Covert Narcissists ALWAYS Do This One Predictable Thing
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Covert Narcissists ALWAYS Do This One Predictable Thing // Covert narcissists always do this one predictable thing, no matter where they land on the spectrum of destructive covert narcissism.
The reality, however, is the covert narcissist will present quite differently than their more overt and grandiose narcissist counterparts. This is why covert narcissists in relationships can be more difficult to identify, particularly in the early stages of getting to know them.
That said, covert narcissist personality disorder can, in many ways, be just as predictable as any other narcissist.
This is why it’s so important to know what narcissistic signs to be on the lookout for, whether your challenges have to do with your covert narcissist boyfriend, your covert narcissist mother, some other covert narcissist female, or more specifically, covert narcissists and money.
The covert narcissist husband as well as the covert narcissist wife are especially draining while employing their particular brand of narcissistic abuse. Don’t forget, these people are highly adept at emotional manipulation, so you definitely want to be able to spot the signs of narcissistic abuse ahead of time.
In this video, I explain the one predictable thing people with covert narcissism always do, as well as a number of telltale signs that the person you’re dealing with likely has a destructive narcissist personality pattern.
I hope it helps!
Enjoy!
~ Tamie M xx
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You don't have to sugarcoat your comments, you can give it to us straight. LOL.
@@johnsantello8515 lol! I call 'em as I see 'em.
I was married for 30 years to a person that is exactly like that. Had no idea until I found out about 1 of many affairs and porn addiction issues he has. He filed for the divorce and I am so glad he did. He tried blaming me for filing...it was him. Idiot
They censor. Censorship is a major clue.
Deliver. Do they deliver what they promise?
A covert will avoid promising--- that way when the implied delivery does not show up--- you can't blame them.
As a service employee the boss can always lay blame on the service person.
I find coverts worse than grandiose because a grandiose is puffed up to cover a fragile and weak inner self. The covert is acting humble and weak to cover up pride and arrogance. Coverts are the real wolf in sheep’s clothing.
@daringgreatly8473 I agree!
Hear, hear.💯
Overts can be extremely secretive, too. They are going to do what they want, as well. They enlist the coverts for their own uses. The coverts do the same to them. Be you, all. 🧡
I agree..my ex could be humble... but out of nowhere the cocky, sarcasm , nit picking BS would kick up... ..
brilliantly said 👍
They abuse you and then pretend to be the victim.😡
@@Sheisme120 Yep they are typical cowards.
I lived with my covert narcissistic husband for 23 years. He lied about our money. He kept secrets, and kept me at a distance, and thought I was stupid for not seeing through him. He had a horrible temper, and thrives on starting fights or chaos. Due to this, and my being sick w Lyme Disease untreated for a decade so I didn’t have the energy to challenge him. Plus, I never thought he’d betray me so badly while I was sick. I knew he was a bit off right from the beginning when we met, and when I met his dysfunctional family I felt sorry for him bc his mother was insane and extremely mean. He said he hated her. But, now he’s turned out just like her.
I divorced him, and he lied about the money in court. He raked me over the coals, and 13 years later he still pays ppl to troll me everywhere I go. I’m harassed, and ppl r told I’m unstable. He turned the tables on me. He’s disgusting, heartless, and mean.
That’s beyond horrific, I’m so sorry he continues to put you through all that! I wish people would see through him and understand he’s the clearly the unstable one if he’s paying people to troll you.
💔I'm so sorry you went through this. My story is similar. These cruel empty people suck energy and the survivors often end up with chronic illness. I've been disabled since the year we were married. I dream of a retreat center for women like us where we can be safe and learn to heal and love ourselves with permaculture gardens, therapy animals and all sorts of holistic healing. We deserve it!!! So many get sick and stuck, it's tragic.
@@jeannem777 Narcissist's bring bad luck into your life with their negative energy. Your health suffers, your children suffer there is never any moments of prolonged peace. Narcissists are the pits and unless a miracle happens within themselves that's where they will all end up.
Yup. They keep a lot of secrets...lie about money...start fights over nothing, love chaos and have rages and temper tantrums. Same. So pathetic. Utterly disgusting people.
They always act differently in private from the way they act publicly - a double life
Very true!
Absolutely 💯! We have sadly been married for 28yrs. What makes me crazy is how nice and sweet he can be with total strangers and then he treats me awful. It truly is like he acts like two different people?
@@lolzz457 Jekyll and Hyde. 🎭
Street Angel/Home Devil
@@kristinburton4953 Exactly.
Strange disconnected feeling and someone with no substance is correct. A void. A mime. An evil entity that wants to attack.
He's good at pretending to have empathy and then show it when it makes him look good. But no back up of action and I see it
Hmm. That's a lot of information, Love. 💕
You precisely described my ex-husband’s behavior. I’ve learned how to spot them now. Give someone enough time and they show themselves.
You describe a woman I have been with for 20 years. She discarded me finally for a new narcissistic supply she had an affair with - she lied and lied and lied. Gaslighting, flying monkeys, triangulation, planting seeds, and zero empathy for breaking up our relationship and abandoning our family and 2 children for a “better prospect.” Blamed me for her affair - zero accountability and zero empathy. Unbelievable. I feel like I never knew this person.
I am in the same boat. It sucks.
You just described my mother and her family
They are like dancing with the devil! EXHAUSTING to say the least!!!
Exactly!It almost always causes physical illness if it goes on long enough 😢
You described my husband. 20 years I've put up with this. I was telling him last night that you're not a victim. He loves to play the victim. I've known for a long time that this relationship is done.
Same with me. Been together 24 years and married for 22 years. Finally found the strength to get a divorce started. This video is so helpful for the recovery road ahead. Thankyou so much.
Same
30 yrs. Now I know.. I know!!
Same here, but for 21 year marriage and knowing him almost 40 years. Saving to get out and be done with this insanity. I'm so happy we finally woke up!
This was my husband, too for 39 years! Ugh!
Go No contact if you can and never go behind closed doors. They will overplay the hand and end up like they all do, bitter and alone
@harrybarker-yp1xv Great point! Don't get caught alone in a room with them if you can help it. Always have an impartial witness present if possible.
One thing I definitely don't miss is when they'd be super vague in their communication for no reason, they'd refuse to elaborate, and then all of a sudden I was being "hostile" with them when I was getting understandably frustrated. Throw in a "you're not listening to me" for good measure so I'd look even more like the bad guy.
I've had the very experience! With someone who's convinced she's a highly intuive empath! Frustrating to say the least!!
Spot on, exactly what I've experienced
Didn't realize being vague was part of it, but fits perfectly with the covet N I know.
Then, in condescending tone comes out of their mouth, "I just told you".
And the last word I heard out of that one, condescending or not!
They don't get me in their lives.
Thank you for sharing this. I have just recently experienced this at work. ❤❤❤❤
I have lived through this narc behaviour with a partner and cancelled our engagement TWICE ! Thank God I saw the light before making a mistake. Four years into education on NPD and Co - Dependency I'm a survivor and love my life.
Girl, you got saved! I’m so glad you dodged a life of misery and abuse!
To Linda Willis ..... I admire you for being so smart and for cancelling that man.
There are lots more out there to stay away from and it looks like you are doing good.
I'm glad you are studying narcissism and co-dependency like I am, I need constant reminders of how narcs can be, so that I don't start communicating with him/them again.
They will steal from you and then state that it was not stealing but they are entitled to have what they stole from you
It is mind blowing
I'm experiencing this right now. It makes no sense
My wife is literally stealing everything trying to keep me homeless.
And then claim you were the one stealing from them!🤦🏻♀️
My brother borrowed several thousand, then didn't didn't want to pay. When I confronted him, he told me I shouldn't have been so gullible.
They even announce they are stealing. While saying they are an empath. Recently told I need to read intentions.
Sadly, at this point I welcome a good ole fashioned OVERT Narc! After dealing with these wolves in sheep’s clothing, I appreciate a wolf that eventually bears his fangs vs the ones that are EXPERT at hiding them!
Right? I feel you, Angel!! 💕
Same here ❤
Ya those seem to be more easy to spot! These coverts truly are in sheep’s clothing!
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Speakkkk!!!
This is my mother in law. I went no-contact with her in 2018 and to this very day, she has been on a mission to tear me down and get me back into her fold through my husband because, if she can convince him to force me back, that means she can control both of us and she can put her mask back on. She's tried to poison him by telling him to divorce me, that I am destroying the family, that he needs to force me to have a relationship with her and make me go to therapy with her so we can have a "mother/daughter relationship" (her crazy words). She's even threatened to take back his inheritance if he didn't make me see her. The things that she has said about me to my husband is vile and disgusting. She's been abusing my husband for years now and sadly, he has so much guilt and shame that he's in a "informative denial" of his mom's narcissism, meaning that he deep down knows what she is but doesnt want to confront it. His tactic on handling is it literally wait until she dies.....not the best tactic, right? At the moment, she's breadcrumbing him through sending cards and letters with simple "this made me think of you" written on it but she refuses to pick up the phone when he calls her. I know what she's doing but he doesnt want to think that she can be that much of a monster. She is. I could go on and on but the things that she's done to myself and him over the past few years is astounding....she was even committed and had ECT treatments a few times because she had a narcissistic meltdown. But I still hold my ground. I know what she is.
Good for you, don’t fall for her manipulation! I had someone in my life try to control my future wedding, even down to what I will wear to my own wedding. She then accused me of being “mad at her” when I didn’t go along with it.🤔 And then after giving her many chances, I finally distanced myself for good. She then said she was extremely depressed because I wasn’t having a good relationship with her or hanging out with her anymore. But I did not fall for it, I’m done.
Yes, they fein empathy! Act like the hero. Really don't care at all.
@paulafreeman6971 Exactly! 🙄
they can "mimic" empathic emotions but they cannot give a "follow-up", they are copiers of empathic emotions
My (ex-)wife, her mother, and her brother are all covert narcissists. Their sense of superiority over everybody else is truly disgusting. They lie constantly. They cause chaos and drama constantly. And then they play the victim in the wake of all the destruction they cause. Truly evil people. Thank you Tamie for helping all of us real victims to have discernment and see things the way they really are!
@michaelmorrison6540 You're welcome! Thanks for tuning in!! 😉
NEVER is their fault, Ever!
Yep, you totally descibed my ex husband 23 years. I even said you seem to only be "going through the motion" when it comes to our marriage. His reply is, " What else is there?" That broke my heart, but I finally understood. Why it seemed like I carried everything in the marriage.. Because I did!!! So glad it's over...
Sounds so familiar. My husband has made our marriage sexless, but there’s something wrong with me that I want to connect emotionally and physically. So many mind games and demands to make him happy so that I might also be able to be happy. Now that we’re splitting up, he’s trying so hard to hold on to his meal ticket. Sorry dude. The door has closed.
I have no idea how many times my therapist asked me if my now narcissistic ex's apologies felt genuine. Almost every single time the honest answer was "no"
@fantazm75 My guess is it felt like manipulation because that's what it was. 😉
I dated one…and thank goodness, I walked away. As a Super Empath, something was off early on…but couldn’t put my finger on it even though my gut instinct was telling me something.
When I look back once in a while, it was apparent as day.
You described him to a “T”.
Thankfully, he never brought me down. He finally figured out that I wasn’t able to be broken. He called me “complicated “…LOL.
Loving my new chapters!!! ❤
I know so many people with this disposition. 😮
Same!😫
This is my estranged husband. I am not perfect and no way am I claiming to be a victim but I really was on the receiving end of his bad behaviour. Not one person on this planet would ever believe how he treated me. Random acts of violence, I hit him too. Shoving a dirty tissue inside my mouth that had been used to clean a toilet. Constant porn, sexting and hook up sites. Would not touch me for months, if I attempted to at being physical would always turn me down and if I attempted to talk about the issue he would say that I should keep trying. When we were physical, I rarely climaxed. Constantly looking at other women whilst I was there, would make me feel like I was stupid in subtle way, well I was to put up with that for over 25 years.
My Ex-Covert told me when I dated her, she couldnt let me in "emotionally"...Should have been a red flag that I ignored.
@robetfredrick2937 they always tell us who they are in the early stages of the relationship. Our problem is we're looking at them through the lens of who we are... as opposed to who they are in reality. Not everyone has your heart, brother. Remember that!
Never a good sign
Thank you, Tamie! My MiL is a Convert Narcissist. My wife, daughter and son are turning around now, but she had them viewing me as more and more evil as time went on. 20 year anniversary in August.... It's taken a heck of a toll on my health, I needed medical help all these years.... No support..... Thank you for your videos, they have helped me immensely.
You're welcome, Alan. I'm glad they've been helpful! Thanks for watching!
Wow. Thanks for such a well described personality syndrome. I once invested so much into someone who first appeared to be so wounded, but then I realized they were playing a game, sucking up all my energy and caring, only to reject the efforts. They took pride in being so wounded....a grandiose martyr. They had me and others doing back-flips to "understand" and help them. I got out and others stuck with them.
Elinor!!!! Nice to see you here! They sure can drain you dry if you let them, can't they? Well done you for not letting them! 💕
Having a covert narcissist in your life is like trying to grab air. There is nothing there
The church I used to work at - the worship leader is a covert narcissist. He has so many people deceived and on his side - mostly because he is a boss over a lot of volunteers and a few staff. Since he is the “boss” he already gets general obedience. I didn’t work for him so any time something happened I was able to give push back and he tried to destroy me. Eventually I knew something was wrong with him not knowing about narcissism, but I distanced myself more and more.
Hello Tami, my name is Ramon and i can definitely relate to my most recent relationship that ended a week ago. I figured her out and she coukd not take it. I realized lies and things started to make more sense. She plays the victim and even her mother was telling me that i should just leave her alone. It came to a shock to me. As soon as i started to call her out, everything went downhill. Almost 2 yrs of love bombing and and being by myside. But she started to slip up and i started to notice a lot more than before. Her lies sometimes didnt make sense and she thought she could manipulate me the way she did before. Now im ghosted once i brought up the wird Narcissist. We stayed in touch just as friends but, once i brought up this subject, ive been ghosted for a few days now. Now as much as i hate what she did, id rather help her. I know i probably wont be able to but because i have love for her, i get concerned. Thank you Tami.
You explain it so well! That’s exactly the way my husband is.
Same
Very good content. Precise. I can not finish, it arouses me still too much. I appreciate my peace.
They are uncanny, lie in a different way than the overt one, are present, when they are physicly absent and make you feel guilty for being alive.
They are shapeshifting and unreal. You can not confront them. They are the most backhanded manifestation you will ever encounter.
Perfect victimhood as a predatory parasitic psychopath....
I feel like, they are so dirty, I wish I would never have been forced to study this.
I want to unknow them.
One Love, stay blessed ❤
This is my Ex-Wife 101. Waoooo it fits like a glove and after 12 years of marriage, its just been a month since I found out what the real issue is (Covert narcissism) . At last, me & my both kids are free from the toxicity of this relationship.
A quiet way they play the victim.... after you expose them and what they did to you.... my covert just says " if you say so..... if you say these things about me you must be right.." ... this is how he quietly makes himself a victim .. that's a sinister way of making you feel guilty and question yourself..... and him being the good one... it also saves them to question themselves...... i think this is a way evil way of playing the victim card
I was in my 50's when I started to suspect that my mom was on this spectrum. And it was a long ti.e after that before I heard the term 'cover narcissist'. No one else in my family or any family friends seem to notice anything amiss. So I have had to question myself unceasingly throughout my life.
It should be irrelevant to me now, since I'm in my 60's and my mom has been gone a few years, but I still feel comforted by finding information that sheds light on the confusing and conflicting feelings I have had to try and make sense of. Thank you for your work. I heard someone describe narcissism in families as 'the gift that keeps on giving', bc it's almost impossible to extricate yourself from the long term effects even after you have left the situation.
Hugs to you. I moved 3800 miles away and I’m still working through the same thing. Now I’m moving back for my kids, but I have major panic attacks thinking about going back into that environment. Healthy boundaries is all I can hang my hope on.
In the same boat.
I still wonder if I am the narcissist, and am paranoid about any actions that can be used to make me appear as such.
@@DockClock-rp2ro If you're worried about being a narcissist, I don't think you can be one because narcissists aren't that self aware.
It took me years to understand the uneasy feeling in my stomach the uncomfortableness around my sister. I never understood why I never felt comfortable in her house when we would go there for Christmas or Thanksgiving. My sister never made me feel welcome. She always made me feel out of place not good enough, I couldn’t understand why and then one Christmas she had her two sons, my nephews and their wives and their children over for Thanksgiving along with me and my two children. I was a single parent.
She said let’s take Christmas pictures so the kids thinking that they would all be in the picture started lining up, my sister placed her two sons there two wives and their children in the picture along with her husband and turn to me and said would you take the picture and stepped into the picture? I stood there stunned but I said yes I will and I did and then she proceeded to take a picture of me and my children keeping the two “families” in separate pictures and then doing a family picture with all of us‼️
My children were very hurt by this as was I every year she continued this tradition of separate pictures. when my children were older, they refused to go to any holiday at my sisters where there would be pictures taken. It made them feel less than….
I had one who was a friend on and off for years. I now realise that the reason it was on and off was because I was his backup for when he couldn't get the same level of supply from other people.
I saw the light over Christmas when a mutual friend told me that he's prone to flitting between groups of people, gossiping about each depending on how receptive they are...she did it infront of the Covert's face. The Covert knows many of my secrets, I'd often divulge them to highlight ways I've matured since my Bipolar Disorder was diagnosed around 20 years ago.
After this the covert tried to tempt me with a class A drug I've always avoided and would partake in petty theft in venues I like. I've been practicing no contact, even though he owes me a lot of money.
As always, thanks for sharing your knowlege. Being a narc magnet isn't easy but it's more bearable with good guidance.
I do my best to look forward and chase my dreams/goals in the face of adversity and share what I've learned to try and help the broken empaths I care about overcome their limiting mindsets.
You just described my sister.
I'm sorry to hear that, Megan. That cannot have been easy for you.
Mine too. I can't believe I missed the signs all these years... it all makes perfect sense now.
I'm seeing it more now that I'm very aware. This describes him to a T.
He ignores me all the time so I do too. I go about my life with no regard for him. I have learned to ignore and not play into any argument that can be lurking
You deserve better, my friend! 💕
My ex-wife (I was married less than one year) was the absolute exact covert narcissist to a tee. She wanted me to attend to her after her elective breast augmentation and tummy tuck surgery, but when I was ill or my when my mother died -- she was never there for me. She didn't even go to my mom's funeral.
I left her as fast as I could. And once she figured out I knew what she was, she really stepped up the attacks and distancing. I can see back through the years how she got worse as a covert narcissist. I am so disappointed I missed the signs early on. In fact, she's a covert narcissist and an alocholic. Doube red flags.
You are nailing ..... My "old man",! I say that, its ugly, I told him a while back, do not ever call me " your ol lady!". Hes older than I. Just don't go anywhere with him anymore. It's better for me! ❤
Right like the only thing they accept criticism about is when you call them a bad liar then they say well what should I have said or some version of this like what do you want to hear ? This is a decoy to disguise the fact that they are learning method acting and using you for practice.
@lorishu48103 exactly!
The only thing I can say about you, my dear, " you have been through it!!! And smart to the point of photographic learning , memory, knowledge to relate to the ones that truly need it most. Thank you
Thank you!
Thank you for popping up on my phone. Your are a life saver for me. I have been dealing at work with a covert narcissist for months to the point of thinking about quitting. I can deal with this person better because of you. ❤️
Tamie, I totally relate to this, and I saved it to my best Narcissism advice AND worth listening to twice folder!! Your explanations and advice are always so clear, helpful, and illuminating. 🌷
I'm glad you liked it! Thanks for watching!! 😊
I spent 18 yrs with one. Safe to say I can write a book on them. As to not repeat the cycle I spent 20+ yrs studying relationship and psychology. ONE to remember. A Narcissists is always in denial within.
Sounds exactly like my niece. You nailed it
Yeah mine treats me different than anyone else
I so appreciate you and how you share information. So helpful to identify and apply information to protect myself from these demons 🙏
If you find yourself having to hold both sides of the conversation-pay attention-this is a huge sign
So true!!!! Thank you so much!!!
You're welcome, Maria! Thanks for watching!! 💕
I was watching a video where the narcissist was explained like this:
It is like we are hoping to get a Lamborghini but the Lamborghini is really a Maroge. We are just searching for water and we go to the Maroge but it's not really water.
Then it was said that they're more like a lawnmower that you do not have to push one of those that has the handle when you put forward it just goes by its self ...... well, as long as we keep, putting fuel into the lawnmower, keeps running and running and running, and it will not quit until we stop putting fuel into it. I really like visual things and that one really is something that says a lot. Just thought I would share.
Hugs to all here from JANESVILLE, WI
@MeCynthiaAnn Thanks for sharing, Cynthia! That is exactly what it's like. Stop adding fuel! 💕
@@tamiemjoyce yuuuuper
Im in a long process divorce from this monster, 13 plus months & still ongoing although he filed. Manipulation at it's highest.
Thanks for this very on point video
Unfortunately, my daughter-in-law Spot on !! Thank you for the insight.
@cindyjanssen8017 You're welcome! Thanks for watching. 💕
Given your situation, this will help you: th-cam.com/video/NA9DKW3Q5X8/w-d-xo.htmlsi=32uQVkwbgbCwRsoe
She won't like it, but it will save your sanity and keep the drama/trauma to a minimum.
Good luck!
My mom. Fits perfectly
My husband said this person in our lives has a mental issue of chronic victimhood, but we didn't know there was a name for it. Fits like a glove.
This is the best description of this personality type I’ve found. Thank you for the clarity! 🙏
@marcydrake9159 You're welcome! Thanks for watching!! 💕
It really incredible when you are describing a narcissist, it all becomes so clear and obvious what you’ve been dealing with. Your videos have changed my thinking and helped me move on from the destructive person in my life.
Thank you so much! God be with you. So helpful. ❤❤❤
Hia Tamie 💕yes they are sneaky and lie manipulate with their secrets. I can see and feel right through them these days 🙏
Another stellar video, Tamie. People who watch this should keep in mind that coverts run our financial system, that's why consistent values and critical thinking are essential, as we learned the last four years.
They - both the coverts AND the grandiose types - are also rife in both our legal AND our healthcare systems (both mental and physical)
@@amarbyrd2520 100%
@@MiamiVisor Glad you liked it! Thanks for watching!!
I know him , I have just realized I am nobody even when I have had his best interest in mind at all times. He has no accountability for hurt feelings or the lies that have hurt me over and over again. What does that say about me?! Pathetic for trying to help him be a better person to me?
Yes! I completely relate!
My mother.
My wife of 32 years. I have discovered from her behavior that she is a narcissist and I am a super empath. My task is to fix her ( with the help of Spirit) as I am 73 years old and really don’t want another woman.
Any luck?
100 thumbs up !!!! You just described a woman that tried to destroy my marriage to a tee !
Both parents. Older brother became one. Found one to marry. Coalition of Narcs. Fater is dead. No contract with brother for 15 years, except his daughters graduation, she is an angry narcissist also. Mother is the worst sort.
Thank you so much Tamie this is spot on!
Ya over 22 years
you are sooo on point ....thank u
What can I say? "Beware"....
Tamie M Joyce strikes again!
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lol! Thanks for watching, Sherry! 😊
That Covert One Super-duped me once, super-duped me twice. Third time I closed the book -SLAM-and that was that with that one. She had a wardrobe of masks and I felt my gut shift often but convinced myself to overlook her bullshit because I saw what a pathetic soul she was. What Tammy says about how Coverts act when you let them know the gig is up, is so true. All manner of black, venomous bile was spewed at me which only served to validate what I knew to be lurking behind those masks.
Now I realize my life as an empath was the strength I didn’t know I owned. After hanging up on 3 narc “friendships” and 1 steamroller of a narc family member, my awareness about myself flourished. Even so, I see now what a huge space of time I wasted being someone else’s tool.
@JennyWren333 Now you know! Don't regret the past. Just move forward with all the lessons and wise discernment! 💕
@@tamiemjoyce thank you from the heart & soul 🌹💖 ((yes, i will!))
My Narc girlfriend left her 3 years old son behind with her mom in another country and came to the state it has been 5 years. We moved in together and she wanted to have a another child with me. She doesn’t even clean after herself all she cared about is her looks and Botox on her face. She kept on saying cleaning and being a house wife is not her thing. I finally said enough and kicked her out. Very selfish person. I am glad I did it even though I loved her. I know better and I respect my self.🙏
A former work colleague who also played the victim all the time when I started working her out
My mom, its really hard to be working thru this. I am 50 years old and am just now beginning to understand.
You have described my mother in law perfectly. I went no contact after 20 years. The last 5 years of this relationship I was confused and the last 6 months a did my research and I have learned a lot. Staying away is the best solution for my inner peace, although she’s just living around the corner…i couldn’t care less😂
Thank-you for this video words can't express how much clarity you have given me
You're welcome! I'm glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching!! 😉
ALL OF IT, Tamie! I can relate to ALL OF IT. The Narc-band and his mommy!! 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
If Elon would ever need a new HR Director, I would recommend Tamie.
Lizard like human 😅
Er, (slightly) human-like lizard? 😅😅
Thankyou so much. It's an eye opener but the sad story remains.
@barishankhonglah4690 You're welcome!
Thanks for this, Tammy M Joyce. ❤ Information is helpful for healing. "Being fully duped" is what I had mistaken for my own blame for so long.
I just ended a friendship with the covert narc. I’m still healing.
Everything you say resonates strongly with me, Tamie. Thank you for the work you do, it's greatly appreciated.
@sunlightprism You're welcome! Thanks for watching!! 💕
My father, ur right on the money, the Lord saved me from that path thank you so much for this video ❤
Constant Victim with lies of omission. Splitting grandiosity
Entitlement
Envy
Lack of .emp
arhy. Dr. Jekyl mr. Hyde. Its cognitive empathy no emotion.
Thanks!
Thank you so much for your generous gift, Terry!
To he honest a lot of the things you said resonate with me... There are some tho that i feel are actually opposite, like for example the "friends" thing, i don't really had many superficial friends but instead i had few but very deep friendships.
I don't see the purpose at all to have a superficial friendship, so when there is a person that i can't really dive deep with in the friendship, that maybe i don't feel like i can really share things with him/her, i simply stay gentle with that person but i don't hangout with for example.
There is also the empathy thing, i'm really empathetic, to the point that when i'm around people that are suffering i can feel it and i can also become overwhelmed and i absorb external emotions like a sponge... It's really difficult to manage and in fact i need a lot of time alone to recharge and let all these emotions flow away.
I live and i'm grown in an house with a Overt Narcissistic father, a narcissistic and emotionally unstable mother and brother and a sister that suffered these things like me and that experienced a lot of depression but i don't think that she has these kinds of disorders in my opinion.
I have been abused a lot in my home and i feel stuck and powerless often, but after have gone to therapy for anxiety and after have dived deep in myself searching for the truth i reached the understanding of my situation.
To be honest i think i'm an empath, but sometimes it come to my mind the possibility that i may be narcissist like my family but covert, because i feel like by the time i have been abused and especially after recent experiences of betrayal from friends that i thought were genuenly loving me i feel a sense of remorse, anger and hate towards relationships and my vulnerability being empathetic, i'm actually struggling to trust people and i feel (and always felt) like i don't really fit in society.
So well said. Thank you.
You're welcome, Isabell! Thanks for watching!! 💕
Every last bit of it is relatable!
I know you said narcissists will never change but what about one who is barely 20 years old. Is it possible at that young age to cut through their smaller accumulation of crap, help them see themselves for what they are, and show them how to become authentic again?
@CarrieS1974 How willing are they to participate in their own healing and recovery? If they have empathy, a conscience and a desire for change, they aren't on the spectrum of destructive narcissism and change is possible. If they are empathy impaired, lacking in consience and don't see an issue with the way they're behaving, then change is not likely. They'd have to be a genuine, willing participant in their own healing and recovery and be committed to doing the work.
Of course
Even camera footage in the physical form, they will blame the victim My ex smashed my fishing poles with a chair, in front of me, on video, and then cries and tells me and tells her parents, Im abusive to her. Video is wrong😂😂😂
How dare you have cameras , and catch me be a demon behind your back. Its my fault for installing the cameras not her fault for being a two faced criminal
@@ProperOne wow! They never cease to amaze, do they?
And we own a home together. And then she asks me what i want for dinner.
Which i now become disrespectful and ignorant for not even acknowledging her.
Thank the good lord for having support of videos and educating myself
My ex covert narc did this, instead of taking accountability for the break up she instead tried ruining my life by telling everyone I was abusive, she even tried getting me kicked out of university by telling them
They thinks They are The victim in a so trully way that They don' t have a clue They could have something with It. They Just fell It.
Yup
Is a person that says "Well, they haven't heard what I have to say. You just wait", a narcissist?
that, and a delusional freak
Right on could definitely relate !
My mother. Ex husband. Ex romance 2018. 5 former friends. No contact with them all. Pure evil
Please talk about relationships between parents and their adult narcissistic children.
We talk about this all the time in my group coaching program, Karen. I have a number of clients who are in this situation. If you want to learn more about how to join the group, you can apply here: www.TamieM.com/strategycall
Thank you Tamie. Your videos are ALWAYS on point 🙌