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dear beth - you need to listen to anything & everything by slovak patricia janeckova, who died on october 1st last year from breast cancer aged 25, six weeks after getting married!! i can recommend 'mein herr marquis', 'meine lippen', from a 2016 new year concert, 'think of me' & 'summertime', both sung in english, the latter recorded on somebody's phone! keep up the good work! all the best!
A little bit of history about MIKE AND THE MECHANICS: Because you look like the sort of person who would be genuinely interested and have the intelligence to take it all on board. Firstly, you are absolutely right about Mike Rutherford from Genesis it's his band (he is Mike). Secondly, Mike and the Mechanics have been around for a long time, but other than Rutherford they haven't really had set members as such - many musical journeymen have come and gone and some have come back again. One in particular is Paul Carrack who has been part of the group called Squeeze in the past and has written one or two very good solo tracks such as How Long (I recommend you give it a listen sometime if you haven't already done so). On the track Living Years it was written and co-produced with Scotsman B A Robertson. Now in the more recent decades, Mike and the Mechanics has had a bit more of a core to it with a vocalist who has stayed around a bit more and also the added bonus of another British musician joining the band. The vocalist is Canadian actor, comedian and singer Tim Howar, I don't really know if you know that name or not (I just thought perhaps there was a slim chance, given that you are on his side of the Atlantic Ocean) and then there's Andrew Roachford who is the British musician and he previously had a solo career that started off fairly brightly with a well-known hit single of his called Cuddly Toy (again, I recommend that you give it a listen to if you haven't already done so). Yeah, so nowadays Mike and the Mechanics have a bit more of a recognisable core to them with Tim & Andrew joining the fray. Please accept my sincere apologies, because I thought at first that you were American, obviously not you are Scottish (British, from my own side of the Atlantic Ocean - D'Oh!) Please excuse my Homer Simpson moment!😳🤡
I appreciate your descriptions, and explanations, but you chose a poor spot to stop.. right at a pivotal, emotional important part of the video/song..which broke the emotional impact, and feeling of the message within the songs meaning.The break to a slower and very important part of the song..which to me is a travesty to the overall meaning of the song>The part where Paul Carrack delivers the heart felt, tear wrenching line.."I wasn't there that morning , when my father past away"..You broke the feeling of the message and therefore the deep rooted message..this hurt the inherent message and all the EMOTION of the songs SPIRIT!
Such a touching song. No one understands just how deep the pain is until you lose your parents ...or anyone you cared for so deeply. No one explains it. No one understands it until you go through it. Paul Carrack does a beautiful job expressing that emotion. 👏
My old fellah, born in 1924, and long 20 odd years gone now, heard this when we were driving, and it touched him so much. His dad suffered a gas attack in the trenches in the first World War and was ruined by it, and my dear old pops said the closest they ever got was when his dad shook his hand and wished him well on his wedding day. My lovely old dad, served in the Navy throughout the Second World War, but went out of his way, when I unexpectedly popped up in the late 60s, to tell me how much he loved me every opportunity, and I, of course, young lad I was horribly embarrassed. Until we heard this together. God I loved that man, and would do anything to be able to tell him how much, now
I haven't heard this song in years. It took me immediately back to when my father passed away. My dog crossed the rainbow bridge the day before. I went to see my dad at the nursing home. I knew he was tired. I told him if he was afraid to go to heaven by himself that his grand puppy would be there waiting for him. He told me he loved me. Something I knew but it was rarely said. Squeezed my hand, closed his eyes and he was gone. I looked at the clock, the two of them died almost 24 hours apart to the minute. It will be 13 years at the end of this month, yet I remember it like it was yesterday.
I'm writing through tears. My father is in his 80s, and I'm going to visit tomorrow and tell him that I love him even if we're both jerks from time to time.
Joe, I hope you were able to. I lost my father last week - he was in his 90s and I am heartbroken - I had 6 months to tell him everything but I still feel it wasn't enough time to convey everything and make peace x
@@wyattfamily8997 I am so sad to hear this x I didn't get the answers I was looking for, but I know I provided the opportunity for him if he had wanted to.
This song makes me cry every time I hear. My father was dying when this song came out. I tried to tell him I loved him so much every day. I pray that he could hear me. He squeezed my hand when he took his last breath. I miss my daddy!❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼
MY DAD DIED IN 2006 and on recieving the telephone call from my mum i dropped everything, jumped into the car to make the two hour drive to see her. I had only been driving for 5 miles when this song came onto the radio. I burst into tears even though he and i had no issues. Every time i hear this takes me back to that day!!
My father passed in May. My son and my dad have similar mannerisms and every time he says or does something that my dad would’ve done I almost want to cry
Seriously one of the most touching, yet uplifting, song there ever has been. We all die, that's a fact where we ALL are the same, so make sure to say the important things to those you love while each of us are here. So lovely. ☺
My Mum loved this Song and when dad died she couldn't bring herself to listen to it again, and when she passed I put it out of my mind. This is the first time I have heard it in 14 years, Thank You Beth.
Same. I love this song and this is the first time I have listened to it since my Dad passed away unexpectedly (and alone unfortunately) last fall. I cried like a baby through a lot of this video.
This song helped my father and I to heal our relationship. We both realized that we didn't want the feelings of regret and pointless anger to take over our lives.
At the age of 76 now I have been tearing up to this since I first heard it while stationed in Europe in the Army. It always causes me to reevaluate my relationship with each of my three sons and try to do better with them. Wish I'd done a better job with my relationship with my own father.
My father loved this song because it always made him think about his father(my grandfather), who was his hero and best friend. Truthfully, I don't think my grandfather could ever have a argument with anyone because he such a laid-back person I've ever known and he and my the two of them had a wonderful relationship. However, when my grandfather passed away, my father always regretted the fact that he never was able to tell him he loved him one last time. When my father was 88, he had a massive stroke and was hospitalized. My wife, kids, and I live 3 streets over from my parents so I was the first to arrive at the hospital. After being told that there wasn't anything they could do, I just told them to keep him comfortable. He was moved to hospice house the next day. My niece, who lives 200 miles away was the only person who had not seen him yet to say her goodbyes but was coming up the next morning. He had hung on for 5 days and I remember telling my wife, he is waiting for my niece to come to say her goodbyes. That morning, my wife and I got in the car to go to hospice and this song came on the radio. I told my wife that today was the day he was going to move on from this world. My niece arrived around noon to see him and we all left around 5pm. Before my wife and I left, I went over by his side, grabbed his hand and told him that I was considered myself so blessed to have him as a father, hero, and best friend. I kissed him on the forehead and told him I love you and I felt him squeeze my hand. Ten minutes after we left, hospice called me and told me he had passed. So now this song has even more meaning to me, but I feel blessed that I did get the chance to say everything I wanted to say to him in his living years.
You're a beautiful soul Beth. I love how you're such a genuine person, emotions and all. My father and I didn't have a great relationship. I never told him I loved him and I never heard it from him. In his later years he suffered from Alzheimer's. I would visit him a fair bit in the seniors home. He forgot I was his son. He looked up at me one day and said " you make a very good impression on me ". Thanks dad, I needed that. He passed away shortly after that.
I think of my late father every time I hear this song. And I cry every time. The lyrics hits me so hard, it's like hearing about our relationship. He left us, being a violent alcoholic, when I was 8. I saw him twice during the following 20 years. My sister had her first child, and gave him an ultimatum - if you want to see your granddaughter you have to stay sober when you visit. He stopped drinking there and then, and stayed sober for 8 years before he suddenly died aged 63 years old. The last few months of his life, he stayed at mine often. I had all these questions - about his childhood, teenager years, adult life. Trying to get to know him properly, and why he went the path of self destruction. And then, within 24 hours of being hospitalized..... he was gone. I never really said that I loved him. He never really said that he loved me. And that hurts more than anything else. I HAD every opportunity to do so, as did he. You live and learn. Tell your family and friends that you love them. Cherish them with every grain of your body and soul. Before it's to late.....
I'm so glad you finally reacted to Paul Carrack. He's been one of my favorite vocalists since I first heard him on Squeeze's song Tempted. Also, thank you for the syringe analogy. It really helped me get a better understanding of breath control.
Lost my dad suddenly when I was 20, incidentally around the same time this song came out. It used to hit me hard, cuz we didn't see much on the same level, but 30+ yrs later and with a 20 yr old son of my own, I've learned to appreciate the lessons and apply them. Parents, tell your children you love them every chance you get. You'll never regret it
My dad died in ‘99 way too young and way too suddenly. We had many times where we disagreed. I had this cd in my car and every time I hear this song - even 25 years later, like now…I go to pieces. But it’s also a very cleansing cry. Thank you for bringing the tears out again and for allowing me to fondly remember my father. Love your channel. ❤️
This song was released about a year after my father passed away. I was dealing with a lot of things internally as I was only in my twenties, and I have to say that I did not always do a real good job of it. This song expressed a lot of what I was thinking and let me know that I was not alone in my thoughts. It was a release to all of my frustrations at the time and made me feel better about life in general. It is one of my favorite songs to listen to and keeps my head screwed on straight.
52 years ago for mine and it still wrecks me also. I was 16, it was 1972. It stills tears me apart and it's like this song was written for me. My Dad never told me he loved me, never a hug. I knew he had served in WWII but never knew the details, it turns out he served in the 45th Infantry , which served more days in active combat than any other in the US Army. 4 amphibious landings and occupied the Dachau concentration camp at the end of the war, he NEVER told me any of this though I have his medals. I didn't find out any of this till almost 30 years after he died, To know this it helped me understand him better. I found out through an expert he had earned the Bronze Star but he was never given it, with lots of help, I got it for him and with tears in my eyes brought it to the cemetery. A movie could be made about all this. My Dad helped save the world and I didn't know it, he was a hero and I never got to say Thank you.
Young people, listen. My Father passed away in March, and he and I had a conversation about him getting old and dying a few months prior in December. We loved each other and always said so. I will tell you, the best thing that ever happened to me was being able to have that conversation with my Father. Please do this before your parents pass away. I feel so lucky to have been able to have that conversation.
Paul Carrack: The Man with the Golden Voice. The former lead singer of 3 different bands who all had huge hits: "How Long" with Ace, "Tempted" with Squeeze, and many songs with Mike + the Mechanics, including "Silent Running", "Over My Shoulder", "Another Cup of Coffee", and this one. He also had a Top 10 solo hit with "Don't Shed A Tear", and was a sideman for Roxy Music, Nick Lowe, Roger Waters, and currently Eric Clapton.
Wow someone who knows like I have the Amazing Paul Carrack..I remember when he was in Ace and the first time I heard Mike and the Mechanics I said I need to find out Who's singing this song..I knew Ace And Genesis, and all the bands doing off shoots or solo work I found The Golden Voice..The his solo work And the album that had "One Good Reason" Don't shed a tear good reason to go and listen to that album..and the other great songs on it..I was an INSTANT FAN there after,, Worked with many bands Winwood Clapton Van Morrison..and co wrote with the Eagles..Nick Lowe Dave Edmunds, both from ROCKPILE wow the list goes on and on .. so much talent ..
I'm in my 50s, my dad is in his 80s, and we definitely fall into the category of the subject of this song. My mom is gone, but dad is still here. This song, as sad as it is, gives me hope and tells me in no uncertain terms that it's best to forget the difficulties that come between us. So I've been nothing but nice and loving, avoiding points of contention, and that is the way it will be until the end. You can have a real beef with someone, especially a family member - but when they die, you instantly realize how unimportant it was and it all goes away, leaving the pleasant memories in place.
What can you say after someone passes away and there were things left unsaid. I'm glad that I forgave my father before he passed away. You can listen when they're here when they pass away you just have to realize how much you miss them. It's hard not to cry. The choir is so omnipotent in this song. And Michael sings a really gut wrenching emotionally charged song that will live on vicariously through each and everyone of us. Thank you Beth.
My father died last October. We had become more close in the last couple of years, and had travelled up to see him in the Nursing home the day before he died, but decided to wait until the following day to go and see him as it was late when I got to his house. That next morning I was awoken by a phone call to say he'd died, so had missed that opportunity to talk to him one last time before he passed. Things came to light after he died that I would have liked to speak with him about, but I wasn't there to see his last evening alive. It will forever play on my mind. This song has always been a favourite, but now is more pertinent than ever.
"Using the young guy choir is like him reflecting on his youth". Yeah, just wait another minute and you'll love what comes next. 🥲 A beautiful song that I didn't fully appreciate as a child when it was doing the rounds on the radio but, boy, it hits right in the feels now decades later.
I had heard this before on the radio back in the day and never paid much attention to it at the time. Thanks for bringing back to my attention, it is a really inspirational. Paul Carrack is a great singer in all the projects that he has done.
Get a little teary eyed everytime I hear this song. My Dad passed from cancer when I was 32. We were never really close like he and my older brother were and I regret that. He had a strong temper and drank too much on weekends. It wasn't pleasant, but I still loved my Dad and after he retired he stopped drinking (no more job stress) and was really a totally different person. Unfortunately he didn't get to enjoy it long as he passed at 67. Also Paul Carrack is one of my favorite Pop/Rock male vocalists. Really great voice.
My son complains that his generation doesn't produce real and good to hear music, so every day, I let him listen to old songs for him to appreciate songs expressed from the heart and soul.. He said the song is like a time machine.. The Living Years song was one he refrain from crying while listening...❤❤❤
I would burst into tears when the first notes started playing. Then I went to my elderly parents and told them, face to face, what wonderful parents they were & how lucky I was to grow up in there house. After that, I would grin every time it played, because I knew in my heart I told them before they died!
I have always loved this song. It took on a whole new meaning and emotion 3 years after it was released, when my father passed away. Now, this song never ceases to bring tears to my eyes, especially the part that goes "I wasn't there that morning, when my father passed away". He suffered from a cruel disease for about a year and we knew he was slowly dying. One night I decided that the next day, I would "tell him all the things I had to say". Of course, I never got to. He passed away just a few hours before I was going to be with him. So, I recommend to everyone to hear this song, but above all, to "listen as well as you hear".
If we are human we must be touched by this song. Such amazing lyrics which bring the point home with so much clarity and pathos. But dang it, just like Genesis, here we get upbeat music with a sad or morbid message. Clever, if exasperating. Mike wrote a lot of Genesis music and lyrics and it really shows here. And yes, there is a very hopeful feeling at the end. If we are mindful we can overcome our differences if we listen and "don't give up and don't give in" to the ever present negativity lurking about. Striving for trustful communication is a lovely comment. Love this song.
There is SUCH a big difference between hearing and actual listening. We hear THOUSANDS of sounds every day, but most of them we pay little attention to, filing them away under a thick file called "Background Noise." And most of it IS noise, unwanted sound. But LISTENING requires active thought. Actually engaging the brain to pay attention to what one is hearing. Too many people spend their lives filing all sound away under Background Noise, but if they would actually pay attention to those sounds, ENGAGE their brains to what is going on around them, the world would be a MUCH better place.
HI Beth. I've loved this beautiful song for many years. Paul Carrack is an amazing vocalist. I've always loved that they used a choir of upper middle aged people to support the idea that they're representing the generation Paul is singing about. So sweet and touching. We should all realise so many things are left said undone when we lose our beloved parents, and that often haunts us for the rest of our own lives, and I include myself in that. ❤
I lost my father in August of 2022, and I had a good relationship with him at that time. But I still didn't get to tell him all things I had to say, and I miss hearing what he had to say. If I had all the money in the world, I'd trade it all for 5 more minutes with him. I love you Pops, and I miss you.
This song hit me hard when I first heard it as a teenager. Then when my father passed away, in my forties, it became a whole new level of gut punch. Such a beautiful song. Empathy can be a very difficult thing to learn and yet it is so important, possibly the most important thing we need to learn as human beings.
I performed this song at my fathers funeral - he held his newborn grandson in his arms hours before he passed away. one of the few time i seen my father cry
My dad died in 1973, two days after my 15th birthday. The first time I heard this song I was overwhelmed. I tear up every time I hear even after all these years.
@@garyt19651More in common as I have an older brother named Gary. My dad was only 36 when he passed. So very young. Thanks for sharing this info. I share your inability to overcome the loss.
Makes me cry every time I hear this song. My Dad is the finest man I've ever known and we have a wonderful relationship but I'm dreading the day he isn't around any more.
We were lucky enough to see Mike & The Mechanics live -I think it was at Oakland Coliseum when they toured their album. Beautiful lyric with a profound message!
This song make me even now ,I'm 66 years old my father passed away in1997 in his sleep so I never got to say to him that I loved him so now I always cry when I think of him❤❤❤❤❤
As someone who has lost both parents with lots of unresolved feelings and unsaid thoughts this song hits hard. People, talk to your loved ones. When they pass it feels like a door being slammed in you face and locked forever.
Wow, I always loved the lyrics of this song as a young lad, now I cry every time I hear it. Having now lost both my parents within 3 years, this song is both beautiful and too emotional to listen to for me in public.
I'm a child of parents who were children in WW2 in London, England. They were both traumatized by the war in different ways. My youth, twenties and thirties were largely concerned with healing what their trauma had wrought in me. Then this song came out and because of this song I have healed the trauma in my own life - but it took me until I was 65. Now I'm trying to support my almost 40 year old child heal her trauma. It's pretty awful what war can do to children but fortunately , it's amazing what music can do to heal it - whether we are singing it, listening to it or playing it!
This song came out shortly after my father died at 62 when I was 31. Instant early mid-life crisis. This song will never not make me cry. Normally I would consider this to be poor writing because it is so obvious and "on the nose," but it is so true and honest that what could be a weakness becomes a strength, plus Mr. Carrack could sing a grocery list and make it emotional.
I was lucky enough to get to say goodbye to my dad and I can’t imagine how it would feel to not get that chance. My last memory of him is my sister said something that he found funny, he looked at me, rolled his eyes and stuck his tongue out. Later that day he lost consciousness and passed away the next evening with my mother at his side. They were married for 49 years and I always thought it was fitting that they were together, alone when he died. That was almost 9 years ago today and I still miss him but I focus on that silly face he gave me and how amazing a man he was.
All I find myself able to say right now is thank you. Thank you for reacting to one of my favorite songs of all time. Not just a beautiful, peaceful melody, but a message that's timeless and that everyone needs to not only hear but listen to and pay heed. If there is anything you want to tell a loved one, do it while you still have a chance. One of the worst pains in life is that of regret.
Mike + the Mechanics also had a second lead singer Paul Young (ex-Sad Cafe). He sang their big hit "All I Need Is A Miracle", which I HIGHLY recommend reacting to. Paul also sung the Mechanics classics "Word of Mouth", "A Beggar on a Beach of Gold", and "Taken In".
Took dad off life support on April 1st , '98. We had many rough year's... but I never forgot his wishes... to never be hooked up to life support. I was all alone in the decision just him and me! The doctors gave me their blessing... we never told each other...I love you! While in a coma... I told him what was going to happen... and that I loved him! He actually took a half breath and the respirator continued... they brought him into a different room and disconnected him, with mom, and a few friends in the background... I was holding his hand the whole time, balling... it was the hardest thing this Marine ever did in his life! Even though it was the best thing for him, it still was very difficult to let him go...he was 66. 😢
It's ironic how I had heard this song hundreds of times, and the upbeat, hopeful feel of the music distracted me from listening to the lyrics. Then when I finally did... man, the message hit me hard. I guess I finally listened as well as I could hear.
My dad went in ‘84 aged 47, I was 21. We were close, but at 21 you don’t know all the things you get to know over the time. In nearly 40 years plenty of things we missed talking about. Also the song part “I wasn’t there that morning…” is true for me. Regrets…
As a son who never saw eye to eye with his father, this song had new meaning to me after my father passed away. I never got the chance to actually sit and talk with him about our differences. When I finally felt we needed to talk, he developed dementia and it was too late. Almost 4 years later and I still have much regret never really KNOWING my father. We never talked much when I was young, and I had always felt he had resented me for some reason. Quick to yell at me and never really praising me for anything. I regret not being the bigger man and just talking to him no matter how the conversation would end. This song will stay with me until my last day.
This is the same year we lost my Navy Dad, then, later that year, my baby sister gave birth to her (Army) Son, and I remember hearing the Rockline interview with the band, then played the song for my Mom (who would pass the very next year) and we wept together! My Dad had "a deep talk" exactly ONE MONTH before he passed away! Having your parents tell you how proud they were of who you became in THE LIVING YEARS is priceless! ❤❤💔💔🙏🙏✝✝🗽🗽🌹🌹
Beth, no need to hide behind the nerding, let it out, this is music at it's best. A powerful communication. When it came out I listened and made sure Dad knew. He is still alive but dementia is a terrible thing.
When a song makes you emotional as this. You know it's a great song. My dad died in Cape Town in 1990. I miss him so much. I cried one night and asked my wife did my dad know I loved him.
God what a great song. I am old enough to remember when this was a hit. And at the time, and at the age I was at the time... you just think it's a nice song, nice melodies, good singing, etc. 35 years later it is an whole different emotional experience. AKA it absolutely wrecks me every time.
Mike and the Mechanics had two lead singers, who were each teamed with the right songs for their voice. Paul Carrack (who famously wrote and sang the excellent hit How Long by the 70s band Ace) sings this ballad flawlessly ❤
A beautiful sentiment delivered with such passion about one of the most important life experiences that most of us share but fail to recognize - sadly - at the critical moments of occurrence. I am sorry, Dad...for failing to recognize your wisdom when offered with a love that I can only appreciate now and not when it mattered most,
This is a beautiful heartfelt song I've always loved. It gets me everytime. The words ring so true. Thanks for your reaction Beth and your thoughtful comments.
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Beautiful ginger, nice reaction as always.
Keep singing and smiling
Keep being creative
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dear beth - you need to listen to anything & everything by slovak patricia janeckova, who died on october 1st last year from breast cancer aged 25, six weeks after getting married!! i can recommend 'mein herr marquis', 'meine lippen', from a 2016 new year concert, 'think of me' & 'summertime', both sung in english, the latter recorded on somebody's phone!
keep up the good work! all the best!
A little bit of history about MIKE AND THE MECHANICS:
Because you look like the sort of person who would be genuinely interested and have the intelligence to take it all on board.
Firstly, you are absolutely right about Mike Rutherford from Genesis it's his band (he is Mike).
Secondly, Mike and the Mechanics have been around for a long time, but other than Rutherford they haven't really had set members as such - many musical journeymen have come and gone and some have come back again.
One in particular is Paul Carrack who has been part of the group called Squeeze in the past and has written one or two very good solo tracks such as How Long (I recommend you give it a listen sometime if you haven't already done so).
On the track Living Years it was written and co-produced with Scotsman B A Robertson.
Now in the more recent decades, Mike and the Mechanics has had a bit more of a core to it with a vocalist who has stayed around a bit more and also the added bonus of another British musician joining the band.
The vocalist is Canadian actor, comedian and singer Tim Howar, I don't really know if you know that name or not (I just thought perhaps there was a slim chance, given that you are on his side of the Atlantic Ocean) and then there's Andrew Roachford who is the British musician and he previously had a solo career that started off fairly brightly with a well-known hit single of his called Cuddly Toy (again, I recommend that you give it a listen to if you haven't already done so).
Yeah, so nowadays Mike and the Mechanics have a bit more of a recognisable core to them with Tim & Andrew joining the fray.
Please accept my sincere apologies, because I thought at first that you were American, obviously not you are Scottish (British, from my own side of the Atlantic Ocean - D'Oh!) Please excuse my Homer Simpson moment!😳🤡
I appreciate your descriptions, and explanations, but you chose a poor spot to stop.. right at a pivotal, emotional important part of the video/song..which broke the emotional impact, and feeling of the message within the songs meaning.The break to a slower and very important part of the song..which to me is a travesty to the overall meaning of the song>The part where Paul Carrack delivers the heart felt, tear wrenching line.."I wasn't there that morning , when my father past away"..You broke the feeling of the message and therefore the deep rooted message..this hurt the inherent message and all the EMOTION of the songs SPIRIT!
Can't hear this without crying. I miss you, Dad.
for all of our dad
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Such a touching song. No one understands just how deep the pain is until you lose your parents ...or anyone you cared for so deeply. No one explains it. No one understands it until you go through it. Paul Carrack does a beautiful job expressing that emotion. 👏
Perfectly put.
I felt like an orphan.
this song will mean a lot to most of the world but not to israel!!
I understand perfectly. I lost my dad 35 years ago and my mom last year.
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If you can't get tears in your eyes from this song you are not human.
My old fellah, born in 1924, and long 20 odd years gone now, heard this when we were driving, and it touched him so much. His dad suffered a gas attack in the trenches in the first World War and was ruined by it, and my dear old pops said the closest they ever got was when his dad shook his hand and wished him well on his wedding day. My lovely old dad, served in the Navy throughout the Second World War, but went out of his way, when I unexpectedly popped up in the late 60s, to tell me how much he loved me every opportunity, and I, of course, young lad I was horribly embarrassed. Until we heard this together. God I loved that man, and would do anything to be able to tell him how much, now
He knows.
I haven't heard this song in years. It took me immediately back to when my father passed away. My dog crossed the rainbow bridge the day before. I went to see my dad at the nursing home. I knew he was tired. I told him if he was afraid to go to heaven by himself that his grand puppy would be there waiting for him. He told me he loved me. Something I knew but it was rarely said. Squeezed my hand, closed his eyes and he was gone. I looked at the clock, the two of them died almost 24 hours apart to the minute. It will be 13 years at the end of this month, yet I remember it like it was yesterday.
Bless your heart mate, I feel for you and know the heartbreak of losing loved ones. Be happy and healthy mate and take care!
It's a perfect song for expressing the cycle of fathers and sons down through the ages. The vocals are fantastic.
Sorry about your dog...
and dad too 😔
I'm writing through tears. My father is in his 80s, and I'm going to visit tomorrow and tell him that I love him even if we're both jerks from time to time.
I lost my father almost 5 years ago. We went too long without sharing emotions and leaving words unspoken until it was too late.
Joe, I hope you were able to. I lost my father last week - he was in his 90s and I am heartbroken - I had 6 months to tell him everything but I still feel it wasn't enough time to convey everything and make peace x
@@sm_au At least you woke up in time. My Dad died 15 years ago and we never had one real conversation...never.
@@wyattfamily8997 I am so sad to hear this x I didn't get the answers I was looking for, but I know I provided the opportunity for him if he had wanted to.
I get ya man! Looking back taking for granted what my Pop tried to teach me and realizing he was doing the best he could.
Paul Carrack is one of the great vocalists. He takes any song he sings to a whole new level. This song has a gospel vibe to me and it's gorgeous.
paul carrack is an 'ace' vocalist!!!
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This song makes me cry every time I hear. My father was dying when this song came out. I tried to tell him I loved him so much every day. I pray that he could hear me. He squeezed my hand when he took his last breath. I miss my daddy!❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼
I love the choice of having the child choir and the choir of older people. Its like a musical conversation between the generation.
MY DAD DIED IN 2006 and on recieving the telephone call from my mum i dropped everything, jumped into the car to make the two hour drive to see her. I had only been driving for 5 miles when this song came onto the radio. I burst into tears even though he and i had no issues. Every time i hear this takes me back to that day!!
Paul Carrack is a brilliant singer: the wonderful soul/r&b quality to his voice never fails to get to the emotional heart of a song.
"I swear I heard his echo in my baby's newborn tears"... That sentence is 👌❤️
My father passed in May. My son and my dad have similar mannerisms and every time he says or does something that my dad would’ve done I almost want to cry
Seriously one of the most touching, yet uplifting, song there ever has been. We all die, that's a fact where we ALL are the same, so make sure to say the important things to those you love while each of us are here. So lovely. ☺
I love the visual and vocal use of the two generations of choirs harmonising together to show that they CAN get along together.
I agree. A lot of people miss that little nuance to the video.
My Mum loved this Song and when dad died she couldn't bring herself to listen to it again, and when she passed I put it out of my mind. This is the first time I have heard it in 14 years, Thank You Beth.
“I did not think I could feel this sad over such a funky rhythmic bass,” cracked me up through * my * tears 😂
Same. I love this song and this is the first time I have listened to it since my Dad passed away unexpectedly (and alone unfortunately) last fall. I cried like a baby through a lot of this video.
This song helped my father and I to heal our relationship. We both realized that we didn't want the feelings of regret and pointless anger to take over our lives.
What a great and most f**ked up way to start my Wednesday!
Damn I miss you dad
Be glad you had the chance ! I didn't
At the age of 76 now I have been tearing up to this since I first heard it while stationed in Europe in the Army. It always causes me to reevaluate my relationship with each of my three sons and try to do better with them. Wish I'd done a better job with my relationship with my own father.
Don't worry Beth we have all gotten emotional or cried to this song ❤️
Watching you get emotional made me cry! Oh my goodness, I haven't heard this song for so long but it hasn't lost any of its power.
Paul Carrack is one of the most underrated vocalists of his generation IMHO
Not only his generation!
He’s not underrated to me
My father loved this song because it always made him think about his father(my grandfather), who was his hero and best friend. Truthfully, I don't think my grandfather could ever have a argument with anyone because he such a laid-back person I've ever known and he and my the two of them had a wonderful relationship. However, when my grandfather passed away, my father always regretted the fact that he never was able to tell him he loved him one last time. When my father was 88, he had a massive stroke and was hospitalized. My wife, kids, and I live 3 streets over from my parents so I was the first to arrive at the hospital. After being told that there wasn't anything they could do, I just told them to keep him comfortable. He was moved to hospice house the next day. My niece, who lives 200 miles away was the only person who had not seen him yet to say her goodbyes but was coming up the next morning. He had hung on for 5 days and I remember telling my wife, he is waiting for my niece to come to say her goodbyes. That morning, my wife and I got in the car to go to hospice and this song came on the radio. I told my wife that today was the day he was going to move on from this world. My niece arrived around noon to see him and we all left around 5pm. Before my wife and I left, I went over by his side, grabbed his hand and told him that I was considered myself so blessed to have him as a father, hero, and best friend. I kissed him on the forehead and told him I love you and I felt him squeeze my hand. Ten minutes after we left, hospice called me and told me he had passed. So now this song has even more meaning to me, but I feel blessed that I did get the chance to say everything I wanted to say to him in his living years.
You're a beautiful soul Beth. I love how you're such a genuine person, emotions and all. My father and I didn't have a great relationship. I never told him I loved him and I never heard it from him. In his later years he suffered from Alzheimer's. I would visit him a fair bit in the seniors home. He forgot I was his son. He looked up at me one day and said " you make a very good impression on me ". Thanks dad, I needed that. He passed away shortly after that.
I think of my late father every time I hear this song. And I cry every time. The lyrics hits me so hard, it's like hearing about our relationship. He left us, being a violent alcoholic, when I was 8. I saw him twice during the following 20 years. My sister had her first child, and gave him an ultimatum - if you want to see your granddaughter you have to stay sober when you visit. He stopped drinking there and then, and stayed sober for 8 years before he suddenly died aged 63 years old. The last few months of his life, he stayed at mine often. I had all these questions - about his childhood, teenager years, adult life. Trying to get to know him properly, and why he went the path of self destruction. And then, within 24 hours of being hospitalized..... he was gone. I never really said that I loved him. He never really said that he loved me. And that hurts more than anything else. I HAD every opportunity to do so, as did he. You live and learn. Tell your family and friends that you love them. Cherish them with every grain of your body and soul. Before it's to late.....
I'm so glad you finally reacted to Paul Carrack. He's been one of my favorite vocalists since I first heard him on Squeeze's song Tempted. Also, thank you for the syringe analogy. It really helped me get a better understanding of breath control.
Tempted, what a song!
'Groove Approved' is one of the best albums I've ever heard, start to finish.
Tempted was also my introduction to Carrack. Squeeze are incredibly underrated.
Lost my dad suddenly when I was 20, incidentally around the same time this song came out. It used to hit me hard, cuz we didn't see much on the same level, but 30+ yrs later and with a 20 yr old son of my own, I've learned to appreciate the lessons and apply them. Parents, tell your children you love them every chance you get. You'll never regret it
My dad died in ‘99 way too young and way too suddenly. We had many times where we disagreed. I had this cd in my car and every time I hear this song - even 25 years later, like now…I go to pieces. But it’s also a very cleansing cry. Thank you for bringing the tears out again and for allowing me to fondly remember my father. Love your channel. ❤️
This song was released about a year after my father passed away. I was dealing with a lot of things internally as I was only in my twenties, and I have to say that I did not always do a real good job of it. This song expressed a lot of what I was thinking and let me know that I was not alone in my thoughts. It was a release to all of my frustrations at the time and made me feel better about life in general. It is one of my favorite songs to listen to and keeps my head screwed on straight.
I get it
This song! My Dad died 33 years ago and this song still wrecks me.
52 years ago for mine and it still wrecks me also. I was 16, it was 1972. It stills tears me apart and it's like this song was written for me. My Dad never told me he loved me, never a hug. I knew he had served in WWII but never knew the details, it turns out he served in the 45th Infantry , which served more days in active combat than any other in the US Army. 4 amphibious landings and occupied the Dachau concentration camp at the end of the war, he NEVER told me any of this though I have his medals. I didn't find out any of this till almost 30 years after he died, To know this it helped me understand him better. I found out through an expert he had earned the Bronze Star but he was never given it, with lots of help, I got it for him and with tears in my eyes brought it to the cemetery. A movie could be made about all this. My Dad helped save the world and I didn't know it, he was a hero and I never got to say Thank you.
Young people, listen. My Father passed away in March, and he and I had a conversation about him getting old and dying a few months prior in December. We loved each other and always said so. I will tell you, the best thing that ever happened to me was being able to have that conversation with my Father. Please do this before your parents pass away. I feel so lucky to have been able to have that conversation.
We should do that with everyone in our lives. Our partners, our children, our friends...
This song is vastly underappreciated and catches many people off guard.
Paul Carrack: The Man with the Golden Voice. The former lead singer of 3 different bands who all had huge hits: "How Long" with Ace, "Tempted" with Squeeze, and many songs with Mike + the Mechanics, including "Silent Running", "Over My Shoulder", "Another Cup of Coffee", and this one. He also had a Top 10 solo hit with "Don't Shed A Tear", and was a sideman for Roxy Music, Nick Lowe, Roger Waters, and currently Eric Clapton.
Wow someone who knows like I have the Amazing Paul Carrack..I remember when he was in Ace and the first time I heard Mike and the Mechanics I said I need to find out Who's singing this song..I knew Ace And Genesis, and all the bands doing off shoots or solo work I found The Golden Voice..The his solo work And the album that had "One Good Reason" Don't shed a tear good reason to go and listen to that album..and the other great songs on it..I was an INSTANT FAN there after,, Worked with many bands Winwood Clapton Van Morrison..and co wrote with the Eagles..Nick Lowe Dave Edmunds, both from ROCKPILE wow the list goes on and on .. so much talent ..
I'm in my 50s, my dad is in his 80s, and we definitely fall into the category of the subject of this song. My mom is gone, but dad is still here. This song, as sad as it is, gives me hope and tells me in no uncertain terms that it's best to forget the difficulties that come between us. So I've been nothing but nice and loving, avoiding points of contention, and that is the way it will be until the end. You can have a real beef with someone, especially a family member - but when they die, you instantly realize how unimportant it was and it all goes away, leaving the pleasant memories in place.
"... And if you don't give up, and don't give in, you may just be okay!"
I've always loved this song. I am a huge Genesis fan and also love Paul Carrack. This song does hit you in the feels.
What can you say after someone passes away and there were things left unsaid. I'm glad that I forgave my father before he passed away. You can listen when they're here when they pass away you just have to realize how much you miss them. It's hard not to cry. The choir is so omnipotent in this song. And Michael sings a really gut wrenching emotionally charged song that will live on vicariously through each and everyone of us. Thank you Beth.
We should all be thinking about this song, especially today
My father died last October. We had become more close in the last couple of years, and had travelled up to see him in the Nursing home the day before he died, but decided to wait until the following day to go and see him as it was late when I got to his house. That next morning I was awoken by a phone call to say he'd died, so had missed that opportunity to talk to him one last time before he passed. Things came to light after he died that I would have liked to speak with him about, but I wasn't there to see his last evening alive. It will forever play on my mind.
This song has always been a favourite, but now is more pertinent than ever.
"Using the young guy choir is like him reflecting on his youth". Yeah, just wait another minute and you'll love what comes next. 🥲 A beautiful song that I didn't fully appreciate as a child when it was doing the rounds on the radio but, boy, it hits right in the feels now decades later.
Exactly what I was thinking. 😥
“echo in my baby’s newborn tears “ what a lyric ❤❤❤
I had heard this before on the radio back in the day and never paid much attention to it at the time. Thanks for bringing back to my attention, it is a really inspirational. Paul Carrack is a great singer in all the projects that he has done.
Get a little teary eyed everytime I hear this song. My Dad passed from cancer when I was 32. We were never really close like he and my older brother were and I regret that. He had a strong temper and drank too much on weekends. It wasn't pleasant, but I still loved my Dad and after he retired he stopped drinking (no more job stress) and was really a totally different person. Unfortunately he didn't get to enjoy it long as he passed at 67. Also Paul Carrack is one of my favorite Pop/Rock male vocalists. Really great voice.
My son complains that his generation doesn't produce real and good to hear music, so every day, I let him listen to old songs for him to appreciate songs expressed from the heart and soul.. He said the song is like a time machine.. The Living Years song was one he refrain from crying while listening...❤❤❤
I would burst into tears when the first notes started playing. Then I went to my elderly parents and told them, face to face, what wonderful parents they were & how lucky I was to grow up in there house.
After that, I would grin every time it played, because I knew in my heart I told them before they died!
I have always loved this song. It took on a whole new meaning and emotion 3 years after it was released, when my father passed away.
Now, this song never ceases to bring tears to my eyes, especially the part that goes "I wasn't there that morning, when my father passed away".
He suffered from a cruel disease for about a year and we knew he was slowly dying. One night I decided that the next day, I would "tell him all the things I had to say". Of course, I never got to. He passed away just a few hours before I was going to be with him.
So, I recommend to everyone to hear this song, but above all, to "listen as well as you hear".
If we are human we must be touched by this song. Such amazing lyrics which bring the point home with so much clarity and pathos. But dang it, just like Genesis, here we get upbeat music with a sad or morbid message. Clever, if exasperating. Mike wrote a lot of Genesis music and lyrics and it really shows here. And yes, there is a very hopeful feeling at the end. If we are mindful we can overcome our differences if we listen and "don't give up and don't give in" to the ever present negativity lurking about. Striving for trustful communication is a lovely comment. Love this song.
There is SUCH a big difference between hearing and actual listening. We hear THOUSANDS of sounds every day, but most of them we pay little attention to, filing them away under a thick file called "Background Noise." And most of it IS noise, unwanted sound. But LISTENING requires active thought. Actually engaging the brain to pay attention to what one is hearing. Too many people spend their lives filing all sound away under Background Noise, but if they would actually pay attention to those sounds, ENGAGE their brains to what is going on around them, the world would be a MUCH better place.
HI Beth. I've loved this beautiful song for many years. Paul Carrack is an amazing vocalist. I've always loved that they used a choir of upper middle aged people to support the idea that they're representing the generation Paul is singing about. So sweet and touching. We should all realise so many things are left said undone when we lose our beloved parents, and that often haunts us for the rest of our own lives, and I include myself in that. ❤
I lost my father in August of 2022, and I had a good relationship with him at that time. But I still didn't get to tell him all things I had to say, and I miss hearing what he had to say. If I had all the money in the world, I'd trade it all for 5 more minutes with him.
I love you Pops, and I miss you.
This song hit me hard when I first heard it as a teenager. Then when my father passed away, in my forties, it became a whole new level of gut punch. Such a beautiful song. Empathy can be a very difficult thing to learn and yet it is so important, possibly the most important thing we need to learn as human beings.
I performed this song at my fathers funeral - he held his newborn grandson in his arms hours before he passed away. one of the few time i seen my father cry
Thank you for this one Beth.
My memories and emotions came pouring out!
Fortunately my dad and I finally saw eye to eye years after this song.
My dad died in 1973, two days after my 15th birthday. The first time I heard this song I was overwhelmed. I tear up every time I hear even after all these years.
Mine, two days after I turned 16 in 1972. We have a lot in common. I have never gotten over it.
@@garyt19651More in common as I have an older brother named Gary. My dad was only 36 when he passed. So very young. Thanks for sharing this info. I share your inability to overcome the loss.
@@garyt19651 More in common than you think. I have an older brother named Gary. I haven't gotten over it either.
So heartfelt and real. Father and son relationships need this song.
Yes they do. I lost my Dad at 16 over 50 years ago. I never got over it.
I aha always loved this song. He has a wonderful voice!
Makes me cry every time I hear this song. My Dad is the finest man I've ever known and we have a wonderful relationship but I'm dreading the day he isn't around any more.
This song came out after my father passed away and the emotions i feel to this day when i hear this song are still strong.
We were lucky enough to see Mike & The Mechanics live -I think it was at Oakland Coliseum when they toured their album. Beautiful lyric with a profound message!
In this phase of the band, Mike was lucky to have not one but two sublime singers in his line up.
Can't count the number of times I've listened to this song since it was new and I've teared up every time
Still a deeply moving song after alll these years. A rare one.
This song make me even now ,I'm 66 years old my father passed away in1997 in his sleep so I never got to say to him that I loved him so now I always cry when I think of him❤❤❤❤❤
He knew
As someone who has lost both parents with lots of unresolved feelings and unsaid thoughts this song hits hard. People, talk to your loved ones. When they pass it feels like a door being slammed in you face and locked forever.
Wow, I always loved the lyrics of this song as a young lad, now I cry every time I hear it. Having now lost both my parents within 3 years, this song is both beautiful and too emotional to listen to for me in public.
I'm a child of parents who were children in WW2 in London, England. They were both traumatized by the war in different ways. My youth, twenties and thirties were largely concerned with healing what their trauma had wrought in me. Then this song came out and because of this song I have healed the trauma in my own life - but it took me until I was 65. Now I'm trying to support my almost 40 year old child heal her trauma. It's pretty awful what war can do to children but fortunately , it's amazing what music can do to heal it - whether we are singing it, listening to it or playing it!
So powerful and so beautiful. This song is loved by many. Beautiful day. The lyrics. Yes. Yes. Yes.
This song came out shortly after my father died at 62 when I was 31. Instant early mid-life crisis. This song will never not make me cry. Normally I would consider this to be poor writing because it is so obvious and "on the nose," but it is so true and honest that what could be a weakness becomes a strength, plus Mr. Carrack could sing a grocery list and make it emotional.
Thanks for your reaction Beth,this song makes me cry every time without fail,Mike & the mechanics are one of my absolute favourite bands, brilliant 💖💖
I was lucky enough to get to say goodbye to my dad and I can’t imagine how it would feel to not get that chance. My last memory of him is my sister said something that he found funny, he looked at me, rolled his eyes and stuck his tongue out. Later that day he lost consciousness and passed away the next evening with my mother at his side. They were married for 49 years and I always thought it was fitting that they were together, alone when he died. That was almost 9 years ago today and I still miss him but I focus on that silly face he gave me and how amazing a man he was.
All I find myself able to say right now is thank you. Thank you for reacting to one of my favorite songs of all time. Not just a beautiful, peaceful melody, but a message that's timeless and that everyone needs to not only hear but listen to and pay heed. If there is anything you want to tell a loved one, do it while you still have a chance. One of the worst pains in life is that of regret.
Mike + the Mechanics also had a second lead singer Paul Young (ex-Sad Cafe). He sang their big hit "All I Need Is A Miracle", which I HIGHLY recommend reacting to. Paul also sung the Mechanics classics "Word of Mouth", "A Beggar on a Beach of Gold", and "Taken In".
Thanks for bringing this up. I love Paul Young's (ex-Sad Cafe) voice and second your recommendations.
Took dad off life support on April 1st , '98. We had many rough year's... but I never forgot his wishes... to never be hooked up to life support. I was all alone in the decision just him and me! The doctors gave me their blessing... we never told each other...I love you! While in a coma... I told him what was going to happen... and that I loved him! He actually took a half breath and the respirator continued... they brought him into a different room and disconnected him, with mom, and a few friends in the background... I was holding his hand the whole time, balling... it was the hardest thing this Marine ever did in his life! Even though it was the best thing for him, it still was very difficult to let him go...he was 66. 😢
An epic song that tugs at your heart! I really enjoy your insight. Simply adore your lovely spirit!!🎶❤️
One of the most powerful, emotional songs I have heard and Paul Carrack's voice is just perfect for it.
It's ironic how I had heard this song hundreds of times, and the upbeat, hopeful feel of the music distracted me from listening to the lyrics. Then when I finally did... man, the message hit me hard. I guess I finally listened as well as I could hear.
I teared up too. I am so thankful that I got to be with my father when he passed on.
Can't help but be emotional especially for people who can relate to the lyrics
I just want to hug you. That was a great reaction! I've always adored this tune and you're so cute and huggable!
My dad went in ‘84 aged 47, I was 21. We were close, but at 21 you don’t know all the things you get to know over the time. In nearly 40 years plenty of things we missed talking about. Also the song part “I wasn’t there that morning…” is true for me. Regrets…
As a son who never saw eye to eye with his father, this song had new meaning to me after my father passed away. I never got the chance to actually sit and talk with him about our differences. When I finally felt we needed to talk, he developed dementia and it was too late. Almost 4 years later and I still have much regret never really KNOWING my father. We never talked much when I was young, and I had always felt he had resented me for some reason. Quick to yell at me and never really praising me for anything. I regret not being the bigger man and just talking to him no matter how the conversation would end. This song will stay with me until my last day.
This is the same year we lost my Navy Dad, then, later that year, my baby sister gave birth to her (Army) Son, and I remember hearing the Rockline interview with the band, then played the song for my Mom (who would pass the very next year) and we wept together!
My Dad had "a deep talk" exactly ONE MONTH before he passed away! Having your parents tell you how proud they were of who you became in THE LIVING YEARS is priceless!
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Beth, no need to hide behind the nerding, let it out, this is music at it's best. A powerful communication. When it came out I listened and made sure Dad knew. He is still alive but dementia is a terrible thing.
Tis is such a beautiful and heartfelt song.
It's okay. There's always crying when this song plays. It's me. I cry. A 62 year old man cries every time LOL.
64 and I lost my dad when I was 10, but this song, I can't listen to it without cracking up due to unresolved issues with him.
This 71 year old cries also.
For the same reason.
@@jimj0willjimj0will85 I truly understand, I was 16, 52 years ago.
One of my top 5 songs of all time. Gets me every time. Great choice Beth.
When a song makes you emotional as this. You know it's a great song. My dad died in Cape Town in 1990. I miss him so much. I cried one night and asked my wife did my dad know I loved him.
I really like it when a singer trusts the music and doesn't try to overpower the song.
I love this song, heartbreaking and true.
God what a great song. I am old enough to remember when this was a hit. And at the time, and at the age I was at the time... you just think it's a nice song, nice melodies, good singing, etc.
35 years later it is an whole different emotional experience.
AKA it absolutely wrecks me every time.
This is an all-time great song.
The kids' choir followed by the adult choir then combined is just perfect
Mike and the Mechanics had two lead singers, who were each teamed with the right songs for their voice. Paul Carrack (who famously wrote and sang the excellent hit How Long by the 70s band Ace) sings this ballad flawlessly ❤
thank you for this Beth .. really enjoyed it
Paul Carrick has one of those very effortless singing voices. Smooth, soulful and unique
This one gets me every time.
Paul Carrack was also the vocalist on Ace’s classic ‘How Long’ and has a considerable solo catalogue including my favourite’Eyes of Blue’
This song always makes me cry.. I miss my father.
Hearing is the sense. Listening is the absorption of the sound
1 is physical, the other is mental
A beautiful sentiment delivered with such passion about one of the most important life experiences that most of us share but fail to recognize - sadly - at the critical moments of occurrence. I am sorry, Dad...for failing to recognize your wisdom when offered with a love that I can only appreciate now and not when it mattered most,
This is a beautiful heartfelt song I've always loved. It gets me everytime. The words ring so true. Thanks for your reaction Beth and your thoughtful comments.
A tremendous, underrated song and artist... Thanks Beth..