What a good video! Yes trust the feeling. The same thing happened to me. I went against my previous experience with my kids at DOE preschool. We started my grandson at DOE preschool as well. He hated it. We made the decision to send him to an ABA facility.....and he is thriving! The best switch and decision we made even though it was unpopular at the time.
***Preschool/early learning instead of daycare! For mental healthiness kids must go to preschool at age 3. Mothers need time for themselves, and children need lots of playtime and social interaction with other kids and adults to be happier. Average preschool tuition is $1200-$2500 a month. Then you have the ones for low income families or the ones for the rich that cost over $3K a month. My daughter went to an amazing preschool in Kapahulu for just $900, not many people knows about that place, and she had such of amazing time, she learned so much, and the most important was the teachers, they were amazing mentors. My daughter started 1st grade today and she love school and is super social. That’s thanks to her early learning preparation and a very good elementary kindergarten experience. Your wife had the feeling wasn’t a good fit? Or let’s just be honest, most of schools have very bad behaved kids, wearing very dirty clothes, and having lack of hygiene. I can’t believe so many 8 year olds don’t know how to read here in Hawaii.
Mahalo for sharing. You brought up a good point about mental health and how it helps moms and dads with time to themselves. Sure, the boys could probably go to grandparents' house, but they get so much more social interaction at preschool.
live in the preschool! It is crazy what the thought process is when sending your kids to preschool, or schools in general. I actually do remember some experiences at my Preschool in Palolo and I'm 43 now.
Good video. Good luck. From the relatives, co-workers, they've all gone through that experience and it's always changing. Parents have an evolving criterion of competing variables based on parents and child. Knowing each child's personality, school strength, economics of the family, and residence where one lives. Pre-school, regular school, residence, commute, time/energy are different for each set of parents. My friends were lucky that they had good jobs and relatives to help care for the kids for pre-school, school. Some had help, others didn't. Even when they start going to school, they still pay more attention to their child doing/adjusting in school. Just do your best and follow your instincts and keeping following up. Hindsight is always 20/20. The future is uncertain, much like John Connor & Terminator. btw, with wife being bi-lingual, now's the time to be teaching the kids Japanese as well as English. They absorb the language a lot easier than waiting to be high school/college. Music/math skills introduced and enjoyed brings greater skills that we don't always realize.
two preschool tuitions is craaazzzzy. I had that same feeling as your wife when deciding on school for my son and I listened to it! We'll see how this next upcoming year goes
That's great that you got that feeling and listened. Ultimately, that's our job as parents. As they get older, I'll let the boys have more and more say. And of course, they'll be the ones to pick their colleges, if that's what they want to do.
We were extremely FORTUNATE to know a close family friend that had a daycare. What was even better was that she setup her place like a classroom. She “taught”the kids. Not just “watch” them. My daughters started kindergarten AHEAD of what they were being taught. At the ages of 3, they already knew how to add and subtract, read, write their names and a lot of words. It was such a blessing. They are not geniuses by any stretch, but they did have a huge jumpstart to their schooling.
Many states are trying to implement their own 'Universal Pre-K', although the Federal Government is attempting to do that also; a program that would be spanning the entire nation. The lottery may be old school, although it is not linked to technology, it's the easiest and fastest way to show impartial selection. Lastly, all of the sacrifices you are making for your children is commendable. At times, my father worked two jobs to make sure we would have a chance at a good life. An even in the afternoon, after he completed a whole day of working construction, he took time out to throw the ball around with me. On Sundays, he always took us to the park so we could run around, play a little sports, and get some fresh air as a family. You sacrifices are an investment in their future. GREAT JOB!
Can you do a video on the looming strike for the Waikiki hotel workers? I would like your take on it. It would also be interesting to see what your subscribers think.
Hopefully there are employers in Hawaii that offer a dependent care reimbursement account (DCRA). It's another option to save money towards childcare costs on a pretax deduction, which reduces your taxable income. But you have to weigh which is more beneficial tax-wise; the DCRA or the childcare tax credit when you file your taxes.
Alternate opinion, kids are oftentimes better off at home than in daycare or preschool if you can afford to do so. Also, boys in general have a lot of energy, you gotta get them outside to play. Let's not medicate them to sit still. Formal learning doesn't start until 6/7(reading & writing) in some of the more advanced countries (Japan, Finland etc). Perhaps a lot of mental health issues in children, comes from not having the right amount of play time, imaginary play, nap time or attachment to their parents in their early years. However, do whatever you think is right for your family. Every family is different.
This is extremely insightful. My wife is a pre K teacher and (as mentioned in the video) most every child in Hawaii public school Pre K is considered special education. The standards are counting to 20, knowing their alphabet, and a combination of other skills known as Hawaii Early Learning Development Standards. Paying thousands of dollars to a private school with similar standards seems ridiculous to me. Japan is known to have a superior education system. As you stated, they dont care as much about rigid curriculum until past the elementary years and instead focus on social development while their parents help develop their reading/writing - the minimum required learning to effectively communicate. To me, a lot is missed in learning when you make it so rigid that there is no flexibility to learn what you are interested in. Great post on your part!
@EvilTheOne is correct. This is in Chris' neighborhood (kind of on the border of the Kaka'ako area), and he's passed by it in some of his other vlogs. If you're somewhat familiar with Honolulu, it's bordered by Ward and Kapiolani Avenues with S. King Street running along the side facing the concert hall and the McKnley High School campus on the remaining side.
I don’t believe in preschool unless the alternative is ‘screens’ or you just need child care. With 2 boys I’d give them some toys and let them have fun. There’s certainly no harm in it, just the expensive ones not worth it.
Yes, preschool is expensive. Preschool cost almost as much as our rent and that was over 30 years ago. I can only imagine the cost now. Teachers would tell me how great my daughter was at school would make me wonder if they had the right child. 😂
The cost of preschool is crazy. They need more subsidies as the teachers get paid half of what public school teachers make and you know the historic problem with their pay.
I believe they expanded the tuition assistance program this year to three year olds. Before it was just for four year olds. Hopefully people are aware.
My son sadly was diss enrolled from 2 pre-schools 😞 I didn’t know at that time (when he was 3 , he had/has ADHD) and the reason for the diss enrollment after around 2-3 months being at each pre-school… elopement and “non-compliant”. He ended up going to head start for the remainder of pre-school. Which he thrived at🩷
Im sorry to say it, but regoing to be moving to Japan soon...seen this too many tikes with buddies of mine in Hawaii who end up in Korea, Japan or Las Vegas
Japan is great. I've enjoyed the culture as a visitor. However, I know it wouldn't be the same if I had to work in that culture. Still, it's a great place and I can see why many would choose to move there and other places.
As a former teacher, you're asking for it when you gotta work to make it in Hawaii. And your operation has to be to state standards for it to be legit and insured for educational and legal reasons. So it's not as easy as just starting one in your house tomorrow. Your money is better well spent hiring a teacher for all those families.
It's an interesting idea to start a school, but I'd rather have a group of parents who could rotate watching the kids so the parents could go out on date nights. I think that would be just as valuable for all families involved.
Thanks for the comment. I'm not so sure they would turn out the same. The way I see it, the beginning of their education is so important that I'd rather invest upfront rather than toward the end. I'm sure others may disagree, but it's how my education path looked. I had private school from preschool to 5th grade and then public education until graduation.
You are spending a lot to put your child on that hamster wheel of life. Why not teach them at home and teach them how to build wealth? Better yet, show them how! How to be a multimillionaire before 40 and get off that hamster wheel. All that effort to condition them to work till retirement after 60.
What a good video! Yes trust the feeling. The same thing happened to me.
I went against my previous experience with my kids at DOE preschool.
We started my grandson at DOE preschool as well. He hated it. We made the decision to send him to an ABA facility.....and he is thriving! The best switch and decision we made even though it was unpopular at the time.
Mahalo for sharing. It's always a tough decision when it comes to education, but it mostly works out in the end. Glad your grandson is thriving.
Good luck to you too. I remember what we had to deal with 25 years ago for preschool. It's defiantly not easy, but so well worth it.
Mahalo for the comment. My parents were telling me about their experience with us in preschool. But it was worth it.
***Preschool/early learning instead of daycare!
For mental healthiness kids must go to preschool at age 3. Mothers need time for themselves, and children need lots of playtime and social interaction with other kids and adults to be happier.
Average preschool tuition is $1200-$2500 a month. Then you have the ones for low income families or the ones for the rich that cost over $3K a month.
My daughter went to an amazing preschool in Kapahulu for just $900, not many people knows about that place, and she had such of amazing time, she learned so much, and the most important was the teachers, they were amazing mentors.
My daughter started 1st grade today and she love school and is super social. That’s thanks to her early learning preparation and a very good elementary kindergarten experience.
Your wife had the feeling wasn’t a good fit? Or let’s just be honest, most of schools have very bad behaved kids, wearing very dirty clothes, and having lack of hygiene. I can’t believe so many 8 year olds don’t know how to read here in Hawaii.
Mahalo for sharing. You brought up a good point about mental health and how it helps moms and dads with time to themselves. Sure, the boys could probably go to grandparents' house, but they get so much more social interaction at preschool.
live in the preschool! It is crazy what the thought process is when sending your kids to preschool, or schools in general. I actually do remember some experiences at my Preschool in Palolo and I'm 43 now.
I still remember some of my preschool days. Jungle gym, May Day, and my teachers.
Good video. Good luck. From the relatives, co-workers, they've all gone through that experience and it's always changing. Parents have an evolving criterion of competing variables based on parents and child. Knowing each child's personality, school strength, economics of the family, and residence where one lives. Pre-school, regular school, residence, commute, time/energy are different for each set of parents. My friends were lucky that they had good jobs and relatives to help care for the kids for pre-school, school. Some had help, others didn't. Even when they start going to school, they still pay more attention to their child doing/adjusting in school. Just do your best and follow your instincts and keeping following up. Hindsight is always 20/20. The future is uncertain, much like John Connor & Terminator. btw, with wife being bi-lingual, now's the time to be teaching the kids Japanese as well as English. They absorb the language a lot easier than waiting to be high school/college. Music/math skills introduced and enjoyed brings greater skills that we don't always realize.
Mahalo for the comment and encouraging words. I've been watching both sons so far. Older one is doing great. Younger one is still adjusting.
two preschool tuitions is craaazzzzy. I had that same feeling as your wife when deciding on school for my son and I listened to it! We'll see how this next upcoming year goes
That's great that you got that feeling and listened. Ultimately, that's our job as parents. As they get older, I'll let the boys have more and more say. And of course, they'll be the ones to pick their colleges, if that's what they want to do.
We were extremely FORTUNATE to know a close family friend that had a daycare. What was even better was that she setup her place like a classroom. She “taught”the kids. Not just “watch” them. My daughters started kindergarten AHEAD of what they were being taught. At the ages of 3, they already knew how to add and subtract, read, write their names and a lot of words. It was such a blessing. They are not geniuses by any stretch, but they did have a huge jumpstart to their schooling.
Mahalo for sharing. I think it's great that they were ahead academically, but I'm sure also socially.
Timestamp 9:17 👏👏👏You said what you said that needed to be said. 🤙
Thanks 🤙
Many states are trying to implement their own 'Universal Pre-K', although the Federal Government is attempting to do that also; a program that would be spanning the entire nation. The lottery may be old school, although it is not linked to technology, it's the easiest and fastest way to show impartial selection.
Lastly, all of the sacrifices you are making for your children is commendable. At times, my father worked two jobs to make sure we would have a chance at a good life. An even in the afternoon, after he completed a whole day of working construction, he took time out to throw the ball around with me. On Sundays, he always took us to the park so we could run around, play a little sports, and get some fresh air as a family. You sacrifices are an investment in their future. GREAT JOB!
Thanks for the encouraging words. It's a big sacrifice. Didn't realize it before having kids, but a lot of elements of parenting are like that.
Can you do a video on the looming strike for the Waikiki hotel workers? I would like your take on it. It would also be interesting to see what your subscribers think.
Chris, in Seattle only private preschools charge, not public ones.
Thanks for sharing. Didn't know that about Seattle. Are there enough public classrooms and teachers for most of the kids?
Hopefully there are employers in Hawaii that offer a dependent care reimbursement account (DCRA). It's another option to save money towards childcare costs on a pretax deduction, which reduces your taxable income. But you have to weigh which is more beneficial tax-wise; the DCRA or the childcare tax credit when you file your taxes.
Thanks for mentioning that. I'll have to take a look to see if that account is offered. 🤙
Alternate opinion, kids are oftentimes better off at home than in daycare or preschool if you can afford to do so. Also, boys in general have a lot of energy, you gotta get them outside to play. Let's not medicate them to sit still. Formal learning doesn't start until 6/7(reading & writing) in some of the more advanced countries (Japan, Finland etc). Perhaps a lot of mental health issues in children, comes from not having the right amount of play time, imaginary play, nap time or attachment to their parents in their early years. However, do whatever you think is right for your family. Every family is different.
This is extremely insightful. My wife is a pre K teacher and (as mentioned in the video) most every child in Hawaii public school Pre K is considered special education. The standards are counting to 20, knowing their alphabet, and a combination of other skills known as Hawaii Early Learning Development Standards. Paying thousands of dollars to a private school with similar standards seems ridiculous to me. Japan is known to have a superior education system. As you stated, they dont care as much about rigid curriculum until past the elementary years and instead focus on social development while their parents help develop their reading/writing - the minimum required learning to effectively communicate. To me, a lot is missed in learning when you make it so rigid that there is no flexibility to learn what you are interested in. Great post on your part!
Great point. Our sons love playing and being outside. We try to take them to the park and beach when we can. So much energy 😆
I pulled the cheat code. I got a job in the kitchen at my daughters preschool to get a big discount on tuition (the actual pay wasn’t great tho)
6:10 Where are you at? This is not the downtown mall, not the mall near the beach resort! Never seen this place, man!
It seems that Chris is at the Neal S. Blaisdell Center. Which has an exhibition center, arena and concert hall.
@EvilTheOne is correct. This is in Chris' neighborhood (kind of on the border of the Kaka'ako area), and he's passed by it in some of his other vlogs. If you're somewhat familiar with Honolulu, it's bordered by Ward and Kapiolani Avenues with S. King Street running along the side facing the concert hall and the McKnley High School campus on the remaining side.
@@christopherturco197 Thanks. I lived in Oahu for 4 years and never saw that place,.
Blaisdell. They host a lot of events there. Right along Ward between King and Kapiolani
I don’t believe in preschool unless the alternative is ‘screens’ or you just need child care. With 2 boys I’d give them some toys and let them have fun. There’s certainly no harm in it, just the expensive ones not worth it.
Yes, preschool is expensive. Preschool cost almost as much as our rent and that was over 30 years ago. I can only imagine the cost now. Teachers would tell me how great my daughter was at school would make me wonder if they had the right child. 😂
Get involved, meet the teacher and get your know them . Met the other parents. Celebrate your child’s birthday with the class .
This is something we've done with our oldest son's school. Really happy he's there.
The cost of preschool is crazy. They need more subsidies as the teachers get paid half of what public school teachers make and you know the historic problem with their pay.
I believe they expanded the tuition assistance program this year to three year olds. Before it was just for four year olds. Hopefully people are aware.
My son sadly was diss enrolled from 2 pre-schools 😞 I didn’t know at that time (when he was 3 , he had/has ADHD) and the reason for the diss enrollment after around 2-3 months being at each pre-school… elopement and “non-compliant”. He ended up going to head start for the remainder of pre-school. Which he thrived at🩷
Good to know he still did well in Head Start. Sorry that it didn't initially work out at the schools.
Yo? Where can I get that shirt? 2:15
For now, these shirts are just for me. I haven't released them for sale.
@@HelloFromHawaii Man? Those shirts are awesome. I'd love to wear one where I relocated to. All I have is Hawaiian polos. Mahalo for the response.
Im sorry to say it, but regoing to be moving to Japan soon...seen this too many tikes with buddies of mine in Hawaii who end up in Korea, Japan or Las Vegas
Japan is great. I've enjoyed the culture as a visitor. However, I know it wouldn't be the same if I had to work in that culture. Still, it's a great place and I can see why many would choose to move there and other places.
Make your own preschool with a small group of parents and rotate teaching.
As a former teacher, you're asking for it when you gotta work to make it in Hawaii. And your operation has to be to state standards for it to be legit and insured for educational and legal reasons. So it's not as easy as just starting one in your house tomorrow.
Your money is better well spent hiring a teacher for all those families.
It's an interesting idea to start a school, but I'd rather have a group of parents who could rotate watching the kids so the parents could go out on date nights. I think that would be just as valuable for all families involved.
I’m not even a parent idk why I watched this video but I did enjoy it lol 🤙🏾
Mahalo for watching 🤙
I would bet your boys will be just fine even if they don't go to preschool or private schools.
Thanks for the comment. I'm not so sure they would turn out the same. The way I see it, the beginning of their education is so important that I'd rather invest upfront rather than toward the end. I'm sure others may disagree, but it's how my education path looked. I had private school from preschool to 5th grade and then public education until graduation.
You are spending a lot to put your child on that hamster wheel of life. Why not teach them at home and teach them how to build wealth? Better yet, show them how! How to be a multimillionaire before 40 and get off that hamster wheel. All that effort to condition them to work till retirement after 60.
I think at this age I'd rather have them in school. As they get older, we can teach them those other skills you were talking about.
@HelloFromHawaii be sure to teach them later. In fact, have them try a business or work while a teen and under the safety of your umbrella.
Hey….Chris……how come grandma and grandpa are mr. and mrs.MONEYBAGS?????????????
😆 They've worked longer