Should You Have Opposite Sex Friendships In A Marriage? | Jabari Johnson's Dilemma
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ส.ค. 2024
- In this podcast episode, Jabari Johnson delves into the controversial topic of opposite-sex friendships within a marriage. Should spouses have close friends of the opposite sex? Jabari shares his personal dilemma and explores the potential risks and benefits of maintaining such friendships while committed to a partner. Join the conversation and hear different perspectives on this common relationship issue. Watch now to discover if opposite-sex friendships can coexist with a happy and healthy marriage. This episode is titled, “Friends Without Benefits.”
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Normalize telling people "out of respect for my wife/husband, we have to discontinue our friendship". Nothing personal against you, but everything is personal when it comes to my spouse!!! If my spouse is uncomfortable regarding ANYONE, I have to cut ties with that person because my spouse comes before EVERYONE after God!!!
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Exactly!!!
Totally agree
51:35 Latteras is giving wisdom BASED ON EXPERIENCE.
52:20. WE ALL....not just men ...NEED TO LISTEN!!!
That’s a great idea!
You can tell he still has some healing to do in the area of validation. Maintaining many female friendships for some men is to fill a void. Intimacy grows through shared interests , I don’t want my man developing intimacy with someone who’s not me. He shouldn’t want to even develop that with another woman.
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I dated a man like this but not for long. You could see how much that kind needed validation from women. I was always gonna be competing with his need for attention by other women even if they were "just friends". I got out quickly
Laterras, I'm so happy you jumped in and started sharing the nuances of your story with them because it will help, especially Jabari, to understand that a lack of boundaries doesn't work in a marriage.
I’m heavy on the No on my man having a woman as a friend. Some women can be scandalous and I don’t have time to be oblivious.
Dude ain’t ready. I am so happy the host spoke of his experience and spoke wisdom to this young man. He needs attention from females …. He ain’t ready for marriage
How Would You Know If He’s Not Ready Do You Know Him Personally Oh Wait You Don’t So Please Shut Your Mouth I’m Sick And Tired Of Y’all Coming For My Brother Jabari.
I love these two!! Praying blessings upon blessings on their union. Their friendship is truly amazing and I love seeing young black men do what they said they couldn’t. Jabari’s stance, “I don’t get it now but I’ll understand it later,” reminds me of the beauty that can be found in obedience. Keep God first and that FAVOR will exceed anything you’ve ever imagined❤
Exactly
We have to stop “watering down” what the Bible says and what’s acceptable in the Church. Saying that you are using secular music to “reach souls” is nonsense. God doesn’t want us to sin or not filter what we listen to just to bring people into the kingdom. We do so by demonstrating righteousness and striving to be more like him. We’re saying God is not Big enough for us to stay saved and still preach to the masses.
This one blessed me. I lost my father last year and the tears I just cried with this episode. I didn't want a wedding because my dad couldn't walk me down the aisle, but this just softened my heart.
May God bless yalls union and everything y'all touch!
I love the chemistry they have. They are not only in love with each other. They are in like with each other too. God's favor in abundance over their union.🙏🏾🙏🏾
I love this episode! This confirmed why I didn't let my ex play in my face like he tried to. I do not trust male/female "friendships." Females are scandalous and males do not seem to notice when their "best friends" are being sneaky. Thank you for this episode.
Jabari is for the streets. He has some growing up & healing to do. Jasmine protect your peace. Some women will make adjustments for a relationship while some men have a "take me as I am" type of attitude whether their behaviors are conducive to having a healthy relationship with their primarily partner or not.
Glad you said it!!!
This and he reallll petty, so yeah he needs a lot of inner healing.
Before I watched this interview I read the comments. I couldn’t even finish this interview due to his behavior for his nonchalant attitude and the way he speaks I was in dislike. I’m hope nothing but the best for them
You Sound Stupid What Do You Mean Growing Up You Don’t Even Know Jabari They Are A Great Couple And I Support Jabari Opinion.
@@SHENA75051It Was Nonchalant In Your Opinion Lady Jabari Is Blunt Like I Hear A Lot Of Negativity In These Comments Jabari Is Speaking Facts I Agree With Him Especially Since I’m A Man Your Not Gonna Understand Cause Your A Woman. All Imma Say Too You If You Have Negativity Take It Some Where Else Cause Nobody Cares About It.
I love how much they laugh together. It's clear that they are truly friends first. Wishing them God's very best. 😇😘
I came here off of knowing who Jabari is from his music but after watching… whew…Jasmine, I’m praying. Because the red flags are red flagging.
Why do you say that?
Red flags? You obviously ain’t listening! We’re speaking on things that happened in the PAST genius. 🙄
@@TheJabariJohnson Woah, no need to be rude. Im actually a fan of your music/ministry. I’m allowed to have an opinion though. I’ve just personally been in her shoes before and it led to multiple unfavorable situations. So it’s a trigger for me personally.
I ignored many of those same flags and it resulted in broken trust both before and after we got married. Never said that will be their case..which is why I said I’m praying. Truly wish them the best.
The biggest red flag that is so obvious that everyone seems to be missing is they WERE the friends that the topic at hand is about. They were the friends that we are all warned about. The friends we all have that uneasy feeling about. They would have been the ones that they would have told you not to worry about lol.
This is why I don't trust any man that has a female friend/"homie"/"sister". That connection is different than their friendships with their male friends. It always will be and this is the ultimate risk. They can say in their friendship that they have no desire for each other whatsoever but that's never entirely the case. They usually have an active emotional relationship and let the right circumstances present themselves and it will inevitably lead to something more. Like this.
Men and women can be associates and maybe friends of friends but friends friends/"besties"/"sister" Nah, y'all fooling yallselves and keeping them as a backup bae in all reality.
I ended my marriage because my ex-husband didn’t understand the dangers of emotional infidelity. Men think that cheating is just sexual. It isn’t. It’s ANY deep connection that you have with someone other than your spouse. Emotional intimacy can actually be more devastating. Ladies, never let a man manipulate you into thinking you’re imagining things between him and his ‘friend’. Listen to your intuition.
hmmmm, 45mins in. I pray for this relationship. A man who refers to his past as a "whore" should be careful maintaining friendships with the opposite sex. The devil is always looking for our weak spot. I pray God guide them in their relationship.
Right. You literally said that was a struggle for you.
Same exact thoughts I had
Apart of doing the work is knowing yourself. We need to know our own weaknesses and guarding yourself so you won’t violate those boundaries is important now and during marriage.
This!!! Itell ppl this all the time
He’s wild for thinking it’s okay to be going out to eat with a woman you just met and “made friends with” when you have a wife. Wild and extremely naive at best.
THANK YOU👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
All laughs and smiles aside.. I believe Jabari could really benefit from psychotherapy, there’s definitely something deeper going on…Never the least..I pray God covers their union & I pray Jasmine be sure to protect her heart and mind and to use discernment ♥️
I agree. No one is perfect but He doesn’t seem as submitted to the Lord like he needs to be especially as a worship leader. It isn’t just a job. I hope he gets help to heal from
@user-ju2lz1ib1p I guess I'm not the only one seeing that too. He needs to seek the Lord to be set free. It sounds like he always worked in Church while still dating and engaging sexually with multiple women. I'm not surprised they admitted to having sex, before choosing to abstain. I think he might have influenced Jasmine to get to that point. Makes my heart sad. I really want them to succeed, but some red flags cannot be ignored. I pray God guide them 🙏🏿
This the one!
Yup.
There’s mistakes and then there’s patterns. I’ve learned from personal experience that patterns don’t go away after marriage, they are amplified.
I hope Jabari is picking up these gems of wisdom Laterras is dropping. Praying for longevity, joy, and peace in their marriage! ❤
I'm glad they're transparent about their past. However, I need to say this...we Christians need to do better when it comes to sexual purity. To be serving in Church and fornicating part-time is not God honoring. It happens too frequently in our churches. We need to be awaken to why it's so easy for people to lack that self-control.
I see Jasmine as a good Church girl, I wonder what pushed her into having sex with her fiance in the first place. I was all excited when she started talking about her taking the Bible seriously, but my heart sunk, knowing she had already tasted the forbidden fruit🫣. Not judging, but I wish they had touched on what triggered them to start having sex in the first place while still serving in church. Was it lack of boundaries, did they move in together? This could free some younger ones from going the same path. Also, from they comments, it sound like they live together...I stand to be corrected. If true, that alone could lead them into temptation.
Anyway, praying God guide their relationship.
I don't blame people when the Churches have NEVER done a good job of explaining sexuality. It's not about lack of self control. It's about biology. Our bodies allow us to start procreating at around 11-13. Think about that for real. Our bodies (not anything we have control over) already prepare us to bring life into the world starting between 11-13. No one talks about this in church. Hormones are all over the place. Hormones that are created there for a reason ...and we don't have control over them. If we didn't get aroused we wouldn't even want to have sex to even procreate. Testerone levels peak at 18-19 which makes sense why those are the ages when they are most likely to want to have sex. Let's keep it all the way real. It's not nasty - it's biological. This is how it should be talked about in church with teenagers. Not shame them for their bodies doing what it does NATURALLY. Purity culture is NOT the answer.
Honesty about biology is the answer. Explaining the importance of wanting to save yourself for your future life partner is the answer. Let's start here: by most accounts Mary who was the mother of Jesus was engaged to Joseph and pregnant with him when she was either 14 or 15. Marinate on that for a moment- and that would not have been unusual. In the early 1970s, the median age for men to get married was 23 and it was 21 for women. Basically the point is...back in the day people were marrying during their peak hormone years. Now, people are holding off marriage for so many reasons - and their bodies can't hold off like that. Their bodies can't stop doing what it naturally does because you haven't gotten married yet and you are 28. That's not how that works. What people should be doing instead is teaching the need for wanting marriage and not holding off. Let's talk about WHY people are holding off on marriage in the first place. That's the real conversation...because if people don't see the value in marriage and are holding off for those reasons....if we could shift that mentality that would solve the issue. Whey are Christian people not feeling the need to get married at 21 or 22 like they used to? Let's start there. Back in the day, men didn't wait to get married because they "weren't settled yet "- they figured it out. I'm not saying that's all good, but I'm not saying it's all bad either. I think there is some good that can be learned from getting married young and figuring things out together as a couple and learning together. You truly build TOGETHER. That's lost on the younger generations. I'm 43 and I see it all the time.
Genuine question: Why do you perceive that Jasmine was pushed into sex? What if she was the initiator?
@@praizeyah I make that assumption because of her partner's sexual past. Assuming she was the one who initiated sex, if the partner was not that sexually active, and also strongly believed the importance of waiting to get married to have sex, he may have prevented that from happening. This is a very common occurrence, when a non-sexually active partner engage with a partner with a wild sexual past, more likely than not, the one with more experience can influence the other negatively.
A person making you feel like or even saying you’re insecure because you’re requesting they create boundaries discussed on this program with a friend or an ex....is not your person. I learned this the hard way.
Likewise.
Learning that now.
So true. I remember being told I was insecure but yet they didn’t want me to have male friends while he has female friends… it don’t work, I ended up not relaying my feelings anymore and burying pain because of it. To this day In a healthy way I still don’t want nobody saying they’re friends with my man my man my man… I’m his friend, no jealousy or anything but I’ve encountered so much manipulation on both ends and I’d rather keep it business and know your role.
Can you explain please?
@@sunkissed6413 In the majority of situations like these if the person you’re in a relationship with is not transparent about ex’s and females/ males they call friends, that means they still have romantic ties with their ex’s and no boundaries with their so called friends.
Neither partner should ever want each other to feel insecure about anyone that’s in their life and if they truly care for each other there should be complete transparency. At some point you should be able to meet friends and ex wives/ex husbands if they were married and had children.
Those people should have complete respect for you and respect for your time and space with your partner. Your partner is the one who should demand it. If that’s not present in your relationship the buck stops with you.
Whew this is triggering for me their story reminds me of my last relationship. My ex was just like Jabari very charismatic, more friendship with women than men, and multiple engagements. And I expressed the same concerns that Jasmine had, (we even were in pre-martial counseling) and my ex would put “boundaries” around his friendships outta respect for me. But let me tell you that was not enough, my ex ended up cheating on me with one of his “friends”. Thank God I found out before we went thru with getting married.
But what i learned from that relationship is if a man is only changing his “whorish” ways for the sake of you, THE CHANGE WILL NOT LAST!! He will eventually go back to his true nature. Only the power of the Holy Spirit can change a man’s nature. Also it should be a red flag when every women that he has dated before you, he has proposed to because what makes me so special you thought every girl was “the one” before me. What made your decision making so right this time around. Lastly don’t trust a man who doesn’t have strong male friendships. Who is he accountable to, who is giving him advice from a man’s perspective.
I’m really praying for this couple bc although the wedding date is almost here it’s better to walk away before the I DO. Or even if they continue with the wedding I’m praying that there is significant change that they won’t have to go thru infidelity in their marriage.
So good!!!! Definitely been there!!!! 📌📌📌
This is very good and very true. As I was watching, I just had this unsettling feeling about some of the responses I was hearing. And HEAVY on ONLY the power of Holy Spirit can change a man’s nature. If you’re only modifying your behavior just to have “peace” of mind or to avoid conflict with someone, what tends to happen is you become secretive and sneak around. Especially if you can’t understand why that behavior is wrong in the first place.
I am not in a place to say whether this type of relationship can or will last. However, like you, I’m praying for this couple.
10ssss ALL ACROSS THE BOARD FOR THIS COMMENT🔥🔥💯💯‼️‼️
Yes it's OK to have friends of the opposite sex but they must know and respect the boundaries you put in place and at no time will you tolerate any disrespect of the husband or wife.
Exactly. Boundaries
God says to flee from sin , not turn from it run from it . If the possibility of sin is there then run . The sin being lust of the flesh even in a platonic friendship , because you have a simple sex dream of a friend of the opposite and bam you wake up the next morning and happen to see that friend now all that goes through your mind the sex dream from the night before , that thought (lust) is the sin we are suppose to flee from
I think this can potentially be a beautiful union . After Jabari let go of these women “friends “. Men can often be naive . But at some point in his life and in marriage ( ideally before ) in the same manner you’ve got to leave your mom and dad , you must first let go of these friends to cleave to your wife . What else can other women serve you outside of validation?
It’s the fact that he said he’s most looking forward to FAVOR!!!! It’s the FAVOR for meeee 🗣️🗣️
He wouldn’t be able to accept if she moved the same he moved bc he knows it’s wrong 😑 so when he says he doesn’t need to understand where she’s coming from or why she feels the way she feels, it’s bc he already knows and he’s being manipulative..Therapy wasn’t needed to understand this..& As I finish this conversation, I pray God open Jasmine’s eyes and ears to the silent parts that’s not being spoken aloud here.
That's deep😮
Reading between the lines
@49:10 They needed to hear that. I felt the mood/energy change once Laterras started sharing his “testimony” I hope they listen to avoid any possible mess ups❤
Me toooooo
Yep! He took his glasses off, leg started wiggling, wiping sweat off his face. I pray she is not going to be spending her time trying to keep him in check during their marriage.
As an engaged woman planning a wedding and life with my soon to be husband, I really appreciated this realness and raw interview
I love the openness, comfort ability and freedom that these two have! They laugh together and they seem to balance each other well! I pray blessings on your marriage! Please keep this great level of communication 🙏🏽🥰
THIS is definitely one of my top 3 episodes! Love them, love the transparency and love the DFWifey Team!!🖤
Throughly enjoyed the interview. The honesty and transparency was admirable. How responsible and intentional to attend premarital counseling to ensure all issues were brought to the forefront and they were able to make it through. Young, bright and talented. Many blessings to their future together!
I loved the interview, but I don’t agree with taking a song laced with curses to make it worship/ gospel song. To me it is crossing the line. I know a lot of people will say it’s not that serious but that’s why the standard for being a Christian is what it is today. I understand no one is perfect and will never be, however, if someone is fornicating, fighting, cursing, listening to music that glorifies that life, they should not be leading worship. Let God work on you first. Peoples lives and souls are at stake.
This is my first time commenting, but I always watch, I must say this couple truly put the T in transparency. Their friendship shows how vital it is to be friends before entering into marriage. I love how dedicated he is when it comes to being a provider. It shows that he's not just a male but a man, I pray that the Lord will bless your union as you both embark on this new journey in life; For the Lord is a covenant-keeping God 🙏🏽 Many blessings upon blessings Jabari and Jasmine on your upcoming wedding.
Relationships are challenging. Establishing and understanding boundaries early in the process is key. I wish the best of this young couple. Wisdom has taught me the importance to setting clear boundaries with friends as well, and not hesitating to cut off anyone that thratens the integrity of the relationship.
The vulnerability, transparency, realness, friendship and love. This was so good. Understanding each other and knowing your boundaries. Love this episode!
I don't believe there's a blanket answer for having opposite sex friends when you're married. It's personal to the relationship. If you're realistic with yourself and KNOW you have light to no boundaries, then you obviously can't. If your friends respect your spouse and boundaries are set, and there are no insecurities to work through then it may work for you. All I know is when my partner of many years left me for dead my friends were there to see my thru it so I value true friendships.
Given the way they started out I understand the concern and why boundaries definitely need to be set.
Thank you for your honesty! Most men will take their infidelity to the grave and they will never admit the proclivity for falling into temptation with friends of the opposite sex. You got me kinda glad I subscribed😊
I love that she shared that her father taught her how to be strong. Men teach they're daughters to be tough. Its not always the single mother hardened life lol. My father taught me the same.
So did mine. At one point he said he thinks he over did it because I was uber independent.
I’m so happy for both of them. They real, you can tell they’re authentic & so is their relationship. I pray they keep the fun, passion, and friendship
30:26 JABARI IS HILARIOUS 17:33 AND Jasmine is TOO!!! Yes Jasmine...you took a risk 😂🤣😆😂💕💞💕
Laterras thank you for being courageous in speaking your truth to this couple. I hope this young lady was listening or plays this episode back and processes for herself. This man is telling you who he is RIGHT NOW: he likes the company of women. He attaches quickly and being alone is not an option. You are ok with being with yourself. He says he is "ok" , "cool with that.." not connecting with the part of him that he most needs: connection with other people (women), if it would make you feel better.. Trust, these promises don't get easier once you both say "I do" . Resentments do set in. We are at 57:12 mark and this young lady has been giving her side back the entire interview, while seated next to the man she is to wed in 3 weeks?! You don't need to be a therapist to see this is not your person. Mad red flags. Run!
I don't comment, but L. asking specifically about the possible resentment piece stuck out 4REAL!! That's going to be a problem because he is basically cutting a piece of the social portion of his personality to appease her. The opposite personality types of introvert and extrovert take ALOT of work!! Not everyone survives that!
Its the friendship/connection in the relationship that allows for love & marriage to still exist in spite of flaws and differences. And i love that for them
LT there’s your next mentee. The way his presence shifted listening to you. He will listen to you, and trust your leadership. 💕🙏🏽
A red flag is him saying if she don’t like it I won’t do it instead of admitting that in friendships you should have boundaries . I wish them the best in their relationship because marriage is what you make of it
Yikes! He said at the beginning said, ‘I do it all’ not ‘did’ it all, as it relates to the type of artist he is. This one really had me thinking she deserves someone who loves the Lord, is much more maturer, & can carry her spiritually. 😢
Ok, I spoke before I heard their story. I still stand by my comment, but I see a genuine friendship that turned into more. You never want to hurt a friend. We tend to honor our friends more than anyone else. They both know so much about each other and still fell in love. There are no surprises between them. Lol
When she spoke about the loss of her dad and saying to her siblings you all went home to someone she didn’t. That was me. I’m dreading getting married without my dad. But u know - God has got us all. So we allll good. 😊
I eagerly anticipate Wednesdays!!!
Gaining insights and personal growth with each episode.
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Will watch now 🙏🏼
Mannnnn, I can’t even comment on how good this episode is because DEAR FUTURE WIFEY is growing so much I can’t even skip ads. This is the longest three hours I’ve ever participated in online. Laterras you need to be on Prime or Netflix or something! Sheesh
Laterras, great interview, I totally enjoyed listening to both of these young people, I truly believe they live & respect one another. God's Favor & Blessings upon their marriage & their life going forward. God's blessings to you as well Laterras & to everyone in the comments
I enjoyed this episode and even had few laughs. I appreciate the transparency. Many gospel artist don't have the courage to do that. Some folks pretend like they got it all together and do everything right all the time.
Someone needs to stop these two. He is a good dude you can tell but he is not ready. She is not in the right mindset after losing her father. I pray for their clarity.
I agree. Neither are ready. Maybe in like a year if they grow more...but not right now.
Too late!
God spoke in this interview! The power outage was at the right time! She said what she said (You can't do one thing God asked you not to do but still want Blessings on top of Blessings?)! PREACH. Okay!!!!
When you honor God.. when you are honest.. transparent & vulnerable & truly like & love someone Mann listen.. & then Laterras just how you shared your truths & experiences .. another amazing episode.. God is so awesome! 🙏🏾👏🏾🥰
🎶Try Jesus, don't try me cause I throw hands 🎶 😂😅😂
Hey Cousin Jasmine and Jabari...so happy for you guys. Looking forward to seeing the journey that you are on!!! Keep God at the forefront of EVERYTHING, and you'll be just fine👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽
This is BY FAR one of my favorite episodes!!! They remind me sooo much of my honey and I. 😊 can’t wait to share our story!!!
I really like this young couple. I pray they come back after the wedding. I laughed a lot thank you for having them on your show.
I Can feel the love through the screen. Excited for you guys💜💜💜 🙏🏽🙏🏽May God protect and bless your marriage🫶🏽
Great episode. When I was getting married 18 years ago my fiancee said I couldn't invite a close male friend of mine. I wasn't happy but I respected his wishes. That close friend stopped talking to me. Years later I ran into him and he told me that he was in love with me for many years and was planning to object when the pastor asked. He said "I stopped talking to you because I was hurt and I still love you." That was my last conversation with that man.
That’s one of the main reasons I don’t feel men and women can really just be friends, and ESPECIALLY when both are attractive people. No man really just wants to be friends with an attractive woman. My husband and I don’t even play those types of games with opposite Dec friends. Nope!
I laughed so much during this episode. I really love their energy ❤
My first introduction to Jabari was have your way!! Been a huge supporter ever since!! Great artist, keep going keep shining!! Beautiful wife 🥰🥰
I absolutely enjoyed the laughter and transparency that this couple gave us. What a great interview. May God’s favor penetrate your union for the rest of your days. ❤️❤️❤️
This was so good and a MUCH NEEDED topic of discussion!!!!!! When you implement EXTREME BOUNDARIES it eliminates soooo much unnecessary stuff!!!! So much! But, when a person has brokenness & areas of deliverance needed, they will never see this subject matter clearly. Some of these "friendships" are void fillers and when God is trying to do a new thing and finally connect you with your purpose partner, this can be super harmful to that endeavor and possibly result in a missed season!!! 😔😕 But, here's the kicker... you don't have to wait until you start dating to operate within boundaries. Single (in the Kingdom) doesn't mean free to do whatever. All things are lawful but not expedient. We should be free to proceed without all the fluff once God brings us our person. 🫶🏾
I really had a soft spot this entire video. Like real tears because I can actually feel the love is genuine. God bless your union. Praying I get to experience the same friendship love joy and peace ! Amen !
Jasmines ex told her she wasn’t romantic enough and didn’t turn him on. Jasmine then responded to him by saying we’ll have you considered that you haven’t given me anything to be turned on about. Her telling him that was the truth. There was nothing slanderous about that. There was no disrespect in her telling him that. Maybe he needed to let go of his high horse ego. How was he expecting her to be romantic towards him but he wasn’t giving her anything to be romantic towards him. Funny how males have they hands out and always want something for nothing.
They are perfect for one another, I love how they tell their story but have fun and laugh about certain aspects of it. Her understanding of waiting until their married is such a refreshing and wonderful thing. Lord knows I've gotten that wrong more times than I have wanted to. Blessings upon their union before God 🙏
They didn’t wait.
So happy for you Jabari. I love your Praise and Worship with Pastor Hannah.
00:43:54 I love how to host got the wife back about this. Cause what we not finna do is act like this a light situation when it’s not. Bruh was looking like “damn where the bro code?” whole time too 😅🤣🤣🤣
There is a delicate balance in being “best friends” in a relationship and being “homies” in a friendship. When Laterras went into the boundaries and the glasses came off….the whole atmosphere changed significantly. It was uncomfortable.
His NEED to have and flaunt female relationships is weird. It’s giving “attention seeking and needing to know he’s still “that gworl””. I don’t know how I feel about what I see, but hey….like we say “if they like it, I love it”. I wish them the best on their union.
@spa33meister EXACTLY!!! The whole time he was sitting next to her he seemed frustrated. Twice he looked upside her head. He knows he’s a whore, and so does she….it still ain’t clicking though???
My husband is all the friendship I need from a man…and I’m all the friendship he needs from a woman..
Say that! Especially nowadays. Can’t trust everyone!
This was an awesome episode love the fact that he consults with his soon to be wife. Many blessings to your union
I am rooting for yall. Keep God first and submit to one another. Im glad you talked to him Laterras about it was with your friends.
I was waiting on the Sex conversation because I really want to know if the Christian Couples are waiting for real. I’m a Christian and I am waiting and want a Man of God who understand if he wants me to be his wife that very important to me! So, I pray that the Lord will keep me as I date my future husband before we marry. I trust God will give me my hearts desire because it does line up with his Word and Will! Help me remain abstinent once I met him Lord 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
I love love and I love to see two people who really take the time to do relationships the right way. Blessings to them and we attend the same church.
A man who finds a Wife obtains Gods Favor, so do her right and you will keep it!
😂😂😂😂I thoroughly enjoyed this, blessings upon blessings. I do believe that Latteras telling his story was Jabari's true aha moment regarding the female relationships...... sometimes we are looking at things from a place of our own innocence. Love it🎉🎉🎉
I wished I knew what I know now at 25 plus. I try to tell my girls don’t settle if you don’t feel safe step back. Relationship are work, his heart seems to be for her. Sometimes we grow differently. Men are taught to be hunters and they take full advantage unless they are taught better. GOD principles will create this security and trust, because it’s a conscious decision to be selfless! Maturity says cheating isn’t worth it! But once it’s done there’s no trust. GOD can redeem, but it’s work!!! For them to sit and be vulnerable is lessons being learned and taught! Love it❤
Thank you so much for helping this couple!!! Sometimes we receive a message better from a unbiased helper
Love the new graphics and background music. Nice touch ☺️
Nice episode! Wishing you a beautiful weddingday and a blessed marriage!❤ I feel ya on the "aunties and uncles" thing. I lost my mom last year. And it def showt who is really rocking with you and who isn't!!
OMG..When she shared her response to the guy that told her she wasn't romantic enough ...that was so me before I healed.
Love them they definitely sound like they are on the right path♥️waiting is by far one of the most challenging things I’ve ever done 🙏🏽🙏🏽and I’m doing it as an grown adult ♥️ trust me I’ve said before are you sure Lord🙏🏽 Congratulations to you both & God bless you!!!
I LOVE to see a couple on here showing how they are currently working through struggles and differences. Seeing that no couple is perfect and all relationships will take work
This was entertaining. They are great and cute together. I loved the wisdom that Laterras was putting him on to also.
They seem like a lovely couple, I pray God's favor. I am a little taken aback with the statement, "I don't care what the church thinks". I think the church is being weakened by leaders who have no tolerance for accountability.
I appreciate that they're setting boundaries upfront because that's so important. The only thing I questioned is Jabori classifying as a Christian artist...remember just because the world does something that doesn't justify it or make it right. Satan is very clever. Keeping secular beats, but changing the lyrics.
It's not christ-like. Remember, Jesus says straight is the way and narrow is road to lead to righteousness. The world is on that broad road, and standing before Christ in judgment, you won't have another chance to get it right. Please pray about it and open your heart to receive the truth. God bless you both🙏🏽
This is a real subject and great interview. I've been with my husband a total of 15 years and we went through these same exact scenarios for a good 8 years. Keep setting your boundaries and communicating and ya'll will be ok. If he's your person, he will come around.
This was a good one! They all are such a blessing. This platform is going to blow up so big. I can't wait to see what's next and next and NEXT for you! From the recent Costco couple, Hate to brother you! LOL!!!!! It was an honor for sure! To the engaged couple God Bless your union.
We talked about this on our When Marriage and Purpose Collide podcast. It's called Trust Issues in Season 3. My hubby had to cut off his friendship with a woman. It was a tough moment for us
Another great interview! Thank you for the work you do in bringing so many nuggets to us!🙏🏽❤️💯 The examples of mature love give this 63 years young woman much hope. He is out there for me and your person is out there for you! Trust believe wait ❤
Everything you said Laterras validated me so much. Thankyou. Because people will make you question yourself in the name of their pride and ignorance ("You're insecure" "that's controlling"). I thank God for this, especially the words tou shared. I will not settle for someone who does not value or understand appropriate boundaries. Knowing there are people who think the way I do, gives hope and confidence.
I was cracking up this whole episode. Yall energy is amazing. Definitely one of my favorite episodes. Great convo!
I see lots of red flags here. I’m not shocked or surprised at all that they had sex beforehand, I knew by how they first met. I don’t think he’s ready. I hope she guards her heart and has truly sought God about her decision. The fact that she knows he needs “other” females is problematic. I pick up resentment about her not being okay with the other women. Friends maybe, marriage nope.
Wait a minute now lol 43:03 …it’s one thing to have a friend of the opposite sex, but you out here 1) linking up with them and not even communicating that w/ your fiance? 2) linking up and your fiance doesn’t even know the person? Yeahhh boundaries were DEFINITELY needed 🥴
What! Ok I’m 10 mins on let me keep listening
He’s very outgoing and didn’t think anything of it which is why she had to break it down for him. Different personalities. He is the type that meets someone and says hey let’s grab some food. That person is an instant friend. He just needs to have boundaries.
I absolutely love, love, love, the wifey letters at the end of these videos. I smile every time I hear them.
Define best friend because it seems everyone has a different meaning
It’s great to be intentional when pursuing your own. It shows God is leading your decision and HE is dealing with the heart of the woman to be receptive 💜💜💜
When the lights went out, the first thing that came to mind was the enemy. The enemy hates the truth.
Prayers and blessings 🙏🏼
Ok so this is real life lol no edits….and this is why I continue to tune in to this podcast. Absolutely Awesome 👏🏾
I have a male friend who is married. We’ve been friends since middle school. I became friends with his wife and we talk. If my male friend ever told me that he had to cut ties with me, i would respect that. Also my male friend and i don’t cross boundaries. I don’t find him attractive and Vice versa.