ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS ft. Reverie (Trauma, Healing, & Our Stories)

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  • @reirei7851
    @reirei7851 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    It’s so easy for other people to say “just leave’em” but something inside gets broken and you can’t just walk away. Especially for people that grow up seeing it and thinking it’s the norm. The first time a physical altercation happens, for most people, it catches you by surprised and you become frozen.
    What we need more of, is support. When people hear about this happening, they turn the other cheek instead of showing concern and support. I want everyone to know, YOU ARE WORTH IT!
    I remember when I told my mom and brother about my “problem” and they didn’t believe me and said if he’s getting rowdy, it’s because of my attitude and the way I dress. Thankfully I had a friend that gave me the support I needed and I know I am worth it. I’m a Queen, a Princess, a mermaid! I may be ugly but I’m worth it. lol

  • @SolsticeBeautyByJessica
    @SolsticeBeautyByJessica ปีที่แล้ว +34

    My daughter is in the worst, most toxic relationship and there isn’t anything I can do. He’s 34, she’s 22. He hits her, cheats on her and makes her watch his kid. At first I was supportive, but after we saw how he treated her, I stopped being ok with their relationship. It’s very hard. I pray that she leaves him and finds someone who values and loves her. She’s a sweet girl and it’s just so hard to see your baby girl go through this. If he’s hurting you physically and emotionally, then he’s not the right one for you. Period. Toxic relationships go through cycles. The abuse, the crying, the loneliness, the honeymoon phase. I always tell my daughter the reason she feels she’s going crazy is not because of who she is as a person but it’s the definition of insanity. Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting a different result. He will never change. Why waste your life and years, when at the end of it, you’ll end up dead or will realize that he will always do the same thing. It’s not worth it. I’m a mom of 5, and I am an understanding and loving momma. I just pray that any one of you out there that are reading this knows that you are worth it. You are worth being a happy person, you are worth not being cheated on. You are worthy of a relationship that builds you up and doesn’t break you down. Prayers💜

    • @desrivera1123
      @desrivera1123 ปีที่แล้ว

      I’m so sorry about that sending prayers ur way

    • @amzile2772
      @amzile2772 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Ma'am call the cops. Call CPS.
      Call everybody

    • @grumpygen3796
      @grumpygen3796 ปีที่แล้ว

      maam kill her boyfriend . do what’s best for YOUR daughter .

    • @kasper0422
      @kasper0422 ปีที่แล้ว

      You better teach her how to play grit ball. Lol but nah I'm sorry to hear that I hope she rises above that situation.

    • @quarantinediary3480
      @quarantinediary3480 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      A year later has she left??? Please say yes.

  • @kristinhazzard5683
    @kristinhazzard5683 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My bf at the time who is now my ex (thank god) was verbally & mentally abusive. He made me feel like I was crazy, called me all the names in the book, dismissed my feelings. Literally told me I was a burden because I was trying to tell him why I was feeling sad. I was in that relationship for 6 years & dealt with it for 6 years. I am so glad that I got out of that relationship

    • @user-ei5bf5wm4y
      @user-ei5bf5wm4y 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah never listen or have contact with toxic / crazy people. Always remove / ignore those people. That’s all they are and will be.

  • @ChaCha661
    @ChaCha661 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    @32:59 is VERY TRUE 🥺💔❤️ We do learn some toxic traits from the narcissist and when your in your first healthy relationship you do sometimes feel you are unworthy of love 🥺😫 it’s a learning process to heal we deserve this love.💯

  • @MonikaMarie444
    @MonikaMarie444 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Coming from a broken home, we learn the patterns from our parents mistakes. Unlearning the toxicity we’ve lived by is the healing process. To unlearn and rebuild. Love being able to see two woman speak their truth and use their voices 🙌🏽💪🏽🙏🏽🥰

  • @conniengee6611
    @conniengee6611 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you for sharing this. I dealt with abuse in a relationship and till this day I'm still learning to heal.

  • @marisolarreola4006
    @marisolarreola4006 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Love that y’all talked about this topic.I’ve experience abusive moments in my current relationship and they changed but at the same time they was a current moment we’re he hold me down super hard. I also don’t have no one to confide in , no friends Or support.I do feel the same of being hard to let go of in any time of relationship or friendship.I hate it.

    • @EternalAbundance
      @EternalAbundance ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I feel ya sending u good energy ❤

    • @marisolarreola4006
      @marisolarreola4006 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@EternalAbundance thank you beautiful 💕 same as well hope you’re okay

  • @ellencuadras847
    @ellencuadras847 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was in a abusive Relationship with someone I thought I was going to marry But ones he put his hands on me I got out and I had to fight my way out but hes no longer around permanently and I'm still here living my life the best that I can

  • @tiggergirl3194
    @tiggergirl3194 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you so much for talking about this important topic. My abusive relationship was a best friend I lived with. She had mental health issues but it took me like 5 years to understand that her having mental health issues didn't mean it was ok for her to emotionally, physically and mentally abuse me. I remember feeling if this was a boyfriend everyone would tell me to leave but because she was my best friend they all just said, "You're the friend that won't give up on her." I still struggle to see it as the domestic violence situation it was. I'm 10 years out and she still scares me.

  • @UltraXplor
    @UltraXplor ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My great aunt raised me for 14 years and she was always a single much older lady. She taught me to never take disrespect from a man. But I grew up taking shit from her verbally and physically. I always had a strong head on me and never let anyone talk about me with me saying shit. Yet I ended up in 2 toxic, abusive, etc relationships back to back. Never told anyone anything until I was at my breaking point and I asked for help to get out bc I knew I was going to get sucked back in. I wanted to break free and finally be the first women in my family to get away from toxic dudes. And I got out

  • @ashmarie27
    @ashmarie27 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I love you mama biscuit 😍 ❤️ i was in a toxic abusive relationship for 2 years and I'm still healing from it.. for 2 years I didn't want to be in a relationship after that toxic one because I was afraid of the same hurt and pain.. the trauma sucks after.. I'm glad I was able to get away afterall... thank you for speaking up on the trauma bcuz no one talks about the after affect..

  • @anapfahler3162
    @anapfahler3162 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    long time fan, 1st time posting. Thank you for sharing your experience and SOLUTIONS!!! cause most people will share the experience but then what??? nada. I love how gave examples and the "permission" for those in these relationships to either seek help or just build themselves up to be strong enough to leave. Many Blessings Niña Bonita on all your projects. Thank God this Generation has someone like you!!! Stay Blessed amiga!!!

  • @jhicelvasquezquisberth2206
    @jhicelvasquezquisberth2206 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We tend to try and fix what we did not fix as a child (parent/child trauma) with our partners. And we will continue to do so until we understand we are in a insecure attachment.

  • @jasminrivera2987
    @jasminrivera2987 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I love you both so much! This is such a relatable subject I just love it all♥️😍

  • @LoveeeeelyM
    @LoveeeeelyM 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loved this episode! Reverie was a delight 🫶🏻🙏🏻

  • @isela9472
    @isela9472 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love u mama biscuit your podcasts are the best I learn alot by watching them love u 😗 thank u so much for sharing with us very excited to watch.

  • @Rosesjournal.
    @Rosesjournal. ปีที่แล้ว +1

    YOUR SO AMAZING HERMOSA, the big sis i never had in my life, i love this podcast, people need to find it moree

  • @ceesosweet_
    @ceesosweet_ ปีที่แล้ว

    I really enjoyed this podcast so much thank you for sharing ❤️

  • @kitti2345
    @kitti2345 ปีที่แล้ว

    One of the hardest parts in an abusive relationship is when you wonder if your in a abusive/toxic relationship or not. You go down the rabbit hole for a little bit. And then when it's going very good and your giggling all the time and chasing each other around the room having a very fun time and your ribs hurt from laughing so much. You feel absolutely guilty for thinking he is a bad person.

  • @nobodybutchass
    @nobodybutchass ปีที่แล้ว

    Definitely enjoyed watching this video hearing the experiences y’all have had, soaking in the knowledge and of course laughing enjoying the videos! I’ve told my Sis in law about your videos so ik I put her on 😍 Thank you sm for posting these! All the funny topics & top tier quality & beauty in these videos help me a lot! You dk how much!💗

  • @cicemojica4091
    @cicemojica4091 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love these podcasts they are really good topics and some good eye-opener’s and good advice. Hope you continue your podcast. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏼🤗

  • @nayancir6133
    @nayancir6133 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you girl❤️ I could relate a lot to this and it’s like a comfort to me to see that it’s not only me feeling this way even tho I wish you didn’t have to go through it but it’s like I feel even more closer to you thanks for sharing this❤️you are an inspiration to us❤️

  • @TeenVs
    @TeenVs ปีที่แล้ว

    I’ve been waiting so long for this collab 🥰

  • @angelathomas624
    @angelathomas624 ปีที่แล้ว

    My relationship with this 19 yr old just hit all the points 😞 words hurt so much, he’s like hurting me more than I’ve ever thought he could. Like I don’t deserve this

  • @anita8.8.8
    @anita8.8.8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Can you please make a podcast dedicated to having finally a healthy relationship after coming out a toxic one this would help me a lot ❤ thankyou for considering

  • @melrose3429
    @melrose3429 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Salice I love you 💕 you are so strong 💪 thank you for sharing

  • @arlethespino5125
    @arlethespino5125 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Love it!!💗

  • @thecleancanvaspodcast
    @thecleancanvaspodcast ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Been waiting to hear this. Two legends.

  • @carla9185
    @carla9185 ปีที่แล้ว

    I NEED SNOWTHEPRODUCT ON THIS SHOWWWWW ASAAAPPPPP 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @Xclipd
    @Xclipd ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Omg!! I freaking love these pod casts… it sucks bc my baby dad is the one that was doing this to me he straight up narcissistic.. we have kids together so what should I do?? I finally got out but I’m soo fuck up in my head.. I’m going to try talk to somebody it took me 11 years to leave.. it’s so hard I always go back and I can’t no more it’s a cycle

    • @SmoothOpe_
      @SmoothOpe_ ปีที่แล้ว

      Girl I know it’s hard but don’t be afraid to talk to someone about what you’re going through. DO NOT GO BACK but if you do don’t blame yourself these abuser’s condition you to were it becomes a trauma bond. Keep your babies safe. These men they won’t stop at you they will start abusing your kids too. I’m praying that you find the support you need xx

  • @Luv4ou
    @Luv4ou 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love you both!

  • @colorfulsimming
    @colorfulsimming ปีที่แล้ว

    I was 14 during my first relationship and it only went on for 2-3 months before I realized I was too young and not ready to let that person touch me with innocent affection like hugs, I didn't like hugs and I was forced to hug them. I was uncomfortable with any touching but they didn't like that or understood it so I broke up with them. I agreed to be friends and we had a good friendship but they'd bring up the relationship and always ask why we broke up and what they did wrong and this and that even though I sat them down and told them during the moment of breaking up with them. My parents were over the moon bout him and always tried forcing me to hug him or text him when he'd text me because when I didn't text him back he'd text my mom to tell me to text him back. That's weird!! Lol but yeah he ruined the friendship by bringing that up and not letting it go or accepting it so I cut ties with him and he'd stalk me for 4 years. From age 14 to 18, I had to constantly block all the accounts he'd make just to comment on my posts and know who my friends were and stuff it was so bad and scary because I knew how crazy those kind of people can get. It didn't click in my parents head until I was 18 that he wasn't a good guy and everything I tried telling them bout him was true. So I changed my number and became very private about my life. I then got with someone new but they ended up using me and tried forcing themselves onto me. So I was very picky with people and had always had a bubble where I hated being touched like don't touch me, friend, family, relationship, etc. I did NOT like being touched. Thankfully my boyfriend now is very patient and understanding and I adore and appreciate him so much because I finally feel safe. And note I grew up with a toxic family drama and situations so meeting and knowing him and his family, they're such a blessing. So I feel for people. It's scary and it wasn't until recently in my mid 20's that I noticed the trauma I've experienced and the effects it had on me so I'm learning, growing and healing! Much love to everyone!💚

  • @sabrynamariepurpcity
    @sabrynamariepurpcity ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Man is it heartbreak season because jesus……
    I’d rather watch this than happy couples rn 💔

  • @edwinawilliams7364
    @edwinawilliams7364 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you salica rose I love everything about you girl are a really wonderful person and women you go girl I am a huge fan of your forever 💯 and I will always love you and keep supporting you 🥰

  • @cynthiacocio7586
    @cynthiacocio7586 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why do I feel this so much 💔😭

  • @SelenaEternity7br4su2g
    @SelenaEternity7br4su2g 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We never know when our time is love yourself so that you can love other's 🙏Faith

  • @faith_God
    @faith_God ปีที่แล้ว +2

    God bless you ❤❤

  • @burdensfanjen
    @burdensfanjen ปีที่แล้ว +3

    When Salice rose 🌹 gets a show AYE 🎬🎥🎞️💖🫵🏻

  • @sagesage3134
    @sagesage3134 ปีที่แล้ว

    I just check out your podcast. 👍

  • @cuddygee7
    @cuddygee7 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was a beautiful video

  • @natalierodriguez1833
    @natalierodriguez1833 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    New on this channel 🙂❤️

  • @marisolarreola4006
    @marisolarreola4006 ปีที่แล้ว

    Should do a part 2 of this topic

  • @HistoryBytes111
    @HistoryBytes111 ปีที่แล้ว

    All feelings, at their root, are being created by Qi (Chi) or life-force. A 5,000-year-old Taoist spiritual technology will allow you to transmute any negative feelings back into the life-force that created the feelings in the first place. The Taoist approach recognizes that this universal medium of the life-force or Qi (Chi), is governing not only our internal world of feelings and thoughts, but also the outer world of nature. For example, in the Taoist approach, it is the Wood Phase of the life-force that creates the human experience of anger, or the virtue of Kindness arising in the Soul. This same Wood Phase is also responsible for making a tree grow and for the expansion of our universe - Excerpt from the book “Emotional Alchemy the love and freedom hidden within painful feelings” by Andrew Kenneth Fretwell.

  • @valnsann
    @valnsann ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Imma have to disagree with Rev on her opinion on Blueface & rock relationship. I don’t see love there. You don’t hurt & abuse someone you love to the extent they do to each other..

  • @ssobomb
    @ssobomb ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Who the fuck is the guy asking you questions? What a good idea to have on a podcast Salice! I love that, because it keeps the conversation focused and on topic. He also seems to know what he talking about ans how to ask questions. It's like a virtual therapy session. I feel like alot of people lack the third off camera voice lol. Loving this! I'm from Tucson, and you've dated a couple girls from here. I know a little bit of the inside drama and girl, I know it ain't easy dealing with these types of people. Really wish we could all be blessed with people more like ourselves, seems so impossible lol.

  • @auroranecula9782
    @auroranecula9782 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im trying to make peace with the past at this point

  • @burman3789
    @burman3789 ปีที่แล้ว

    And now you know what men go through everyday. No one ever believes women are extremely abusive but since they could cry and look so fragile nobody believes you.

  • @Vt91889
    @Vt91889 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Idk why TH-cam barely suggesting your podcast or I didn’t see it or something:(

  • @tanyaenriquez528
    @tanyaenriquez528 ปีที่แล้ว

    I've been in a relationship with my agressive and toxic ex boyfriend that it was my boyfriend at the time so he laid hands on me meaning he put his 2 Bear hands just because I didn't listen to him. Thx God🙏 I'm not with my ex boyfriend

  • @queenv4340
    @queenv4340 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    People really need take abusive relationships seriously fr

  • @amyrobeson
    @amyrobeson ปีที่แล้ว

    Yassss 🔥

  • @annica3347
    @annica3347 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ❤❤

  • @AnelStar1
    @AnelStar1 ปีที่แล้ว

    😮Reverie

  • @chrrodriguez2
    @chrrodriguez2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Good episode, but wish she would talk into the microphone more.

  • @analisehernandez4429
    @analisehernandez4429 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    yooo

  • @agalindo60
    @agalindo60 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    First ❤

  • @RUNRMB
    @RUNRMB ปีที่แล้ว

    🫰🏻

  • @ImNotWorriedBro
    @ImNotWorriedBro ปีที่แล้ว

    sucks because the systems failed tf out of everyone no man or women needs it. unfortunately my family doesn't support at all they normalizing

  • @zthealchemist
    @zthealchemist ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you. I really needed this. To hear survivors makes me feel like I can make it out. 🩷

  • @kateybaybee1685
    @kateybaybee1685 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I love you Salice (Mama Biscuit) 😫🤍 PS’ I JUST got out of an abusive TOXIC relationship where I ended up having a child with this dude… I completely understand. ❤️‍🩹

    • @MsRich-qg6du
      @MsRich-qg6du ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Same, I left when I found out I was pregnant. Never looked back. 5 1/2 years later. Life is good.

    • @kateybaybee1685
      @kateybaybee1685 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@MsRich-qg6du YESSS as you should! Once a cheater always a cheater!! 💯

    • @reirei7851
      @reirei7851 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Good for both of you! Because you are worth it and much more! 💋

    • @kateybaybee1685
      @kateybaybee1685 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@reirei7851 Same for you!! Love the positivity and much love to you!! 🥺🫶🏼🤍

    • @julieandiarena9746
      @julieandiarena9746 ปีที่แล้ว

      Shes on here talking about how she got abused but shes been exposed multiple times for it