It's interesting hearing this from a man's perspective and that he actually doesn't understand why it happens.. Are you someone who's overly focussed on your own flaws? When we put someone else on a pedestal and make THEIR opinion of us more important than OUR own opinion of ourselves it lowers our vibration and they do inevitably lose interest. love that AH teaches a state of non-attachment - of tuning in to our vibrational escrow.. not abandoning ourselves and 'over-investing' in someone who's not in alignment. The tendency to fall into this pattern can be predicted by our love bonding and attachment style.. You can find out yours -> petaapril.com/lovebondingquiz
Do you actually believe your own words? It sounds like you're looking for covert power dominance in a relationship. I have no interest in a "non-attachment" state of love from any female. Allow me to explain a small aspect. You see for just about any woman that wants to sleep with me, I'm bigger, faster, stronger, smarter, wiser, more spiritually advanced, I make more money, and I probably cook and clean more than her too. So as much as I appreciate the tits and ass, in a real world definable language reality, we are not equal, and her SMV is short lived. At 25 she peaks and at 35-45 when my sexual market value peaks, she hits the wall. This is 'non-attachment" love. Do you comprehend what I'm saying, or does your conformation biases relational to concepts like "Knowing your worth" and "Having respect for yourself" prevent that? Note that I'm not even going into the instinctual solipsistic nature of women who want the power of a man, the privileges of being female, and the responsibilities of neither.
Once again blaming a woman and accusing her of low self esteem and putting a guy on a pedestal. When actually the man's ego and lame opinion of women, love and happiness ruin the relationship.
Wow! This answers my question that there is no final person that you must be with. Every relationship is a blessing because, from each of them, you will learn what you really want in a relationship as you expand in life.
If you’re in alignment and you connected to your own inner self these little flaws you find in others can’t ruffle your feathers. If you stay on your high flying disc those little issues will never leave the ground. What you resist expands. So many people focus on the negative. Focus on all the good things about that person and the other stuff seems to shrink and dry up. We don’t expect people to change to soothe us and our mental thought condition. We as a collective know that. This was a great piece!
The opening statement of this man sounds like every lover I had. Then, after they self sabotage our relationship, they freak out, beg me back, & blame me after I move on.
Well one thing is for sure honey and that is LIFE GOES on. I don't dwell on why this or that...if he looses interest the door is near don't let it hit you on the way out. At times clinging to someone who doesn't see our worth and value is continuing the suffering. It is always better to be alone than to be with someone who is not sure how he feels and isn't treating you with care, respect and consideration. Life is about being content and fiding a way to be at peace regardless of external circumstance. We can't control things. Only thing we have control over is our attitude and our mindset regardless of what does or doesn't happen.
Mountain path sounds a little bitter. Why listen to this if you don’t care about men? Or having a partner? Of course self love comes first. But no one can act or behave in any way unless there is a belief in you that causes it in them. That’s ‘everyone is you pushed out’ aka Neville Goddard
@@Lisa_M_V🤔🤔🤔 I think you understand me but you seem quite irritated for no reason. Did my comment strike a nerve ? You jump to conclusions about me being bitter which often is an indicator that you are bitter about something in your life. Others are reflection of what is going on within us. So what you see in others is often what you need to address within yourself. Just a thought for you. And I stand behind what I said above. I have been single for over 5 years now. The best most fulfilling and self-awakening time in my life. Often times we are afraid of being alone, we want to be with someone and yet when we end up alone it is an indicator our inner work is to begin. The more you fear something the more it will be in your experience. It is not that I do not care about men but I don't base my life joy on a man (or men). There is more to life than worrying about men or trying so hard to care about men. Trying too hard to control and care about things outside of your control is never going to make you live a peaceful life. And I don't see why anyone should cling to a partner or a friend or a job if it's not working out.? Letting go off what doesn't serve us is allowing the things we really want to come forth. But if you cling to the old and want to convince someone who isn't interested in you to stay and try to make them see your beauty, worth and value when they lost interest, that is waste your time. The idea that someone looses interest in us and the notion that something is or was wrong with us leads us to suffering. Then we start to do all kinds of things to fix ourselves so someone can see us for our goodness and value. Many times you are not the reason for the behaviors of another. The teachings of Abraham are great but they make people think they have 100% all the time control over others perceptions, behaviors and that is absolutely untrue. Even Jesus Christ who was a perfect teacher encountered things that he didn't like but he never once was focusing on trying to control and manipulate others into staying or following him. Those who were ready for his teachings were ready and those that lost interest were not ready. But Jesus saw all things in their perfection even if they didn't seem perfect to others. When he healed people he did not tell them they "attracted" the disease to themselves he simply saw them as whole and healthy. He never focused on why something or someone was certain way. He focused in the perfection in all of life. Ester Hicks likes to tell people they are responsible for why someone looses interest and why someone cheats or why something doesn't work. Rather than tell people to focus on holding all things as perfect. So when we don't have a partner at times we tend to feel sorry for ourselves and pity ourselves and feel less than. Truth is It's not about having a partner. It's about not making your everyday life joy and happiness be dependent on someone else be it a man, friends, jobs etc. For as long as you place someone or something external outside of yourself to dictate how you feel you are a prisoner of those people, circomstances and events. The choice is yours. And the ultimate freedom is being in a place of absolute joy and contentment without having the partner, lover or attention from others.
@@BlueskyDenver I agree with you. We need to understand that our happiness is in our own hands. I wish women only seek relationships after you have done your inner work.
@@tavoiaiono7885 Are you male? Sexist and Wrong. Guys do need to change!! Guys change, become lazy, entitled take women for granted. Nothing wrong with trying to change the man.
Ah no. Women always without a doubt want to change men while men wish they could just be who they are. Einstein says "when a man meets a woman, the man wants the woman to stay the same as when they met, BUT for the woman, shes already busy working on things to change about the man." So the womans brain is fucked and needs to be fucked out.
@@jessicasmith816 yeah who doesnt, we all came here to experience and I am LOVING every minute of it. Find love for self, then they will come lining up to see why you are so wonderful all the time. xxx
@@AshleyMintz no one has the right to change another human being. You dont have the tools and knowledge to do this. YOu are messed up in your energy yourself so 2 people messed up and lost in their vibration trying to tell each other what to do......is just a recipe for disaster. You can be together, but you both have your own prebirth contracts to fulfill and experiences to live thru. You do not take those from each other, otherwise you will be misserable, angry, sad, regretful etc..... you see what Im saying??? A dead bird CANNOT bring back to life another dead bird. You are a being of light and love here to have a human experience. YOU ARE NOT HERE TO CONTROL PEOPLE AND WORSHIP GODS!! You are here for experiences for the ascension of your souls so that you too can qualify in teaching others about love and light.
When you can become everything to yourself you don't need to be anything to anybody but you can be everything to everybody. Fill your own cut first then you can share...just watch out for the backwash from people so they don't spoil what's in your cup.
Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. -Einstein One of my exes was like this man in this video. A hamster running on a wheel, breaking hearts left and right. No one gets what they want but for a lot of disillusionment. We can do better with respect to our desires and each other.
This is all about some conditioning/programming as well. I see the truth but can’t get out of this mindset myself either. Seeing or experiencing something in your life that you don’t want makes difficult to live with others and that is to me simply a catch 22
I think it’s such a toxic advice to men who think they are prizes to be won over in a relationship. Maybe the problem is your fixed mindset to think that merely being in a relationship should be satisfying without having to work for it. The best relationships are the ones who value people as they are, not what they should be. No relationship should exist to please only you. Start changing your mindset into one that sees your partner’s growth as with yours collectively and notice what a difference it would make.
I seems Like the Problem lies somwhere Else. I think IT is Attachmentstyle issue Most pll especially men have IT. In His Case its called dissmissive avoidend. I hope He Looks this Up and heals IT.
Yes..we must attract what we want with the true not what we think we want..I atracted what I tgought I want...And my partner..May be the same...after "his goal"...but I think it must be our goal...God bless..Amin...
But this is a False title .. so many people take what Abraham teaches and try to distort it with false titles. I absolutely love Abraham Hicks and it would be nice for those who share to put titles that are not distorting the message. Perhaps a more inclusive title would be why do we loose interest. Anyway still appreciate you sharing
Do you understand that the Abraham Hicks editors that edit these group workshops come up with fast names for their clips. Most are accurate, some I rename when I upload mp3's. I would say it was the Ab crew that named this clip, not this channel. All is well here.
I agree, I think most of us who study the law of attraction in general would prefer a title that’s not like this. Pretty ironic how the title literally has resistance in it even though its preached to practice getting rid of resistance
@@jelenazoric9300 This channel isn't monetized lovely. I've curated AH clips into specific playlists on Love & Relationship and Heartbreak & Break-ups for my female clients to hear the wisdom and guidance in the teachings of Abraham relating to their predominant questions and challenges. I'm happy that a broader TH-cam audience can listen and enjoy them also and you're welcome to access any of a range of other free resources on love, dating, relationships and break-ups that I have available in The Love Sanctuary Group to support my community.
Men are hunters, we'll always want to know that we can hunt, catch, drag to the ground and have our way. All men look at women and try catch their eye to prove to themselves that they could hunt that gazelle and eat it. It's just life .
So a man's world basically revolves around a woman. Women, on the other hand, can live quite happily without men. And really, why would any woman take a man seriously? I have found that men lie about everything!
True apparently it's because we are supposed to reproduce preferably with the strongest and most healthy male, even we don't have to anymore that's how our brains still work.I saw a docu on this, i guess not much has changed in our brains since the stone age lol
writerforlifeify I don't think men's lives today revolves around women anymore.In fact i see men stay away from women more and more thanks to toxic feminism. And even as a woman if you don't need a man in your personal life , you still need men..
I only see men they see flaws, over flaws... And having aa thousands women... To find he top notch... Wtf... How come is only men at first issue, leaving. They lose interest, they lose this that.. How come is only men??? Can someone explains this??? And yes, I want to only be searched by that guy who knows what he wants, and he wants me 100 %. If he comes to me coz does not know yet, has to search 7 billion to make up his mind, the dooris closed. Either im the chosen one, or go away from day one. Not even 1 day will be missed ever on the face of the earth to any useless, tired, bored, annoyed man...
Meybe this guy is not really looking for that, thats why it doesnt interst him anymore... and it is not about finding the relationship he really wants....
So did the uploader delete my first public comment here? Or did it just get so many dislikes that YT deleted it? I guess the truth hurts because I speak the truth with no intended malevolence. Just brutal honesty. Apparently more than some can endure/manage, or control.
Really enjoy her teachings, however as someone with misophobia her lip smacking drives me nuts. No hate, I will continue to listen, it’s a me problem anyway. Thank you for posting. Blessings
It's interesting hearing this from a man's perspective and that he actually doesn't understand why it happens.. Are you someone who's overly focussed on your own flaws? When we put someone else on a pedestal and make THEIR opinion of us more important than OUR own opinion of ourselves it lowers our vibration and they do inevitably lose interest. love that AH teaches a state of non-attachment - of tuning in to our vibrational escrow.. not abandoning ourselves and 'over-investing' in someone who's not in alignment. The tendency to fall into this pattern can be predicted by our love bonding and attachment style.. You can find out yours -> petaapril.com/lovebondingquiz
I had a reading once , it opened with how " I tend to lose my identity in relationships" . So yeah, I need a tune up, I've paid dearly.
Do you actually believe your own words? It sounds like you're looking for covert power dominance in a relationship. I have no interest in a "non-attachment" state of love from any female. Allow me to explain a small aspect. You see for just about any woman that wants to sleep with me, I'm bigger, faster, stronger, smarter, wiser, more spiritually advanced, I make more money, and I probably cook and clean more than her too. So as much as I appreciate the tits and ass, in a real world definable language reality, we are not equal, and her SMV is short lived. At 25 she peaks and at 35-45 when my sexual market value peaks, she hits the wall. This is 'non-attachment" love. Do you comprehend what I'm saying, or does your conformation biases relational to concepts like "Knowing your worth" and "Having respect for yourself" prevent that? Note that I'm not even going into the instinctual solipsistic nature of women who want the power of a man, the privileges of being female, and the responsibilities of neither.
@@johnsprince3924 soo u r more spiritually advanced??! after writing that?
Once again blaming a woman and accusing her of low self esteem and putting a guy on a pedestal. When actually the man's ego and lame opinion of women, love and happiness ruin the relationship.
Wow! This answers my question that there is no final person that you must be with. Every relationship is a blessing because, from each of them, you will learn what you really want in a relationship as you expand in life.
Wow never saw it like that until now
Forward to 3.00 for the answer
Patience makes character
If you’re in alignment and you connected to your own inner self these little flaws you find in others can’t ruffle your feathers. If you stay on your high flying disc those little issues will never leave the ground. What you resist expands. So many people focus on the negative. Focus on all the good things about that person and the other stuff seems to shrink and dry up. We don’t expect people to change to soothe us and our mental thought condition. We as a collective know that. This was a great piece!
how to do become in alignment and connected to your own inner self? new to this
The opening statement of this man sounds like every lover I had. Then, after they self sabotage our relationship, they freak out, beg me back, & blame me after I move on.
Well one thing is for sure honey and that is LIFE GOES on. I don't dwell on why this or that...if he looses interest the door is near don't let it hit you on the way out.
At times clinging to someone who doesn't see our worth and value is continuing the suffering. It is always better to be alone than to be with someone who is not sure how he feels and isn't treating you with care, respect and consideration. Life is about being content and fiding a way to be at peace regardless of external circumstance. We can't control things. Only thing we have control over is our attitude and our mindset regardless of what does or doesn't happen.
Mountain path sounds a little bitter. Why listen to this if you don’t care about men? Or having a partner? Of course self love comes first. But no one can act or behave in any way unless there is a belief in you that causes it in them. That’s ‘everyone is you pushed out’ aka Neville Goddard
@@Lisa_M_V🤔🤔🤔 I think you understand me but you seem quite irritated for no reason. Did my comment strike a nerve ? You jump to conclusions about me being bitter which often is an indicator that you are bitter about something in your life. Others are reflection of what is going on within us. So what you see in others is often what you need to address within yourself. Just a thought for you. And I stand behind what I said above. I have been single for over 5 years now. The best most fulfilling and self-awakening time in my life. Often times we are afraid of being alone, we want to be with someone and yet when we end up alone it is an indicator our inner work is to begin. The more you fear something the more it will be in your experience. It is not that I do not care about men but I don't base my life joy on a man (or men). There is more to life than worrying about men or trying so hard to care about men. Trying too hard to control and care about things outside of your control is never going to make you live a peaceful life. And I don't see why anyone should cling to a partner or a friend or a job if it's not working out.? Letting go off what doesn't serve us is allowing the things we really want to come forth. But if you cling to the old and want to convince someone who isn't interested in you to stay and try to make them see your beauty, worth and value when they lost interest, that is waste your time. The idea that someone looses interest in us and the notion that something is or was wrong with us leads us to suffering. Then we start to do all kinds of things to fix ourselves so someone can see us for our goodness and value. Many times you are not the reason for the behaviors of another. The teachings of Abraham are great but they make people think they have 100% all the time control over others perceptions, behaviors and that is absolutely untrue. Even Jesus Christ who was a perfect teacher encountered things that he didn't like but he never once was focusing on trying to control and manipulate others into staying or following him. Those who were ready for his teachings were ready and those that lost interest were not ready. But Jesus saw all things in their perfection even if they didn't seem perfect to others. When he healed people he did not tell them they "attracted" the disease to themselves he simply saw them as whole and healthy. He never focused on why something or someone was certain way. He focused in the perfection in all of life. Ester Hicks likes to tell people they are responsible for why someone looses interest and why someone cheats or why something doesn't work. Rather than tell people to focus on holding all things as perfect. So when we don't have a partner at times we tend to feel sorry for ourselves and pity ourselves and feel less than. Truth is It's not about having a partner. It's about not making your everyday life joy and happiness be dependent on someone else be it a man, friends, jobs etc. For as long as you place someone or something external outside of yourself to dictate how you feel you are a prisoner of those people, circomstances and events. The choice is yours. And the ultimate freedom is being in a place of absolute joy and contentment without having the partner, lover or attention from others.
Amun. Ase. So mote it be! 👏🏾👸💜
@@BlueskyDenver I agree with you. We need to understand that our happiness is in our own hands. I wish women only seek relationships after you have done your inner work.
@@tavoiaiono7885 Are you male? Sexist and Wrong. Guys do need to change!! Guys change, become lazy, entitled take women for granted. Nothing wrong with trying to change the man.
Life Lessons
Everything happens for a reason
To put You on the Right Path.
chris georgallis yep!👍
People think the grass is greener when in actual fact it is not.
Ah no. Women always without a doubt want to change men while men wish they could just be who they are. Einstein says "when a man meets a woman, the man wants the woman to stay the same as when they met, BUT for the woman, shes already busy working on things to change about the man." So the womans brain is fucked and needs to be fucked out.
@@tavoiaiono7885 sounds like you have some issues
@@jessicasmith816 yeah who doesnt, we all came here to experience and I am LOVING every minute of it. Find love for self, then they will come lining up to see why you are so wonderful all the time. xxx
Tavoi Aiono So I would say that both are problems. Men wanting women to just stay the same isn’t exactly a great thing.
@@AshleyMintz no one has the right to change another human being. You dont have the tools and knowledge to do this. YOu are messed up in your energy yourself so 2 people messed up and lost in their vibration trying to tell each other what to do......is just a recipe for disaster. You can be together, but you both have your own prebirth contracts to fulfill and experiences to live thru. You do not take those from each other, otherwise you will be misserable, angry, sad, regretful etc..... you see what Im saying??? A dead bird CANNOT bring back to life another dead bird. You are a being of light and love here to have a human experience. YOU ARE NOT HERE TO CONTROL PEOPLE AND WORSHIP GODS!! You are here for experiences for the ascension of your souls so that you too can qualify in teaching others about love and light.
To ask a person to be everything that you need is asking way too much.
When you can become everything to yourself you don't need to be anything to anybody but you can be everything to everybody.
Fill your own cut first then you can share...just watch out for the backwash from people so they don't spoil what's in your cup.
So true
I have been learning that building a relationship is amazing, you learn about red flags
Doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result is the definition of insanity. -Einstein One of my exes was like this man in this video. A hamster running on a wheel, breaking hearts left and right. No one gets what they want but for a lot of disillusionment. We can do better with respect to our desires and each other.
yay a video about players from a spiritual perspective thanku she says still ANGRY
Starts at @4:00
This goes for some women like me, too. Thank u Abraham!
Would love to hear the rest of this segment
This is all about some conditioning/programming as well. I see the truth but can’t get out of this mindset myself either. Seeing or experiencing something in your life that you don’t want makes difficult to live with others and that is to me simply a catch 22
I think it’s such a toxic advice to men who think they are prizes to be won over in a relationship. Maybe the problem is your fixed mindset to think that merely being in a relationship should be satisfying without having to work for it. The best relationships are the ones who value people as they are, not what they should be. No relationship should exist to please only you. Start changing your mindset into one that sees your partner’s growth as with yours collectively and notice what a difference it would make.
Yes I can know . And I do .And I have always known. .
Finally someone completely understands me
I seems Like the Problem lies somwhere Else. I think IT is Attachmentstyle issue Most pll especially men have IT. In His Case its called dissmissive avoidend. I hope He Looks this Up and heals IT.
Finally I get it.
Yes..we must attract what we want with the true not what we think we want..I atracted what I tgought I want...And my partner..May be the same...after "his goal"...but I think it must be our goal...God bless..Amin...
we shudnt be using people and be in relationships till we find the right one
Don’t think that this thumb nail title is apt to the lecture video ? Sorry it didn’t match up for me !
So informative! So glad My friend shared these videos. It is a game changer esp for someone like me learning to let go of control
But this is a False title .. so many people take what Abraham teaches and try to distort it with false titles.
I absolutely love Abraham Hicks and it would be nice for those who share to put titles that are not distorting the message.
Perhaps a more inclusive title would be why do we loose interest. Anyway still appreciate you sharing
Do you understand that the Abraham Hicks editors that edit these group workshops come up with fast names for their clips. Most are accurate, some I rename when I upload mp3's. I would say it was the Ab crew that named this clip, not this channel. All is well here.
Clickbait honey ( all about the money)😉
I agree, I think most of us who study the law of attraction in general would prefer a title that’s not like this. Pretty ironic how the title literally has resistance in it even though its preached to practice getting rid of resistance
@@jelenazoric9300 This channel isn't monetized lovely. I've curated AH clips into specific playlists on Love & Relationship and Heartbreak & Break-ups for my female clients to hear the wisdom and guidance in the teachings of Abraham relating to their predominant questions and challenges. I'm happy that a broader TH-cam audience can listen and enjoy them also and you're welcome to access any of a range of other free resources on love, dating, relationships and break-ups that I have available in The Love Sanctuary Group to support my community.
@@TheLoveSanctuary ok.However, monetized or not I agree with many that the title is not in accordance with the content 100%.
2:29 vibrational escrow
Is the continuation of this available to listen to?
I was thinking the same, a shame it’s cut there
I have messed up so many mens lives with my wrong patterns
Thank you
11:11 ❤
This story is proof that narcissists do get their karma. Only narcissistic males lose interest once they have the woman.
I like this part.. 6:43
Love it!
We lose interest because of the constant lying!
Men are hunters, we'll always want to know that we can hunt, catch, drag to the ground and have our way. All men look at women and try catch their eye to prove to themselves that they could hunt that gazelle and eat it. It's just life .
So a man's world basically revolves around a woman. Women, on the other hand, can live quite happily without men. And really, why would any woman take a man seriously? I have found that men lie about everything!
True apparently it's because we are supposed to reproduce preferably with the strongest and most healthy male, even we don't have to anymore that's how our brains still work.I saw a docu on this, i guess not much has changed in our brains since the stone age lol
writerforlifeify I don't think men's lives today revolves around women anymore.In fact i see men stay away from women more and more thanks to toxic feminism.
And even as a woman if you don't need a man in your personal life , you still need men..
@@giovannaroma9527 you sound great!! Not in Australia are you ??😁😁
@@tom6567 No Netherlands😄 but i like Aussie men
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It should say why does anyone is interested in a relationship. It's not just me and it just happens to me a man talking about it
Well I real like this about men
Hope this man got the therapy he clearly needs.
she jsut sounded like she is explaining a maths formula lol
I’m a female and I lose interest as well it’s so boring and lacks surprise so I have gave up on dating
It's not peculiar to men....I've been exactly the same in all my relationships.
The title is so misleading. Not at all the topic of this video.
I know right. I hate the clickbait
Yes 💕
I only see men they see flaws, over flaws... And having aa thousands women... To find he top notch... Wtf... How come is only men at first issue, leaving. They lose interest, they lose this that.. How come is only men??? Can someone explains this??? And yes, I want to only be searched by that guy who knows what he wants, and he wants me 100 %. If he comes to me coz does not know yet, has to search 7 billion to make up his mind, the dooris closed. Either im the chosen one, or go away from day one. Not even 1 day will be missed ever on the face of the earth to any useless, tired, bored, annoyed man...
I have a feeling that this man as judgmental and hard on the self as on the others.
Why does everyone care so much ab the title..like what 😄
4:19
Meybe this guy is not really looking for that, thats why it doesnt interst him anymore... and it is not about finding the relationship he really wants....
So did the uploader delete my first public comment here? Or did it just get so many dislikes that YT deleted it? I guess the truth hurts because I speak the truth with no intended malevolence. Just brutal honesty. Apparently more than some can endure/manage, or control.
He's a playboy... 🤣
i just have to click it... lol
Relax...everbdy is nt g here..thinjung abt men all the time..
Really enjoy her teachings, however as someone with misophobia her lip smacking drives me nuts. No hate, I will continue to listen, it’s a me problem anyway. Thank you for posting. Blessings
Dont like the Wo man
Dismissive Avoidant
It’s more like why do women lose interest what’s the fucking deal with that