Well yeah I mean it makes no sense. They should be able to intervene and stop,them! As a teen, my friends and I got stopped by the law before doing legal things. How can they not see someone getting all this tech and info to track someone and not stop this people? Lord Jesus h effing Christ!
All they have to do is hack your phone to see your personal info such as social security & bank info. They can see all of your contacts to secretly engage with & know where you work at to recruit them into stalking you too. If you get a new home they can intice the landlord or seller to access your home with spy cams before your move in date. It's not hard when your whole life is on your phone
rejected narcissists and stalkers will say and do whatever it takes to justify their toddler behavior and they will never take responsibility for their childish actions. They will continue to lie, deny and exploit their target/victim relentlessly. There is no end, because they will reappear into your life years later to taunt you again.
It's scary when your stalker is a 'Political Asylum' in the US, has a criminal record in the US, and is heavily protected by local government and silly public attorneys.
I'm being victim blamed and harassed online. They won't leave me alone and there's something wrong with this group of individuals. They are compulsive obsessed with me
It's not discussed enough about Platonic friendships that end and one becomes a stalker. I befriended someone and later in the friendship started seeing signs of narcissism ( grandiose, competition, jealousy, negative comments, negative attitude, fake nice, exploitative, etc) . By the time I put it together she was employed at my work and slandering my name to my coworkers. She lives in my neighborhood so when I went no contact she would just drive down the street I live on several times a day glaring at my kids and me. Once I confronted her In a public place she started calling and texting from different numbers and went from sounding nice on the voice mail to threatening in the next. I didn't respond to either then she threatened to have a restraining order placed on me . As old as I am I haven't ever met anyone like this. I haven't spoken to her In 2 years and plan to keep it that way. I will take this as she was the rejected/ resented stalker.
I just ended a recent friendship with someone who I met on Plenty of Fish. He told me about this woman who he knew who he got serious about and said she was his girlfriend. However, her sister was super jealous of the relationship and tried to sabotage it. He told me the ex-girlfriend's name and told me that I can see her profile on Facebook. I decided to check this story out. When I told him that I messaged her but she didn't respond to me yet he seemed to be fine with it. He told me that they were on good terms now. I figured that she didn't go on Facebook much since she wasn't responding so I thought about sending a message to her husband to let her know that I messaged her and wanted to ask her about someone she used to know. Her husband said that I could ask him about it, so I did. His first two words to me was "Stay away". I asked what's up with him? He asked how I knew that my friend (at the time) knew his wife I said that he told me. The husband told me that the former friend was charged with stalking and that he never dated his wife. I also saw a scathing Facebook post on the former friend's page, before I reached out to the husband, about how much of an evil person this woman's sister was towards him and how she landed him in jail. How she was the reason why he was having problems with women. When I chatted with the former friend, he was starting to change details about his story. He told me that he never wanted me to talk with the woman who he claimed was his ex-girlfriend. He also said to me that he never had a romantic interest in me that it was just friendship. I told him that I couldn't take him seriously like that anyway because he and I differed on Politics and Religious beliefs. I blocked him on social media and on my phone when he texted me. I told him that I would call the police if he harassed me. Then sometime later he leaves a voice message saying that I opened a can of worms for him with the local police where that lady lives, how they are harassing him and opened an investigation on him. He told me that I have to call them and straighten the whole thing out, tell them that it's all a big mistake and that's it. I blocked the number that he used to call me. Haven't heard from him again so far. I had questions about his state of mind even before all of this happened. Someone else who knew him briefly even told me that they were unsure if he was dealing with a full deck.
My stalker has learning difficulties but knows exactly what he's doing. It's strange the way most people pick up on his bad vibes / intimidation, whilst others continue to believe he's harmless (inc the police). The fact that he has no boundaries, empathy or self-awareness doesn't seem to count for anything in their eyes.
This is so hard. I'm sorry this is happening to you. When you mix in mental illness, under-development, or learning disabilities the police and others in this group can't conceptualize these individuals know exactly what they are doing in SOME cases.
As someone with learning difficulties myself, I'm going to tell you, do not let someone's disorder or illness be a reason for you not to protect yourself from them. Even people in these kinds of situations need to learn how to take responsibility for their actions. You are not a "human sacrifice" for anyone for any reason. Keep your boundaries strong and tall.
My stalker is a cop and the police and social services believe his lies . He hates me as he thinks I should live him and fancy him which I don’t he’s not my type and he’s pathetic he’s a bully and weird
We need to talk about the narcissist stalker . I have notice the person who is stalking me has NPD and narcissist traits. This is the reason I feel like she can't stop herself from stalking me. She lashes out at anyone I may be dealing with on social media. I am keeping my close relationship very close to my chest to make sure she doesn't harassing the person. She has friended all of my family members on social media. I really can't feel sorry for her anymore. She is a covert stalker always under a fake name or profile .
It’s ironic to me that if I express a fantasy of how I ideally would like to rid myself of my stalker, I stand a chance of being arrested and thrown behind bars. But my stalker can harass me and my loved ones and the cops look the other way until these freaks carry out a thought one may have merely had a brief and fleeting fantasy about! 😐 What’s Really Goin’ On????
Battered wife syndrome was a defence for women who murdered violent partners. Dealing with a stalker or person who does not hear NO is frustrating and can drive a person crazy. Revenge fantasies are common. So is the desire for retaliation if they kept barging into your life and disturbing your peace of mind.
Thank you.. They are actually doing the opposite of long emails and messages. They are literally observing my everyday minute to minute activity and mocking and antagonizing me while exploiting anything to drain my vitality and ability to focus and be alone.
Stalking is in the eye of the stalked. A stalker never sees themselves as stalkers. They may see themselves as persistent, goal oriented, mission-focused, justice seeking, clever, playful, score settling, or perhaps even vengeful. But stalking? Never. A stalked person knows stalking though. Except when paranoia exists. Sadly some stalked people do become paranoid which muddies the water.
My stalker is a relative. Weird but true... And I'm trying to dissect as to why my relative is still evaviously stalking me without no justification. So your videos on this subject is welcomed right now in my life.
You're welcome! And I'm very sorry you are experiencing this. It is very uncomfortable, frightening at times, and overwhelming. I hope you have support.
@@TherapistTamaraHill I do however I don't use the word hope at since that's one of the stalkers name, ceohope/shuantae bellemy. Been going through this for 12yrs and I very tired of this dude. He a cyber-bully/stalker but a very manipulative master manipulator that works for the Government so it's hard to get anyone to stop him. He so bad the he puts the blames on those he calls/pays to do his dirty work for him. I just ask that all be aware and stay far away or if you like that type of dude please feel free to get with him so that he can leave me alone. I don't know how he keeps tracking me but once I find out I will do what's needed to rid myself of it as I have many of my phones he hacked into. My search engines was searching for places I never been or NEVER want to go. My battery on my phone kept going out even though I know for a fact it was just fully charged 15 mins ago. Brand new phones just completely blink out and no one can fix them. Keep changing the amount of payments on my bills the reflect certain #s so I would literally have to pay in whole numbers to keep my NO means No a clear stance. Hacked into my insurance account and Bank account. Soon as I come to a street light the light abruptly changes from Green to Red, I literally have to take back roads to NOT be bothered. Can't listen to my local stations b/c every single time the same 2-3 songs will play so I literally have to listen to very out of the ordinary things to avoid the creep. My vehicle is paid for in full. Soon as I start driving and get to a certain area not too far from my home there's always anywhere from 5 to 10 tow-trucks every single day/time. Before I paid off my vehicle he paid the car-lot owner to start an argument with me, mind you I've NEVER before had any issues with this particular car-lot owner ever. After I paid it off the owner repeatedly told me he had to give me tough love as if he was my parent or something. I was like what?!!?!! Hell NO NEVER AGAIN!!! So I can only imagine all these tow-trucks drivers he's paying off only to keep hear NO I'm NOT Interested at all. These are just a few things. He literally send people to hack and stalk you then claims he had nothing to do with it. He even send other women after a man that you maybe dating or have interest in to try to entice them to hook up with other women so he can then come back and throw it all up in you face via social media continuously as to try to make himself look as if he's the better pick for you, when in fact he's the worst one who's been orchestrating the chaos the whole entire time. They literally stalked you to take your talents from you then portray your talents as if it's something they came up with and made on their own. So now I don't even care to be creative at all. B/c I want to be left alone. STOP sending 33° to my TV screen I DON'T WANT YOU AT ALL. I literally had to reset my TV 5xs b/c this crap keeps popping up loading and stopping at that degree.
I had a female stalker who would hang around my bank waiting for me to show up or grocery store where I would go at a set time. She was looking for someone to take care of her and she thought that was me. You could not be subtle with her as I first tried. I finally had to say leave me alone
Leave me alone is like a red flag to a bull when dealing with someone who ignores boundaries, rules and basic requests, and enjoys stalking and harassing people.
Been there a few times. My sister's best friend from high school became my stalker a few years ago when I declined her sexual overture. I started out as nice but had to block her and tell her harshly to leave me the heck alone. Of course she smeared me with my own family which is fine. If they are going to prioritize a friend over family that shows you the strength of our relationship.
Interesting and thank you for sharing. Remember, that stalker(s) could also be sent by a narcissist. Stalking by itself is definitely frightening to deal with, for sure.
The flying monkeys are sent by the narcissist to reel the person back into contact with the stalker/master manipulator. No means maybe to these people.
Some really great information here, thank you! I hung out with someone in high school for a couple of years, we both came from dysfunctional families. A few years after high school I moved away to another country; I had also started therapy and recognized how unbalanced that person was. They tried to contact me a few times and I repeatedly stated that I wasn't interested in contact and to leave me alone. Then I went no contact. 24 years later, their attempts to connect with me continue. At least once, sometimes twice a year; they've tried on various social media sites, by making phone calls, sending letters, and eventually emails to some of my family of origin. I changed my name on FB to a fake one so she couldn't find me, and my family of origin knows to not give her any info (it's my original surname that she searches for and as she knew my siblings and parents, she has contacted them). I am not afraid of her...it's just angering and triggering when someone doesn't respect your boundaries (I've had abuse in my early life and respecting boundaries is the trigger for me). It seems she falls partly into the socially inept but also the rejected stalker type. I'm not the first one she's done it too, though I have no idea if she's been bothering those others for so long as well. Thankfully my husband is supportive and while he agrees she isn't dangerous, is still cautious. Given I live halfway across the world, I highly doubt she would ever physically find me. Of course, for some online harrassment is extremely stressful; but I've taken precautions over the years as to not be found. Given how long this has been going on, I fully expect it to continue until she dies or (hopefully) gets some therapy. She is very, very unwell.
I actually understand this a lot more now. Someone (two) keep asking why they were asked to leave me alone after they developed a resentment so this makes so much more sense why they had the entitlement and skill they did. We are still in court but this helps with safety and stablization for myself and some close to me. Thank you endlessly from me and others involved. I have an ISSTD (spelling of the accorynm might be wrong) clinical provider and she is a life saver for the safety and stablization. I cope with education and processing this was good.
Thanks so much for this video. I confess that i identify as the rejected/revenge stalker. I have struggled with rejection and abandonment since I was a child. Today I will seek counseling. Again, thanks so much for taking the time to do this videos.
I was in a college class with a guy who later went crazy in his early 20s and became obsessed with me. I hadn't even spoken or interacted with him during that class. Got a call from his girlfriend saying he had had a dream about his deceased mother telling him we were supposed to be together. Luckily I was in a whole nother state. Had the cops give him a call to let him know I am not playing. 😊 He actually showed up at my parents house, saying he thought I was injured. 😳😳😳 I would say it was a mild case of obsession but not necessarily stalking. Still freaked me out a bit though.
That's a "mild case"??? Well, hopefully with a little time, his brain chems will settle and find their balance. I think Dr. Hill's observation about the prevalence of that phenomenon in College settings speaks to the age/development factor. Still a bit unsettling for you though.
Because there’s not laws to prevent it. Document everything. But don’t respond because that’s what they want. Intimidate you, scare you etc. Put camera in your house and outside and keep recordings. Change your locks, get new keys. When you have evidence tried to get a restraining order but I tell you this can make them more angry. Be safe, drive with your car doors locks. Check if you car has a gps tag .
My coworker was stalking me, when the police got involved I was told at the meeting the stalker just had a crush on me, was socially awkward with women and just didn't understand the ways of love. This was before they had even met them. My property was damaged, I was followed outside of work multiple times and all they said was he was "crushing" on me. The case has been under investigation for several weeks now with the company we work for. 😟
It's so frustrating to be a woman, and constantly have your legitimate concerns minimized or dismissed. This is a constant thing we have to deal with, in every public space. It needs to change.
I’m extremely grateful to you for covering the sociopath that’s decided to stalk you. I need help and have exhausted avenues you wouldn’t believe. 😩🥺 My ex husband a sociopath that’s much worse than anyone you can possibly imagine. Protective orders, police reports, security cameras, Vivint security cameras, monitoring, motion detectors, dead bolts, trips to my my Congressmen’s office, Senator’s office who sent me to my delegates office.. The delegate sent me back to court for another protective order for him to open his butt on. My trips to the magistrates office were a waste of time as well. The fact that my ex gas a WiFi jammer to insure he’s not caught on camera which means I have no proof in court.. The breaking and entering, stealing and destroying my property and vehicle are indescribable. While he breaks in he contaminates my food, water, seasonings and the list goes on. Who helps people in my situation?
It's crazy-making designed to send the victim out of her mind. People don't understand until they experience the relentless pursuit and revenge tactics employed by an unhinged, manipulative and vindictive arsehole. Nothing really helps unless you can move and keep your new location and personal details private.
Ask your neighbor for help in installing a camera discreetly pointed towards your property. Change your routine if you can stay in an air bnb or a friend. Begin to counteract , research and learn how to get around a jammed scanner. Go to gun classes even if you don't attend to buy a gun. Take back your power.
I hope that you're in a stand your ground state. If he comes anywhere near you, get him. If you're not, I hope you find the help you need. Sometimes, life doesn't give you a choice. Stay safe.
They persistently/compulsively communicate with their targets (known as “Love Bombing”), they try to learn everything about their targets and spread rumors about them or share their target’s secrets with everyone. They will try to send outrageous amounts of money or expensive gifts to their targets (one guy tried to buy me a car, another one tried to lease a penthouse apartment for me for a year). They make threats of suicide or even homicide to their targets. It’s a form of control or emotional blackmail. They try to hurt themselves or claim they hurt themselves or tried to commit suicide and they blame their target for that. They try to scare the target with shock stories that typically didn’t happen, such as “My whole family has [insert terminal illness here].” Or they try to claim they are doing something glamorous and extravagant to make their target envious. Other times they tell their target that mutual associates said bad things about them behind their backs so their target will distrust them (and often try to tell those same associates that the target spoke ill of them in order to turn them against the target and isolate them). They use triangulation to pit other people (known and unknown) against their target, often putting the target in danger from angry strangers or [former] friends by lying and claiming the target said horrible things about or did horrible things to them and as a result make their targets’ lives miserable, online and IRL. They also dox or SWAT their targets, or try to get them falsely committed to a 72 hour psychiatric hold via an anonymous tip to the police, or they make a false anonymous report to DHS for making terrorist threats (a woman in Las Vegas, NV. did this to a neighbor with whom she was feuding).
My goodness. This is a laundry list of things some unstable and manipulative people have done to me. Divisive and deceptive are their modus operandi to get what they want: money, revenge, attention or reconnection. Navigating the nightmare is tedious.
I work at a church. I have a homeless stalker. He used to live under bridges. He gets in my line of sight. He is a handyman so he volunteers for job at my house. He was extra slow so he could spend time at my house. If I walk out of the house he makes a beeline to me. I have complained but noone believes me. They think he is cute because he volunteers for jobs they don't want to do.
I'm sorry you are experiencing this. As quiet as it has been kept, some homeless people are also struggling with severe mental illness such as schizophrenia and psychosis (hearing and seeing things that are not real). There is often a mental illness at the core of their behaviors which could also entail stalking. I hope you are able to ensure your safety with cameras, records, etc.
This is the point. Why should I be getting counselling and PAYING for it when it is someone else's behaviour? Why does the system not find a way allow me to communicate with his counsellor that he needs to move on, move away, deal with his problems in a healthier way.
Good point. It's HIPAA laws that protects our medical records and the protects the integrity of the work being done by the healthcare provider. Now, if you know the therapist and you are being mistreated, nothing stops you from sending an email or making a phone call to that therapist and leaving a message. The therapist can then decide what, if anything, they will do with this. I am not encouraging this by the way! I am simply saying that when it comes to situations that involves your well-being or safety OR the safety of the person in therapy, the therapist may intercept information but cannot communicate back.
Thank you, Tamara Hill. I'm going to subscribe to your channel. This is free therapy for me. It actually makes me not feel so alone knowing that roughly 400,000 other men in the U.S. have been victims of stalking. Thank you for your service.
Thank you. And you're welcome! Welcome to the channel. This is a topic I rotate every now and then so it's coming back early next year in some capacity.
Only thing I could think about when you were describing these people is "I've had those people as my Customers when I worked Front Desk in a Hotel!!" :D You can run away or call the Police if they come to your house, but when they are Guests in the Hotel, you have to deal with their madness on a daily basis!
Thank you, I was waiting for this one because I have had this ongoing since 2018 due to an affair and it reminded me of the resentful. It gets more complex when it involves more people. I have also heard stories of therapists who did not get the chance to renew and report violations. She lost her life. I think of her often.
You're welcome! I'm glad this was helpful. And I totally agree it gets worse when it is more people involved. I will be talking about "gang stalking" too.
@@Geeya6 valid I really suggest check in systems and potentially depending on what you treatment providers say ask about if a service dog could provide tasking. I have been a handler for two~ years and it has changed my quality of life.
Very helpful, Doctor. Thank You! Dealing with it is a really tough dance, especially when unsure if the cause/soutce of the behavior is rooted in personality pathology or in a neurodevelopmental condition (ie, ASD), the latter of which, I think, calls for a more careful approach. Yet, boundaries must be respected. Great Stuff, Doctor Hill! Thank You! ... TD, Boston
Thank you! And you're welcome. I like your reasoning on this. There may be a neurodevelopmental component to some of these cases for sure. And individual who is on the autism spectrum may not understand social cues well and push boundaries without thinking twice about the repercussions or how the other person may perceive this (lack of ToM - theory of mind or empathy).
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank You, Doctor! Your confirmatory statement is quite valuable to me here. Love Your Channel! Glad I found it. Best, TD, Boston
Is a "friend" a stalker when they email daily, seeking attention? I always try to discourage or slow his attempts down. Your video puts a new spin on my situation, thank you!
I think that I’m being stalked by my uni teacher, it’s about 1 year now. I don’t know what to do honestly. It’s not the first time I’m being stalked but this time it’s really really scary. I don’t have any physical evidences because he just follows me and acts creepily only when we’re alone. I talked about that to my closed ones, they either find that romantic, or just say that he doesn’t know how to tell me that he’s interested. That’s really exhausting.. At this point I even think I’m being crazy, like all of this it’s not even happening..
I absolutely get you and I don’t think you‘re crazy! If your gut feeling tells you there is something off, then there definitely is something off! I have someone acting obsessive (not yet full stalker mode) with me too (old man) and it’s very creepy and due to my social anxiety I won‘t leave the house sometimes. How are you doing now? Have you found a solution?
I wish you would talk about the stranger/stalker . I am dealing with one who I casually talked for about 15 minutes while we were waiting for a city bus about 6 months ago. I only know his first name. He believes we had a relationship. He was able to find out places I go. I was very direct and he got mad and disappeared for a while. However his delusions seem to ebb and flow. And lately he has been trying to find out wear I live. Is this kind of person a potential danger to me? What do I do to protect myself? I should mention everytime he tries to engage with me he looks like he has regressed quite noticeably. Like he is falling apart
I'm sorry Laura. That's frightening. Please see my most recent videos on stalking. If you check the playlist area, you can find the series I did. May be helpful to you. I do speak a lot about the stranger who becomes the stalker. Please be safe moving forward. I suggest psychotherapy for yourself --- if you aren't in it already -- to help you navigate your safety, thoughts, and feelings.
What is frustrating is that those who are closest to them, minimize this person who does not have social graces or even manners . Their intrusive in my case their woman is remarried for 10 yrs, but is bugged because her ex and I like each other. She has no social appropriatenesses. She’s actually out of line.
Can you make a video on how to keep from stalking if you have been rejected? My last breakup was really hard on me and I fell into the trap of internet stalking my ex and becoming extremely obsessive. I was already obsessive in the relationship but now I had the added bonus of rejection on top of that. I am fairly young and am still getting accustomed to being rejected when it comes to romantic relationships. Please help lol. TLDR: How to stop internet-stalking your ex or anyone you're interested in?
This portion is very important. I also had this experience and it's very malicious* because the person had lacked boundaries. I realized this comment sounded insensitive because I didn't finish my thought. I think that it really depends on how bad the person boundaries are / how bad they are at respecting the need for space. I forgot about this comment til it was hearted.
I'm sorry to hear this Imani but glad you are acknowledging it. I find that obsessive behaviors are often fueled by the absence of something on the inside of the person obsessing. When you love someone you don't stalk them. You don't obsess over them unless you feel there is still something there you deserve or you want. That's understandable to a certain extent. But visiting their social media, checking online for their activities, ruminating over them, fantasizing that they will want you back, are all deep seeded issues on the part of the one longing. I can certainly talk about this during this talking series. I will be talking about this next Sunday.
I've been there. Someone once told me that "you think you can't live without that person, but you can". That, my faith and learning about codependency and love addiction helped me so much.
That's terrible. I'm sorry. This is never easy to deal with because your entire life has been uprooted. I had a client like this 5 years ago and the only hope for her life was to move across the nation. Boundaries and barriers are sometimes your only hope.
The person who stalked me was actually the one who discarded me,in other words, a vindictive and narcissistic ex. That ex even sent friends and acquaintances to check in on me, sending me pics and asking me random questions. One of them assaulted me after having befriended me on the pretext of friendship. These people are quite sick. It has been going on for eight years.
What I'm dealing with is someone playing psychological games whenever I am minding my business trying to shop online. I want to know who because it's to the point of looking around for lawyers, even considering taking out a loan just to get it to stop.
Absolutely stupendous, Thank you so much for this Tamara, You have immense understanding, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe 🌲🌝🐶👁🐉♘🌚💜🌈😃😃🐎😇😍🦄🌹🌷👽❤😊🌌💚🕊💙
I had cyberstalking by women, I caught them trying to find my address and meet me. It was on an online forum, and they took umbridge, because I blocked them on social media. A woman in the group told me and sent me a screenshot. She could have saved my life/social drama. I kept the screenshot and reported them to website and police. Conspiracy to stalking doesn't seem to be taken seriously
The (possible?) stalker that I’m dealing with right now, is a workplace. He only comes in when I’m working. He’ll walk around, mostly staring at me. He’s asked if I know when the police routes end. (I live in a smaller town, so there’s not many officers). He’s confronted a coworker of mine and wanted to know if he was my boyfriend. He’s asked a different coworker what time he works, day, nights, etc. (I work mostly nights, but it changes). I started wearing a ring, with my boyfriend’s encouragement, and it didn’t deter him. He still will come in and stare. He’s asked my coworker for my number. And when he found the same coworker on a website, he tried to have a very very vulgar conversation with her. My mom thinks I’m paranoid and that I should see the whole picture. And that he’s probably not only coming in when I work.
Mine is my elderly neighbour. He watches me all the time going out coming home. If i leave my back door unlocked he comes in while I'm not home I installed a camera and he comes into my home walks around goes in my bedroom paces up and down my hall way. He 76 yrs old a few years ago I confronted him and got called many names befriended my neighbour between him and me and spread lies about me so I started talking to him to stop it all and its got worse. I have him on camera pacing around my house what do I need to do ?
My stalker is online and creates various channels even after youtube deletes his channel for violating community guidelines. He creates new channels to keep stalking me and is obsessed with my relationship and my life.
That's very frustrating I'm sure. I"m not sure how you can see that he is making channels to follow you. If you can prove he is doing this (with firm evidence), TH-cam may be able to track him and hold him accountable in other ways.
@@TherapistTamaraHill he keeps tagging me in his videos, that's how I know he has returned. It's like he wants to intimidate me and he wants me to know he is back. I was so happy when youtube terminated his account for violation of community guidelines because he was creating a lot of videos and spreading rumors of me being a prostitute. I had no idea he was making up such lies until I had people commenting on my channel that he was spreading those lies. I think he feels rejected and is looking for petty revenge on me. He is very obsessed over my relationship and my life. My fiance is white and he watches all my videos and my posts. He hates black women who are in relationships in interracial relationships and he has previously complimented me on my channel before he started all this crazy behaviour. He has even said he will create new channels if this new one gets deleted. I don't know what to do and I'm genuinely concerned. I have proof I have screenshotted everything. I have screenshots of him tagging me repeatedly and him saying he will create a new channel.
after listening to this video, seems after a while the victim is also going to be accused of these behaviors of paranoid and defensive behaviors, so how would you tell when someone who is victim to this for long periods of time, and police will see this behavior in them as well as those who are doing the stalking?
Thanks Tamara, I am in Australia. I am not going to counselling - I want my local government representatives to deal with the problem of my neighbours anti social behaviour. He is apparently already receiving counselling and his psychological issues are not to be bled into my world so some counsellor can make an income. I am wanting the mental health system to have an accountability loop.
I’m a therapist and have one too. I’m not even seeing the public anymore. Many are good people, but enough think therapists are their punching bag to show their tail. I’m really particular with who I see.
Hi there, I don't blame you to be honest. I too am very particular about who I take into my practice. We live in a very unsettled and dysfunctional world and sometimes those we treat are a direct result of that. This pushes most professionals in the field to be wise with the people they see.
I recently moved. The man that lives beside me watching everything I do. I can't go into the yard or to the store without him watching me. I went to the store this morning and he pulled up and parked beside me a couple spaces over. I froze, sat there and finished my drink. As I was getting out of the car he drove off. I think he's stalking me. I don't know what to do.
Do you have cameras on your property? Lights , motion lights,etc? There comes a time to try to ….make it harder for them. Do not allow your animals outside. Bolt lock your doors.Make sure your window are hard to get into. I have been stalked for a decade. They thinks it’s fine and I believe they view it as a game and retaliation. These ppl are sick even if they can’t see it for themselves. Do everything you can to protect yourself and your property. Carry pepper spray. My situation is a case of stalking and coercive control (monitoring, attempts at control and intimidation and inducing fear). These ppl are the types- they will kill if they go off the rails enough. Document, file written police reports, name them in the police reports if you know or even suspect. Do not allow LE to invalidate your experience or minimize it. So many don’t report it. Report it!
I have had a stalker for a year and a half now. They have texted me and my family members on multiple occasions, different numbers. Talking about my deceased mother and other information about my family. My number and address posted online. Feces in my mailbox. Have made multiple facebook accounts to contact me and share my families photos. Used to comment on mine and share my photos until i changed my privacy settings. Sometimes makes account pretending to be my mother and contacts me.
I cut someone off on Facebook recently, and that was the only contact the person had of me, I didn't explicitly say I am cutting it off, but it was pretty obviously implied. The person, keeps on googling me and seeking other contacts of me and keeps on reaching and getting in touch, while it's obvious I am not replying, the person tried to reach out 3 times in the past 10 months, so it's not like very often, but still annoying, since I want nothing to do with it, I wonder is this also considered stalking?
Hi Rachel, this is also considered stalking for sure. It doesn't matter what you say or don't say, if it is implied that you are not interested then the person should get that. However, there are some individuals who do not understand things that are "implied" and may act based on their own limited understanding. For example, those with autism spectrum disorders may miss those subtle cues. Highly immature and emotionally reactive individuals may also be the same way. If you have to, you can tell them to stop contacting you and if they do, that's grounds to get the law involved.
I disagree with just ghosting or blocking someone you had a relationship or friendship with if they haven’t been cruel or abusive to you.. I’m of the belief that if you want to end a friendship with someone you do it kindly and clearly so there are no misunderstandings and treat the person the way you would want to be treated..even if they have anxious attachment issues like I do..especially then I would say..Ignoring a person like that instead of having a conversation with them will often make things worse for them, not better and send them into extreme depression and then they’ll be more likely to stalk to seek closure and confused about whether you really cared or not 😢 We can’t just ghost people and then say they should’ve just taken the hint and that they are immature otherwise.. That is cruel and to me signifies the blocker/ghoster lacks empathy for my feelings and didn’t care about me despite anything they said previously.. That being said most emotionally healthy people are not going to get to the point of stalking someone who rejected them even like that but a few messages or asking for proper closure would be entirely reasonable.. I get that it’s uncomfortable for the person who wants to break up or end a friendship to have that discussion with somebody but ending things on good terms if possible and if safety is not an concern, I believe is the right thing to do..I would want that for myself and I would want to give that peace of mind to another.. I got blocked by someone who had said lovely compliments to me when I got way too emotionally attached to him.. I am still dealing with the pain of that.. I feel that he should not have led me on the way he did if he wasn’t feeling it but at the same time i acknowledge I have serious attachment issues.. I understood he didn’t like me anymore because of my neediness but it would have been a lot easier for me to get over if he’d given me a few minutes of closure and understanding of my feelings.. And this is why I hate it when people think ghosting or just blocking others without a conversation is ok because I have experienced it first hand and it hurts like hell 😰
And Racel, I can’t tell you what to do when it comes to this guy.. but if your safety is not at risk, like Tamara suggested, maybe you can reach out to him to tell him that you’re not interested and that you don’t wish to have further contact but please be kind and wish him well and that your sorry he’s hurting but that you just want this to be over so you both can move on because it’s not good for either of you.. I think that might actually help him stop messaging you because it will show him you at least value him as a human being and you also then won’t be bothered by him anymore hopefully.. That’s just my humble opinion.. Now if this person doesn’t stop after that then you have already done your part and gave clarity in a kind way and then you can get the authorities involved if you need to.. Actually I see it’s been 11 months since you commented here so maybe he stopped messaging already or you had a conversation with him and it’s not an issue for either of you anymore..
That is kinda what is going on with me someone caused me to loose my house but I was the one she was trapping in the house! That was psycho! Her mom helped too ! They do mortgage fraud scams as well so maybe it’s a mental health issue with these mortgage fraudsters ! They have been trying to kick people out of houses ! It’s DISTURBING! I’m trying to understand it ! It’s kinda finically abusive as well ! I’m studying it because I got taken advantage of really bad and I took some psychology courses in college so it could be schizophrenia that my stalkers have but YES it started by her coming into my house and taking over my possessions! I’m trying to understand this !
Cut two sisters off now they stalk and harass me all over social media it’s sick and disturbing making up all kinda fake scenarios and lies on fake pages I’m so over these women wish they’d move on
Yes I’m dealing with rejected/resentful stalkers when I want nothing to do with them and they wanna punish me for that and keep saying they don’t care but continue to harass & stalk relentlessly🥴
So my stalker thinks he is in love with me. I think he is intimacy seeking. But he also hates rejection and he understands my body language but ignores it. He know I didn’t like him but keeps trying and trying.
Guys and girls need to be taught in schools about how to deal gracefully with rejections and move on. I am a guy, i thought I loved a girl deeply, I got rejected after initial meetings. I couldn't move on, it's been 7-8 years. I contacted her two times on social media in these 8 years and got blocked. luckily I was self aware so i stopped myself from stalking her. Us will never happen, and that's the truth. I wish somebody could have taught me this in my early years, i wouldn't have texted her back even those two times. Recently a guy with whom i interacted just once like 8 years back, is texting me with different number cause i blocked him earlier. He texted me 2 years back too, i blocked him then also. And now I am feeling uncomfortable that how much that person must be obsessed with me to remember for so long. I am also sad that, if my college crush see me again, she might feel uncomfortable because of me. I can't even apologize cause that's again like contacting her(stalking). It's so bad. I really think it should be taught in schools at early-stage to our kids.
My husband is a therapist and his female client is stalking him and made a claim they were in a sexual relationship to his director and he is now on administrative leave while they investigate. How worried should we be and what can we do about it????
I'm sorry to hear this. This is so so tough on an innocent therapist. We play such an intimate role with clients that some may push the boundary by lying, manipulating, or lashing out in some fashion. I'm happy to offer a consultation if needed. But with the little details I have, I can say that it's best to have really good documentation (progress notes, call logs, comments, beginning and end times of sessions with this client, etc.) as evidence of proper boundary keeping. There's no real way of determining what to expect. Boards make decisions in favor of the client all the time and that's because they serve them and not the therapist. So it really depends. I wish you both the best. Hang in there. This is a tough one I'm sure.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you, he meets with them beginning of this week. If we decide to contact you for your consult, how do we go about doing that?
Like with my ex, they don't really "want" you, and my no to this person did not relate to them as a person, I just knew he was not the type of person I was suited to. I am currently experiencing magnified trauma responses in relation to my exes family, whilst having an OLDER, very tall, but damaged male next door.
Can a person be a rejected stalker when they are in love with your husband and show up whereever he goes starts working at his work comes into your house unannounced and starts drama by approaching your husband or other family members to cause drama for you(the wife).
I once knew a woman who was cyber stalking her ex husband whom she has been divorced from for 25 years and he has been remarried for 23 years. He lived In a different state and her goal was to get to that state and have him tell her to back off in person. He hadn't spoken one word to her since their divorce. She literally had know clue on how relationships worked.
Thank you for your videos. Not sure if you have covered this form of stalking or if it falls under one of the types you discussed - stalking based on a person's identity. For example, I think i maybe being stalked and harassed based on my perceived ethnicity. Unfortunately, I have to deal with lots of harassing phone calls that call and hangup or sit there heavy breathing etc. There have also been some other things but I don't feel comfortable sharing them publicly. It is very scary. Perhaps, if you haven't yet discussed this form of stalking you could address this topic.
Ok, I meet a little older female who wants to tell me her stories. I am interested, because she sounds fun. We arrange to meet and I rearrange my weekend. I arrive where I said I would meet her - and yes I was running late. She was not there, but my stalky neighbour who had been hanging around the front letter box was. He and other neighbours were the only people sitting outside at this local pub. I waited and waited for her - I stayed out of the way until they left. She did not turn up. I am still confused - as it is a very small town, whether this was an arranged meeting - him instead of the other person being there - or just a coincidence. I am still upset - as the "tune in" effect, creating a sense as if I should be just moving towards them naturally. AND he is very unattractive to me. I perceive a sense of tune in that should not be there.
What do I do about gang stalking?? These people followed me from another complex I'm hearing these people have rights that they can be there if they want to so I'm assuming that I will be moving again
Hellow Tamara.. i have been watched or stalked. Its a second time it happens...last time was in 2021 and this year is towards the end of jan.as we speak i am scared for my life.cz it's been crazy
Or, the individual who, when you rejected him, he will threaten that he is “revengeful, ruthless”, he “will get into your jobs” and he will say he “was your lover”😱 which he did. All of these. Nobody believed the victim’s story, they all believed the stalker.
Mine calls my family and brought them into things even tho I told him "friend zone"... He heard something more and got his feelings hurt. So now he's running around trying to triangulate me with my mother.
What would happen if you started getting super clingy to your stalker? Like, annoyingly clingy and desperate? Do you think they would lose interest? Thats my theory, anyway.
it's me, lol i can't understand social cues at all i did stalking someone on twitter because they have been "fake" to me like why would they hide their true colors? always makes me the bad guy lol, now i hate them and i do not want to check them out again ew even tho they have been asking my sistars and thier turned them on me and now i'm stuck her whenever i try to explain to them (my sisters) they'll not believe me at all and always makes me "lying" whenever i chat with them, what should i do?
It's been such a nightmare and they never get help,held responsibility for so much crime ,i ask our system takes this more serious,they can be caught but i pray stop ✋️ blaming the person being victimized, my situation became more than 1 person and they robbed 😢 me so much ,you all may not believe but by the time they followed me for near 20 years over a million dollar's, they don't care they like to take everything things that can not be sold but like a lifetime of photography and they cant be replaced,also death of pet's, i have heard a judge give him permission to come in the house i was,rented 24/7 a landlord has to follow rules and laws like we do as a,tenant, please know they have killed others,I ask for this demonic activity to be held with priority
It was a handker Irene don’t stress yourself he was the one sending my pictures to all the perps now I know how you used gos I think this what I stated in my vidie this moring
I'm going to say that the numbers are not accurate because I am speaking from experience because my ex wives are stalking me and have law enforcement on their side with gaslighting and using the fact that I had an addiction issue when I was younger and now no one listens to anything I say because I'm just a tweaker and he's probably using again and have had bosses tell me that my ex came to talk to them by and cost me jobs.
This stalker is really some kind of psycophatic abnormal behavior in the head u know I dnt get why r thy following ang stalking other ppl,it is weird and abnormalities And then thy manipulate the situation..the TI is bad coz we take pictures of them following us it's sooo unfair
Who knows what my handker name was now I know what I was sending ng this moring yes diver GMC foot stopping Gangstalking He was the one running illegal activities Against me the primary Aumbulance I saw this moring on Bradley ave he ewas a perp driving it don’t take pictures of them if he us a handker the coos can’t go after him anyway he might needed a girlfriend from time time
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Hi, I'm happy to be here
Happy to have you here!!
"They have no seat in reality." Exactly.
It’s all creepy and weird how easy it is to get ppl’s property records, bdays, family members, etc. It’s almost like stalking is encouraged.
Yea for sure
Agree. European countries (some) no longer allow that and the U.S. should get with the program.
Spot on. The stalker often spies and reveals personal information about a victim that he or she had not been told. Creepy indeed.
Well yeah I mean it makes no sense. They should be able to intervene and stop,them! As a teen, my friends and I got stopped by the law before doing legal things. How can they not see someone getting all this tech and info to track someone and not stop this people? Lord Jesus h effing Christ!
All they have to do is hack your phone to see your personal info such as social security & bank info. They can see all of your contacts to secretly engage with & know where you work at to recruit them into stalking you too. If you get a new home they can intice the landlord or seller to access your home with spy cams before your move in date. It's not hard when your whole life is on your phone
rejected narcissists and stalkers will say and do whatever it takes to justify their toddler behavior and they will never take responsibility for their childish actions. They will continue to lie, deny and exploit their target/victim relentlessly. There is no end, because they will reappear into your life years later to taunt you again.
Spot on
So I need to move?
It's scary when your stalker is a 'Political Asylum' in the US, has a criminal record in the US, and is heavily protected by local government and silly public attorneys.
There was a case where the victim moved to another country to escape and guess what? The stalker moved to that country too. Is a nightmare.
I'm being victim blamed and harassed online. They won't leave me alone and there's something wrong with this group of individuals. They are compulsive obsessed with me
It's not discussed enough about Platonic friendships that end and one becomes a stalker. I befriended someone and later in the friendship started seeing signs of narcissism ( grandiose, competition, jealousy, negative comments, negative attitude, fake nice, exploitative, etc) . By the time I put it together she was employed at my work and slandering my name to my coworkers. She lives in my neighborhood so when I went no contact she would just drive down the street I live on several times a day glaring at my kids and me. Once I confronted her In a public place she started calling and texting from different numbers and went from sounding nice on the voice mail to threatening in the next. I didn't respond to either then she threatened to have a restraining order placed on me . As old as I am I haven't ever met anyone like this. I haven't spoken to her In 2 years and plan to keep it that way. I will take this as she was the rejected/ resented stalker.
I just ended a recent friendship with someone who I met on Plenty of Fish. He told me about this woman who he knew who he got serious about and said she was his girlfriend. However, her sister was super jealous of the relationship and tried to sabotage it. He told me the ex-girlfriend's name and told me that I can see her profile on Facebook. I decided to check this story out. When I told him that I messaged her but she didn't respond to me yet he seemed to be fine with it. He told me that they were on good terms now.
I figured that she didn't go on Facebook much since she wasn't responding so I thought about sending a message to her husband to let her know that I messaged her and wanted to ask her about someone she used to know. Her husband said that I could ask him about it, so I did. His first two words to me was "Stay away". I asked what's up with him? He asked how I knew that my friend (at the time) knew his wife I said that he told me. The husband told me that the former friend was charged with stalking and that he never dated his wife. I also saw a scathing Facebook post on the former friend's page, before I reached out to the husband, about how much of an evil person this woman's sister was towards him and how she landed him in jail. How she was the reason why he was having problems with women.
When I chatted with the former friend, he was starting to change details about his story. He told me that he never wanted me to talk with the woman who he claimed was his ex-girlfriend. He also said to me that he never had a romantic interest in me that it was just friendship. I told him that I couldn't take him seriously like that anyway because he and I differed on Politics and Religious beliefs. I blocked him on social media and on my phone when he texted me. I told him that I would call the police if he harassed me. Then sometime later he leaves a voice message saying that I opened a can of worms for him with the local police where that lady lives, how they are harassing him and opened an investigation on him. He told me that I have to call them and straighten the whole thing out, tell them that it's all a big mistake and that's it.
I blocked the number that he used to call me. Haven't heard from him again so far. I had questions about his state of mind even before all of this happened. Someone else who knew him briefly even told me that they were unsure if he was dealing with a full deck.
There's no justification for any kind of abuse
My stalker has learning difficulties but knows exactly what he's doing. It's strange the way most people pick up on his bad vibes / intimidation, whilst others continue to believe he's harmless (inc the police). The fact that he has no boundaries, empathy or self-awareness doesn't seem to count for anything in their eyes.
This is so hard. I'm sorry this is happening to you. When you mix in mental illness, under-development, or learning disabilities the police and others in this group can't conceptualize these individuals know exactly what they are doing in SOME cases.
As someone with learning difficulties myself, I'm going to tell you, do not let someone's disorder or illness be a reason for you not to protect yourself from them. Even people in these kinds of situations need to learn how to take responsibility for their actions. You are not a "human sacrifice" for anyone for any reason. Keep your boundaries strong and tall.
My stalker uses his mental health problems and disorders too make excuses for himself. He only does it to make me feel sorry for him.
My stalker is a cop and the police and social services believe his lies . He hates me as he thinks I should live him and fancy him which I don’t he’s not my type and he’s pathetic he’s a bully and weird
The police are patriarchy personified.. dont expect help from them
We need to talk about the narcissist stalker . I have notice the person who is stalking me has NPD and narcissist traits. This is the reason I feel like she can't stop herself from stalking me. She lashes out at anyone I may be dealing with on social media. I am keeping my close relationship very close to my chest to make sure she doesn't harassing the person. She has friended all of my family members on social media. I really can't feel sorry for her anymore. She is a covert stalker always under a fake name or profile .
It’s ironic to me that if I express a fantasy of how I ideally would like to rid myself of my stalker, I stand a chance of being arrested and thrown behind bars. But my stalker can harass me and my loved ones and the cops look the other way until these freaks carry out a thought one may have merely had a brief and fleeting fantasy about! 😐 What’s Really Goin’ On????
Battered wife syndrome was a defence for women who murdered violent partners. Dealing with a stalker or person who does not hear NO is frustrating and can drive a person crazy. Revenge fantasies are common. So is the desire for retaliation if they kept barging into your life and disturbing your peace of mind.
Right… why are they allowed to do this? But I’m treated as an evildoer for attempting to protect myself? After already being physically attacked!!!
My stalker needs treatment and need intervention ASAP . He’s gonna keep getting rejected
True that tired of the mess every day I get up
Thank you..
They are actually doing the opposite of long emails and messages. They are literally observing my everyday minute to minute activity and mocking and antagonizing me while exploiting anything to drain my vitality and ability to focus and be alone.
Stalking is in the eye of the stalked. A stalker never sees themselves as stalkers. They may see themselves as persistent, goal oriented, mission-focused, justice seeking, clever, playful, score settling, or perhaps even vengeful. But stalking? Never. A stalked person knows stalking though. Except when paranoia exists. Sadly some stalked people do become paranoid which muddies the water.
My stalker is a relative. Weird but true... And I'm trying to dissect as to why my relative is still evaviously stalking me without no justification. So your videos on this subject is welcomed right now in my life.
Thank You for explaining this. I'm truly tired of being cyber stalked though especially when I keep saying NO clearly.
You're welcome! And I'm very sorry you are experiencing this. It is very uncomfortable, frightening at times, and overwhelming. I hope you have support.
@@TherapistTamaraHill I do however I don't use the word hope at since that's one of the stalkers name, ceohope/shuantae bellemy. Been going through this for 12yrs and I very tired of this dude. He a cyber-bully/stalker but a very manipulative master manipulator that works for the Government so it's hard to get anyone to stop him. He so bad the he puts the blames on those he calls/pays to do his dirty work for him. I just ask that all be aware and stay far away or if you like that type of dude please feel free to get with him so that he can leave me alone. I don't know how he keeps tracking me but once I find out I will do what's needed to rid myself of it as I have many of my phones he hacked into. My search engines was searching for places I never been or NEVER want to go. My battery on my phone kept going out even though I know for a fact it was just fully charged 15 mins ago. Brand new phones just completely blink out and no one can fix them. Keep changing the amount of payments on my bills the reflect certain #s so I would literally have to pay in whole numbers to keep my NO means No a clear stance. Hacked into my insurance account and Bank account. Soon as I come to a street light the light abruptly changes from Green to Red, I literally have to take back roads to NOT be bothered. Can't listen to my local stations b/c every single time the same 2-3 songs will play so I literally have to listen to very out of the ordinary things to avoid the creep. My vehicle is paid for in full. Soon as I start driving and get to a certain area not too far from my home there's always anywhere from 5 to 10 tow-trucks every single day/time. Before I paid off my vehicle he paid the car-lot owner to start an argument with me, mind you I've NEVER before had any issues with this particular car-lot owner ever. After I paid it off the owner repeatedly told me he had to give me tough love as if he was my parent or something. I was like what?!!?!! Hell NO NEVER AGAIN!!! So I can only imagine all these tow-trucks drivers he's paying off only to keep hear NO I'm NOT Interested at all. These are just a few things. He literally send people to hack and stalk you then claims he had nothing to do with it. He even send other women after a man that you maybe dating or have interest in to try to entice them to hook up with other women so he can then come back and throw it all up in you face via social media continuously as to try to make himself look as if he's the better pick for you, when in fact he's the worst one who's been orchestrating the chaos the whole entire time. They literally stalked you to take your talents from you then portray your talents as if it's something they came up with and made on their own. So now I don't even care to be creative at all. B/c I want to be left alone. STOP sending 33° to my TV screen I DON'T WANT YOU AT ALL. I literally had to reset my TV 5xs b/c this crap keeps popping up loading and stopping at that degree.
Block them, report them, NO ACCESS TO YOU!
I had a female stalker who would hang around my bank waiting for me to show up or grocery store where I would go at a set time. She was looking for someone to take care of her and she thought that was me. You could not be subtle with her as I first tried. I finally had to say leave me alone
I pray that she left you alone.
Yes. That's the only way sometimes. I'm sorry. So tough.
Leave me alone is like a red flag to a bull when dealing with someone who ignores boundaries, rules and basic requests, and enjoys stalking and harassing people.
Been there a few times. My sister's best friend from high school became my stalker a few years ago when I declined her sexual overture. I started out as nice but had to block her and tell her harshly to leave me the heck alone. Of course she smeared me with my own family which is fine. If they are going to prioritize a friend over family that shows you the strength of our relationship.
Interesting and thank you for sharing. Remember, that stalker(s) could also be sent by a narcissist. Stalking by itself is definitely frightening to deal with, for sure.
The flying monkeys are sent by the narcissist to reel the person back into contact with the stalker/master manipulator. No means maybe to these people.
Some really great information here, thank you!
I hung out with someone in high school for a couple of years, we both came from dysfunctional families. A few years after high school I moved away to another country; I had also started therapy and recognized how unbalanced that person was. They tried to contact me a few times and I repeatedly stated that I wasn't interested in contact and to leave me alone. Then I went no contact.
24 years later, their attempts to connect with me continue. At least once, sometimes twice a year; they've tried on various social media sites, by making phone calls, sending letters, and eventually emails to some of my family of origin.
I changed my name on FB to a fake one so she couldn't find me, and my family of origin knows to not give her any info (it's my original surname that she searches for and as she knew my siblings and parents, she has contacted them). I am not afraid of her...it's just angering and triggering when someone doesn't respect your boundaries (I've had abuse in my early life and respecting boundaries is the trigger for me). It seems she falls partly into the socially inept but also the rejected stalker type. I'm not the first one she's done it too, though I have no idea if she's been bothering those others for so long as well. Thankfully my husband is supportive and while he agrees she isn't dangerous, is still cautious. Given I live halfway across the world, I highly doubt she would ever physically find me. Of course, for some online harrassment is extremely stressful; but I've taken precautions over the years as to not be found.
Given how long this has been going on, I fully expect it to continue until she dies or (hopefully) gets some therapy. She is very, very unwell.
I actually understand this a lot more now. Someone (two) keep asking why they were asked to leave me alone after they developed a resentment so this makes so much more sense why they had the entitlement and skill they did. We are still in court but this helps with safety and stablization for myself and some close to me. Thank you endlessly from me and others involved. I have an ISSTD (spelling of the accorynm might be wrong) clinical provider and she is a life saver for the safety and stablization. I cope with education and processing this was good.
This is great to hear!! You're welcome. Peace truly does come when you gain clarity through education.
I wish I had a therapist such as yourself when I was growing up 😭
Thank you for your work!
🥰 Thank you. And you're welcome.
Thanks so much for this video. I confess that i identify as the rejected/revenge stalker. I have struggled with rejection and abandonment since I was a child. Today I will seek counseling. Again, thanks so much for taking the time to do this videos.
You're welcome! And thank you for being honest. Hopefully, you have been able to move forward. No one deserves this.
I was in a college class with a guy who later went crazy in his early 20s and became obsessed with me. I hadn't even spoken or interacted with him during that class. Got a call from his girlfriend saying he had had a dream about his deceased mother telling him we were supposed to be together. Luckily I was in a whole nother state. Had the cops give him a call to let him know I am not playing. 😊 He actually showed up at my parents house, saying he thought I was injured. 😳😳😳 I would say it was a mild case of obsession but not necessarily stalking. Still freaked me out a bit though.
This poor guy. And poor you! Never saw it coming. Sadly, this happens a lot on college campuses.
@@TherapistTamaraHill It was pretty bizarre. I think he was an incompetent stalker after seeing your video...
That's a "mild case"??? Well, hopefully with a little time, his brain chems will settle and find their balance. I think Dr. Hill's observation about the prevalence of that phenomenon in College settings speaks to the age/development factor. Still a bit unsettling for you though.
I so use getting rejected life sucks I wish no stalking
There’s ABSOLUTELY NO JUSTIFICATION whatsoever for stalking and the people who do that rarely have good intentions
My stalker is also cyberstalking me....why can’t find help from police??? Oh because my stalker works for 🚔
Literally
Because there’s not laws to prevent it. Document everything. But don’t respond because that’s what they want. Intimidate you, scare you etc.
Put camera in your house and outside and keep recordings. Change your locks, get new keys.
When you have evidence tried to get a restraining order but I tell you this can make them more angry.
Be safe, drive with your car doors locks. Check if you car has a gps tag .
My coworker was stalking me, when the police got involved I was told at the meeting the stalker just had a crush on me, was socially awkward with women and just didn't understand the ways of love. This was before they had even met them. My property was damaged, I was followed outside of work multiple times and all they said was he was "crushing" on me. The case has been under investigation for several weeks now with the company we work for. 😟
I am in the same situation and also the same response from the cops. Im tired of this individual and was told he has mental disability…yeah right!
It's so frustrating to be a woman, and constantly have your legitimate concerns minimized or dismissed. This is a constant thing we have to deal with, in every public space. It needs to change.
I’m extremely grateful to you for covering the sociopath that’s decided to stalk you. I need help and have exhausted avenues you wouldn’t believe. 😩🥺 My ex husband a sociopath that’s much worse than anyone you can possibly imagine. Protective orders, police reports, security cameras, Vivint security cameras, monitoring, motion detectors, dead bolts, trips to my my Congressmen’s office, Senator’s office who sent me to my delegates office.. The delegate sent me back to court for another protective order for him to open his butt on. My trips to the magistrates office were a waste of time as well. The fact that my ex gas a WiFi jammer to insure he’s not caught on camera which means I have no proof in court.. The breaking and entering, stealing and destroying my property and vehicle are indescribable. While he breaks in he contaminates my food, water, seasonings and the list goes on. Who helps people in my situation?
It's crazy-making designed to send the victim out of her mind. People don't understand until they experience the relentless pursuit and revenge tactics employed by an unhinged, manipulative and vindictive arsehole. Nothing really helps unless you can move and keep your new location and personal details private.
Ask your neighbor for help in installing a camera discreetly pointed towards your property. Change your routine if you can stay in an air bnb or a friend. Begin to counteract , research and learn how to get around a jammed scanner.
Go to gun classes even if you don't attend to buy a gun. Take back your power.
I hope that you're in a stand your ground state. If he comes anywhere near you, get him. If you're not, I hope you find the help you need. Sometimes, life doesn't give you a choice. Stay safe.
I just discovered your channel! I'm about to go on a binge!
Welcome!! Glad to have you.
They persistently/compulsively communicate with their targets (known as “Love Bombing”), they try to learn everything about their targets and spread rumors about them or share their target’s secrets with everyone.
They will try to send outrageous amounts of money or expensive gifts to their targets (one guy tried to buy me a car, another one tried to lease a penthouse apartment for me for a year).
They make threats of suicide or even homicide to their targets. It’s a form of control or emotional blackmail. They try to hurt themselves or claim they hurt themselves or tried to commit suicide and they blame their target for that.
They try to scare the target with shock stories that typically didn’t happen, such as “My whole family has [insert terminal illness here].” Or they try to claim they are doing something glamorous and extravagant to make their target envious. Other times they tell their target that mutual associates said bad things about them behind their backs so their target will distrust them (and often try to tell those same associates that the target spoke ill of them in order to turn them against the target and isolate them).
They use triangulation to pit other people (known and unknown) against their target, often putting the target in danger from angry strangers or [former] friends by lying and claiming the target said horrible things about or did horrible things to them and as a result make their targets’ lives miserable, online and IRL. They also dox or SWAT their targets, or try to get them falsely committed to a 72 hour psychiatric hold via an anonymous tip to the police, or they make a false anonymous report to DHS for making terrorist threats (a woman in Las Vegas, NV. did this to a neighbor with whom she was feuding).
My goodness. This is a laundry list of things some unstable and manipulative people have done to me. Divisive and deceptive are their modus operandi to get what they want: money, revenge, attention or reconnection. Navigating the nightmare is tedious.
I work at a church. I have a homeless stalker. He used to live under bridges. He gets in my line of sight. He is a handyman so he volunteers for job at my house. He was extra slow so he could spend time at my house. If I walk out of the house he makes a beeline to me. I have complained but noone believes me. They think he is cute because he volunteers for jobs they don't want to do.
I'm sorry you are experiencing this. As quiet as it has been kept, some homeless people are also struggling with severe mental illness such as schizophrenia and psychosis (hearing and seeing things that are not real). There is often a mental illness at the core of their behaviors which could also entail stalking. I hope you are able to ensure your safety with cameras, records, etc.
This is the point. Why should I be getting counselling and PAYING for it when it is someone else's behaviour? Why does the system not find a way allow me to communicate with his counsellor that he needs to move on, move away, deal with his problems in a healthier way.
Good point.
It's HIPAA laws that protects our medical records and the protects the integrity of the work being done by the healthcare provider. Now, if you know the therapist and you are being mistreated, nothing stops you from sending an email or making a phone call to that therapist and leaving a message. The therapist can then decide what, if anything, they will do with this. I am not encouraging this by the way! I am simply saying that when it comes to situations that involves your well-being or safety OR the safety of the person in therapy, the therapist may intercept information but cannot communicate back.
My stalker keeps texting me. I blocked the number and his social media. He doesn't understand that I don't want to deal with him anymore
Or told him clearly that you are not interested in a kind way and to please leave you alone..not just hint and ghost somebody..
Thank you, Tamara Hill. I'm going to subscribe to your channel. This is free therapy for me. It actually makes me not feel so alone knowing that roughly 400,000 other men in the U.S. have been victims of stalking. Thank you for your service.
Thank you. And you're welcome! Welcome to the channel.
This is a topic I rotate every now and then so it's coming back early next year in some capacity.
Thank you so much for this 🙏🏻
Only thing I could think about when you were describing these people is "I've had those people as my Customers when I worked Front Desk in a Hotel!!" :D You can run away or call the Police if they come to your house, but when they are Guests in the Hotel, you have to deal with their madness on a daily basis!
😂👊🙌
Have any of you experienced this? It's very hard to live with.
Thank you, I was waiting for this one because I have had this ongoing since 2018 due to an affair and it reminded me of the resentful. It gets more complex when it involves more people. I have also heard stories of therapists who did not get the chance to renew and report violations. She lost her life. I think of her often.
You're welcome! I'm glad this was helpful.
And I totally agree it gets worse when it is more people involved. I will be talking about "gang stalking" too.
Yes,it has been going on for quite some time.It is very difficult,I barely leave my home.
@@Geeya6 valid I really suggest check in systems and potentially depending on what you treatment providers say ask about if a service dog could provide tasking. I have been a handler for two~ years and it has changed my quality of life.
😔 I'm sorry Jade.
I HAD TO TAKE OUT A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST MY EX-BOYFRIEND AND MOVE OUT OF STATE TO GET AWAY FROM HIM.😢
@@nancywilson346 😎😎
Very helpful, Doctor. Thank You! Dealing with it is a really tough dance, especially when unsure if the cause/soutce of the behavior is rooted in personality pathology or in a neurodevelopmental condition (ie, ASD), the latter of which, I think, calls for a more careful approach. Yet, boundaries must be respected.
Great Stuff, Doctor Hill! Thank You!
... TD, Boston
Thank you! And you're welcome.
I like your reasoning on this. There may be a neurodevelopmental component to some of these cases for sure. And individual who is on the autism spectrum may not understand social cues well and push boundaries without thinking twice about the repercussions or how the other person may perceive this (lack of ToM - theory of mind or empathy).
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank You, Doctor! Your confirmatory statement is quite valuable to me here.
Love Your Channel! Glad I found it.
Best, TD, Boston
🥰 thank you
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank YOU!
Blessings Tamara! 💯
Thank you! God bless you!🤗
Is a "friend" a stalker when they email daily, seeking attention? I always try to discourage or slow his attempts down. Your video puts a new spin on my situation, thank you!
This was very informative and helpful, thank you!
You're welcome!! Very glad this is helpful.
I think that I’m being stalked by my uni teacher, it’s about 1 year now. I don’t know what to do honestly. It’s not the first time I’m being stalked but this time it’s really really scary. I don’t have any physical evidences because he just follows me and acts creepily only when we’re alone. I talked about that to my closed ones, they either find that romantic, or just say that he doesn’t know how to tell me that he’s interested. That’s really exhausting..
At this point I even think I’m being crazy, like all of this it’s not even happening..
I absolutely get you and I don’t think you‘re crazy! If your gut feeling tells you there is something off, then there definitely is something off! I have someone acting obsessive (not yet full stalker mode) with me too (old man) and it’s very creepy and due to my social anxiety I won‘t leave the house sometimes.
How are you doing now? Have you found a solution?
I wish you would talk about the stranger/stalker . I am dealing with one who I casually talked for about 15 minutes while we were waiting for a city bus about 6 months ago. I only know his first name. He believes we had a relationship. He was able to find out places I go. I was very direct and he got mad and disappeared for a while. However his delusions seem to ebb and flow. And lately he has been trying to find out wear I live. Is this kind of person a potential danger to me? What do I do to protect myself? I should mention everytime he tries to engage with me he looks like he has regressed quite noticeably. Like he is falling apart
I'm sorry Laura. That's frightening.
Please see my most recent videos on stalking. If you check the playlist area, you can find the series I did. May be helpful to you. I do speak a lot about the stranger who becomes the stalker. Please be safe moving forward. I suggest psychotherapy for yourself --- if you aren't in it already -- to help you navigate your safety, thoughts, and feelings.
Thank you for this video. I'm currently being stalked by 2 people. Who are but have mental illness un treated. I have reposted this on my channel.❤
What is frustrating is that those who are closest to them, minimize this person who does not have social graces or even manners . Their intrusive in my case their woman is remarried for 10 yrs, but is bugged because her ex and I like each other. She has no social appropriatenesses. She’s actually out of line.
Can you make a video on how to keep from stalking if you have been rejected? My last breakup was really hard on me and I fell into the trap of internet stalking my ex and becoming extremely obsessive. I was already obsessive in the relationship but now I had the added bonus of rejection on top of that. I am fairly young and am still getting accustomed to being rejected when it comes to romantic relationships. Please help lol.
TLDR: How to stop internet-stalking your ex or anyone you're interested in?
This portion is very important. I also had this experience and it's very malicious* because the person had lacked boundaries. I realized this comment sounded insensitive because I didn't finish my thought. I think that it really depends on how bad the person boundaries are / how bad they are at respecting the need for space. I forgot about this comment til it was hearted.
I'm sorry to hear this Imani but glad you are acknowledging it. I find that obsessive behaviors are often fueled by the absence of something on the inside of the person obsessing. When you love someone you don't stalk them. You don't obsess over them unless you feel there is still something there you deserve or you want. That's understandable to a certain extent. But visiting their social media, checking online for their activities, ruminating over them, fantasizing that they will want you back, are all deep seeded issues on the part of the one longing. I can certainly talk about this during this talking series. I will be talking about this next Sunday.
@@TherapistTamaraHill thank you. I’ve had a huge problem with this and I definitely need help
I've been there. Someone once told me that "you think you can't live without that person, but you can". That, my faith and learning about codependency and love addiction helped me so much.
@@icedcocoa221 Yep. I pray that you continue to be strong in the Lord in Jesus name.
It is creepy. I had to move out my home state.
That's terrible. I'm sorry.
This is never easy to deal with because your entire life has been uprooted. I had a client like this 5 years ago and the only hope for her life was to move across the nation. Boundaries and barriers are sometimes your only hope.
I have a stalker, and a federal whistleblower, so in retaliation the court refuses to help, what can I do?
The person who stalked me was actually the one who discarded me,in other words, a vindictive and narcissistic ex. That ex even sent friends and acquaintances to check in on me, sending me pics and asking me random questions. One of them assaulted me after having befriended me on the pretext of friendship. These people are quite sick. It has been going on for eight years.
What is it called when you have a family member stalking ,like a mother who wants total control of me creates turmoil in my life.
Emotional incest
What I'm dealing with is someone playing psychological games whenever I am minding my business trying to shop online. I want to know who because it's to the point of looking around for lawyers, even considering taking out a loan just to get it to stop.
Thank You!
You're welcome!
Absolutely stupendous, Thank you so much for this Tamara, You have immense understanding, Peace, love, Respect to you and everyone, Thank you universe 🌲🌝🐶👁🐉♘🌚💜🌈😃😃🐎😇😍🦄🌹🌷👽❤😊🌌💚🕊💙
By chance do you have any videos on codependency?
Yes, my most recent video th-cam.com/video/1nC4ZlhZuj8/w-d-xo.html.
When you are a whistle blower you get multiple stalking
Thank u.
You're welcome
I had cyberstalking by women, I caught them trying to find my address and meet me. It was on an online forum, and they took umbridge, because I blocked them on social media. A woman in the group told me and sent me a screenshot. She could have saved my life/social drama. I kept the screenshot and reported them to website and police. Conspiracy to stalking doesn't seem to be taken seriously
The (possible?) stalker that I’m dealing with right now, is a workplace. He only comes in when I’m working. He’ll walk around, mostly staring at me. He’s asked if I know when the police routes end. (I live in a smaller town, so there’s not many officers). He’s confronted a coworker of mine and wanted to know if he was my boyfriend.
He’s asked a different coworker what time he works, day, nights, etc. (I work mostly nights, but it changes). I started wearing a ring, with my boyfriend’s encouragement, and it didn’t deter him. He still will come in and stare. He’s asked my coworker for my number. And when he found the same coworker on a website, he tried to have a very very vulgar conversation with her.
My mom thinks I’m paranoid and that I should see the whole picture. And that he’s probably not only coming in when I work.
Mine is my elderly neighbour. He watches me all the time going out coming home. If i leave my back door unlocked he comes in while I'm not home I installed a camera and he comes into my home walks around goes in my bedroom paces up and down my hall way.
He 76 yrs old a few years ago I confronted him and got called many names befriended my neighbour between him and me and spread lies about me so I started talking to him to stop it all and its got worse. I have him on camera pacing around my house what do I need to do ?
Stocker's also want to get you alone right they want to make sure people around you aren't witnessing them stalking you right
My stalker is online and creates various channels even after youtube deletes his channel for violating community guidelines. He creates new channels to keep stalking me and is obsessed with my relationship and my life.
That's very frustrating I'm sure. I"m not sure how you can see that he is making channels to follow you. If you can prove he is doing this (with firm evidence), TH-cam may be able to track him and hold him accountable in other ways.
@@TherapistTamaraHill he keeps tagging me in his videos, that's how I know he has returned. It's like he wants to intimidate me and he wants me to know he is back.
I was so happy when youtube terminated his account for violation of community guidelines because he was creating a lot of videos and spreading rumors of me being a prostitute. I had no idea he was making up such lies until I had people commenting on my channel that he was spreading those lies. I think he feels rejected and is looking for petty revenge on me. He is very obsessed over my relationship and my life. My fiance is white and he watches all my videos and my posts. He hates black women who are in relationships in interracial relationships and he has previously complimented me on my channel before he started all this crazy behaviour.
He has even said he will create new channels if this new one gets deleted. I don't know what to do and I'm genuinely concerned. I have proof I have screenshotted everything. I have screenshots of him tagging me repeatedly and him saying he will create a new channel.
after listening to this video, seems after a while the victim is also going to be accused of these behaviors of paranoid and defensive behaviors, so how would you tell when someone who is victim to this for long periods of time, and police will see this behavior in them as well as those who are doing the stalking?
Thanks Tamara, I am in Australia. I am not going to counselling - I want my local government representatives to deal with the problem of my neighbours anti social behaviour. He is apparently already receiving counselling and his psychological issues are not to be bled into my world so some counsellor can make an income. I am wanting the mental health system to have an accountability loop.
Thank you for this information 👍👍👍❤️🧸❤️
You are so welcome😊
I’m a therapist and have one too. I’m not even seeing the public anymore. Many are good people, but enough think therapists are their punching bag to show their tail. I’m really particular with who I see.
Hi there, I don't blame you to be honest. I too am very particular about who I take into my practice. We live in a very unsettled and dysfunctional world and sometimes those we treat are a direct result of that. This pushes most professionals in the field to be wise with the people they see.
I recently moved. The man that lives beside me watching everything I do. I can't go into the yard or to the store without him watching me. I went to the store this morning and he pulled up and parked beside me a couple spaces over. I froze, sat there and finished my drink. As I was getting out of the car he drove off. I think he's stalking me. I don't know what to do.
That's what he told me "you never said that, you crazy lady" like a gas lighting . My animals are dead and the police aren't much help.
Do you have cameras on your property? Lights , motion lights,etc?
There comes a time to try to ….make it harder for them.
Do not allow your animals outside. Bolt lock your doors.Make sure your window are hard to get into.
I have been stalked for a decade. They thinks it’s fine and I believe they view it as a game and retaliation.
These ppl are sick even if they can’t see it for themselves. Do everything you can to protect yourself and your property.
Carry pepper spray.
My situation is a case of stalking and coercive control (monitoring, attempts at control and intimidation and inducing fear).
These ppl are the types- they will kill if they go off the rails enough.
Document, file written police reports, name them in the police reports if you know or even suspect.
Do not allow LE to invalidate your experience or minimize it.
So many don’t report it. Report it!
Love your content!ll
Thanks so much!
I have had a stalker for a year and a half now. They have texted me and my family members on multiple occasions, different numbers. Talking about my deceased mother and other information about my family. My number and address posted online. Feces in my mailbox. Have made multiple facebook accounts to contact me and share my families photos. Used to comment on mine and share my photos until i changed my privacy settings. Sometimes makes account pretending to be my mother and contacts me.
My stalker also never can type correctly, always typos.
I cut someone off on Facebook recently, and that was the only contact the person had of me, I didn't explicitly say I am cutting it off, but it was pretty obviously implied. The person, keeps on googling me and seeking other contacts of me and keeps on reaching and getting in touch, while it's obvious I am not replying, the person tried to reach out 3 times in the past 10 months, so it's not like very often, but still annoying, since I want nothing to do with it, I wonder is this also considered stalking?
Hi Rachel, this is also considered stalking for sure. It doesn't matter what you say or don't say, if it is implied that you are not interested then the person should get that. However, there are some individuals who do not understand things that are "implied" and may act based on their own limited understanding. For example, those with autism spectrum disorders may miss those subtle cues. Highly immature and emotionally reactive individuals may also be the same way. If you have to, you can tell them to stop contacting you and if they do, that's grounds to get the law involved.
I disagree with just ghosting or blocking someone you had a relationship or friendship with if they haven’t been cruel or abusive to you..
I’m of the belief that if you want to end a friendship with someone you do it kindly and clearly so there are no misunderstandings and treat the person the way you would want to be treated..even if they have anxious attachment issues like I do..especially then I would say..Ignoring a person like that instead of having a conversation with them will often make things worse for them, not better and send them into extreme depression and then they’ll be more likely to stalk to seek closure and confused about whether you really cared or not 😢
We can’t just ghost people and then say they should’ve just taken the hint and that they are immature otherwise..
That is cruel and to me signifies the blocker/ghoster lacks empathy for my feelings and didn’t care about me despite anything they said previously..
That being said most emotionally healthy people are not going to get to the point of stalking someone who rejected them even like that but a few messages or asking for proper closure would be entirely reasonable..
I get that it’s uncomfortable for the person who wants to break up or end a friendship to have that discussion with somebody but ending things on good terms if possible and if safety is not an concern, I believe is the right thing to do..I would want that for myself and I would want to give that peace of mind to another..
I got blocked by someone who had said lovely compliments to me when I got way too emotionally attached to him..
I am still dealing with the pain of that..
I feel that he should not have led me on the way he did if he wasn’t feeling it but at the same time i acknowledge I have serious attachment issues..
I understood he didn’t like me anymore because of my neediness but it would have been a lot easier for me to get over if he’d given me a few minutes of closure and understanding of my feelings..
And this is why I hate it when people think ghosting or just blocking others without a conversation is ok because I have experienced it first hand and it hurts like hell 😰
And Racel, I can’t tell you what to do when it comes to this guy.. but if your safety is not at risk, like Tamara suggested, maybe you can reach out to him to tell him that you’re not interested and that you don’t wish to have further contact but please be kind and wish him well and that your sorry he’s hurting but that you just want this to be over so you both can move on because it’s not good for either of you..
I think that might actually help him stop messaging you because it will show him you at least value him as a human being and you also then won’t be bothered by him anymore hopefully..
That’s just my humble opinion..
Now if this person doesn’t stop after that then you have already done your part and gave clarity in a kind way and then you can get the authorities involved if you need to..
Actually I see it’s been 11 months since you commented here so maybe he stopped messaging already or you had a conversation with him and it’s not an issue for either of you anymore..
I'm curious. Was this guy Canadian?
That is kinda what is going on with me someone caused me to loose my house but I was the one she was trapping in the house! That was psycho! Her mom helped too ! They do mortgage fraud scams as well so maybe it’s a mental health issue with these mortgage fraudsters ! They have been trying to kick people out of houses ! It’s DISTURBING! I’m trying to understand it ! It’s kinda finically abusive as well ! I’m studying it because I got taken advantage of really bad and I took some psychology courses in college so it could be schizophrenia that my stalkers have but YES it started by her coming into my house and taking over my possessions! I’m trying to understand this !
Cut two sisters off now they stalk and harass me all over social media it’s sick and disturbing making up all kinda fake scenarios and lies on fake pages I’m so over these women wish they’d move on
Yes I’m dealing with
rejected/resentful stalkers when I want nothing to do with them and they wanna punish me for that and keep saying they don’t care but continue to harass & stalk relentlessly🥴
So my stalker thinks he is in love with me. I think he is intimacy seeking. But he also hates rejection and he understands my body language but ignores it. He know I didn’t like him but keeps trying and trying.
Guys and girls need to be taught in schools about how to deal gracefully with rejections and move on. I am a guy, i thought I loved a girl deeply, I got rejected after initial meetings. I couldn't move on, it's been 7-8 years. I contacted her two times on social media in these 8 years and got blocked. luckily I was self aware so i stopped myself from stalking her. Us will never happen, and that's the truth. I wish somebody could have taught me this in my early years, i wouldn't have texted her back even those two times. Recently a guy with whom i interacted just once like 8 years back, is texting me with different number cause i blocked him earlier.
He texted me 2 years back too, i blocked
him then also. And now I am feeling uncomfortable that how much that person must be obsessed with me to remember for so long. I am also sad that, if my college crush see me again, she might feel uncomfortable because of me. I can't even apologize cause that's again like contacting her(stalking). It's so bad. I really think it should be taught in schools at early-stage to our kids.
I'm being stalked and they posioned my animals. They are incompetent and pyscho.
My husband is a therapist and his female client is stalking him and made a claim they were in a sexual relationship to his director and he is now on administrative leave while they investigate. How worried should we be and what can we do about it????
I'm sorry to hear this. This is so so tough on an innocent therapist. We play such an intimate role with clients that some may push the boundary by lying, manipulating, or lashing out in some fashion.
I'm happy to offer a consultation if needed. But with the little details I have, I can say that it's best to have really good documentation (progress notes, call logs, comments, beginning and end times of sessions with this client, etc.) as evidence of proper boundary keeping. There's no real way of determining what to expect. Boards make decisions in favor of the client all the time and that's because they serve them and not the therapist. So it really depends. I wish you both the best. Hang in there. This is a tough one I'm sure.
@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you, he meets with them beginning of this week. If we decide to contact you for your consult, how do we go about doing that?
You're welcome. feel free to email me contact@anchoredinknowledge.com or my office 4127102966.
Hang in there
Thank you 😊
Like with my ex, they don't really "want" you, and my no to this person did not relate to them as a person, I just knew he was not the type of person I was suited to. I am currently experiencing magnified trauma responses in relation to my exes family, whilst having an OLDER, very tall, but damaged male next door.
Can a person be a rejected stalker when they are in love with your husband and show up whereever he goes starts working at his work comes into your house unannounced and starts drama by approaching your husband or other family members to cause drama for you(the wife).
Absolutely. That's why he/she is doing it! They are rejected and some people want to keep pushing to see if they can "knock down" those walls.
I once knew a woman who was cyber stalking her ex husband whom she has been divorced from for 25 years and he has been remarried for 23 years. He lived In a different state and her goal was to get to that state and have him tell her to back off in person. He hadn't spoken one word to her since their divorce. She literally had know clue on how relationships worked.
Thank you for your videos. Not sure if you have covered this form of stalking or if it falls under one of the types you discussed - stalking based on a person's identity. For example, I think i maybe being stalked and harassed based on my perceived ethnicity. Unfortunately, I have to deal with lots of harassing phone calls that call and hangup or sit there heavy breathing etc. There have also been some other things but I don't feel comfortable sharing them publicly. It is very scary. Perhaps, if you haven't yet discussed this form of stalking you could address this topic.
Ok, I meet a little older female who wants to tell me her stories. I am interested, because she sounds fun. We arrange to meet and I rearrange my weekend. I arrive where I said I would meet her - and yes I was running late. She was not there, but my stalky neighbour who had been hanging around the front letter box was. He and other neighbours were the only people sitting outside at this local pub. I waited and waited for her - I stayed out of the way until they left. She did not turn up. I am still confused - as it is a very small town, whether this was an arranged meeting - him instead of the other person being there - or just a coincidence. I am still upset - as the "tune in" effect, creating a sense as if I should be just moving towards them naturally. AND he is very unattractive to me. I perceive a sense of tune in that should not be there.
What do I do about gang stalking?? These people followed me from another complex I'm hearing these people have rights that they can be there if they want to so I'm assuming that I will be moving again
Hellow Tamara.. i have been watched or stalked. Its a second time it happens...last time was in 2021 and this year is towards the end of jan.as we speak i am scared for my life.cz it's been crazy
I'm so sorry Wilson. That's traumatizing to say the least. I hope you have time for rest as you "fight" this battle.
I am Married… what if my stalker is a Clairvoyant, she has over stepped her [[[[[ Boundaries]]]]] in our neighbor hood… what do I do ???
Or, the individual who, when you rejected him, he will threaten that he is “revengeful, ruthless”, he “will get into your jobs” and he will say he “was your lover”😱 which he did. All of these. Nobody believed the victim’s story, they all believed the stalker.
Mine calls my family and brought them into things even tho I told him "friend zone"... He heard something more and got his feelings hurt. So now he's running around trying to triangulate me with my mother.
That's a tough dynamic to manage. I'm sorry.
What would happen if you started getting super clingy to your stalker? Like, annoyingly clingy and desperate? Do you think they would lose interest? Thats my theory, anyway.
Yes lol they hate this
it's me, lol i can't understand social cues at all
i did stalking someone on twitter because they have been "fake" to me like why would they hide their true colors? always makes me the bad guy lol, now i hate them and i do not want to check them out again ew even tho they have been asking my sistars and thier turned them on me and now i'm stuck her whenever i try to explain to them (my sisters) they'll not believe me at all and always makes me "lying" whenever i chat with them, what should i do?
I think I am ugh
Acknowledgement is key. I'm glad you can recognize that.
It's been such a nightmare and they never get help,held responsibility for so much crime ,i ask our system takes this more serious,they can be caught but i pray stop ✋️ blaming the person being victimized, my situation became more than 1 person and they robbed 😢 me so much ,you all may not believe but by the time they followed me for near 20 years over a million dollar's, they don't care they like to take everything things that can not be sold but like a lifetime of photography and they cant be replaced,also death of pet's, i have heard a judge give him permission to come in the house i was,rented 24/7 a landlord has to follow rules and laws like we do as a,tenant, please know they have killed others,I ask for this demonic activity to be held with priority
I wonder how many men are killed by their stalkers and how many women are killed by their stalkers.
It was a handker Irene don’t stress yourself he was the one sending my pictures to all the perps now I know how you used gos I think this what I stated in my vidie this moring
Now I know who he sent. Got cha you think we did not look this stuff up
I need someone help my ex boyfriend sister and stepdad won't Quit stalking me with vr ar reality I'm being harassed. Bullied and tormented
What did you do? Did they stop?
Controlling behavior comes from a very insecure individual being scared of letting go
The weirdos and they're crazy lol😂
I'm going to say that the numbers are not accurate because I am speaking from experience because my ex wives are stalking me and have law enforcement on their side with gaslighting and using the fact that I had an addiction issue when I was younger and now no one listens to anything I say because I'm just a tweaker and he's probably using again and have had bosses tell me that my ex came to talk to them by and cost me jobs.
This stalker is really some kind of psycophatic abnormal behavior in the head u know
I dnt get why r thy following ang stalking other ppl,it is weird and abnormalities
And then thy manipulate the situation..the TI is bad coz we take pictures of them following us it's sooo unfair
Who knows what my handker name was now I know what I was sending ng this moring yes diver GMC foot stopping Gangstalking He was the one running illegal activities
Against me the primary Aumbulance I saw this moring on Bradley ave he ewas a perp driving it don’t take pictures of them if he us a handker the coos can’t go after him anyway he might needed a girlfriend from time time
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