Thank you! I'm not in a relationship and I'm 30. People always assume I'm "scared of love" on the contrary I love very deeply. I'm just cruising thru life trying to grow my business, and enjoy life as it is right now. If by chance love comes my way then I'll welcome it, but I don't feel the need to forces anything, it will happen when it happens. In the meantime I'm living life to the fullest!
I realized that it's so much easier to focus on myself and growth has been exponential since I've been single! Im just starting now but props to you for doing it long term!! 😍
ABSATIVELY POSSOLUTELY! People don't understand this. I am single and I'm in my 30s and yeah I have my moments but ultimately I realize I am ok. I don't have to be in a relationship right now. I'm still learning and growing. If God blesses me with a husband in my 30s, then cool, but if He doesn't, that's cool too. Me and God are currently under construction.
Totally relate… people never really talk about how hard it is to get over someone you NEVER dated. You always have these scenarios and what if’s, because nothing really started. I liked a guy friend for 7 years and I’ll be 19 this year lol. We never dated and I never got closure so I didn’t realize how I was still holding onto false hope. I’ve begin to look at love differently now, when it happens- it will happen. I truly believe the best love comes when you least expect it 💞 Hope you’re doing well Jeffery, and I wish you the best !
Omg, same, I’m also 19 and was in love(?) with someone for 7+ years, it took me almost 2 years to fully get over them. I also have learned from that and am just living. If love comes, it comes :)
As you get older you may begin to realize that liking someone who doesn’t like you back is a huge turn off. It saves a lot of time and frees up space for you to like people that like you back :3 don’t get caught up in limerance!
yeah it takes time to be accept were sensitive people. Im getting more aware of my feelings which apparently is ultimately a good thing. allows us to grow xx
I really like this "day in the life" style video paired with a well-told story that ties in life lessons! I also appreciate the unique angles you incorporate that most people don't do - i.e. the high angle opening shot and the steaming floor mop(?) one at 4:08. It's fun :) On another note, I see you trying different foods out! The french toast and shepherd's pie looks good~
To answer your question: authenticity. I'm in my mid-30s and totally stopped dating when I realized how often people lie (lying by omission is also considered lying) when they're dating. Mind you, I believe that the point of dating is to find a LIFE partner, yet people are so quick to (1) project an image they think someone would like, (2) quick to compromise their values and (3) feel justified doing so. Instead of looking for an individual whose values align with their own, they look for an available body in hopes to mold them into their ideal partner. An example would be, a guy I was talking to is Christian and would like to have children and I grew up in a Buddhist household. Instead of finding someone who is Christian and want children, he wanted me to adapt to that when I knew I never want kids and would rather not spend my Sundays in church. I have to admit that I am guilty of it too until I reached my 30s. At my age, I'm done with drama, so I don't want to date anyone who hasn't worked through their demons, know what their values are and most importantly live in alignment with said values. People think I'm "picky" or that I'm searching for someone "perfect" when in reality, I just don't want to live out of alignment with what is important to me. I don't believe people should have to make MAJOR life changes when they're in a relationship. At the same time, I am totally OK with being single for the rest of my life. I've been in two narcissistic abusive relationships from compromising my values and learned that you can find contentment in solitude, which trumps being in a relationship that sucks the life out of you.
I'm 31..and seems our stories are similar.. I totally agree with you. I'm better of single, than in a toxic relationship...being happy with myself doesn't mean I'm egocentric or whatever people tend to call me. I think I wasn't loved enough, or loved properly, which makes me think I owe this to myself. I'll love myself first and stop stressing about getting old and being single.. Being with the wrong people takes too much energy.. I rather invest that into myself.
That’s why I’m still single. People say that I have high standards, but in reality is that I take a love relationship seriously. I don't want to waste the other person's & my time to satisfy my loneliness, but instead, I'm looking for the one who can be with me for the long term.
I can relate a lot to your experiences. I'm going to be 28 this year and I haven't had any relationship with another person since I was 17. Once every few years I get a crush on someone, but it never leads to anything. When I was younger, I was jealous of friends who were outgoing, could easily find people to date, and had experience in relationships. Many friends right out of high school got married and had children, leaving me feeling like I fell behind somehow. I get shy easily and tend to wait for people to approach me first, so even making friends is difficult. Now that I'm older, I find that I don't really care too much about being single since I'm comfortable in my adult life. Of course I do want to find someone to love because I want to get married and start a family of my own; but I'm not as depressed about the single life as I used to be. Being single for so long, I got to learn a lot about myself. I'm loyal and affectionate as a lover, so I'm not going to settle for anybody who isn't loyal and open to physical affection. I also learned that a relationship isn't 50-50 but 100-100. You have to put your whole self into a relationship to make it work. If I'm meant to be with someone then it'll happen when it's supposed to, but in the meantime I'll continue to be gorgeous, confident in myself, and grow beautifully as a human.
Nicely said. I'm a bit older than you but I didn't find someone I finally clicked well with till I turned 27. Now we've been married for two years and hoping to have a child or two if fate would allow it. ^^
Anxiety and Panic attacks come about from triggers both known and unknown. I’m a military veteran and experience both along with PTSD-II & OCD. Breakups are uncontrollably experiences in our lives that should maturing effect; yet will leave an imprint on us. Being single for awhile myself I also don’t like randomly kissing people especially on the lips. Your cooking and baking skills are amazingly improving. Don’t be surprised if one of your subscribers show up at your 🚪 with a 😊 and a 🍽 willing to be a taste tester. Your MISS right for you will come into your life at the right time unexpectedly. Stay healthy,smiling and blessed you beautiful soul. #PassMeMy🍷🥟 #Jeffreak4Life
I’m at work but watching your video in the office haha!! I’m 25 and haven’t even been in a relationship before so I don’t really know what love is tbh LOL but I feel like there are a lot of people who settle for someone who is not good enough for them just for the sake of escaping singledom and not dying alone. Now that I’m getting older I believe it is so important to find someone who truly values and respects me! Never hurry into a relationship and the right person will come when you least expect it 🌸
Imo, feelings change naturally and can not be controlled. That's why I pay attention to a person's values more than initial feelings. Values hardly change, being a solid base for a long-term relationship. I believe feelings will develope and grow out of trusting and supporting each other.
Just wanted to say that your vlogs are so soothing to me and really grounds me. Like the whole set up/editing but also just listening to your thoughts. I love when people share their mind and reflections on life. Thank you Jeffrey!!
I have no idea how I ended up on your youtube channel, but it's been slightly therapeutic watching and listening to your journey. Ironically, I also relocated to the L.A. area about 5 months ago and can relate to a lot of the things you talk about. As someone who's single as heck and approaching my late 30's, I totally understand where you're coming from and find myself in the same boat when it comes to life, love, and just starting over in a big city away from most family and friends. From what I've seen, you seem like a great person who's got a good head on his shoulders. There's no specific timeline, and no one-sized fits all approach when it comes to love. I'm sure all the pieces will come together for you (and all of us?) in due time.
Falling in love and being in a relationship is kind of scary. It's so normal these days that people are unfaithful or they leave you because they find somebody else... But we all can be in a happy and healthy relationship if you actually find "the one." Sadly it's very difficult to find good men out there in my opinion. You will find someone Jeffrey ❤ just be careful, take things slow. People can be so charming in the beginning and show their "fake" version of themselves.
so true. or in my case, there's some people like myself who show maybe 70~80% of ourselves truly and bluntly initially but if that person doesn't like it or we just don't click then i know for sure that they are not for me. sometimes it's scary being so vulnerable to various new people and you definitely need to know how much is too much. recently dated somebody and i showed them some (not all lol cuz theres too many🥲) of my flaws and they told me they can accept it and learn to understand it but then i made one mistake and they took that mistake and ran with it. my gut tells me they were just all talk unfortunately. so there is some risk in people who share who they truly are at the beginning of a relationship because you are showing your "weaker" side but personally i think it's an easier & quick way to know if somebody is good for you or not. oof that was a lot to type lol🥲 but i completely agree, it's tough to find an honestly nice man out there.. please come out from the dark u guys lol
I can relate to your videos so much, it's like watching a friend speaking their mind. I can see that you're very smart about decision making in life and that you're staying true to yourself. You got this! :) much Love
Jeffrey, watching your videos are really my kind of getaway from a hectic schedule! :') Thank you for always being so candid about your life. It really feels a friend talking on the other side! Lots of love to you
I love the genuine aspect of who you are in your videos, so real and authentic. I got the update that you uploaded a new video and I literally rushed online to see this. Keep being you, it entails the realistic version of certain aspects of me and who I'm becoming by telling myself that I'm literally not weird at all😅 looking forward to seeing more of your amazing videos. You really made my day ❤️
when i meet people who i’m either curious about in a just friendly way or in a sexual or romantic way, i ask them if they are straight, gay, single, or married. (prolly need to change that with all of the other identities out there now.) it can be a good icebreaker depending on the person and situation. it can also help you sort out from the beginning where you two might go either just as friends or something else. i’m also female, blunt, and pretty outgoing, so this has worked for me in most scenarios. this might not work for you, but maybe it can give you some ideas as to how to avoid the “awkward finding out they are taken later” situation. i learned from different life situations that it’s best to ask then wait and find out later. situations like sleeping with a person and finding out from their wife, fiancée, or friends that they were taken. finding a person you want to be with can take trial and error. you might enjoy dating a person but then realize later that you wouldn’t want to marry them, if that’s something that you want, or that you might not agree with all of their opinions about something like politics, religion, vegan vs meat, or different ethical or moral issues. some of those things might not seem like major things when just dating, but they can be a big difference when it comes to raising kids together. figure out what your dealbreakers in a person or relationship are. you might realize that your dealbreakers change or evolve later on. (sorry for the long comment.)
Jeffery I don’t think you understand how your videos literally put all of us in the best calming mood ever. The way you edit the way you speak, you’re just very well spoken and every time I see you upload a video I gets so excited. You are hands-down my favorite TH-camr and please make the videos a little longer or at least post three times a week😌. THANK YOU 😄😄😄😄😄😄
Everything about you is so relatable! 😂 Thanks for opening up about your vulnerable moments and making yummy foods. Answer to prompt: open mindedness, communication, support, oh and laughter 😊
I don’t know how I stumbled upon your channel and vlogs, but I genuinely appreciate the thoughts/talks you share with us. Leaves me thinking and reflecting on my own life. Lol.
I love these vlogs and thank you for letting us into these moments in your life! I relate so much when you talked about passing by old places that remind you of past traumas. I still feel uneasy whenever I pass by places where I've felt strong emotions in the past. Things will all work out.
tbh i think being an artist for me has helped me a lot in dating, in a sense that i never really cared about having a type. i just wanted to meet someone and feel something different, mostly inspired but also just the feeling of meeting a stranger and wanting more even just a little bit... ahhh its nothing like it. but with that being said, i think its a bit lonelier waiting for magic to happen, compared to having a shopping list of requirements and pursuing anyone who hits most of criteria. love is a feeling, but its also an action. nevertheless, we can't forget that its also a relationship where regardless of how you meet; it takes time and effort to properly nurture into something meaningful.
Whoaaaa Jeffrey I used to watch you all the time! So glad to find that you're super active on TH-cam right now. Time to binge all your new videos to catch up 🥰!
Ok, so randomly stumbled upon this video (I’m halfway thru it ) and I had to pause and tell you that the angles of shot, editing, the content and everything about this video is gold! Subscribing!
Wow, I honestly feel like how you talk about situations and other people really endearing🙌 love that you can about all these things without tearing others down! 🧡Bless up🙏
Yikes. That's a tough question. Relationships got really toxic and stepped away from them years ago as I said in another vlog comment post. People I think -- think it's trendy to just be fucked up. I think some look for the drama and roller coaster rides. But I don't. What I look for in relationships is gaining a friendship first. Without that foundation you won't have much of a relationship. It's just a difficult line and boundary that can get rather tricky if you head into friend zone territory where you don't want to mess up a good friendship with a relationship because there's an absolute difference. A mature and sound minded person who has a self awareness about others and themselves as I do where you know when it just fits. Nothing grand in expectations... just you have a lot of fun with each other as you are. I have certain comfort zones as I think you spoke about. Someone who pushes me but knows when I might be pushed too soon too far and understand when there's a retreat that isn't their fault but my own -- man would be a blessing to have. To constantly strive to help each other grow in knowledge and behavior. :)
I really appreciate your profound perspectives on love both objectively and subjectively through your experiences. Also, heartbreak....man such powerful feelings, huh? But don't worry you're doing great and life is never linear! Enjoy the waves despite the days where you might crash at shore. Looking forward to more vlogs, please! xxxxx
8:23 Jeffrey... this happened to me soo many times. Many of my friends met their partners very early and ended up together for a long time while I am here alone... :D
i just randomly found your videos like a month ago and loved them ever since, always looking forward to the next one... and it feels wrong to even write this but, from what you said, we have quite a lot in common (i think thats how most of your subscribers feel as well tho haha) which is something im not particularly used to when it comes to youtubers - - so finally a new thing for me after years on yt
I'm smiling while watching ur vlog Jeffrey, I think it's becuz I felt resonates with the panic attack you talk about and it makes me feel better that someone actually know how it feels like and ways to overcome this. Thx for the sharing 💜
I love this. I used to have a lot of trauma. Whenever I went into central London I would feel scared and stressed. In fact actually, whenever I did anything - I got stressed out super easily. It not been easy but now when I go into central London it just feel interesting and exciting to me. Sure, I don’t like the big crowds in London Underground, especially around Oxford Circus - but when I’m walking through Soho, I feel safe and even kind of happy, not scared or stressed out. It’s a big win for me and I’m proud of myself 😊😸☺️
I think it's super important to have someone who will not just be a romantic partner but will be your best friend. While romance is important, I think true friendship is what fuels love so he gotta become my best friend! ALSO! Loved this video and how open you are about what you have been through. You always keep it positive, even when you are talking about negative experiences. I've had a few panic attacks but never really like talking about them. You inspire me to be more open, so thank you!
I've had a difficult time falling asleep these past few days too, and not sleeping as much usually makes me think about life more. Relationships can be complicated. I've found that I imagine I would like to be in a romantic relationship, then I realize how I feel lost and like life is too chaotic that it's a struggle to keep up daily relationships (family, co-workers etc..). Also I really like the mixture of storytelling, cooking and eating in your videos. It's comforting.
i look for mutual love, effort, chemistry, respect, a desire to be better for ourselves and each other, and agreement on our core beliefs/life goals (aka compatibility)
Je crois vraiment que toutes choses arrivent pour une raison et surtout qu'une chose arrivera quand elle arrivera surtout question romance...c'est tellement compliqué mais rien ne devrait être forcé. Mais je te souhaite de trouver ta personne, pcq au moment venu tu aura gagné dans ton développement personnel peut importe que ce soit en expérience ou en sachant ce que tu recherche vrm chez quelqu'un pour le mieux! 😊
Cooking while vlogging seems to be more relaxing for you. It's like going to a friend's house to unwind. Your topics are relatable. True, break ups are awkward and hard especially if you entrusted a lot of your emotions in it or the other person never knew how much you truly cared. Don't compare your life to your sister's or any of your friends. We set goals in our lives which means that some other things maybe put on the back burner. Never settle nor do anything that you may regret later. You are still adjusting to the move and changes in your life. Keep your head up and try not to dwell on what could or should have happened. That just torments you more. If you two are able to remain as friends that would be great, but if not remember it was just a moment of memories whether be good or bad. Eventually the pain will fade, but don't let it turn into bitterness or worse. Trust me that is harder to get rid of. Chin up, Look up not down and Cheer up! 🎶♥️
Tes vidéos sont juste trop Nice! I don't even need therapy anymore 😅! I feel like I am just watching my friend talking about life and it's awesome... And I also feel like you just have to be you and you will meet your someone one day!
Hope you can find more time to upload videos like this, it is very comforting to know that somewhere people are experiencing the same thing. And that it is just normal, and I am normal...thank you jeffrey! I believe when it is "the time", you will meet this someone who loves every part of who you are. xxx
I love your videos! Often when you just talk about life I can relate to that and it just feels good to know that there is somebody felling similar. Tbh I am really scared to live alone in the future but you kinda take the scariness away, wich comforts me bout this. Also the whole dating thing…. I wish it would be as easy as it sometimes sounds… but if you search for a deep connection it’s just hard. Anyway you are really cool and I appreciate your honest content! 🖖
just discovered you and subbed. listening to you is like I see myself reflected in another soul. You are such a sweet and thoughtful human, filled with love, I can sense it through the screen.
i just discovered our channel and daam, you are so chill and I love watching every second of your videeos. Pls dont stop. I also like how you are alone in your videos and talking it feels like you are talking to me about your struggles and I am just listening to you in your room!
The moment you stop looking and focus on yourself, gain self confidence and realize you dont need someone but want someone, is when that person will show up in your life. When you let go, it opens the door for someone to come in.
In a sense, to get over someone, you got under someone. Not in a literal sense, but it's physically acting out in a way to tell your mind that "it's not that deep." Human connection happens in many ways and you always walk away from each with new insight, no matter how small it is. You definitely don't give yourself enough credit. But, I get it. It's hard to think of yourself in a new light when you've been telling yourself the same thing for so long. Keep your mind right. Keep grinding and the right energy will lead you there.
Thank you for sharing Jeffrey! I definitely find love and commitment scary (even though i love the idea if them) and especially after the pandemic, meeting someone is just anxiety inducing. I just feel like i wouldn't know someone was the right person even if they are the one because I'm too scared and anxious.
Yeah I am 25 and never been in a serious relationship. I think I need to focus on bettering myself before I look for a relationship. I tried looking last year on online dating but it just didn't work out. I am so awkward around men that I am attracted to.
I’ve never agreed so much with someone other than myself or was on the same wavelength as someone you have have the same the state of mind that I like. First focusing on yourself and then if love knocks on your door You’re not going to refuse it but love must be reciprocal and must be added value for each other without forgetting yourself as a person so that is to say be well separated but even better when you are together Greetings from France 🇫🇷
It takes time to find the right one, nothing wrong with being single. I’m single for over 6-7yrs and I’m happy still single, doing my thing waiting for mr right. He is out there somewhere, Maybe he’s not ready or maybe I’m not ready.. who knows 🤷🏻♀️
You took her too serious before solidifying if you two were on the same page. Vetting the women you come across is key. You are wholesome and handsome as ever. You are valuable #KnowThat
My first relationship was also my latest! I unconsciously tried to rebound with another one the same year but I came to my senses and realized that it wasn’t love and it wasn’t fair for both of us! 10 years later I decided to try dating apps and realized too that it wasn’t my thing! I stay at home all the time but hoping to meet someone on one of my grocery shopping one day lol! My first criteria for a relationship will be respect! The amount of disrespect people have in any kind of relationship is crazy 😵💫😵💫! First time here and I enjoyed your video! Bonne nuit!
Yeah, no I’m not looking forward to anything anymore 💁🏻♀️… hope it’s just temporary though … Because, you know, anything end up being higher expectancy… kinda got tired of giving my energies to invaluable, short term nothings… argh now that I write it down 🤦🏻♀️
From someone who’s been married for over 35 years - you will find that your relationship will continue to change throughout your time together, continuing to change and grow… Whether together or not will depend entirely on how much you’re prepared to work at it, nothing comes easily but if you truly “both” try and “both” have the end goal in your sight then your relationship can surely be that of a lifetime together…. You have a wonderfully healthy look on life and relationships - which will bode well for your future long term relationship, I wish you the best of luck in finding your friend - lover - and partner, I look forward to your next video.
At this point can we get a Cooking with Jeffrey series. Seriously, watching you cook that shepherds pie made me hungry. It’s super cute how you called your mom to show her what you’re having for dinner. My advice for romantic relationships is to pay attention to the red flags, no matter how much you love the person don’t disregard the warning signs thinking all will be well.
Hi Jeffrey I’m kinda going through the same situation. It’s so hard to find that special someone even a long distance relationship. But I feel the same way I hope we find someone in life’s.😔☺️☺️❤️✨
Look for someone based on how they make you feel... supportive, happy for your successes, someone you could rely on and see your future with... similar hobbies, enjoy talking with, feel a sense of safety etc.
This is the second time I have clicked on your video. Last time it was so relatable that it felt good, but I thought it was a coincidence. But this time too!! I feel like you are pretty emotionally intelligent / stable (yet unstable - hopefully you get what I mean ) and that's great, and according to me- rare. I look for a great amount of care and understanding (awareness too), equal to what I am capable of giving, maybe that's why I have been single for 6 years now. SUCKs! sometimes...
Loving your content these days, please keep it up if it's something you enjoy doing!!! Also can you release Better Together on Spotify please?! I love that song 🥺
Why do I relate to your videos so much? It literally feels like you're putting words to my thoughts🤣. Thank you so much for another amazing video. Keep it up!🤗 It's very soothing. PS. I liked the way you defined "LOVE"
Love the story time and the content but can we please talk about the neighbours cat drinking out of the water fountain?? That is the chill I need in my life. What a specimen.
I’m tired of looking for the ideal person I would like to be with tbh. I am no longer looking at myself and saying is there something wrong with me for not being in a relationship. I think my standards are not clearly defined as what I really need than what I want and that’s something I am working on atm. Once you give up the fear of being alone “single” you start to enjoy life more without limit & I hope the ONE finally comes. I am learning now not to define my worth by things such as work or relationships. My worth was here when I was born.
Well. That question is plenty complicated. Most of my life (I'm 20 rn) i spent looking for love and boyfriends but ended up with incomplete situationships and crushes that hurt me so much. I was even in love with one of those crushes for three straight years. Till literally last year. I was firm on the idea of... Finding a boyfriend as if it's a checklist. Like it's a mandatory task without which I'm incomplete. But then since then I've started to realise that it's very okay to be single. Much like you i kind of madeout with a stranger? It was my first kiss but ngl i don't regret it. To an extent due to my cultural upbringing I'm happy it was this way. I've also realised that I'll be very busy in the coming months and years. I've to relocate, I've to do a lot of things. And tbvh it's okay if i don't date till i find someone who doesn't feel... Right. I've decided that I'll try the hookup situation for when i feel like it. But that my relationship status won't decide my worth. And that somewhere down the line. When it's supposed to happen- I'll find someone. You give a lot to someone you're dating. And i don't think I'm at that stage anymore. So yeap. As for whom I'm supposed to date or what i want in a relationship... I have a few checkmarks. But the most important is "vibe check". I should be comfortable with them. And our core values should match. And my partner should see my worth as i am. The rest. I won't mind finding the right one and seeing. Beauty lies in so many humans- never stops to fascinate me how unique everyone is.
I feel like preferences put a huge block on the kinds of relationships/connections u can make with people. There are some factors to consider like religion/financial/cultural upbringings but these definitely can be looked past if it means to work things out. I’ve been rejected mainly because of my body size tho we had strong emotional connections and I think a lot of people need to see that physical looks isn’t the end all be all to make a relationship work. Worst is when they’re racist/misogynist/homophobic etc. character speaks so much more than just looks.
Physical attraction matters just as much as emotional, in my opinion. I feel it is better to be with someone who accepts you as you are over someone who is forcing themselves because emotionally you guys work, but on the physical side it's not cutting it for them.
@@Rezzmari nah physical attraction is very subjective, I’ve seen rly good looking people with absolutely unattractive people. Some of these unattractive people don’t have a good personality either. It depends on what u settle for eventually, if it means to kill your loneliness. Peace out.
What do you look for in a relationship? Go:
honesty, gentleness, commitment
Trust,understanding,
@@sunitadong yes
@@va4lent love it val!
Patience, understanding, unconditional love.
Thank you! I'm not in a relationship and I'm 30. People always assume I'm "scared of love" on the contrary I love very deeply. I'm just cruising thru life trying to grow my business, and enjoy life as it is right now. If by chance love comes my way then I'll welcome it, but I don't feel the need to forces anything, it will happen when it happens. In the meantime I'm living life to the fullest!
Me too and I absolutely agree with everything you said. Nothing wrong with evolving and growing for one self in all capacities
Same here, I'm 31 this year :)
I realized that it's so much easier to focus on myself and growth has been exponential since I've been single! Im just starting now but props to you for doing it long term!! 😍
love this ❤️
ABSATIVELY POSSOLUTELY! People don't understand this. I am single and I'm in my 30s and yeah I have my moments but ultimately I realize I am ok. I don't have to be in a relationship right now. I'm still learning and growing. If God blesses me with a husband in my 30s, then cool, but if He doesn't, that's cool too. Me and God are currently under construction.
Totally relate… people never really talk about how hard it is to get over someone you NEVER dated. You always have these scenarios and what if’s, because nothing really started. I liked a guy friend for 7 years and I’ll be 19 this year lol. We never dated and I never got closure so I didn’t realize how I was still holding onto false hope. I’ve begin to look at love differently now, when it happens- it will happen. I truly believe the best love comes when you least expect it 💞 Hope you’re doing well Jeffery, and I wish you the best !
Omg, same, I’m also 19 and was in love(?) with someone for 7+ years, it took me almost 2 years to fully get over them. I also have learned from that and am just living. If love comes, it comes :)
As you get older you may begin to realize that liking someone who doesn’t like you back is a huge turn off. It saves a lot of time and frees up space for you to like people that like you back :3 don’t get caught up in limerance!
The way I understand exactly what you are talking about 😭💕
It sucks being a sensitive, gentle person in this world where everyone is a little off. Keep being you!
yeah it takes time to be accept were sensitive people. Im getting more aware of my feelings which apparently is ultimately a good thing. allows us to grow xx
@@JeffreyChang it gives me hope as a female that guys like you exist!
I really like this "day in the life" style video paired with a well-told story that ties in life lessons! I also appreciate the unique angles you incorporate that most people don't do - i.e. the high angle opening shot and the steaming floor mop(?) one at 4:08. It's fun :) On another note, I see you trying different foods out! The french toast and shepherd's pie looks good~
Yo I thought the same thing while watching the video >
To answer your question: authenticity. I'm in my mid-30s and totally stopped dating when I realized how often people lie (lying by omission is also considered lying) when they're dating. Mind you, I believe that the point of dating is to find a LIFE partner, yet people are so quick to (1) project an image they think someone would like, (2) quick to compromise their values and (3) feel justified doing so. Instead of looking for an individual whose values align with their own, they look for an available body in hopes to mold them into their ideal partner. An example would be, a guy I was talking to is Christian and would like to have children and I grew up in a Buddhist household. Instead of finding someone who is Christian and want children, he wanted me to adapt to that when I knew I never want kids and would rather not spend my Sundays in church. I have to admit that I am guilty of it too until I reached my 30s.
At my age, I'm done with drama, so I don't want to date anyone who hasn't worked through their demons, know what their values are and most importantly live in alignment with said values. People think I'm "picky" or that I'm searching for someone "perfect" when in reality, I just don't want to live out of alignment with what is important to me. I don't believe people should have to make MAJOR life changes when they're in a relationship. At the same time, I am totally OK with being single for the rest of my life. I've been in two narcissistic abusive relationships from compromising my values and learned that you can find contentment in solitude, which trumps being in a relationship that sucks the life out of you.
I'm 31..and seems our stories are similar.. I totally agree with you. I'm better of single, than in a toxic relationship...being happy with myself doesn't mean I'm egocentric or whatever people tend to call me. I think I wasn't loved enough, or loved properly, which makes me think I owe this to myself. I'll love myself first and stop stressing about getting old and being single.. Being with the wrong people takes too much energy.. I rather invest that into myself.
That’s why I’m still single. People say that I have high standards, but in reality is that I take a love relationship seriously. I don't want to waste the other person's & my time to satisfy my loneliness, but instead, I'm looking for the one who can be with me for the long term.
luv it
Wow I feel this way too! Feels good to know I’m not the only one.
I can relate a lot to your experiences. I'm going to be 28 this year and I haven't had any relationship with another person since I was 17. Once every few years I get a crush on someone, but it never leads to anything. When I was younger, I was jealous of friends who were outgoing, could easily find people to date, and had experience in relationships. Many friends right out of high school got married and had children, leaving me feeling like I fell behind somehow. I get shy easily and tend to wait for people to approach me first, so even making friends is difficult. Now that I'm older, I find that I don't really care too much about being single since I'm comfortable in my adult life. Of course I do want to find someone to love because I want to get married and start a family of my own; but I'm not as depressed about the single life as I used to be. Being single for so long, I got to learn a lot about myself. I'm loyal and affectionate as a lover, so I'm not going to settle for anybody who isn't loyal and open to physical affection. I also learned that a relationship isn't 50-50 but 100-100. You have to put your whole self into a relationship to make it work. If I'm meant to be with someone then it'll happen when it's supposed to, but in the meantime I'll continue to be gorgeous, confident in myself, and grow beautifully as a human.
I totally agree 👍🥰
Nicely said. I'm a bit older than you but I didn't find someone I finally clicked well with till I turned 27. Now we've been married for two years and hoping to have a child or two if fate would allow it. ^^
Me. But I'm younger. People hurt me and stuff. I've been single since birth. I kind of like it that way. I hate people and don't trust them.
Anxiety and Panic attacks come about from triggers both known and unknown. I’m a military veteran and experience both along with PTSD-II & OCD. Breakups are uncontrollably experiences in our lives that should maturing effect; yet will leave an imprint on us. Being single for awhile myself I also don’t like randomly kissing people especially on the lips. Your cooking and baking skills are amazingly improving. Don’t be surprised if one of your subscribers show up at your 🚪 with a 😊 and a 🍽 willing to be a taste tester. Your MISS right for you will come into your life at the right time unexpectedly. Stay healthy,smiling and blessed you beautiful soul.
#PassMeMy🍷🥟
#Jeffreak4Life
wow thx for sharing and for ur service tish xx
I’m at work but watching your video in the office haha!! I’m 25 and haven’t even been in a relationship before so I don’t really know what love is tbh LOL but I feel like there are a lot of people who settle for someone who is not good enough for them just for the sake of escaping singledom and not dying alone. Now that I’m getting older I believe it is so important to find someone who truly values and respects me! Never hurry into a relationship and the right person will come when you least expect it 🌸
Imo, feelings change naturally and can not be controlled. That's why I pay attention to a person's values more than initial feelings. Values hardly change, being a solid base for a long-term relationship. I believe feelings will develope and grow out of trusting and supporting each other.
love this anna
Just wanted to say that your vlogs are so soothing to me and really grounds me. Like the whole set up/editing but also just listening to your thoughts. I love when people share their mind and reflections on life. Thank you Jeffrey!!
Oh thank you!
I have no idea how I ended up on your youtube channel, but it's been slightly therapeutic watching and listening to your journey. Ironically, I also relocated to the L.A. area about 5 months ago and can relate to a lot of the things you talk about. As someone who's single as heck and approaching my late 30's, I totally understand where you're coming from and find myself in the same boat when it comes to life, love, and just starting over in a big city away from most family and friends. From what I've seen, you seem like a great person who's got a good head on his shoulders. There's no specific timeline, and no one-sized fits all approach when it comes to love. I'm sure all the pieces will come together for you (and all of us?) in due time.
Falling in love and being in a relationship is kind of scary. It's so normal these days that people are unfaithful or they leave you because they find somebody else... But we all can be in a happy and healthy relationship if you actually find "the one." Sadly it's very difficult to find good men out there in my opinion. You will find someone Jeffrey ❤ just be careful, take things slow. People can be so charming in the beginning and show their "fake" version of themselves.
so true. or in my case, there's some people like myself who show maybe 70~80% of ourselves truly and bluntly initially but if that person doesn't like it or we just don't click then i know for sure that they are not for me. sometimes it's scary being so vulnerable to various new people and you definitely need to know how much is too much. recently dated somebody and i showed them some (not all lol cuz theres too many🥲) of my flaws and they told me they can accept it and learn to understand it but then i made one mistake and they took that mistake and ran with it. my gut tells me they were just all talk unfortunately. so there is some risk in people who share who they truly are at the beginning of a relationship because you are showing your "weaker" side but personally i think it's an easier & quick way to know if somebody is good for you or not.
oof that was a lot to type lol🥲 but i completely agree, it's tough to find an honestly nice man out there.. please come out from the dark u guys lol
I can relate to your videos so much, it's like watching a friend speaking their mind. I can see that you're very smart about decision making in life and that you're staying true to yourself. You got this! :) much Love
That vacuum cleaner angle was top notch cinematography, I had to watch that part again because the shot was so good!
ahaha tysm
Jeffrey, watching your videos are really my kind of getaway from a hectic schedule! :') Thank you for always being so candid about your life. It really feels a friend talking on the other side! Lots of love to you
means the world to hear that tysm adithi!! Luv ya!
A lot of my friends think I'm scared of love,but that's not the case,it just takes a lot of time to trust and let people in.
ahah yeah!
I love the genuine aspect of who you are in your videos, so real and authentic. I got the update that you uploaded a new video and I literally rushed online to see this. Keep being you, it entails the realistic version of certain aspects of me and who I'm becoming by telling myself that I'm literally not weird at all😅 looking forward to seeing more of your amazing videos. You really made my day ❤️
Wow, thank you!
I love how genuine and open you are. Thank you for sharing 👍🏾
ty sade!! xx
when i meet people who i’m either curious about in a just friendly way or in a sexual or romantic way, i ask them if they are straight, gay, single, or married. (prolly need to change that with all of the other identities out there now.) it can be a good icebreaker depending on the person and situation. it can also help you sort out from the beginning where you two might go either just as friends or something else. i’m also female, blunt, and pretty outgoing, so this has worked for me in most scenarios. this might not work for you, but maybe it can give you some ideas as to how to avoid the “awkward finding out they are taken later” situation. i learned from different life situations that it’s best to ask then wait and find out later. situations like sleeping with a person and finding out from their wife, fiancée, or friends that they were taken. finding a person you want to be with can take trial and error. you might enjoy dating a person but then realize later that you wouldn’t want to marry them, if that’s something that you want, or that you might not agree with all of their opinions about something like politics, religion, vegan vs meat, or different ethical or moral issues. some of those things might not seem like major things when just dating, but they can be a big difference when it comes to raising kids together. figure out what your dealbreakers in a person or relationship are. you might realize that your dealbreakers change or evolve later on. (sorry for the long comment.)
I love your vision of love and I think it’s very courageous to share it this way ✨ so thank you for being you 🧚🏻♀️💫
Thank you so much!!
I love these vlogs because I find out other people feel the same things that I feel and I can actually see that it's possible to be mature about it.
Love all your clips. Love this one especially the "Good morning" part...so cute....😊
Jeffery I don’t think you understand how your videos literally put all of us in the best calming mood ever. The way you edit the way you speak, you’re just very well spoken and every time I see you upload a video I gets so excited. You are hands-down my favorite TH-camr and please make the videos a little longer or at least post three times a week😌.
THANK YOU 😄😄😄😄😄😄
This is lesson learned "Dont expect too much from other people."
aha yup
Everything about you is so relatable! 😂 Thanks for opening up about your vulnerable moments and making yummy foods.
Answer to prompt: open mindedness, communication, support, oh and laughter 😊
Honestly loved this vlog type story time! Super unique, productive and inspirational/informative at the same time🥺‼️
A great sense of humor- somebody who loves to laugh and smile. The ability to communicate, listen and compromise. Mutual growth.
I really enjoy your editing style, cooking, thoughts and overall content!
Yay, thank you! so glad!
I don’t know how I stumbled upon your channel and vlogs, but I genuinely appreciate the thoughts/talks you share with us. Leaves me thinking and reflecting on my own life. Lol.
I love these vlogs and thank you for letting us into these moments in your life! I relate so much when you talked about passing by old places that remind you of past traumas. I still feel uneasy whenever I pass by places where I've felt strong emotions in the past. Things will all work out.
I'm so glad im not the only one!! Thanks for sharing kate
I LOVE your vocabulary, the way u talk & express yourself.. its so clear
Just wanted to say that I love the talks with your mom and I expect them in every video now :)
I don’t know why but Jeffery’s videos feels like home
tbh i think being an artist for me has helped me a lot in dating, in a sense that i never really cared about having a type. i just wanted to meet someone and feel something different, mostly inspired but also just the feeling of meeting a stranger and wanting more even just a little bit... ahhh its nothing like it. but with that being said, i think its a bit lonelier waiting for magic to happen, compared to having a shopping list of requirements and pursuing anyone who hits most of criteria. love is a feeling, but its also an action. nevertheless, we can't forget that its also a relationship where regardless of how you meet; it takes time and effort to properly nurture into something meaningful.
love it
"That thing" is a beautiful cat.
ahaha he's growing on me o.0
Whoaaaa Jeffrey I used to watch you all the time! So glad to find that you're super active on TH-cam right now. Time to binge all your new videos to catch up 🥰!
Ok, so randomly stumbled upon this video (I’m halfway thru it ) and I had to pause and tell you that the angles of shot, editing, the content and everything about this video is gold! Subscribing!
I love how you can smoothly transition btw English, French, and Cantonese. Really attractive
Wow, I honestly feel like how you talk about situations and other people really endearing🙌 love that you can about all these things without tearing others down!
🧡Bless up🙏
Yikes. That's a tough question. Relationships got really toxic and stepped away from them years ago as I said in another vlog comment post. People I think -- think it's trendy to just be fucked up. I think some look for the drama and roller coaster rides. But I don't. What I look for in relationships is gaining a friendship first. Without that foundation you won't have much of a relationship. It's just a difficult line and boundary that can get rather tricky if you head into friend zone territory where you don't want to mess up a good friendship with a relationship because there's an absolute difference. A mature and sound minded person who has a self awareness about others and themselves as I do where you know when it just fits. Nothing grand in expectations... just you have a lot of fun with each other as you are. I have certain comfort zones as I think you spoke about. Someone who pushes me but knows when I might be pushed too soon too far and understand when there's a retreat that isn't their fault but my own -- man would be a blessing to have. To constantly strive to help each other grow in knowledge and behavior. :)
I really appreciate your profound perspectives on love both objectively and subjectively through your experiences. Also, heartbreak....man such powerful feelings, huh? But don't worry you're doing great and life is never linear! Enjoy the waves despite the days where you might crash at shore. Looking forward to more vlogs, please! xxxxx
8:23 Jeffrey... this happened to me soo many times. Many of my friends met their partners very early and ended up together for a long time while I am here alone... :D
She is somewhere out there and in a right time, right situation you’ll find her. In short it’s about the right timing and chill up enjoy the ride
i just randomly found your videos like a month ago and loved them ever since, always looking forward to the next one... and it feels wrong to even write this but, from what you said, we have quite a lot in common (i think thats how most of your subscribers feel as well tho haha) which is something im not particularly used to when it comes to youtubers - - so finally a new thing for me after years on yt
I'm smiling while watching ur vlog Jeffrey, I think it's becuz I felt resonates with the panic attack you talk about and it makes me feel better that someone actually know how it feels like and ways to overcome this. Thx for the sharing 💜
I love this. I used to have a lot of trauma. Whenever I went into central London I would feel scared and stressed. In fact actually, whenever I did anything - I got stressed out super easily. It not been easy but now when I go into central London it just feel interesting and exciting to me. Sure, I don’t like the big crowds in London Underground, especially around Oxford Circus - but when I’m walking through Soho, I feel safe and even kind of happy, not scared or stressed out. It’s a big win for me and I’m proud of myself 😊😸☺️
I think it's super important to have someone who will not just be a romantic partner but will be your best friend. While romance is important, I think true friendship is what fuels love so he gotta become my best friend! ALSO! Loved this video and how open you are about what you have been through. You always keep it positive, even when you are talking about negative experiences. I've had a few panic attacks but never really like talking about them. You inspire me to be more open, so thank you!
I've had a difficult time falling asleep these past few days too, and not sleeping as much usually makes me think about life more. Relationships can be complicated. I've found that I imagine I would like to be in a romantic relationship, then I realize how I feel lost and like life is too chaotic that it's a struggle to keep up daily relationships (family, co-workers etc..).
Also I really like the mixture of storytelling, cooking and eating in your videos. It's comforting.
i look for mutual love, effort, chemistry, respect, a desire to be better for ourselves and each other, and agreement on our core beliefs/life goals (aka compatibility)
Je crois vraiment que toutes choses arrivent pour une raison et surtout qu'une chose arrivera quand elle arrivera surtout question romance...c'est tellement compliqué mais rien ne devrait être forcé. Mais je te souhaite de trouver ta personne, pcq au moment venu tu aura gagné dans ton développement personnel peut importe que ce soit en expérience ou en sachant ce que tu recherche vrm chez quelqu'un pour le mieux! 😊
French-Canadian?! Cool. Sorry this is the fist video I've seen of yours. I liked your storytime. Going to check out your channel now.
Cooking while vlogging seems to be more relaxing for you. It's like going to a friend's house to unwind. Your topics are relatable. True, break ups are awkward and hard especially if you entrusted a lot of your emotions in it or the other person never knew how much you truly cared. Don't compare your life to your sister's or any of your friends. We set goals in our lives which means that some other things maybe put on the back burner. Never settle nor do anything that you may regret later. You are still adjusting to the move and changes in your life. Keep your head up and try not to dwell on what could or should have happened. That just torments you more. If you two are able to remain as friends that would be great, but if not remember it was just a moment of memories whether be good or bad. Eventually the pain will fade, but don't let it turn into bitterness or worse. Trust me that is harder to get rid of. Chin up, Look up not down and Cheer up! 🎶♥️
Tes vidéos sont juste trop Nice! I don't even need therapy anymore 😅! I feel like I am just watching my friend talking about life and it's awesome... And I also feel like you just have to be you and you will meet your someone one day!
Hope you can find more time to upload videos like this, it is very comforting to know that somewhere people are experiencing the same thing. And that it is just normal, and I am normal...thank you jeffrey! I believe when it is "the time", you will meet this someone who loves every part of who you are. xxx
I love your videos! Often when you just talk about life I can relate to that and it just feels good to know that there is somebody felling similar. Tbh I am really scared to live alone in the future but you kinda take the scariness away, wich comforts me bout this. Also the whole dating thing…. I wish it would be as easy as it sometimes sounds… but if you search for a deep connection it’s just hard. Anyway you are really cool and I appreciate your honest content! 🖖
Thank you so much!!
just discovered you and subbed. listening to you is like I see myself reflected in another soul. You are such a sweet and thoughtful human, filled with love, I can sense it through the screen.
ahh tysm! Means the world!
i just discovered our channel and daam, you are so chill and I love watching every second of your videeos. Pls dont stop. I also like how you are alone in your videos and talking it feels like you are talking to me about your struggles and I am just listening to you in your room!
means the world!! tysm for being here Tomas!
Your videos are so therapeutic :)
ahh tysm victoria!’ luv u
The moment you stop looking and focus on yourself, gain self confidence and realize you dont need someone but want someone, is when that person will show up in your life. When you let go, it opens the door for someone to come in.
luv this
I’m loving the way you’ve been filming your recent vlogs! It’s great ^^
Glad you like them!
i like this kinda of video where you just enjoy your me-time and talk. please do more!
In a sense, to get over someone, you got under someone. Not in a literal sense, but it's physically acting out in a way to tell your mind that "it's not that deep." Human connection happens in many ways and you always walk away from each with new insight, no matter how small it is. You definitely don't give yourself enough credit. But, I get it. It's hard to think of yourself in a new light when you've been telling yourself the same thing for so long. Keep your mind right. Keep grinding and the right energy will lead you there.
Thank you for sharing Jeffrey! I definitely find love and commitment scary (even though i love the idea if them) and especially after the pandemic, meeting someone is just anxiety inducing. I just feel like i wouldn't know someone was the right person even if they are the one because I'm too scared and anxious.
Yeah I am 25 and never been in a serious relationship. I think I need to focus on bettering myself before I look for a relationship. I tried looking last year on online dating but it just didn't work out. I am so awkward around men that I am attracted to.
I’ve never agreed so much with someone other than myself or was on the same wavelength as someone you have have the same the state of mind that I like.
First focusing on yourself and then if love knocks on your door You’re not going to refuse it but love must be reciprocal and must be added value for each other without forgetting yourself as a person so that is to say be well separated but even better when you are together
Greetings from France 🇫🇷
I love this video format so much!! and I also relate to a lot of things you're sharing, that's comforting :')
It takes time to find the right one, nothing wrong with being single. I’m single for over 6-7yrs and I’m happy still single, doing my thing waiting for mr right. He is out there somewhere, Maybe he’s not ready or maybe I’m not ready.. who knows 🤷🏻♀️
totally!
I don't like casual either. Make me feel empty.
You took her too serious before solidifying if you two were on the same page. Vetting the women you come across is key. You are wholesome and handsome as ever. You are valuable #KnowThat
My first relationship was also my latest! I unconsciously tried to rebound with another one the same year but I came to my senses and realized that it wasn’t love and it wasn’t fair for both of us! 10 years later I decided to try dating apps and realized too that it wasn’t my thing! I stay at home all the time but hoping to meet someone on one of my grocery shopping one day lol! My first criteria for a relationship will be respect! The amount of disrespect people have in any kind of relationship is crazy 😵💫😵💫! First time here and I enjoyed your video! Bonne nuit!
Yeah, no I’m not looking forward to anything anymore 💁🏻♀️… hope it’s just temporary though …
Because, you know, anything end up being higher expectancy… kinda got tired of giving my energies to invaluable, short term nothings… argh now that I write it down 🤦🏻♀️
From someone who’s been married for over 35 years - you will find that your relationship will continue to change throughout your time together, continuing to change and grow… Whether together or not will depend entirely on how much you’re prepared to work at it, nothing comes easily but if you truly “both” try and “both” have the end goal in your sight then your relationship can surely be that of a lifetime together…. You have a wonderfully healthy look on life and relationships - which will bode well for your future long term relationship, I wish you the best of luck in finding your friend - lover - and partner, I look forward to your next video.
At this point can we get a Cooking with Jeffrey series. Seriously, watching you cook that shepherds pie made me hungry. It’s super cute how you called your mom to show her what you’re having for dinner. My advice for romantic relationships is to pay attention to the red flags, no matter how much you love the person don’t disregard the warning signs thinking all will be well.
I love the ending of your videos :)
omg jeffrey a whole chef,, requesting for more cooking videos and talks
Noted!
@@JeffreyChang omggggg yayyy
Wow I love the style of your recent videos so much!!!
Hi Jeffrey I’m kinda going through the same situation. It’s so hard to find that special someone even a long distance relationship. But I feel the same way I hope we find someone in life’s.😔☺️☺️❤️✨
no rush ivyyy!! xx
I agree! I hope we find what we’re looking for in the future only time will tell right.🥰☺️
Hi Jeffrey☺️
J'aime trop ton accent Canadien 🥰 I 've discovered your channel and I find that you are really a beautiful person.
Look for someone based on how they make you feel... supportive, happy for your successes, someone you could rely on and see your future with... similar hobbies, enjoy talking with, feel a sense of safety etc.
Thanks so much for this video! Had a bad day and you made me smile! :)
awe hi kay kay
@@JeffreyChang ☺
not us gliding along on the steamer jeffrey lolol
U said it all there is someone for u great content😊😊
luv u diana
This is the second time I have clicked on your video. Last time it was so relatable that it felt good, but I thought it was a coincidence. But this time too!! I feel like you are pretty emotionally intelligent / stable (yet unstable - hopefully you get what I mean ) and that's great, and according to me- rare.
I look for a great amount of care and understanding (awareness too), equal to what I am capable of giving, maybe that's why I have been single for 6 years now. SUCKs! sometimes...
Loving your content these days, please keep it up if it's something you enjoy doing!!!
Also can you release Better Together on Spotify please?! I love that song 🥺
Hip flexibility envy incurred @3:40 and am now stretching lol!
Im learning so much from your vlogs jefffrey and you are teaching me to be paitent in such a easy access world. thank you
Happy to hear that!
Why do I relate to your videos so much? It literally feels like you're putting words to my thoughts🤣. Thank you so much for another amazing video. Keep it up!🤗 It's very soothing.
PS. I liked the way you defined "LOVE"
Glad you like them!
Love the story time and the content but can we please talk about the neighbours cat drinking out of the water fountain?? That is the chill I need in my life. What a specimen.
Rebound is not the answer. I mean, I guess it's always good to try new things and see what works for you, but it's always better to focus on yourself.
I’m tired of looking for the ideal person I would like to be with tbh. I am no longer looking at myself and saying is there something wrong with me for not being in a relationship. I think my standards are not clearly defined as what I really need than what I want and that’s something I am working on atm. Once you give up the fear of being alone “single” you start to enjoy life more without limit & I hope the ONE finally comes. I am learning now not to define my worth by things such as work or relationships. My worth was here when I was born.
Thank you for being honest with your life, I look forward to these videos every week 🌸
I'm so glad!
3:56 this cat is HUGE and I love it!
Been following you for 5 years and tbh Im enjoying these vlogs a lot keep them up!
ahhh tysm
it's like im having a conversation with a boy friend who cooks well. i miss my friends
i love this i needed to hear all of it.
Short advice: forget the pain but never what it taught u ❤️
Love you❤️
Well. That question is plenty complicated. Most of my life (I'm 20 rn) i spent looking for love and boyfriends but ended up with incomplete situationships and crushes that hurt me so much. I was even in love with one of those crushes for three straight years.
Till literally last year. I was firm on the idea of... Finding a boyfriend as if it's a checklist. Like it's a mandatory task without which I'm incomplete. But then since then I've started to realise that it's very okay to be single. Much like you i kind of madeout with a stranger? It was my first kiss but ngl i don't regret it. To an extent due to my cultural upbringing I'm happy it was this way.
I've also realised that I'll be very busy in the coming months and years. I've to relocate, I've to do a lot of things. And tbvh it's okay if i don't date till i find someone who doesn't feel... Right.
I've decided that I'll try the hookup situation for when i feel like it. But that my relationship status won't decide my worth. And that somewhere down the line. When it's supposed to happen- I'll find someone.
You give a lot to someone you're dating. And i don't think I'm at that stage anymore. So yeap.
As for whom I'm supposed to date or what i want in a relationship... I have a few checkmarks. But the most important is "vibe check". I should be comfortable with them. And our core values should match. And my partner should see my worth as i am. The rest. I won't mind finding the right one and seeing. Beauty lies in so many humans- never stops to fascinate me how unique everyone is.
I feel like preferences put a huge block on the kinds of relationships/connections u can make with people. There are some factors to consider like religion/financial/cultural upbringings but these definitely can be looked past if it means to work things out. I’ve been rejected mainly because of my body size tho we had strong emotional connections and I think a lot of people need to see that physical looks isn’t the end all be all to make a relationship work. Worst is when they’re racist/misogynist/homophobic etc. character speaks so much more than just looks.
Physical attraction matters just as much as emotional, in my opinion. I feel it is better to be with someone who accepts you as you are over someone who is forcing themselves because emotionally you guys work, but on the physical side it's not cutting it for them.
@@Rezzmari nah physical attraction is very subjective, I’ve seen rly good looking people with absolutely unattractive people. Some of these unattractive people don’t have a good personality either. It depends on what u settle for eventually, if it means to kill your loneliness. Peace out.