@@amy_ambrosio omg same I have two older brothers but no matter how many times my parents try to disobey them they never seem to care. Me being the youngest I try to be the smart, kind, respectful, comedic child in the family cause that's the only way I managed to get through all the fights/arguments in my family. I'm 24 now with a Masters degree and with all that chaos that I experienced from a young age I managed to get through it on my own without having to interfere & now I'm at a successful point in my career.
It seems like it from the outside but the mom did say she did cause trouble due to the stress from the commotion that her sisters are creating so it’s definitely affecting her behavior as well
The mother never thanked the older sister for her sacrifices. She didn't show remorse or sadness to the older daughter when she was telling the hosts how hurt she was, how she didnt think her family cared if she died. She didn't even seemed shocked. Or how she favored the second child and was actually the cause of all the problems between the siblings.
I'm shocked by how they tried to blame it all on stuff like drinking alcohol. Isn't it obvious that when you ve been working since 20 your ass off, payin the bills , givin 10k $ to your mom and havin no life for 7 damn years that you will need something to relieve you? The second sister is totally the one making the problems and indeed it's the mothers fault. She favoured the younger sister and made her feel like no matter how wrong she was, that she could get away with it. It's plainly shockin how the second sister was tryna fake her crying when they asked her and even proceeded to say her older sis was hating her. The mother is at total fault and the oldest sister should have left them all way before. It's not selfish in the end. When people around you make you suffer for no reason, it's better to be away of them.
Oldest really throw her pride to apologize yet the second eldest asked her to apologize for other specific thing is pretty much explain the difference between these two
I thought so as well. After hearing all her older sister sacrificed for the family, she dares say she wants another apology... Now I see why they fight. No one is fighting for the oldest sister
I think the older one should've asked for an apology too instead of being salty about it later. Fix everything there and then. I don't think asking for an apology when you feel wronged is a bad thing. Not asking for an apology and being salty later is.
@@nandini8814 Except for the older one wasn't in the wrong. But still apologised to make peace, and then the younger somehow feels entitled to it. Which is a whole new level of stuck up like.....
i feel sorry for the eldest .. she made a lot of sacrifices yet had to take blame for something thts not quite her fault... but parents should seriously stop comparing their children with each other or someone else's children i mean how would they feel if their child start to compare them with their friend's parents or aunt/uncle
@@saferarmd3098 aww～ sorry to hear that >< nt sure wht to say bt i hope something good will happened to you and your mom will slowly open her heart to allow you to follow your dreams :)
@@harutowatanabeisbae4993 aww～ sorry to hear that >< nt sure wht to say bt i hope something good will happened to you and your dad will slowly open his heart to allow you to follow your dreams >< goodluck and stay strong :)
*Mum: picks favourites, compares, says mean things to her eldest child* Daughters: fighting and arguing *Mum: I don’t know why they’re like this, is this my life?*
"I'll cut down on drinking" Hearing this broke my heart because even then, the older sister is the only one who has to amend her habbits so that the family can live in supposed peace. Did anyone even bother to think as to why she was drinking in the first place? The poor girl clearly had no one to turn to with her sorrows, so she ended up suppressing her feelings with liquor for all those years. The mother and the middle daughter really have the audacity to think that she's the ONLY root to these issues. I couldn't help but cry with the older sister.
I don't normally comment on these videos even tho I watch literally all of them. However, I cannot believe how selfish the second daughter is. The eldest daughter is no saint, but she's clearly acting the way she is because of the stress she has been through for years. She's lacking love from her own mother, she had to quit school, work every day, which equals not having time to see friends or family, and while all of this was happening, she was able to witness what a great time her sister and everyone else around her age had. I wish she would work on her actions but that her family would be more understanding. Cutting down on alcohol is all she has to do.
I'm sure that the eldest can't do no right in front of the mother because the mother is already biased against her just because the eldest reminds her of her late husband. I snickered when the mother said that her second daughter is sweet like herself🙄, meaning she's assuming that the eldest is always the one instigating the fights.
@@peko7446 I know, right? Urgh, I got so mad too. And I totally agree. The mom wouldn't even notice it if the oldest one was trying to improve herself. The mom would just still only see flaws. I get so mad about this. I'm a big sister as well.
When they were talking and stuff, you can really tell that the younger sister didn’t seem to have an open mind or heart to try to grasp and understand on why the older sister did the things she did. I’m not saying that all of the things she did should be excused but by how she had to do so many things for herself and for her family to continue living, it’s like they forgot that she’s human herself. Drinking is something that she really needs to work on aside from reconnecting with her sister and her mother but she isn’t the only one who has to put in work to make it all work out. The mother and sister needs to apologize for all the things they’ve said or done, no matter how little it may have seen to them, it made a big impact on her mental state. How do you expect things to work out when you’re only putting in about 25% of work while she’s putting in 75% of work?
The 2nd sister is a brat. & the mom is aiding her in being more of a brat. Can see there's favoritism there when she said the 2nd is like her (so) she's sweet. 🙄 Well lady.., maybe your daughters wouldn't fight so much if u weren't so biased to one & picking sides. I know i hate it when my mom is always taking sides with my younger brother.. 🙄
While we never had physical fights, my second sister and I are pretty much like those 2. My parents didn't have the money for my college, so I worked full time and went to school full time. 4 years later, my parents found out how to get student loans and various scholarships. It would piss me off to no end to watch her skip classes to go to the beach, etc., knowing how much each of those classes cost. We have a younger sister too. Whenever middle sister didn't get her way, she would make something up or blow something all out of proportion and blame it on us. She is STILL like that today, and both her daughters are too!!! After watching her treat my mom like crap after all that was done for her, I have completely written her out of my life. Life is too short to deal with self-centered jackasses.
True, but she still needs to stop turning to alcohol when things get rough... for her own sake. Sounds like she's dependent on it (needs it to fall asleep she said and also said she thinks about drinking all the time.)
@@bpxl53yewz29 If not alcohol, then, what? Suggestions are helpful when there is an alternative solution. Not just pointing out what's wrong. There is a reason for her drinking, she probably is very lonely and sad from the way she is treated by her mom and sis. Instead of alcohol, I hope she can depend on a kinder, better version of her mom and sis, who can be more understanding and considerate of why she didn't get the top grades, give her the space when she's in a bad mood, and especially not compare her to the sis. Love is the answer, in my opinion, instead of just saying she should simply drink less. She is in pain. Kinda difficult to tell someone to just stop being in pain. If she is loved more, she will want to work harder for the family and naturally want to drink less. There are plenty of people who are breadwinners but are not addicted to alcohol, but have a good support system around them. That is the key of the issue. No hate, just commenting, bye!
@@sidesideful No one is saying she's not in pain. You may not know the effects of alcoholism and addiction. It's up to her to figure out what she'd like to do when she's "lonely, sad". I don't know her and I'm not a psychologist.
I love how the entire time, the mother and the second daughter blamed the oldest for the constant fighting, yet refused to take responsibility for their own actions which led up to all of it. The oldest made so many sacrifices for her sister and family, and I'm guessing the only one who understands that is the youngest daughter. Also, the second daughter truly blows me away with how entitled and spoiled she is. She did the things that her sister couldn't so, partied and had fun at college while her sister couldn't go to college and had to work. She needs to learn how to be grateful. Also, I wanted to slap her when the oldest gathered the courage to apologize in front of national TV, and her sister goes "well I really want an apology for something else" like how much worse can this girl get. The mother and the second daughter both owe the oldest daughter an apology. She drinks every night because she hated the way her life is. She gets no support from her family other than the youngest sister, and every time a fight occurs, the mother and second daughter tell her they wish she'd disappear. Alcohol is the only thing for her right now that can make her forget all of that. They're lucky she chose alcohol and didn't turn to drugs!!! This is the consequence of constantly comparing your children to one another. They grow up feeling resent for the other sibling, and as time goes on, they end up cutting communication with one another. You can't expect your kids to get along if you constantly compared, favored one, and belittled one when they were growing up. The oldest daughter isn't a saint, and I'm not excusing her behavior, especially the alcohol, but there are too many reasons for why she acts like that that aren't being addressed. Edit: sorry for the rant lmao, I usually don't comment on these, but i could relate to the oldest and couldn't help but say something
Pretty much agree, was absolutely frustrating to watch and how it ended because nothing got addressed. The mom and 2nd daughter blamed everything on her and didn't understand how much she sacrificed because she cared for them. The only thing is Korea has a huge drinking culture. There's way more alcohol addictions compared to drugs. I'm sure it happens but drug laws there are extremely strict and harder to attain compared to the U.S where I feel like anyone can just do drugs lol and since they dont really have a drug culture they turn to drinking and it leads to substance abuse. So I feel like moms concern would've been the equivalent to how we are about drug users. Only if her drinking got worse but I dont think she even had an addiction she just used it to cope which is still unhealthy but wow that went over their heads.
Okay but don't act like the middle child is partying away and enjoying college life when she got scholarship for the whole 4 years. You have to do really well for that and to do well, you have to study your ass of. It's korea we're talking about here.
@@yuurinayase8377 if u compare both of the sisters then it was more injustice towards the older becuz yes its hard to gain scholarship for 4 years especially in Korea but working in the age ur supposed to study and fulfill ur dream let go of ur dream and the money ur earning goes to ur mother so she can use it to help ur other siblings fulfill their dreams is more hurtful yk and the older sister was in a police department she could have gotten such an amazing job and life but she has to go through stuff I'm not saying the middle child is a bitch and she didn't have problems she did have her own problems ofc but she was able to study in peace cuz of her older sister's sacrifices and if the youngest wouldn't have asked for another apology from her older sis then maybe I'd say that the older is being irrational but a big N O. Thank u for coming to my ted talk.
The second sister feels so entitled the way she asked for specific apologies even till the end she never understood. Also bringing the attention back to herself when her sister was crying yet the older sister still tried to be the better person when it must have been difficult for her. The cast should have focused more on the second daughter and the mother for being the problems like the mom evaded the favouritism point by directing it to her drinking problems HONESTLY I’m so sad for the old sis and angry at the rest except the youngest
Yeah it was really sad. The eldest is coping with all the sacrifices she’s made for the family, and the mother blames her for everything. When she was comparing the daughters (ie ‘my second daughter takes after me’) it’s such an ignorant thing to say. Favoring one child over the other will undoubtedly create tension between the kids. The favored one will be the golden child, and the others will bear the brunt of the abuse. They should’ve held the mother and second daughter as responsible. The eldest is a better woman than either of them could ever be. She freely apologized and recognized her faults.
Guys , but still the second is not that all old to understand and when the older keep cursing at her, it would be difficult to stay nice. Also because her mom favourite her , her behaviour can’t be like normal caring child, which isn’t her fault. Also let’s try to be understanding of both sisters rather than picking side and criticizing one.
safera rmd the second sister isn’t that young, she’s like a year or two younger than the eldest but she’s acting very immature, she should have gotten a job and helped alongside her sister so that even the sister could have studied but instead she criticised the eldest constantly telling her to have “worked harder for the scholarship” and specifically asking for certain apologies for things that have been most probably said in between fights which is pretty normal, like even I and my sister fight but we don’t remember each and every thing we’ve said to each other since that’s VERY childish. The older daughter had actual concerns that needed to be addressed more in the show but they never did. And by trying to be understanding of what I think is spoilt behaviour is wrong as then it never gets fixed
safera rmd the mom is to be blamed but so is the daughter, she’s not small anymore it’s time she learned how to act like an adult, hopefully she’ll understood and realised after the show how much the older sister loves her family and her sisters which might bring about a change in the second sister
@@saferarmd3098 the second sister is literally 26. That's not a child... at all. She's old enough to have comprehension skills beyond that of a child. I even forgot for a second that she was an adult because of the way she behaved. I don't think you're wrong about seeing both sides, but the commenters are trying to show sympathy and understanding to the eldest. Her family obviously denied her that, and there is nothing wrong with pointing out their shortcomings and abuses.
The eldest daughter wasn't really resenting her family, she was just frustated with her life & the sacrifices that aren't validate & appreciated. If she really resented her family, she would've walk away long ago and never help her family at all.
The mom and middle sister are real pieces of work. How the sister smiled when the eldest sister said her younger sis went to college and had fun made me really mad. And she made it seem like the eldest sis could continue going to school if she got scholarships. And she smiled when the eldest said she got beaten up by the mom when she lost the money. I really hope she gets what's coming to her. The mom is so stupid to blame the eldest for following the father who left them with the debt. Blame the father, not your daughter. Geez, how can you be such a terrible mom?
I understand her but don't respect her. The oldest probably looks a lot like the father and has similar mannerisms so it must be very irritating to the mom whenever she looks at her oldest daughter
@@BoSpankle nothing. Just because I can understand doesn't mean I am justifying her behavior. I am simply seeking to understand why she would do what she does.
16:26 that smile made me mad. Reminded me of how my sister would smirk when she heard of my suffering it really killed me to know my family would see me hurt bad and enjoy hearing how they inflicted pain on me. It's pure evil. And at 17:22 why wouldn't she feel bad for her sister instead she relishes her victory over her oldest sister. What an awful human being. Reminds me of both my younger sisters.
The eldest daughter made me cry. I hope she finds happiness and a reason to continue living. She’s still young at 27 and can accomplish a lot. I like how young-ja praised her for her hard work and made her feel appreciated
Eldest sister, step aside. I'm ready to pull some hair too😡 *Eldest sister:* became head of household at age 20, working to provide for family of four, most likely depressed and dependant on alchohol as a coping mechanism *Second sister:* you got kimchi on my shirt 😒😒😒😒😒 Edit: Thank you for all the likes and supportive comments! I wrote my comment in a joking manner, but in all honesty, I hope the eldest sister finds peace and love. You can see she's in so much pain having had to shoulder so much responsibility without the love of her family. She may have had to sacrifice a lot during the prime years of her youth, but she deserves to be happy and to be surrounded by people who love, respect, and care for her. I hope the mom and second sister will realize this and change their ways. The eldest sister said so herself: her family is all she has. I hope they put down their pride and stop seeing her as the problem and the only one who's at fault and begin to love one another. It's not too late to change.
What is needed is communication and something they can all relate on. By demeaning the younger sister doesn’t make it any better. Your logic is hella flawed and agree that you sound childish lmaooo.
The oldest had to drop her dream because the mother said she could only pay for one child. But the second daughter said she got a scholarship??? The oldest was the head of the family for 7 years paying for the fathers gambling for which she was not responsible for on top of that she gave her mother 10,000 to spent it on herself instead of spending on herself. I wonder if she even got a thanks from her mother. I feel very very sorry for the oldest.
Is sad to say but in Asian families the one with the best education always gets favourited which doesn’t make it right AT ALL and it happens to me, but it is getting to the point of it being childish. These things either are sorted when separated, therapy or with age, as sad as it is. Being favourited is no reason for any of that to happen. Yes she had to pay, drop out, gave money but it’s no reason to behave like this. Neither one of them are mature but it’s definitely not the others fault for being favourited, she didn’t ask for it or turn her mother against the first
It's sad how the oldest was obviously depressed and became alcohol dependent to sleep. They didn't care for the root cause but instantly judging her for it. Seeing her crying when hearing appreciate comment from one of the counselor, you can see that's all she wanted to hear from her family. Acceptance and validation for her effort. My heart goes out for her. Hope she ll be able to find peace.
I cried so hard because as the oldest and one of five kids I know the burden the oldest feels and also how favoritism spawns resentment and hatred of your own siblings. I related so hard with the oldest daughter and no one understands how hard it is to sacrifice for a family you don't feel appreciated by.
Saba Log also the oldest of five here! I have looked after and helped raised my siblings in an unstable household my entire life (I’m in my early 20s now) and I never hear a good word from my parents. As the oldest I take care of myself because I don’t want to burden my siblings. It’s not like I can talk to them about my troubles either because I don’t want them to see me when I’m weak. It’s hard. We shoulder so much on our own
@@bdaarmy9736 No, my reading skills are perfectly fine. Excellent, actually. The second one was doing good on her own and still would have, regardless of the older sister.
I think there's a sense of duty as the eldest child to wanting to help look after the family. Happens in Zimbabwe as well. It's funny because if mom needs looking after, I doubt the middle sister will step even though she is clearly mom's favourite
this is all the mother's fault, my jaw literally dropped when she directly said how her 2nd daughter is sweet and the oldest made her mad cause she resembles her father, like a mother saying that in front of her daughters is ridiculous, i wanna fight the 2nd daughter so bad cause how dare she think her sister "didn't try hard enough" for a scholarship, honey she was paying your bills even though she did get one pretty sure she still needed to drop out to feed you, the favoritism is so bluntly obvious here yet everyone seems to make the oldest the bad person. Also about her drinking problem, i went through exactly that when my family also relied to me as a breed winner, the pressure sucks that i had to just drink it off to forget for a while, and seeing how the oldest was the one paying the family's bill after the dad passed away i think that was what happened to her too, so i hope she also gets help for it.
At first I was rooting for the second daughter until you know she is full of herself because she goes to college..well girl..your sister didn't have that chance but worked her ass very hard to support you and the rest of family financially..shame on the mother for comparing her children when she was the one asking her eldest to drop out College and forget all her dreams..she drinks everyday until she faints because she hates her life.
Idk why they're not praising the oldest. I mean she's so admirable she sacrificed her college life even if she doesn't say it somewhere in her heart she did it so that her sister could study and she took the responsibility of earning money. I love you sis you're amazing
Typical asian parents patronizing the more intelligent one 😢 . I just hate how spoiled the second daugther is.. Ugghh.. When she said that she wants an Apology for something else I was like go on eldest daughter, I want you to pull her hair til she's bald. Im asian thats a bit on the brighter side and currently experiencing the love and support the 2nd daughter is getting, but I always hate when my mom starts criticizing others and starts comparing them to me. 😣
Sorry, I would have to disagree with the 2nd one being intelligent. She is the one who is immature and got an education because of her mum and her eldest sister. So, I think the eldest is more intelligent and responsible and hides her pain. It is sad. But I agree about the Asian parents, it's almost the same in India.
@@sundarihema25 i agree with you.. like the eldest got into police administration, that's super hard. You have to study and a lot , to have a good memory and to be intelligent in general whereas the second daughter failed to get into college the first time....
I am also asian and i also know the typical asian family probs. I also have to face more pressure from my family bcoz i am the only child and they wish me to walk on the path they show , do what they want me to do and even though i got good results my parents would still compare me to other more intelligent ones..😣
I know right. How could the eldest daughter even get these “awards” if she isn’t even going to college?! The eldest daughter even made Sacrifices for her own family, yet they aren’t appreciating her hard work. If the eldest daughter wasn’t in their life, the family would probably could only afford one meal a day.
그냥 첫째를 내가 꼭 안아주고싶다... 마음이 너무 아프다 자신의 어릴적 꿈, 청춘 이런 것들은 절대 다시 돌아오지 않는 건데 그걸 가족위해 포기한거잖아. 근데 가족들 특히 둘째는 그거에 대한 고마움을 몰라. 언니가 열심히 했으면 충분히 대학도 같이 다닐 수 있었다는 헛소리를 하잖아;; 자기 청춘 갖다바치면서, 하루 1~2시간밖에 못자고 일하면서 가족 생계 책임진건데 그걸 그렇게 가볍게 말해. 그렇게 잘할 자신 있었으면 자기가 돈 벌지 왜 학교 다녔대?ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 일단 가장 큰 원인은 엄마의 편애고 그로 인해서 생긴 언니에 대한 존중의 부재. 그게 이 모든 문제의 원인이라고 봄
It broke my heart when the eldest said "the family is all i have"😭 thanks for your hardwork so the rest family can live happily, i hope you can live happily too~ what a great sister and daughter😭
its the style. the older one has the cutesy style with bangs, circle lenses, heavier eyemakeup. that makes you look younger. the younger daughter has a more mature style
I really wish the older sister could read the comment section of this video so she knows that there are so many people who cares for her and understands her 😭😭
Exactly, she should have used her hard earned money and moved out. She must have sacrificed a ton just to make that money and it doesn't help that her sister and mother don't really appreciate her.
Yoo when she asked for an apology for the college thing i was hopping the older sister said no why because it's true "if she tried hard enough she would of made it in" (the same word's the 2nd sister said to the 1st one when asked about the scholarship)
I know right! I was even hoping that one of the host defended her that "You know that she don't even have time to study because she is working to support everyone in the family." Even if she did obtain the scholarship, she has to maintain her grades while working and only have 2 hours of sleeps? That is impossible. At least for me.
@@i.n4738 exactly, and the 2nd sister didnt even seemed happy with the old sister's apology. sacrificed a lot. The one would is hurting is the oldesr because she sacrificed a lot to save up $10,000 and she most likely spent none of it on herself. Also, I think she work 2 full time jobs just to help everyone.
I can’t believe the mom didn’t get more flack for making her kids like this,, especially the middle child. She’s been spoiled to the point where she feels entitled to everything. Just listening to the eldest has been stressed and sad. I hope she moves out soon and finds people who actually care about her.
Elder daughter: *gives a deep well thought out genuine apology* Middle sis: ApOlIgIzE fOR sOmTHibG thaT hAPpPend 8 yeARs agO .... Middle sis: sorry for bothering you after work Me: 🤡🤡🤡
Im also a oldest sister ,i have a younger sis and i drop out of my school too because i need to work and support my family.. I know how the eldest feel... I can see and feel how hurt the eldest sister by their mom who are fav the younger sister, and always blame her, its so stress to see your friend still school and having fun, when you need to working for you family and not one appreciate that.. because my mom also like that, so many thing i feel not fair, why i have to be treat like that when i do so much to support my family, but no one look and just take me as granted.. one time im sooo stress i even try to cut my hand...i even fight with my mom and run from home..and my mom also fav my sister,and the funny thing when i fight with my sister, my mom blame me back and said why i cannot treat my sis like lovely sister when its was her fault who make it me hate my sister.. Because i feel hurt so much i cannot became close with my sister, but in the end it was still my fault..
It is not ur fault. You are the one of the strongest persons I have ever see. Please believe in ur self. Once thing are settled please go after ur dreams. Remember ur precious.
I feel so bad for the oldest daughter, at such a young age she had to take her fathers place as the bread winner of the family. Throughout this whole thing i didn't feel the slightest sincere emotion coming from the mother, after all the oldest daughter said she went ahead and had the mindset to say i like my second daughter because shes sweet like me, im sorry wtf!! She had to sacrifice her whole life and work just so you can live a bit better and she gave you 10,000 for personal spendings what are you not grateful for?? Clearly she raised the girls by putting them against one another, constantly favouring the second daughter; this not only probably made the oldest daughter depressed and sick of her families shit but the second daughter seems a bit silly, i dont think she realises the amount of things her sister had to give up so she could live a better life. Im just really pissed off, and i dont think this episode really put the mom or the second daughter in a different mindset because even at the end the oldest put herself out there and apologised for everything and said i love you but nothing in back... i hope she can come to a point where shes financially stable enough to live on her own, at the moment this seems really toxic.
Try to be objective & I feel like Im on the oldest side.. she is wrong too in some aspects.. but I can see and feel many of her scars it must be hurt in her position.. Wish the best for her, and hope she'll be happier in the future To all the parents out there.. Please please don't do favoritism towards ur children.. Though u think one is better than another.. Or bullshit excuse like she/he takes after me.. Cause if u do it'll just make spaces between the family and leave scars to ur children
And parents, you may think they are too young to pick up on it but as they grow older (starting from about 8 yrs.) and learn to make their own standards for themselves, they'll start connecting each pieces and feel worthless and unloved. You may view your child as "little" but that little one has the same thinking capacity as you, albeit not as complex and messed up as adults.
Thats the root of the problem. She can't mad to her mom, so she express it to her younger sister. The problem comes from their mom. She should stop comparing her children. Even the youngest one agree that her mom favor the 2nd.
@Gray Kin i know tats hw u being brought up...but dun u think its ridiculous for parents to hv a favorism towards one particular among their children? everyone should receive equal amount of love 3 children, 1/3 amount of love each...isnt tat suppose to be like tat
Wow. I wish the 2nd daughter can just step down from her privileged high horse and see things from her older sister's perspective. "I'm sure Unnie can get a scholarship too if she studied harder." Irresponsible statements like these just show how selfish she is, and not seeing the sacrifice that her older sister made for the family. Even if the Unnie did get a scholarship, I'm sure she wouldn't have been able to take it up, since the family needed her to work and make ends meet then. Besides, sacrifice is one thing. Enduring that emotional hurt from unfair favouritism, and constantly being compared for years... Can you imagine what the older sister must have been going through. Yes, she should cut down on drinking for her own health. But I hate that her drinking was made to seem like it was the brunt of the problem. What about the mum who compares her kids and created the toxic environment that the older sister had to grow up in? What about the 2nd sister who can't see the hardships her unnie faces and still asks for "specific" apologies? In my opinion, this problem stems from far longer ago. And it requires so much work, understanding and making up to one another on all sides, to even make the situation a tad better. If the older sister is the main person making 90% of the effort, while the mum and 2nd sister are not fully held accountable, how would the situation improve at all??? The older sister is already stressed enough as it is. I wish the hosts did more to school the mum and 2nd sister, instead of just silently letting it pass.
The second daughter shows sooo much hypocrisy . When the oldest one started crying she did too... Just to get attention and play the role of a victim. Anyway,instead of be thankful for all the things her sis did for her, leaving college and working to pay her tuitions... She just complaint about everything. Obviously the older daughter is gonna feel bad and get that rude mood, she couldn't study and she had to mature at early age. She had to take care of her family after her dad passed away, but even so her mom and sis don't appreciate that. Her mom just blames on her attitude and favors the other one... It's obvious that the girl is depressed and she drinks to relief herself.
@@bdaarmy9736 Scholarship would mean better prospects for her future. There are people who have gone through worse. I don't see why doing that is wrong. If my younger sister was better at studies and the house was falling apart, ofcourse I'd give up my chances for hers because she's got a much better shot at it and I know it.
첫째가 견뎌야했을 무게가 막내로 태어난 저는 감히 상상도 안되네요,티비나와서 저렇게 밉다는말을 쉽게할정도면 첫째한테 얼마나 모질게 편애를 해댔을까, 첫째야 이제 너를 위해 살아, 너를 아껴주고 꾸며주고 너의 건강을 챙기고 좋은거 예쁜거 많이 보고 행복하게 살아, 가족위해 살지말구, 옷차림 외모만봐도 성격들이 딱 보이네요, 둘짼 예쁨만 받고자라 혼자 공주시네, 첫짼 딱봐도 책임감 강하게 강단있어보이고,첫째 멋있다
This is so similar to our situation. My mother adores the middle and youngest while I get the end of the stick. When I got awards and asked for a little reward, my mom didn't gave me anything and I was so hurt by that fact that I will never be favored by her. I was so hurt that I cried on my own birthday and my dad comforted me. See, the eldest doesn't always gets the rewards. Sometimes, they are the one who's pressure and expectations are put on. Even if we want to have fun, we would rather do something that would make our parents happy, even if those parents don't appreciate the hard work we have. The eldest always sacrifices everything but those in the family don't appreciate it. Only a few does.
나는 장학금받고 학교다녔는데 언니는 왜 못그랬냐라니.. 너무하네요. 언니도 본인만 챙겼음 충분히 학교다녔죠. 언니보다 이쁨받고 자랐으니 언니를 우습게 생각하고 있다가 대학떨어져서 언니한테 들은말을 괘씸하게 생각하고 사과를 꼭 받아야겠다하고... 언니가 그 꽃다운 나이에 학교포기하고 일터로 나가야했던 아픔을 입장바꿔 생각했다면 미안해하고 존중해줘야죠. 엄마가 애들사이를 나쁘게 만들었네요. 동생들이 언니를 우습게보지 않게 언니를 챙겨줬어야됐어요
1. 부모 사이가 안좋았던 것 같다 2. 엄마가 큰딸에게 미운 남편을 투사했다 3. 엄마가 큰딸을 남편 대하듯, 작은딸은 본인 의지하듯 4. 큰딸은 깊은 상처, 미운 동생, 낮은 자존감, 음주와 외로움, 그러면서도 책임감 5. 결론: 부모의 삶이 자녀에게 상속되었던 것 같다. 사과할 사람은 엄마
In Korea it's common for the kids to stay at home, especially girls, until they get married. However, if they absolutely can't get along with no solution, I agree, someone needs to move out, but I don't think the middle daughter would be able to take care of herself.
But living apart won't heal their deep scars that lie in the family Especially for the older sister she was carrying such a burden only to witness her mom favoring her younger sister It's very sad and living apart would stop the physical fights but she still wouldn't get the love and appreciation she deserves The real problem here is the mom. How can you be such a horrible mom and she even acts like she doesn't know why they fight, guuurl think your favoritism led to your daughter not feeling loved and drinking and spoiled the younger sister growing her into someone who doesn't understand those hardships both of the daughters are not really at fault here
@@aribanahonarukas1641 but after seeing this video, i don't think that the second daughter or their mom would change. their mom just hoping they would stop fighting to the point hoping for the eldest to be gone.
The oldest should take that huge step of courage and move out and live her life as she already lost precious years of her youth and let those two sink with the reality and learn to appreciate her and learn to make that money,if they are capable...Sounds harsh but sometimes it's the best choice,not everything is rainbows...
The oldest sister must have lots of depression, cuz she felt responsibilities for her family, and the desires to live like a normal student. While she doesn't have someone to lean on when she through a lot
I'm really proud of the eldest daughter, she's really cute yet strong inside. I'm sending my support and love for the siblings through this, especially the eldest. Fighting! 💜
The one to be blamed the most is definitely the mom here. What kind of sisters don‘t fight during their adolescence? I think every household there are fight between siblings, even just about a trivial stuff. But not all family has this problem. That means the mom spoiled the second daughter and pampered her too much that she‘s being too selfish and takes her sister‘s sacrifice for granted.
Being the older sibling is definitely so difficult especially when there's favouritism in the family. Always getting the blame, you have to do the chores because you are the older one even though chores should done equally, being a good example to your siblings when....I didn't sign up for this excuse me? Honestly I really hope younger siblings should at least put themselves in our shoes because it's so difficult -___- I'm not kidding y'all think it's so easy and we are their experimental kid
Ly._. Vyiee but is not always the oldest that has to shoulder most of the problems. I’m the middle child but I have to do so much for my family and sometimes it is overwhelming and stressful. And I always get told stuff because my personality is tough also so I get blamed most of the time for everything.
Ly._. Vyiee for me, my oldest is the favorite and when she does things worse than her she doesn’t get yelled at because she doesn’t have a “bad reputation “
Not always the case. In my family, the eldest is the favorite one and doesn't lift a finger, got to attend private school, get catered to by our mother while my other sibling and I went to public school, wore hand me downs and did all the chores in the house.
When the mother came in and was gathering up the tears after mentioning her husband's death I felt so sorry for her but then she blatantly agreed to liking one child than the other. Childhood is very important so parent should be careful of what they show or tell their kids. How can she say she doesn't like her first child cos she is like her father? Ummm when your marry someone and have children with them there is a possibility that they have certain traits of their other parent. The big sister has her shortcomings like disrespecting her mum, but she has always yielded and I think she deserves some accolades for taking on such responsibilities.
Why I am crying and smiling while watching this episode... Thank you for sharing different stories ❤ P.S. And I'm really trying to keep the peace with my bro and sis. I haven't idea what parents can feel at such moments.
This is all on the mother. I've come to realize that the parents are the primary cause to why some siblings have these conflicts. It's always the issue of favoritism. The same goes to my family. We're three children. I'm the oldest. I've always been fairly neutrally treated, but my mother severely favours the youngest over the 2nd child and has done so ever since we were small. This favoritism has grown into resentment with the middle child who literally detests the youngest one. It doesn't help that the youngest one fuel the resentment. Parents need to understand that words have a greater impact than they think. Adults remember things from their childhood, especially things like this. Fair treatment among children is super important if you don't want them to fight in the future.
i think it's a good thing that the eldest daughter moved out of the house because no one in that family ever appreciate her and what she did for that family. the second daughter is entitled too because she grew up with her mother glorifying her and now their mother is confused why they are fighting when she started the duel between them.
The oldest sister,you are amazing. I fully understand why she drink every day. She can change her habit if those around her understand,appreciate and show their love to her more.. She drink because of stress.. She is not the one to blame for all chaos that happen in their house. Her mom really need to reflect on herself and the middle sister should appreciate and thanks sister,not asking her to apologise. She sacrifice her dream and her life for the family
when the mom said her eldest is like their father it made me realise the mother probably resents the father a lot and takes it out on the oldest. shows favouritism etc. the eldest daughter has had to take on a lot and she doesn’t feel appreciated or loved and i feel sorry for her
Why no one asked the eldest daughter why she was drinking? They made her seem like that's the root of the problem when clearly it was just a coping mechanism for the older one. She's had it tough and yet her family couldn't even bother giving her thanks for all she's done. I understand where her negative feelings are coming from. It has been 2 years since this aired. I hope the whole family now has a better relationship.
When parents compare their children it just take few words for them to speak but the child who is being compared always gets hurts internally... My mom and especially dad always compares me to my sister that look how good she is at everything she does look how beautiful she is .... They compare us in each and every thing... It really hurts... I fell like if I'll be like her then there will be no ME...
I Don't know but My heart goes for the oldest..sure I understand the 2nd one but its frustrating how she and her mother can't really understand that the oldest is suffering deep inside.. her being compared because she's not that smart than the other, then her being forced to dropout from school and work, sleeping for only 1 to 2 hours... She also deserves recognition
I have the same issue but im the second child...Because their problem is big, trust me after this show they will fight again...I have the same issue..u cannot change them...u should leave or stay with boundaries
I really want to have the eldest’s Instagram so I can show her my support. Her mother and sister seem to think that she is to blame for their situation when in fact she sacrified her life for the well being of her family. They’re beyond ungrateful
Kawaiigrape ik but....maybe they want to say something rlly badly. I know it seems funny but they obviously aren’t saying everything on their mind. I get that feeling a lot when i fight with my mum, I bottle up more the 95% of the things I want to say so I don’t hurt her feelings or influence my younger brother (he is very young, I am too but old enough to influence him). Sorry hahahhaaha, yeah............
I absolutely hated it, when the oldest took courage and apologized on national tv but the middle sister just wanted to more apologies. If I would have been at her place, I would have started crying out of anger. But even then she held herself back and apologized. The worse was whwn their mother compared them and tried to make the younger sister look better. I would have been so mad and felt unloved at that situation. That is why when the mother told some sweet words to her, she completely broke into tears, it was so heartbreaking to see. I hope she would be happy in her life and achieve great heights.
The second sister is the problem- she grew up knowing that the eldest would be blamed, so she demands more and more from her. The eldest is hardworking and selfless, while the second needs to stop being so self centered and think about what the eldest went through. When the eldest was apologizing, the second demanded an apology for a different thing. I honestly think the second should be the one apologizing
You can tell that the mother doesn't like her eldest because she reminds her of her husband! Even the way she looked at her the entire time. She made her drop out of college to help pay the bills and yet the sister said that she would have had a scholarship if she worked hard! Who was paying your bills brat?
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The oldest daughter made so many sacrifices for this family and yet the 2nd daughter dares to say ''she didn't try that hard for scholarship''...
And the Youngest daughter is chilling way too much😂😂
Mătuşa Goa I hate the second daughter said that too how can her sister have time to study to get scholarships when she has to work
@@skullrazor Nah, I kinda like how chill she is. At least she's not an ungrateful biitch.
Ikr?! And they didnt really talk about it?! Wtf!
I was really shooked when she said that
Bro the youngest is living in a dramatic house but still has a good personality
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Actually, it’s easy. She probably gets away with everything since there is chaos going on.
@@amy_ambrosio omg same I have two older brothers but no matter how many times my parents try to disobey them they never seem to care. Me being the youngest I try to be the smart, kind, respectful, comedic child in the family cause that's the only way I managed to get through all the fights/arguments in my family. I'm 24 now with a Masters degree and with all that chaos that I experienced from a young age I managed to get through it on my own without having to interfere & now I'm at a successful point in my career.
It’s like a reality show for her lmaooo
It seems like it from the outside but the mom did say she did cause trouble due to the stress from the commotion that her sisters are creating so it’s definitely affecting her behavior as well
Lollll did the mom ever stop and think that the eldest couldnt have all those gold star accomplishments because she was busy paying bills???
The mother never thanked the older sister for her sacrifices. She didn't show remorse or sadness to the older daughter when she was telling the hosts how hurt she was, how she didnt think her family cared if she died. She didn't even seemed shocked. Or how she favored the second child and was actually the cause of all the problems between the siblings.
Its all mother fault....
I'm shocked by how they tried to blame it all on stuff like drinking alcohol. Isn't it obvious that when you ve been working since 20 your ass off, payin the bills , givin 10k $ to your mom and havin no life for 7 damn years that you will need something to relieve you?
The second sister is totally the one making the problems and indeed it's the mothers fault. She favoured the younger sister and made her feel like no matter how wrong she was, that she could get away with it. It's plainly shockin how the second sister was tryna fake her crying when they asked her and even proceeded to say her older sis was hating her.
The mother is at total fault and the oldest sister should have left them all way before. It's not selfish in the end. When people around you make you suffer for no reason, it's better to be away of them.
Jazmine Jewels or the kids in her class were very talented
Jazmine Jewels i thought so too
Oldest really throw her pride to apologize yet the second eldest asked her to apologize for other specific thing is pretty much explain the difference between these two
I thought so as well. After hearing all her older sister sacrificed for the family, she dares say she wants another apology... Now I see why they fight. No one is fighting for the oldest sister
I think the older one should've asked for an apology too instead of being salty about it later. Fix everything there and then. I don't think asking for an apology when you feel wronged is a bad thing. Not asking for an apology and being salty later is.
I think it was important for her to hearing that from the older. You know to have her heart in peace and move on about all of this.
what? BRUH she asked for an apology for all the things she's been hurt by. I don't think that's wrong.
@@nandini8814 Except for the older one wasn't in the wrong. But still apologised to make peace, and then the younger somehow feels entitled to it. Which is a whole new level of stuck up like.....
i feel sorry for the eldest .. she made a lot of sacrifices yet had to take blame for something thts not quite her fault... but parents should seriously stop comparing their children with each other or someone else's children i mean how would they feel if their child start to compare them with their friend's parents or aunt/uncle
True well said
my dad.
My mom
@@saferarmd3098 aww～ sorry to hear that >< nt sure wht to say bt i hope something good will happened to you and your mom will slowly open her heart to allow you to follow your dreams :)
@@harutowatanabeisbae4993 aww～ sorry to hear that >< nt sure wht to say bt i hope something good will happened to you and your dad will slowly open his heart to allow you to follow your dreams >< goodluck and stay strong :)
They really tried to make the older sister look like the bad one but we see through the bullshit lol
V much true
The edit it that way so there would be a twisted plot.
Yeah
Do you know who the guy with blue hair is in real life?
@@abbigailconaway3311 he is Kim donghan
*Mum: picks favourites, compares, says mean things to her eldest child*
Daughters: fighting and arguing
*Mum: I don’t know why they’re like this, is this my life?*
Lol ikr
I just now realize how dramatic she was being, it's kinda funny.
clueless
It lies to the mother why they becomes like that
Hahaha
i teared up for the older sister. :( i really appreciate everything youngja said at 26:08, she was spot on
cherry yeah she cried alot bcz finally someone acknowledged that
Yeah Youngja rocks
I cried on that part too, finally, someone, not even a family member, acknowledged her sacrifices all these years T.T
Yeah.. that part definitely got me.
I think the one need to send her concern is the eldest daughter
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OMG that what I was thinking!!! I feel so bad for her!!
Who is that. In 23:05
Savannah Francis if you mean the man, his name is dongyeop
"I'll cut down on drinking"
Hearing this broke my heart because even then, the older sister is the only one who has to amend her habbits so that the family can live in supposed peace. Did anyone even bother to think as to why she was drinking in the first place? The poor girl clearly had no one to turn to with her sorrows, so she ended up suppressing her feelings with liquor for all those years. The mother and the middle daughter really have the audacity to think that she's the ONLY root to these issues. I couldn't help but cry with the older sister.
Everything you say is spot on actually. I can't believe that the oldest sister was blamed after all the sacrifices she had given
FINALLY SOMEONE SAID IT 😭
Me too, I cried so hard.
Honestly felt like I was going through everything she was at that moment
😭😭😭😭😭😭
I don't normally comment on these videos even tho I watch literally all of them. However, I cannot believe how selfish the second daughter is. The eldest daughter is no saint, but she's clearly acting the way she is because of the stress she has been through for years. She's lacking love from her own mother, she had to quit school, work every day, which equals not having time to see friends or family, and while all of this was happening, she was able to witness what a great time her sister and everyone else around her age had. I wish she would work on her actions but that her family would be more understanding. Cutting down on alcohol is all she has to do.
I'm sure that the eldest can't do no right in front of the mother because the mother is already biased against her just because the eldest reminds her of her late husband. I snickered when the mother said that her second daughter is sweet like herself🙄, meaning she's assuming that the eldest is always the one instigating the fights.
@@peko7446 I know, right? Urgh, I got so mad too. And I totally agree. The mom wouldn't even notice it if the oldest one was trying to improve herself. The mom would just still only see flaws. I get so mad about this. I'm a big sister as well.
When they were talking and stuff, you can really tell that the younger sister didn’t seem to have an open mind or heart to try to grasp and understand on why the older sister did the things she did. I’m not saying that all of the things she did should be excused but by how she had to do so many things for herself and for her family to continue living, it’s like they forgot that she’s human herself. Drinking is something that she really needs to work on aside from reconnecting with her sister and her mother but she isn’t the only one who has to put in work to make it all work out. The mother and sister needs to apologize for all the things they’ve said or done, no matter how little it may have seen to them, it made a big impact on her mental state. How do you expect things to work out when you’re only putting in about 25% of work while she’s putting in 75% of work?
The 2nd sister is a brat. & the mom is aiding her in being more of a brat. Can see there's favoritism there when she said the 2nd is like her (so) she's sweet. 🙄
Well lady.., maybe your daughters wouldn't fight so much if u weren't so biased to one & picking sides. I know i hate it when my mom is always taking sides with my younger brother.. 🙄
While we never had physical fights, my second sister and I are pretty much like those 2. My parents didn't have the money for my college, so I worked full time and went to school full time. 4 years later, my parents found out how to get student loans and various scholarships. It would piss me off to no end to watch her skip classes to go to the beach, etc., knowing how much each of those classes cost. We have a younger sister too. Whenever middle sister didn't get her way, she would make something up or blow something all out of proportion and blame it on us. She is STILL like that today, and both her daughters are too!!! After watching her treat my mom like crap after all that was done for her, I have completely written her out of my life. Life is too short to deal with self-centered jackasses.
Im sorry, but I'm more to eldest's side. She deserves all the love. Im crying while watching this :'((
i love how theyre blaming the oldest because of her drinking but shes drinking because of them
True, but she still needs to stop turning to alcohol when things get rough... for her own sake. Sounds like she's dependent on it (needs it to fall asleep she said and also said she thinks about drinking all the time.)
@@bpxl53yewz29 If not alcohol, then, what? Suggestions are helpful when there is an alternative solution. Not just pointing out what's wrong. There is a reason for her drinking, she probably is very lonely and sad from the way she is treated by her mom and sis. Instead of alcohol, I hope she can depend on a kinder, better version of her mom and sis, who can be more understanding and considerate of why she didn't get the top grades, give her the space when she's in a bad mood, and especially not compare her to the sis. Love is the answer, in my opinion, instead of just saying she should simply drink less. She is in pain. Kinda difficult to tell someone to just stop being in pain. If she is loved more, she will want to work harder for the family and naturally want to drink less. There are plenty of people who are breadwinners but are not addicted to alcohol, but have a good support system around them. That is the key of the issue. No hate, just commenting, bye!
@@sidesideful No one is saying she's not in pain. You may not know the effects of alcoholism and addiction. It's up to her to figure out what she'd like to do when she's "lonely, sad". I don't know her and I'm not a psychologist.
They need a real doctor and not comedians that very biased sometimes in their own culture that need to be more open minded about these situations.
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I love how the entire time, the mother and the second daughter blamed the oldest for the constant fighting, yet refused to take responsibility for their own actions which led up to all of it. The oldest made so many sacrifices for her sister and family, and I'm guessing the only one who understands that is the youngest daughter. Also, the second daughter truly blows me away with how entitled and spoiled she is. She did the things that her sister couldn't so, partied and had fun at college while her sister couldn't go to college and had to work. She needs to learn how to be grateful. Also, I wanted to slap her when the oldest gathered the courage to apologize in front of national TV, and her sister goes "well I really want an apology for something else" like how much worse can this girl get. The mother and the second daughter both owe the oldest daughter an apology. She drinks every night because she hated the way her life is. She gets no support from her family other than the youngest sister, and every time a fight occurs, the mother and second daughter tell her they wish she'd disappear. Alcohol is the only thing for her right now that can make her forget all of that. They're lucky she chose alcohol and didn't turn to drugs!!! This is the consequence of constantly comparing your children to one another. They grow up feeling resent for the other sibling, and as time goes on, they end up cutting communication with one another. You can't expect your kids to get along if you constantly compared, favored one, and belittled one when they were growing up. The oldest daughter isn't a saint, and I'm not excusing her behavior, especially the alcohol, but there are too many reasons for why she acts like that that aren't being addressed.
Edit: sorry for the rant lmao, I usually don't comment on these, but i could relate to the oldest and couldn't help but say something
Pretty much agree, was absolutely frustrating to watch and how it ended because nothing got addressed. The mom and 2nd daughter blamed everything on her and didn't understand how much she sacrificed because she cared for them. The only thing is Korea has a huge drinking culture. There's way more alcohol addictions compared to drugs. I'm sure it happens but drug laws there are extremely strict and harder to attain compared to the U.S where I feel like anyone can just do drugs lol and since they dont really have a drug culture they turn to drinking and it leads to substance abuse. So I feel like moms concern would've been the equivalent to how we are about drug users. Only if her drinking got worse but I dont think she even had an addiction she just used it to cope which is still unhealthy but wow that went over their heads.
I couldn't have said it better 👏
This is like the golden child vs scrapgoat dynamics in a nassiccist household. It's really sad to see
Okay but don't act like the middle child is partying away and enjoying college life when she got scholarship for the whole 4 years. You have to do really well for that and to do well, you have to study your ass of. It's korea we're talking about here.
@@yuurinayase8377 if u compare both of the sisters then it was more injustice towards the older becuz yes its hard to gain scholarship for 4 years especially in Korea but working in the age ur supposed to study and fulfill ur dream let go of ur dream and the money ur earning goes to ur mother so she can use it to help ur other siblings fulfill their dreams is more hurtful yk and the older sister was in a police department she could have gotten such an amazing job and life but she has to go through stuff I'm not saying the middle child is a bitch and she didn't have problems she did have her own problems ofc but she was able to study in peace cuz of her older sister's sacrifices and if the youngest wouldn't have asked for another apology from her older sis then maybe I'd say that the older is being irrational but a big N O. Thank u for coming to my ted talk.
The second sister feels so entitled the way she asked for specific apologies even till the end she never understood. Also bringing the attention back to herself when her sister was crying yet the older sister still tried to be the better person when it must have been difficult for her. The cast should have focused more on the second daughter and the mother for being the problems like the mom evaded the favouritism point by directing it to her drinking problems HONESTLY I’m so sad for the old sis and angry at the rest except the youngest
Yeah it was really sad. The eldest is coping with all the sacrifices she’s made for the family, and the mother blames her for everything. When she was comparing the daughters (ie ‘my second daughter takes after me’) it’s such an ignorant thing to say. Favoring one child over the other will undoubtedly create tension between the kids. The favored one will be the golden child, and the others will bear the brunt of the abuse. They should’ve held the mother and second daughter as responsible. The eldest is a better woman than either of them could ever be. She freely apologized and recognized her faults.
Guys , but still the second is not that all old to understand and when the older keep cursing at her, it would be difficult to stay nice. Also because her mom favourite her , her behaviour can’t be like normal caring child, which isn’t her fault. Also let’s try to be understanding of both sisters rather than picking side and criticizing one.
safera rmd the second sister isn’t that young, she’s like a year or two younger than the eldest but she’s acting very immature, she should have gotten a job and helped alongside her sister so that even the sister could have studied but instead she criticised the eldest constantly telling her to have “worked harder for the scholarship” and specifically asking for certain apologies for things that have been most probably said in between fights which is pretty normal, like even I and my sister fight but we don’t remember each and every thing we’ve said to each other since that’s VERY childish. The older daughter had actual concerns that needed to be addressed more in the show but they never did. And by trying to be understanding of what I think is spoilt behaviour is wrong as then it never gets fixed
safera rmd the mom is to be blamed but so is the daughter, she’s not small anymore it’s time she learned how to act like an adult, hopefully she’ll understood and realised after the show how much the older sister loves her family and her sisters which might bring about a change in the second sister
@@saferarmd3098 the second sister is literally 26. That's not a child... at all. She's old enough to have comprehension skills beyond that of a child. I even forgot for a second that she was an adult because of the way she behaved.
I don't think you're wrong about seeing both sides, but the commenters are trying to show sympathy and understanding to the eldest. Her family obviously denied her that, and there is nothing wrong with pointing out their shortcomings and abuses.
The eldest daughter wasn't really resenting her family, she was just frustated with her life & the sacrifices that aren't validate & appreciated. If she really resented her family, she would've walk away long ago and never help her family at all.
The mom and middle sister are real pieces of work. How the sister smiled when the eldest sister said her younger sis went to college and had fun made me really mad. And she made it seem like the eldest sis could continue going to school if she got scholarships. And she smiled when the eldest said she got beaten up by the mom when she lost the money. I really hope she gets what's coming to her.
The mom is so stupid to blame the eldest for following the father who left them with the debt. Blame the father, not your daughter. Geez, how can you be such a terrible mom?
I understand her but don't respect her. The oldest probably looks a lot like the father and has similar mannerisms so it must be very irritating to the mom whenever she looks at her oldest daughter
@@Shri100percent What does that justify?
@@BoSpankle nothing. Just because I can understand doesn't mean I am justifying her behavior. I am simply seeking to understand why she would do what she does.
16:26 that smile made me mad. Reminded me of how my sister would smirk when she heard of my suffering it really killed me to know my family would see me hurt bad and enjoy hearing how they inflicted pain on me. It's pure evil. And at 17:22 why wouldn't she feel bad for her sister instead she relishes her victory over her oldest sister. What an awful human being. Reminds me of both my younger sisters.
@@zilly1 I feel you SO MUCH
The eldest daughter made me cry. I hope she finds happiness and a reason to continue living. She’s still young at 27 and can accomplish a lot. I like how young-ja praised her for her hard work and made her feel appreciated
Eldest sister, step aside. I'm ready to pull some hair too😡
*Eldest sister:* became head of household at age 20, working to provide for family of four, most likely depressed and dependant on alchohol as a coping mechanism
*Second sister:* you got kimchi on my shirt
😒😒😒😒😒
Edit: Thank you for all the likes and supportive comments! I wrote my comment in a joking manner, but in all honesty, I hope the eldest sister finds peace and love. You can see she's in so much pain having had to shoulder so much responsibility without the love of her family. She may have had to sacrifice a lot during the prime years of her youth, but she deserves to be happy and to be surrounded by people who love, respect, and care for her. I hope the mom and second sister will realize this and change their ways. The eldest sister said so herself: her family is all she has. I hope they put down their pride and stop seeing her as the problem and the only one who's at fault and begin to love one another. It's not too late to change.
What is needed is communication and something they can all relate on. By demeaning the younger sister doesn’t make it any better. Your logic is hella flawed and agree that you sound childish lmaooo.
@dear jade Your're gonna have to give that response to a lot of comments on here then...lol.
The oldest had to drop her dream because the mother said she could only pay for one child. But the second daughter said she got a scholarship???
The oldest was the head of the family for 7 years paying for the fathers gambling for which she was not responsible for on top of that she gave her mother 10,000 to spent it on herself instead of spending on herself. I wonder if she even got a thanks from her mother. I feel very very sorry for the oldest.
Is sad to say but in Asian families the one with the best education always gets favourited which doesn’t make it right AT ALL and it happens to me, but it is getting to the point of it being childish. These things either are sorted when separated, therapy or with age, as sad as it is. Being favourited is no reason for any of that to happen. Yes she had to pay, drop out, gave money but it’s no reason to behave like this. Neither one of them are mature but it’s definitely not the others fault for being favourited, she didn’t ask for it or turn her mother against the first
Okay girl iam ready to fight 2 like tf
It's sad how the oldest was obviously depressed and became alcohol dependent to sleep. They didn't care for the root cause but instantly judging her for it. Seeing her crying when hearing appreciate comment from one of the counselor, you can see that's all she wanted to hear from her family. Acceptance and validation for her effort. My heart goes out for her. Hope she ll be able to find peace.
I cried so hard because as the oldest and one of five kids I know the burden the oldest feels and also how favoritism spawns resentment and hatred of your own siblings. I related so hard with the oldest daughter and no one understands how hard it is to sacrifice for a family you don't feel appreciated by.
Saba Log also the oldest of five here! I have looked after and helped raised my siblings in an unstable household my entire life (I’m in my early 20s now) and I never hear a good word from my parents. As the oldest I take care of myself because I don’t want to burden my siblings. It’s not like I can talk to them about my troubles either because I don’t want them to see me when I’m weak. It’s hard. We shoulder so much on our own
Saba Log i feel you too when no one care about your sacrifices its sooooo hard
That is so sad 😕 And the fact that she is drinking so much..
I can relate to her too 😔
Im also the oldest of five!!!
The second daughter should know that she get to where she is now because of the oldest sister drop out of college and work to pay that dept.
lol no the second daughter got her own scholarship.
@@nandini8814 Your reading comprehension is so bad it's astonishing.
@@bdaarmy9736 No, my reading skills are perfectly fine. Excellent, actually. The second one was doing good on her own and still would have, regardless of the older sister.
the debt has nth to do with the middle one going to college, because she worked hard to get a scholarship.
@@nandini8814 No, it's absolutely not. They literally said nothing about tuition, and ya'll like, "bUt sHe goT sChOlArsHip...."
im sorry but if im the oldest one i would step out from the house
Me too
It would be more expensive that way + there is “family duty” in Korea.
Samee
And take the youngest with me. . .away from those toxic ones
I think there's a sense of duty as the eldest child to wanting to help look after the family. Happens in Zimbabwe as well. It's funny because if mom needs looking after, I doubt the middle sister will step even though she is clearly mom's favourite
this is all the mother's fault, my jaw literally dropped when she directly said how her 2nd daughter is sweet and the oldest made her mad cause she resembles her father, like a mother saying that in front of her daughters is ridiculous, i wanna fight the 2nd daughter so bad cause how dare she think her sister "didn't try hard enough" for a scholarship, honey she was paying your bills even though she did get one pretty sure she still needed to drop out to feed you, the favoritism is so bluntly obvious here yet everyone seems to make the oldest the bad person. Also about her drinking problem, i went through exactly that when my family also relied to me as a breed winner, the pressure sucks that i had to just drink it off to forget for a while, and seeing how the oldest was the one paying the family's bill after the dad passed away i think that was what happened to her too, so i hope she also gets help for it.
At first I was rooting for the second daughter until you know she is full of herself because she goes to college..well girl..your sister didn't have that chance but worked her ass very hard to support you and the rest of family financially..shame on the mother for comparing her children when she was the one asking her eldest to drop out College and forget all her dreams..she drinks everyday until she faints because she hates her life.
Well said.
Exactly I feel sad for the older sister I hope she's feeling better
Idk why they're not praising the oldest. I mean she's so admirable she sacrificed her college life even if she doesn't say it somewhere in her heart she did it so that her sister could study and she took the responsibility of earning money. I love you sis you're amazing
Typical asian parents patronizing the more intelligent one 😢 . I just hate how spoiled the second daugther is.. Ugghh.. When she said that she wants an Apology for something else I was like go on eldest daughter, I want you to pull her hair til she's bald.
Im asian thats a bit on the brighter side and currently experiencing the love and support the 2nd daughter is getting, but I always hate when my mom starts criticizing others and starts comparing them to me. 😣
Sorry, I would have to disagree with the 2nd one being intelligent. She is the one who is immature and got an education because of her mum and her eldest sister. So, I think the eldest is more intelligent and responsible and hides her pain. It is sad.
But I agree about the Asian parents, it's almost the same in India.
@@sundarihema25 i agree with you.. like the eldest got into police administration, that's super hard. You have to study and a lot , to have a good memory and to be intelligent in general whereas the second daughter failed to get into college the first time....
@@elentiya1788 idk, she says she got a full scholarship for all 4 years of her studying, so technically nobody even had to pay for her school fees.
I am also asian and i also know the typical asian family probs. I also have to face more pressure from my family bcoz i am the only child and they wish me to walk on the path they show , do what they want me to do and even though i got good results my parents would still compare me to other more intelligent ones..😣
I know right. How could the eldest daughter even get these “awards” if she isn’t even going to college?! The eldest daughter even made Sacrifices for her own family, yet they aren’t appreciating her hard work. If the eldest daughter wasn’t in their life, the family would probably could only afford one meal a day.
그냥 첫째를 내가 꼭 안아주고싶다... 마음이 너무 아프다 자신의 어릴적 꿈, 청춘 이런 것들은 절대 다시 돌아오지 않는 건데 그걸 가족위해 포기한거잖아. 근데 가족들 특히 둘째는 그거에 대한 고마움을 몰라. 언니가 열심히 했으면 충분히 대학도 같이 다닐 수 있었다는 헛소리를 하잖아;; 자기 청춘 갖다바치면서, 하루 1~2시간밖에 못자고 일하면서 가족 생계 책임진건데 그걸 그렇게 가볍게 말해. 그렇게 잘할 자신 있었으면 자기가 돈 벌지 왜 학교 다녔대?ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 일단 가장 큰 원인은 엄마의 편애고 그로 인해서 생긴 언니에 대한 존중의 부재. 그게 이 모든 문제의 원인이라고 봄
idk but i think the second daughter is full of drama.
Definitely agree
no she's not. Some people aren't really good at expressing themselves and can come off like that. Shit your family says to you HURTS.
It broke my heart when the eldest said "the family is all i have"😭 thanks for your hardwork so the rest family can live happily, i hope you can live happily too~ what a great sister and daughter😭
the older sister looks younger than the middle sister
its the style. the older one has the cutesy style with bangs, circle lenses, heavier eyemakeup. that makes you look younger. the younger daughter has a more mature style
Yes
no not really
That's actually happened in some siblings just like us😊
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I really wish the older sister could read the comment section of this video so she knows that there are so many people who cares for her and understands her 😭😭
if they still didnt make up, the elder should leave them and live alone..i think its better to be alone...
Exactly, she should have used her hard earned money and moved out. She must have sacrificed a ton just to make that money and it doesn't help that her sister and mother don't really appreciate her.
She already is alone in a way
But if she moves out she has more bills to pay its probably more stressful
Bisami Blanche At least she doesn’t have to pay bills for a family of FOUR
@@user-lk3fh8se8g her sister and mom have a job don't forget.
Yeongja's the only one who understands the oldest most. She's truly the most understanding person in this show 👍
Yoo when she asked for an apology for the college thing i was hopping the older sister said no why because it's true "if she tried hard enough she would of made it in" (the same word's the 2nd sister said to the 1st one when asked about the scholarship)
I know right! I was even hoping that one of the host defended her that "You know that she don't even have time to study because she is working to support everyone in the family." Even if she did obtain the scholarship, she has to maintain her grades while working and only have 2 hours of sleeps? That is impossible. At least for me.
@@i.n4738 exactly, and the 2nd sister didnt even seemed happy with the old sister's apology. sacrificed a lot. The one would is hurting is the oldesr because she sacrificed a lot to save up $10,000 and she most likely spent none of it on herself. Also, I think she work 2 full time jobs just to help everyone.
wow that was a fairly devastating point.
When she said that i was like ohh bitch u DID NOT just ask that!
The oldest is too nice to even think of that, sadly 😭
I can’t believe the mom didn’t get more flack for making her kids like this,, especially the middle child. She’s been spoiled to the point where she feels entitled to everything. Just listening to the eldest has been stressed and sad. I hope she moves out soon and finds people who actually care about her.
At first I thought it was the older sister, but in all the mother is to blame
yes, shes the one who made the sisters rivals
The Ship That Carries Taeny
she picks favorites
Yes..the mother is the real hypocrite.
Ikr
Elder daughter: *gives a deep well thought out genuine apology*
Middle sis: ApOlIgIzE fOR sOmTHibG thaT hAPpPend 8 yeARs agO
....
Middle sis: sorry for bothering you after work
Me: 🤡🤡🤡
Ikfr-
I disagree. There are many derogatory things that pull your mental state down after being repeatedly bashed with.
It made me so mad
Im also a oldest sister ,i have a younger sis and i drop out of my school too because i need to work and support my family.. I know how the eldest feel... I can see and feel how hurt the eldest sister by their mom who are fav the younger sister, and always blame her, its so stress to see your friend still school and having fun, when you need to working for you family and not one appreciate that.. because my mom also like that, so many thing i feel not fair, why i have to be treat like that when i do so much to support my family, but no one look and just take me as granted.. one time im sooo stress i even try to cut my hand...i even fight with my mom and run from home..and my mom also fav my sister,and the funny thing when i fight with my sister, my mom blame me back and said why i cannot treat my sis like lovely sister when its was her fault who make it me hate my sister.. Because i feel hurt so much i cannot became close with my sister, but in the end it was still my fault..
may be try showing this clip to your mother so she can try to understand your hardships,so you can have more understanding from your family :)
God bless you
🌸🌸🌸I proud of you 🌸🌸🌸
But don't try to hurt yourself please .
i feel you
It is not ur fault. You are the one of the strongest persons I have ever see. Please believe in ur self. Once thing are settled please go after ur dreams. Remember ur precious.
omg .. i feel so angry at the mom. she is the cause of this
and im super annoyed at the second child for wanting more apologies. excuse me ?
Does anyone else think the older sister looks like LE?
Also the middle sister is spoiled rotten damn
yeah she looks like her a little bit
what you said about the middle sister is you
yeahh
@@taetae849 ?
@@taetae849 are you sure? I think you are that middle sister who is here after changing her name.
I feel so bad for the oldest daughter, at such a young age she had to take her fathers place as the bread winner of the family. Throughout this whole thing i didn't feel the slightest sincere emotion coming from the mother, after all the oldest daughter said she went ahead and had the mindset to say i like my second daughter because shes sweet like me, im sorry wtf!!
She had to sacrifice her whole life and work just so you can live a bit better and she gave you 10,000 for personal spendings what are you not grateful for?? Clearly she raised the girls by putting them against one another, constantly favouring the second daughter; this not only probably made the oldest daughter depressed and sick of her families shit but the second daughter seems a bit silly, i dont think she realises the amount of things her sister had to give up so she could live a better life.
Im just really pissed off, and i dont think this episode really put the mom or the second daughter in a different mindset because even at the end the oldest put herself out there and apologised for everything and said i love you but nothing in back... i hope she can come to a point where shes financially stable enough to live on her own, at the moment this seems really toxic.
Try to be objective & I feel like Im on the oldest side.. she is wrong too in some aspects.. but I can see and feel many of her scars it must be hurt in her position.. Wish the best for her, and hope she'll be happier in the future
To all the parents out there.. Please please don't do favoritism towards ur children.. Though u think one is better than another.. Or bullshit excuse like she/he takes after me.. Cause if u do it'll just make spaces between the family and leave scars to ur children
And parents, you may think they are too young to pick up on it but as they grow older (starting from about 8 yrs.) and learn to make their own standards for themselves, they'll start connecting each pieces and feel worthless and unloved. You may view your child as "little" but that little one has the same thinking capacity as you, albeit not as complex and messed up as adults.
Feels awful hearing what the eldest has had to go through. She's pretty amazing.
ma"am! one thing i hv to warn u.... drop tat favoritism of u towards the second daughter! seriously!
Thats the root of the problem. She can't mad to her mom, so she express it to her younger sister.
The problem comes from their mom. She should stop comparing her children. Even the youngest one agree that her mom favor the 2nd.
@Gray Kin i know tats hw u being brought up...but dun u think its ridiculous for parents to hv a favorism towards one particular among their children? everyone should receive equal amount of love
3 children, 1/3 amount of love each...isnt tat suppose to be like tat
Bro, WHEN THE OLDEST STARTED TEARING UP I WAS ABOUT TO CRY TOOO
I just feel bad for the oldest sister:(( i wish her for all of the happiness:”) be strong, you did great💕
Ok but I just love the youngest/3rd sister, she's admitting everything not hesitating like no one's buisness lmao
I hope I'm not the only one who cried
nope, I did to when the older sister started crying. T-T
Park Bushra Inded we’re all humans
I always cried when I watched this videos 😂🤧
Wow. I wish the 2nd daughter can just step down from her privileged high horse and see things from her older sister's perspective. "I'm sure Unnie can get a scholarship too if she studied harder." Irresponsible statements like these just show how selfish she is, and not seeing the sacrifice that her older sister made for the family. Even if the Unnie did get a scholarship, I'm sure she wouldn't have been able to take it up, since the family needed her to work and make ends meet then.
Besides, sacrifice is one thing. Enduring that emotional hurt from unfair favouritism, and constantly being compared for years... Can you imagine what the older sister must have been going through. Yes, she should cut down on drinking for her own health. But I hate that her drinking was made to seem like it was the brunt of the problem. What about the mum who compares her kids and created the toxic environment that the older sister had to grow up in? What about the 2nd sister who can't see the hardships her unnie faces and still asks for "specific" apologies?
In my opinion, this problem stems from far longer ago. And it requires so much work, understanding and making up to one another on all sides, to even make the situation a tad better. If the older sister is the main person making 90% of the effort, while the mum and 2nd sister are not fully held accountable, how would the situation improve at all??? The older sister is already stressed enough as it is. I wish the hosts did more to school the mum and 2nd sister, instead of just silently letting it pass.
My boyfriend, who is the eldest among his siblings, can relate to her situation
Did y show this video to him? I am trying to show it to my older sibling
@@saferarmd3098 no, I haven't shown him this video, but he has shared with me similar experiences of him growing up.
First sister.. Fighting. Am cheering for you.
Bts fighting! :)
I WANT TO THANK LEE YOUNGJA FOR PRAISING THE OLDEST FOR EVERYTHING SHE'S DONE AND TELLING HER EVERYTHING SHE DESERVED TO HEAR.
어머니가 진짜 잘못하셨어요 ㅠㅠ 애들은 무슨죄에요,,,,그리고 둘째만 예뻐하고 첫째는 다 참고 희생해야되고 그렇게 가르쳐놓고 이제와서 사이 좋게 지내라는게 무슨 경우야,, 첫째 언니 너무 고생많으세요,,,,ㅠㅠ
The second daughter shows sooo much hypocrisy . When the oldest one started crying she did too... Just to get attention and play the role of a victim.
Anyway,instead of be thankful for all the things her sis did for her, leaving college and working to pay her tuitions... She just complaint about everything.
Obviously the older daughter is gonna feel bad and get that rude mood, she couldn't study and she had to mature at early age.
She had to take care of her family after her dad passed away, but even so her mom and sis don't appreciate that.
Her mom just blames on her attitude and favors the other one... It's obvious that the girl is depressed and she drinks to relief herself.
I'm sorry i'm also with the older sister but she didn't pay for the younger's tuition. She got scholarship so her education was basically free.
you need to get your ears and eyes checked. IT WAS A FULL 4 YEAR SCHOLARSHIP smh.
@@yuurinayase8377 I read every single one of your replies on this video and I agree a 100%
@@nandini8814 Scholarship would mean nothing if she didn't have a roof on her head. Stop using all caps, doesn't make your opinion more valid.
@@bdaarmy9736 Scholarship would mean better prospects for her future. There are people who have gone through worse. I don't see why doing that is wrong. If my younger sister was better at studies and the house was falling apart, ofcourse I'd give up my chances for hers because she's got a much better shot at it and I know it.
첫째가 견뎌야했을 무게가 막내로 태어난 저는 감히 상상도 안되네요,티비나와서 저렇게 밉다는말을 쉽게할정도면 첫째한테 얼마나 모질게 편애를 해댔을까, 첫째야 이제 너를 위해 살아, 너를 아껴주고 꾸며주고 너의 건강을 챙기고 좋은거 예쁜거 많이 보고 행복하게 살아, 가족위해 살지말구,
옷차림 외모만봐도 성격들이 딱 보이네요, 둘짼 예쁨만 받고자라 혼자 공주시네, 첫짼 딱봐도 책임감 강하게 강단있어보이고,첫째 멋있다
This is so similar to our situation. My mother adores the middle and youngest while I get the end of the stick. When I got awards and asked for a little reward, my mom didn't gave me anything and I was so hurt by that fact that I will never be favored by her. I was so hurt that I cried on my own birthday and my dad comforted me.
See, the eldest doesn't always gets the rewards. Sometimes, they are the one who's pressure and expectations are put on. Even if we want to have fun, we would rather do something that would make our parents happy, even if those parents don't appreciate the hard work we have. The eldest always sacrifices everything but those in the family don't appreciate it. Only a few does.
this is in no way similar. I get your problems since I go through the same. But it isn't at all similar to this situation.
나는 장학금받고 학교다녔는데 언니는 왜 못그랬냐라니.. 너무하네요. 언니도 본인만 챙겼음 충분히 학교다녔죠.
언니보다 이쁨받고 자랐으니 언니를 우습게 생각하고 있다가 대학떨어져서 언니한테 들은말을 괘씸하게 생각하고 사과를 꼭 받아야겠다하고...
언니가 그 꽃다운 나이에 학교포기하고 일터로 나가야했던 아픔을 입장바꿔 생각했다면 미안해하고 존중해줘야죠.
엄마가 애들사이를 나쁘게 만들었네요. 동생들이 언니를 우습게보지 않게 언니를 챙겨줬어야됐어요
Man, I cried when the oldest sister started to cry. 😢
I suddenly remembered the movie *Four* *sisters* *and* *a* *wedding.* 😭
1. 부모 사이가 안좋았던 것 같다
2. 엄마가 큰딸에게 미운 남편을 투사했다
3. 엄마가 큰딸을 남편 대하듯, 작은딸은 본인 의지하듯
4. 큰딸은 깊은 상처, 미운 동생, 낮은 자존감, 음주와 외로움, 그러면서도 책임감
5. 결론: 부모의 삶이 자녀에게 상속되었던 것 같다. 사과할 사람은 엄마
I cried watching it ☹️
Me too
Saame
Shout out to Yeongja for applauding the oldest sister at the end. No wonder she's one of my favorite hosts. 😣❤️
i guess best solution for the 2 daughters is to juz live apart of each other...plus they at tat age nw....living independently!
In Korea it's common for the kids to stay at home, especially girls, until they get married. However, if they absolutely can't get along with no solution, I agree, someone needs to move out, but I don't think the middle daughter would be able to take care of herself.
Yeap..the pain for this is too deep and everything will just be awkward and force...
But living apart won't heal their deep scars that lie in the family
Especially for the older sister she was carrying such a burden only to witness her mom favoring her younger sister
It's very sad and living apart would stop the physical fights but she still wouldn't get the love and appreciation she deserves
The real problem here is the mom. How can you be such a horrible mom and she even acts like she doesn't know why they fight, guuurl think your favoritism led to your daughter not feeling loved and drinking and spoiled the younger sister growing her into someone who doesn't understand those hardships
both of the daughters are not really at fault here
@@aribanahonarukas1641 but after seeing this video, i don't think that the second daughter or their mom would change. their mom just hoping they would stop fighting to the point hoping for the eldest to be gone.
The oldest should take that huge step of courage and move out and live her life as she already lost precious years of her youth and let those two sink with the reality and learn to appreciate her and learn to make that money,if they are capable...Sounds harsh but sometimes it's the best choice,not everything is rainbows...
This mom is so inconsiderate just like her second daughter
They should be more kind to the eldest omilord she does everything for them yet they all belittle her efforts and pamper the second
The oldest sister must have lots of depression, cuz she felt responsibilities for her family, and the desires to live like a normal student. While she doesn't have someone to lean on when she through a lot
Poor the older sister she might be really stressful 😕
I'm really proud of the eldest daughter, she's really cute yet strong inside. I'm sending my support and love for the siblings through this, especially the eldest. Fighting! 💜
In most cases when children fight each other it is due to the parents' unfairness. Injustice is the root of hatred.
첫째만 포기하고 희생하고 무조건 첫째만 참아라!!
이거는 엄마도 잘못햇네
첫째가 의지할곳없으니 술에만 의지하는수밖에..
The one to be blamed the most is definitely the mom here. What kind of sisters don‘t fight during their adolescence? I think every household there are fight between siblings, even just about a trivial stuff. But not all family has this problem. That means the mom spoiled the second daughter and pampered her too much that she‘s being too selfish and takes her sister‘s sacrifice for granted.
둘째가 예쁨받으니 언니를 무시했을 수 밖에....그러니 언니가 안그래도 서러운데 동생이 더 미웠을것같군요 앞으로가 중요하죠 이영자씨 말에 눈물나네요 노력하시면 더 행복해지실거 같아요^^
Being the older sibling is definitely so difficult especially when there's favouritism in the family. Always getting the blame, you have to do the chores because you are the older one even though chores should done equally, being a good example to your siblings when....I didn't sign up for this excuse me? Honestly I really hope younger siblings should at least put themselves in our shoes because it's so difficult -___- I'm not kidding y'all think it's so easy and we are their experimental kid
Ly._. Vyiee but is not always the oldest that has to shoulder most of the problems. I’m the middle child but I have to do so much for my family and sometimes it is overwhelming and stressful. And I always get told stuff because my personality is tough also so I get blamed most of the time for everything.
Yeah. I sometimes feel like the failed experiment.
Ly._. Vyiee for me, my oldest is the favorite and when she does things worse than her she doesn’t get yelled at because she doesn’t have a “bad reputation “
Not always the case. In my family, the eldest is the favorite one and doesn't lift a finger, got to attend private school, get catered to by our mother while my other sibling and I went to public school, wore hand me downs and did all the chores in the house.
SJY1305 you’re not alone 😭 it’s sucks being a middle child
When the mother came in and was gathering up the tears after mentioning her husband's death I felt so sorry for her but then she blatantly agreed to liking one child than the other. Childhood is very important so parent should be careful of what they show or tell their kids.
How can she say she doesn't like her first child cos she is like her father? Ummm when your marry someone and have children with them there is a possibility that they have certain traits of their other parent.
The big sister has her shortcomings like disrespecting her mum, but she has always yielded and I think she deserves some accolades for taking on such responsibilities.
Why I am crying and smiling while watching this episode... Thank you for sharing different stories ❤
P.S. And I'm really trying to keep the peace with my bro and sis. I haven't idea what parents can feel at such moments.
I feel a lot of loneliness emanating from the eldest. You can see her stress. I hope she finds her own happiness someday.
Im so glad that I have loving older sister, we always protect each other.
I'm glad you're such an understanding younger sister for you to have a good relationship with your elder T-T.
The older sisters : Apologizes
And then the third daughter:
“Awe I’ll miss the fun”
Haha I really love the third one😂
This is all on the mother. I've come to realize that the parents are the primary cause to why some siblings have these conflicts. It's always the issue of favoritism. The same goes to my family. We're three children. I'm the oldest. I've always been fairly neutrally treated, but my mother severely favours the youngest over the 2nd child and has done so ever since we were small. This favoritism has grown into resentment with the middle child who literally detests the youngest one. It doesn't help that the youngest one fuel the resentment.
Parents need to understand that words have a greater impact than they think. Adults remember things from their childhood, especially things like this. Fair treatment among children is super important if you don't want them to fight in the future.
i think it's a good thing that the eldest daughter moved out of the house because no one in that family ever appreciate her and what she did for that family. the second daughter is entitled too because she grew up with her mother glorifying her and now their mother is confused why they are fighting when she started the duel between them.
The oldest sister,you are amazing. I fully understand why she drink every day. She can change her habit if those around her understand,appreciate and show their love to her more.. She drink because of stress.. She is not the one to blame for all chaos that happen in their house. Her mom really need to reflect on herself and the middle sister should appreciate and thanks sister,not asking her to apologise. She sacrifice her dream and her life for the family
Eldest sister hwaiting 💕💕💕
I think their mom should apolozing more to the eldest sister
엄마가아니면 저렇게 안됐겠구만 엄마가 편애를 하는데 애들이 어떻게 사이가 좋을수가 있나 학교관두고 희생한것도 엄마한테 인정받고 사랑받고싶은맘이 커서 그랬던거같은데 둘째는 한번도 희생한적이 없는게 보임 술을 왜마시겠냐 원인도 다 집인데
when the mom said her eldest is like their father it made me realise the mother probably resents the father a lot and takes it out on the oldest. shows favouritism etc. the eldest daughter has had to take on a lot and she doesn’t feel appreciated or loved and i feel sorry for her
Why no one asked the eldest daughter why she was drinking? They made her seem like that's the root of the problem when clearly it was just a coping mechanism for the older one. She's had it tough and yet her family couldn't even bother giving her thanks for all she's done. I understand where her negative feelings are coming from. It has been 2 years since this aired. I hope the whole family now has a better relationship.
I am seriously crying over 2 hours n keep watching every single words she said, it totally hurts my feeling.. wish all good lucks for her 🙏
It just wrong to blame your child just because they resembles their dad/mom. And to the eldest daughter, you've done great 👏👏
엄마가 둘째만 편애한게 너무 크다. 큰딸은 대학 포기하고 일하면서 집안에 보템이 됐잖어? 1시간씩 자면서 일하고 돈 벌었으니깐 친구도 못만났을거고, 힘드니깐 스트레스 풀라고 자연스럽게 술먹은거지.
When parents compare their children it just take few words for them to speak but the child who is being compared always gets hurts internally... My mom and especially dad always compares me to my sister that look how good she is at everything she does look how beautiful she is .... They compare us in each and every thing... It really hurts... I fell like if I'll be like her then there will be no ME...
I really would want to hug the eldest daughter I'm literally crying. She deserves lots of love
첫째 맘이 이해가요. 가족들위해 희생했는데 알아주는 사람이 없네요.
엄마가 어리석네요. 첫째가 그런대우에도 가족들을 위해 일한걸 생각하니 짠합니다..
I Don't know but My heart goes for the oldest..sure I understand the 2nd one but its frustrating how she and her mother can't really understand that the oldest is suffering deep inside.. her being compared because she's not that smart than the other, then her being forced to dropout from school and work, sleeping for only 1 to 2 hours... She also deserves recognition
I have the same issue but im the second child...Because their problem is big, trust me after this show they will fight again...I have the same issue..u cannot change them...u should leave or stay with boundaries
I really want to have the eldest’s Instagram so I can show her my support. Her mother and sister seem to think that she is to blame for their situation when in fact she sacrified her life for the well being of her family. They’re beyond ungrateful
This made me cry i really relate to the older sister i wish her the best
Ok aren’t they tired holding the mics, the two girls keeeeep holding the mics up 😂😂
Kawaiigrape ik but....maybe they want to say something rlly badly. I know it seems funny but they obviously aren’t saying everything on their mind. I get that feeling a lot when i fight with my mum, I bottle up more the 95% of the things I want to say so I don’t hurt her feelings or influence my younger brother (he is very young, I am too but old enough to influence him). Sorry hahahhaaha, yeah............
Im crying for the eldest sister, i hope you will happy in the future, you deserve it!
큰딸 너무 마음의상처 치유가 필요해보이네요 엄마한테 받은상처 ㅠㅠ 엄마가 그렇게 대하지않았으면 저렇게 사이가 나빠지지않았을거 같아요 첫째좀 많이 보듬어 줘야할거 같아요
I absolutely hated it, when the oldest took courage and apologized on national tv but the middle sister just wanted to more apologies. If I would have been at her place, I would have started crying out of anger. But even then she held herself back and apologized. The worse was whwn their mother compared them and tried to make the younger sister look better. I would have been so mad and felt unloved at that situation. That is why when the mother told some sweet words to her, she completely broke into tears, it was so heartbreaking to see. I hope she would be happy in her life and achieve great heights.
The second sister is the problem- she grew up knowing that the eldest would be blamed, so she demands more and more from her. The eldest is hardworking and selfless, while the second needs to stop being so self centered and think about what the eldest went through. When the eldest was apologizing, the second demanded an apology for a different thing. I honestly think the second should be the one apologizing
you've got it all wrong.
@@nandini8814 yOu goT iT alL wRonG
You can tell that the mother doesn't like her eldest because she reminds her of her husband! Even the way she looked at her the entire time. She made her drop out of college to help pay the bills and yet the sister said that she would have had a scholarship if she worked hard! Who was paying your bills brat?