an honest life update | Vlogmas Day 1
ฝัง
- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 พ.ย. 2023
- green sherpa rvlv.me/veY5uk
FOLLOW ME
instagram: @gretchengeraghty bit.ly/3bn9u13
tiktok: @gretchengeraghty bit.ly/3ITkGaa
podcast: apple.co/3drvucx
-------------------------------------------------------------------
amazon storefront www.amazon.com/shop/gretcheng...
revolve favorites rvlv.me/vhnh4H
-------------------------------------------------------------------
liquid iv (code GRETCHENGERAGHTY for 25% off) bit.ly/32E1wPF
my bed bit.ly/3qGgHBw
bedroom rug bit.ly/3XEJJC1
living room rug bit.ly/3ZDlFBd
office rug bit.ly/3ISm3pm
office couch bit.ly/3GFnlBs
dining table bit.ly/3ZDfZad
kitchen runner bit.ly/3CRZCwI
olive branches amzn.to/2JqhSF5
my vacuum amzn.to/3lxeBRv
fav mascara go.magik.ly/ml/130vt/
fav chapstick go.magik.ly/ml/gzok/
fav self tanner go.magik.ly/ml/d0fw/
-------------------------------------------------------------------
equipment
canon g7x camera amzn.to/2JkxwBZ
canon m50 camera amzn.to/3GD96gw
tripod amzn.to/36xR5Q0
iphone tripod amzn.to/3XELWgN
editing itunes.apple.com/us/app/final...
-------------------------------------------------------------------
For business inquiries please contact:
contact@tablerockmanagement.com
xoxo,
Gretchen - แนวปฏิบัติและการใช้ชีวิต
I’ll never forget when you sent money for my golden retrievers TLPO surgery. My family and i still talk about it and just how kind you were, especially when you didn’t have to. I hope you feel better Gretchen ❤❤❤
awwwww love you Haley!! 🥹💓
Omg I love seeing this kindness in people!! A lot of the times I feel like there is no kind people anymore so it makes me really happy that people care about others and help eachother!!! Happy holidays
Dear Gretchen, please, give yourself permission to feel like this. Growing pains don't end with puberty, needing a community only becomes more important as you get older, missing your dad will always be there... It's life! Things don't disappear, you just get better at dealing with them. The very good news is you've identified the things that bring you happiness: helping others, having friends, working out, feeling in tune with your body, your family... that is incredibly important. Find your doctor, get moving, take care of yourself, connect with others... incredible things are ahead, you'll see. Big hug
needed this, love you❤
In the beginning of the video when you talked about getting out of your own head by serving others.. damn that got me. I kept saying DAMN. So real. So right. I really needed that. Thank you Gretchen! And side note, I don’t remember what video it was from a couple years ago where you were talking about positive affirmations or something like that where you said it was a mindset change to say “I GET to do… x, y, z.” It is something I still think of and have it on my wall calendar. I love that you have such a big heart and this is why I watch your videos ❤
@@GretchenGeraghty7 you are incredibly RESILIENT . Look at what you have accomplished and overcome! And, no matter what, you have a community of nearly 400K people that you have built. You're never alone, lean on us! Can't wait to see how, once again, you turn this into personal growth and opportunities. ❤
I feel compelled to say this, because my therapist said it to me when I was feeling stuck in a really horrible apartment: You don’t have to be stuck here, you can break your lease & loose some money if you regain your happiness. You have a good job & a remote job & the ability to move freely. So I think you should be open to the possibility of being flexible & not feel like you have to stay just because of your lease. Especially since Max isn’t there as much as y’all thought he would be. I ended up breaking my lease after 3 months & found a new place that was 1000x better! Trust your gut girlie, and don’t make yourself suffer 💗💗💗
Gretchen - you deserve to be happy 🫶 please don’t force yourself to stay in a new place where you feel lonely and discontent if you don’t have to. You just bought such a beautiful home to call your own, maybe you should spend most of your time on the Cape or back in Boston and just drive or fly to see max every few weeks during the season! There is no shame in that. It’s so sweet for you to follow max as he chases his dreams, but don’t lose sight of yourself and your own needs in the process ✨ you are loved!
honestly gretch, i think max will support you in anything you decide whether that's going to Boston while he's away and you visit him/long distance for a little or something else. your happiness comes first
How does Max feel about this? Remember you should not keep compromising your life. You got a home in his home town, moved for hockey. No human being can continuously make these compromises for a partner. You need to put yourself first and have serious conversations with Max. Is his hockey career worth your mental health, is living with him right now worth it? Don’t consume yourself with being the perfect partner. Also just a Google a doctor, read the reviews. It shocks me when influencers say they haven’t been to the doctors in years. It’s important to deal with that stuff early and catch any thyroid or other health issues. Do things for yourself❤ I’m hoping you feel better soon
Agreed. She compromises alot for Max's hockey carer and is feeling it without wanting to really feel it. Maybe stay at the cape house or Boston near friends and see max for long weekends every other week.
@@deloresredman4792she can’t. She’s too codependent
Gretchen, you are one of the most authentic influencers out there and you mean so much to us all. Don’t be hard on yourself, I lost my mom when I was in high school and it’s been 24 years and yet it seems like yesterday. She was the rock of our family and I completely understand how your feeling, it will always seem like yesterday. Your dad is always with you and he is looking down at you and must be so proud of you! Give yourself some credit you are stronger thank you think and can get through anything life throws at you. Sending hugs and luv your way❤ surround yourself with those you love. 💕
As a 29 year old I can tell you this… sometimes you have to sit in your emotions there’s nothing wrong with that. Max is an amazing partner and he will be there through whatever you decide to do. He loves you! I think going where you can visit family and friends often is important, and you can always come down to see max. Just think that it’s only temporary and these feelings won’t last forever. You’re doing the damn thing. My fiancé he tells me to look in the mirror and name 3 things you love about your body. Because of this I can now sit in the mirror and name things positive about myself, and if I feel down I will discuss openly with him, my dad and best friend. Journaling, reading, working out and getting out as much as possible gets me out of a funk. Your make up looks so pretty in this video! Love the jacket too ❤ keep your head up I will keep you in my prayers.
I was a military wife (my husband is a reservist now, so no longer active duty), so I completely understand what it’s like to move for your partner. I’ve always found volunteer work - whether at an animal shelter or assisted living - so beneficial and rewarding! The elderly loved spending time with younger people and they oftentimes feel lonely too, so it’s a wonderful experience to give back! Also, having friends visit, making plans for the future, talking to someone, and even going home when you’re feeling low is always helpful. When my husband got stationed to DC (during Covid and I had a remote job- and he had to report into work), I went “home” for a couple months at a time. And he would come and visit. Relationships are all about compromise. Lean on each other and figure out what’s best for you guys. And mental health is no joke, so don’t bury these feelings. Wishing you love and positivity! And hello from CC :)
Your feelings about your dad don’t have to be better. You are allowed to feel sad whenever you want and however long you want. He is your DAD.
Second comment because one thing that has really stuck with me is the saying that “grief isn’t linear” -it can pop up at any time at any intensity and that is okay, normal, and you are so valid in your grieving process ❤️ your dad sounds so special, thank you for sharing your memories of him with us
in tears with you during the part of you talking about your dad. I lost my dad in 2019 as well and while that was 4 years ago, i swear the pain makes it feel like yesterday and then all of sudden your world flips upside down. go easy on yourself, be kind (things I am still reminding myself everyday). thank you for being so open with your grieving journey. I have been following you since your time at BU & our dads past just a few months apart. i sort of feel like we have been on this grieving journey together. you have helped me more than you know - thank you
Cried watching this, I’m sure everyone can relate to at least one of the things you’re going through. Thank you for being so vulnerable, sending love and support your way ❤❤❤
I’ve recently been struggling with a lot in life and feeling lonely. This talk helped me feel not alone, thank you Gretchen! More doors will open, we love you!
Never feel like you should not be sad because it has been a certain amount of time! I lost my dad 17 years ago and I still have days where I will spend literally the entire day crying because I miss him! I promise you are not alone and you do not have to guilt yourself into thinking you shouldn’t feel as sad anymore ❤
Cried along with you especially when talking about losing your Dad. The holidays are so difficult. I am in my 50’s and just lost my Mom in September. Lost my Dad in 2010. You are allowed to grieve and feel sad. There is no time limit. Give yourself grace sweetie. I think you have had a lot of changes and I’m sure you miss Max and your family and friends. Cherish every moment with them. You have lots of love and support. Sending love and big hugs to you and Brody. 🫶🫶🫶🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
As far as missing your dad… I lost my dad (similar to your story, randomly and we were SO close) when I was 16 - which is 11.5 years ago - and I STILL have soooo many moments where I miss him. Unfortunately it never goes away (even though, I promise, it gets less horrible - if that makes sense). But you shouldn’t beat yourself up about that.. cry, be mad, laugh, talk to everyone about him (as you can) cause those memories deserve to live on! That’s how I’ve kind of evolved in my thoughts about it. Every time I share a memory it’s like I’m honoring him and spreading his joy and love to everyone. 😊 Hang in there Gretchen! You’ll get through this crazy time of your life!!
Through this whole video, I kept thinking “that makes so much sense.” Gretchen, I would be so overwhelmed too with all that uprooting and change. You have 100% permission to feel how you feel. A whole bunch of us on here love you like family. No matter what, you will always be on the right path because your heart is golden. 💛
gretchen, you are such a genuine, sweet, level headed person. watching you for years now, i have always appreciated how REAL you are. you have the biggest heart. i am so sorry life has had you down lately. remember things always look up! so grateful YOU do what you do. because you bring me and so many others so much joy, truly. praying for you & wishing you the best ❤️
Aw Gretchen I just wanna give you a big hug!!! I feel for you so much and I just want to say- never forget how strong you are for getting to the point that you are today, you’ve accomplished so much and you’re amazing! Everything in your life that has happened has shaped you into the amazing person that you are today. Keep your head up high pretty girl and I hope you have a wonderful holiday season! ❤
Home is where your heart is, and your heart is with your people Gretchen! Go spend time with your people 💗
Picture it
You're 60 years old watching this video, and you would give anything to be back in the same body again, with the same hair and clothing size you have now, lol. When you are 50, you would love to be your 40 year old self again. When you are 40, you would love to be 30 again. The key here..embrace your current age and all that you are today. You are beautiful every day, no matter the age or year. In your 20s, you still have the idea of being young, but know aging is around the corner. Remember how much you would love to be this current version of you, later in life. Then, smile, knowing how perfect you actually are. ❤
I lost my dad in 2015 and it’s still incredibly painful. Especially like you said around holidays and special occasions, but even more so with an upcoming wedding. I can’t go to a wedding without sobbing after seeing the father daughter dance or them giving a speech about their little girl. It’s a pain that will never go away, but to me that just shows how much they meant to us and what a beautiful place they had in our lives. ❤
Oh babe I just want to give you the longest hug. Everything in this video I resonate with. I have also lost a parent and the holidays are so different. Love you Gretchen 💕
I want to say I’ve been here since your high school days, and I’ve always seen you as a big sister❤ you’re doing amazing no matter what your brain is telling you! Seeing the “not so fun” parts of your life makes you human! Everyone has struggles and you should never feel like you aren’t entitled to your feelings! Sending love!
Gretchen, your vulnerability and authenticity is so incredible. I can relate so much to the difficulty with “transition periods” and even listening to this video for a bit is so helpful. It feels like talking to a good friend :) thank you for being you and being so transparent about feeling lost. Everything settles out with time and allowing yourself to feel all the feels is the only way through it.
I’m crying a river here with you talking about your dad 😭 you’re so entitled to miss him to whatever extent you want for the rest of your life! He sounds like such an incredible person and that loss will never matter any less 🩷🩷
I’m 26 and I feel like we’re all feeling lost here so you’re not alone. It’s a weird time. But I was dying because you said it felt like it was just August and then at the end you said “no more tears the rest of August.”😂😂 HAPPY VLOGMAS IM HERE FOR THE RIDE. Give Brody my love 💗
Honestly, Gretchen, I'm so proud of you for just spilling your guts. We're human, no matter how many followers you have online your human, and everything you're feeling is valid. I can't wait for more vlogmas videos to come. Please enjoy your holidays as well. Do not stress about having to pick up the camera. Take in the moments and if you feel like there's something you want to share you do that! I love you dearly! 🤍
Hi! Sending you so much love! I lost my dad and all the feelings you are experiencing are so so valid. The holidays are hard but I promise it becomes more manageable. Lots of love for you ❤
Gretchen! I have been following you for what feels like forever now. When you initially made content surrounding grief I hadn’t encountered it yet, and now that I’ve lost two people very close to me i rewatched your videos and content surrounding grief and it made me feel less alone in what felt like such an isolating experience. I also have been feeling extra emotional and fatigued lately and made the realization that the holidays don’t feel the same without the people we have lost and the grief we carry with us daily becomes extra heavy during this time. Please be patient with yourself and give yourself the same grace you extend to others. Be around the people you love and do not feel like you have to explain yourself to anyone. Grief is something that affects everyone differently and it’s such an intense experience. Sending you a virtual hug and much love. Thank you for being so vulnerable and real it definitely does not go unnoticed and you are helping more people than you know! ❤️🩹
I saw someone else say this but it’s truly the greatest thing I’ve ever heard in my struggle with grief. “Grief is not linear,” I lost my dad in August of 2015 when I was 18, it’s been 8 years and some days it feels like yesterday and I’m devastated, other days it feels like he’s been gone for so long. The holidays are the worst time, but I always do something with my sister that our dad loved the most to keep his memory and those memories alive.
You’re such a kind and wonderful person, Gretchen and I can relate to a lot of what you’re going through, long distance partner, body image, making friends in your late 20s. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing how you’re feeling with us, it’s good to feel like I’m not alone.
Love how you are always honest and open with us. Absolutely love your videos and I can’t wait for vlogmas! Wishing you lots of love and happiness ❤
Gretchen! A lot of what you're feeling and going through parallels so much of what is happening in my life and i'm so grateful that you have the courage to share your life experience with all of us. Hopefully life and 2024 will open up for us and bring us so much happiness, fulfillment, and clarity. I've been along for your journey since I was in middle school and it comforting knowing that we're all just humans experiencing the same stuff but i do hope for more high times. ❤🤗
Post whatever it is that makes you happy and excited during Christmas season❤ don’t do what everyone else is doing-it’s not authentic and it’s a repetitive trend. Happy Gretchen will shine through in whatever you want to share!
i love you so much. i totally relate to this feeling of not loving the place ur at. u literally got me crying at the end. its crazy bc i remember watching u when i was in middle school and now i am in college and seeing everthing u have been through is so inspiring
you should do an angel tree! there is probably one somewhere in your community. You pick a child and then supply them with their necessities and gift wishes!!
The whole video I wish I was there with you to give you a huge hug, love you Gretchen! ❤ I’ve been watching you since you were in high school you got this girl! God is with you!🙏🏼
I just want to give you a big hug Gretchen. Been here for what seems like forever and what you are going through is so normal. I have to keep reminding myself of this too as I am feeling the same things. Currently looking for a new job which has been tough, moved to a new city 2.5 yrs ago and now might have to move again depending on job. It’s already been a lot trying to make a new community for myself and the thought of having to do that all over again can be scary. Just keep focusing on the things you love and keep in touch with friends and family. This will pass and you will figure it all out. Keep being the great human you are!
I relate to you so much Gretchen in so many ways. When I travel a lot and have to be in different places for long periods of time for my boyfriends job I get in such a rut too because I love my routine, being in my house I bought about a year ago, etc. I totally understand how you may be feeling. I also think finding a church would be great. When I moved I found one and joined a girls bible study and I feel so good when I’m with them.
Sending you big hugs ❤ it’s just a season and it will pass! xoxo
I’ve been praying for you! I know when I was going through similar feelings, reading the Bible helped a ton. Even if it was a few paragraphs from the very start. It was a turning point in my life 🤍
Hi Gretchen, you are such a beautiful person inside and out and you deserve to be happy and feel comfortable and have a close and loving community.
Sending you, Max, and Brodie happy holiday wishes!! I hope you get to spend time with your family during Christmas!
Finally catching up on vlogmas... I lost my mom in 2016 so when you talk about your dad it hits so close to home. I hope you know that your feelings are completely valid and normal. No matter how long it's been, the feelings are always there and it's so up and down. Just want to say thank you for opening up about this stuff because it makes me feel less alone. I hope you know you always have a community with other people who have lost parents and you are never alone!! Sending you hope and love, Gretchen!! 💓
I want to commend you for being so open & vulnerable! Every year when vlogmas comes around I remember I literally found you on TH-cam vlogmas 2014 🙈 we’ve truly grown up together & I wanted to share that my therapist said to me once that where stress & hair loss are concerned, your hair loss is a result of your stress 3 months prior! It blew my mind & made things make sense to me so I hope it helps! Also I think covid really messed up a lot of our hair
Praying for you sweet girl! I agree with others that joining a church would be lovely! Even joining a small group that meets weekly can kick start some good friendships ◡̈
We love you so much and I’ve always really appreciate you being honest with how you are feeling
I lost my dad when I was 11 and the grief comes in random waves even now at 28 🥺there isn’t a timeline with grief and like you talked about with your wedding coming that’s a huge milestone that is bound to bring up hard emotions so give yourself grace about that but I also know it’s easier said then done but your doing amazing with all the changes you’ve had this year 💖💜💙
Gretchen you’re beautiful inside and out. Feel the emotions you need to feel. And do what’s best for you. Lots of love ❤
thinking of you! you’re my favorite girls girl, stay strong we love you!
gretchen you’re the best!! i haven’t watched the whole video yet but i just wanted to say that i love you and your videos!! you are my comfort youtuber and thank you for doing what you do!! 💗💗💗
Your feelings are so valid Gretchen🤍 my mom passed away in August of 2019, not long after your dad so i understand fully. It’s hard bc it feels like it just happened even though it’s been a few years. You’re never going to not feel their absence and that’s okay. I miss my mom all the time and anytime i need help or something big happens i just think about how she should be here. Don’t ever feel like you need to just forget it or move on, you don’t. You’re allowed to grieve them because they were real and you loved them. Grief is love with nowhere to go. You’re so valid🥺🤍
Lost my grandpa yesterday and it feels so unreal. 💔 Grief is a new feeling to me, but you’re allowed to be sad for the rest of your life. Don’t ever feel bad for that. ❤️
i resonate with you so much about feeling lost - im a military spouse and moving to a new area so often it is scary to be uplifted and put somewhere else, but you have to shift your mindset to see change 🤍 we can throw ourselves a pity party & move on! it’s hard but you got this girl!
I almost couldn’t watch this all the way through because of how much I relate. Thank you for posting this so I know I’m not alone in feeing this way. We’ll make it somehow and you’re not alone 🖤
It’s so normal to feel lost when there’s a lot of changes happening in your life. It’ll get better once you find people you can connect with bc a community really helps. Also your appearance will change when you get older it’s hard but it’s normal (: I’m almost 25 and it’s weird to see even pictures from a year or two ago
I think of you and your dads love every yr Gretchen, & I didn’t even know or meet either of you, but your love for each other touched me so deeply, sending you love❤ your dad must be so proud of the woman you’ve becoming, he’s watching your whole family everyday, no doubt♥️
I think life has had a heavy energy in 2023. You're not alone in how you are feeling. It seems you're going through something really traumatic, particularly between the ages of 27 and 32. It's like a growth spurt, but in life. It's important to recognize that what you're experiencing is normal, though not necessarily pleasant. When you emerge from this period, life tends to make more sense, but it's easy to slip back into a darker space. I believe you need to live where you thrive, even if it's for a short period. Doing so will help you prioritize your mental health. I really loved this video, but it's also sad because I know this period of "growing up" is not easy, not to mention the fact that you've experienced loss. Try joining an online community, or start one for people who might be feeling the same. It fills a void. Keep being transparent and awesome. Sending lots of love and light. Also I would suggest having a life coach. It really helps.
Gretch, I just want you to know that I literally cried with you this whole video. And I needed it more than you know. Life is HARD especially in the late 20s part of it, I never imagined what it would be like and then all of a sudden it’s here. And it’s sure as HELL hard. You are 100% not alone. I also lost my dad in 2019 and the way you speak of him is exactly how I speak of mine. He was my world. So I feel your pain…it’s been 4 years but it most definitely feels like 4 days 😞 and it never gets easier. I hope I run into you one day in Jersey- I would love to just give you a big hug and we can cry and laugh over a glass of wine ❤️
Thank you for sharing your raw feelings. I’m about to be 27 and I am having a lot of the same feelings. It’s really really hard but it’s nice to know someone out there is going through the same thing
Hi Gretchen, my sister and I met Mandy and Ian out in New York last night! It was so nice talking to them briefly and connecting over you! We’ve loved your videos for years and especially resonate with your content around grief about your dad, since we also lost our dad (in 2014)✨❤️❤️
Love you Gretchen 💗 wishing you a warm & loving holiday season
I lost my Mom in 2007 and my Dad in 2017 and it still hurts. It changes but there is no timeline on not being sad or not being mad about it. I’m sure your Dad is proud so just keep moving and do your best!
Love this video and your honesty. As a mother in her mid 30s, from my perspective, these things you’re feeling don’t go away but they become less important. At some point (recently) I just accepted that I have to be more comfortable with myself and how my body has changed. Enjoy the time with your friends and family. Once you start a family of your own, your priorities will naturally change so take the time to do what brings you joy. I also thing this time of year is tough. Perhaps the weather, the stress of keeping up with finances, family, holidays, a city you don’t love is compounding your feelings.
I have never commented on a video but have been watching you for years!! We are the same age and I just moved to Chicago this year for my boyfriend’s job and I have felt every single one of your feelings. I read that it takes 3 years somewhere new to build community so this is all UNFORTUNATELY normal haha. We are not crazy or dramatic or alone in this!!!!!!
In reference to your statement about "where am I supposed to be and what am I supposed to be doing?" - I heard somewhere recently, "What you have is meant for you while it's yours". It's given me a lot of peace in times of uncertainty. You are sooo not alone in this. Sending love!
Like a lot of other subscribers mentioned it’s ok to grieve as I too felt emotional knowing how the holidays are upon us all I was an emotional wreck hugs n 🙏🏻fabulous video
I lost my grandmother is 2018 and it was the most painful thing I have ever been through, and it still feels so fresh. I feel your words about your dad so deeply. She was the person I went to for everything, she was my person. There’s a part of me that will always feel lost, and it’s hard to explain that you didn’t just lose a family member, like almost everyone goes through in this life, but a soulmate. I started watching you around the time you lost your dad, and it was one of the things about you and your channel that stuck with me. It felt like someone was there with me, having that heartache with me. You so are loved and supported by us, and you are certainly not alone ❤
GLB- I just wanna give you a big hug!!!! It is so okay to feel your feelings! Focus on doing what makes you happy. Lean on your support system- Max, Lucy, Taylor, Hannah, Brody, your mom, etc… because they care so much about you & your wellbeing. Take a deep breath; things will get better in time. You’ll find a community & a doctor, so don’t stress! I bet your dad is so proud of you and remember that he’s always with you in anything that you do. It’ll be okay, Gretchen. Love you🫶🏾
manifesting meeting you in Jersey and giving you the biggest hug! finding yourself never has a timeline, grant yourself permission to feel. so much love for you!!
here for you gretchen!! I think the idea of you having a stable place during hockey season (like boston), could be a great idea, especially since you have the flexibility to travel to his games. All things will get better and you'll figure it out!!🥰
Love you Gretchen! Give yourself grace ❤ you brighten so many of your viewers day so I hope this message brightens your day
We love you so so so much G❤️ I’m so sorry I wish I could give you the biggest hug, sending you all the love
one more comment 💗 your feelings are so valid! i haven’t lost a parent yet but it’s okay to still be grieving. don’t believe the lies that your brain makes up! you’ve said that the pain of losing someone never goes away, but it gets “easier” to “deal” with!
but it’s not easy to deal with losing anyone close to you. so it’s okay to still grieve, girl 💗
Your 20’s are really hard. Everyone feels this way. Your situation may be more extreme because you’re always moving and never settled, but trust me, this is so normal. Also- I LOVE your hair toned down like this. It makes your features pop and suits you well ❤
Ugh. Sending you lots of love and hugs. 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼 sad to see you sad. Things will turn up soon!
Gretchen you are such a light!! I read recently in this book called Calling in the One (really good therapy book that is so amazing for an individual whether youre in a relationship or not) said you need to allow yourself to feel negative emotions without judgement and then ask yourself what theyre trying to tell you. Also give yourself some grace!! Youre feeling completely normal things we're all feeling in our upper 20s. I just turned 27 and you are reading my mind. Especially with how Max's season has gone! You two are amazing, I know he will support you in anything you need to do to be your best self and happy. You got this!! Love you endlessly girlie 💙💙 hope you make a trip to Chicago and can run into us girlies there
I’ve been a silent watcher for a long time but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in these feelings. As I watched this, there were multiple points where you described exactly how I’ve felt the last year, especially with moving to a new place and spending so much time alone and it’s so so so hard on top of everything else that life brings. I hope that you are able to find a community there and if not, then you are able to land somewhere with the people and places you love. Hope things get better soon ♥️
Hi Gretchen, I just wanted to tell you that there can't be a time limit on grief, because there isn't one on love. When you love someone, you will always have times when missing them will hurt, and crying for that loss is a healthy outlet for emotion to big to hold inside. Crying is your way of honoring that love and validates that it hurts no matter how much time to passes. As a parent, I hope to be loved and missed by my children when I am gone....it will mean that I did my job right! ❤
Oh my gosh sweetie sending you a big hug 🤗 I always get really sad and emotional during the holidays since my Mom passed away. Hope you find some peace and happiness in your new town
sending buckets of overflowing love.
You are not alone, Gretchen! So many of us women deal with these struggles, but we just don't talk about it - and we SHOULD! Thank you for leading by example and being so vulnerable! You are so loved! We are all cheering you on from afar! You are so beautiful inside and out. You are literally a LIGHT in this dark world. Never forget that! Sending all my love from Wisconsin!
loneliness is not dumb. It is very real. Community is important no matter where you find it from - gym, church, class, job, etc. you are very loved and you are allowed to share your true feelings. we love you!
Gretchen I honestly have been feeling so similar in the last few months. I’m 27 and I have just been feeling out of sorts and out of wack and there is so much pressure to be optimizing your health and time that I just don’t know what to do or where to start. So emotional and weird and also struggling with body image. It feels so cosmic and energetic and out of my control sometimes but hearing you share these things helped me feel not alone. Sending good vibes from Montana ❤
I lost my mom 5 years ago, at 18 years old to metastatic breast cancer. I’m now 23. Losing a parent young is soo hard. Robbed of something you should have had for longer. Holidays can be a weird time for us.
Hugs❤
We love you, Gretchen. We all feel a little lost sometimes. You put into words what I have been feeling or have felt in the past. Please know you are not alone. I’ve always loved the saying, no rain no flowers. Things will get better, hang in there. 🤍
Your feelings are so valid about your hair (which by the way I love the color of it rn!). I had the same exact problem as you a few years ago and it does take a while for it to go back to normal (I’d say 2 years for me) so just know it’s really a waiting game but it will all work out!
Ugh Gretchen girly I FEEL YOU! I was (mentally) exactly where you are about 3 years ago and I felt “insane.” Is what I told everyone. What changed my life was finding my general practitioner. I went online and called around the top google reviewed general practitioners and booked the one with the best reviews and best availability. You’re going to HAVE to wait to get in because it’s a new patient appointment but don’t let that steer you away! It’s SO worth the wait!!!! My GP gave me rec’s for a psychiatrist, got in with a psych, they diagnosed me with ADHD and gave me meds that have changed my life!!!! My psych gave me therapist rec’s and I found a therapist that I love and she has changed my life! All because I waited for that GP appointment two months out. It’s worth it and you WILL get through this! Sending love and light to you, Max, and Brody❤️❤️
I am 24 and I am exactly at the same place as you. I have been going to therapy and my therapist told me “I am a grown man, married for 9 years, with 3 kids and I feel lost still.” Find comfort in the fact we are all trying to figure it out and you are not alone. These are normal stages in life. I think something that has really helped in is a gratitude journal and expanding my spiritually. You got it! Sending hugs 💗
I needed this video sm
Everything you’re feeling is so normal. I have recently moved and am also in the process of trying to get used to a new place and needing to build new relationships. It is hard. I also lost my Mom 18 years ago. I also felt like I shouldn’t have felt so much grief for such a long time and I still struggle with it too. It is ok to feel all the things that you are
I totally understand all your feelings about your hair. I used to have long thick healthy hair and it's slowly been thinning and breaking for years now. When I look in the mirror I don't recognize myself. I know people say "it's just hair" but I feel like as woman hair is such a big part of us whether you want short or long or blonde or red or blue and feeling like you can't control it or fix it is such a hard feeling.
I totally am in the same spot w grief rn!! Getting married next week & lost my grandma (my best friend) in 2020, have always missed her but during wedding planning had so many big cries because it made me miss her so much more and I just kept imagining what’d she say and do if she were still here. Grief is awful during big life events but know that’s normal and it doesn’t matter whether the loss was last week or 10 years ago, hits hard all the same! Sending u so much love ❤
Gretchen! I am a couple of years younger than you and have watched you since you were in high school and I was in middle school. I always looked up to you for how positive you are and for your cute outfits haha! But seriously, I've seen you go through so much life over the years with so many changes & seasons. It's been amazing to get to follow your journey. What's crazy to me is I still remember the exact moment when I saw the video you posted about your dad passing. Just like you said in the video, you never believe things will happen to you until it does. That exact thing happened to me. I watched your video about your dad's passing and immediately started crying with disbelief and fear of that ever happening to me... well my mom passed away very suddenly last year. It has been the hardest thing I've ever had to go through, but let me tell you, I am a follower of Jesus and He has changed my life. I would not be where I am today without Him. He has gotten me through everything and I wouldn't have been able to handle my mom's passing on my own if I didn't know the Lord. He is my strength through everything and my comfort is knowing she is with Him in heaven. I have noticed you've briefly mentioned God and some of your beliefs throughout the years, so I'm not entirely sure where you stand with your faith... but my prayer for you is that you give your life to Jesus and fully trust in Him/His perfect plan for your life. I promise you will never be the same in the best way. Thank you for being so raw and real in sharing your vulnerability with us. It's a beautiful thing. Just know that God will provide and you will get through this rough season of moving, feeling lonely, and lost. Jesus is the only answer to feeling known and found. I'm praying for you! If you ever want to reach out to me (or anyone reading this comment), my Instagram is @kkenziemarie Much love!!!
Sending so much love! My Husband and I after college moved from Michigan to Florida after college for him to get his PhD. We love it here but I still have days, weeks, and even months that I have these same feelings. You feel very alone and dont really know what you are doing with your life away from everyone you care about. These feelings are so valid; dont be hard on yourself for these thoughts. Lots of love and excited for Vlogmas!
Give yourself grace!! I literally have to remind myself daily. Give yourself grace with your grief and your diet/exercise and adjusting to changes. You’ll find your way and be wherever you are supposed to be. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself to have it all together, you’re learning and figuring things out as you go. One thing that was helpful for me when I felt lost and in a place where I wasn’t as happy was to find one thing each day that I was excited to do. Could be going for a walk, checking out a new shoe bodega, or calling my mom. But taking the time to think about that and be mindful of it helped a lot.
As for the PCP, your insurance company usually has a “find a provider” tab on their website, where you can search for certain providers by specialty and location. If you’re having trouble getting in to see a doctor, PAs or NPs are always great options that often have more availability. Hair loss could also be related to thyroid stuff, so may be worth checking it out.
In regards to diet and working out - I’m in medical school and there so much research and data that is always changing! I think the general consensus is to try to eat whole foods most of the time, but more importantly eat and move in a way that FUELS your body and your mind! That can be different for everyone!
This is kind of off topic but that color on you is gorgeous! You look beautiful!! Also you have been adapting so much the past few years I admire how much you and max have made each place another home 🫶 have a blessed holiday season! Wishing lots of joy for you guys and your families! ❤️💍🎄🧸🫶 also love your advice about giving to others thank you for the reminder! 🙈😍🤍
Love you gretchen❤ hoping you feel better
Thank you for opening up, Gretchen! I’ve moved every year for my rotational job and have a long term boyfriend. It’s so hard and lonely so you talking about your struggles really helps me feel better. You got this girl and be gentle on yourself ❤ we love you!
Also, I use Zocdoc to find a doctor! There’s reviews on the doctors which are helpful ❤
Your feelings are valid, get it out, vent then do your best to make the best of it! That’s what I try to do and it helps! ❤