My Fiancé Is A Hoarder: Help Me Get My House In Order | Absolute Documentaries
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- 'Hoarders: Get Your House In Order', is the brand-new series featuring out-of-control consumers whose quality of life is being buried under their mounds of excessive, but potentially valuable possessions.
26-year-old Amie Ormand is a self-confessed shopaholic whose compulsive consuming is not only taking over her home, but is threatening her relationship with her fiancé Ali.
59-year-old widow Sylvia Stewart is struggling under the remnants of decades of out-of-control shopping. A self-confessed bargain hunter, Sylvia estimates that she has spent around £100,000 on her hoard.
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From: HOARDERS, GET YOUR HOUSE IN ORDER Series 01 Episode 01 & 02
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Oh my gosh, the designer claims to have a passion for getting to know who the client is and what they like, yet she puts a cow rug on the bedroom floor for a vegetarian. Winning.
Totally disrespectful
Couldn't agree more. Those cow hide "rugs" are hideous.
Yep shocking!
Not a vegan, just bc she doesn’t east it doesn’t mean she can’t walk on it, the shopping addict lady probably bought it
Plus it looks fake and they had it before hand
Instead of asking her to choose random clothing items to keep, they should have had a style expert help and teach her how to put together a capsule wardrobe of mix and match items out of what she had.
Understanding French chic style concepts and "shopping from your wardrobe" would have helped her let go of her stuff.
Great idea!
This "designer" and "expert dealer" show zero compassion when dealing with these people. Why even ask someone what their style is or what they like if you don't even listen to a thing they say. These people need some psychiatric help to find out WHY they hoard, not to just be bullied into selling all their possessions and into bad design.
I believe you just wrote the synopsis for this entire show.
Personally, the interior design for the 3 rooms could have been done better. The dark walls shrink the rooms and cause a dark and gloomy atmosphere.
It is a disaster
I'm really shocked that no mental health provider was helping Amy. That poor woman. I hope she's okay now. She totally was railroaded into getting rid of all her stuff with no process to work through her issue to heal and move forward.
I agree, also why would* her fiancé would set a date for a wedding when he had one foot out the door?? That blew my mind. I'd never tell anyone I was engaged (or get engaged in the first place) to a man who was laying down ultimatums and was fully ready to walk away from our entire relationship.
Hoarding is usually caused by trauma and mental illness. It's not that they just like pretty things. They have a serious problem interfering in their ability to function. They need real help.
Absolutely.
especially when the liquidator made an offer and her fiance said "do you want to get married or not?" ultimatums are not healthy
Yeah, the show glosses over the extreme anguish Amy would experience throughout the cleanout/ sell-off. Im shocked they didnt have a psychologist that specialises in hoarding or addiction to help her. I feel she was neglected. The money raised would have been better spent on therapy for permanent change.
They needed Stelios Kiosos!
The design of the first house is just horrible, dingy, dirty looking, claustrophobic and dark. I would have been gutted! How on earth can she describe herself as 'a designer'?
Hello 👋 how are you doing?
I think I would sue the designer on the first house. She turned that house into a depressing dungeon. I don't think any of those people have ever painted before either. 🤦🏼♀️
Yep, it looks like they ran out of paint before they got enough coats on.
This is the most horrible interior decorator/designer! Bullying paying clients into agreeing to what SHE wants in their homes! And then her tastes are SO terrible, and its all the same ideas/concepts! DARK! and finished off untidely! But SHE thinks she's brilliant!
Couldn't agree more. She's rather a destroyer than a designer. She would have been better off working as a tax inspector maybe.
The painted shoes were really stupid!
@@rebeccagable9629 incredibly stupid indeed! Hardly ever seen something so tacky.
I agree, it's awful.
I would have been in tears….horrible, isn’t strong enough!
Honestly they should have taken the 2k and put it all towards the wedding. If I had that design in my home I'd probably go back to hoarding
Haha yeah hoarding and piling up things to hide the ugly interieur mishap
The money should have gone into therapy
I was so angry with the designer on the first house. She's a vegetarian!!! I would literally be sick if someone put a cow skin on my floor, house still looked cluttered but with stuff that didn't reflect the personalities of the young couple! How did that help? And the painted shoes looked beyond awful.
I agree about the Cow rug. That was completely insensitive and shows how little research they did about this couple. I hope she took it out of there and apologized.
Was not a good resume for this ‘designer’. Horrid.
Not everyone is vegetarian due to animal welfare reasons, some people just don’t want to eat meat.
I have a friend who is a designer, he ASKS his clients what they want and has them approve everything BEFORE doing it
The designer needs to learn, she's Not decorating HER house
In the first one, the "designer" forced them. She didn't listen to anything they said they didn't like. Someone (a hoarder) dealing with depression shouldn't have to live in gray rooms. The rooms all look half the size as they did in white paint. It all looked very community college interior designer class project at the reveal. The painted shoes and rug at the end were insulting. Where is the first couple 10 years later? Is she living alone in her hoard with 12 cats?
I saw that, too. No good idea to make a goth cave out of the house especially with such small rooms and low ceilings.... if she's having depressions causing the hoarding disorder this will make matters just worst!
When she said soft pink both fiancé and designer said no at the same time 🙄
By " helping" the hoarder, the cumpulsive designlady satiesfied ber needs...😊😊
That first house was awful.
@@oulibemusic1257 Exactly adding colours she likes and her style 🙄 I said this before there was a Barbie on the floor I mean you get the idea what the hoarder would like.
I only made it half way through the first "make-over" and I am disgusted with the arrogance of the sales guy, as well as the "interior designer" and even Amy's fiance. They all barked at her without an ounce of understanding for what she's going through. They all acted as if hoarding or shopping addiction is something you can just snap out of. Amy was so kind and graceful... unbelievably so. How would they feel if someone took all of their stuff, told them that it's not okay to have that much and then to make them stand and watch strangers going through their stuff and taking it away for peanuts of money. Poor Amy. I wish she becomes able and willing to reduce acquiring and holding on to stuff and continues to live happy and healthy. 💖
Very well said
It’s all for ratings at D & E level.
The design is just wrong , you don't put swanky new york gentleman's club into cottage!!!! Is she really designer , I find this is error...She should go with different theme , something close to cottage ...not dark dingy small celling, claustrophobic, uneven walls , that dinning furniture is just insult to this cottage...
I personally hate it , is not execute to standard...
It is a disaster. U hope he got ile to at least go and buy 10 kilos of white paint before she bought clothing and shoes again...unless she could wear the ones on the fireplace🤣
Marrying a hoarder while you can't cope with the situation caused by the hoarding is like literally digging your own grave.
Not to mention that raising kids with such a person is abusive.
@@christinebutler7630 agree with you 💯
Yeah
I feel for the patient boyfriend
Many dont stay around to give it a go 💯
Best Wishes them.
She's lucky she's pretty lol. I wonder where they are now.
@@feliciaschoenfeld5177 I will Thankyou
This young woman needs INTENSE THERAPY to even have a chance at saving her marriage before she's even walked down that aisle.
the heck?!!!! where on earth did you get that designer?!! the house looks ugly!! too dark, the decor choices looks cheap!!
I haven't even seen what this awful designer has done to the 2nd place and I am already heartbroken that the woman is giving up her bespoke ring that her husband designed. Why should she give up valuable items she likes in exchange for cheap junk and bad colors selected by someone who doesn't even treat the homeowners like clients?
Exactly! Well said!
This! The designer is shockingly bad and so incapable of incorporating the being a of these people.
It's just unbelievable. The show was supposed to be about getting rid of the hoarded items, not people's valuables. Horrible, just horrible.
Worst designer I've seen, she didn't even consider what the couple liked or disliked.
Why get rid of the woman's books and bookshelves and then paper the walls in bookshelf wallpaper???
In 30+ years of watching home makeover shows that first house has always stood out to me as the most horrific re-do, I felt so bad for the couple who were clearly trying to be polite about the disaster the designer made of their home. The house could have been done up so simple and fresh but instead looked like a poorly-executed Hallowe'en horror house. I always wondered how fast the couple repainted everything and ripped out those ghastly shoes on the mantle...
YES. What interior designer thinks painting old shoes is a statement!!!!! Mental statement???
@@syrenadurager 🤣🤣 right?
The designer completely misread the young man or just ignored him. He even tried to tell her and she just brushed over it. And the painted shoes LOL
@@Antoninavinstonova the shoes would have broke me 🤣
I was thinking the exact same thing. I work in design, and IMHO - This looked cheap and cluttered. I would be crying, too. NOT tears of joy!
The first house design was truly awful, the designer really didn’t listen to the brief and did what she wanted, it was a hotch potch of colour and design and everything fought everything else; I would have been absolutely miserable in that home. The second one was marginally better but again looked as though the designer had picked up random items from the curb side and painted them with whatever colour she had on hand. The feature (half) wall was too busy and the print was blurry, not relaxing at all. I feel this home owner will be less enthusiastic as time goes on and I think some of the items will find themselves back on the curb. Design is very personal but when you design for someone else you have to leave personal preferences behind and create something they would be happy living in, I don’t think she achieved that.
Everyone's comments are spot on... listen to your clients and what they want or need not what you want/like. The design should make them happy and serene, not on edge and regretful. Each client should have therapy to deal with why they hoard.
I think the designer needs a new career path
Tax collector would be more suitable
No kidding. Yech.
Yall. It was 12 years ago. And it's a different vernacular of house. And British tastes are very different to American tastes. It's not my taste either, but that wasn't alot of money when the British pound was stronger long before Brexit.
@@celestewatson4874 I'm not American; I'm British-Australian, and that was bad taste even 12 years ago.
Horrible
These people should be able to pick their own colors of everything just keep them in budget
Especially considering that they’re actually paying for it
Being a hoarder is a mental health problem. Decluttering is a good way but probably the woman needs to seek a therapist first. I’m pretty sure sooner or later she’ll be doing the same thing.
I find the first redecorating just awful. And what's with a bunch of painted shoes on the mantel? Tacky
Exactly!!
I do not like the designers aesthetic, at all. It’s sad that these people give up everything and get what they get from her.
Never never marry a hoarder unless they get counseling first to help them deal with what's making them hoard in the first place. They will just start all over again. Don't do it You are going to end up miserable. She seems very sweet and she's very beautiful but it's not worth it.
I am wondering where they are now; it seems that was about 12 years ago! Beauty will fade but hoarders will hoard their entire life if they don't get stopped. She needs a therapy and her credit cards should be blocked. What if they want kids? Will there be enough money for a family left?
Wow, the place went from hoarded to dark and dank looking.....very depressing colours.......poor couple
Yes,it was dark except in the one room that needs to be dark…the bedroom! What’s up with that? I would need a different interior designer. Do not like dark colours in anything but the bedroom. Even there I don’t like a dark colour but I do need it dark. She also seems to make a lot of business going on which I don’t like. Designers need to take into consideration what the home owners tastes are.
Horrible
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I feel sorry for the first woman. First for being pressured to sell most of her clothes and even can’t keep her hair styler. And for what, dungeon rooms and non-vegan cow skin 😂
😂😂😂😂😂
Are you a kiwi?
probably the worst design for a house i've seen..space was so small and she made it worse..
I think the first designer is designing a home for herself, not the client! This girl was bullied from all sides into getting rid of possessions, disgraceful !
I've watched a lot of hoarder shows and the way they dealt with Amy was just awful!
ikr they didn't teach her how to change her habits
@@Deb.-. I agree. She had barbies and hello kitty.🤔
I agree and I’m a minimalist. This is a process you just can’t rip everything away from her.
This has got to be one of the judgement programs I have ever watched in my life. People end up hoarding for a reason. 9 out of 10 times it to do with trauma, hoarding is a coping mechanism to it. This isn't dealing with that trauma 😕
Exactly!
Yes! It was dismissive to suggest that a pretty room could curb a serious mental health condition.
People hoard because they are unhappy, perhaps she doesn’t want to get married after all.
@@Laura55sere very true but I also think it's much more deeper then just unhappiness. It not just one thing it a combination of all different things. Thing that even hoarders might not even realise.
I agree. This program doesn't solve anything. And home design is awful.
Giving someone a great interior is NO replacement for mental health care!! As someone who spent several years studying counseling, I can’t believe this young woman wasn’t offered any mental health support 😢
Not to mention that was far from a great interior!
I don’t think you should be getting married. She clearly has big problems which haven’t been addressed yet, not the best way to start a marriage 😢
I can't appreciate this designer's taste. It's rather garish.
The low ceilings in that first house are making me feel claustrophobic.
Me too and I'm a dwarf 😂
Yes...and gray/white/black is so depressing. I am only 5'2" and I would not like dark walls and ceilings, but my walls are peach and my kitchen is aqua...so what do I know? (I know I love my happy, colorful home....and that is enough for me.)
Same 😬 I don't know how that's even legal.
The interior design was absolutely horrible.
High design??? Lmao is that designer qualified??? Looks worse after 🤣🤣
I am in agreement with you. I'm not impressed. 😁😁
The painted shoes, horrible
Amen!
When I married my husband, he was a collector. I was unaware of this but he had things stored at all of his friend homes and barns. When we moved to the country to a home with a ranch house and a pole barn he drove to all of his friends homes and retrieved his belongings. I was in shock because i had no idea of how much stuff he had. He had hid all of this from me. It only got worse. Over rhe next 20 years he continued to collect and often hid the items from me. He did not get better, he got worse....think twice about marrying this person....
Not a collector, a hoarder. I'm so sorry that this happened to you and it's not fair to hide such behaviour from someone you're going to live with.
Ugh! WORST WALL COLOURS EVER!!
Agree, dark gray, dark blur, lilac geeeee, not coordinated
Waaay too dark!
@@Ms-Jones Shows all the flaws of the wall
Dark colours with a low ceiling is a weird choice. It only makes the room feel smaller. 🤨
And IF she sais I dont like lilac Pls listen!!
Wow. What a horrible thing to do to a sweet English cottage from the 18th century!
I'm 5 feet nothing. Even I would feel cramped with ceilings that low
Atrocious makeover!
I wouldn't want the decorator to makeover my outdoor toilet
Why would you want a New York glam style in an English cottage.
Seeing all those women buying the clothes, I'm thinking they're helping one lady cleans her house, but turn 10 others into hoarders with bargain clothes .
How much did that makeover cost??? That's more shocking than the hoarding.
I remember as a kid, I'd ask my mum to get me something and she always answer with "where are we going to put it?" Unlike me, she's a neat freak, but now, I can see her point!
Stopped watching after the first couple. The flat could have been charming but it looks gaudy and chaotic
I really do want to know where they are 10 years later.
This is HORRIBLE! I feel so bad for the first woman. She didn’t have a choice in anything. IMO she will probably fill the house up again
they should have used the money for their wedding, not a re-do... and I don't really believe these people are real hoarders, because none of the stuff is dirty ... it all looks almost new, no dust or dirt..... check out "Hoarders" , now that is real hoard.
That cow skin rug is going to be the first thing to go 🤣
This show really isn't about hoarding, it's about a home makeover, and not a great one. They didn't even touch on the fact that she has a serious issue to overcome, something that does need therapy, and that simply tossing things out isn't enough. Without help, she'll keep doing this, and they'll never be free of the hoard.
Therapy before making any life decisions
Amy was a different and refreshing hoarder. All her stuff was nice and high dollar. No garbage and gross floors and appliances.
what i really don't like is, when the designer forces designs on people and colors, they do not enjoy. Imagine living in a home looking at colors and schemes that you do not enjoy. Maybe it is interesting to look at at first, because it is new, but if someone tells you, they like harmony in colors, cause harmony is something that is the thriving force behind their issue...maybe do not force "clushing colors" on them and walk over their wishes like the abusive husband did. It is the same thing: she is not heard. I hate that moment at 1:33:39
Maybe the guy got to the paint shop and bought 10 kilos of white until it was too late? 😁
Did anyone even consider consulting a mental health professional or getting one for this poor woman before attempting to "cure" this poor woman of a serious addictive tendency,
I am appalled that Amy was bullied and belittled, by her partner who should be her support, and blamed and made the fool without any support. She needs a mental health supporter with her right through the process. Even the designer chose colours that are masculine, before looking at the dominant colours in the clothing hoard, none of which she was offered. This is a case of the sensational being prioritised over the individual health and wellbeing of the hoarder, in order to make "good" (read exploitative) television.
why would you decorate a hoarder home with wallpaper that is a mess!!! get a new decorator asap
I'd want to move from that low ceiling place. Terrible design .I do not like the designers taste.
"Guys, we need MORE money for the New York strip club makeover, and if we don't get it Amy is going to hoard pink spaghetti-strap tops again!"
I'm sorry but Abbys design skills make it look cheep n Tacky. I think 🤔 it's better to keep some of the clients quality pieces to incorporate into their space
He'll be able to tattoo his divorce date on his other arm.
Yup!
In the first house, He got his own room but she didn't. That was so unfair. She gave up all of that stuff!
In my opinion they could have made that extra room into a closet for her. That would make much more practical sense. Then tell her, if she buys something new then something old must go. Because telling her she can never buy anything again won't work.
She put fake shelf wallpaper up instead of an actual bookshelf? And then puts a stupid looking single shelf below it for “much needed storage”? How about a real bookshelf?
The first woman scared me a little in that when she looked at her clothes, her eyes glazed over & she zoned everyone out.
I do hope she & her guy have been married happily till now.
The ceiling is so low I would feel claustrophobic
Hello 👋how’re you doing?
👍
The fiance is doing this for himself . He has no comprehension of her problems. Note the comment when he saw the office, "and only my stuff can come in here."
It has to be the Hoarder's decision to get rid of the things. As a reformed hoarder, every piece has a story, an emotional attachment.
Exactly! I'm also a recovering hoarder BTW.
She must understand that the money is going out with her habit,
their savings must soon be empty.
Hoarders are some of the most selfish, disgusting people on the planet. Right up there with 350lb gluttonous “body positivity” freaks who demand respect. Totally self-centered and narcissistic.😊
What a shame they didn't help her more, the designer was a bit of a bully and was also part of the grey brigade and decided to turn their house into some kind of grey limbo, not helpful! She needs a new career path.
So did they get married ? Don't care for the design, the painted shoes were so tacky, not impressed by anything other than the fact they kept the downstairs fireplace!
First time watcher but that was painful to watch that poor girl Abby go through that on her own. Being pushed marriage or clothes constantly.
As long as the first young couple likes the outcome of the rooms I say fine but grey is not a color I’d want to live with every day.
The young lady was hesitant about the grey but went along with it b/c that is what the designer suggested. Not a good choice in such a small space w/ low ceilings.
I love white and grey!
Well... this was ahead of it's time as ALL the apts with "updated" design I've rented in the last few years have been...grey.
@@sapphirexwind Well it is supposedly out of style now, but my husband who is an interior home painter still gets requests for depressing gray. I would be suicidal if I had to live in such a place. Gross!
To be fair, this was "designed" 10 years ago. Still don't like her design styles, but I appreciate that she's trying to transform the home.
The designer is awful and there so cold toward the hoarder/collectors if I were the first girl i wouldn’t of married that bloke of hers not supporting at all
Where does she get the money for the shopping from ?
I love how the excess is sold off .
so much better than dump trucking $$$items and perfectly usable things.
a great and helpful improvement
Gosh the color scheme the decorator has chosen sound abysmal and depressing. All that gray, black, and darkness....how horrid. Yes it will look like a bunker or jail. It is obvious that they like light and colorful, cheerful colors to bring the mood up, not drowning in the sewer. The light is sparkling and pretty...I'm with Amy on that. I would immediately have that house repainted if that was forced on me! Yuk!
Not a good design. I feel sorry for the owners.😒
I absolutely hate the dark interior colors that seem to be fashionable. just depressing.
These ppl need light!!
This is not how you fix hoarding problems .. there is always a root of problem where it comes from this girl needs therapy or hypnotherapy .. it’s works like an addiction .. tell you now this girl probably filled up her home again within 6 months after program started..
I think the new design is tacky 😢
Did I hear right? She lives in a 7 bedroom house. Alone. And is worried about money. Really!????
It’s a 3 bed house and she lives with her fiancé - first story. The second one did say 7 bedrooms the lady living alone. Wow I’d like to have the money they spent on their hoards, I sure wouldn’t use it to hoard.
39 pairs of shoes ? So for my family of 5 that would have been 195 pairs ??? People are crazy . I own 4 pairs ...one pair of sneakers , a pair of boots , a pair of sandals and a pair of shoes ...and I'm a woman and I' am not poor .
I am a teacher, I own
1&2 Two pairs of sneakers
3 a pair of winter boots
4 Hiking boots
5 A pair of ballet flats
6 a pair of carpet slippers...
I am coming along really well with this shoes... I would only buy one pair of evening/event shoes if I would get an invitation to a wedding or something like that.
Less truly is more.
I love shoes . High heel shoes . I have over 200 pairs. I run I have 9 pairs of running shoes and 3 pairs of trainers to wear if walking or going on holiday at the airport
The transformations were horrid.
Even though this was made a long time ago and just watching it now . I feel so sorry for her . In one day the poor girl had to sell all that she had own . And there was never no one before hand asking how she felt or a professional along the journey with her to make sure she wasn't feeling some sort of way towards this. It must of cost so much depression and anxiety on this part . I understand they needed money for their wedding . Her fiance wasn't so supportive ... he seemed very blunt and naraassistic had all the say in what happened . You can tell he was by when he was asking 'do you want to get married or not '. And didn't seem to want any of her stuff or opinions on anything to do with the house... and he need his own " man cave" ?. This was all so wrong . They also made the house interior look horrendous . All dark and dusty . You have a house like that needs light colours .
I sincerely hope she did not marry him- he’s very unsupportive. The way they handled giving her stuff away is giving me anxiety.
Did you not see how he was forced to live amongst all of that clothes hoarding?
I feel so badly for her. Hopefully she got a divorce or didn’t get married.
Why was Amy even AT the sale!? This increased her trauma enormously and unnecessarily.
Fashion will not solve hoarding. Go back to the trigger. What caused this behavior?
I was wondering the same thing
They put the girl under a lot of pressure...
95% of her clothes 😳 sell it all for 3 grand, it cost a lot more than that to buy. You will like lilac 🤦♀️these people just made me angry. Absolutely shocking treating her like that. I would of walked out and left him behind too. Yes she has a problem, not the way to help her 😡
The most awful house make over ever. What a depressing house
That blonde hair lady should STOP tell the customer what SHE like and give them what THEY like. Sylvia needs to keep her expensive furniture and jewelry, WHY are they having her sell her furniture and Jewelry. TERRIBLE
This designer is only interested in what she wants not want the people who have to live with her design. If you can’t think about your clients wants then stick to changing only your own house.
Redoing their house will not stop her from her compulsive shopping. They should educate these people on minimalism and capsule wardrobes and the danger of overconsumption on our environment. They should get them some therapy to learn other coping skills and some hobbies to pursue in exchange for shopping. I mean, this really isn’t going to do anything but throw a band aid on the problem, I wish Amy all the best.
Never,never, never marry a hoarder. Live with them, fine. Never lock disfunction into your life. Amy needs a greater sense of purpose.
That’s just so scary 😟 mental health issues are the most scariest for me 😢
amy doesn't realize her relationship is in jeopardy
So she is expected to get rid of stuff without therapy to address whatever issues have led to hoarding. I just dont get it forcing her to get rid of stuff wouldn't be effective in my opinion 🤷
This is terrible to me. Since this was in 2012 are they divorced yet?
The second woman should have kept her mouse furniture. Maybe, help clear out without the interior designer.