Gigolo interview-Tom
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 พ.ย. 2023
- Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Tom, a gigolo in New York City.
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Why is my wife’s piano teacher doing an interview on here? 🤔
ha ha ha! Good one!
Piano teacher? He is our pool guy!
🤣
Funny I only hear her play piccolo.😂
And the pool is filthy, plus your wife still can't play a single tune.
The fact that he hooks women by being honest, caring and respectful tells you everything you need to know about the state of dating today.
I mean, we could flip this around and say the exact same thing about female sex workers, and how they treat men.
Yeah that's totally what hooks them in 😂😂😂
i know you weren't trying to set people up for a joke, but thats exactly why prostitution is the oldest profession, let your imagination fill in why
Dating? He said 70% of his clients are married or business women with no time for dating.
And the fact the woman won't take half of everything he earned after they leave.
Being a successful high end escort of either gender seems to require a combination of many things - from I've observed you need a unique mix of good looks, ability to compartmentalize sex emotionally, a bit of outlaw mentality, good social skills/being able to read others quickly, and money management ability. It's really a small percentage of humans who are all these things at the same time.
😂 don't make him out to be a super hero lady, he's able to sling the dick , u know it's true . Tell me u didn't fantasize about him while u watched😂
don't forget about narcissistic and sociopathic tendencies. it's certainly the case with this guy at least.
@FromDkWithLove please elaborate. What are you talking about?
@@FromDkWithLoveabsolutely.
It takes sociopathy and/or narcissism
He definitely knows how to say the right words on the outside in order to charm a person (look at the people who fell in love in the comments). Interestingly, his nice words don't match his history of doing immoral things or beating people. Also, when mark asked what "emotions" the job gave him, he did not answer an emotion -- he said he got a chance to "learn about humans". I do detect some sociopathy (and maybe narcissism), which is not inherently a bad thing in itself but I am always more careful around these charmers.
Exactly my thoughts. His timeline for hooliganism and entrepreneurial endeavors and incarceration didn't quite square with obtaining a college degree, either.
I think hes detaching himself from feelings for so long that it would be too much to tell youtube. Story=easy. Feelings=too hard
You must be a psychologist
yup! anyone very charming is a red flag. they have to be charming, if they weren't no one would want to be around them.
Can't believe I' had to scroll this far to read about this person being a narcissist But honestly... I' feel like, every narcissist should be a gigolo (or do a job, where they can give to people and be idolized in return) because, this guy seems sincerely happy, and narcissists are virtually always miserable, because they have extremely low self-esteem and the reason why they are manipulative, controlling and always try to maintain a great look from the outside, is because they can't stand the idea of someone thinking badly of them & this toxic loop has become self poisoning throughout thei'r life.
As a male that was abandoned by my mom, and often neglected by my father, i understand his need to satisfy these women emotionally. He is acting out how he thinks he could have made his mother stay.
At 38 yrs old, it dawned on me that i have spent my entire life missing my mother, and i always felt like i needed to be the best version of myself around women so they might stay.
Wow, interesting perspective and makes total sense! As a 45 yr old woman who didn't meet my father until I was 15, it makes sense why I'm the same way with men.
🤥 Is that why Karl Childers had to take a lawnmower blade to you 😭
@@OleBadDog you are the first person ever to get that reference. Lol
@@DoyleHargraves Mmmmhmm I like mustard and biscuits Mmmmhmm
Wow thats so sad
"I know how to ask the questions they want to answer" is a whole vibe
I rewatched this part 4 times, just to feel how blown away I was about this statement
Dudes teaching me how to trick these women 😂
Yup this phrase caught my ears too. I wish he gave examples I certainly can't figure it out.
Women want you to see them for who they think they really are. Feed into that desire.@@johnsmith-cn5yv
The gift of gab.
This is one of your best interviews ever. Entertaining, informative, positive, honest. This guy is a borderline genius in my opinion. Every man should watch this one.
Only in 2023 is selling your body considered ‘borderline genius’ 😆😂💀
@@John_Connor556well, he is selling an entire experience not just sex
@@kerrijacobi mmm hmmm 😆😂💀
We all sell our bodies in America 🇺🇸🌍💵 😮💨
He's so honest that he conveniently left out the fact that he's also a gay escort and was a gay porn star who still participates in that too.
This is definitely a high class and very skillful gigolo. He is so respectful. Amazing story, one of the top ones.
“High class gigolo!” 😂😂😂 Is there anything lower class than selling your genitals?
Are there low class gigilos? It seems like poor women don’t get gigilos, just rich ones
@@Zach-ls1if There are definitely men who sell sex in different manners. They may not be regarded as gigolos.
@@wikilee8928 to women? I know guys will sell their bodies for next to nothing, especially addicts, but it’s usually to other men. My point is that I don’t think there’s many poor women that directly pay men for sex. Obviously there’s poor women that have loser guys that they support, but that’s not prostitution. Also I know there’s lots of middle class Canadian women that go to the Dominican Republic and pay island boys for sex, but those women aren’t poor either.
@@wikilee8928 While sex would be nice it's the having someone stay with me for a few days just being there talking, while I clean or whatever, that I'd want. Sadly I can't afford the service though.
I bet the number of weddings & class reunions this man has been to is epic.
😂
And broadway shows 😂
Introductions to people the client knows must be quite interesting as well, eh?
😂😂
😂😆💀
He's not here for a long time, he's here for a good time
Michael Chandler
Apparently for a long good time. Dude fcking 3-4 times a day lol.
@@BenGenio I can 3-4 times a day but my girl gets sore after 1 or 2 days and then she doesn't want any for a couple days. I need a new woman. I wouldn't mind being an escort like he is but it's not really something you can retire from and have any financial stability
@@Last_Chance. I could too, but in my twenties lol. How old are you?
@@BenGenio 40. I have always had an extremely high libido. It's a blessing and a curse lol
This man simply delivers Polish sausage.
I heard about Polish bike rides. Does he do those? 😬
😂
for a fee
What about diseases? How often does he get tested does he require medical proof from women?
Your questions were exactly what I wanted to know! Great interview, one of my top faves!
he didn't ask if he had a girlfriend
or about STDs 😒
Under all the smiles, the portrait reveals the sorrowful eyes of a small child.
First thing I saw. 😢
Good observation.
I actually saw that too! So many lost and hurt souls out there!😢😢
Agreed.. his eyes are sad
True!!!
Probably one of the funniest interviews I’ve watched on this channel. And these “oh he’s so lovely” comments are just icing on the cake 😂😂
He is so calculated it’s chilling must be very smart but so like uffff
It’s so funny because he does seem like a nice person 😂
Or perhaps I’m just another one bamboozled 😂 scary lol
@@eclipse9654 What does that ufff really mean ? Just curious.
Its funny for you that we live in a sick society of ungrateful looneys who are incapable of having normal human emotions? In a society that prohibits and brainwashes it’s children from the start? In a world where we are lead to believe intimacy is a commodity we can shop and swipe left on our phones for? How the hell did all this happen so fast. Who exactly are the wef and who elected them as our leaders? Nobody
This was my favourite interview. Really enjoyed watching that
something about this guy is unsettling. He is so calm and charming and disarming that it actually becomes threatening in a way, this guy probably has a mountain of broken hearts and people who who trusted him more than they should have in his wake. This guy has a power that few people do, its like a weapon.
just because someone has a weapon does not mean they use it
I didn't get much sense of power coming from him.
He reminds you of someone you met that had his look and characteristics you dercribed.
You're right. It's the kind of alluring sense of safety that he presents with his body language when, in reality, he's a maniacal cold-blooded person who was in gangs and probably did a LOT of terrible things to people. These ignorants answering your comments are literally blind.
You're right, congrats you're among 1% of population that can spot a psychopath. Practically all sex workers have some form of psychopathy, otherwise they wouldn't be in this line of work.
He was essentially abandoned by both his mother and father (thus leaving a huge void of parental attachment and guidance) and raised by women. Thus he has learned how to deal with women and what women need and want. He's very intelligent, observant, handsome, and therefore makes for a sweet, caring, attentive, transactional "Casanova-type" con artist. The emotional void he feels is evident to me. He gets paid well to play a role, similar to an actor. If he wasn't getting paid he wouldn't "care" about these women. What a sad, empty life for both sides. Yeah, it's great temporarily but when it's over I guarantee the sense of emptiness for many of the women who get attached to him is overwhelming. It's degrading to have to pay someone to be with you to fulfil your physical and emotional needs. Just my observations.
Wow...are u a psychologist? U put it well in the most perfect, informative, direct, clear and well constructed way...
@@eugenepole7377 Thank you..I'm simply a lifelong student of human nature and psychology..
@kattilathehunfreedomfighter ohh really... U really smart i must say... U shud go all the way and get ur doctorate...u myt save alot of ppl... Its a messed up world out there...we need ppl lyk u who understand human behavior and assist ppl to escape their traumatic past.
@@eugenepole7377 Well I appreciate that, Eugene. I'd always considered becoming a psychologist on paper but I went a different route. Now I'm just an "armchair psychologist" lol..thanks again for your kind words. 🙏 I hope you are keeping well..
As spot on as this might be, I think he definitely has the capacity to be better. And who is to say he might not meet the one that lets him grow from where he is now with all his "networking". Old age and facing death will force him to change eventually regardless though
"I wanted to be my own boss". Me: UBER driver .. Tom: Master of LOVE
😂😂😂
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🤣🤣🤣🤣
the customer is your boss 😉
I loved this interview! Thanks for sharing your story with us, Tom!
You gonna hire him to fug your bung?
Wanna be a gigolo?
@@artursarturs9783 😆😆 naw man u hiring or wat
He is looking for the love of his mom in every woman... this is why parenting is such a responsible job
Yup. And he's chosen a job where he is pursued. It's the opposite role that he played with his mother feeling abandoned. All of the women in the world won't fix that, only therapy. I like him though. He's humble and seems to have at least cut out the violent part of his life.
Well, at least he doesn't hate women like a lot of these narcissists out here who have their mommy's.
Everyone can use therapy if you live on planet Earth.
Freud is a charlatan
@@PAGL2020 therapy wont fix it either, maybe at best it can manage it
Nah. He's looking for easy money from rich and likely harmless females.
Hooligan to stockbroker to Gigolo. the American Dream incarnate. love this guy!!
And he's a nice guy on top of it...
"The synaptic networks in a child’s brain are still being formed during the first five years of their lives. Children at this stage are particularly receptive to human contact. How parents interact with their children and engage them in cognitive, social and emotional developmental activities during these years will define their future selves." Healthway medical Article 2020
"When a mother neglects a son emotionally, he may suffer “insecure attachment” issues involving avoidance of close relationships, general fearfulness of being abandoned (again) and reduced ability to experience genuine happiness in relationships."
ShemenaJohnson 2018 Article
@@heathera2874 I am a clinical therapist..none of that is hard to discern, pathologizing everyone can be dehumanizing. The formulas for human behavior are close to universal (always, there are exceptions) just watching this channel, the patterns in early childhood exposures emerge very quickly and we can all recognize them.
Regardless of the dull clinical root causes (which are no mystery to me) ... his explanation and exploration of his chosen profession were fascinating!
Lmfao I love people. There is multiple women with this same exact story on this channel and they get all the hate 😂
@@applejuice7648 Exactly! Same dysfunction different sex. And most have a common denominator of one or both parents absent or abusive.
Absolutely adored this interview! 💎
Thank you, Tom and Soft White Underbelly
are you interested in inquiring about a male companion in the near future .. ?
You must do a follow up, this was such a fascinating interview!
During 90s and early 00s a lot of polish parents emigrated leaving children behind (including myself).
There is a whole generation of abandoned kids in Poland.
It was normal back then.
@@commonsense2680money honey
Ya why
@@rainnnnnn372 money
Economics. Poland back then wasn't a place of great opportunity. The US on the other hand was in a huge boom and immigration was relatively easy.
@@Pafemanti same with the uk….the did take a lot of jobs from us in certain industries. For example my husband couldn’t complete with the prices they were quoting for construction jobs. Only for them (not all the time of course) doing a shoddy job
He probably just got himself more business than he can handle! 😂
😂😂
So my impression was that a gigolo would starve if he wasn't willing to do guys. That women don't have the sex drive that men have and that the market is so much smaller than the market for men.
How do I locate him lol
👍😁
y’all buggin
This interview made me laugh. There is something very funny and cheeky about this guy, even though he has a questionable character to some degree with his prior convictions, etc, but he seems to be honest about his past and why he is doing what he is doing now. Entertaining and uplifting.
But you gotz to pony up the money baby honey you hear the man 1250 , now go save for christmas
He’s awesome
He looks like young Arnold !!!
So you're a regular
@@summerforever6736 - Yup! When he laughs, it's exactly like Arnold.
it was hard to put this video down.. no matter how long.. watched to the very end. nice job!
He beat someone so badly that he could have been imprisoned ?! Kind of a red flag......
Glad you spotted that. He's just a boy looking for "safety" away from his problems...a raging non-empathetic narcissist.
Red flag for what? He isn't going to let someone take advantage of him? Sounds like a boss despite his boyish appearance.
@@chrism5126 that he is emotionally detached and could turn cold in a way his warm, playful tone does not indicate? That he is not so harmless.
Kind of?... Would you still use those words if he would have beaten your father or brother like that?
sarcasm@@chivalryisdead6440
Not 100% believing everything he says
Finally someone sensible.
As you wouldn’t w/ anyone..
Well yeah 😂 he lies for money. At least you're wise enough to see that
I was wondering the same.
Indeed a huge mountain of violence hidden behind Hollywood smile. Being hooligan in Poland tells a few about a lot…. Big red flag.
These are my favorite interviews! Male gigalos & male entertainers! So few and far between! Thanks mark !
It's called being ravished, and aftercare is extremely important. Too many people accidentally call this a "rape fantasy". It is not.
Thank you Mark for introducing us to Tom, wishing you all the best, thank you for sharing your story.
So how was the date with Tom?
He cheats with other ppl’s wives. Why are you wishing him the best? How much of a moral compass could you possibly lack?
He's just a Gigolo and everywhere he goes, people know the part he's playin!
BOP BOZE E BOZE BOP
DIDDY BOP 🕺
When the end comes I know I was just a gigolo...life goes on without me...🎶
he is a boy toy for older divorced ladies, as a way to get the ex jealous.. simple to do
@@dertythegrower I must have missed those lyrics to the song.. LoL
NO ONE could sing that David Lee Roth! The video played in my head when I just read those lyrics. 🙂
As someone who grew up in Poland and had a father in the United States, a mother going back and forth and grandparents to raise me, I can sympathize with Tom. It’s not easy and for me, it was a very chaotic and difficult upbringing. I do believe his peculiar relationship with women stems from early age abandonment by his mother. I just don’t but into his, in my opinion, fake enthusiasm. He threw away a ten-year relationship and is now doing this. There’s no going back from this; I don’t think he’ll ever have a normal relationship or feel a genuine connection with a woman. Very sad and I don’t think he’s happy at all.
You don't think you might be projecting? How many married couples do you know who are happy in their marriages? What do you think being happy is?
Is it acceptable to leave children to their own devices in Poland? It's very sad to me that not ONE adult in his life seemed to care !!
@@jamieluce5808 No, quite the contrary. His was not a typical upbringing. Typically parents and/ or grandparents are very hands on. In my case, it was my grandparents. Maybe he was trying to downplay his experience.
He literally speaks with no remorse about helping women cheat their husbands and you think she's projecting? You are a big simp lol@@luning999
@jamieluce5808 his example is very unusual for his generation, being brought up in the 90's in Poland. At that time there were few divorces, families stayed close together. Pretty much a normal, happy childhood for most (not all) kids. I personally spent my childhood in a small town and only after 20-30 years I appreciate drug/violence/social media free childhood. I wish Tom luck, despite lack of parents' care he seems to be a happy mate.
You didn't ask him why he didn't go to jail.
Arnold’s other long lost son
kum in mine haiiiiir!
See you at the party Victoria 😂
😂😅😂😅
@@charlotte_stevens😂wtf
The good looking one... out of all the maids and lookers he had access to, he chose the old lunch lady. Why Arnold, why 🤐
Mark, great interview full of information. I think I've seen this man before on TV. A show about gigs. You are always showing us something new.
hes a shapeshifter
You just said you've seen this guy before, how is that showing you something new?
Hardly new then if you’ve seen him before 😂
I see people here implying there is not something new to learn about someone you have seen before(?) I am still learning new things about people I have personally known for many years. I enjoy keeping an open mind to new ideas.
Pozdrawiam krajana na najlepszym kanale!
Perfect balance of kid-like enthusiasm and worldly maturity
Gigolo, but his face looks like he has part Down Syndrome lol 😂
Exactly
learn from him
The wild part of this story is that I used to work as a porn video editor, and this guy was a regular gay porn star on the website Sean Cody, called Jaymus. I spat my coffee when I opened this link.
You're 100% right wtf haha
Lmao
Omg 😮
I knew he was gay! I thought I was tripping for a moment. No wonder he can’t commit to a woman.
That's hilarious.
This is a huge platform for someone like him to get more clients! He’s clearly watching what he’s saying. When Mark asks him if some of his clients aren’t attractive…he’s not answering honestly. He doesn’t want to lose the clients he already has too.
Wonder if he charges the fattys more? 😂
I was also intrigued by his response on that. I’m trying to picture the women he goes with. Very interesting interview.
@@Zach-ls1if Probably not soo attractive. I had a friend who slept with so may women, at some point it became about the connection not the looks. He would flirt with the most outlandish women in front of me because he was somewhat free with me.
Thank you for an informative and interesting discussion. Tom is a smart gentleman.As a female I see nothing wrong with his lifestyle,he being sincere.As an Eastern European woman I would agree it’s freedom of choice and decent way for him to earn an honest living.I would rather pay for good experiences than have a terrible free love 💴👍🏻
@JanineAlexandria250 - Yes! Exactly. It's so alarming how few people can see what you do.
I have watched may SWU videos and this was clearly one of the best and one of the most positive I have seen. Great job as always and thank you.
Sleeping with married women isn’t positive genius.
Interesting interview, Tom! You seem like a nice person. Thank you for sharing. 🙂
Well he sleeps with a bunch of married women so you should already know that he isn’t a nice person. Let me know when you develop a moral compass.
Yep, he’s a “charmer” and so nice to all these women. We “need more of these guys in the world”. I also see an abandoned child who turned to drug dealing/smuggling/overall low life. Guess you can look at him in different ways.
jealousy is a sin
@@uuuultra ignorance is embarrassing.
I love that Mark said that some men don’t like women. I’ve been saying this.
I read this under your foolish post (foolish because the guy is a nightmare for men). Here's the post: "The wild part of this story is that I used to work as a porn video editor, and this guy was a regular gay porn star on the website Sean Cody, called Jaymus. I spat my coffee when I opened this link."
Now that's funny!
And some people don't like ponies, so?
@@danbaltic9678 ponies aren’t people and we aren’t talking about animals here. Dummy.
1) Ponies don't make up half of the human race and 2) The same men that hate women also need them for sexual gratification. That is where the conflict occurs. 3) I can tell by this response that you are one of the men who hate women
Tell me you're a man that dislikes women, without telling me you dislike women
Dude looks like if Sting and Arnold Schwarzenegger had a baby 😂
Wow he’s very smart I really enjoyed this Thanks Mark!
This was one of my favorite interviews!
Mine too!!
Tom offers some valuable insight on the needs of a committed relationship seeing it from the perspective of uncommitted relationships. Another captivating bio from SWU. Thank you Mark for your social commentary’s, it’s an intriguing education. ✌🏽
You take seriously relationship insight from someone who sleeps with other ppls wives? Smart girl. 🤡
Terrific interview. Tom is quite charming. I enjoyed this interview because he tells his story with sincerity and heart. Wish him the best wherever life takes him
It’s charming to sleep with a bunch of married women? Do you not have a moral compass?
Great interview, Mark. I spent many years in advertising, and your photography always caught my eye for its unique look and inspired me to shoot as well.
Some people on here are critical of him for his line of work and his transactions with married women... I think he is actually keeping those marriages together for providing what their husbands can't or won't give them. Most marriages are not about love, but necessity and other arrangements. In the end everyone is happier by this experience, and life is just too short to be miserable by choice. From the photography angle, he reminds me at times of a younger Michael Fassbender.
Apparently I'm the only person who thinks this dude is one huge red flag
I agree. The comments are surprising considering that he casually stated he almost went to jail for severely beating someone (not even in self-defense)
There are a lot of people that share your opinion. It is unfortunate that most of them are from yesterdays culture so they are literally dead.
Lots of men and women see through him
I don’t worry about this guy being one huge red flag ,he doesn’t impact my life ,EVERYBODY lies, the biggest red flag that I worry about is in the hands of the lawmakers.
Chance you take with sex workers. It's dangerous for him and probably the clients. The whole thing is a red flag. I wouldn't do it if you're naive.
Man said most of his clients are married. I’m dying over here 😂
its very unhealthy to be dying
Makes u wonder what the point of being married if thats the case
That’s typical…
Married men I reckon!
Marriage is what you make it. I slept with a woman whose husband set it all up when she got shy about meeting me. It was interesting! He's a cool guy. And they're still very happy together many years later.
It’s hard for me to believe him for some reason. He went from beating his partner to the point of potential jail time to spending time alone with women. What did he do to make such a shift in his behaviour from a gang banged to now? Seems disingenuous
Facts
Did you miss the part where he says that most of the women want to be beaten in his interactions with them to near sexual assault fantasies? Women get treated like angels by men all the time so they literally want to be used and abused now. That is why relationships are so messed up now. We are telling men to be nice and sensitive to women when in reality they want to be used and brutalized.
Interest comment for sure. It would be interesting to see comments from people he encountered when he was in the drug trade.
Agree, couldn’t believe a lot of what he said. Wish mark had gone deeper
You hit the nail on the head: 'Caring,' Loving 'and accepting all the negative and positive things' is such a key quality in a relationship and was simply why my last relationship failed!
Thank you for recording and posting this valuable educational video.
Interesting childhood and adolescent life story. I would have liked to hear more about that.
The next time I’m knee deep in mud, fed up and freezing cold on a building site for a rubbish salary I’m gonna think of this guy😮
Great career choice good on him
Same
You should go for it, you're a good looking guy and if you're on a building site, you obviously stay in good shape/have stamina. A lot of women like the builders uniform too. But s'long as you're kind, respectful, good listener etc... you'll probably have endless amounts of clients. Kind regards from the UK🇬🇧🙂
Hard work pays off over the long haul. There's a single lady who'll appreciate your work ethic and humor if you treat her right. Or single living with integrity. Peace.
Nah, you’re doing something useful. There’s dignity in labour.
@@SaturdayNightSlamMaster1980 giving cranky ladies orgasms is valuable community service, don't underestimate the gigolo
LOVE this interview! LOVE listening to him and his happiness and smiles, which are contagious!
All of these interviews are fascinating. I could never be the type of person who can just live their lives with no guard rails or restrictions. So there's some envy mixed with awe when I hear these stories.
I can understand where you come from, living vicariously can be fun. I do need to say that I've lived with no guard rails and on the surface it was a great fun time, but only on the surface. Deep down I was heartbroken because it's never been written truer than when Janis Joplin said "freedom's just another word for nothing left to lose." I had no responsibilities but also no people or home. Some days I would've, and still would, traded everything for the need for guard rails.
He has been, Like He Said, a Lot of different "Characters" in His Life. And that is i think the core of anything. He Plays his Characters and roles very good! The Kind He has to be in that whatever Moment. He is i think veeery calculated and opportunistic, and Knows excactly what People need to hear. XD Don't mean that necessary negative at all, as long Nobody gets "hurt". It's just an Observation. He is a good looking Guy and has much Work to do! Good for him, all the best to him!
Considering 70% of his clients according to him are married women, I am positive he is hurting a lot of people. It never ceases to amaze me that if you are good looking all you have to do is act happy and people will love you. The hallow effect is real and its the dangerous.
Yeah... i mean the Woman are hurting their man, that's not His fault, but yeah, very true.
I think so too, I don’t believe all characters he spoke about.
@@murderycatdoll1380Have you ever heard of the term “complicit”?
That is his Fault to @@murderycatdoll1380
I used to do martial arts with a male sex worker and it was the first time I had met a man in that profession. The reason it surprised me so much was because he was a completely normal, well put together man. I had this stereotype that all sex workers were drug addicted and basically living on the streets or not in good situations but this guy had an apartment and lived a much cleaner, healthier life than the average person.
Very interesting interview. Enjoyed this.
What an interesting, insightful human. Thank you for sharing.
One of the best interviews I’ve seen on this channel. Seriously incredible view on life in so many ways. Cheers to you man. 🥂
You are applauding someone who sleeps with married women? The lack of a moral compass is breathtaking.
Gigalos mostly have men as clients. He's hiding it. He reminds me of a cross between Arnold Shwarzenegger and Beavis.
Tomek has content is not a simple gigolo. Love It
“I never liked a regular job”! 😂 Well you hit the jackpot then buddy! 😂
Great interview!!! ❤
Love this interview. Tom is a great person. Intelligent, good looking, humble and sweet. Neat to learn about his line of work and experiences.
"The synaptic networks in a child’s brain are still being formed during the first five years of their lives. Children at this stage are particularly receptive to human contact. How parents interact with their children and engage them in cognitive, social and emotional developmental activities during these years will define their future selves." Healthway medical Article 2020
"When a mother neglects a son emotionally, he may suffer “insecure attachment” issues involving avoidance of close relationships, general fearfulness of being abandoned (again) and reduced ability to experience genuine happiness in relationships."
ShemenaJohnson 2018 Article
If the guy you loved fucked an escort, would she be a great person too? Would that woman "just be providing a service" in your mind?
This guy is getting into relationships with women behind hubby's back.
Aka you want him inside you
Great?
Something tells me if he was a different color he'd be a mOnsTEr aBUsER TaKinG adVanTage oF veNerAble wOmEN
He said when he was a child that he hung out with people that were eighteen or nineteen. I don't believe people that age want to hang out with a little kid. I don't really believe his story at all. I could be wrong but his story doesn't ring true. He says he was a hooligan and yet finished high school and went to college.
He seemed pretty vague in some of his answers. I think he enjoyed the opportunity to be interviewed but that's about it.
Drew Barrymore was in bars hanging with adults at the age of 7, so ya never know
I´m half way through the interview and was thinking the same thing. Some of the lies are just funny "I was successful at trading stocks but then I got into smuggling cigarettes".
You may not have that same experience, but being a child of sexual abuse and trauma, the hook is hanging out with children! I was 10-14 years old and hanging out in pool halls and driving the famous circle every Friday night with 17-23 year olds! I wanted to fit in! This is who I felt more comfortable around, than kids my own age, because of abuse by old men! I ended up being abused by some of the teens and young adults too, but still felt more at their level, developmentally.
He's too smooth, check his freezer for body parts 🤣
Life looks good, he's not lying but you can tell that he's leaving out a lot details.
If you never met a psychopathic narcissist. Here he is ladies. Don’t fall for his manipulative charm. He is a snake. He will destroy you with a smile on his face.
What? 😂 It's very clear that he is providing a service that is to be paid for with no strings attached. If you catch feelings, maybe you shouldn't be calling someone like him. That's like going out to dinner and then getting mad when they serve you the bill. You think this was your neighbors free backyard BBQ or something? 😂
Psychopathy yes, not narcissism. He clearly has very high levels of psychopathy, as do most guys who are good with women
Destroy you for what? Then he wouldn’t have any customers & back to ground zero 😂
@@myers986 Naive...
Thank you for this comment! I just watched this video. I then read through the comments and trying to find out if anyone else (other than me) thinks this guy is a sociopath/psycopath/narcissist. BINGO! You did not dissapoint!
An excellent interview. Tom is so candid and his personality reveals an evolving personality which has grown positive and humane.
Besides his good looks he has a whiff of magic. He is obviously appreciated by his clients. What comes through is a total lack of attitude and narcissism. This is atypical and enormously refreshing. Thank you for this episode. Bravo 👏.
What is positive and humane about sleeping with someone else’s wife? Do you have a moral compass?
Narcissism IS there as with a lack of care
he seems v kind and lovely. i wish him all the best. i can see he has a beautiful soul.
Should ask for his hand in marriage 😂
sleeping with a bunch of married women is neither kind or lovely genius.
Whatever the female version of simp is, there is an absolute tsunami of them in this comment section, gushing over a morally corrupt ex drug dealer, ex smuggler who is obviously empty inside because he didn't feel loved as a child and now knows how to sucker women for cash. He doesn't really value himself or he wouldn't be able to sell his body, and is able to pretend to value you. His lack of a mummy means he is acting out his trauma on you. He can pretend to be sweet, he's an actor basically.
Women who hire him understand what they're paying for. Just like when a man goes to a strip club he understands he's going to dish out a bunch of money and most likely not go home with a dancer, but he still does it.
You forgot that he's also a gay porn star "Jaymus" and he skipped mentioning that.
Lol exactly !!
....... he’s got them all ‘ buffaloed ‘ !!
@@juliep.5042 Of course he does: that is why he is good at his job. Sad for women
A lovely person - no doubt about it. Great insight / discussion into the nature of relationships - really useful.
Well, women are not really good at detecting bad men - so I understand why you think he is a lovely person 😂
What is lovely about sleeping with a bunch of married women?
Great information ℹ️
Best of luck 🤞🍀
This man taught me practice means perfect ,how to schedule my work week,how to care more ,how to be more understanding
Taking advice from someone who sleeps with a bunch of married women? You seem smart.
I don’t think what he does can be compared to what happens on Figueroa st. He’s more of an escort than a traditional prostitute.
He sleeps with primarily married women and has violent near rape levels of sex with them. It sounds exactly like what happens on figueroa st.
Wow. I love his honesty and beautiful self. Appreciate this Interview. Have a follow up w him!! 🎉
Sleeping with a bunch of married women isn’t beautiful genius.
Best wishes🎉😘
Best wishes to someone who sleeps with a bunch of married women? You’re gross.
heheh he is so polish in the way he is caring and knows how to please women, so it is good to see what can sometimes stand behind such a lovely guy lol (no judgement and I am polish too). Dread somehow grows in me every time he says "individual" or "human being" and not a "person".
Mark has changed my perception of négative (or what i use to see as such ) things and the way i behave by the tone of his voice as well as his humbleness.He is to me the définition of charisma
"The synaptic networks in a child’s brain are still being formed during the first five years of their lives. Children at this stage are particularly receptive to human contact. How parents interact with their children and engage them in cognitive, social and emotional developmental activities during these years will define their future selves." Healthway medical Article 2020
"When a mother neglects a son emotionally, he may suffer “insecure attachment” issues involving avoidance of close relationships, general fearfulness of being abandoned (again) and reduced ability to experience genuine happiness in relationships."
ShemenaJohnson 2018 Article
@@heathera2874maybe it’s insecure attachment, yes- but that the reality of the situation in our dating culture ….
@@heathera2874 it depend..some peoples gruw up with parents beating them and still became brillant
@@Johnelhadjmi Yes. Of course. IF someone has educated themselves about psychology and understands their situation was not good and cares enough to change the potential direction and/or finds God...they can definitely definitely be Amazing people! For sure! Great point:)
@@heathera2874 thanks 👍
I just think this is a lot of BS. It’s all about the money. Pretending to care and “being in the moment” is just part of the job. It’s all an act. I doubt he thinks about that person once he gets paid and leaves and moves on to the next woman.
Ok, so just like a married man. He gets to the office & forgets he's married. Women dont pay for sex bc they dont HAVE to. We can sleep with just about any guy out there for FREE. This guy is spinning tales.
Of course, and isn't that part of the job, acting like you care? People who pay will understand this.
I think it’s pretty obvious that’s how it works…
He's definitely a good actor.
It is BS. But these women should know that when they get involved with him
And it’s so simple that really wants is to be listened to and paid attention to. Truly simple
Easy to be on your best behavior when the lifespan of your relationship is measured in hours or a few days at most.
Im not really sure a prostitute/gigolo/sex addict knows what a woman is looking for in a healthy monogamous committed relationship. Maybe you need to interview his clients or maybe they aren't the right person either....just thinking outloud....thought provoking in many ways
He's not there for a monogamous relationship
Hey Mark! Pardon me cause I haven't watched this video yet, but am just reaching out in your most recent work, hoping you'll read.
Just watched your interview from Koncrete, from 2 years ago, and now I'm addicted. Your newest subscriber.
THANKS for being curious about life, all of life, and not only the Starbucks crowd. Watching your videos should bring the most self obsessed among us back down to earth. While I admire your viewpoint that childhood is where it all starts, both the good and bad, isn't it really a matter of what greets us all as we enter adulthood? There's that intersection of when we as individuals are faced with adulthood. This is where I think real change will come from. We need more opportunity for our graduating High School citizens! Those coming into the workforce need better preparation and information, along with plenty of a healthy dose of Sir Richard Branson's good advise. I've always believed that every child is born inherently good. We, as a society, will only benefit from helping those that need it, and by not letting them deal with hardship alone or navigate unprepared.
Thanks again Mark. Stay curious and engaged. It's beautiful to see!
Watched the video. My summary is...why oh why would any woman pay for sex? It has to have something to do with misplaced power. It just does. When a woman pays for sex, it is desperation 10 fold. Desperate power.
This was a great interview. I really don't think men and women are all that different in their wants and needs, but for some reason society has it as so different. We all like sex, have kinks, need to talk about our troubles, etc.
The problem is that a lot of younger american women have been raised very self absorbed and narcissistic.
Not all of us like to cheat on our significant others. Try again.
IMO .. one of your best interviews. Such honesty from Tom. A refreshing change from many of the whacked out junkies on this channel … although I like those ones too! 🎉
Ew go away
Great interview; I love the honesty. Just want to add that it's a misconception to say all men are ready to go when a woman wants them. Some men, especially if they had disfunctional upbringing and if they actually care about the woman, emotions for them, can get in the way. Men with substance abuse problems health challenges or are aging, can also leave a partner who loves them dissatisfied in that way. There are lots of legitimate reasons to invest in services outside their relationship. Just saying. Tom seems to have healthy approach that would work for many. Good for him!
This. Thank you. I went through all the comments looking for this.
Sleeping with a bunch of married women isn’t healthy genius.
He should have shared his gay porn and criminal career as well. It would've been an even better story, tho this alone was awesome interview as is. All those careers he had a different name, most of the times at the same time. He's just a born player.
Very good interview
Very interesting. Thank you for sharing this video
This is the most frightening person that's been interviewed on this channel.
Why?
“Huligan” is trouble makers. I love how honest he is about his life and his “job”.
or he knows what to say to make one think he's honest.
Its a way of saying he has friends that are not just Polish but from that corner of the globe, I hear they are quite good at stocks, specifically small caps.. He really did mean he was a hooligan.
Interesting interview from start to finish.
why am I finding it so difficult to believe this mans stories. anyone else feel this way?
I am 59 years old and every thing he said made a lot of sense.