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@@magneticfield2318 man just look at the topic...how does is it feminist...or maybe you dont want people to be aware of such things And i am a boy and not even a feminist
@@Ayisha4889 This video only shows to girls that housewive isn't a dream job. For rich housewives, who have a good earning husband and many servants (cook, driver, maids etc.) and only 1 kid or no kids at all, maybe. But for the majority, (middle class and poor) it can become a nightmare. So, in times where the female workforce participation (even before Corona) is going down. The girl parents should realise that it's the best for girls, if they try to become financially independent and girls should try to work after marriage. Boys should be teached to do household chores from small age and to share household chores with wive in marriage, if no maid is hired. And, if living with in-laws, they should also realise that this is the best for her, and her wish and her life.
Our Marriages are still far better than modern Western countries .... Which don't even last longer than a year ... Arrange marriage has never been a problem ... Some exceptional cases make the loudest noise !
@@Ayisha4889 Marriages lasting longer doesn't mean they are better. India's rates of domestic violence and dowry are high but the divorce rates are still low. That means divorce is not a choice for many women.
@@Ayisha4889 do you know what's the meaning of marriage,it's union of soul, where two people share lives,not for self good but for the good and happiness of whole family.... A person demeaning other and abusing other is not marriage and should be broken
@@radheyshyamsharma6598 ofcourse it should be broken , why do you think I am against that .... I am against those people who are mocking Indian marriages and celebrate modern Western marriages that doesn't even last longer than a year
@@radheyshyamsharma6598My parents had a successful Arrange marriage ... 25 years and not even a single fight witnessed ... Both my parents are kind and hardworking ... It's not the Indian marriage , its the exceptional cases that make the loudest noise
"Bhala Hai Bura Hai Jaisa Bhi Hai, Mera Pati Mera Dewata Hei". If he/she hurts you physically mentally or emotionally then he/she is not worth it. Please free yourself from such shackles.
Our society is sick man, i have zero hope. i m gonna tell u a real story when i was out of town for study an incident happened in my neighbourhood they torture newly married daughter in law even her husband and his sister whole family does, one day she ran into next to her house but they think its her family matter so they just calm her down and send her in n next morning found out that her whole family burn her alive and even her sasural filed case and all of them arrested to but husband took blame and all got released and in few yrs her sasural wale comprised with family obviously money and now he even got married for the second time. The rajput family still live like nothing happened as like they have unlocked some achivement. When i heard about this every time i see them just hate the society how the fk they even accept them like nothing happened. Me n my family r only one who doesn't give fk bout them
This behaviour is inspired by the believe women are inferior. Not only in-laws, this treatment starts with their own families even before marriage. We need to change our attitude and perspectives towards gender equality, also many of these women don't know about their rights due to regressive social conditioning.
Women very well knows about Government biased laws they can use against husband without any concequence. Democray was ment to be about Equality but current laws in India are Un democratic
@@Ayisha4889 relationship should be a competition but it should two soul taking responsibility towards their life . Here either some men are abusing women's . Either some women's misusing the law and harrassing men's . But people who don't believe in abuse will have to suffer for it 🙂
The other cause can be that at a small age, daughters are asked to help in household chores but boys are not due to which a mindset is set that household is to be managed by girls not boys due to which women rather than earning their own money starts relying on men and men think that they should not work in home . This can be on major reason for what we face in today's society . This needs to be changed .
Women don't marry Househusbands .... Which is the biggest reason ... A guy has to focus most of his time finding a job , only then he could think of getting married and having his own family
@@Ayisha4889 as per survey in Denmark women who earn more then there husband or have house husband still end up doing moat house hold work. My own uncle is unemployed trying to get a job or start a business but failing all the time. He is sitting at home but does no house hold work. So what's the benifit of "house husband"?
@@Ayisha4889 aarti I respect your opinion but my mother had taught me to do household work more than my own sisters . I know cooking, cleaning, washing everything. And I can also focus on my medical College
Thanks Mohak for raising this issue and making a video on it.. Indian society needs to change and stop treating their daughter-in-laws like house servants.. they should be treated as a respected family member with warmth and affection and not as a stranger..
@@Stellar_lnsights Then who will feed the people in home? Since nobody in family decides to take the responsibility of household work what can the woman do? She doesn't rely on husband for free she provides him food, kids & even sex.
@धनुर्धारी Arjuna 🚩 random thoughts? Do you speak such thoughts out of thin air in your workplace too? I'm highly worried about your job security. You will lose it one day if you keep shitting things without any sense or relation
@धनुर्धारी Arjuna 🚩 So as a student, dont you think you should think before you speak? If you speak such things offline in college, people might beat you up, or do ragging ( which fortunately has been on a decline since the last decade or two). But I am still not understanding why u suddenly had to reply that to the guy above, how is he related to triple talaq, or how is it related to the video?
Most of the people in the comment section are talking about financial independence. I completely agree that being financial independent is important but guy's everything starts from home for example: In my house whenever guests come, my brother used to go to the kitchen and start doing preparation in order to serve guests as I can communicate well with the guests. I think that's absolutely normal. My parents especially my mother always made sure that my brother also take part in the household chores and I guess change starts from home. We should emphasize more on this.
If both husband wife do job then they both should do household works together if one of th does job then the person at home should take the responsibility of household works but if the person who is homemaker gets sick then if possible the person who does job should take leave from job and take care of the person.... parents should teach household chores equally to girl/boy so that they'll hv knowledge about it.... Actually both the partners should understand each others prblm, find the sol and always be positive....☺️💖
The point where Mohak said that the development in roads and infrastructure leads to more participation of women in non household activities is very important. Intiative of government to develop rural areas and provide employment opportunities to women will make a huge positive difference in the suicide and harrasment rate of women in India. For this, the best measure one can take in his life is to not take dowry and do not appreciate someone else's dowry taking activities.
I hope people now start understanding the consequences of marrying a stranger and stop glorifying arranged marriage shit in the society. Also, stop judging others when their relationship fails and they move on to another relationship. If your partner is toxic, don't even think once before leaving him/her. Not even once.
In modern Western countries , people don't have stable relationships ..... They change their partners like outfits .... They enjoy the fruits of the relationship and then give divorce when it comes to responsibility.... Do you want our India to head to that direction ?
I am from East coast India, Here violence against women is one kind of social custom. But forget about national media not even regional channel covers those cases. My mother is a working woman and incomes more than my father. Still my father beats her, complains about dowry, has control over her salary and bank balance. She can't withdraw money from her account without my father's permission. If she does so she was getting beaten by my father. My father hates daughters but unfortunately he has only daughters. From our childhood we are getting harassed because of our gender. When my elder sister reached puberty, my father's hate for women increased by 2x times. When she used to get cramp pain, my father says " women are inferior and dirty species, that's why they suffer like this."
The Only thing is that you've to educate your self, be an indipendent women and don't tolerate any kind of abuse. No one will stand for you. Take a stand for yourself!
Not only housewives, Mohak, working women (married) are also prone to suicide.. these abusers including in-laws manipulate, traumatise and threaten the daughter in laws.. domestic violence also include emotional abuses which in itself is detrimental to the married women even more as its harder to prove such abuse especially when our prestigious high courts suggest that taunting, continuous targeting and sarcasm are part and parcel of married women’s life!! Second reason dowry also includes pre marital demands which do not include direct payment to grooms family like following grooms family tradition to purchase certain stuff at the time of and or after marriage even these are for woman herself but it’s forceful when the bride doesn’t want those stuff or could not afford to buy. Also, like spending on Lavish function of marriage, buying certain present for groom as part of tradition.. not only these, most of married women who demand to be treated equally at par with their husband’s, are even forced to do household chores and abandon their work leading them to the deep hole of depression and losing their will to live.
In 2019, on every 6 minutes, an indian male committed suicide (Statista research department). Can you make a detailed video on it, behind the real causes and how to deal with it.
Yahi! To prblm h agr woman ke bare koi kuch bol de acha to phir ye keh ke muh pherlo ki men do suffer. You know why man committe suicide ? BECAUSE Of patriarchy. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@priyameena8803 he is requesting to make a video on male suicide and you are laughing? You are a Typical feminist who doesn't care about problem of men and then you blame it on patriarchy. In west patriarchy doesn't exist and men still commit suicide. It is very easy for a feminist to blame everything on patriarchy without any research.
Women should too be taught to utilise their legal privileges for their own welfare and not exploit them. 😌 Also 40 percent of domestic abuse victims are men and 76 percent of suicides are men. Who will bring spotlight to these issues? 🤔
@Shruti @Shruti Here are the sources madam (TH-cam automatically removes comments with links, due to which I am citing sources) - the Guardian 2010 report, Yahoo 2015 post, CSR Journal report, the Wire 2017 report and the Guardian 2015 article. Just because of Feminazis being arrogant to facts, doesn't mean that the realities are non existent and rather imaginative. 😌
This is a great video and as always, the thought of your videos are different and amazing everytime. So Keep it up Mohak spreading such great thoughtfulvideos with us.❣️😊
🇮🇳I am Muslim . In our community dowry is given to the girl . I am still saving money to give my future wife money which is consider her Persnal money not family. The amount begins anywhere from 10 lac to 50 lac . I think bro you should start a podcast. I know you are busy but think about it
@Marz I don’t understand if I have taken dowry you would have said I am not man enough. Now I am giving dowry you are saying I am buying her . Please go and change the society first . No girl from my religion won’t marry be if I don’t pay . Why don’t you go and fix those issues instead you choose to bash a particular gender no matter what
Please next time make a video on how even the girl's biological parents harass their own daughter for getting married soon in their early 20s even when it takes them to marry her off to an abusive man. The reason why I'm asking this is because my parents make my life a living hell. I want to pursue my career as a teacher and all they say, "Kab tak tumhe hum ghar me baitha kar khilate rahenge. Job-wob karne ki koi zarurat nahi chup se shadi kar ke hamari jaan baksh do"
It's your fault too, does your father still pay for your education? Do they still feed you? Do you do any part time job? Or are you still dependent on your parents? In Western countries, after12th children fund their education by themselves, if you still take money from your father then you deserve to controlled by him
@@flyingbanshee8592 you're absolutely right that if I'm financially dependent on them then they do have the right to control me But, yes there's a but, as you know how hard it is to get employed right now, especially in the pandemic situation, therefore I'm unemployed. Plus I've applied at various places as a freelancer but I've not been accepted anywhere yet, I've even been tutoring students to get a little income and on top of all this I study at a govt college. Tbh money is not the issue here. My parents are simply toxic since they don't share a very healthy bond themselves. They are miserable themselves and hence like to make people around them miserable too
@@flyingbanshee8592 yeah, and my parents don't allow me to step outside the house so I'm unable to go outside and work as a waitress or something like that
@@flyingbanshee8592 generally speaking, most people dont even graduate when they're 20 who's gonna give them a real job? and the jobs you're talking about in the west that those high school graduates do, they pay you like 10-20k/m. students in the states are very privileged, they have extremely liberal policies that facilitates them to pay off their student loans and buy a roof on their heads once they move out. citing examples is easy. also isnt it a basic duty, as a parent to provide for your child at least till their education is complete? why have a child if you're unwilling to take their responsibilities? and no, it's not your fault if you have shitty parents
Please make a video on the reverse issue also The laws are too tyrannical for men too. There was a incident in my locality where a housewife committed suicide. Within 3 hr the whole family was put into jail without any questioning. They got no bail for 5 days and the husband lost his job. After that it was found that the women was abusive to her son and during that day she hit her son so hard that he was bleeding. The husband out of anger hit her for the first time in their marriage ( confirmed by the girl's parent). The women took it very much personally and committed suicide.
@@Vivacious.rabbitkuch data rakhte ho ya sirf anti male mindest leke ghunte ho? 2020 2022 mein 367895 mard mara hai due to fake cases, dv, jo tum lg krte ho, data padhke aao
You really need to get your facts right ..more than housewives , it is the farmers and students taking their lives. Other than that it's the mental illness which is the main culprit.
Mohak Sir, I truly praise your dedication. As an author, I have also explained the plight of women and your video is similar to what I had written in my book "Eradicating Capitalism". As long as there is Capitalism, women will be looked down upon.
This really happened to my know person on 14th January 2022.... She was murdered (strangled) that girl just for dowry . She was been treated as a slave since she was married in 2016 ..
Same case happened this year in my family itself, just 4 months ago. But no reasons revealed for it and just to maintain relations, No FIR done, I've been feeling so helpless and sad for this.
Some people are very proud about low divorce rate in India. But they don't want to talk about the domestic violence/abuse. Divorce is much better than suicide. But divorce is a taboo in our society. If anyone has doubt about it, check the comments section of those celebrities who posted their divorce news.
@@Ayisha4889 Bhai tu swaddle se idhar bhi? Welcome welcome. Western society mein har cheez buri nahi aur Indian society mein har cheez achhi nahi hai, yaad rakhna biro.
A third solution for you: Make sure men participate in household chores more often, make sure that your kids get the habit of doing their own household chores and helping others irrespective of their gender, which can help in increasing the participation of men at later age in household chores. For me it felt like your solutions was aimed at just helping women to escape household chores, while my recommendation requires your other significant other to participate more in these duties so that they understand the importance of these duties and respect them equally.
Absolutely Right. Even I'm doing household works to support my elder sister so that she can study equal hour compare to me. But I'm doing upto 30% works only
My personal advice to women. 1. Don't marry early.. Even if you have found someone that you think is the right one. Take your time, go out, see the world and get as much exposure as you can get. 2. Get a job, even if it is tough to get due to your family, they won't come to help you when you need them. It's mostly the parents of women who gave on them which make them to take drastic step. Always think that it's your life and you have to fight for it. 3. Always keep in touch with your friends, your 'real friends' and share everything with them someone of your own age will give you better suggestions. 4. Don't give up on things that keep you happy. There is always a better tomorrow waiting for you. Just don't give it up for someone who doesn't loves or cares about you.
"People spend so much time wondering why the women don't leave. Where are all the people who wonder why the men are even abusive? Isn't that where the blame should be placed?" ~It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover
I think the blame should be put on both because why won't you stay away from someone who abuses you ? Many women are not independent that is the problem because they don't have anywhere to go if they divorce their abusive husband but women who do have the resources should need to make a change and step up for themselves because nobody else is going to.
@@JJ-vc4wx good idea. Let's blame the victim. Bruh It takes a great level of strength to tolerate abuse, so lets not blame the victim but appreciate their strength of survival.
Hi Mohak , I'm a student and live in a village area Here i feel that women have no power to go out home without permission of her husband it's totally disappointed us ,and if a Women goes out of home then her family says him that what people will think🥺
My mother attempted suicide, her mother attempted suicide, me and my sister attempted as well, i don't know a single women in my family from my father side who has not attempted, oh there are two lucky one who won over life.
Ikr? Yet people here have the nerve to say half of the reported cases by women are false. Smh. Ek lucknow vali didi kya dekh li inko lagta hai sab vesi hi hai
A wife is always considered as a maid to his husband by everyone in the family(including the girl's parents as well) and others. The moment right after marriage, she is supposed to serve his husband, and this is what is expected from society. Whether it is a love or arranged marriage, educated or uneducated family members, homemakers, or working wives, this situation is the same. Can you imagine this? A wife waking up after 9PM or sitting on the sofa and asking for coffee/tea or just focusing only on the office work and not doing any house chores. And most importantly not getting judged for everything they do? This will never happen. Cultural norms as designed in such a way that the wife has to adjust to everything. You all may think this is a petty matter. But all these tiny things pile up for a long time and lead to depression. Wifes may think that they are incapable of even living life on their own terms, how can they achieve so much outside. Hats off to the women who are working beyond all these adjustments and achieving their goals. Edit: We need make it normal to share responsibilities equally among the husband and wife. No gender specific works should exist. No one should over burdened by the duties they perform.
Once you become a Earning independent women , find a Househusband ....who will do all the housework for you ....but Alas , women don't marry Househusbands ! ....they want a 9-5 sarkari job guy
I know I'm going too far but honestly the truth is, we Indians have failed miserably. And I'm not just saying about others, I'm going as far as including myself as a part of collective responsibility. We talk so much about how historically women were worshipped in our nation, but the practical reality has always been the same since ever.
@@nirajpathak99 Because women are more capable of tolerating abuse?? Idk. Look patriarchy kills. It's not just women, men too suffer from patriarchy. It is looked down upon a man, if he doesn't work whereas it's ok for a woman. Get that? There's always that pressure on a young bou graduate to get work. Not so much for a woman though.
@@shanblues7257 Well, there were both kind of societies. Matriarchal and Patriarchal. Matriarchal societies were filled with Simps following orders of women. And women just cared about themselves. I can bet there's no Matriarchial society that will protect men from abuse of women. All the decisions taken by women in Matriarchy are based on emotions and hatred towards men. Such societies collapsed. On the other hand, Patriarchal societies were more rational and also protected women. Rape was always a crime. Such societies survived and adapted it. Patriarchy is what Darwinism says "fittest for survival". Men don't suffer due to patriarchy, men suffer unnecessary powers given to women that they abuse. Get your facts correct.
Don't go far just look at your parents how much rights does your mom got while taking any decision and how much hours does she spends in kitchen and in other homely work.
I might be wrong, but to an extend, I believe, even arranged marriages are the problem. I've seen many cases in my neighbourhood, where arranged marriages were disastrous. And also, being a bystander is wrong, we all should stand up against abuses. (Edit: Just wanted to share an incident that happened quite recently. I wasn't the one to witness it, but my sister was. A mat seller, from Rajasthan, came in front of our house to sell his mats. My neighbour, a housewife, wanted to buy one of them. He literally said, "Apke pati ko bulaiye." She argued that she was an independent, earning house wife, and he was literally shocked. He said, "Humare Rajasthan mei gharki aurto ko kaam nahi karne dete. Aur agar kam kia to marte hai." I live in Pune, what all I've witnessed is abuse, but this was quite weird for me. Image the grief of being born as a girl child there.)
typical indian looking down on his culture bro whats d reason of domestic violence being so high in usa i mean western society have bf doing domestic voilence arranged marriage is a beautiful system of dating but obvio its indian so it must be looked down citing few cases love marriages dont hv domestic violence...i mean just wow
@@notsoleft3331 most cases are unreported in India and that's the same reason usa has a more crime rate than India but you seriously think that India is more safer than usa.
I strongly believe in financial independence for each human being. Agar aap ek bohot acchi housewife hi kyu nahi ho. kabhi kabhi na kabhi aapka husband 100% bolega ki "tum krti kya ho din bhar, Ghar mein baith k aaram". This one sentence is enough to say that work that housewives do is of little to no importance. But trust me it's the toughest thing one can do.
It would keep happening till the day women actually become self employed and truly independent (which many women avoid doing and chose to marry an employed guy
@@Stellar_lnsights do according to you logic men are automatically emotionaly reppressed beings who lash out whenever they get the slightest bit angry and it's impossible to control them therefore all the blame should fall on women? And also the assumption that ALL women are lazy and prefer being physically and verbally abused by partners (and his family) they were forced to marry and leave their house for in as society that prefers to spen educational resorces on men over wome and employ men over women and expects women to leave jobs and stay at home after marriage/birth. Did I miss something?
@@Stellar_lnsights while u are right on the point that the lack of financial independence of women is a key factor in them continuing to live with their abuser I don't think the blame for this can be solely put on women I mean not when we still live in a country where an educated women is seen as non marriage material Where it's almost the duty of the women to leave her job once she has children Where even if both parents are employed the mother is solely responsible for doing all the housework and bringing up the children Where most ppl can't imagine a family where the wife god forbid earns more than her husband And like there are lots of women who choose to be housewife's and who choose to depend on their husbands bt the thing is for a lot of women it's not a choice for a lot of them it was something that was imposed on them that they had no say in So rather than blaming women for not being financially independent we need to work on tackling all the hurdles that are preventing all these women from entering the labour force
Apart from all the well researched points in the video, I would also like to add that India (and I suppose most of Asia) is an extremely patriarchic society where women are forced/ expected to bear all atrocities imposed on them in the name of “khandaan ki izzat”. Even a simple thing like helping the wife in the kitchen is so badly looked down upon - I had a colleague in office who was actually proud that he never entered the kitchen in his life, and he was so called “educated” with a masters degree. Imagine the plight of his wife - he may not abuse or beat her physically, but this sort of shoddy treatment is worse than physical pain. I don’t know how many centuries it would take for our men and women to run their families as equals. It’s depressing.
@@mohamedfaizan9844 It's changing in East Asia pretty rapidly. In South East Asia, except a few countries like Phillipines and Singapore, household chores are still by and large carried out by women.
@@samuraijosh1595 Yes, the fact that it’s changing in East Asia it’s great. But in South and West Asia, I don’t see this happening for another couple of centuries at least.
I personally know a story where a woman killed herself after 10 years of Marriage. What a sad story! Her husband didn't care about her, Children didn't listen to her and her household was overtaken by her sister in law. She couldn't tolerate this and committed suicide.
God bless you for making choosing this topic. My mother committed suicide when I was little girl, she was founder and principal of community school. She grew stronger economically & devloped influence in society more than her all in-laws, but it was the reason for phisical and verbal abuse. Her maternal family didn't help as well and she took her life. Even in her suicide note she was explaining her loyalty to me father 😭🙏🏽 may her soul rest in peace!
Why did she not leave the household or continued to stay with her husband? Was help like women’s empowerment group and police not available that time? Your mom was infinitely in better position than my mom as at-least she was independent.
@@mysticalhuman thanks you for granting your care and asking something very important. Yes. I am surrounded by loving friend and my life is filled with kindness and beauty.
Just don't get married whether it's Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage. Now people's aspirations have increased please avoid it just don't get married enjoy your life.
@Sagittarius A* there is no "right one". U have to make mairrage work it dose not happens magically. One is not abusive and good enough that's the basic criteria rest at some extent u have to sacrifice
@@VijayThakurMD I got that financial independency point but it's about women who are soo mentally traumatised feel helpless and committing suicide this is terrible and store so much pain inside and can't share it.
@@jharnathakur4442 I'm too young to give you any concrete solution Part of Problem we are dealing with is not unique to India, it happens all over world, more so in conservative countries but in India we also have problem of dowry which is unique at least in modern age. And it's not easy solve given the fact that dowry has cultural and religious root, although we can debate its association with religion but that doesn't justifies it's evil existence. Indian politics is still a mix with a decent proportion of people with religious blindness. I predict even with perfect plan and execution I will take decade before we can eradicate such social evils. That's why my naive advice any young girls is to get financially indipendent, off course I'm aware it wont solve all the problem but having money will surly help as then one can explore the possibility of living single life.
@@VijayThakurMD you know as mbbs student i know how important someones life aur log dusro ki vajah se suicide kar lete hai that got me tear. I always want to give only one advised to every women i.e just be financial independent that's it. I really like your positivity and I appreciate it. It was good to discuss with you.
Bring up your boys by sensitising them about the non-binary nature of age-old gender roles. In my home, since childhood, I used to see my father helping out my mom in the kitchen whenever my grandfather (her father-in-law) asked her to cook something special. I'm 26 now and both me and my brother are quite adept at not only cooking but other simple household chores like cleaning and brushing (when the maid doesn't turn up) or even doing the everyday puja (when my mother doesn't feel well). Trust me, it helps to build a unique bond with both your parents when they see that their sons are doing such tasks.
This is very few in indian marriages . My father earlier never helped my mom or during when she was ill .but with time nowadays my father help my mother like in some household chores .now i am 25 yrs old
@@aakasharya6918 Yes, atleast in urban settings, there is a parity between men and women in most Bengali families. Mentality is very important actually. When you bring up boys by teaching them the fact that it's okay and in fact expected of them to help with household chores, they will do it. In many parts of India, this is deemed as a 'womans' task and hence the problems.
Love u brother ur doing a what a real man should do ,my father helps my mother in house chorus but he dosen't care her but atleast me my mom and my younger brother is happy😀
Mohak, you missed a point, while the overall women labour force participation has surely declined, their participation in formal work has increased in the last 20 years. In poor families, women have to work, often as domestic help or in unrespected positions, so when the family's economic situation improves, these women don't want their daughter(s) to work like them.
LOL, there are more educated unemployable women than there are educated unemployable men. See the reports. And even the uneducated men will definitely work and earn himself a woman can never marry and legally steal his ailing dad's pension. Why would anyone woulf have any motivation to work if given free food. 🤔
I am from Bihar. Just last year one of my Mami who was recently married committed suicide. She has a two year old son. The family announced it was an accident and she died because of electric shock. Although her father filed case and now my Mama (distant relative) is in Jail till now.
I have seen my father doin these things and I can gurantee you that no one thinks about child. I think I was in depression at the age of 6-7 only. Everyday I waked up thinking ki aaj na ho kuch. It's very disturbing. Me as a boy I will never be like my father.
😢arrey bhai!! Bilkul same . My father was also very abusive and he even called my mom as slave . I used to hate home during those days . Now I'm in different city but whenever I think of returning back to home I feel sad just by the thoughts of my mother being abused by my father . My mother has now mental health problem and she thinks that our dad's behavior towards her is normal . If I get a job I'll definitely take her to some amazing places where she can have peace of mind
This is less common thing in Jainism and bhuddhist people . I have seen among them . Violence against women is not considered a good thing among them. The Hinduism we follow today is just manifestation of rajputana - Mughal culture ( as these community really opress women like hell)
Bro not only changing attitudes but also government should support those companies which give work to the housewives in villages and rural areas so that they can be less dependent on their husbands and other persons in the family and gain respect between them.
Thank you so much for raising this issue! I think the problem is not just educating women, even when women do get job opportunities and are supported by families, women have to go through street harassment everyday due to which many women choose to stay at home, where the irony is that women are more likely to face violence inside the close doors rather on the street.
@@sumeersamarat706 Exactly Sumeer, that is what I was saying, that people tell women to not work until late night due to "bad men" outside, but the reality is that most of the crimes happen behind the closed doors. Thank you for pointing it out. 💜
1. Both genders should be financially independent. 2. Patrilocal system should be avoided. As because of this only parents of male child gets benefitted. Plus, parents who have only daughters become lonely after their daughter marriage. Hence, both gender should move out after marriage and in this way no parent side will feel superior and this may also decrease crimes like dowry and harassment by inlaws towards daughter in law. Also due to this patrilocal system: In india most of the parents want son. This is a patrilocal society and hence the daughter has to move out and has to live with her inlaws and take care of husband and her inlaws. What about the parents who have only daughter? Who will take care of them when they are old? Only the parents of son gets the privilege to live their oldage life freely and with least loneliness. But what about the parents of only girl child? They will be lonely forever when the daughter will move out after marriage. How will the daughter feel when she knows that her old parents are lonely in their old age and has to work really hard, make money, make food even when they are having old age health related problems and the daughter have to serve her inlwas instead of her own parents. This is very sad and the system has to be changed.
@Marz Your reply shows that mindset that how can parents of a son be alone..like they have become alone even they have A SON!! I'm just saying that if the couple moves out after their marriage then a particular set of parent won't get all the benefits. As in this society when a daughter moves to her in-laws house she is responsible for all the household chores ( whether she is working woman or not ) and taking care of her inlaws due to this she is totally involved in household chores and that's why no time is left for job. As the no. of member decreases then the work load also decreases and because of this she may get time to apply for job. Also your point of frequent visit to parents and regular phone call can be applied to the son parents also so that they don't feel lonely.
Your thinking exactly matches with mine. Really I wonder if a wife wants to live separetely from in laws she is termed cruel but our traditions which leaves the parents of girls childs alone and thus encourages female foeticides are called culture. Irony! Anyways as said jaisi krni waise bharni. Aj isi culture ki wajah se sex ratio dharatal pr pahuch gya aur ladko ko ladkiyan nhi mil rhi shaadi krne ko.
@Marz I agree with point no 3 but that frequent visits should be to both set of parents. Because living with one set of parents and just visiting others goes to prove that you get privilege if you have a son. Don't you think this is the root cause that people keep trying to have one son atleast. And in this process either they keep giving birth which means more unwanted girls which are then discriminated against their brother and increased population. Or they kill girl child which leads to bad sex ratio.both scenario is bad. So I think treating both set of parent equally is the solution to most of our social problems .
@Marz you see, it's one thing to get married with the love of your life or have an arranged marriage. I'm taking the best possible scenario, where a girl's in laws also treat her like her parents treated her. But, it's absolutely heart wrenching to move from your own home and then your own home becomes "paraya". The girl is identified as someone coming from her husband's family rather than the family which brought her up. Her sole identity, her family becomes equivalent to her husband's. May be the husband and in laws are great, but that doesn't mean we girls don't want to be associated with our original family like a man associates in his entire life. Also, People in the society will judge a woman if she doesn't stay with her in laws no matter how terrible they're. I wish you'd understand how much it takes to leave your home and your family and then become a part of another family whom you've hardly ever known. In your home you can do absolute crazy stuffs, be stupid, be ugly, be dressed however you want, but then after a three day ritual everything changes and you can't become you because you can hardly do anything and be within your own comfort zone when you're with the people who never knew you either. It's uncomfortable for them, it's uncomfortable for us. It's uncomfortable for everyone. It's best both the husband and wife move out. Stay alone together. Take regular visits to both the families and maintain a good connection and always be there for their families. They can decide to stay closer to both the families so that they can be There for their elderly parents anytime.
In the name of dowry , In Indian society both sides bargains on females at the time of marriage . And how much the price 2-3 lacks and 20 Carat gold just like we go to market and start bargains on fruits and vegetables. Indian society already collapsed in this issue. This tradition or dowry system whatever it be should be changed and mentality also 🙂
There are many men who are ready to marry without any dowry ... But women don't want them ... They want ..sarkari job type guy ... Will pay millions ...and then come on social media cryimg
@@Ayisha4889 as far as I have seen even unemployed m£N ask for a lot of dowry. And most ppl want house wife so if both are unemployed then why will earn? And unemployed men don't even do house hold work. Ase kase chalega? Almost all person in India gets married and Almost all women give dowry so how is it possible that there are so many men who don't want dowry?
Mohak, dowry death(continuous torture) or bride burning can be also disguised as suicide? 🤔 I mean we actually don't know the reason behind the suicide, it can also be a murder done by the bride's in laws..
Actually no ... Ig there are strong evidences to distinguish suicide from murders ... But then even those suicides are coz of inlaws in many casses ....
You didn't mention divorce problem. Divorce is almost not an option in our society. I used to be Proud of divorce rate in india being 1%(lowest in the world) compared to 40-50% in western countries. My cousin abuse & beat his wife almost every day. He spends all his money drinking & whoring, also once married prostitute and tried to bring her home to live with him( i think that 1% divorce rate must have mejority of cases like this). She lives in separate corner of their house upbringing their son. Her family knows about it, his family never stopped him from beating her or bringing prostitute. But the most worst thing is they look like normal Indian couple in public.
I hope their child is okay. As a girl who was raised in a similar household yet looking totally normal on the outside, i can assure you it's hella traumatizing that i can't even trust a single person no matter what.
I have such a cousin too, and his three sisters just support him, they even blame my cousin's wife for their mother's normal death, say that she is bad luck, and sh*ts like these. The guy is really tall and hella strong, he beats her whenever she complains about his drinking and whoring. They have a small kid too, my mom teaches her; the sister-in-law is really stuck with that criminal cousin of mine, divorce is an alien term here. Otherwise, I wish my parents should have divorced long ago, my father doesn't deserve my mom, she is an angel, he is an irresponsible manchild.
How much we go on talking about men's rights.....still women are down trodden and i cannot imagine myself living like a woman..... you all are super strong sisters ......more power to you
Bhai ye aur aise kayi aur jo videos banane me achhe hai saare hame fuddu bana rahe hai, topic wo hi uthata hai jo politically true hai. Yes these maybe issues. But biased issues hi uthate rahoge to tumhari popularity bekar hai. Video ye bhi banao, but video dusre half ki bhi hamesha banao - not in the same regard. Reporting ek side ki mat karo. Ladkiya ladko ko scams me fasa rahi hai aaye din. Bola ja raha hai har jagha ki women ki sexual needs hai unko respect karo aur fulfil karo. Aur Admi ko bolte hai ki apni feelings aur natural hormones ko daba ke rakho. Men are not so important, bas ye hi agenda chal raha hai modern age me. Fact of the matter is ki ye Jitne bhi atyachar ho rahe hai wo most often ek particular segment me hi hai. Again, Mostly. But jo tumhari audience hai unme Mostly Nahi. Fir sabko ek hi nazariye se kyo dekha ja raha hai. I am done being looked down upon since childhood for being male and being looked down as a potential criminal all life, listening to this. It aggravates me to listen that these idiotic activities by these few men in particular places hamper the respect of the majority. Stop this!!
@@krish4134 but when we compare the crime that's happening....i think they should be preferred... believe me i was super into men's rights....but when i understood how much even my friends with progressive parents in city suffer .... I really feel bad about them...
@@ShobhitGuptaMusic wtf? U seem to be really childish i dont want to waste my time writing a very long comment so not answering but its truly obvious can anyone favor me and answer him
For 3.31 of video...i am sharing this..."Girls are also involved in dowry ....one of girl said in front of me that her family has good budget for dowry ..so why she should study or worry about her career...after marriage she will be settled with well earning men..! "
Exactly 😂 And these women complain about their hardships... And then go on to file false accusations on the man! Sadly, under IPC it cannot be called domestical violence on men👍🙂
Satya Rani Chada's daughter was herself victim of dowry death. She fought for around 40 years to get justice for her deceased daughter, sitting on the stairs of honourable Supreme court. And decision came in her favour but after her death. Every time I talk about this my eyes fill up with tears.
Its also important for the younger generation to be aware of such violence and make sure that they come forward to amend the society themselves. One such way is to help our elders with household work and even spend time with them.
One more thing I want to add... please change the subject matter of all the daily soaps ...where a perfect is always portrayed as she can do anything and everything without any complain and her life revolves around her husband and husband's family...and the woman who is not doing the above mentioned things they are portrayed as villain...these contents are being served everyday..and every show have the same plot...I am really fed up
Additionally, I would say that a lot of such issues are being reported in cases where a man is raised by a possessive mother. This leads to the man growing up in a house where their every demand is met and the "women" do all the work and so down the line the same is expected from the wife. Moreover, the possessive mother of the son interferes in their marriage. Everytime there's a fight between the couple, the mother would make sure the son knows he's right even when he's wrong. The son is victimized and the wife is demonized. Even when he's wrong.
You r right. But the father of the boy also plays part in this. It may seem like the father is quite and doesn't say anything but he is the actual controller of the house. He either gets his wishes done by passive aggressiveness or by telling the mother to say something to daughter in-law.
No matter which problem we talk about - Indian society with their self proclaimed superior wisdom is root cause almost everywhere. No matter what laws you make, nothing is going to change until majority remains fool but claims to be superior.
Kindly make a video on why double the men commit suicide in India as well please. Role of false accusations of dowry harassment & domestic violence on men who commit suicide. Endless struggle if a man files divorce on grounds of cruelty. Absence of provisions for men to report domestic violence and gender biased laws in India. Immense research available on that too. Thanks.
@Cric Tube exactly I completely agree with you ....these mgtow people have the mentality that they will use and throw women but will never marry one. It's just anti feminism and misogynistic
We can't be thankful enough to you for highlighting this massive issue. Indians thump their chest for having a lower divorce rates wherein the reality is women are being murdered mentally and physically. This is something which needs to be changed from the roots.
@Raj men are dieing from Suicide more not committed suicide more. Men use more deadly methods so it's harder to save them. Moreover depression is still twice higher in women
@Raj only 8% of 50% fake cases have been proven fake. Rest were cases which were taken back due to shame or lack in evidences as there are less ppl who want to give there testimony, they do not want to get involved in these things. Moreover less then 10% of Rp cases are reported.
Thank you Sir. Now,we have stopped talking about domestic violence and dowry as there nature has seen changes. But I feel that economic independence of women didn't pave way for complete emancipation for them. As men, we need to change our attitudes first (as roots lies with us only) and this has to be teached starting from home to school curriculum. Also, educate women who are the other wheel of patriarchy (considering it a cycle resting on two wheels) and to add to this,your idea of tapping into a community leaders to change male attitudes also seem good.
May be because women are not driven as much as men are? Maybe they're not smart enough. Or maybe they are just too lazy to work. 🤔 I mean you cannot rule out these possibilities too before you make scientific investigation 😎
@@lakshyakumarjha7240 There's very solid personality literature in Psychology which has a history of more than 40 years. Testosterone is what drives competition and women have low testosterone. Do you call doctors and surgeons nonsense as well? Because they operate on exact same philosophy called "science" 😎
@Pierre In Personality models are driven by brute force statistics, not a theory. The validity has been established over and over. Economics is way weaker methodologically. Sociology and gender studies is actually the pseudo-science lacking acedemic rigour. Most valid concept in all social sciences is IQ everything else is less valid. Educate yourself first.
That's why I don't want to get married. Just want to live life on my own terms and service my parents and dedicate myself to help malnutrition population.
Thanks for bringing up this topic. By the way, please make a video on the yet to be criminalized crime of Marital Rape in India. It's a shame that our country has still not criminalized marital rape at a time when majority of the countries even including countries like Nepal, Bhutan and Kenya have criminalized it. Marital rape is rape and is a serious human rights violation and is unacceptable. Hence, Marital Rape Must be Criminalized.
IT SHOULD NOT BE CRIMINALISED BECAUSE HOW CAN SOMEONE PROVE THAT IT WAS A RAPE OR NOT . IF A WOMEN JUST ACCUSES HIS HUSBAND HOW WILL HE PROVE THAT THE SEX WAS CONSENTUAL AND NOT A R@PE , SHOULD THEY RECORD IT EVERY TIME THAT WAS MY THOUGHT SO PLS DONT GET OFFENDED AND THINK ABOUT IT HAVE A GREAT DAY 😀
@@imposter5716 that's upto the police and investigation team . No one should be arrested without solid proof because it might be a case of defamation or false allegations .
Indian housewives committing suicide ?????? Have you even read NCRB report ?? Those who committed suicide, more than 70% were men, and in those men 40-50% were married men who committed suicide due to wife's extra marital affairs !!! Have some concern here as well ... After the supreme court legalised the adultery, such cases have been rised tremendously. And husband cant do a shit about it so they commit suicide !!!
To end all these, education is much important because if mens are educated enough then most probably they won't commit these type of activities and when women are educated then if violence happens against them then they they leave their partners and then can bear their cost for their livelihood by doing anykind of job because of education .most women suffering domestic violences are uneducated so they fear to leave their partners . Note: here education includes both formal and moral .
@karthik n I Know that there will always evil in society it will coexist with goodness . But however by giving moral education the numbers of evil minds can be lessened . And about society it's the same no matter how much we put effort we can't change the mindset of whole society but it can be reduced to an extent . And I mentioned earlier even if men doesn't change but the women can be liberated from suffering by the help of acquired education. The very reason of married woman suicide is their weakness that if they try to get out of toxicity than they would either rushed by society or in hunger .
You should make an awareness from your side. Try to make videoes on how men suffer. Here women issues are being discussed right now and you people bring men's right only when women's sufferings are being discussed. Why not take action and make awareness from your side. Violence kispe jyada ho rha h koi competition nhi ho rha h awareness lana h to shi se lao dusro ki suffering jb discuss ho rhi h tb nhi .
@Sagittarius A* Many social media influencers specially men try to be feminist(Fake ones)by saying that women are there with men all through their life so respect them but the same is in the women life her father,brother life partner are also men....then why always only male are ignored
Bhai....mere khudke mummy jab nai nai saddi karke ayi thi....tab mere papa unhe bahut marte the....mere mummy roz kehtihai ...papa aur unke gharwale kese mere mummy ko mentally aur physically torture kat te the...😓😓 sunneke esa gussa araha tha na ....agar time machine hota to sach main...ye saadi kabhi hone hi nahi deta....
Hard luck, Then how will you come on this planet if you are going to stop that marriage after using time machine? Do your father still abuse your mother?
Bhai jis NCRB se 22000 women suicide ka data dekha, usme married men ka data nhi dikha? It is thrice this number i.e. 66000. Don't paint one sided picture.
Back in 2018 When I express to my friend that I will do job after my graduation she proudly said(try to criticize me ) that her husband doesn't like. He will have her same amount as salary, now she expres in different way that women need to be independent. Now I am ready to marry because I had job experience and I am studying again because I feel I have right to choose my own path just the way she chooses her
As an Indian woman, I never want to get married. I choose Bhramacharya but even if I didn't have choosen Bhramacharya i would still not prefer marriage because 1 in every 3 married women commit suicide in India as per recent statistics. I think India is a land where women like Mata Sita wasn't respected despite of having best character in Satyug. So in kalyug how can you expect anything good from any man. I am a logical person and i think women getting married in kalyug is risky so she should be financially independent first and then she should also be brave to leave such family who don't respect her but personally for me, I never want marriage. I don't even go and attend marriages in India and reason is because I hate wasteful spending on marriages which Lord Krishna opposed. Marriage is nothing but business these days.
Important to note that Raja Ram Mohan Roy only fought for the rights of UpperCaste woman. Also Dowry as a practice was mainly found in in UC's. The increase in Dowry over time can be attributed to society getting Brahmaised over in the past century.
I loved how you pointed out that changing the cultural norms are so important. For example, when Sati was banned, people still were practicing it because they believed that it's a part of their scriptures. But we forget that all these scriptures are written by our ancestors only who were human too. So we have the power of changing our cultural traditions. But now there's no more Sati in India, because people have culturally accepted that it's not right to kill a person like this Fun fact: Raja Rammohan Roy's sister in law (Bhabhi) was also a victim of Sati, that's why his urge to ban this evil practice became more powerful Thanks for this amazing video ❤️
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I always respected you , untill you became a feminist puppet
@@magneticfield2318 man just look at the topic...how does is it feminist...or maybe you dont want people to be aware of such things And i am a boy and not even a feminist
@@Ayisha4889 This video only shows to girls that housewive isn't a dream job. For rich housewives, who have a good earning husband and many servants (cook, driver, maids etc.) and only 1 kid or no kids at all, maybe. But for the majority, (middle class and poor) it can become a nightmare. So, in times where the female workforce participation (even before Corona) is going down.
The girl parents should realise that it's the best for girls, if they try to become financially independent and girls should try to work after marriage. Boys should be teached to do household chores from small age and to share household chores with wive in marriage, if no maid is hired.
And, if living with in-laws, they should also realise that this is the best for her, and her wish and her life.
Husband Suicide पर भी एक मर्तबा चर्चा करे @Mohak महाशय।
The next time someone feels proud that our divorce rates are so low, make them watch this video to show them the reality.
Our Marriages are still far better than modern Western countries .... Which don't even last longer than a year ... Arrange marriage has never been a problem ... Some exceptional cases make the loudest noise !
@@Ayisha4889 Marriages lasting longer doesn't mean they are better. India's rates of domestic violence and dowry are high but the divorce rates are still low. That means divorce is not a choice for many women.
@@Ayisha4889 do you know what's the meaning of marriage,it's union of soul, where two people share lives,not for self good but for the good and happiness of whole family....
A person demeaning other and abusing other is not marriage and should be broken
@@radheyshyamsharma6598 ofcourse it should be broken , why do you think I am against that .... I am against those people who are mocking Indian marriages and celebrate modern Western marriages that doesn't even last longer than a year
@@radheyshyamsharma6598My parents had a successful Arrange marriage ... 25 years and not even a single fight witnessed ... Both my parents are kind and hardworking ... It's not the Indian marriage , its the exceptional cases that make the loudest noise
"Bhala Hai Bura Hai Jaisa Bhi Hai, Mera Pati Mera Dewata Hei". If he/she hurts you physically mentally or emotionally then he/she is not worth it. Please free yourself from such shackles.
Wah mudiji wah!!!
Khud toh shaadi ki nahi aur dusru ko gyan de rahay hai😂😂
Yes we need awareness and education about basic human rights
No tab Kaha the tum UssLucknow ki ladki be uss cab driver ko maara tha women are slave of men .
@@Gaxi2 dusro ko hurt karne se single hi rehena aacha😁
Our society is sick man, i have zero hope. i m gonna tell u a real story when i was out of town for study an incident happened in my neighbourhood they torture newly married daughter in law even her husband and his sister whole family does, one day she ran into next to her house but they think its her family matter so they just calm her down and send her in n next morning found out that her whole family burn her alive and even her sasural filed case and all of them arrested to but husband took blame and all got released and in few yrs her sasural wale comprised with family obviously money and now he even got married for the second time. The rajput family still live like nothing happened as like they have unlocked some achivement. When i heard about this every time i see them just hate the society how the fk they even accept them like nothing happened. Me n my family r only one who doesn't give fk bout them
This behaviour is inspired by the believe women are inferior. Not only in-laws, this treatment starts with their own families even before marriage. We need to change our attitude and perspectives towards gender equality, also many of these women don't know about their rights due to regressive social conditioning.
Women very well knows about Government biased laws they can use against husband without any concequence.
Democray was ment to be about Equality but current laws in India are Un democratic
Nobody wants to marry a feminist modern woman , because of the fear of getting divorced
@@Ayisha4889 relationship should be a competition but it should two soul taking responsibility towards their life . Here either some men are abusing women's . Either some women's misusing the law and harrassing men's . But people who don't believe in abuse will have to suffer for it 🙂
@@Ayisha4889 Oh, that's great... Unmarried life = happy life💐💐💐💐
@@shreyasimandal1679 unmarried life = 50 cats and a bottle of wine
The other cause can be that at a small age, daughters are asked to help in household chores but boys are not due to which a mindset is set that household is to be managed by girls not boys due to which women rather than earning their own money starts relying on men and men think that they should not work in home . This can be on major reason for what we face in today's society . This needs to be changed .
Women don't marry Househusbands .... Which is the biggest reason ... A guy has to focus most of his time finding a job , only then he could think of getting married and having his own family
@@Ayisha4889 as per survey in Denmark women who earn more then there husband or have house husband still end up doing moat house hold work. My own uncle is unemployed trying to get a job or start a business but failing all the time. He is sitting at home but does no house hold work. So what's the benifit of "house husband"?
@@Ayisha4889 aarti I respect your opinion but my mother had taught me to do household work more than my own sisters . I know cooking, cleaning, washing everything. And I can also focus on my medical College
@@superslayer4046 he's a man actually, not a woman and he's a troll. Commenting shit everywhere. Don't respect his opinion lmfaoo
@@nightflame9895 Look for a househusband who is ready to do all the things.
Thanks Mohak for raising this issue and making a video on it.. Indian society needs to change and stop treating their daughter-in-laws like house servants.. they should be treated as a respected family member with warmth and affection and not as a stranger..
The people watching this mostly knows this and the people who needs to know this will never watch this
Or how about they become self employed and don't rely on husband's income
@@Stellar_lnsights how about family and society stops pressuring daughters for marriage with random stranger
@@Stellar_lnsights Then who will feed the people in home? Since nobody in family decides to take the responsibility of household work what can the woman do? She doesn't rely on husband for free she provides him food, kids & even sex.
@@swatisaini6447 who tf does that
Great vids. You are creating awareness about things not many people know about
@धनुर्धारी Arjuna 🚩 agreed, but what's the point of saying that suddenly in this video?
@@avikmandal8578 targeting lsIam
@धनुर्धारी Arjuna 🚩 random thoughts? Do you speak such thoughts out of thin air in your workplace too? I'm highly worried about your job security. You will lose it one day if you keep shitting things without any sense or relation
@धनुर्धारी Arjuna 🚩 "mummy mai naya word 'butthurts' sikha hu...use krleta hu harr jagah..."
Lol
@धनुर्धारी Arjuna 🚩 So as a student, dont you think you should think before you speak? If you speak such things offline in college, people might beat you up, or do ragging ( which fortunately has been on a decline since the last decade or two). But I am still not understanding why u suddenly had to reply that to the guy above, how is he related to triple talaq, or how is it related to the video?
People don't accept any problems when they come to arrange marriage and tell a ton of examples when it is about love marriage.
Most of the people in the comment section are talking about financial independence. I completely agree that being financial independent is important but guy's everything starts from home for example: In my house whenever guests come, my brother used to go to the kitchen and start doing preparation in order to serve guests as I can communicate well with the guests. I think that's absolutely normal. My parents especially my mother always made sure that my brother also take part in the household chores and I guess change starts from home.
We should emphasize more on this.
right
If both husband wife do job then they both should do household works together if one of th does job then the person at home should take the responsibility of household works but if the person who is homemaker gets sick then if possible the person who does job should take leave from job and take care of the person.... parents should teach household chores equally to girl/boy so that they'll hv knowledge about it.... Actually both the partners should understand each others prblm, find the sol and always be positive....☺️💖
Dividing housework comes with dividing expenses equally.
The point where Mohak said that the development in roads and infrastructure leads to more participation of women in non household activities is very important. Intiative of government to develop rural areas and provide employment opportunities to women will make a huge positive difference in the suicide and harrasment rate of women in India. For this, the best measure one can take in his life is to not take dowry and do not appreciate someone else's dowry taking activities.
Not really, we can't overdevelop our country and so stupid to change such a major area of society permanently for a short term goal .
I hope people now start understanding the consequences of marrying a stranger and stop glorifying arranged marriage shit in the society. Also, stop judging others when their relationship fails and they move on to another relationship. If your partner is toxic, don't even think once before leaving him/her. Not even once.
In modern Western countries , people don't have stable relationships ..... They change their partners like outfits .... They enjoy the fruits of the relationship and then give divorce when it comes to responsibility.... Do you want our India to head to that direction ?
I am from East coast India, Here violence against women is one kind of social custom. But forget about national media not even regional channel covers those cases.
My mother is a working woman and incomes more than my father. Still my father beats her, complains about dowry, has control over her salary and bank balance. She can't withdraw money from her account without my father's permission. If she does so she was getting beaten by my father.
My father hates daughters but unfortunately he has only daughters. From our childhood we are getting harassed because of our gender. When my elder sister reached puberty, my father's hate for women increased by 2x times. When she used to get cramp pain, my father says " women are inferior and dirty species, that's why they suffer like this."
Which state from east
I hereby declare that if I married to a girl I will never hurt him by physically or mentally .
The Only thing is that you've to educate your self, be an indipendent women and don't tolerate any kind of abuse. No one will stand for you. Take a stand for yourself!
Not only housewives, Mohak, working women (married) are also prone to suicide.. these abusers including in-laws manipulate, traumatise and threaten the daughter in laws.. domestic violence also include emotional abuses which in itself is detrimental to the married women even more as its harder to prove such abuse especially when our prestigious high courts suggest that taunting, continuous targeting and sarcasm are part and parcel of married women’s life!! Second reason dowry also includes pre marital demands which do not include direct payment to grooms family like following grooms family tradition to purchase certain stuff at the time of and or after marriage even these are for woman herself but it’s forceful when the bride doesn’t want those stuff or could not afford to buy. Also, like spending on Lavish function of marriage, buying certain present for groom as part of tradition.. not only these, most of married women who demand to be treated equally at par with their husband’s, are even forced to do household chores and abandon their work leading them to the deep hole of depression and losing their will to live.
That why it is toxic to live in joint family system. Don't live in that joint family
In 2019, on every 6 minutes, an indian male committed suicide (Statista research department). Can you make a detailed video on it, behind the real causes and how to deal with it.
brother, he is a leftist and every leftist is a feminist. He make video only for womens
Yahi! To prblm h agr woman ke bare koi kuch bol de acha to phir ye keh ke muh pherlo ki men do suffer. You know why man committe suicide ?
BECAUSE Of patriarchy. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@priyameena8803 he is requesting to make a video on male suicide and you are laughing? You are a Typical feminist who doesn't care about problem of men and then you blame it on patriarchy. In west patriarchy doesn't exist and men still commit suicide. It is very easy for a feminist to blame everything on patriarchy without any research.
Lack of support from the woman's own parents should be top on the list.
You are God gifted with a quality to explain a important topics with the best explanation possible ❤
We always take pride on Low divorce rate but I think divorce is lot better than suicide!!
Thank you so much mohak for raising awareness about such a serious and widespread issue.
Men should be taught to view women as their equals and not their properties. Then only we can see real change happening.
Women should too be taught to utilise their legal privileges for their own welfare and not exploit them. 😌 Also 40 percent of domestic abuse victims are men and 76 percent of suicides are men. Who will bring spotlight to these issues? 🤔
@Shruti @Shruti Here are the sources madam (TH-cam automatically removes comments with links, due to which I am citing sources) - the Guardian 2010 report, Yahoo 2015 post, CSR Journal report, the Wire 2017 report and the Guardian 2015 article.
Just because of Feminazis being arrogant to facts, doesn't mean that the realities are non existent and rather imaginative. 😌
Women ka financially independent banana hi ise khatam kr sakta h.
"Beti padao beti bachao"
This is a great video and as always, the thought of your videos are different and amazing everytime. So Keep it up Mohak spreading such great thoughtfulvideos with us.❣️😊
🇮🇳I am Muslim . In our community dowry is given to the girl . I am still saving money to give my future wife money which is consider her Persnal money not family. The amount begins anywhere from 10 lac to 50 lac .
I think bro you should start a podcast. I know you are busy but think about it
Thats not dowry that is called meher....dont compare meher with dowry.....
Nobody should give or take dowry
Willingly given gifts is different
@Marz I don’t understand if I have taken dowry you would have said I am not man enough. Now I am giving dowry you are saying I am buying her . Please go and change the society first . No girl from my religion won’t marry be if I don’t pay . Why don’t you go and fix those issues instead you choose to bash a particular gender no matter what
And you marry 3 times more. LoL.
Please next time make a video on how even the girl's biological parents harass their own daughter for getting married soon in their early 20s even when it takes them to marry her off to an abusive man.
The reason why I'm asking this is because my parents make my life a living hell. I want to pursue my career as a teacher and all they say, "Kab tak tumhe hum ghar me baitha kar khilate rahenge. Job-wob karne ki koi zarurat nahi chup se shadi kar ke hamari jaan baksh do"
It's your fault too, does your father still pay for your education? Do they still feed you? Do you do any part time job? Or are you still dependent on your parents? In Western countries, after12th children fund their education by themselves, if you still take money from your father then you deserve to controlled by him
@@flyingbanshee8592 you're absolutely right that if I'm financially dependent on them then they do have the right to control me
But, yes there's a but, as you know how hard it is to get employed right now, especially in the pandemic situation, therefore I'm unemployed. Plus I've applied at various places as a freelancer but I've not been accepted anywhere yet, I've even been tutoring students to get a little income and on top of all this I study at a govt college.
Tbh money is not the issue here. My parents are simply toxic since they don't share a very healthy bond themselves. They are miserable themselves and hence like to make people around them miserable too
@@flyingbanshee8592 yeah, and my parents don't allow me to step outside the house so I'm unable to go outside and work as a waitress or something like that
@@flyingbanshee8592 generally speaking, most people dont even graduate when they're 20 who's gonna give them a real job? and the jobs you're talking about in the west that those high school graduates do, they pay you like 10-20k/m. students in the states are very privileged, they have extremely liberal policies that facilitates them to pay off their student loans and buy a roof on their heads once they move out. citing examples is easy. also isnt it a basic duty, as a parent to provide for your child at least till their education is complete? why have a child if you're unwilling to take their responsibilities? and no, it's not your fault if you have shitty parents
@@rahibasu1160 thank you
One more point has to be added ALCOHOL plays important role in damaging home enviroment .
So no one's gonna talk about that man commit more suicide than woman 😕
Aao man rights activist
@@imtusharrajput like bill burr said. From treating woman respectfully to whole whole world revolving around them
🤔 is marriage problems the issue in those?
@@Ghost-pb4ts it doesn't and that's the problem
are you from earth?
Please make a video on the reverse issue also The laws are too tyrannical for men too. There was a incident in my locality where a housewife committed suicide. Within 3 hr the whole family was put into jail without any questioning. They got no bail for 5 days and the husband lost his job. After that it was found that the women was abusive to her son and during that day she hit her son so hard that he was bleeding. The husband out of anger hit her for the first time in their marriage ( confirmed by the girl's parent). The women took it very much personally and committed suicide.
Bro such cases are rare. Not saying these cases shouldn't be addressed. But these are rare.
@@Vivacious.rabbitkuch data rakhte ho ya sirf anti male mindest leke ghunte ho? 2020 2022 mein 367895 mard mara hai due to fake cases, dv, jo tum lg krte ho, data padhke aao
People's attitudes are getting even more regressive....So good luck changing that any time soon.
You really need to get your facts right ..more than housewives , it is the farmers and students taking their lives. Other than that it's the mental illness which is the main culprit.
FYI, indian males are suiciding 130% percent more than women. Uspr bhi video bana dete toh acha hota!
Mohak Sir, I truly praise your dedication. As an author, I have also explained the plight of women and your video is similar to what I had written in my book "Eradicating Capitalism". As long as there is Capitalism, women will be looked down upon.
What alternative do you propose ?
😂writer, read about communism more...you will understand things better
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"Eradicating Crony Capitalism".
Having strong workers union and strong social programs is necessary
I like your concept when you talk about the actual problems rather than talk about politic parties
Your videos views show that new generations good people's are very less 🙁🙁☹️☹️
Thanx bhai for making such an awareness related vedio keep going🌟🙏. Only youth can bring a change.
for the very longtime I was searching such video which talks about this issue. Thank you man !
I love your work Soch team! You guys are just rocking it with awesome content.
This really happened to my know person on 14th January 2022....
She was murdered (strangled) that girl just for dowry . She was been treated as a slave since she was married in 2016 ..
Same case happened this year in my family itself, just 4 months ago. But no reasons revealed for it and just to maintain relations, No FIR done, I've been feeling so helpless and sad for this.
Some people are very proud about low divorce rate in India.
But they don't want to talk about the domestic violence/abuse.
Divorce is much better than suicide.
But divorce is a taboo in our society.
If anyone has doubt about it, check the comments section of those celebrities who posted their divorce news.
Divorce rate is low in Good developed countries as well. Good thing divorce rate is low
Having the fun time in marriage and then give divorce when it comes to responsibility ... Typical modern Western marriage
@@Ayisha4889 Bhai tu swaddle se idhar bhi? Welcome welcome.
Western society mein har cheez buri nahi aur Indian society mein har cheez achhi nahi hai, yaad rakhna biro.
@@shanblues7257 are aise logo ko socity ke thekedar hai mu mat lag inke
बिना समझदारी के लिया गया कोई भी कदम बर्बादी की ओर ही ले जाता है, whether it's marriage, divorce or suicide or even raising a child.
A third solution for you: Make sure men participate in household chores more often, make sure that your kids get the habit of doing their own household chores and helping others irrespective of their gender, which can help in increasing the participation of men at later age in household chores.
For me it felt like your solutions was aimed at just helping women to escape household chores, while my recommendation requires your other significant other to participate more in these duties so that they understand the importance of these duties and respect them equally.
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Right
@@OkarinHououinKyouma good luck in trying to find a woman in that case
Absolutely Right.
Even I'm doing household works to support my elder sister so that she can study equal hour compare to me.
But I'm doing upto 30% works only
@@OkarinHououinKyouma okay then go do the chores and let your wife run away with her boss and do will be doing Household chores
"The biggest thing a father can do for his child is to love their mother"
Theodore Hesburgh
Yes
“biggest “?
The bar is 100000 feets under the ground
You are successfully brainwashed with this selective video,
My personal advice to women.
1. Don't marry early.. Even if you have found someone that you think is the right one. Take your time, go out, see the world and get as much exposure as you can get.
2. Get a job, even if it is tough to get due to your family, they won't come to help you when you need them. It's mostly the parents of women who gave on them which make them to take drastic step. Always think that it's your life and you have to fight for it.
3. Always keep in touch with your friends, your 'real friends' and share everything with them someone of your own age will give you better suggestions.
4. Don't give up on things that keep you happy.
There is always a better tomorrow waiting for you. Just don't give it up for someone who doesn't loves or cares about you.
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Every woman should think about marriage or babies after she turns 45
@@Ayisha4889 something your parents should have done..
@Marz it's a sarcastic one I feel from her side
@@cricketclassics5490 him* ... its not hard to know lmao
"People spend so much time wondering why the women don't leave. Where are all the people who wonder why the men are even abusive? Isn't that where the blame should be placed?" ~It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover
@Pierre In bestie this quote meant blaming "men who abuse". Why would i want to blame innocent men who are only trying to help?
@Nidhi I've read the book.Its a masterpiece!
Suicide rate of married Men is double compared to married women .
Eventhough feminist are playing victim card.
I think the blame should be put on both because why won't you stay away from someone who abuses you ? Many women are not independent that is the problem because they don't have anywhere to go if they divorce their abusive husband but women who do have the resources should need to make a change and step up for themselves because nobody else is going to.
@@JJ-vc4wx good idea. Let's blame the victim. Bruh It takes a great level of strength to tolerate abuse, so lets not blame the victim but appreciate their strength of survival.
Hi Mohak , I'm a student and live in a village area
Here i feel that women have no power to go out home without permission of her husband it's totally disappointed us ,and if a Women goes out of home then her family says him that what people will think🥺
Really?? I live most of my life in metro cities so i dont know..
This is bad we should do something
@@vitadude5004 yea brother we have to change mindset
Where are you from ?state ?
Bihar🥺
@@zehniii_ we have shift our population from rural areas to cities, rural areas are really very bad
My mother attempted suicide, her mother attempted suicide, me and my sister attempted as well, i don't know a single women in my family from my father side who has not attempted, oh there are two lucky one who won over life.
Ikr? Yet people here have the nerve to say half of the reported cases by women are false. Smh. Ek lucknow vali didi kya dekh li inko lagta hai sab vesi hi hai
@@kdjoshi726 painful truth bro 💔
@Sagittarius A* that's so heavy thought.
@@kdjoshi726 Ek lucknow wali nahi Bohot Hote h ...Bas Aap Ignore Karte ho madam....Kyonki Male h na...
@@kdjoshi726 They're just privileged Muppets, who have never seen how horrible the living conditions of women in rural life.
A wife is always considered as a maid to his husband by everyone in the family(including the girl's parents as well) and others. The moment right after marriage, she is supposed to serve his husband, and this is what is expected from society. Whether it is a love or arranged marriage, educated or uneducated family members, homemakers, or working wives, this situation is the same.
Can you imagine this? A wife waking up after 9PM or sitting on the sofa and asking for coffee/tea or just focusing only on the office work and not doing any house chores. And most importantly not getting judged for everything they do?
This will never happen. Cultural norms as designed in such a way that the wife has to adjust to everything.
You all may think this is a petty matter. But all these tiny things pile up for a long time and lead to depression. Wifes may think that they are incapable of even living life on their own terms, how can they achieve so much outside.
Hats off to the women who are working beyond all these adjustments and achieving their goals.
Edit: We need make it normal to share responsibilities equally among the husband and wife. No gender specific works should exist. No one should over burdened by the duties they perform.
what about all the abuse men gets from wife and in laws which lead them to commit suicide at a higher rate than woman
Massive generalization.
Time has changed a lot due to income inequality people think all societies in India are same
Once you become a Earning independent women , find a Househusband ....who will do all the housework for you ....but Alas , women don't marry Househusbands ! ....they want a 9-5 sarkari job guy
U can change this by marrying house husband and not going for atm machine..
@Sagittarius A* earning money is actually a privilege
I know I'm going too far but honestly the truth is, we Indians have failed miserably. And I'm not just saying about others, I'm going as far as including myself as a part of collective responsibility. We talk so much about how historically women were worshipped in our nation, but the practical reality has always been the same since ever.
Why men's suicide is double that of women? You have been fed a false narrative by leftists.
@@nirajpathak99 Because women are more capable of tolerating abuse?? Idk. Look patriarchy kills. It's not just women, men too suffer from patriarchy. It is looked down upon a man, if he doesn't work whereas it's ok for a woman. Get that? There's always that pressure on a young bou graduate to get work. Not so much for a woman though.
@@shanblues7257 Well, there were both kind of societies. Matriarchal and Patriarchal. Matriarchal societies were filled with Simps following orders of women. And women just cared about themselves. I can bet there's no Matriarchial society that will protect men from abuse of women. All the decisions taken by women in Matriarchy are based on emotions and hatred towards men. Such societies collapsed.
On the other hand, Patriarchal societies were more rational and also protected women. Rape was always a crime. Such societies survived and adapted it. Patriarchy is what Darwinism says "fittest for survival". Men don't suffer due to patriarchy, men suffer unnecessary powers given to women that they abuse. Get your facts correct.
Nah woman respected very much till ,9 centuary in india then many downfall and corruption start coming in hinduism
@@sandeep8724 True.. There's no institutional opression pf women in Sanatan Dharma..
Don't go far just look at your parents how much rights does your mom got while taking any decision and how much hours does she spends in kitchen and in other homely work.
very correct💯..we have to start from home..and I have started...
How much time Indian women spend to watch ekta kapoor serials?
@@ultimate6243 no they dont spend any..atleast I dont and most of the women I know dont
@@ultimate6243 who much time man spend on cricket or news or movies please reply ✌️
@@amishatiwari9469 20-30 minutes at night after dinner.
I might be wrong, but to an extend, I believe, even arranged marriages are the problem. I've seen many cases in my neighbourhood, where arranged marriages were disastrous. And also, being a bystander is wrong, we all should stand up against abuses.
(Edit: Just wanted to share an incident that happened quite recently. I wasn't the one to witness it, but my sister was. A mat seller, from Rajasthan, came in front of our house to sell his mats. My neighbour, a housewife, wanted to buy one of them. He literally said, "Apke pati ko bulaiye." She argued that she was an independent, earning house wife, and he was literally shocked. He said, "Humare Rajasthan mei gharki aurto ko kaam nahi karne dete. Aur agar kam kia to marte hai." I live in Pune, what all I've witnessed is abuse, but this was quite weird for me. Image the grief of being born as a girl child there.)
typical indian looking down on his culture
bro whats d reason of domestic violence being so high in usa
i mean western society have bf doing domestic voilence
arranged marriage is a beautiful system of dating but obvio its indian so it must be looked down citing few cases
love marriages dont hv domestic violence...i mean just wow
Yes
@@notsoleft3331 hope you never get married. I’m scared for your wife.
@@Morpheusdarkson yeah
@@notsoleft3331 most cases are unreported in India and that's the same reason usa has a more crime rate than India but you seriously think that India is more safer than usa.
I strongly believe in financial independence for each human being. Agar aap ek bohot acchi housewife hi kyu nahi ho. kabhi kabhi na kabhi aapka husband 100% bolega ki "tum krti kya ho din bhar, Ghar mein baith k aaram". This one sentence is enough to say that work that housewives do is of little to no importance. But trust me it's the toughest thing one can do.
No
Completely agree with you.
Yes rightly said
Agree vro💯🙃
yup, I can understand that, especially when my mom go to relative house for more than 1 day.
I feel like domestic violence needs an another video. Because of how important it is in our society.
It would keep happening till the day women actually become self employed and truly independent (which many women avoid doing and chose to marry an employed guy
@@Stellar_lnsights do according to you logic men are automatically emotionaly reppressed beings who lash out whenever they get the slightest bit angry and it's impossible to control them therefore all the blame should fall on women?
And also the assumption that ALL women are lazy and prefer being physically and verbally abused by partners (and his family) they were forced to marry and leave their house for in as society that prefers to spen educational resorces on men over wome and employ men over women and expects women to leave jobs and stay at home after marriage/birth.
Did I miss something?
@@kiaraswan9940 I literally nowhere said "all" or "they chose to be physically abused". Is your English weak?
@@Stellar_lnsights but u very well implied it
@@Stellar_lnsights while u are right on the point that the lack of financial independence of women is a key factor in them continuing to live with their abuser I don't think the blame for this can be solely put on women
I mean not when we still live in a country where an educated women is seen as non marriage material
Where it's almost the duty of the women to leave her job once she has children
Where even if both parents are employed the mother is solely responsible for doing all the housework and bringing up the children
Where most ppl can't imagine a family where the wife god forbid earns more than her husband
And like there are lots of women who choose to be housewife's and who choose to depend on their husbands bt the thing is for a lot of women it's not a choice for a lot of them it was something that was imposed on them that they had no say in
So rather than blaming women for not being financially independent we need to work on tackling all the hurdles that are preventing all these women from entering the labour force
the only person on indian youtube that creates awareness about topics that others are afraid to
Topics that others haven't even heard of!!
Thats because they are NRIs...
Bro you just need to explore more...
You need to explore more
If you are looking for more such channels I have some recommendations :- Johny Harris, Project Nightfall
Apart from all the well researched points in the video, I would also like to add that India (and I suppose most of Asia) is an extremely patriarchic society where women are forced/ expected to bear all atrocities imposed on them in the name of “khandaan ki izzat”. Even a simple thing like helping the wife in the kitchen is so badly looked down upon - I had a colleague in office who was actually proud that he never entered the kitchen in his life, and he was so called “educated” with a masters degree. Imagine the plight of his wife - he may not abuse or beat her physically, but this sort of shoddy treatment is worse than physical pain.
I don’t know how many centuries it would take for our men and women to run their families as equals. It’s depressing.
Most of Asia isn't like this.
Because of inequality you can see polar opposite situations in single country
@@sumeersamarat706 yeah maybe i should have specified South and West Asia. I don’t know if it’s the same in East Asia.
@@sumeersamarat706 which countries?
@@mohamedfaizan9844 It's changing in East Asia pretty rapidly. In South East Asia, except a few countries like Phillipines and Singapore, household chores are still by and large carried out by women.
@@samuraijosh1595 Yes, the fact that it’s changing in East Asia it’s great. But in South and West Asia, I don’t see this happening for another couple of centuries at least.
I personally know a story where a woman killed herself after 10 years of Marriage. What a sad story! Her husband didn't care about her, Children didn't listen to her and her household was overtaken by her sister in law. She couldn't tolerate this and committed suicide.
God bless you for making choosing this topic.
My mother committed suicide when I was little girl, she was founder and principal of community school. She grew stronger economically & devloped influence in society more than her all in-laws, but it was the reason for phisical and verbal abuse. Her maternal family didn't help as well and she took her life. Even in her suicide note she was explaining her loyalty to me father 😭🙏🏽 may her soul rest in peace!
She is definitely a strong woman! Too bad, this society couldn't handle such power. Power to you girl! Stay strong. 💜
hugs to you...please take counseling to heal in case if you haven't.
Why did she not leave the household or continued to stay with her husband? Was help like women’s empowerment group and police not available that time? Your mom was infinitely in better position than my mom as at-least she was independent.
Wth hell mann
My mom was abused physically psychologicall verbally by my dad
@@mysticalhuman thanks you for granting your care and asking something very important. Yes. I am surrounded by loving friend and my life is filled with kindness and beauty.
Just don't get married whether it's Love Marriage or Arranged Marriage. Now people's aspirations have increased please avoid it just don't get married enjoy your life.
U do know that old age money which elders get comes from income of young generation? We will die in hunger
@Sagittarius A* there is no "right one". U have to make mairrage work it dose not happens magically. One is not abusive and good enough that's the basic criteria rest at some extent u have to sacrifice
Marriage isn't the problem. People are . Their mindsets are :)
@Sagittarius A* 😂😂😂
Marriage is a scam
As a 19 year old girl I literally got tears in my eyes no fucking humanity left
You still have time, become financially independent.
@@VijayThakurMD I got that financial independency point but it's about women who are soo mentally traumatised feel helpless and committing suicide this is terrible and store so much pain inside and can't share it.
@@jharnathakur4442 I'm too young to give you any concrete solution
Part of Problem we are dealing with is not unique to India, it happens all over world, more so in conservative countries but in India we also have problem of dowry which is unique at least in modern age.
And it's not easy solve given the fact that dowry has cultural and religious root, although we can debate its association with religion but that doesn't justifies it's evil existence.
Indian politics is still a mix with a decent proportion of people with religious blindness.
I predict even with perfect plan and execution I will take decade before we can eradicate such social evils.
That's why my naive advice any young girls is to get financially indipendent, off course I'm aware it wont solve all the problem but having money will surly help as then one can explore the possibility of living single life.
@@VijayThakurMD you know as mbbs student i know how important someones life aur log dusro ki vajah se suicide kar lete hai that got me tear. I always want to give only one advised to every women i.e just be financial independent that's it.
I really like your positivity and I appreciate it. It was good to discuss with you.
Don't worry you choose a wise partner there is humanity left in some people
Bring up your boys by sensitising them about the non-binary nature of age-old gender roles. In my home, since childhood, I used to see my father helping out my mom in the kitchen whenever my grandfather (her father-in-law) asked her to cook something special. I'm 26 now and both me and my brother are quite adept at not only cooking but other simple household chores like cleaning and brushing (when the maid doesn't turn up) or even doing the everyday puja (when my mother doesn't feel well). Trust me, it helps to build a unique bond with both your parents when they see that their sons are doing such tasks.
This is very few in indian marriages . My father earlier never helped my mom or during when she was ill .but with time nowadays my father help my mother like in some household chores .now i am 25 yrs old
Also in west bengal women are treated equally in family unlike in other states.
@@aakasharya6918 Yes, atleast in urban settings, there is a parity between men and women in most Bengali families. Mentality is very important actually. When you bring up boys by teaching them the fact that it's okay and in fact expected of them to help with household chores, they will do it. In many parts of India, this is deemed as a 'womans' task and hence the problems.
Love u brother ur doing a what a real man should do ,my father helps my mother in house chorus but he dosen't care her but atleast me my mom and my younger brother is happy😀
Even my father helped my mother in kitchen alot.
Now further seeing downfall in women in employment, I'm scared this might increase...😢
Criminalizing personal things like dowry, domestic violence, prostitution, pre marital sex never leads to a better society but makes it worse
COUNTRIES LIKE SAUDI ARABIA ARE WORST IN THIS
Just see the statistics pre lockdown and post lockdown
@@veenasinha8161 pahle hame aapne ghar ki baat karni chahiye..
@Minni women are misusing the laws that were made to protect them.
Mohak, you missed a point, while the overall women labour force participation has surely declined, their participation in formal work has increased in the last 20 years. In poor families, women have to work, often as domestic help or in unrespected positions, so when the family's economic situation improves, these women don't want their daughter(s) to work like them.
Great point 👍
LOL, there are more educated unemployable women than there are educated unemployable men. See the reports. And even the uneducated men will definitely work and earn himself a woman can never marry and legally steal his ailing dad's pension. Why would anyone woulf have any motivation to work if given free food. 🤔
I am from Bihar. Just last year one of my Mami who was recently married committed suicide. She has a two year old son. The family announced it was an accident and she died because of electric shock. Although her father filed case and now my Mama (distant relative) is in Jail till now.
Please can you also make a video for suicide by college students specifically from IITS,IISC
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IIT to dur ki bat ha. Mere colony me ek 10th class ke bache ne suicide Kar liye kyon ki usko Corona ho gaya that aur wo bord exam nahe de paya.
I have seen my father doin these things and I can gurantee you that no one thinks about child. I think I was in depression at the age of 6-7 only. Everyday I waked up thinking ki aaj na ho kuch.
It's very disturbing. Me as a boy I will never be like my father.
😢arrey bhai!! Bilkul same . My father was also very abusive and he even called my mom as slave . I used to hate home during those days . Now I'm in different city but whenever I think of returning back to home I feel sad just by the thoughts of my mother being abused by my father . My mother has now mental health problem and she thinks that our dad's behavior towards her is normal . If I get a job I'll definitely take her to some amazing places where she can have peace of mind
@@cruel5746 same bhai mereko ab apne ghar mein nhi rehna. Aastin k saanp hain sab.
This is less common thing in Jainism and bhuddhist people .
I have seen among them .
Violence against women is not considered a good thing among them.
The Hinduism we follow today is just manifestation of rajputana - Mughal culture ( as these community really opress women like hell)
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Bro, you're talking about women, even violence against microorganisms is considered bad in Jainism.
@@hardikjain9913 ???
@@hardikjain9913 😳
@@raunakkori3328 🤓
Bro not only changing attitudes but also government should support those companies which give work to the housewives in villages and rural areas so that they can be less dependent on their husbands and other persons in the family and gain respect between them.
Government can't even give jobs in an urban areas and you want them to give jobs in rural area?
@@polaris1985 This is the fault of people who votes those people who are interested in corruption not in the development of the country or state.
@@polaris1985 u mean govt jobs for 1.4 billion people.
@@magneticfield2318 kuch saal bad admi exist hi nhi krega
@@magneticfield2318 everybody wants to present theirself as woman protector gor good image,nobody talks about equality
Thank you so much for raising this issue! I think the problem is not just educating women, even when women do get job opportunities and are supported by families, women have to go through street harassment everyday due to which many women choose to stay at home, where the irony is that women are more likely to face violence inside the close doors rather on the street.
Majority of violent crimes are done by someone victim knows not some stranger
@@sumeersamarat706 touche
PSEYDO FEMINIST SPOTTED
Chances of you being so called street harassed or Even raped by a stranger is extremely less than by someone you know.
@@sumeersamarat706 Exactly Sumeer, that is what I was saying, that people tell women to not work until late night due to "bad men" outside, but the reality is that most of the crimes happen behind the closed doors. Thank you for pointing it out. 💜
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1. Both genders should be financially independent.
2. Patrilocal system should be avoided. As because of this only parents of male child gets benefitted. Plus, parents who have only daughters become lonely after their daughter marriage. Hence, both gender should move out after marriage and in this way no parent side will feel superior and this may also decrease crimes like dowry and harassment by inlaws towards daughter in law.
Also due to this patrilocal system:
In india most of the parents want son. This is a patrilocal society and hence the daughter has to move out and has to live with her inlaws and take care of husband and her inlaws. What about the parents who have only daughter? Who will take care of them when they are old? Only the parents of son gets the privilege to live their oldage life freely and with least loneliness. But what about the parents of only girl child? They will be lonely forever when the daughter will move out after marriage. How will the daughter feel when she knows that her old parents are lonely in their old age and has to work really hard, make money, make food even when they are having old age health related problems and the daughter have to serve her inlwas instead of her own parents. This is very sad and the system has to be changed.
Agree the most with "both son and daughter should move out" ! This is the vital thing that needs to be enforced in the society in the present day!
@Marz Your reply shows that mindset that how can parents of a son be alone..like they have become alone even they have A SON!!
I'm just saying that if the couple moves out after their marriage then a particular set of parent won't get all the benefits. As in this society when a daughter moves to her in-laws house she is responsible for all the household chores ( whether she is working woman or not ) and taking care of her inlaws due to this she is totally involved in household chores and that's why no time is left for job. As the no. of member decreases then the work load also decreases and because of this she may get time to apply for job. Also your point of frequent visit to parents and regular phone call can be applied to the son parents also so that they don't feel lonely.
Your thinking exactly matches with mine. Really I wonder if a wife wants to live separetely from in laws she is termed cruel but our traditions which leaves the parents of girls childs alone and thus encourages female foeticides are called culture. Irony!
Anyways as said jaisi krni waise bharni. Aj isi culture ki wajah se sex ratio dharatal pr pahuch gya aur ladko ko ladkiyan nhi mil rhi shaadi krne ko.
@Marz I agree with point no 3 but that frequent visits should be to both set of parents. Because living with one set of parents and just visiting others goes to prove that you get privilege if you have a son. Don't you think this is the root cause that people keep trying to have one son atleast. And in this process either they keep giving birth which means more unwanted girls which are then discriminated against their brother and increased population. Or they kill girl child which leads to bad sex ratio.both scenario is bad.
So I think treating both set of parent equally is the solution to most of our social problems .
@Marz you see, it's one thing to get married with the love of your life or have an arranged marriage. I'm taking the best possible scenario, where a girl's in laws also treat her like her parents treated her. But, it's absolutely heart wrenching to move from your own home and then your own home becomes "paraya". The girl is identified as someone coming from her husband's family rather than the family which brought her up. Her sole identity, her family becomes equivalent to her husband's. May be the husband and in laws are great, but that doesn't mean we girls don't want to be associated with our original family like a man associates in his entire life.
Also, People in the society will judge a woman if she doesn't stay with her in laws no matter how terrible they're. I wish you'd understand how much it takes to leave your home and your family and then become a part of another family whom you've hardly ever known. In your home you can do absolute crazy stuffs, be stupid, be ugly, be dressed however you want, but then after a three day ritual everything changes and you can't become you because you can hardly do anything and be within your own comfort zone when you're with the people who never knew you either. It's uncomfortable for them, it's uncomfortable for us. It's uncomfortable for everyone.
It's best both the husband and wife move out. Stay alone together. Take regular visits to both the families and maintain a good connection and always be there for their families. They can decide to stay closer to both the families so that they can be There for their elderly parents anytime.
In the name of dowry , In Indian society both sides bargains on females at the time of marriage . And how much the price 2-3 lacks and 20 Carat gold just like we go to market and start bargains on fruits and vegetables. Indian society already collapsed in this issue. This tradition or dowry system whatever it be should be changed and mentality also 🙂
There are many men who are ready to marry without any dowry ... But women don't want them ... They want ..sarkari job type guy ... Will pay millions ...and then come on social media cryimg
@@Ayisha4889 so true
@@Ayisha4889 who are those m£N? Give me there address
@@Ritam_gg if u too know such men then tell there address
@@Ayisha4889 as far as I have seen even unemployed m£N ask for a lot of dowry. And most ppl want house wife so if both are unemployed then why will earn? And unemployed men don't even do house hold work. Ase kase chalega?
Almost all person in India gets married and Almost all women give dowry so how is it possible that there are so many men who don't want dowry?
Mohak, dowry death(continuous torture) or bride burning can be also disguised as suicide? 🤔 I mean we actually don't know the reason behind the suicide, it can also be a murder done by the bride's in laws..
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@@swatisaini6447 good to know that swaddle's viewers watch his videos too💀
So true.
Police is good enough to differentiate sucide and murder
Actually no ... Ig there are strong evidences to distinguish suicide from murders ... But then even those suicides are coz of inlaws in many casses ....
My mom also faced alot of domestic violence in my childhood 🥺
I hope you and your mom are okay now..sending you virtual hug❤🤗and all the peace✨
Same. Myy mom too. That's why I kinda don't like my father. I can't make myself to forgive him how he treated my mom. But mom forgave him.
@@godfather-gh2vq Same till this day he tortured my mother mentally
I hate my dad so much
I hate my father also
My father is a Devil person... I hate my father
You didn't mention divorce problem.
Divorce is almost not an option in our society.
I used to be Proud of divorce rate in india being 1%(lowest in the world) compared to 40-50% in western countries.
My cousin abuse & beat his wife almost every day. He spends all his money drinking & whoring, also once married prostitute and tried to bring her home to live with him( i think that 1% divorce rate must have mejority of cases like this). She lives in separate corner of their house upbringing their son. Her family knows about it, his family never stopped him from beating her or bringing prostitute. But the most worst thing is they look like normal Indian couple in public.
I hope their child is okay. As a girl who was raised in a similar household yet looking totally normal on the outside, i can assure you it's hella traumatizing that i can't even trust a single person no matter what.
I have such a cousin too, and his three sisters just support him, they even blame my cousin's wife for their mother's normal death, say that she is bad luck, and sh*ts like these. The guy is really tall and hella strong, he beats her whenever she complains about his drinking and whoring. They have a small kid too, my mom teaches her; the sister-in-law is really stuck with that criminal cousin of mine, divorce is an alien term here. Otherwise, I wish my parents should have divorced long ago, my father doesn't deserve my mom, she is an angel, he is an irresponsible manchild.
@@user-bw8yn3zr1s All these things happen because women marry men based on money.
All these things happen because women marry men based on money.
@@nidhi7399 All these things happen because women marry men based on money.
This is so good to see so many men supporting this channel as well as "freedom" and equality for women 😊. I'm proud of y'all.
How much we go on talking about men's rights.....still women are down trodden and i cannot imagine myself living like a woman..... you all are super strong sisters ......more power to you
Well, I believe women rights are important but men's issues shouldn't be ignored
Bhai ye aur aise kayi aur jo videos banane me achhe hai saare hame fuddu bana rahe hai, topic wo hi uthata hai jo politically true hai.
Yes these maybe issues. But biased issues hi uthate rahoge to tumhari popularity bekar hai.
Video ye bhi banao, but video dusre half ki bhi hamesha banao - not in the same regard. Reporting ek side ki mat karo.
Ladkiya ladko ko scams me fasa rahi hai aaye din.
Bola ja raha hai har jagha ki women ki sexual needs hai unko respect karo aur fulfil karo. Aur Admi ko bolte hai ki apni feelings aur natural hormones ko daba ke rakho.
Men are not so important, bas ye hi agenda chal raha hai modern age me.
Fact of the matter is ki ye Jitne bhi atyachar ho rahe hai wo most often ek particular segment me hi hai. Again, Mostly.
But jo tumhari audience hai unme Mostly Nahi. Fir sabko ek hi nazariye se kyo dekha ja raha hai. I am done being looked down upon since childhood for being male and being looked down as a potential criminal all life, listening to this.
It aggravates me to listen that these idiotic activities by these few men in particular places hamper the respect of the majority.
Stop this!!
PSEYDO FEMINIST SPOTTED
@@krish4134 but when we compare the crime that's happening....i think they should be preferred... believe me i was super into men's rights....but when i understood how much even my friends with progressive parents in city suffer .... I really feel bad about them...
@@ShobhitGuptaMusic wtf? U seem to be really childish i dont want to waste my time writing a very long comment so not answering but its truly obvious can anyone favor me and answer him
For 3.31 of video...i am sharing this..."Girls are also involved in dowry ....one of girl said in front of me that her family has good budget for dowry ..so why she should study or worry about her career...after marriage she will be settled with well earning men..! "
Exactly 😂
And these women complain about their hardships...
And then go on to file false accusations on the man!
Sadly, under IPC it cannot be called domestical violence on men👍🙂
@@mountainaustin yes brother you are right
@@mountainaustin correct
Satya Rani Chada's daughter was herself victim of dowry death. She fought for around 40 years to get justice for her deceased daughter, sitting on the stairs of honourable Supreme court. And decision came in her favour but after her death. Every time I talk about this my eyes fill up with tears.
Its also important for the younger generation to be aware of such violence and make sure that they come forward to amend the society themselves. One such way is to help our elders with household work and even spend time with them.
One more thing I want to add... please change the subject matter of all the daily soaps ...where a perfect is always portrayed as she can do anything and everything without any complain and her life revolves around her husband and husband's family...and the woman who is not doing the above mentioned things they are portrayed as villain...these contents are being served everyday..and every show have the same plot...I am really fed up
In Marathi serial it's changing
Women are raising voices
Concept of ideal Bahu should change
That's right 👍
Additionally, I would say that a lot of such issues are being reported in cases where a man is raised by a possessive mother.
This leads to the man growing up in a house where their every demand is met and the "women" do all the work and so down the line the same is expected from the wife.
Moreover, the possessive mother of the son interferes in their marriage. Everytime there's a fight between the couple, the mother would make sure the son knows he's right even when he's wrong.
The son is victimized and the wife is demonized. Even when he's wrong.
This is very true.
OK MR. SIMP
@@hamaidmk Offcourse evn their own children cant come in between them..its their personal matter
You r right. But the father of the boy also plays part in this. It may seem like the father is quite and doesn't say anything but he is the actual controller of the house. He either gets his wishes done by passive aggressiveness or by telling the mother to say something to daughter in-law.
Correct
No matter which problem we talk about - Indian society with their self proclaimed superior wisdom is root cause almost everywhere. No matter what laws you make, nothing is going to change until majority remains fool but claims to be superior.
I can bet you've never read about Indian culture. And yes our wisdom is superior.
Do not bet, Enlight everyone with your super wisdom of Indian culture and its benefits for people.
Kindly make a video on why double the men commit suicide in India as well please. Role of false accusations of dowry harassment & domestic violence on men who commit suicide. Endless struggle if a man files divorce on grounds of cruelty. Absence of provisions for men to report domestic violence and gender biased laws in India. Immense research available on that too. Thanks.
Mam you are so sweet ❤️❤️❤️
You are the only women who talk about these issues
@Cric Tube exactly I completely agree with you ....these mgtow people have the mentality that they will use and throw women but will never marry one. It's just anti feminism and misogynistic
@@crictube7531TRUTH
We can't be thankful enough to you for highlighting this massive issue. Indians thump their chest for having a lower divorce rates wherein the reality is women are being murdered mentally and physically. This is something which needs to be changed from the roots.
@Raj men are dieing from Suicide more not committed suicide more. Men use more deadly methods so it's harder to save them. Moreover depression is still twice higher in women
@Raj only 8% of 50% fake cases have been proven fake. Rest were cases which were taken back due to shame or lack in evidences as there are less ppl who want to give there testimony, they do not want to get involved in these things. Moreover less then 10% of Rp cases are reported.
@Raj and here no one is doing competition of suffering
Maulana ka samjhao
So are men man
I think love marriage can also bring cases such as dowry or martial rape or housewives suicides.. down..
Yes,of course possibilities are high
@@Ritam_gg Glad people from Russia are replying..
@@sumitkashyap6991 pretty sure he is not russian
@@hmmm176 U didn't got the joke ryt
Thank you Sir. Now,we have stopped talking about domestic violence and dowry as there nature has seen changes. But I feel that economic independence of women didn't pave way for complete emancipation for them. As men, we need to change our attitudes first (as roots lies with us only) and this has to be teached starting from home to school curriculum. Also, educate women who are the other wheel of patriarchy (considering it a cycle resting on two wheels) and to add to this,your idea of tapping into a community leaders to change male attitudes also seem good.
May be because women are not driven as much as men are? Maybe they're not smart enough. Or maybe they are just too lazy to work. 🤔 I mean you cannot rule out these possibilities too before you make scientific investigation 😎
@@nirajpathak99 what nonsense shit?
@@lakshyakumarjha7240 There's very solid personality literature in Psychology which has a history of more than 40 years. Testosterone is what drives competition and women have low testosterone. Do you call doctors and surgeons nonsense as well? Because they operate on exact same philosophy called "science" 😎
@Pierre In LOL, Economics is even weaker. Throw out all social sciences before you criticise Psychometrics.
@Pierre In Personality models are driven by brute force statistics, not a theory. The validity has been established over and over. Economics is way weaker methodologically. Sociology and gender studies is actually the pseudo-science lacking acedemic rigour. Most valid concept in all social sciences is IQ everything else is less valid. Educate yourself first.
That's why I don't want to get married. Just want to live life on my own terms and service my parents and dedicate myself to help malnutrition population.
Good women's get's bad man and Good man's get's bad women's
:- Mohak Mangal
2022
So true
Thanks for bringing up this topic. By the way, please make a video on the yet to be criminalized crime of Marital Rape in India. It's a shame that our country has still not criminalized marital rape at a time when majority of the countries even including countries like Nepal, Bhutan and Kenya have criminalized it. Marital rape is rape and is a serious human rights violation and is unacceptable. Hence, Marital Rape Must be Criminalized.
No, because rape law is not gender neutral. First make it gender neutral, then we should talk about marital rape.
IT SHOULD NOT BE CRIMINALISED BECAUSE HOW CAN SOMEONE PROVE THAT IT WAS A RAPE OR NOT . IF A WOMEN JUST ACCUSES HIS HUSBAND HOW WILL HE PROVE THAT THE SEX WAS CONSENTUAL AND NOT A R@PE , SHOULD THEY RECORD IT EVERY TIME
THAT WAS MY THOUGHT SO PLS DONT GET OFFENDED AND THINK ABOUT IT
HAVE A GREAT DAY
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It should be criminalized asap. It should be gender neutral tho.
@@ishabargale3216 👍🏻
@@imposter5716 that's upto the police and investigation team . No one should be arrested without solid proof because it might be a case of defamation or false allegations .
Indian housewives committing suicide ?????? Have you even read NCRB report ?? Those who committed suicide, more than 70% were men, and in those men 40-50% were married men who committed suicide due to wife's extra marital affairs !!! Have some concern here as well ... After the supreme court legalised the adultery, such cases have been rised tremendously. And husband cant do a shit about it so they commit suicide !!!
To end all these, education is much important because if mens are educated enough then most probably they won't commit these type of activities and when women are educated then if violence happens against them then they they leave their partners and then can bear their cost for their livelihood by doing anykind of job because of education .most women suffering domestic violences are uneducated so they fear to leave their partners .
Note: here education includes both formal and moral .
@karthik n I Know that there will always evil in society it will coexist with goodness . But however by giving moral education the numbers of evil minds can be lessened . And about society it's the same no matter how much we put effort we can't change the mindset of whole society but it can be reduced to an extent . And I mentioned earlier even if men doesn't change but the women can be liberated from suffering by the help of acquired education. The very reason of married woman suicide is their weakness that if they try to get out of toxicity than they would either rushed by society or in hunger .
Man, indian men also have high suicide rates hope you will cover that up.
TRUE THIS FEMINISM HAS BECOME CRINGE NOW
You should make an awareness from your side. Try to make videoes on how men suffer. Here women issues are being discussed right now and you people bring men's right only when women's sufferings are being discussed. Why not take action and make awareness from your side. Violence kispe jyada ho rha h koi competition nhi ho rha h awareness lana h to shi se lao dusro ki suffering jb discuss ho rhi h tb nhi .
@@veenasinha8161 Right..
@Sagittarius A* Many social media influencers specially men try to be feminist(Fake ones)by saying that women are there with men all through their life so respect them but the same is in the women life her father,brother life partner are also men....then why always only male are ignored
Bhai....mere khudke mummy jab nai nai saddi karke ayi thi....tab mere papa unhe bahut marte the....mere mummy roz kehtihai ...papa aur unke gharwale kese mere mummy ko mentally aur physically torture kat te the...😓😓 sunneke esa gussa araha tha na ....agar time machine hota to sach main...ye saadi kabhi hone hi nahi deta....
Hard luck, Then how will you come on this planet if you are going to stop that marriage after using time machine?
Do your father still abuse your mother?
If you did that you're mother would be safe but what's about other women they would be beaten by your father
Aisea log Jo biwi ko marte hai aur ladki Jo pati ko Marti hai unko maat badlo unki soch badlo
Bhai jis NCRB se 22000 women suicide ka data dekha, usme married men ka data nhi dikha?
It is thrice this number i.e. 66000. Don't paint one sided picture.
Thank goodness, I came from the community which do not give or take dowry. Even the marriage expenses are shared between both families.
Same in my community
Affection, Boundaries, Consent and Dignity (ABCD) are largely missing from India's popular "culture" and "traditions".
Welcome to bharatiya sanskriti
This. The root of all and the solution.
Back in 2018 When I express to my friend that I will do job after my graduation she proudly said(try to criticize me ) that her husband doesn't like. He will have her same amount as salary, now she expres in different way that women need to be independent. Now I am ready to marry because I had job experience and I am studying again because I feel I have right to choose my own path just the way she chooses her
As an Indian woman, I never want to get married. I choose Bhramacharya but even if I didn't have choosen Bhramacharya i would still not prefer marriage because 1 in every 3 married women commit suicide in India as per recent statistics. I think India is a land where women like Mata Sita wasn't respected despite of having best character in Satyug. So in kalyug how can you expect anything good from any man. I am a logical person and i think women getting married in kalyug is risky so she should be financially independent first and then she should also be brave to leave such family who don't respect her but personally for me, I never want marriage. I don't even go and attend marriages in India and reason is because I hate wasteful spending on marriages which Lord Krishna opposed. Marriage is nothing but business these days.
Important to note that Raja Ram Mohan Roy only fought for the rights of UpperCaste woman.
Also Dowry as a practice was mainly found in in UC's. The increase in Dowry over time can be attributed to society getting Brahmaised over in the past century.
@Explicit Shubham your comment is a good example for viewers of casual castism in online spaces. Thank you.
@@Maheshbabu51 he is right though. Lower caste people were very poor that's why their was no sati
@@sumeersamarat706 pick up a book sometimes.
I loved how you pointed out that changing the cultural norms are so important. For example, when Sati was banned, people still were practicing it because they believed that it's a part of their scriptures. But we forget that all these scriptures are written by our ancestors only who were human too. So we have the power of changing our cultural traditions. But now there's no more Sati in India, because people have culturally accepted that it's not right to kill a person like this
Fun fact: Raja Rammohan Roy's sister in law (Bhabhi) was also a victim of Sati, that's why his urge to ban this evil practice became more powerful
Thanks for this amazing video ❤️
@Liberandus are undeclared children's of Aurangzeb Yeah I got to know about it much later. Thanks for pointing out 🙏