She says it best: "It's EXHAUSTING". Not gonna give my full Narc experience, but the most important thing you will lose with a narcissists is your TIME.
It is ridiculous how even the most basic questions are not answered. Thank you for every video you have done on narcissism. Your channel is so helpful!
Yes. Essentially, narcissists will turn a conversation of accountability into an endless drawn out filibuster, if it means they can escape being held accountable. Just like an act of Congress, having the narcissist held accountable becomes the impossible.
I agree, In my experience, they answer questions with questions. Almost like Vinnie Barbarino in Welcome back Kotter(70's sitcom).Also, in my opinion, Family narcissists bring up the past because they are intimidated by what's going on NOW.
Excellent. 16 years of no conflict resolution. How can people be so immature to not use empathy and be totally callous. I lost so much. Never be in a relationship with a narcissist
@@ghdodo The science shows some people are predisposed to developing into a narcissist, but environmental is the catalyst more so than anything else. It’s been shown children who never develop empathy for others by age 3, they end up developing narcissism along with other forms of personality defects.
Yes!! My ex narc did this all the time, he wouldn t answear any of my questions, we did not solve any problem, just running in circle every single time!! How can they be all the same???
This is EXACTLY how conversations have been with my ex fiancé. Would totally ignore my questions as if I didn’t even ask them. And yep - could talk for 2+ hours and feel like nothing was said. 😮 Never answered anything, which basically gave me an answer to my questions! 😝
They will often also put emphasis on the fact that what they do is "not your business", or say "stop being jealous and controlling" if you question some of their behaviour.
They stall you to avoid the lost feeling of source supply. Makes us feel vegetive and seek to impress them. Then there are micro-shifts, sometimes habit or not.
Important topic! My narc lady made me a better man. I've just started dating. I still felt kinda broke, but going out I realized I wasn't broke no more, I felt that way, some kinda off cuz I've changed. I attract other kind of women, beautiful, kind, at first distant but in a way very interested in me, something no narc can do. I've lost my inner hole in contact with the narc, I learned to give it to myself. Now I come to GIVE it is pleasure to me. Women like to talk and they love a man who is really listening. I give it to them. Neurotypical women are so intuitive it is a pleasure, they know whom to trust, when it happens their eyes change dramaticaly, their face expresión, they become little girls, it is so precious. All my life I knew just a narc stare. They do not over share, they do not over trust. But the real conversation happens in the eyes. Sometimes the conection was so strong that we had sex. The eye contact never broke. Strengh, vulnerability, hurt of the past, pure love, desaire, lust, tears of joy, a smile ful of love... how cheap did I sell my soul in the past? If I am ready for a relationship in the future I will answer questions I'm comfortible with, my narc knew everything about me, but it was a weapon. The same freedom I will give to the woman, but if you start investigating, it is time to go. Sometimes it's better to check your healing progress in reality. Trust yourself as far as you feel save. Don't waste your time for a no person, you are so precious and so is your time. Desde Sudamérica
It's even more confusing because in the initial stages of the relationship they DID put your needs first to hook you in. Then, once the relationship was established they changed the way they treated you ever so slowly until eventually, you decide to bring it up with them. When you do this you are greeted by a 6 to 8-year-old child who can't control their emotions as opposed to the person you thought you knew. Your mind is trying to make sense out of it and you can't. It makes no sense. Unfortunately, these people will wait until after you are well into the job, friendship, dating, marriage, etc. to show their true selves and it's mind-boggling. There is nothing you could have done or do to change the way things end up. They can only keep who they truly are hidden for so long and it starts to come out the better you know them. The person who is abused the most in a relationship with a narcissist is the person they know the best.
I see And since I was raised by that type of mother (and she is from dysfunctional family as minimum) so I'm "regular" for such behaviour, such kind of dysfunctional " normalcy "... Just leave them and never take them back... I have my own work to do...
One would be surprised to know the depth of this aspect. Forget about questions regarding their behaviour or something you want them to be accountable to, they will not even answers basic questions like when you ask " why were you late", they'll reply by something along the lines , " something happened I'll tell you later" Most people would just forget to ask back and even if you ask back they'll won't answer and they dodge the question by giving the same old replies If there's one thing common among Narcissists it is their need to be secretive about every minute detail they share with you . Experienced this in my own life , one of my childhood friend is a Narcissists, we thought he became better but only to realise that now he's just more better at disguising himself
Well, they certainly are around. I mean a regular person isn’t going to go out of their way to be around you, maybe that’s why it seems there are so many of them? Thanks.
That's the key. If they respected or cared about you they won't fcuk your mind up and avoid your wants. You are really wasting time. True Lady you said. Move .make your life. Serve yourself .not them
Not even close. When getting into a relationship with a narcissist, they will put you first by mirroring you and your respectable qualities and characteristics. If they didn’t, then we would all see who they really are from the beginning. And what’s up with the need to have other people “put you first”?? That is a recipe to attract narcissistic people.
Horrid, even worse just mentioning you like a certain ice cream, a cheerful subject, a sentence of 6 words, they jump in talking if someone you have no idea of somehow relating to ice cream, going on, " and his uncle's mechanic ripped them off and he couldn't pay rent so I had to step in and threaten the mechanic and if it wasn't for me" they go on while I contemplate just picking them out of my moving car thinking maybe if I slow down to 40 they won't get seriously injured.,point is don't talk, don't ask, it's just pure insanity...not bashing any info on cov nArk stuff, it's just horrid..if I'm around anyone with hight traits I feel myself go into " mental health case manager mode" and realize I'm not getting paid for this crap..non sensible time wasting blah..and stay away from them. They will blab, out them selves as the hero, the more intelligent one, superior one and smirk at the utter frustration you are hiding thinking you are just andry cause you are not as smart as them, when you are actually trying not to homicide them or throw up in your mouth..no mutual nothing ever occurs.
She says it best: "It's EXHAUSTING". Not gonna give my full Narc experience, but the most important thing you will lose with a narcissists is your TIME.
As minimum time
You are helping so many loving kind wonderful people wake up and start walking away from toxic people. Thank you!!!
yaa we luv her.she is best🥰.thnks lot
It is ridiculous how even the most basic questions are not answered. Thank you for every video you have done on narcissism. Your channel is so helpful!
Yes. Essentially, narcissists will turn a conversation of accountability into an endless drawn out filibuster, if it means they can escape being held accountable. Just like an act of Congress, having the narcissist held accountable becomes the impossible.
YES!
Every f*ing time!!!
Keep going with your videos. Very informative and so clear . Appreciate your time and effort
I agree, In my experience, they answer questions with questions. Almost like Vinnie Barbarino in Welcome back Kotter(70's sitcom).Also, in my opinion, Family narcissists bring up the past because they are intimidated by what's going on NOW.
Well said
Excellent. 16 years of no conflict resolution. How can people be so immature to not use empathy and be totally callous. I lost so much. Never be in a relationship with a narcissist
It's not immaturity. It's brain damage. Their brains are wired differently; in a way that makes them heartless with zero empathy.
@@ghdodo The science shows some people are predisposed to developing into a narcissist, but environmental is the catalyst more so than anything else.
It’s been shown children who never develop empathy for others by age 3, they end up developing narcissism along with other forms of personality defects.
Yes!! My ex narc did this all the time, he wouldn t answear any of my questions, we did not solve any problem, just running in circle every single time!! How can they be all the same???
This is EXACTLY how conversations have been with my ex fiancé. Would totally ignore my questions as if I didn’t even ask them. And yep - could talk for 2+ hours and feel like nothing was said. 😮 Never answered anything, which basically gave me an answer to my questions! 😝
This account is so undersubscribed
It will blow up eventually 👍
They will often also put emphasis on the fact that what they do is "not your business", or say "stop being jealous and controlling" if you question some of their behaviour.
They stall you to avoid the lost feeling of source supply.
Makes us feel vegetive and seek to impress them.
Then there are micro-shifts, sometimes habit or not.
👉Like perpetual teens, even for the simplest questions! This game can distract you for YEARS! 👈
Important topic! My narc lady made me a better man. I've just started dating. I still felt kinda broke, but going out I realized I wasn't broke no more, I felt that way, some kinda off cuz I've changed.
I attract other kind of women, beautiful, kind, at first distant but in a way very interested in me, something no narc can do.
I've lost my inner hole in contact with the narc, I learned to give it to myself.
Now I come to GIVE it is pleasure to me.
Women like to talk and they love a man who is really listening.
I give it to them. Neurotypical women are so intuitive it is a pleasure, they know whom to trust, when it happens their eyes change dramaticaly, their face expresión, they become little girls, it is so precious. All my life I knew just a narc stare.
They do not over share, they do not over trust.
But the real conversation happens in the eyes. Sometimes the conection was so strong that we had sex. The eye contact never broke. Strengh, vulnerability, hurt of the past, pure love, desaire, lust, tears of joy, a smile ful of love... how cheap did I sell my soul in the past?
If I am ready for a relationship in the future I will answer questions I'm comfortible with, my narc knew everything about me, but it was a weapon. The same freedom I will give to the woman, but if you start investigating, it is time to go.
Sometimes it's better to check your healing progress in reality. Trust yourself as far as you feel save. Don't waste your time for a no person, you are so precious and so is your time.
Desde Sudamérica
Yesss so exhausting 😅
My ex narc wouldn’t answer any questions no matter what they were about. She would literally ignore the fact a question was even asked.
It's even more confusing because in the initial stages of the relationship they DID put your needs first to hook you in. Then, once the relationship was established they changed the way they treated you ever so slowly until eventually, you decide to bring it up with them. When you do this you are greeted by a 6 to 8-year-old child who can't control their emotions as opposed to the person you thought you knew. Your mind is trying to make sense out of it and you can't. It makes no sense. Unfortunately, these people will wait until after you are well into the job, friendship, dating, marriage, etc. to show their true selves and it's mind-boggling. There is nothing you could have done or do to change the way things end up. They can only keep who they truly are hidden for so long and it starts to come out the better you know them. The person who is abused the most in a relationship with a narcissist is the person they know the best.
Yes, you bring up something that needs to be talked about, and they just say, "You're annoying"
Or they will say "can we talk about this later" and then it never gets discussed!!
This is very true!
Straight to the point!
I see
And since I was raised by that type of mother (and she is from dysfunctional family as minimum) so I'm "regular" for such behaviour, such kind of dysfunctional " normalcy "...
Just leave them and never take them back... I have my own work to do...
One would be surprised to know the depth of this aspect. Forget about questions regarding their behaviour or something you want them to be accountable to, they will not even answers basic questions like when you ask " why were you late", they'll reply by something along the lines , " something happened I'll tell you later"
Most people would just forget to ask back and even if you ask back they'll won't answer and they dodge the question by giving the same old replies
If there's one thing common among Narcissists it is their need to be secretive about every minute detail they share with you .
Experienced this in my own life , one of my childhood friend is a Narcissists, we thought he became better but only to realise that now he's just more better at disguising himself
Mine always told me she didn't owe me anything.
Yes!
Exactly...
My sisters are narcs - i have to be very assertive with them. You have to put your foot down and stand by your guns - even if it irritates them.
Well, they certainly are around. I mean a regular person isn’t going to go out of their way to be around you, maybe that’s why it seems there are so many of them?
Thanks.
That's the key. If they respected or cared about you they won't fcuk your mind up and avoid your wants. You are really wasting time. True Lady you said. Move .make your life. Serve yourself .not them
💯
Not even close.
When getting into a relationship with a narcissist, they will put you first by mirroring you and your respectable qualities and characteristics. If they didn’t, then we would all see who they really are from the beginning.
And what’s up with the need to have other people “put you first”?? That is a recipe to attract narcissistic people.
Sorry you didn't asked me 😄
Horrid, even worse just mentioning you like a certain ice cream, a cheerful subject, a sentence of 6 words, they jump in talking if someone you have no idea of somehow relating to ice cream, going on, " and his uncle's mechanic ripped them off and he couldn't pay rent so I had to step in and threaten the mechanic and if it wasn't for me" they go on while I contemplate just picking them out of my moving car thinking maybe if I slow down to 40 they won't get seriously injured.,point is don't talk, don't ask, it's just pure insanity...not bashing any info on cov nArk stuff, it's just horrid..if I'm around anyone with hight traits I feel myself go into " mental health case manager mode" and realize I'm not getting paid for this crap..non sensible time wasting blah..and stay away from them. They will blab, out them selves as the hero, the more intelligent one, superior one and smirk at the utter frustration you are hiding thinking you are just andry cause you are not as smart as them, when you are actually trying not to homicide them or throw up in your mouth..no mutual nothing ever occurs.
Sounds like someone who is focus on their goals.