Quick tip on decor: I’m only getting real flowers for the stuff that the guests will see up close, everything else will be fake flowers. For example, the arch is gonna be all fake lol, while the centerpieces will be real flowers
This is exactly what I did!! It would have been an insane amount of money to have real flowers on the arch, and since for my wedding it rained, I doubt it would have looked as nice
I'm using mostly fake flowers for centerpieces, but real greenery because a) fake greenery was more expensive and b) I didn't find any I thought looked real enough. So the guests will still experience the smell of fresh florals but considerably cheaper. I'm growing dusty miller/lambs ear (did a test run this summer) and hopefully eucalyptus. And there's tons of wild silver willow around too that I plan to forage.
@@ChuchiCheeks great tip. I'm going for a outdoor garden wedding so I'm investing my budget into landscaping my garden so it looks like something out of a fairytale this way I can enjoy the flowers more than once and as for my arch way might make it a garden fetcher
My bouquets and everything are fake! Only flowers that are real are the groomsmen buttonhole flowers because single fake flowers are hard to make look real
I think the biggest issue with re-sale is most brides want to earn back exactly what they paid for it. I see it on Facebook marketplace all the time. Folks people who are looking for other people's decor on Facebook are looking for the deal. If you are reselling for more than half, then that means you really want to keep it. Ya might as well take your ad down.
Tip I had for keeping bar costs down is offer 2 "signature" liquor drinks (one picked by each part of the married couple). This means miss money spent on additional liquor types that might not be drunk, less variations of mixers or garnishes, and it's easier to get an idea of the number of servings you need to purchase for.
At my sister’s wedding about three years ago, the venue required all alcohol to be purchased from them, and there was a cork fee on top of that. The groom’s parents were set to pay for alcohol. However, they only budgeted about $600 and it ended up being closer to $3,000 🥴
You have a way of alleviating panic in brides and its such a gift, because it seems like every time I start freaking out about planning a wedding in 6 months, you pop up and I'm so grateful!!!
Jamie’s videos makes me less anxious about wedding planning and budgeting! Especially since we just decided to invite twice the amount of people four months out 😅
You have called me out for my decor room (formerly guest room) 😂 i have a 9 foot arch and 25 centerpieces in there along with all the table runners cloths and like a bajillion glasswares etc oh no i think the limit does bot exist is too late for me already lolllll
Just wanna share this. I've been watching Jamie since I was 20 and a graduating (4th year) hospitality management university student who loves lots of things in the industry including wedding planning. It was probably a month or few months after Jamie's first 3 uploads. Probably, subbed since the first half of 2018. Jamie's videos have been consistently great. And its really warming to see how the channel has been growing, all the collaborations and the Wolfer & Co.'s connection with the channel. I would probably get married 10 years or less after my first Jamie videos but still, i would keep on watching Jamie's content until then and be excited every Wednesday morning for Jamie's videos (in Asia its Wednesday morning). Jamie, you have helped a lot of brides (not clients but subscribers) in their wedding planning journey and you are continuing to do so. More strength to the channel. 💓💓💓 #linens 🤣🤣🤣
Omg i've been watching since 2018 too!! I found her in my 4th year of university and watched her videos going to work when i got my first full time job. Still single but still love her content! Love how we are OG watchers!!
I see these in western weddings a lot. I feel like the very large centerpieces are not a good thing cause I have seen a lot of people complaining they can't see the person on the other side of the centerpiece! They are communicating to a person they can't even see! Not to mention some of these flowers are flowy and they just lay on the food plates and guests are just plain annoyed! Unless it's a huge venue hall, the tables won't fit like 12 people per round/square table and most tables are round/square as opposed to the rectangle. 4/6 people per table is the norm and they can't see past the big flower vase. Best to keep a smaller, less congested or even a bud vase so guests don't feel overwhelmed by them. Some might even have allergies so going the fake flower routes is better. Also if you are worried about reselling and getting your money back, just ask the catering/venue to provide the silverwave and plates/bowls. This way you don't have to pull your hair out.
100 percent this ^^ Guests hate it when they can't see each other...or their kids. I've seen these big arrangements at fundraisers (because the florist donated them and it's basically an advertisement for their shop) and I don't like them. I've never seen them at weddings though. Flower arrangements here are generally the size you would put on your own dining table.
I plan on renting a room in my town that is under $200 it can fit a lot of people. It's not glamours but that's ok. I'm looking into drop catering from a local Italian restaurant that seems reasonably priced. I want to keep my menu simple. I love decor but don't plan to decorate much to save money. I do think flowers are beautiful and will put simple bouquets on each table. I plan on just using paper plates, disposable table cloth and cutlery. It's going to be more of an easy going vibe. I mostly want to focus on food, the photographer, my dress and flowers. I'm not engaged yet but my bf is planning to propose soon. I'm all excited. We will start saving soon and then start planning. We don't know how many people we would have but I'm guessing no more than 75 people. I'm thinking of making my 2 rabbits be the flower girls.
I think skipping alcohol altogether is the best option. If someone judges you for not having alcohol at your wedding, then that's somebody that you don't want at your wedding. Are they there you you, or the booze?? That shouldn't even be a question!
Thank you so much for this video, your comments on decor were the hard truth that I needed to hear lol. I'm currently planning my wedding on a budget and trying to figure out how to decorate my venue without spending a fortune. I'm actually not using a florist as I'm using my own flowers and greenery and sticking with a simple design. But the hall where I'm having my reception has a beamed ceiling, and I have dreams of draping the beams in lights, greenery and fabric, which is hard to do on a budget!!! I'm currently in the process of 'picking my momemt' and decided to create a few hanging floral features to hang above the tables and then just string up a lot of lights. Lighting always makes a space feel magical and can be cheaper than flowers and fabric. I'm also using only a few statement floral centerpieces on the tables and will have candles in vintage glassware sitting between them. I literally bought all my glassware for the candles for about $30 secondhand. Which means I can actually afford the emerald green tablecloths I really want lol. I figure people will spend more time looking at the tables than the ceiling, so I will have to forgo my dream of a beautiful floral and greenery draped ceiling 😂
This is so timely! My wedding is in three weeks. I was overthinking the desserts, favors, and additional decor. Thanks for sharing the wisdom that people are going to remember how they FELT vs the color of table cloths I used.
my venue coordinator said to me "You can ask me my opinion on any vendor not on my list and I might tell you it's your wedding." Aka it's your wedding and they're not someone I would hire lol
It definitely is. That's what helped me the most since I got engaged. Prior to getting engaged I had been doing my research for sometime on how much things cost and how to budget and save. Once he proposed, I already knew what I wanted and just had to convey it to my now fiance for his approval (since it's his wedding too 😒) lol
I am new to the wedding planning crazy life 😜. I love the way you explain things and give good advice an options on how to do things..You should be a comedian on the side🤣🤣🤣 you are hilarious!!
I'm planning on doing twinkle-light filled wine bottles (DIYing) for the table numbers as part of my center pieces because my fiance and I love wine, we go to tastings once a month, and it's literally brought us closer together. Also doing flowers as part of the center pieces. Simple, and it reflects us.
I feel called out by the decor thing! We’re getting married in my hometown and my entire childhood bedroom is filled with boxes. My cousin (whose mum used to be a decorator) and my craftiest friend got married the year before me and I inherited all of their lovely stuff. And then shopped for some more…
Can you say new subscriber ?! You’re awesome and I am beyond blessed to have found you’re wonderful channel !! God bless you for all of these helpful tips 💯🙏🏽🥰
Well ideally for me with all three of the things you talked about I’m probably gonna have my ceremony at my church and hold the reception at one of the nearby hotels or convention center (depending on budget), for food I want to do a baked potato bar for dinner no alcohol but instead have a soda bar and dessert table with 3 to 5 options and cake, and as far as decor I honestly have no idea.
Our budget is shaping up to be more than 50% food, and 10% venue rental. Also only covering drinks during cocktail hour, following that cash bar, wine on the tables.
I ran into an issue where I knew that my venue only had a relationship with one caterer (24 Carrots) but I didn’t realize how expensive their labor and Amin fees were. Literally almost wanted to cry when we got our first estimate but after calming down and reevaluating our guest count, I’m making it work but damn. It was a hard hit! I guess the only upside is I know the food and service will be amazing! 😂😅
Love love love your channel and your relatability Jamie! Do you have a video with marriage advice? Or planning out what happens after the big day like thank you cards, photo sharing ideas, etc?
i try to buy stuff that i will also use as house décor, like the beautiful gold mirror for seating chart well i was already wanting to but 1 of those for my house for the past 4 yrs anyways
I'm having a super small wedding, maybe 25 people, and I'm just going to buy all the tables and chairs and plates. I'll be able to replace my broken ones for years
Jaime is right. When it comes to decor, there is no limit. Literally had to move into a 2 bedroom apartment in order to hold all of our decor and my shoes. P.S. We don't have any kids.
Oh my word 😂 Just watching your videos for the first time and you are WONDERFUL. Love your energy, your sass, your REALISTIC WISDOM AND ADVICE. You make learning this stuff easy and fun!! Keep it up!
One thing I wish I asked my wedding venue was even though they had a preferred vendor list, would the allow drop catering since it doesn’t require use of the kitchen
they probably wouldn't have allowed it. Venues, at least here, have a preferred vendor list because if something goes wrong it generally reflects poorly on the venue. your guests wouldn't know if supper was late because the caterer waa late. So the preferred vendor list is companies that are dependable, consistent quality etc etc but also nothing gets broken or stolen.
LOL…decor! Definitely a budget blower if you allow it. We’re close to $1500 and we’ve not ordered flowers yet or fairly lights or enough lanterns and votives. We’ve only dressed up the two parent tables and grandparent tables.
i just wanna thank you so much for your youtube channel!! i’m soon to get engaged and i had no clue over anything wedding related. my knowledge has definitely improved :)
Huh, I’ve heard from other planners that you can save SO much money by building out your bar yourself. As for leftovers, you can generally return what’s unopened. It’s probably cheapest, if doing a full bar yourself, to limit things to a few set drinks so you have to buy fewer base alcohols and fewer garnishes/ingredients. In my case, I’m doing beer and wine only, though it might not end up being cheaper since we have to use our venue’s wine with comes in at $35-60 per bottle. We’ll choose to only offer a one of the more expensive options. At least we can supply our own beer and sparkling wine!
Depends on the quality of liquor and how varying you're buying! Usually a bar would have 3-5 whiskey/bourbon, dozens of wines, 3-4 vodka types etc. So if you plan for a few drinks then yeah it's cheaper, but if you buy a true full bar then it probably will be more expensive
I work at a full service wedding venue. We have 1 cab option, 1 rose option, and 1 Chardonnay option. If we’re doing tap it’s cores light, if we’re doing bottles or cans we have a few other light beers like michelob ultra, bud light, etc. and Budweiser. We give the client options from no bar, beer and wine only, beer wine and cash, cash bar, or premium bar (option with tap or bottles)
it's cheaper to do your own bar where we live too, and generally it's open bar. we had wine on the tables and a full bar for mixed drinks....you need rum, vodka, gin, rye and whiskey plus an assortment of pop and juice. But we would have had all of those mixers anyways because they're also served as non alcoholic drinks. We also went through gallons and gallons of punch, spiked and plain. And here we are able to return any thing that isn't opened. Pop is cheap especially if you grab it while it's on sale. Beer is the biggest issue because it takes up a lot of space, has to be kept cold and you need several brands to keep people happy. And none of the beer can be returned. I think it's better to provide alternatives to beer.
Hey Jamie I was wondering if you could give some advise. I come from a conservative extended family but I have a lot of LGBT friends and my little brother, who will be in the bridal party, is trans. My fiancé also has LGBT family and the last thing I want is for anyone to get harassed. Is there a polite way I can essentially say “There WILL be LGBT people at my wedding, if that bothers you at all, do everyone a favor and don’t come.”
Coming from a somewhat conservative family, my experience is that conservatives are usually more respectful and open minded than you may think. Unless they are a bunch of jerks, I don’t imagine they would harass anyone. If they are known to be rude, I wouldn’t be inviting them. But you know your family better than I do. Enjoy your big day!
Wonderful video. Sorry if you’ve done this but I’d love a video on the structure and language of the ceremony? We are having a family member do it but will need to give them a script.
Hey lady I just had an idea on a video that I would love to hear what you have to say! I would love a video on preparing for a bridal appointment (dress shopping)
My venue is wonderful. The price is less than 50% of my budget. They threw in an extra room for free so that my guests have somewhere to pray. Set up and teardown is included. The only vendor I'm locked into is the caterer, who has no food minimum. But now I'm freaking out. I'm a deer in headlights and can't make any progress on any other vendor. The wedding is in March and I have no cake, no flowers, no photographer. All the DIY I plan to do for decor feels overwhelming and I don't know where to start.
@@jamiemiller8850 I have cake, flowers, and photographer now. I'm working out a contract with a videographer, and I have most of the materials for my DIY. I started by ordering things that could come to me in the mail, so that I could have time to change my mind, return things, and adjust my vision. Once I had a clearer vision of what my wedding would look like, I started talking to vendors. I met with two or three of each type of vendor before deciding who to book. Ask friends and family for recommendations. That's how I found my baker and I've got a lead on a makeup artist from my bestie's other bestie. Also: be willing to let go of some DIY projects or adjust how you're going to get it done when you realize your original plan requires more of you than is reasonable to give. Edit: Just as an example, when I realized the flowers I wanted don't have strong enough stems to be in a bouquet, I came up with a completely new arrangement. I have a Harry Potter theme and was going to make a Mirror of Erised entrance to the photobooth. I ordered a Platform 9 3/4 "background" but when it arrived it had a split in it so you can walk through the brick wall to the Hogwarts Express. So that has now become the entrance and I will have a Hogwarts background instead. It saves me hours and hours of work making that mirror entrance. My original plan included a competitive game between house teams. Once I fleshed out my guest list, I realized fewer than half of them would be entertainined by a game, so I allocated the game time to more dance time, which will suit more people. My dress was NOT the dress I went in looking for, but it fits me like it was made for me, body and personality. Just be okay with plans changing as long as you still have the energy and essence of the day you've dreamed of.
@@Sara-vn2kz wow thank you for the advice! I was planning on starting with the smaller things and then talking to vendors. I love the theme of your wedding! I adore Harry Potter, the idea of having the mirror of erised is so bomb! (What house are you in?) I'm definately diy-ing I've got dried flowers and my photo board built and a whole heap of other things already. Thank you for replying! And I hope your wedding goes just as you've planed and have a wonderful day ❤
I fell in love with my venue, I couldn't find a cheaper place with all the same features I wanted, little did I know trying to plan a wedding at the back end of a pandemic would be troublesome. Coordinator team with little training and knowledge it's been like trying to get blood from a stone asking for all info they have for what is available to use, what rules they have, wasted my time not telling me they had a set vendor for a couple of things like they've never been asked for these things for the 1000 previous weddings they've done 🙄 need a how to handle a disorganised venue video 😂
it is very possible they don't know, it's very possible they're new to the job or the venue. where we live hospitality jobs became part time at most and all of the experienced people with families and bills and houses moved on to other jobs, at least until they can find a full time job in hospitality. Not your problem but just so you know, and this isn't some thing a customer will be told. The venue will try to make do for now
I have helped many weddings with guest count. First I have them count the forsure people like parents siblings grandparents and children that will definitely be there. Then we count the wedding party plus 1 each for a spouse or whatever unless they have children then we add those few in. Then closest family aunts uncles cousins that are closely related and are close to bride and groom. Then best best long time friends who will come plus 1 unless it is known they have and will bring children Then we add the kids. Next is if it is decided no kids then kock out all the extra kids from above. I then ask the bride and groom to look this list over for a few days and knock out anyone who they have no close relationship to like if they hardly talk to a step sister or a coworker who acts like a friend lol. Then I ask them to knock off anyone they were pressured to invite by maybe mom and dad. They don't have to invite their dads boss to THEIR wedding neither a second cousin or great aunt unless they play a significant part of the bride and groom life. Then i have then reviewed again and remind them throughout this process that it is THEIR wedding and weddings are expensive especially accommodations and food and drink so THEY are not obligated to have everyone under the sub at their wedding. They are also reminded that only the people who love them and truly care for them will make their presence at the nuptials so they don't have to feel bad if their down the street neighbor of their parents or brothers x xwife are not invited .lol. you get what I mean Hope it helps. Happy weddings yall.
My extended family is all over the US and Canada. I haven't seen almost anyone outside my last remaining grandparent in at least 10 years. My fiances family is also very far away. We both have a close, small, immediate family and a few close friends. Our wedding may be about 25 people tops. We will be having pictures printed off to send extended family instead.
thank you for this. i’m getting married in cancun and this made me have the light bulb moment of “what do you need an instagram background for??? you have the ocean!!”
How would you tell your guest you are having a dry wedding???? A lot of people say you shouldn’t put it on your invitation, but I feel guest have the right to know there is no alcohol before accepting their invite.
I recently went to a church venue wedding/reception. The invitation said "alcohol will not be permitted". That says none will be provided and don't bring in your own.
A wedding can look beautiful with just nice florals by an experienced florist and set up can be done in an hour. A wedding arch decorated with flowers can really make a nice impression ans is easy to set up.
Hi, so I know that this is kinda off topic... However my wedding was called off. Him and I broke up, what exactly do I do with all of my wedding stuff. Nothing has been used. I feel like I wasted all that money 💰.
OK so I have a question and I apologize in advance if it’s a stupid one, but if we decide to host our wedding/reception at an all inclusive resort where spirits are included with the guest hotel stay, does that include the fact that when they attend my wedding reception we will not have to pay any hidden fees aka arms, legs, feet, and toes for let’s say “open bar” ? 🤔💯
It really depends on your location. I've heard that on the East Coast in the US, it's not unheard of to spend $75 to $150 per plate. In my smallish hometown in Wisconsin, I would say the average is about $15 to $18. The highest that I've heard of is around $30, and most of the older folks think that's too expensive. And it depends on what's on the menu. Almost every wedding that I've been to had basic roasted chicken, one other meat option, mashed potatoes, and an assortment of mystery salads drowning in mayo.
sure. we had vanilla cake with raspberry filling and carrot cake...bride vs groom cake. at dessert time we went to the tables with trays of sliced cake and had time to see each of our guests.
Look online for example timeliness for weddings then knock off any part of the timeline you will not use like if not doing a first look and then look at how many hours total you have left. Then part in 4 for ceremony then reception then dance then ending. This should give you the time you have for what you want to do at the wedding. If you still run into time restraint knock out any unnecessary parts of the timeline like some weddings don't do speeches or coordinated grand entrance or exits . Good luck...
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Quick tip on decor: I’m only getting real flowers for the stuff that the guests will see up close, everything else will be fake flowers. For example, the arch is gonna be all fake lol, while the centerpieces will be real flowers
That’s actually very smart
This is exactly what I did!! It would have been an insane amount of money to have real flowers on the arch, and since for my wedding it rained, I doubt it would have looked as nice
I'm using mostly fake flowers for centerpieces, but real greenery because a) fake greenery was more expensive and b) I didn't find any I thought looked real enough. So the guests will still experience the smell of fresh florals but considerably cheaper. I'm growing dusty miller/lambs ear (did a test run this summer) and hopefully eucalyptus. And there's tons of wild silver willow around too that I plan to forage.
@@ChuchiCheeks great tip. I'm going for a outdoor garden wedding so I'm investing my budget into landscaping my garden so it looks like something out of a fairytale this way I can enjoy the flowers more than once and as for my arch way might make it a garden fetcher
My bouquets and everything are fake! Only flowers that are real are the groomsmen buttonhole flowers because single fake flowers are hard to make look real
“But Jaime, I’ll re-sell them!!” “Will you??” -I feel like this was directed at me. Hahaha. Someday I’ll get to those target returns gosh! Lol
Get me lol
I think the biggest issue with re-sale is most brides want to earn back exactly what they paid for it. I see it on Facebook marketplace all the time. Folks people who are looking for other people's decor on Facebook are looking for the deal. If you are reselling for more than half, then that means you really want to keep it. Ya might as well take your ad down.
Why did I feel like such a good student when saying “guest count” with Jamie? 😅
Can we please get a video about how to keep dry weddings fun?
LOL...this hit so hard. "The limit does not exist" and "you no longer have a guest room" 😂😂😂Thank you for always being so relatable!
When I got married, we rented out the decor from a business that decorated for weddings. It worked out great.
Tip I had for keeping bar costs down is offer 2 "signature" liquor drinks (one picked by each part of the married couple). This means miss money spent on additional liquor types that might not be drunk, less variations of mixers or garnishes, and it's easier to get an idea of the number of servings you need to purchase for.
Wow. I'm really surprised at how many people might plan a wedding around other people rather than themselves.
Jamie is why Tuesdays are the best 🙌
Here in Asia its Wednesdays 🤣 so i always look forward to Wednesday mornings for Jamie's uploads 🤣💓
At my sister’s wedding about three years ago, the venue required all alcohol to be purchased from them, and there was a cork fee on top of that. The groom’s parents were set to pay for alcohol. However, they only budgeted about $600 and it ended up being closer to $3,000 🥴
Wow that’s scary. What made it go so over budget?
Oh my God
At 8:45 when the "resell" decor conversation started, the video was interrupted by a Hobby Lobby ad...that's a dangerous store for decor!! 😂
You have a way of alleviating panic in brides and its such a gift, because it seems like every time I start freaking out about planning a wedding in 6 months, you pop up and I'm so grateful!!!
Jamie’s videos makes me less anxious about wedding planning and budgeting! Especially since we just decided to invite twice the amount of people four months out 😅
You have called me out for my decor room (formerly guest room) 😂 i have a 9 foot arch and 25 centerpieces in there along with all the table runners cloths and like a bajillion glasswares etc oh no i think the limit does bot exist is too late for me already lolllll
The leather jacket does look cool.
Just wanna share this.
I've been watching Jamie since I was 20 and a graduating (4th year) hospitality management university student who loves lots of things in the industry including wedding planning. It was probably a month or few months after Jamie's first 3 uploads. Probably, subbed since the first half of 2018. Jamie's videos have been consistently great. And its really warming to see how the channel has been growing, all the collaborations and the Wolfer & Co.'s connection with the channel. I would probably get married 10 years or less after my first Jamie videos but still, i would keep on watching Jamie's content until then and be excited every Wednesday morning for Jamie's videos (in Asia its Wednesday morning).
Jamie, you have helped a lot of brides (not clients but subscribers) in their wedding planning journey and you are continuing to do so.
More strength to the channel. 💓💓💓 #linens 🤣🤣🤣
Omg i've been watching since 2018 too!! I found her in my 4th year of university and watched her videos going to work when i got my first full time job. Still single but still love her content! Love how we are OG watchers!!
@@sim771 woaaah where are you from? if only you're comfortable answering
@@sim771 yes OG watchers 🤣 #linens
I used Something Borrowed Blooms for flowers and it saved me so much money on decor!
I see these in western weddings a lot. I feel like the very large centerpieces are not a good thing cause I have seen a lot of people complaining they can't see the person on the other side of the centerpiece! They are communicating to a person they can't even see! Not to mention some of these flowers are flowy and they just lay on the food plates and guests are just plain annoyed! Unless it's a huge venue hall, the tables won't fit like 12 people per round/square table and most tables are round/square as opposed to the rectangle. 4/6 people per table is the norm and they can't see past the big flower vase. Best to keep a smaller, less congested or even a bud vase so guests don't feel overwhelmed by them. Some might even have allergies so going the fake flower routes is better. Also if you are worried about reselling and getting your money back, just ask the catering/venue to provide the silverwave and plates/bowls. This way you don't have to pull your hair out.
100 percent this ^^ Guests hate it when they can't see each other...or their kids. I've seen these big arrangements at fundraisers (because the florist donated them and it's basically an advertisement for their shop) and I don't like them. I've never seen them at weddings though. Flower arrangements here are generally the size you would put on your own dining table.
I plan on renting a room in my town that is under $200 it can fit a lot of people. It's not glamours but that's ok. I'm looking into drop catering from a local Italian restaurant that seems reasonably priced. I want to keep my menu simple. I love decor but don't plan to decorate much to save money. I do think flowers are beautiful and will put simple bouquets on each table. I plan on just using paper plates, disposable table cloth and cutlery. It's going to be more of an easy going vibe. I mostly want to focus on food, the photographer, my dress and flowers. I'm not engaged yet but my bf is planning to propose soon. I'm all excited. We will start saving soon and then start planning. We don't know how many people we would have but I'm guessing no more than 75 people. I'm thinking of making my 2 rabbits be the flower girls.
I'm literally just been in a relationship with this guy for a month and I'm binging the hell out of you channel 😂😂 Love you girl!! 💛💜💛
Yes the leather jacket makes you look very cool for the new kids. Good hair too. Don't worry, I won't tell them.
I think skipping alcohol altogether is the best option. If someone judges you for not having alcohol at your wedding, then that's somebody that you don't want at your wedding. Are they there you you, or the booze?? That shouldn't even be a question!
I think so too but at minimal I'd do some beer and would only offer it during the dinner then cut off! Lol...
I totally agree neither one of us drink so we are not serving alcohol at all.
Thank you so much for this video, your comments on decor were the hard truth that I needed to hear lol. I'm currently planning my wedding on a budget and trying to figure out how to decorate my venue without spending a fortune. I'm actually not using a florist as I'm using my own flowers and greenery and sticking with a simple design. But the hall where I'm having my reception has a beamed ceiling, and I have dreams of draping the beams in lights, greenery and fabric, which is hard to do on a budget!!! I'm currently in the process of 'picking my momemt' and decided to create a few hanging floral features to hang above the tables and then just string up a lot of lights. Lighting always makes a space feel magical and can be cheaper than flowers and fabric. I'm also using only a few statement floral centerpieces on the tables and will have candles in vintage glassware sitting between them. I literally bought all my glassware for the candles for about $30 secondhand. Which means I can actually afford the emerald green tablecloths I really want lol. I figure people will spend more time looking at the tables than the ceiling, so I will have to forgo my dream of a beautiful floral and greenery draped ceiling 😂
This is so timely! My wedding is in three weeks. I was overthinking the desserts, favors, and additional decor. Thanks for sharing the wisdom that people are going to remember how they FELT vs the color of table cloths I used.
my venue coordinator said to me "You can ask me my opinion on any vendor not on my list and I might tell you it's your wedding." Aka it's your wedding and they're not someone I would hire lol
The jacket looks great on you Jamie 😍
We’re not engaged yet ,but thought that planning ahead was a good idea. Your videos help me a lot have an idea of what to expect Jamie. Thanks ♥️
It definitely is. That's what helped me the most since I got engaged. Prior to getting engaged I had been doing my research for sometime on how much things cost and how to budget and save. Once he proposed, I already knew what I wanted and just had to convey it to my now fiance for his approval (since it's his wedding too 😒) lol
i feel like a top student whenever Jamie asks question in her videos 🤣🤣🤣
Black leather/faux leather moto jackets are a classic!
Going to opt for a wedding in the backyard and do my own catering. Super small guest list.
Just realised that I don't care about decor.
Found this channel looking for budgeting videos for me and my soon to be wife’s wedding and my goodness the help it’s given me is unreal keep it up !
Your delivery, cadence and flavor of humor have coalesced into something divine! I LOVE your videos and thanks for the guidance and support!
I am new to the wedding planning crazy life 😜. I love the way you explain things and give good advice an options on how to do things..You should be a comedian on the side🤣🤣🤣 you are hilarious!!
I'm planning on doing twinkle-light filled wine bottles (DIYing) for the table numbers as part of my center pieces because my fiance and I love wine, we go to tastings once a month, and it's literally brought us closer together. Also doing flowers as part of the center pieces. Simple, and it reflects us.
I feel called out by the decor thing! We’re getting married in my hometown and my entire childhood bedroom is filled with boxes. My cousin (whose mum used to be a decorator) and my craftiest friend got married the year before me and I inherited all of their lovely stuff. And then shopped for some more…
I literally said “guest count” out loud with you! I guess I have been here for a while!
Can you say new subscriber ?! You’re awesome and I am beyond blessed to have found you’re wonderful channel !! God bless you for all of these helpful tips 💯🙏🏽🥰
Can you do a video on diy florals and all the types of florals you may need?
Aww you look great, Jamie x love the leather jacket on you
Well ideally for me with all three of the things you talked about I’m probably gonna have my ceremony at my church and hold the reception at one of the nearby hotels or convention center (depending on budget), for food I want to do a baked potato bar for dinner no alcohol but instead have a soda bar and dessert table with 3 to 5 options and cake, and as far as decor I honestly have no idea.
Our budget is shaping up to be more than 50% food, and 10% venue rental.
Also only covering drinks during cocktail hour, following that cash bar, wine on the tables.
I ran into an issue where I knew that my venue only had a relationship with one caterer (24 Carrots) but I didn’t realize how expensive their labor and Amin fees were. Literally almost wanted to cry when we got our first estimate but after calming down and reevaluating our guest count, I’m making it work but damn. It was a hard hit! I guess the only upside is I know the food and service will be amazing! 😂😅
Omg! I’m having the same experience
I'm starting to be happy it's only gonna be like 20 people coming.
Okay fantastic information here. Thank you! But can we just talk about how perfect your makeup is in this video 😍😍
Love the jacket Jamie!
Love love love your channel and your relatability Jamie! Do you have a video with marriage advice? Or planning out what happens after the big day like thank you cards, photo sharing ideas, etc?
i try to buy stuff that i will also use as house décor, like the beautiful gold mirror for seating chart well i was already wanting to but 1 of those for my house for the past 4 yrs anyways
I'm having a super small wedding, maybe 25 people, and I'm just going to buy all the tables and chairs and plates. I'll be able to replace my broken ones for years
Jaime is right. When it comes to decor, there is no limit. Literally had to move into a 2 bedroom apartment in order to hold all of our decor and my shoes. P.S. We don't have any kids.
OMG! You are so good with all your wedding planning advice! And entertaining! Thank you!
YOU ARE EVERYTHING I'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR AND NEEDED!!! phew I AM so excited to have found you #happytears🥰
Oh my word 😂 Just watching your videos for the first time and you are WONDERFUL. Love your energy, your sass, your REALISTIC WISDOM AND ADVICE. You make learning this stuff easy and fun!! Keep it up!
One thing I wish I asked my wedding venue was even though they had a preferred vendor list, would the allow drop catering since it doesn’t require use of the kitchen
they probably wouldn't have allowed it. Venues, at least here, have a preferred vendor list because if something goes wrong it generally reflects poorly on the venue. your guests wouldn't know if supper was late because the caterer waa late. So the preferred vendor list is companies that are dependable, consistent quality etc etc but also nothing gets broken or stolen.
Damn Jamie… didn’t have to come after me with the decor section 😅😅😂
Jamie PUH-LEEEEEEAAAAASSE do a video an brunch weddings!!!!!
My dessert table has to be over the top!
It's Honeydukes!
You are so wonderful. Today really sucked and was draining but your humor is a bright light!! Thank you.
My office doubles as my decor closet... and I've spent so much time/money on thriftstore items. Ma'am, don't call me out like this 😂
I felt so seen on the decor part of this haha. WIll be taking that tip on board!
LOL…decor! Definitely a budget blower if you allow it. We’re close to $1500 and we’ve not ordered flowers yet or fairly lights or enough lanterns and votives. We’ve only dressed up the two parent tables and grandparent tables.
I’m not getting married but these are some nice tips!
i just wanna thank you so much for your youtube channel!! i’m soon to get engaged and i had no clue over anything wedding related. my knowledge has definitely improved :)
Huh, I’ve heard from other planners that you can save SO much money by building out your bar yourself. As for leftovers, you can generally return what’s unopened. It’s probably cheapest, if doing a full bar yourself, to limit things to a few set drinks so you have to buy fewer base alcohols and fewer garnishes/ingredients. In my case, I’m doing beer and wine only, though it might not end up being cheaper since we have to use our venue’s wine with comes in at $35-60 per bottle. We’ll choose to only offer a one of the more expensive options. At least we can supply our own beer and sparkling wine!
Depends on the quality of liquor and how varying you're buying! Usually a bar would have 3-5 whiskey/bourbon, dozens of wines, 3-4 vodka types etc. So if you plan for a few drinks then yeah it's cheaper, but if you buy a true full bar then it probably will be more expensive
And my 3-4 I mean 3-4 different types, obviously the bottle count depends on guests!
I work at a full service wedding venue. We have 1 cab option, 1 rose option, and 1 Chardonnay option. If we’re doing tap it’s cores light, if we’re doing bottles or cans we have a few other light beers like michelob ultra, bud light, etc. and Budweiser.
We give the client options from no bar, beer and wine only, beer wine and cash, cash bar, or premium bar (option with tap or bottles)
it's cheaper to do your own bar where we live too, and generally it's open bar. we had wine on the tables and a full bar for mixed drinks....you need rum, vodka, gin, rye and whiskey plus an assortment of pop and juice. But we would have had all of those mixers anyways because they're also served as non alcoholic drinks. We also went through gallons and gallons of punch, spiked and plain. And here we are able to return any thing that isn't opened. Pop is cheap especially if you grab it while it's on sale. Beer is the biggest issue because it takes up a lot of space, has to be kept cold and you need several brands to keep people happy. And none of the beer can be returned. I think it's better to provide alternatives to beer.
You look really cool Jamie
Hey Jamie I was wondering if you could give some advise. I come from a conservative extended family but I have a lot of LGBT friends and my little brother, who will be in the bridal party, is trans. My fiancé also has LGBT family and the last thing I want is for anyone to get harassed. Is there a polite way I can essentially say “There WILL be LGBT people at my wedding, if that bothers you at all, do everyone a favor and don’t come.”
Coming from a somewhat conservative family, my experience is that conservatives are usually more respectful and open minded than you may think. Unless they are a bunch of jerks, I don’t imagine they would harass anyone. If they are known to be rude, I wouldn’t be inviting them. But you know your family better than I do. Enjoy your big day!
I mean I don't think putting "this will be an LGBT friendly event" in the invitation is too aggressive.
Wonderful video. Sorry if you’ve done this but I’d love a video on the structure and language of the ceremony? We are having a family member do it but will need to give them a script.
Hey lady I just had an idea on a video that I would love to hear what you have to say! I would love a video on preparing for a bridal appointment (dress shopping)
Great tips per usual!
My venue is wonderful. The price is less than 50% of my budget. They threw in an extra room for free so that my guests have somewhere to pray. Set up and teardown is included. The only vendor I'm locked into is the caterer, who has no food minimum.
But now I'm freaking out. I'm a deer in headlights and can't make any progress on any other vendor. The wedding is in March and I have no cake, no flowers, no photographer. All the DIY I plan to do for decor feels overwhelming and I don't know where to start.
How are you going with your planning and prep now? In a similar situation and not sure where to start
@@jamiemiller8850 I have cake, flowers, and photographer now. I'm working out a contract with a videographer, and I have most of the materials for my DIY. I started by ordering things that could come to me in the mail, so that I could have time to change my mind, return things, and adjust my vision. Once I had a clearer vision of what my wedding would look like, I started talking to vendors. I met with two or three of each type of vendor before deciding who to book. Ask friends and family for recommendations. That's how I found my baker and I've got a lead on a makeup artist from my bestie's other bestie. Also: be willing to let go of some DIY projects or adjust how you're going to get it done when you realize your original plan requires more of you than is reasonable to give.
Edit: Just as an example, when I realized the flowers I wanted don't have strong enough stems to be in a bouquet, I came up with a completely new arrangement.
I have a Harry Potter theme and was going to make a Mirror of Erised entrance to the photobooth. I ordered a Platform 9 3/4 "background" but when it arrived it had a split in it so you can walk through the brick wall to the Hogwarts Express. So that has now become the entrance and I will have a Hogwarts background instead. It saves me hours and hours of work making that mirror entrance.
My original plan included a competitive game between house teams. Once I fleshed out my guest list, I realized fewer than half of them would be entertainined by a game, so I allocated the game time to more dance time, which will suit more people.
My dress was NOT the dress I went in looking for, but it fits me like it was made for me, body and personality.
Just be okay with plans changing as long as you still have the energy and essence of the day you've dreamed of.
@@Sara-vn2kz wow thank you for the advice! I was planning on starting with the smaller things and then talking to vendors.
I love the theme of your wedding! I adore Harry Potter, the idea of having the mirror of erised is so bomb! (What house are you in?)
I'm definately diy-ing I've got dried flowers and my photo board built and a whole heap of other things already.
Thank you for replying! And I hope your wedding goes just as you've planed and have a wonderful day ❤
@@jamiemiller8850 Thank you! The weddingis gettingclose and I'mboth excitedandnervous. I'm in Hufflepuff. What about you?
@@Sara-vn2kz slytherin heh. I hope you have a wonderful day 💗
I fell in love with my venue, I couldn't find a cheaper place with all the same features I wanted, little did I know trying to plan a wedding at the back end of a pandemic would be troublesome. Coordinator team with little training and knowledge it's been like trying to get blood from a stone asking for all info they have for what is available to use, what rules they have, wasted my time not telling me they had a set vendor for a couple of things like they've never been asked for these things for the 1000 previous weddings they've done 🙄 need a how to handle a disorganised venue video 😂
it is very possible they don't know, it's very possible they're new to the job or the venue. where we live hospitality jobs became part time at most and all of the experienced people with families and bills and houses moved on to other jobs, at least until they can find a full time job in hospitality. Not your problem but just so you know, and this isn't some thing a customer will be told. The venue will try to make do for now
She’s even more theatrical and comical at 2x 😂😂😂🥰🤭
I have helped many weddings with guest count. First I have them count the forsure people like parents siblings grandparents and children that will definitely be there. Then we count the wedding party plus 1 each for a spouse or whatever unless they have children then we add those few in. Then closest family aunts uncles cousins that are closely related and are close to bride and groom. Then best best long time friends who will come plus 1 unless it is known they have and will bring children Then we add the kids. Next is if it is decided no kids then kock out all the extra kids from above. I then ask the bride and groom to look this list over for a few days and knock out anyone who they have no close relationship to like if they hardly talk to a step sister or a coworker who acts like a friend lol. Then I ask them to knock off anyone they were pressured to invite by maybe mom and dad. They don't have to invite their dads boss to THEIR wedding neither a second cousin or great aunt unless they play a significant part of the bride and groom life. Then i have then reviewed again and remind them throughout this process that it is THEIR wedding and weddings are expensive especially accommodations and food and drink so THEY are not obligated to have everyone under the sub at their wedding. They are also reminded that only the people who love them and truly care for them will make their presence at the nuptials so they don't have to feel bad if their down the street neighbor of their parents or brothers x xwife are not invited .lol. you get what I mean
Hope it helps. Happy weddings yall.
My extended family is all over the US and Canada. I haven't seen almost anyone outside my last remaining grandparent in at least 10 years. My fiances family is also very far away. We both have a close, small, immediate family and a few close friends. Our wedding may be about 25 people tops. We will be having pictures printed off to send extended family instead.
Great advice on things I hadn’t thought of. I’m looking for a more of a backyard type wedding but I’ll still be using your advice
I do feel like I am getting carried away on a lot of things... like bride-to-be swag.
You look so much like Jamie Lynn Spears
when she said, will you??? I was like, she right. 😂
thank you for this. i’m getting married in cancun and this made me have the light bulb moment of “what do you need an instagram background for??? you have the ocean!!”
Leather Jacket 👌👌👌🤭❤
Now all you need is a Harley to go with that outfit
Before even clicking the video I predicted Guest Count, Venue, and Food/Drink... I guess you could say I'm a Wolfer & Co Star Student
feeling very called out about my decor room, er I mean guest room
How would you tell your guest you are having a dry wedding???? A lot of people say you shouldn’t put it on your invitation, but I feel guest have the right to know there is no alcohol before accepting their invite.
No I wouldn't say anything unless it is known that there are alot of partiers...
I recently went to a church venue wedding/reception. The invitation said "alcohol will not be permitted". That says none will be provided and don't bring in your own.
My venue doesn’t allow decor unless they can put it out within an hour. It kinda sucks but at least I won’t be able to spend a ton on decor.
A wedding can look beautiful with just nice florals by an experienced florist and set up can be done in an hour. A wedding arch decorated with flowers can really make a nice impression ans is easy to set up.
Girls character😂😂😂😂❤
Hi, so I know that this is kinda off topic... However my wedding was called off. Him and I broke up, what exactly do I do with all of my wedding stuff. Nothing has been used. I feel like I wasted all that money 💰.
Actually, I've only been to 2 weddings (out of 11) in which the food was great. The rest of them were eh to disappointing. :(
Omg i am the lil decor demon you're speaking of😅👿
OK so I have a question and I apologize in advance if it’s a stupid one, but if we decide to host our wedding/reception at an all inclusive resort where spirits are included with the guest hotel stay, does that include the fact that when they attend my wedding reception we will not have to pay any hidden fees aka arms, legs, feet, and toes for let’s say “open bar” ? 🤔💯
Jamie, does a signature drink with beer and wine only make a difference? The signature drink is the only other drink offered other than beer and wine?
I'm so early! 😂
Heeeeeeelloooooo! ✌🏻
Do you coordinate in other states? Like NY?
What is an average, or safe range to stay in for price per head for plates dinner? Buffet?
It really depends on your location. I've heard that on the East Coast in the US, it's not unheard of to spend $75 to $150 per plate. In my smallish hometown in Wisconsin, I would say the average is about $15 to $18. The highest that I've heard of is around $30, and most of the older folks think that's too expensive. And it depends on what's on the menu. Almost every wedding that I've been to had basic roasted chicken, one other meat option, mashed potatoes, and an assortment of mystery salads drowning in mayo.
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Ohhhh why is the whole guest bedroom just wedding stuff 😂😂
Loreal. Tristan
Bride. Groom. 25. Guests. Time
Dessert table Food table.
Sister brother Family. Friend.
Sister. Brother. Venue
Table chair
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Fruit table, dessert table
Garter toss
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Dance floor Saturday Wedding. June. 24. 2024
Jamie: If you have a guest bedroom, it's no longer a guest bedroom. It's for wedding decor. Me: 😬
Is it okay to have only cake as a desert but diff flavors of cake ?
sure. we had vanilla cake with raspberry filling and carrot cake...bride vs groom cake. at dessert time we went to the tables with trays of sliced cake and had time to see each of our guests.
That’s exactly what I am planning on doing. I love cake and don’t want to invest in getting other desserts
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I tried yesterday to get the timeline but it didn’t work. Tried again today… same story ;.;
Look online for example timeliness for weddings then knock off any part of the timeline you will not use like if not doing a first look and then look at how many hours total you have left. Then part in 4 for ceremony then reception then dance then ending. This should give you the time you have for what you want to do at the wedding. If you still run into time restraint knock out any unnecessary parts of the timeline like some weddings don't do speeches or coordinated grand entrance or exits . Good luck...