The Reality of My Birth Mothers Life

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  • @freedpeeb
    @freedpeeb ปีที่แล้ว +32

    Your birth mother's story tugs at my heartstrings. She was given so few advantages and so little help, in a very hostile world. It is so sweet to see you giving her the extra latitude for that. I would like to hug her myself.

  • @lorrainegatzke1048
    @lorrainegatzke1048 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    Dearest Alex, I believe your birth Mom had a hole filled in her heart when she met you. The relief of knowing that your adoptive parents gave you a fabulous start in life must be overwhelming. Thank you for responding to all of this with love. ❤

  • @normasalazar1805
    @normasalazar1805 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    This is the kind of stories I love to hear Alex. You are so lucky to have 4 parents in your life and Tatiana is blessed to have you in hers. No one should judge her, we are only humans.

  • @capeclearisland
    @capeclearisland ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Alex, have followed your story from the start. Tatiana had probably never known real love in her young life, until you found her; it's in her heart now when she looks at you. And she has become more demonstrative than before. ❤

  • @katheryns1219
    @katheryns1219 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Sasha, you continue to show your great heart. Your mom was in an orphanage system that tried to do right by its children generally. The institutional caregivers I met in Omsk and in Moscow cared deeply about the children under their care. But there weren't enough of them, and it's one of the lowest paying jobs around. The children grow up without family, so have no idea what it means to be in a family. Your non-judgmental attitude shows you to be an old soul with wisdom beyond your years. Don't listen to the naysayers, just keep blessing your mother with your presence whether in person or through social media. У тебя действительно доброе сердце.

  • @carly1478
    @carly1478 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    You are a good person and a good son. ❤ I bet your parents are so proud of how you have handled all of this. ❤

  • @StaffanSwede
    @StaffanSwede ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Your birthmother is the way she is for a number of reasons and it is not difficult to understand and respect her. I bet she is both happy and proud to have you in her life, one way or another, and she deals with it her way.

  • @marylott9294
    @marylott9294 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Alex, you are such a blessing in your birth Mother’s life! ❤️

  • @joannpalmieri4741
    @joannpalmieri4741 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I’ve followed you on your journey from the beginning. Always look forward to your updates.

  • @hannesvanniekerk499
    @hannesvanniekerk499 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Alex, what a mighty young man you are! I love following your story and your quest to find out more. Any parent would be proud, very proud, to have a son like you. May you be blessed abundantly dear friend.

  • @privatename8228
    @privatename8228 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Being loved unconditionally is the greatest gift of all. You give that beautiful gift to Momma Tatiana. Thank you for sharing your video.

  • @curtisyeomans1333
    @curtisyeomans1333 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You are such a great son, and story teller. Thank You for sharing these very private times, with Us. You are Amazing!

  • @IHeartDublinx
    @IHeartDublinx ปีที่แล้ว +26

    So nice to see you building a relationship with your birth mother and making the effort to understand her and her life. It is not surprising that she is so proud of you 🙂

  • @MegaVictorygirl
    @MegaVictorygirl ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love to Mama Tatiana from Colorado. She’s so blessed to have Sasha Alex, her beloved son.

  • @margaretpaton7240
    @margaretpaton7240 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You are an amazing young man influenced by not only your parents and upbringing here in New Zealand but also from your inherited genes. It is so wonderful you are able to spend time with your birth mother and father. ❤

  • @hendo19742
    @hendo19742 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    BEEN FOLLOWING FOR OVER 8 YEARS!👍👍🇿🇦🇬🇧🇿🇦🇬🇧

  • @rb7454
    @rb7454 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Alex, I am American. I came to the USA 🇺🇸 as a child, immigrated with my parents from the Soviet Union. I have always wanted to go back and adopt. I don’t have Russian citizenship. But I have a Russian soul, like you. You have an “old” soul. And your story, your desire to make sense of your family upline, keep connecting w your birth parents is really inspiring.
    When in Minnesota,
    Please ring me up. I’d love for you to talk about how adoption change your life. More people need to know importance of adoption. As you can see w your mom’s life choices, orphans in Russia who never her adopted never really become successful adults. If they make it past 40 it’s a miracle. If they avoid drugs, alcoholism, prostitution it’s also a miracle.
    More people need to learn about importance of adopting and being open to adopting.
    Sending you much love.
    Спасибо за все сообщение и видио. - Елена

  • @lula8681
    @lula8681 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    She doesn’t know how to be loved , she had a severe avoidant trauma attachment ❤❤

    • @alexgilbert
      @alexgilbert  ปีที่แล้ว +13

      She does. I agree with you. It's an on-going process and I know it's how things are. But at the end of the day, I can only do what I can of course! :)

    • @TimeTraveller2054
      @TimeTraveller2054 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      ⁠@@alexgilbert You make her life better. There’s no doubt about that. ❤️

  • @ginadonza3549
    @ginadonza3549 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Great video Alex! You are quite an amazing young man! Your birth mother had a very hard life and I love hearing and seeing your birth father’s life too. I’ll patiently await your next video. Until then, be well.

  • @hbolden6823
    @hbolden6823 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Please love her, respect her and help her as much as you can.

  • @ThreeorMore209
    @ThreeorMore209 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    In one way, you are “parenting” Tatiana - by providing the experience of family love and connection, which orphanages really can’t do well.

  • @MrTicolino
    @MrTicolino ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What a story! you must do what your heart tells you, just it Alex. God bless you and Tatiana.

  • @hbolden6823
    @hbolden6823 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for your love and kindness toward your mother. Thank you also to your adoptive parents. They did such a great job.

  • @Taorelia
    @Taorelia 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Каким невероятным человеком тебя вырастили родители!
    Удачи в стремлении за своими мечтами и желаниями 🌺

  • @shosmyth1454
    @shosmyth1454 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Sasha I love how you continue to follow your Mother wherever she mat move to!! You’re a Wonderful Son and she has had a very difficult life. My Best Wishes to you both. 💕💕💕💕

  • @annfinnegan2791
    @annfinnegan2791 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are such a brave young man .your parents have done a great job of bringing you up .I wish you luck on you're journey ❤

  • @eloisebush4595
    @eloisebush4595 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I have so enjoyed your heartwarming stories.Ive missing the stories for awhile now.I contracted covid,so have had a lot of health problems since..hope it gets better soon.your stories are so tough hing.sorry for your moms special friend.❤❤❤❤

  • @facellina
    @facellina ปีที่แล้ว +3

    She was so pretty

  • @user-cc2sv8fp5q
    @user-cc2sv8fp5q 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Birth mom being an orphan herself, learning all important things about life in an orphanage was not taught how to love, care and did not have anyone loving and caring for her. My best friends mom is from an orphanage too, the same story. Orphanage children just never saw or experience warm and close family interactions, they don't know how to perform them. It's very wise from Alex to take his birth mom as she is. Warm, open, caring child is something very new for Tatiana in her 40s or 50s. We don't change at that age. It's just what it is. It would be better for Tatiana to live closer to Alex because I don't see anyone in the world who would care for her in her elderly years. But it doesn't look like she would ever leave her invironment.
    Thank you Alex for showing us your journey, for sharing and for helping others to follow.

  • @Mona-w7k
    @Mona-w7k ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It is about love ,you give love to birth mamma ❤ Live is love

  • @hughphillips1427
    @hughphillips1427 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your a good man Alex, good for you for supporting your birth mother, I am sure you being in her life has given her both love and hope. I am adopted also so I understand your reasons. Best wishes, Hugh in England.

  • @helenfuerst5653
    @helenfuerst5653 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you so much, Alex and I hope you can continue to see and meet more and more!! Good luck in finding out more facts for everyone!

  • @shakalino
    @shakalino ปีที่แล้ว

    I've been following since you first went to Russia - amazing progress, you inspire many across the globe. You have amazing adopted parents who taught you how to love and live your passion. Your birth parents are amazing people who embrace you the best way they can, but more importantly they appreciate your adopted parents, your birth parents are not absent of love. I love watching this channel - thank you for sharing your journey.

  • @kathymclaughlin3327
    @kathymclaughlin3327 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Bless you for your compassion!

  • @s.b.7924
    @s.b.7924 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Don't forget to look into the political aspects of your mother's and Grandmother's upbringing. That also plays a big part in family life. Communism as I understand it was treating humans as machines and family life took a back seat to the government, as well as keeping people in poverty except a select few. As far back as the sixties I heard stories of the deplorable conditions of orphanages and the neglect of babies to "toughen"them up.
    Let your mother know through you she's loved the world over.♥️

    • @Mejiaelis
      @Mejiaelis ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes

    • @s.b.7924
      @s.b.7924 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@elgasalme9331
      As with any political system, it's always leaning towards what ever those in power want you to know about the other side. I'm glad you had a happy up bringing. I was very upset by the way Black's were treated in the late fifties and early sixties. That's why I watch the BBC, national news and DW news so I can get a better rounded view.

    • @alexgilbert
      @alexgilbert  ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thank you. Yes I understand it was definitely a difficult time of course. Thank you for sharing!

  • @martharinebiseko1457
    @martharinebiseko1457 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Well done.
    You have such a wide kind heart towards your maama

  • @janetlouw6439
    @janetlouw6439 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    ♥️

  • @mariannesnead6919
    @mariannesnead6919 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your story is great your parents are neat

  • @nobillclinton
    @nobillclinton ปีที่แล้ว

    Godspeed Alex Gilbert.

  • @lyndarichardson4744
    @lyndarichardson4744 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Alex, I've noticed how your birth Mother seems less withdrawn with you than when you first met her. I'm sure growing up in an Orphanage, she could never trust people or learn how to love. She seems closer to you now ❤

  • @adamvalentino3295
    @adamvalentino3295 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The one who said to leave your mother alone ...living her own life is an idiot... Abandoning her would be a sacrilege. She needs you more than anyone would ever understand. For the rest of her life..be there/Always/no regret but ❤️. 😉

  • @estellesmith6418
    @estellesmith6418 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤❤❤

  • @letitsnow8518
    @letitsnow8518 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    How is your birth mm and dad now, please do an update

  • @treeleaf7808
    @treeleaf7808 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    "Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world."
    - James 1:27, the Bible

  • @Mona-w7k
    @Mona-w7k ปีที่แล้ว

    She know that you loved her

  • @freeman4899
    @freeman4899 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Did you ever call her mama or do you call her Tanya ?

    • @alexgilbert
      @alexgilbert  4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I've called her both Mama Tanya :)

  • @natalianakoriakova8084
    @natalianakoriakova8084 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Following your story for a very long time. Hope you can answer all the questions you have about your birth mother's family. Hope your parents and brother are all doing well. Keep going. It's an amazing life story you're telling us. Good luck to you, Sasha.