here's a stupid question for you , do you need help ? you probably think you do not . do you drink alcohol or smoke , do you buy fancy items while we still have good poor people ???? if so then you need help . most people need some sort of help lol :))
@@carmichaelmoritz8662 Did Jesus help every person and speak to every person while He was here on earth? No...He knew their thoughts, their feelings, their future choices...Still today, the Holy Spirit tells us who to help and not help sometimes because G-d already knows that that person's choice will be. He still gives people the opportunity to repent, change and be healed. That is why we are instructed not to "Cast our pearls before swine" Not every person wants to repent, be healed and choose to follow after Jesus. They are going to manipulate and/or purosefully misunderstand what is being said. And by the way, there is nothing Biblically wrong with alchohol...or buying "fancy items" while there are poor people in this world.
I've been silent with toxic ex friends and family and I'm going staying silent, Thank you for your video and I wish everyone well who's going throw this with jealous bitter hatefull people God bless us Amen 🙏❤️
lol at god . if god had it children would not be abused . a good god would not let that happen . just like a good parent would not let that happen . it claims god is all seeing and yet this so called god creator just lets defenceless people get abused .
The devil is real but God has defeated him and He knows his time is short to take as many people to hell with him..Dont be one of them! Eternity is a long time to wish you had a change of heart and accepted Jesus as Lord! Do it today!
After 19 years of abuse...when I said "no more" to my husband and refused to forget his abuse anymore....it took 2 years of me hanging up on him, closing the door in his face, and enduring his financial manipulations....2 years! Before he finally believed that I was not going back to my old behaviors! That the only way for me was forward without him.
There is no limit here. Narcissists feel “others” as an extension of self, so they see “you” the same way you see your arm or leg. There is never any bad intent towards you, because that is literally impossible. You are either all good or all bad. Both provide dopamine to regulate the internal panic/nihilism they feel 24/7. If there is no drama (bad often gives more dopamine), they have to find more, then they forget about you completely. Until source dynamics shift. Then you could be approached again (10-15 years later). The issue is only dopamine and nothing more. Also, if a person has a higher differentiation (done their family or origin work, where they first learned how to attract narcissists) that means boundaries and potential exposure of the narcissist (to themselves, by others mirroring back that they no longer buy the false self). It’s so true what you say, that the only way forward was without him. That was true from day one. I have to study and listen to others experiences every single day, because it’s so hard to wrap ones head around how all this works. It is a blessing from God to have been made aware of the problem. The real truth.
@@WDBDWK They know exactly what they are doing and they are evil , ENVIOUS and malicious. "The wicked watches the righteous, And seeks to slay him." Psalm 37:32 "For they do not sleep unless they have done evil; And their sleep is taken away unless they make someone fall." Proverbs 4:16 "Many a time they have persecuted me from my youth, but they have not prevailed against me. The plowmen (narcs) plowed over my back (slandered, betrayed, disrespected, abused), they made their furrows long (turned everyone against you before you knew what was going on) The LORD is righteous; He has cut me asunder from the cords of the wicked.…" Psalm 129:3-5 Psalm 124:6-8 "Blessed be the LORD, who has not given us as prey to their teeth. Our soul has escaped like a bird from the snare of the fowler; the net is torn, and we have slipped away. Our help is in the name of the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.…"
Was with a toxic woman loved her with every bone in my body. I Ended the relationship because I came to realization that she is who she is and I can’t change that. No longer allowing anyone to treat me negatively when I am actively showing love and appreciation life is too short and I don’t want to be 50 telling myself I wish I just jumped.
Fantastic video. I really needed this so much at the moment… “You can articulate your emotions in toxic relationships but you’re not going to get the response you hope to get.” *** “Your true emotions are your pearls. Don’t throw them out to toxic narcissistic swine because they will trample it under their feet and then turn and tear you to pieces.” Much love, Diana
Took years to identify my mothers behavior. Having no one in my corner it took time to recognize her behavior as toxic narcissism. Coupled with alcohol and prescription drug abuse among others. It took her spitting on me and telling me she wish she had aborted me for me to finally connect all the dots. I have made the decision to stop talking to her for good.
I’m so glad you have stopped contact. Now live a healthy life and be happy. I have a narcissistic mother, I know the pain. I’m currently not talking to her.
We don't choose the family we're born into. I have been radio-silent from my family of origin for most of my adult life (I'm 65) . Walking away from a one-way relationship isn't as hard as you might think. Admitting your family is not a family is hard, but when I learned my father had died and I felt absolutely nothing, I realized there had never been a real family to let go of.
I worked with a narcissist for six months. I knew the first day, there was going to be trouble. At first I kept my mouth shut. Finally though I go sick of the double standard and abuse and it was war. Neither one of us were going to take hostages. When it was all over, she quit, and I transferred. It was one of the worst periods of my life. It took a year or two to get over it. I felt like I needed therapy afterwards. I am sure it was hard on her too as she had to deal with being a narcissist, and I mean textbook, and me. She is back at my organization, but another campus. If I ever work near her again, it will be silence. Battling a narcissist isn't worth it. Very very taxing, and they will always escalate, sometimes even in dangerous ways. Not worth it. "Interesting game. The best move is not to play."
Thanks for this video Yesterday was the hardest day in my life putting on an restricting warrent to my father due to continoues verbal vilolence from him and harresment that sucked all life from me. When we were kids he used to beat me and my sisters very hard daily and lock us for whole days and nights without water and food, he turned to verbal viloence in the past years and today I put a stop for this madness. A glouerious yet super hard day... Better days are ahead!
Please take care of yourself...stay safe...learn more about these people Learn how and when to use RESTING *ITCH FACE...SAY NOTHING.GIVE THEM NOTHING PLAN A LIFE FOR YOURSELF. LEAVE AS SOON AS YOU CAN. REMEDY, THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU CAN DO BE AWARE OF YOUR INNER SELF...NEVER LIE TO YOURSELF... YOU BECOME THEM...
ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE! SO SORRY you have SUCH A DEMONIC, ABUSIVE DAD! ANATHEMA! GOD ALMIGHTY FORBID! An ABSOLUTE DEMON! Call him out! Return to Sender! And have NOTHING to DO with that BEAST en route to HELL for mistreating you so heinously! God Bless YOU & Heal YOU! . .. Love & Best! + + + +Q-S/
I am sorry for your experience but I am proud of your action and decision because you have healed your entire bloodline/ancestors and your soul by choosing love and healthy bonds not abusive people no matter what title they have in life.
But don’t you think this makes total sense? To survive attachment trauma they invented a false self, and don’t have any way out of that. If they acknowledge ANY other human being at all this means certain death. That’s how their psyche adapted to trauma. All that can be done is to get as far away from them as is humanly possible and work on why one would not have the boundaries that are necessary to keep narcissists and borderlines out. The problem is boundaries, never the narcissist. The narcissist demonstrates that fact very clearly. th-cam.com/video/IWVu64lZMn8/w-d-xo.html
This is brilliant (I’ve spent years getting out of a living hell). I will be back to listen again. Empathic people can waste years fighting for love from someone who is incapable. Thank you for this information. If you’re suffering in quiet desperation, get help. The irony is empaths are drawn to malignant narcissists like a magnet.
I've been in this for years and didn't even realize it was an abusive relationship. Except for the times he physically abused me. But now I realize it's always been emotionally and mentally too.
@@marshabenjamin-hawaaboo5778 No, honest, good hearted people are attracted to a predatory wolf love bombing them while posing as a sheep. And the predator is attracted to it's prey....
Thank you for the insightful advice, Kevin. There is a song titled "Silence is golden" which is a reminder to us all that a long talk without being heard is truly tiring and mentally draining. God bless you.
This is EXACTLY what’s going on right now in my life. I’m just beginning the No Contact with the two narcissists in my family. One thing I’ve discovered over the years, is to not play games, expecting certain results. It has to come from a place of strength and authenticity. Expect nothing from them, because you’re doing it for your own peace of mind. They’re better at game playing anyway and you’ll always lose. There’s a sadness and sense of loss, because these are a couple of my closest family members. But I’m done with the crazy making, gaslighting, confusion and second guessing myself most of the time.
Grayrock is everything! Don't open that door! It's just a compromise of your own integrity! A message to your subconscious mind that you are somehow required to ever have to unnecessarily explain yourself!
I just realised I an subconsciously using grey rock method with people in general. In the past I have allowed individuals to over spend my time. Not now. I have deleted some social media apps from my phone, especially the major one WhatsApp. If individuals genuinely want to contact me, they have three options: direct call, SMS, or email.
We've had a lopsided doctrine of walking in love with no discernment and basically no knowledge of how evil actually operates in destroying a person's soul. So in that sense we were perishing for lack of knowledge. Once this knowledge is gained, man the devil didnt want us to learn this, then we can be led by our spirit better. We have become a two-edged sword rather than a one edged sword.
funny thing is many people think their addictions are not the problem . i've dated many many many many women and every single one has a major issue that caused problems . its so very hard for many people to understand we all have issues and most of us cannot deal with the other persons issues . i have many disabilities and together they make me unique to the dating world . i could have many friends if only i could accept their issues . and yet why should i stay friends that only use me and do not respect me . example : i have tinnitus and sensitive to loud sounds and yet most women i dated did not seem to care that them being so loud actually caused me pain . that being said most people do not care . thats why i'm poor .
@@carmichaelmoritz8662 hey man i have full clogged ears, that cracks, eustachian tube dysfunction, tinnitus, and hyperacusis, i lost the ability to focus and sleep. It's all thanks to years of listening to loud music through headphones and earphones. It's so painful and devastating man
No Contact almost 5 months now and have never felt better! Had a hoover at month 4 but just shook my head and deleted the message. He is blocked on all other social media and yes agree with giving away that power with one simply reply.. you're done. You have to maintain no contact to heal. Thank you Kevin!!
I found with people with difficult personalities and narcissists, that if I share something that I’m excited about, or doing, they will immediately have to negate it and tell me what I should be doing instead and give me a long lecture instead of just saying, “oh that sounds exciting, tell me about it” or “I’m happy that you’re enjoying something.” It’s always a rant, a lecture, their point of view, which is usually opposite to mine. And it is so exhausting that I don’t even want to share anymore. I find this with the men in my life, it has never happened with any of my girlfriends.
Even Jesus kept his silence when truth would not be heard (before the Sanhedrin, Pilot, and Herod). Thank you for nailing it in such a way that I (and we) get encouragement to hold our silence.
Excellent video! Just rest easy, take care of yourself, eat better, clear your home, take up an activity that you discarded. Gradually, you take back yourself and what a delightful self it is.
After so long trying to defend myself from the smear campaign and emotional abuse, the forgiving constantly, trying to be kind and communicate effectively was his biggest weapon against me. Once I got frustrated from the lack of empathy I lost control and fought...He twisted all my actions of service, into slavery and then lied and told others I never did anything but take from him...At the end, in his need for attention he decided to flirt w my friend in front of me when I invited her to our place, and completely invalidate me in her presence. I decided enough was enough then... I went silent, because the hurt was so much, I needed to retreat and love myself. I meant complete stonewall silence... I didnt even realized it had been a week of not speaking to him or being around at all (I live w the narc btw), since I was so distracted painting again, going out w friends and taking myself out to places, that enraged him. I woke up to him yelling to himself in his room, calling me selfish and petty, saying I was too much of a coward to argue like a grown woman etc... Mind you its 6am in the morning and he is angry venting to himself. I broke the silence to ask If hes ok ( mistake) but my concern turned into an open door for him to try to drag me into a devaluing verbal wrestling matchre.. I relized then that yes, these people are evil and they just want you miserable. The moment you take the steps to heal and love yourself and leave them behind in their own darkness, they lose their minds..
So glad I came across your videos! YES, I reacted for 17 years. I lost my children over it. Constantly set up, then he would sit back & say see, she's coming crazy. Yes, yes, yes, everything your saying !!!!
I felt like maybe if I just bent a little bit more that he would quit and be the person I first met. The push pull back and forth over and over for 6 years was exhausting. Almost 3 months no contact. Taking power back is scary. Thank you Kevin. Stay blessed 💖
This is true. After my husband beat me up then left me, he still wanted to blame me, make excuses for himself, be cruel to me . But he went too far. He threatened me one last time after 3 1/2 years of him doing this even though he never came back. The last threat - I signed papers to sever all ties then cut off communication. That’s when he started to beg to come home. I stayed silent now for 10 years. I think it still bothers him but I’m free.
WOW!!!! I have been dealing with Narcissistic abuse for 12 years (very intense) and really all of my life - can't believe there is a CHRISTIAN TH-cam channel for this! So excited I found this! I'm a Christian and I've been doing a lot of growth with God's help to be set free from all the snares of narcissistic abuse in my life. So very grateful to have found this page - I'm definitely subscribing!
There are two, at least, Christian channels on this topic. Dave on Narc Ology Unscripted is pretty great too, he always encourages us to go the Throne for healing, has lots of videos that help to empower us as Christians and has a support group for empaths (The Seal Team). I highly recommend it because it helped me a LOT.
Wow, thank you Kevin...this came in for me at just the perfect moment....and I have to add, today's healing themes for me were "Silence" And "Spider's Web." ...talk about Divine Synchronicities! This take was the cherry on top.... thank you gratefully! Incredibly comprehensive and dove deep into what Silence with the narc truly means. Infinite Blessings Love and Light t to you and all you're doing. 💫💥💖💥💫
Thank you so much for your support and validation, this is exactly what I’ve had to do with my husbands extra toxic narcissistic family. It’s been so isolating because I haven’t played the game. My husband has major trauma bonding and doesn’t see the wood from the trees. I see everything and I am praying for God to deliver us safely out of this situation and away from his toxic father. I pray for justice and to forgive him. What a ride.
So good . So nice that I found this channel that relates to the word of God in the Bible .. the biggest struggle for me was to stay non reactive for a long time while I live along with a narc in my life , now that we share kids . Am awakening and yes am struggling to stay non reactive .... They won't help when u confront them, become lazy and irresponsible .. they give you silent treatment too. So heart breaking. .. I stopped care taking the narc and now he should be on his own .... Good video Kevin ... :)
GREAT message Kevin as ALWAYS...so glad you ditched that awful music that drowned you out....you always shed so much light and reach so many. So grateful for your knowledge and your delivery.
That is what I needed. Confirmation that no contact is the best choice for this situation. It is hard when I'm married to the narc, and we have a minor child together. The first step was to get out, my daughter and I are now several states away. He continues to call and message constantly. Just trying to remain strong!
Thank you! I believe they call me the Super Empath now! Such an amazing feeling! Wondering how you would heal without. Don't worry, it is better to be without so that you can heal...... 🍃❤Love from Texas❤🍃
Much needed this time of year. It goes against my kind nature not to send a Christmas card whilst 2 year no contact with my mother and family. Even though she still trys. My gut says no more, I feel to battered in my head. Thank you. 🎁🌈☃️❄️🎄🙏
Thank you for the confirmation Kevin, I did just that and left the narc confused. I didn’t even know that was what to do but I refuse to give my power away. That makes me feel good to know, I thought I should’ve been goin off but just couldn’t bring myself to that. Thanks again, stay strong survivors 🙏🏽
You got that right! I learned that the hard way by telling them what I thought - to only have them twist it around on me!!!!!! Then thinking I Was the Problem!
Here’s the rub. It’s easy to give the advice, and I do appreciate it sincerely. But I’m a man, my wife’s the covert narcissist. The relationship is totally toxic and I want out. I already know she has zero love and respect for me, she has an exit plan for this marriage that I knew about two years ago, but guess who will have to pay the bill for all this BS? Me. I stay in this God forsaken “relationship” because the price tag to leave hell would make living in peace unaffordable. But you know what? I just may pull the trigger on it in spite of the fact that it’ll be like cutting off my own hand if only to free me from the snare I’ve become too comfortable being attached to.
🙏🔩 it cost me alot when I finally left the marriage. I should have left sooner..my outcome might have been better. All you can do is the best that you can.
You are lucky you are the man. Ifileave, I have nothing. And yes, he has control over 1 adult child completely and would easily sway the other. Im not able to work, I have no friends or family here, so I live in this stupid situation. I have shelter, food, buy something small for me occasionally,long for next time to see a child of go on a trip. Never marry farmer.
Sadly any and every google search on staying silent calls it cruel and abusive…even narcissistic on YOUR part! How sad is it that there aren’t more articles to support you in your efforts to move on without false guilt. No wonder so many get sucked back in! Finding this was like finding a needle in a haystack!
Would appreciate a video about dealing with narcissists in a church or church group. Often times the nature or religion of faith-based orgs cause us to ignore or tolerate red flags or behavior we wouldn’t tolerate elsewhere, and surrounds you with people who put the blame on you for not being more forgiving, tolerant, etc
Spent 5 years with narcissist gf. Not understanding what was wrong with me. Then finally after years of emotional abuse I’d had enough. Went total no contact. Moved out of state, blocked calls. Still trying to recoup from that experience. Never again!
Silence can make you APPEAR like the bad guy when there are unaware acquaintances around. This is especially true if the narcissists are superficially nice when people are watching. YOU are then perceived as mean.
I've been caught up in that trap, but Im not responsible for other people emotions and only the truth can set us free. I used to justify the abusers, but thats not serving anyone. We need to be righteous, the Lord said I came not to bring peace but a sword! Glory to God!
My sister seems to draw people that she perceives to be "needy" into her life. She then helps them in anyway she can. Then, over time she becomes irritable, resentful, and critical of the "needy" person and all she has "had" to do for them. At times verbally abusive. That person out of her life... She seeks out a new "needy" person. It has happened over and over and over again.
I just had to cut off the last family I spoke to. She was the fake enlightening type, talks of making changes and living for a healthier connection, yet she constantly told me to do therapy and blamed all my problems on alcohol. Even though, unbeknownst to her, I was sober. It was like talking to my mother, and it triggered me like no other
Love your work Kevin. Thankyou sir, your knowledge and wisdom is a gift. Dealing with a crazy narcissist at the moment....Thankyou for sharing with us Kevin😊. God bless you mate🙏.
The only thing you can do for these people, if you're inclined to do so, is to pray for them. Certain family members, coworkers, exes, exude toxic energy. This guy is right, getting away from them is the smartest thing you can do.
The inability to adequately express emotions. For me this is perfect timing - thanks! No contact has been tough, and Christmas was uncomfortable. My dilemma is whether or not to send a birthday card. What say you?
if you need to ask, then the answer is no. Your battling against some false narrative that you need to do these nice things that in the relationship are meaningless.
100% right. Your channel is amazing. Congratulations! Life is much better without toxic people. New life and new beginning. There is not one side relationship. Toxic is toxic no excuse.
I love and support everything you speak of. I do, on the other hand believe people CAN actually be transformed…..through the salvation of Jesus Christ. But it can only come from within. You’re right! WE can’t EVER change another person. That has to come from within and only if the person wants to change. I know, because it happened to me. I’ll be keeping my pearls far away from swine.
It's ONLY God's job to forgive, not ours! I'll leave that up to people with a higher spiritual pay grade that are the three elements of God. Not my job here!
The narc, in my life, is only one of several. Another one is a woman & she has tried to put me six feet under by black smoke. If my heart wasn't strong, after the black smoke from the apt being laced caused a heart attack, I wouldn't be here. While I was in the hospital recovering, there was another arson attempt & tried to blame me. I had to call the police 3 times in one week & this time, one of the officers was a big help!!
It's the very best defense. You devalue the narcs toxicity and they have to feel their abuse. In fact, it is a great weapon to create narcissistic injury.
That silence lead me into a life of depression. Do nothing, say nothing, be nothing...and they still found ways to abuse me. Where do you go from silence? I developed a really good sense of humor and can deflect rude comments. That's helped me even more than silence I think. Great video.
I find that silence works perfectly within no contact circumstances, but if you need to deal with the abusive person regularly, i.e. co-parenting, silence will give them the idea that you are permitting the abuse and they're free to do so whenever they feel like treating you like that, I found silence to be worse in most instances. Not reacting as explained in the video but stating your boundaries firmly works best to stop the abuse from scalating to even worst abuse.
Silence is fine most times, but response is need especially if you have to protect an innocent person. For example, I've noticed the narcissists in my life will attack someone else like a child or an elderly person if I go silent. So when that happens I usually respond with a positive on behalf of the other person. Then I may have a conversation with the innocent person on how they are not the problem. I don't try to talk the narcissists down I just reaffirm the innocent.
I'm a proverbial amputee; I've got no right hand and no left eye; I plucked out and cut off my narc father four years ago and have been fending off flying monkeys and hoovering all this time; I also struggled up until this year; but he's recent attempt (using my brother) to hoover me; my brother is in the situation I was in four years (needing help) and he (my brother) hated my father before, so to see how the manipulation is affecting him and how the same cons are being used just reinforced my no contact. To be honest, it brings me joy to observe the desperation of the narc; I feel sympathy for brother but I've tried to council him wisely but there's just no way to live with a narc and remain yourself; I see a discard coming and its going to fall on me to break his fall.
Preach ! I knew I was winning by saying silent. Silence is power ! Those people will get their karma eventually. I heard through the grapevine that they did get their karma. The universe has my back and their karma too.
What a healing video this is. I have to listen to it over and over again. I was too much a mess to really use what you where teaching. Just enough to get out! Now i am out of the hell i can really put it in action. Silence is bold!
With my son, actually tears help believe it or not, but I am sick of crying to see my grandson. No more contact. No more begging. No more tears. I can hardly wait until he knows we are really through. I usually say I will disown him and he used to straighten up, but now that he has his girlfriend as his source, even that would probably not work. This time I said "I have disowned you." and that I am so glad to finally be done with his f .... ass. Im done with him for good, and it is such a freeing feeling.
Love this video. Great revelation of the scripture, absolutely love it. Be blessed in Jesus name, Amen and Amen. 😄💗✝️🕊️🌿✨ Taking my power back. REFOCUS!!! ONE DAY AT A TIME. ✊🏻
I have made the mistake several times by reacting when caught at the wrong time i.e. distracted with something else at the time. Great advice thank you Kevin.
I hope my narsistic ex is reading ur site is great.....truth ugly hurts.. thank you thank you man ur so Kool Kool koool....wake up world these mutts done deserve our attention at all.....🤗🙏🙏🌞 we got this narcisstic crap.... thank you👍♥️
Silence helps so much but some how my narcissist knows what my buttons are. What triggers me to a break down. Breaking from a narcissistic husband has been an unfair battle. Even surrendering and saying nothing has yet to help me out. My mentality has never been so weak ever in my life.
Sandra I have been in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship for several years and he walked out in November. I have been in some low places emotionally and it is a terrible feeling. Please hang in there. We are going to be just fine. It feels so good to know I am free from lies abs and manipulation.
He walked out in February for the 1st time. Came back. Walked out in May and hasn't been back but the damage has been done. I can say now I have grown so much since he has found new supply. He doesn't look for me nor our children. And yes I still have those days were I feel that withdrawal of feeling like I need him but I have figured out that his control and manipulation was what was causing me to feel I needed him. It's a up hill battle. That I have yet to understand but I am moving past it. And growing and starting to feel like me again. The me before I met him...
@@sandraaguilar9071 he doesn't deserve you. Mine walked out before too. I wish I hadn't let him come back then. I will pray for you. I know it is hard and painful. We will get through this and be stronger for it. One day we will look back at them and wonder what we ever saw in them.
It was the hardest thing to remain silent. To not engage. But, it works!
Silence is power, saving your energy, saving your time, your emotions, your life, your boundaries and your soul.
Silence is the lords language! Bless god
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I remind myself while being mute that they too one day will meet their maker.
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@@emmagoldman6616 thank God
We definitely can not help everyone...we have to protect ourselves and only help those worthy of our time and energy.
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here's a stupid question for you , do you need help ? you probably think you do not . do you drink alcohol or smoke , do you buy fancy items while we still have good poor people ???? if so then you need help . most people need some sort of help lol :))
@@carmichaelmoritz8662 Did Jesus help every person and speak to every person while He was here on earth? No...He knew their thoughts, their feelings, their future choices...Still today, the Holy Spirit tells us who to help and not help sometimes because G-d already knows that that person's choice will be. He still gives people the opportunity to repent, change and be healed. That is why we are instructed not to "Cast our pearls before swine" Not every person wants to repent, be healed and choose to follow after Jesus. They are going to manipulate and/or purosefully misunderstand what is being said.
And by the way, there is nothing Biblically wrong with alchohol...or buying "fancy items" while there are poor people in this world.
I've been silent with toxic ex friends and family and I'm going staying silent, Thank you for your video and I wish everyone well who's going throw this with jealous bitter hatefull people God bless us Amen 🙏❤️
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EVIL WILL NOT STOP UNTIL TAKEN DOWN..NO PLAN NEEDED...WAIT AND WATCH...GOD HAS IT...
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lol at god . if god had it children would not be abused . a good god would not let that happen . just like a good parent would not let that happen . it claims god is all seeing and yet this so called god creator just lets defenceless people get abused .
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@@carmichaelmoritz8662 you lack understanding.
The devil is real but God has defeated him and He knows his time is short to take as many people to hell with him..Dont be one of them! Eternity is a long time to wish you had a change of heart and accepted Jesus as Lord! Do it today!
After 19 years of abuse...when I said "no more" to my husband and refused to forget his abuse anymore....it took 2 years of me hanging up on him, closing the door in his face, and enduring his financial manipulations....2 years! Before he finally believed that I was not going back to my old behaviors!
That the only way for me was forward without him.
There is no limit here. Narcissists feel “others” as an extension of self, so they see “you” the same way you see your arm or leg. There is never any bad intent towards you, because that is literally impossible. You are either all good or all bad. Both provide dopamine to regulate the internal panic/nihilism they feel 24/7.
If there is no drama (bad often gives more dopamine), they have to find more, then they forget about you completely. Until source dynamics shift. Then you could be approached again (10-15 years later). The issue is only dopamine and nothing more.
Also, if a person has a higher differentiation (done their family or origin work, where they first learned how to attract narcissists) that means boundaries and potential exposure of the narcissist (to themselves, by others mirroring back that they no longer buy the false self).
It’s so true what you say, that the only way forward was without him. That was true from day one.
I have to study and listen to others experiences every single day, because it’s so hard to wrap ones head around how all this works. It is a blessing from God to have been made aware of the problem. The real truth.
@@WDBDWK They know exactly what they are doing and they are evil , ENVIOUS and malicious. "The wicked watches the righteous, And seeks to slay him." Psalm 37:32
"For they do not sleep unless they have done evil; And their sleep is taken away unless they make someone fall." Proverbs 4:16
"Many a time they have persecuted me from my youth, but they have not prevailed against me. The plowmen (narcs) plowed over my back (slandered, betrayed, disrespected, abused), they made their furrows long (turned everyone against you before you knew what was going on) The LORD is righteous; He has cut me asunder from the cords of the wicked.…" Psalm 129:3-5
Psalm 124:6-8 "Blessed be the LORD, who has not given us as prey to their teeth. Our soul has escaped like a bird from the snare of the fowler; the net is torn, and we have slipped away. Our help is in the name of the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.…"
@@reesedaniel5835 THIS !! ❤️
Was with a toxic woman loved her with every bone in my body. I Ended the relationship because I came to realization that she is who she is and I can’t change that. No longer allowing anyone to treat me negatively when I am actively showing love and appreciation life is too short and I don’t want to be 50 telling myself I wish I just jumped.
Glad for you ❤❤❤ stay strong 😊
You'll never win with a narcissist. Best to say quiet. And run!!!
Even when it hurts like a …
The Narcissists never have anything good to say to their loved ones - it's so sad!!
..unless they need something from you..then it’s all love bombing while you wait for the reason to be made clear.
Blocking the toxic people in my life has brought me nothing but good! So glad I did it! Recommend it to everyone.
Fantastic video. I really needed this so much at the moment…
“You can articulate your emotions in toxic relationships but you’re not going to get the response you hope to get.”
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“Your true emotions are your pearls. Don’t throw them out to toxic narcissistic swine because they will trample it under their feet and then turn and tear you to pieces.”
Much love,
Diana
Took years to identify my mothers behavior. Having no one in my corner it took time to recognize her behavior as toxic narcissism. Coupled with alcohol and prescription drug abuse among others. It took her spitting on me and telling me she wish she had aborted me for me to finally connect all the dots. I have made the decision to stop talking to her for good.
Wow 😯
Its an adult lesson
I’m so glad you have stopped contact. Now live a healthy life and be happy. I have a narcissistic mother, I know the pain. I’m currently not talking to her.
We don't choose the family we're born into. I have been radio-silent from my family of origin for most of my adult life (I'm 65) . Walking away from a one-way relationship isn't as hard as you might think. Admitting your family is not a family is hard, but when I learned my father had died and I felt absolutely nothing, I realized there had never been a real family to let go of.
Wow, what a horrible woman to say that to you. Some people are so cruel. Glad you walked away.
I worked with a narcissist for six months. I knew the first day, there was going to be trouble. At first I kept my mouth shut. Finally though I go sick of the double standard and abuse and it was war. Neither one of us were going to take hostages.
When it was all over, she quit, and I transferred. It was one of the worst periods of my life. It took a year or two to get over it. I felt like I needed therapy afterwards. I am sure it was hard on her too as she had to deal with being a narcissist, and I mean textbook, and me.
She is back at my organization, but another campus. If I ever work near her again, it will be silence. Battling a narcissist isn't worth it. Very very taxing, and they will always escalate, sometimes even in dangerous ways. Not worth it.
"Interesting game. The best move is not to play."
Thanks for this video
Yesterday was the hardest day in my life putting on an restricting warrent to my father due to continoues verbal vilolence from him and harresment that sucked all life from me.
When we were kids he used to beat me and my sisters very hard daily and lock us for whole days and nights without water and food, he turned to verbal viloence in the past years and today I put a stop for this madness.
A glouerious yet super hard day...
Better days are ahead!
My love in Christ, my prayers for you. May you be free. Take care. You know what to do. 💯🙏🏼💜
Please take care of yourself...stay safe...learn more about these people
Learn how and when to use RESTING *ITCH FACE...SAY NOTHING.GIVE THEM NOTHING
PLAN A LIFE FOR YOURSELF.
LEAVE AS SOON AS YOU CAN.
REMEDY, THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU CAN DO BE AWARE OF YOUR INNER SELF...NEVER LIE TO YOURSELF...
YOU BECOME THEM...
Its hard when you read, but when you go trou this,i cant imagin...i wish you all the best. Be strong and smart on your wey.
ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE!
SO SORRY you have SUCH A DEMONIC, ABUSIVE DAD!
ANATHEMA!
GOD ALMIGHTY FORBID!
An ABSOLUTE DEMON!
Call him out!
Return to Sender!
And have NOTHING to DO with that BEAST en route to HELL for mistreating you so heinously!
God Bless YOU & Heal YOU! . ..
Love & Best!
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I am sorry for your experience but I am proud of your action and decision because you have healed your entire bloodline/ancestors and your soul by choosing love and healthy bonds not abusive people no matter what title they have in life.
No, unfortunately they could care less what you say.
True 👑💯
But don’t you think this makes total sense? To survive attachment trauma they invented a false self, and don’t have any way out of that. If they acknowledge ANY other human being at all this means certain death. That’s how their psyche adapted to trauma.
All that can be done is to get as far away from them as is humanly possible and work on why one would not have the boundaries that are necessary to keep narcissists and borderlines out. The problem is boundaries, never the narcissist. The narcissist demonstrates that fact very clearly.
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*couldn't care less
This is brilliant (I’ve spent years getting out of a living hell). I will be back to listen again. Empathic people can waste years fighting for love from someone who is incapable. Thank you for this information.
If you’re suffering in quiet desperation, get help. The irony is empaths are drawn to malignant narcissists like a magnet.
Exacyly
I've been in this for years and didn't even realize it was an abusive relationship. Except for the times he physically abused me. But now I realize it's always been emotionally and mentally too.
Opposites attract Sweetie 🙂
They the Narc. CANNOT give that which they DoNot posse
@@marshabenjamin-hawaaboo5778 No, honest, good hearted people are attracted to a predatory wolf love bombing them while posing as a sheep. And the predator is attracted to it's prey....
Thank you for the insightful advice, Kevin. There is a song titled "Silence is golden" which is a reminder to us all that a long talk without being heard is truly tiring and mentally draining. God bless you.
Omg, excellent point
After 30 years, he pulled his gun out, beware of narssissism
This is EXACTLY what’s going on right now in my life. I’m just beginning the No Contact with the two narcissists in my family. One thing I’ve discovered over the years, is to not play games, expecting certain results. It has to come from a place of strength and authenticity. Expect nothing from them, because you’re doing it for your own peace of mind. They’re better at game playing anyway and you’ll always lose. There’s a sadness and sense of loss, because these are a couple of my closest family members. But I’m done with the crazy making, gaslighting, confusion and second guessing myself most of the time.
GOOD FOR YOU.
Grayrock is everything! Don't open that door! It's just a compromise of your own integrity! A message to your subconscious mind that you are somehow required to ever have to unnecessarily explain yourself!
Amen Sister! Gray Rock will give you some peace!
Hallelujah 🙏🙏
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I just realised I an subconsciously using grey rock method with people in general. In the past I have allowed individuals to over spend my time. Not now. I have deleted some social media apps from my phone, especially the major one WhatsApp. If individuals genuinely want to contact me, they have three options: direct call, SMS, or email.
@@ShiaGirl18 honestly independence is a great thing! Let me people in on your terms and when/if you're ready! 💖💖🌌🌌🥰😊😊
Silence makes them come after you also as not trying or caring or being a Godly wife. It’s hard to even go silent.
Have had all this thrown at me. Heartbreaking 😡😥
We've had a lopsided doctrine of walking in love with no discernment and basically no knowledge of how evil actually operates in destroying a person's soul. So in that sense we were perishing for lack of knowledge. Once this knowledge is gained, man the devil didnt want us to learn this, then we can be led by our spirit better. We have become a two-edged sword rather than a one edged sword.
Well said 👑💯🙌❤️
Cindy Robertson yes!!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻man what you said!!!! 🙌🏻
funny thing is many people think their addictions are not the problem . i've dated many many many many women and every single one has a major issue that caused problems . its so very hard for many people to understand we all have issues and most of us cannot deal with the other persons issues . i have many disabilities and together they make me unique to the dating world . i could have many friends if only i could accept their issues . and yet why should i stay friends that only use me and do not respect me . example : i have tinnitus and sensitive to loud sounds and yet most women i dated did not seem to care that them being so loud actually caused me pain . that being said most people do not care . thats why i'm poor .
@@carmichaelmoritz8662 hey man i have full clogged ears, that cracks, eustachian tube dysfunction, tinnitus, and hyperacusis, i lost the ability to focus and sleep. It's all thanks to years of listening to loud music through headphones and earphones. It's so painful and devastating man
@@brahimlh2909 i understand . that being said most healthy people dont know how good they have it .
No Contact almost 5 months now and have never felt better! Had a hoover at month 4 but just shook my head and deleted the message. He is blocked on all other social media and yes agree with giving away that power with one simply reply.. you're done. You have to maintain no contact to heal. Thank you Kevin!!
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I’m having to keep away from my adult daughter it’s so hard but I’m keeping away
@@suzannewebb7913 I know this feeling. My adult daughter is a viscous narcissist
I found with people with difficult personalities and narcissists, that if I share something that I’m excited about, or doing, they will immediately have to negate it and tell me what I should be doing instead and give me a long lecture instead of just saying, “oh that sounds exciting, tell me about it” or “I’m happy that you’re enjoying something.”
It’s always a rant, a lecture, their point of view, which is usually opposite to mine. And it is so exhausting that I don’t even want to share anymore.
I find this with the men in my life, it has never happened with any of my girlfriends.
When you have to have the last word, all it does is set up a "who breaks first" game.
Even Jesus kept his silence when truth would not be heard (before the Sanhedrin, Pilot, and Herod). Thank you for nailing it in such a way that I (and we) get encouragement to hold our silence.
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Yes and Jesus even showed anger throwing the tables over outside the temple but didn’t sin
Excellent video! Just rest easy, take care of yourself, eat better, clear your home, take up an activity that you discarded. Gradually, you take back yourself and what a delightful self it is.
Hey Kevin! Thank you for being there for us!
After so long trying to defend myself from the smear campaign and emotional abuse, the forgiving constantly, trying to be kind and communicate effectively was his biggest weapon against me. Once I got frustrated from the lack of empathy I lost control and fought...He twisted all my actions of service, into slavery and then lied and told others I never did anything but take from him...At the end, in his need for attention he decided to flirt w my friend in front of me when I invited her to our place, and completely invalidate me in her presence. I decided enough was enough then... I went silent, because the hurt was so much, I needed to retreat and love myself. I meant complete stonewall silence... I didnt even realized it had been a week of not speaking to him or being around at all (I live w the narc btw), since I was so distracted painting again, going out w friends and taking myself out to places, that enraged him. I woke up to him yelling to himself in his room, calling me selfish and petty, saying I was too much of a coward to argue like a grown woman etc... Mind you its 6am in the morning and he is angry venting to himself. I broke the silence to ask If hes ok ( mistake) but my concern turned into an open door for him to try to drag me into a devaluing verbal wrestling matchre.. I relized then that yes, these people are evil and they just want you miserable. The moment you take the steps to heal and love yourself and leave them behind in their own darkness, they lose their minds..
Is not easy to do with those who are raising children that you are worried about
Yeah I agree. Especially when they are using the system agaisnt you. You cant be silent when you have to co parent with young children
In the same boat...
I was in the same boat! The very good news is that the children will grow up! Now I am free from him!
So glad I came across your videos!
YES, I reacted for 17 years. I lost my children over it. Constantly set up, then he would sit back & say see, she's coming crazy.
Yes, yes, yes, everything your saying !!!!
Great video thank God for the strength to stay silent against these bitter jealous hateful people 🙏❤️
I learned to ignore since I cant go silent because my poor 88 yr. old mom lives with one!
Negativity unfiltered can only be countered with Silence. So true
This is true….as long as you are engaging with them, they are fed…starve them…say nothing!
Speak the truth, take your power back, game over. 😇
I felt like maybe if I just bent a little bit more that he would quit and be the person I first met. The push pull back and forth over and over for 6 years was exhausting. Almost 3 months no contact. Taking power back is scary. Thank you Kevin. Stay blessed 💖
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This is true. After my husband beat me up then left me, he still wanted to blame me, make excuses for himself, be cruel to me . But he went too far. He threatened me one last time after 3 1/2 years of him doing this even though he never came back. The last threat - I signed papers to sever all ties then cut off communication. That’s when he started to beg to come home. I stayed silent now for 10 years. I think it still bothers him but I’m free.
WOW!!!! I have been dealing with Narcissistic abuse for 12 years (very intense) and really all of my life - can't believe there is a CHRISTIAN TH-cam channel for this! So excited I found this! I'm a Christian and I've been doing a lot of growth with God's help to be set free from all the snares of narcissistic abuse in my life. So very grateful to have found this page - I'm definitely subscribing!
There are two, at least, Christian channels on this topic. Dave on Narc Ology Unscripted is pretty great too, he always encourages us to go the Throne for healing, has lots of videos that help to empower us as Christians and has a support group for empaths (The Seal Team). I highly recommend it because it helped me a LOT.
"we either in a relationship that is healthy or there is no relationship at all."
this is so true Giles did not want help and was nice and then cruel and he refused to go for help.....it was painful because I loved him
Yes, we as humans would love to believe that their behavior can be healed. Especially when they are your own child.
Wow, thank you Kevin...this came in for me at just the perfect moment....and I have to add, today's healing themes for me were "Silence" And "Spider's Web." ...talk about Divine Synchronicities! This take was the cherry on top.... thank you gratefully!
Incredibly comprehensive and dove deep into what Silence with the narc truly means.
Infinite Blessings Love and Light t to you and all you're doing. 💫💥💖💥💫
Thank you so much for your support and validation, this is exactly what I’ve had to do with my husbands extra toxic narcissistic family. It’s been so isolating because I haven’t played the game. My husband has major trauma bonding and doesn’t see the wood from the trees. I see everything and I am praying for God to deliver us safely out of this situation and away from his toxic father. I pray for justice and to forgive him.
What a ride.
Kevin you are a gift to humanity. Hallelujah 🎉
So good . So nice that I found this channel that relates to the word of God in the Bible .. the biggest struggle for me was to stay non reactive for a long time while I live along with a narc in my life , now that we share kids . Am awakening and yes am struggling to stay non reactive .... They won't help when u confront them, become lazy and irresponsible .. they give you silent treatment too. So heart breaking. .. I stopped care taking the narc and now he should be on his own .... Good video Kevin ... :)
GREAT message Kevin as ALWAYS...so glad you ditched that awful music that drowned you out....you always shed so much light and reach so many. So grateful for your knowledge and your delivery.
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That is what I needed. Confirmation that no contact is the best choice for this situation. It is hard when I'm married to the narc, and we have a minor child together. The first step was to get out, my daughter and I are now several states away. He continues to call and message constantly.
Just trying to remain strong!
Thank you! I believe they call me the Super Empath now! Such an amazing feeling! Wondering how you would heal without. Don't worry, it is better to be without so that you can heal......
🍃❤Love from Texas❤🍃
👑💯💯❤️ Texas
Much needed this time of year. It goes against my kind nature not to send a Christmas card whilst 2 year no contact with my mother and family. Even though she still trys. My gut says no more, I feel to battered in my head. Thank you. 🎁🌈☃️❄️🎄🙏
Thank you for the confirmation Kevin, I did just that and left the narc confused. I didn’t even know that was what to do but I refuse to give my power away. That makes me feel good to know, I thought I should’ve been goin off but just couldn’t bring myself to that. Thanks again, stay strong survivors 🙏🏽
Today is the day I had enofh! The door is finely open and I leve for god! Halleluja ❤
So true you will not win to argue with them
You got that right! I learned that the hard way by telling them what I thought - to only have them twist it around on me!!!!!! Then thinking I Was the Problem!
Here’s the rub. It’s easy to give the advice, and I do appreciate it sincerely. But I’m a man, my wife’s the covert narcissist. The relationship is totally toxic and I want out. I already know she has zero love and respect for me, she has an exit plan for this marriage that I knew about two years ago, but guess who will have to pay the bill for all this BS? Me. I stay in this God forsaken “relationship” because the price tag to leave hell would make living in peace unaffordable. But you know what? I just may pull the trigger on it in spite of the fact that it’ll be like cutting off my own hand if only to free me from the snare I’ve become too comfortable being attached to.
🙏🔩 it cost me alot when I finally left the marriage. I should have left sooner..my outcome might have been better. All you can do is the best that you can.
You are lucky you are the man. Ifileave, I have nothing. And yes, he has control over 1 adult child completely and would easily sway the other. Im not able to work, I have no friends or family here, so I live in this stupid situation. I have shelter, food, buy something small for me occasionally,long for next time to see a child of go on a trip. Never marry farmer.
Sadly any and every google search on staying silent calls it cruel and abusive…even narcissistic on YOUR part! How sad is it that there aren’t more articles to support you in your efforts to move on without false guilt. No wonder so many get sucked back in! Finding this was like finding a needle in a haystack!
Hi Karen, you can't depend on Google for Wisdom....think it through yourself and you will see the true benefits of Silence...I wish you the very best
Would appreciate a video about dealing with narcissists in a church or church group. Often times the nature or religion of faith-based orgs cause us to ignore or tolerate red flags or behavior we wouldn’t tolerate elsewhere, and surrounds you with people who put the blame on you for not being more forgiving, tolerant, etc
Spent 5 years with narcissist gf. Not understanding what was wrong with me. Then finally after years of emotional abuse I’d had enough. Went total no contact. Moved out of state, blocked calls. Still trying to recoup from that experience. Never again!
Thx 4 this one, Kevin. U always hit the nail on the head in ur videos. 🙂🙂💕💕 God Bless!
Silence can make you APPEAR like the bad guy when there are unaware acquaintances around. This is especially true if the narcissists are superficially nice when people are watching. YOU are then perceived as mean.
You are really out here boosting confidence.
I've been caught up in that trap, but Im not responsible for other people emotions and only the truth can set us free. I used to justify the abusers, but thats not serving anyone. We need to be righteous, the Lord said I came not to bring peace but a sword! Glory to God!
My sister seems to draw people that she perceives to be "needy" into her life. She then helps them in anyway she can. Then, over time she becomes irritable, resentful, and critical of the "needy" person and all she has "had" to do for them. At times verbally abusive.
That person out of her life...
She seeks out a new "needy" person.
It has happened over and over and over again.
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Have you heard of the drama triangle ? Sounds similar to that. Rescuer, victim and persecutor.
I just had to cut off the last family I spoke to. She was the fake enlightening type, talks of making changes and living for a healthier connection, yet she constantly told me to do therapy and blamed all my problems on alcohol. Even though, unbeknownst to her, I was sober. It was like talking to my mother, and it triggered me like no other
Love your work Kevin. Thankyou sir, your knowledge and wisdom is a gift. Dealing with a crazy narcissist at the moment....Thankyou for sharing with us Kevin😊. God bless you mate🙏.
Amen. Thank you for using that scripture. Again I thank you for sharing this again. I can't thank you enough. I really needed this.
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The only thing you can do for these people, if you're inclined to do so, is to pray for them. Certain family members, coworkers, exes, exude toxic energy. This guy is right, getting away from them is the smartest thing you can do.
Toxic positives wonderful expression
It is difficult to hold your peace when you wake up to their sneaky corrupt ways.
The inability to adequately express emotions. For me this is perfect timing - thanks!
No contact has been tough, and Christmas was uncomfortable.
My dilemma is whether or not to send a birthday card. What say you?
Absolutely NO!
Dont do it👍🏻
Noooo!!!
if you need to ask, then the answer is no. Your battling against some false narrative that you need to do these nice things that in the relationship are meaningless.
No! I remember I text one hbd and never got a response back. Their pathetic people don't waste your time.
100% right. Your channel is amazing. Congratulations! Life is much better without toxic people. New life and new beginning. There is not one side relationship. Toxic is toxic no excuse.
Glad you are here. I need to do that . I'm glad that you are a believer !!
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I love and support everything you speak of. I do, on the other hand believe people CAN actually be transformed…..through the salvation of Jesus Christ. But it can only come from within. You’re right! WE can’t EVER change another person. That has to come from within and only if the person wants to change. I know, because it happened to me. I’ll be keeping my pearls far away from swine.
It's ONLY God's job to forgive, not ours! I'll leave that up to people with a higher spiritual pay grade that are the three elements of God. Not my job here!
So true.. but so hard but I'm doing it.
The narc, in my life, is only one of several. Another one is a woman & she has tried to put me six feet under by black smoke. If my heart wasn't strong, after the black smoke from the apt being laced caused a heart attack, I wouldn't be here. While I was in the hospital recovering, there was another arson attempt & tried to blame me. I had to call the police 3 times in one week & this time, one of the officers was a big help!!
Thanks Kevin there is always light on your messages.
It's the very best defense. You devalue the narcs toxicity and they have to feel their abuse. In fact, it is a great weapon to create narcissistic injury.
That silence lead me into a life of depression. Do nothing, say nothing, be nothing...and they still found ways to abuse me. Where do you go from silence? I developed a really good sense of humor and can deflect rude comments. That's helped me even more than silence I think. Great video.
It has worked 100%...
They get bored and move on quickly to der next victim
God bless you, God love you, God be with you, God heal you! May God heal all of us and give us HIS peace!
I find that silence works perfectly within no contact circumstances, but if you need to deal with the abusive person regularly, i.e. co-parenting, silence will give them the idea that you are permitting the abuse and they're free to do so whenever they feel like treating you like that, I found silence to be worse in most instances. Not reacting as explained in the video but stating your boundaries firmly works best to stop the abuse from scalating to even worst abuse.
The most you can say, in extremis is: “something to think about”. Exit stage left/right
Perfectly Correct....Silence Is Your Best Weapon Against Toxic Narcissistic Abuse....I'M NOBODIES SLAVE.....
P.S. Awesome Video and LIKED!!!~
Thanks man💪you are so on point. Went NC when I divorced him 2 years ago. He's still stalking me and talking about me to everybody
Silence is fine most times, but response is need especially if you have to protect an innocent person. For example, I've noticed the narcissists in my life will attack someone else like a child or an elderly person if I go silent. So when that happens I usually respond with a positive on behalf of the other person. Then I may have a conversation with the innocent person on how they are not the problem. I don't try to talk the narcissists down I just reaffirm the innocent.
I'm a proverbial amputee; I've got no right hand and no left eye; I plucked out and cut off my narc father four years ago and have been fending off flying monkeys and hoovering all this time; I also struggled up until this year; but he's recent attempt (using my brother) to hoover me; my brother is in the situation I was in four years (needing help) and he (my brother) hated my father before, so to see how the manipulation is affecting him and how the same cons are being used just reinforced my no contact. To be honest, it brings me joy to observe the desperation of the narc; I feel sympathy for brother but I've tried to council him wisely but there's just no way to live with a narc and remain yourself; I see a discard coming and its going to fall on me to break his fall.
I like your very serious face bc this subject IS very serious. Deadly
Preach ! I knew I was winning by saying silent. Silence is power ! Those people will get their karma eventually. I heard through the grapevine that they did get their karma. The universe has my back and their karma too.
What a healing video this is. I have to listen to it over and over again. I was too much a mess to really use what you where teaching. Just enough to get out! Now i am out of the hell i can really put it in action. Silence is bold!
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I love your statement "Silence is bold", well stated.
You're very positive. There is light on your face
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With my son, actually tears help believe it or not, but I am sick of crying to see my grandson. No more contact. No more begging. No more tears. I can hardly wait until he knows we are really through. I usually say I will disown him and he used to straighten up, but now that he has his girlfriend as his source, even that would probably not work. This time I said "I have disowned you." and that I am so glad to finally be done with his f .... ass. Im done with him for good, and it is such a freeing feeling.
Thanks so on Point yeah happy days!!!!!
Love this video. Great revelation of the scripture, absolutely love it.
Be blessed in Jesus name, Amen and Amen. 😄💗✝️🕊️🌿✨
Taking my power back. REFOCUS!!!
ONE DAY AT A TIME. ✊🏻
O contact! Is always been the Only thing that works. Thanks for sharing! 💖🌅
I have made the mistake several times by reacting when caught at the wrong time i.e. distracted with something else at the time. Great advice thank you Kevin.
Thank you for this important message! I needed to hear this....
No response is a response and it’s a powerful one too..
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Spot on, you are an awakened person, May God, inside and out, Continue to Bless you with knowledge.
I hope my narsistic ex is reading ur site is great.....truth ugly hurts..
thank you thank you man ur so Kool Kool koool....wake up world these mutts done deserve our attention at all.....🤗🙏🙏🌞
we got this narcisstic crap....
thank you👍♥️
I agree with every single word. Thank you.
Silence helps so much but some how my narcissist knows what my buttons are. What triggers me to a break down. Breaking from a narcissistic husband has been an unfair battle. Even surrendering and saying nothing has yet to help me out. My mentality has never been so weak ever in my life.
Sandra I have been in an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship for several years and he walked out in November. I have been in some low places emotionally and it is a terrible feeling. Please hang in there. We are going to be just fine. It feels so good to know I am free from lies abs and manipulation.
He walked out in February for the 1st time. Came back. Walked out in May and hasn't been back but the damage has been done. I can say now I have grown so much since he has found new supply. He doesn't look for me nor our children. And yes I still have those days were I feel that withdrawal of feeling like I need him but I have figured out that his control and manipulation was what was causing me to feel I needed him. It's a up hill battle. That I have yet to understand but I am moving past it. And growing and starting to feel like me again. The me before I met him...
@@sandraaguilar9071 he doesn't deserve you. Mine walked out before too. I wish I hadn't let him come back then.
I will pray for you. I know it is hard and painful. We will get through this and be stronger for it. One day we will look back at them and wonder what we ever saw in them.