Hello Brother, I really liked your video, your voice is so calm and lovely and I am so jealous of your books. What lovely study you have! I am 42 years old and just coming to Christ now. To be honest I wanted this from when I was 10 but that's a long story. I was a very worldly person, raised by a single mum who rebelled out of oppressive sexist purity culture and became a hippie and had 2 love children. We were b@stards back when that was still something that carried stigma. This is hard thing to discuss in any era, Augustine's or ours. Surely, yes, men need to talk about these things and the right kind of Christianity is the cure for non-relational sexuality the world doesn't want men to grow out of; wanting to keep them an adolescent mind in a man's body who doesn't understand or care about the consequences of his actions. I would like to hear more about women though (generally, not necessarily from you), acknowledging that women also have a sexuality that is just as alive and with it's own challenges. Society understands watching videos of people having sex is sexual, and men tend to gravitate to the more obvious sexual material, but women have their own p0rn and it is everywhere, men maybe don't notice because there aren't d!cks in it. We just need kindling for the imagination. I would like to see in a future Christianity us being more honest about this in a non-judgmental way, in regards to both men and women. In the last 100 years I think Christianity did a sad thing, in that it (and society around it) placed all the good virtues on women and made it our responsibility to bare them alone, in adversity even to men's accepted vices. So when a man is sinful there should be compassion and forgiveness, but when a woman sins she is seen to be an aberration who needs to be "held accountable". An example might be how single mothers are treated compared with how we think of the absent father, much more dramatic in the past when I was a child but still present in society. This is VERY sad for men, allowing them to become deformed characters. Honestly, in the grand, eternal, scheme of things from a Christian worldview men have it worse. But it also makes it impossible to have these kinds of conversations for women, and in some circles even telling women that male abuse should be endured or expected. Thankfully, many churches are having their reckoning now with this. As a new Christian I have so much repentance, and like Augustine I had zero help. I had the opposite! My mother escaping her forced purity made sex an idol, she would say "why do you only date one person at a time, why is your generation so conservative". She didn't seem to understand why someone might be disinterested in sleeping around, or even that we were in the middle of the AIDS epidemic at the time! It's so complicated because with my repentance (which weighs on me day and night at the moment) I understand now why Christians might have thought they could just force people to be chaste and that would work. There are good motives, but the problem isn't that simple, the problem has to be solved from within by grace as you and Augustine say, through Jesus. I am so grateful this happening for me now, finally. Thanks for your lovely video xx
Hello Brother, I really liked your video, your voice is so calm and lovely and I am so jealous of your books. What lovely study you have! I am 42 years old and just coming to Christ now. To be honest I wanted this from when I was 10 but that's a long story. I was a very worldly person, raised by a single mum who rebelled out of oppressive sexist purity culture and became a hippie and had 2 love children. We were b@stards back when that was still something that carried stigma. This is hard thing to discuss in any era, Augustine's or ours. Surely, yes, men need to talk about these things and the right kind of Christianity is the cure for non-relational sexuality the world doesn't want men to grow out of; wanting to keep them an adolescent mind in a man's body who doesn't understand or care about the consequences of his actions. I would like to hear more about women though (generally, not necessarily from you), acknowledging that women also have a sexuality that is just as alive and with it's own challenges. Society understands watching videos of people having sex is sexual, and men tend to gravitate to the more obvious sexual material, but women have their own p0rn and it is everywhere, men maybe don't notice because there aren't d!cks in it. We just need kindling for the imagination. I would like to see in a future Christianity us being more honest about this in a non-judgmental way, in regards to both men and women. In the last 100 years I think Christianity did a sad thing, in that it (and society around it) placed all the good virtues on women and made it our responsibility to bare them alone, in adversity even to men's accepted vices. So when a man is sinful there should be compassion and forgiveness, but when a woman sins she is seen to be an aberration who needs to be "held accountable". An example might be how single mothers are treated compared with how we think of the absent father, much more dramatic in the past when I was a child but still present in society. This is VERY sad for men, allowing them to become deformed characters. Honestly, in the grand, eternal, scheme of things from a Christian worldview men have it worse. But it also makes it impossible to have these kinds of conversations for women, and in some circles even telling women that male abuse should be endured or expected. Thankfully, many churches are having their reckoning now with this. As a new Christian I have so much repentance, and like Augustine I had zero help. I had the opposite! My mother escaping her forced purity made sex an idol, she would say "why do you only date one person at a time, why is your generation so conservative". She didn't seem to understand why someone might be disinterested in sleeping around, or even that we were in the middle of the AIDS epidemic at the time! It's so complicated because with my repentance (which weighs on me day and night at the moment) I understand now why Christians might have thought they could just force people to be chaste and that would work. There are good motives, but the problem isn't that simple, the problem has to be solved from within by grace as you and Augustine say, through Jesus. I am so grateful this happening for me now, finally. Thanks for your lovely video xx
Ty for the great video
Yes I identify with st. Augustine I didn't get any religious education until much later in my life the catholic church has the sacraments of marriage
Wow thank you. So good and so needed
I wish I could turn off my sexuality. It's fucking annoying.
Comforting to know St Augustine, at least, went through the same struggle.
He is the saint of our fellow p0rn addicts. He has been a blessing in my path to recovery.