Narcissist actually make up the majority in our society , most both men and women are narcisssits . It comes from insecurity , they have insecurities that’s the cause
A riddle I have been trying to figure out for 45 years to my shame. No one till now has been able to give me a satisfactory answer. When you know that you know it is an aha moment and you know you have stumbled on a truth. All be it an uncomfortable truth! Thank you Prof. Vaknin
All true. So glad to be away from him. Super weird during sex. Very absent. No kissing. Barely touched me. No skillz at all. Dressed and out the door in three minutes flat afterwards, with some sort of angry comment while walking out the door. Literally an emotionally jolting experience.
They are terrible lovers. No kissing, no cuddling, no foreplay. Despite how they try to appear sexy and seductive and market themselves. Huge disappointment.
@@brendaplunkett8659 also "tiny" disappointment. LOL! He used to say, "Do you know how many girls want to sleep with me?" I felt like saying how many after the first time, cause I am sure that number dwindled down pretty quickly after they do it once with him.
I have experienced this first hand. For two years. I even said to him "you are using my body to mastubate" "it's like I'm simply a glory holes to use" it was disgusting and degrading. I was coerced into disturbing things. His "dirty talk " was also about his incest fantasy.
Features mentioned fit to so many crappy people. It's way more than 3%. It's the fact, that all people like that, aren't getting caught. Mainly due to the fact, that witnesses, are their victims, and victims of such people, aren't self confident people. Especially after the abuse, with self esteem heading below 0. That 3% is probably guessed after bigger things that ended up in courts.
Explains why my husband will sit with one hand under the blanket, which he is under one ALL THE TIME....and, when he is in the presence of others and CAN'T sit under a blanket, CONSTANTLY moving his legs back and forth with quick movements. He's CONSTANTLY "pleasuring" himself........Lord have mercy.
So gross! I had a relationtrip with one of these guys, he LITERALLY CALLED OUT HIS OWN NAME during sex. He love bombed me at the beginning, he was handsome but I never focused on it, and hate bombed me BIG TIME at the end. He would send half naked pics that to me seemed super gay, I'm sure he did it to many others if they fawned, I didn't, he hated me and can't stop even many years later.
You never cease to MAKE ME LAUGH 😂 @Prof. Sam Vaknin! Thank you so much Professor for creating these educational videos on Mental Health issues. Because of you, I’m armed with lifesaving knowledge so I can now identify a Malignant Narcissist out in the secular world. I’m going through a divorce with one of the 2% “Delightful people.” and wish I had known about my psychopathic malignant narcissist 17 years ago before I was betrayed and my health deteriorated into a permanent autoimmune disorder. Fun Times!!! 😢
What if partner is submissive for different reason like trauma bond or scared of narcissist, not because they are attracted to them. Would the narcissist interpret it as other person finding them irresistible.
@@samvaknin then the narcissist, whom I was with doesn't seem to be like this one you described. But he was surely sadistic in all ways. He had lascivious look leering at particular body part & smiling creepily with no regard for other person as if they are object to be looked at with no personal agency, which was very objectifying & humiliating, also they were very sexually shaming for having the natural body, blaming you as if your body itself is sexually provocative object as if you're responsible & trying to seduce others, they didn't wanted me to look feminine & there was always a subconscious fear that if I tried to look pretty, they would think about me in a wrong way, like I'm trying to seduce others & do something bad which they would justify & blame me, Always interrogated when I talked to any guy of my own age, they once gave rape threat cause he was so angry describing explicitly what's he's gonna do as a form of punishment. They did many Inapropriate things & touching, concealing them as innocent actions, they seemed to get exited when other older creepy men leered. I was so scared that if I don't do what he wants from me, he's gonna do something terrible to me, which I could never recover from. Does this sound like a narcissist or Is it something else. Sorry if this is too much, but I've trauma from this, & I'm trying to get help, I don't know how to start
@@samvaknin sorry if I did that I'm not able to find any other explanation for my suffering. That's why I asked you is it something else & not narcissism? So that I can move on from this
My former Husband is in a mental ward at the moment. And he was saying about Male Nurses walking into his room and catching him naked. He complained to the staff that these Men were feasting their eyes on his naked body. After hearing this today it makes much more sense. I have bathed or showered John many times, because he won't wash himself, and I can assure everyone there's no feasting the eyes on his naked body lol
I still find myself driven crazy (or am i the narc?) I still dont know. Each contact makes me more crazy and acting like a total jerk. Now im triggered into anger and tricked into being abusive at the drop of a hat, i feel like i really picked up the "fleas" from a lifetime of being codependent/narcissistic.
You usually mention that the victim eventually has enough, gets up and walks away- what about when she doesnt? What about when she stays with him for the rest of her life. What happens to her then?
3% and I managed to find 3 of them. Lucky me.
I was married to a diagnosed malignant narcissist for 14 years and had two children. It has been hell. Still is for my son.
Don’t make families with them. 😩 Now you tell me. 😮💨
I couldn't imagine having to co-parent with one of those creatures... That's one screwed up thought 😮 😳 😬
relate so hard to this!
No kidding!!! If only I knew😢
Narcissist actually make up the majority in our society , most both men and women are narcisssits . It comes from insecurity , they have insecurities that’s the cause
Nicole right.
A riddle I have been trying to figure out for 45 years to my shame. No one till now has been able to give me a satisfactory answer. When you know that you know it is an aha moment and you know you have stumbled on a truth. All be it an uncomfortable truth! Thank you Prof. Vaknin
Dr. Vaknin has the most charming delivery of some very difficult topics- I could listen to him all day. I have learned so much. Thank you Dr. Vaknin
All true. So glad to be away from him. Super weird during sex. Very absent. No kissing. Barely touched me. No skillz at all. Dressed and out the door in three minutes flat afterwards, with some sort of angry comment while walking out the door. Literally an emotionally jolting experience.
They are terrible lovers. No kissing, no cuddling, no foreplay. Despite how they try to appear sexy and seductive and market themselves. Huge disappointment.
@@brendaplunkett8659 also "tiny" disappointment. LOL! He used to say, "Do you know how many girls want to sleep with me?" I felt like saying how many after the first time, cause I am sure that number dwindled down pretty quickly after they do it once with him.
@@TheVirtualDeb Exactly, after that once or maybe twice.Uggg. No thanks. This seduction is smoke and mirrors.
@@brendaplunkett8659 I went for seven, cause I am kind like that 🙂
@@RelaxRestoreReleaseRestart Never got better?
I have experienced this first hand. For two years. I even said to him "you are using my body to mastubate" "it's like I'm simply a glory holes to use" it was disgusting and degrading. I was coerced into disturbing things. His "dirty talk " was also about his incest fantasy.
Features mentioned fit to so many crappy people. It's way more than 3%. It's the fact, that all people like that, aren't getting caught. Mainly due to the fact, that witnesses, are their victims, and victims of such people, aren't self confident people. Especially after the abuse, with self esteem heading below 0. That 3% is probably guessed after bigger things that ended up in courts.
Explains why my husband will sit with one hand under the blanket, which he is under one ALL THE TIME....and, when he is in the presence of others and CAN'T sit under a blanket, CONSTANTLY moving his legs back and forth with quick movements. He's CONSTANTLY "pleasuring" himself........Lord have mercy.
😂😂😂 Eww
That thumbnail tho 😂
So gross! I had a relationtrip with one of these guys, he LITERALLY CALLED OUT HIS OWN NAME during sex. He love bombed me at the beginning, he was handsome but I never focused on it, and hate bombed me BIG TIME at the end. He would send half naked pics that to me seemed super gay, I'm sure he did it to many others if they fawned, I didn't, he hated me and can't stop even many years later.
You never cease to MAKE ME LAUGH 😂 @Prof. Sam Vaknin!
Thank you so much Professor for creating these educational videos on Mental Health issues. Because of you, I’m armed with lifesaving knowledge so I can now identify a Malignant Narcissist out in the secular world.
I’m going through a divorce with one of the 2% “Delightful people.” and wish I had known about my psychopathic malignant narcissist 17 years ago before I was betrayed and my health deteriorated into a permanent autoimmune disorder.
Fun Times!!! 😢
Professor Vaknin, love your work! Thank you for all that you do to educate us. ❤
I caught one of these folk blowing himself a kiss in the mirror once 😅😅😅😅
Dont make fun of me for practicing for the ladies
@@causticmain5002 😂😂🤣
My ex used to do that ALL the time, soooo weird!!! 😜🤣🤪
😂
That makes sense
Decades of cold sex
No intimacy
There are people like that??
That’s sick
This was my ex. I thought it was pretend, to him it was real and necessary. My ethics could not allow and the hate began.
Ahhh, this would explain the mirrors on some peoples bedroom ceilings, a bit of a cliche these days, or large mirrors adjacent to the bed.
This explains so much!😢
My in the closet husband loves his image in the mirror like a gd parakeet!!!!
Knowing my worth allowed me to dump him before I got in too deep. Definitely the wrong man for me.
What if partner is submissive for different reason like trauma bond or scared of narcissist, not because they are attracted to them. Would the narcissist interpret it as other person finding them irresistible.
Yes. Narcissists are delusional. But submissive is not enough: the partner has to express enthusiastic consent and initiate some of the kinky sex.
@@samvaknin then
the narcissist, whom I was with doesn't seem to be like this one you described. But he was surely sadistic in all ways.
He had lascivious look leering at particular body part & smiling creepily with no regard for other person as if they are object to be looked at with no personal agency, which was very objectifying & humiliating,
also they were very sexually shaming for having the natural body, blaming you as if your body itself is sexually provocative object as if you're responsible & trying to seduce others,
they didn't wanted me to look feminine & there was always a subconscious fear that if I tried to look pretty, they would think about me in a wrong way, like I'm trying to seduce others & do something bad which they would justify & blame me,
Always interrogated when I talked to any guy of my own age,
they once gave rape threat cause he was so angry describing explicitly what's he's gonna do as a form of punishment.
They did many Inapropriate things & touching, concealing them as innocent actions,
they seemed to get exited when other older creepy men leered.
I was so scared that if I don't do what he wants from me, he's gonna do something terrible to me, which I could never recover from.
Does this sound like a narcissist or Is it something else.
Sorry if this is too much, but I've trauma from this, & I'm trying to get help, I don't know how to start
@@Am-js1ue You are not trained or qualified to diagnose people. So, don't!
@@samvaknin sorry if I did that
I'm not able to find any other explanation for my suffering. That's why I asked you is it something else & not narcissism? So that I can move on from this
@Am-js1ue the label won't take away the trauma. Seek a trauma informed therapist
My former Husband is in a mental ward at the moment. And he was saying about Male Nurses walking into his room and catching him naked. He complained to the staff that these Men were feasting their eyes on his naked body. After hearing this today it makes much more sense. I have bathed or showered John many times, because he won't wash himself, and I can assure everyone there's no feasting the eyes on his naked body lol
now thats a good setup. i had a cd similar once. my body stole it lmao
@whatap-1_prof_SamMiss Dior , you have been convicted. There is a process , your legal representative advises of these.
The generic picture looks Awful 😂 MERCI 🙏
I am from that family.
1-By any chance do narcs ruminate about former supplies?
Immediately following the breakup and immediately prior to hoovering, they do.
@@samvaknin thankyou sir .
May be that is me? 🤔🙉🤷♀️
😂😂
Mine cheated with girls 20+ years my junior im 44 he 36
@sam vaknin, does this include excruciating pinching, biting to the point of leaving marks, sodomy?
If the partner expresses enthusiastic consent and fanrasizes about it as well, anything goes.
Hey good morning. Always fascinating. But Thats a really disgusting picture... Uggghhh
He's pretty much described me to a T .
Only 3%?
I still find myself driven crazy (or am i the narc?) I still dont know. Each contact makes me more crazy and acting like a total jerk. Now im triggered into anger and tricked into being abusive at the drop of a hat, i feel like i really picked up the "fleas" from a lifetime of being codependent/narcissistic.
You usually mention that the victim eventually has enough, gets up and walks away- what about when she doesnt? What about when she stays with him for the rest of her life. What happens to her then?
She dies. Her dreams her wishes her thoughts her love and her body. I was almost her.
Watch the shared fantasy and the abuse playlists.
I'm scared I'll fo back if he comes calling