How the Miscarriage in Bluey Changes EVERYTHING (Exploring Emotional Distress of Miscarriages)
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Heya Buddies, today we will be reviewing and analyzing the confirmed Miscarriage in Bluey and how it changes how we look at the characters, episodes, and just about everything. We will also be exploring the emotional distress caused by an event like this and how it reflect the characters traits & qualities as a whole. Bluey season 3 Disney Plus Review analysis
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Dunno when this Morgan & Morgan became a thing, but I wish my family and I knew about that a few years ago when my parents ended up in a really bad accident that resulted in my mom having to go to the hospital because of how badly she was injured. She’s doing fine for the most part now (and the guy who caused the accident is still imprisoned I believe) but there are problems she goes through because of the accident that she may have to live with for the rest of her life. It’s honestly a miracle that she survived (and I don’t even believe in miracles all that much), and though I had issues with her a couple years after the accident, things are good between me and her and I do my best to cherish the times I spend with her
Also, I didn’t know there was a special name for people who were born after a miscarriage :o My sister was born after a miscarriage (which happened a year or two after I was born), so she’s a rainbow baby too! Dang, I’ve been jealous of her for the majority of my life, but now I’ve got another reason to be (I love rainbows) 😂 It’s all good though because I get along with her, and I’m in fact happy that she’s a rainbow baby. And can confirm that miscarriages can make a father even more devoted because my dad’s one of the most devoted people I know. Working really hard so that he can support the family, does his best to help us in any way he can, is awesome to be around, and he gives great advice (most of the time)
Anyway, this was a great video! It actually reminded me of my mom telling me this morning about a relative of ours who had been trying to have a child for a few years, but had been unsuccessful and there was actually a reason for it (sadly I forgot the name of the diagnosis and the details other than something in her wasn’t in the right place which was why she miscarried and couldn’t make it through the first stage). But fortunately, she’s been doing well and I think sometime next week she’ll be 23 weeks pregnant! I’m super happy for her and will definitely get her a present when possible!
Anyway, again, great video! I don’t have a Twitter but I’d love to make fanart for you sometime (not sure when as I’m taking care of myself due to some issues I’ve been having lately, and motivation can be difficult for me to hold on to), especially since you’re pretty much the reason I got into enjoying Bluey episodes (and your character is cute! I love pugs!)
@@FormerlyMantisDragon1995 really happy to hear that my videos got you into bluey, that’s such a big honor for me. Sorry to hear about the accident that happened to your family buddy but it sounds like everyone turned out okay in the end. And I’m wishing your relative luck in her pregnancy 💙
I appreciate you wanting to make fan art for me buddy, if you don’t have twitter you can always shoot me a message on my other stuff like insta or my emails :)
@@Pugly Ah yes, email would probably be preferable for now. I’ve been thinking about having a new start on Instagram, but for now, baby steps :)
And thank you, I appreciate you and your kind words, especially since the last few years have been rough in some ways, but they’ve been good in others. And thank you for the luck, my relative will definitely need it, but I think all will go well in the end 😌 Anyway, can’t wait to see what Bluey video you upload next! I know it’ll be great like all the other videos of yours!
@@FormerlyMantisDragon1995 know I’m a little late, but I just read this. I wish your relatives and family the best I can, and I hope the pregnancy goes better then perfect. Sorry to hear about the accident. You can have some hearts: ❤❤❤
@@user-ps6yk6.vw5o Aww thank you! I appreciate you and the kind words you posted! Hopefully with the extra luck, all will turn out well! And thank you for the condolences, my parents (my mom especially) are doing the best they can to continue living their lives after the accident. Additionally, have some hearts as well ❤️❤️❤️
There's a strong possibility that Chili was pregnant when her mother passed away and the stress from that happening is what caused her to miscarry. It would explain why it took so long for her to mention her mom in even the most minor of ways because that loss was twice as traumatic for Chili.
I actually remember hearing that idea from a video from Aussie, its such a shocking and terrifying thought but it gives me chills with the idea alone
I think the idea of miscarriages being due to emotions was debunked but it would definitely make it worse
That's even sadder
There's actually no evidence that stress can cause miscarriages. That's a myth - and it can actually be harmful, because it perpetuates the idea that women who miscarry did something to cause it, when that's just not true. The vast majority, if not ALL, miscarriages are believed to be caused by genetic defects in the embryo that absolutely no one could have helped.
The mother dying was oof. Then the miscarriage comes in with a bigger OOOOF!
Honestly, Bluey is a shining example of what young children programming should be. Entertaining, but capable of instilling good morals and understanding of what hardships others may face
It's true Adult Animation. Adult topics tackled with Intelligence rather than Adult programming being Toilet humor.
Not only that it helps engage parents (if they take the time to watch shows with their kids) and instill good morals and parenting approaches to them as well as examples of how to approach difficult topics with their children if and when they arise. Overall it’s a fantastic family show. That’s made me reflect on the value of being a parent, even though I’m not one nor did I have any intention of being one.
@@silverhawkscape2677 It isn’t adult animation. The show is directed mainly toward kids. Not that it changes anything, and honestly is just all the more impressive. So many people at least in the US have become more and more restrained on what we talk about to the point that something of this topic probably wouldn’t be considered on a American kids show. We encourage the idea that children are idiots that can’t handle topics like this and need to be talked down to all the time. It’s just unfortunate.
Bluey manages to avoid the sin that lots of children's programs, especially preschool ones, commit. It doesn't think that kids are stupid.
@@silverhawkscape2677 it’s not adult animation, what?💀 adult animation is family guy, American dad, inside job, big mouth and Rick and morty.
Bluey is clearly a kids show, just because it covers certain topics doesn’t make it for adults. It’s aimed for kids, obviously 😂
I hate how jealous i am about a cartoon family being more stable and caring than alot of irl family.
I never watched this show and after watching this episode I thought about watching this series to heal my broken childhood a little bit. I heard that meditation with reliving situations from childhood in better way is used as healing method so I hope watching a series when someone is explaining life to you in a good way could also be can be healing. I see how it goes.
I think my inside child will enjoy this series a lot, like it did with Gravity falls 😊
I share this sentiment, I don't hate this show or the people enjoying it, far from it. But I sometimes get bitter that I couldn't have parents who tried. At least this show could potentially inspire people who wish to start a family to be the best version of themselves
*Looks at the criminal awfulness of my childhood*
I watched Bluey in a hotel with my family and I got so sad/happy because of the family bound and my family was confused why I liked it and when Bandit was hung up and hit with a bat they started calling it abuse even though they were just having fun and I genuinely got distressed 😂 I didn’t act it, of course I tried to to defend the show, but I wasn’t crying or raising my voice but there was a pressure in me building. I understand we will never be a good family but why do you have to tease me for wanting one lol 😂
I watched the first episode, thinking it would comfort me. Instead, I felt jealous and very upset because of all the good things it showed me that I never had and will never have. I knew my childhood was fricked up but I didn’t know it was *that* fricked up cuz of how much I’ve normalized abuse, neglect, and poor parenting. Seeing this normal healthy family makes me realize how bad mine has been. It reveals how fricked up even the smallest details of my childhood are by showing a healthy alternative to it. But it’s not comforting because as my inner child says: I don’t want something I can’t have. I want something I can have.
I also feel jealous of the people who do feel comforted by Bluey because they are super valid. And I wish I did feel comforted by Bluey instead,
Another angle to approach the parental guilt from is this: there is a sort of stigma on miscarriages as being the mother's "fault". People will say that the mother wasn't careful about what she ate or made some other mistake. I even once saw some guy blame the mother because she was a frigid, unfeeling bitch and was thus unable to carry a child. For context on that one, it was a 'Nice Guy tm' who was angry the woman refused to cheat on her husband with him, and his solution was to mock the death of a baby. I think people like to make miscarriages the result of one's own ineptitude as a shield, like what often happens with disabilities; If this thing is do to a failure rather than bad luck or an accident, that means it will never happen to me.
I wouldn't be surprised that's why some people mentally shield themselves from subject matters such as these, unfortunately (most people often fall into this mental trap to make themselves feel better, and it often speaks more about them then the people they're projecting onto). U_U
Sounds like that guy should work on himself rather than put pressure on other people to be unfaithful.
So sorry for that poor woman's loss.
There's also the guilt of feeling like one should be sadder. Depending on the person, stage of pregnancy, and other factors, a miscarriage may not necessarily feel eventful. Because it doesn't feel eventful, this can cause someone to feel guilt over not feeling anything.
@@ness7342 I've heard about that happening. I think it has something to do with blood types. Some people just aren't compatible with each other, and a lot of them are unable to conceive with each other at all. As for "they've never heard of that happening", there are so many holes in that argument that it can be used as a fishing net.
@@ness7342 I'm so sorry this happened to you and your first husband, it must had been very painful to go through. I'm also sorry people were so cruel to you, and accused you of something so out of your control.
I'm glad I don't know any people who expressed opinions like those around me.
The saddest part about this topic is that a lack of fertility, or frequent miscarriage, can even be a genetically inherited trait. So not only did the balloon remind Bandit and Chili of what happened, but it probably made them worry one of their kids would go through it too.
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I just thinking about that if there is something wrong with there genes I mean if her sister has infertility problem and her loosing a child has well has there mother dying while she was pregnant they might be a fualt and with bingo haveing the same color has the sisters that might be a chance of the fault passing on
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Well, that's the thing. With genetics, anything can happen. So it might not even be Bingo that inherits those kinds of genes, it could be Bingo, Bluey, both, or neither.
Man, this keeps on getting more depressing. But at the same time, I love the character depth, and the interpretations.
Aw man, and the likelihood is higher because of Chilis sister being infertile
Miscarriages are so weird for everyone, my mom had one when I was about 3 years old, one that clinically killed her for 15 minutes, but whenever she tells me the story she looks at me and goes “but I knew I couldn’t die even if it was the most peaceful I had ever been, because you were at home waiting for me, and that’s why I came back.” It made me really happy to hear that, ngl. And I asked her if she ever misses that unborn baby, she said she does but right after that baby my brother was born so it was like that baby was given back to her, and she loves him I think even more than me so, yeaaaahh
I still think she has a warm place for you too
Tmi?
@@thedreaded Not Tmi. I asked.
@@thedreaded Tmi?? you willingly clicked on a video that has miscarriage on the title. wouldn’t you also assume some comments might bring up miscarriage as well ??
@@aaaccc7173 This.
With the solar system symbolism: Jupiter is known to redirect dangerous asteroids away from planets using its powerful gravity, like a protector. The sun is already known as the giver of all life so....yeah. Really beautiful symbolism.
I never really thought about that Jupiter symbolism, I’m writing that down, that’s amazing. Thank you buddy
Adding to this, every crater on the moon is an impact the moon took instead of the Earth. The dark side of the moon, which never faces Earth, is absolutely covered in craters, far more than the light side. We never knew just how much the moon did for us until the fifties and sixties, a blink of an eye in the history of the solar system.
@@thispersonwriting1889 To be fair, the moon doesn't have an atmosphere for space debris to burn up in. We get TONS of meteorites/ shooting stars, and the bulk of them burn up before they hit the surface. The better analogy is that by hanging with the earth, the moon is taking on what it's not equipped to... closer to the "big girl bark"/ yoga ball episode where Bingo can't handle the same rough play that Bluey can.
Bandit protects his little girls from the generational trauma, and Mercurys too close for even weather to form. Mercury is literally too small to survive...
Jupiter is also the name of Zeus in Roman mythology. Father of the pantheon. F%$# me this show is wicked deep.
This reminds me of uncle iroh so much in how after a tragedy of losing his son he became a better father figure for Zuko and helped many others
Omg good example, I love avatar
Rest in peace Iroh.
Iroh is a great example of how to heal from child loss. No child will ever replace the one who died, but you can spread your love for the passed on child to other children in your life. This is why I wish more people considered things like mentoring, fostering, working with kids, even older child adoption. There are few things as special as hearing a young person thank you for being a positive influence in their life. I'm a social worker without any children and it is seeing kids succeed that keeps me going despite the terrible pay and employee treatment lol.
It's a small thing, but I believe it was Sticky Gecko where Chilli mentions Wendy having baked and given her a lot of lasagnas when Bluey was born. A very kind act Chilli has not forgotten.
And while being heavily pregnant or a new mother herself. It was a huge thing she had done, even if she was exhausted herself she put so much thought and care towards supporting her neighbours.
You sir are correct
Yes.
Hello, I successfully carried my son and he's 5 now, and then I had 3 miscarriages, one including twins. Having one child on earth and four in heaven has hurt. While I know I've never been alone, the more miscarriages you have, the more alone you feel. I've been to doctors, it's not a fertility issue, for some reason I'm just not going beyond 6 weeks. The journey to give my son a sibling has been a complicated and hurtful journey, but it's not done. The doctor and another friend of mine (who also had 3 miscarriages) have given me hope to try one more time. Right now it's just waiting for the right time. At the same time, I've come to the acceptance that even if it doesn't happen naturally, my son could still get a sibling in terms of adoption.
Let's just say I feel closer to Chilli every time I see these analysis videos.
Have you considered a surrogate mother? The child would still be yours genetically, but if your system won't hold a child to term, how about a substitute?
I know adopting would be better in some ways because there are so many children in need of parents, but the US government (and apparently Australia?) has made adopting children nearly impossible if you're not extremely well-off financially.
@@Lycanthromancer1 That last part is understandable. The government wants the child to go to a good and healthy home that can support them in every way possible, including financially.
Onesies and Brandy’s character both really resonated with me/hit home hard, as I am in my early 40’s, chronically single and have wanted to be a mum since I was 8! I have had to accept that it was my dream but not my destiny. I have my nieces and nephew, my cousins’ children, friends’ babies who have given me non-biological auntie status too. I also work in childcare, so have “heart children” that I have bonded with and am still in touch with now.
I'm really sorry for your loss...
@@sniderealism2410 Problem is, it's much harder than it has any reason to be. Lots of families want a child and can easily afford one, but the system is set up to sell children at a major profit, which unfortunately means that there are a LOT of children who never get adopted and a lot of loving families can't adopt because most people can't afford them.
Keep in mind, I don't have direct experience with the system; just going by discussions I've read on the subject.
it's such a good representation for mothers who have been through the same situation.
It’s weird. Before me my mother was pregnant whit her second child. She had a miscarriage and then she got pregnant again whit me. But she is not sad at all! She jokes about it and she even told me that when the miscarriage happened she wasn’t upset at all 🤷♀️
@@grAnita- thats good for your mother but not all mothers are so okay with that, my aunt had a miscarriage and it was traumatizing for her, she fell into depression and got very attached to her first child which is very unhealthy for her and her child so, its not "weird" everyone deals with trauma differently!
@@mr.sunnydays I meant that it’s weird how different people react so differently to the same situation. I’m sorry for your aunt btw
@@grAnita- my mum wasn’t upset either, although that’s probably because she wasn’t very far along yet, so she wasn’t as attached. Maybe your mum was the same?
@@grAnita- I’d say trauma effects us all differently. The experience itself was probably very traumatizing, and taxing on her, but she’s been able to heal, and cope with it differently than others. I wouldn’t say she doesn’t care, or that it doesn’t effect her, it’s just different!
I feel like there's potential for an adoption episode featuring Brandi. How adoption doesn't mean they're any less of a part of the family, etc.
I would love that.
Yea but they're still not really your kids, they're someone else's.
@@mrpickles-hb6zxthey are still family
@@mrpickles-hb6zx blood ties doesn't really matter when you accept them as family. The kid you took in is your kid, no less than any biological one
@@mrpickles-hb6zxbiologically yes but they are your kids too by heart.
A lot of people theorize that bluey is a rainbow baby, but because of the baby room and the early promotional posters depicting chili pregnant, I think the misarrange happened after bluey and bingo. it could change how everything can be contextualized. it can carry the message " pick yourself up, and dust yourself off and keep going" as where chili had to push through for her kids, and could be why bandit has a very active role with his kids so he could let chili heal.
THANK YOU!!! I've been saying thisss! The line about "picking yourself back up because THE OTHER CHILDREN STILL NEED CARE" makes no sense if Bluey, the oldest, is a rainbow baby! It's possible that it was before Bingo, but with the baby room it was most likely after.
I have been thinking too
It's in the text provided and I think he missed it completely ""But the key aspect of the experience relevant to this episode was the fact that her other children needed taking care of" implying that they were indeed already born.
@sheppish and @Jay Lee Oh that text was in reference to the unnamed persons experience and not chili, I mentioned that around the part where I talk about the room episode haha
@@Pugly ohh! Okay! I definitely thought it was referencing Chili! Thanks for the clarification:)
I think Bluey looking so much like her father, which is blatantly stated by Brandy of course, may also play a role in Brandy not getting upset at Bluey's birth, as it would help to disassociate her from Chilli and herself and see her more as Bandit's child. And with Bingo that was no longer possible. It is in fact the first thing we see her associate with Bluey. Though I feel like you already alluded to that yourself.
It’s even possible brandy didn’t find out she couldn’t have babies until before bingo was born but after bluey. She is younger after all.
@@carterpitbull7366 This is what I thought, that after Chilli had Bluey, THEN Brandi got pregnant and lost her child. It's also possible the two were pregnant at the same time, and while Bingo survived, Brandi's baby did not. Brandi may also have miscarried or simply failed to conceive multiple times.
17 years of trying to be a mom, with 4 miscarriages, really wiped me out. I'm a mother now by adoption and I love my daughter more than anything in the world, but the pain of losing those desperately wanted children will never diminish. I'm sorry for every other parent out there who ever felt this loss.
I'm so sorry that happened, but I'm also happy that you have someone to care for. Love and prayers.
I would also like to point out that a throwaway joke in one episode is Bandit having a conversation with another adult about how he would like to be fixed, but Chilli wants to 'keep her options open'.
So them breaking down the baby room could also be Chilli finally accepting they will only have two children
Update: I gave birth to twins on 6/22 of this year. They're early and in the NICU, but they are doing well. I got a double rainbow! I hope anyone else who's suffered through miscarriages see this and are encouraged. Thank God for his miracles
I lost my first two children in miscarriage very recently, one right after the other. I've developed an anxiety disorder from it and have been going to therapy. My husband and I are trying again. Even if it's a cartoon, watching Chilli is so comforting to me. I hope we get our rainbow soon. We've always wanted a lot of children.
Wishing you all the best and really hope you will soon have your rainbow baby! It takes a lot of strength to live with a loss, let alone two, but I am sure you and your husband will be happy!
You are very strong and brave
Bless you. Bless you above. God bless.
Wish you the best!
Bless you sweetheart. Best wishes to you, brave one
It could be possible that chilli had a miscarriage twice one before bluey and one after bingo, because mercury(before bluey) is unhatched and mars(after bingo) is also unhatched, it could explain why they kept all baby stuff in ep bedroom. Or maybe chilli and bandit wanted to try for a third childe but they never did it because they were worried that another miscarriage would happen. And in ep perfect when Bandit was talking to Fido about vasectomy/neutering bandit said that Chilli wants to keep her options open
Oh wow this would make sense! Sind most of the fandom is kinda spilt between when the miscarriage happend and it would fit with the hits we have.
I can see that being the case but I don’t want it to be for poor Chilli
In one of the later episodes that's censored on D+, Bandit openly talks with a neighbour about Chili wanting another another while he's considering a vasectomy (a quick and reversible procedure nowadays). This discussion is swiftly interrupted by a nutshot, though.
This is freakin deep!!!!
@@papertigerworkshop1174 reversible?? Huh??
Thanks for the shoutout! It's not that people are celebrating the morbidity of the characters past, it's just kind of refreshing to see these subjects in a kids show. So many shows shy away from the "darker" subjects, but it's just life. Kids are gonna know about these things sooner or later and it's nice to have it be relatable, to some degree.
I want to add Hey Arnold! to that list too. It addressed very dark topics in a way a child could understand and emphasize with.
The shows are not bad for replicating the methods and answering to the demand of their audience, who DO rationalize safety as OMISSION of things. And this is largely the demand in parnetless behavior where, well, the infatnilization justified with "not having to grow up too fast" is based on OMISSION, of... one thing and another.
What results is kids having to ACTUALLY grow up fast, overnight at an arbitrary date of 18 years old, and creeping ever so later. And throughout all that childhood you raise them to a chosrus of adults being MOCKED for their C.S. Lewis style of appreaciating and elevating childish things. Essentially, you throw children under the bus by SAYING that lacking things ARE for children, resenting the nature of INCLUDED things for being INCLUSIVE to children.
And that's where the balming "it's just mush" comes from. Now you try to move on blaming ANYTHING you can think of as being "bad", or "nothing but mush" because it's morre important to find something to blame rather than understanding it's qualities. If mush is for somebody else than children, now you're just trying to transfer your previous resentment of children onto resentment of whatever it is you call mush.
Exactly, I myself had a miscarriage when I was 20-21yrs and my baby sister was around 3-4yrs old and even tho was little, she still could see I was sad and understood that I no longer was able to have a baby.
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That's some good insight! And makes sense, though I'd argue that kids growing up quicker doesn't always just happen due to the art/media they consume, sometimes it's based off of their circumstances in life. A lot of kids that grow up faster now are way more likely to do so based off of how much the Internet/social media has changed things societally and culturally, and depending on how their parents/family/communities raise them.
Theres also the overall theme of depression coming from both Chili and Bandit. They arent shown to be happy all the time but they've been shown to handle their emotions in a healthy way rather than lashing out on their children. And on top of that when one parent is feeling down, the other makes sure to explain it to Bluey and Bingo instead of keeping it from them because they're "just kids"
My moms friend didn't suffer a miscarriage, but her daughter died at a few months from unknown causes. It was terrible, but things are going well now, as shes pregnant again and we think it'll work out this time. Send her good wishes please, the baby is due in a month.
Edit (june 22) The baby was born! Shes healthy and a bit early, 5 pounds and 17 in. thanks for the love!
I hope her delivery goes smoothly and that you all will be celebrating in a month’s time!
Good wishes to her. She obviously has a lot of love in her heart to give. She’s very strong. I’m sure that baby could use a brave mom like her.
Sending love and well wishes for your friend and her beautiful lil bundle of joy 😊💕💐🌈🍼🎂🎉
I hope everything goes well. I can’t even imagine that pain. Please give her my wishes that her baby is and will continue to be happy and healthy, and lives a long, loving life.
I hope everything goes well! I will be praying for her and her baby!
I know that there is the theory that Chilli possibly had two miscarriages, based off the quote and off of some evidence in some episodes, particularly Sleepytime. You have two planets in between the Sun (Chilli) and Jupiter (Bandit) that have not hatched: Mercury which is before Venus (Bluey) and Mars which is after Earth (Bingo). There is the possibility that Chilli has had two miscarriages, one before Bluey and one after Bingo.
could be that Brandy tried to keep herself distant and let Chili be happy when Bingo was born, but then the second miscarriage happened and Chili tried going to Brandy for comfort, who wasn't emotionally available for that and the fight happened.
Im starting to really like this theory, even though its incredibly sad.
@@cheezbiscuit4140 this makes sense. Chilly needing comfort because her baby died, but Brandy not being able to emotionally help because "you already had two. Why don't you just be grateful for what you have?" I can see why the fight may have happened..
Especially when you see the age gap between the two kids. That's perfect space for two miscarriages and Bandit fathering while she cries.
This was my first thought when he mentioned the line in the book about "her other children still needed her," and how it was about a third person, but that some people thought it was about Chili.
"Why can't it be both?" It'd be tragic, sure, but so is having *any* miscarriages.
I just had a miscarriage last week (that I am still going through) and this video was weirdly very healing. My husband and I want to be amazing parents like Chilli and Bandit and I get that they are animated and fictional but even realizing they have gone through something similar has me incredibly hopeful.
I’m very sorry to hear about that, I’m wishing you well for your future, and that one day you will be able to get what you truly want. Don’t give up 💙
I'm so sorry. Love and prayers.
I'm sorry to hear that I hope you are feeling a bit better now.
One thing I always think about is that, while author intent is very useful, unintentional symbolism and imagery can be just as important and impactful. I'm not sure the people behind Bluey actually intended the double rainbows of Rain to represent the kids as "rainbow babies", for example. It's very possible it was an intentional reference, but my point is that even if it wasn't, that doesn't mean we can't connect it that way. The audience finding meanings in art that weren't intended is part of the experience of enjoying art. So while I am happy the miscarriage theory was confirmed, as it helps more people see these meanings, I don't think the theory would hold any less weight if we never got this confirmation.
I think this idea gets lost in modern media analysis sometimes, because people are very occupied with what is "canon" to a particular series. And also because more than ever, we're very aware of how important it is for underrepresented topics to be shown clearly. But the concept of "death of the author" is still useful, and we can still find new meaning that the creators weren't putting in intentionally.
You just said something I hold very close and dear to my heart, I’m a firm believer in having people create their own interpretations and thoughts about art. I believe art is subjective and it can be summarized as “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” where everyone is free to create their own feelings from their own perspective. Heck the studios themselves always say some messages are left vague so we can create our own meanings
Finally, someone on the internet recognizes this. :>>>>>>
Yes, very true. I've experienced this particularly with certain art/media that is meant to be psychologically stimulating for the audience (I sometimes watch psychological horror/thrillers, and various franchises encourage it to some degree, like with the Silent Hill games).
Sometimes it can annoying when people search up unintentional symbolism/imagery and try to make themselves sound pretentious when communicating their art/media analysises (the general pretentiousness, or the fear of sounding pretentious to other people, tends to chase off people doing much analysises with unintentional symbolism/imagery, in my experience). Which is a shame because there's people that can help with understanding most art/media better and making it more enjoyable, as well as connecting dots to things/seeing things creatively that most people wouldn't think of otherwise!
@@Pugly I got a perfect example of that from the creators of DHMIS. When asked about what theory on their web show is "canon", they just essentially say all of them.
I actually hold a theory that the fight was because of things chilli's mom left her.
Chilli has some of her mom/dads war ribbons and I could imagine that they got left to her "since chilli has kids to pass them down to."
Something like that would put a rift between the two sisters for sure.
But when they reunite, they are on good terms, even if Brandy still feels uncomfortable and needs to take the healing breath before approaching the door. Chilli asks her if she's okay after she and Brandy are both "attacked". The separation had really started four years prior, when Bingo was born. Being unable to have kids at all and then your sister having two can be tough to deal with.
@@tranatkikomi6873 well yes theres that. But if brandy is having more dificulties having them and then someone throws it in her face, that may have been what started the actual fight that caused her to separate.
Um. So. After funerals the family members possessions are often heaped in the yard or the house gutted and each of the kids take what they want most, slowly winding down to just scraps. Soooo... It's a bit of a grimmer thing.
@@Topdoggie7 yeah that can happen but doesnt always. War metals are typically given to particular people.
@@connienoland8400 I'm saying they belonged to her grandparents and her mother got them, and she got them from her mother's stuff.
I try to avoid fandom interpretations that feel edgy at all, but this doesnt.. bluey is such a gentle show and any interpretation that could lead to feeling comforted, or any kind of catharsis can only help the viewer. Bluey covers a lot of emotional highs and lows in an elegant, subtle way. Lots of things are never outright stated, but I could believe this.
Bandit is such a great husband. As soon as he sees the balloon popping, he immediately goes for Chilli's hand, because he knows what that could trigger on her. Such a small but nice touch
I'm a rainbow baby, my mom had 7 miscarriages before me. I don't really know how it affects her, because I don't notice anything change about her when she's told me about it.
I love bluey, I wish I had it as a show when I was growing up, but it's good to watch either way, it's very beautiful visually, and the stories are meaningful (unlike something like peppa pig)
that's funny, since bluey was in part inspired by peppa pig! i'd argue peppa pig focuses more on the community and lessons in diversity, whereas bluey focuses more on the family and self, processing emotions and thoughts and finding solutions to hard situations
That scene of Bandit saying "I promise I'll always love you", even though they might not hear him, breaks me every single time. It's so difficult to look at a cartoon for kids and wish that's what you'd had. Both being able to watch it as an actual kid, but also the unconditional love and respect.
As someone who works with kids, I see this as a great show for them. It’s hell of a lot better than Peppa. This show isn’t afraid to talk about difficult topics, which is great.
My Mother had a miscarriage before she had me and then my brother. The only thing she also could do was to cry. My Mother is my rock, she truly is. Can’t imagine the pain she went through
I can't believe that Chilli's miscarriage theory is canon. It's so sad.😭
Unfortunately it’s a more common reality for women than what people think, especially for a first time pregnancy. Pregnancy is such an insane process, and sometimes things go wrong, and there’s nothing that anyone can really do about it. Everything could’ve been perfect, but if the body senses something wrong, then it’ll take the reins and say “time to start over”.
Obviously, it’s hard to talk about it. It’s a devastating and private process, so no one really talks about it, but it isn’t some rare thing that makes you an unfit mother.
Ikr, sadly it happens and hope that it helps for those who suffer that loss ❤️💔
It always was.
I remember the clip going around about Bandit wanting a vasectomy and how that got changed in the Disney version. Bandit mentioned that Chili wants to keep her options open while Bandit seems to be done with just 2 kids. Now knowing that what the impact of her miscarriage and her sister's infertility issues had on Chili. I feel like that statement carries a bit more weight to it.
As a mother of a stillborn baby girl
I wanted to say thank you for how well you made this video. The compassion and education behind this video is beautiful.
Chilis lessons are ones I needed to hear.
My rainbow baby is a dog, maybe it sounds silly but I know others who have gone through this.
I saw the affects you mentioned (without knowing previously) with myself and my husband with our dog.
I always laughed about how “he should win the best dog dad award” and it’s touching that blueys dad won that award.
The excitement, the guilt, the fear you mentioned with a rainbow baby is the same I have for my dog. Every night I worry he will pass early, I take him to the vet over every little thing. I’m glad this show shared that.
I’ve avoided bluey because I know it will bring up a lot about my childhood I’m simply not ready for, but I am so glad I clicked this video.
Edit: the sisters issues make so much sense. It’s been hard for me watching my friend have a baby, healthy and alive, I’m so happy for her but it’s been hard. I quit going to family events for about 5 years because I couldn’t be around babies.
I saw this not for pitty, I hate when people say sorry for my loss, I say low this to express the accuracy I see in this video and show.
This is truly a beautiful video in so many ways.
I have another interpretation on Brandy in Onesies, one thing that is called out is how much Bingo looks like Brandy, and there is a lot of emphasis on Bingo during the episode, and it seems that a lot of her emotions come from Bingo, as miscarriage can happen at any term of the pregnancy, i always assumed that what happened with Brandy is that she was pregnant around the time Chilli was having Bingo and that likely she knew that the baby was a red heeler too, so i always thought her breaking point came with Bingo's birthday because maybe her child should have been there too , specially since Chilli is very understanding a concerned about her sister emotions by being around bingo specifically.
I've had 5 losses with no reason found. I have PTSD. I so appreciate Bluey addressing this. Soon, I know my niece will ask. I have a way to explain now. , YOUR APPROACH just thank you.
I’m so sorry to hear about your losses, and I pray that you will someday not only get a reason as to why but most of all get the child you want after the pain you’ve went through 💙
Maybe I'm going out on a limb here, but perhaps Chilli's miscarriage(s) was/were also the reason why she was struggling to relax in "Relax" and Bandit was struggling to process his emotions in "Stickbird" and "Duck Cake".
This is a very hard topic to talk about but it's so important to raise awareness. Women who suffer miscarriages, are often guilt tripped into staying silent as not make everyone sad. We end up suffering alone. I can relate because I have 2 daughters and I've had miscarriages in between my girls. I honestly thought I'd never get pregnant again after having 2 miscarriages in the same year but I ended up with a surprise "baby!:
There is this theory that the miscarriage happened after Bingo was born
I can't imagine all the grief that Bandit and Chilli went through...
I haven't heard that one,at least I think I haven't
Normally people point out the age gap for the time when it happened.
I saw a theory that there was two, before bluey and after bingo. In the episode with the planets there’s two unhatched planets alongside bluey and bingo. But damn that’s sad af.
@@carterpitbull7366 yeah it is very sad
It also makes it more heart warming when Chili starts tearing up and says again at the end of the episode. My interpretation was that even through all that mental anguish, seeing her babies remind her of the joy of having Bluey and how strong Bingo is now was the light in her heart to push forward and want a second child or at the least remind her it was all worth it.
I'm in Brandy's situation. I've had a miscarriage even after never really wanting kids it still was traumatic to go through only to then be told a few years later that you have a negative chance of ever getting pregnant and might have to have your ovaries removed soon. Seeing this theory confirmed and how the episode handles it gives a bit of hope and reassurance that we can keep going even if all we can do is cry.
I think chili may have had 2 miscarriages. Mars is also unhatched in sleepy time and it would also make sense as to why the nursery room was still there well after bingo grew out of it.
Bingo is a golden baby since she was born after a rainbow baby ❤
Haha ya know I saw that term and I was like hmmm, I’m not sure how to integrate it into the script haha. Maybe the fact that she is orange but I couldn’t find a clever way to include it 😅
"I promise I'll always love you" Haven't had a simple line make me choke up so fast in a long time, dang that struck a chord...
I love the series. It represents so many kinds of people, and isn't afraid to bring up topics like this. It's brilliant!
Rewatching the show through the lens of this new information makes my own life make a lot more sense. I am a rainbow baby. My mom had two miscarriages before I was born. I realize now that the crib in my infant bedroom probably wasn't originally for me but the brothers or sisters who were never born. I was often annoyed with how overprotective my parents could be but now seeing Bluey I can look at it a little more from their perspective and realize where some of that was coming from.
I've never watched Bluey. This showed up as one of TH-cam's random suggestions and I'm glad I watched this. I've never seen a children's show handle such mature topics in such a child friendly way. Might need to watch Bluey now...
Personally i feel this is a topic that should be addressed more in all media. People dont often know how common miscarriages are and how they affect a family as a whole. 1 in 4 couples will experience a miscarriage at some point. I found out i was a rainbow baby around middle school age because my mother felt it was important for my sister and i to know of her and my fathers history of fertility struggles. She had failed to become pregnant after years of trying then a medication helped them have my sister. They used the same medication and unfortunately miscarried their 2nd pregnancy, then tried again and got me.
Long story short, its important to discuss these things. I feel vastly more prepared now for the struggle my husband and i may have but have hopes as my sister had no struggle having my wonderful nephews who i adore
I didn't need the miscarriage theory confirmed. I was certain it was true. Still, it's cool to have it be cannon.
While Chilli is obviously the focus here, I love that neither the show nor you ignore Bandit's feelings. He surely mourns his lost child as well but it makes him a better person and father. That's true of both parents and it's beautiful
I have loved Chilli as a character since the start and hearing all of this being canon was an eye opener. I relate more to her sister, as I too am infertile, though due to uterine cancer. It’s a hard thing to get through and I know there’s other ways to become a parent it really messes with you mentally.
"I know about the transfiguration, i know about it, i know there is no way to stop the heartbreak, what do you do about that?"
"you cry"
-Midnight Gospel, when Duncan was interviewing his mother, who had metastatic breast cancer, about how to deal with the loss of a loved one
I can definitely relate to these episodes as a child of a mother who went through miscarriages. My mother had me as a rainbow baby, and unfortunately I was the only one who survived. All my potential siblings had died to miscarriages, and it affected my mother. We now know it was due to a medical problem that was fixed in 2013 at the cost of her now being unable to have any more children. I can’t imagine how hard it must’ve been for her or dad at the time.
I’m not even a parent but that stare into the camera towards the parents and saying “you’re doing okay” made me choke up, I can’t imagine how many parents watched that episode and really needed to hear those words
As someone who is infirtile I won’t be able to really experience having trouble being a child into the world, but I help my folks out with my sister’s baby who she abandoned so I can understand protecting a little baby with my life
my mom had a miscarriage before me and so when she saw this episode the day it came out she immediately knew what happend and started crying before my dad came over to hug her. is was sad but it was only a moment for mom before she said that the way they showed it was perfect.
I’ve carried myself through roughly around 5 miscarriages. It’s very damaging to your mental and physical health, and sometimes it doesn’t matter how careful or how hopeful you are… they still die before they’re taken their first breath. It doesn’t get easier, ever, it just desensitizes you a little more each time you lose your baby.
I still have yet to carry a baby past two weeks, I may never have a child. When I see these young or old families with their kids, I feel myself aching because I’ve never wanted anything more than to be a mother. Adoption will always be an option, but it’s not the same experience as being pregnant and getting to feel the development… feeling their first kicks, talking to your belly, the morning sickness, all of it.
Thank you for talking about this. Miscarriages are something we don’t talk about enough in our culture. I have had many friends who have experienced this painful loss and it’s devastating.
I wonder if Brandy and Chilli were pregnant around the same time that Chilli was pregnant with Bingo. It would explain the fight and why it caused so much grief if Chilli's baby made it and Brandy's didn't. Then especially the fact that Bingo looks Brandy then all of the reactions would match.
This has me pretty emotional, considering my girlfriend and I had a hard time having a family. And 5 years ago when we finally felt we had a chance. We lost them. While it was depressing and heart breaking we kind of just gave up. Mothers day of 2022 she broke the news she was pregnant. We kept the news to ourselves for a few months, just to not get our hopes up or even our family. January 4th 2023 we welcomed our rainbow baby, Lorenzo, into our life. The best blessing in my life who just feels me with so much life, love, and childlike wonder. 💙
I’m currently pregnant. First baby. And this show really gives me perspective on how parenting effects our children. And I strive to do my best to help my child.
It really helped me approach my own childhood and traumas.
Just wanna wish you luck on your upcoming journey with parenthood, your mindset tells me that you’re gonna be amazing 💙
How’d it go
@@ImpatientPlatypus he’s four months old now, I prioritize playtime. He just has an issue with his weight. And I’m a bit worried. I tried to help him understand that all the emotions that Mom and Dad go through perfectly normal. I hope I’m doing OK.
It's been 6 months is it born now
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Instead of don’t cry over spilt milk, it’s cry if you need to for as long as you have to you can make it through this.
It’s interesting how this is one of the only things Bluey youtubers are talking about right now…
Haha, I understand where this commnet is coming from, its very exciting news so many creators want to express their own opinions on it including myself. News usually results in content from my experience, luckly for the bluey community whenever we get this type of stuff it usually results in lots of thoughts and discussions which I love partaking in as opposed to just news reporting and nothing else. I hope that this video wasn't an eye sore for you since it seems you've been seeing this topic alot haha, have a great day buddy :)
You too! And, no, it’s not a problem for me, just to clarify 😁
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I almost choked on my tea trying not to burst into tears-
Also, in the middle of the video, I got an ad about a mother who felt extremely guilty for having an abortion. These topics are really heartbreaking. 😞
The part that I truly appreciated in "Oncies" was the ending when Brandy apologizes to Chili for being away for so long and they are able to build a relationship again. Even though Brandy wasn't away out of malice she let herself be separated from her family because it was hard to be around them and in the process risked her relationship with her sister. She didn't have to apologise but it was sweet.
It's nice to see that she confronted her feelings and decided not let them keep her away from her family for more years and that, even if she herself can't have children of her own, she is still a member of the family who can be the best auntie if she allows herself to be and that she has the support of her wonderful sister, Chili. What matters is that she is finally back. ☺
My daughter was stillborn at 30 weeks in November and i must say it is very comforting to have the best parents in kids media to understand that and see how it made them better parents who cherish their children more than anyone else.
Great video, as always! I'm really hoping we see more of Brandy. Could be a good avenue to explore adoption and different types of families and experiences. I liked how they briefly touched on this with Winton, in the episode Helicopter, revealing that his parents don't live together. Or in the episode Early Baby, with Indy's family.
Halfway through this video, I realized why my dad is so loyal. When I was younger, my dad told me that he had other kids but they died before they came out. I didn’t understand it then. Now I do.
The feelings of a miscarriage can also be confusing, sorta feeling like a choice on one child or another. Where two parents could wish for two children but have a miscarriage but still later have two children, if they wished that the miscarriage didn't happen then they could also be wishing for one of their children to be replaced by that other child, which could add even more guilt.
recently i found out that i am a rainbow baby, and that im a 27 week premie, i cant imagine how hard it mustve been on my mom possibly losing me if i wasnt delivered early
My oldest is a rainbow baby, had a 19 week loss before him. Even without a cute term like “rainbow baby”, there is something very special about the bond you have with that child. Whenever we see a rainbow, I give him a hug, just like Chilli gives Bluey.
I haven’t seen this episode yet, but I really need to see what other hidden metaphors are in the plot. But from what you’ve shared of it in the video, it could refer to Chilli trying to control her “Bluey” pregnancy, to the point she was stressed out. Her helping Bluey could be a reference to letting go of things she can’t control and just living for the day. It can be very hard to enjoy pregnancy after having a traumatic first time. The internet definition of a rainbow baby is a “baby born after the storm”. Once the storm is over, a rainbow appears to Chilli and she’s reminded of the gift of her oldest child. This is my interpretation, but that’s what I love so much about this show.
I recently found out that my mother had a miscarriage before having me. This video really made me reconsider why my Mom got scared and barely slept when I caught a cold or how protective she got when I was scared even though she was equally scared.
my mom had a miscarriage when i was younger, i remember seeing her crying so hard on the way home it was so unfortunate to see.. it really takes such a toll on people to lose a child. Bluey really made that dear and is why i love this show so much
Honestly, this might be your best video ever in my opinion.
The confirmation (even the theory before confirmation) of chillys miscarriage made me bond with her a lot more, because i myself was gonna be a miscarriage, and it just made me reflect a lot more.
Im the third and youngest kid of a family of 5, and the fact that the possibility that chillys miscarriage was her third child gives me chills.
That out of the way, i loved this video more compared to others, thank you so much for making this Pugly, im looking forward for more of your content! ❤
You know how in one episode Bandit says something around "-wanted to get it done but, Chilli, she wants to keep options open"? I bet Chilli's miscarriage played a part in that, in wanting to keep their options open to try for one more child, for Mars after Venus and Earth
Also want to point out the "I can't relax" plot point Chili had on vacation, or the "I need twenty minutes" episode(sorry I cannot remember titles!). You touched on the chance of anxiety or depression increasing, and I feel like those are really good examples of those as a mom with anxiety and depression.
Love your stuff!
Very very good point, my sister actually was questioning me if chili had depression since she knows I do analytical stuff on this show and I was like “hmmmm” had me questioning myself. Especially the part of her having a book that is titled “how to be happy”
I saw the look on Chilis face for all of three seconds and just said
“Oof” brilliant storytelling that so much emotion can be portrayed in just a single face change, and Bandit moving his hand to comfort her.
This is so crazy to learn. My 6 year old nephew LOVES Bluey and it's his favorite show. Well, he's a "rainbow baby" and my sister's previous pregnancy was a miscarriage.
My god, This episode and such, Hit me so personally.
As someone who is named Brandy, Has sisters who has kids but I don’t think I’ll ever have kids of my own, That personal envy and upsetting feelings towards my sisters who we’re lucky to have kids but neglect/not care enough for them, ended up making me more distant and upsetting about it…
It just hurts sometimes, wanting it so much but not getting blessed enough for it, and for me seeing other people getting blessed with kids and abusing/neglecting the gift pisses me off more on how unfair it is.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my sisters and my nieces/nephews, all 11 of them… I just hope one day I can contribute at least one to that bunch..
Mainly seeing how blood corrupt my dad’s side of my family is with mental illness makes me a bit more determined to tribute to ‘clean out the bad blood’ I know that isn’t a good thing to hold to have a kid for, but I figured wanting to clean the family tree of its sins would be a better mentality than to have a kid to ‘trap my boyfriend’ which is a quote at least two of my sisters have said at least once..
Also, Im sorry for the rambling.
Have you looked into adoption?, Lots of children need a loving home .
@@sarahudson108 It was an idea. My boyfriend is thinking of foster care since his mother used to do foster care when he was little, so he knows how it works.
I feel like not enough people point out that not only would Bingo be the second kid, but that Bingo looks so much not only like Chilli, but like Brandy. It's one thing because bluey looks like her dad
Oof...this video was loaded. I am not married nor do I have children, but I definitely felt seen when the talk about holding back emotions happened. To this day I struggle with expressing emotions, mainly negative ones like anger, sadness, depression, and such, mostly because like it's said in the video I grew up being told to hold back my emotions either for someone else's sake or my own. I am in my 40s now and sometimes I want to express anger and sadness, like REALLY express them. But I either receive retaliation for expressing those feelings, or I am told that I should hold back because if I get too angry I may have a stroke or heart attack due to people having similar reactions and even dying. So often I struggle to say what I feel and express my emotions because there is always someone trying to say "conceal them for my sake". Or in the other side, if I try to speak my emotions someone will try to take over and make it about THEM and they dominate the conversation with THEIR feelings.
I agree that children at a young age should be told to truly admit their emotions and express them safely because that leads to a healthier mindset once adulthood sets in and you have to face similar trials like the one Chili experienced. I lost my father to COVID in 2021 and like Chili I am still coping with his absence, and now my mom is my close friend and confidant. When Chili says that she wants her dad to be well because she needs him I felt so seen because I often say "I want her to be as heathy as happy as possible because I need her".
Sorry for the super long comment, just that you do a great job analyzing the emotions and psychological aspects of Bluey in a manner that feels natural, not hyperbolic or exaggerated like "BLUEY IS REALLY ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH ILLNESSES NOT CLICK BAIT" or "CHILDREN'S SHOW TALKS ABOUT PREGNANCIES AND MISCARRIAGES!!". It's great to have context behind these topics without the often insulting "comedy" or "shock value" other channels offer.
I love these deep dives into the episodes of Bluey. You're doing an amazing job explaining the deeper meaning!
I believe that everyone who has a miscarriage knew the symbolism of that moment when the balloon popped and Chili and Bandit's reaction. At least women who experienced it. My husband didn’t see it.
I searched everywhere for confirmation of this when the episode premiered in America, but I didn’t find much. It is very nice to get that from the creator.
I’m a rainbow baby. The way my mom talks about the many miscarriages she had before me seems so detached, like it’s something that she was watching happen to somebody else as opposed to something happening to her.
With Baby Race, I wonder if Chili felt frustrated at her parenting skill, thinking about how she would probably already know this stuff if she had her first babg
Chili’s checklist reminded me of what I teacher told me when I was in kindergarten or first grade, it was either, “You’re too big to cry” or “Big girls don’t cry” looking back she wasn’t trying to be mean but still.
the edits you do of the moments in bluey capture the magic of the show perfectly, thank you for making these videos
Initially I was supposed to have an older brother and sister, aside from my currently 22 year old sis.
The girl was gonna be named Rose and the boy was going to be Daniel, Rose was a abrupt miscarriage and Daniel only was alive for an afternoon…we still put Christmas ornaments with their names and baby related ornaments nearest to the star on the tree to honor and remember them…
Because of their passing, while tragic, paved the way for me…it gave my mother determination and motivation to try again…
I hope that no one takes what I said wrong…I still love them greatly, even if I’ve never met them I’m happy to have heard of them…I’m happy this episode and series tackles stuff like this
I think this was really touching... Especially the bit about the ornaments being closests to the star 😭❤ RIP little angels
My family was worried about my mom when she got pregnant. She is 38 and she isn’t the best in health despite her best efforts. The pregnancy had led the preeclampsia and she wasn’t able to walk very well or anything really. We was worry that she would have a miscarriage after my brother and my mom’s fiancée (my little sister’s father) had a huge fight with her going down in a panic attack. (She had anxiety so that happens but is had been a while and that one was terrible) she luckily didn’t and while at a doctors appointment they told her that she had preeclampsia and rushed her into a c-section. She was able to pull through and my little sister was alright but that was the scariest thing for me ever and I don’t want to feel that way again but it would have been worse if Aurora didn’t make it. For everyone who had Or experience a family member go through a miscarriage, then my heart goes to you all and I hope you can recover and know it’s not your fault and it sometimes happens
I think another scene that bares mentioning is the final line of The Show were Chilie claps at Bingos performance and says in an almost childlike voice "again". The way she says the word is almost remenicent of the way a child would ask to hear story they loved to them again. This further reinforces Chile's connection to her children and theme of children more broadly. However with the confirmation of Chile's miscarriage the line takes on a new meaning of her trying again after the failure of her first pregnancy. Moreover I'd argue that the line is even more specifically tailored to Bingo. In the episode Bingo plays the part of her mother up until the symbolic loss of her first child with the popping of the balloon. Following this Bingo becomes upset reflecting the pain Chile went through after her loss. Eventually though Bingo is able to internalize the lesson Chilie tought her and continue the show roping Bandit in to play Bluey (note how Bandit is critical to helping Bingo feel less upset much like how earlier comforted Chile when the balloon brought up painful memories, further tieing Bingo together with her mother). The episode then ends with the emotional catharsis of Bluey being born in the show, however critically the episode ends before we get to see a play version of the birth of Bingo. As such Chile's line of "again" feels like it's hinting at her wanting to try again after her joy of the birth of Bluey and to eventually have Bingo. It only being natural that the final line of the episode circle back to Bingo the main character of the episode.
Sometimes, i feel like i mess everything up and i spend a lot of time in my bedroom closet, crying. Whenever that happens, i try and remember Chilli’s words. My mother has always told me the same thing, and its helped me throughout my life. Bluey is something that makes me so happy. parents have always said i was a miracle, and that’s because i was a rainbow baby. Its really saddening, as they only told me a few weeks ago. Sometimes i cry because there was a baby supposed to be born, but wasn’t. Miscarriages are so saddening, and knowing my mother had to go through one is devastating. Its a really serious thing that not many people truly understand, they don’t understand how big the impact is. It really hurts to lose your child.
For a lot of my life, i suppressed a lot of my emotions. I thought it was bad because i cried a lot and got bullied for it. People called me a crybaby.
Ive had 4 miscarriages...in my case they were all after the first month, i wasnt producing enough progesterone naturally so the egg wouldnt attach to the uterine wall....so monthly cycle happens and the egg goes with it. Finally got to a fertility clinic that helped me and my husband so now im blessed with 4 kiddos lol....but i still remember the devastation i felt after that first miscarriage.
I was young, excited to be a mom, told everyone....you never expect it to happen to you, especially when my sisters and mother were all such hardy and strong women, had babies no problem, and here i am, already cut from a different cloth because im sensitive and i realize now im autistic, and now my body wasnt even working right.
I remember taming two weeks off from work because i couldn't stop crying, right before my birthday too. I felt ridiculous because on one hand it was only a month, but on the other hand i felt like i lost both a real being and a dream i wanted with my husband...and then of course there's the humiliation of having told people too soon, did they think i was overreacting? Or that i was lying? Its been 9 years and that one gets me the most...
My others were still sad, but i never let myself get my hopes up too much again so the loss never hit as hard, i moved on, by the last one I sometimes wondered if i was really feeling anything or blocking it because id built up an emotional wall (by that point, my husband had overcome addiction, death threats, we were climbing out of homelessness and betrayals of people around us and my husband got cancer...it was a rough spell lmao), so i felt guilty for not getting sad enough. I still feel like there's something wrong with me, as nowadays i feel so emotionally disconnected, only few things strike an emotional chord anymore. Its rough. Either you feel like you're overreacting or heartless...
I really like Bluey, definitely need to watch it more... I'm always looking for different ways of thinking to get myself out of my own head, so maybe it'd help..
I hope you're doing well
@Sarrouru thank you! Forgot I made this comment lol...I am doing much better in general, these days~ not 100% of course (although who is, these days?), but I'm doing things for myself now, tapping into my feelings more and trying not to feel embarrassed if I do get emotional about something. Been communicating my feelings and needs better with the hubby, we've been having a better relationship and life balance l think... just one day at a time~!
my mother had a miscarriage before me and it's really cool to hear some of how it affected them.
I'm only 30 seconds into the video. But I love that in the clip of the balloon popping, when Chilli starts to frown, Bandit IMMEDIATELY grabs her hand to comfort her. It's so sweet.
my first son was a stillborn, and way before that, when my dad was murdered, i gave up on life. my mom helped me live happier, and when i moved out on my own, i got with someone and we got pregnant. i was almost 8 months along, but he had stopped growing around 6 1/2 or 7 months. his umbilical cord had wrapped around his foot twice. i now have a beautiful girl and a beautiful boy ;) they are both wonderful toddlers.
The cloud symbolism was so thoughtful omg. Some of y’all really are geniuses
thankyou for talking about the dads perspective...it is amazing how often we are overlooked
My own mom suffered from a miscarriage. I was around 8-9 when it happened. It’s extremely painful for everyone evolved. I remember crying in my room at night after I learning about the miscarriage. I thought I wasn’t meant to be a bigger sister, and that somehow it was my fault.
2 years later my current baby brother was born. I remember promising him I would always be there for him and love him. I told myself I’d be the best sister I could be when lying awake at night when my mom was pregnant with my now little brother.
I would die for this kid, and I remember crying the first time I saw him.
My mom went through 3 miscarriages before she had me and I admire her so much for her courage and strength to take care of and love me and my brothers so much. I can't imagine how hard it must have been for her and my dad, she was so afraid to try for a 3rd child but she and my dad just prayed on it. When they made the choice to try again, I was born 9 months later ❤ Now i am a mother of a beaitiful 10 month old boy and he is so loved by me, his father and grandparents. I pray I don't every have to experience the pain of losing a baby, but if I ever do I know who I can turn to who will understand and empathise with it.
Great job as usual, Pugly! Chili’s checklist in “The Show” is much more meaningful now that we have confirmation on the miscarriage theory. Sometimes, people have to remain in one part of the list/grieving process longer than they might think. And that’s okay. There’s no standardized plan for growth and recovery. Bluey does such a fantastic job of giving viewers of all ages accessible entry points into complex topics
You know, I wonder if the fertility problems between Brandi and Chilli is hereditary(?) 🤔
Some families can have running fertility issues, but other times is just bad luck.
The episode "baby race" I feel hits super hard because at the end of the episode, Bluey finally learns to walk and walks towards Chili and you hear Bingo say "Maybe she say something she really wanted" and Chili starts crying out of joy. To me, this shows that Chili realizes, along with the help of her friend, that she isn't helpless and is totally capable. Also the whole "she walked because she wanted you" quote makes me break up every rime