She is not coming With any or not much of any degree of nuance shes basically insinuating that if you get pregnant by a black man there’s a 73 percent chance that he’s going to leave her and the baby and for lot of black men that is true but a lot of black men are in their kids lives just not married to the mother. You see nuances what she should have said is why do we have a culture that accepts promiscuity, out of wedlock child births and easy access to divorce rather than coming out with the prejudging stereotype.
Damion jackson she’s talked about those issues multiple times you should check out her channel and her other videos she’s just talking about the major factor that led to the downfall of the black community even when culture was more conservative
To this day I can honestly say if my dad chose to leave when my mother got pregnant I wouldn’t be the man I am today. A two parent household is extremely important in the lives of a child
@@washingtongarden4078 I've also noticed how we from the Caribbean north/central/south America who have been through slavery have very dysfunctional families and a lot of self hate.
Facts! This needs to stop. Enough scholarships exist they should be trying to get out of the hood and not staying in it. Ladies dating guys and getting knocked up needs to stop as well. I’m so glad my mother who has been married to my father for over 35 years taught me morals.
Stop talking like your oppressor. We don’t need you to parrot those points. We don’t own enough TV networks or radio stations to GLAMORIZE anything. HOOD CULTURE isn’t even the main culture as of now. Black culture now is about finding our culture and businesses. Most the 21-48 year old black people I know are doing just that. Even my hood friends don’t glamorize it. Do you have any VALID points?
@@thoughtsofthepeople6197 unfortunately 99 percent of Rappers glamorise hoid culture. 99 % of black poeple listen to rappers, and nit you , or your friends.
I wish our black communities would stop normalizing single parenthood. We should start teaching young black women and men the art of building healthy relationships and the value of stability and marriage. I lost count of the number of baby showers I have attended to celebrate a young woman starting/repeating single parenthood without any guarantee of support from the father of her child/children.
@@senatorsheevpalpatine3712 When men are taught that the pride they are looking for can be found in hard work and responsibility, you will then find less black men in prison.
I agre Because no one lets us, people are starting this constant thing in the black community that nothing is ever our fault when it’s no one else’s fault anymore that we have a huge percentage of baby mamas and baby daddies.
Because when you had a 20% single motherhood rate, there were still a large 80% of people who can criticize the 20%. But when you get to 80% "bad" moral choices, there's only the small 20% left to critize the overwhelming 80%. So it's way less effective, the 80% easily shouts down the 20%. So now to fix it, its the 80% who need to self reflect and critize themselves...the chances of that is unlikely. When it spirals downward, there is a point of no return.
Growing up without a father affected me deeply. The way he was taken from my life was traumatizing and I can honestly say, that is when my life started to spiral down; I was 12 at the time. I knew that I did not want to be a "baby mama" because I saw the impact of not having a father on my peers and felt it too. I am very thankful and blessed to be happily married now with a baby on the way.
So you have a wonderful life even tho you didn't have a Father growing up? So it is possible for the Children of Single Motherhood to grow up to have Happy Lives as Adults... Im Glad you are Happy and that you are Blessed 🙏🏽🙏🏽👇🏽
@@Profit_masterwow so negative and toxic and condescending. Positive people: wear a seatbelt it greatly and significantly reduces your likelihood of fatality if involved in an accident You: you know you could still die even if you wear a seatbelt Logical people: if you could still die even if you wear a seatbelt, then I DAMN SURE BETTER NEVER BE CAUGHT NOT WEARING ONE! Stop being a toxica
When I was 17 years old I was not sure about what I wanted to be, but I definitely knew what I didn't want to be. I didn't want to be a single mother or have a child out of wedlock. I took measures to prevent those things. I am now 31 years old and married with no childern outside of my husband. The formula is simple stop getting pregnant with men who will not first commit themselves, in marriage, to you and vice versa.
While I agree with the sentiment, I disagree with the statement. If a man won't make a good father, then the woman shouldn't lay down with him unprotected.
@@2MasterBuilder2 this. I will say though that sometimes good fathers lay down with terrible women too. And then they get trapped and become miserable. It’s not good for the kids. I know quite a few women who married and had kids with men because they want to be taken care of not because of love. It’s tragic imo bc they will likely not be willing to stay with their men when times get tough and be the partner that the man needs. I love my husband and he loves me and we’ve been through a lot of things together over the past 18 years. If we didn’t love each other like we do, we would not have made it this far. It might also be because we’re both beyond stubborn lol. We both came from broken homes and refuse to follow in the footsteps of our parents.
Just like mothers Who dont deserve to be... It goes without saying. Remember the series "Desperate housewives " was inspired by real women that were messed up in their head.. Let's not always have that "oh these bad men" talk, it's evil and selfishness on both sides.
@@ksway8471 I'm in my 40s and when I was growing up, having kids out of wedlock was a taboo. Back then it brought shame to the family. Nowadays, it's seen as no big deal anymore. I also get the impression that low-quality men associate having a bunch of kids with masculinity & virility. Pretty pathetic.
@money bags if you are calling the men low value or quality, you have to call the women that have kids with them low value or quality. They selected those men.
@@EH-ik6rd We could in theory say that, however, these women ARE taking care of these kids to the best of their ability unlike the men who pump and dump. I'll give them value points for that.
@moneybags Cardi B and others let us know about the WAP and they accept it. But they have this thing called birth control (been around for years), selecting and only reproducing with someone they vetted, or being actual good co-parents that could resolve the issue. You get no points for causing an issue especially one that is not great for children and then trying to get glory.
I grew up in a two-parent household and I refuse to be a single parent because I see the importance of having a man in the home. It's interesting that I sometimes get the side eye from black men because I don't have any children.
My father left my mom when I was a baby.They are still techinally married by law, but seperated. I didn't know -still don't- how a man was suppose to treat a woman because my father wasn't there to be that example. My mother always told me to not settle for a broke man and yet my father wasnt a wealthy man himself.I understand not to date broke men but that still didnt prevent my father from walking out on us. At first she was working at a good job;made good money. She payed the bills, took me and my brother and sisters out for movie nights every Friday. Those were the times but then her boss passed away and so she got layoff. She never went back to work again. She apply for food stamps and that was all.I know of him but we just don't have that bond between daughter and father. It sucks. I wished that my parents never seperated. I always wondered how my life would had turn out if they was still together. Im 26 and never dated because Im to afraid I would make the same mistake as my mother. I'm afraid I would marry a man like my father and he to -like my mother- would leave me a single mother. That's a fear that kept me from dating. Also I dont have children either. I wasn't the fast type and kept my chasity even though today its consider weird to be a virgin at 26, even as a woman. Times has really changed because at one time being a woman and a virgin was consider a blessing to guys now its consider a turn off for some.
Umm No.. more like first time she isn’t interrupting and over talking people and TRYING to abuse false facts! FOH. And she STILL wanted to obviously. Only reason she didn’t is because he agreed with her a lot. Candace SOUNDS a lot smarter than what she actually is. She’s great at debating, talks fast, plays on narratives and no one actually fact checks her. And when they do she changes the subject. Stay woke
@@MrGoodbar9point5 this isn’t true a lot what she says is well thought out and researched you only think it’s lies because you don’t agree with it which is cool but just be truthful.
I’m constantly asked by black men why I don’t have any children. Better yet, first they ask me “how many kids I got”, under the assumption I have at least one. I’m 31 and just finished my BA degree. My simple answer is this: “BECAUSE I DON’T HAVE THE RESOURCES OR FINANCES TO TAKE CARE OF ONE!!!”
Imagine what's it like for Black Men who don't have kids. I'm 38 and BW give me funny looks like something is wrong with me for not falling into bastard baby making trap. No I prefer to be a father not a baby daddy ma'am.
There are so many options today not to have an unwanted pregnancy. It will never stop because now they have reality shows making it fashionable to be a teen mom.
Fashionable to be a teenage mom, fashionable to have unprotected sex. Schools and cultures clashing about sex ed even though the majority of statistics show that sex-ed is linked to lowered teen pregnancies and lowered STD spread. In Scandinavia, they also have programs that look at schools with concentrated amounts of troubled kids and then relocate them to other schools with fewer issues. This actually shows to help many kids go trough school improving grades across the board. Some countries have programs that help parents establish their economies, switch professions if their current one is on a decline. And economical incentives for companies to hire inexperienced people. Then again the US would have to work with a social welfare system that apparently is considered "communist" even though most of their insurance companies work on the same principles just more costly due to profits. XD
@@Ayixlia I don't know Sex has been a big thing in society for a long time. They just don't have to be as discreet about it today. If anything peoples lack of understanding about sex and relationships is the biggest issue having very naive and overly romanticised perspectives of them. Or opposite quite ignorant and flat out disrespectful views of it. :/
Actually reality wouldn’t allow anyone that is on Teen Mom’s to receive a cent in profit. Whoever created that “Reality show“ is a horrible evil degenerate piece of trash and belongs in a landfill somewhere.
Thank you. What I don’t understand is how can a woman of age whom is sexually active not know how not to get pregnant WITH as many options in the world. And don’t give me that oh my beliefs. Especially when most beliefs stands no sex before marriage I call bullshit.
I bet he feels good to be appreciated. Far too many men don’t own up to the responsibility. I wanted the responsibility of being a father. All the good and bad.
@@richardramfire3971 I don't know all about that maybe the people that know dont want to own up and take responsibility but you're only telling half the story tho.. everybody only speaks from their own experience never a collective
for the women who haven’t have kids yet don’t allow any man to put a baby in when they are not willing to married you and stay with you for as long as they live.
And know the husband very well. If he has a problem addiction or mental illness, don’t get pregnant because you don’t want that kind of father for your children right? And if he has lied to you and has mental illness your child can get that too.. so we women should be careful! We choose the father of our children not our children.
Long story short: you gotta choose your partner wisely, a toxic woman who fights a man from seeing his kids is only gonna continue the trend, and a man who’s lazy and superficial should never be on a woman’s mind to sleep with much-more marry. In addition, older wiser men need to teach our young men about core family values and the importance of taking their time pursue self development (work) and growth before pussy.
that one again bro lemme tell you this, the psychology of a good woman when she has a child for you is that this is a blessing and this gonna make y’all relationship stronger. If she sees this anything else, she’s no good son! Either it’s a money thing to her or she tryna lock u in. But the bright side is that it ain’t the end for you, you still got the choice to stay or leave but make sure that kid knows it has a father that loves em.
You’re right. Somehow the narrative is that ALL these mothers have no flaws and every break up is the Man being irresponsible and nonchalantly walking away.
Close but not exactly imo. Its correct and wise for older men to tell younger men to focus on self development first but its not realistic to think high testosterone young men are going to remain virgins or not become infatuated with women. The thing is to reiterate the consequences, and the shame for messing up, especially to the females. When the young females aren't giving it up the battle is already won. All strong societies seek to control the young females first and foremost. Then everything else falls into place. Men will work, save, study, climb any mountain and fight any war if that society says, "you must do this to qualify for a woman". Thats why Feminism is really BS and social engineering to weaken and decrease institutions and populations.
@Goddess Phoenix Arises Please offer proof about gen X and before. Im gen X. What I saw was women BW in my case accepting Feminism. The gen of BW that came of age in the 60's changed. My grandparents generation argued with the generations that came of age in the 60s, 70's, 80's. The grandparents got old is what happened. The generattions of young BW of 60s, 70's and 80's argued, ignored and shouted " You don't need no man on nationwide TV year after year, or they giggled in grandmas face, " Times have changed Mama". I watched this. BM didn't have any media to protest on and some old school guys slapped, shamed or even disowned their daughters. But the young women arrogantly sometimes, stuck to their new Feminist convictions.
Dog Star I think you didn’t understand what I was trying to convey my brother. What was the intended thought is that your education and self development should never be before pussy. It is impossible to ask that heterosexual young men completely forget the opposite sex bro... they aren’t robots. Besides that, self development is just as is; for one to be better and lead a better life, if a woman or women follow that’s on him. But when as a man we seek to empower ourselves we take away that bargaining chip from women especially those that wanna come along for what you worked hard to achieve and not contribute a thing.
As much as I love movies like HOUSE PARTY and FRIDAY, if you take notice of the dialogue, it’s one of the reasons why “being a player” is glamorized. Look at House Party when KID tells PLAY he didn’t hook up with Sidney bc he didn’t have protection, and PLAY straight up tells him it’s her problem if she gets pregnant. I know it’s just a movie, but take notice who is motivated by these words
@@stealthmode1303 i remember back in the early 70s they showed a lot of black exploitation movies that glamourised pimps, drug dealers and prostitutes, and that's how the world started viewing us and demonizing us including lot of black people
@Jazmin Dorbolo That's how the nuclear family was destroyed.... The destruction of family created a community easier to control. Then votes can easily swayed (proven in the black democrat community).
@Jazmin Dorbolo That's a damn shame... Sorry to hear that happened to you. Your mom was really willing to put you in a bad situation, to keep government checks coming in??? That's selling you out isn't it????
The bitter truth is that people need to stop having children they can't care for financially, emotionally, psychologically, and so on. It doesn't matter if both parents are together or not. I'm in Africa, where almost all children are conceived within marriage and things suck here way more than there. People are just procreating because they want to spread their genes without thinking about the children being born.
Noo! Be very grateful when your raised by both parents. Marriage institutions is the basis of a strong community. What your complaining of now, is poor policies and unjust leadership in Africa. Stop confusing issues. It's never okay to encourage single parenthood. You will understand this one day
People just procreating is a lack of understanding, poor education, and idleness. All in all this is an issue different from single parenthood which needs a different approach to resolve
@@edlermaro6700 And let me guess, you think the poor policies and bad leaders were raised be single parents. I still stand my ground that people should not procreate (WETHER THEY ARE SINGLE OR MARRIED) unless they are willing and able to provide for their children financially, emotionally, psychologically, and in every other way.
No, poor policies and bad leaders is due to African collective tendency of lacking order, direction and stability. Now this can be due to ignorance, hence quality of father's needs alot to be desired. In the end Africa, like Africa we need alot of searching to get to know ourselves, our history and how to use it to our advantage to bring development.
@@edlermaro6700 If you want to be honest with yourself you will see that single parenting is not the main issue. It's unprepared, unwilling and unready parents that is the real problem, and it exists in both single parenting and double parenting. How many financially, emotionally, mentally and psychologically stable, healthy and successful single parents do you see raising wayward children. Let's be honest when you have all the above qualities and possess the desire and means to raise a responsible and useful child, then it doesn't matter whether you are alone or with a partner, you are most likely going to raise great child. If two or more terrible, unprepared, irresponsible, selfish, and financial, emotionally, psychologically, and mentally unstable/ difficient people raise a child then the higher the amount of such people raising that child, the more messed up the child will turn out. We will have to reach a point when we realize that the quality of parenting a child receives is more important than the quantity of parenting he/she receives. I know a lot of women and even men who stay in terrible relationships and marriages just so their children can grow up with both parents. Children raised in such toxic environments mostly turn out terribly, either become toxic and abusive themselves or getting into relationships with toxic and abusive partners because that's what they grew up with. If 50 terrible people raise a child, that child will turn out 50 times worse. But if 1 good person raise a child that child will come out 1 time better, and vice versa. In Africa, there is an adage that says that 'It's not just the parents that raise the child but the whole community'. That's what when a child misbehaves any grown up (not only his parents) can correct and even punish the child and the parents will thank that person when they find out. This is why widows, widowers, banished criminals and other single parents could still raise proper, responsible and successful children. It is modernization and religion that have divided and broken us here in Africa.
I'm a married woman and I don't have kids (yet). Common themes with the many single mothers I know are: had kids too young and couldn't sustain relationship with father, pregnancy from casual sex/man not interested in relationship or baby, kid with a man that wasn't properly vetted, kid in relationship without proper commitment/marriage, kid in already failing relationship. It boils down to POOR CHOICES being the rule, not the rare exception. Women can scream and cry about the men all they want but at the end of the day YOU have the womb and choose the amount of protection you provide your womb. I'm 29 and I've never had an "oops" pregnancy because I've been responsible the entire time. Women need to take more accountability for the men they pick to lay down with and the precautions they took or did not take, period.
Men too honestly, you cannot put the responsibility on women alone. I agree that because women have the womb and uterus they need to guard it. But dont engage with a man who refuses to play his part in preventing pregnancy.
I agree with you. And like I said people don’t take men out of the home. I got married early cause I got pregnant early And my marriage worked for 19 years That’s was my culture You got her pregnant you marry her And my husband and I loved each other
What really surprises me is that almost no one that talks about single motherhood ever mentions the sexual revolution, and the promiscuous premarital sex, ignorance of gender roles, and degradation of marriage and family that it encouraged. 7:23 Even this point, where he mentions that, during the 1920's there was an increase in single motherhood, too, can also be explained by a sexual revolution. Prior to the 1960's sexual revolution, there was one during the 1920's, where there was a loosening of tight Victorian sexual morals to the more loose sexuality of the 'flappers' of the roaring twenties. It's almost as if whenever people have more promiscuous, premarital sex, there's a breakdown of the family, more single mothers, and more unplanned pregnancies. C'mon, this isn't rocket science. When you have irresponsible sex, you get a bunch of very serious problems.
@@christopherboxford9556 Yeah, it's not really talked about much, but there actually was a sexual revolution in the 20's, too. It's really odd how invisible sexual irresponsibility is in the public conversation.
We as a society are blinded to the fact every time you have sexual intercourse with someone with a condom or not there is a chance of getting pregnant or catching sexually transmitted diseases like AIDS . God has given us the solution FLEE FORNICATION Give your body to the Lord and he will keep your sexual urges in check We are destroying ourselves and the next generation because if they are not taught with any biblical values this problem will never go away WE MUST GO BACK GOD The Black Community had strong traditional biblical values but other cultures begin to tell us lies and we fell for it
The problem is the promiscuous men dodge their culpability for that pregnancy. They had to have studied biology! Maybe im reading wrong into this but it seems you’re blaming women for daring to have sex as much as men do, as much as they want 🤷♀️ with whomever they want. See how that sounds? Ok for he, evil for she? At least the single mom stayed. Many, many men who abandon these fetus. What’s their role in the family breakdown? Women have been the scapegoat for all the ills of the world since the beginning of time.I apologize now if I misunderstood.
@@skel760 Yeah, you're reading it wrong. I was blaming premarital, promiscuous sex as a whole, both men and women. Both sides bear responsibility. Both men and women need to stop having irresponsible sex--this is what is causing single motherhood--full stop.
You can't blame the government for single motherhood. Men and Women just gotta step up, wear protection, suppress your lust and choose your partner carefully
The single motherhood problem has alot to do with what the government supported. Not refuting your ultimate point of us being better but the US government supported programs that destroyed the black family. To me they don't get a pass. Your absolutely right we need to make better choice and live in honesty but these companies and organizations hands are just as dirty.
She’s saying that the government gave moms an incentive to be single moms. Even people who loves each other the most can fall outta love. So yes the government played a huge role.
Government played/plays a huge role from the labor market to housing to schools to childcare www.epi.org/blog/black-womens-labor-market-history-reveals-deep-seated-race-and-gender-discrimination/ and shes painting with a very broad brush in one area and ignoring the elephant
Some of y’all have clogged ears and just hear what you want to hear. She said it was one of the largest factors not the ONLY factor. That selective hearing will be the death of some of you.
I watched the entire interview she said it was the LARGEST factors and said it several times. She didn't say one of. She spent most of the interview talking about welfare. She never bought up the war on drugs or anything related because it would make the republicans look bad.
Women dint teach children a certain to few life. Single moms teach child on how life should be if you are a woman that’s why wen men grow up and act like their mothers they don’t get the sane reaction...
Im from a Puerto Rican family and my father was the only one that stood by my mother...they were married 49 years before he died...Both my aunts (My mothers sisters) had their husbands leave them but Pop stayed...It wasnt a perfect marriage but he stayed...Thank you Pop wherever you are
Love this. I am a single mother now who had a child out of wedlock. I grew up without any role models who remained married. All of my aunts, uncles, and even grandparents (who I never met) are divorced and are also single parents. I keep seeing comments that say why and what we shouldn’t do such as not having children out of wedlock or without a supportive co parent, be emotionally and financially prepared, etc. but I believe that the real question is HOW do we teach our children/today’s youth or single individuals how to reach this goal? What is it that broken individuals need to recognize a cycle when it is brewing in their lives and how do they prevent it (emotionally, mentally, and physically) from coming to life? Although my child made me have an awakening like no other and am a better person because of her, I believe that if I just knew HOW to get through my emotional and physical trauma, I could have looked to marriage and a healthy family dynamic as one of my goals. I would have known that I could get through my hardships without continuing this cycle. Now the goal is to have a strong and healthy relationship with her father as a co parent. Although the father of my child also comes from a similar background as me, we recognize that building a relationship with each other from a far is a step up from what we grew up with. Prayers and blessings to all of us. We will be better from these discussions and our experiences.🤍
As a single father , the only thing I've realized is that it's so hard to do on your own. Either you work alot to support your family ( now no one is home ) , or you struggle financially. We need balance in our lives , including taking care of ourselves first, so we can be the best possible parents to our kids.
Thank God for self-awareness... Single motherhood was never part of the plan. I'm blessed to be able to see my daughter, who is a stamp of me but with a loving, present, masculine father by her side.
Amen. I'm married and this is what I'm most looking forward to when we have kids, raising our child who is a reflection of both of us, together. I can't wait to see my husband as a father, he will be amazing ☺
@@DarthFurie Don't get self righteous, wifey poo. Your man could be out with his side piece right now, and you'd never know. He can get rid of you for a newer model any time. Keep your bags packed!
@Neutraliser Jan -O-O- Since the 1980's we have never STOPPED hearing about BM having OOW babies. For that matter, we haven't stopped hearing about anything else wrong with them (real or imagined), either. All of that is a distraction from PERSONAL responsibility, which is what needs to happen--and it's what this original comment is all about.
Love this video, I'm from Brazil, single motherhood is an issue for every skin tone. Kids grow up without a regular family and become more vulnerable to be on the streets exposed to drug dealers and violence.
I understand that what he was trying to say if you going on a date you should be at least able to pay for your date not you pay for yours and she pay for her, also this was in the early 90's and I was in my teens which I appreciate because it taught me not to rely on others, but feel free when you go on a date to pay for your and she pay for hers
Last time I checked, all the single mothers had help to make their children. These children have Fathers. These fathers go on to make multiple children with multiple women. Who's talking about that?
True! But then why would the women choose to have sex with that caliber of man. Yes some men will hide their children but there are a lot of instances where the woman is well aware. Both are to blame in my opinion.
I’m watching Candice Owens and I’m trying to understand why the black community hates her so much? Is it solely because she supports Trump or has she said other reckless things in the past ? I find her refreshing
I actually think secular White Liberals hate her more. She is challenging their narrative that Blacks can only vote for the Dems who want control over them. There are some of the Marxist Black groups who hate her because she is challenging their narrative as well.
It's because she's full of crap. She talks only about welfare because the democrats supports it. But she never talks about the war on drugs and mass incarceration because her Republicans supported and spearheaded it in the 70s and 80s. She's fake and her agenda is supporting those who she gets a paycheck from. That's it. She's not helping black people nor does she care. No one cares if blacks vote Republicans or claim to be conservative. No one has to think the same. She makes that more of an issue then need be. Again has she ever once talked about any negatives trump or her party does? Or does she sit up there and blame the democrats for every single problem going in in the black community?
@@MikeBNumba6 How hold are you? The war on drugs started because in the 1980's, US cities were gang war murder fest. Go look at murder rates. The Crime bill that was passed in the 1990's was passed By Bill Clinton and signed with both Democrat and Republican support. The issue was not the Drug War itself and the gang wars in LA/Chicago/ an other areas, it was how low level drug offenses like possession of marijuana and sentencing laws for those type drug crimes which btw, Trump actually in his sentencing Reform bill he just passed this year actually started to address. The Cocaine/Heroin/Crack drug part of the Crime bill were needed and were correct. Locking people up for 5 to 10 years for possession of weed was the problem where in my view you are correct. But as I said, Bill Clinton passed it and neither Bush 2 or Obama did anything to change it. Trump did.
@@palermotrapani9067 yup Clinton passed the bill. before him Reagan was going full force with it and mass incarcerations expanding on what JFK did. Who were the people affected by it? Blacks and minorities or whites? Unfair sentences for weed and crack. That's what truly hurt the black community. Not welfare where a shit ton of whites are on it as well. I have no problem acknowledging Clinton passed the crime bill, but Candice acts as if the republican party had absolutely nothing to do with mass incarceration. Hell it doesn't even exist according to her
@@MikeBNumba6 Well if they were into heavy drug dealing of Cocaine or Heroin or Crack Cocaine, I could really care less. They belong in jail. Those are not the type of people I am going to get up set about for being in jail for a long time. They belong there. Why would you defend that when this type of stuff is largely still the main cause of the out of control murder rates in the Black precincts in areas like Chicago, LA, Saint Louis, Baltimore, New Orleans, Atlanta, etc, etc. It is the pot possession crimes and people locked up for 3 strikes your out for possession of pot who got put in jail for 5 to 10 years that I think were unjust sentencing laws. On the sentencing for Cocaine/Crack/Heroine drug crimes, I am 100% in support of it regardless of who passed it.
@Wonderland t when ppl are strung out and addicted to drugs they are not in their right mind. My auntie had 4 kids and didn't raise any of them because she kept going back to smoking crack. Drugs addiction destroyed many homes in the 80s whether it was one parent or both. For some reason that conversation has been pushed to the side.
@@1HitCombo What video were you watching? From timestamp 9:50 - 10:00 Candace Owens says the following, "You are EXACTLY RIGHT and I AGREE with you." Candace didn't have a problem with him
Modern women DESIRE to be single/alone they seem to find comfort in UNBALANCED SITUATIONS which is NORMALIZED today. This MENTAL COMPLEX INCREASES the DELUSIONAL decision making factors. The children INHERIT the traits and continue on-
I grew up with a dad who was not present. It had a profound impact on my choices I made as a teenager. It took me a long time to claw my way out of poverty. At some point you have to stop playing the victim card and stand on your own two feet
Love to see a great, open discussion between two very intelligent and self aware people. No fighting, just a clear willingness and desire for communication.
@@temposhop8739 Same here bro, I have too many friends with either no dad or a stepdad they have no connection with. I took my father for granted, he passed away. Hope one day I can be half the man he was.
Facts I don’t think I’ll be the same person if my mom & Dad weren’t married/ together .. I’m a daddy’s girl but I love both of my parents for taking care of me ❤️❤️
She scapegoats to the racist crowd too much. She takes everything negative from the black community and try to make money out of it.. Have you ever seen Candace speak up against racism or say anything positive about the black community ❓ She thinks blm is a terrorist organization... What world are you guys living in❓
that is not what I see on personals ads, it is ALWAYS a white woman with a black man. black women are simply not as beautiful, starting with nappy hair, as white women so they use white women instead.
To be honest I'm kind of shocked how this issue isn't discussed in the mainstream media every day. It has such a enormous impact, but people just sweep it under the rug.
As a mother who happens to be single (that’s how I refer to myself). I was married to my child’s Father. Right after I found out I was pregnant I realized I created life with a person that I was not best suited with. After therapy, a lot of forgiveness and healing. I have come to realize that a lot of us are making decisions trying to heal the broken places and we are so focused on the end goal of what we think we need to fix what is broken, that we forget all the other variables like the person we are doing it with. I think men and women want to be loved and we take that desperation and make such reckless decisions. I urge anyone who thinks marriage & having children will fix something or make you happy to seek therapy first. Once you heal in therapy and realize you have everything you need to be happy, you will attract people into your life who you are meant to love and create a life with. I agree with Candace that there is a ying and a yang and both should be equally celebrated in each roles that men and women have. There is a disruption in this balance.
I feel you, it’s self love at the end of the day and we as black folk struggle with that for systemic reasons. It’s all good we all trying to be better and do better for our children.
@@jelissafrank5858 keep your head up, this community is filled with inexperienced, undesirable, yet entitled men who hate women because they not been chosen. Do the best you can and your child will be fine.
Imagine being a kid with two parents who obviously hate each other, or are in an abusive relationship and are only staying together to avoid the social stigma of divorce. Unfortunately that kid is not seeing a great example of marriage. I think we need to make sure our children have great influences in their lives, so if there's 2 parents, they BOTH have to be good parents to make a difference
I agree. It's not just welfare that changed the family dynamics of black families. Black women became fed up with being abused so they kicked their men out or left.
Exactly. I was going to comment this until I saw yours. Thank you! This doesn't get addressed often. People forget there were no laws on the books for domestic violence until the early 1980s. Domestic violence wasn't illegal...it was considered a "family issue". A man could do whatever he wanted to his wife and children and the wife had no recourse legally. I grew up hearing so many instances of husbands beating their wives. It disgusted me to know these women couldn't do anything. You have to remember that back in the day there were no shelters and women had lots of kids. Back in the day, you had families of 8, 9, 10. That was common. Women didn't leave because there was nowhere to go with 6, 7, 8 kids. So, I think those kids grew up to not be interested in wanting to get married. That part is understandable. Unfortunately, the problem is that these people still had kids...but just didn't get married and that didn't help the situation either.
A lot of that happened in the 50’s, 60’s, and during Jim Crowe. It has a major affect on what people are willing to endure just to say they’re married.
Nah its much more complicated. Parents have very little influence on kids in this society compared to media, schools, business and marketing interests, and organizations. I don't think we're going back unless it falls because most people make their living from that.
We live in a society that lacks fathers, not men but fathers, fathers bring stability, direction and order in society This is why we lack order and direction and stability
This is why we need to completely dismantle the remnants from the war on drugs which splits apart black families. It's created a generation of children without father figures who then become poor parents themselves. And you can't do better if you never learned any better. We need to break the cycle. Vote for the leaders that are for prison reform, police reform, and for community programs that will help teach our next generation how to be responsible, educated, and empowered in their lives.
Completely agreed, kids tend do better with two parent households. But feminist groups and BLM want to dismantle the idea of the nuclear family. BLM’s website even states that as part of their mission statement. So odd
Amen all men see is sex and money I’m sorry just those two entities will leave many children without fathers and dads and a man figure period they don’t think about the children first
#fact...I feel this is the biggest issue. Women bring children into the world, not men, we have autonomy now more than ever before, we have contraception, abortion, we can choose to bring a baby in or take it out before it ever becomes a whole being. We bring children into the world without support, bring them in on welfare and we do it repeatedly and blame men when we knew what could subsequently happen in most cases. Sometimes we plan and think we have support and men leave but when we deicdd to have a child and we are not in a strong union make sure you have your finances in order and everything else and then raise your child as best you can. Then women who have multiple kids and fathers are a huge problem and we do that and then their children carry on this tradition and this is what is wrong with our people.
My biggest problem with your comment is that it puts the woman in the blame. No one really tell the men that they need to protect their sperm. Women are no more responsible than the man....I mean at least the women stuck around to raise the child.
I’m not saying that women are more to blame. What I am saying that factually woman Are the last line of the Defense for birth control. It’s up to the woman to have three days to take Plan B. I know for men there’s no sperm control. However in America at least, Men are deemed as providers and not caretakers. This is why some babies are perceived as check babies. I agree there needs to be more accountability for both parents. This does not negate the fact that women are the last line of the defense For pregnancy prevention. I believe if men and women were taught and instilled that idea, that every time you have sex, there is a chance of a potential pregnancy and a potential disease. The world might run a little better
@@Lovelyone1 🤣 actually there are men of means are getting vasectomies. Then you have men walking away with their rubber after use, because some women may dig it out of the trash for self insemination. So, a developed nation citizens, specifically women, have so many choices when it comes to birth control. And then even if some men who wanted to be father and keep the child, he has no choice. Bc the current society believe that sperm once it leaves the men, he no longer has control.
His idea for a tv show like Madmen but with a view on black America making a transition beginning in the 60s is a brilliant idea. Someone, make it happen
This conversation can't be had without acknowledging the impact of the War on Drugs and the explosion of the prison industry beginning in the early 1980's. These things disproportionately affected African Americans, specifically Black men. When large numbers of men are incarcerated and taken out of the community, the community is affected. Plus when they return they can't get decent paying jobs due to being felons. So there's both a social and economic impact. The idea that Welfare alone (or even mostly) caused the break up of the Black family is short sighted and ignorant.
Not to mention that black communities were intentionally flooded with drugs by the US government to fund the Nicaraguan civil war in the 80’s. It had a massive trickle affect on family structures and was covered up.
She won't bring up the war on drugs which was spear headed by Regan because it would be criticizing the republicans. And since Candice is getting fat checks by the republicans she will never talk bad about them. Welfare has something to do with it, but I find it funny how it doesn't affect white people the same way it does black people. She's full of it and she's repeating the same racist crap as alt righters. Just saying it under a different tone
Don't forget feminism convincing women they don't need a man in the house and that they can raise a child on their own ( while receiving child support /alimony at the same time ...smh)
US gov said *“Heyyyyyy wait a minute.. 50% of the population isn’t in the labor force or in this tax game...Why are women sitting at home for free when we could be making MUCH money off of half the US pop? Heyyyy let’s get them out here in the labor market and get pizzzzzaid with their taxes... and hey, let’s restructure the entire cost of a home where, prior to the 70s, you could get a house reasonably and pay a small percentage of the husband’s one income on housing but nope... now let’s set up housing costs and mortgage applications based on two incomes rather than just a husband’s and change that whole game where a house was $30,000 but is based on two incomes and is $125,000 and let’s make it so people forget where there was a time when the dad could do it all for his family on his single income ... buy that house on that one income, go on vacation even if rare, even send kids to college, the whole nine ...and mom could look after their kids...* *Enough of that! Let’s get twice the taxes and change the whole American grind and American “dream” and blame people for it!”* U S A🇺🇸
@Braxton Payne you must not listen to today's black music especially the music from black women in the hip hop culture which is probably the most popular music today it promotes feminism x10
DeathsXMistress i’m a member of a Baptist church, and no, not as much, over the past 40 years. Pretty much goes for all Americans in inner cities not as much religion as they used to be
I agree. That foundation in God holds families together as well as teaches some basic ways of being. Thou shalt not kill or steal etc. these aren’t teachings in the home anymore, for anyone not just black families.
I love how respectful they were of each other’s views. Even when they disagree they still LISTENED to each other instead of just pushing their views and cutting each other off, like is often done whenever Candice is invited to speak
This is painful to hear but it’s fact. I’m a single mom that fight to cover both roles. I did not want to be a single mother but it happened. I was raised with both parent. It’s painful for me to know my son won’t have both. I can only do my best. I’m proud to say so far I’m doing well
My mother was was a single mom, not by choice as my father died of cancer when I was young. Let me tell you, growing up was no picnic. Our family has lots of generational trauma due to poverty.
"Papa, come home, ‘cause there’s things I don’t know, and I thought maybe you could teach me. how to shave; how to dribble a ball; how to talk to a lady; how to walk like a man. Papa, come home because I decided a while back I wanted to be just like you. But I’m forgetting who you are." - 'Knock Knock' by Daniel Beaty. what a wonderful poem!
their dialog is so respectful and patient to each other, I enjoyed it very much, it’s a rare thing to happen nowadays between people with different opinions
Seems there are a lot of comments about black people here. I'm white. I was a single mother for 5 years. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend and got pregnant. The thing is, I had no sec education. I was made to feel like my natural human sexuality was shameful so I did it in secret. I was too ashamed to get on birth control. A lot of women my age went through the same thing. There were a lot of white single mothers when I lived. Most of them on public assistance, stressed, in college with loads of added stress to raising a person. I tried going to college but I had no support and no childcare. I've been married for 8 years to a great man and I'm finally back in college. My point is, sex education is important including allowing someone to feel that their sexuality is normal and human. Teach your kids that sex has a profound effect on you so be very picky about your partner and stay safe. Babies are a blessing but they can keep you poor if you don't plan well.
Brandy.... you spoke directly to my heart!! I am still a single mother. I love my children no matter how they got here or how poor I may be. They were still a blessing from god married or not. My savior loves us and blessed us every day!!
Ik but in 2nd grade I picked up an anatomy book and read where babies come from, why can't you ? No sex education is why you're pregnant ? You're telling me you're old enough to have a bf but not old enough to know penis+vagina=baby ?
@@sheddrickkstraker369 and in second grade you really understood penis+vagina= baby but as an adult you can't understand this well explained post. Smh, somebody come get this dude 🤦🏾♀️
I never thought I would be saying this but Im starting to like Candice. She actually has some great points and we actually have some of the same thinking on a lot of issues. Ive just heard so many bad things about her and just never had an opportunity to hear her talk. Shes very smart actually.
We as black Americans( including black people who claim to be Christians) tend to sweep these problems under the rug and keep doing the same thing over and expect to get somewhere in life.
@@Solaris501 Too many soft men in society that can't just say NO sometimes. Yes men. As the saying goes, hardship creates strong men, strong men create good societies, good societies create weak men and weak men create hardships. A lot of discipline that was necessary which we hated but now see the value of. Those times even my mother or grandad will insist I study instead of watching a movie or going out to party at night, now I can download every single last one of those movies including those that were made long before I was born. Now I sit in my well airconditioned house (every room), single man, enjoying my household while my colleagues are out there, working in the sun or waking up very early every day to go to office. All I do, is power on my computer in my home office, sit for a couple of hours doing an entire day's work in matter of hours and having the rest of the day to do all I want.
Anyone old enough to remember the sitcom Murphy Brown? It marked the start of looking at single motherhood as something brave and to be celebrated instead of something sad and to be avoided.
Murphy Brown was a masculine looking and behaving white women. "Baby-Boom" was a movie but again these were average-looking white women that were already fairly well-to-do becoming mothers after amassing wealth. These types of shows and movies don't compare because these black women aren't high earning when they become mothers.
@@mbloom2275 exactly. Single parenting is so glamorized in the media. Women with nice homes and perfect figures saying oh how busy they are with a big smile. Well adjusted kids who want for nothing. The realities are far different. We are currently facing a generation of teens who were born to teenagers at higher rates than ever in history. We are about to see exactly how that turns out. Maybe then women will cool it with the sleep around like guys can crap.
Lust definitely. My age group are bouncing around like rabbits. Yet older men keep asking why im single. Ill probably end up marrying a 40 or 50 year old.
Crazy that the mom would rather have the man paying child support and not seeing their kid than being there for their kid and not paying child support. It’s set up for failure.
At 16 I told my sons father I didn’t care about the money I just wanted him to see our son, he chose to just pay and not be around but I made damn sure that didn’t happen again. I didn’t have any ooops moments again and when I get married when my son was 7 it was only then that I had any more children with my husband .... because I get stuff happens but my choice was for it to not happen again ... it’s responsibility that came into the equation
@@joyc9323 some. Like advice but not financial and my mother didn’t babysit and my older sisters were told by my parents not to baby sit. So it was my son and I for 7 years I ended up getting married and then having other children
@@aloowalia2849 he’s actually amazing. I met and married a great guy and he really has been great to my oldest!! Had kids of his own now and is an amazing dad
Why didn't they move tho to other areas with opportunities? I am sorry the introduction of automation collapsed the industrial revolution in Europe as well, which is was 99 percent white in the 80s, allot of blue college factory and mines workers lost their jobs. The majority moved to other areas and took up other jobs to make ends means, only few stayed behind in areas with no bussinesses around and ended up welfare. Where is accountability i don't get it. Industry failure and economic collapse affects all people. it's our responsibility to hustle and move out to the next opportunity. For exmaple, after the collpase of the Auto industry which were mainly situated in deteroit ،why didn't they move it's been decades now! They are sitting there on welfare expecting the government to create jobs for them. this is not sustainable, bussinesses will move as soon as subsidy is cut, as they look for locations closer to their suppliers that will help cut down logitcs cost. The smarter move is for us to move to the areas where there are the jobs.
@@yarajoan841 - because the industries nearly all went to countries that paid pennies for the goods. Look at the Uygher Muslim slave camps in China that make a lot of goods for American companies. That’s not an opportunity for a person to follow. That’s the government siding with corporations to f over the American people while getting rich. I can understand what you’re saying about accountability but there’s also a huge factor when the American government and corporations move all factory industry jobs to overseas countries. Covid exposed this with how all of our medical supplies being made in China. That’s a huge failure in America self-dependency. It’s the globalist model of using slavery for goods and keeping serfs in America.
@@umiluv i agree but outsourcing is not a race issue, it is a class war by the rich which affected ecnomies worldwide and people of different races were affected
@@yarajoan841 is it that simple to pick up and leave to another area in America? There are definitely areas of the country with more opportunities than others but it might difficult to find a place to live in those areas if it’s too expensive.
@@omieg89 of course it's not easy to move, however it's definitely not impossible. People move to areas within their means, based on their class and type of work they do (blue collar and white collar jobs). Now with the internet, it's very easy to find jobs regardless of the industry online. Even back then, people did moved to areas that are popping up with new markets and new industries I am only 29 and moved across 3 cities for a career. You have to be willing to move than remain stagnant hoping a job you want with the salary to you want to open up next door. I lived in the UK, and I saw cities that were once vibrant and now it's only few streets with people on welfare. The majority left and only the stubborn few are left, it's been over 4 generations since the factories in the areas closed, and they still complain expecting the government will force some random factory to pop up there. The same applies to detriot, it's a undiversified city built around one industry which is the auto industry, it's been many generations now and there are still people not willing to move.
Because of my dad, I graduated a 4 year college debt free and I didn’t have to struggle with student debt like most people. My dad sacrificed A LOT for us. It’s crazy.
Daniel Rierson no he is married to my mom. 35 years and counting. He just has always been a frugal man. Saved and piled up cash for decades and I’ve never known him to own more than a pair of shoes at a time. He is super frugal and only spends money on things he deems an investment
I grew up without a father, and I had two kids in high school graduated on time. Moved from Guam to the United States just me and my two kids. I bought my own house my own car everything I have I bought on my own and it’s brand new. Now I’m married and have a total of three kids so that’s just bs. You make your decisions in your life you choose the kind of lifestyle you want.
Your an outlier , your experience is not a majority. Modern people don’t have your work ethic or understanding and to be honest if they did they would more likely fail. Your a rare breed and if you have kids I hope you want them to marry them have kids
@@CardiacJordan thé church should teach thèse values .Not thé gouvernement.Ask your christians fathers through America to teach that . Same in Europe.They should .I sont Care about stupide gouvernement tonteach thèm Bad féminism .
Daddy spanked when I needed it. Momma grabbed something when I got too big to spanked. I knew they meant business. Then something happened approximately around third grade. I realized how poor we were and watched how hard momma and daddy worked everyday just to get by. I told myself there is no way I can cause anymore stress for them by getting in trouble in the street or school. They’re both retired now and I spoil them each day I’m blessed to have them!! Thank you so much momma and daddy!!
@@wft15 I have amazing momma and daddy. That’s what my sisters and I have always called them and always will. Nothing cringe about it. You have your parents, we have ours! And the love in their response when they hear it is the best feeling!
She won’t mention the war on drugs and the Clinton crime bill. Farmers receive welfare they just call be subsidizing, but they didn’t tell farmers if you want this welfare you can’t have that man in the family. Not to mention the schools taking away the trades from inner city High schools.
However, Philly has some great Trade schools. You have to work hard to get in, but you will have a trade by the time you graduate. I believe more than math and science there should be a push for girls to learn a trade. There I see equal opportunity and possibility
& want mention how Blacks didn't bring drugs on America soil into their communities either, blk demises becomes America Profits & that's getting ready to be rearranged Ase'
Im in the UK and everything Candace says applies here too! I wish more people would LISTEN to what she says instead of what is sensationalised via the media. They make her sound "anti black" but if you actualllllly listen to her she is anything but!!!!
@@soltaniism I dont know if she genuinely does love Trump or the fact she doesnt hate him is misconstrued as love for him. I think she just appreciates what he did for the political party rather than love him.
@@soltaniism this question right here is why so many people remain ignorant. Instead of taking the message, you worry about who she likes. If you listened to trump, you may actually like him also.
@@soltaniism because he represents the interest of the people, like her. The democrat party is the corporate party. Google, twitter, Instagram, Facebook, big pharmaceuticals. All left wing propagators. The actual working class (majority of people in any society) voted Trump.
I used to respect her until she start spouting some bs about the Isreal/Palestine issue. They don't like Muslims clearly even though we actually live the facts their preaching anyway.
I love your passion in bringing information to the forefront so people can start to look at things differently and decide to lead their lives with more integrity. You're a soldier and I love what you stand for.
I would love to see these statistics as well because we don’t hear about this side. What are the outcomes of single fathers under the parameters mentioned?
@bigjay215 You might not understand how great and appreciated you are until later but thank you for conducting yourself with a sound and selfless mind. I'm an only child to a single mother, but she has 3 strong, married brothers with daughters as well so they were my influence growing up. Anyways, these women (late 20s/early 30s) show the same behaviors as your daughters and one is a doctor and the other is a lawyer. Please never stop being who you are and pursuing your purpose. Also, I know I'm a stranger on the internet but keep sharing your story. People like you are the only hope we have in leading our community back to the way it should be. Peace brother
single parents are a problem, but on the other hand. Being a child of parents that constantly fight is problematic as well. In history married people werent always happy with the relationship, but divorcing was wrong and people would feel ashamed of it. So most of the time people stayed in unhappy marriages.
I’m white grew up single parent household been to jail had issues with drugs and didn’t graduate high school Once I stopped blaming everyone around me for my problems and realized I was in control of my future I started to rebuild I currently run a multi milli dollar business and mentor young men and teach them how to become a strong man in today’s society and culture!
Like you said "I'm white." I white man living in a white man's world where the odds are not stacked against you because of the colour of your skin. That helps.
Why wasn’t the crack epidemic brought up during the Reagan point?! That was a huge blow to black communities and high levels of incarceration for black males instead of rehabilitation.
Because it's still our fault !! If we say that that's the case, then we're "blaming" something. Some folks will even say "but that was so long ago..." as not to deal with the constant arrows aimed at Black families pre-60's and down throughout the decades after the 60's.
You’re right. Are incarcerated black dads a factor in that data. If so, racism and discrimination could be a reason for the increase of single motherhood
I have 2 little boys that will one day be men. It is my husband's and my responsibility to make sure that they understand that manhood=responsibility. Just like womanhood. And that the relationship that they witness between us as parents would be one that they would seek to emulate and aspire to. The family ills become societies burdens. We must seek our partners in life wisely. It is important for our families and society.
I was raised in a single parent household of 5 kids. My dad passed away before I was born and my mom had to drag all 5of us from poor rural China to HK so she can get help from extended families. We lived in 200 sq ft government ran housing unit with a bunch of gangster just 5 units away. Although I was the only one with post secondary education, 3 of us are business owners and two of my sisters had high level management jobs. The only form of welfare my mom received is low rent and cheap primary & secondary education for the kids and that's in the 60's as well. Asian sense of families extended well beyond just the 6 of us but included all our cousins growing up. I think it really helped.
These are the types of full discussions people need to address social ills, especially in the black community. Look at history but don't get stuck in it regarding present day problems. Analyze past solutions that didn't work and correct where they went wrong. Consider variables outside the tired and unhelpful rhetoric being thrown around by politicians. Finally focus on tangible measurable solutions. For the life of me I don't understand why any black people listen to Democratcs. This was a great interview. These two should be in politics. At least they discuss multi pronged solutions. As your neighbour up north, I have such hope for America.
I don't see it as a single mother issue. It is an absent father issue. It is the fact that our society let's men off the hook. Society lets men believe that as long as they pay child support they are good fathers. Fathers put in the work everyday. Fathers show their children how they should treat their wife or at the very least the mother of their children with respect even in the hardest of situations. They lead by example. If you want to be considered the head of your household lead with strength, kindness and accountability.
Some of the single mothers were abandoned. Some of the single mothers abandoned their man, taking kids with them. Anybody who can't see that both narratives apply, simply isn't going to get the whole picture.
Coincidence that once womens rights came into play the single motherhood started to increase. Society shits on fathers and men every other day. Its because they need men just like you do
Umm if u know the history you'll know that white woman brought drugs and black men took it cause they were desperate for White women. Ask any old black person. No one pushed drugs down y'all throat. U took it
She doesn’t know that it exists! When she speaks on the black community it’s negative! This my thing! Candace what are you going to do to make a change in our community besides criticize and judge?
I'm in the same boat. I was raised by a single mom; never married. I do not know what it feels like to have a "family". Some people confuse your family with your relatives. They are not the same concepts. I am married with 3 children. I can see how they enjoy it - that close, safe tucked in, warm feeling all the time. I can see it. I can articulate it. But I cannot comprehend the emotions myself.
She glosses over the 70s and goes back to her grandfather who raised her to find the values that she idolizes, never mentioning at least not here, why her own family broke down and why her granddad raised her. So yeah, there’s not a whole lot of integration of many variables that she’s doing, just black and white
When my father left our home when I was 14 that was the first time I had my first episode of depression, but I didn't even know what it was. I stopped showering, doing school work, and I cut off all my friends. I didn't have the type of family where I could share what was going on with me. I was completely alone. Dark times...
She is incredibly intelligent and absolutely stunning! 2 very educated humans. Really enjoyed this insight on how external factors influence family structures.
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She should be criticizing out of wedlock child births a lot men didn’t run out it just didn’t workout.
nobody cares about your personal beliefs. All that matters is facts and logic.
She is not coming With any or not much of any degree of nuance shes basically insinuating that if you get pregnant by a black man there’s a 73 percent chance that he’s going to leave her and the baby and for lot of black men that is true but a lot of black men are in their kids lives just not married to the mother. You see nuances what she should have said is why do we have a culture that accepts promiscuity, out of wedlock child births and easy access to divorce rather than coming out with the prejudging stereotype.
Damion jackson she’s talked about those issues multiple times you should check out her channel and her other videos she’s just talking about the major factor that led to the downfall of the black community even when culture was more conservative
No 1 is not father absence
To this day I can honestly say if my dad chose to leave when my mother got pregnant I wouldn’t be the man I am today. A two parent household is extremely important in the lives of a child
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That's why i don't Respect my father cuz he was too pussy to be apart of my life. He left when I was 3 years old.
Agreed. This single parent copout will do much more harm than good.
@@washingtongarden4078 I've also noticed how we from the Caribbean north/central/south America who have been through slavery have very dysfunctional families and a lot of self hate.
Agreed.
Quit glamorizing hood culture. All facets. There's nothing glamorous about it. Glamorizing it implies acceptance and stifels improvement.
Facts! This needs to stop. Enough scholarships exist they should be trying to get out of the hood and not staying in it. Ladies dating guys and getting knocked up needs to stop as well. I’m so glad my mother who has been married to my father for over 35 years taught me morals.
You got it
Stop talking like your oppressor. We don’t need you to parrot those points. We don’t own enough TV networks or radio stations to GLAMORIZE anything. HOOD CULTURE isn’t even the main culture as of now. Black culture now is about finding our culture and businesses. Most the 21-48 year old black people I know are doing just that. Even my hood friends don’t glamorize it. Do you have any VALID points?
@@thoughtsofthepeople6197 unfortunately 99 percent of Rappers glamorise hoid culture. 99 % of black poeple listen to rappers, and nit you , or your friends.
@@thoughtsofthepeople6197 We def glamorize hood culture, our music clearly.
I wish our black communities would stop normalizing single parenthood. We should start teaching young black women and men the art of building healthy relationships and the value of stability and marriage. I lost count of the number of baby showers I have attended to celebrate a young woman starting/repeating single parenthood without any guarantee of support from the father of her child/children.
Good luck with that ! Some will listen & rest won’t
We should also stop arresting and convicting black fathers at a much higher rate than any other community
Amen!!!
@@senatorsheevpalpatine3712 When men are taught that the pride they are looking for can be found in hard work and responsibility, you will then find less black men in prison.
Not only is it normalized with is almost encouraged !!
"I believe there are roles, natural, biological roles for men and women...and both should be celebrated as difficult tasks". Couldn't agree more
Those roles will have you enslaved. It is not that simple and people are a lot deeper than that.
@@nope9905 they will only enslave you if you allow them too
@@bigchef3394 Agree :)
@@nope9905 What? Did your Becky tell you that!
@@4abrownafrica420 No you did and you know her way better than me...lol..
Why doesn’t our community want to take responsibility for the role we played/play in our continuous demise
I agre Because no one lets us, people are starting this constant thing in the black community that nothing is ever our fault when it’s no one else’s fault anymore that we have a huge percentage of baby mamas and baby daddies.
Because when you had a 20% single motherhood rate, there were still a large 80% of people who can criticize the 20%. But when you get to 80% "bad" moral choices, there's only the small 20% left to critize the overwhelming 80%. So it's way less effective, the 80% easily shouts down the 20%. So now to fix it, its the 80% who need to self reflect and critize themselves...the chances of that is unlikely. When it spirals downward, there is a point of no return.
That mirror is a mf for most
Take responsibility for your own demise.
Ask black women
“I know for a fact that had I had a father, I’d have some discipline. I’d have more confidence”. Tupac Shakur
who wants to stay with a crackhead though ?
Love Tupac
@@jest3167 u don’t have to be married to be a dad
@@tintin5967 True I wouldn’t know anything about that being an unmarried dad of six kids..........
@@jest3167 then ur first comment makes 0 sense it has nothing to do with the original comment.
To me, I think black fathers are more valuable than child support.
Chalant Tracks facts
Dads and money for education and investing in a career....
So who will pay for the expenses?
Incorrect. You can't be an actual father if you can't even provide for your child. Perhaps invest in condoms.
@@mbloom2275 stay single and don’t have any damn kids
Growing up without a father affected me deeply. The way he was taken from my life was traumatizing and I can honestly say, that is when my life started to spiral down; I was 12 at the time. I knew that I did not want to be a "baby mama" because I saw the impact of not having a father on my peers and felt it too. I am very thankful and blessed to be happily married now with a baby on the way.
So you have a wonderful life even tho you didn't have a Father growing up?
So it is possible for the Children of Single Motherhood to grow up to have Happy Lives as Adults...
Im Glad you are Happy and that you are Blessed 🙏🏽🙏🏽👇🏽
Let’s hope you never get divorced and become another BABY MOMMA because Marriage does NOT make you safe from that possibility
Still married?
@@ThatAlleyCatsBack 😹💯
@@Profit_masterwow so negative and toxic and condescending.
Positive people: wear a seatbelt it greatly and significantly reduces your likelihood of fatality if involved in an accident
You: you know you could still die even if you wear a seatbelt
Logical people: if you could still die even if you wear a seatbelt, then I DAMN SURE BETTER NEVER BE CAUGHT NOT WEARING ONE!
Stop being a toxica
When I was 17 years old I was not sure about what I wanted to be, but I definitely knew what I didn't want to be. I didn't want to be a single mother or have a child out of wedlock. I took measures to prevent those things. I am now 31 years old and married with no childern outside of my husband. The formula is simple stop getting pregnant with men who will not first commit themselves, in marriage, to you and vice versa.
I am so glad this is the direction you chose for your family. Although my circumstances are different than yours, you couldn't be more right.
All single moms aren't baby mamas...some of us are ex spouses....
Amen!
@@tanitrarobinson7477 Exactly. Why are there no calls to hold men accountable?
@@tanitrarobinson7477 or widows....smh
Not just "fathers" but sane, productive, loving fathers is key. It's a lot of horrible men who have no business being a father.
Agreed. A father who spends time, instills values and does things for his wife such as shovel the snow which a lot of "men" these days refuse.
While I agree with the sentiment, I disagree with the statement. If a man won't make a good father, then the woman shouldn't lay down with him unprotected.
I agree with you
@@2MasterBuilder2 this. I will say though that sometimes good fathers lay down with terrible women too. And then they get trapped and become miserable. It’s not good for the kids.
I know quite a few women who married and had kids with men because they want to be taken care of not because of love. It’s tragic imo bc they will likely not be willing to stay with their men when times get tough and be the partner that the man needs.
I love my husband and he loves me and we’ve been through a lot of things together over the past 18 years. If we didn’t love each other like we do, we would not have made it this far.
It might also be because we’re both beyond stubborn lol. We both came from broken homes and refuse to follow in the footsteps of our parents.
Just like mothers Who dont deserve to be... It goes without saying.
Remember the series "Desperate housewives " was inspired by real women that were messed up in their head.. Let's not always have that "oh these bad men" talk, it's evil and selfishness on both sides.
The problem is this has become normalized in the black community. We also seem to have low expectations for ourselves and for each other.
You hit the nail on the head, the biggest issue is that its now a norm, society doesn't see the issue in this and that perpetuates the problem
@@ksway8471 I'm in my 40s and when I was growing up, having kids out of wedlock was a taboo. Back then it brought shame to the family. Nowadays, it's seen as no big deal anymore. I also get the impression that low-quality men associate having a bunch of kids with masculinity & virility. Pretty pathetic.
@money bags if you are calling the men low value or quality, you have to call the women that have kids with them low value or quality. They selected those men.
@@EH-ik6rd We could in theory say that, however, these women ARE taking care of these kids to the best of their ability unlike the men who pump and dump. I'll give them value points for that.
@moneybags Cardi B and others let us know about the WAP and they accept it. But they have this thing called birth control (been around for years), selecting and only reproducing with someone they vetted, or being actual good co-parents that could resolve the issue. You get no points for causing an issue especially one that is not great for children and then trying to get glory.
Listening to Candace Owens makes me realize why I’ve never fit in with the “norm”/my peers.
She's awesome
@@niamtxiv Nah she is not!!!!
👍🏿
Lol same💯
Exactly! It’s like you’re talked down upon when you don’t agree with the “norm”.
I grew up in a two-parent household and I refuse to be a single parent because I see the importance of having a man in the home. It's interesting that I sometimes get the side eye from black men because I don't have any children.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
You made the right choice, most folks won't even do that
A healthy man. Only.
Same here, but from BW.
My father left my mom when I was a baby.They are still techinally married by law, but seperated. I didn't know -still don't- how a man was suppose to treat a woman because my father wasn't there to be that example. My mother always told me to not settle for a broke man and yet my father wasnt a wealthy man himself.I understand not to date broke men but that still didnt prevent my father from walking out on us. At first she was working at a good job;made good money. She payed the bills, took me and my brother and sisters out for movie nights every Friday. Those were the times but then her boss passed away and so she got layoff. She never went back to work again. She apply for food stamps and that was all.I know of him but we just don't have that bond between daughter and father. It sucks. I wished that my parents never seperated. I always wondered how my life would had turn out if they was still together. Im 26 and never dated because Im to afraid I would make the same mistake as my mother. I'm afraid I would marry a man like my father and he to -like my mother- would leave me a single mother. That's a fear that kept me from dating. Also I dont have children either. I wasn't the fast type and kept my chasity even though today its consider weird to be a virgin at 26, even as a woman. Times has really changed because at one time being a woman and a virgin was consider a blessing to guys now its consider a turn off for some.
First Candace Owens interview I’ve heard where the interviewer isn’t jumping down her throat. We need more like this
Umm No.. more like first time she isn’t interrupting and over talking people and TRYING to abuse false facts! FOH. And she STILL wanted to obviously. Only reason she didn’t is because he agreed with her a lot. Candace SOUNDS a lot smarter than what she actually is. She’s great at debating, talks fast, plays on narratives and no one actually fact checks her. And when they do she changes the subject. Stay woke
Well, she IS quite detestable. As much as I want to really like her, shes beyond contempt.
@@MrGoodbar9point5 this isn’t true a lot what she says is well thought out and researched you only think it’s lies because you don’t agree with it which is cool but just be truthful.
To fair she decided to be be respectful which she doesn't always do.
@@TheDesmond006 I think it’s because the energy in the room the dude is actually trying to have a conversation.
I’m constantly asked by black men why I don’t have any children. Better yet, first they ask me “how many kids I got”, under the assumption I have at least one. I’m 31 and just finished my BA degree. My simple answer is this: “BECAUSE I DON’T HAVE THE RESOURCES OR FINANCES TO TAKE CARE OF ONE!!!”
Imagine what's it like for Black Men who don't have kids. I'm 38 and BW give me funny looks like something is wrong with me for not falling into bastard baby making trap. No I prefer to be a father not a baby daddy ma'am.
@@gankhammer9926 not every man is marriage material and quit acting as if she got a degree in social studies
@@gankhammer9926 what do you suggest she should have done?
@@gankhammer9926 lol where did I say anything about these guys wanting to be my husband?
Thank you for saying it...👏👏👏
There are so many options today not to have an unwanted pregnancy. It will never stop because now they have reality shows making it fashionable to be a teen mom.
Fashionable to be a teenage mom, fashionable to have unprotected sex.
Schools and cultures clashing about sex ed even though the majority of statistics show that sex-ed is linked to lowered teen pregnancies and lowered STD spread.
In Scandinavia, they also have programs that look at schools with concentrated amounts of troubled kids and then relocate them to other schools with fewer issues. This actually shows to help many kids go trough school improving grades across the board.
Some countries have programs that help parents establish their economies, switch professions if their current one is on a decline. And economical incentives for companies to hire inexperienced people.
Then again the US would have to work with a social welfare system that apparently is considered "communist" even though most of their insurance companies work on the same principles just more costly due to profits. XD
Sex is the culprit. If peopke stop having so much sex and hook ups, there will be less of this
@@Ayixlia I don't know Sex has been a big thing in society for a long time. They just don't have to be as discreet about it today. If anything peoples lack of understanding about sex and relationships is the biggest issue having very naive and overly romanticised perspectives of them. Or opposite quite ignorant and flat out disrespectful views of it. :/
Actually reality wouldn’t allow anyone that is on Teen Mom’s to receive a cent in profit. Whoever created that “Reality show“ is a horrible evil degenerate piece of trash and belongs in a landfill somewhere.
Thank you. What I don’t understand is how can a woman of age whom is sexually active not know how not to get pregnant WITH as many options in the world. And don’t give me that oh my beliefs. Especially when most beliefs stands no sex before marriage I call bullshit.
I’m a 36 yr old black woman and I’ve always had my dad. My dad is my best friend.
That's very nice.
same here
Your.Dad.Is.An.Outlier.
I bet he feels good to be appreciated. Far too many men don’t own up to the responsibility. I wanted the responsibility of being a father. All the good and bad.
@@richardramfire3971 I don't know all about that maybe the people that know dont want to own up and take responsibility but you're only telling half the story tho.. everybody only speaks from their own experience never a collective
for the women who haven’t have kids yet don’t allow any man to put a baby in when they are not willing to married you and stay with you for
as long as they live.
Well said
Correct. Marriage is key.
True, and also use plan B, because you also have the power to stop
@@dmcneal08 Jesus created the institution of marriage He’s the foundation ❤️
And know the husband very well. If he has a problem addiction or mental illness, don’t get pregnant because you don’t want that kind of father for your children right? And if he has lied to you and has mental illness your child can get that too.. so we women should be careful! We choose the father of our children not our children.
Long story short: you gotta choose your partner wisely, a toxic woman who fights a man from seeing his kids is only gonna continue the trend, and a man who’s lazy and superficial should never be on a woman’s mind to sleep with much-more marry. In addition, older wiser men need to teach our young men about core family values and the importance of taking their time pursue self development (work) and growth before pussy.
that one again bro lemme tell you this, the psychology of a good woman when she has a child for you is that this is a blessing and this gonna make y’all relationship stronger. If she sees this anything else, she’s no good son! Either it’s a money thing to her or she tryna lock u in. But the bright side is that it ain’t the end for you, you still got the choice to stay or leave but make sure that kid knows it has a father that loves em.
You’re right. Somehow the narrative is that ALL these mothers have no flaws and every break up is the Man being irresponsible and nonchalantly walking away.
Close but not exactly imo. Its correct and wise for older men to tell younger men to focus on self development first but its not realistic to think high testosterone young men are going to remain virgins or not become infatuated with women. The thing is to reiterate the consequences, and the shame for messing up, especially to the females. When the young females aren't giving it up the battle is already won. All strong societies seek to control the young females first and foremost. Then everything else falls into place. Men will work, save, study, climb any mountain and fight any war if that society says, "you must do this to qualify for a woman". Thats why Feminism is really BS and social engineering to weaken and decrease institutions and populations.
@Goddess Phoenix Arises
Please offer proof about gen X and before. Im gen X. What I saw was women BW in my case accepting Feminism. The gen of BW that came of age in the 60's changed. My grandparents generation argued with the generations that came of age in the 60s, 70's, 80's. The grandparents got old is what happened. The generattions of young BW of 60s, 70's and 80's argued, ignored and shouted " You don't need no man on nationwide TV year after year, or they giggled in grandmas face, " Times have changed Mama". I watched this. BM didn't have any media to protest on and some old school guys slapped, shamed or even disowned their daughters. But the young women arrogantly sometimes, stuck to their new Feminist convictions.
Dog Star I think you didn’t understand what I was trying to convey my brother. What was the intended thought is that your education and self development should never be before pussy. It is impossible to ask that heterosexual young men completely forget the opposite sex bro... they aren’t robots. Besides that, self development is just as is; for one to be better and lead a better life, if a woman or women follow that’s on him. But when as a man we seek to empower ourselves we take away that bargaining chip from women especially those that wanna come along for what you worked hard to achieve and not contribute a thing.
As much as I love movies like HOUSE PARTY and FRIDAY, if you take notice of the dialogue, it’s one of the reasons why “being a player” is glamorized. Look at House Party when KID tells PLAY he didn’t hook up with Sidney bc he didn’t have protection, and PLAY straight up tells him it’s her problem if she gets pregnant. I know it’s just a movie, but take notice who is motivated by these words
STds also wasn't mentioned in the movie either
Yep
It’s all programming. Movies and tv and music program the masses.
@@stealthmode1303 exactly. Each movie , entertainer , artist , actor , public figure serves to a very specific calculated agenda
@@stealthmode1303 i remember back in the early 70s they showed a lot of black exploitation movies that glamourised pimps, drug dealers and prostitutes, and that's how the world started viewing us and demonizing us including lot of black people
“Marrying women to government” very strong point.
I saw your comment right when she said that lol and yes very good point made by Ms Owens🙌
Agree
@Jazmin Dorbolo
That's how the nuclear family was destroyed.... The destruction of family created a community easier to control. Then votes can easily swayed (proven in the black democrat community).
@@SuccessfulladiesSoftLife
Yeah right.... The black American community is proof of what replacing the father with government control can do.
@Jazmin Dorbolo
That's a damn shame... Sorry to hear that happened to you. Your mom was really willing to put you in a bad situation, to keep government checks coming in??? That's selling you out isn't it????
The bitter truth is that people need to stop having children they can't care for financially, emotionally, psychologically, and so on. It doesn't matter if both parents are together or not. I'm in Africa, where almost all children are conceived within marriage and things suck here way more than there. People are just procreating because they want to spread their genes without thinking about the children being born.
Noo! Be very grateful when your raised by both parents. Marriage institutions is the basis of a strong community. What your complaining of now, is poor policies and unjust leadership in Africa. Stop confusing issues. It's never okay to encourage single parenthood. You will understand this one day
People just procreating is a lack of understanding, poor education, and idleness. All in all this is an issue different from single parenthood which needs a different approach to resolve
@@edlermaro6700 And let me guess, you think the poor policies and bad leaders were raised be single parents.
I still stand my ground that people should not procreate (WETHER THEY ARE SINGLE OR MARRIED) unless they are willing and able to provide for their children financially, emotionally, psychologically, and in every other way.
No, poor policies and bad leaders is due to African collective tendency of lacking order, direction and stability. Now this can be due to ignorance, hence quality of father's needs alot to be desired. In the end Africa, like Africa we need alot of searching to get to know ourselves, our history and how to use it to our advantage to bring development.
@@edlermaro6700 If you want to be honest with yourself you will see that single parenting is not the main issue. It's unprepared, unwilling and unready parents that is the real problem, and it exists in both single parenting and double parenting.
How many financially, emotionally, mentally and psychologically stable, healthy and successful single parents do you see raising wayward children.
Let's be honest when you have all the above qualities and possess the desire and means to raise a responsible and useful child, then it doesn't matter whether you are alone or with a partner, you are most likely going to raise great child.
If two or more terrible, unprepared, irresponsible, selfish, and financial, emotionally, psychologically, and mentally unstable/ difficient people raise a child then the higher the amount of such people raising that child, the more messed up the child will turn out.
We will have to reach a point when we realize that the quality of parenting a child receives is more important than the quantity of parenting he/she receives.
I know a lot of women and even men who stay in terrible relationships and marriages just so their children can grow up with both parents. Children raised in such toxic environments mostly turn out terribly, either become toxic and abusive themselves or getting into relationships with toxic and abusive partners because that's what they grew up with.
If 50 terrible people raise a child, that child will turn out 50 times worse. But if 1 good person raise a child that child will come out 1 time better, and vice versa.
In Africa, there is an adage that says that 'It's not just the parents that raise the child but the whole community'. That's what when a child misbehaves any grown up (not only his parents) can correct and even punish the child and the parents will thank that person when they find out. This is why widows, widowers, banished criminals and other single parents could still raise proper, responsible and successful children.
It is modernization and religion that have divided and broken us here in Africa.
I'm a married woman and I don't have kids (yet). Common themes with the many single mothers I know are: had kids too young and couldn't sustain relationship with father, pregnancy from casual sex/man not interested in relationship or baby, kid with a man that wasn't properly vetted, kid in relationship without proper commitment/marriage, kid in already failing relationship. It boils down to POOR CHOICES being the rule, not the rare exception. Women can scream and cry about the men all they want but at the end of the day YOU have the womb and choose the amount of protection you provide your womb. I'm 29 and I've never had an "oops" pregnancy because I've been responsible the entire time. Women need to take more accountability for the men they pick to lay down with and the precautions they took or did not take, period.
Amen!!! Same thing for me, I didn’t get pregnant till after I got married and was emotionally and financially ready.
Men too honestly, you cannot put the responsibility on women alone. I agree that because women have the womb and uterus they need to guard it. But dont engage with a man who refuses to play his part in preventing pregnancy.
Don’t get divorced
Wish I could like this a million times 👍🏼
I agree with you. And like I said people don’t take men out of the home.
I got married early cause I got pregnant early
And my marriage worked for 19 years
That’s was my culture
You got her pregnant you marry her
And my husband and I loved each other
What really surprises me is that almost no one that talks about single motherhood ever mentions the sexual revolution, and the promiscuous premarital sex, ignorance of gender roles, and degradation of marriage and family that it encouraged.
7:23 Even this point, where he mentions that, during the 1920's there was an increase in single motherhood, too, can also be explained by a sexual revolution. Prior to the 1960's sexual revolution, there was one during the 1920's, where there was a loosening of tight Victorian sexual morals to the more loose sexuality of the 'flappers' of the roaring twenties.
It's almost as if whenever people have more promiscuous, premarital sex, there's a breakdown of the family, more single mothers, and more unplanned pregnancies. C'mon, this isn't rocket science. When you have irresponsible sex, you get a bunch of very serious problems.
I mention the sexual revolution when discussing this issue but I never considered the loosening of morals from the flappers and such in the 20's.
@@christopherboxford9556 Yeah, it's not really talked about much, but there actually was a sexual revolution in the 20's, too. It's really odd how invisible sexual irresponsibility is in the public conversation.
We as a society are blinded to the fact every time you have sexual intercourse with someone with a condom or not there is a chance of getting pregnant or catching sexually transmitted diseases like AIDS . God has given us the solution FLEE FORNICATION Give your body to the Lord and he will keep your sexual urges in check We are destroying ourselves and the next generation because if they are not taught with any biblical values this problem will never go away WE MUST GO BACK GOD The Black Community had strong traditional biblical values but other cultures begin to tell us lies and we fell for it
The problem is the promiscuous men dodge their culpability for that pregnancy. They had to have studied biology! Maybe im reading wrong into this but it seems you’re blaming women for daring to have sex as much as men do, as much as they want 🤷♀️ with whomever they want. See how that sounds? Ok for he, evil for she? At least the single mom stayed. Many, many men who abandon these fetus. What’s their role in the family breakdown? Women have been the scapegoat for all the ills of the world since the beginning of time.I apologize now if I misunderstood.
@@skel760 Yeah, you're reading it wrong. I was blaming premarital, promiscuous sex as a whole, both men and women. Both sides bear responsibility. Both men and women need to stop having irresponsible sex--this is what is causing single motherhood--full stop.
You can't blame the government for single motherhood. Men and Women just gotta step up, wear protection, suppress your lust and choose your partner carefully
Especially the choosing part!! Coz that can be controlled at individual level
@@wanjiruchelagat6565 💯💯💯💯
The single motherhood problem has alot to do with what the government supported. Not refuting your ultimate point of us being better but the US government supported programs that destroyed the black family. To me they don't get a pass. Your absolutely right we need to make better choice and live in honesty but these companies and organizations hands are just as dirty.
She’s saying that the government gave moms an incentive to be single moms. Even people who loves each other the most can fall outta love. So yes the government played a huge role.
Government played/plays a huge role from the labor market to housing to schools to childcare www.epi.org/blog/black-womens-labor-market-history-reveals-deep-seated-race-and-gender-discrimination/ and shes painting with a very broad brush in one area and ignoring the elephant
Some of y’all have clogged ears and just hear what you want to hear. She said it was one of the largest factors not the ONLY factor.
That selective hearing will be the death of some of you.
He’s an idiot.
I watched the entire interview she said it was the LARGEST factors and said it several times. She didn't say one of. She spent most of the interview talking about welfare.
She never bought up the war on drugs or anything related because it would make the republicans look bad.
It's a disingenuous debate. Owens is very aware that the war on drugs disproportionately affected black people.
She rarely makes another point. You're whipped
@@jassustar2121 No need to attack my character ma’am, I was simply making a clarification. Have a blessed day.
Broken families makes crime more likely. Crime makes broken families more likely. Seems like a feedback loop. Throw drugs in and it is mess.
So true and deep.
Women dint teach children a certain to few life. Single moms teach child on how life should be if you are a woman that’s why wen men grow up and act like their mothers they don’t get the sane reaction...
In the "black community " it's not about broken families when men and women are having multiple child out of wedlock that's the problem.
Yes, but elites buy more and use more illegal drugs. Drugs aren't coming across the border to solely supply the poor. Ok sir?!
@@brandonhanner5525 Okay, good point, but I did not say what you are refuting. Evil is evil, poison is poison. I don't see an argument here.
It’s about educating girls on what kind of man to have children with in the first place.
Facts!
A parents job.
True
Young men need more teaching. Because they are the one who chooses to leave and force single moms to need welfare.
A girls wants a man like her father, subconsciously or the way her dad made her feel...
I don't know where i would be without my dad.
Same
Same here
Facts
Lucky
Same
Im from a Puerto Rican family and my father was the only one that stood by my mother...they were married 49 years before he died...Both my aunts (My mothers sisters) had their husbands leave them but Pop stayed...It wasnt a perfect marriage but he stayed...Thank you Pop wherever you are
I’m happy you got that
Dios bendiga a tu padre, hermano 🙏🏻
Same story with me, but I come from a black family. God bless my father.
your Latina women are amazing. really. love the culture
you're so blessed
Why is it titled “single motherhood” and not “absent/opting-out fatherhood”?
To invoke a certain emotion & get people to click obviously.
interesting.
@Ne Ws FACT!!😊😊😊
B/c single motherhood is now praised as courageous and noble
Bruddah from single faada, the faada is to blame, they just dont care
Love this. I am a single mother now who had a child out of wedlock. I grew up without any role models who remained married. All of my aunts, uncles, and even grandparents (who I never met) are divorced and are also single parents. I keep seeing comments that say why and what we shouldn’t do such as not having children out of wedlock or without a supportive co parent, be emotionally and financially prepared, etc. but I believe that the real question is HOW do we teach our children/today’s youth or single individuals how to reach this goal? What is it that broken individuals need to recognize a cycle when it is brewing in their lives and how do they prevent it (emotionally, mentally, and physically) from coming to life? Although my child made me have an awakening like no other and am a better person because of her, I believe that if I just knew HOW to get through my emotional and physical trauma, I could have looked to marriage and a healthy family dynamic as one of my goals. I would have known that I could get through my hardships without continuing this cycle. Now the goal is to have a strong and healthy relationship with her father as a co parent. Although the father of my child also comes from a similar background as me, we recognize that building a relationship with each other from a far is a step up from what we grew up with. Prayers and blessings to all of us. We will be better from these discussions and our experiences.🤍
As a single father , the only thing I've realized is that it's so hard to do on your own. Either you work alot to support your family ( now no one is home ) , or you struggle financially. We need balance in our lives , including taking care of ourselves first, so we can be the best possible parents to our kids.
Your statement is REAL!!! Thanks
@yaskween She could have passed away...
Biden will be helping with $300 / month in 2021.
This was so perfectly stated I had to comment on it
I love men that raise their children alone
Thank God for self-awareness... Single motherhood was never part of the plan. I'm blessed to be able to see my daughter, who is a stamp of me but with a loving, present, masculine father by her side.
Salute!!!!!
A true rarity more valuable than a diamond
Amen. I'm married and this is what I'm most looking forward to when we have kids, raising our child who is a reflection of both of us, together. I can't wait to see my husband as a father, he will be amazing ☺
@@DarthFurie Don't get self righteous, wifey poo. Your man could be out with his side piece right now, and you'd never know. He can get rid of you for a newer model any time. Keep your bags packed!
At some point everyone has take responsibility...
The scary thing is that some will only take responsibility when they stand in front of Jesus Christ, to be judged.
Truth!!!!!
Im not taking responsibility for people having oow babies. Especially, since these people do so knowing it harms our kids and community.
@Neutraliser Jan -O-O- Since the 1980's we have never STOPPED hearing about BM having OOW babies. For that matter, we haven't stopped hearing about anything else wrong with them (real or imagined), either. All of that is a distraction from PERSONAL responsibility, which is what needs to happen--and it's what this original comment is all about.
Little Sones I meant what I said EVERYONE!! Keeping living those don’t that will pay the price.
Love this video, I'm from Brazil, single motherhood is an issue for every skin tone. Kids grow up without a regular family and become more vulnerable to be on the streets exposed to drug dealers and violence.
My dad told me that I couldn't go on a date until I can afford to pay for us both
He’s right ..
I understand that what he was trying to say if you going on a date you should be at least able to pay for your date not you pay for yours and she pay for her, also this was in the early 90's and I was in my teens which I appreciate because it taught me not to rely on others, but feel free when you go on a date to pay for your and she pay for hers
Last time I checked, all the single mothers had help to make their children. These children have Fathers. These fathers go on to make multiple children with multiple women. Who's talking about that?
True! But then why would the women choose to have sex with that caliber of man. Yes some men will hide their children but there are a lot of instances where the woman is well aware.
Both are to blame in my opinion.
Someone said there should be a law limiting how many bms a man can have 🤣🤣🤣 it was on a topic of abortion laws 😭
Because they are too lazy to get a job and also to lazy to pull out
hahaha not funny lol good one
@@vanityquest4979 The point she is making is that many people talk about it as if it is ONLY the woman at fault.
I’m watching Candice Owens and I’m trying to understand why the black community hates her so much? Is it solely because she supports Trump or has she said other reckless things in the past ? I find her refreshing
I actually think secular White Liberals hate her more. She is challenging their narrative that Blacks can only vote for the Dems who want control over them. There are some of the Marxist Black groups who hate her because she is challenging their narrative as well.
It's because she's full of crap. She talks only about welfare because the democrats supports it. But she never talks about the war on drugs and mass incarceration because her Republicans supported and spearheaded it in the 70s and 80s.
She's fake and her agenda is supporting those who she gets a paycheck from. That's it.
She's not helping black people nor does she care.
No one cares if blacks vote Republicans or claim to be conservative. No one has to think the same.
She makes that more of an issue then need be. Again has she ever once talked about any negatives trump or her party does? Or does she sit up there and blame the democrats for every single problem going in in the black community?
@@MikeBNumba6 How hold are you? The war on drugs started because in the 1980's, US cities were gang war murder fest. Go look at murder rates. The Crime bill that was passed in the 1990's was passed By Bill Clinton and signed with both Democrat and Republican support. The issue was not the Drug War itself and the gang wars in LA/Chicago/ an other areas, it was how low level drug offenses like possession of marijuana and sentencing laws for those type drug crimes which btw, Trump actually in his sentencing Reform bill he just passed this year actually started to address.
The Cocaine/Heroin/Crack drug part of the Crime bill were needed and were correct. Locking people up for 5 to 10 years for possession of weed was the problem where in my view you are correct. But as I said, Bill Clinton passed it and neither Bush 2 or Obama did anything to change it. Trump did.
@@palermotrapani9067 yup Clinton passed the bill. before him Reagan was going full force with it and mass incarcerations expanding on what JFK did.
Who were the people affected by it? Blacks and minorities or whites?
Unfair sentences for weed and crack. That's what truly hurt the black community. Not welfare where a shit ton of whites are on it as well.
I have no problem acknowledging Clinton passed the crime bill, but Candice acts as if the republican party had absolutely nothing to do with mass incarceration. Hell it doesn't even exist according to her
@@MikeBNumba6 Well if they were into heavy drug dealing of Cocaine or Heroin or Crack Cocaine, I could really care less. They belong in jail.
Those are not the type of people I am going to get up set about for being in jail for a long time. They belong there. Why would you defend that when this type of stuff is largely still the main cause of the out of control murder rates in the Black precincts in areas like Chicago, LA, Saint Louis, Baltimore, New Orleans, Atlanta, etc, etc.
It is the pot possession crimes and people locked up for 3 strikes your out for possession of pot who got put in jail for 5 to 10 years that I think were unjust sentencing laws.
On the sentencing for Cocaine/Crack/Heroine drug crimes, I am 100% in support of it regardless of who passed it.
The biggest reason for fatherless homes in the 80's is DOPE.
@Wonderland t when ppl are strung out and addicted to drugs they are not in their right mind. My auntie had 4 kids and didn't raise any of them because she kept going back to smoking crack. Drugs addiction destroyed many homes in the 80s whether it was one parent or both. For some reason that conversation has been pushed to the side.
Something I thought
This was a great conversation. Love to see two black people talking and having disagreements without yelling and cursing. Love Candace soooooooo much!
That dude is annoying. He was trying to fight the whole time it seemed.
@@1HitCombo Hahahahahhaha..😅😅
@@1HitCombo What video were you watching? From timestamp 9:50 - 10:00 Candace Owens says the following, "You are EXACTLY RIGHT and I AGREE with you." Candace didn't have a problem with him
Ya'll so racist lol
Modern women DESIRE to be single/alone they seem to find comfort in UNBALANCED SITUATIONS which is NORMALIZED today. This MENTAL COMPLEX INCREASES the DELUSIONAL decision making factors. The children INHERIT the traits and continue on-
The biggest privilege I have is the fact that I grew up with both mom and dad in the house
Me too. Never take that for granted. The two people who brought you into the world should be there to bring you up in it.
same
I had neither parent. Raised by my grandparents. I do alright. Although, it would’ve been cool to have two loving parents.
I grew up with a dad who was not present. It had a profound impact on my choices I made as a teenager. It took me a long time to claw my way out of poverty. At some point you have to stop playing the victim card and stand on your own two feet
Love to see a great, open discussion between two very intelligent and self aware people. No fighting, just a clear willingness and desire for communication.
Now I understand why I am always the odd one out. Turns out I am the only one who grew up with a father in the house.
I can relate to that. I took that for granted.
Haha
@@temposhop8739 Same here bro, I have too many friends with either no dad or a stepdad they have no connection with.
I took my father for granted, he passed away. Hope one day I can be half the man he was.
Facts I don’t think I’ll be the same person if my mom & Dad weren’t married/ together .. I’m a daddy’s girl but I love both of my parents for taking care of me ❤️❤️
I love Candace & it’s refreshing to see others from our community give her space to share in their discussions. Salute.
Indeed
This was such a beautiful interview/convo. We need more of this. I agree with you.
She scapegoats to the racist crowd too much. She takes everything negative from the black community and try to make money out of it.. Have you ever seen Candace speak up against racism or say anything positive about the black community ❓ She thinks blm is a terrorist organization... What world are you guys living in❓
that is not what I see on personals ads, it is ALWAYS a white woman with a black man. black women are simply not as beautiful, starting with nappy hair, as white women so they use white women instead.
What I like about this dude is that he doesn’t just agree with his guest just because there his guest. I agree with both of them.
Shiiiii...I made a comment on his Robin Lynn vid (being funny) because he was agreeing to much.
To be honest I'm kind of shocked how this issue isn't discussed in the mainstream media every day. It has such a enormous impact, but people just sweep it under the rug.
Why when mainstream media is apart of the system contributing all of this. Sex, drugs, violence etc. are all glamorize by mainstream media
As a mother who happens to be single (that’s how I refer to myself). I was married to my child’s Father. Right after I found out I was pregnant I realized I created life with a person that I was not best suited with. After therapy, a lot of forgiveness and healing. I have come to realize that a lot of us are making decisions trying to heal the broken places and we are so focused on the end goal of what we think we need to fix what is broken, that we forget all the other variables like the person we are doing it with. I think men and women want to be loved and we take that desperation and make such reckless decisions. I urge anyone who thinks marriage & having children will fix something or make you happy to seek therapy first. Once you heal in therapy and realize you have everything you need to be happy, you will attract people into your life who you are meant to love and create a life with.
I agree with Candace that there is a ying and a yang and both should be equally celebrated in each roles that men and women have. There is a disruption in this balance.
Rugga dipset keeping you lifted in prayer, clearly you are disturbed. Have a blessed day.
I feel you, it’s self love at the end of the day and we as black folk struggle with that for systemic reasons. It’s all good we all trying to be better and do better for our children.
I couldn’t agree more, we have a lot to overcome because of generational curses.
@@jelissafrank5858 keep your head up, this community is filled with inexperienced, undesirable, yet entitled men who hate women because they not been chosen. Do the best you can and your child will be fine.
R. Walker wow thank you for that, I will. I pray men and women in our community are healed and that we start choosing one another.
Imagine being a kid with two parents who obviously hate each other, or are in an abusive relationship and are only staying together to avoid the social stigma of divorce. Unfortunately that kid is not seeing a great example of marriage.
I think we need to make sure our children have great influences in their lives, so if there's 2 parents, they BOTH have to be good parents to make a difference
I agree. It's not just welfare that changed the family dynamics of black families. Black women became fed up with being abused so they kicked their men out or left.
Exactly. I was going to comment this until I saw yours. Thank you! This doesn't get addressed often. People forget there were no laws on the books for domestic violence until the early 1980s. Domestic violence wasn't illegal...it was considered a "family issue". A man could do whatever he wanted to his wife and children and the wife had no recourse legally. I grew up hearing so many instances of husbands beating their wives. It disgusted me to know these women couldn't do anything. You have to remember that back in the day there were no shelters and women had lots of kids. Back in the day, you had families of 8, 9, 10. That was common. Women didn't leave because there was nowhere to go with 6, 7, 8 kids. So, I think those kids grew up to not be interested in wanting to get married. That part is understandable. Unfortunately, the problem is that these people still had kids...but just didn't get married and that didn't help the situation either.
@@lavernaphifer159 EXACTLY!
A lot of that happened in the 50’s, 60’s, and during Jim Crowe. It has a major affect on what people are willing to endure just to say they’re married.
Obviously.
If parents (especially african-americans) would raise their kids to be more marriage-minded this may not be such a huge issue
This generation is doomed and it will only get worse in the future unless there is a huge cultural revolution.
Nah its much more complicated. Parents have very little influence on kids in this society compared to media, schools, business and marketing interests, and organizations. I don't think we're going back unless it falls because most people make their living from that.
people themselves aren't getting married cause it not fair for men
You need 2 parents to instill this into the mind of a child!
So true
Great perspective. My mother is 72 she talks about this in detail how welfare changed the dynamics of the black family.
We live in a society that lacks fathers, not men but fathers, fathers bring stability, direction and order in society
This is why we lack order and direction and stability
This is why we need to completely dismantle the remnants from the war on drugs which splits apart black families. It's created a generation of children without father figures who then become poor parents themselves. And you can't do better if you never learned any better. We need to break the cycle. Vote for the leaders that are for prison reform, police reform, and for community programs that will help teach our next generation how to be responsible, educated, and empowered in their lives.
Completely agreed, kids tend do better with two parent households. But feminist groups and BLM want to dismantle the idea of the nuclear family. BLM’s website even states that as part of their mission statement. So odd
Right,a father and a dad is 2 different things.
Amen all men see is sex and money I’m sorry just those two entities will leave many children without fathers and dads and a man figure period they don’t think about the children first
And God=Father...
Sadly woman are the last defense for the womb. Choose wisely who you allow in there.
#fact...I feel this is the biggest issue. Women bring children into the world, not men, we have autonomy now more than ever before, we have contraception, abortion, we can choose to bring a baby in or take it out before it ever becomes a whole being. We bring children into the world without support, bring them in on welfare and we do it repeatedly and blame men when we knew what could subsequently happen in most cases. Sometimes we plan and think we have support and men leave but when we deicdd to have a child and we are not in a strong union make sure you have your finances in order and everything else and then raise your child as best you can. Then women who have multiple kids and fathers are a huge problem and we do that and then their children carry on this tradition and this is what is wrong with our people.
My biggest problem with your comment is that it puts the woman in the blame. No one really tell the men that they need to protect their sperm. Women are no more responsible than the man....I mean at least the women stuck around to raise the child.
I’m not saying that women are more to blame. What I am saying that factually woman Are the last line of the Defense for birth control. It’s up to the woman to have three days to take Plan B. I know for men there’s no sperm control. However in America at least, Men are deemed as providers and not caretakers. This is why some babies are perceived as check babies. I agree there needs to be more accountability for both parents. This does not negate the fact that women are the last line of the defense For pregnancy prevention. I believe if men and women were taught and instilled that idea, that every time you have sex, there is a chance of a potential pregnancy and a potential disease. The world might run a little better
Absolutely
@@Lovelyone1 🤣 actually there are men of means are getting vasectomies. Then you have men walking away with their rubber after use, because some women may dig it out of the trash for self insemination.
So, a developed nation citizens, specifically women, have so many choices when it comes to birth control. And then even if some men who wanted to be father and keep the child, he has no choice. Bc the current society believe that sperm once it leaves the men, he no longer has control.
His idea for a tv show like Madmen but with a view on black America making a transition beginning in the 60s is a brilliant idea. Someone, make it happen
Tweet or to shonda rimes
I love Madmen! I would watch it. Check out Madmen if you haven't, fantastic show!
Tweet Shonda Rhimes, Tyler Perry, Oprah, Spike Lee, Ava Duverney one of them should pick it up!
I feel so intelligent every time I hear her speak. This was really good.
@Andre Hpunkt because she's learning something
This conversation can't be had without acknowledging the impact of the War on Drugs and the explosion of the prison industry beginning in the early 1980's. These things disproportionately affected African Americans, specifically Black men. When large numbers of men are incarcerated and taken out of the community, the community is affected. Plus when they return they can't get decent paying jobs due to being felons. So there's both a social and economic impact. The idea that Welfare alone (or even mostly) caused the break up of the Black family is short sighted and ignorant.
Well said
Exactly.
Feminism was before the 1980's. The ideology was already put forth that fathers aren't valuable, important, and necessary.
Not to mention that black communities were intentionally flooded with drugs by the US government to fund the Nicaraguan civil war in the 80’s. It had a massive trickle affect on family structures and was covered up.
She won't bring up the war on drugs which was spear headed by Regan because it would be criticizing the republicans.
And since Candice is getting fat checks by the republicans she will never talk bad about them.
Welfare has something to do with it, but I find it funny how it doesn't affect white people the same way it does black people.
She's full of it and she's repeating the same racist crap as alt righters. Just saying it under a different tone
I enjoy two intelligent people simply having a conversation!!!
yes amazing :D
Don't forget feminism convincing women they don't need a man in the house and that they can raise a child on their own ( while receiving child support /alimony at the same time ...smh)
Exactly. It's normalized for women to be single mothers.
US gov said
*“Heyyyyyy wait a minute.. 50% of the population isn’t in the labor force or in this tax game...Why are women sitting at home for free when we could be making MUCH money off of half the US pop? Heyyyy let’s get them out here in the labor market and get pizzzzzaid with their taxes... and hey, let’s restructure the entire cost of a home where, prior to the 70s, you could get a house reasonably and pay a small percentage of the husband’s one income on housing but nope... now let’s set up housing costs and mortgage applications based on two incomes rather than just a husband’s and change that whole game where a house was $30,000 but is based on two incomes and is $125,000 and let’s make it so people forget where there was a time when the dad could do it all for his family on his single income ... buy that house on that one income, go on vacation even if rare, even send kids to college, the whole nine ...and mom could look after their kids...*
*Enough of that! Let’s get twice the taxes and change the whole American grind and American “dream” and blame people for it!”*
U S A🇺🇸
Say it louder for all the cognitive dissonant BW in the back or the room!
@Braxton Payne most racist people don't identify as racists so what's your point?
@Braxton Payne you must not listen to today's black music especially the music from black women in the hip hop culture which is probably the most popular music today it promotes feminism x10
I am glad I had both my parents.thank God
IMO We exchanged marriage for sleeping around simple 🤷🏽♀️
Selfish pleasure vs moral self respect
This the dating economy is messed up. Why would men commit when girls are throwing out sec everywhere.
@@richild3967 Men are at fault, too. Just b/c she's throwing herself at you doesn't mean you have to say yes. YOU can respect YOURself, too.
Nawwww really?
@@missmargmillionaire6421 lol 🙏🏽
Also African-American families were very religious, back in the 60s as well. That Also could be another reason...😔
Aren’t they still?
DeathsXMistress i’m a member of a Baptist church, and no, not as much, over the past 40 years. Pretty much goes for all Americans in inner cities not as much religion as they used to be
Today we are more pagan
I agree. That foundation in God holds families together as well as teaches some basic ways of being. Thou shalt not kill or steal etc. these aren’t teachings in the home anymore, for anyone not just black families.
Today our children are receiving their morals from filthy music and videos.
I love how respectful they were of each other’s views. Even when they disagree they still LISTENED to each other instead of just pushing their views and cutting each other off, like is often done whenever Candice is invited to speak
He did not listen.
It's incredible how this is valued in todays world.. once upon a time, it was nothing to be applauded.
This is painful to hear but it’s fact. I’m a single mom that fight to cover both roles. I did not want to be a single mother but it happened. I was raised with both parent. It’s painful for me to know my son won’t have both. I can only do my best. I’m proud to say so far I’m doing well
@Jocelyn Marin sorry for your lost 😞
Keep moving forward and upward. If you are a believer and a praying person there is no greater tool than to look to God. Blessings.
@@ChefCrys01 yes I am a believer... thanks 🙏🏾
You got this ❤️
My mother was was a single mom, not by choice as my father died of cancer when I was young. Let me tell you, growing up was no picnic. Our family has lots of generational trauma due to poverty.
"Papa, come home, ‘cause there’s things I don’t know, and I
thought maybe you could teach me. how to shave; how to dribble a ball; how to
talk to a lady; how to walk like a man. Papa, come home because I decided a
while back I wanted to be just like you. But I’m forgetting who you are." - 'Knock Knock' by Daniel Beaty. what a wonderful poem!
Thank you for this. I am a father. Really hits home. Amazing poem.
their dialog is so respectful and patient to each other, I enjoyed it very much, it’s a rare thing to happen nowadays between people with different opinions
Seems there are a lot of comments about black people here. I'm white. I was a single mother for 5 years. I had unprotected sex with my boyfriend and got pregnant. The thing is, I had no sec education. I was made to feel like my natural human sexuality was shameful so I did it in secret. I was too ashamed to get on birth control. A lot of women my age went through the same thing. There were a lot of white single mothers when I lived. Most of them on public assistance, stressed, in college with loads of added stress to raising a person. I tried going to college but I had no support and no childcare. I've been married for 8 years to a great man and I'm finally back in college. My point is, sex education is important including allowing someone to feel that their sexuality is normal and human. Teach your kids that sex has a profound effect on you so be very picky about your partner and stay safe. Babies are a blessing but they can keep you poor if you don't plan well.
Thank you Brandi for your words and honesty!!! This happens in all races bad choices however, they only point the finger to blacks!!! Stay blessed!!!
Brandy.... you spoke directly to my heart!! I am still a single mother. I love my children no matter how they got here or how poor I may be. They were still a blessing from god married or not. My savior loves us and blessed us every day!!
Ik but in 2nd grade I picked up an anatomy book and read where babies come from, why can't you ? No sex education is why you're pregnant ? You're telling me you're old enough to have a bf but not old enough to know penis+vagina=baby ?
CANDACE: Talking loud and saying absolutely nothing!!! HER "m. o."
@@sheddrickkstraker369 and in second grade you really understood penis+vagina= baby but as an adult you can't understand this well explained post. Smh, somebody come get this dude 🤦🏾♀️
I never thought I would be saying this but Im starting to like Candice. She actually has some great points and we actually have some of the same thinking on a lot of issues. Ive just heard so many bad things about her and just never had an opportunity to hear her talk. Shes very smart actually.
The reason why she is hated amongst the black community is because she is not scared to about the issues that are plaguing black Americans.
We as black Americans( including black people who claim to be Christians) tend to sweep these problems under the rug and keep doing the same thing over and expect to get somewhere in life.
The fear of getting my ass kicked by my dad is what keeps me grounded
Agreed. When my mom would say “ wait till your father gets home “ kept me in check
I hated my dad growing up because he was so strict. Now I’m grateful that he was tough. People are so weak now.
@@Solaris501 Too many soft men in society that can't just say NO sometimes. Yes men. As the saying goes, hardship creates strong men, strong men create good societies, good societies create weak men and weak men create hardships.
A lot of discipline that was necessary which we hated but now see the value of. Those times even my mother or grandad will insist I study instead of watching a movie or going out to party at night, now I can download every single last one of those movies including those that were made long before I was born.
Now I sit in my well airconditioned house (every room), single man, enjoying my household while my colleagues are out there, working in the sun or waking up very early every day to go to office. All I do, is power on my computer in my home office, sit for a couple of hours doing an entire day's work in matter of hours and having the rest of the day to do all I want.
Anyone old enough to remember the sitcom Murphy Brown? It marked the start of looking at single motherhood as something brave and to be celebrated instead of something sad and to be avoided.
Does tacitly approve of fornication.
I thought same thing yesterday
Murphy Brown was a masculine looking and behaving white women. "Baby-Boom" was a movie but again these were average-looking white women that were already fairly well-to-do becoming mothers after amassing wealth. These types of shows and movies don't compare because these black women aren't high earning when they become mothers.
@@mbloom2275 exactly. Single parenting is so glamorized in the media. Women with nice homes and perfect figures saying oh how busy they are with a big smile. Well adjusted kids who want for nothing. The realities are far different. We are currently facing a generation of teens who were born to teenagers at higher rates than ever in history. We are about to see exactly how that turns out. Maybe then women will cool it with the sleep around like guys can crap.
Godlessness and being infatuated with sex and lust is what creates single mothers and broken human beings. God bless!
Jezebel spirit 💯💯💯
Lust definitely. My age group are bouncing around like rabbits. Yet older men keep asking why im single. Ill probably end up marrying a 40 or 50 year old.
Amen!
Or just wrap up.
Abstinence doesn't work and never has worked.
People like to get it in.
True
A public news page on Ig posted something like: “9-5 men or drug dealers?”. I saw a lot of future single mothers in the comments. Can’t make it up.
Crazy that the mom would rather have the man paying child support and not seeing their kid than being there for their kid and not paying child support. It’s set up for failure.
only to find out.... the isn't his
At 16 I told my sons father I didn’t care about the money I just wanted him to see our son, he chose to just pay and not be around but I made damn sure that didn’t happen again. I didn’t have any ooops moments again and when I get married when my son was 7 it was only then that I had any more children with my husband .... because I get stuff happens but my choice was for it to not happen again ... it’s responsibility that came into the equation
@@joyc9323 some. Like advice but not financial and my mother didn’t babysit and my older sisters were told by my parents not to baby sit. So it was my son and I for 7 years I ended up getting married and then having other children
@@annabelle1632 how is your son now
@@aloowalia2849 he’s actually amazing. I met and married a great guy and he really has been great to my oldest!! Had kids of his own now and is an amazing dad
Drug Addiction went up in the 1980's with the introduction of crack and jobs started going overseas.
Why didn't they move tho to other areas with opportunities? I am sorry the introduction of automation collapsed the industrial revolution in Europe as well, which is was 99 percent white in the 80s, allot of blue college factory and mines workers lost their jobs. The majority moved to other areas and took up other jobs to make ends means, only few stayed behind in areas with no bussinesses around and ended up welfare. Where is accountability i don't get it. Industry failure and economic collapse affects all people. it's our responsibility to hustle and move out to the next opportunity. For exmaple, after the collpase of the Auto industry which were mainly situated in deteroit ،why didn't they move it's been decades now! They are sitting there on welfare expecting the government to create jobs for them. this is not sustainable, bussinesses will move as soon as subsidy is cut, as they look for locations closer to their suppliers that will help cut down logitcs cost. The smarter move is for us to move to the areas where there are the jobs.
@@yarajoan841 - because the industries nearly all went to countries that paid pennies for the goods. Look at the Uygher Muslim slave camps in China that make a lot of goods for American companies. That’s not an opportunity for a person to follow. That’s the government siding with corporations to f over the American people while getting rich.
I can understand what you’re saying about accountability but there’s also a huge factor when the American government and corporations move all factory industry jobs to overseas countries. Covid exposed this with how all of our medical supplies being made in China. That’s a huge failure in America self-dependency. It’s the globalist model of using slavery for goods and keeping serfs in America.
@@umiluv i agree but outsourcing is not a race issue, it is a class war by the rich which affected ecnomies worldwide and people of different races were affected
@@yarajoan841 is it that simple to pick up and leave to another area in America? There are definitely areas of the country with more opportunities than others but it might difficult to find a place to live in those areas if it’s too expensive.
@@omieg89 of course it's not easy to move, however it's definitely not impossible. People move to areas within their means, based on their class and type of work they do (blue collar and white collar jobs). Now with the internet, it's very easy to find jobs regardless of the industry online. Even back then, people did moved to areas that are popping up with new markets and new industries
I am only 29 and moved across 3 cities for a career. You have to be willing to move than remain stagnant hoping a job you want with the salary to you want to open up next door. I lived in the UK, and I saw cities that were once vibrant and now it's only few streets with people on welfare. The majority left and only the stubborn few are left, it's been over 4 generations since the factories in the areas closed, and they still complain expecting the government will force some random factory to pop up there. The same applies to detriot, it's a undiversified city built around one industry which is the auto industry, it's been many generations now and there are still people not willing to move.
Because of my dad, I graduated a 4 year college debt free and I didn’t have to struggle with student debt like most people. My dad sacrificed A LOT for us. It’s crazy.
That's beautiful!
He must have stayed single lol
Daniel Rierson no he is married to my mom. 35 years and counting. He just has always been a frugal man. Saved and piled up cash for decades and I’ve never known him to own more than a pair of shoes at a time. He is super frugal and only spends money on things he deems an investment
I grew up without a father, and I had two kids in high school graduated on time. Moved from Guam to the United States just me and my two kids. I bought my own house my own car everything I have I bought on my own and it’s brand new. Now I’m married and have a total of three kids so that’s just bs. You make your decisions in your life you choose the kind of lifestyle you want.
The stats show you are "more likely". It's not an absolute. You made good choices in life and should be commended for that.
Your an outlier , your experience is not a majority. Modern people don’t have your work ethic or understanding and to be honest if they did they would more likely fail. Your a rare breed and if you have kids I hope you want them to marry them have kids
Amen!!!!!
@@CardiacJordan thé church should teach thèse values .Not thé gouvernement.Ask your christians fathers through America to teach that .
Same in Europe.They should .I sont Care about stupide gouvernement tonteach thèm Bad féminism .
Hafa Adai!
Daddy spanked when I needed it. Momma grabbed something when I got too big to spanked. I knew they meant business. Then something happened approximately around third grade. I realized how poor we were and watched how hard momma and daddy worked everyday just to get by. I told myself there is no way I can cause anymore stress for them by getting in trouble in the street or school. They’re both retired now and I spoil them each day I’m blessed to have them!! Thank you so much momma and daddy!!
Respect to you Eric
Respect
As a kid I learned to fear my parents. As I grew older, I learned to respect them.
Why are you still calling your parents momma and daddy- cringe 😬
@@wft15
I have amazing momma and daddy. That’s what my sisters and I have always called them and always will. Nothing cringe about it. You have your parents, we have ours! And the love in their response when they hear it is the best feeling!
She won’t mention the war on drugs and the Clinton crime bill. Farmers receive welfare they just call be subsidizing, but they didn’t tell farmers if you want this welfare you can’t have that man in the family. Not to mention the schools taking away the trades from inner city High schools.
Tons of military families receive welfare
@@trigreeng450 Please explain?
However, Philly has some great Trade schools. You have to work hard to get in, but you will have a trade by the time you graduate. I believe more than math and science there should be a push for girls to learn a trade. There I see equal opportunity and possibility
& want mention how Blacks didn't bring drugs on America soil into their communities either, blk demises becomes America Profits & that's getting ready to be rearranged Ase'
Plenty of schools have trades esp in the south. If not the school, the local union does. I was involved for awhiel.
My heart breaks for the people who grew up without a father. That would break me, even as a grown man - I can't imagine how that would affect a child.
Im in the UK and everything Candace says applies here too! I wish more people would LISTEN to what she says instead of what is sensationalised via the media. They make her sound "anti black" but if you actualllllly listen to her she is anything but!!!!
I like her but why does she loveTrump?
@@soltaniism I dont know if she genuinely does love Trump or the fact she doesnt hate him is misconstrued as love for him. I think she just appreciates what he did for the political party rather than love him.
@@soltaniism this question right here is why so many people remain ignorant. Instead of taking the message, you worry about who she likes. If you listened to trump, you may actually like him also.
@@soltaniism because he represents the interest of the people, like her.
The democrat party is the corporate party. Google, twitter, Instagram, Facebook, big pharmaceuticals. All left wing propagators.
The actual working class (majority of people in any society) voted Trump.
I used to respect her until she start spouting some bs about the Isreal/Palestine issue. They don't like Muslims clearly even though we actually live the facts their preaching anyway.
I love your passion in bringing information to the forefront so people can start to look at things differently and decide to lead their lives with more integrity. You're a soldier and I love what you stand for.
I was raised by a single dad. People often overlook the other side. I can see why though.
I would love to see these statistics as well because we don’t hear about this side. What are the outcomes of single fathers under the parameters mentioned?
Because single blk dads are almost never heard of.
@bigjay215 You might not understand how great and appreciated you are until later but thank you for conducting yourself with a sound and selfless mind. I'm an only child to a single mother, but she has 3 strong, married brothers with daughters as well so they were my influence growing up. Anyways, these women (late 20s/early 30s) show the same behaviors as your daughters and one is a doctor and the other is a lawyer. Please never stop being who you are and pursuing your purpose. Also, I know I'm a stranger on the internet but keep sharing your story.
People like you are the only hope we have in leading our community back to the way it should be. Peace brother
My home girl was too i actually never heard her til this day talk about her mom ever
single parents are a problem, but on the other hand. Being a child of parents that constantly fight is problematic as well. In history married people werent always happy with the relationship, but divorcing was wrong and people would feel ashamed of it. So most of the time people stayed in unhappy marriages.
I’m white grew up single parent household been to jail had issues with drugs and didn’t graduate high school
Once I stopped blaming everyone around me for my problems and realized I was in control of my future I started to rebuild I currently run a multi milli dollar business and mentor young men and teach them how to become a strong man in today’s society and culture!
And started being accountable
Your name your business let's see proof
Big 🧢
Like you said "I'm white." I white man living in a white man's world where the odds are not stacked against you because of the colour of your skin. That helps.
People hate her because she speaks the truth!
Exactly
this is literally the only topic she speaks the truth on. shes a hardcore trumper.
Why wasn’t the crack epidemic brought up during the Reagan point?! That was a huge blow to black communities and high levels of incarceration for black males instead of rehabilitation.
Because it's still our fault !! If we say that that's the case, then we're "blaming" something. Some folks will even say "but that was so long ago..." as not to deal with the constant arrows aimed at Black families pre-60's and down throughout the decades after the 60's.
Because this discussion is half-baked. Some things are the individual's fault, but some policies are stumbling blocks.
You’re right. Are incarcerated black dads a factor in that data. If so, racism and discrimination could be a reason for the increase of single motherhood
They couldve just said No.
EXACTLY! They act as if black people wanted to break up their own families
I have 2 little boys that will one day be men. It is my husband's and my responsibility to make sure that they understand that manhood=responsibility. Just like womanhood. And that the relationship that they witness between us as parents would be one that they would seek to emulate and aspire to. The family ills become societies burdens. We must seek our partners in life wisely. It is important for our families and society.
@alexa77cp the state does not punish women for their irresponsibility though, big difference.
I was raised by a single mother I turned out fine never been to jail or anything bad cause of my single mother
It depends on how responsible is the single mother.
@@nurarich4945 My mama was old school tough love act a fool she act one with as they use to say
@@darylfields she did well,God bless her.i can only hope that I will do well too.Pray for me.
@@nurarich4945 You will
1 outta 1000...
I was raised in a single parent household of 5 kids. My dad passed away before I was born and my mom had to drag all 5of us from poor rural China to HK so she can get help from extended families. We lived in 200 sq ft government ran housing unit with a bunch of gangster just 5 units away. Although I was the only one with post secondary education, 3 of us are business owners and two of my sisters had high level management jobs. The only form of welfare my mom received is low rent and cheap primary & secondary education for the kids and that's in the 60's as well. Asian sense of families extended well beyond just the 6 of us but included all our cousins growing up. I think it really helped.
These are the types of full discussions people need to address social ills, especially in the black community. Look at history but don't get stuck in it regarding present day problems. Analyze past solutions that didn't work and correct where they went wrong. Consider variables outside the tired and unhelpful rhetoric being thrown around by politicians. Finally focus on tangible measurable solutions. For the life of me I don't understand why any black people listen to Democratcs. This was a great interview. These two should be in politics. At least they discuss multi pronged solutions. As your neighbour up north, I have such hope for America.
Here is Biden's full speech on his crime bill. He is talking about the black community th-cam.com/video/zCaO0NvadlQ/w-d-xo.html
I agree, I didn't have a father growing up and now I'm psychologically messed up for life.
I don't see it as a single mother issue. It is an absent father issue. It is the fact that our society let's men off the hook. Society lets men believe that as long as they pay child support they are good fathers. Fathers put in the work everyday. Fathers show their children how they should treat their wife or at the very least the mother of their children with respect even in the hardest of situations. They lead by example. If you want to be considered the head of your household lead with strength, kindness and accountability.
seriously look in the mirror not just sit back and blame the man acting like woman are not part of the problem
Some of the single mothers were abandoned. Some of the single mothers abandoned their man, taking kids with them. Anybody who can't see that both narratives apply, simply isn't going to get the whole picture.
Coincidence that once womens rights came into play the single motherhood started to increase. Society shits on fathers and men every other day. Its because they need men just like you do
Women chose child support over fathers.
Yeah blame the men.
@Just me
In the US many men are in jail for child support.
Candace is so smart. Ive never seen anyone gain the upper hand during any of her interviews/debates. I love her. I could literally watch her all day.
They don’t mention the introduction of drugs into our communities or incarceration. Many layers.
They don’t, and I don’t even think Candace thinks it exists. That’s a problem
Just say no to the drugs. Simple
Umm if u know the history you'll know that white woman brought drugs and black men took it cause they were desperate for White women. Ask any old black person. No one pushed drugs down y'all throat. U took it
@@garcia320 it’s not about who took it, it’s about how they were criminalized for addiction. That’s a public health issue Lol
She doesn’t know that it exists! When she speaks on the black community it’s negative! This my thing! Candace what are you going to do to make a change in our community besides criticize and judge?
And imagine , BLACK LIVES MATTER wants to “disrupt the nuclear family” smh
Seems they finally realized most black folks are not down with that bs and have chosen to scrub that section out of their website
@@nginroom8108 did they?well, when the founders are lesbians , what would people expect.
@@nginroom8108 they changed their whole website. Smh. The devil is at work
@@jrs351 They legit removed it from the website! Does anyone have the screenshot saved?
I actually do have a screenshot of that particular part of the website.
They did redo the whole site tho. They know they’re losing support
I wish I had a dad in my life so I would know what it feels like to have a father daughter love and bond but I will never know for myself!!
I'm sorry to hear that
Blame your mother
I'm in the same boat. I was raised by a single mom; never married. I do not know what it feels like to have a "family". Some people confuse your family with your relatives. They are not the same concepts.
I am married with 3 children. I can see how they enjoy it - that close, safe tucked in, warm feeling all the time. I can see it. I can articulate it. But I cannot comprehend the emotions myself.
at least you are good at making shoes
I’m sorry that happened to you. Hope you’re doing well now...
Man , this woman is smart , obviously she highly talented
Baby mamas are a multi-variable equation...
She glosses over the 70s and goes back to her grandfather who raised her to find the values that she idolizes, never mentioning at least not here, why her own family broke down and why her granddad raised her. So yeah, there’s not a whole lot of integration of many variables that she’s doing, just black and white
Exactly.
LMFAO......
HAHA
When my father left our home when I was 14 that was the first time I had my first episode of depression, but I didn't even know what it was. I stopped showering, doing school work, and I cut off all my friends. I didn't have the type of family where I could share what was going on with me. I was completely alone. Dark times...
Why did he leave?
@@alexitillery7512 I don't know. My family is buried deep in secrets. Even in my 30s I wouldn't be able to get a straight answer from anyone...
Damn I hope you are doing better now
@@mistermood4164 I'm doing great. That was a long time ago...
@nogimmicks1 at 14? You don't say...
She is incredibly intelligent and absolutely stunning! 2 very educated humans. Really enjoyed this insight on how external factors influence family structures.