I've got it from both sides... My Mom was adopted and controlled by her adopted mother. Who went on to control my mother's first born... Then when I came along my mother finally felt free and then she had to move back in with her controlling mother with her husband and three kids,.. listen to my mother and grandmother fight with each other every day for 13 years. Both of them were alcoholics... My father is the youngest out of 10 from lithuania. He lost his eye at the age of nine and while he was recovering his mother was dying down the hall. His father died from a broken heart when he was 13 so he was basically raised by his older siblings... He was a very passive quiet stay in the background father. My mother's alcohol and Tylenol addiction caused one major surgery after another. I spent most of my life visiting her in the hospital. And watching her become addicted to Demerol and my brother and sister took off and I was left to help her with my dad. She finally died when I was 30 and she was 56... I became a single teenage parent stop in 1990 because I had been physically mentally sexually abused by his father... And then had to deal with him every week for 18 years for visitation. I have complex betrayal trauma from being born with fetal alcohol syndrome and have a night terrors write up to being in my 50s and feeling more comfortable alone... I just bought Mark's book it wasn't your fault to hope I can learn a lot from that
I've got it from both sides... My Mom was adopted and controlled by her adopted mother. Who went on to control my mother's first born... Then when I came along my mother finally felt free and then she had to move back in with her controlling mother with her husband and three kids,.. listen to my mother and grandmother fight with each other every day for 13 years. Both of them were alcoholics... My father is the youngest out of 10 from lithuania. He lost his eye at the age of nine and while he was recovering his mother was dying down the hall. His father died from a broken heart when he was 13 so he was basically raised by his older siblings... He was a very passive quiet stay in the background father. My mother's alcohol and Tylenol addiction caused one major surgery after another. I spent most of my life visiting her in the hospital. And watching her become addicted to Demerol and my brother and sister took off and I was left to help her with my dad. She finally died when I was 30 and she was 56... I became a single teenage parent stop in 1990 because I had been physically mentally sexually abused by his father... And then had to deal with him every week for 18 years for visitation. I have complex betrayal trauma from being born with fetal alcohol syndrome and have a night terrors write up to being in my 50s and feeling more comfortable alone... I just bought Mark's book it wasn't your fault to hope I can learn a lot from that
So important to finally know about intergenerational trauma and that it truly wasn't our fault.