I think a lot of women are people pleasers, I certainly have been all my life. You are doing well with your channel and I look forward to seeing you ❤️
Hi kim, I can relate to a lot of what you've talked about. But, I do believe many people feel just the same way. I work with women of all ages and many struggle with anxiety and lack of confidence. I struggled really badly when we came out of lockdown, especially going back to work. I live by a quote I once read " Get up, dress up and show up " and each day will be what it will be ❤
Louise I love that saying & I think that maybe I need to step out of my comfort zone with dressing up too. I loved lockdown & was gutted when I had to return to work. It's not something we all talk about either is it lack of confidence? I know I am one for putting on a front & plodding on. It's great when you have someone who you can talk to about how you are feeling. Thank you so much for watching xx
Hi Kim, I understand where you’re coming from. You’re lovely and if you want to treat yourself to a sparkly M and S top that makes you feel good just do it and wear it all through Christmas and new year! Also, if you do manage to find a way to curb the overthinking and worrying please share - you aren’t alone in this. I believe the pandemic hasn’t helped because of the social isolation and worry that came with it. Take care ❤
Hi Fran & I did indeed treat myself to the sparkly top from M&S. I absolutely loved the pandemic tbh. I loved the slow pace of life, never having to be anywhere. Obviously I missed my children & Grandchildren so much. My husband worked all the way through it & then was made redundant 😩I read so many books & just sat relaxing in the garden & walking. I know a lot didn't have the same experience though. I am making notes to do another video with what works for me too xx
Oh my gosh Kim, I can so relate to this. Thank you for sharing with us. I've become much more confident as I have got older thankfully but even so there are times when I struggle xx
My confidence comes & goes, I wondered if I was doing right posting a video like this. It's nice that so many people can actually relate to this. Thank you for watching xx
Hi Kim, It cannot be easy speaking to thousands of people and wondering will people come back!! I could not do it. I have been in this situation this week where I have actually said NO and spent the day having a ME day. When i said NO I feel I have to justify myself and then worry what they may think of me!!. My issue is I try to please everyone for fear of reprisals etc but we have to get over it. Try to think of what is going on this minute not what may happen afterwards. Do not under sell yourself Kim, if they don’t like you, move on. My attitude has changed since I have got older. Thanks for sharing, very interesting, nice to know I am not the only one. xxxx
Hi Tina, I sometimes think no explanation is needed for saying no, keep it simple I always think. We have to suit ourselves at the end of the day because who pleases us? A ME day sounds perfect, I need to plan one of those in soon. Thank you so much for your comment xx
Ah Kim, what a lovely video. Lots of what you said resonates with me, I know I come across confident, and the older I get, the better I get, but the biggest part of my life has been a big struggle., so thank you for sharing your story, and the lovely poem, we should never judge a book by its cover because we don’t know what it’s like to walk in someone else’s shoes, looks can be deceiving, people very often suffer in silence ❤️❤️❤️
Lynn you are so right, we just see the outside & think everything is rosy on the inside. I am amazed by how many of us are suffering from the same hang ups. I think it's good to open up & show a different side too. Thank you so much for your support Lynn & taking time to watch xx
@ I think TH-cam is a good place for this kind of content, because not everyone will go out and talk about it, whereas on here you can share things, and get support from your own front room. And I’ll always watch ❤️
Hi Kim, I have anxiety..I’ve had it most of my life and have never had much confidence and was have always been a people pleaser so I can relate 100% . I worry and overthink about what people think of me and what I say..I can lay awake at night worrying about something I may have said and how people perceive it. Which is ridiculous really but I can’t help it. Thank you for sharing this Kim, I’m sure it will help a lot of viewers. xx
Thank you for sharing with me. We need to just get over certain stuff don't we & put things in to perspective. We aren't on our own & a lot of Ladies who've commented feel the same xx
Oh Kim, we have all been here at one time or another and like you and many others, as we have aged we seem to gain more confidence. I’m the same with compliments too 😊 you’re a special lady so take that and run with it. Yep I say the same about ‘oh that old thing’ 😅 Just be you, you come across as a kind happy lovely person who always wears lovely clothes and looks ‘well turned out’ ❤
Thank you so much Carol & you obviously know what I'm talking about. It's lovely that we get compliments & that we still make an effort for ourselves & nobody else xx
Hi Kim, I so enjoy listening to your vlogs. Your experiences are definitely ones I can relate to as many ladies have said. My bum should be numb from all the time I’ve spent sitting on the fence. 😂 Many years ago, I did come off that fence but was shot down in flames. It was embarrassing and humiliating and I think that’s why I’m still stuck on it. I think I’m getting a bit better at accepting compliments. As you say, it is disrespectful to the person offering it . I often dwell on the past too, which I know I shouldn’t. Thank you for your wise words of advice. Have a lovely day. ❤xxxx
Hi Norma, I used to feel guilty for sitting on the fence but I think if it was that important then we would have an opinion. We should never be down on ourselves, we all have lots of pluses that make us who we are. I am getting there with feeling happy & contented. We can do this. Thank you so much for watching xx
Morning lovely 🤍 Well done for posting this, I know it will have been difficult for you but know you're not alone and you'll help so many others by sharing. You've really grown in confidence since I first started watching you and your first vid. It really is wonderful to see 💕 xxxx
Hiya, thank you. It really helps knowing I'm not on my own & spurs me on to keep going & open up. I am amazed how others can relate. Thank you for your support xx
Thank you so much June. The first thing is that it's never too late, baby steps for you. Think of one tiny little thing just to take you that little bit further. Age is just a number xx
Morning Kim. This is exactly how I feel I’ve always lacked confidence and been shy and anxious since I was little and I got a bit better in my twenties but then I lost all my confidence again and now in my late 50s I really lack in confidence and have always been a people pleaser and struggle to say no but this last year I’ve said no more so that’s a step in the right direction and one of the biggest things for me is I compare myself to others and that is something we shouldn’t do but hard to break the habit. I’ve been told I’m kind, caring, genuine, a great listener, a lovely person and all these things are what I would say about you. I found your channel and I can honestly say you’re a breath of fresh air and I love watching your videos. Looking forward to seeing what you’re going to wear to your Christmas event you will look beautiful as you always do. Have a great day ❤💕💕
Hi Sandra, see, it shows how alike we are. I am so glad I did this video so that you know that how you are feeling & myself, is exactly how other Ladies are struggling too. Together we can take baby steps & crack this. We should never be sorry for who we are because in my book we are unique & have a kind heart. Thank you so much for watching & supporting me xx
This is such an interesting video and im sure sooo many people can relate. It’s such a common feeling. Well done for sharing and putting out there. I understand the worry about what to wear but at the end of the day you have to wear what your comfortable in other wise you won’t enjoy it! If you are wanting to wear something that you think will be dressed up or fancy, glittering etc etc. Go for just something with a hint of glitter, just slightly dressed up, that’s what i do. Hope that helps you a bit. Over thinking for me has come with age. It’s so hard. At the end of the day you will look lovely and im sure people will look at you and think, how nice you look. I love our chats on instagram and particularly love how we have connected and how you support me with Templespa. You are a truly lovely person. Xx
What a lovely thoughtful video Kim. Thanks so much for sharing. I know you are a such a kind person and a wonderful friend. I second guess myself all the time. I think a lot of us do. I completely agree with the passage you read out. Make the most of every moment. Lots of love xxx ❤
Exactly Julie & I am happy we are friends too. I am amazed by how many of us struggle with the same things. So glad I opened up. Thank you for your support too xx
Hi Kim thank you for sharing this video I struggle with confidence and I have started going to the gym and I always to scare do things and I always worried about my health and have struggled with my weight thanks again Kim this video was very helpful and very encouraging thank you Kim ❤xxx
Hi Alana, we aren't alone & by opening up it's helping each other. Well done going to the gym, you are taking steps to improve your health. Keep going, you can do it!!xx
I love your openness, we all face this feeling - I know people think I exude confidence, but I do overthink and stress when I post a video. Will people think I look stupid etc... all I want is to build community here of support. It's lack of comments that bothers me if I'm honest. Sometimes you wonder why go to all the bother.... OK I've rambled on a bit 😅 keep your videos coming ❤
We never know what others are feeling do we? You certainly come across confident even if you aren't feeling it. I definitely worry with every video but then I didn't think I would achieve what support I do have. Keep going lovely Lady, you will get there xx
Hi Edna, thank you so much. Since I grew out my colour, the condition is better, the thickness has improved & all in all, I love it too. Of course I have an excellent hairdresser who I wouldn't swap for anything xx
Morning Kim, I can relate to this when I was younger I was painfully shy in my teens I would never push myself always seemed to be at the back off the queue, but as I've got older got married had two children I've been better, since my husband has passed away I've had too do more , stand tall Kim we can do this.Take care.❤
Aww Gillian, I'm so sorry about your Husband 💐 It's amazing what we can do when we have to, as you know. Thank you for sharing your story & I hope things get easier for you too xx
Hi kim thanks for talking , You've made me feel better knowing iam not alone thinking how you do. You articulated it very well ❤. Thankyou for being kim ❤❤❤...
Anthony, thank you for watching. It seems we are all in the same boat & have struggles that others have. Being able to open up certainly helps I think x
@@findingmystyle_x Thanks for your reply. I really appreciate your hard working & I've already subscribed. Btw, how often do you post videos on your channel?
@@findingmystyle_xThanks for reply. I really appreciate your hard work. But you must upload 2/3 long videos & 4/5 short videos at a regular basis in a week to grow this channel faster.
I'm so pleased to have found your channel Kim. Thank you for being open and I can relate. I'm heading to meet new people this weekend in a new city and it's always a little anxiety provoking. I look forward to more videos.
Hi Kim, thank you for coming back. I'm sure you will be fine & Will enjoy your time. Sometimes meeting new people can lead to new friendships. I met my new best friend on Instagram over 2 years ago. We arrange to meet up one time in her hometown & then next time in mine. Enjoy your time & it'll all be fine xx
Morning Kim 😊 I too have become much more confident as I've got older I just think generally you do I'm still a bit of an overthinker and question what I have said to someone how it came across etc I always try to be kind as you never know what is going on in someone else's life , good for you reordering that top and I hope you have a lovely night out take care and have a lovely day Kim 🥰❤❤
Hi Coral. The top fits & I now have my outfit!! What are we like as women & why do we overthink? I treat people the way I like to be treated too. Thank you so much for watching xx
@findingmystyle_x aw that's brilliant all party ready 😊, I know what are we like my brain sometimes 😂 , agreed 💯 always treat people the way you want to be treated definitely 🥰❤️
Your talking about me!As far as clothes for a night out I'm the sa e a lot of casual clothes but I dread getting g Invited out,I rush out In a panic to buy something. Have you looked at Roman maybe separates would be good a nice sparkly top and some trousers.
Margaret, it's terrible isn't it? I think I am so focused on buying clothes that work for me & then all of a sudden it's that time of year, I wound nearly not go because of not having the right clothes to wear. I now have my outfit thankfully 🙏 In future if I see anything I like then I am going to buy, especially if it's at a bargain price xx
Hi Kim hope your well.love your videos I’m exactly like you I say no now .i really ment come for a coffee if you. Have time I know what you mean about clothes ,look in next or M&S .xxx❤❤❤❤ ps I’m 63
I think a lot of women are people pleasers, I certainly have been all my life. You are doing well with your channel and I look forward to seeing you ❤️
Patricia, thank you so much. It makes you wonder if it's our generation & one we must show the next generation that's it's a no go xx
@ certainly 😀
Hi kim, I can relate to a lot of what you've talked about. But, I do believe many people feel just the same way. I work with women of all ages and many struggle with anxiety and lack of confidence. I struggled really badly when we came out of lockdown, especially going back to work. I live by a quote I once read " Get up, dress up and show up " and each day will be what it will be ❤
Louise I love that saying & I think that maybe I need to step out of my comfort zone with dressing up too. I loved lockdown & was gutted when I had to return to work. It's not something we all talk about either is it lack of confidence? I know I am one for putting on a front & plodding on. It's great when you have someone who you can talk to about how you are feeling. Thank you so much for watching xx
Hi Kim, I understand where you’re coming from. You’re lovely and if you want to treat yourself to a sparkly M and S top that makes you feel good just do it and wear it all through Christmas and new year! Also, if you do manage to find a way to curb the overthinking and worrying please share - you aren’t alone in this. I believe the pandemic hasn’t helped because of the social isolation and worry that came with it. Take care ❤
Hi Fran & I did indeed treat myself to the sparkly top from M&S. I absolutely loved the pandemic tbh. I loved the slow pace of life, never having to be anywhere. Obviously I missed my children & Grandchildren so much. My husband worked all the way through it & then was made redundant 😩I read so many books & just sat relaxing in the garden & walking. I know a lot didn't have the same experience though.
I am making notes to do another video with what works for me too xx
Oh my gosh Kim, I can so relate to this. Thank you for sharing with us. I've become much more confident as I have got older thankfully but even so there are times when I struggle xx
My confidence comes & goes, I wondered if I was doing right posting a video like this. It's nice that so many people can actually relate to this. Thank you for watching xx
Hi Kim, It cannot be easy speaking to thousands of people and wondering will people come back!! I could not do it. I have been in this situation this week where I have actually said NO and spent the day having a ME day. When i said NO I feel I have to justify myself and then worry what they may think of me!!. My issue is I try to please everyone for fear of reprisals etc but we have to get over it. Try to think of what is going on this minute not what may happen afterwards. Do not under sell yourself Kim, if they don’t like you, move on. My attitude has changed since I have got older. Thanks for sharing, very interesting, nice to know I am not the only one. xxxx
Hi Tina, I sometimes think no explanation is needed for saying no, keep it simple I always think. We have to suit ourselves at the end of the day because who pleases us? A ME day sounds perfect, I need to plan one of those in soon. Thank you so much for your comment xx
Ah Kim, what a lovely video. Lots of what you said resonates with me, I know I come across confident, and the older I get, the better I get, but the biggest part of my life has been a big struggle., so thank you for sharing your story, and the lovely poem, we should never judge a book by its cover because we don’t know what it’s like to walk in someone else’s shoes, looks can be deceiving, people very often suffer in silence ❤️❤️❤️
Lynn you are so right, we just see the outside & think everything is rosy on the inside. I am amazed by how many of us are suffering from the same hang ups. I think it's good to open up & show a different side too. Thank you so much for your support Lynn & taking time to watch xx
@ I think TH-cam is a good place for this kind of content, because not everyone will go out and talk about it, whereas on here you can share things, and get support from your own front room. And I’ll always watch ❤️
@ Thank you so much 🩷xx
Hi Kim, I have anxiety..I’ve had it most of my life and have never had much confidence and was have always been a people pleaser so I can relate 100% . I worry and overthink about what people think of me and what I say..I can lay awake at night worrying about something I may have said and how people perceive it. Which is ridiculous really but I can’t help it. Thank you for sharing this Kim, I’m sure it will help a lot of viewers. xx
Thank you for sharing with me. We need to just get over certain stuff don't we & put things in to perspective. We aren't on our own & a lot of Ladies who've commented feel the same xx
Oh Kim, we have all been here at one time or another and like you and many others, as we have aged we seem to gain more confidence. I’m the same with compliments too 😊 you’re a special lady so take that and run with it. Yep I say the same about ‘oh that old thing’ 😅 Just be you, you come across as a kind happy lovely person who always wears lovely clothes and looks ‘well turned out’ ❤
Thank you so much Carol & you obviously know what I'm talking about. It's lovely that we get compliments & that we still make an effort for ourselves & nobody else xx
Hi Kim, I so enjoy listening to your vlogs. Your experiences are definitely ones I can relate to as many ladies have said. My bum should be numb from all the time I’ve spent sitting on the fence. 😂 Many years ago, I did come off that fence but was shot down in flames. It was embarrassing and humiliating and I think that’s why I’m still stuck on it. I think I’m getting a bit better at accepting compliments. As you say, it is disrespectful to the person offering it . I often dwell on the past too, which I know I shouldn’t. Thank you for your wise words of advice. Have a lovely day. ❤xxxx
Hi Norma, I used to feel guilty for sitting on the fence but I think if it was that important then we would have an opinion. We should never be down on ourselves, we all have lots of pluses that make us who we are. I am getting there with feeling happy & contented. We can do this. Thank you so much for watching xx
Morning lovely 🤍 Well done for posting this, I know it will have been difficult for you but know you're not alone and you'll help so many others by sharing. You've really grown in confidence since I first started watching you and your first vid. It really is wonderful to see 💕 xxxx
Hiya, thank you. It really helps knowing I'm not on my own & spurs me on to keep going & open up. I am amazed how others can relate. Thank you for your support xx
Hi Kim. I am 72 and i still don’t feel confident. Cant see me changing now. You are a lovely lovely lady Kim. Xx❤❤❤
Thank you so much June. The first thing is that it's never too late, baby steps for you. Think of one tiny little thing just to take you that little bit further. Age is just a number xx
Morning Kim. This is exactly how I feel I’ve always lacked confidence and been shy and anxious since I was little and I got a bit better in my twenties but then I lost all my confidence again and now in my late 50s I really lack in confidence and have always been a people pleaser and struggle to say no but this last year I’ve said no more so that’s a step in the right direction and one of the biggest things for me is I compare myself to others and that is something we shouldn’t do but hard to break the habit. I’ve been told I’m kind, caring, genuine, a great listener, a lovely person and all these things are what I would say about you. I found your channel and I can honestly say you’re a breath of fresh air and I love watching your videos. Looking forward to seeing what you’re going to wear to your Christmas event you will look beautiful as you always do. Have a great day ❤💕💕
Hi Sandra, see, it shows how alike we are. I am so glad I did this video so that you know that how you are feeling & myself, is exactly how other Ladies are struggling too. Together we can take baby steps & crack this. We should never be sorry for who we are because in my book we are unique & have a kind heart. Thank you so much for watching & supporting me xx
This is such an interesting video and im sure sooo many people can relate. It’s such a common feeling. Well done for sharing and putting out there. I understand the worry about what to wear but at the end of the day you have to wear what your comfortable in other wise you won’t enjoy it!
If you are wanting to wear something that you think will be dressed up or fancy, glittering etc etc. Go for just something with a hint of glitter, just slightly dressed up, that’s what i do. Hope that helps you a bit.
Over thinking for me has come with age.
It’s so hard. At the end of the day you will look lovely and im sure people will look at you and think, how nice you look.
I love our chats on instagram and particularly love how we have connected and how you support me with Templespa.
You are a truly lovely person. Xx
Cazzie, thank you so much, I am glad we have connected too. I am sorted with my outfit & it feels right too xx
What a lovely thoughtful video Kim. Thanks so much for sharing. I know you are a such a kind person and a wonderful friend.
I second guess myself all the time. I think a lot of us do. I completely agree with the passage you read out. Make the most of every moment. Lots of love xxx ❤
Exactly Julie & I am happy we are friends too. I am amazed by how many of us struggle with the same things. So glad I opened up. Thank you for your support too xx
@ your welcome xx
A beautiful verse Kim, you are an inspiration . ❤
Marie, thank you so much. I love those sort of verses, they make me stop & think xx
Hi Kim thank you for sharing this video I struggle with confidence and I have started going to the gym and I always to scare do things and I always worried about my health and have struggled with my weight thanks again Kim this video was very helpful and very encouraging thank you Kim ❤xxx
Hi Alana, we aren't alone & by opening up it's helping each other. Well done going to the gym, you are taking steps to improve your health. Keep going, you can do it!!xx
I love your openness, we all face this feeling - I know people think I exude confidence, but I do overthink and stress when I post a video. Will people think I look stupid etc... all I want is to build community here of support. It's lack of comments that bothers me if I'm honest. Sometimes you wonder why go to all the bother.... OK I've rambled on a bit 😅 keep your videos coming ❤
We never know what others are feeling do we? You certainly come across confident even if you aren't feeling it. I definitely worry with every video but then I didn't think I would achieve what support I do have. Keep going lovely Lady, you will get there xx
Aw thank you ❤@findingmystyle_x
Hi Kim, not to change subject but I love your hair it always looks really nice. 💕💕💕💕💕
Hi Edna, thank you so much. Since I grew out my colour, the condition is better, the thickness has improved & all in all, I love it too. Of course I have an excellent hairdresser who I wouldn't swap for anything xx
Morning Kim, I can relate to this when I was younger I was painfully shy in my teens I would never push myself always seemed to be at the back off the queue, but as I've got older got married had two children I've been better, since my husband has passed away I've had too do more , stand tall Kim we can do this.Take care.❤
Aww Gillian, I'm so sorry about your Husband 💐
It's amazing what we can do when we have to, as you know. Thank you for sharing your story & I hope things get easier for you too xx
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Hi kim thanks for talking ,
You've made me feel better knowing iam not alone thinking how you do. You articulated it very well ❤.
Thankyou for being kim ❤❤❤...
Anthony, thank you for watching. It seems we are all in the same boat & have struggles that others have. Being able to open up certainly helps I think x
Hi, I've watched most of your videos & really enjoyed all of them.
Thank you so much 😊
@@findingmystyle_x Thanks for your reply. I really appreciate your hard working & I've already subscribed. Btw, how often do you post videos on your channel?
@ I try to post once or twice a week but it’s difficult either working as well.
@@findingmystyle_xThanks for reply. I really appreciate your hard work. But you must upload 2/3 long videos & 4/5 short videos at a regular basis in a week to grow this channel faster.
@ That’s something I am unable to do & is unrealistic for me
I'm so pleased to have found your channel Kim. Thank you for being open and I can relate. I'm heading to meet new people this weekend in a new city and it's always a little anxiety provoking. I look forward to more videos.
Hi Kim, thank you for coming back. I'm sure you will be fine & Will enjoy your time. Sometimes meeting new people can lead to new friendships. I met my new best friend on Instagram over 2 years ago. We arrange to meet up one time in her hometown & then next time in mine. Enjoy your time & it'll all be fine xx
@@findingmystyle_x Thank you Kim. I survived! I really appreciate you encouraging words!
@@mnop1774 Yes!! Did you enjoy it or just relieved that it’s over?xx
@@findingmystyle_x I think a bit of both!
Morning Kim 😊 I too have become much more confident as I've got older I just think generally you do I'm still a bit of an overthinker and question what I have said to someone how it came across etc I always try to be kind as you never know what is going on in someone else's life , good for you reordering that top and I hope you have a lovely night out take care and have a lovely day Kim 🥰❤❤
Hi Coral. The top fits & I now have my outfit!! What are we like as women & why do we overthink? I treat people the way I like to be treated too. Thank you so much for watching xx
@findingmystyle_x aw that's brilliant all party ready 😊, I know what are we like my brain sometimes 😂 , agreed 💯 always treat people the way you want to be treated definitely 🥰❤️
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Hi Kim: live your channel, dont overthink things, youre doing so well with your channel❤also your channel is interesting and fun
Hi Karen, thank you so much. I'm glad you love it, it makes it all worth while with your support xx
Hope we see your party clothes from Shein !
Unfortunately not, sending it all back without trying it on 😎
Your talking about me!As far as clothes for a night out I'm the sa e a lot of casual clothes but I dread getting g Invited out,I rush out In a panic to buy something. Have you looked at Roman maybe separates would be good a nice sparkly top and some trousers.
Margaret, it's terrible isn't it? I think I am so focused on buying clothes that work for me & then all of a sudden it's that time of year, I wound nearly not go because of not having the right clothes to wear.
I now have my outfit thankfully 🙏 In future if I see anything I like then I am going to buy, especially if it's at a bargain price xx
@findingmystyle_x Ars you going to give us a preview of your outfit?
@ I will show you xx
Hi Kim hope your well.love your videos I’m exactly like you I say no now .i really ment come for a coffee if you. Have time I know what you mean about clothes ,look in next or M&S .xxx❤❤❤❤ ps I’m 63
Hi Karen, I am 63 in the 6th December. I have got a top from M&S and so happy about it. Thank you so much for watching & commenting xx