As a woman, agreeing with this narrative (which I actually do), is why we get called "pick me's". And yes, I know that are some women who will just say anything for male attention but I've literally been called out for believing this, MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME! Physically, mentally and emotionally we are just not the same and never will we be and my opinion/view on that will never change shame. Another thing, I really dislike when women use this narrative only when it suits or benefits them like, "the man is supposed to pay for and provide everything" but let a man say that he wants a woman who can cook 😂 weeeehh, striking a nerve.
Hell I don't wanna be a strong woman...I want to be soft I love being soft God created me to be soft and gentle to nature to love and create comfort and warmth for my kids and my husband...I don't even want a men who would expect me to strong🤷I am a woman and having a man who is able to lead me,A man who understands that I dont wanna always be making hard decisions around life ijoooh It's that simple
On the approaching part... I prefer approaching a woman rather than her approaching me, because you make a move on me first ... So... Who's paying for the dates and and and? You can't approach me as a lady then expect me to pay for dates. I don't mind spending on a woman and taking care of her but i must be the one to ask her out because I'm aware of what that comes with and I'm willing to do it. You can't shela me and ask for my resources later... Ask me for money to do your nails, hair, food, rent etc. So I'll do the approaching. Let's all stay in our lanes and play our respective roles😂
It's very important that you emphasize that "generally speaking" because they will give you an example of one chick she heard about who once paid for her own drink once upon a time as if that's the norm (based on just that one example) when the opposite is true🤦♂️
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥pensyy cooked here , this can be a reference of what is happening in the black society , women wants compete with men ,no ways asfani we can earn same amount of money but we'll never be the same and it's crazy cause these feminists most of them are black.😢 in Indian and whites spaces you don't find this , its crazy , dankie Penson with this banger❤❤❤❤.
Ai our Sis didn't represent herself well. Bottom line: never take credit or offence for something you did not choose to have. e.g Race or Gender. It's a waste of time.
My first qualification is in Bsc-Chemistry I remember asking one of my female chemistry lecturer why she didn't go to work in corporate for the money and she said no having the liberty to put her kids to bed every night was the greatest pleasure...now I understand,m a happy teacher 4 the same reason😂I don't wanna b boss babe hei.
Your conversation reminds me of how short that security agent of Trump was trying to protect a guy taller than her. And another one trying to put her gun back in her holster but couldn't. MEN AND FEMALE ARE NOT THE SAME.
How strong men are in comparison to women is relevant in as far as the task at hand requires any heavy lifting. Sure men are different from women but human beings are different in general. No one man is the same as the next and to organise ourselves on the basis of gender takes away from the naunce of the human experience. Also there's no real evidence to support some of these ideas like; women are better at hiding their cheating ways than men, this just sounds like an extension to a false idea that we've accepted to be true about one gender vs another. Yes the conversation needs to change direction but I'm not convinced it should still be going towards the direction where we still place our gender above our humanity.
I don’t believe it’s gender over humanity. Gender is part of our human experience and so It makes sense to factor it in often in conversations. Human experiences are nuanced. We can agree on that. But gender does play a big role in how we perceive the world and experience it so it should be okay to speak on women/men generally… like the example you made about women being “better” cheaters. According to what Im exposed to, women really are better at hiding cheating. So akukho wrong to classify the experiences based on gender especially when we speaking in the general sense.
@@selfimprovementmbuyim7658 I've managed to cultivate a community of all genders where the conversation has evolved to this place where our humanity is paramount to whatever gender we may be experiencing it through because pain, suffering, love and joy are universal. I'm sharing my two cents because my reality is contrary to the generic group ideologies that we tend to want to hold on to for whatever reason. Your lived experience is that women cheat better mine is that they don't cheat at all and granted my people are non-religious and polyamorous but still... It really does depend on what bubble you live in.
@@selfimprovementmbuyim7658 For a second I considered lying and saying no because I can already anticipate the false conclusions that are drawn about this manner of generalized way of thinking about people but whatever... People could say I'm in the LGBTQI+ and I wouldn't disagree with them but I hardly identify myself in that way because I don't particularly fit that categorisation either.
@@BlooZulu thanks for your honesty. I just wanted to know so I can have contexy of where you coming from. I have 🏳️🌈 friends in all the spectrums and I know the conversations can typically go deeper in that gender can become something people don’t identify heavily with in regarding to their human experience. So with that being said. I hear what you are saying in your original comment but it’s kind of impossible to ask the straight people to transcend beyond consistently including gender in their conversations about the human experience. Most people identify with the general (most common) experience. Which is one where there’s men and women and we each experience life as such… idk if im making sense. Like for me personally, I don’t think I could relate to being a human without identifying as a woman first.
These are such important conversations. what I’ve been trying to say is that we aren’t meant to compete but to complement. Somehow aboSisi want to compete and prove they’re better. Not sure where the motivation comes from but it’s strange.
There was no need for you to explain to her so much, you should have asked if she understands how testosterone and estrogen wirks and leave it there. Cos wow. Does sge know abt Semenya's case. The truth is we are differnt period. I wish we were not but we are 😂
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As a woman, agreeing with this narrative (which I actually do), is why we get called "pick me's". And yes, I know that are some women who will just say anything for male attention but I've literally been called out for believing this, MEN AND WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME! Physically, mentally and emotionally we are just not the same and never will we be and my opinion/view on that will never change shame.
Another thing, I really dislike when women use this narrative only when it suits or benefits them like, "the man is supposed to pay for and provide everything" but let a man say that he wants a woman who can cook 😂 weeeehh, striking a nerve.
hay maahni ... never try convince these ppl. leave them in their foolishness if they are not wise !
Hell I don't wanna be a strong woman...I want to be soft I love being soft God created me to be soft and gentle to nature to love and create comfort and warmth for my kids and my husband...I don't even want a men who would expect me to strong🤷I am a woman and having a man who is able to lead me,A man who understands that I dont wanna always be making hard decisions around life ijoooh It's that simple
On the approaching part... I prefer approaching a woman rather than her approaching me, because you make a move on me first ... So... Who's paying for the dates and and and? You can't approach me as a lady then expect me to pay for dates. I don't mind spending on a woman and taking care of her but i must be the one to ask her out because I'm aware of what that comes with and I'm willing to do it.
You can't shela me and ask for my resources later... Ask me for money to do your nails, hair, food, rent etc. So I'll do the approaching. Let's all stay in our lanes and play our respective roles😂
As a woman, I agree!
Washaya mfoka Mlotshwa asifani the best thing is to collaborate
It's very important that you emphasize that "generally speaking" because they will give you an example of one chick she heard about who once paid for her own drink once upon a time as if that's the norm (based on just that one example) when the opposite is true🤦♂️
Mr. Mlotshwa!!🙌🏿.
I agree tbh😂. We're not the same and THAT'S OKAY. Also feminism as a buffet is a good analogy and it's true.
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥pensyy cooked here , this can be a reference of what is happening in the black society , women wants compete with men ,no ways asfani we can earn same amount of money but we'll never be the same and it's crazy cause these feminists most of them are black.😢 in Indian and whites spaces you don't find this , its crazy , dankie Penson with this banger❤❤❤❤.
Ai our Sis didn't represent herself well. Bottom line: never take credit or offence for something you did not choose to have. e.g Race or Gender. It's a waste of time.
PROFOUND ANOLOGY and thought-provoking from your angle of approach
bafo I've been telling abantu exactly the same thing ... uringa iqiniso elingenakuphikiswa.... #Word #WiseWords #Seconded
I agree with most of what you said but not everything. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
Where do you disagree?
Spot on
Mfundisi, eeeew madoda! ... Let him cook! 🍳
Equal does not mean the same
preach it...
@@menzimngadi6793 DANKO!!!
My first qualification is in Bsc-Chemistry I remember asking one of my female chemistry lecturer why she didn't go to work in corporate for the money and she said no having the liberty to put her kids to bed every night was the greatest pleasure...now I understand,m a happy teacher 4 the same reason😂I don't wanna b boss babe hei.
You basically had a mental workout session with those two 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Your conversation reminds me of how short that security agent of Trump was trying to protect a guy taller than her. And another one trying to put her gun back in her holster but couldn't. MEN AND FEMALE ARE NOT THE SAME.
How strong men are in comparison to women is relevant in as far as the task at hand requires any heavy lifting. Sure men are different from women but human beings are different in general. No one man is the same as the next and to organise ourselves on the basis of gender takes away from the naunce of the human experience. Also there's no real evidence to support some of these ideas like; women are better at hiding their cheating ways than men, this just sounds like an extension to a false idea that we've accepted to be true about one gender vs another. Yes the conversation needs to change direction but I'm not convinced it should still be going towards the direction where we still place our gender above our humanity.
I don’t believe it’s gender over humanity. Gender is part of our human experience and so It makes sense to factor it in often in conversations.
Human experiences are nuanced. We can agree on that. But gender does play a big role in how we perceive the world and experience it so it should be okay to speak on women/men generally… like the example you made about women being “better” cheaters. According to what Im exposed to, women really are better at hiding cheating. So akukho wrong to classify the experiences based on gender especially when we speaking in the general sense.
@@selfimprovementmbuyim7658 I've managed to cultivate a community of all genders where the conversation has evolved to this place where our humanity is paramount to whatever gender we may be experiencing it through because pain, suffering, love and joy are universal. I'm sharing my two cents because my reality is contrary to the generic group ideologies that we tend to want to hold on to for whatever reason. Your lived experience is that women cheat better mine is that they don't cheat at all and granted my people are non-religious and polyamorous but still... It really does depend on what bubble you live in.
@@BlooZulu out of topic a bit but can I ask if you’re part of a friend group that consists of the lgbtq community?
@@selfimprovementmbuyim7658 For a second I considered lying and saying no because I can already anticipate the false conclusions that are drawn about this manner of generalized way of thinking about people but whatever... People could say I'm in the LGBTQI+ and I wouldn't disagree with them but I hardly identify myself in that way because I don't particularly fit that categorisation either.
@@BlooZulu thanks for your honesty. I just wanted to know so I can have contexy of where you coming from.
I have 🏳️🌈 friends in all the spectrums and I know the conversations can typically go deeper in that gender can become something people don’t identify heavily with in regarding to their human experience.
So with that being said. I hear what you are saying in your original comment but it’s kind of impossible to ask the straight people to transcend beyond consistently including gender in their conversations about the human experience. Most people identify with the general (most common) experience. Which is one where there’s men and women and we each experience life as such… idk if im making sense.
Like for me personally, I don’t think I could relate to being a human without identifying as a woman first.
If it doesn’t benefit her it’s bad but if she benefits it’s good 😅
These are such important conversations. what I’ve been trying to say is that we aren’t meant to compete but to complement. Somehow aboSisi want to compete and prove they’re better. Not sure where the motivation comes from but it’s strange.
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@@thabiso1099 🔥🔥🔥🔥
There was no need for you to explain to her so much, you should have asked if she understands how testosterone and estrogen wirks and leave it there. Cos wow. Does sge know abt Semenya's case. The truth is we are differnt period. I wish we were not but we are 😂
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