of reward) or silence. It is for me the worst thing about social media.
Ethan b05 you are Lucky if WhatsApp is enough and you don’t need 10 other stupid profiles. Chat Programms are still okay i guess since calling is demanding there attention right away not knowing if the timing is bad. Even though I’m not a big fan of WhatsApp it’s the only thing you really need to have in my opinion.
I don't include WhatsApp as a SM ' thing'. To me it's plainly messaging, since I don't use the stories feature. Same with telegram which is miles better too imo.
Yes yes yes! This is exactly what has been going on in my mind about social media. It wasn't even a conscious decision for me, I just found that the more I thought about it all, the less interest I had in participating (similar to what you described)
You described my situation girl !
More I thought about it the more I get paradox thoughts
I know how that feels, I dont use social media very often anymore and never liked the way we have to chose what we share or not, there is some "rules" socialbly accepted about what you need to be doing and with who to have status. it's boring, I never liked fame, I enjoy my privacy and being out of this run for being accepted or better or happier than others (apperently), it feels sick. But I also think that what you do, here and in your main channel, selected content about science and curiosity i feel like you're pushing us to do things different and making us real better persons, with content we'll never see on television or even documentary, you are the motivation for most people who have dream to change the world with knowledge, me included, thank you for your work and I only wish you the best!
I remember this one moment where I was feeling stressed and worried if I the photo I was taking was “beautiful enough” to capture the essence of the beautiful sunset in front of me, and then it suddenly hit me-why am I worrying and stressing out so much about capturing this moment, when I could just be -in- the moment and enjoying the scenery and take it all in in the present. Sometimes I wonder how differently people would live their lives if we couldn’t take photos or record with videos.
Now when I take a photo, I try to think about the real intention behind my actions, and ask myself, “would I really want to remember this moment years down the line? Am I doing this for myself or just to impress other people? What’s the real story I want to tell behind this photo? Is the story that I want to tell have the intention of boosting my ego to make it -seem- like my life isn’t boring, or do I want to share a story that will have a meaningful impact, such as helping to expand people’s perspectives or to inspire people’s sense of wonder and curiosity? Is it a story I’d want to share with my future kids someday? Am I doing this to explore my own artistic expression, or just bc I want something IG worthy?” etc.
Being aware of these types of meta issues around social media has helped me realize that I need to be more mindful and intentional about why I decide to take photos and record things.
Sometimes I also like to reframe it in terms of if I was using a camera with actual film with a far more limited number of exposures, would I actually be willing to use an exposure for this moment? Would I actually be excited to get the film developed and hold a physical copy of it?
Just some fun thought experiments to consider 🙂
did you purposely strikethrough "in" to make "just be the moment" because that's pretty succinct if i must say so
in short: social media makes us attention whores. and yes, you're exactly right
@@98Zai I disagree about "needs people already have". I would say it capitalizes on vulnerabilities that are built in to being a human in society. They're not something we need, but we are drawn to it all the same.
Agree with 98Zai, it's not something created by social media. People literally stayed hours and paid experts just to get a picture of themselves before cameras were invented.
Still, social media isn't just capitalising on it. The most appropiate word would be that social media is "abusing" people's need for attention.
My main argument is that by using social media extensively, you strip yourself off of privacy. No wait ! I'm not talking about companies selling your info. I remember afternoons spent with relatives and friends, sharing our experiences on vacations, talking about our lives... that's gone nowadays. People just look you up on social media and get the minimal amount of information to satisfy their curiosity, then move on. You have no need to go and see people to talk with them because you can just read their facebook timeline. This is what I call privacy. I want people to not know what I did and to ask me, I don't want to read about your vacations, I want you to tell me how you experienced it. I want a conversation, and social media is not a tool designed for this. It could be, but it's not in its current forms.
Never thought of this before.
I only use social media when it suits me(calling, group-chat, not-so-close contacts etc), rather than the other way around. My use of it declined drastically 2 years ago mainly because it sux being there. The adds, the constant grab for attention by everything in sight. And it's not very social, ironically.
I have seen people who have gone through divorces or simply break-ups that use FB and other social media to torture themselves with jealousy and rage by watching the lives of their exes.. They also seem to be unable to stop, what they see hurts them deeply but they also can't stop watching for fear of missing something.
CM Lindgren that sounds horrible, and I’m afraid it’s probably true.
anybody missing free vsauce uploads?
Yep
Yeah. :(
Yeah...
Yes.
Yes
I was too lazy for social media (but I do waste a lot of time on games)
now I just prefer using the time to make videos (and still enjoy games)
so yeah, for me YT is the best social media :D
Oh man! Yes! It ends up being a competition to see who appears more interesting/fun but we all know that none of it is real . . and yet we all still compete.
When I was younger and single I used social media to gain a higher social status, as Ive gotten older and married, I don't care about that anymore so I use social media to connect with old friends, and family, and to share ideas without any selfish intentions.
We have this image that all of social media is the same thing. That everyone is using it for vanity, and selfish reasons, but that is not the case. I know many people who dont post selfies, or posts about themselves at all ever. I know alot of people that post things about the world, and our society to help spread ideas, or to help others.
Social media is what you make it. It can be used for selfish vain reasons or it can be a great tool for learning and helping.
great message - and food for thought. The sad thing is that social media taps in , - no actually relies - on people's need for acceptance. Today's society seems to have a much higher prevalence of mental health issues, esp anxiety and low self esteem, and social media wouldn't be half as popular if that weren't the case. I wonder whether that was in generations gone by. What's even sadder is that the dopamine hit of getting likes is more important than the 'hit' of being with someone authentically in person.
I am antisocial. I use social media strictly for the purpose of keeping in contact with the people I care about even if I don't care about what they eat or how adorable their kids are. Social media has brought me work and connections like none other.
DM Bara but you will eventually fall susceptible to the likes and comments system, if you yourself post (depending on how much you use social media obviously)
Great. This video has auto-generated subtitles in... Korean...
Hellession lol
English subtitles have been submitted, pending approval
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I don’t usually comment on videos on this platform, for one reason or another. But the idea of “The Tyranny of The Self” really resonated with me, and I will certainly be looking into that further.
I quit most social media sometime between 6 months to a year ago. I favored twitter, and frequented a couple Facebook groups about guitar stuff. But I just found that these platforms were increasingly toxic and hostile spaces. Not in the sense that people often clash and disagree. That definitely happens. But more in the sense that any disagreement is met not with an opening to discourse, but with retaliation. One day I came to the conclusion that I just wasn’t gaining anything or being bettered in any way in places that were so overwhelmingly negative. Life sucks enough just by virtue of being life. I dont need to put myself through any more of that.
Since I quit, I think my overall mental and emotional wellbeing have drastically improved.
I have never used social media (except youtube and discord) and I will keep it this way.
The great thing about my decision is that I got to observe social media for years and still have a lot of time to observe even more. And I am an always observing person. In fact, I have now been observing the change of social media and social media itself for 6 years subcounciously and conciously for 4 years.
Meanwhile it even got to the point, where I would start laughing inside, when recognizing patterns in people I am interacting with.
The only problem is that I do not know how to tell other people, what I have observed. I only know how to observe, not how to tell. I might be able to tell some things to people that stand neutral to my point, but sadly I have no idea how to tell/explain the observed patterns to the people I have observed them from. And this is making me sad sometimes, because I do not even know how to help my own friend.
Edit: All of my observations are real life observations, not on youtube or other social media platforms.
I didn't know it was cool now to be anti social media but I'm glad to hear it. I am anti social media, too. I used to be on fb but quit after noticing that I'd mindlessly scroll through my feed at any idle moment, and also it felt cringy to see what people were sharing, things that seemed vain or too personal or overly dramatic or self absorbed. I also disliked the marketers and people sharing their political or other agendas. It was literally a feed - feeding us stuff and it's addictive. Then I started using Instagram, before fb acquired them, to share my artwork. I got likes and followers and that motivated me to keep posting. Again it got addictive, both the posting and the feed scrolling and seeing how many followers or likes I got, and seeing people using their account to market stuff and sell stuff and then the ads. So I quit that. I've never used Twitter really. TH-cam is my latest addiction - I spend hours a day watching videos. It better than the others but still there's clickbait, there's marketing (you start following a fitness channel and they implicitly try and sell you a product), there's people sharing overly personal info because it brings subscribers and views, there's information in excess so that you watch and watch and don't achieve anything really. And it's hard to pull away because you grow attached to the people you're following and they grow better at getting you to watch their videos. So although the informational aspect is great, it's muddled with many of the Ills of other forms of social media.
And how much time have you waste to type this comment? Yeah... I know your feel Bros.
@@wongwanchap nowhere near as much time as I spend watching fitness advice videos...
Stupids all around me thinks that they are too smart and popular by posting ultra filtered pictures or tik tok junk on social media i wish they realize how those platform is controlling their mind and life and ruining their future!!! And youtube actually has a 100 times better impact on peoples life, knowledge etc. Personally helped me a lot
That's a well articulated point about social media that I really agree with. Another thing is that if people just learn about you on social media, or through texting, then there may be no reason for them to talk to you face to face and you may never discover the chemistry you have together. Analyzing someone's profile without their knowledge is an anti social activity. Texting is an anti social activity, because it's less social than calling, which is less social than face to face. I hadn't heard of the tyranny of the remembering self before, but I have thought before that everyone would be happier if they only relied on their memory of their life and not on pictures.
With TH-cam, it's not so much that there is anything wrong with people uploading videos, it's that a person's youtube feed is eventually cultivated into an echo chamber of videos based on their interactions with the app. I.e. people are only exposed to videos that the algorithm thinks they will like. Granted, it's a really smart algorithm, but can we be certain that the algorithm isn't creating extremist echo chambers with views that could end up hurting society either physically or mentally and possibly on a massive scale?
Totally agree Derek. I am from the other part of the globe writing and I thought since the beginning of this new world that I wanted to maintain my uniqueness and dimension. I didn't want to get currupted with these means of "sharing". I think we should really think more, having time spent in nature. Nature is a big thing that most of people barely remembers... time spent listening to yourself and to what you're doing with your life. Not time spent scrolling the feed
Btw I'm watching from northern Italy, Domodossola (a city among the alps)
everyone in social media is somehow waiting for their 15 minutes of fame. You forgot to mention tiktok, the new video platform to post short stupid videos
Well isn't it because that tik tok wasnt that prevalent 2 years ago? But on the other hand i totally agree with you on the fact that social media is a big bane; it has its limited benefits but overall its just reducing us to dopamine driven people. I remember there used to be a time where i could easily watch a 20 min episode completely engrossed into it. However these days i feel as if my attention span has reduced considerably and it takes more effort to concentrate on my work
I've completely stopped using Facebook. I now mainly use Twitter as a platform to discuss news, science, sports, religion and a bunch of other topics. I don't use any social media for keeping in touch with family or friends. I still prefer calling people or sending them a text message for that.
From the very beginning of my exposure to it, I was not drawn to do social media. Particularly Facebook. Although my motivations were that any time I did spend on said platforms felt empty in contrast to the enriching experience of having fun in a group, a heart to heart, even an argument or any other in person intersection. So I totally hear you.
That said, I love TH-cam. I spend way too much time here! There's so much interesting content out there! I wish the algorithm would why away from clickbait and focus on what makes TH-cam so much better than all the other platforms.... Quality, learning, nuance, variety!
bless you mate! I"m glad I finally can show some people that I'm not the only one to think that way haha
I have never cared about social media. I don't see TH-cam really as social media either. It is a content distribution platform. I just consume stuff from Linus Tech Tips or Veritasium or other channels there. Those channels are not a social experience.
I have to agree. As a corollary, I'd like to see the like and subscribe options removed as well, they distract from the content.
Agree too , TH-cam is to me a video sharing and community building platform .
I still have my Facebook and Instagram but I dun use them much, about a few mins a day just to check up on hobbies news.
Very much the same. The channels I follow are either informational (vsauce, linustechtips, wendover productions, scishow, etc) or for-fun (Wintergatan, Gameranx, the Hacksmith, Film Theory, Corridor). Pretty much *nothing* is what I'd consider traditional social media. Gameranx comes closest, but even they are still mostly journalistic type of content.@PenguinF: I disagree on the subscribe. I don't trust the youtube algorythm to reliably get me videos from channels that rarely upload but are always worth watching like 4096 or Turnah81.
@@PuzzleQodec Subscribe is useful, though. If I like a channel, I want to be notified when they upload a video. I like to be up to date on tech news, for example, which is why I'm subscribed to Linus Tech Tips. The comment I'm writing now is the closest thing to a social media experience there is to be had. And after this video, we will never meet again. Still not all that social.
I stopped using social media as a 'social' media. It is my entertainment. I separate the artist and the art. Every photograph or drawing or even text post exists to entertain me in some fashion. Sometimes it is news that informs me, or a painting that makes me ponder life and the future I could have. As I have no real friends, no post on there can effect me personally.
Oh and the only social media I use is TH-cam, Twitter, and Reddit.
Same here.
Exactly. This argument about people posting "what they had for dinner" is getting tiresome. Almost none of my friends actively post on their timeline. Whole facebook nowadays is about sharing memes and messenger.
The latter is mainly the reason why there's so many people staying on it. Because of 'walled garden' philosophy of big companies, people tend to use the network with the most users. It used to be ICQ, now it's (sadly) facebook.
I stopped reddit. The chats were taking too much time from the limited time that I have on this earth.
I stumbled on this post after watching your post about detecting gravitational waves and found myself moved by your apparent authenticity. I think I see you, and you are beautiful. Full disclosure, I work in technology, but haven't ever posted to twitter, look at my facebook account less than 4 times a year and participate even less frequently, but I don't hate social media. Initially I found myself agreeing with you whole heartedly, enthusiastically even. "Are we branding ourselves? Is this just gross self-absorbed self-promotion? Then for each criticism you articulately described and which I could agree with, I found myself asking, "Is that true?" Then I remembered back in art school writing my thesis about the idea of the self, and how, for me, it's created a new in each interaction, emerging, of course, from the accumulation or residue of many prior interactions. I recalled an essay by Hakim Bey about mediation and the lack of authentic connection in our hyper-mediated culture - from before the web (yes, I'm that old). Then all of a sudden I found myself asking if there were other ways in which people have used other tools to craft themselves, to intentionally create, authentic, aspirational, or even ugly, superficial, deceptive narratives for themselves. I wondered if there were historical or cross cultural analogues for this kind of self-discovery, self-creation process. Maybe journaling, poetry, star gazing or a walkabout were earlier analogs? I worked at the Youth Crisis Line in the early days of the Internet and recalled the rosy picture of the Internet providing a locus for marginalized people to find community. (in this case, marginalized youth, geographically isolated) and it did, but it also provided a pulpit for bullies and hate speech. I was also reminded of a quote from The Phaedrus by Plato, I think intended to be a recollection of a conversation between Socrates and one of his students, where he is critical of writing as a technology of sorts, "that writing is unfortunately like painting; for the creations of the painter have the attitude of life, and yet if you ask them a question they preserve a solemn silence." I certainly don't have the answers, but by the end of your post and the internal dialog it inspired, I found myself leaning more towards the center. relinquished to the idea that something is always lost outside of being present in the complete tapestry of context in any given moment. Perhaps it is the sheer gravity of the effects that make us wary, like gravitational waves from colliding black holes. On the other hand, I find my personal values in relationship to it are the same as they are to other media. I value authenticity, questions over answers, and vulnerability as strength. I think you have those qualities. Thank you for being thoughtful and engaged, and for sharing! - I think this might be one of only a handful of things I've posted here, or anywhere. You moved me, through social media. ;-)
Why he's not posting anything here?
I think he should post about his philosophy here
The only social media I really interact with is social media where you generally talk 'face-to-face' so to speak. Things like Discord, Skype and Whatsapp. I never understood the point of sharing everything about your life with the entire world, and I never used those kinds of social media (facebook, snapchat, instagram, etc.). It excludes me from some things sometimes, but that's fine by me. I like having proper conversations about topics I enjoy with people I like having conversations with. I don't care whether people like or dislike my opinion, as long as I'm allowed to express it.
Social media to me seems like a curse disguised as a blessing, drawing people in using the herd behaviour, and keeping them in with dopamine, but taking an incredible about of time to maintain and keep up with. I'm not judging anyone that's on it. If you enjoy it, you do you, and keep using it. A lot of good can come from it. I don't see myself as better than anyone for not using it. I'm just glad I've managed to avoid something I know I don't want to be a part of. And I wish good luck to anyone trying to break the shackles of anti-social media.
All good thoughts. Thanks for sharing.
You’re so right..! I’d never noticed the huge amount of time I spend watching TH-cam videos. Man, you’ve opened my eyes. I’ve just unsubscribed all my channels (including yours), and deleted my Instagram account. I wish I could delete Facebook too, but it contains a lot of old pictures that I have nowhere else. I’d deleted my LinkedIn account three years ago (and I’ve survived!). The hardest thing to do would be to delete my Twitter, but it’s the only way I can be in touch with the world (I do not watch TV)... I follow Scientific American, BBC, NASA, and other space agencies of the world. See you in a couple of years...!
Been a while since you uploaded to this channel! I miss the Dr. Muller on a walk in the mountains rants!
Strava the app for recording exercise is a example. It's great, you get to upload data. Track the geek stuff like heart rate power and such. But, there is something about just getting outside without all of this extra information that's just special. Sometimes there is that psychological pressure that comes because you want to be popular by posting that stuff online. There is a point where it's important to take a step away and just see if you enjoy doing something without those external forces.
Perhaps the most impressive part of this video is that he walked up a steep hill while eloquently expressing his views.
I love the place where you walk, I know that you wouldnt even care but I personally would love to see you in person, share ideas with you, you are a big personality for me, thanks to you I understood so many things and thank you for being SOCIAL and not ANTISOCIAL here on youtube, thank you for your effort in creating videos keep it up my friend. hope to see you son in another video Derek.
I've stopped using Facebook cuz it makes me feel bad about how unsocial my life is, or tries to imply such from all the posts my friends post and like and share, sort of makes me self conscious, having the desire to be more social, as if my social level isn't in their tier. Though it is true some people are more social, it is just the notion that you have to aspire and such which rather disturbs me.
2 years later:
YT shorts
I think Social Media is kinda... meh...
That's why I call it "So-So Media."
good joke. appreciated
Meh-dia ?
@@osenseijedi no ni
Edit: Poorly worded. See follow-up for details.
First Therion comment that wasn't a pun or joke.
FB, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat etc put the "me" in media. It's not about me, so I like TH-cam.
That last caption phrase describes your position on social media.
Love you man, I truly love you
"We're focused on how to capture the moment and experience, rather than actually experiencing our lives"
^This.
Tis also a reason why i don't take selfies, nor generally take pictures when I'm on vacation. Nor take pictures (as a rule) with my partner. I especially do not posst these things on social media. I prefer to be more in the moment.. experiencing it fully. That is.when and where the magic happens. Plus I'm an incredibly private person these days.
Also, feck the social media popularity game. I want none of that.
Black Mirror portrays this very well
Cristobal fuchs I was thinking about that as well
Which episode?
@@edgyvenom153 Nosedive
The truck lady is awesome
You described my exact current feelings on this subject. In fact, this Christmas I made a personal resolution to not post anything on social media (other than TH-cam) in 2019, in the hope that this will instigate in me the good habit of not doing it anymore in the future.
'(Other than youtube)' XD
Same here. No more Facebook or Instagram! It feels great even though its been only 8 days.
You sir are a wonderful musician.
Totally agreed. Left fb 10+ years now. Only use it for messenger to reach old pals. Signed up for instagram, never got interested. Signed up snap chat, got tired of watching friends so focused on clicking snaps rather experiencing that reality in that moment for themselves.