Hi Kati! As I stated in my comments on your ten things to know video. The statute of limitations laws really need to be addressed. I would be happy to contribute in any way. I am still resentful, and angry because I will never get justice for the years of abuse that I suffered at the hands of my three older brothers and my oldest sister. Even though my brothers were of legal age when I was last molested by them, I was not able to talk about it until I was in my forties, and the only reason why I was able to talk about then, was because one of my nieces told me that she had been molested by one of my little brothers. My niece was the daughter of one of my brothers who molested me, and she told me that she was about four years old at the time. She said when her Dad found out what happened, he blamed her, and then he beat her. This made me so angry that I wrote a letter, exposing all my brothers and my oldest sister. I sent the letter through Facebook to everyone in the family including all my nieces and nephews. While it shocked everyone, my point was to let everyone know that they must guard their children from family as well as strangers. The damage is permanent, and irreversible. Today I'm an atheist, because I don't believe in a God that is suppose to be loving, but would let a child suffer the way I did. Angry Atheist Black Woman Shirley (TH-cam Videos)
EMDR is the best thing I have done for my trauma. Me and my Therapist kinda combine talk with EMDR. We talk in detail about the trauma and then process. That helps me, but I can see where the details are not necessary too. The hardest part for me is to trust the process and know that my brain is taking me where it needs to go. ❤
Me too. I just let come up whatever comes up and tell my therapist what came up. Sometimes it’s just jumbled stuff, but I do feel EMDR works and we do talk therapy in addition. It doesn’t always happen overnight..sometimes it takes a few sessions but to me it’s been the best therapy for CPTSD.
You are so kind hearted we more of you. I strike out. I get therapist tht look as if they are ignoring me and Jst waiting to get thru it to send me home with some task. Your viewers get more compassion from you in thier questions then anyone I’ve ever talked to. You’re helping more then anyone with your videos. Thank you
I have found my family had ways they talk me into believing it was me and not them causing me to feel neglected. I think some families cover up by making child feel like everything they know or understand is all in their own heads. That way family can protect themselves from any effects people believing they were a part of it.
As a layman needing to sort his own neurodiverse CPTSD, I sat in on the 2020 Boston Trauma Research Foundation Annual Conference, and came up trumps: Braeden Terpou's presentation of Ruth Lannius' team's proof of a single IAS system indicates a single mechanism, which, when allied with Peter Levine's understanding of pre-emptive therapy (Waking the Tiger) indicates, using Occam's Razor, we're dealing with a single subconscious healer, which uses the trigger impression held in the mind's eye as the key for it to locate the specific trigger in the amygdala, where it drains the associated reflex. The reason it doesn't do this autonomously is because it's normally suppressed by cognition, and a run-through of the therapies show how they work is to drop the subject into cognitive suppression with the trigger in mind, and hold them there while it drains. Cognitive suppression is the state, each modality has a jargon name for it, mindfulness, meditation, trance, shamanic flow, psychotropic state, hypnosis, you name it - I even spotted a therapist in LA using Shibari! Whatever floats their boat! As a plus, talking it through with Bruce Duncan Perry on Linked In, I realised there's another form of perception, that of the intangible, which I've called transception, out of respect for Abraham Maslow's seminal work in the area, at the pinnacle of his pyramid of aspiration, which he termed the transpersonal. It runs, in it's largest field, from the empathic through third sector medicine, to the numinous, although there are of course instances all over the place. My focus was on Reiki, as I'd touched it accidentally healing a particularly brutal single-instance trauma back in the 80s. In my case, I opted for kinetic shift therapy, as it allowed me to monitor both therapist and heal (I've a huge IQ which permits multi-track monitoring on the neuroceptive), and both therapist and I agreed on the progress of the drain. He wasn't Reiki-skilled, I somehow have Master-level skill, so I left it with the void to heal, which manifested as a cracking headache four hours later, unsurprisingly. I therefore dropped back into meditation, and turned the meridian flow on, flooding the site, and the headache drained proportionately. A successful therapy leaves the subject still triggering, but with no reflex response. I'm happy to say, two years down the track, I still get feelgood in response: the last time it triggered was last week, and a feeling of affection for the "offenders" was proof that it works. There is one gap in the therapy, though: there's a condition where subjects cannot hold anything in that state of imagination, for some reason. With nothing to hook into, the subconscious can't hook the trigger.
When I had trauma therapy, I talked about it. That may have been because my trauma was both sexual and emotional. I felt that the early childhood trauma marked me for many more instances of it. It was wonderful to tell, to get the monsters out of me.
Al-anon or ACA. I found ACA better for me because that focused more on my healing. Al-anon was more about how you manage life with or around the alcoholic. The book - from Survivor to Recovery - is really good.
#6. I have no first-person memories from before kindergarten. That was the year everything seemed to fill out. There are photos from before that i've been told stories about and I can't be sure those memories aren't imagined based on the story I was told and the elements of the photos. I am very good with imagination and can't trust my memories often for that reason. It makes me wonder what changed about that year that I began forming memories that would last. But my one of the earliest memories is me taking my blankets and pillow and trying to move out of the house to get away from my mother.
With being ready to start dealing with trauma, Kati had said that you know your ready when you are no longer being traumatised. I am currently still living at home and being traumatised pretty much daily and yet I’ve been having the memories playing over and over again in my mind of traumatic scenarios in my life. I’ve also been extremely tearful but also have A LOT of big changes happening currently. Would it be safe to start processing these traumas or would it be best to wait till I am able to move out? A lot of the trauma memories and emotional flashbacks are from my parents whom I still currently live with.
I wanted to add that if you have epilepsy EMDR can feel like flashing lights to your brain. EMDR really isn't for people with epilepsy. I'd love to see you make a film about when EMDR is not appropriate? I hear people talk about it like it's kind of always the answer and a miracle. I've seen advertising where you can be cured of horrible childhood abuse in 6 weeks of EMDR. Its ridiculous. I have lots of thoughts about it. Even to buzzing hand thinhs can cause seizure like activity. (Also biaural YT videos btw.)
I have epilepsy and do emdr (so far it has worked) my therapist does the bilateral stimulation by tapping my legs and luckily I haven’t had any of the sessions trigger my epilepsy but she has told me that if it would trigger a seizure we wouldn’t continue with it. I feel like the only way you could be triggered (seizure) would be if I had photosensitive epilepsy or one of my triggers was different stimulant patterns tho.
People look for blame within themselves because , if we are to blame, then we are able to access the bad /blamed behaviour and there in lies hope that we can change it??? Ie it’s easier to change yourself than it is to change others!
For the childhood photos part - from what age are we supposed to remember what was happening in the photo? I would not expect any memories if I was 2 or 3. But say if you were 6 and above? I also feel no connection to childhood photos, though I do with most teenage and adult photos. Thought all this was normal.
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Hi Kati!
As I stated in my comments on your ten things to know video.
The statute of limitations laws really need to be addressed. I would be happy to contribute in any way.
I am still resentful, and angry because I will never get justice for the years of abuse that I suffered at the hands of my three older brothers and my oldest sister. Even though my brothers were of legal age when I was last molested by them, I was not able to talk about it until I was in my forties, and the only reason why I was able to talk about then, was because one of my nieces told me that she had been molested by one of my little brothers.
My niece was the daughter of one of my brothers who molested me, and she told me that she was about four years old at the time. She said when her Dad found out what happened, he blamed her, and then he beat her.
This made me so angry that I wrote a letter, exposing all my brothers and my oldest sister. I sent the letter through Facebook to everyone in the family including all my nieces and nephews.
While it shocked everyone, my point was to let everyone know that they must guard their children from family as well as strangers. The damage is permanent, and irreversible.
Today I'm an atheist, because I don't believe in a God that is suppose to be loving, but would let a child suffer the way I did.
Angry Atheist Black Woman Shirley
(TH-cam Videos)
EMDR is the best thing I have done for my trauma. Me and my Therapist kinda combine talk with EMDR. We talk in detail about the trauma and then process. That helps me, but I can see where the details are not necessary too. The hardest part for me is to trust the process and know that my brain is taking me where it needs to go. ❤
Me too. I just let come up whatever comes up and tell my therapist what came up. Sometimes it’s just jumbled stuff, but I do feel EMDR works and we do talk therapy in addition. It doesn’t always happen overnight..sometimes it takes a few sessions but to me it’s been the best therapy for CPTSD.
You are so kind hearted we more of you. I strike out. I get therapist tht look as if they are ignoring me and Jst waiting to get thru it to send me home with some task. Your viewers get more compassion from you in thier questions then anyone I’ve ever talked to. You’re helping more then anyone with your videos. Thank you
I have found my family had ways they talk me into believing it was me and not them causing me to feel neglected. I think some families cover up by making child feel like everything they know or understand is all in their own heads. That way family can protect themselves from any effects people believing they were a part of it.
As a layman needing to sort his own neurodiverse CPTSD, I sat in on the 2020 Boston Trauma Research Foundation Annual Conference, and came up trumps: Braeden Terpou's presentation of Ruth Lannius' team's proof of a single IAS system indicates a single mechanism, which, when allied with Peter Levine's understanding of pre-emptive therapy (Waking the Tiger) indicates, using Occam's Razor, we're dealing with a single subconscious healer, which uses the trigger impression held in the mind's eye as the key for it to locate the specific trigger in the amygdala, where it drains the associated reflex. The reason it doesn't do this autonomously is because it's normally suppressed by cognition, and a run-through of the therapies show how they work is to drop the subject into cognitive suppression with the trigger in mind, and hold them there while it drains. Cognitive suppression is the state, each modality has a jargon name for it, mindfulness, meditation, trance, shamanic flow, psychotropic state, hypnosis, you name it - I even spotted a therapist in LA using Shibari! Whatever floats their boat!
As a plus, talking it through with Bruce Duncan Perry on Linked In, I realised there's another form of perception, that of the intangible, which I've called transception, out of respect for Abraham Maslow's seminal work in the area, at the pinnacle of his pyramid of aspiration, which he termed the transpersonal. It runs, in it's largest field, from the empathic through third sector medicine, to the numinous, although there are of course instances all over the place. My focus was on Reiki, as I'd touched it accidentally healing a particularly brutal single-instance trauma back in the 80s. In my case, I opted for kinetic shift therapy, as it allowed me to monitor both therapist and heal (I've a huge IQ which permits multi-track monitoring on the neuroceptive), and both therapist and I agreed on the progress of the drain. He wasn't Reiki-skilled, I somehow have Master-level skill, so I left it with the void to heal, which manifested as a cracking headache four hours later, unsurprisingly. I therefore dropped back into meditation, and turned the meridian flow on, flooding the site, and the headache drained proportionately.
A successful therapy leaves the subject still triggering, but with no reflex response. I'm happy to say, two years down the track, I still get feelgood in response: the last time it triggered was last week, and a feeling of affection for the "offenders" was proof that it works.
There is one gap in the therapy, though: there's a condition where subjects cannot hold anything in that state of imagination, for some reason. With nothing to hook into, the subconscious can't hook the trigger.
Timestamps!
Q1 - 1:14
Q2 - 12:09
Q3 - 17:51
Q4 - 24:15
Q5 - 29:12
Q6 - 42:45
Q7 - 50:04
Q8 - 52:40
Q9 - 55:08
When I had trauma therapy, I talked about it. That may have been because my trauma was both sexual and emotional. I felt that the early childhood trauma marked me for many more instances of it. It was wonderful to tell, to get the monsters out of me.
Al-anon or ACA. I found ACA better for me because that focused more on my healing. Al-anon was more about how you manage life with or around the alcoholic. The book - from Survivor to Recovery - is really good.
#6. I have no first-person memories from before kindergarten. That was the year everything seemed to fill out. There are photos from before that i've been told stories about and I can't be sure those memories aren't imagined based on the story I was told and the elements of the photos. I am very good with imagination and can't trust my memories often for that reason. It makes me wonder what changed about that year that I began forming memories that would last. But my one of the earliest memories is me taking my blankets and pillow and trying to move out of the house to get away from my mother.
With being ready to start dealing with trauma, Kati had said that you know your ready when you are no longer being traumatised. I am currently still living at home and being traumatised pretty much daily and yet I’ve been having the memories playing over and over again in my mind of traumatic scenarios in my life. I’ve also been extremely tearful but also have A LOT of big changes happening currently. Would it be safe to start processing these traumas or would it be best to wait till I am able to move out? A lot of the trauma memories and emotional flashbacks are from my parents whom I still currently live with.
I wanted to add that if you have epilepsy EMDR can feel like flashing lights to your brain. EMDR really isn't for people with epilepsy. I'd love to see you make a film about when EMDR is not appropriate? I hear people talk about it like it's kind of always the answer and a miracle. I've seen advertising where you can be cured of horrible childhood abuse in 6 weeks of EMDR. Its ridiculous. I have lots of thoughts about it. Even to buzzing hand thinhs can cause seizure like activity. (Also biaural YT videos btw.)
I have epilepsy and do emdr (so far it has worked) my therapist does the bilateral stimulation by tapping my legs and luckily I haven’t had any of the sessions trigger my epilepsy but she has told me that if it would trigger a seizure we wouldn’t continue with it. I feel like the only way you could be triggered (seizure) would be if I had photosensitive epilepsy or one of my triggers was different stimulant patterns tho.
We are confused. We are sorry. We want help, but everything does not make sense. We think you already helped us. Thank you.
Please put the Episode Number back BIG on the thumbnail. I use that to know what I've watched and not watched. Love what you do❤
CRANIAL SACRAL WORK --- you DON"T have to relive it or repeat it...can't say enough good things about it and my trauma was severe
People look for blame within themselves because , if we are to blame, then we are able to access the bad /blamed behaviour and there in lies hope that we can change it??? Ie it’s easier to change yourself than it is to change others!
What does it mean to "recognize yourself" in photos? Or even in a mirror? I can see myself and know it's me, but am I supposed to feel something?
For the childhood photos part - from what age are we supposed to remember what was happening in the photo? I would not expect any memories if I was 2 or 3. But say if you were 6 and above? I also feel no connection to childhood photos, though I do with most teenage and adult photos. Thought all this was normal.
Is it me having a deja-vu or have a lot of these questions just been asked recently? 🤔
Bit of a Trauma theme, strange how this happens!
I hope you’re doing good! 😊