When I grew up it was normal for adults to correct any child for acting up. When parents found out, they would be even harsher to punish their children, especially if it happened at school.
Social media shattered the illusion that every adult is a person who is qualified to be correcting my child. You can inform me of my child's behavior and I will decide if the complaint has enough validity to warrant intervention.
@@JamieDWestII If my child was doing something dangerous and they were chastised by a stranger, I would be grateful. If my child was acting out, I would agree with them being chastised. I used to tell kids Santa was watching them when they acted out. I have also told them that there are some ugly sounds coming out of a pretty face.
My suggestion as Southerner, is that if you don't want someone else to correct your child, perhaps you should raise them to behave properly, especially in public or correct them yourself. We don't just randomly walk around scolding kids, but if one is behaving pretty badly we let them know that's not acceptable behavior. We don't touch them, we merely talk to them.
I had 3 boys in less than 5 years and when they were little people would come over and compliment me for how well behaved my kids were. They're teenagers now and still respect their elders and mind their manners. Train em young and you avoid a lot of problems later.
Not sure why he says they're not judging you, because by all means they really are. If YOU the parent can't raise your child, that's your fault, unless there is other major factors influencing it. I don't live in the south but I would also be embarrassed if my kid was acting up and got called out by another parent. That just means I didn't do a very good job at teaching them, and I'd be so ashamed.
Absolutely true. I'm originally from Illinois and don't remember that happening there, but now I've been in Texas for a long time and I actually do that, myself! It's like muscle memory; there's no thought process to it at all. Hear a sneeze, say "bless you" at the appropriate volume for the distance between you and the sneezer.
Well, both my parents are from Decatur , Illinois , and we were taught to do it every time. A lot of people don't realize where that phrase comes from. When you sneeze your heart actually stops for a second. ( at least that was the belief ) , and the phrase "Bless You" was shortened from "God Bless You" , because you technically died and came back to life.
Here's a good rule for ya if you visit the southern US with your kids: If you can't make your children behave, and you object to other people doing the job... don't bring them out in public. If you do, your kids may not be the only ones that get a lesson in manners.
There are a lot of people who disagree though. Jason Aldean's "Try that in a small town" in a way is saying the same for adults and lots of people are mad at being told to be .. civilized.
@@eTraxx - Yeah, I'm aware that a lot of people disagree. I'm also aware that there are a lot of self-righteous, sanctimonious idiots in the world as well. So tell me... Do you think there's a correlation there?
As a woman from the south, if you're not smiling or appear happy you 100% will get asked by everyone if you're alright, if you're sick, and if there's anything they can do to help.
@@robinhood4579yeah I’m from the south too, South Georgia, & that doesn’t happen here either lol In fact, we’d find it pretty rude if some random stranger was like “why ain’t you smiling? What’s wrong with you? You sick or something??” Lol we’d be like wtf... do I even know you weirdo? 😂 And if it’s a man telling a woman to “smile” we’d definitely not like that at all, just like any woman any where else wouldn’t. Yeah people are nice here & they will talk to strangers with no issue at all, but we will wouldn’t be cool with people expecting us to smile & commenting on it if we’re not. You don’t know what people are going through & questioning why they’re not smiling at/for you wouldn’t be taking very well at all.
@@kay-collinsDoesn’t happen with strangers but does happen with coworkers and such. Asking if you’re alright or asking what’s wrong if you aren’t smiling! That definitely happens. All of the time and has for my whole life! I know cause I’ve always found it annoying! 😂
I'm a born and raised Southerner, and I have done my fair share of this, but you have to admit it can get REALLY annoying. Especially when you truly are fine, but the person doesn't want to believe you, keeps harping on the question, and then gets mad when you tell them to buzz off. 😆
Irish Immigrant to the South for +20 years now. Even when my accent was at the thickest, I've never met a more friendly part of the US than the South even after exploring around the great country it is. If you're wanting to feel like you're visiting a warm community, be kind and polite and you're met with it tenfold, but never cross a Southerner! I love the community I live in and will always root for em.
@@AlleluiaElizabeth Everyone's been a blessing since I've migrated here after waiting for a visa for many years haha! First few friends in the States were my Neighbors and still are today. Felt like I had become a part of their family and even helped out with fixing their son's truck. Grand folks all around! :)
@@brandonhenderson322 And the most brutally honest! I can count the times I've been told by a Southerner that they couldn't understand me during my first few years due to a thick accent but we're beyond kind and polite about it! Some still have a laugh here and there with me ever since then when telling stories haha!
So happy you've found a welcome here in the Southern USA! My Dad was actually born in Ireland, raised mostly in New York, and moved to Georgia when I was small. He passed several years ago, but every time I hear the 'brogh, I get a bit nostalgic. ;)
Born and raised In Georgia. What he said about people saying something to your kids. He didn’t mean it in a rude unmannered way. It means if your kid is acting the fool and refusing to listen to you. We don’t like that kind of behavior. So someone may walk by and be like hey buddy you better listen to your mom. Stop acting like that.
Please don't forget the term "Bless your heart!" It is used differently according to the situation. If your acting stupid and someone says "Bless your heart" they are saying "Poor thing, look how stupid you are." If someone is having a bad day, "Bless your heart!" means "You poor thing, I'm so sorry!" Its a southern thing. Texas here.
@crktritual Exactly. After reading this thread. It seems to me that "Bless your heart" is getting a rather confusing and bad rap" here. It can send many and often contradictory messages, and it just may not be realistic to expect outsiders to be sophisticated enough to really appreciate all of the nuances involved here, after all. Bless their hearts.
I grew up in the south and it was normal for any nearby adult to call out a child being disrespectful. It worked. Not only did our parents not get offended you got a second talking to from your parents. The kids learned that society in general would not tolerate bad behavior. Makes for better citizens in general.
@OmegaMTG from an NC native. It depends on the generation. MY generation (the 90s) we would get a sit down to talk but for harsher situations "the talk" would be a pick your switch or a "popping"
I'm from the south and if someone corrects my kid for something, I always thank them. No one is able to have eyes on their kids every second of every day. Plus, no one does it to be mean to the kids, it's almost always a safety thing.
Yes!! Most of them speak up BECAUSE They care and are concerned. They're not doing it to be like "HAH YOU EVIL CARELESS PARENT, CAUGHT YOU NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO YOUR KID, GOT YOU!" Like it's not a got-you moment for them. It's a concerning moment for them, and they're showing that they care about your kid and the community at large by speaking up. In fact, them speaking up to watch your kid if you're distracted and didn't know where they were could in fact SAVE your kid from some horrible kidnapper. I think some people take it as an attack on them rather than the help that it truly is meant to be.
Sometimes it's way more effective coming from a strange adult because the kids get used to ignoring their parents. They don't know what the new person is going to do. It's much more reflective of life as an adult.
Honestly? For the kid thing it is amazing. I’m from California. But my kid and I really struggled his first few days of kindergarten because he’s very attached to me. But he expressed that attachment in anger, swatting me, throwing himself on the sidewalk. I’d be in tears trying to get him in class. One morning, he was throwing a fit on the sidewalk. An elderly man marched right out of his house, and stood my son on his feet. He said “young man, we NEVER hit our mother. Ever. You collect yourself calmly now. Apologize to mom.” My son instantly complied. “Now, you be a good respectful fella and walk to school. Do not give momma any more trouble. I will have a treat for you waiting at the end of the day if I hear you did the right thing” my son had no issue that morning. And sure enough, old man was standing at the end of his driveway right at 11:55 when we were walking back to our car. Had a wafer candy thing and handed it to my kiddo. Son hugged him. I cried so dang hard on that guy’s shoulder after I loaded my son into the car. I was just so thankful since it was a very difficult time and I had been divorced with no help. Now we are amazing friends. Kids just listen better to other adults, idk why.
I had an antique store in Texas for a couple decades. Most of the children that came with their parents were little monsters and the parents thought it was acceptable for their kids to handle things worth more than their Mom's life. I disagreed. If the mom was continually saying, "Jeffrey, don't touch that. Jeffrey, don't touch that" with no response from the kid, I would just say, "Jeffrey, if you aren't going to mind your mom, you are going to have to leave the store." It usually had the desired effect, but on one occasion, mom had an issue with me attempting to preserve my livelihood from the depredations of her little stain. She spoke sharply, saying, "that is MY child, not YOURS," to which I instantly replied, "for which, I am eternally grateful."
@@angiemccray4498 Go Angie! We need more of THAT. We raised ours with the, "look don't touch or else" thing. We never even got to the "or else!" Even our autistic children would be quiet and polite in stores. Maybe I just got lucky.
@@MargieM10 Margie, I think part of it is the kid's perception of what the parent is saying, but one of the things I noticed most was the position of the kid in relationship to the parent. If the kid is walking next to OR in front of the parent, it will probably be not bad. If the kid is walking behind the parent, that's going to be trouble most of the time. Parents who let their kids walk behind them are not interested in what the kid is doing; they have put themselves first and are usually the "chanters". The "Jeffrey don't touch that, Jeffrey stop touching things" is a chant and for Jeffrey, since the chant doesn't change and there are no consequences involved in ignoring it, he views this as just something Mom does while walking and it has no meaning for Jeffrey at all. He doesn't hear it or respond to it due to the repetition making it like nothing more than background noise. And no, you didn't just get lucky. Kids are like puppies; they want you to be happy and pleased with them. If they get kudos for being good humans, they want to continue being good humans. If good is ignored and the only notice they receive is when they misbehave, then misbehavior has that perk of gaining the notice of their bored parent. Both patterns grow more solid and irrefutable over time. Correcting a kid early in life with nothing more than "okay, that's something you're not allowed to do/say" in a conversational tone of voice will do the trick with a child who is secure in the love and protection offered by their parent. I know this to be true because I raised two glorious kids who both now have their own kids and grandkids and to this day, they still treat me like I hung the moon in the sky.
Tennessee here. For real, I LOVED it when people corrected my children if they were misbehaving. Sometimes kids don't want to listen to, or try to challenge, their parents. An 'outside' voice sometimes gives that small bit of shock needed to make them take notice.
Heck. I have even requested other people to talk to my child because parents never know what they are talking about. They hear someone outside the family say the same things and suddenly the child listens! I don’t take it as disrespectful, I take it as help! And say thank you.
@@therasnipes4997 Exactly! Hearing the same thing from multiple different adults can only reinforce the child's idea of what's right and wrong, so we shouldn't respond negatively in most cases to when somebody speaks up.
Yeah, challenging or ignoring my mother was never a thing when i was growing up. That was California. All I ever saw I Georgia and Alabama was the "I'm gonna..." parent. The kids does something 20 times and the parent days of you do that again, I'm gonna [fill in the blank]...". But since they never do, the kids pay no attention to them. I'll admit that's mostly everywhere today....unless you living near a largely Hispanic community where not listening to your parents can severely affect your life expectancy. This is mostly true of younger kids.
Southerns say sir and ma'am to everyone. I am not originally from the south but I now reside in Florida. And I can tell you that people do tell kids to behave in public. And if you do not like it, that's too bad. You are in their home and they dictate the rules.
@@MrJAbear1 Yep, I have seen it as well. Another thing they do down here is say Miss or Mr. plus the first name. For example, How are you, Mr John or Miss Susan? My mom's neighbor says that to her all the time. A girl in a local restaurant has said Mr. with my first name every time I have been to that restaurant for over 3 years.
@@edwardstimmell4860 In my experience, I have noticed retired folks in the north say ma'am and sir, but that's it. I once got yelled at in NYC for saying ma'am to a waitress. She knew I was a native New Yorker just like her, but she thought I was rude. So I became NYC blunt afterwards.
I'm in East Texas. The way most of us feel is that, if our own kids are acting a fool, we expect someone to set them straight. It's better for them to get scolded as a child than to grow up to act like a maniac and wind up in jail, or worse.
Absolutely. Kids learn quickly that acting a fool gets them in trouble every time, not just when their parents are watching. Plus the community as a whole is setting social expectations which leads to a calmer, more cohesive society.
Alabama grandmother here. When we correct someone else’s child we do it in a sweet, Southern way. And it’s usually to keep them from harm. Examples: “Sweetheart, hold my hand in this parking lot because cars won’t be able to see you, but they’ll see me.” Or, “It’s not good to go through a lady’s purse because there might be something in there that could hurt you.” In my case it could be medication, but in another Southern granny’s purse there could be a Glock.
Had to have the convo about my moms purse with my son when he was younger cause she doesn’t have a Glock. Grandma be packing a 357 smith and Wesson that is in the ready at all times
One of the joys in life (as a Southerner or American) is striking up a conversation with a total stranger in public. I've done it thousands of times. It's actually a lot of fun...
Agree. I’m from the south and live in Georgia. It’s great. Especially if I see a tourist lost in my hometown of Savannah and I say you look lost can I help you. They always look shocked and have met many great people from all of the world that way.
One of my favorite things about living in the south. In my rural neighborhood - drivers still wave in passing. Even the kids on the side of the road wave to drivers.
@@grogers511 I totally agree!... until I moved to a north Dallas suburb! 😂 1st person I waived at flipped me off. Lol... I miss the community and peaceful country life! One day I will make it back to the bliss of rural life!
As someone who has grown up in a few southern states, yes. If they notice you aren't in a neutral/good mood someone will ask and see if they can help or just give you an opportunity to talk about it. It's not to be invasive, it's more of a community looking out for each other kind of thing.
That’s one of the best things about the south. When stuff goes bad- you’re sick, you lost your job, a loved one has passed the people really do gather and pitch in to help. It’s beautiful.
@@tiffanybrakefield4600 facts! Born and raised in Georgia here. My uncle passed away a couple of years ago. We have a huge family. The people from our church and our community got together and made enough food for a couple hundred people then came to our home and served us so we could share memories and grieve. They came back and cleaned up the mess too! They also got together and subsidized my family when I was out of work for a medical issue and came weekly to clean because I was only able to do so much. In my home we don't let anyone go hungry, even foes, and we help someone every chance we get. We get a bad wrap here in the South but the truth is we're actually not so bad. I'll never forget the first time I went up north and realized people aren't the same everywhere. That's not to say there aren't good people up north. It's just less common to find that hospitality factor because of the speed at which things move I reckon. I hope people from all over are able to visit the South and take a little bit of our southern hospitality back with them.
Even if they don't ask how your day is or what's wrong directly, at the very least they will talk to you about any number of random things to try and brighten your day a bit. (Being from Texas, i see this kind of thing happen a LOT...heck i've done it myself lol)
@@ericarandall6712To me funerals in the South were oddly often cheerful. EVERYONE shows up. When my dad passed we used the largest funeral home in town and every room was packed and everyone made a point to have pleasant conversations and laugh. The only time I saw anybody cry at any funeral was when the casket was being lowered into the ground but immediately after everyone was laughing again and we'd all share the food everyone brought to share and cleaned up before leaving
As a guy raised in the southernmost part of Texas, if someone corrects your child in public it is considered common, and you best not snap at them for doing it or you'll have many enemies in a short time. Especially if you are visiting a small town, the community is so tightly knitted that word about you and your misbehaving child spreads faster than wildfire in a grass field after a drought.
I'm from Louisiana and it is very much a thing to say yes ma'am yes sir to any and everyone perceived as older than you (growing up my dad would scold me and my brother SO BAD if we EVER replied yes or no, its seen as extremely disrespectful) and if your kids being a brat in public you will definitely be hearing about it
I can definitely relate. If I answered "yes" to my father he would say "yes, what?" To which I knew the proper reply was" yes, sir." He was not being mean at all. He was just requiring from us the respect he deserved as our parent.
Heck, I say yes ma'am and sir to everyone, even my pets 🤣. I'll tell my kid, "no, ma'am I need you to sit down in your chair", or my cat "no sir, you can't have that".
Sounds like my house growing up. If one of us kids simply said "yes" or "no," the response would be something Iike, "yes, what"? The appropriate response being, "Yes, sir," of course. 😄 Oh, the good old days when respect was not only taught but deserved.
Im also in Louisiana- even working and serving customers that are children, I will say ma'am or sir. We call everyone sweetie and hun. It's a term of endearment, not flirting. However, it can be as well lol. As for correcting other people's children, mostly it's to keep them safe as well. Tends to get the parents attention but they should have been paying attention anyway. Besides, if my kid is acting a fool, by all means call them on it. It's called how to behave in public. 😂
I'm from the South and I'd say that comment about correcting others' kids is totally accurate. It's an "it takes a village" attitude, for sure. Now, NOBODY should EVER lay a hand on my kids but if they are acting up and I don't see it, I hope someone will set them straight because we as parents can't have eyes on them at all times. And lets be honest, sometimes they listen to others better than parents anyway lol.
I was raised in a family where we were disciplined by all of the adults (verbally, not physically) and I can say with certainty that two of my aunts are scarier than both of my parents combined! 😆
yep and that is definitely a southern thing. a lot of these "dont do this here" things are more like general customs, but this is one that is actually low key important to know.
I'll never forget the night I was having dinner with my best friend's family. I was about 7 or 8 years old, and the mom offered me some food. I don't remember what I said in reply, but I'll never forget her correction of, "No thank you." Scared the wits outta me and I've never reversed course. It does take a village!
DUDE the random conversation thing is REAL in the South 🤣 I'm originally from Miami and when I moved to Arkansas, I was SHOCKED by the amount of conversations people would start up. They're in no rush. They totally are down for a 10 minute conversation - most times others will join in. Southerners are definitely very warm and friendly!
Not only does other people correcting your kids help, but they don't get into as much trouble because they know someone knows who their mother/father is in a small town, and she will know what you did before you get home. PLUS if a child is in danger, they can run to any one of those who corrected them and know they will be protected.
I live in Arkansas and we still correct each other’s kids. It’s expected. If a child is acting up and needs correction, that child is given correction by the closest available adult. It’s just normal for us, so not offensive to us.
Not in the nea . I been looked at yelled at for just speaking out loud about a brat. And definitely not the nicest people like one thinks. That's just a stereotype. I ran into way nicer people as a whole.
@gw2955 if you're there, then why would another adult need to. If they did, it says more about you than your kid. Don't inflict your misbehaving child on us.
@@claytondennis8034 so what you’re saying is, if any child needs correction that makes their parent bad? All children are perfect as long as their parent are? Get a grip. Even the best behaved children will need correction at some point. I teach a children’s Sunday School class. If a child in the class is being mean to other children, I will say something to them and then discuss it with their parents. I’m not beating them, just a gentle word of correction to stop the action. Why would you take it so personally that this is our culture? Just don’t move here. You don’t need to be nasty to people who are different than you.
I am old enough to remember strangers correcting the youngsters. From 2 or 3 up to 16 or 17, if you are doing something wrong, be prepared to be challenged on it. And I came from a smaller town where no one had a second thought about letting your parents know what you did. You could be in trouble and not even be home yet.
Roger that. I grew up in a time and neighborhood where you went outside to play in the morning (in the summer) and only came in to eat or it was getting dark. We had the run of the neighborhood and people knew their neighbors and their children. You were raised to respect your elders and if you were corrected by them, "Yes ma'am" or "Yes sir" might avert a report to your mother, and the dreaded, "Do you want me to tell your father when he gets home?".
I grew up in Southeastern Tennessee and if someone has to correct your behavior in public, you are absolutely getting it when you get home. I'm 50 now and i am disabled some and i still hold the door for my elders and ladies and children, always, even when I'm hurting. Great video bro!
oh wow, another Elder Juggalo in the south. we're a dying breed. i also hold the doors for anyone, but i cannot separate how much of that comes from being a southerner, and how much comes from military service.
I'm in my 50's & from southeast Alabama. Growing up in the 70's a threat to tell my folks got me straight. A phone call or visit to tell on my misbehavior led to something that I won't repeat here.
I’ve always lived in the south (Mississippi specifically) and I can attest that it is much more embarrassing as a child to be corrected by a stranger. The behavior gets corrected sometimes more effectively.
As for correcting someone else’s child, I grew up knowing it didn’t matter where I was, if I acted up, whatever adult was around would let me know in a hurry I was wrong. And with my own kids, I think it’s helpful for kids to understand that behavior is unacceptable with everyone, not just their parents,and that they should behave whether mom’s watching or not.
The Southern US habit of scolding the kids of others stems from the idea of "it takes a village to raise a kid." Scolding interactions with various adults helps kids become more mindful of others. It also demonstrates a shared morality across the community.
@@adriantorres7315 yeah it’s just different cultures, i mean you gotta think about who’s in california in the first place. And the way people are raised, in the south you’re typically raised to be respectful to those older than you especially to the elderly
@adriantorres7315 tbf I think it goes too far where I'm from sometimes. I remember growing it wasn't uncommon to spank other people's children if they acted up at your house or at church. We even got spanked by teachers and principals at school. So I think there's a balance to be struck between the those two ideas
I think the "others correcting children in public" comes across harsher than it actually is. Most of the time is just gentle reminders, or in extreme cases done out of concern to protect a child (like about to wander into the street and there's an oncoming car). Kids are kids and can be impulsive, and usually parents have more than one kid so it can be overwhelming to keep up with multiple ones all at once. Tone and attitude go along way. It's easy to tell when someone is trying to be helpful or concerned versus condescending or judgmental. The inverse can also be said...if children are well behaved in public the general mood of strangers is pretty content. All soft smiles and compliments to the parents and sometimes to the kids directly. Like, "oh you're being a great helper for mom today, aren't you?" kind of things.
yea i mean now a stranger will usually say "where are your parents" if a kid is doing bad, they don't hit them any more. But 40 years ago when i was a kid if you were misbehaving a stranger might walk up and tell you to settle down, and if you didn't they'd pop your behind, and then when your parents found out, they would take you home and straight up whoop your butt for embarrassing them in public like that.
Agreed. Texan here, honestly, anyone to corrects your child in whataburger, its because they most likely are about to hurt themselves something awful, and intervention was necessary We respect the community, and We respect Texas
I’m a parent from Louisiana. I correct children all the time and I’ve seen strangers correct mine. If my son is doing something stupid I’m not surprised if an adult near him gives him a quick “Cut it out!”. The correction is towards the child, never towards the parent.
That's very true. I'm Texan, and just the other day I was at the zoo standing in line behind a grandmother struggling to keep her grandkids under control. It was lunch time and they were hungry and restless. At one point, one of them took their shoe off and tossed it to the floor. That's when the father from the family in front of them turned around and addressed the kid saying, "hey there, how you doing young man? Would you mind putting your shoe back on?" The grandmother didn't get mad at all. I won't deny that there are definitely cases where other parents can be judgemental and stick their noses where they don't belong, but most of the time it's not done out of any sort of ill-intent. A lot of Southerners still have that "raised by the neighborhood" mentality even though most of us don't live in small towns anymore.
Respect for your elders is HUGE in the south! You give up your seat, you hold doors, you help them with reaching things, carrying things, you say sir & ma’am, & most people take their elderly family into their home rather than putting them in an old folks home.
@@GTSN38I greatly appreciate those niceties. They are small things but they mean a lot. I do not consider it disrespectful by any means. I treat people older than I am with that courtesy and appreciate that courtesy from others who are younger than I am. It's called manners here. And it's not treating you differently. Everyone your age is treated that way. It's showing courtesy and acknowledging that your longer life means you have experienced things first hand that I never have (because they are no longer used in some cases) and therefore have first hand historical knowledge. You would be surprised how much you can learn from an older person if you take the time to know them. If you think about, everyone is treated a bit differently in relation to age. You wouldn't treat a toddler the same way you would treat a 16 yr old. You wouldn't treat someone 16 like you would a 30 year old. You aren't being treated differently than anyone your age. If you don't like this type of COMMON COURTESY MANNERS than I recommend you don't live in or visit the southern states. Best solution all the way around.
@@jacquelinejohnson9447 Especially for those parents who have convinced themselves that teaching your children manners and respect is damaging them. Please just stay home.
The accent thing is LEGIT! I studied abroad in Italy and met an English tourist. He was surprised to learn I was from the Southeastern US and said I must be educated since I don’t have a Southern accent. I absolutely do. I just code-switched to a more generic accent to be more clearly understood. I was being polite. So rude.
Mom actively punished us for letting our southern/appalachian accents out because she didn’t want us to be bullied for it. I’ve slowly gotten more relaxed into it as an adult and it’s more noticeable now
I am from the North but have lived in the South. I love the South! Everyone is nice and helpful. They love to talk and you RESPECT each other. A Southern woman is a force to be reckoned with.
Damn straight!! We love people with all of our strength but if someone hurts one of those people we love or endangers things we cherish... Hell hath no fury such as a southern woman scorned! 😂 We'll bless a heart and slap the taste from one's mouth in the same breath. All Southern folk will kill over their Mama, their kids, their spouses and their dogs. I'm convinced John Wick was actually written about a southern man (nevermind the reference if you haven't seen the movie. It's good though).
People always talk about how Latino moms are scary... *you clearly ain't seen an angry southern mom.* All it takes is one look and you'll immediately freeze in place. May god have mercy on your soul if she opens her mouth.
I have a story about people thinking a southern accent means you’re “dumb”. Years ago, I knew a young woman who was from Georgia. She really did look like a southern “belle”. She was living in New York City and attending college. A good number of people actually made fun of her accent. Back to today, she’s a JUDGE in Georgia. She is a brilliant person, had a career as an attorney for 20 years before moving up to judge. The reaction of people in NYC that she was dumb was simply she had a deep southern accent.
It's one of those ridiculous TV propagated stereotypes that doesn't hold true one bit! There are PLENTY of really STUPID people in NY, & plenty of brilliant people in the South!
Born and raised in GA. When I would act up in the grocery store and run from my mother, it was not uncommon for a complete stranger to grab me and hold me until she got there. Nothing out of sorts, but it was very normal for most adults to help each other out. I think it helps create a very unique and polite culture. On the other side, if a stranger is mean to a child, it is not uncommon for every other adult to stand up for the kid. We basically self-police each other 😂
Another don't is don't judge Southerners on the past of the South. A lot of people do that and have a preconceived notion of who we are down here. We arent our ancestors.
An important note: over the last few years, especially the last decade or two, we've had a HUGE influx of people moving to the south from other parts of the USA. So not everyone you run into down here will act the same. But this is the general cultural norms here, ESPECIALLY if you grew up here since childhood. And lots of transplants pick this up to some extent after living in the south long enough.
Born and raised in South Carolina. If my kids are doing something wrong, I want someone to correct them and then bring it to my attention so I know to look for it in the future that way they don’t repeat their mistakes especially if someone else’s kid got hurt because that’s not cool and I will straight up make my children apologize.
I lost my wedding ring in the sink at a restaurant as I was washing my hands. It was in Birmingham, Alabama. I was telling my wife about it when I got back to the table, the server overheard, got the manager, and he took the drain apart to get my ring.
As a Yankee from Upstate NY, it does take a village to raise a child. I wouldn't be offended at all at a stranger setting my kids in line. That's a southern value that should be national standard. When I was stationed in Mississippi it was a hell of a culture shock. Now I love travelling to the south. It's a slower pace, the food is always good, and to find the best you're gonna end up in somebody's mama's kitchen.
I was born & raised in the North & it was not uncommon to be corrected by any adult. And lord help you if they know your family, you’d really get it. That has gone by the wayside and it’s unfortunate. A lot kids & adults need to be corrected. Manners & courtesy is sadly vanishing.
I was born and raised in Texas, I have relatives in small towns up north, and yeah, good manners don't just stop at the Mason/Dixon. My aunt from Wisconsin never put any seasoning in her food (!), but you'd sure catch it hot from her if you were rude or selfish.
I grew up in the west Chicago suburbs in the 60’s and the moms of my four best friends had no qualms about correcting my behavior or manners. And it was always followed up with a phone call to my mom for a heads up, which was always followed by a thank you from her. And when I came home, I was informed that she knew what I had done and was again corrected. But it also went the other way as well, and they would call her with praise for my manners and behavior. The “it take a village to raise a child” attitude among the adults died with my generation and parents didn’t appreciate others calling out their child’s behavior. But all generations behaviors and manners in the larger northern cities have degraded over the past forty + years.
Hmmm, also North Illinoian here, never seen any correction anywhere ever. Been to Chicago, Madison, Milwaukee, Minneapolis, and I’ve never seen any correction from other adults
I was at the vet once and in front of me on line was a very exasperated mom and a child that kept hitting a gate while the mom kept telling her stop as she was talking to the front desk. The child looked at me and I gave her a look and slowly shook my head no and that child was a perfect Angel the rest of the time there. I didn’t utter one word, but later after she’d been good for awhile I smiled at her and she smiled back.
I'm an Alabama boy, born and raised. The best conversations you'll have are the ones that you strike up with random people, I've learned a lot of life lessons from conversations with elderly men outside the courthouse.
I'm from East, TN... The thing I miss most about smoking cigs is that I would always have conversations with strangers when I was out on a smoke break. I met so many different types of people, all beliefs and all colors, and learned so much by just listening to whatever they had to say. I don't miss smoking but I do miss the social stuff.
An old lady stopped me in the produce section of a grocery store when I was a teenager just to talk about cabbage. We talked about nothing but cabbage for a good 20 minutes. There was no reason for it, we just enjoyed each other's company. Never saw her again but I think about her all the time
I'm from Bama as well, and I can say my best conversations comes from helping old ladies get items from the top shelf in the grocery store and joking with the guy who's carrying 6 cases of beer with his bare hands😂
If you are in the south, don't play with Spanish moss or walk in a field of Queen Anne's lace. Both are filled with chiggers....tiny little insects that bite and leave a horrible itch that you want to scratch till it bleeds. To stop the itch, cover the area with clear nail polish. It works. Btw, we call queen annes lace chiggerweed for a reason. Chiggers like light colored plants, so any white or very light colored plants and flowers will attract them. They jump from the plant on to you and they are almost microscopic they can't be seen. Sitting in grass can also cause you to contact chiggers. Sit on a towel or blanket, preferably dark colored.
When I was 19 or 20 my car battery died at a gas station in NC when I was on my way to visit my girlfriend. A guy came over and asked if I was ok. He then went into the gas station and bought jumper cables to jump my car. I really appreciate people like him.
Dude, I got a reminder of the anniversary of my Memaw’s funeral and I just started crying in the middle of the food court. 😭 This nice man walked up to me and asked if I was alright, told me it’s okay to remember those we’ve lost, and gave me a hug. 😂 Southern people’ll really make your day!
when i lost my mom i was an emotional wreck and tried to grocery shop through it. after the machine wouldn't take my dollar bills I just broke down into uncontrollable tears and multiple people came to help me 🥲I love how friendly the south is
I’m from the south and if my kids are misbehaving when I’m not looking I have no problem with another adult correcting them. In fact I welcome it. I then tell my kids “see, you should have been listening, now you’ve gotten into trouble” and then I’ll correct them as well.
My brother-in-law was not an anxious person, but when he ordered food he expected it in a few minutes. One time he ordered fried chicken at a little roadside restaurant in Georgia. After a few minutes the Black Lady who ran the place came out, bent over and put her arm around him and said, "Lord love you child that chickens going to be done when it is done. Now you just sit back and relax with a nice glass of sweet tea and think how good that chicken is going to taste when it comes hot and fresh from the frier
so much of this video was just wrong, but this comment is true. almost all southern cooking comes from french inspiration and you DO NOT MESS WITH COOKING when your in the south, were ALL serious about taste.
@@thunderborn3231no it doesn't. Matter of fact most Southern cooking comes from the influence of black slaves. Most of your French influence is in the areas of New Orleans and Mobile.
The scolding kid thing isn't angry,smart or mean spirited it's usually meant in a helping way, friendly. Like if parent is distracted maybe dealing with sales associates for example.,and the kid is wandering off one might herd them back to the parents side.
As a Georgia girl who loves the UK and has visited a few times, thank you for showing appreciation for my region of the U.S. I’ve noticed online that some Europeans like to make fun of Americans and assume that we are all ignorant and uncultured, so it makes me happy to see you showing us some love.
The biggest surprise alot of foreigners have in the south(and kinda America in general) is that there's a real sense of camaraderie. You're never really on your own here. If you get a flat tire, a complete stranger might stop and give you a hand and expect nothing in return but a thanks and a handshake. If you need directions, ask the nearest person and they'll help you out without missing a beat. Just want someone to talk too? Head to a bar an tell someone you aren't from here, they'll chat with you for the next hour and you'll walk out with 3 new friends. We just like to help people out.
I am a Texan that lived in the UK for a couple of years as a young teen. When I would be out walking, to the store or what have you, I would smile as I passed people on the side walk and I felt really bad about the reactions I would get until my mom explain to me that it wasn't customary like were we come from. made me so sad.
I'm from NYC and if you came up here smiling people would also give you bad reactions, because if I don't know you, why are you smiling at me? Are you trying to set me up?
Tailgating is a party in the parking lot outside the ball park. People grill. And have kegs of beer and bars and tons of food. Everyone parties with everyone. It's a blast.
Texan here. We are insanely friendly and welcoming, especially to strangers. But I have to give props to the Brits as well ... whenever I visit there people seem surprised that I am randomly talking to them on the train or whatever, but no one is rude or dismissive. One time I fell and got hurt in London, and so many people helped me at every turn when I was struggling with stairs and such with a severely sprained ankle. Ya'll aren't unfriendly, you just lack our initiative to spark up random conversations.
I was literally saying the same a moment ago about London to my friend while watching... friendly and willing participants in even an embroiled conversation... they just don't start them.
And yet Texas is stretching razor wire and bouys in the Rio Grande to kill people. Welcoming? Not..... And the guy who brought my surname here arrived in the 1760s, so quit typing.
@@LaserParody depends where you are in the UK. I was recently on a bus in Liverpool and people will just start talking to you. There are significant regional/class differences.
I am not from the South but now live here in South East Tennessee. We moved here because of how courteous and friendly they are. My door is always opened by men and boys. I would not have a problem with someone correcting my kids as long as it is done properly. I was raised all over the states in abroad and the military do correct others children. Come to the south it's wonderful.
@@AlexForrest25 I from Jackson and loved there all my life til the last 6-7 years when I moved to the mountains. I agree west tenn is a crap whole especially Memphis.
As someone born and raised in Louisiana, I can confirm every bit of this is true. Especially the talking to random people thing. I'm an introvert, but even I'll start a conversation with a random person cuz I like their anime shirt. I've made entire DnD groups like that.
Same I’m on the Coast in Alabama. 50 years old, I’ve lived here all my life. I have traveled a lot through out the US and yeah some places, I stick out like a sore thumb. Lol
From South Carolina, still living here, and can confirm everything that was said in the video. Food in the south is great, I hope you get the chance to try it some day. Full of flavors and we do not count calories. We go to the gym just to eat, and repeat the cycle.
As a southern mom we will correct others kids if it’s bad. Usually we bite our tounge if it’s something small. But if it’s someone we know we don’t hesitate. I was on the phone with my friend and her daughter screamed at her. I was instantly on her. “Na uhh, no ma’am we do NOT talk to our mom like that.” When you get here tomorrow you sit out for 15 minutes while the others swim and if I hear you yell at mom again it will be an hour. My friend was stressed and her daughter wasn’t responding to her corrections so I stepped in. She does the same with my son. For some reason it stops them in their tracks when someone besides mom corrects them. Haha
As someone from the South, there is a way to stop a convo with a stranger politely. But it has to be done politely and subvertively. "Well, don't let me hold you up. It was nice meeting you", works pretty well when you can fit it in.
Born and raised in the south. Early in my career, I worked in benefits for a phone carrier based in the northeastern US. I would get calls from employees about their 401k and pension plans. I had a degree from uni and really enjoyed benefits and math so much that I became a subject matter expert for our company. I remember getting calls from people who would immediately ask to be transferred to someone else because they heard my accent and would tell me they needed to speak with someone smart. I would oblige and transfer them along to another associate. I kept an eye on a few of their account details and would watch something I could have resolved immediately turn into an open issue that lasted for weeks in the work queue. Sometimes being petty just feels so good 😂😂
You mean you didn't throw a fit about the aggression and violence with which you had been treated and demand that your feelings be catered to? Proud of you.
@@colonialbuckeye2288 Have you called any kind of "help line recently"? They have no intention of helping. It's all about them and their personal boundaries, no matter what your rotten experience is with their product. She was obviously occasionally treated rudely, however she responded admirably when it came to satisfying people coming to her for assistance.
@@colonialbuckeye2288their basically commenting on how some people who get college degrees (no matter the level they finished at) act like their the Bee’s Knees when their “intelligence/degree” is called into question and demand that they be given respect because of it. No offense to those who have earned their Masters degree, but if you don’t have the work experience to go along with it, it’s not going to be worth much. True wisdom is knowledge and intelligence forged in the fire of years of experience like a sword from a master blacksmith’s workshop.
Properly fried chicken is a gift from God. Those chunks are chopped pecans. Chicken n Waffles are delicious-its counter intuitive but wonderful combo of salty and sweet. Pulled is more of a Caolinas thing but done everywhere. Right after that is uncooked pecan pralines which are a dessert common as you leave any Southern restaurant to take with you. At Xmas they make divintuy which is white and topped with a pecan half. Southern states except Texas arent large states but they didnt travel much when the state customs developed so they are different from area to area.Football of any kind is the second religion of the South.
I was born north east, but settled in Alabama. For sure; laidback, friendly, polite environment. Simply put; don’t underestimate the importance of American college football in The South. It’s almost a religion. Don’t miss out on eclectic range of music in The South; from Kentucky bluegrass, Louisiana zydeco or Dixieland jazz, Memphis rhythm & blues, and so much more.
The music is a culture at this point. College football season is one of the most dangerous times for any middle school boy to be alive down here rn if you don’t agree with the major opinion (for us, that’s the bulldogs)
@@sugarbonez777 😂 We named our latest rescue doggy Boodro (AL redneck spelling) because he reminds us of Zydeco music and the name Boudreaux common in Louisiana. 😂
I am from the South and do this all the time, but the reason it is done It's because we want it done. I want my children acting appropriately. And if I turn my head for a minute I appreciate someone else making sure they do. We want our children to be well behaved and well raised. It's the whole mentality that it takes a village...
@@nochildsupport4889Sort of. I'm also from South Texas. You and I both know if they cross the line hard enough, someone will tell the kid to stop. You know for a fact a kid running around your table you'll tell that kid "Hey, go find your mom." Lmao
As a fellow Southern. I can wholeheartedly agree. We do it out of love and, when it happens to my kiddos. I know that people have the best interest and teaching them a lesson.
As a southerner that has spent a little time in the UK, our relationship to the rest of the country is sort of like Scotland. They think we talk funny, eat weird stuff and that we are less intelligent. Don’t let misconceptions taint it for you, it’s a beautiful place with a ton to offer from every angle.
Because we are all from Scotland a couple generations back, especially in the Appalachian Highlands were Im at. My people are less than 160 years removed.
@@annwhitten990 you dont have to tell me, lol. my own lineage can be traced back to clan stewart, from my mother's side. of note, i was born in savannah.
My Dad's family came to Tuscaloosa AL, from Germany after WW1 and the whole Nazi fiasco (left as they took over), and My mother's is full blooded Cherokee. Even if I didn't love it to death here I'd have a hard time wanting to live anywhere else.
One of the things to remember about others correcting your children, it also means they are watching over your children as well. If the child is placing themselves in danger, running around playing, accidentally getting separated from their parents, most of the time there are friendly eyes watching over them. I can't count the number of kids I have swept back from the brink of getting hurt. Or the number of kids I have run across who wandered away because the parent has their hands full or gets distracted. When that has happened, I basically swoop them up and set out to find the parents (who is usually on the brink of, or full-on panicking). It is ingrained behavior in a lot of people from the deep south. It truly does take a village.
Tailgating is the several hour party before the game, and it's awesome!. In the parking lots surrounding the stadium, fans show up hours early with food and drinks, beer, grills, tables and tents, games etc. They party with other fans, share food, listen to music etc. The name "tailgating " comes from our pickup trucks, people would park their truck full of party supplies, put down the tailgate to use as a table for the food, and a tailgate party is started !
LSU football games are the mother of all tailgating parties! There are some people who come to the games purely to tailgate. They don't even have tickets to get inside the stadium; they just watch it on a portable TV, or on their phones. 💛🐯Geaux Tigers!🐯💜
@@crystalpreuett9539lol, my son lived in the Pentagon dorm at LSU in 2018. (Right next to Death Valley) People showed up on WEDNESDAY… for a game that started on SATURDAY 😂😂😂
I'm from North Georgia and I've corrected other people's children and I've had mine corrected. One reason is, if a mom is having a hard time with their kid or it looks like they're struggling a little, it can help to have a stranger say something. Children will often respond to strangers even when they've stopped listening to mom. Depending on their age, I'd typically say something like "Oh no. You're not trying to give your mommy a hard time, are you?". I don't know if it even really matters what you say. Just the general tone is likely enough. On the flip side, my reaction has usually been, "See? Even this nice lady noticed how rude you're being.". Works like a charm... most of the time.
Same, I'm from around Dahlonega, and it helps when others step in especially when you are at your wits end. It's mainly now found just in small towns though. I can also say the "Don't be alarmed when people strike up conversations with you." Is a *hard* fact. Just walking down the street in the South "Good (Insert appropriate time of day)", said with a smile and a wave of the hand is expected. It is a way of acknowledging your existence. Yeah it is a little thing but sometimes that is all that is needed to brighten someone's day. Also..."Hey, how are you?" Is a common greeting. Never fear, they aren't asking you to tell them your troubles...the appropriate responses are "Good, and you?" if you are doing well, if you are just ok "Fair to Middling. You?", or if you aren't doing so well "I've been better. You?" Again just an acknowledgement of your existence, but it is important you always offer the concern back with the... "and You?" to show your appreciation for their acknowledgement of your existence by returning the favor.
@lunarscribe8995 I lived in Dahlonega for a few years and loved it there. Being a native southerner, I appreciate people who recognize our manners and return the courtesy. I was born in Virginia but have lived in or have relatives in every Southern state. I have also spoken to children who are acting up.....mainly a please don't do that Hon followed by a where's your mama. Sometimes it's a be careful, don't fall. But I'm 70, and all my life, adults have stepped in to help when parents are stressed and kids are out of control. It's normal here in the South. Everyone needs help sometimes.
Yes this! I’m a single mom with no dad in sight to help me. My 5 yo was so attached to me, he would act out when it came time to walk together up to his kindergarten. Hitting me, going deadweight on the sidewalk. I couldn’t manage on my own. It was heartbreaking for me. An older man who saw just came right over and gently scolded my son about respecting his momma. My kid immediately switched gears. We are now great friends with that neighbor and exchange gifts frequently. It was ME who needed the support.
I am born and raised in Georgia. If you are having a bad day and don’t show kindness, we won’t get offended, but we will try to change how your day is going and brighten you up, if given the chance. We are very empathetic and we go out of our way to help people. Bad days are ok as long as you are willing to let us try to brighten your day.
Manners , and their use , change by region of the U.S. I work as a petrol station clerk , and had a father with 2 teenage boys visit my location recently. The Teens were loud , mildly vulgar , and acting just silly inside the shop. I made NO comment , but when they came to the register , one teen chose to make a snide remark to me about their behavior . I told him I would have expected some one of their age to already know how to act in public and if they didn't it was probably to late to help them LEARN. The Father thanked me for my response .
Midwest manners is just simple thanks and please. Usually “have a nice day” is common everywhere but it’s a MUST to say “You too” or else that’s very rude
It’s awesome seeing someone from outside my culture react to how we behave😂 whenever I would go to parties as a kid; my dad would always say: “don’t you embarrass me in front of everyone; always say yes sir, yes ma’am, and thank you.” To this day, I will call a 12 year old sir or ma’am because it’s been ingrained into me. Hope y’all have a blessed day!
Strangers correcting your children in the south is usually done with informing the parents in mind. It is much easier to accept in a low crime high trust community. It usually comes out something along the lines of “I see what you’re doin, don’t make me tell your daddy, you better quit that.”
the unique food of our area is blue crabs...they are natural in the Chesapeake and delaware bay area waters... blue craps steamed with old bay(a spicy creole) seasoning... often dipped or marinated in a beer/vinegar/oldbay blend before eating
Generally speaking its wise to treat each american state as if it were its own country. Food and culture differ greatly not just from state to state, but can also change from city to city, and different parts of the big cities can vary wildly from each other
For real, good example is the term "buggy" for shopping cart. All over Florida and SC and Georgia and western NC I have never heard someone call the cart a buggy.
@@gravygraves5112 I don't completely understand your comment. You don't hear people from Georgia use the term buggy? Because I rarely hear any other term for it.
I've def corrected other people's children in public. Sometimes a gentle "be careful" and other times I've given a full lecture. I've kneeled down and had a conversation about their behavior then asked them to apologize to their parent. I've never had a parent become upset. We're all in this together!
As a Georgia girl born and raised a lot of this is accurate. I’m a server and it grinds my gears when people from up north order “iced tea” and when I say “Sweet tea?” They always get an attitude and say “Just regular iced tea” and I’m like “… So unsweet tea?” Down here you can’t just order an iced tea, because there’s a huge distinction between sweet and unsweet tea.
I don't get why people would be so oblivious. I'm from the north and I say, "unsweet tea," when I want unsweet tea. Why? Because that's how you get what you want. 😆
If a Brit ordered tea, he might be expecting a tea cup with hot water and a bag of earl grey, but he's going to be getting sweet tea. A big one, with lots of ice. : ). That would be a "regular tea" in Georgia.
@@nelcorazs Try ordering a sweet tea in other parts of America and you'll be told, "There is sweetener on the table, sir." Well, it is impossible to make a properly sweetened tea by adding sugar after it is fully brewed. Apparently, Yankees do not study basic chemistry else they'd understand the saturation point of sugar in a liquid is different when hot or cold.
In the South, we definitely do "discipline" other people's kids. We are gentle about it but oftentimes telling a child that they shouldn't really be doing something can prompt them to stop. It's not done to be mean but rather to help teach them how to be polite even if their parents aren't there. We also support kids. If your kid is doing well on say, the monkey bars, we'll often tell them that they did a good job. We're not trying to be weird, we just want the best for our future.
Idk what y'all are talking about. This is never been a southern thing. If a kid isn't at your house or somehow in your business you better not say something to someone elses kid. Da fa
The saying in the south is “it only takes 2 to make a child but it takes the village to raise them” so yes, if a child is misbehaving random people will correct that behavior as they should everywhere.
A lady called me out for telling my son that we were going to visit the restroom and he was going to get a spanking for misbehaving. She actually said that she would call the police! I let that woman know that it was my job to raise respectful citizens, and while my children would someday be productive adults she would be talking to hers from behind glass if she didn't make sure her children behaved and understood manners and rules.
I was born and raised in the South. If you want good food, get invited to someone's home where you have a good Southern mama to cook for you. That is where you will find good Southern cooking. Restaurants are hit and miss and the expensive ones may not be as good as the dirty dives. Same goes for BBQ. Get invited to a cookout.
So true! Food is definitely a love language here in the south! We take lots of pride in our hospitality (including filling you to the brim w/ good, home cooked meals and snacks), raising our children w/ strong morals (not all, but the lrg majority of us go beyond just teaching 'good morals', as we practice Christianity), and treating everyone w/ respect and genuine concern for their well-being.
I was born in the south and would not live anywhere else. When I was a child it was hard to get away with bad behavior. If a neighbor had to scold you they were also sure to let your mother know then you were in real trouble. As children we were never allowed to address any adult by their first name. Being polite and respectful to others was a way of life that you were trained in through childhood. I'll add, great tasting, highly seasoned food is a way of life here.
I never use an elder persons first name. No way. When somebody asks me about that person using their first name I don’t know who they’re talking about😂😂. Respect.
We're not telling you to be a better parent we're instructing your children to be better and mindful of their surroundings and to show respect to not only people but property
I live in Nashville, Tennessee. I've been here for 2 yrs. Yes, ppl are sooooooo nice. The BBQ is amazing. Biscuits are addictive. Southern desserts are homemade. I've gained 15 lbs. I didn't need to gain. It's the best comfort food ever. 😋🤭😂 You'll love it! ❤
i am disabled, but i gladly give my seat to elderly, a pregnant woman, some one with crutches, or a young child. - i say good morning to everyone. at one job i was saying good morning, and the HR lady asked me to speak to her. she asked me why i say good morning to her, when no one has said anything to her in the 5 years she worked there. i told her because you smile be the only good thing someone may have in their whole day, and i want to be the one to give them mine. after that day instead of looking grouchy every day, she came in with a smile and waved to me, and i told her good morning. -
I've lived in small Southern towns all my life, and I loved this. A major complaint of mine is that American TV and movies absolutely make Southerners look like dumb hicks. Always. So glad to hear someone stick up for us. We do tend to look out for each other - even people we don't really know. I think our spirit of standing up for what's right rubs the Hollywood folk the wrong way. The "buggy" thing depends on where you live. I've lived in 4 Southern states and it's almost always called a shopping cart - very few people around here call it a buggy.
I also live in the South and the stereotypes sometimes irritate me. There will be a tornado or natural disaster that affects hundreds or thousands and the media will manage to find and interview some toothless sloth with a 100 word vocabulary.
Also what he doesn’t tell you is bugs, in the south we have a lot of bugs. I had a friend that come to visit from California and we were just sitting outside around a fire and she was like “what is that noise?” That noise is thousands of grass hoppers, frogs, cicadas and who knows what just singing the day away. That is what I call the real song of the south.
LOL!! I’m from Oklahoma. I had a friend from California do the same thing. He said “What’s that loud noise?” At first I had no clue what he was talking about. But it was the cicadas. Also my mom was born in California, moved to Oklahoma when she was eleven. She said she’d never heard or seen a thunderstorm until she moved to Oklahoma. I can’t imagine no thunderstorms.
As a native Georgian resident, the reason why people will tell your children they are "acting up" is because the saying "it takes a village" is essentially the southern outlook on families. Heritage plays a HUGE role in the pride we have and how we interact with each other down here. If you talk long enough with someone here, it won't take long for either a familial connection or a regional connection to be made/brought up. It's one big happy family down here lol
ALL of this is true in the south. I grew up in Appalachia in a small town and I can assure you if a child got outta hand and the parent was having a hard time someone would step in and gain control. I can remember being very young in a pharmacy and throwing a tantrum in front of strangers about not getting a Butterfinger candy bar. My mother practically lynched me in the parking lot when we went outside. The pharmacist had come outside to assist my mom and told her "good job" when she was done. He told me "you'll think twice about doin' that next time wont'cha?" You bet your sweet ass I didn't do that mess again 🤣
When I enlisted in the Army, I had never been further south than DC (excepting Disney World). They sent me to Georgia for basic and airborne school. In jump school I went out to explore and went to a mom and pop restaurant. I ordered a Coke and the waitress asked me “which kind”. Having thought I ordered something specific being from the northeast, the gears in my head came to a screeching halt. I just kind of blurted out “o cola”.
The whole thing about the kids is true, and i think its because most of us southerners are raised by the WHOLE family, not necessarily just moms and dads. We take the statement "treat them(kids) like your own. Which means the love and the discipline.
My mother scolded other people's kids all the time. She'd stop children who were running around inside a store and using that, DON'T TEST ME, tone that only mothers posess, would tell them to stop running and go go find their parents and stay with them. She'd even correct a child in front of it's parent especially if they were ignoring their parents directives. And I never heard one parent ever complain. Most were thankful. I'm sixty years old myself now and I do exactly the same thing. It's definitely a southern thing. No southern parent wants their children to be annoying or disrespectful to anyone else. It's a great matter of shame for a Southern parent to have unruly children. Even store managers and restaurant staff will ask you to either get your children under control or otherwise just leave. Unruly children are not tolerated for very long here in the south.. My mother was on a trip to Germany and a group of U.S. soilders were near and were using a lot of profanities. She recognized two of the soilders southern accents. And so she walked over to them and gave them a good dressing down for using that type of language not just in public but also in the presence of ladies. She asked them what their Southern mothers would think if they heard them talking like that in public. They all hung their heads and apologized profusely and promised to keep that in mind in the future. She was like that her whole life.
There is something about the way a southern mom will get after you that is absolutely terrifying I'm a grown woman and still won't cross a southern mama
I grew up in the south. This is pretty accurate. I love the “it takes a village” mindset too. It puts am incentive for both parent and child imo. For me, if I goofed up enough in public that someone else besides my parents had to correct me, I was absolutely screwed
Yes .. I once met a lady in the bread aisle and she was just she looked so sorrowful I asked her if she was ok? She started crying I ended up hugged her and she sobbed on my shoulder it was the anniversary of her husbands and sons death . So YES . We do love and hug random strangers in the south 😊
When I grew up it was normal for adults to correct any child for acting up. When parents found out, they would be even harsher to punish their children, especially if it happened at school.
Exactly , your parents didn't want you embarrassing the family by not acting right lol.
Yeah .. talk about double trouble. If I got punished for something at school and my mom found out I would get it a second time just for that reason.
@eTraxx and I bet it was not the punishment at school you dreaded.
Social media shattered the illusion that every adult is a person who is qualified to be correcting my child. You can inform me of my child's behavior and I will decide if the complaint has enough validity to warrant intervention.
@@JamieDWestII If my child was doing something dangerous and they were chastised by a stranger, I would be grateful. If my child was acting out, I would agree with them being chastised. I used to tell kids Santa was watching them when they acted out. I have also told them that there are some ugly sounds coming out of a pretty face.
My suggestion as Southerner, is that if you don't want someone else to correct your child, perhaps you should raise them to behave properly, especially in public or correct them yourself. We don't just randomly walk around scolding kids, but if one is behaving pretty badly we let them know that's not acceptable behavior. We don't touch them, we merely talk to them.
kids will sometimes be bad even with good parenting and that's part of learning.
@@rjmurphyo0and you have to correct them
@@oldmanbiscuit7518 I agree, if you know it's happening
👏👏👏 YES!
Unless it’s your moms friend then it’s a completely different story because she will beat you then your mom beats you then your dad beats you
AS a southerner I would be very embarrassed if someone else had to correct my child.
I’m a southerner and all I have to do is look at mine and they know to stop whatever they are doing. They just know better.
I know that look! I am 70 now, and grew up that way…if my parents got wind of something i did, then woe to me!
I had 3 boys in less than 5 years and when they were little people would come over and compliment me for how well behaved my kids were. They're teenagers now and still respect their elders and mind their manners. Train em young and you avoid a lot of problems later.
And I would apologize if they did!
Not sure why he says they're not judging you, because by all means they really are. If YOU the parent can't raise your child, that's your fault, unless there is other major factors influencing it. I don't live in the south but I would also be embarrassed if my kid was acting up and got called out by another parent. That just means I didn't do a very good job at teaching them, and I'd be so ashamed.
You know you live in the South when you sneeze in the grocery store, and three complete strangers say "bless you."
Absolutely true. I'm originally from Illinois and don't remember that happening there, but now I've been in Texas for a long time and I actually do that, myself! It's like muscle memory; there's no thought process to it at all. Hear a sneeze, say "bless you" at the appropriate volume for the distance between you and the sneezer.
Well, both my parents are from Decatur , Illinois , and we were taught to do it every time.
A lot of people don't realize where that phrase comes from. When you sneeze your heart actually stops for a second. ( at least that was the belief ) , and the phrase "Bless You" was shortened from "God Bless You" , because you technically died and came back to life.
From 3 different aisles 😂
This does happen a lot in Thousand Oaks California. Maybe in big cities like LA, but smaller towns, yes!
Here's a good rule for ya if you visit the southern US with your kids:
If you can't make your children behave, and you object to other people doing the job... don't bring them out in public.
If you do, your kids may not be the only ones that get a lesson in manners.
It's True. Some parents need a spanking for letting their kids run wild. 😊
There are a lot of people who disagree though. Jason Aldean's "Try that in a small town" in a way is saying the same for adults and lots of people are mad at being told to be .. civilized.
@@eTraxx - Yeah, I'm aware that a lot of people disagree. I'm also aware that there are a lot of self-righteous, sanctimonious idiots in the world as well.
So tell me... Do you think there's a correlation there?
@@MelodyT78it's rude to let your children run amuck.
@@MelodyT78 You let your kid run wild in public, it is my business. Teach your kids better.
As a woman from the south, if you're not smiling or appear happy you 100% will get asked by everyone if you're alright, if you're sick, and if there's anything they can do to help.
I'm from the south too but that doesn't happen to me. Though, people are nice for the most part.
@@robinhood4579yeah I’m from the south too, South Georgia, & that doesn’t happen here either lol In fact, we’d find it pretty rude if some random stranger was like “why ain’t you smiling? What’s wrong with you? You sick or something??” Lol we’d be like wtf... do I even know you weirdo? 😂 And if it’s a man telling a woman to “smile” we’d definitely not like that at all, just like any woman any where else wouldn’t. Yeah people are nice here & they will talk to strangers with no issue at all, but we will wouldn’t be cool with people expecting us to smile & commenting on it if we’re not. You don’t know what people are going through & questioning why they’re not smiling at/for you wouldn’t be taking very well at all.
@@kay-collinsDoesn’t happen with strangers but does happen with coworkers and such. Asking if you’re alright or asking what’s wrong if you aren’t smiling! That definitely happens. All of the time and has for my whole life! I know cause I’ve always found it annoying! 😂
I'm a born and raised Southerner, and I have done my fair share of this, but you have to admit it can get REALLY annoying. Especially when you truly are fine, but the person doesn't want to believe you, keeps harping on the question, and then gets mad when you tell them to buzz off. 😆
I'm from the south, too. I don't really take that as a compliment toward women.
Irish Immigrant to the South for +20 years now. Even when my accent was at the thickest, I've never met a more friendly part of the US than the South even after exploring around the great country it is. If you're wanting to feel like you're visiting a warm community, be kind and polite and you're met with it tenfold, but never cross a Southerner! I love the community I live in and will always root for em.
This warms my heart. Glad you’ve found it so welcoming here. :)
Amen brother! We are some of the nicest folks in the US but don’t get on our bad side.
@@AlleluiaElizabeth Everyone's been a blessing since I've migrated here after waiting for a visa for many years haha! First few friends in the States were my Neighbors and still are today. Felt like I had become a part of their family and even helped out with fixing their son's truck. Grand folks all around! :)
@@brandonhenderson322 And the most brutally honest! I can count the times I've been told by a Southerner that they couldn't understand me during my first few years due to a thick accent but we're beyond kind and polite about it! Some still have a laugh here and there with me ever since then when telling stories haha!
So happy you've found a welcome here in the Southern USA! My Dad was actually born in Ireland, raised mostly in New York, and moved to Georgia when I was small. He passed several years ago, but every time I hear the 'brogh, I get a bit nostalgic. ;)
Born and raised In Georgia. What he said about people saying something to your kids. He didn’t mean it in a rude unmannered way. It means if your kid is acting the fool and refusing to listen to you. We don’t like that kind of behavior. So someone may walk by and be like hey buddy you better listen to your mom. Stop acting like that.
I've definitely done that and had someone say something to my kids. Appreciated.
This is exactly correct. No one is doing it with malice. It is usually said just like that so not to offend the parents
Please don't forget the term "Bless your heart!" It is used differently according to the situation. If your acting stupid and someone says "Bless your heart" they are saying "Poor thing, look how stupid you are." If someone is having a bad day, "Bless your heart!" means "You poor thing, I'm so sorry!" Its a southern thing. Texas here.
Man I some times get confused because I’ll be doing something and having a bad day
That's a good explanation.
Sometimes it also just means “Bless your heart “
@crktritual Exactly. After reading this thread. It seems to me that "Bless your heart" is getting a rather confusing and bad rap" here. It can send many and often contradictory messages, and it just may not be realistic to expect outsiders to be sophisticated enough to really appreciate all of the nuances involved here, after all. Bless their hearts.
i always assumed it was just the first part of "bless your heart, cause that brain of yours aint gonna cut it in life."
I grew up in the south and it was normal for any nearby adult to call out a child being disrespectful. It worked. Not only did our parents not get offended you got a second talking to from your parents. The kids learned that society in general would not tolerate bad behavior. Makes for better citizens in general.
Is "talking to" still the term used? It might mean something a lot different now than when I was a kid. :)
@OmegaMTG from an NC native. It depends on the generation. MY generation (the 90s) we would get a sit down to talk but for harsher situations "the talk" would be a pick your switch or a "popping"
Amen.
@@OmegaMTG: LOL! I was wondering about that too!
Especially out in public
I'm from the south and if someone corrects my kid for something, I always thank them. No one is able to have eyes on their kids every second of every day. Plus, no one does it to be mean to the kids, it's almost always a safety thing.
YESSS!
Yes!! Most of them speak up BECAUSE They care and are concerned. They're not doing it to be like "HAH YOU EVIL CARELESS PARENT, CAUGHT YOU NOT PAYING ATTENTION TO YOUR KID, GOT YOU!" Like it's not a got-you moment for them. It's a concerning moment for them, and they're showing that they care about your kid and the community at large by speaking up. In fact, them speaking up to watch your kid if you're distracted and didn't know where they were could in fact SAVE your kid from some horrible kidnapper. I think some people take it as an attack on them rather than the help that it truly is meant to be.
Sometimes it's way more effective coming from a strange adult because the kids get used to ignoring their parents. They don't know what the new person is going to do. It's much more reflective of life as an adult.
Truth!
Honestly? For the kid thing it is amazing. I’m from California. But my kid and I really struggled his first few days of kindergarten because he’s very attached to me. But he expressed that attachment in anger, swatting me, throwing himself on the sidewalk. I’d be in tears trying to get him in class. One morning, he was throwing a fit on the sidewalk. An elderly man marched right out of his house, and stood my son on his feet. He said “young man, we NEVER hit our mother. Ever. You collect yourself calmly now. Apologize to mom.” My son instantly complied. “Now, you be a good respectful fella and walk to school. Do not give momma any more trouble. I will have a treat for you waiting at the end of the day if I hear you did the right thing” my son had no issue that morning. And sure enough, old man was standing at the end of his driveway right at 11:55 when we were walking back to our car. Had a wafer candy thing and handed it to my kiddo. Son hugged him. I cried so dang hard on that guy’s shoulder after I loaded my son into the car. I was just so thankful since it was a very difficult time and I had been divorced with no help. Now we are amazing friends. Kids just listen better to other adults, idk why.
I'm an old grandma, Mom of 8 and that's one of the sweetest stories I've ever read! 🙏
I had an antique store in Texas for a couple decades. Most of the children that came with their parents were little monsters and the parents thought it was acceptable for their kids to handle things worth more than their Mom's life. I disagreed. If the mom was continually saying, "Jeffrey, don't touch that. Jeffrey, don't touch that" with no response from the kid, I would just say, "Jeffrey, if you aren't going to mind your mom, you are going to have to leave the store." It usually had the desired effect, but on one occasion, mom had an issue with me attempting to preserve my livelihood from the depredations of her little stain. She spoke sharply, saying, "that is MY child, not YOURS," to which I instantly replied, "for which, I am eternally grateful."
@@angiemccray4498 Go Angie! We need more of THAT. We raised ours with the, "look don't touch or else" thing. We never even got to the "or else!" Even our autistic children would be quiet and polite in stores. Maybe I just got lucky.
@@MargieM10 Margie, I think part of it is the kid's perception of what the parent is saying, but one of the things I noticed most was the position of the kid in relationship to the parent. If the kid is walking next to OR in front of the parent, it will probably be not bad. If the kid is walking behind the parent, that's going to be trouble most of the time. Parents who let their kids walk behind them are not interested in what the kid is doing; they have put themselves first and are usually the "chanters". The "Jeffrey don't touch that, Jeffrey stop touching things" is a chant and for Jeffrey, since the chant doesn't change and there are no consequences involved in ignoring it, he views this as just something Mom does while walking and it has no meaning for Jeffrey at all. He doesn't hear it or respond to it due to the repetition making it like nothing more than background noise.
And no, you didn't just get lucky. Kids are like puppies; they want you to be happy and pleased with them. If they get kudos for being good humans, they want to continue being good humans. If good is ignored and the only notice they receive is when they misbehave, then misbehavior has that perk of gaining the notice of their bored parent. Both patterns grow more solid and irrefutable over time. Correcting a kid early in life with nothing more than "okay, that's something you're not allowed to do/say" in a conversational tone of voice will do the trick with a child who is secure in the love and protection offered by their parent. I know this to be true because I raised two glorious kids who both now have their own kids and grandkids and to this day, they still treat me like I hung the moon in the sky.
The reason children need fathers 100%.
Tennessee here. For real, I LOVED it when people corrected my children if they were misbehaving. Sometimes kids don't want to listen to, or try to challenge, their parents. An 'outside' voice sometimes gives that small bit of shock needed to make them take notice.
Heck. I have even requested other people to talk to my child because parents never know what they are talking about. They hear someone outside the family say the same things and suddenly the child listens! I don’t take it as disrespectful, I take it as help! And say thank you.
@@therasnipes4997 Exactly! Hearing the same thing from multiple different adults can only reinforce the child's idea of what's right and wrong, so we shouldn't respond negatively in most cases to when somebody speaks up.
Yeah, challenging or ignoring my mother was never a thing when i was growing up. That was California. All I ever saw I Georgia and Alabama was the "I'm gonna..." parent. The kids does something 20 times and the parent days of you do that again, I'm gonna [fill in the blank]...". But since they never do, the kids pay no attention to them. I'll admit that's mostly everywhere today....unless you living near a largely Hispanic community where not listening to your parents can severely affect your life expectancy. This is mostly true of younger kids.
@@WildWombats Only if discipline is involved should the behavior persist. That's not really a thing anymore.
Tennessean here as well, this is absolute facts, but seen on the opposite side, I’d be embarrassed as a kid if another parent said something…
Southerns say sir and ma'am to everyone. I am not originally from the south but I now reside in Florida. And I can tell you that people do tell kids to behave in public. And if you do not like it, that's too bad. You are in their home and they dictate the rules.
I've seen adults say yes or no ma'am or sir to kids.
I've done it before myself. lol
@@MrJAbear1 Yep, I have seen it as well. Another thing they do down here is say Miss or Mr. plus the first name. For example, How are you, Mr John or Miss Susan? My mom's neighbor says that to her all the time. A girl in a local restaurant has said Mr. with my first name every time I have been to that restaurant for over 3 years.
I live in Pennsylvania and i say sir and maam....its not just a south thing...or i am just a one off
@@sw3783 in south western Pennsylvania...so i am pretty close
@@edwardstimmell4860 In my experience, I have noticed retired folks in the north say ma'am and sir, but that's it. I once got yelled at in NYC for saying ma'am to a waitress. She knew I was a native New Yorker just like her, but she thought I was rude. So I became NYC blunt afterwards.
I'm in East Texas. The way most of us feel is that, if our own kids are acting a fool, we expect someone to set them straight. It's better for them to get scolded as a child than to grow up to act like a maniac and wind up in jail, or worse.
Absolutely. Kids learn quickly that acting a fool gets them in trouble every time, not just when their parents are watching. Plus the community as a whole is setting social expectations which leads to a calmer, more cohesive society.
I concur whole heartedly! If my kid is acting stupid, I appreciate someone letting him know!
Yep. I have a list of people I trust to spank the kids. And I don't watch kids I can't spank. It's mostly church members.
Well said
What part of East Texas? I'm in Lufkin. Deep behind the Pine Curtain! 😂
I've noticed the ones who don't like people correcting your kids, their kids are the ones who need it the most
Alabama grandmother here. When we correct someone else’s child we do it in a sweet, Southern way. And it’s usually to keep them from harm.
Examples:
“Sweetheart, hold my hand in this parking lot because cars won’t be able to see you, but they’ll see me.”
Or, “It’s not good
to go through a lady’s purse because there might be something in there that could hurt you.” In my case it could be medication, but in another Southern granny’s purse there could be a Glock.
A Glock? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 but true😳
oh for sure, many of my 'senior' relatives carry a gun for self defense. you take your life in your hands trying to hold up old people in the south.
Had to have the convo about my moms purse with my son when he was younger cause she doesn’t have a Glock. Grandma be packing a 357 smith and Wesson that is in the ready at all times
Or something even deadlier, like a 15 year old Werther’s Original
One of the joys in life (as a Southerner or American) is striking up a conversation with a total stranger in public. I've done it thousands of times. It's actually a lot of fun...
Agree. I’m from the south and live in Georgia. It’s great. Especially if I see a tourist lost in my hometown of Savannah and I say you look lost can I help you. They always look shocked and have met many great people from all of the world that way.
One of my favorite things about living in the south. In my rural neighborhood - drivers still wave in passing. Even the kids on the side of the road wave to drivers.
@@grogers511 I totally agree!... until I moved to a north Dallas suburb! 😂 1st person I waived at flipped me off. Lol... I miss the community and peaceful country life! One day I will make it back to the bliss of rural life!
Motto here. A stranger is a friend you haven’t met yet.
Always give compliments. I love complimenting people's clothes or their style. Normally it's a great conversation starter.
As someone who has grown up in a few southern states, yes. If they notice you aren't in a neutral/good mood someone will ask and see if they can help or just give you an opportunity to talk about it. It's not to be invasive, it's more of a community looking out for each other kind of thing.
That’s one of the best things about the south. When stuff goes bad- you’re sick, you lost your job, a loved one has passed the people really do gather and pitch in to help. It’s beautiful.
@@tiffanybrakefield4600 facts! Born and raised in Georgia here. My uncle passed away a couple of years ago. We have a huge family. The people from our church and our community got together and made enough food for a couple hundred people then came to our home and served us so we could share memories and grieve. They came back and cleaned up the mess too! They also got together and subsidized my family when I was out of work for a medical issue and came weekly to clean because I was only able to do so much. In my home we don't let anyone go hungry, even foes, and we help someone every chance we get. We get a bad wrap here in the South but the truth is we're actually not so bad. I'll never forget the first time I went up north and realized people aren't the same everywhere. That's not to say there aren't good people up north. It's just less common to find that hospitality factor because of the speed at which things move I reckon. I hope people from all over are able to visit the South and take a little bit of our southern hospitality back with them.
Even if they don't ask how your day is or what's wrong directly, at the very least they will talk to you about any number of random things to try and brighten your day a bit. (Being from Texas, i see this kind of thing happen a LOT...heck i've done it myself lol)
Texan here. It takes a village to raise a kid. At least that’s how my people look at it.
@@ericarandall6712To me funerals in the South were oddly often cheerful. EVERYONE shows up. When my dad passed we used the largest funeral home in town and every room was packed and everyone made a point to have pleasant conversations and laugh. The only time I saw anybody cry at any funeral was when the casket was being lowered into the ground but immediately after everyone was laughing again and we'd all share the food everyone brought to share and cleaned up before leaving
As a guy raised in the southernmost part of Texas, if someone corrects your child in public it is considered common, and you best not snap at them for doing it or you'll have many enemies in a short time. Especially if you are visiting a small town, the community is so tightly knitted that word about you and your misbehaving child spreads faster than wildfire in a grass field after a drought.
I'm from Louisiana and it is very much a thing to say yes ma'am yes sir to any and everyone perceived as older than you (growing up my dad would scold me and my brother SO BAD if we EVER replied yes or no, its seen as extremely disrespectful) and if your kids being a brat in public you will definitely be hearing about it
I can definitely relate. If I answered "yes" to my father he would say "yes, what?" To which I knew the proper reply was" yes, sir." He was not being mean at all. He was just requiring from us the respect he deserved as our parent.
Heck, I say yes ma'am and sir to everyone, even my pets 🤣. I'll tell my kid, "no, ma'am I need you to sit down in your chair", or my cat "no sir, you can't have that".
@@KnightsandPages That's hilarious, and I can identify with it. 😅
Sounds like my house growing up. If one of us kids simply said "yes" or "no," the response would be something Iike, "yes, what"? The appropriate response being, "Yes, sir," of course. 😄 Oh, the good old days when respect was not only taught but deserved.
Im also in Louisiana- even working and serving customers that are children, I will say ma'am or sir. We call everyone sweetie and hun. It's a term of endearment, not flirting. However, it can be as well lol. As for correcting other people's children, mostly it's to keep them safe as well. Tends to get the parents attention but they should have been paying attention anyway. Besides, if my kid is acting a fool, by all means call them on it. It's called how to behave in public. 😂
I'm from the South and I'd say that comment about correcting others' kids is totally accurate. It's an "it takes a village" attitude, for sure. Now, NOBODY should EVER lay a hand on my kids but if they are acting up and I don't see it, I hope someone will set them straight because we as parents can't have eyes on them at all times. And lets be honest, sometimes they listen to others better than parents anyway lol.
When Hillary Clinton said this republicans who are the majority of the southern state I live went insane, so I’m not so sure about this.
I was raised in a family where we were disciplined by all of the adults (verbally, not physically) and I can say with certainty that two of my aunts are scarier than both of my parents combined! 😆
Exactly, don't put your hands on the kids. But you better believe you are catching glares and will be pretty damn embarrassed😂
yep and that is definitely a southern thing. a lot of these "dont do this here" things are more like general customs, but this is one that is actually low key important to know.
I'll never forget the night I was having dinner with my best friend's family. I was about 7 or 8 years old, and the mom offered me some food. I don't remember what I said in reply, but I'll never forget her correction of, "No thank you." Scared the wits outta me and I've never reversed course. It does take a village!
DUDE the random conversation thing is REAL in the South 🤣 I'm originally from Miami and when I moved to Arkansas, I was SHOCKED by the amount of conversations people would start up. They're in no rush. They totally are down for a 10 minute conversation - most times others will join in. Southerners are definitely very warm and friendly!
Your from the absolute south of Florida we have such a different culture that we aren't even considered in the south
@matriexs i think you're confused about the content of my comment lmao
Bro if anyone even tries to starts a conversation with me I am walking away
@@more444store6: You're right! At times people need to get somethings off their chest & a stranger who will listen to them may lift their spirits.
Absolutely! Waiting in line will get a conversation started with people who are totally different.
Not only does other people correcting your kids help, but they don't get into as much trouble because they know someone knows who their mother/father is in a small town, and she will know what you did before you get home. PLUS if a child is in danger, they can run to any one of those who corrected them and know they will be protected.
I live in Arkansas and we still correct each other’s kids. It’s expected. If a child is acting up and needs correction, that child is given correction by the closest available adult. It’s just normal for us, so not offensive to us.
Not in the nea . I been looked at yelled at for just speaking out loud about a brat. And definitely not the nicest people like one thinks. That's just a stereotype. I ran into way nicer people as a whole.
Grew up in NE Arkansas. Same thing to this day
If there's no other adult around maybe. If an adult tried to discipline my child in front of me they would have a problem.
@gw2955 if you're there, then why would another adult need to. If they did, it says more about you than your kid. Don't inflict your misbehaving child on us.
@@claytondennis8034 so what you’re saying is, if any child needs correction that makes their parent bad? All children are perfect as long as their parent are? Get a grip. Even the best behaved children will need correction at some point. I teach a children’s Sunday School class. If a child in the class is being mean to other children, I will say something to them and then discuss it with their parents. I’m not beating them, just a gentle word of correction to stop the action. Why would you take it so personally that this is our culture? Just don’t move here. You don’t need to be nasty to people who are different than you.
I am old enough to remember strangers correcting the youngsters. From 2 or 3 up to 16 or 17, if you are doing something wrong, be prepared to be challenged on it. And I came from a smaller town where no one had a second thought about letting your parents know what you did. You could be in trouble and not even be home yet.
Same generational group here...lol, so true.
Roger that. I grew up in a time and neighborhood where you went outside to play in the morning (in the summer) and only came in to eat or it was getting dark. We had the run of the neighborhood and people knew their neighbors and their children. You were raised to respect your elders and if you were corrected by them, "Yes ma'am" or "Yes sir" might avert a report to your mother, and the dreaded, "Do you want me to tell your father when he gets home?".
Yeah, I don’t think it happens much anymore.
@@franciet99 No it doesn't, and the south is about the only place left where you can do it and not have a cop show up at your door.
Yep, if I did something wrong on an Army base as a kid, my parents knew before I got home. Overseas we didn't even have home phones and they'd KNOW.
I grew up in Southeastern Tennessee and if someone has to correct your behavior in public, you are absolutely getting it when you get home. I'm 50 now and i am disabled some and i still hold the door for my elders and ladies and children, always, even when I'm hurting. Great video bro!
Chicken and waffles
oh wow, another Elder Juggalo in the south. we're a dying breed. i also hold the doors for anyone, but i cannot separate how much of that comes from being a southerner, and how much comes from military service.
I'm in my 50's & from southeast Alabama. Growing up in the 70's a threat to tell my folks got me straight. A phone call or visit to tell on my misbehavior led to something that I won't repeat here.
Oh dear I think we grew up in nearby places. Is Munford and Atoka faring well? Hope you're doing good!
Mainly in Chattanooga is where I grew up,
Tennessee/Georgia line
Biscuits and gravy might be the greatest breakfast invention in the world
I’ve always lived in the south (Mississippi specifically) and I can attest that it is much more embarrassing as a child to be corrected by a stranger. The behavior gets corrected sometimes more effectively.
Right! Because kids can easily tune out their parents. But here's a stranger saying it. They automatically pay better attention!
Omg yes. The shaaaame 🙈
Especially when you knew you were going to get it all over again from your parents.
Yea and TERRIFYING! I would straighten up RIGHT AWAY … so would my daughter she’d cry immediately
As for correcting someone else’s child, I grew up knowing it didn’t matter where I was, if I acted up, whatever adult was around would let me know in a hurry I was wrong. And with my own kids, I think it’s helpful for kids to understand that behavior is unacceptable with everyone, not just their parents,and that they should behave whether mom’s watching or not.
The Southern US habit of scolding the kids of others stems from the idea of "it takes a village to raise a kid." Scolding interactions with various adults helps kids become more mindful of others. It also demonstrates a shared morality across the community.
In my experience growing up in Mississippi it seems to stem more from just enforcing respect regardless of age
@@jarrettlowery2802 yea like no matter where you are you act right
In California it's a taboo to say something or anything to a misbehaved child unless you go to the parent
@@adriantorres7315 yeah it’s just different cultures, i mean you gotta think about who’s in california in the first place. And the way people are raised, in the south you’re typically raised to be respectful to those older than you especially to the elderly
@adriantorres7315 tbf I think it goes too far where I'm from sometimes. I remember growing it wasn't uncommon to spank other people's children if they acted up at your house or at church. We even got spanked by teachers and principals at school. So I think there's a balance to be struck between the those two ideas
In the South, everyone is a substitute parent to everyone's kiddos. Watching and keeping them safe and in line :)
So true! I watch out for ALL the kids around here.
I think the "others correcting children in public" comes across harsher than it actually is. Most of the time is just gentle reminders, or in extreme cases done out of concern to protect a child (like about to wander into the street and there's an oncoming car). Kids are kids and can be impulsive, and usually parents have more than one kid so it can be overwhelming to keep up with multiple ones all at once. Tone and attitude go along way. It's easy to tell when someone is trying to be helpful or concerned versus condescending or judgmental. The inverse can also be said...if children are well behaved in public the general mood of strangers is pretty content. All soft smiles and compliments to the parents and sometimes to the kids directly. Like, "oh you're being a great helper for mom today, aren't you?" kind of things.
yea i mean now a stranger will usually say "where are your parents" if a kid is doing bad, they don't hit them any more. But 40 years ago when i was a kid if you were misbehaving a stranger might walk up and tell you to settle down, and if you didn't they'd pop your behind, and then when your parents found out, they would take you home and straight up whoop your butt for embarrassing them in public like that.
Agreed. Texan here, honestly,
anyone to corrects your child in whataburger, its because they most likely are about to hurt themselves something awful, and intervention was necessary
We respect the community, and We respect Texas
I’m a parent from Louisiana. I correct children all the time and I’ve seen strangers correct mine. If my son is doing something stupid I’m not surprised if an adult near him gives him a quick “Cut it out!”.
The correction is towards the child, never towards the parent.
That's very true. I'm Texan, and just the other day I was at the zoo standing in line behind a grandmother struggling to keep her grandkids under control. It was lunch time and they were hungry and restless. At one point, one of them took their shoe off and tossed it to the floor. That's when the father from the family in front of them turned around and addressed the kid saying, "hey there, how you doing young man? Would you mind putting your shoe back on?" The grandmother didn't get mad at all. I won't deny that there are definitely cases where other parents can be judgemental and stick their noses where they don't belong, but most of the time it's not done out of any sort of ill-intent. A lot of Southerners still have that "raised by the neighborhood" mentality even though most of us don't live in small towns anymore.
Respect for your elders is HUGE in the south! You give up your seat, you hold doors, you help them with reaching things, carrying things, you say sir & ma’am, & most people take their elderly family into their home rather than putting them in an old folks home.
Yes, because us old folks love being treated like children. If you have respect then treat us the same as you treat anyone else.
@@GTSN38I greatly appreciate those niceties. They are small things but they mean a lot. I do not consider it disrespectful by any means. I treat people older than I am with that courtesy and appreciate that courtesy from others who are younger than I am. It's called manners here. And it's not treating you differently. Everyone your age is treated that way. It's showing courtesy and acknowledging that your longer life means you have experienced things first hand that I never have (because they are no longer used in some cases) and therefore have first hand historical knowledge. You would be surprised how much you can learn from an older person if you take the time to know them. If you think about, everyone is treated a bit differently in relation to age. You wouldn't treat a toddler the same way you would treat a 16 yr old. You wouldn't treat someone 16 like you would a 30 year old. You aren't being treated differently than anyone your age. If you don't like this type of COMMON COURTESY MANNERS than I recommend you don't live in or visit the southern states. Best solution all the way around.
@@jacquelinejohnson9447 Especially for those parents who have convinced themselves that teaching your children manners and respect is damaging them. Please just stay home.
My son has a couple teammates from Alabama. They are super polite and respectful and always say "yes sir" to me. They are good kids.
The accent thing is LEGIT! I studied abroad in Italy and met an English tourist. He was surprised to learn I was from the Southeastern US and said I must be educated since I don’t have a Southern accent. I absolutely do. I just code-switched to a more generic accent to be more clearly understood. I was being polite. So rude.
Mom actively punished us for letting our southern/appalachian accents out because she didn’t want us to be bullied for it. I’ve slowly gotten more relaxed into it as an adult and it’s more noticeable now
You say yes sir and no sir to every single interaction no matter who you're talking to cuz respect is everything in the south
I am from the North but have lived in the South. I love the South! Everyone is nice and helpful. They love to talk and you RESPECT each other. A Southern woman is a force to be reckoned with.
Damn straight!! We love people with all of our strength but if someone hurts one of those people we love or endangers things we cherish... Hell hath no fury such as a southern woman scorned! 😂 We'll bless a heart and slap the taste from one's mouth in the same breath. All Southern folk will kill over their Mama, their kids, their spouses and their dogs. I'm convinced John Wick was actually written about a southern man (nevermind the reference if you haven't seen the movie. It's good though).
Common greeting, "How's your Mom and them?"
People always talk about how Latino moms are scary... *you clearly ain't seen an angry southern mom.* All it takes is one look and you'll immediately freeze in place. May god have mercy on your soul if she opens her mouth.
I have a story about people thinking a southern accent means you’re “dumb”. Years ago, I knew a young woman who was from Georgia. She really did look like a southern “belle”. She was living in New York City and attending college. A good number of people actually made fun of her accent. Back to today, she’s a JUDGE in Georgia. She is a brilliant person, had a career as an attorney for 20 years before moving up to judge. The reaction of people in NYC that she was dumb was simply she had a deep southern accent.
It's one of those ridiculous TV propagated stereotypes that doesn't hold true one bit! There are PLENTY of really STUPID people in NY, & plenty of brilliant people in the South!
It is pretty disgusting.
Yeah, it's a stereotype.
Born and raised in GA. When I would act up in the grocery store and run from my mother, it was not uncommon for a complete stranger to grab me and hold me until she got there. Nothing out of sorts, but it was very normal for most adults to help each other out. I think it helps create a very unique and polite culture. On the other side, if a stranger is mean to a child, it is not uncommon for every other adult to stand up for the kid. We basically self-police each other 😂
The Georgia culture is so nice and so strict at the same time it’s like the best place to grow up
The Georgia culture is so nice and so strict at the same time it’s like the best place to grow up
100% true!!!
Another don't is don't judge Southerners on the past of the South. A lot of people do that and have a preconceived notion of who we are down here. We arent our ancestors.
An important note: over the last few years, especially the last decade or two, we've had a HUGE influx of people moving to the south from other parts of the USA. So not everyone you run into down here will act the same. But this is the general cultural norms here, ESPECIALLY if you grew up here since childhood. And lots of transplants pick this up to some extent after living in the south long enough.
What's the difference between a Yankee and a damn Yankee?
Yankees go back north.
😂
@@eric-. Yep. Yankees visit. Damn Yankees stay!!! 🤣
Born and raised in South Carolina. If my kids are doing something wrong, I want someone to correct them and then bring it to my attention so I know to look for it in the future that way they don’t repeat their mistakes especially if someone else’s kid got hurt because that’s not cool and I will straight up make my children apologize.
I lost my wedding ring in the sink at a restaurant as I was washing my hands. It was in Birmingham, Alabama. I was telling my wife about it when I got back to the table, the server overheard, got the manager, and he took the drain apart to get my ring.
As a Yankee from Upstate NY, it does take a village to raise a child. I wouldn't be offended at all at a stranger setting my kids in line. That's a southern value that should be national standard.
When I was stationed in Mississippi it was a hell of a culture shock. Now I love travelling to the south. It's a slower pace, the food is always good, and to find the best you're gonna end up in somebody's mama's kitchen.
I was born & raised in the North & it was not uncommon to be corrected by any adult. And lord help you if they know your family, you’d really get it. That has gone by the wayside and it’s unfortunate. A lot kids & adults need to be corrected. Manners & courtesy is sadly vanishing.
I was born and raised in Texas, I have relatives in small towns up north, and yeah, good manners don't just stop at the Mason/Dixon. My aunt from Wisconsin never put any seasoning in her food (!), but you'd sure catch it hot from her if you were rude or selfish.
Fellow northerner, true story. Can confirm
More adults then kids if u ask me
I grew up in the west Chicago suburbs in the 60’s and the moms of my four best friends had no qualms about correcting my behavior or manners. And it was always followed up with a phone call to my mom for a heads up, which was always followed by a thank you from her. And when I came home, I was informed that she knew what I had done and was again corrected. But it also went the other way as well, and they would call her with praise for my manners and behavior. The “it take a village to raise a child” attitude among the adults died with my generation and parents didn’t appreciate others calling out their child’s behavior. But all generations behaviors and manners in the larger northern cities have degraded over the past forty + years.
Hmmm, also North Illinoian here, never seen any correction anywhere ever. Been to Chicago, Madison, Milwaukee, Minneapolis, and I’ve never seen any correction from other adults
I was at the vet once and in front of me on line was a very exasperated mom and a child that kept hitting a gate while the mom kept telling her stop as she was talking to the front desk. The child looked at me and I gave her a look and slowly shook my head no and that child was a perfect Angel the rest of the time there. I didn’t utter one word, but later after she’d been good for awhile I smiled at her and she smiled back.
I'm an Alabama boy, born and raised. The best conversations you'll have are the ones that you strike up with random people, I've learned a lot of life lessons from conversations with elderly men outside the courthouse.
I'm from East, TN... The thing I miss most about smoking cigs is that I would always have conversations with strangers when I was out on a smoke break. I met so many different types of people, all beliefs and all colors, and learned so much by just listening to whatever they had to say. I don't miss smoking but I do miss the social stuff.
An old lady stopped me in the produce section of a grocery store when I was a teenager just to talk about cabbage. We talked about nothing but cabbage for a good 20 minutes. There was no reason for it, we just enjoyed each other's company. Never saw her again but I think about her all the time
I'm from Bama as well, and I can say my best conversations comes from helping old ladies get items from the top shelf in the grocery store and joking with the guy who's carrying 6 cases of beer with his bare hands😂
@@jamesharris4695 And we appreciate your helpfulness and long arms!
If you are in the south, don't play with Spanish moss or walk in a field of Queen Anne's lace. Both are filled with chiggers....tiny little insects that bite and leave a horrible itch that you want to scratch till it bleeds. To stop the itch, cover the area with clear nail polish. It works. Btw, we call queen annes lace chiggerweed for a reason. Chiggers like light colored plants, so any white or very light colored plants and flowers will attract them. They jump from the plant on to you and they are almost microscopic they can't be seen. Sitting in grass can also cause you to contact chiggers. Sit on a towel or blanket, preferably dark colored.
When I was 19 or 20 my car battery died at a gas station in NC when I was on my way to visit my girlfriend. A guy came over and asked if I was ok. He then went into the gas station and bought jumper cables to jump my car. I really appreciate people like him.
Dude, I got a reminder of the anniversary of my Memaw’s funeral and I just started crying in the middle of the food court. 😭 This nice man walked up to me and asked if I was alright, told me it’s okay to remember those we’ve lost, and gave me a hug. 😂 Southern people’ll really make your day!
when i lost my mom i was an emotional wreck and tried to grocery shop through it. after the machine wouldn't take my dollar bills I just broke down into uncontrollable tears and multiple people came to help me 🥲I love how friendly the south is
I agree! Years ago, every kid got scolded by all adults, and we were better people because of it! So when in the South, do as the Southerners do.
I hope we never lose our southern ways.
I hope it doesn’t become a lost art in this ever evolving society.
So many Yankees moving here. Hopefully they leave their ways behind
Wtf
@@NeuKroftafacts
I’m from the south and if my kids are misbehaving when I’m not looking I have no problem with another adult correcting them. In fact I welcome it. I then tell my kids “see, you should have been listening, now you’ve gotten into trouble” and then I’ll correct them as well.
Most adults in the South have the same definition of misbehaving.@@Marcel_Audubon
@@sharellbrewer1496 no they don't, but all adults, North and South, have the same definition of a dullard: you
My brother-in-law was not an anxious person, but when he ordered food he expected it in a few minutes. One time he ordered fried chicken at a little roadside restaurant in Georgia. After a few minutes the Black Lady who ran the place came out, bent over and put her arm around him and said, "Lord love you child that chickens going to be done when it is done. Now you just sit back and relax with a nice glass of sweet tea and think how good that chicken is going to taste when it comes hot and fresh from the frier
That sounds about right.
so much of this video was just wrong, but this comment is true. almost all southern cooking comes from french inspiration and you DO NOT MESS WITH COOKING when your in the south, were ALL serious about taste.
@@thunderborn3231no it doesn't, but okay
@@ebonywinters7658yeah, it does. As does the language.
@@thunderborn3231no it doesn't. Matter of fact most Southern cooking comes from the influence of black slaves. Most of your French influence is in the areas of New Orleans and Mobile.
The scolding kid thing isn't angry,smart or mean spirited it's usually meant in a helping way, friendly. Like if parent is distracted maybe dealing with sales associates for example.,and the kid is wandering off one might herd them back to the parents side.
As a Georgia girl who loves the UK and has visited a few times, thank you for showing appreciation for my region of the U.S. I’ve noticed online that some Europeans like to make fun of Americans and assume that we are all ignorant and uncultured, so it makes me happy to see you showing us some love.
Europeans like to make fun of everyone. It's not personal.
Yes me too.... Virginia here..... been to Europe as well and cool to see love from over there
The biggest surprise alot of foreigners have in the south(and kinda America in general) is that there's a real sense of camaraderie. You're never really on your own here. If you get a flat tire, a complete stranger might stop and give you a hand and expect nothing in return but a thanks and a handshake. If you need directions, ask the nearest person and they'll help you out without missing a beat. Just want someone to talk too? Head to a bar an tell someone you aren't from here, they'll chat with you for the next hour and you'll walk out with 3 new friends. We just like to help people out.
I am a Texan that lived in the UK for a couple of years as a young teen. When I would be out walking, to the store or what have you, I would smile as I passed people on the side walk and I felt really bad about the reactions I would get until my mom explain to me that it wasn't customary like were we come from. made me so sad.
What kind of reactions would you get back then? ❤️🩹
I'm from NYC and if you came up here smiling people would also give you bad reactions, because if I don't know you, why are you smiling at me? Are you trying to set me up?
I was prepared for that when I visited the UK, so I was surprised when I visited Cornwall and multiple people greeted me on a walk through a park.
@@alyciajanellewell that’s Cornwall, nice people there
@@hotchocolategirl1derLeave that hole... before its too late.
Tailgating is a party in the parking lot outside the ball park. People grill. And have kegs of beer and bars and tons of food. Everyone parties with everyone. It's a blast.
Texan here. We are insanely friendly and welcoming, especially to strangers. But I have to give props to the Brits as well ... whenever I visit there people seem surprised that I am randomly talking to them on the train or whatever, but no one is rude or dismissive. One time I fell and got hurt in London, and so many people helped me at every turn when I was struggling with stairs and such with a severely sprained ankle. Ya'll aren't unfriendly, you just lack our initiative to spark up random conversations.
Texas is its own thing, not southern.
@@mrmatticus9693What? How?
I was literally saying the same a moment ago about London to my friend while watching... friendly and willing participants in even an embroiled conversation... they just don't start them.
And yet Texas is stretching razor wire and bouys in the Rio Grande to kill people. Welcoming? Not..... And the guy who brought my surname here arrived in the 1760s, so quit typing.
@@LaserParody depends where you are in the UK. I was recently on a bus in Liverpool and people will just start talking to you. There are significant regional/class differences.
I am not from the South but now live here in South East Tennessee. We moved here because of how courteous and friendly they are. My door is always opened by men and boys. I would not have a problem with someone correcting my kids as long as it is done properly. I was raised all over the states in abroad and the military do correct others children. Come to the south it's wonderful.
Chattanooga?
Yea she has to be amd chatt is awesome. I live in the smoky mountains
NW TN, it's not as nice, well, most of west TN isn't cause we have Memphis. Go to Middle and east TN unless you're going to a national park.
@@AlexForrest25 I from Jackson and loved there all my life til the last 6-7 years when I moved to the mountains. I agree west tenn is a crap whole especially Memphis.
I grew up in Chattanooga, Tennessee, and I loved it. It just got voted The number one place to retire in all of America 🇺🇸
As someone born and raised in Louisiana, I can confirm every bit of this is true.
Especially the talking to random people thing. I'm an introvert, but even I'll start a conversation with a random person cuz I like their anime shirt. I've made entire DnD groups like that.
Louisiana here and introverted too lol, idk why we do that 😅 but it’s too easy to start a conversation lol
Same I’m on the Coast in Alabama. 50 years old, I’ve lived here all my life. I have traveled a lot through out the US and yeah some places, I stick out like a sore thumb. Lol
From South Carolina, still living here, and can confirm everything that was said in the video. Food in the south is great, I hope you get the chance to try it some day. Full of flavors and we do not count calories. We go to the gym just to eat, and repeat the cycle.
Yep born and raised Northern Alabama and I felt this video lol .
live in Louisiana already started to disagree when he said always to smile
As a southern mom we will correct others kids if it’s bad. Usually we bite our tounge if it’s something small. But if it’s someone we know we don’t hesitate. I was on the phone with my friend and her daughter screamed at her. I was instantly on her. “Na uhh, no ma’am we do NOT talk to our mom like that.” When you get here tomorrow you sit out for 15 minutes while the others swim and if I hear you yell at mom again it will be an hour. My friend was stressed and her daughter wasn’t responding to her corrections so I stepped in. She does the same with my son. For some reason it stops them in their tracks when someone besides mom corrects them. Haha
As someone from the South, there is a way to stop a convo with a stranger politely. But it has to be done politely and subvertively. "Well, don't let me hold you up. It was nice meeting you", works pretty well when you can fit it in.
Southern hospitality means you’re (even temporarily) part of the family, and it takes a village
Born and raised in the south. Early in my career, I worked in benefits for a phone carrier based in the northeastern US. I would get calls from employees about their 401k and pension plans. I had a degree from uni and really enjoyed benefits and math so much that I became a subject matter expert for our company. I remember getting calls from people who would immediately ask to be transferred to someone else because they heard my accent and would tell me they needed to speak with someone smart. I would oblige and transfer them along to another associate. I kept an eye on a few of their account details and would watch something I could have resolved immediately turn into an open issue that lasted for weeks in the work queue. Sometimes being petty just feels so good 😂😂
You mean you didn't throw a fit about the aggression and violence with which you had been treated and demand that your feelings be catered to? Proud of you.
@@colonialbuckeye2288 Have you called any kind of "help line recently"? They have no intention of helping. It's all about them and their personal boundaries, no matter what your rotten experience is with their product. She was obviously occasionally treated rudely, however she responded admirably when it came to satisfying people coming to her for assistance.
@@colonialbuckeye2288their basically commenting on how some people who get college degrees (no matter the level they finished at) act like their the Bee’s Knees when their “intelligence/degree” is called into question and demand that they be given respect because of it.
No offense to those who have earned their Masters degree, but if you don’t have the work experience to go along with it, it’s not going to be worth much. True wisdom is knowledge and intelligence forged in the fire of years of experience like a sword from a master blacksmith’s workshop.
Properly fried chicken is a gift from God. Those chunks are chopped pecans. Chicken n Waffles are delicious-its counter intuitive but wonderful combo of salty and sweet. Pulled is more of a Caolinas thing but done everywhere. Right after that is uncooked pecan pralines which are a dessert common as you leave any Southern restaurant to take with you. At Xmas they make divintuy which is white and topped with a pecan half. Southern states except Texas arent large states but they didnt travel much when the state customs developed so they are different from area to area.Football of any kind is the second religion of the South.
I was born north east, but settled in Alabama. For sure; laidback, friendly, polite environment. Simply put; don’t underestimate the importance of American college football in The South. It’s almost a religion. Don’t miss out on eclectic range of music in The South; from Kentucky bluegrass, Louisiana zydeco or Dixieland jazz, Memphis rhythm & blues, and so much more.
sec college football turns humans into animals
The music is a culture at this point. College football season is one of the most dangerous times for any middle school boy to be alive down here rn if you don’t agree with the major opinion (for us, that’s the bulldogs)
I was just introduced to Zydeco and love it
@@sugarbonez777 😂 We named our latest rescue doggy Boodro (AL redneck spelling) because he reminds us of Zydeco music and the name Boudreaux common in Louisiana. 😂
Where did you settle in Alabama, if you don't mind me asking? I was born and raised in Mobile.
I am from the South and do this all the time, but the reason it is done It's because we want it done. I want my children acting appropriately. And if I turn my head for a minute I appreciate someone else making sure they do. We want our children to be well behaved and well raised. It's the whole mentality that it takes a village...
Absolutely 💯
😂 I live in south texas and the stuff you saying doesn’t fly here
@@nochildsupport4889Sort of. I'm also from South Texas. You and I both know if they cross the line hard enough, someone will tell the kid to stop. You know for a fact a kid running around your table you'll tell that kid "Hey, go find your mom." Lmao
@@Expertspecter for some odd reason I keep getting censored lol
As a fellow Southern. I can wholeheartedly agree. We do it out of love and, when it happens to my kiddos. I know that people have the best interest and teaching them a lesson.
As a southerner that has spent a little time in the UK, our relationship to the rest of the country is sort of like Scotland.
They think we talk funny, eat weird stuff and that we are less intelligent.
Don’t let misconceptions taint it for you, it’s a beautiful place with a ton to offer from every angle.
very fitting as many southerners are of scots-irish decent.
Because we are all from Scotland a couple generations back, especially in the Appalachian Highlands were Im at. My people are less than 160 years removed.
Yes we are @@rakninja
@@annwhitten990 you dont have to tell me, lol. my own lineage can be traced back to clan stewart, from my mother's side. of note, i was born in savannah.
My Dad's family came to Tuscaloosa AL, from Germany after WW1 and the whole Nazi fiasco (left as they took over), and My mother's is full blooded Cherokee. Even if I didn't love it to death here I'd have a hard time wanting to live anywhere else.
One of the things to remember about others correcting your children, it also means they are watching over your children as well. If the child is placing themselves in danger, running around playing, accidentally getting separated from their parents, most of the time there are friendly eyes watching over them. I can't count the number of kids I have swept back from the brink of getting hurt. Or the number of kids I have run across who wandered away because the parent has their hands full or gets distracted. When that has happened, I basically swoop them up and set out to find the parents (who is usually on the brink of, or full-on panicking). It is ingrained behavior in a lot of people from the deep south. It truly does take a village.
Tailgating is the several hour party before the game, and it's awesome!. In the parking lots surrounding the stadium, fans show up hours early with food and drinks, beer, grills, tables and tents, games etc. They party with other fans, share food, listen to music etc. The name "tailgating " comes from our pickup trucks, people would park their truck full of party supplies, put down the tailgate to use as a table for the food, and a tailgate party is started !
If you want to see real southern tailgating watch some videos of The Grove at Ole Miss.
LSU football games are the mother of all tailgating parties! There are some people who come to the games purely to tailgate. They don't even have tickets to get inside the stadium; they just watch it on a portable TV, or on their phones.
💛🐯Geaux Tigers!🐯💜
@@crystalpreuett9539lol, my son lived in the Pentagon dorm at LSU in 2018. (Right next to Death Valley) People showed up on WEDNESDAY… for a game that started on SATURDAY 😂😂😂
Yes sir and yes ma'am to everyone, especially service workers. They deserve all of the respect.
I'm from North Georgia and I've corrected other people's children and I've had mine corrected. One reason is, if a mom is having a hard time with their kid or it looks like they're struggling a little, it can help to have a stranger say something. Children will often respond to strangers even when they've stopped listening to mom. Depending on their age, I'd typically say something like "Oh no. You're not trying to give your mommy a hard time, are you?". I don't know if it even really matters what you say. Just the general tone is likely enough. On the flip side, my reaction has usually been, "See? Even this nice lady noticed how rude you're being.". Works like a charm... most of the time.
Same, I'm from around Dahlonega, and it helps when others step in especially when you are at your wits end. It's mainly now found just in small towns though. I can also say the "Don't be alarmed when people strike up conversations with you." Is a *hard* fact. Just walking down the street in the South "Good (Insert appropriate time of day)", said with a smile and a wave of the hand is expected. It is a way of acknowledging your existence. Yeah it is a little thing but sometimes that is all that is needed to brighten someone's day. Also..."Hey, how are you?" Is a common greeting. Never fear, they aren't asking you to tell them your troubles...the appropriate responses are "Good, and you?" if you are doing well, if you are just ok "Fair to Middling. You?", or if you aren't doing so well "I've been better. You?" Again just an acknowledgement of your existence, but it is important you always offer the concern back with the... "and You?" to show your appreciation for their acknowledgement of your existence by returning the favor.
@lunarscribe8995 I lived in Dahlonega for a few years and loved it there. Being a native southerner, I appreciate people who recognize our manners and return the courtesy. I was born in Virginia but have lived in or have relatives in every Southern state. I have also spoken to children who are acting up.....mainly a please don't do that Hon followed by a where's your mama. Sometimes it's a be careful, don't fall. But I'm 70, and all my life, adults have stepped in to help when parents are stressed and kids are out of control. It's normal here in the South. Everyone needs help sometimes.
Agree! I do the same and appreciate when it has happened in the reverse. I see it as parents helping each other. Small town in Kentucky here.
Yes this! I’m a single mom with no dad in sight to help me. My 5 yo was so attached to me, he would act out when it came time to walk together up to his kindergarten. Hitting me, going deadweight on the sidewalk. I couldn’t manage on my own. It was heartbreaking for me. An older man who saw just came right over and gently scolded my son about respecting his momma. My kid immediately switched gears. We are now great friends with that neighbor and exchange gifts frequently. It was ME who needed the support.
Thank you for your service 🙏🏼 people like you have made being a single mother tolerable
I am born and raised in Georgia. If you are having a bad day and don’t show kindness, we won’t get offended, but we will try to change how your day is going and brighten you up, if given the chance. We are very empathetic and we go out of our way to help people. Bad days are ok as long as you are willing to let us try to brighten your day.
Manners , and their use , change by region of the U.S. I work as a petrol station clerk , and had a father with 2 teenage boys visit my location recently. The Teens were loud , mildly vulgar , and acting just silly inside the shop. I made NO comment , but when they came to the register , one teen chose to make a snide remark to me about their behavior . I told him I would have expected some one of their age to already know how to act in public and if they didn't it was probably to late to help them LEARN. The Father thanked me for my response .
Midwest manners is just simple thanks and please. Usually “have a nice day” is common everywhere but it’s a MUST to say “You too” or else that’s very rude
It’s awesome seeing someone from outside my culture react to how we behave😂 whenever I would go to parties as a kid; my dad would always say: “don’t you embarrass me in front of everyone; always say yes sir, yes ma’am, and thank you.” To this day, I will call a 12 year old sir or ma’am because it’s been ingrained into me. Hope y’all have a blessed day!
Strangers correcting your children in the south is usually done with informing the parents in mind. It is much easier to accept in a low crime high trust community. It usually comes out something along the lines of “I see what you’re doin, don’t make me tell your daddy, you better quit that.”
Oooh or a sharp “No sir!” Or “No ma’am!” Would make my butt pucker in fear as a kid lol
the unique food of our area is blue crabs...they are natural in the Chesapeake and delaware bay area waters... blue craps steamed with old bay(a spicy creole) seasoning... often dipped or marinated in a beer/vinegar/oldbay blend before eating
Mmmmmm sounds delish! ❤
Generally speaking its wise to treat each american state as if it were its own country. Food and culture differ greatly not just from state to state, but can also change from city to city, and different parts of the big cities can vary wildly from each other
For real, good example is the term "buggy" for shopping cart. All over Florida and SC and Georgia and western NC I have never heard someone call the cart a buggy.
@@gravygraves5112 I don't completely understand your comment. You don't hear people from Georgia use the term buggy? Because I rarely hear any other term for it.
@@gravygraves5112My mother comes from Columbia, South Carolina, and she only calls it a buggy, along with my grandparents
This is so true. Here in Louisiana it’s like three different cultures: north Louisiana, southwest, and southeast/New Orleans.
@@gravygraves5112I’m from NE Kentucky & that’s all we fall then (buggy). Someone says “cart” & I ask them where the motor is. Lol!
I've def corrected other people's children in public. Sometimes a gentle "be careful" and other times I've given a full lecture. I've kneeled down and had a conversation about their behavior then asked them to apologize to their parent. I've never had a parent become upset. We're all in this together!
I mean at least you're not being mean.
@@Sputterbug That's the point
It takes a village to raise a child.
As a Georgia girl born and raised a lot of this is accurate. I’m a server and it grinds my gears when people from up north order “iced tea” and when I say “Sweet tea?” They always get an attitude and say “Just regular iced tea” and I’m like “… So unsweet tea?” Down here you can’t just order an iced tea, because there’s a huge distinction between sweet and unsweet tea.
If you're actuslly a Southerner then you should know "iced tea" almost always means sweet.
I don't get why people would be so oblivious. I'm from the north and I say, "unsweet tea," when I want unsweet tea. Why? Because that's how you get what you want. 😆
@@nelcorazs Hi! Just because your experience is different from someone else’s doesn’t mean they’re lying. :)
If a Brit ordered tea, he might be expecting a tea cup with hot water and a bag of earl grey, but he's going to be getting sweet tea. A big one, with lots of ice. : ). That would be a "regular tea" in Georgia.
@@nelcorazs Try ordering a sweet tea in other parts of America and you'll be told, "There is sweetener on the table, sir." Well, it is impossible to make a properly sweetened tea by adding sugar after it is fully brewed.
Apparently, Yankees do not study basic chemistry else they'd understand the saturation point of sugar in a liquid is different when hot or cold.
Grits are a staple in the South. So many different ways you can cook them. I definitely recommend shrimp and grits.
In the South, we definitely do "discipline" other people's kids. We are gentle about it but oftentimes telling a child that they shouldn't really be doing something can prompt them to stop. It's not done to be mean but rather to help teach them how to be polite even if their parents aren't there. We also support kids. If your kid is doing well on say, the monkey bars, we'll often tell them that they did a good job. We're not trying to be weird, we just want the best for our future.
Idk what y'all are talking about. This is never been a southern thing. If a kid isn't at your house or somehow in your business you better not say something to someone elses kid. Da fa
@@joeb134 Your experience is not universal.
@@joeb134um yes. People do.
The saying in the south is “it only takes 2 to make a child but it takes the village to raise them” so yes, if a child is misbehaving random people will correct that behavior as they should everywhere.
A lady called me out for telling my son that we were going to visit the restroom and he was going to get a spanking for misbehaving. She actually said that she would call the police! I let that woman know that it was my job to raise respectful citizens, and while my children would someday be productive adults she would be talking to hers from behind glass if she didn't make sure her children behaved and understood manners and rules.
I was born and raised in the South. If you want good food, get invited to someone's home where you have a good Southern mama to cook for you. That is where you will find good Southern cooking. Restaurants are hit and miss and the expensive ones may not be as good as the dirty dives. Same goes for BBQ. Get invited to a cookout.
So true! Food is definitely a love language here in the south! We take lots of pride in our hospitality (including filling you to the brim w/ good, home cooked meals and snacks), raising our children w/ strong morals (not all, but the lrg majority of us go beyond just teaching 'good morals', as we practice Christianity), and treating everyone w/ respect and genuine concern for their well-being.
I was born in the south and would not live anywhere else. When I was a child it was hard to get away with bad behavior. If a neighbor had to scold you they were also sure to let your mother know then you were in real trouble. As children we were never allowed to address any adult by their first name. Being polite and respectful to others was a way of life that you were trained in through childhood. I'll add, great tasting, highly seasoned food is a way of life here.
I'll never get over getting to my late 20s and hearing kids call me Miss Jackie. 10 years later, and I've embraced it, but it still seems weird. 😂
I never use an elder persons first name. No way. When somebody asks me about that person using their first name I don’t know who they’re talking about😂😂. Respect.
We're not telling you to be a better parent we're instructing your children to be better and mindful of their surroundings and to show respect to not only people but property
Amen Sister! So true.
Where I live we fully believe it takes a village. Also, kids listen to others more than their own parents sometimes.
I live in Nashville, Tennessee. I've been here for 2 yrs. Yes, ppl are sooooooo nice. The BBQ is amazing. Biscuits are addictive. Southern desserts are homemade. I've gained 15 lbs. I didn't need to gain. It's the best comfort food ever. 😋🤭😂 You'll love it! ❤
@@jenniferjordan1234 Only if their parents aren't firm with them and inconsistent.
They do the same in Germany. ❤
i am disabled, but i gladly give my seat to elderly, a pregnant woman, some one with crutches, or a young child.
- i say good morning to everyone. at one job i was saying good morning, and the HR lady asked me to speak to her. she asked me why i say good morning to her, when no one has said anything to her in the 5 years she worked there. i told her because you smile be the only good thing someone may have in their whole day, and i want to be the one to give them mine. after that day instead of looking grouchy every day, she came in with a smile and waved to me, and i told her good morning.
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That's the way I am, too, for the very same reason.😄
I've lived in small Southern towns all my life, and I loved this. A major complaint of mine is that American TV and movies absolutely make Southerners look like dumb hicks. Always. So glad to hear someone stick up for us. We do tend to look out for each other - even people we don't really know. I think our spirit of standing up for what's right rubs the Hollywood folk the wrong way. The "buggy" thing depends on where you live. I've lived in 4 Southern states and it's almost always called a shopping cart - very few people around here call it a buggy.
I'm from Texas and my wife is from Missouri. My wife calls it a cart, and I call it a basket.
Yeah, I live in Tennessee and I've only ever heard it called a buggy
He's wrong, we drink unsweetened tea as well.
I also live in the South and the stereotypes sometimes irritate me. There will be a tornado or natural disaster that affects hundreds or thousands and the media will manage to find and interview some toothless sloth with a 100 word vocabulary.
Dukes abd Blue Plate sucks. Hellmann's all the way. Coastal Bend South Texas here!
Also what he doesn’t tell you is bugs, in the south we have a lot of bugs. I had a friend that come to visit from California and we were just sitting outside around a fire and she was like “what is that noise?” That noise is thousands of grass hoppers, frogs, cicadas and who knows what just singing the day away. That is what I call the real song of the south.
I used to sit outside a lot in the evenings come Spring and Summer..I came to call it the 'Nighttime Symphony' 😊
That is chicken & waffles!!! DELICIOUS! Breakfast,lunch & supper! ANYTIME is appropriate! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ YUMMY!
And HUMIDITY, I’m from here and moved to Utah for a bit, when I came back it was way worse than I remembered
@@scottrobinson9334 The humidity is so bad at times that it's like trying to breathe underwater.
LOL!! I’m from Oklahoma. I had a friend from California do the same thing. He said “What’s that loud noise?” At first I had no clue what he was talking about. But it was the cicadas. Also my mom was born in California, moved to Oklahoma when she was eleven. She said she’d never heard or seen a thunderstorm until she moved to Oklahoma. I can’t imagine no thunderstorms.
As a native Georgian resident, the reason why people will tell your children they are "acting up" is because the saying "it takes a village" is essentially the southern outlook on families. Heritage plays a HUGE role in the pride we have and how we interact with each other down here. If you talk long enough with someone here, it won't take long for either a familial connection or a regional connection to be made/brought up. It's one big happy family down here lol
Wow I typed that before it was mentioned lol it's just an ingrained habit
ALL of this is true in the south. I grew up in Appalachia in a small town and I can assure you if a child got outta hand and the parent was having a hard time someone would step in and gain control. I can remember being very young in a pharmacy and throwing a tantrum in front of strangers about not getting a Butterfinger candy bar. My mother practically lynched me in the parking lot when we went outside. The pharmacist had come outside to assist my mom and told her "good job" when she was done. He told me "you'll think twice about doin' that next time wont'cha?" You bet your sweet ass I didn't do that mess again 🤣
When I enlisted in the Army, I had never been further south than DC (excepting Disney World). They sent me to Georgia for basic and airborne school. In jump school I went out to explore and went to a mom and pop restaurant. I ordered a Coke and the waitress asked me “which kind”. Having thought I ordered something specific being from the northeast, the gears in my head came to a screeching halt. I just kind of blurted out “o cola”.
That’s comedy gold
Where were you in Ga? Was it Robins AF Base or nearabout there?
@@matthewcarter2683 Fort Benning.
@@matthewcarter2683probably Columbus Fort Benning.
Not o cola!! 😂😂👏🏽
The whole thing about the kids is true, and i think its because most of us southerners are raised by the WHOLE family, not necessarily just moms and dads. We take the statement "treat them(kids) like your own. Which means the love and the discipline.
My mother scolded other people's kids all the time. She'd stop children who were running around inside a store and using that, DON'T TEST ME, tone that only mothers posess, would tell them to stop running and go go find their parents and stay with them. She'd even correct a child in front of it's parent especially if they were ignoring their parents directives. And I never heard one parent ever complain. Most were thankful. I'm sixty years old myself now and I do exactly the same thing. It's definitely a southern thing. No southern parent wants their children to be annoying or disrespectful to anyone else. It's a great matter of shame for a Southern parent to have unruly children. Even store managers and restaurant staff will ask you to either get your children under control or otherwise just leave. Unruly children are not tolerated for very long here in the south..
My mother was on a trip to Germany and a group of U.S. soilders were near and were using a lot of profanities. She recognized two of the soilders southern accents. And so she walked over to them and gave them a good dressing down for using that type of language not just in public but also in the presence of ladies. She asked them what their Southern mothers would think if they heard them talking like that in public.
They all hung their heads and apologized profusely and promised to keep that in mind in the future. She was like that her whole life.
There is something about the way a southern mom will get after you that is absolutely terrifying I'm a grown woman and still won't cross a southern mama
I started teaching my kids manners when they started to talk. I showed manners to my babies so they understand to treat people. ❤
I grew up in the south. This is pretty accurate. I love the “it takes a village” mindset too. It puts am incentive for both parent and child imo. For me, if I goofed up enough in public that someone else besides my parents had to correct me, I was absolutely screwed
Yes .. I once met a lady in the bread aisle and she was just she looked so sorrowful I asked her if she was ok? She started crying I ended up hugged her and she sobbed on my shoulder it was the anniversary of her husbands and sons death . So YES . We do love and hug random strangers in the south 😊