I realized I'm bisexual at 43. I called my adult kid to tell them. They literally interrupted my coming out to say "Hey mom did you finally figure out you like girls too? Congratulations. Literally everyone else already knew." And I asked my friends. Yup. Literally everyone knew. Lol. So no lie there OT!!
"Are you pregnant? Are you sure?" I'm asked the same every time I go for any kind of test like x-ray or things like that The happiness when not even doctors can tell I'm a trans girl by looking at me half-naked
So here's the thing about the whole "How do I know she/he likes me" for homosexual or bi people. I can understand the hesitance, even though I'm straight. Cause in this heteronormative world the answer to "I'll hit on them, what's the worst that can happen?" for me is "rejection". For LGBTQ+ folks, depending on location, situation and context, "rejection" is the thin end of the wedge, with "Being executed for your sexuality" being an actual possibility in some places, with a spectrum of increasingly fucked up things between. So, yeah, I can understand the hesitation.
Yeap. I would say its worse for gay men tho, even in not very accepting places, women at most stop talking to you, bully you and find you disgusting...Men, well...its more common for them to get beat up senseless or straight up killed for confessing. I know as a woman that there is a priviledge in my gayness not being that dangerous.
@@Ariplaygames i think for everyone it's equally shitty. Come out as gay, women find you disgusting or want you to be their "gay best friend", and men will resort to violence and harassment. Plus the annoying "don't get a crush on me" thing. Come out as lesbian, and women will find you disgusting or constantly assume you're into them, and men will fetishize you daily. Come out as bi, and people will say you're just doing it for attention, or that your sexuality doesn't exist, or say you're gonna cheat on them or something. And the "don't get a crush on me" thing again. Come out as pan and people will deny your existence, say you're just bi, or so on. Come out as trans and people will say "it's just a phase", misgender and deadname you, refuse to get you the medical care you need if they're your legal guardian, and in a lot of cases even worse kinds of verbal and physical abuse. Come out as NB and people will constantly make unfunny helicopter jokes, or deny your existence, or misgender you and deadname you. Come out as ace and people will just say you're doing it for attention, that you have no game, or that you just haven't met the right [person of the opposite sex] yet. There is no way to have a 100% good experience coming out because the world is still filled with hate and ignorance. And yeah sometimes some groups will find it easier, but no coming out is perfect... yet. The only thing sapphics really have going for them is the fact that straight men fetishize them so much that they're legal or at least tolerated in spaces where other LGBTQ groups are illegal, which isn't really a W when considering that privelege is all based in misogyny and fetishization.
@@pennysantana247 Don't you mean that when aces come out that people assume that they're *not* doing *it* for attention? Get it? Not doing the adult fun time... Ok I'll leave. Being Ace I acknowledge aces that do enjoy having adult fun time.
@@Ariplaygames(tw for ass@ult) I mean it really depends. Women may be less likely to physically hurt you, but depending on the situation, bullying and emotional/verbal @buse and h@rr@ssment can occur, especially for younger queer girls in schools, or queer women in unaccepting environments they can't leave (which can result in poor mental health, self h@rm or even su1cid@lity, which is just as harmful as physical @buse). And if you aren't out of the closet, asking the wrong woman out can get you outed. Which, in addition to the psychologically difficult experience of being outed, can lead to very real physical h@rm. Corrective r@pe (when men ass@ult women to 'turn them straight') is also an issue that affects queer women that doesn't necessarily affect queer men as much, and something that could also be a risk depending on the situation. In some ways you are right that there are ways in which queer women are less exposed to v1olence, but there are also forms of v1olence that are less overt or talked about, that they can experience.
@@Ariplaygames (tw for ass@ult) I mean it really depends. Women may be less likely to physically h@rm you, but depending on the situation, bu||ying and emotional/verbal @buse and h@rr@ssment can occur, especially for younger girls in schools, or women in unaccepting environments they can't leave (which can result in poor mental health, self h@rm or even su1cid@lity, which is just as harmful as physical @buse). And if you aren't out of the closet, asking the wrong woman out can get you outed. Which, in addition to the psychologically difficult experience of being outed, can lead to very real physical h@rm. Corrective r@pe (when men ass@ult women or people they assume are women to 'turn them straight') is also an issue that affects them that doesn't necessarily affect men as much, and something that could also be a risk depending on the situation. In some ways you are right that there are ways in which qu33r women are less exposed to v1olence, but there are also forms of v1olence that are less overt or talked about, that they can experience. It's also worth pointing out that because many of the issues I've mentioned are less overt and obvious, they also tend to get underreported and thus seem like less of an issue than they are, or are assumed to not be an issue at all.
My best friend is lesbian and I’m a transmasc, and I will always remember that one time that i tried to teach her how to slow dance and she responded with “You can’t do that sir, I’m gay!”
Reminder that all of y'all are valid and deserve to be happy. Stay safe, eat food (real food, not just* your girlfriend), destroy gender norms (or don't if you like fittin them), drink water and get sleep.
did anyone else laugh hysterically when OT looked up "strapped" and got the wrong impression completely? So very wholesome and hilarious. Who's gonna tell him?
To everyone in the comments saying "oh, the doctor is just doing the pregnancy test because people lie and they're required to" : the problem is that if you live in the U.S. they still charge you nearly $300 dollars for a test you can actually be entirely certain is unnecessary - a broke asexual microbiology student
The problem is the system that charge you that much ^^ A few years ago a friend of mine visited the doctor only for a pregnancy test, I don't know how much she paid, but probably not more than 20$ ^^
@@krankarvolund7771 we're aware that $300 is a ridiculous amount to pay for the test, but since we live in a country where the political structure frames universal healthcare as "radical leftist idealism" rather than the norm, police wielding excess military equipment have killed protesters, and the healthcare industry marks healthcare up to exorbitant prices because they know that most people have insurance that will be paying part of the cost, the healthcare industry in the U.S. will probably not be reformed before my doctor's appointment tomorrow
There's also the small matter where various conditions that you would very much want to find out about as soon as possible can be detected through a positive pregnancy test. Better to get embarrassed by a seemingly daft doctor than to need your whole ass abdomen cut out because of super cancer.
The pregnancy test thing hits me hard. Not long after I came out as trans I was on birth control to stop menstrual cycle and even after I told my doctor I’m not active and I’m trans I was still forced to take a pregnancy test
I remember back when I was 14, I was upset that I was a boy and couldn't be in a lesbian relationship. I didn't understand why, because consciously I would say: "what is the difference though? If I dated a girl I would just be straight, why do I want to be in a lesbian relationship." Then when covid happened, I began to understand that it wasn't that I wanted to be in a lesbian relationship, it was that I didn't want to be the guy in a relationship.
The funny part about what OT did with the ASL for lesbian is that he raised his eyebrows, which means he’s asking a yes or no question, so what he could be saying is “is a lesbian?”
Very true lol. Though in my ASL class they taught that way was the slur version, like dyke, and that lesbian is the same hand shape but the top of the L sort of pokes your cheek. Could be wrong though.
My other favourite thing about this is that in UK sign language to say you are English is very similar. Apparently it represents a policeman's helmet strap. I feel this could lead to misunderstanding. At least being scottish is represented by playing air bagpipes
Fun fact: In that animation with the two doodle girls (its called Drawn to you btw) after a while her mom becomes more open-minded and after the end there's a picture of her and her daughter at pride so it ends happier than ya think
I'm lesbian, ancestrally French, born and raised in Wisconsin, and spent most of my animal reproductive behavior studies in dairy farms, so yes, I *can* be fascinated by a bit of cheese.
I need to tell this to someone or else I'm going to explode! I was a brave bisexual today and had my first date with the girl I like and I told her I like her!!! I was so nervous, but I'm so happy I did!
This did not end well. The girl said nothing that day, but after a month she started getting really attached to another girl in our group, and after a weekend we spent together (the whole group), she had an outburst and shouted that she did not like me, she would never like me, and she only had eyes for this other girl. That she only saw me as the mom-friend or an aunty (I'm 5 years older). This broke me, it was completely awful.
When a Doctor asks me the "are you preggo" questions I ask them if you can get preggo by yourself. They always say no and I tell them: well that is the answer. So I don't have to explain my Asexuality
I used to tell them I was a virgin. Used innuendos sometimes, like "All my games are single-player" and such. One of them still insisted. So I started telling them I was actively on my period and that it had started the day before. They believed me then. Such bull.
I want to say that "I can't get pregnant (truth) but I reproduce by splitting myself in half and forming a perfect clone of myself." (An ace trans guy who is mostly attracted to women and enbies.)
I once had a female back widow (and her eggs, and a bunch of males) hanging out in a corner of my house. I'm not usually afraid of spiders (will pick up a wolf spider with my bare hands to put it outside if it's in danger), but that freaked me WAY out. That's an instance where you should kill it. You don't want those things running around your house. Every other spider I just let live their life bc ten dozen jumping spiders is great free pest control :)
When I was really little and first found out about gay relationships, I thought that there were so few gay people that whenever two of them found each other, they were automatically soulmates, got married, and lived happily ever after. I thought straight people were a lot less happy because they couldn’t tell when they met their soulmate or when they were really in love unlike gay people. Later on, I discovered gay also means happy, so I guess I had kind of the right idea.
I remember one of my older friends sharing her story about how she came out of the closet. She was so scared because it was the late 80's and she came from a conservative family. She said she was so scared of how they would react. She told them she was gay and they just looked at her and said " Yeah, we know." They had figured it out a long time ago.
I am a lesbian and recently made a friend :) He’s a straight guy, and I haven’t been able to be friends with a guy without being fetishized, but my friend and I were chatting and we realized we could be each others wingperson
Yeah, having a friend of the other gender and other people going "oOoH aRe YoU tWo DaTiNg?" sucks when you're straight, it must suck a million times more when you're gay
i’m neptunic (if you don’t know what it is just look it up) and i have a straight guy friend as well. he’s super supportive of me and my gay friends, but me especially (we’ve know each other a really long time). the other day we were walking to class together and some girl yelled “you guys are really cute together!” me and my friend just kinda laughed it off but we were both kinda mad about the situation. it was also mildly annoying because i have a s/o. anyways, sorry for ranting, long story short: having a straight guy friend is cool.
yep, when you get a gf and their guy friends ask if they can watch you two have sex cause youre just, cuddling her on the couch in his vicinity.... it sucks
@@arandomcatheehee that is super weird and uncomfortable regardless. (Like, sexualising your children in general & "putting someone on the pill" like it's his thing to monitor. Our culture teaches people to behave very weirdly.). If you want him to stop without coming out, you can say the above to try and turn it so confrontationally uncomfortable for him he might sop. Otherwise get a virtual hug. That joke sucks and i hope you are doing great.
So yesterday, international day against homophobia, biphobia, interphobia and transphobia, I saw an add for sexual health that was *all gay couples.* I also had two really good experiences with people making sure they were referring to me correctly and just being super nice about gender. Which felt really good because my government thinks there's so much transphobia in the country that they can use it to get another term in power. Only weird and at the time very distressing moment was when some lady decided to *sensually caress my knee on the bus.* I had a panic attack and nearly cried lmao
I have been in a depressive, dysphoric, exhausted slump for the past week+. This video has helped a small bit. Thank you, OT, for being so awesome when things so often seem so bleak
*hugs* hope you're feeling better, as a witch I love your name! btw, there's a free game on steam called Get In The Car Loser that has actually helped with dysphoria and imposter syndrome for me, the protagonist is a trans woman and the game is really cute and gay :) feel better soon, we're here for you!
I mean, if you think about it, the percentage of potential partners you have goes *down* as a bisexual rather than up. Yeah, there's more men, women, and enbies combined, but the ratio of people attracted to your gender will go down from what it was if you were only picking people who were of the "opposite" gender who were likely straight. Me not knowing I'm biromantic (I'm ace) or enby: only had straight and bi/pan guys to pick from out of the entire population of guys Me now, being enby and biromantic: has straight guys, bi/pan people of all genders, and lesbians(?) to pick out of from the entire population of all people on Earth
I was going to like, but that’d ruin the 69 likes. So please be reminded that when you see this comment, that I did indeed like your comment. Hopefully nobody else ruins the 69, bust still shows their admiration.
When I find a spider in my house, I annouce loudly that "Mr. Spider, your services are required in the garden." and I carry them out to the cucumber plant. This is how I got over my fear of spiders. I wish I was joking.
As a doctor I’ll tell you why: Lawyers. We are held responsible for adverse outcomes regardless of whether the pt is speaking truthfully, lying for whatever reason, or not aware of how pregnancy can occur. And given the seriousness of an inaccurate answer that can also be verified with a quick urine or if needed blood test, we have to test if medically indicated (assuming the pt doesn’t outright refuse the test). Then why do we ask the question in the first place? It tells us how confident we can be in the test results (false positives/negatives do happen so if results are incongruent with pt history, then additional testing may be needed), and also if it comes back positive how to approach the pt about the information.
I somewhat recently realized I'm a lesbian, and just last week decided to try leaning into the style a but more. I went to the thrift store and got some ripped black jeans, cargo pants, and an awesome flannel. Then I dyed my hair. Self esteem +1000 I feel AMAZING. I hate steryotypes usually, but these ones I am 100% fine with fitting. Edit: just came out to my mom! She's cool, both my parents are bi so I don't expect anything bad, but its still nice to just say it
Okay, when I saw the "Golden retrievers look like lesbians"... It explained so much about my aunt's dog who before she was desexed, was clearly attracted to other girl dogs and snarled when a male dog approached her. (She also used to lift her leg to pee, so... I doubt she was straight)
I’m a staunch ally and OT’s videos never fail to make me smile. All you LGBTQ+ folk out there, from a straight, mostly-cis dude - you’re all amazing and I wish you every happiness ❤️.
See, that is the type of stuff we need more. Thank you mate. 🤜🤛 it's cool when people can just genuinely respect each other and love each other regardless of "whos different from each other or not". I love this.
I think it's the dr.s not listening to what they say. As an ace I also get the pregnancy question (and ignoring the answer) When the Dr does the test anyway it goes back to the feeling of "why did you ask if you were going to do whatever you wanted anyway?" And sometimes even "why did you ask for my consent if you were just going to violate it regardless" in some cases with some tests. I'm sure a lot of this medical trauma is shared across many a people.
Just got unexpectedly cyber-bullied by transphobes on an online video game, so receiving a new vid from OT is perfect timing. :) Edit: Thanks, everyone! I just wanted to clarify that I'm non-binary, so I still don't know if that counts or not? Plz let me know. Either way, the bullies were still being mean in that way.
Transphobes are pricks, I got randomly told that you can't change your gender(a social construct) when talking about sex(biological) on a TH-cam video, all because of my pfp
I had a client who I wasn't sure sure of their gender (you don't use self referential pronouns in normal conversations) but they were going from long to kinda short and were beautifully androgynous. I love my fiancee more than life itself and she is the most beautiful human to grace this mortal plane, but that client was so.... I don't even know. (My lady agrees, I took pictures to post to insta) They've been living rent free in my head for like a week now. I'm sure they'll move out eventually but I'm sure they think I'm the most extra goblin they've ever seen.
@@beautybard im sorry, but that's even more fucked isn't it? Imagine if someone killed your entire family, and then left you alive and "adopted" you. But a person can dream, so I'll scrap that and say its cute
The whole "Testing anyway for pregnancy" can show elevated hormone levels, even if you are 100% sure you're not preggo, so they know to investigate your oestrogen levels.
I was also gonna jump in saying that, depending on the state you live in, doctors are legally required to test for pregnancy if the symptoms you came in for can mimic pregnancy and you state you're sexually active with a cismale. I've had so many pregnancy tests in my life, even if I knew there was no chance I could be pregnant, because the doctors insisted they had to.
About to be taken into surgery & after answering that I can’t be pregnant when asked by multiple people - who then said they’d test me anyway - I told the anesthesiologist that I’m ace. Best response I’ve ever gotten… He said “ok” & moved to the next thing he needed addressed before putting me under!
Earlier today I had one of the worst suicidal episodes in weeks, watching you cover this sub may bring tears to my eyes but it also brings me hope that one day I might be able to get past everything and be happy and accepted as the person I really am
I may not know your exact situation or how you feel, but i'm in a similar place. I have hope that we will get to a better place and that the effort we put into getting through the day matters, even if it may seem small to others!!
From someone who has suffered severe depression for 19 years: it gets better. Took me forever, but now I feel good. Last week I had a sad day and it was the first time that I can recall, that I felt sad without feeling myself being pulled down the abyss that has the urge to end it all at the bottom. I can barely believe it, but I actually feel good :) Wishing you all the best and much love ❤
Post about the Lesbian parents, best help on how to date girls made me think about my Bi GF and how she helped me understand flirting with women and the subtle subtext of flirting. She on the other hand is absolutly clueless when someone is flirting with her. Love this women. Aspi here.
At first I was like...what.. cause I didn't have my coffee yet than I was like OH OH! Okay I'm stupid 😂 (and I'm fucking trans male) but yes, some lesbians do have the ability to impregnate others. That is true! I love this trans awareness. God it feels so wholesome 🥰
Just a note, to my knowledge, that ASL sign for lesbian is generally not accepted by Deaf lesbians anymore. Of course, some may like to use that sign for themself, but it should only really be used if a Deaf lesbian tells you to use it for them. (Also I've heard that that description of the sign is incorrect and the index finger touches the chin, not the palm). Some have changed the sign to an L handshape on the cheek instead because of seggualization of the former sign. But general rule of thumb is to just fingerspell it :)
i know it seems silly to ask lesbians if they’re pregnant & test for it but don’t forget trans women exist!! ☺️ edit: i did not say this bc of doctors, i said this bc often times LESBIANS forget about trans women also being lesbians or bisexual. THAT is the point i was making.
It's mainly the doctors not taking women's word for it and not believing us when we say there is no chance at pregnancy. I'm ace and have had emergency trips to the hospital where they kept pestering my asking if I was pregnant and not believing me. Like 5 different people asked the same thing and I told them. You need to have sex for that. I don't do that. And they still made me take the test after taking my blood (when the problem was random fainting and blood pressure dropping). Then told me I wasn't pregnant 🤦♀️. Then they said "well we don't know what is wrong. Go home" More like "it wasn't what we thought and we aren't going to spend the time to find out go away"
@@J_Isak oh no, i totally get that!! i get unnecessarily tested all the time but the jokes can still come off as transphobic sometimes and i think people easily forget trans women are also lesbians & bisexual!! i just wanted to make sure others remember that too. 🥰 the healthcare system does need to be overhauled about believing those who can get pregnant aren’t pregnant if they say they aren’t, it’s ridiculous that they won’t take our word for it.
Yeah, but most Doctors wouldn’t consider that when being told that since transphobia exists, sadly, plus I’m pretty sure if their partner had a penis/ they were sexually active with said penised partner, they would mention it to the doctor, as it most likely wouldn’t occur to most poeple
Hey OT, I dont know if you read through the comments days later, but I just wanted to thank you. Your channel is a safe space for when I'm down or struggling and I love it. Thank you!
7:32 In Elizabethan slang, it's important to note that "nothing" can mean either women's gentitolees or pronounced like "noting", which is social commentary, meaning this can also mean they do great tea-spilling, they get laid often, and/or they study Shakespeare and other elizabethan works. Or, they can do a lot of other things, and it's hard to pinpoint at the moment.
I went to the hospital because I was choking and instead of asking anything pertaining to the whole choking thing, they just asked me like 8 different times if I was pregnant. Honestly I'm guessing if you a girl, they will ask and they have to ask atleast 5 times.
@@thatonecubchoo1541 They probably wanted to take a diagnostic image involving radiation (x-ray or CT). But for choking, they shouldn't worry, just aim at her esophagus and throw a protective lead apron over her abdomen if they want to be extra safe. (That's what I've experienced.) The way to shut down the interrogation is to say something like "I haven't been near a man since ___ (ever in some cases)" Or, "I'm pretty sure my girlfriend can't get me pregnant."
8:46 i may be a bisexual man but i’ve never felt so called out in my life. i *literally* dreamed about giving my whole orchestra class a plant tour last night
Thats like the story of a person who was going to see the optometrist to get new glass eyes fitted (their eyes had been removed) and the assistant insisted on them taking an "eye test"... and while they were checking their eyes they commented on how they didn't dilate with the light... like no shit, they are glass. Some doctors are just stupid. My GP didn't even know what PCOS is and I had to explain it to him. I swear vets know more than what human doctors do (vets can work on humans in some emergency cases, but doctors are not allowed to work on animals)
I started HRT about 2 months ago and the last one about the drawing jumping from page to page *almost* got me crying. Watery eyes and a slightly runny nose... still not quite working right, but im getting there. Maybe just another month or so and i can feel real emotions again like i did before all the trauma...
They had a great lesbian wedding on " The young and The restless " today. It made me cry a little. I will never get to do that in real life, but I can dream.
The thing about straight girls being "dont hit on me!" but flipping over to "what that's supossed to mean" when you say you aren't attracted to her is real. Can confirm.
for anyone reading this, thank you. in the previous video I spoke about my struggle with suicide as a trans woman and it really did help a ton when you all spoke out. for once in my life I actually feel fairly happy.. I just got invited to a prom for only queer kids in my school today and I came home balling my eyes out, this is the very first time I have ever actually been invited to something but now I'm kinda scared since I don't really know many people there and I'm usually introverted but I kinda wanna go in just full rainbow and the most flamboyant outfit I have but also not lol, any thoughts on what I could wear????
I don't know anything about your usual style, but as a fellow introvert, I'd say definitely wear something you're comfortable in. Like, if I wear anything bright or colorful, I feel super awkward and way-too-noticeable. But if (for instance) full rainbow is what makes you feel like yourself and gives you a boost of confidence, then you go, girl! Wear what makes you feel like a badass, is what I'm saying. And have fun!
Very happy that you're feeling better I saw your last comment. 🥰 Don't be afraid to talk to random ppl you're around while at prom. Throw a compliment out hype ppl up. Dance like no one's watching. But also if you feel overwhelmed it's fine to draw away and recharge at the food spot or sit down somewhere. What ever you wear do it for you not thinking ab what willing make u look the coolest but what makes you feel the coolest. Maybe you can wear what's comfortable but add hints of flamboyance or vice versa lmao
I realize it's been 9 months since you commented this, but I would just like to point out that you were "bawling" your eyes out. "Balling" has several meanings and none of them have to do with crying, unless you're doing the sexual ones very, very wrong. 😂 It does make for a hilarious typo though. I know you weren't trying to make anyone laugh, but I couldn't help it, and thanks. Also congrats on your prom and I hope you had an absolutely smashing time!
my favorite thing about the medusa with an autistic girlfriend post is that the drawing is drawn in a style similar to my best friend's "feral doodle" style with the big eyes and i love that art style- obviously it's less feral in the drawing but it's still adorable
OT is literally the most kind person ever. He’s that one friend who just appeared out of know where and makes your entire life better, he doesn’t pass judgment, if someone says something a bit too silly he just asks if they’ve be outside. We need more OT in the world
When someone did that pregnancy test thing at my aunt's hospital she said, and I do quote "they literally french kissed another girl on the way in, WHILE WEARING A WEDDING RING, are sure you're cut out for being a doctor?"
Oh, that bit at 3:19, with OT saying “I’m pregnant”, with a big smile on his face. I fear he’s going to regret that bit. I think it’s going to be used in all kinds of clips and memes and things!
I have been dealing with some tough emotional stuff lately. And coming to terms with being asexual. I have no words to explain how much your videos are making me feel valid and seen. Not too mention healing a lot hurt that I have been harbouring. Thank you SO much. I can't express my gratitude enough. As I tear up, and cry a bit while typing this. Btw, I am definitely a beardo.
Hey, i can relate to that. And the ace acceptance one too. I mean, its pretty much over now. I have accepted the fact that im an oblivious asexual and its fine! One of the words i use to come in term with it is "hey, you're technically still straight!" (You could use that too btw, if you're "technically" straight). But life threw another curve balls at me as rn im questioning it again and this time i could've been gay. Ah shit, here we go again. I hope you can discover yourself and come in term with it. It took time but once you do it, it feels good.
Hey friend, you’re always valid. You as a person are allowed to feel a multitude of emotions, feelings, and experiences because that’s what makes us who we are, and every one of those is valid. You will always be valid, no matter what other people tell you. I hope you are doing better, but I’ll let you know that things can improve, you got this!
@paul2958 I am doing better. Started going to therapy and doing community theater on top of my normal work. Thank you for checking and that kind reply. I really appreciate it.
Oh that animation at the end got me. That was so sweet and wholesome, but also so sad. I’m glad the little drawings found each other at the end, but I hope the girl is able to find love and support too! And also maybe gains so cool super powers for brining drawings to life while she’s at it. It’s simply what lesbians deserve!
When OT said it's ok to figure it out whenever you figure it out, even if everyone else around you has figured it out first... and I felt that. Literally no one I came out to expressed even a tiny bit of surprise lol 😂
I really love your content, it’s my warm and fuzzy robe on a cold morning. My comforting antidote to the hate in the world. Then you tell people “Don’t kill spiders!” And now I just freaking adore you. You’re a good person, OT, and that goodness, your kindness, it shines. It’s coming off you in waves. I imagine you as a beacon, with the love coming off you in all directions, ceaselessly. By now, you’ve been alive long enough that your goodness envelops the entire planet, and is still expanding out into space and encompassing stars. ❤ Shine on!
this channel has become my safe space. whenever I'm in a bad headspace watching your videos make me feel better. thank you for all your hard work OT 💜💜
2:32 I can only ever hear that phrase in the voice of the great Sean Connery on the Celebrity Jeopardy SNL skit lol and then I picture the dismayed look of Will Ferrell playing Alex Trebek in that skit
As someone who speaks French, I love hearing OT speak French! Also, I use the word "Fantastique" way too much in my everyday life so it was fun to hear in from some other person on the Internet So, congrats on anyone learning any language, it's amazing and I'm sure you're doing great! :D
I like to carefully evict my spider roommates. A glass tumbler and a bit of cardboard usually do the trick. I don't care if you're a house spider, you don't live INSIDE the house!
With the amount that people lie about being pregnant/sexually active, I'm not surprised doctors will test for it pretty much no matter what the patient says. Also doesnt help that sex-ed is so bad in some places some people genuinely don't believe one can get pregnant without being married
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I realized I'm bisexual at 43. I called my adult kid to tell them. They literally interrupted my coming out to say "Hey mom did you finally figure out you like girls too? Congratulations. Literally everyone else already knew." And I asked my friends. Yup. Literally everyone knew. Lol. So no lie there OT!!
HAHAHA congrats lol
That's quite cute but probably a bit odd
@@rivahoukes1554 it honestly hilarious since they had to come out to me twice (once as Ace and then tell me they are Trans)
@@maeve010576 cool
I can't tell what the right response to this is.
"Are homosexuals more likely to be gay?"
Who's gonna tell them..
I will.
More likely than whom?
No, don't tell them you'll ruin the buetifull ignorance we have going on
@@lorrygoth the lesbians ofc
*gasps*
"Are you pregnant? Are you sure?" I'm asked the same every time I go for any kind of test like x-ray or things like that
The happiness when not even doctors can tell I'm a trans girl by looking at me half-naked
thats a weird kind of compliment then? 😂 well, congratz i guess 🎉
Aaaa! i wish that my therapy will end up like that. I am so happy for you❤
Good for you, ma'am!
And congratulations on your transition!
It must be a dazzling feeling and I’m happy for you. I yearn for that kind of comfort in my body someday. Congrats
Thank you all for the nice comments!
I like when OT doesn't understand references. Protect his innocence.
Oh no he does!
Sometimes he knows, but other times...
I feel like he almost has to know
Amen
🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
So here's the thing about the whole "How do I know she/he likes me" for homosexual or bi people. I can understand the hesitance, even though I'm straight. Cause in this heteronormative world the answer to "I'll hit on them, what's the worst that can happen?" for me is "rejection". For LGBTQ+ folks, depending on location, situation and context, "rejection" is the thin end of the wedge, with "Being executed for your sexuality" being an actual possibility in some places, with a spectrum of increasingly fucked up things between. So, yeah, I can understand the hesitation.
Yeap. I would say its worse for gay men tho, even in not very accepting places, women at most stop talking to you, bully you and find you disgusting...Men, well...its more common for them to get beat up senseless or straight up killed for confessing. I know as a woman that there is a priviledge in my gayness not being that dangerous.
@@Ariplaygames i think for everyone it's equally shitty.
Come out as gay, women find you disgusting or want you to be their "gay best friend", and men will resort to violence and harassment. Plus the annoying "don't get a crush on me" thing.
Come out as lesbian, and women will find you disgusting or constantly assume you're into them, and men will fetishize you daily.
Come out as bi, and people will say you're just doing it for attention, or that your sexuality doesn't exist, or say you're gonna cheat on them or something. And the "don't get a crush on me" thing again.
Come out as pan and people will deny your existence, say you're just bi, or so on.
Come out as trans and people will say "it's just a phase", misgender and deadname you, refuse to get you the medical care you need if they're your legal guardian, and in a lot of cases even worse kinds of verbal and physical abuse.
Come out as NB and people will constantly make unfunny helicopter jokes, or deny your existence, or misgender you and deadname you.
Come out as ace and people will just say you're doing it for attention, that you have no game, or that you just haven't met the right [person of the opposite sex] yet.
There is no way to have a 100% good experience coming out because the world is still filled with hate and ignorance. And yeah sometimes some groups will find it easier, but no coming out is perfect... yet. The only thing sapphics really have going for them is the fact that straight men fetishize them so much that they're legal or at least tolerated in spaces where other LGBTQ groups are illegal, which isn't really a W when considering that privelege is all based in misogyny and fetishization.
@@pennysantana247
Don't you mean that when aces come out that people assume that they're *not* doing *it* for attention?
Get it? Not doing the adult fun time... Ok I'll leave.
Being Ace I acknowledge aces that do enjoy having adult fun time.
@@Ariplaygames(tw for ass@ult)
I mean it really depends. Women may be less likely to physically hurt you, but depending on the situation, bullying and emotional/verbal @buse and h@rr@ssment can occur, especially for younger queer girls in schools, or queer women in unaccepting environments they can't leave (which can result in poor mental health, self h@rm or even su1cid@lity, which is just as harmful as physical @buse). And if you aren't out of the closet, asking the wrong woman out can get you outed. Which, in addition to the psychologically difficult experience of being outed, can lead to very real physical h@rm. Corrective r@pe (when men ass@ult women to 'turn them straight') is also an issue that affects queer women that doesn't necessarily affect queer men as much, and something that could also be a risk depending on the situation. In some ways you are right that there are ways in which queer women are less exposed to v1olence, but there are also forms of v1olence that are less overt or talked about, that they can experience.
@@Ariplaygames (tw for ass@ult)
I mean it really depends. Women may be less likely to physically h@rm you, but depending on the situation, bu||ying and emotional/verbal @buse and h@rr@ssment can occur, especially for younger girls in schools, or women in unaccepting environments they can't leave (which can result in poor mental health, self h@rm or even su1cid@lity, which is just as harmful as physical @buse). And if you aren't out of the closet, asking the wrong woman out can get you outed. Which, in addition to the psychologically difficult experience of being outed, can lead to very real physical h@rm. Corrective r@pe (when men ass@ult women or people they assume are women to 'turn them straight') is also an issue that affects them that doesn't necessarily affect men as much, and something that could also be a risk depending on the situation. In some ways you are right that there are ways in which qu33r women are less exposed to v1olence, but there are also forms of v1olence that are less overt or talked about, that they can experience. It's also worth pointing out that because many of the issues I've mentioned are less overt and obvious, they also tend to get underreported and thus seem like less of an issue than they are, or are assumed to not be an issue at all.
My best friend is lesbian and I’m a transmasc, and I will always remember that one time that i tried to teach her how to slow dance and she responded with “You can’t do that sir, I’m gay!”
lol that’s funny
Lol that's actually cute
Lol
Reminder that all of y'all are valid and deserve to be happy. Stay safe, eat food (real food, not just* your girlfriend), destroy gender norms (or don't if you like fittin them), drink water and get sleep.
But my girlfriend is the only snack I need! I break the norms and get water and food through my girlfriend and my girlfriend alone.
Thanks for this. Life has been tough and this cheered me up :)
my only choice is real food😪
@@PastelGothic How did you eat before you met
Preach.
"Tits now!"
As a transfem pan person I can agree with this statement no matter which way it's interpreted.
Take mine pls
finally someone gets me
@@normalhuman9878 ill take yours
@foxlin in a boxlin Hand em over
Me impatient to start HRT.
did anyone else laugh hysterically when OT looked up "strapped" and got the wrong impression completely? So very wholesome and hilarious. Who's gonna tell him?
Does anyone have to tell him? Spare his innocence.
Don't be Zeus. No telling.
Dude I’m confused aswell????
@@RonnieAnemone Strap on, basically a belt with a dildo glued to it. Strap game is how well you use it.
@@RonnieAnemonestrap ons
To everyone in the comments saying "oh, the doctor is just doing the pregnancy test because people lie and they're required to" : the problem is that if you live in the U.S. they still charge you nearly $300 dollars for a test you can actually be entirely certain is unnecessary
- a broke asexual microbiology student
The problem is the system that charge you that much ^^
A few years ago a friend of mine visited the doctor only for a pregnancy test, I don't know how much she paid, but probably not more than 20$ ^^
@@krankarvolund7771 We can purchase reliable pregnancy tests at single dollar stores. This is extraneous administrative costs at work, to be honest.
@@krankarvolund7771 we're aware that $300 is a ridiculous amount to pay for the test, but since we live in a country where the political structure frames universal healthcare as "radical leftist idealism" rather than the norm, police wielding excess military equipment have killed protesters, and the healthcare industry marks healthcare up to exorbitant prices because they know that most people have insurance that will be paying part of the cost, the healthcare industry in the U.S. will probably not be reformed before my doctor's appointment tomorrow
@@krankarvolund7771 plus, some people don't have $20 to spare on a test they definitely don't need
There's also the small matter where various conditions that you would very much want to find out about as soon as possible can be detected through a positive pregnancy test. Better to get embarrassed by a seemingly daft doctor than to need your whole ass abdomen cut out because of super cancer.
Grandparents: "There are gays in everything nowadays! "
Me: *is bi and living with grandma* "We're even in your house!"
I think this is how I should come out to my grandparents.
The pregnancy test thing hits me hard. Not long after I came out as trans I was on birth control to stop menstrual cycle and even after I told my doctor I’m not active and I’m trans I was still forced to take a pregnancy test
I remember back when I was 14, I was upset that I was a boy and couldn't be in a lesbian relationship. I didn't understand why, because consciously I would say: "what is the difference though? If I dated a girl I would just be straight, why do I want to be in a lesbian relationship."
Then when covid happened, I began to understand that it wasn't that I wanted to be in a lesbian relationship, it was that I didn't want to be the guy in a relationship.
*agrees in mtf*
Yep-
*agreement intensifies*
*nods in quarantine transfem*
thats the eggiest thing i have ever seen thank you
The funny part about what OT did with the ASL for lesbian is that he raised his eyebrows, which means he’s asking a yes or no question, so what he could be saying is “is a lesbian?”
Very true lol. Though in my ASL class they taught that way was the slur version, like dyke, and that lesbian is the same hand shape but the top of the L sort of pokes your cheek. Could be wrong though.
My other favourite thing about this is that in UK sign language to say you are English is very similar. Apparently it represents a policeman's helmet strap. I feel this could lead to misunderstanding. At least being scottish is represented by playing air bagpipes
Fun fact: In that animation with the two doodle girls (its called Drawn to you btw) after a while her mom becomes more open-minded and after the end there's a picture of her and her daughter at pride so it ends happier than ya think
I'm lesbian, ancestrally French, born and raised in Wisconsin, and spent most of my animal reproductive behavior studies in dairy farms, so yes, I *can* be fascinated by a bit of cheese.
Lol, it's a whole mood
Even more so than usual
If my gf gave me cheese, I'd split it with her and eat it together lol cheese is a whole love language and no one can tell me otherwise
OT talks like he IS a lesbian and he’s living these experiences . As a lesbian I think he’s allowed
I second this
OT is an honorary lesbian
@@ah3llfire can i also be an honorary lesbian pls?
agreed, welcome to the team OT 🤍🤍
I’m both gay and straight, but I’m not bi
I need to tell this to someone or else I'm going to explode! I was a brave bisexual today and had my first date with the girl I like and I told her I like her!!! I was so nervous, but I'm so happy I did!
Happy for you buddy!
Very happy for you, you're so brave!
VICTORYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!
This did not end well. The girl said nothing that day, but after a month she started getting really attached to another girl in our group, and after a weekend we spent together (the whole group), she had an outburst and shouted that she did not like me, she would never like me, and she only had eyes for this other girl. That she only saw me as the mom-friend or an aunty (I'm 5 years older). This broke me, it was completely awful.
@@daisiesonme1 ow :/
When a Doctor asks me the "are you preggo" questions I ask them if you can get preggo by yourself. They always say no and I tell them: well that is the answer.
So I don't have to explain my Asexuality
I used to tell them I was a virgin. Used innuendos sometimes, like "All my games are single-player" and such. One of them still insisted. So I started telling them I was actively on my period and that it had started the day before. They believed me then. Such bull.
I always say “I’ve never had sex, it’s gross” but they still make me take one sometimes.
I want to say that "I can't get pregnant (truth) but I reproduce by splitting myself in half and forming a perfect clone of myself." (An ace trans guy who is mostly attracted to women and enbies.)
Joke time: a photon checked into a hotel. The clerk asked them if they were carrying any luggage
"No", the photon responded, "I'm traveling light"
lol
I’ve got one.
What do you call a fish lady that cleans houses for a living?
A mer-maid
Why did a white bear dissolve in water? Because it was a polar bear.
And I say to you, as the gravitational field of an object with mass says to the photon - Get Bent.
You still get a Like though.
That was a good one.
I once had a female back widow (and her eggs, and a bunch of males) hanging out in a corner of my house. I'm not usually afraid of spiders (will pick up a wolf spider with my bare hands to put it outside if it's in danger), but that freaked me WAY out. That's an instance where you should kill it. You don't want those things running around your house. Every other spider I just let live their life bc ten dozen jumping spiders is great free pest control :)
When I was really little and first found out about gay relationships, I thought that there were so few gay people that whenever two of them found each other, they were automatically soulmates, got married, and lived happily ever after. I thought straight people were a lot less happy because they couldn’t tell when they met their soulmate or when they were really in love unlike gay people. Later on, I discovered gay also means happy, so I guess I had kind of the right idea.
While you were here having profound thoughts about relationships, I was trying to avoid the topic all together by being super neurodivergent
@@a-disaster5285 while you were exploring in depth the question of romance,i studied the blade
You sounded like the intro to a Wes Anderson's movie
@@cesargeney5268 thank you lol
@@sapateirovalentin348 based
I remember one of my older friends sharing her story about how she came out of the closet. She was so scared because it was the late 80's and she came from a conservative family. She said she was so scared of how they would react. She told them she was gay and they just looked at her and said " Yeah, we know." They had figured it out a long time ago.
That's nice
1:47 all i could think was "Fellas, is it gay to be gay?"
MY THOUGHTS EXACTLY
I am a lesbian and recently made a friend :) He’s a straight guy, and I haven’t been able to be friends with a guy without being fetishized, but my friend and I were chatting and we realized we could be each others wingperson
Yeah, having a friend of the other gender and other people going "oOoH aRe YoU tWo DaTiNg?" sucks when you're straight, it must suck a million times more when you're gay
@@LoraLoibu YEAH ugehdhhdhd my dad always makes jokes about “we’re gonna have to put you on the pill!” And it makes me really uncomfortable
i’m neptunic (if you don’t know what it is just look it up) and i have a straight guy friend as well. he’s super supportive of me and my gay friends, but me especially (we’ve know each other a really long time). the other day we were walking to class together and some girl yelled “you guys are really cute together!” me and my friend just kinda laughed it off but we were both kinda mad about the situation. it was also mildly annoying because i have a s/o. anyways, sorry for ranting, long story short: having a straight guy friend is cool.
yep, when you get a gf and their guy friends ask if they can watch you two have sex cause youre just, cuddling her on the couch in his vicinity.... it sucks
@@arandomcatheehee that is super weird and uncomfortable regardless. (Like, sexualising your children in general & "putting someone on the pill" like it's his thing to monitor. Our culture teaches people to behave very weirdly.). If you want him to stop without coming out, you can say the above to try and turn it so confrontationally uncomfortable for him he might sop.
Otherwise get a virtual hug. That joke sucks and i hope you are doing great.
So yesterday, international day against homophobia, biphobia, interphobia and transphobia, I saw an add for sexual health that was *all gay couples.*
I also had two really good experiences with people making sure they were referring to me correctly and just being super nice about gender. Which felt really good because my government thinks there's so much transphobia in the country that they can use it to get another term in power.
Only weird and at the time very distressing moment was when some lady decided to *sensually caress my knee on the bus.* I had a panic attack and nearly cried lmao
Oh no! Consent is important.
May you always be surrounded by people who refer to you correctly.
💙💗🤍💗💙
Ok but I’m sorry you got harassed on the bus :( wishing all the best
1:20 I know the chances of OP ever seeing this but please, if by some cosmic miracle you do, go give your mom a hug.
I have been in a depressive, dysphoric, exhausted slump for the past week+. This video has helped a small bit. Thank you, OT, for being so awesome when things so often seem so bleak
Wishing you all the best and don't forget to treat yourself! ^^ Remember that you are valid and that you are not alone! 🤗✨
💗💗💗
Mood
Lilith, your name is epic as fuck, and so are you
*hugs* hope you're feeling better, as a witch I love your name! btw, there's a free game on steam called Get In The Car Loser that has actually helped with dysphoria and imposter syndrome for me, the protagonist is a trans woman and the game is really cute and gay :)
feel better soon, we're here for you!
A girl I really liked just asked me out today! This is the best way to celebrate! Thank you, One Topic!
Congrats! :)
way to go! Wishing the best of luck and all the happiness in the world ^^
🥳
Awesome
aye that's awesome
you go, friend
"My hair is purple"
-One Topic At A Time
This one gets me Every Time
That animation also got me OT
The great thing abound being bisexual is having twice the options for dating but yet still manage to be alone
I mean, if you think about it, the percentage of potential partners you have goes *down* as a bisexual rather than up. Yeah, there's more men, women, and enbies combined, but the ratio of people attracted to your gender will go down from what it was if you were only picking people who were of the "opposite" gender who were likely straight.
Me not knowing I'm biromantic (I'm ace) or enby: only had straight and bi/pan guys to pick from out of the entire population of guys
Me now, being enby and biromantic: has straight guys, bi/pan people of all genders, and lesbians(?) to pick out of from the entire population of all people on Earth
I was going to like, but that’d ruin the 69 likes. So please be reminded that when you see this comment, that I did indeed like your comment. Hopefully nobody else ruins the 69, bust still shows their admiration.
When I find a spider in my house, I annouce loudly that "Mr. Spider, your services are required in the garden." and I carry them out to the cucumber plant.
This is how I got over my fear of spiders.
I wish I was joking.
I have bad arachnophobia, so maybe I should just start doing this lol
This is the best ❤
My room had 4-5 spiders in it today
@@ScienceSimplified-id6ngIn that situation, it’s their room now.
As a doctor I’ll tell you why: Lawyers. We are held responsible for adverse outcomes regardless of whether the pt is speaking truthfully, lying for whatever reason, or not aware of how pregnancy can occur. And given the seriousness of an inaccurate answer that can also be verified with a quick urine or if needed blood test, we have to test if medically indicated (assuming the pt doesn’t outright refuse the test). Then why do we ask the question in the first place? It tells us how confident we can be in the test results (false positives/negatives do happen so if results are incongruent with pt history, then additional testing may be needed), and also if it comes back positive how to approach the pt about the information.
I somewhat recently realized I'm a lesbian, and just last week decided to try leaning into the style a but more. I went to the thrift store and got some ripped black jeans, cargo pants, and an awesome flannel. Then I dyed my hair.
Self esteem +1000
I feel AMAZING.
I hate steryotypes usually, but these ones I am 100% fine with fitting.
Edit: just came out to my mom!
She's cool, both my parents are bi so I don't expect anything bad, but its still nice to just say it
YES FLANNEL IS AMAZING
recently figured out I’m Omni, got a whole bunch of flannel, 100/10 absolutely recommend
I am straight and my butch sister had abandoned a lilac/gray knee length flannel in my wardrobe I can't ever let go, it's awesome
Sometimes, stereotypes aren't all bad
@@LoraLoibu flannels aren't bad
Love that you found yourself 💜✨🌈✨💜
Okay, when I saw the "Golden retrievers look like lesbians"... It explained so much about my aunt's dog who before she was desexed, was clearly attracted to other girl dogs and snarled when a male dog approached her. (She also used to lift her leg to pee, so... I doubt she was straight)
I once called a dog a lesbian dog bc she only liked female dogs and growled at male dogs. She looked at me when I called her that
My sister's terrier called jelly did that leg lifting part too...
My friend says her grandma’s dog is a lesbian bc she once humped another girl dog.
0:48 bro same! Like omg, how do people have the confidence to tell them?
I like your pfp and same
"That person is kinda cut-*DEATH BELL* "
I’m a staunch ally and OT’s videos never fail to make me smile.
All you LGBTQ+ folk out there, from a straight, mostly-cis dude - you’re all amazing and I wish you every happiness ❤️.
Aww we need more people like you
@@hehe.606 Thank you 😊.
See, that is the type of stuff we need more. Thank you mate. 🤜🤛 it's cool when people can just genuinely respect each other and love each other regardless of "whos different from each other or not". I love this.
@@StonedTotheBones0000 Thanks 😊 it seems like the least we can do for each other to lift each other up.
@@thesamsquatch2704 aww thanks mate 👏
As a stereotypical bad-at-math lesbian... this video was great motivation for finals studying! Thank you
Wait, is that why I am bad at math?
Not out of the realm of possibility 😂
Wait that's a stereotype? That explains a lot.
2:11 help im crying this is wierdly wholesome to me for some reason TvT
Love that lesbians can joke about the pregnancy thing but reminder trans lesbians can get others pregnant
…only if they cannot/haven't had surgery. Well, one of the surgeries.
@@John_Weiss I think hormones may also make you sterile.
@@John_Weiss *"please brutally destroy my cock and balls"*
"okay but can you like phrase that another way"
@@John_Weiss cryopreservation is a thing!
I think it's the dr.s not listening to what they say.
As an ace I also get the pregnancy question (and ignoring the answer)
When the Dr does the test anyway it goes back to the feeling of "why did you ask if you were going to do whatever you wanted anyway?" And sometimes even "why did you ask for my consent if you were just going to violate it regardless" in some cases with some tests.
I'm sure a lot of this medical trauma is shared across many a people.
Just got unexpectedly cyber-bullied by transphobes on an online video game, so receiving a new vid from OT is perfect timing. :)
Edit: Thanks, everyone! I just wanted to clarify that I'm non-binary, so I still don't know if that counts or not? Plz let me know. Either way, the bullies were still being mean in that way.
Transphobes are pricks, I got randomly told that you can't change your gender(a social construct) when talking about sex(biological) on a TH-cam video, all because of my pfp
For context they mentioned sex for gender
Hope you're feeling better now! **virtual hug** 🫂
Oh I'm so sorry for you, I hope you're okay? I'm sending you a lot of love and support ♡
Remember you are amazing and there’s a whole community that will protect you and build you up when others try to tear you down
I'm gonna cry over that last little animation every day for the next 12 years.
"It is one of the most wholesome subreddits we've covered."
*Three minutes later*
"Hmm... 'strap game'..."
someone finally said it!!!!!!!
0:20 I THOUGHT IT WAS BLUE💅
I had a client who I wasn't sure sure of their gender (you don't use self referential pronouns in normal conversations) but they were going from long to kinda short and were beautifully androgynous. I love my fiancee more than life itself and she is the most beautiful human to grace this mortal plane, but that client was so.... I don't even know. (My lady agrees, I took pictures to post to insta) They've been living rent free in my head for like a week now. I'm sure they'll move out eventually but I'm sure they think I'm the most extra goblin they've ever seen.
Hey, goblins are kind of adorable. Don't say that like it's a bad thing.
@@tortis6342 oh in lvl 1 when you fight goblins, I always insist on leaving one alive to adopt and bring along. They cutie patooties.
I bet you're the best goblin.
@@beautybard im sorry, but that's even more fucked isn't it? Imagine if someone killed your entire family, and then left you alive and "adopted" you.
But a person can dream, so I'll scrap that and say its cute
The whole "Testing anyway for pregnancy" can show elevated hormone levels, even if you are 100% sure you're not preggo, so they know to investigate your oestrogen levels.
wait, your here too!? 😯
Plus, people lie.
I was also gonna jump in saying that, depending on the state you live in, doctors are legally required to test for pregnancy if the symptoms you came in for can mimic pregnancy and you state you're sexually active with a cismale. I've had so many pregnancy tests in my life, even if I knew there was no chance I could be pregnant, because the doctors insisted they had to.
@@Sinsults about being lesbian? typicaly you don't say "i'm lesbian" as a lie to your doctors...
@@MidnightSonnet but lesbians arn't sexualy active with cis males...
9:00
I want a thirty minute lesbian plant tour 😢
About to be taken into surgery & after answering that I can’t be pregnant when asked by multiple people - who then said they’d test me anyway - I told the anesthesiologist that I’m ace. Best response I’ve ever gotten… He said “ok” & moved to the next thing he needed addressed before putting me under!
Earlier today I had one of the worst suicidal episodes in weeks, watching you cover this sub may bring tears to my eyes but it also brings me hope that one day I might be able to get past everything and be happy and accepted as the person I really am
I hope you are feeling better now. Be strong, I know its really hard some days.
Everyday is a struggle but some are going to be wonderful.
I may not know your exact situation or how you feel, but i'm in a similar place. I have hope that we will get to a better place and that the effort we put into getting through the day matters, even if it may seem small to others!!
You are absolutely accepted and loved here! ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
From someone who has suffered severe depression for 19 years: it gets better.
Took me forever, but now I feel good. Last week I had a sad day and it was the first time that I can recall, that I felt sad without feeling myself being pulled down the abyss that has the urge to end it all at the bottom. I can barely believe it, but I actually feel good :)
Wishing you all the best and much love ❤
Post about the Lesbian parents, best help on how to date girls made me think about my Bi GF and how she helped me understand flirting with women and the subtle subtext of flirting. She on the other hand is absolutly clueless when someone is flirting with her.
Love this women.
Aspi here.
Gentle reminder:
Lesbians can get pregnant because some lesbians have, you know, the ability of getting other people pregnant.
Your not wrong but if that lesbian is on hrt the possibility of that is pretty much zero
My trans ass is so happy about this
@@EmmaTheSmol I mean same, it's just annoying that it also kills the libido
At first I was like...what.. cause I didn't have my coffee yet than I was like OH OH! Okay I'm stupid 😂 (and I'm fucking trans male) but yes, some lesbians do have the ability to impregnate others. That is true! I love this trans awareness. God it feels so wholesome 🥰
THISS
i love the slightly disapproving looks from OT when sexual innuendos come up! He's too wholesome! 🤣🤣
Just a note, to my knowledge, that ASL sign for lesbian is generally not accepted by Deaf lesbians anymore. Of course, some may like to use that sign for themself, but it should only really be used if a Deaf lesbian tells you to use it for them. (Also I've heard that that description of the sign is incorrect and the index finger touches the chin, not the palm). Some have changed the sign to an L handshape on the cheek instead because of seggualization of the former sign. But general rule of thumb is to just fingerspell it :)
i know it seems silly to ask lesbians if they’re pregnant & test for it but don’t forget trans women exist!! ☺️
edit: i did not say this bc of doctors, i said this bc often times LESBIANS forget about trans women also being lesbians or bisexual. THAT is the point i was making.
Also she didnt say "I am sure that im not Pregnant im a Lesbian" she just said "Absolute Not" so the doctor may not even know that she is a Lesbian.
there's also people who don't know how babies are made so like.... 🤷♂️
It's mainly the doctors not taking women's word for it and not believing us when we say there is no chance at pregnancy.
I'm ace and have had emergency trips to the hospital where they kept pestering my asking if I was pregnant and not believing me. Like 5 different people asked the same thing and I told them. You need to have sex for that. I don't do that. And they still made me take the test after taking my blood (when the problem was random fainting and blood pressure dropping). Then told me I wasn't pregnant 🤦♀️.
Then they said "well we don't know what is wrong. Go home"
More like "it wasn't what we thought and we aren't going to spend the time to find out go away"
@@J_Isak oh no, i totally get that!! i get unnecessarily tested all the time but the jokes can still come off as transphobic sometimes and i think people easily forget trans women are also lesbians & bisexual!! i just wanted to make sure others remember that too. 🥰
the healthcare system does need to be overhauled about believing those who can get pregnant aren’t pregnant if they say they aren’t, it’s ridiculous that they won’t take our word for it.
Yeah, but most Doctors wouldn’t consider that when being told that since transphobia exists, sadly, plus I’m pretty sure if their partner had a penis/ they were sexually active with said penised partner, they would mention it to the doctor, as it most likely wouldn’t occur to most poeple
My husband and I call the spiders "Spiderbros" when they're inside the house. One of the common things to yell at the cat is "Don't kill spiderbro!"
*with the most british accent* "FELLASH... ISH ITH GAY TOH BEH GAY??? I MEAN... YA LIKE BOYOS"
Hey OT, I dont know if you read through the comments days later, but I just wanted to thank you. Your channel is a safe space for when I'm down or struggling and I love it. Thank you!
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In Elizabethan slang, it's important to note that "nothing" can mean either women's gentitolees or pronounced like "noting", which is social commentary, meaning this can also mean they do great tea-spilling, they get laid often, and/or they study Shakespeare and other elizabethan works.
Or, they can do a lot of other things, and it's hard to pinpoint at the moment.
10:58 Their outfits are GORGEOUS??????
I went to the hospital because I was choking and instead of asking anything pertaining to the whole choking thing, they just asked me like 8 different times if I was pregnant. Honestly I'm guessing if you a girl, they will ask and they have to ask atleast 5 times.
How the hell is choking related to pregnancy???
@@thatonecubchoo1541 good fucking question
@@thatonecubchoo1541 They probably wanted to take a diagnostic image involving radiation (x-ray or CT). But for choking, they shouldn't worry, just aim at her esophagus and throw a protective lead apron over her abdomen if they want to be extra safe. (That's what I've experienced.) The way to shut down the interrogation is to say something like "I haven't been near a man since ___ (ever in some cases)" Or, "I'm pretty sure my girlfriend can't get me pregnant."
8:46 i may be a bisexual man but i’ve never felt so called out in my life. i *literally* dreamed about giving my whole orchestra class a plant tour last night
Me, watching this video while doing my homework
An ad comes on
Me: YES I CAN FINALLY CONCENTRATE!
They still test me for pregnancy, despite having had a hysterectomy in the same hospital 😆
Somehow that is both perplexing and not surprising 🙄
Thats like the story of a person who was going to see the optometrist to get new glass eyes fitted (their eyes had been removed) and the assistant insisted on them taking an "eye test"... and while they were checking their eyes they commented on how they didn't dilate with the light... like no shit, they are glass.
Some doctors are just stupid. My GP didn't even know what PCOS is and I had to explain it to him. I swear vets know more than what human doctors do (vets can work on humans in some emergency cases, but doctors are not allowed to work on animals)
every time i watch one of these videos i have to fight the urge to say “that’s kinda gay” with every post
kiNdA fruity 🤔
Fellas,...
You wouldn't be wrong. That's kinda why we're all here.
I started HRT about 2 months ago and the last one about the drawing jumping from page to page *almost* got me crying. Watery eyes and a slightly runny nose... still not quite working right, but im getting there. Maybe just another month or so and i can feel real emotions again like i did before all the trauma...
They had a great lesbian wedding on " The young and The restless " today. It made me cry a little. I will never get to do that in real life, but I can dream.
I don’t keep up with the young and the restless but I do know that’s the show that may grama tunes in to all the time makes me happy to see this
The thing about straight girls being "dont hit on me!" but flipping over to "what that's supossed to mean" when you say you aren't attracted to her is real. Can confirm.
13:24 God I *love* the record scratch OT's voice became as he realised what he was just about to say.
for anyone reading this, thank you. in the previous video I spoke about my struggle with suicide as a trans woman and it really did help a ton when you all spoke out. for once in my life I actually feel fairly happy..
I just got invited to a prom for only queer kids in my school today and I came home balling my eyes out, this is the very first time I have ever actually been invited to something but now I'm kinda scared since I don't really know many people there and I'm usually introverted but I kinda wanna go in just full rainbow and the most flamboyant outfit I have but also not lol, any thoughts on what I could wear????
I don't know anything about your usual style, but as a fellow introvert, I'd say definitely wear something you're comfortable in. Like, if I wear anything bright or colorful, I feel super awkward and way-too-noticeable. But if (for instance) full rainbow is what makes you feel like yourself and gives you a boost of confidence, then you go, girl! Wear what makes you feel like a badass, is what I'm saying. And have fun!
Very happy that you're feeling better I saw your last comment. 🥰
Don't be afraid to talk to random ppl you're around while at prom. Throw a compliment out hype ppl up. Dance like no one's watching. But also if you feel overwhelmed it's fine to draw away and recharge at the food spot or sit down somewhere.
What ever you wear do it for you not thinking ab what willing make u look the coolest but what makes you feel the coolest. Maybe you can wear what's comfortable but add hints of flamboyance or vice versa lmao
I hope you find that perfect outfit and I'm sure you will look lovely /p
If you don’t find a flamboyant outfit, try making your makeup (if you wear it) really rainbow and fun!
I realize it's been 9 months since you commented this, but I would just like to point out that you were "bawling" your eyes out. "Balling" has several meanings and none of them have to do with crying, unless you're doing the sexual ones very, very wrong. 😂 It does make for a hilarious typo though. I know you weren't trying to make anyone laugh, but I couldn't help it, and thanks.
Also congrats on your prom and I hope you had an absolutely smashing time!
The perfect mix of thirst and wholesomeness.
This ^^
my favorite thing about the medusa with an autistic girlfriend post is that the drawing is drawn in a style similar to my best friend's "feral doodle" style with the big eyes and i love that art style-
obviously it's less feral in the drawing but it's still adorable
I was drinking a protein shake when you said “I’m pregnant” after the villager sound and I almost spit it back out 😆
OT is literally the most kind person ever. He’s that one friend who just appeared out of know where and makes your entire life better, he doesn’t pass judgment, if someone says something a bit too silly he just asks if they’ve be outside. We need more OT in the world
When someone did that pregnancy test thing at my aunt's hospital she said, and I do quote "they literally french kissed another girl on the way in, WHILE WEARING A WEDDING RING, are sure you're cut out for being a doctor?"
Oh, that bit at 3:19, with OT saying “I’m pregnant”, with a big smile on his face. I fear he’s going to regret that bit. I think it’s going to be used in all kinds of clips and memes and things!
I have been dealing with some tough emotional stuff lately. And coming to terms with being asexual. I have no words to explain how much your videos are making me feel valid and seen. Not too mention healing a lot hurt that I have been harbouring. Thank you SO much. I can't express my gratitude enough. As I tear up, and cry a bit while typing this. Btw, I am definitely a beardo.
Hey, i can relate to that. And the ace acceptance one too. I mean, its pretty much over now. I have accepted the fact that im an oblivious asexual and its fine! One of the words i use to come in term with it is "hey, you're technically still straight!" (You could use that too btw, if you're "technically" straight). But life threw another curve balls at me as rn im questioning it again and this time i could've been gay. Ah shit, here we go again.
I hope you can discover yourself and come in term with it. It took time but once you do it, it feels good.
Hey friend, you’re always valid. You as a person are allowed to feel a multitude of emotions, feelings, and experiences because that’s what makes us who we are, and every one of those is valid. You will always be valid, no matter what other people tell you. I hope you are doing better, but I’ll let you know that things can improve, you got this!
@paul2958 I am doing better. Started going to therapy and doing community theater on top of my normal work. Thank you for checking and that kind reply. I really appreciate it.
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12:33 NO WAY!! I FIGURED THAT OUT LIKE A MONTH AGO!!
Oh that animation at the end got me. That was so sweet and wholesome, but also so sad. I’m glad the little drawings found each other at the end, but I hope the girl is able to find love and support too! And also maybe gains so cool super powers for brining drawings to life while she’s at it. It’s simply what lesbians deserve!
When OT said it's ok to figure it out whenever you figure it out, even if everyone else around you has figured it out first... and I felt that. Literally no one I came out to expressed even a tiny bit of surprise lol 😂
wow ok i feel so attacked rn lol
I really love your content, it’s my warm and fuzzy robe on a cold morning. My comforting antidote to the hate in the world. Then you tell people “Don’t kill spiders!” And now I just freaking adore you. You’re a good person, OT, and that goodness, your kindness, it shines. It’s coming off you in waves. I imagine you as a beacon, with the love coming off you in all directions, ceaselessly. By now, you’ve been alive long enough that your goodness envelops the entire planet, and is still expanding out into space and encompassing stars. ❤ Shine on!
3:23 OMG YES! You tell them you're not pregnant, tell them you've never had sex, and you still are made to pee in a cup.
this channel has become my safe space. whenever I'm in a bad headspace watching your videos make me feel better. thank you for all your hard work OT 💜💜
2:32 I can only ever hear that phrase in the voice of the great Sean Connery on the Celebrity Jeopardy SNL skit lol and then I picture the dismayed look of Will Ferrell playing Alex Trebek in that skit
As someone who speaks French, I love hearing OT speak French! Also, I use the word "Fantastique" way too much in my everyday life so it was fun to hear in from some other person on the Internet
So, congrats on anyone learning any language, it's amazing and I'm sure you're doing great! :D
13:23 not sure if it was a burp, voice crack or just a perfect cut while changing his voice
"My hairs purple!" I LITERALLY JUST FINISHED DYING MY HAIR PURPLE
3:11 ... OT nooooo
Oh no
is someone gonna tell him because im not
6:12 The fact that they have Noelle as their profile picture makes this even better.
noelle literally anytime she thinks abt susie
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THATS WHAT IM SAYINGGG
6:13: THE NOELLE PFP FITS SO WELLL
You are very much the goblin, smol, adorable, and sparks joy by being a good little chaos.
as a lesbian it makes me happy to see these videos
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This channel is the most wholesome place on the internet. Every time I feel bad I go watch your videos and get so much happier
that animation at the end was absolutely adorable :(( I got a little teary eyed ngl
You can find it on TH-cam as "Drawn to You"
“Don’t k!ll spiders. Leave them as your roommate”
*me with arachnophobia* 👀
I like to carefully evict my spider roommates. A glass tumbler and a bit of cardboard usually do the trick.
I don't care if you're a house spider, you don't live INSIDE the house!
17:22 I'm not crying, you're crying!
16:25 the full short film can be found on TH-cam its called "drawn to you"
There is no way that one topic is actually still this pure and innocent after being on the internet for so long.
I always come back to OT's videos whenever im not feeling well or if im stressed, he has such a calming voice and laugh, thank you OT
With the amount that people lie about being pregnant/sexually active, I'm not surprised doctors will test for it pretty much no matter what the patient says.
Also doesnt help that sex-ed is so bad in some places some people genuinely don't believe one can get pregnant without being married