i actually like blood. it's pretty. i cut only my legs, easier to cover up. but i like to just stare at the blood forming out of the lines and watch the drops roll with the gravity. then i wipe the wounds clean and treat them. yes, i think the blood looks beautiful against my skin. but i don't cut just to see it. i cut because i feel like dying at that moment and i've been crying for so long that i feel numb enough to do it. i hate the pain though. the sting is annoying. oh well. that's all. EDIT: Okay so it has been three years since I wrote this comment and I honestly didn’t think that anyone would ever pay any attention to this. But now I suddenly got a notification about someone replying to this and oh wow. That so many of you can relate to this comment… I feel horrible. I’m in a much better place now. I don’t cut anymore. I do have horrible, thick scars all around my body though. I hate them. I regret hurting myself. I know where all of you are coming from. I’ve been in your place. So I know that these words probably won’t affect you much, but please, instead of cutting, call a friend. If you don’t have anyone to call, try other methods. Something that doesn’t leave a mark on you, something that you don’t have to carry around for the rest of your life. For example, Try an ice cube if you must feel pain. Sometimes I get the urge to cut again, when I’m feeling absolutely horrible. But in the middle of all that pain and crying I look at the scars I already have. And I don’t want any more of them. Think of your body as a separate being if you have to. My skin hasn’t done anything to me. It doesn’t deserve to get cut up and bleed. My body doesn’t deserve to work extra hours to try and heal from wounds that should have never been there. I hope this reaches someone that’s going through what I was three years ago. I hope it shows that despite having a state of mind like that, you can get better. I did. You can too. Just don’t be afraid to reach out.
I used to like blood, but one day I nicked an artery and blood literally shot out of my leg, and I had never been so genuinely terrified. I haven’t cut since then
My parents blamed my self harm on the music I listened to and they were all like “If you want help and comfort listen to Christian music not this stuff that is making you cut yourself!!” Like fam chill please this music is actually helping me feel better and not want to cut please don’t stereotype this music with what I did. (No offense to Christian music! Everyone had their own tastes!)
I’m depressed “You’re just sad” I cut “You’ve just heard of it online and wanted to try” I cry every night “You just want attention” *Commits Suicide* “We never saw the signs...”
that’s what my dad says when he found out i cut he wasn’t even upset for me he was angry he said i saw it online so i wanted to try it ,when i make depressed jokes people say oh it’s just a phase
I'm scared to tell anyone that sometimes I self harm because I need to keep up the reputation of "perfectly funny and amazing smart student." Its scary thinking anyone would see me differently.
But i know what you mean with that some one Could See you differently. . I Hope you have friends Which always See you with all your sides and dont Put some stigma on you or are pejoratively about that ...
It really bothers me when people do that. I stopped swimming (which I love) and wearing shorts because my legs are covered in scars, just so that on one finds out about my scars. I'm literally too scared to open up to people about the stuff I'm struggling with because I feel like the second I talk about it people will think I want attention. -_-
The same thing happened to me in year 7! My very close friend was self-harming due to personal reasons I won’t repeat. But then my once good friend (Let’s call her Suzy) started cutting. I asked her what was wrong and if she needed someone to talk to. And I asked her why she was self-harming. Her response was 'Because all my friends are doing it’ I honestly hate people like that. They decide they’re going to do something harmful because their friend was doing it. 🙄
The Fork Same i used to just punch the side of my head really hard multiple times until I blacked out once cause I did it to hard. I burn myself with hot water now :) hope you get better and i love you ❤️
watermelon x If you feel like it, you could try meditation. I stopped it a short while ago, but when I would do it, I would for hours at a time and it made me feel way better mentally and physically. Once I felt like my “life was back on track” then I stopped.
aay x that’s bull. People do care but also people have there own stuff to deal with so may not be paying attention to warning signs.all you need is one person to talk to who won’t judge. For me it was my Nan.
Oh common! Don't promote that way of thinking, is not like that, not everyone is a jerk. Is unhealthy and stupid to think like that. There is always someone you can ask for help.
I know a girl who DID self harm for attention but didn't cover them up. She went around showing random people and triggered everyone. She thought it was gonna make people fuss over her and for her to be known or popular from it, tragic
Totally Subliminals people dress differently for popularity. People change their hair for popularity. People might even learn a new skill for popularity. If someone is physically harming themselves for popularity, sounds like they have deeper issues than a normal level of interest in popularity. So I agree “tragic” but maybe not in the tone you intended.
Totally Subliminals Gosh- you poor thing- that girl must have put YOU through hell- It sounds like you are still carrying the scars- I hope things in improve for you love.
I halfway understand her while I don't agree with walking up and showing them to people I am not willing to be uncomfortable and hot just to cover up my scars/cuts or get my sleeves wet while washing dishes. I also didn't try to cover them up during a mandatory swim class. I don't think anyone ever reported me and the only time anyone asked was when I bruised instead of cut because my dads a known alcoholic just told them I fell off my bike.
bo3 master class I have found that it’s the opposite, self harm is to ground your self to feel real or some sense of alive to prevent from suicide , if I wanted to die I wouldn’t cut my self i would do it
I'm turning 13 next month and its a big deal because I didn't think I would make it to 11, ive been self harming since I was 10, I've been depressed since I was 7 and I've been battling with anorexia and a binge eating disorder since I was 10. I am now a little over 5 months clean from cutting and in 5 days I will be 5 months clean from burning.❤︎
abt #1, "emo" music actually did make me more inclined to self-harm as a teenager. not because the lyrics were telling me to or anything, but because i'm extremely sensitive to music, so if a song is talking about how horrible life is and how sad everything is, i will feel those emotions intensely and sometimes those emotions made me inclined to hurt myself to cope with the feelings given to me by those songs. that's part of why i had to stop myself from listening to some of my favorite bands while trying to recover. i'm just. too emotional lol
Yeah I can sorta relate? Like I was into emo bands when my depression got super bad and now whenever I have a depressive episode I want to listen to that music again and it just makes me feel worse. It's not the music's fault, just what I've associated with it.
I started when I was 10 my favorite song was Hot in Cold by Katy Perry (just realized that was released in 2008) I feel old now. I still have that habit but my favorite songs are the ones that boil down a vacation into 3 minutes of bliss concentrate like knee deep by the zac brown band.
Somehow the subject of self harm came up at the dinner table, and me, having struggled with it for over a year and a half, kind of hoped I could bring it up and could talk about it with my family. Instead, the first words my mom, and brother said about it were "people just do it for attention". I quickly changed my mind from thinking "I could tell them" to "I need tell them that's not the case, without giving any hints toward the fact that I struggle with it myself" In the end, they ignored everything I said about the matter I'm clean now, but the urge is still there. tbh, I wish more people and families would be willing to talk about it, and actually give any thought as to what they're saying. Lots of kids (and adults) stuggle with it and yet no one is willing to say anything, and then they believe any lie about it that they hear online from articles or the news. It's sad :(
Most people suffer from self harm and depression including myself and its for attention but not the type you think its the attention to be calling out for help not for attention like im so sad look at me
This is so true. In middle school I usually wore tye dye shirts, plaud skirts, and knee sock (definelty not emo) but I started cutting after I was kicked out of my friend group and every time they saw me hanging out with some one new they would tell them horrible fake thing about me in order to isolate me. The physical pain distracted me from the mental pain.
Thank you for making this. I remember I used to believe in these myths until I got to a dark place and resorted to self-harm. I got better and more active talking about mental health, but I hate how there's still a lot of people believing these myths. Even friends and family still believe this. I'm hoping this video will help others realize the myths.
Lil Kitsune Mischief same with me, I thought mental illnesses were just people being over the top, until I was the one telling people about my mental health problems💙
I kind of started off with self-harm for attention. I was twelve, my friends were doing it, why shouldn't I? Not anymore. 4 years later I'm addicted. Now finally after quitting twice and relapsing both times, I'm clean again. Almost 6 months now! 💪❤
I’m embarrassed about my scars they are deep and horrible from mental health I wear jumpers everywhere even in heat waves I’ve fainted from over heating because I’ve tried covering them up , they are my weakness ?
In hot weather the only people I hide my scars from are my parent F*** heatstroke if I don't mention my cuts nobody will notice so why should I cover them.
the best way i can describe it, is that it’s simply just refreshing. i don’t want to die, i don’t like the pain. but while it’s happening i feel so refreshed and free. i’m in control, my emotions are so strong i need to see blood. i love you all you’re all worth it
I used to self harm quite a lot, to deal with my anxiety that I had to face everyday, I stopped when I realised that the cuts were not only increasing my anxiety levels but were also the reason for multiple panic attacks I went through. I eventually just had a mental breakdown in front of my mum and now I go to a therapist which helps a lot.
I attempted suicide at eight I started self harm and became anorexic when I was ten. I'm doing better now at twelve. Over a month clean! And I am proud of any person who is reading this.
Hi im 11 i started self harm at 10 remember i dont actually cut..but i do bite myself alot and it stays for 1 day i did it again today and it felt good and it feels better im also not doing well i just had a panic attack and idk what to do im just trying not to do it again
@@aki-lm7ii if you have any melatonin in your household, taking a very small amount of that might help calm you down, it helped me a lot when I was having panic attacks
I’ve been cutting myself for many years (I’m 14) and I’ve been struggling with clinical depression and social anxiety. I wanted people to notice to get help but I REALLY didn’t want to be judged and I was terrified. My cousin knows and he helps me a lot. I have a few close friends who know as well. I’ve been a week clean now and I actually was about to go pick them up and had the blade brushing my skin when I realized I shouldn’t do this to myself anymore.
I self harm for 22 years, from times to times. The last time was 3 months ago and I hadn't done it for 5 years. For me it's s copping mechanism when I am "full" I try everything.
Matthew Burns I hope u have over come that dark patch in ur life take up a hobby or something like that move school tell a teacher or just go outside enjoy life’s good parts in-brace them
I relapsed just over 2 weeks ago. Right now my left arm is covered in burn marks from matches and cuts from a pencil sharpener blade. I've also slapped a wall, dunked my hands in hot water, starved myself for a few days and overheated myself (it's very hot weather - lying in bed with covers, long sleeves, dressing gown/robe on, no windows open or fan on and a space heater in my room). Causing myself pain is like a release for me, to help me stop my stress and anger
SnipingHunt01 self harm can be a release of energy, everything becomes clearer-the recklessness feels freeing but at the exact same time it becomes a prison and you become its slave.🙁💖
I feel a very strong connection with all the people in this video and I instantly like all of them, especially since I’ve been through what they’re going through. I can tell straight away they’re nice people. It feels nice to know you’re not the only one. 🙂
I still have faint scars from when I self harmed 1 year ago because of people I had met online. It's been 6 months and have been yet to relapse. I felt alone and ashamed to be cutting myself with a slightly blunt razor.
Two weeks clean thankfully!! Not far but I'm proud of my progress. I find pinching yourself and drawing or creating something that reflects your emotions and distracts your mind helps more than harming yourself.
5 years clean! The scars are like I did it yesterday. But I wear them proudly. Nothing feels better than real happiness, a real smile. Tell someone, you may really not want to, and it may feel impossible to tell but let me tell you nothing feels better than smiling for the first time and actually meaning the smile. It’s possible!
Thanks. I hate mines bcs im afraid someone will notice but that aproach is really cool. I got noticed in swim class (aka. hell) and the classmate started questioning me and making me feel like I was an attention seeker while I denied they existed. Then a friend of mine came and said "actually she is a monster slayer" and got me out of there. You sound like him. He bought me chocolate and told me I was metaphoricly battaling demons so it was kind of true. He's great.
Ik I probably shouldn’t be doing self harm at my age but...I feel like I have to punish myself for everything that is happening in my life which means cutting, hitting myself against the wall and depression to top it off...I hate myself for this
some people do self harm for attention but as a self harmer i do it as the wrong way to cry for help because i feel no one cares. but i wouldn’t put my body through that for attention.
Now that I have a better self image, I am really proud of myself and everybody out there who's gone through this. People don't understand how much pain you have to be in to take this step. It is like most of the addictions. I hid my scars for so long but I don't do that now. I am not ashamed. I did what was necessary for me to survive and I am proud that I got through. I never thought I could get out of it but I am almost 15 months clean now. Go on, you can come out of it. You are strong. Those who don't understand it or you will always blabber about it. But, it's okay you are very important and you need to know it.
For me personally , self harm can be a way to externalize the internal pain and helps it feel real when I feel like I'm living a lie. It can also be way to snap myself out of the darkness, even a stress mechanism like when I get too overwhelmed and upset over something that I can't think straight. I'm not exactly even suicidal it's different than that
"Help me im in pain" No you're just over reacting "I need help" No your alright "Im depressed" Then be happy "commits suicide" She was the bestest person i could ever ask for
Im 4 days clean and I'm just now realizing how strong the urges actually are and how addictive sh is, I never realized this before. I thought I could just stop :/
People thought my crying, my sadness, my anxiety and my cutting was fake. It wasn’t fake, they only did something after I attempted. Yea maybe they maybe they may be asking for attention but still make sure their okay, you never know anymore.
0:46 Really? You would say being promiscuous and not taking care of yourself are ways of self-harm? I do that, for the same reasons I would assume people hurt themselves.. But I have never looked at it that way.
Joshualacruz being promiscuous and untidy can be signs of other mental illness too, like depression to ocd. Mental illnesses can be more complex than they appear💛
i don't cover my scars, but most people don't ask. and to this day i still get flustered and defensive when asked about them. the scars are a part of who i am and i have accepted that, but i am still ashamed of being weak enough to hurt myself physically to feel okay mentally. it becomes something tangible. something you can look at and touch, and know that it will be okay, because it will heal.
Nobody argues that stereotypes apply to everyone they represent, but they tend to apply to the majority, as demonstrated by the participants in these interviews.
Hate when self harmers send friends snaps of their scars or open wounds when they've sliced , go to the fucking doctor - like it's really annoying because I can't stop it - an if you don't like it when you get called an "attention seeker" then don't send snaps . When people have self harmed back in the day it can come back an it stays in the head TBH . I've never self harmed but I've taken overdoses
+TheJord Life well mkst self harmers don't do it for attention. Most people hide them. Anyway, again, if she feels she has to lie like that for attention she has a problem. Please make sure she's alright💙
Medication is only supposed to be a type of support, rather than the solution (which unfortunately is what a lot of doctors see it as). It's not a bad thing but it's not for everyone. The first 6-12 weeks does make your mental health worse, as it makes you more motivated while you're still having bad thoughts, so you're more likely to act on thoughts of self harm or other things. Weed is a good idea, as long as you don't get addicted. It's helped a lot of my friends.
I feel so addicted to cutting my self I feel like such a high rush to keep on cutting and cutting, and I still do it, it makes me feel better, it’s the only thing that will always be there for me
I have the weirdest damn scars. One is yellow and extremely wide. I’ve went to the doctor about it and he said it was just a strange scar but damn it looks weird
After years of making excuses and lying, you finally tell someone and they’re so weirded out that even if they’re family, they’ll ignore what they now know.
Most people hide their cuts/scars, the people who do it for attention don't want help, they want others to sympathise for them even though they aren't going through anything.
Some do but most don't. Cutting is sometimes a way for people to get distracted from mental pain by inflicting physical pain. There are some people who do it for attention, because they do not know how to ask for help. (When you are depressed you usually are mentally blocked from prioritizing your self and its really really hard to get the help you need)
bri I think that’s inferred through the use of one’s own brain. This is a positive video, trying to dispel some haze around a misunderstood condition. If they did one for alcoholism, they wouldn’t need a big section devoted to why excessive drinking is bad. Why? Because 1 + 1 = 2. I don’t know what you’re trying to suggest here... that the BBC have an agenda to get self harming trending or something? What possible motivation would be at work for such an act?
bri language like "okay" can diminish the complexities of mental illness. Of course hurting yrself isn't healthy-I think they focused more on connecting with people with self harm-showing that even tho they have/are self harming, they are normal people , because there is so much shame, condemnation accusation around self harm, so i don't think they are promoting it 💙
How are they making it seem like it's okay? They're trying to educate people about the facts because people DO in fact self-harm. It's not like if they hadn't made this video, everything would be fine. This is real and people get mistreated for it.
Some ppl do self harm to look cool or for attention. Not all ppl do, but some do. I personally know two people who do it for attention, AND my rlly close friend used to do it for attention. And no im not just assuming, she legit used to cut a bit and post on her story when she got home from that she cut herself and there was blood on her uniform and no one noticed. There was no blood, idk if she did cut herself but i do know that she did it for attention. Another one of them cut very lightly and then pulled her sleeves up, then the next day pulled them up again and she asked ppl to smell her arms, right where she cut. Im not saying everyone does it for attention, majority of the ppl who do it do it bc of how they rlly feel, but that doesnt mean there arent any disgusting ppl doing it for attention.
I’m almost a month clean from cutting, but not because I want to be better no because people I thought were my friends sent me to a mental hospital, I’m pretty sure that’s not the term they use anymore but those old buildings were they used to torture people who they tought were crazy are actually a pretty good explanation to how it felt sitting in there, “only one night” was what they told me at first “only the weekend” they told me the other morning “well let you out on Tuesday” they said, one week, I was in there for one week, but only because I lied, I told them I was feeling better I told them I’ll never hurt myself again. And they believed me, or maybe they just didn’t care. But that week scared me, I don’t want to be there again, but my arms feel so empty without any cuts, sure I still have scars but they’re not enough, I think I’m going crazy
Please don’t forget that self harm doesn’t have to be physical if you have negative self imagery and call your self horrible things it can be extremely damaging to your health. So just remember you are so worth it and there’s someone out there who cares so friggin much about you
self harm is so much more than people who don’t or haven’t done it will ever understand, it’s something that we do to that we can control. if you’re going through emotional pain or trauma you can not do anything about it, self harm is something you can control. the physical pain is what makes up for the emotional trauma
I remember the first time I self-harmed with a visible result (scrapes a little more permanent than usual but went away within 2 days) I had forgotten about it and went to meet some family that was over in the backyard in shorts. I only realized a little after but thought "No one's noticed, I wonder how long it will take someone to ask about it." especially since I was pretty sure I might be able to play them off as scratches from my dogs. And no one did. I even did it and then a minute later went downstairs in shorts to deliberately see if my mom would say anything and she didn't. People shouldn't be dismissed if they're doing It for attention. That just means that they feel like no one's paying attention cause, yeah, that's what it feels like.
Self-harm is a coping method for me. I fell out with a friend (I'm saying it - it was her fault) and suffer from all the symptoms of depression almost daily. It's comforting resorting to self harm.
It stings. No, I don't absolutely love blood, but it's stress relieving. I need a jolt of energy, not to feel so empty and alone. Another thing not a lot of people mention is the fact that like, for example if I'm really really mad or frustrated or upset, I can't exactly go out and hurt that person that I'm mad at, and there's technically no punishment for doing it to myself so... Yeah. That's that.
I started as a way to self-medicate for panic attacks it works better at grounding me than anything else then I was negligent enough to let it become an addiction and withdraw sucks.
people have asked me when they did see my scars, or someone else’s scars “why did you/they do it? why do people self harm?” and for anyone wondering to themselves that, for me, at least, we do it to take away some mental pain. we take away the mental pain with physical pain instead. even if it doesn’t work, we still try. some do it to end it all, some do it just from their own sorrow and pain. everybody has their own reasons. and i’m not trying to romanticize self harm, it’s a very serious issue. but putting it in a more poetic way eases the stress of speaking about it or writing it down, for me.
My friend has self-harm scars all over his arms and I told him to not do that. Now I do that too. Not because of him but now I know how it actualy feels to be on that stage of mind. People, don't be like us.
I used to cut a lot, there scars on my forearm, some on my left ankle, and a huge one that is one my leg, followed my a little bit smaller ones than the big one on my right leg. But that was a long time ago, and I was always insecure about them..but a friend told me once, you don't have to hide them, it doesnt make you look ugly and it doesnt make you "one of those depressed kids",(Not trying to offend) because if you're honestly getting better, than you shouldn't have to be afraid to let people see them, and yeah they're going to stare, but let them stare, because they don't know your story and they'll never truly understand. That helped me a lot, so now I don't wear leggings with my shorts anymore and I barely wear sweaters just to cover up that one arm, (of course I wear them when I get cold)
I cut to feel alive. I love the feeling of my body tingling over the cut working to heal. Sounds a bit sadistic I guess, but it's not like that, I don't enjoy the pain. I like to see the red blood because it makes me feel human.
Russell Howard said once said that some shouted that self harm is a cry for help and Russell just simply replied then help them. We need help so help us, alot of the time we are terrified to ask for help. We are terrified of people seeing our self harm we dont want attention we want to able to carry on to keep moving.
I started self harm since I thought no one would care since I'm a loner, but I was so blind and now so many people come up to me and try to comfort me to stop even tho I kinda like it now..
I am depressed and have frequent anxiety attacks and havent been diagnosed because my mom won't take me to a psychiatrist. I've tried to tell her I need help but she only pays attention to my brother and there's nothing I can do about it. I try to confide in my friends and get help that way but they just get mad and tell me I'm attention-seeking or faking it or they just plain don't care. I need help and I don't know what to do.
A month clean!
Dani that's awesome, congrats (:
That's amazing! Keep up the good work♡
Well done!
Dani that's really awesome!
❤❤❤
I have been suicidal and never self harmed at that point. I have self harmed without wanting to die. They’re not the same thing.
i actually like blood. it's pretty. i cut only my legs, easier to cover up. but i like to just stare at the blood forming out of the lines and watch the drops roll with the gravity. then i wipe the wounds clean and treat them. yes, i think the blood looks beautiful against my skin. but i don't cut just to see it. i cut because i feel like dying at that moment and i've been crying for so long that i feel numb enough to do it. i hate the pain though. the sting is annoying. oh well. that's all.
EDIT: Okay so it has been three years since I wrote this comment and I honestly didn’t think that anyone would ever pay any attention to this. But now I suddenly got a notification about someone replying to this and oh wow.
That so many of you can relate to this comment… I feel horrible. I’m in a much better place now. I don’t cut anymore. I do have horrible, thick scars all around my body though. I hate them. I regret hurting myself.
I know where all of you are coming from. I’ve been in your place. So I know that these words probably won’t affect you much, but please, instead of cutting, call a friend. If you don’t have anyone to call, try other methods. Something that doesn’t leave a mark on you, something that you don’t have to carry around for the rest of your life. For example, Try an ice cube if you must feel pain.
Sometimes I get the urge to cut again, when I’m feeling absolutely horrible. But in the middle of all that pain and crying I look at the scars I already have. And I don’t want any more of them.
Think of your body as a separate being if you have to. My skin hasn’t done anything to me. It doesn’t deserve to get cut up and bleed. My body doesn’t deserve to work extra hours to try and heal from wounds that should have never been there.
I hope this reaches someone that’s going through what I was three years ago. I hope it shows that despite having a state of mind like that, you can get better. I did. You can too. Just don’t be afraid to reach out.
stay strong x
Selina S I also like blood
I used to like blood, but one day I nicked an artery and blood literally shot out of my leg, and I had never been so genuinely terrified. I haven’t cut since then
Me as well
Ava Razor-Harrison lmao, glad I made you laugh :) hope you’re doing okay 💕
What??
Actually my case is different from all these...
I do that because It gets me distracted from mental pain to physical pain..
In Love With Music AND ME please stop doing it
Gerard Way’s Wife I have tried... But failed
its the same for me. a better way to deal is to just listen to music or watch a movie or distract yourself with something that isn't as harmful
glitter prince ... I have gone too far.... Upto burns....
In Love With Music AND ME same.
My parents blamed my self harm on the music I listened to and they were all like “If you want help and comfort listen to Christian music not this stuff that is making you cut yourself!!” Like fam chill please this music is actually helping me feel better and not want to cut please don’t stereotype this music with what I did. (No offense to Christian music! Everyone had their own tastes!)
Rebekah Braswell
NOT IN MY CHRISTIAN MINECRAFT SERVER
Exact same here
lol
Me being me.. I literally only listened to religious music for 4 months just to prove it doesn't mean anything
Damn, they need to chill
I’m depressed
“You’re just sad”
I cut
“You’ve just heard of it online and wanted to try”
I cry every night
“You just want attention”
*Commits Suicide*
“We never saw the signs...”
This is so true!!
People care only if they loose you!
Just LOVE YOURSELF and TRUST YOURSELF💜💜
that’s what my dad says when he found out i cut he wasn’t even upset for me he was angry he said i saw it online so i wanted to try it ,when i make depressed jokes people say oh it’s just a phase
SwanSky yeah :( I don’t want attention some people said I was cutitng for attention on youtube and stuff it wasn’t true
My mom this makes me think of my mom
So true
I'm scared to tell anyone that sometimes I self harm because I need to keep up the reputation of "perfectly funny and amazing smart student." Its scary thinking anyone would see me differently.
I Hope you have ( maybey now ) some one , a close Friend , Patents or professional help , to Talk about it ..
No one Has to be ashemed of this ...
But i know what you mean with that some one Could See you differently. .
I Hope you have friends Which always See you with all your sides and dont Put some stigma on you or are pejoratively about that ...
Yup
Can't agree more
Be yourself it’s no fun being someone your not.
I had this girl in class that told me she was doing it beacose ,,everyone does" and that make me soooo mad
It really bothers me when people do that. I stopped swimming (which I love) and wearing shorts because my legs are covered in scars, just so that on one finds out about my scars.
I'm literally too scared to open up to people about the stuff I'm struggling with because I feel like the second I talk about it people will think I want attention. -_-
have you tried full-body swimsuits?
The same thing happened to me in year 7! My very close friend was self-harming due to personal reasons I won’t repeat. But then my once good friend (Let’s call her Suzy) started cutting. I asked her what was wrong and if she needed someone to talk to. And I asked her why she was self-harming. Her response was 'Because all my friends are doing it’ I honestly hate people like that. They decide they’re going to do something harmful because their friend was doing it. 🙄
I was self harming before I knew what it was
I had to stop being friends with someone because she did that
We are all cutters telling other cutters to stop.
I used to just punch myself, until my mom noticed bruises, then I stopped.
The Fork
Same i used to just punch the side of my head really hard multiple times until I blacked out once cause I did it to hard. I burn myself with hot water now :) hope you get better and i love you ❤️
watermelon x Thanks, love you too
watermelon x If you feel like it, you could try meditation. I stopped it a short while ago, but when I would do it, I would for hours at a time and it made me feel way better mentally and physically. Once I felt like my “life was back on track” then I stopped.
The Fork
Ok i’ll be sure to try it! And I havent self harmed in a week hopefully i can keep going but my family is NOT making it easy :(
The hush reality is no one cares until you're dead
aay x yeah
aay x that’s bull. People do care but also people have there own stuff to deal with so may not be paying attention to warning signs.all you need is one person to talk to who won’t judge. For me it was my Nan.
Oh common! Don't promote that way of thinking, is not like that, not everyone is a jerk. Is unhealthy and stupid to think like that. There is always someone you can ask for help.
aay x, I care❤️
That's not true. If only you could reach out for help, there are centers where you can talk, even online. Just look for them.
The more people around me knew about my self harm, the more I realised it seemed like it was for attention when it wasn't.
Luke Davies i went through that too
I feel ya
I get it im still going through it but only one person knows
I feel you
same!!
So uh TW I think?:
I didnt start it because i liked blood, but I dont feel satisfied with the cuts until I *see* blood
Dr. Jotaro Kujo same. Well... the second part
samee i feel comfort in seeing it slowly turn red after little surface scratches.
@@luluthecreator44 same
@@luluthecreator44 same
Oh I thought I was the only one
I actually have convinced myself nobody cares unless I've bled.. Idk it weird
I know a girl who DID self harm for attention but didn't cover them up. She went around showing random people and triggered everyone. She thought it was gonna make people fuss over her and for her to be known or popular from it, tragic
Totally Subliminals people dress differently for popularity. People change their hair for popularity. People might even learn a new skill for popularity. If someone is physically harming themselves for popularity, sounds like they have deeper issues than a normal level of interest in popularity. So I agree “tragic” but maybe not in the tone you intended.
Totally Subliminals getting peoples attention, good or bad, can sometimes be a cry for help
Totally Subliminals
Gosh- you poor thing- that girl must have put YOU through hell- It sounds like you are still carrying the scars- I hope things in improve for you love.
its horrible to do for her to that, but that literally sounds like a cry for help.
I halfway understand her while I don't agree with walking up and showing them to people I am not willing to be uncomfortable and hot just to cover up my scars/cuts or get my sleeves wet while washing dishes. I also didn't try to cover them up during a mandatory swim class. I don't think anyone ever reported me and the only time anyone asked was when I bruised instead of cut because my dads a known alcoholic just told them I fell off my bike.
I find that cutting is to prevent suicide
as she said in the end, it can be a coping mechanism for many and I agree with that
In the long run it’s leads to suicide if u don’t seek help, but yes it does help a bit but fucks up ur metal state leading u to commit suicide
bo3 master class I have found that it’s the opposite, self harm is to ground your self to feel real or some sense of alive to prevent from suicide , if I wanted to die I wouldn’t cut my self i would do it
Lelu Sollis please get help, it's the solution that will actually make you feel better
Maria 101 getting “help” doesn’t always help
I'm turning 13 next month and its a big deal because I didn't think I would make it to 11, ive been self harming since I was 10, I've been depressed since I was 7 and I've been battling with anorexia and a binge eating disorder since I was 10. I am now a little over 5 months clean from cutting and in 5 days I will be 5 months clean from burning.❤︎
xx_.Damaged.Demon._xx well done, keep going 😊
well done, i wish for your best health for the future xxx
xx_.Damaged.Demon._xx I’m so proud, please keep it up, I believe you can last forever Xx
I would recommend you ask a parent for help, so you could get medication like antidepressants, that would help you
Well done for being so brave at a young age. I wish I could do what u do bro
abt #1, "emo" music actually did make me more inclined to self-harm as a teenager. not because the lyrics were telling me to or anything, but because i'm extremely sensitive to music, so if a song is talking about how horrible life is and how sad everything is, i will feel those emotions intensely and sometimes those emotions made me inclined to hurt myself to cope with the feelings given to me by those songs. that's part of why i had to stop myself from listening to some of my favorite bands while trying to recover. i'm just. too emotional lol
Yeah I can sorta relate? Like I was into emo bands when my depression got super bad and now whenever I have a depressive episode I want to listen to that music again and it just makes me feel worse. It's not the music's fault, just what I've associated with it.
I started when I was 10 my favorite song was Hot in Cold by Katy Perry (just realized that was released in 2008) I feel old now. I still have that habit but my favorite songs are the ones that boil down a vacation into 3 minutes of bliss concentrate like knee deep by the zac brown band.
“ people self harm to look cool”
No, it’s hell dealing with the addiction and it helps calm u down ( just not in the best ways)
Not every person uses it to calm down, people also use it to feel pain they "deserve" to feel anything except numbness and yes, to calm down
I do :)
Somehow the subject of self harm came up at the dinner table, and me, having struggled with it for over a year and a half, kind of hoped I could bring it up and could talk about it with my family. Instead, the first words my mom, and brother said about it were "people just do it for attention". I quickly changed my mind from thinking "I could tell them" to "I need tell them that's not the case, without giving any hints toward the fact that I struggle with it myself"
In the end, they ignored everything I said about the matter
I'm clean now, but the urge is still there. tbh, I wish more people and families would be willing to talk about it, and actually give any thought as to what they're saying. Lots of kids (and adults) stuggle with it and yet no one is willing to say anything, and then they believe any lie about it that they hear online from articles or the news. It's sad :(
Most people suffer from self harm and depression including myself and its for attention but not the type you think its the attention to be calling out for help not for attention like im so sad look at me
my mind sees that cutting or self harm numbs your mind..
Weenie and The Hotdog exact same case happened with me...I'm emotionally numb now.
Weenie and The Hotdog
It makes me happy
Really happy
This is so true. In middle school I usually wore tye dye shirts, plaud skirts, and knee sock (definelty not emo) but I started cutting after I was kicked out of my friend group and every time they saw me hanging out with some one new they would tell them horrible fake thing about me in order to isolate me. The physical pain distracted me from the mental pain.
Anna Barger Niemz 💟
Oh my goddess that’s horrible!! I went through the same thing. It hurts. I know
Ok,,,,, those people are absolute shitheads
Hope everyone that sees it has a lovely day, you deserve it :)
Thank you for making this. I remember I used to believe in these myths until I got to a dark place and resorted to self-harm. I got better and more active talking about mental health, but I hate how there's still a lot of people believing these myths. Even friends and family still believe this. I'm hoping this video will help others realize the myths.
Lil Kitsune Mischief same with me, I thought mental illnesses were just people being over the top, until I was the one telling people about my mental health problems💙
I kind of started off with self-harm for attention. I was twelve, my friends were doing it, why shouldn't I? Not anymore. 4 years later I'm addicted. Now finally after quitting twice and relapsing both times, I'm clean again. Almost 6 months now! 💪❤
I’m embarrassed about my scars they are deep and horrible from mental health I wear jumpers everywhere even in heat waves I’ve fainted from over heating because I’ve tried covering them up , they are my weakness ?
Alex CAT I don't know if this is a question or a statement 💙
I’ve been wearing shorts in summer with a hoodie on.... still haven’t been questioned .... HOW!?
Ok here's a tip: Stop giving a shit anymore, you're gonna have these scars for the rest of your life and you can't hide them forever
In hot weather the only people I hide my scars from are my parent F*** heatstroke if I don't mention my cuts nobody will notice so why should I cover them.
1:25 what I’ve been trying to explain for years.
That is actually so true and people think it's asking for attention like no it's internally screaming for help
the best way i can describe it, is that it’s simply just refreshing.
i don’t want to die, i don’t like the pain. but while it’s happening i feel so refreshed and free. i’m in control, my emotions are so strong i need to see blood.
i love you all you’re all worth it
It actually helps me with panic attacks but now I go into withdraw when I go too long without it.
Lium you can do it. i’m the exact same, and i’m 12 days clean. i believe in you.
I used to self harm quite a lot, to deal with my anxiety that I had to face everyday, I stopped when I realised that the cuts were not only increasing my anxiety levels but were also the reason for multiple panic attacks I went through. I eventually just had a mental breakdown in front of my mum and now I go to a therapist which helps a lot.
I attempted suicide at eight I started self harm and became anorexic when I was ten. I'm doing better now at twelve. Over a month clean! And I am proud of any person who is reading this.
Hi im 11 i started self harm at 10 remember i dont actually cut..but i do bite myself alot and it stays for 1 day i did it again today and it felt good and it feels better im also not doing well i just had a panic attack and idk what to do im just trying not to do it again
@@aki-lm7ii if you have any melatonin in your household, taking a very small amount of that might help calm you down, it helped me a lot when I was having panic attacks
@@aki-lm7ii also even though it is hard, if you can try and talk to an adult you trust about the way you feel
@@alicecor9096 i cant but i.will when i.grow older!
I’ve been cutting myself for many years (I’m 14) and I’ve been struggling with clinical depression and social anxiety. I wanted people to notice to get help but I REALLY didn’t want to be judged and I was terrified. My cousin knows and he helps me a lot. I have a few close friends who know as well. I’ve been a week clean now and I actually was about to go pick them up and had the blade brushing my skin when I realized I shouldn’t do this to myself anymore.
2. might be true for lots of people, personally my own blood has always given me some sort of satisfaction
Same here. I can't stand the sight of other people's blood but when It's my blood it's suddenly calming and beautiful
Same same
I self harm for 22 years, from times to times. The last time was 3 months ago and I hadn't done it for 5 years. For me it's s copping mechanism when I am "full" I try everything.
Kkamou Kkamou 💛
Mukama's Love 😃
It's difficult for someone to understand how purificant it is
Definitely relate to the girl in the yellow jumper/dungarees
i myself struggle with self harm, i still have my scars, it was cutting that i used.
Matthew Burns I hope u have over come that dark patch in ur life take up a hobby or something like that move school tell a teacher or just go outside enjoy life’s good parts in-brace them
Matthew Burns 💖💟💛sending u lots of virtual and spiritual hugs
I relapsed just over 2 weeks ago. Right now my left arm is covered in burn marks from matches and cuts from a pencil sharpener blade. I've also slapped a wall, dunked my hands in hot water, starved myself for a few days and overheated myself (it's very hot weather - lying in bed with covers, long sleeves, dressing gown/robe on, no windows open or fan on and a space heater in my room). Causing myself pain is like a release for me, to help me stop my stress and anger
SnipingHunt01 💖💗💚💜❣️💟💛❤️💚💜💕💞
SnipingHunt01 self harm can be a release of energy, everything becomes clearer-the recklessness feels freeing but at the exact same time it becomes a prison and you become its slave.🙁💖
I feel a very strong connection with all the people in this video and I instantly like all of them, especially since I’ve been through what they’re going through. I can tell straight away they’re nice people. It feels nice to know you’re not the only one. 🙂
I still have faint scars from when I self harmed 1 year ago because of people I had met online. It's been 6 months and have been yet to relapse. I felt alone and ashamed to be cutting myself with a slightly blunt razor.
Two weeks clean thankfully!! Not far but I'm proud of my progress. I find pinching yourself and drawing or creating something that reflects your emotions and distracts your mind helps more than harming yourself.
We're cutters that tell other cutters to stop
5 years clean! The scars are like I did it yesterday. But I wear them proudly. Nothing feels better than real happiness, a real smile. Tell someone, you may really not want to, and it may feel impossible to tell but let me tell you nothing feels better than smiling for the first time and actually meaning the smile. It’s possible!
1:26 my exact feeling. not for attention. but seek for help.
I’ve never seen scars as ugly, my scars and your scars are battle scars, scars to show what you’ve been through,
Thanks. I hate mines bcs im afraid someone will notice but that aproach is really cool. I got noticed in swim class (aka. hell) and the classmate started questioning me and making me feel like I was an attention seeker while I denied they existed. Then a friend of mine came and said "actually she is a monster slayer" and got me out of there. You sound like him. He bought me chocolate and told me I was metaphoricly battaling demons so it was kind of true. He's great.
Ik I probably shouldn’t be doing self harm at my age but...I feel like I have to punish myself for everything that is happening in my life which means cutting, hitting myself against the wall and depression to top it off...I hate myself for this
Im still trying to get over my self harm and I did it because I felt like I deserved nothing. Prayers to anyone having a hard time as well
THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS IT HAS BEEN SAID
some people do self harm for attention but as a self harmer i do it as the wrong way to cry for help because i feel no one cares. but i wouldn’t put my body through that for attention.
Cringe Tube same mate I hope you get help
Raw Chicken :) u too
Thank you for clearing up somethings for people, I've had to explain that to very judgemental people. I'm glad I'm not alone!
I also like the “self harming people don’t feel pain” one. Like guys, pain is (along with some others) the main reason why someone self harms.
When I self harm due to bullying they thought I was emo and ask me how I do it now I am not hearing the urge after 5 years of hearing it
Now that I have a better self image, I am really proud of myself and everybody out there who's gone through this. People don't understand how much pain you have to be in to take this step. It is like most of the addictions. I hid my scars for so long but I don't do that now. I am not ashamed. I did what was necessary for me to survive and I am proud that I got through. I never thought I could get out of it but I am almost 15 months clean now. Go on, you can come out of it. You are strong. Those who don't understand it or you will always blabber about it. But, it's okay you are very important and you need to know it.
I just started to self harm and I want to tell my friend what’s happening but if she tells my mom my mom will get mad at me
Pink _gacha21 I’m your mum now
For me personally , self harm can be a way to externalize the internal pain and helps it feel real when I feel like I'm living a lie. It can also be way to snap myself out of the darkness, even a stress mechanism like when I get too overwhelmed and upset over something that I can't think straight. I'm not exactly even suicidal it's different than that
I know this irrelevant but I like the guy's cap bcs it has majora's mask on it
Suicide is to end the pain, self harm is to ignore and block away the pain in my opinion
"Help me im in pain"
No you're just over reacting
"I need help"
No your alright
"Im depressed"
Then be happy
"commits suicide"
She was the bestest person i could ever ask for
If you are gonna self harm just be careful and take good care of the wound
the second one for me is true I love seeing my blood
Im 4 days clean and I'm just now realizing how strong the urges actually are and how addictive sh is, I never realized this before. I thought I could just stop :/
'I barely showed my legs because I was cold' haha Im dead
People thought my crying, my sadness, my anxiety and my cutting was fake. It wasn’t fake, they only did something after I attempted. Yea maybe they maybe they may be asking for attention but still make sure their okay, you never know anymore.
0:46 Really? You would say being promiscuous and not taking care of yourself are ways of self-harm?
I do that, for the same reasons I would assume people hurt themselves.. But I have never looked at it that way.
Joshualacruz being promiscuous and untidy can be signs of other mental illness too, like depression to ocd. Mental illnesses can be more complex than they appear💛
Yes doing those things are very harmful
Joshualacruz its different for everyone
i don't cover my scars, but most people don't ask. and to this day i still get flustered and defensive when asked about them. the scars are a part of who i am and i have accepted that, but i am still ashamed of being weak enough to hurt myself physically to feel okay mentally. it becomes something tangible. something you can look at and touch, and know that it will be okay, because it will heal.
All these videos are always like person 1 saying they hate certain stereotypes then person 2 confirming exactly that stereotype.
KeepItSimpleStupid yea it’s saying even tho it’s a stereotype it doesn’t apply to everyone.
Nobody argues that stereotypes apply to everyone they represent, but they tend to apply to the majority, as demonstrated by the participants in these interviews.
KeepItSimpleStupid yea I have a funny feeling that’s what I just said.
"yea it’s saying even tho it’s a stereotype it doesn’t apply to everyone." - I never said it applied to everyone, hence my reply.
KeepItSimpleStupid I think it shows that the stereotype is false as you cannot apply it to all❤️
I had a week clean but I slipped backwards and started self harming again
Hate when self harmers send friends snaps of their scars or open wounds when they've sliced , go to the fucking doctor - like it's really annoying because I can't stop it - an if you don't like it when you get called an "attention seeker" then don't send snaps . When people have self harmed back in the day it can come back an it stays in the head TBH . I've never self harmed but I've taken overdoses
who does that?😂 all the self harmers I've known always hid it and I didnt even kniw the irl, onky online
Thalia Kalli attention seekers do it
+TheJord Life well mkst self harmers don't do it for attention. Most people hide them. Anyway, again, if she feels she has to lie like that for attention she has a problem. Please make sure she's alright💙
oh god that sounded so aggresive I'm sorry I didn't mean it to come like this lol😂
Thalia Kalli it's not really sounding aggressive . Your Point has been taken in :)
Some do it because they feel numb and they just want to feel something
I gave up my 2 months clean streak. Now it's become an evveryday thing for me
If u do self harm, go-to doctor, get help
This isn't always the best solution. Yes, get help, but get help from people like your family, or your friends, or go to a mental health organisation.
Ajinkya Jumbad yeah because its so easy! Do you know how ignorant you sound?..
Some people don't know how hard it is to get help through a doctor, or to ask for help in general.
All doctors wanna do is give you meds so they can earn money they prescribed me prozac ...it only made my mental problems worse.... weed helps though
Medication is only supposed to be a type of support, rather than the solution (which unfortunately is what a lot of doctors see it as). It's not a bad thing but it's not for everyone. The first 6-12 weeks does make your mental health worse, as it makes you more motivated while you're still having bad thoughts, so you're more likely to act on thoughts of self harm or other things.
Weed is a good idea, as long as you don't get addicted. It's helped a lot of my friends.
I feel so addicted to cutting my self I feel like such a high rush to keep on cutting and cutting, and I still do it, it makes me feel better, it’s the only thing that will always be there for me
Some girls cut themselves..stand in the mirror and wait for the feedback.
Yup indeed some do
arcade fire?
I have the weirdest damn scars. One is yellow and extremely wide. I’ve went to the doctor about it and he said it was just a strange scar but damn it looks weird
After years of making excuses and lying, you finally tell someone and they’re so weirded out that even if they’re family, they’ll ignore what they now know.
Selfharmers do selfharm for attention.
Attention: Cry for help
jayden gummy bear MSP they don't,some people do but most of them don't
Ana's Drawings it does depend on the person. But some selfharmers want help.
Most don't
Most people hide their cuts/scars, the people who do it for attention don't want help, they want others to sympathise for them even though they aren't going through anything.
Some do but most don't. Cutting is sometimes a way for people to get distracted from mental pain by inflicting physical pain. There are some people who do it for attention, because they do not know how to ask for help. (When you are depressed you usually are mentally blocked from prioritizing your self and its really really hard to get the help you need)
1 and a half months clean, I let myself down yesterday
Are you really going to make it seem like self harm is okay
bri I think that’s inferred through the use of one’s own brain. This is a positive video, trying to dispel some haze around a misunderstood condition. If they did one for alcoholism, they wouldn’t need a big section devoted to why excessive drinking is bad. Why? Because 1 + 1 = 2. I don’t know what you’re trying to suggest here... that the BBC have an agenda to get self harming trending or something? What possible motivation would be at work for such an act?
bri language like "okay" can diminish the complexities of mental illness. Of course hurting yrself isn't healthy-I think they focused more on connecting with people with self harm-showing that even tho they have/are self harming, they are normal people , because there is so much shame, condemnation accusation around self harm, so i don't think they are promoting it 💙
bri Nobody made it seem like its Okay...
How are they making it seem like it's okay? They're trying to educate people about the facts because people DO in fact self-harm. It's not like if they hadn't made this video, everything would be fine. This is real and people get mistreated for it.
I want you to know that I’m proud of you for however long you are clean for even if it’s only been a hour ❤️☺️
Some ppl do self harm to look cool or for attention. Not all ppl do, but some do. I personally know two people who do it for attention, AND my rlly close friend used to do it for attention. And no im not just assuming, she legit used to cut a bit and post on her story when she got home from that she cut herself and there was blood on her uniform and no one noticed. There was no blood, idk if she did cut herself but i do know that she did it for attention. Another one of them cut very lightly and then pulled her sleeves up, then the next day pulled them up again and she asked ppl to smell her arms, right where she cut. Im not saying everyone does it for attention, majority of the ppl who do it do it bc of how they rlly feel, but that doesnt mean there arent any disgusting ppl doing it for attention.
I’m almost a month clean from cutting, but not because I want to be better no because people I thought were my friends sent me to a mental hospital, I’m pretty sure that’s not the term they use anymore but those old buildings were they used to torture people who they tought were crazy are actually a pretty good explanation to how it felt sitting in there, “only one night” was what they told me at first “only the weekend” they told me the other morning “well let you out on Tuesday” they said, one week, I was in there for one week, but only because I lied, I told them I was feeling better I told them I’ll never hurt myself again. And they believed me, or maybe they just didn’t care. But that week scared me, I don’t want to be there again, but my arms feel so empty without any cuts, sure I still have scars but they’re not enough, I think I’m going crazy
Please don’t forget that self harm doesn’t have to be physical if you have negative self imagery and call your self horrible things it can be extremely damaging to your health. So just remember you are so worth it and there’s someone out there who cares so friggin much about you
I self harm on my legs because of anger, there is no one I could take my anger out on so I just take it out on my self .-.
4 months clean 💜
self harm is so much more than people who don’t or haven’t done it will ever understand, it’s something that we do to that we can control. if you’re going through emotional pain or trauma you can not do anything about it, self harm is something you can control. the physical pain is what makes up for the emotional trauma
I’m one day clean you gotta start somewhere right
I remember the first time I self-harmed with a visible result (scrapes a little more permanent than usual but went away within 2 days) I had forgotten about it and went to meet some family that was over in the backyard in shorts. I only realized a little after but thought "No one's noticed, I wonder how long it will take someone to ask about it." especially since I was pretty sure I might be able to play them off as scratches from my dogs. And no one did. I even did it and then a minute later went downstairs in shorts to deliberately see if my mom would say anything and she didn't. People shouldn't be dismissed if they're doing It for attention. That just means that they feel like no one's paying attention cause, yeah, that's what it feels like.
Self-harm is a coping method for me. I fell out with a friend (I'm saying it - it was her fault) and suffer from all the symptoms of depression almost daily. It's comforting resorting to self harm.
It stings. No, I don't absolutely love blood, but it's stress relieving. I need a jolt of energy, not to feel so empty and alone. Another thing not a lot of people mention is the fact that like, for example if I'm really really mad or frustrated or upset, I can't exactly go out and hurt that person that I'm mad at, and there's technically no punishment for doing it to myself so... Yeah. That's that.
I started as a way to self-medicate for panic attacks it works better at grounding me than anything else then I was negligent enough to let it become an addiction and withdraw sucks.
The problem with self harm aren’t the wounds they will heal but the fact that you get more and more ok with hurting yourself.... until....
people have asked me when they did see my scars, or someone else’s scars “why did you/they do it? why do people self harm?” and for anyone wondering to themselves that, for me, at least, we do it to take away some mental pain. we take away the mental pain with physical pain instead. even if it doesn’t work, we still try. some do it to end it all, some do it just from their own sorrow and pain. everybody has their own reasons. and i’m not trying to romanticize self harm, it’s a very serious issue. but putting it in a more poetic way eases the stress of speaking about it or writing it down, for me.
I’ve been thinking about it... I’m not happy
5 days clean
A lot of people think that selfharming is JUST cutting yourself like no. Self-harming is really doing things that would harm you, ON PURPOSE.
My friend has self-harm scars all over his arms and I told him to not do that. Now I do that too. Not because of him but now I know how it actualy feels to be on that stage of mind. People, don't be like us.
Ah, my brother heard I was suicidal and now he constantly makes jokes about it around me.
I’m I think five months clean and I’m not doing so good but I’m trying to stay strong
I self harm and I’m very ashamed I feel like my parents won’t understand and no one knows I need help. I’m broken.
3days clean !
I used to cut a lot, there scars on my forearm, some on my left ankle, and a huge one that is one my leg, followed my a little bit smaller ones than the big one on my right leg. But that was a long time ago, and I was always insecure about them..but a friend told me once, you don't have to hide them, it doesnt make you look ugly and it doesnt make you "one of those depressed kids",(Not trying to offend) because if you're honestly getting better, than you shouldn't have to be afraid to let people see them, and yeah they're going to stare, but let them stare, because they don't know your story and they'll never truly understand. That helped me a lot, so now I don't wear leggings with my shorts anymore and I barely wear sweaters just to cover up that one arm, (of course I wear them when I get cold)
I cut to feel alive. I love the feeling of my body tingling over the cut working to heal. Sounds a bit sadistic I guess, but it's not like that, I don't enjoy the pain. I like to see the red blood because it makes me feel human.
Russell Howard said once said that some shouted that self harm is a cry for help and Russell just simply replied then help them. We need help so help us, alot of the time we are terrified to ask for help. We are terrified of people seeing our self harm we dont want attention we want to able to carry on to keep moving.
Almost 3 weeks clean!!! Woo!!!
i don't even know how to hide my scares anymore and how to lie about them
I started self harm since I thought no one would care since I'm a loner, but I was so blind and now so many people come up to me and try to comfort me to stop even tho I kinda like it now..
When I get too excited, nervous, agitated, sad and especially angry...
I am depressed and have frequent anxiety attacks and havent been diagnosed because my mom won't take me to a psychiatrist. I've tried to tell her I need help but she only pays attention to my brother and there's nothing I can do about it. I try to confide in my friends and get help that way but they just get mad and tell me I'm attention-seeking or faking it or they just plain don't care. I need help and I don't know what to do.