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One of the best things I appreciate about your channel Tripp is that you get right to it... No annoying background music, no unwanted intros to annoy the viewer.... You get right into it... you rock!! thanks for this and the advice you give.
Simple Salmon & Asparagus 1. Cut Salmon Fillet in half, then in strips 2. Place strips in separate alum foil to wrap 3. Add to ea piece 1 tsp soy sauce + peppercorn (and ginger/orange or herbs) 4. Bake in oven 25 mins 450 F 5. Cut asparagus base and fry for 12 mins w butter while turning 6. Add a little soy sauce or other seasoning 6. Optional Rice (ben’s original for instant microwave) done ez pz
I mean... It really depends on the vibe and how the date goes in general. There is nothing wrong inviting the girl to your place at the first/second date, if the date goes well. Some will happily go, some won't. I was on the first date with a girl and the vibe was great, had a few drinks in a nice bar first, then we went to another place for a glass of wine. We were out for like 3 hours max, then I said something like "Alright, I don't really have any more ideas, so how about we head to my place and continue our totally awesome conversation... with some more wine and music"... she said yes. You probably know the rest ;) On the second date she came straight to my place to cook dinner together. So you just really have to read and feel how the date goes and shoot your shot, that's basically it. If she says no or not comfortable yet, don't sweat it
As for dinner dates early on one thing I recommend is saying hey let’s meet at another bar for a quick drink before the dinner spot. If you don’t hit them off you can call off the date with her before getting to the dinner spot. The dinner spot is generally something like splitting sushi rolls / or restaurant pizza nothing crazy. But here in Boston I always say let’s grab a quick drink at this bar across the street and see if there’s a connection then we can take it elsewhere if we hit it off.
I've been married for 20 years but I did the same thing when I was single. Keep it casual and if you click there's time for a more formal date later on
The key is to not put to much effort or resources in during the early stages of dating. Keep it easy, cheap, and low key. Remember all the effort you put in on the dates will be reciprocated by only showing up. She thinks she is the prize. You are being evaluated and tested from the beginning. Don't put much into if the date was successful or not. She may just agree to go to get a free meal or a pop off the old validation pipe. Treat her like you don't need her. Cause in reality, you don't. After the date ask yourself this. "Was there something else I had rather had been doing rather than on this date?"
This is extremely sound advice, I appreciate this Tripp! I did this somewhat before I seen this video with this girl I'm talking to now. I didn't do the first step thou, I had a lunch date with her. But the 2nd date we went bowling and had a dinner after that. I then Invited her to my place to cook for her but the weather was bad and she didn't come (we live about 45-50 mins apart). So I said okay no problem, she called me a few hours after that and we talked for a bit. One thing I have learned from you and I'm applying it NOW in this situation is she cancelled which like I said I understand it was pretty stormy weather so okay, but since she cancelled it's on her to reschedule the date. So we'll see what happens now. Thanks for the videos, you've been very helpful
I think that on the first date you should go to somewhere she feels safe, as well as keeping it casual and simple, as Tripp says (e.g. a drink). So go somewhere public where there are people around.
This just feels like skipping through the steps, Tripp. Can't disagree with this third date suggestion on its own merits, but it should be a fourth or fifth date, not a third one. There's some great advice here but you're also getting lost in pointless details about what to cook to be the most appealing to the largest variety of tastes, which just signals you're trying to be as universally appealing as possible. Rather than assuming some neutral dish that you think anyone will like, ask her what food she likes and doesn't like to make at home, so you have a better idea of what to do rather than limiting yourself to the most inoffensive choices. Just because you make a vegetarian meal doesn't mean everyone's going to want it. Maybe they don't do wheat or carbs and won't want pasta. That's why you should communicate with someone rather than assume. All this is besides the point, which is that this is rushing a girl, and it makes your intentions transparent. If a girl suggested this to me, I'd immediately know what was on her mind. If you're both DTF before you've even had a chance to do literally any other activity, then fine, whatever, you do you. But if you actually want to build trust or any relationship beyond that, you'd best ease off the gas here because women know what you're up to even if they don't seem all that put together themselves. A topic that is usually brought up in these vids is building anticipation, but here you're basically telling us to show our hand before we've even had a chance to do anything else in a neutral environment with someone. Third outing should be something that doesn't involve sitting, drinking or eating to allow for real physical interaction in a place where she can still feel comfortable in public around someone she's still getting to know. It's also the opportunity to (if you haven't already) end the third date with a kiss, even if it's just a short and simple one. I can understand not kissing on the first two dates, but if you don't go for it by the end of the third date, you're on the precipice of the friend zone. But when you do kiss (or take things to the next level) you should let her decide how much she wants to reciprocate, and don't make it obvious you're rushing her through the steps to throw her into your bed before she's even had the chance to try doing literally anything else with you. Don't plan this "dinner at my place" idea ahead of time with her, just study up on wine pairings a little and talk about how you like to cook on your third "activity" date, then flaunt some culinary lingo to get her interested in coming over for that dinner date in the near future. Don't focus on facts or knowledge, focus on making it appealing. You're selling the sizzle, not the steak. Tell her exactly what you plan to make based on what you know she likes or doesn't like. It will prove you're attentive to her preferences, patient in getting to know her, knowledgeable about food, and that you can take charge as a host who knows what he's doing, all before she's even darkened your door step.
Knowing how to cook various dishes should be mandatory for everyone, male or female. Basics of living, that's outside of dating. I agree with the rest. Could you provide some examples without eating/drinking? A walk in the park is fine except during cold weather. Anything else?
I would not go to a guy's place for a third date not because I don't feel connected. However, I have noticed once you go to a guys place there is often a lot of passive pressure from the guy to give sex. Because of this, I don't do house calls until we are exclusive. I've never had a guy have a problem with that, but if they could not understand it that's their loss. Us girls aren't hurting for guys asking us out.
"Everyone likes vegetarian" I hate vegetarian, the meal just doesn't seem right with no meat in it and I know for sure that my desired woman likes meaty dishes more than those without it
I’m probably abnormal on this but I have no interest in staying in for a date so early but typically I can get them back or they take me back after the first or 2nd date. I’m just all about going out at night and living it up / going out dancing etc and need a girl that can keep up with me.
I like what you are saying, lets put this into prespective what happens if the girl ask you out on the dinner date for the first date? my awnser for a good first date if its dinner dont sit across from her but next to. one when there is a pause for min you are not looking right at her. when you are sitting next to her then when you do have some dialect/coversation is happing you then looking at each other gets her to look at you. this also releavse the pressure of the first date. I been on few over the years I remeber them all . the ones where I was sitting right on front of a girl I could feel my nerves. just recently i went on a date dinner date sat next to her it was whole different experince i felt like I could be myself. the second date is in the future with her because she asked.. me to cook for her for the second date. Luckly I graduated culinary school.
I have to disagree with you One of the problems Both men/women make Is rushing into something they aren't ready for It takes time to get to know someone And feel the longer you know someone the better i'd even dare say it takes about 4yrs of dating til marriage
Good thought on that if she inst comfortable at the 3th date that is a red flag. I would say some sort of light non-sexual kino/touching must occurring on 2nd date, hopefully reciprocal. The reason I escalate faster is to not invest to much in one girl if she is planning to bail after having a free meal. But with a home pasta things cant go wrong. If she refuses that I would back off some of my attention since maybe she is not that into me. Unless ofc there has been a little bit of sexual contact, petting, kissing.
I wish I was the prize but it rarely ever gets past the first date and this abudance you talk of is very difficult to achieve when most just reject and ghost you etc
Don't take it personal, just move on to the next. Make sure you're also on your purpose working on bettering yourself and not just going on all these random dates
What do I do if we had a weird date sequence? So we met at a festival and then our second "Date" was also at a festival - so we have now spent close to a week together in terms of dates and again this weekend we are doing a weekend and an official "Date" and Im not 100% sure what to do....
This guy is the WORST advisor!!! A girl not wanting to go to your place on a 3rd date is NOT a red flag!!!!!! That is SOOOOOO SOOOOOO STUPID!!! A guy expecting this is a red flag. Just go out until both of you feel comfortable. Everyone is different. Good luck guys if you listen to this guy!!! No decent girl is going to have sex by a 3rd date. If you want a Strumpet then just pick up chick's at bars.
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do you do in person trainings in some cities in the US?
The first date should always be showing her your collection of Charizards.
I have a Squirtle dammit
@@davidmckesey7119 I love squirtle! 😂🩵🤍🤎
One of the best things I appreciate about your channel Tripp is that you get right to it... No annoying background music, no unwanted intros to annoy the viewer.... You get right into it... you rock!! thanks for this and the advice you give.
I concur!
Tripp's next video: Do THIS to properly iron a t-shirt!
Simple Salmon & Asparagus
1. Cut Salmon Fillet in half, then in strips
2. Place strips in separate alum foil to wrap
3. Add to ea piece 1 tsp soy sauce + peppercorn (and ginger/orange or herbs)
4. Bake in oven 25 mins 450 F
5. Cut asparagus base and fry for 12 mins w butter while turning
6. Add a little soy sauce or other seasoning
6. Optional Rice (ben’s original for instant microwave)
done ez pz
I mean... It really depends on the vibe and how the date goes in general. There is nothing wrong inviting the girl to your place at the first/second date, if the date goes well. Some will happily go, some won't. I was on the first date with a girl and the vibe was great, had a few drinks in a nice bar first, then we went to another place for a glass of wine. We were out for like 3 hours max, then I said something like "Alright, I don't really have any more ideas, so how about we head to my place and continue our totally awesome conversation... with some more wine and music"... she said yes. You probably know the rest ;) On the second date she came straight to my place to cook dinner together.
So you just really have to read and feel how the date goes and shoot your shot, that's basically it. If she says no or not comfortable yet, don't sweat it
When she comes to your place it's also a good opportunity to learn more about her based upon whether she brings anything and how much she helps out.
As for dinner dates early on one thing I recommend is saying hey let’s meet at another bar for a quick drink before the dinner spot. If you don’t hit them off you can call off the date with her before getting to the dinner spot.
The dinner spot is generally something like splitting sushi rolls / or restaurant pizza nothing crazy. But here in Boston I always say let’s grab a quick drink at this bar across the street and see if there’s a connection then we can take it elsewhere if we hit it off.
I've been married for 20 years but I did the same thing when I was single. Keep it casual and if you click there's time for a more formal date later on
Married 20 years and on a dating site.. lol
you plan like this for women who are to be taken seriously, not liberated women. Great video.
This is a great comment.
The key is to not put to much effort or resources in during the early stages of dating. Keep it easy, cheap, and low key. Remember all the effort you put in on the dates will be reciprocated by only showing up. She thinks she is the prize. You are being evaluated and tested from the beginning. Don't put much into if the date was successful or not. She may just agree to go to get a free meal or a pop off the old validation pipe. Treat her like you don't need her. Cause in reality, you don't. After the date ask yourself this. "Was there something else I had rather had been doing rather than on this date?"
This is extremely sound advice, I appreciate this Tripp! I did this somewhat before I seen this video with this girl I'm talking to now. I didn't do the first step thou, I had a lunch date with her. But the 2nd date we went bowling and had a dinner after that. I then Invited her to my place to cook for her but the weather was bad and she didn't come (we live about 45-50 mins apart). So I said okay no problem, she called me a few hours after that and we talked for a bit. One thing I have learned from you and I'm applying it NOW in this situation is she cancelled which like I said I understand it was pretty stormy weather so okay, but since she cancelled it's on her to reschedule the date. So we'll see what happens now. Thanks for the videos, you've been very helpful
Please update.
She’s ghosting 👻?
😂😂😂 I’m a female and I can’t stop laughing at this! Great advice
Dating advice: make sure your shirt is ironed.
* wink wink*
I don’t get it lol
@@RaidE8_ trips shirt is wrinkled
Loving the daily content. I appreciate your hard work and consistency coach.
I think that on the first date you should go to somewhere she feels safe, as well as keeping it casual and simple, as Tripp says (e.g. a drink). So go somewhere public where there are people around.
This just feels like skipping through the steps, Tripp. Can't disagree with this third date suggestion on its own merits, but it should be a fourth or fifth date, not a third one. There's some great advice here but you're also getting lost in pointless details about what to cook to be the most appealing to the largest variety of tastes, which just signals you're trying to be as universally appealing as possible. Rather than assuming some neutral dish that you think anyone will like, ask her what food she likes and doesn't like to make at home, so you have a better idea of what to do rather than limiting yourself to the most inoffensive choices. Just because you make a vegetarian meal doesn't mean everyone's going to want it. Maybe they don't do wheat or carbs and won't want pasta. That's why you should communicate with someone rather than assume.
All this is besides the point, which is that this is rushing a girl, and it makes your intentions transparent. If a girl suggested this to me, I'd immediately know what was on her mind. If you're both DTF before you've even had a chance to do literally any other activity, then fine, whatever, you do you. But if you actually want to build trust or any relationship beyond that, you'd best ease off the gas here because women know what you're up to even if they don't seem all that put together themselves.
A topic that is usually brought up in these vids is building anticipation, but here you're basically telling us to show our hand before we've even had a chance to do anything else in a neutral environment with someone. Third outing should be something that doesn't involve sitting, drinking or eating to allow for real physical interaction in a place where she can still feel comfortable in public around someone she's still getting to know. It's also the opportunity to (if you haven't already) end the third date with a kiss, even if it's just a short and simple one. I can understand not kissing on the first two dates, but if you don't go for it by the end of the third date, you're on the precipice of the friend zone. But when you do kiss (or take things to the next level) you should let her decide how much she wants to reciprocate, and don't make it obvious you're rushing her through the steps to throw her into your bed before she's even had the chance to try doing literally anything else with you.
Don't plan this "dinner at my place" idea ahead of time with her, just study up on wine pairings a little and talk about how you like to cook on your third "activity" date, then flaunt some culinary lingo to get her interested in coming over for that dinner date in the near future. Don't focus on facts or knowledge, focus on making it appealing. You're selling the sizzle, not the steak. Tell her exactly what you plan to make based on what you know she likes or doesn't like. It will prove you're attentive to her preferences, patient in getting to know her, knowledgeable about food, and that you can take charge as a host who knows what he's doing, all before she's even darkened your door step.
Knowing how to cook various dishes should be mandatory for everyone, male or female. Basics of living, that's outside of dating.
I agree with the rest. Could you provide some examples without eating/drinking? A walk in the park is fine except during cold weather. Anything else?
Assuming the date wasn’t a total disaster, you should always go for the kiss on the first date
Is the thumbnail chick ashley tisdale? lol either way, love the content tripp!
Listening to these when the most of Australia is in lockdown is difficult 😮. I miss dating.
People are going back to restaurants in the US but I’m not ready for it yet
Ask out the cops. Seriously. Bother them in Ways that can’t stop. Maybe if they kill every one you’ll have a protector ;-) think positive 😉
thank you!
Thanks Tripp! Watched your vids on texting and dating apps more recently. Been getting more responses!
Same thing here bro
Damm. NO 'cheat sheet' in the first 10 comments! 😖
I would not go to a guy's place for a third date not because I don't feel connected. However, I have noticed once you go to a guys place there is often a lot of passive pressure from the guy to give sex. Because of this, I don't do house calls until we are exclusive. I've never had a guy have a problem with that, but if they could not understand it that's their loss. Us girls aren't hurting for guys asking us out.
Would you suggest going for an ice cream
"Everyone likes vegetarian"
I hate vegetarian, the meal just doesn't seem right with no meat in it and I know for sure that my desired woman likes meaty dishes more than those without it
is disneyland a good 3rd date?
Sod that
I’m probably abnormal on this but I have no interest in staying in for a date so early but typically I can get them back or they take me back after the first or 2nd date. I’m just all about going out at night and living it up / going out dancing etc and need a girl that can keep up with me.
I like what you are saying, lets put this into prespective what happens if the girl ask you out on the dinner date for the first date? my awnser for a good first date if its dinner dont sit across from her but next to. one when there is a pause for min you are not looking right at her. when you are sitting next to her then when you do have some dialect/coversation is happing you then looking at each other gets her to look at you. this also releavse the pressure of the first date. I been on few over the years I remeber them all . the ones where I was sitting right on front of a girl I could feel my nerves. just recently i went on a date dinner date sat next to her it was whole different experince i felt like I could be myself. the second date is in the future with her because she asked.. me to cook for her for the second date. Luckly I graduated culinary school.
I have to disagree with you
One of the problems
Both men/women make
Is rushing into something they aren't ready for
It takes time to get to know someone
And feel the longer you know someone the better
i'd even dare say it takes about 4yrs of dating til marriage
Tripp...do one on how they decided in first 5 minutes. Period...
Good thought on that if she inst comfortable at the 3th date that is a red flag. I would say some sort of light non-sexual kino/touching must occurring on 2nd date, hopefully reciprocal. The reason I escalate faster is to not invest to much in one girl if she is planning to bail after having a free meal. But with a home pasta things cant go wrong. If she refuses that I would back off some of my attention since maybe she is not that into me. Unless ofc there has been a little bit of sexual contact, petting, kissing.
...'Chili's is great'
I wish I was the prize but it rarely ever gets past the first date and this abudance you talk of is very difficult to achieve when most just reject and ghost you etc
Don't take it personal, just move on to the next. Make sure you're also on your purpose working on bettering yourself and not just going on all these random dates
Do NOT make fish. Stinks up your place.
Ask her to your place
You live with parents lol
Ask them if you can have the house to yourself for a night. Thats what I did.
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Don't sleep in your clothes.
Age old advice. 🙏🏾
What do I do if we had a weird date sequence? So we met at a festival and then our second "Date" was also at a festival - so we have now spent close to a week together in terms of dates and again this weekend we are doing a weekend and an official "Date" and Im not 100% sure what to do....
Bring a mini fairis wheel and put it on table and say festive 😂
Bro, stop running out the clock!
Just give the advice. 3 minutes of preface on a 10 minute video is crazy.
TH-cam wants 10 minute videos. More watch hours helps the algorithm
This guy is the WORST advisor!!! A girl not wanting to go to your place on a 3rd date is NOT a red flag!!!!!! That is SOOOOOO SOOOOOO STUPID!!! A guy expecting this is a red flag. Just go out until both of you feel comfortable. Everyone is different. Good luck guys if you listen to this guy!!! No decent girl is going to have sex by a 3rd date. If you want a Strumpet then just pick up chick's at bars.
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