He's the choice until she finds what she thinks is a better choice. It's amazing how many ex-girlfriends or women I've gone out with a couple of times have come boohooing to me whenever they get dumped by their better option.
Straight up, if a woman says to me she doesnt need a man, but just wants one, I won't even bother with her. Or I'll silently break up with her eventually and walk away
@@whiteknight5100 In my experience, she doesn't "need a man", aside from her ex(es) and Uncle Sam to support her kids, plus her daddy to maintain her car and house and to otherwise facilitate her living beyond her means.
I give my husband a couple hours of decompression time after he rolls home straight from a hard day of work. I cook dinner and bring him a plate. I love him. And want him to be comfortable in the home he works so hard for. I’m proud of this man. 21 years and going strong 💞
This! This right here. Not because women are supposed to cook for men (I am perfectly capable and willing to cook myself) but to do this when your partner comes home after a long day at work shows a lot of empathy and consideration!
excellent - well done ! I have heard that women are afraid of revealing that they really depend on men for their safety and financial security - so they tend to try to hide this by going on the attack to keep men confused and beaten down so they don't realise that actually men are the stronger one in the relationship.
True. Same here. Its the same about a man dies, the flowers comes on the grave, but when living we don't get. Me personal i don't buy flowers, sometimes a plant. If needed a big green plant to clean the air (can't come up how it's called) but yes I like flowers, but as man i never buy them, but would love to get a few times a year.
@@MartinWebNatures tbh I quite like flowers. I had a college professor friend in agriculture engineering and he took photos for expositions and stuff. I got the habit of taking photo of flowers with him and still always do. Would be nice to get flowers but probably not gonna happen
Perv! 🙂 Yes, that is something we immediately notice when we travel abroad. People abroad touch each other, just as human beings naturally making contact, much more and without frills. People may gently hug you or put the arm around you just as an act of carrying. That works for both men and women.
Real men are very simple actually. All we want from our partner plain and simple is to be genuinely loved and desired by her. Nothing else needed. True love.
Girls, let me put it in very simple and factual terms for you: If you are even average looking. Not fat, not covered in tats, are devoted, have a kind heart with a pleasant/non-crazy disposition. In other words, all the basic human virtues that any normal woman should have anyway. A good man would have found you a long time ago. The very fact you are alone...well... that speaks volumes about you. Not the thousands of nice guys in the past you’ve laughed at, ignored, and wouldn’t have bothered to give the time of day to. You've rejected all of them in favor of the “bad boys” that boinked you and left you and now you are wondering… where are all the “nice guys”? They’re married “Honey”, to women that appreciated them when you tossed them aside.
You know what, When we ask for something LISTEN! When a guy asks for something we are really putting ourselves out there. And instead of just agreeing and putting it off, put in some effort.
My 'love language' is physical touch first and foremost, and I absolutely don't want to feel like the one who's always initiating, thus appearing as needy.
I agree with all of it especially the one about physical touch. I like when a woman gives me a hug and if she's the huggable type. I'd give her hugs as often as I can; not because I have to but because I love her
I am so glad that you mentioned that men DO like to cuddle! I have heard many a woman complain about men never wanting to just cuddle when I know that's not true. I love to cuddle and have heard other men say that they do as well.
I'm a 44yo Man. I've only enjoyed moments of peace, my entire life, in 2 situations. Having my little one in my arms. Having someone I care about in my arms.
This is ABSOLUTELY true about women showing effort. I've had one. ONE. Relationship where she actually showed me a lot of effort and that she was willing to show ME effort in the relationship and this ONE person was like WHOA. I felt like I could literally move mountains for her. I really wish more women would understand this.
Another thing I’d add to the list is signs that she trusts you and is comforted by your presence. It’s kind of difficult to describe, but it’s a great feeling as a man to feel like you’re their source of comfort and security.
the 6th thing the man wants, but has been trained not to ask for is downtime. all the women who brag your man plays his game with one headphone off in case you need him - that's not a brag about how good he is, that's a brag about how high maintenance you are. poor guy can't even be off duty long enough to have some game time. he's playing with the EXPECTATION that his time will be interrupted. here's two things for women to think about. my wife can't give me the silent treatment. all I have to do is put my earbud in and start a youtube video, and she will have something to say to me. but I know how to get alone time. all I have to do is start doing yardwork, and I know I will be undisturbed.
@@kenbrown2808 Who says there is a "she" in the situation? I have a job, a house and cars to maintain, kids and parents who need my help with things, etc, etc.
1. Effort. Yes, but pick things he asks for. Don't exhaust yourself or put all your effort in things that don't matter to him. If he hates makeup, you don't need to spend an hour on makeup. If he wants words of affirmation, then dropping a frequent "Thank you", "I love you", "I appreciate you" can go a long way. 2. Praise him publicly. And don't belittle him publicly. Probably the second one is more important, as you mentioned. The first one is fine; but it will feel hollow if you're not showing him love privately first. 3. Touch. Yes, we like that. Amen. 4. Post on him. This shows you are excited about being with him and see this as something you are committed to, invested in. I think a lot of men will value this just as a barometer to know if you are happy with the relationship. But as others pointed out, there are other ways to show you are happy in the relationship, so it's wise to check with the man before going down this path. Hey, is it okay if I post about our date? I had a really good time. 5. Notice the little things. Men aren't mind readers and good men don't expect you to be, either. If you think you've spotted a little thing and you want to act on it, it's perfectly fine to ask first. Hey, I wanted to get you something nice and I was trying to pick between A and B. Am I in the ballpark?
Effort: If he has to tell her to put in effort, then he feels (at least partially) that she doesn’t want to put in effort HERSELF but because HE wants it. Telling her diminishes the value partially.
Exactly. I don't post anything about myself on Facebook or anywhere else beyond the comment sections on news and videos. I don't need a woman's 500 best pretend friends and whatever other stalkers she has knowing a damn thing about me, and women don't post to make the man look good -- they post to make themselves look good.
I agree that it is an age thing. I am not a fan of posting anything about my life on the internet. I had someone do that and she could not understand why I was upset. Things about my life are personal. If I want someone to know. I will tell them only what I want them to know. I am old fashion that way.
No. Don't post me. That's the last thing I want; intimate or not, just don't do it. I'm not camera shy, you can have your album of me in your phone, the album just better not find its way onto someone's fyp. Your private life includes mine, and to be frank, I prefer to not have an internet presence for strangers to be nosey about. You'll be surprised by how nosey some of these no life havers can be. 😮💨
Someone else wrote: " A man wants a woman to treat him as choice and not an option." You don't need 10 rules of what to do or what not to do. Simply listen and express appreciation.
Guy here. 100% on #3. Physical intimacy, and no I'm not referring to sexual intimacy - that's an unrelated category (not all intimacy is sexual). This is something I make sure I give attention to my partner if only because I think it's something that I believe others want as much as I do.
My goodness, she said she has a lot of brothers, right? Them and her dad made her the cheat guide to men. It's almost scary when she nails what men want, but it needs to be said.
It's a pity there aren't millions of women following this channel, they might well learn and understand and change, and ditch the feminist misandrist toxic nonsense if they're not already completely lost
(stable, healthy) Families should have as many children as reasonable (or slightly more), for this reason among others. If you can't know what the opposite sex needs from observing your siblings, you should be able to know from observing your cousins.
I'd like to not be treated as closeted rapist, and please don't sexualise everything I say, do, may possibly mean or intend, etc. My wife doesn't do this, which contributed to her becoming my wife. But even co-workers who are far outside my general area of interest insist on these behaviors. It's sickening.
First off, love your channel. I learned something after my divorce when i began dating again. Asking a woman for anything is kinda pointless because when you do, they will give you all the reasons why they should not have to and all the reasons you should not want the thing you asked for. Typically in some form of shaming language, insult or guilt response. BTW, these were all older women who did this and the same ones that claimed to be empathetic and compasionate. I also wasn't asking for anything weird or hard to do. One of the things for example was the effort you mentioned. I was told how real men don't need things like that and it is up to the man to put in all the effort. So i learned to not ask for anything from a woman. I simply adopted the way women treat relationships. So if i started dating a woman, i would give her up to three months to be the woman i wanted and she had to do it naturally. In other words, either she was exactly what i wanted or i simply dumped her without warning. When and if she asked why? I gave her the "I'm not happy" answer. Or "i need to find myself" answer. Or whatever answer she used on a man in her past. I am one of the few men that do very well on dating apps and had no problem replacing the woman with a new candidate or a few new candidates as i typically had a rotation of 5 to 7 women. I found it very funny at how mad they would get when they were treated the way they treat men. It took me ten years but eventually i found a very fit, beautiful, sweet and kind woman who treats me exactly how i want to be treated and i never had to ask for anything.
I've absolutely no idea how to find any attraction in any of the narcissistic wretches who cross my path, and I gave up on apps many years ago. I get attention IRL but all of them expect me to simp after and pedestalise them. Every single one. I realised that Chads picked them up by manipulating them through simping/love bombing to pander to her ego, then dump when he was tired, but pandering to their monumental ego through lying is vital. The concept of a healthy relationship where she makes equal effort and knows that sacrifice and commitment are required is dead. I see them as nothing more than a liability, considering I don't pander to their grossly narcissistic delusions. I found that when I dropped these ghouls very quickly and suddenly very early on after meeting them, or they'd discover I had boundaries and wasn't afraid of enforcing them, or that I didn't white knight for them, they'd either explode with rage, have a sulk, look at me with complete puzzlement and lost for words, or look at me very, very hurt. All because I'm not the pushover they thought I was. It's hilarious when they find they can't get their own way, but like I say, it's been every woman I've met. The last time I met one who had a halfway decent personality was in 2007.
@@Benanov Why you gotta throw salt at his game? He applied a method that worked for him for a couple of years and eventually found a woman fit for him. Don't worry about his, look at yours.
@@Benanov petty? Lol, if you want to believe that, feel free. I picked women who were attractive and seemed interesting. According to what they said about themselves, they were compassionate, empathetic, kind, nurturing and so on. The majority of women are none of these things and it didn't take long to see it. It is not my fault that the majority of older single women are divorced and chose to be divorced for selfish reasons. All I did was play by their exact rules so if I am petty, I guess they are too. All I know is that when I did find a good woman, I stayed with her. Of course she offers more than bedroom fun, unlike the majority of women. There is a reason men date younger women. The older ones really have nothing to offer in most cases. I was lucky to find the exception.
One of the most common things I hear from men when I do what I can tell they want in their happy little heart, is “I wanted to ask, but I did not want to ask anything of you”
6. Appreciation (mentioned with effort, and is related to bragging, but it's important enough to mention separately). 7. LOYALTY!!! (this should be #1. No Man wants a disloyal, disrespectful cheating 304) 1. Effort 2. Recognition (brag about him); don't disparage him 3. Touch 4. Post about him (recognize his existence to others. Don't hide him; show you're proud of him and being with him) 5. Notice the little things
#2 is like the best one on the list I think. Hearing something my wife said about me from someone else or hearing her bragging about me makes me so proud and makes me want to do better. I can't think of anything better. You'll never really know how someone sees you but this is like the next best step.
Know what? You really know men; your honey is a lucky guy! I really like your videos, but one thing strikes me every time you post; you are always smiling. A smile is contagious. Your smile is genuine and will make those around you smile too. It doesn't hurt that you are really pretty. Thanks for posting. Anything that fosters understanding between the sexes is wonderful.
Touch, agree 100% - as a divorced guy who has had 3 hugs in 5 years (from people who aren't my parents / older family) I'm massively touch starved. 😢 Such an underestimated thing.
I hadn't realised just how much physical contact my relationship had until it ended, all the small touches you don't even think about just suddenly stop. And it hurts.
I think this goes for both men and women. I loved my wife more than I love breathing. She was my light and I did all this for my wife. I really miss her, her name was Kimberly.
As a single guy, I don't think I've ever had a woman do the things she's mentioned in this video. Even women I've dated. I always feels like I'm putting in 99% of the work and like 1% back.
It wasn't long into my marriage I realized that the "effort" is not really an effort. For example, I will pick up flowers once or twice a week to say I appreciate her. I never announce or expect anything in the process, why does being kind require anything more than being kind.
Can you open a finishing school for women because I’m old and not interested in the women that prowl the earth looking for a free ride at all since I’m taken but I feel bad for our young guys dealing with these toxic women. Also I wouldn’t know if someone posted something about me unless someone showed it to me because I’m completely useless on the new ways of the world but I always have appreciated the way you paint a map to bring our young and old people together two👍!
Only 3 things; loyalty, love, and respect. If he's talking negative about himself or feeling down; don't ask what's wrong: straightened out his clothes and posture, and tell him what you see. Acknowledge his feelings, and let him know how strong he is in lieu of getting "the ick". We just want you to act like mature grown women. That's all.
I havent in ten years i dont waste time on women any more just live my life the best i can after beig incarcerated for accusations but i have learned a lot keep up the good work you will probably save a few men from the hell i went through and still climbing out of the abyss thats my life keep up we appreciate what you do
Hugs are definitely underrated. Also just say thank you. It shows acknowledgment and appreciation of small things. I disagree about the posting thing. That stuff always just comes across as vanity and performative to me
No!! Please don't encourage posting! That's my idea of hell. It leads to gossip and drama, and I don't need that. There was a time before social media and it's not my fault I can't live in those days.
This is exceedingly wise, very astute counsel. Even for us older guys who care nothing about "social media" let alone anything social.... We all crave to be needed, wanted, pursued and adored by our spouses. It's the food that makes even us old Clydesdales dance on our hind feet and slave ourselves for our loved ones.
Very well done and very well said Emily 👏 Spot on Truths. Says alot about your relationship with your man. Healthy and great communication. Simply put, treat the man in your relationship the way you want to be treated. You want to be treated like a Queen, treat him like a King.
Spot On. For those here below who mentioned posting she really means "broadcasting" about the man where today is more likely to happen trough social media it will not be necessarily the main channel
I spent 15 years with a woman, not married because there was always something bothering me which I couldn't place. Prior to that I spent 5 years married to another woman. In both instences, when things went south, I point blank asked/stated... "go back to day one, name a single thing I've not done as promised, be it a success or failure, and name a single instence where I failed to live up to my word and honor my commitments". silence followed. Wih the second, I went on to state "reverse the roles, if I did what you did, what would I have to do to fix this" the silence was deafening. The second put on a hell of a show, seemed too good to be true, and it was.
Men want several things: 1. Loyalty: Men need to know that you have their back no matter what, particularly these days when loyalty is so hard to come by in ANY aspect of life. 2. Respect for privacy: What I mean by this is if a man tells you something in confidence, he expects it to remain in confidence - not shared with the world. This also includes any flaws that you observe. Women seem to have a need for pointing out everyone else's flaws but won't acknowledge their own. 3. To be #1: Men don't want to be "settled for". They want to be your number one choice.
I agree apart from the pudding online. I'm uncomfortable having anything odd online about be without me checking it 1st especially photos. All your other points can be summed up as men want to be shown they are cared about it loved.
I think it's an acknowledgment thing. Like if she talks about you to friends/family because you're an important part of her life and also that she's showing that shes taken when online.
I’m very touchy feely bc I’m Southern. My man is from CT. He wasn’t used to this. My hugs are healing, he said. Bless his heart, that makes me sad for him
These are all nice, but there are two things I think most men fundamentally want that they will never ask for (since it has to be genuine and not an effort by the woman) are 1) affection and 2) loyalty. Having these two things are what really matter to most men, and will usually be plenty to sustain a good relationship with a man. Everything else is nice window dressing, but a lack of either of these two things is fatal.
you remind me of Australia's Bettina Arndt who advocated for men's perspective and got hated on strongly by lesbian feminists who excoriated her publically for saying good things about men which were totally contradictory to the lesbian feminist propaganda that every problem in the world was men's fault. As a man I'll say please keep up the good work !
Men are taught to accept what we're given, and to ask for anything is us being a burden. It's time to break that pattern. I ask my girlfriend for things, I tell her what I want/need and I do it in a clear, concise and respectful manner. The overwhelming majority of the time she does what I ask without hesitation. I give her all of what she needs and most of what she wants, just like she does for me. Of course our relationship isn't perfect, but it's the best one I've had in a very long time.
This is actually a good thing and will strengthen the relationship for a man to make demands on his woman. The good woman will actually get satisfaction out of serving her man.
Wow! You are so right about a man’s need for admiration. I have been very successful in my career but I very rarely hear my wife say anything even remotely close to “I’m proud of you.” I really don’t need her to say it publicly. I just wish she would subtly communicate it to me.
Good thoughts. Men need to be needed. Society has been hammering away at men for an entire generation, telling them they're bad and unnecessary. That's a double hit for men. Again, men need to be needed.
ABSOLUTELY touch, at least for me. Another reason we might not ask for something is that, if we have to ask, you're doing it because we asked, and not because that's what you WANT. Maybe you did mention it, but it still bears repeating.
I agree with all of this, especially the touch part and random hugs. We do need hugs more than we will ever admit. It's also super cute any time I am chilling on the couch and she will come in for the snuggle.
1. Men do not water dead flowers. If you're not making an effort, expect us to stop watering. 2. If she doesn't appreciate you, she should let you find someone who will. Don't take your ex back. She depreciated you. 4. If you are not publicly accepted by your partner, you're not together. You're being used.
So, so very true at 4:20: "He's not going to ask for it because he just wants you to want to touch (or do other things) him." This is absolutely key to a healthy relationship...the wanting to do things for each other without being asked. If that's not there, the love is cold and headed for death.
A man will not ask for these things, because to ask means that he doesn't expect her to be spontaneous or do it from the heart. If she can't do it without asking, or him initiating it, then he isn't feeling that she loves him.
I don’t post and will not post about anything. But you are right on with the need for touch. I really missed that, and came to resent the lack of touch. Resentment is awful in a relationship.
1) You're spot-on. 2) This just depresses me as a 52-year-old single guy who's never been married & had 2 relationships, period. Both of which cheated on me & left me. (the second left me a single parent for the next 15 years)
#6. Compliments, or really any verbal affirmations, and he won't ask for them the same reason she won't always ask for them: fishing for them makes you look needy, and because if you have to ask for them, then any compliments you receive from that time forward will NEVER feel genuine. You'll always feel like any time they compliment you, they might possibly only be doing it because they know/believe it's what you want. And that's basically true of all of these things. To receive any of these things is always more meaningful, and possibly will ONLY feel meaningful when they occur unsolicited, without having to ask for them. It's really one way men aren't all that different from women sometimes.
You something I really want from a woman? Real, honest, good faith conversation. Small talk is irritating and chases me away. We don’t have to talk our lives, but substantive is wonderful.
You have summed up the reasons, that I was not aware of, that I am now divorced. A decent relationship should be, for the most part, equal. And equal does not necessarily mean the same behavior.
What?......no sliding into the room, that is so cool please continue asap.😍 You really get us well sister God bless you for clearing the air and bringing understanding. Thank you for standing with your man and us.
This video is proof that men will never, ever, understand women. As a man, I'm not keeping score this way. I'm making a living, busting up injustices, and building a life. What I want is a woman that values those things about a man, and can dispense with the drama. I already have enough drama in my life, and I don't need any more from my woman.
Your comments about how the little things in relationships help your relationship are spot on. However, they also have a place before dating someone blossoms into a relationship. While the initial promise may be exiting, it is wise to reserve space for a slightly skeptical observer who keeps track of the small things that signal how a long term relationship might work out. Looking back I can see this helped me dodge a bullet more than once. This works for positive as well as negative signals. Objectively filtering body language as well as more direct observations can be crucial. This approach worked well for my wife and I. We have been married 24 years, the romance is still alive and we couldn't be happier.
I don't care about the posting things on social media. I prefer to keep private on social media. Just my personal preference. I'm sure other guys eat it up and love it.
you are absolutely spot on for #1, i have a female friend and i wish she'd put in a bit more energy into our friendship. it kinda "sucks" that i feel like i'm in the only who puts energy into it
The "he doesn't want to make you do something" is *HUGE,* just in general. The fact she *wants* something is most of the value much of the time. And not just with a GF or wife. As someone who generally has a hard time "reading" people, I find it extremely difficult to initiate most social interaction, more so the more the long term of the relationship matters to me. Talking to someone who I don't ever expect to see again is easy, because if they don't want to talk they can walk away and if they are uncomfortable with that, they are just have some time wasted. Asking to be included in a party or inviting someone to a party? Way harder. Asking someone on a date? I'd _almost_ rather not do it at all than spend hours trying to guess if I'll be imposing on them.
Love your videos! So true. I'm a man, age 48. i don't necessarily do social media, but I do, in a way "post" about my woman by talking to new female coworkers saying good things about my wife to them. In my mind... It lets the new female worker know that I'm married and I think highly of my wife and I am less likely a type of man that will hit on them, which in turn should help break the ice. Whether women see it that way, I have no clue. - hope this info can be handy!
Don't just expect all the little things a man does, that's our way of telling you we care. Notice them out loud occasionally, tell him you see them and appreciate him. I don't need or want public praise, but the private appreciation is crucial. Same as touch. Any and all physical contact is amazing.
Thank you for sticking up for us men. Another topic I think will be relevant is the honest truth that men and women rarely will every be "best friends", instead will fill roles, and will need other people to fill others, same as women. Like REALLY think about it, aside from kids, sex, occasional emotional breakdowns and the ability to build a home... men will much better have their needs met by their guy friends and/or hobbies. Give him space and don't expect him to think/act as your girlfriends do. We are both equal, but very different. A root beer float is delicious because of 2 very different things that combine for a great outcome.
I'm definatley the type that would come up behind and just give a hug for no reason to my girlfriend. I like how you pointed out that Men would like that too. It was the "Touch" topic. If she just hugs, cuddles etc.. as well as I do, it would mean SOOO much.. At least from my perspective. As for your last point, #5, you're right. Not going to ask for it, but if she is noticing the small things, it most assuradly makes a difference and would show genuine interest. Thanks for the video Emily!
A man wants a woman to treat him as choice and not an option.
That expresses it best. Fear motivates too many people. Treating a man as a choice makes too many women feel vulnerable.
He's the choice until she finds what she thinks is a better choice. It's amazing how many ex-girlfriends or women I've gone out with a couple of times have come boohooing to me whenever they get dumped by their better option.
Straight up, if a woman says to me she doesnt need a man, but just wants one, I won't even bother with her. Or I'll silently break up with her eventually and walk away
@@whiteknight5100 In my experience, she doesn't "need a man", aside from her ex(es) and Uncle Sam to support her kids, plus her daddy to maintain her car and house and to otherwise facilitate her living beyond her means.
@@KevinJames-yg9eu Exactly. So no reason to become just another number for her
I give my husband a couple hours of decompression time after he rolls home straight from a hard day of work. I cook dinner and bring him a plate. I love him. And want him to be comfortable in the home he works so hard for. I’m proud of this man. 21 years and going strong 💞
This! This right here. Not because women are supposed to cook for men (I am perfectly capable and willing to cook myself) but to do this when your partner comes home after a long day at work shows a lot of empathy and consideration!
Beautiful. 😊❤
excellent - well done ! I have heard that women are afraid of revealing that they really depend on men for their safety and financial security - so they tend to try to hide this by going on the attack to keep men confused and beaten down so they don't realise that actually men are the stronger one in the relationship.
This. We appreciate this so much.
You mean you don't take that couple of hours. They are his, not yours too give.
1000% physical touch! My girl initiating normal, everyday physical touch is essential!
It's insane that this even needs to be said out loud.
It's almost like men carry leprosy.
Does give you plenty of bedroom action!😋😍
And sometimes leads to @#x
Most men are touch starved. And it's been even worse since covid hit. I honestly don't remember the last time I had a hug or a handshake.
2018 here.
That's true it's not part of some cultures
True. Same here. Its the same about a man dies, the flowers comes on the grave, but when living we don't get. Me personal i don't buy flowers, sometimes a plant. If needed a big green plant to clean the air (can't come up how it's called) but yes I like flowers, but as man i never buy them, but would love to get a few times a year.
@@MartinWebNatures tbh I quite like flowers. I had a college professor friend in agriculture engineering and he took photos for expositions and stuff. I got the habit of taking photo of flowers with him and still always do. Would be nice to get flowers but probably not gonna happen
Perv! 🙂 Yes, that is something we immediately notice when we travel abroad. People abroad touch each other, just as human beings naturally making contact, much more and without frills. People may gently hug you or put the arm around you just as an act of carrying. That works for both men and women.
Hug your man more. Best relationship advice ever.
This lady is a national treasure 💯
Everyone needs an Emily
She's great she talks common sense
You are absolutely right. I’m widowed and dating my high school crush. So she’s such a breath of fresh air for the all ages.
How does she get to know all this stuff?
Real men are very simple actually. All we want from our partner plain and simple is to be genuinely loved and desired by her. Nothing else needed. True love.
Amen - even a hug brings so much comfort,
Girls, let me put it in very simple and factual terms for you:
If you are even average looking. Not fat, not covered in tats, are devoted, have a kind heart with a pleasant/non-crazy disposition. In other words, all the basic human virtues that any normal woman should have anyway. A good man would have found you a long time ago.
The very fact you are alone...well... that speaks volumes about you. Not the thousands of nice guys in the past you’ve laughed at, ignored, and wouldn’t have bothered to give the time of day to. You've rejected all of them in favor of the “bad boys” that boinked you and left you and now you are wondering… where are all the “nice guys”?
They’re married “Honey”, to women that appreciated them when you tossed them aside.
You know what, When we ask for something LISTEN! When a guy asks for something we are really putting ourselves out there. And instead of just agreeing and putting it off, put in some effort.
One big thing men DON'T want is to be taken for granted.
Very true!
Though not man-specific, I think.
Loyalty, respect. If a woman wants to be his priority then it goes both ways
The two most powerful words a woman can use are a heartfelt "Thank You". Plus, a 'random' hug goes a very, very long way. So true.
Shame this stuff has to be explained as rocket science these days
There are some women interested in this and had no fathers or brothers to help them understand.
I think the problem is narcissism
It’s not like our parents taught any of this to us girls-
My 'love language' is physical touch first and foremost, and I absolutely don't want to feel like the one who's always initiating, thus appearing as needy.
I agree with all of it especially the one about physical touch. I like when a woman gives me a hug and if she's the huggable type. I'd give her hugs as often as I can; not because I have to but because I love her
Affection that you have to ask for isn't affection, it's a service.
Or the expecting Quid pro quo type of thing. Do enough chores, get a treat. Hate that shit.
Willing service you don't have to ask for IS affection though.
I am so glad that you mentioned that men DO like to cuddle! I have heard many a woman complain about men never wanting to just cuddle when I know that's not true. I love to cuddle and have heard other men say that they do as well.
Yasss for cuddles!!!
I personally hate cuddling. I do know a guy who likes it though.
I'm a 44yo Man.
I've only enjoyed moments of peace, my entire life, in 2 situations.
Having my little one in my arms.
Having someone I care about in my arms.
Moat of us love cuddling, we have just been rejected so many times for one reason or another that we stop trying.
The rotten men ruin it for all the good guys, and the rotten, nasty, vile, selfish women ruin it for the good gals!! It really stinks!
This is ABSOLUTELY true about women showing effort. I've had one. ONE. Relationship where she actually showed me a lot of effort and that she was willing to show ME effort in the relationship and this ONE person was like WHOA. I felt like I could literally move mountains for her. I really wish more women would understand this.
Just to be huged without any other reason except to be shown that he is loved.
Thank you for being the "man" whisperer. Your words are healing to my soul.
Another thing I’d add to the list is signs that she trusts you and is comforted by your presence. It’s kind of difficult to describe, but it’s a great feeling as a man to feel like you’re their source of comfort and security.
Agree
And values your opinion above others
the 6th thing the man wants, but has been trained not to ask for is downtime. all the women who brag your man plays his game with one headphone off in case you need him - that's not a brag about how good he is, that's a brag about how high maintenance you are. poor guy can't even be off duty long enough to have some game time. he's playing with the EXPECTATION that his time will be interrupted.
here's two things for women to think about. my wife can't give me the silent treatment. all I have to do is put my earbud in and start a youtube video, and she will have something to say to me. but I know how to get alone time. all I have to do is start doing yardwork, and I know I will be undisturbed.
Men have time to play games?
@@KevinJames-yg9euif you don't, she's being WAY too demanding.
@@KevinJames-yg9euI do. I also don't have kids either
@@kenbrown2808 Or I have a job, kids and parents who need my help, and a house and cars to maintain....
@@kenbrown2808 Who says there is a "she" in the situation? I have a job, a house and cars to maintain, kids and parents who need my help with things, etc, etc.
1. Effort. Yes, but pick things he asks for. Don't exhaust yourself or put all your effort in things that don't matter to him. If he hates makeup, you don't need to spend an hour on makeup. If he wants words of affirmation, then dropping a frequent "Thank you", "I love you", "I appreciate you" can go a long way.
2. Praise him publicly. And don't belittle him publicly. Probably the second one is more important, as you mentioned. The first one is fine; but it will feel hollow if you're not showing him love privately first.
3. Touch. Yes, we like that. Amen.
4. Post on him. This shows you are excited about being with him and see this as something you are committed to, invested in. I think a lot of men will value this just as a barometer to know if you are happy with the relationship. But as others pointed out, there are other ways to show you are happy in the relationship, so it's wise to check with the man before going down this path. Hey, is it okay if I post about our date? I had a really good time.
5. Notice the little things. Men aren't mind readers and good men don't expect you to be, either. If you think you've spotted a little thing and you want to act on it, it's perfectly fine to ask first. Hey, I wanted to get you something nice and I was trying to pick between A and B. Am I in the ballpark?
Effort: If he has to tell her to put in effort, then he feels (at least partially) that she doesn’t want to put in effort HERSELF but because HE wants it. Telling her diminishes the value partially.
We don't ask because they don't listen. Shocker.
Boo woo
I disagree with the “posting” thing. I think that is age related. I don’t post anything about anything and I am adamant about NOT posting about me.
Exactly. I don't post anything about myself on Facebook or anywhere else beyond the comment sections on news and videos. I don't need a woman's 500 best pretend friends and whatever other stalkers she has knowing a damn thing about me, and women don't post to make the man look good -- they post to make themselves look good.
I want to post more, but that crosses boundaries for my husband, so I don't.
I think there’s a happy medium to posting and what you share online.
Funny how my comments about posting on social media keep getting deleted. I guess somebody doesn't want to hear how I feel about it.
I agree that it is an age thing. I am not a fan of posting anything about my life on the internet. I had someone do that and she could not understand why I was upset. Things about my life are personal. If I want someone to know. I will tell them only what I want them to know. I am old fashion that way.
Key word is reciprocate. No one wants to be in a one sided relationship. Everyone of your suggestions goes both ways ladies and gentlemen.
No. Don't post me. That's the last thing I want; intimate or not, just don't do it. I'm not camera shy, you can have your album of me in your phone, the album just better not find its way onto someone's fyp. Your private life includes mine, and to be frank, I prefer to not have an internet presence for strangers to be nosey about. You'll be surprised by how nosey some of these no life havers can be. 😮💨
Amen! I value my privacy and he should too. Not everyone needs to know everything going on in my life, thank you.
DELETE your facebook page.
@@davidh9638 K.
Exactly 💯
Agreed. I do not want family pics on the internet.
Someone else wrote: " A man wants a woman to treat him as choice and not an option." You don't need 10 rules of what to do or what not to do. Simply listen and express appreciation.
Real, honest, compassionate and empathetic communication is the key. It makes for the best of everything, when we share life with another person.
Guy here. 100% on #3. Physical intimacy, and no I'm not referring to sexual intimacy - that's an unrelated category (not all intimacy is sexual). This is something I make sure I give attention to my partner if only because I think it's something that I believe others want as much as I do.
People don't care about a man feelings. You learn not to ask again
Some people/women do.
The things I used to want I lowered my expectations. So, now when she does those little things, yes, they mean a lot.
You are wise beyond your years! We've been married for 52 years because we learned the hard way exactly what you have been saying. ❤😊
Same here. 45 years.
budget awareness, sandwiches, cookies, coffee, initiation of sexy time, a compliment once in a great while, RESPECT!
Hell no. Nobody's going to coddle you.
@@ElizabethGeiger-ye1sf It's not coddling. It's being a loving friend. Women should and do expect similar.
@@carlcushmanhybels8159No thanks.
My goodness, she said she has a lot of brothers, right? Them and her dad made her the cheat guide to men. It's almost scary when she nails what men want, but it needs to be said.
It's a pity there aren't millions of women following this channel, they might well learn and understand and change, and ditch the feminist misandrist toxic nonsense if they're not already completely lost
And she uses it to get simps to pay her attention so she can make a living rambling off the obvious.
@mizofan they know everything she says. They do the opposite on purpose.
@@ashtonarrows1974 Use it for manipulation to get what they want. Its a currency to a lot of women. I had to learn this the hard way.
(stable, healthy) Families should have as many children as reasonable (or slightly more), for this reason among others. If you can't know what the opposite sex needs from observing your siblings, you should be able to know from observing your cousins.
I'd like to not be treated as closeted rapist, and please don't sexualise everything I say, do, may possibly mean or intend, etc.
My wife doesn't do this, which contributed to her becoming my wife. But even co-workers who are far outside my general area of interest insist on these behaviors.
It's sickening.
First off, love your channel.
I learned something after my divorce when i began dating again. Asking a woman for anything is kinda pointless because when you do, they will give you all the reasons why they should not have to and all the reasons you should not want the thing you asked for. Typically in some form of shaming language, insult or guilt response. BTW, these were all older women who did this and the same ones that claimed to be empathetic and compasionate. I also wasn't asking for anything weird or hard to do. One of the things for example was the effort you mentioned. I was told how real men don't need things like that and it is up to the man to put in all the effort.
So i learned to not ask for anything from a woman. I simply adopted the way women treat relationships. So if i started dating a woman, i would give her up to three months to be the woman i wanted and she had to do it naturally. In other words, either she was exactly what i wanted or i simply dumped her without warning. When and if she asked why? I gave her the "I'm not happy" answer. Or "i need to find myself" answer. Or whatever answer she used on a man in her past. I am one of the few men that do very well on dating apps and had no problem replacing the woman with a new candidate or a few new candidates as i typically had a rotation of 5 to 7 women. I found it very funny at how mad they would get when they were treated the way they treat men. It took me ten years but eventually i found a very fit, beautiful, sweet and kind woman who treats me exactly how i want to be treated and i never had to ask for anything.
That's pretty petty, ngl. Maybe you just picked crappy older women who were divorced for a reason.
I've absolutely no idea how to find any attraction in any of the narcissistic wretches who cross my path, and I gave up on apps many years ago. I get attention IRL but all of them expect me to simp after and pedestalise them. Every single one. I realised that Chads picked them up by manipulating them through simping/love bombing to pander to her ego, then dump when he was tired, but pandering to their monumental ego through lying is vital. The concept of a healthy relationship where she makes equal effort and knows that sacrifice and commitment are required is dead. I see them as nothing more than a liability, considering I don't pander to their grossly narcissistic delusions.
I found that when I dropped these ghouls very quickly and suddenly very early on after meeting them, or they'd discover I had boundaries and wasn't afraid of enforcing them, or that I didn't white knight for them, they'd either explode with rage, have a sulk, look at me with complete puzzlement and lost for words, or look at me very, very hurt. All because I'm not the pushover they thought I was. It's hilarious when they find they can't get their own way, but like I say, it's been every woman I've met. The last time I met one who had a halfway decent personality was in 2007.
@@Benanov Why you gotta throw salt at his game? He applied a method that worked for him for a couple of years and eventually found a woman fit for him. Don't worry about his, look at yours.
just ask. If she doesn't want to, ask someone else.
Don't discuss.
@@Benanov petty? Lol, if you want to believe that, feel free. I picked women who were attractive and seemed interesting. According to what they said about themselves, they were compassionate, empathetic, kind, nurturing and so on. The majority of women are none of these things and it didn't take long to see it. It is not my fault that the majority of older single women are divorced and chose to be divorced for selfish reasons. All I did was play by their exact rules so if I am petty, I guess they are too. All I know is that when I did find a good woman, I stayed with her. Of course she offers more than bedroom fun, unlike the majority of women. There is a reason men date younger women. The older ones really have nothing to offer in most cases. I was lucky to find the exception.
One of the most common things I hear from men when I do what I can tell they want in their happy little heart, is “I wanted to ask, but I did not want to ask anything of you”
This entire video can be summed up with one word, reciprocity. Everything you said is that one thing!
6. Appreciation (mentioned with effort, and is related to bragging, but it's important enough to mention separately).
7. LOYALTY!!! (this should be #1. No Man wants a disloyal, disrespectful cheating 304)
1. Effort
2. Recognition (brag about him); don't disparage him
3. Touch
4. Post about him (recognize his existence to others. Don't hide him; show you're proud of him and being with him)
5. Notice the little things
#2 is like the best one on the list I think. Hearing something my wife said about me from someone else or hearing her bragging about me makes me so proud and makes me want to do better. I can't think of anything better. You'll never really know how someone sees you but this is like the next best step.
Know what? You really know men; your honey is a lucky guy!
I really like your videos, but one thing strikes me every time you post; you are always smiling. A smile is contagious. Your smile is genuine and will make those around you smile too. It doesn't hurt that you are really pretty.
Thanks for posting. Anything that fosters understanding between the sexes is wonderful.
Touch, agree 100% - as a divorced guy who has had 3 hugs in 5 years (from people who aren't my parents / older family) I'm massively touch starved. 😢
Such an underestimated thing.
I know that feeling. I can't remember the last time I had a good hug.
I hadn't realised just how much physical contact my relationship had until it ended, all the small touches you don't even think about just suddenly stop. And it hurts.
Yeah, I think we’re all starved. It’s hard to see, but I’m really glad I’m not alone.
I think this goes for both men and women. I loved my wife more than I love breathing. She was my light and I did all this for my wife. I really miss her, her name was Kimberly.
As a single guy, I don't think I've ever had a woman do the things she's mentioned in this video. Even women I've dated. I always feels like I'm putting in 99% of the work and like 1% back.
You got the 1% back? Lucky!
It wasn't long into my marriage I realized that the "effort" is not really an effort. For example, I will pick up flowers once or twice a week to say I appreciate her. I never announce or expect anything in the process, why does being kind require anything more than being kind.
I believe that there are countless couples who love each other very much and don't flaunt their love on social media.
1. I don't like asking for effort because then I question if the effort she puts in is genuine or just to shut me up. These are good points
Can you open a finishing school for women because I’m old and not interested in the women that prowl the earth looking for a free ride at all since I’m taken but I feel bad for our young guys dealing with these toxic women. Also I wouldn’t know if someone posted something about me unless someone showed it to me because I’m completely useless on the new ways of the world but I always have appreciated the way you paint a map to bring our young and old people together two👍!
sometimes a guy just wants a hug. But we won't beg for it.
For me it would be a heart-felt hug and a soft kiss on the cheek followed by a warm smile. That simple act of kindness speaks volumes!
Only 3 things; loyalty, love, and respect. If he's talking negative about himself or feeling down; don't ask what's wrong: straightened out his clothes and posture, and tell him what you see. Acknowledge his feelings, and let him know how strong he is in lieu of getting "the ick". We just want you to act like mature grown women. That's all.
I havent in ten years i dont waste time on women any more just live my life the best i can after beig incarcerated for accusations but i have learned a lot keep up the good work you will probably save a few men from the hell i went through and still climbing out of the abyss thats my life keep up we appreciate what you do
Hugs, Flowers and Acknowledgment. We all need these things. Valentine's Day goes both ways not just 1 way 💙
I barely exist on social media. I prefer it that way.
Truth, Emily. We are very simple.
1) Effort
2) Praise to others
3) Touch
4) Posting him on social media
5) Notice the little things
Hugs are definitely underrated.
Also just say thank you. It shows acknowledgment and appreciation of small things.
I disagree about the posting thing. That stuff always just comes across as vanity and performative to me
No!! Please don't encourage posting! That's my idea of hell. It leads to gossip and drama, and I don't need that. There was a time before social media and it's not my fault I can't live in those days.
This is exceedingly wise, very astute counsel. Even for us older guys who care nothing about "social media" let alone anything social....
We all crave to be needed, wanted, pursued and adored by our spouses. It's the food that makes even us old Clydesdales dance on our hind feet and slave ourselves for our loved ones.
I feel like number 4 is not necessary because I think a man would rather his girlfriend not be on social media
Very well done and very well said Emily 👏 Spot on Truths. Says alot about your relationship with your man. Healthy and great communication. Simply put, treat the man in your relationship the way you want to be treated. You want to be treated like a Queen, treat him like a King.
It's simple really!
Spot On. For those here below who mentioned posting she really means "broadcasting" about the man where today is more likely to happen trough social media it will not be necessarily the main channel
I spent 15 years with a woman, not married because there was always something bothering me which I couldn't place. Prior to that I spent 5 years married to another woman. In both instences, when things went south, I point blank asked/stated... "go back to day one, name a single thing I've not done as promised, be it a success or failure, and name a single instence where I failed to live up to my word and honor my commitments". silence followed. Wih the second, I went on to state "reverse the roles, if I did what you did, what would I have to do to fix this" the silence was deafening. The second put on a hell of a show, seemed too good to be true, and it was.
Men want several things:
1. Loyalty: Men need to know that you have their back no matter what, particularly these days when loyalty is so hard to come by in ANY aspect of life.
2. Respect for privacy: What I mean by this is if a man tells you something in confidence, he expects it to remain in confidence - not shared with the world. This also includes any flaws that you observe. Women seem to have a need for pointing out everyone else's flaws but won't acknowledge their own.
3. To be #1: Men don't want to be "settled for". They want to be your number one choice.
I agree apart from the pudding online. I'm uncomfortable having anything odd online about be without me checking it 1st especially photos.
All your other points can be summed up as men want to be shown they are cared about it loved.
I think it's an acknowledgment thing. Like if she talks about you to friends/family because you're an important part of her life and also that she's showing that shes taken when online.
I’m very touchy feely bc I’m Southern. My man is from CT. He wasn’t used to this. My hugs are healing, he said. Bless his heart, that makes me sad for him
These are all nice, but there are two things I think most men fundamentally want that they will never ask for (since it has to be genuine and not an effort by the woman) are 1) affection and 2) loyalty. Having these two things are what really matter to most men, and will usually be plenty to sustain a good relationship with a man. Everything else is nice window dressing, but a lack of either of these two things is fatal.
3) respect
Shouldn't have to ask for loyalty. If that's not there already, run. That's as base a prerequisite as being the right sex.
@@lebu5825respect is a part of loyalty - showing loyalty is showing respect
Agreed. Disrespect is an immediate GAME OVER!
you remind me of Australia's Bettina Arndt who advocated for men's perspective and got hated on strongly by lesbian feminists who excoriated her publically for saying good things about men which were totally contradictory to the lesbian feminist propaganda that every problem in the world was men's fault. As a man I'll say please keep up the good work !
We’re not that woke…yet! Why would women want to make themselves obsolete?!!
Men are taught to accept what we're given, and to ask for anything is us being a burden. It's time to break that pattern.
I ask my girlfriend for things, I tell her what I want/need and I do it in a clear, concise and respectful manner. The overwhelming majority of the time she does what I ask without hesitation. I give her all of what she needs and most of what she wants, just like she does for me. Of course our relationship isn't perfect, but it's the best one I've had in a very long time.
We're taught to accept anything
Communication and mutual respect is a wonderful combination.
This is actually a good thing and will strengthen the relationship for a man to make demands on his woman. The good woman will actually get satisfaction out of serving her man.
We'd love to be treated like thinking, feeling, genuine human beings.
True on all points. Effort. Bragging. Touch. Post. Notice.
These videos make me realize how awesome my g/f is.
Lucky girl!
Wow! You are so right about a man’s need for admiration. I have been very successful in my career but I very rarely hear my wife say anything even remotely close to “I’m proud of you.” I really don’t need her to say it publicly. I just wish she would subtly communicate it to me.
Add a number 6. A glass of ice cold water on a hot day of working in the yard or changing oil on your car. Simple act but it is greatly appricated
Peace and loyalty.
Men don't generally like being exhibited, good or bad in any form. He just wants to know when what he's doing it making you happy, or not.
Hear! Hear!
Good thoughts. Men need to be needed.
Society has been hammering away at men for an entire generation, telling them they're bad and unnecessary. That's a double hit for men.
Again, men need to be needed.
ABSOLUTELY touch, at least for me.
Another reason we might not ask for something is that, if we have to ask, you're doing it because we asked, and not because that's what you WANT. Maybe you did mention it, but it still bears repeating.
I agree with all of this, especially the touch part and random hugs. We do need hugs more than we will ever admit. It's also super cute any time I am chilling on the couch and she will come in for the snuggle.
You hit this one out of the park. Add Respect to that list.
1. Men do not water dead flowers. If you're not making an effort, expect us to stop watering.
2. If she doesn't appreciate you, she should let you find someone who will. Don't take your ex back. She depreciated you.
4. If you are not publicly accepted by your partner, you're not together. You're being used.
Now....figure out how to "accidentally" leave this bookmark somewhere whenever I get into another relationship. 🤪
Spontaneous hugs? That's the dream!
So, so very true at 4:20: "He's not going to ask for it because he just wants you to want to touch (or do other things) him." This is absolutely key to a healthy relationship...the wanting to do things for each other without being asked. If that's not there, the love is cold and headed for death.
Emily, you nailed it on the touch.
A man will not ask for these things, because to ask means that he doesn't expect her to be spontaneous or do it from the heart. If she can't do it without asking, or him initiating it, then he isn't feeling that she loves him.
once you asked, it becomes performance of duty, rather than care. And there are miles of difference between the two.
I don’t post and will not post about anything. But you are right on with the need for touch. I really missed that, and came to resent the lack of touch. Resentment is awful in a relationship.
1) You're spot-on.
2) This just depresses me as a 52-year-old single guy who's never been married & had 2 relationships, period. Both of which cheated on me & left me. (the second left me a single parent for the next 15 years)
#6. Compliments, or really any verbal affirmations, and he won't ask for them the same reason she won't always ask for them: fishing for them makes you look needy, and because if you have to ask for them, then any compliments you receive from that time forward will NEVER feel genuine. You'll always feel like any time they compliment you, they might possibly only be doing it because they know/believe it's what you want. And that's basically true of all of these things. To receive any of these things is always more meaningful, and possibly will ONLY feel meaningful when they occur unsolicited, without having to ask for them. It's really one way men aren't all that different from women sometimes.
You something I really want from a woman? Real, honest, good faith conversation. Small talk is irritating and chases me away. We don’t have to talk our lives, but substantive is wonderful.
You have summed up the reasons, that I was not aware of, that I am now divorced. A decent relationship should be, for the most part, equal. And equal does not necessarily mean the same behavior.
What?......no sliding into the room, that is so cool please continue asap.😍 You really get us well sister God bless you for clearing the air and bringing understanding. Thank you for standing with your man and us.
This video is proof that men will never, ever, understand women. As a man, I'm not keeping score this way. I'm making a living, busting up injustices, and building a life. What I want is a woman that values those things about a man, and can dispense with the drama. I already have enough drama in my life, and I don't need any more from my woman.
I understand women very well. It's why I avoid them.
Your comments about how the little things in relationships help your relationship are spot on. However, they also have a place before dating someone blossoms into a relationship. While the initial promise may be exiting, it is wise to reserve space for a slightly skeptical observer who keeps track of the small things that signal how a long term relationship might work out. Looking back I can see this helped me dodge a bullet more than once. This works for positive as well as negative signals. Objectively filtering body language as well as more direct observations can be crucial. This approach worked well for my wife and I. We have been married 24 years, the romance is still alive and we couldn't be happier.
I don't care about the posting things on social media. I prefer to keep private on social media. Just my personal preference. I'm sure other guys eat it up and love it.
I would prefer a life without social media in general. YT is the closest I get.
you are absolutely spot on for #1, i have a female friend and i wish she'd put in a bit more energy into our friendship. it kinda "sucks" that i feel like i'm in the only who puts energy into it
The "he doesn't want to make you do something" is *HUGE,* just in general. The fact she *wants* something is most of the value much of the time.
And not just with a GF or wife. As someone who generally has a hard time "reading" people, I find it extremely difficult to initiate most social interaction, more so the more the long term of the relationship matters to me. Talking to someone who I don't ever expect to see again is easy, because if they don't want to talk they can walk away and if they are uncomfortable with that, they are just have some time wasted. Asking to be included in a party or inviting someone to a party? Way harder. Asking someone on a date? I'd _almost_ rather not do it at all than spend hours trying to guess if I'll be imposing on them.
Love your videos! So true. I'm a man, age 48. i don't necessarily do social media, but I do, in a way "post" about my woman by talking to new female coworkers saying good things about my wife to them. In my mind... It lets the new female worker know that I'm married and I think highly of my wife and I am less likely a type of man that will hit on them, which in turn should help break the ice. Whether women see it that way, I have no clue. - hope this info can be handy!
Don't just expect all the little things a man does, that's our way of telling you we care. Notice them out loud occasionally, tell him you see them and appreciate him. I don't need or want public praise, but the private appreciation is crucial. Same as touch. Any and all physical contact is amazing.
Thank you for sticking up for us men. Another topic I think will be relevant is the honest truth that men and women rarely will every be "best friends", instead will fill roles, and will need other people to fill others, same as women. Like REALLY think about it, aside from kids, sex, occasional emotional breakdowns and the ability to build a home... men will much better have their needs met by their guy friends and/or hobbies. Give him space and don't expect him to think/act as your girlfriends do. We are both equal, but very different. A root beer float is delicious because of 2 very different things that combine for a great outcome.
I'm definatley the type that would come up behind and just give a hug for no reason to my girlfriend. I like how you pointed out that Men would like that too.
It was the "Touch" topic. If she just hugs, cuddles etc.. as well as I do, it would mean SOOO much.. At least from my perspective.
As for your last point, #5, you're right. Not going to ask for it, but if she is noticing the small things, it most assuradly makes a difference and would show genuine interest.
Thanks for the video Emily!