Please! you know good and well that lady had no intentions on leaving that man! And so did he know this too, which is WHYYYYY HE WAS THE ONE TO ASK FOR A DIVORCE! He I knew he was taking the piss over the years, but he also hoped deep down inside that she would have some self-respect and self-esteem and leave, But he knew that day will never come, And he knew that he was not only cheating on her, but he was also cheating his self for what he really wanted!!!! She has the nerve to charge for a HEALING COURSE, CHARGING OTHER LADIES, knowing full well If he didn't ask for a divorce, that woman was still be there with him right now living a sweet bitter LIE! Playing #HappyFamilies putting on a show for everyone else, what are they both hurt, broken, lonely, desperate, and MISERABLE!!
But if he asked for the divorce he could tell the courts I asked and they would side with him because he asked that sounds like he just don't wanna look bad although he already does 🤦🏿♀️
Tbh like him divorcing her shouldn’t have to happen for her to leave, she should have left. Unless she really was crazy for him, but you can’t always blame the guy for a woman going crazy lmao. You just can’t, cuz many times the crazy is already in the girl, but the guy can bring it out of her even when he just being himself. Trust me, my ex was batshit crazy and was irritated by everyone even her own fam 😂😂
Honestly is their truly a major difference between a narcissist and a psychopath? And sleeping with 100 people even when you’re not married is insane. As if STD’s and multiple babies from different people isn’t a thing and extremely toxic and dangerous.
Has to be more than that. Friday, Saturday, Sunday, 3 days each week, 52 weeks ina year, over several years and that just being modest. At least 200 women
In reality DERRICK WAS PREACHING TO HIS WIFE TO LEAVE HIM!!!! Everything he said applied to their marriage! I believe she still needs healing and help. She needs time to overcome all the abuse and low self esteem.
@@MotherDaughterGaming5157 no, he did those things because he is a dog! if he wanted their marriage over, he could have simply divorced her. All of that(100) women to send her a message? I don't buy that. he is simply gross.
Nah! She has no business charging anything. She literally needs years of intensive therapy to even scratch the surface… just because you have a testimonial doesn’t mean you’re qualified as a “coach”. Man, social media has gotten out of hand with these self proclaimed “coaches” and “experts “. Conning folks right out of all their money….smh. I’m glad she’s trying to heal, but let’s keep it a buck; she’d still be with him if he hadn’t asked her for a divorce!
Exactly, just bc you've been through something didn't make you a Guru all of a sudden, she's been fighting that dude's demons for YEARS.. she said their daughter was LEVITATING.. it's good she's talking about it and getting it out, but she needs a lot more healing
I can’t imagine sleeping with a husband that I know is constantly smashing other women. I’m sorry. That just seems gross. I’d be scared of catching a disease you can’t get rid of. I’m happy that she’s free of him. She looks beautiful by the way, in that interview. She is also so transparent and keeping it 100% real.
I would never pay for a healing course from someone who has only been in one relationship that was cluttered with red flags from the start. With that being said, I’m glad she can talk about what happened and take accountability.
$50 days Dereck has put her up to this! Something isn’t right with her barely getting out of this horrid situation by no volition of her own to now monetizing it while still going through. I smell the same bs when everyone fell for her hubby’s grift.
@@mindfulwebstudio7996 I thought I was the only one who caught that. If she helped sell people dreams, why not sell them on her own? new model, new concept, but this time with the added kick of selling the victim role in everything. That sh!t sells and she knows it. But like @Aaliyah said, happy she's out of that whole situation
She’s fresh out of the marriage . She’s not even partially healed to be tryin he to coach others. She’s definitely trying to make money off this. To be honest I don’t even trust that her and Derek are split up. She rushed to the media too fast
@@southisland425why wouldn’t she do that? She was at home running the business side of maintaining Derrick Jackson, the influencer. She would be a FOOL to not go take that experience and use it for herself. He made money off HER… the image he was able to create as a “Husband” & family man was only validated by HER existence as a loving & supportive wife. Or is she only allowed to go hide away and feel bad and embarrassed for his wrong doings.?
She’s probably trying to make money since Derrick seems like the type to be financially abusive. Plus after this interview he probably won’t give her anything
I have to say everybody is in this comment section defending her feeling all bad and self reflecting. I really think the ridiculous about of money from this healing course scam is going right back to Derek, again doing what they do best preying on weak women who are falling for it AGAIN and will probably buy “healing” from an unlicensed person. Very sad.
And that’s what y’all need to take out from this. Kill the messenger but keep the message. He was the only anti-Kevin Samuel bm lest some of you ladies forgot. And at least you know his advice came from experience.
Being with over 100 women is extremely dangerous and wreckless. My goodness. So disrespectful and it could have caused so many health issues 🥺 I’m glad she made it out 🙏
Please! you know good and well that lady had no intentions on leaving that man! And so did he know this too, which is WHYYYYY HE WAS THE ONE TO ASK FOR A DIVORCE! He I knew he was taking the piss over the years, but he also hoped deep down inside that she would have some self-respect and self-esteem and leave, But he knew that day will never come, And he knew that he was not only cheating on her, but he was also cheating his self for what he really wanted!!!! She has the nerve to charge for a HEALING COURSE, CHARGING OTHER LADIES, knowing full well If he didn't ask for a divorce, that woman was still be there with him right now living a sweet bitter LIE! Playing #HappyFamilies putting on a show for everyone else, what are they both hurt, broken, lonely, desperate, and MISERABLE!!
I had a husband like that too. He was a sick man, and he got an enjoyment of breaking women down. These type of men are demonic and needs to be rehabilitated
I’m glad she said something about the way she felt about her daughter because there are a lot of mamas jealous of their daughters especially in our community. Let’s talk about it…
I remember back in 2018 being called a loser, basement dweller and a nobody when I told women that Derrick was a fraud. We as men saw thru him due to the fact that he was giving extremely sus relationship advice. Ladies, if a charming guy says all the right things, and never seem to comment or give advice regarding improvements on certain flaws you might have? Then you are either being pandered to, or you're the product.
I never fell for it. His videos always came on my feed and id roll my eyes and keep scrolling. The pandering to women’s insecurities was so obvious in just the video titles alone. I don’t find him attractive at all but i think thats why he initially pulls his followers in.
The fact that you all knew he's a fraud is because you ALL practice the same deviant, degenerate behaviour in real life, and could recognise it in him.
I would never take advice from men who are literally on the bottom mentally financially morally and in every way imaginable. Most men knew he was a manipulator because they are too. 🤷🏽♀️
Breaking free from a narcissist is one of the most difficult things I ever had to do in life. My heart goes out to her cause she has children with him!
Exactly Katrina!! I thank the Lord that the narcissistic abuse I suffered wasn't tied together with children! Idk how she is going to do this with those poor babies in tow, but I will pray . . .
exactly. And its going to take her years and years to fully heal from him. I feel for her. People who have never dealt with a narcissist do not understand that those people literally destroy the fibre of your being. So having to mend yourself back up takes a lot of work through healing. God speed to her fr
Empressive, you dropped so many gems here. From the soul tie to the familiar spirit to the ill timing of her healing courses. You were incredibly objective and sound. I do feel for the lady. No woman should have to endure that. I applaud her courage and openness. However, there is something very childlike about her still. It's almost like she's still a youth. It gives me the same vibes Michael Jackson used to give. They endured so much as a child and were trapped inside, so to speak. I think she needs some more time to heal and some strong counseling both spiritually and psychologically. She had a lot taken from her and i don't think she has fully overcome them yet. I'd hate for some narcissist to take advantages of her again. I really wish her the best and a brighter future.
I was once a Da'Naia. The real pain starts after you're out of the relationship and you start to self realise. You start to recount and recall. They say hindsight is 20/20, but baby, coming out of something like that, it's eagle-eye vision. Its soul crushing. You become full of regret and you beat yourself up for not getting out sooner and for allowing yourself to endure such abuse. But, once you've past that, you're wiser, thankful, and completely different. Therapy is key to getting through all of those emotions. It ain't easy but remember some people never get out.
This is the absolute best comment. The recount and recall hit me! Yes! it is soul crushing. I’m glad you were able to get out of your situation. I don’t think that Da’Naia is there just yet. Time will tell.
It is very difficult to escape from narcissist abuse. If he apologised, I truly believe she would go back because he still has so much control over her. Remember he left her. She did not leave him. I also didn't like how the guy who interviewed her conducted himself. The constant giggling and lack of empathy at times. But we have to take into account that he is also a serial cheater himself.
I agree. He lacked empathy and all the constant giggling got under my skin. I don't think he really cares. He was just happy to have her interview first on his show. I didn't see anything funny about what she went through and is still going through.
Same here girl. Ive been hard on myself for wasting 4 yrs on my broke dusty ex. But then i hear this and think nah im good. I may have been dumb but at least I didn’t get pregnant or married. And i came out of it wiser and realized my worth. Im not sure if DaNaia realizes hers, especially because she didn’t even initiate the divorce after ALL THAT MESS. That man is trash.
You're not missing anything, hun. It's even WORSE to not put yourself first and give your precious body away to someone w/ mommy issues who doesn't even like you frfr. Keep going. 🎉
Single for going on 5 years now. Dating/Marriage/Anything else is literally not worth it now a days, no one is honest (like you’re an adult tell the truth), don’t get tested and are off in the head usually.
Same here... I feel so whole and free. Every day I wake up in peace and quiet... fresh air...no dust. Thankful for this peace. And don't really want to include someone else in my life again for fear that my peace will be interrupted
This just goes to show it doesn't matter how a woman dresses, a man will still cheat and disrespect her. So wear what you want ladies and live your life to the fullest.
Derrick reminds me of my ex. He made me believe we were together for 7 years. Two kids in. I started nursing school and he began heavily cheating. He basically moved on in the relationship got a woman pregnant even lied about her due date . When I confronted him he blamed me. But I remember the day I left a voice told me it’s TIME TO GO. I tried to ignore it but my soul was like girl you need to go and I packed my kids up and left.
Been there too. I had three kids & I’m glad I got the strength to leave! Raised my kids and all three are college educated, no criminal record and no children. Leaving that situation was the best decision I ever made; but it wasn’t easy. Much respect to all women who find the courage to leave a toxic relationship.
Her marriage was very similar to mines. If my ex husband hadn’t filed for divorce I probably still would’ve been with him & miserable. Sometimes THEM leaving is a blessing in disguise.❤
Right. She's still going through it. How can she lead others through something she hasn't fully navigated herself? She has a whole divorce she has to go through. This is putting the cart before the horse. I wonder if she thinks "God" is telling her to charge all that money for this.
This is a PERFECT example of how the wrong man can ruin a woman's life. And people wonder why I'm so cautious and take my time when it comes to relationships. THIS is why. Smh.
Clearly Derrick has mommy issues to be ok on hurting his wife so much. Plus he never cared about how his actions would effect his children. What goes around comes around.
Da'Naia's life with Derrick was a horror story. Predators in the wild can smell blood in the air. Derrick smelled her epic insecurities, pain and vulnerability. He attached himself to her like a parasite to fulfill his own agenda, and he got her to participate and support. What really floored me was he is the one that asked for a divorce. So now my question is, has he not told her he wanted a divorce, would she still be with him???? Da'Naia says she's healed, but is she really? I don't think so. She shouldn't be charging ppl to heal them when she is not healed. What she can do right now is hire an agent to book sessions where she can tell her story and explain the mindset she had that allowed her to go down, and willingly stay down, that deep dark rabbit hole she resided in for a long long time.
Agreed, I don't believe she's healed. she's been in this toxic relationship for to long to be healed that quick. The fact that he had to leave her show's you she's not healed. I can see him apologizing to her & her taking him back with no problems. She needs to really heal & start this again cuz this isn't it
Ladies, don't tell other women what they are worth based on your own flawed self value system. Besides, if you listened to the interview you'd know that the package includes experts. If it's too much, stay in your lane.
I agree the healing takes some time, although being with a narcissist and then getting discarded can literally be the catalyst for a spiritual awakening; And when you experience that awakening and can seem as though you have all the answers. Not in an ego maniac type of way, just more in a, “I can see everything so clearly and I want to help others!” type of way. I’ve been through it. My story is very similar to Dania’s. I didn’t endure as much as she did however I endured an obscene amount of abuse, disrespect, infidelity and humiliation and just like Derrick, the “man” had the audacity to leave me; Tbh that was the best thing he’s ever done for me. I had a deep spiritual awakening and I’m still on my journey of wholeness and healing
Da’nai is just so beautiful! Speaking out offers healing and I hope she receives peace and glows past this situation! She is a beautiful well spoken queen! Derrick needs to know life will handle him
This is so heartbreaking, I’ve been cheated on and felt completely broken. Thank GOD I snapped out of that love haze and valued myself more. I can’t dragged this woman because a lot of us have taken back a dirty cheating ninja. Black women we must stop allowing ourselves to be preyed upon. Stop allowing ourselves to be victimized. We are the ish and deserve so much more.
She look so much better! She got away! Yes I was R too! She caught a narcissist! Derrick has a sex addiction! And they was in CHURCH! We are all in danger of meeting men like this! She wasn’t crazy the demons attacked! At least she is still alive!
She actually didn't get away. He left her so he can hoover her in the future like many narcs do. Most narcs really never leave you they just put you on the shelf for future use. In their eyes your their possession. Depending on what type of narc he is they use sex as a way to exert control and/or love bomb you.
I’m so sorry! 🙏🏿 YES, he is a narcissist. People don’t understand that a narcissist is a jezebel spirit on assignment to completely obliterate you. They literally want to murder you in a spiritual sense.
A man telling a woman who they should be is red flag number one. I definitely think he preys on a woman's weakness purposefully. He seeks out women who have gone through tramatic things and just wants to feel loved. It's horrible how he takes advantage of that. There's nothing wrong with wanting love and affection, but it's important to know who you're getting it from
Ignoring her pain opened her Aura up to predators ladies it is sooooo important to heal!!!!!! I’m so proud of her for growing and look at how beautiful she looks now
No wonder why she was in the bonnet and glasses in that video, because she didn’t give a shit about his lies. I’m so glad she’s not with him anymore. These men prey on women who have issues with men, and it’s started with Dad. It always does. Dads need to do better with their daughters so Derriks cannot have anyone to prey upon! Just so happy she’s healing!
Having a soul tie with a narcissist is so much deeper than ‘ignoring the red flags’ it’s very spiritual. This is something that God has to break. I get so tired of people saying ‘why don’t you just leave.’ Or ‘she should have done this’ or ‘should have done that’ like they are perfect or have perfect relationships or they always do the right thing. Unless you have been a victim of real narcissistic abuse you will never know what it’s like.
I’m a therapist. Coaching and therapy are 2 completely different things. Both are beneficial for 2 completely different reasons. Still, I 💯 agree with you here. I would never go to someone who is still in the midst of their healing for coaching.
A deeply traumatized coach. I feel it would be unkind to put any burdens on her to help coach anyone else. She needs to focus on pouring into herself and her children, not others.
No offense to Da'Naia, but i think he married her because he saw her as "wifey material." And not in a good way, because if you looked at the pictures of Derrick being exposed out with someone else, they look totally opposite of Da'Naia. Some of them look like they would be video vixens. Da'Naia is religious, plain jane, and just seems safe. And Derrick knew that I think. He wanted to sleep with chicks that looks like instagram models, but have a wife like Da'Naia because she's safe. At least thats what it looks like to me. Besides him being a complete womanizing narcissist.
No, I don’t think it’s that, he married her because she’s the one that stuck around. All the other girls probably weren’t going to do the back-and-forth with him and once they found out about maybe other people he was with you like find somebody else, but Denesha couldn’t find anyone else, except for the guy that she was gonna play pretend with him then even she herself says that he married her because he got her pregnant and didn’t want his children living in a separate household from him. Funny enough then he opts to live in a completely separate location from his family just so he can continue cheating
@@Bree5three I definitely see your point. Especially with Derrick marrying her because she was pregnant and he didn't want a broken home. And with Da'Naia staying with him also. But wouldn't that be one of the reasons why Derrick considered her safe? Her pick-me attitude towards him? Having a family dynamic that he wants to keep? He wouldn't have to worry about her going astray if she's that loyal to him. Not to mention her insecurities. Also he did approach her first. And she did admit in a way that she was surprised that he did. And with their last pictures and some of her present pictures, she was obviously the opposite of what Derrick cheated on her with. Derrick isn't stupid. He's charming, handsome, fit, aware of himself, and makes money. There are a lot of women who would be willing to be with him regardless of him being married and he knows that. He obviously loves himself, and he's obviously very observant. And that's why I still keep to my reasoning of why he chose to be with Da'Naia.
@@Kiblaze0720 I'm sorry, but I never mentioned the reasons why he chose to marry her. I just mentioned the reasons why he chose to be with her. You can still be with someone without marriage. Idk why it's constantly brought up, but it's true.
I admire her for sharing her story and working on herself. To go through this publicly and have it documented forever is horrible. Truth be told she represents a LOT of women out here that pretend they’re better than her because they can hide their pick me status behind closed doors, but are no different. Being self aware is the first step towards healing. Unfortunately we live in an era of willful man sharing, desperation in women, and happy side chicks. I’m hoping women lost in this cycle find their voice, learn their worth, heal, and demand better for themselves. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about. A lot of people have played the fool for a man. Maybe not to this extreme but they have.
Trust me, if Derek comes back to her asking her to get back together with him, she will do it. Do you know why? Because she didn't leave him first. It was him that did it first. When a woman or a man leaves a bad relationship, they are finally done. But when the person who's the abuser of the relationship goes instead, they know they always have the opportunity to come back whenever they feel like it. I hope not but she really needs to get some real therapy to work through her issues for good.
Yes. Days or a week before he left her she was putting hexes on people who were commenting about her marriage. Hopefully being away from him clears her mind and she realizes she is in a better state emotionally, but it will be a long road to recovery due to being in a relationship with a narc.
She even acknowledged in the interview that she still has some more healing to do. Yeah, she should write a book about the ordeal, do speaking engagements, continue therapy and THEN consider counseling others.
This was dark, dark, sad and just so low. I know that she could leave but man, when someone has you by the throat psychologically, man, that is something else. I pray that she heals completely on every level.🙏🏾
Yes, that’s how I would describe it. That’s the word I was looking for. It’s so dark. Like frighteningly dark. I really, really pray to God she and her children are ok.
This goes to show you how not leaving a clearly dangerous situation can cost you. It takes alot to walk away from a dangerous, toxic situation especially when the alternative is being alone. I'd rather be alone than be with someone disrupting my peace and mind. Friends or relationship.
People with certain personality disorders such as psychopathy, narcissistic personality disorder, dark empathy, sociopath and etc CAN unconsciously detect trauma just by the way you walk. This has been scientifically proven.
Hmmm...What I think of this video! You are very good at what you do, Lady Empressive! You make sure you cover all possible angles without persuading a side. I have been following you for years, and that's what makes you really good. Your calm delivery without over-exposing emotions allows people to independently evaluate without a strong push in a particular direction.
A man like that NEVER changes. They'll just find ways to "hide" those flaws again and prey on someone who may not have followed the story of him being exposed. He's just going to carry that mess on to the next woman.
Derrick was a cornball that finally got attention from the women he really wanted. I hope she heals and get a personal stylist. Boss up on him sis. We're rooting for you🎉🎉🎉🎉
Glad she is out of that situation. Praying fir her complete healing as well as the healing of her daughters and who were likely exposed to a bunch of trauma.
I appreciate her being so transparent and wanting to help others with her testimony. For me, she's still in the middle of healing. I don't think she's in a place to charge thousand for her mentoring. She's moving too fast. Take some time to reflect
What was probably helpful was her disclosure. Im sorry she went thru that. She is NOW charging thousand to "coach" ? That is scam behavior. She has lost credibility in this regard. She is attempting to exploit traumatized women for profit. I dont respect it. To those considering her services, If you need coaching or therapy PAY a professional. Thank goodness this scam was discovered before She profited from the gullible. I dont deny that she has suffered trauma BUT she is in no way qualified to coach anybody on relationship matters.
@@tiziay She stood by this husband while he conned women because he provided a comfortable lifestyle. She knew he was conning women the whole time, we don't know how much of a hand she played in this game smh, because charging 5k for "healing" courses just like that seems odd, & using discernment D.J tried to profit the same way right after Tasha K outted him & he was promoting his book
I will say that I am EXTREMELY proud of this woman! Takes a really strong person to be able to share this kind of hurt. But, she's done such a HUGE solid to other women who really need help leaving similar situations! 🙏🏾
I can relate when she mentioned she knew their body more than her own. When you’re in a narcissistic relationship, all you think about is how you can be better than the other girls & you wanna mimic them. Even to the way their body is shaped & how they act. It’s such a weird mind set, but those who know, know. At least she’s not in that relationship anymore.
I understand her mindset and her low self esteem coming from her traumatic past because when someone cheat on you, the first question you ask yourself is " what she or he has that I don't have? ". This is so sad and heartbreaking. Her ex husband didn't have a mistress, he has multiple mistresses. It's so obvious that he's someone who is never sexually satisfied, a real narcissistic and sex addicted. There's no way she could have competed with all these women because He was the problem. 😖😣
I don’t understand why women don’t make themselves available for someone who doesn’t do this type of shit. You’re competing against yourself instead for yourself.
Is it due to being young naive and impressionable? I just find these type relationships happen when women are so young they don’t know anything about real love and relationships and womanhood.
@@toriyt2714 mostly yes. women who know their self worth & know what to look out for don’t get into relationships like these. Narcissists look for women who are empathetic, easily impressionable, & little to no experience in relationships. It’s a plus if the woman doesn’t have many/any friends/family to fall back to once the narcissist has her wrapped around his finger.
@@sha1841 it’s easier said than done. Most of the time, these women in these kind of relationships know that it’s ridiculous to stay with someone who treats them like garbage, but they’re addicted to the lovebombing so emotionally they can’t leave or see themselves out of it or with someone else.
I've been through this with my husband.The only thing is I never backed down and I always knew my worth,which would make my ex cringe and try to attack me from different angles. He failed miserably because I know who tf I am and he couldn't handle that. I'm definitely sending healing light and prayers her way.This is so hard to deal with and she have children with him.Lawd!!Karma,karma,karma.
Morning! It is 9am over here. 😊 I watched the podcast (part 1 and 2). It was heavy. One thing this podcast has taught me is: self love is THE best love. If you don’t love and respect yourself, what make you think that others will? What you allow will continue. She was the perfect victim for that assh0le.
The part about the daughter 💔🥺 I’m happy she’s free and able to admit that out loud. Hopefully she’s loving on her baby and she’s getting the help she needs. Soul tying can kill you spiritually mentally physically
She always gave me the vibe of someone who just wasn’t there and living inside their head constantly revising and thinking. I knew from the moment she wrote those long ass captions that were more like rambles than thought out think pieces that she was having a back and fourth inside her head. I was honestly just waiting for her to come to the end of her journey when the revelation and freedom came in and I’m so happy for her.
Thank you for talking about familiar spirits linking up or sometimes they call it trauma bonding, etc. this is a real thing and I had to learn that for myself I kept attracting damage broken men because I was damaged and broken and once you heal it’s such an amazing feeling, and you can easily detach yourself from those people
Very odd, it's women like her who'd pick their abusive husband over protecting their own. That man says jump over a cliff cause I'm doing it, they will gladly follow instructions and throw themselves and children under the bus. Just like Katherine Jackson...smh. Regardless of gender, self-love is important and folks should should stop sleeping during their single phase!! It's a very important time to improve self
This is heart wrenching. I’m so happy that she was able to get through this. Don’t stay ladies, it may be difficult but I can’t imagine the amount of therapy it takes to get over something like this.
I like your comment about God moving D out of the way so she can get back to finding herself. I can relate to that because my relationship with my children's father was almost identical as her's and D Jax. When you think you can love someone so much to the point where you are beginning to neglect yourself, it is time to GO!! Only because the other person will never love you better than you can. Period... Some of us women have to learn the hard and hurtful way But all praises be to God for seeing some of us women through this unfortunate struggle and coming out Victorious!!
It's so easy to judge her actions. Listen, people get used to trauma. She had no example of a good man growing up. She experienced SA that actually rewrites your brain. I just want to hug the young woman she was. Been there done that. Unless you have been there you would never understand why people stay in relationships like this. Trauma Bonding is a thing.
I'm so proud of her for surviving literally, narcissistic abuse. I ain't mad at her, as she stated on the Dear Future Wifey podcast, she has a master's degree. It's awesome that she's learned to value what she brings to the table thru academics/life experience. I pray for both of their complete and total healing. For Derrick to have done all the things he did to not only her but the other women he dealt with. He has to have had a lot of trauma as well. - smh
I love how you talk about trauma bounding. And try to explain why Derrick was drawn to her. That shows emphathy. Love your channel! Much love from Belgium!
…that’s why it’s important to have a good spirit of discernment and not ignore “red” flags and “conjure” up what we want someone to be. Life is too short to be having your energy and time wasted by another, especially in the relationship and dating arena.
She thought he was “a catch”, tall handsome, “high value”, so she was never gonna let him go. Even down the last days of their marriage, he filed for divorce, not her.
@@nameisamine She didn't think he was high value at the time dumbazz. Watch the videos slow azz. Just because he filed means nothing. But, ya so damn dumb in can't comprehend so you believe your lies.
Girl if this ain’t the truth. I almost got caught in something like this, was trying to see the good in this man n I’m glad God did it in a way that he proved my assumptions correctly and I dropped him so fast. Thank the Lord I didn’t push harder cuz the future would had been a nightmare
@Name is Aminé Also, he had a little money. I believe she said she stayed for the lifestyle. I don't believe she would have divorced him. I also wonder how much time they actually spent together. He had seminars, conferences, and meet and greets all across the country. Couple that with the cheating he wasn't home much. I believe she said I lived like a real housewife of Atlanta.
I pray she gets the healing she needs first it takes years and distance from anything that has to do with a narcissistic relationship. Dealing with one isnt a joke trust me ....
Laying it low, spreading it wide and doing it side to side 🤣 This interview, if you watched it was redemption for her in my opinion. I never thought she was crazy and I’m glad she was able to express herself and share her story
Was just starting to feel a smidgen of sympathy for her, but to see she’s out charging crazy prices to “help others heal” when she hasn’t put the real work into her own self-healing is giving disingenuous & CRAZY 😂
It's hard to be okay after severe psychological and emotional abuse. It's like being hit in an invisible realm. But one day she'll wake up and the heaviness will be gone. I can testify. Its easy to blame her when you've never been abused by this kind of person. You literally can't leave even if you want to because they hold you hostage with gaslighting and lies. On top of that she already had a poor self image. Trauma bonds are like spiritual bondage. I had to completely change my personality to leave. Rewire my self image by myself.
Have you or someone you love prematurely ended a relationship due to advice from Derrick Jaxn? If so you may be entitled to compensation.
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You win!🤣🤣😂🏆
So Derrick was telling women the type of man they should not be with while being the man they should not be with🤷🏾♀️🤔🤔🤔
He knew the traits oh so well
He got soules eyes, or is it me
@@dogydog247I see it too😭😭😭😭
He and the rest of them that are trying to give advice.
😂😅
Derek wearing that “Black Men Don’t Cheat” T-shirt has to be the funniest most ironic thing I ever seen 😆
It really shows the level of lunatic he is 😅
@@wanjikz92 he the type of lunatic who will steal your puppy 🐶 and then help you organize a search party. 🤦🏾♀️
😂😂😂😂😂
It’s called gaslighting
Please! you know good and well that lady had no intentions on leaving that man!
And so did he know this too, which is WHYYYYY HE WAS THE ONE TO ASK FOR A DIVORCE!
He I knew he was taking the piss over the years, but he also hoped deep down inside that she would have some self-respect and self-esteem and leave,
But he knew that day will never come,
And he knew that he was not only cheating on her, but he was also cheating his self for what he really wanted!!!!
She has the nerve to charge for a HEALING COURSE, CHARGING OTHER LADIES, knowing full well If he didn't ask for a divorce, that woman was still be there with him right now living a sweet bitter LIE!
Playing #HappyFamilies putting on a show for everyone else, what are they both hurt, broken, lonely, desperate, and MISERABLE!!
The kindest and most selfless thing he did for her was ask for a divorce… it saved her life!
But if he asked for the divorce he could tell the courts I asked and they would side with him because he asked that sounds like he just don't wanna look bad although he already does 🤦🏿♀️
Tbh like him divorcing her shouldn’t have to happen for her to leave, she should have left. Unless she really was crazy for him, but you can’t always blame the guy for a woman going crazy lmao. You just can’t, cuz many times the crazy is already in the girl, but the guy can bring it out of her even when he just being himself. Trust me, my ex was batshit crazy and was irritated by everyone even her own fam 😂😂
If he cheats or disrespects you while y’all are in the dating stage, he’ll move the same when y’all are married
He’s either an extreme narcissist or a psychopath, cause being with over 100 women while married is insane!
Honestly is their truly a major difference between a narcissist and a psychopath? And sleeping with 100 people even when you’re not married is insane. As if STD’s and multiple babies from different people isn’t a thing and extremely toxic and dangerous.
And just think. The CDC says 1 in 3 people have the Herp Alert 🚨 sooo….🫣
Textbook Narcs are psychopaths.
He might be in the closet cuz that’s ridiculous .. karma is real
Has to be more than that. Friday, Saturday, Sunday, 3 days each week, 52 weeks ina year, over several years and that just being modest. At least 200 women
In reality DERRICK WAS PREACHING TO HIS WIFE TO LEAVE HIM!!!! Everything he said applied to their marriage! I believe she still needs healing and help. She needs time to overcome all the abuse and low self esteem.
So true!
Yes! That’s why he did the things he did
Did she never watch his TH-cam videos?
@_molebogeng6281 she did, she indulged in it
@@MotherDaughterGaming5157 no, he did those things because he is a dog! if he wanted their marriage over, he could have simply divorced her. All of that(100) women to send her a message? I don't buy that. he is simply gross.
Nah! She has no business charging anything. She literally needs years of intensive therapy to even scratch the surface… just because you have a testimonial doesn’t mean you’re qualified as a “coach”. Man, social media has gotten out of hand with these self proclaimed “coaches” and “experts “. Conning folks right out of all their money….smh.
I’m glad she’s trying to heal, but let’s keep it a buck; she’d still be with him if he hadn’t asked her for a divorce!
She said they are processing divorce paperwork at the moment.
Periodt
She definitely needs more therapy it was a lot.
It’s all way too soon. I agree,she definitely needs a lot of healing.especially since she was with him for a very long time.
Exactly, just bc you've been through something didn't make you a Guru all of a sudden, she's been fighting that dude's demons for YEARS.. she said their daughter was LEVITATING.. it's good she's talking about it and getting it out, but she needs a lot more healing
I can’t imagine sleeping with a husband that I know is constantly smashing other women. I’m sorry. That just seems gross. I’d be scared of catching a disease you can’t get rid of. I’m happy that she’s free of him. She looks beautiful by the way, in that interview. She is also so transparent and keeping it 100% real.
Dont forget she was also on rotation with other chicks before marriage she admitted this herself. The man has never committed to her ever
It is gross. And I’m a man.
Better pray you only caught the curable ones if you get sick 🤣 HIV and the herp are for life
I would never pay for a healing course from someone who has only been in one relationship that was cluttered with red flags from the start. With that being said, I’m glad she can talk about what happened and take accountability.
$50 days Dereck has put her up to this! Something isn’t right with her barely getting out of this horrid situation by no volition of her own to now monetizing it while still going through. I smell the same bs when everyone fell for her hubby’s grift.
@@mindfulwebstudio7996 I thought I was the only one who caught that. If she helped sell people dreams, why not sell them on her own? new model, new concept, but this time with the added kick of selling the victim role in everything. That sh!t sells and she knows it. But like @Aaliyah said, happy she's out of that whole situation
She’s fresh out of the marriage . She’s not even partially healed to be tryin he to coach others. She’s definitely trying to make money off this. To be honest I don’t even trust that her and Derek are split up. She rushed to the media too fast
@@southisland425why wouldn’t she do that? She was at home running the business side of maintaining Derrick Jackson, the influencer. She would be a FOOL to not go take that experience and use it for herself.
He made money off HER… the image he was able to create as a “Husband” & family man was only validated by HER existence as a loving & supportive wife.
Or is she only allowed to go hide away and feel bad and embarrassed for his wrong doings.?
@@rainwash1365True. Her ink isn’t on the final papers and she’s not had to deal with how he’s going to act the first time she goes on a real date.
Why would anyone pay this woman for healing courses?? It’s clear as day she hasn’t fully healed herself…..
Damn! But true🤷🏾♀️😅
Facts I think it’s premature
She’s probably trying to make money since Derrick seems like the type to be financially abusive. Plus after this interview he probably won’t give her anything
You don't have to be "healed 100%" to help others...that's like saying you have to be perfect to have value in life. She has experience 🎉
I have to say everybody is in this comment section defending her feeling all bad and self reflecting. I really think the ridiculous about of money from this healing course scam is going right back to Derek, again doing what they do best preying on weak women who are falling for it AGAIN and will probably buy “healing” from an unlicensed person. Very sad.
He could give all that advice because he was a living example of everything he spoke against.
Him in the rest of them.
Exactly
And that’s what y’all need to take out from this. Kill the messenger but keep the message. He was the only anti-Kevin Samuel bm lest some of you ladies forgot. And at least you know his advice came from experience.
She was a willing participant allowing women to come and go in their marital home where their kids were
@@soso-b7n2n Thank you, at least some people in the comments have sense, he's only to blame up to a certain point, SHE IS MOSTLY TO BLAME!
Being with over 100 women is extremely dangerous and wreckless. My goodness. So disrespectful and it could have caused so many health issues 🥺 I’m glad she made it out 🙏
I’m sure he used protection. The guy is not stupid because he could have gotten somebody out of 100 pregnant
@@studio2898 right but you do know that condoms do not protect 100% against diseases, right?
Please! you know good and well that lady had no intentions on leaving that man!
And so did he know this too, which is WHYYYYY HE WAS THE ONE TO ASK FOR A DIVORCE!
He I knew he was taking the piss over the years, but he also hoped deep down inside that she would have some self-respect and self-esteem and leave,
But he knew that day will never come,
And he knew that he was not only cheating on her, but he was also cheating his self for what he really wanted!!!!
She has the nerve to charge for a HEALING COURSE, CHARGING OTHER LADIES, knowing full well If he didn't ask for a divorce, that woman was still be there with him right now living a sweet bitter LIE!
Playing #HappyFamilies putting on a show for everyone else, what are they both hurt, broken, lonely, desperate, and MISERABLE!!
@@skinbeautyproducts1998 just like Prince Donell and Dana Chanel
100 💯 agreed
I had a husband like that too. He was a sick man, and he got an enjoyment of breaking women down. These type of men are demonic and needs to be rehabilitated
Call it what you want but there's no hope for these types of men.
They should lock them up. Why is this not illegal.
A man in my church admitted that he would target women that had high self esteem and purposely break them down
I’m glad she said something about the way she felt about her daughter because there are a lot of mamas jealous of their daughters especially in our community. Let’s talk about it…
No one is ready for that conversation.
@@rjs659no one!!!(south africa)
@@VibesUnMatched😢😢😢
I’m ready for that convo
I remember back in 2018 being called a loser, basement dweller and a nobody when I told women that Derrick was a fraud. We as men saw thru him due to the fact that he was giving extremely sus relationship advice.
Ladies, if a charming guy says all the right things, and never seem to comment or give advice regarding improvements on certain flaws you might have? Then you are either being pandered to, or you're the product.
I never fell for it. His videos always came on my feed and id roll my eyes and keep scrolling. The pandering to women’s insecurities was so obvious in just the video titles alone. I don’t find him attractive at all but i think thats why he initially pulls his followers in.
Lmaooooo or you are the product, these three oh foes are his target and don't even know even know it
The fact that you all knew he's a fraud is because you ALL practice the same deviant, degenerate behaviour in real life, and could recognise it in him.
I would never take advice from men who are literally on the bottom mentally financially morally and in every way imaginable. Most men knew he was a manipulator because they are too. 🤷🏽♀️
Why didn't most of you see through KS🙄
If he didn't file for divorce first.. she would be still in a sunken place..Best of luck to her!!
Yup . She hasn’t escaped yet
Absolutely! After the interview, I realize she was definitely obsessed. If she would’ve taken her life, she would have definitely taking him with her.
That's the sad part about it.
@@dewannaglow8365 she would be doing gods work if she took him with her cuz we don’t need this type of behavior on our earth
Breaking free from a narcissist is one of the most difficult things I ever had to do in life. My heart goes out to her cause she has children with him!
Exactly Katrina!! I thank the Lord that the narcissistic abuse I suffered wasn't tied together with children! Idk how she is going to do this with those poor babies in tow, but I will pray . . .
exactly. And its going to take her years and years to fully heal from him. I feel for her. People who have never dealt with a narcissist do not understand that those people literally destroy the fibre of your being. So having to mend yourself back up takes a lot of work through healing. God speed to her fr
Why wasn’t it easy to choose yourself?
I agree
Same with children smh
Empressive, you dropped so many gems here. From the soul tie to the familiar spirit to the ill timing of her healing courses. You were incredibly objective and sound. I do feel for the lady. No woman should have to endure that. I applaud her courage and openness. However, there is something very childlike about her still. It's almost like she's still a youth. It gives me the same vibes Michael Jackson used to give. They endured so much as a child and were trapped inside, so to speak. I think she needs some more time to heal and some strong counseling both spiritually and psychologically. She had a lot taken from her and i don't think she has fully overcome them yet. I'd hate for some narcissist to take advantages of her again. I really wish her the best and a brighter future.
Cheating is a brutal form of abuse
I was once a Da'Naia. The real pain starts after you're out of the relationship and you start to self realise. You start to recount and recall. They say hindsight is 20/20, but baby, coming out of something like that, it's eagle-eye vision. Its soul crushing. You become full of regret and you beat yourself up for not getting out sooner and for allowing yourself to endure such abuse. But, once you've past that, you're wiser, thankful, and completely different. Therapy is key to getting through all of those emotions. It ain't easy but remember some people never get out.
This is the absolute best comment. The recount and recall hit me! Yes! it is soul crushing. I’m glad you were able to get out of your situation. I don’t think that Da’Naia is there just yet. Time will tell.
Agreed! I was in a narcissistic relationship with my mother-the road to recovery is long but well worth it!
Yes, I agree. I was married, had two nervous breakdowns, and I was severely depressed
Sounds about right(what should happen in cases like this). Sometimes you got to get knocked down to get up.😁
Jesus heals! That’s all I can say. Good luck on your healing journey.. love and light to you!❤
It is very difficult to escape from narcissist abuse. If he apologised, I truly believe she would go back because he still has so much control over her. Remember he left her. She did not leave him. I also didn't like how the guy who interviewed her conducted himself. The constant giggling and lack of empathy at times. But we have to take into account that he is also a serial cheater himself.
Exactly, the giggling!! I actually left a comment under the 1st episode about that; how stupid did it sound?
He did apologize and she did take him back just for him to text her back and ask for a divorce🤦♀️
I agree. He lacked empathy and all the constant giggling got under my skin. I don't think he really cares. He was just happy to have her interview first on his show. I didn't see anything funny about what she went through and is still going through.
That last part! The interviewer was definitely for the drama.
Looked like a regular tea/drama interview until dude kept mentioning god and Christians.
I thought I was the only one. The laughing irritated me and made me uncomfortable
I've been happily single for a year. No boo, no fwb, no nothing. This makes me feel even better because these mfs are for the streets. 🤦🏽♀️
Same here girl. Ive been hard on myself for wasting 4 yrs on my broke dusty ex. But then i hear this and think nah im good. I may have been dumb but at least I didn’t get pregnant or married. And i came out of it wiser and realized my worth. Im not sure if DaNaia realizes hers, especially because she didn’t even initiate the divorce after ALL THAT MESS. That man is trash.
And not by choice
You're not missing anything, hun. It's even WORSE to not put yourself first and give your precious body away to someone w/ mommy issues who doesn't even like you frfr. Keep going. 🎉
Single for going on 5 years now. Dating/Marriage/Anything else is literally not worth it now a days, no one is honest (like you’re an adult tell the truth), don’t get tested and are off in the head usually.
Same here... I feel so whole and free. Every day I wake up in peace and quiet... fresh air...no dust. Thankful for this peace. And don't really want to include someone else in my life again for fear that my peace will be interrupted
This just goes to show it doesn't matter how a woman dresses, a man will still cheat and disrespect her. So wear what you want ladies and live your life to the fullest.
Just traumatized, i hope she and even Derek can properly heal in their souls best interest.
Derrick reminds me of my ex. He made me believe we were together for 7 years. Two kids in. I started nursing school and he began heavily cheating. He basically moved on in the relationship got a woman pregnant even lied about her due date . When I confronted him he blamed me. But I remember the day I left a voice told me it’s TIME TO GO. I tried to ignore it but my soul was like girl you need to go and I packed my kids up and left.
Yesssssssss
Your instincts. Glad u listened
Literally the same life. Two kids, nursing school, together over six years.
Glad we left sis
Been there too. I had three kids & I’m glad I got the strength to leave! Raised my kids and all three are college educated, no criminal record and no children. Leaving that situation was the best decision I ever made; but it wasn’t easy. Much respect to all women who find the courage to leave a toxic relationship.
I applaud you, sister. No one deserves that.
Her marriage was very similar to mines. If my ex husband hadn’t filed for divorce I probably still would’ve been with him & miserable. Sometimes THEM leaving is a blessing in disguise.❤
Yes!
What would you have stayed?
$7,000 for what? Yes she went through a lot, but seriously boo you are not worth paying $7,000 for something you are still going through yourself
What this 7k is about?? I didnt watch her interview🥱🤣
Right. She's still going through it. How can she lead others through something she hasn't fully navigated herself? She has a whole divorce she has to go through. This is putting the cart before the horse. I wonder if she thinks "God" is telling her to charge all that money for this.
Right especially after he played her so badly how tf can she teach me anything she better use the 7k to pay for her own therapy session
@@rudyl1770 99% black women financially supported the Kardashians leave that girl alone, support her the same way or shut to hell up.
I think she’s conducting a bootcamp. 🫣
This is a PERFECT example of how the wrong man can ruin a woman's life. And people wonder why I'm so cautious and take my time when it comes to relationships. THIS is why. Smh.
Da’Naia put HERSELF through a lot. Fool me once shame on you, fool me once shame on me.
It’s the black men don’t cheat shirt for me
Clearly Derrick has mommy issues to be ok on hurting his wife so much. Plus he never cared about how his actions would effect his children. What goes around comes around.
Right. Where are his parents at? It would be interesting to see what they have to say.
*AFFECT
@@truthtorpedo4068 Thank you! 😊
He has deep daddy issues as well.
@Frankie Allen agreed miss
Da'Naia's life with Derrick was a horror story. Predators in the wild can smell blood in the air. Derrick smelled her epic insecurities, pain and vulnerability. He attached himself to her like a parasite to fulfill his own agenda, and he got her to participate and support. What really floored me was he is the one that asked for a divorce. So now my question is, has he not told her he wanted a divorce, would she still be with him???? Da'Naia says she's healed, but is she really? I don't think so. She shouldn't be charging ppl to heal them when she is not healed. What she can do right now is hire an agent to book sessions where she can tell her story and explain the mindset she had that allowed her to go down, and willingly stay down, that deep dark rabbit hole she resided in for a long long time.
Agreed, I don't believe she's healed. she's been in this toxic relationship for to long to be healed that quick. The fact that he had to leave her show's you she's not healed. I can see him apologizing to her & her taking him back with no problems. She needs to really heal & start this again cuz this isn't it
Ladies, don't tell other women what they are worth based on your own flawed self value system. Besides, if you listened to the interview you'd know that the package includes experts. If it's too much, stay in your lane.
Divorce cost money. Maybe she couldn’t afford it just yet?🤷🏼♀️
I agree the healing takes some time, although being with a narcissist and then getting discarded can literally be the catalyst for a spiritual awakening; And when you experience that awakening and can seem as though you have all the answers. Not in an ego maniac type of way, just more in a, “I can see everything so clearly and I want to help others!” type of way. I’ve been through it. My story is very similar to Dania’s. I didn’t endure as much as she did however I endured an obscene amount of abuse, disrespect, infidelity and humiliation and just like Derrick, the “man” had the audacity to leave me; Tbh that was the best thing he’s ever done for me. I had a deep spiritual awakening and I’m still on my journey of wholeness and healing
You must have skipped the things she manipulated against other women in pursuing him!😈🤷🏾♀️
Da’nai is just so beautiful! Speaking out offers healing and I hope she receives peace and glows past this situation! She is a beautiful well spoken queen! Derrick needs to know life will handle him
She’s very beautiful and articulate, such a shame when cool women are connected with duds
Don’t be a hypocrite just days you all were calling her crazy so 🤨
Damn she fell into the trap of a narcissist 3 weeks after her assault...This poor woman I hope she finds the peace she deserves
This is so heartbreaking, I’ve been cheated on and felt completely broken. Thank GOD I snapped out of that love haze and valued myself more. I can’t dragged this woman because a lot of us have taken back a dirty cheating ninja. Black women we must stop allowing ourselves to be preyed upon. Stop allowing ourselves to be victimized. We are the ish and deserve so much more.
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
Please don't go to white men
Whattttt!!! That lady wished the most extreme evils on people she didn't even know !!! She is the same evil that she wished on strangers
Well said, sis
Well said!
She look so much better! She got away! Yes I was R too! She caught a narcissist! Derrick has a sex addiction! And they was in CHURCH! We are all in danger of meeting men like this! She wasn’t crazy the demons attacked! At least she is still alive!
She actually didn't get away. He left her so he can hoover her in the future like many narcs do. Most narcs really never leave you they just put you on the shelf for future use. In their eyes your their possession.
Depending on what type of narc he is they use sex as a way to exert control and/or love bomb you.
Yes..We are
I’m so sorry! 🙏🏿 YES, he is a narcissist. People don’t understand that a narcissist is a jezebel spirit on assignment to completely obliterate you. They literally want to murder you in a spiritual sense.
STOP making it all about the Ƒucking man, what did her ass do
@@nikteezi guess plenty of BW must be nArRciSSits then, cause that jezebel spirit runs rampant in city girl 304 culture
A man telling a woman who they should be is red flag number one. I definitely think he preys on a woman's weakness purposefully. He seeks out women who have gone through tramatic things and just wants to feel loved. It's horrible how he takes advantage of that. There's nothing wrong with wanting love and affection, but it's important to know who you're getting it from
Ignoring her pain opened her Aura up to predators ladies it is sooooo important to heal!!!!!! I’m so proud of her for growing and look at how beautiful she looks now
What an absolute demon. May he reap ten-fold what he has put her through.
No wonder why she was in the bonnet and glasses in that video, because she didn’t give a shit about his lies. I’m so glad she’s not with him anymore. These men prey on women who have issues with men, and it’s started with Dad. It always does. Dads need to do better with their daughters so Derriks cannot have anyone to prey upon! Just so happy she’s healing!
Having a soul tie with a narcissist is so much deeper than ‘ignoring the red flags’ it’s very spiritual. This is something that God has to break. I get so tired of people saying ‘why don’t you just leave.’ Or ‘she should have done this’ or ‘should have done that’ like they are perfect or have perfect relationships or they always do the right thing. Unless you have been a victim of real narcissistic abuse you will never know what it’s like.
PREACH!!! People just don't get it!
Oof I definitely agree. It never gets easier to move on.
Yep. It's Not Just A Regular Relationship
🙌🏽💯
Preach! Big old facts 💯
To even coach about healing?!;that’s what Therapy is for. I’ll go to a license therapist before I go to some “coach”
Hmmmm 🤔🤔
I’m a therapist. Coaching and therapy are 2 completely different things. Both are beneficial for 2 completely different reasons. Still, I 💯 agree with you here. I would never go to someone who is still in the midst of their healing for coaching.
A deeply traumatized coach. I feel it would be unkind to put any burdens on her to help coach anyone else. She needs to focus on pouring into herself and her children, not others.
sheesh. this is why you can never take word for word what people put out too seriously
If she has that much of a problem with her kids skin, get those kids away from her and him, they both already crazy. Thats the cherry on top
No offense to Da'Naia, but i think he married her because he saw her as "wifey material." And not in a good way, because if you looked at the pictures of Derrick being exposed out with someone else, they look totally opposite of Da'Naia. Some of them look like they would be video vixens. Da'Naia is religious, plain jane, and just seems safe. And Derrick knew that I think. He wanted to sleep with chicks that looks like instagram models, but have a wife like Da'Naia because she's safe. At least thats what it looks like to me. Besides him being a complete womanizing narcissist.
I was thinking the same thing. You hit it on the note!
No, I don’t think it’s that, he married her because she’s the one that stuck around. All the other girls probably weren’t going to do the back-and-forth with him and once they found out about maybe other people he was with you like find somebody else, but Denesha couldn’t find anyone else, except for the guy that she was gonna play pretend with him then even she herself says that he married her because he got her pregnant and didn’t want his children living in a separate household from him. Funny enough then he opts to live in a completely separate location from his family just so he can continue cheating
@@Bree5three I definitely see your point. Especially with Derrick marrying her because she was pregnant and he didn't want a broken home. And with Da'Naia staying with him also. But wouldn't that be one of the reasons why Derrick considered her safe? Her pick-me attitude towards him? Having a family dynamic that he wants to keep? He wouldn't have to worry about her going astray if she's that loyal to him. Not to mention her insecurities.
Also he did approach her first. And she did admit in a way that she was surprised that he did. And with their last pictures and some of her present pictures, she was obviously the opposite of what Derrick cheated on her with.
Derrick isn't stupid. He's charming, handsome, fit, aware of himself, and makes money. There are a lot of women who would be willing to be with him regardless of him being married and he knows that. He obviously loves himself, and he's obviously very observant. And that's why I still keep to my reasoning of why he chose to be with Da'Naia.
He married her because she was going to leave when she got pregnant the first time. (According to DaNaia)
@@Kiblaze0720 I'm sorry, but I never mentioned the reasons why he chose to marry her. I just mentioned the reasons why he chose to be with her. You can still be with someone without marriage. Idk why it's constantly brought up, but it's true.
He broke this woman😢 may God build her back up again
It seems to me that she was already broken, and he took advantage of that.
And the craziest part is that derrick is still out here giving relationship advice on his channel.
What?
@@adayinthelight7575it's true he posted 5 days ago on his Instagram
No wayyyy
Wow! 😮
@@eliterosetarotthe sad part is ppl are still listening smh
Just a sad story from all angles. I wish her healing in the next chapters of her life.
She’s such a beautiful soul and I commend her for her bravery to share her story.
I admire her for sharing her story and working on herself. To go through this publicly and have it documented forever is horrible. Truth be told she represents a LOT of women out here that pretend they’re better than her because they can hide their pick me status behind closed doors, but are no different. Being self aware is the first step towards healing. Unfortunately we live in an era of willful man sharing, desperation in women, and happy side chicks. I’m hoping women lost in this cycle find their voice, learn their worth, heal, and demand better for themselves. There’s nothing to be embarrassed about. A lot of people have played the fool for a man. Maybe not to this extreme but they have.
Trust me, if Derek comes back to her asking her to get back together with him, she will do it. Do you know why? Because she didn't leave him first. It was him that did it first. When a woman or a man leaves a bad relationship, they are finally done. But when the person who's the abuser of the relationship goes instead, they know they always have the opportunity to come back whenever they feel like it. I hope not but she really needs to get some real therapy to work through her issues for good.
Yes. Days or a week before he left her she was putting hexes on people who were commenting about her marriage.
Hopefully being away from him clears her mind and she realizes she is in a better state emotionally, but it will be a long road to recovery due to being in a relationship with a narc.
I hope not I would hope she build up some self esteem & respect for herself
ID 💭 so!!!
Not always true just because you in your mom did it
*NOT TRUE*
I never wanted anyone to be cancelled in my life, like this guy.
She even acknowledged in the interview that she still has some more healing to do. Yeah, she should write a book about the ordeal, do speaking engagements, continue therapy and THEN consider counseling others.
Honestly who is actually willing to pay for those classes? 😅 If there’s anyone willing, they need just as much help as she does.
😂😂
This was dark, dark, sad and just so low. I know that she could leave but man, when someone has you by the throat psychologically, man, that is something else. I pray that she heals completely on every level.🙏🏾
Yes, that’s how I would describe it. That’s the word I was looking for. It’s so dark. Like frighteningly dark. I really, really pray to God she and her children are ok.
This goes to show you how not leaving a clearly dangerous situation can cost you. It takes alot to walk away from a dangerous, toxic situation especially when the alternative is being alone. I'd rather be alone than be with someone disrupting my peace and mind. Friends or relationship.
People with certain personality disorders such as psychopathy, narcissistic personality disorder, dark empathy, sociopath and etc CAN unconsciously detect trauma just by the way you walk. This has been scientifically proven.
Please post your source 👀
Hmmm...What I think of this video! You are very good at what you do, Lady Empressive! You make sure you cover all possible angles without persuading a side. I have been following you for years, and that's what makes you really good. Your calm delivery without over-exposing emotions allows people to independently evaluate without a strong push in a particular direction.
A man like that NEVER changes. They'll just find ways to "hide" those flaws again and prey on someone who may not have followed the story of him being exposed. He's just going to carry that mess on to the next woman.
Derrick was a cornball that finally got attention from the women he really wanted. I hope she heals and get a personal stylist. Boss up on him sis. We're rooting for you🎉🎉🎉🎉
Glad she is out of that situation. Praying fir her complete healing as well as the healing of her daughters and who were likely exposed to a bunch of trauma.
I appreciate her being so transparent and wanting to help others with her testimony. For me, she's still in the middle of healing. I don't think she's in a place to charge thousand for her mentoring. She's moving too fast. Take some time to reflect
Con job 2.0…The grift continues just watch…
What was probably helpful was her disclosure. Im sorry she went thru that. She is NOW charging thousand to "coach" ? That is scam behavior. She has lost credibility in this regard. She is attempting to exploit traumatized women for profit. I dont respect it. To those considering her services, If you need coaching or therapy PAY a professional. Thank goodness this scam was discovered before She profited from the gullible. I dont deny that she has suffered trauma BUT she is in no way qualified to coach anybody on relationship matters.
👏👏Exactly***
@@tiziay She's charging 5k
@@tiziay She stood by this husband while he conned women because he provided a comfortable lifestyle. She knew he was conning women the whole time, we don't know how much of a hand she played in this game smh, because charging 5k for "healing" courses just like that seems odd, & using discernment D.J tried to profit the same way right after Tasha K outted him & he was promoting his book
I will say that I am EXTREMELY proud of this woman! Takes a really strong person to be able to share this kind of hurt. But, she's done such a HUGE solid to other women who really need help leaving similar situations! 🙏🏾
So proud of her for real. May God be her strength ❤🙏🏿
The fact that he still has relationship content and makes his presence known on social media is sooo wild to me!!!
I can relate when she mentioned she knew their body more than her own. When you’re in a narcissistic relationship, all you think about is how you can be better than the other girls & you wanna mimic them. Even to the way their body is shaped & how they act. It’s such a weird mind set, but those who know, know. At least she’s not in that relationship anymore.
I understand her mindset and her low self esteem coming from her traumatic past because when someone cheat on you, the first question you ask yourself is " what she or he has that I don't have? ". This is so sad and heartbreaking. Her ex husband didn't have a mistress, he has multiple mistresses. It's so obvious that he's someone who is never sexually satisfied, a real narcissistic and sex addicted. There's no way she could have competed with all these women because He was the problem. 😖😣
I don’t understand why women don’t make themselves available for someone who doesn’t do this type of shit. You’re competing against yourself instead for yourself.
Is it due to being young naive and impressionable? I just find these type relationships happen when women are so young they don’t know anything about real love and relationships and womanhood.
@@toriyt2714 mostly yes. women who know their self worth & know what to look out for don’t get into relationships like these. Narcissists look for women who are empathetic, easily impressionable, & little to no experience in relationships. It’s a plus if the woman doesn’t have many/any friends/family to fall back to once the narcissist has her wrapped around his finger.
@@sha1841 it’s easier said than done. Most of the time, these women in these kind of relationships know that it’s ridiculous to stay with someone who treats them like garbage, but they’re addicted to the lovebombing so emotionally they can’t leave or see themselves out of it or with someone else.
Da’Naia charging the inflation rate 😂😂😂. I’m happy she’s on a path to healing. She should fall in love with herself again.
He is a monster. He found a broken woman who propped him up and he broke her down even more.
Poor baby needs PEACE 🕊️ and I pray she finds it. I've never seen such self sabotage before in my life! Lord touch them both!
I've been through this with my husband.The only thing is I never backed down and I always knew my worth,which would make my ex cringe and try to attack me from different angles. He failed miserably because I know who tf I am and he couldn't handle that. I'm definitely sending healing light and prayers her way.This is so hard to deal with and she have children with him.Lawd!!Karma,karma,karma.
You both are just toxic it takes one to know one which is why he knows who you are, you just weren’t bullied by the disrespect lol
Morning! It is 9am over here. 😊
I watched the podcast (part 1 and 2). It was heavy. One thing this podcast has taught me is: self love is THE best love.
If you don’t love and respect yourself, what make you think that others will? What you allow will continue. She was the perfect victim for that assh0le.
Damn you a time traveler
Giirrl, Are you a fellow German supporter as well ?🎉
@Nolwazi Ludidi , the Netherlands
@@chelsea-ld6ft , I am your neighbor. I live in the Netherlands. hahahah
The part about the daughter 💔🥺 I’m happy she’s free and able to admit that out loud. Hopefully she’s loving on her baby and she’s getting the help she needs. Soul tying can kill you spiritually mentally physically
She always gave me the vibe of someone who just wasn’t there and living inside their head constantly revising and thinking. I knew from the moment she wrote those long ass captions that were more like rambles than thought out think pieces that she was having a back and fourth inside her head. I was honestly just waiting for her to come to the end of her journey when the revelation and freedom came in and I’m so happy for her.
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Thank you for talking about familiar spirits linking up or sometimes they call it trauma bonding, etc. this is a real thing and I had to learn that for myself I kept attracting damage broken men because I was damaged and broken and once you heal it’s such an amazing feeling, and you can easily detach yourself from those people
That whole daughter thing was really strange.
Very odd, it's women like her who'd pick their abusive husband over protecting their own. That man says jump over a cliff cause I'm doing it, they will gladly follow instructions and throw themselves and children under the bus. Just like Katherine Jackson...smh. Regardless of gender, self-love is important and folks should should stop sleeping during their single phase!! It's a very important time to improve self
After the truth comes to light, there are women who will still listen to him and continue to give him a platform.
Everybody was calling her crazy, she blessed asf she got away from him. Anytime you get away from a narc your life gets hella better.
She’s charging thousands of dollars to tell women WHAT after she stayed with a cheating man for so many years
This is heart wrenching. I’m so happy that she was able to get through this. Don’t stay ladies, it may be difficult but I can’t imagine the amount of therapy it takes to get over something like this.
I like your comment about God moving D out of the way so she can get back to finding herself. I can relate to that because my relationship with my children's father was almost identical as her's and D Jax. When you think you can love someone so much to the point where you are beginning to neglect yourself, it is time to GO!! Only because the other person will never love you better than you can. Period... Some of us women have to learn the hard and hurtful way But all praises be to God for seeing some of us women through this unfortunate struggle and coming out Victorious!!
I was trying to go to sleep Empressive 😩
Me too😂
😂😂😂😂😂
I thought it was just ME😂😢
Ong same ❤ lmao 🤣
Yall some freaks or what? Come chill in the lou
It's so easy to judge her actions. Listen, people get used to trauma. She had no example of a good man growing up. She experienced SA that actually rewrites your brain. I just want to hug the young woman she was. Been there done that. Unless you have been there you would never understand why people stay in relationships like this. Trauma Bonding is a thing.
She definitely looks happier and I love that for her !
That's what low self-esteem looks like bless her heart.
I'm so proud of her for surviving literally, narcissistic abuse. I ain't mad at her, as she stated on the Dear Future Wifey podcast, she has a master's degree. It's awesome that she's learned to value what she brings to the table thru academics/life experience. I pray for both of their complete and total healing. For Derrick to have done all the things he did to not only her but the other women he dealt with. He has to have had a lot of trauma as well. - smh
I love how you talk about trauma bounding. And try to explain why Derrick was drawn to her. That shows emphathy. Love your channel! Much love from Belgium!
…that’s why it’s important to have a good spirit of discernment and not ignore “red” flags and “conjure” up what we want someone to be. Life is too short to be having your energy and time wasted by another, especially in the relationship and dating arena.
She thought he was “a catch”, tall handsome, “high value”, so she was never gonna let him go. Even down the last days of their marriage, he filed for divorce, not her.
@@nameisamine She didn't think he was high value at the time dumbazz. Watch the videos slow azz. Just because he filed means nothing. But, ya so damn dumb in can't comprehend so you believe your lies.
Girl if this ain’t the truth. I almost got caught in something like this, was trying to see the good in this man n I’m glad God did it in a way that he proved my assumptions correctly and I dropped him so fast. Thank the Lord I didn’t push harder cuz the future would had been a nightmare
@Name is Aminé Also, he had a little money. I believe she said she stayed for the lifestyle. I don't believe she would have divorced him. I also wonder how much time they actually spent together. He had seminars, conferences, and meet and greets all across the country. Couple that with the cheating he wasn't home much. I believe she said I lived like a real housewife of Atlanta.
Boo, that's what I been doing!!! Marriage is not child's play and prayer is so important.
I pray she gets the healing she needs first it takes years and distance from anything that has to do with a narcissistic relationship. Dealing with one isnt a joke trust me ....
Whew Chilay! The things we do for love, man. I done been there and done that. It's easy to cast judgement if you've never been thru that.
Ooohh chile love yaself better and please heal 🙏🏾
Narcissists need to manipulate someone as much as they need the air to breathe.
Derrick was feeding her charm and took advantage of her vulnerability because he knew she wouldn't leave.
Laying it low, spreading it wide and doing it side to side 🤣
This interview, if you watched it was redemption for her in my opinion. I never thought she was crazy and I’m glad she was able to express herself and share her story
The way she kept saying she knew other woman’s body better, etc. like it was so deep. I was like 😒
Was just starting to feel a smidgen of sympathy for her, but to see she’s out charging crazy prices to “help others heal” when she hasn’t put the real work into her own self-healing is giving disingenuous & CRAZY 😂
That part.... Let's see if she goes a year without trying to cast spells on women via IG... Smh
It's hard to be okay after severe psychological and emotional abuse. It's like being hit in an invisible realm. But one day she'll wake up and the heaviness will be gone. I can testify.
Its easy to blame her when you've never been abused by this kind of person. You literally can't leave even if you want to because they hold you hostage with gaslighting and lies. On top of that she already had a poor self image. Trauma bonds are like spiritual bondage. I had to completely change my personality to leave. Rewire my self image by myself.
Man I empathize with her so much. No one deserves this. So heartbreaking 💔
she needs to leave social media and interviews alone. she needs to TRULY HEAL.
She saw all the red flags and acknowledged it. I am really baffled as to why she went right ahead and still married him!
So glad she talked about this situation!!! Time to HEAL!! ❤
Power to her. Hopefully she’ll continue to do better and get the help she needs to succeed